I can't tell you how many times my husband and I have been out in public and he's turned to me and thanked me for not dressing like a woman nearby and not letting myself go.
Hi Nikki! I'm Megan Madden from the Epoch Times article (not very active on TH-cam) but one of my instagram followers pointed me to your youtube channel and mentioned that you showed the article. I loved this video and relate so much to your journey in dress wearing. Just wanted to say hello!
Hello Megan! Your article was so lovely to read and I know it will touch the lives of many ladies. Thank you so much for visiting my channel and saying hello 🌹
Wearing dresses can be a cheaper way of dressing, than wearing a top and bottom. Here in the UK a top and bottom can cost about £50. A dress can be about £40, in a sale around £25, in a charity shop less than £10.
My closet is full of dresses my mom almost always has a new one for me when I see her. My problem is a struggle with depression and just want to wear the same sweatshirt for a week and barely shower. I am trying to fight my depression by getting dressed and bathing more often, it is s struggle
I relate to this so much. I feel I’ve fallen into such a deep depression since having my third son last year. Just hating myself. I feel the same way about dresses and am starting to bring my dresses out of the closet again to try and help myself.
What a wonderful conversation sharing your heart. I loved this. I am 68 and have recently begun wearing all dresses/skirt outfits and it has transformed my looks, my mood, my happiness and even my motivation level. I mostly wear 1950’s styles from the decade in which I was born. I will never go back!
I've watched your channel for years. I think this was one of my favorites. I know there is a small representation of women on TH-cam who embrace their femininity and are not afraid to share that. I consider you all fearless leading ladies and appreciate you all. I am considerably older than you...growing up in the early50's & 60's. More women were joining the workforce by the 60's. Most women wore dresses and coiffed hair in the 50's but around the 60's I remember seeing women begin to wear pants. The first job I applied for I wore a dress, heels and white gloves. Women wearing white gloves regularly to church and always a pretty hanky in their handbag was common. So, I didn't lack lady like inspiration. Then pants suits for women came out and for several years, dresses were almost a rarity. I wanted to maintain and even further develop my femininity as In my very young years I was more of a "tomgirl" I was never sure exactly how. I, like you, watched for examples around me. Forward to marriage and raising a family consisting of all boys, I fell into the habit of wearing pants except for the occasional dress to church. Of course the style of pants throughout the years evolved many times...some more flattering to the female body than others. I remember once several years ago seeing a women bent over in jeans. As hard as I tried to not look, I couldn't help it and I thought to myself...wow....that's what it looks like when I bend over too and that's what a man would see if one were around. How dishonoring to not only myself but to my husband a well, as that's not a view to be shared with other men. Then I heard you one day say that you were not going to wear pants anymore and one reason you gave was that it does not look nice when a woman bends over in pants. It was good to hear a younger woman say the same thing. My closet began filling up with more dresses. To be honest, I can't say that I never wear pants. I rarely wear pants in the summer but winters in the Midwest can be brutally cold. I haven't figured out yet how to style a dress and look appropriate for my age in the winter nor do I see many dresses in a fabric weight that seems right for winter. One thing for sure, in the winter months when I wear more pants, I am much more aware of being more modest...but let's face it...nothing drapes and conceals our feminine secrets like a lovely dress. Thank you Nikki for sharing your story. Keep reaching out with your leading lady example. ❤
Thank you! “Nothing drapes and conceals our feminine secrets like a lovely dress”, that is so true, thank you for pointing that out in such a beautiful way and I appreciate your thoughts on this subject 🌹
I just got home from an extended trip. We went to Turkey 🇹🇷 Greece 🇬🇷 and The Dalmatian Coast. I couldn’t help but notice the beautiful clothing some women wore in these countries. Gorgeous silk fabrics in dresses, scarves and skirts just would float gently on the women. How the women dressed contributed to the beauty of the towns we would walk through. I wore dresses myself on this trip. None of my clothes were as pretty as some I saw. I even would sneak a photo of an outfit that looked particularly stunning. I will always remember these lovely ladies. Maybe I can aspire to come a bit closer to that ideal. Nikki, you inspire me.
Thank you Nikki for a wonderful and meaningful series. I think this is very important to bring femininity back. You have showed through this series that is it more than just the dress 👗 it’s what happens emotionally and physically when we are feminine. There is so much to gain from your wealth of knowledge. Thank you 😊
I've been wearing long skirts and dresses exclusively since I was 28 years old. I'm 56 now. 😉 My normal wardrobe had been biking shorts or leggings with tees or bra tops or mini skirts. When I felt a conviction about my modesty, I bought my first long dress. On that very first day of wearing it, I was standing at the stove stirring oatmeal when my oldest child ( only 5 at the time ) came running into the kitchen. He saw me as he flew by and skidded to a stop in his socks. He turned and said, " Mom, you look BEAUTIFUL"!! Then he was off! I was left crying into the oatmeal as I realized he had never said that before. 🥰 I have soooo many stories about the decision to dress this way. Too many to write here. I think I'll write them down for my own family.... Thank you, Nikki, for sharing yours. ❤️
This was the sweetest story, thank you so much for sharing it. You're right, there are so many stories. I had a difficult time narrowing mine down for this video. It's so good to have those moments 🌹
Good day, Nikki, I am a Delois and an Elaine! Although I feel loved and respected by many of the younger women in the church, I sometimes feel as though my personal style and clothing choices go unnoticed. I, too, love wearing dresses and skirts every day (as most girls did in the 60's and 70's) and have been doing so for most of my 62 years. It is encouraging to hear that we are not only seen but can serve as positive examples of femininity. The way we dress speaks of our womanhood without us having to say a word. You are a humble and beautiful young woman. Thank you for sharing your thoughts in the video.
I love how Kate Middleton mixes both pants and dresses. Always looks so feminine and elegant. I believe when you first start a feminine journey dresses only is a must. Once you've mastered femininity you can make every outfit. Also, to wear pants and look ladylike you have to be in good physical shape. Ladies today are not in the same physical shape as Jackie or Audrey and Kate Middleton. Dresses are a true friend for all women but especially today, many are over weight and not toned.
When I was a child, my parents used to go dancing every Saturday night. I loved to watch my Mum put on her pretty evening dresses, curl her hair and put on her make-up. I loved watching her put on her lipstick. So feminine and glamorous. She also wore dresses or skirts every day. Only ever had one pair of trousers for heavy gardening work like digging.
When you said you felt soemthjng inside even though nobody said a thing. Wow! I just told my husband yesterday that I felt convicted to dress like a lady , I feel so icky in my bun and oversized T’s and jeans , my little girl is wearing short shorts and we ran into a family that only wears dresses and I asked her to “pull your shorts down” I feel the conviction not just for modesty alone but to feel like the ladies we are! My girly is only 5 and loves skirts and dresses!
Our conscience is a powerful thing! Running into others feels so different when you have full confidence in how you are presenting yourself. You will lead your lovely little lady down the path of loveliness 🌹
I worked in surgery for several years and was often “on call.” My call partner would come to the hospital at 2:00 a.m. in a dress, nylons, heels and often a fur coat. She always looked amazing regardless of the time of day.
I love so many of your videos, but, yes, this just may be my favorite. It brings me to tears to hear your encouragement to continue being an example to the ladies around us. Twice in the last little while, one of the young ladies at our local grocery store has commented about how pretty my dresses are. It warms my heart to think that she noticed and that it could be an influence in her life to dress more femininely as well. With all the push back in our culture to wear pants, it's so inspiring to hear you remind us that yes, people do notice and are influenced by our quiet example. Thank you Nikki❤
Thanks for such a heartfelt video. I have said before that you inspire us daily, but I can never explain how you are one of the people that inspired me back during the pandemic, when I started watching your videos, to wear dresses and I have only worn dresses since then. I just received a special compliment from a co worker the other day and what she said was that "I always look put together in my dresses". Thanks for being such an amazing lady!! 💖💐
This was very touching, authentic, inspiring and beautiful. Thank you so much Nikki for opening your heart and sharing these sensitive stories from your life.❤ I can relate to those moments where only one look from a person I higly appreciate made me realize how improper my outfit was at the moment. It is so true that leading by the example of high standard motivated by love is the most effective way to reach someones heart. It has been a wonderful series. God bless you Nikki and the ladies you are leading!❤
My mom and I have extremely different taste in clothes. She hates the retro look I love 😂 Wearing dresses is complicated for me because I grew up in a cult where ankle length skirts were required.
I enjoyed hearing the story of your journey. Now I feel like I'm not alone. Because it took me a few times to finally make an intentional move to modesty. Not dresses and skirts all the time. But at least modesty. Unfortunately, it took me many years to finally catch on. I wish somebody had talked to me about modesty when I was growing up. I think it could have made a difference for me.
Hi Nikki, I loved every minute of this video. Your story is heartwarming and I can relate on so many levels. The leading lady Warbrobes pictures were so inspiring & beautiful. My story is far too long...The only Pants that ever looked feminine to me were the 1950's Culotte Pants which date back to the 1900's. You are doing such a great job with your channel Nikki. I really appreciate you. Thank you!. 🤗
Nikki very well said and done. I love how you can get us to stop and think about things. Very good video. Thank you so much for all your hard work and encouragement.
I would love to see how you start a color scheme/ pattern wardrobe; if you haven’t done so. I love the way you have mixed patterns in the same color scheme. I have worn dresses to work and have other ladies follow along.
I love doing this for a week of dresses. At the end of each week for the "A Dress A Day in May" series I shared this. That's great that you have been wearing dresses to work. You inspire many 🌹
I wore a pair of dress slacks to church just once. I felt so uncomfortable and out of place because I had always worn a dress or skirt and blouse. I have never worn pants to church since.
Great conversation Nikki! Nice seeing the ladies wardrobes at the end. I’m still working on my leading lady wardrobe. Still looking for dresses I feel I would want to wear to work and trying to wear a dress to every other type of occasion. As I get older, I want to wear just dresses! 💖
This was so heartfelt indeed! Thank you for sharing! I love how you saw others and that inspired you! I feel the same! I remember just doing what everyone else did following the cool trendy influencer thing and I NEVER truly felt like myself! I look back and shriek at the cuts I wore and the colors I wore (that never suited me)! I had practically no clothes on! I was so uncomfortable and didn’t even know it! So I saw a youtuber wearing skirts and dresses and I was like wow, people actually dress like this and it was so gorgeous and I loved it and so started to try that! I never felt more like myself than when I started dressing so feminine! Now I pretty much only wear dresses! It’s so interesting how our Western culture has so shifted away from that to whereas people always think I’m way overdressed and all I’m in is a simple dress! They are so chic, comfortable, easy, and I just love them! So I relate to how they make you feel! I also love the modesty of my dresses! My dresses have helped me step into how God made me - feminine! I love being a woman and showing that! I am so much more a woman now I feel like and dresses for me was a huge part of me stepping into my true self! 🤍🌷
I love this video. I love wearing dresses but struggle to find modest ones in the colors that look good on me. I do not look good in warm or muted colors.
When I was 23 I was working as a teacher assistant at a high school for the special Ed class. I was so confused on why other staff would treat me like I was a kid until I realized I was was wearing a lot of the same clothes the other kids were! I wasn’t much older than them but I decided while I was at work I needed to dress more mature. There was more to that issue such as my way of thinking at the time but dressing better was the first step I took and it helped.
I read that same article as well! I love the epoch times.. such a quality newspaper. I had just started watching this series in the morning and the newspaper came later in the day with that article…I felt it was a nudge from God. Thank you for your work!
I don't watch all of your videos but happened to watch this one. It was a blessing to me. You are right that personal stories touch us the most and I am grateful you decided to open up here. As a homeschooling mama of four 7.5 and under, I realize the huge impact my example has and yet i struggle so much between wanting to wear pretty dresses and also wanting to live the very active, outdoor focused lifestyle we love. I have also found that breastfeeding is challenging in many dresses, so I have decided that even though dresses are easier to look put together in, I am going to stick with skirts and tops for now. Please keep sharing your inspirational content. You are a treasure.
Yes, we must find what works for us and in the season we are in. I'm so glad you took the time to watch this video. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this 🌹
Thank you Nikki for this beautiful.conversation. Im.learning to embrace my femmine side a little at a time. The ladies in my life that I saw dress like ladies were my.late mom and both of my grandmother's. The memories of how they dressed everyday has been with me to this day.
You (and Jennifer L Scott … I found you two about the same time) are that woman for me. I’ve never seen such femininity from a single woman. Thank you! You both have enriched and enlarged my life. 🌹 🌸 🕯️ 👗 🧽 🖼️ 🍱
Yesterday I and my husband were at a cafe getting coffee and a woman with a little girl at the counter reached forward on one foot to grab something. She was wearing short shorts and what I saw will haunt me forever. I'm being facetious, but it's so easy to show more than you intend if you wear short shorts. I don't think anyone should ever wear them outside the house. It was 110 degrees outside, but wearing a full-length caftan is still better - and cooler.
Hi Nikki what a great conversation that was. I do agree there can be people that will influence us in our life. Nikki you are so wonderful to listen too, l do think feminity has gone out of some people's clothes. We are ladies and should be proud of ourselves. Loved the ladies wardrobes at the end. Thanks Nikki.❤❤
I’m looking forward to adding new dresses to my wardrobe. I loved them as a girl but since having my 3 I only wear dresses to church. Lady’s who wear dresses always look so confident and elegant to me.
I was actually led by a male 😁, soon after I got saved, I heard an excellent sermon about how Christian women should dress, I ditched all my pants and never looked back.
Great article on Epoch. Unapologetic. Really enjoyed this series so much. I have a 5 year old daughter who loves dressing feminine and i really find myself fighting to encourage that. Its opposite of how I was raised. But we've started wearing dresses to church and will be working more beauty into our day to day. Love your hair & dress in this video. ❤❤
My style has changed and evolved over the years. I prefer wearing dresses now. I'm older - in my 50s and menopausal. I choose clothes/fabrics that keep me cool all year long! 😄 I've always loved Audrey Hepburn's style. I dress simply and add accessories to elevate my look. I love dressing like a lady! Thank you for sharing this video and for all the inspiration! ❤
I switched to only dresses about a month ago. I already wore dresses a lot, but now every day. I feel so delicate and feminine in it, it's honestly amazing
I appreciate your making the point about modesty. It’s often forgotten in the “girls jeans are still feminine” discussion. The reason your friend Delois gave is my reason for wearing dresses and skirts only. I don’t even like to wear pajamas….I love to be as feminine as possible.
I was a tomboy growing up & disliked frilly dresses, skirts, stockings and lace socks lol. But I was dressed in them anyway. Oddly enough, now as an adult and a wife. I’m getting into dresses for the first time, outside of a holiday or special event. What a great series.
Nikki, this was a lovely video. You’ve clearly shown how as women we are influencers in a positive, Christian light. It’s simple. We are influenced consciously or unconsciously. Therefore, we influence other in the same way. I think that there are women that want to wear dresses, but hesitate because it is (sadly), nonconformist. Once someone breaks through the gate, so to speak, others may follow. Frankly, not only are dresses more flattering, but more comfortable. Here in the South, that is certainly the case. I’ve just purchased another dress to wear boating. Now I have a few that I can swap out. They are of course casual, so my boat sneakers will work with them. At least, I think so. I think that it’s fun and exciting that you and your followers are gently influencing girls and women to stand tall and be proud of our femininity, given to us by God. Thank you for initiating it.
When you talked about Elaine and the embarrassment, I wanted to mention something about my son. The majority of women I think don't understand how influential they are to boys by how they dress. My son gets so embarrassed for women that show so much cleavage and wear tight yoga pants everywhere. He looks away, just like Elaine did with your picture. He feels shame for them and my husband does the same. I don't think a lot of women understand how immodest they are with how they dress. Especially in a time when they don't want to be seen as a sex object. Even in my church, I see cleavage everywhere. I just bought my first two dresses yesterday, because of your videos and look forward to feeling a lot more feminine. One of the dresses was so long my husband teased me about having to wear stilts to wear it, I'm only five feet tall and the shop lady giggled. Just having a hard time even finding dresses I like. If anyone has any brand or store suggestions, please let me know.
Hello from Australia with Spring in the air! This was such a thoughtful and interesting video Nikki and I thank you for your transparency. As a Grandma who sees the delight that my 5 year old granddaughter has in dresses, I appreciate your comments on being careful of how we might press upon the younger generation. I simply try to dress with dignity and elegance and be comfortable in that in front of her. Thank you also for the introduction to Megan Madden. I have now found her blog. It is lovely to see you and to catch up on your life. Keep well, Cate Nunan.
That feeling you had with Miss Elaine and the picture was the conviction.. lol and you're right,, when you've made a change to be modest and embrace femininity, more than likely, I would say definitely it is the Holy Spirit working in you. That is why you felt the way you did. And it might have been the first time you had felt conviction from God that way.. but it's a beautiful feeling, because pleasing God is the most precious gift we have to offer Him. Love your conversations.. You are beautiful inside and out.
This is brilliant encouraging us WOMEN to return to being FEMININE again, instead of trousers and tops, wearing those I never feel as a lady. Making some dresses and skirts for myself again,and looking forward to wearing them. I remember my mother never wore trousers,she always wore dresses, she made for herself, and some for me as a young girl. Looking forward to wearing them again. You have given me some confidence in returning to be nicely dressed, and as a WOMAN, it is nice to see we Women have not been ignored .My son and husband always liked me wearing dresses or skirts, not trousers, or shorts.They are looking forward for me to return to being a lady again. Thank you.🕊️✝️🇬🇧❤️
I would love to wear dresses everyday but I would like to know how you handle really hot weather? Right now where I live in Northern CA it's 108 today. I'm hiding in the house with shorts. Since you live in a hot area do you still wear your dresses when it's so sweltering out? Also, do you have a dress to do house chores in?
It's 115 today and 117 tomorrow here in Vegas. I believe dresses are the best for this kind of weather and especially in cotton or linen fabrics. Pettipants are a must for various reasons but make sure they aren't skin tight. I wear the same dress for chores as I would wear for the day. I recently added some activewear clothing which I shared in my "Summer's Beautiful Buys" video over on Patreon but it's available for all to see if desired.
There are TV shows from the 1960s like Donna Reid, Patty Duke, Leave It To Beaver etc. that show how the ladies dressed for everyday chores. They did their hair, put on light makeup, perfume, a dress, shoes like flats, pumps, or sandals, and an apron. I remember a scene where the lady was wearing pearls and heels while she was vacuuming 😂 The doorbell rang, off came the apron, and she opened the door looking perfectly presentable. So yes Kelli, you can do housework wearing nice everyday dresses. The key is using good, ample aprons or pinafores that cover well.
To Nikki, You are a Delois and Elaine to me. I truly owe much to you for your influence in this area. You are beautiful inside and out, without sounding trite. 💖Deirdre
I have always loved dresses but after puberty (ahem, leg hair…) I moved to jeans and reserving dresses for church. Not until college did I start getting dresses I felt comfortable wearing dresses for “everyday” again. I am now working on building up my wardrobe so that I have dominantly a dress wardrobe. I am also trying to have more skirt/blouse sets but I am also trying to move away from polyester and it makes finding pretty blouses difficult. The great thing about even the most casual tshirt dress is you automatically look nicer than if wearing pants & tshirt, with zero effort. Personally I don’t agree about pants being immodest (except for stuff like leggings which of course are not meant to be worn as pants despite modern opinion), however they do tend not to be as feminine. After wearing tshirt and jeans all of high school and college, I have rarely had occasion to wear my jeans since I have been wearing dressier pants for work. My work pants are so comfortable I am a hair away from donating my jeans all together because they really aren’t as comfortable as jeans advocates would have us believe.
It definitely depends on the pants, not all are created equal, the same with dresses as some of those can be very immodest too. In addition, I understand this subject is subjective. I wish you the best as you build your dress wardrobe 🌹
I think that pants can look feminine if you wear a beautiful blouse with it. Accessories can make the look feminine also. If pants are torn, are not in a style that suits the body shape and are made from fabric that is not good quality then of course the pants themselves won't look good. I don't like how athletic wear like leggings are worn as streetwear. THEY are not appropriate. I like wide leg jeans that fit well. Ladies at one stage had to cover their legs and wouldn't be allowed to show their ankles in a dress. I like pants for very casual wear especially in winter but I prefer dresses in the warmer weather. I will wear tailored trousers to church with a pretty blouse because to me it's feminine. 2.4 inches is a bit short for shorts. A longer in seam is more comfortable. I've had many people from church that were very judgmental of how I dressed away from church. You dress the way you WANT to dress and don't worry about what others think. You have to dress for you not others.
As Christians we should want to dress in a way that glorifies God but at the same time it’s not our job to tell people how to dress, that’s between them and God, it’s the Holy Spirit that does the convicting not us
Nikki what a beautyful series two month. I thouroughely enjoyed them. Anthis one was the cherry on the cake. My desire to wear dresses started in my childhood. We used to vision my moms great aunt who was a seamstress. She would always be beautyfully dressed for her day and only word dresses. Her hair was always well kept and so was her makeup. And then my precious mom always seemed so happy as a homemaker and even as a child a wanted to become a homemakerwhen I grow up. I have always loved wearing dresses. I really didn't look good in pants. I also had skirts and beautyful blouses. But under not so good influence of collegues at work I start wearing Bermuda shorts. I was a teacher on special needs education. But I am so happy now to wear beautyful dresses because I founa a excellent seamstres who makes my dresses according my designs. I am happy and blessed and enjoy wearing my beautyful dresses and yes all are made with pockets.
On the topic of feelings. Have you never been confronted with this: being feminine and elegant with your girl friends in jeans, shorts, t-shirts and so on and feeling ashamed for them, feeling guilty at the thought that THEY might feel ashamed of themselves? And also consider you posh, too conservative and the like.?
I have never felt guilty. To me, if you wish to be inspired, you will be and many of my friends have been and now get to enjoy the beauty of their everyday lives too. I think others are just as happy with what they choose to do though and I wouldn't say I'm ashamed for them. Live and let live. If any don't wish to be around me because of such things, then I know they weren't truly my friend to begin with.
@@TheLadyoftheHouse Dear Nikki, thank you for your wise reply. I tend to feel guilty easily, but then I should reason myself. I get inspired by you, that's for sure. I think I'll transition soon to dresses only (rather than skirts and dresses). Dresses are so much easier! All the best. Marion
I feel like I get more attention when I wear a dress. That can sometimes be uncomfortable. However I feel very on display when I wear pants. I don’t like my butt so….visible. And honestly the attention from dresses and skirts goes away after a couple of weeks. It just takes people time to accept the new you.
This is a great video. There are moments for all of us, collected over time, that change us. Listening to your inspirations further pushed me in my evolution of clothing and other aspects. I've also noticed your change in how you speak since earlier videos. Is that just for the camera or is speaking more slowly your natural rhythm? I know a woman who speaks very much like you and I find it more engaging and hope to adopt. Perhaps another series suggestion?
Thank you, Amanda! You're right, there are so many moments that shape us. I found it to be difficult to narrow down so many for the sake of this video. As far as my speech pattern is concerned, When I first came on the TH-cam scene, it was pretty difficult just to get used to speaking to the camera. It took me a long time to learn that the way I would normally speak is okay. I remember receiving comments about how I spoke slow in the past that made me feel like I wasn't doing it right but the longer I had my channel, the more I felt comfortable with me and that several others found the way I spoke to be calming and appealing so I had something to offer in that way. I think we all have different speech patterns, especially given the circumstances. When I'm talking to my husband or parents and not feeling the need to filter as much of what I say, I may sound different than when I am really thinking through my words and choosing them carefully and then a completely different pattern when I'm speaking as a mother and giving instruction. If things have changed though, I would attribute it to feeling more comfortable to be myself in front of the camera. It makes me happy to know you feel the way I speak is more engaging as that's exactly what I would hope a person would feel 🌹
I know that you like to promote dresses now, so you may not like to hear this, but one of my favorite outfit styles to wear was actually inspired you Nikki. I once saw you dressing in crisp white pants and a pale pink light knit top. I love this style now, usually choosing white or cream bengaline cigar pants though because I don't really wear jeans. I love dresses too but love to reach for that look.
You must have missed my “A Dress A Day in May” series. The majority were from Ross which range from $14.99-24.99 per dress. I try to include the dress maker in the description box of each video. So many were purchased 2nd hand through Poshmark as well. The dress I’m wearing in this video was $14.99. Every lady has a different budget but I think I share exactly what you wish I would quite often 🌹
Thank you I didn't realize that you bought dresses I could afford. I have seen many of your videos where the thing you showed were very expensive and out of my budget. I enjoyed today's video. I don't take care of myself (I feel I am not worth it.) I wonder what my husband would say if I started to wear dresses. How did you husband react?
I find beautiful dresses when I thrift. Obviously we live in a time when most women don’t wear dresses daily. I find lots of beautiful (gently used and even new) dresses at thrift stores. I love a good vintage dress. Some of my most beautiful (well-made) dresses are from the 1950s-1970s. Local thrift stores price dresses around $3 and goodwill prices in my location are $6.50. I found a Draper James dress for $6.50 the other day. It looks brand new!
I love your content from Canada and was wondering do you live in area with snow in winter and if so what do you wear on your legs to keep them warm when going out?
You can buy tights that are lined with fleece inside to wear under dresses. They are incredibly warm as they so close to the body. You can put "nude style tights" in any search engine They are very economical. They have a "black tights over nude legs" look - BUT they are completely opaque and your legs cannot be seen at all. They also come in many colors Also a tall boot that ends above the hem of the dress (your tights will not be exposed) For your top half, you can wear a turtle neck under your dress, and a long coat. I also live in Ontario and this is keeps me very warm Hope this helps
There are lots of styles of pants that are elegant, feminine, and not revealing. Women should wear whatever they like and makes them feel comfortable and pretty. Being attractive and modest can be achieved in countless ways. 😊
Dresses make the feminine figure so beautiful while hiding much that we don't wish to reveal all while giving us the desire to strive for an even more lovely silhouette.
I really enjoyed this precious message. It’s been a while since I’ve enjoyed your videos and I see that they are still inspiring. :) What you said about jeans resonated with me as I also feel that they show everything and prefer to wear dresses. I receive many comments. You’d think people would be aware that women wore them for centuries. Now we stand out in a crowd of black leggings and jeans everywhere we go. I always say, “It’s as comfortable as wearing a nightgown but looks dressed up.” We are living in strange times when wearing a pretty, flowy dress elicits surprise.
"Oh, yes, thank you so much, as I uncovered a "memory that puzzled me so much," about dressing as a woman!" "My daughter is a professor and received an invitation to present her scholastic paper at a university in the Hollywood, California area!" "MY husband took us to an upscale restaurant for lunch afterwards, and as we walked into the place, we were immediately mocked, pointed at, laughed at, the "whole nine yards of bullying!" "One could simply not determine the women from the men easily!' "It looked like all were in tee shirts, jeans, no makeup, hair askew, and staring at us with scowls!" "HUH?" Well, my husband was able to get a waiter to assist us, we ate quickly in this beautiful trendy place, then left without our saying a word to each other, even, I guess were were actually scared silent, too!" "What was going on there??" "MY husband figured "what" was there right away, and the answer was " HOLLYWOOD CROWD WAS TRENDING TOWARDS NO DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN," AND "WE WERE BREAKING THEIR TRENDS!" "WHOOPS, we had to pay for coming into "THEIR TERRITORY WITH THEIR SEVERE INTIMIDATION AND SHUNNING!" "DEAR DEAR LORD......WELL, AS YOU ALL KNOW, NOW, THE "REST IS THE HISTORY OF TODAY!" "HOWEVER, my daughter and I still shiver at the real hostility that these people expressed to us......they were all dressed in neutral colors, and we came in done up in pinks and light blue, my husband was dressed in beige , however, so ?????? "Frankly, we felt that "they could have hurt us," as "THEY HAD REAL ANGER!!!" "OH, MY!!" !"
I haven’t know Jennifer to wear strictly dresses. These were the ladies that had an incredible impact on my way of thinking about this subject in letting go of pants.
I love wearing dresses and always have but now that I have gained a little bit of weight in my thigh area my legs rub together. It is so uncomfortable. I’m wondering if there’s a solution to it besides the terrible nylon type of shape wear that’s out there, especially in the heat of the summer. I prefer cotton based undergarments. I have a couple of pairs of long denim shorts I wear to the park with my kids but otherwise I really don’t like them.
I found some cotton pettipants on Poshmark in various sizes. I would search those as some sell those. I got a pair for my daughter and she loves them. I should get some for myself but I usually am okay with nylon and like how it doesn't stick to the dress or slip.
That is beautiful, I love it! The older I get (44) the more dresses I wear. A mom of a 1st grader I teach in Sunday school told me that his son calls me the pretty lady with the pretty dresses! It warmed my heart so much! How we present ourselves matters, and no clothing item is more feminine and pretty than a dress. I do also love skirts, but dresses are extra special.
Thank you ❤ I'm turning 35 this year and only now deciding that dressing feminine is now important to me and I'm tired of looking casual. I'm sure I can find more girly clothes that are also comfortable and somewhat practical haha I find dresses easy in summer but matching them with jackets etc harder in the cold months. But it'll be a fun journey. I've just taken out my nose piercing too haha you can tell I'm a single mother and wanting to find a husband before its too late hehe
Although I fully understood where your friend was coming from by ‘looking away’. I think if it had been me, I would have said ‘What I was wearing and why’. Not long ago our local cinema put on a special evening of the ‘Grease’ film and my friends and myself dressed up as the Pink Ladies only I didn’t have a Pink Jacket, but I did have access to a pair of skin tight black trousers which I paired with a black and white top. Plus full face makeup 💄 and a fluffed up hairstyle. The compliments that I received was awesome even from my husband. It wasn’t so much what I was wearing but the fact that I could carry it off at the age of 69. My oncologist praised me for putting myself on a diet in February 2020 because at the diagnosis of breast cancer in October 2021; she said to me ‘It was the perfect thing to do, as dieting starves cancer cells. Getting myself into better shape is a super way to start wearing dresses again and I haven’t looked back.
Femininity is an attitude, not a way of dressing. Dresses are great (pants too), but we shouldn't be legalistic about this. A woman can be in construction gear and working on an oil rig and still be feminine. Also femininity is not weak and passive nor subordinate to masculinity (yin and yang, two equal parts of a whole).
There is clothing that is deemed feminine and clothing deemed masculine. There is nothing legalistic being spoken of. There may be a misunderstanding of what was spoken about. There are also feminine traits and masculine traits.
Wearing pretty dresses everyday has changed my life completely and I am so grateful for your influence.
I’m so happy to know that!
I can't tell you how many times my husband and I have been out in public and he's turned to me and thanked me for not dressing like a woman nearby and not letting myself go.
What a nice compliment!
Hi Nikki! I'm Megan Madden from the Epoch Times article (not very active on TH-cam) but one of my instagram followers pointed me to your youtube channel and mentioned that you showed the article. I loved this video and relate so much to your journey in dress wearing. Just wanted to say hello!
Hello Megan! Your article was so lovely to read and I know it will touch the lives of many ladies. Thank you so much for visiting my channel and saying hello 🌹
Help epoch times!
I loved this heartfelt conversation, this is what we as women need to talk about! Being ladylike is definitely an art. I truly appreciate you Nikki ❤
I’m so glad you enjoyed this!
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Wearing dresses can be a cheaper way of dressing, than wearing a top and bottom. Here in the UK a top and bottom can cost about £50. A dress can be about £40, in a sale around £25, in a charity shop less than £10.
Yes, leading by example is important. Not shaming like my mother always did.
My closet is full of dresses my mom almost always has a new one for me when I see her. My problem is a struggle with depression and just want to wear the same sweatshirt for a week and barely shower. I am trying to fight my depression by getting dressed and bathing more often, it is s struggle
You are so beautiful and loved. Keep up the good work!. You got this.
I relate to this so much. I feel I’ve fallen into such a deep depression since having my third son last year. Just hating myself. I feel the same way about dresses and am starting to bring my dresses out of the closet again to try and help myself.
@@Laura-kv7bl Try do the things you love to do when you are in a normal mood, it is hard, but you can do it.
I struggle with that too. I’m trying to find comfy dresses for when I’m in those times. Hugs.
i hope you're doing well
What a wonderful conversation sharing your heart. I loved this. I am 68 and have recently begun wearing all dresses/skirt outfits and it has transformed my looks, my mood, my happiness and even my motivation level. I mostly wear 1950’s styles from the decade in which I was born. I will never go back!
I've watched your channel for years. I think this was one of my favorites. I know there is a small representation of women on TH-cam who embrace their femininity and are not afraid to share that. I consider you all fearless leading ladies and appreciate you all. I am considerably older than you...growing up in the early50's & 60's. More women were joining the workforce by the 60's. Most women wore dresses and coiffed hair in the 50's but around the 60's I remember seeing women begin to wear pants. The first job I applied for I wore a dress, heels and white gloves. Women wearing white gloves regularly to church and always a pretty hanky in their handbag was common. So, I didn't lack lady like inspiration. Then pants suits for women came out and for several years, dresses were almost a rarity. I wanted to maintain and even further develop my femininity as In my very young years I was more of a "tomgirl" I was never sure exactly how. I, like you, watched for examples around me. Forward to marriage and raising a family consisting of all boys, I fell into the habit of wearing pants except for the occasional dress to church.
Of course the style of pants throughout the years evolved many times...some more flattering to the female body than others.
I remember once several years ago seeing a women bent over in jeans. As hard as I tried to not look, I couldn't help it and I thought to myself...wow....that's what it looks like when I bend over too and that's what a man would see if one were around. How dishonoring to not only myself but to my husband a well, as that's not a view to be shared with other men. Then I heard you one day say that you were not going to wear pants anymore and one reason you gave was that it does not look nice when a woman bends over in pants. It was good to hear a younger woman say the same thing. My closet began filling up with more dresses. To be honest, I can't say that I never wear pants. I rarely wear pants in the summer but winters in the Midwest can be brutally cold. I haven't figured out yet how to style a dress and look appropriate for my age in the winter nor do I see many dresses in a fabric weight that seems right for winter. One thing for sure, in the winter months when I wear more pants, I am much more aware of being more modest...but let's face it...nothing drapes and conceals our feminine secrets like a lovely dress. Thank you Nikki for sharing your story. Keep reaching out with your leading lady example. ❤
Thank you! “Nothing drapes and conceals our feminine secrets like a lovely dress”, that is so true, thank you for pointing that out in such a beautiful way and I appreciate your thoughts on this subject 🌹
Thank you! I now have 3 dresses!
I just got home from an extended trip. We went to Turkey 🇹🇷 Greece 🇬🇷 and The Dalmatian Coast. I couldn’t help but notice the beautiful clothing some women wore in these countries. Gorgeous silk fabrics in dresses, scarves and skirts just would float gently on the women. How the women dressed contributed to the beauty of the towns we would walk through. I wore dresses myself on this trip. None of my clothes were as pretty as some I saw. I even would sneak a photo of an outfit that looked particularly stunning. I will always remember these lovely ladies. Maybe I can aspire to come a bit closer to that ideal. Nikki, you inspire me.
Contributing to the beauty of the city.... how perfect!
@@Nick84525 continent ;) But yes: its a valuable trip! I hope you've already visited some places!!
YOU are the lady that led me to wearing dresses and I am so blessed to have found your channel when you were doing 'A dress a day in May!' ❤
For me too, thank you Nikki for the inspiration!❤
That is really nice to know, thank you for sharing!
Thank you Nikki for a wonderful and meaningful series. I think this is very important to bring femininity back. You have showed through this series that is it more than just the dress 👗 it’s what happens emotionally and physically when we are feminine. There is so much to gain from your wealth of knowledge. Thank you 😊
I’m so glad you see the bigger message. Thank you for your lovely words, Monique🌹
I've been wearing long skirts and dresses exclusively since I was 28 years old. I'm 56 now. 😉
My normal wardrobe had been biking shorts or leggings with tees or bra tops or mini skirts.
When I felt a conviction about my modesty, I bought my first long dress. On that very first day of wearing it, I was standing at the stove stirring oatmeal when my oldest child ( only 5 at the time ) came running into the kitchen. He saw me as he flew by and skidded to a stop in his socks. He turned and said, " Mom, you look BEAUTIFUL"!! Then he was off! I was left crying into the oatmeal as I realized he had never said that before. 🥰
I have soooo many stories about the decision to dress this way. Too many to write here. I think I'll write them down for my own family....
Thank you, Nikki, for sharing yours. ❤️
This was the sweetest story, thank you so much for sharing it. You're right, there are so many stories. I had a difficult time narrowing mine down for this video. It's so good to have those moments 🌹
Good day, Nikki,
I am a Delois and an Elaine!
Although I feel loved and respected by many of the younger women in the church, I sometimes feel as though my personal style and clothing choices go unnoticed. I, too, love wearing dresses and skirts every day (as most girls did in the 60's and 70's) and have been doing so for most of my 62 years.
It is encouraging to hear that we are not only seen but can serve as positive examples of femininity. The way we dress speaks of our womanhood without us having to say a word.
You are a humble and beautiful young woman.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts in the video.
I love how Kate Middleton mixes both pants and dresses. Always looks so feminine and elegant. I believe when you first start a feminine journey dresses only is a must. Once you've mastered femininity you can make every outfit. Also, to wear pants and look ladylike you have to be in good physical shape. Ladies today are not in the same physical shape as Jackie or Audrey and Kate Middleton. Dresses are a true friend for all women but especially today, many are over weight and not toned.
I couldn't agree more!
When I was a child, my parents used to go dancing every Saturday night. I loved to watch my Mum put on her pretty evening dresses, curl her hair and put on her make-up. I loved watching her put on her lipstick. So feminine and glamorous. She also wore dresses or skirts every day. Only ever had one pair of trousers for heavy gardening work like digging.
When you said you felt soemthjng inside even though nobody said a thing. Wow! I just told my husband yesterday that I felt convicted to dress like a lady , I feel so icky in my bun and oversized T’s and jeans , my little girl is wearing short shorts and we ran into a family that only wears dresses and I asked her to “pull your shorts down” I feel the conviction not just for modesty alone but to feel like the ladies we are! My girly is only 5 and loves skirts and dresses!
Our conscience is a powerful thing! Running into others feels so different when you have full confidence in how you are presenting yourself. You will lead your lovely little lady down the path of loveliness 🌹
I worked in surgery for several years and was often “on call.” My call partner would come to the hospital at 2:00 a.m. in a dress, nylons, heels and often a fur coat. She always looked amazing regardless of the time of day.
I love so many of your videos, but, yes, this just may be my favorite. It brings me to tears to hear your encouragement to continue being an example to the ladies around us. Twice in the last little while, one of the young ladies at our local grocery store has commented about how pretty my dresses are. It warms my heart to think that she noticed and that it could be an influence in her life to dress more femininely as well. With all the push back in our culture to wear pants, it's so inspiring to hear you remind us that yes, people do notice and are influenced by our quiet example. Thank you Nikki❤
Thanks for such a heartfelt video. I have said before that you inspire us daily, but I can never explain how you are one of the people that inspired me back during the pandemic, when I started watching your videos, to wear dresses and I have only worn dresses since then. I just received a special compliment from a co worker the other day and what she said was that "I always look put together in my dresses". Thanks for being such an amazing lady!! 💖💐
Aww, that’s so nice to know! It’s really great that you did that for yourself and I’m sure you are inspiring others too, just like your coworker 🌹
Praise God for those influential women in our lives 💕
This was very touching, authentic, inspiring and beautiful. Thank you so much Nikki for opening your heart and sharing these sensitive stories from your life.❤ I can relate to those moments where only one look from a person I higly appreciate made me realize how improper my outfit was at the moment. It is so true that leading by the example of high standard motivated by love is the most effective way to reach someones heart. It has been a wonderful series. God bless you Nikki and the ladies you are leading!❤
Thank you, Petra! Yes, very well said about that motivation and reaching someone's heart 🌹
My mom and I have extremely different taste in clothes. She hates the retro look I love 😂 Wearing dresses is complicated for me because I grew up in a cult where ankle length skirts were required.
If I'm not working I'm in a dress daily and I LOVE IT!
I enjoyed hearing the story of your journey. Now I feel like I'm not alone. Because it took me a few times to finally make an intentional move to modesty. Not dresses and skirts all the time. But at least modesty. Unfortunately, it took me many years to finally catch on. I wish somebody had talked to me about modesty when I was growing up. I think it could have made a difference for me.
Hi Nikki, I loved every minute of this video. Your story is heartwarming and I can relate on so many levels. The leading lady Warbrobes pictures were so inspiring & beautiful. My story is far too long...The only Pants that ever looked feminine to me were the 1950's Culotte Pants which date back to the 1900's. You are doing such a great job with your channel Nikki. I really appreciate you. Thank you!. 🤗
I also love the Palazzo pants of the 1930's, though one should be fairly trim to look good in them.
Thank you very much, I’m so glad you enjoyed this. Thank you for sharing the style you feel are most feminine in pants🌹
Another beautiful video. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your heart with us.
I just found you today but what am impression you made!! Thank you so very much!
Welcome! I'm so glad you enjoyed this video!
I love these videos, such lovely and inspiring topics ❤ I so appreciate your content! Your channel is a beautiful retreat.
Thank you!
thank you
This was beautifully said. Encouraging and inspiring. God bless you.
Thank you!
Nikki very well said and done. I love how you can get us to stop and think about things. Very good video. Thank you so much for all your hard work and encouragement.
I would love to see how you start a color scheme/ pattern wardrobe; if you haven’t done so. I love the way you have mixed patterns in the same color scheme. I have worn dresses to work and have other ladies follow along.
I love doing this for a week of dresses. At the end of each week for the "A Dress A Day in May" series I shared this. That's great that you have been wearing dresses to work. You inspire many 🌹
I wore a pair of dress slacks to church just once. I felt so uncomfortable and out of place because I had always worn a dress or skirt and blouse. I have never worn pants to church since.
Thank you for this sweet, open conversation! I found it so encouraging!
I’m so glad!
Beautiful video, Nikki!💖🌸🙏🏻
Thank you!
Great conversation Nikki! Nice seeing the ladies wardrobes at the end. I’m still working on my leading lady wardrobe. Still looking for dresses I feel I would want to wear to work and trying to wear a dress to every other type of occasion. As I get older, I want to wear just dresses! 💖
Thank you, Samantha! It's always a work in progress, especially as we age. I hope you get to that point that you wish to 🌹
This was so heartfelt indeed! Thank you for sharing! I love how you saw others and that inspired you! I feel the same! I remember just doing what everyone else did following the cool trendy influencer thing and I NEVER truly felt like myself! I look back and shriek at the cuts I wore and the colors I wore (that never suited me)! I had practically no clothes on! I was so uncomfortable and didn’t even know it! So I saw a youtuber wearing skirts and dresses and I was like wow, people actually dress like this and it was so gorgeous and I loved it and so started to try that! I never felt more like myself than when I started dressing so feminine! Now I pretty much only wear dresses! It’s so interesting how our Western culture has so shifted away from that to whereas people always think I’m way overdressed and all I’m in is a simple dress! They are so chic, comfortable, easy, and I just love them! So I relate to how they make you feel! I also love the modesty of my dresses! My dresses have helped me step into how God made me - feminine! I love being a woman and showing that! I am so much more a woman now I feel like and dresses for me was a huge part of me stepping into my true self! 🤍🌷
That's so beautiful, thank you for sharing your thoughts on this 🌹
You are one of the ladies that lead me 🌹
That’s so nice to know🌹
I love this video. I love wearing dresses but struggle to find modest ones in the colors that look good on me. I do not look good in warm or muted colors.
When I was 23 I was working as a teacher assistant at a high school for the special Ed class. I was so confused on why other staff would treat me like I was a kid until I realized I was was wearing a lot of the same clothes the other kids were! I wasn’t much older than them but I decided while I was at work I needed to dress more mature. There was more to that issue such as my way of thinking at the time but dressing better was the first step I took and it helped.
Yes, it seems we can get stuck trying to “look young” forgetting that it’s good to mature, especially in our presentation.
I read that same article as well! I love the epoch times.. such a quality newspaper. I had just started watching this series in the morning and the newspaper came later in the day with that article…I felt it was a nudge from God. Thank you for your work!
How funny! Yes, such a lovely article and so well written 🌹
I would love to watch a video of the famous ladies that inspired you Nikki 😊
Thank you for the idea 🌹
Loved this video ❤ thanks for sharing
I loved watching my mom put her lipstick on! She delighted in being a woman and now so do I.
I don't watch all of your videos but happened to watch this one. It was a blessing to me. You are right that personal stories touch us the most and I am grateful you decided to open up here. As a homeschooling mama of four 7.5 and under, I realize the huge impact my example has and yet i struggle so much between wanting to wear pretty dresses and also wanting to live the very active, outdoor focused lifestyle we love. I have also found that breastfeeding is challenging in many dresses, so I have decided that even though dresses are easier to look put together in, I am going to stick with skirts and tops for now. Please keep sharing your inspirational content. You are a treasure.
Yes, we must find what works for us and in the season we are in. I'm so glad you took the time to watch this video. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this 🌹
Great insight!
Thank you Nikki for this beautiful.conversation. Im.learning to embrace my femmine side a little at a time. The ladies in my life that I saw dress like ladies were my.late mom and both of my grandmother's. The memories of how they dressed everyday has been with me to this day.
How wonderful to have that influence 🌹
I enjoyed hearing the story of who inspired you. You are also an inspiration. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you!
Your story is so similar to my own! It’s so special to hear others talk about this! 💕
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Love this so much! ❤
You (and Jennifer L Scott … I found you two about the same time) are that woman for me. I’ve never seen such femininity from a single woman. Thank you! You both have enriched and enlarged my life. 🌹 🌸 🕯️ 👗 🧽 🖼️ 🍱
That's so nice to know! Jennifer offers wonderful wisdom when it comes to looking presentable always 🌹
Yesterday I and my husband were at a cafe getting coffee and a woman with a little girl at the counter reached forward on one foot to grab something. She was wearing short shorts and what I saw will haunt me forever. I'm being facetious, but it's so easy to show more than you intend if you wear short shorts. I don't think anyone should ever wear them outside the house. It was 110 degrees outside, but wearing a full-length caftan is still better - and cooler.
I wish more would know that it's just not a pleasing look for various reasons.
I am a fairly new subscriber.
Im playing catch up with your videos x i am loving the femininity and faith based conversation.
Hi Nikki what a great conversation that was. I do agree there can be people that will influence us in our life. Nikki you are so wonderful to listen too, l do think feminity has gone out of some people's clothes. We are ladies and should be proud of ourselves. Loved the ladies wardrobes at the end. Thanks Nikki.❤❤
Thank you, Marilyn! I’m so glad you enjoyed this🌹
I love this video! Thank you for bringing it to us.
My pleasure 🌹
I’m looking forward to adding new dresses to my wardrobe. I loved them as a girl but since having my 3 I only wear dresses to church. Lady’s who wear dresses always look so confident and elegant to me.
I was actually led by a male 😁, soon after I got saved, I heard an excellent sermon about how Christian women should dress, I ditched all my pants and never looked back.
Great article on Epoch. Unapologetic. Really enjoyed this series so much. I have a 5 year old daughter who loves dressing feminine and i really find myself fighting to encourage that. Its opposite of how I was raised. But we've started wearing dresses to church and will be working more beauty into our day to day. Love your hair & dress in this video. ❤❤
I love knowing that! Thank you very much 🌹
My style has changed and evolved over the years. I prefer wearing dresses now. I'm older - in my 50s and menopausal. I choose clothes/fabrics that keep me cool all year long! 😄 I've always loved Audrey Hepburn's style. I dress simply and add accessories to elevate my look. I love dressing like a lady! Thank you for sharing this video and for all the inspiration! ❤
She had a very lovely style indeed! Thank you for sharing this and what you wear now 🌹
I switched to only dresses about a month ago. I already wore dresses a lot, but now every day. I feel so delicate and feminine in it, it's honestly amazing
I appreciate your making the point about modesty. It’s often forgotten in the “girls jeans are still feminine” discussion. The reason your friend Delois gave is my reason for wearing dresses and skirts only. I don’t even like to wear pajamas….I love to be as feminine as possible.
Yes, changing from "pajamas" was the best transition I made, it was the kickoff to a more feminine lifestyle.
I was a tomboy growing up & disliked frilly dresses, skirts, stockings and lace socks lol. But I was dressed in them anyway. Oddly enough, now as an adult and a wife. I’m getting into dresses for the first time, outside of a holiday or special event. What a great series.
Nikki, this was a lovely video.
You’ve clearly shown how as women we are influencers in a positive, Christian light.
It’s simple. We are influenced consciously or unconsciously. Therefore, we influence other in the same way.
I think that there are women that want to wear dresses, but hesitate because it is (sadly), nonconformist.
Once someone breaks through the gate, so to speak, others may follow.
Frankly, not only are dresses more flattering, but more comfortable.
Here in the South, that is certainly the case.
I’ve just purchased another dress to wear boating. Now I have a few that I can swap out.
They are of course casual, so my boat sneakers will work with them. At least, I think so.
I think that it’s fun and exciting that you and your followers are gently influencing girls and women to stand tall and be proud of our femininity, given to us by God.
Thank you for initiating it.
Thanks for sharing 💐
When you talked about Elaine and the embarrassment, I wanted to mention something about my son. The majority of women I think don't understand how influential they are to boys by how they dress. My son gets so embarrassed for women that show so much cleavage and wear tight yoga pants everywhere. He looks away, just like Elaine did with your picture. He feels shame for them and my husband does the same. I don't think a lot of women understand how immodest they are with how they dress. Especially in a time when they don't want to be seen as a sex object. Even in my church, I see cleavage everywhere. I just bought my first two dresses yesterday, because of your videos and look forward to feeling a lot more feminine. One of the dresses was so long my husband teased me about having to wear stilts to wear it, I'm only five feet tall and the shop lady giggled. Just having a hard time even finding dresses I like. If anyone has any brand or store suggestions, please let me know.
Hello from Australia with Spring in the air! This was such a thoughtful and interesting video Nikki and I thank you for your transparency. As a Grandma who sees the delight that my 5 year old granddaughter has in dresses, I appreciate your comments on being careful of how we might press upon the younger generation. I simply try to dress with dignity and elegance and be comfortable in that in front of her. Thank you also for the introduction to Megan Madden. I have now found her blog. It is lovely to see you and to catch up on your life. Keep well, Cate Nunan.
You are doing a wonderful job! I'm so glad this was helpful for you, Cate 🌹
Wonderful
Thank you!
That feeling you had with Miss Elaine and the picture was the conviction.. lol and you're right,, when you've made a change to be modest and embrace femininity, more than likely, I would say definitely it is the Holy Spirit working in you. That is why you felt the way you did. And it might have been the first time you had felt conviction from God that way.. but it's a beautiful feeling, because pleasing God is the most precious gift we have to offer Him. Love your conversations.. You are beautiful inside and out.
I feel like you look so absolutely elegant when you wear your hair this way and this is also one of my favorite dresses of yours. ❤
Thank you!
This is brilliant encouraging us WOMEN to return to being FEMININE again, instead of trousers and tops, wearing those I never feel as a lady. Making some dresses and skirts for myself again,and looking forward to wearing them. I remember my mother never wore trousers,she always wore dresses, she made for herself, and some for me as a young girl. Looking forward to wearing them again. You have given me some confidence in returning to be nicely dressed, and as a WOMAN, it is nice to see we Women have not been ignored .My son and husband always liked me wearing dresses or skirts, not trousers, or shorts.They are looking forward for me to return to being a lady again. Thank you.🕊️✝️🇬🇧❤️
@@thorpsewinglessons5913 I’m so happy to learn this, thank you for sharing 🌹
I would love to wear dresses everyday but I would like to know how you handle really hot weather? Right now where I live in Northern CA it's 108 today. I'm hiding in the house with shorts. Since you live in a hot area do you still wear your dresses when it's so sweltering out? Also, do you have a dress to do house chores in?
I find that having really comfortable undershorts keeps me cool and keeps fabric from sticking and legs from rubbing. Hot here in Texas too!
It's 115 today and 117 tomorrow here in Vegas. I believe dresses are the best for this kind of weather and especially in cotton or linen fabrics. Pettipants are a must for various reasons but make sure they aren't skin tight. I wear the same dress for chores as I would wear for the day. I recently added some activewear clothing which I shared in my "Summer's Beautiful Buys" video over on Patreon but it's available for all to see if desired.
There are TV shows from the 1960s like Donna Reid, Patty Duke, Leave It To Beaver etc. that show how the ladies dressed for everyday chores.
They did their hair, put on light makeup, perfume, a dress, shoes like flats, pumps, or sandals, and an apron.
I remember a scene where the lady was wearing pearls and heels while she was vacuuming 😂
The doorbell rang, off came the apron, and she opened the door looking perfectly presentable.
So yes Kelli, you can do housework wearing nice everyday dresses. The key is using good, ample aprons or pinafores that cover well.
To Nikki,
You are a Delois and Elaine to me. I truly owe much to you for your influence in this area. You are beautiful inside and out, without sounding trite. 💖Deirdre
Thank you so much, that’s so nice to know!
I have always loved dresses but after puberty (ahem, leg hair…) I moved to jeans and reserving dresses for church. Not until college did I start getting dresses I felt comfortable wearing dresses for “everyday” again. I am now working on building up my wardrobe so that I have dominantly a dress wardrobe. I am also trying to have more skirt/blouse sets but I am also trying to move away from polyester and it makes finding pretty blouses difficult. The great thing about even the most casual tshirt dress is you automatically look nicer than if wearing pants & tshirt, with zero effort.
Personally I don’t agree about pants being immodest (except for stuff like leggings which of course are not meant to be worn as pants despite modern opinion), however they do tend not to be as feminine. After wearing tshirt and jeans all of high school and college, I have rarely had occasion to wear my jeans since I have been wearing dressier pants for work. My work pants are so comfortable I am a hair away from donating my jeans all together because they really aren’t as comfortable as jeans advocates would have us believe.
It definitely depends on the pants, not all are created equal, the same with dresses as some of those can be very immodest too. In addition, I understand this subject is subjective. I wish you the best as you build your dress wardrobe 🌹
I think that pants can look feminine if you wear a beautiful blouse with it. Accessories can make the look feminine also. If pants are torn, are not in a style that suits the body shape and are made from fabric that is not good quality then of course the pants themselves won't look good. I don't like how athletic wear like leggings are worn as streetwear. THEY are not appropriate. I like wide leg jeans that fit well. Ladies at one stage had to cover their legs and wouldn't be allowed to show their ankles in a dress. I like pants for very casual wear especially in winter but I prefer dresses in the warmer weather. I will wear tailored trousers to church with a pretty blouse because to me it's feminine. 2.4 inches is a bit short for shorts. A longer in seam is more comfortable. I've had many people from church that were very judgmental of how I dressed away from church. You dress the way you WANT to dress and don't worry about what others think. You have to dress for you not others.
As Christians we should want to dress in a way that glorifies God but at the same time it’s not our job to tell people how to dress, that’s between them and God, it’s the Holy Spirit that does the convicting not us
Im 78 and love only wearing dresses! So comfortable and easy to wear! And modest!
I stopped wearing pants about two years ago. Now only skirts and dresses. I think dresses are more flattering on women than pants. 🌸
That’s so nice to know🌹
Beautiful. What's the name of the book you were mentioning that your group was doing? Thank you.
Train the Young Women by Ruth Thompson
Nikki what a beautyful series two month. I thouroughely enjoyed them. Anthis one was the cherry on the cake.
My desire to wear dresses started in my childhood. We used to vision my moms great aunt who was a seamstress. She would always be beautyfully dressed for her day and only word dresses. Her hair was always well kept and so was her makeup. And then my precious mom always seemed so happy as a homemaker and even as a child a wanted to become a homemakerwhen I grow up. I have always loved wearing dresses. I really didn't look good in pants. I also had skirts and beautyful blouses. But under not so good influence of collegues at work I start wearing Bermuda shorts. I was a teacher on special needs education. But I am so happy now to wear beautyful dresses because I founa a excellent seamstres who makes my dresses according my designs. I am happy and blessed and enjoy wearing my beautyful dresses and yes all are made with pockets.
Thank you, I’m so glad you enjoyed this! It makes quite a difference to have a seamstress that makes things for you. That is such a blessing 🌹
Hahaha very interesting topic. Thank you very much. 🎉
My pleasure 🌹
On the topic of feelings. Have you never been confronted with this: being feminine and elegant with your girl friends in jeans, shorts, t-shirts and so on and feeling ashamed for them, feeling guilty at the thought that THEY might feel ashamed of themselves? And also consider you posh, too conservative and the like.?
I have never felt guilty. To me, if you wish to be inspired, you will be and many of my friends have been and now get to enjoy the beauty of their everyday lives too. I think others are just as happy with what they choose to do though and I wouldn't say I'm ashamed for them. Live and let live. If any don't wish to be around me because of such things, then I know they weren't truly my friend to begin with.
@@TheLadyoftheHouse Dear Nikki, thank you for your wise reply. I tend to feel guilty easily, but then I should reason myself. I get inspired by you, that's for sure. I think I'll transition soon to dresses only (rather than skirts and dresses). Dresses are so much easier! All the best. Marion
I feel like I get more attention when I wear a dress. That can sometimes be uncomfortable. However I feel very on display when I wear pants. I don’t like my butt so….visible. And honestly the attention from dresses and skirts goes away after a couple of weeks. It just takes people time to accept the new you.
This is a great video. There are moments for all of us, collected over time, that change us. Listening to your inspirations further pushed me in my evolution of clothing and other aspects.
I've also noticed your change in how you speak since earlier videos. Is that just for the camera or is speaking more slowly your natural rhythm? I know a woman who speaks very much like you and I find it more engaging and hope to adopt. Perhaps another series suggestion?
Thank you, Amanda! You're right, there are so many moments that shape us. I found it to be difficult to narrow down so many for the sake of this video.
As far as my speech pattern is concerned, When I first came on the TH-cam scene, it was pretty difficult just to get used to speaking to the camera. It took me a long time to learn that the way I would normally speak is okay. I remember receiving comments about how I spoke slow in the past that made me feel like I wasn't doing it right but the longer I had my channel, the more I felt comfortable with me and that several others found the way I spoke to be calming and appealing so I had something to offer in that way. I think we all have different speech patterns, especially given the circumstances. When I'm talking to my husband or parents and not feeling the need to filter as much of what I say, I may sound different than when I am really thinking through my words and choosing them carefully and then a completely different pattern when I'm speaking as a mother and giving instruction. If things have changed though, I would attribute it to feeling more comfortable to be myself in front of the camera. It makes me happy to know you feel the way I speak is more engaging as that's exactly what I would hope a person would feel 🌹
I have always worn dresses and i always will ❤
I know that you like to promote dresses now, so you may not like to hear this, but one of my favorite outfit styles to wear was actually inspired you Nikki. I once saw you dressing in crisp white pants and a pale pink light knit top. I love this style now, usually choosing white or cream bengaline cigar pants though because I don't really wear jeans. I love dresses too but love to reach for that look.
I still love that combination when I see it. The pants you speak of I think can look very feminine and appealing on the right body type.
I forgot about that one but that's along the lines of some of my favorite go tos too. More neat, preppy, classic like.
I wish you could show us (People that can't afford the clothes that you buy) how to dress nicely.
You must have missed my “A Dress A Day in May” series. The majority were from Ross which range from $14.99-24.99 per dress. I try to include the dress maker in the description box of each video. So many were purchased 2nd hand through Poshmark as well. The dress I’m wearing in this video was $14.99. Every lady has a different budget but I think I share exactly what you wish I would quite often 🌹
Thank you I didn't realize that you bought dresses I could afford. I have seen many of your videos where the thing you showed were very expensive and out of my budget. I enjoyed today's video. I don't take care of myself (I feel I am not worth it.) I wonder what my husband would say if I started to wear dresses. How did you husband react?
I find beautiful dresses when I thrift. Obviously we live in a time when most women don’t wear dresses daily. I find lots of beautiful (gently used and even new) dresses at thrift stores. I love a good vintage dress. Some of my most beautiful (well-made) dresses are from the 1950s-1970s. Local thrift stores price dresses around $3 and goodwill prices in my location are $6.50. I found a Draper James dress for $6.50 the other day. It looks brand new!
Absolutely, a place where you can makeover your wardrobe for a great amount.
I have to wear tennis shoes for the ankle support. Do you have any suggestions for how to wear a dress with tennis shoes?
I think it's more about the style of dress as there are many that would look cute with sneakers, especially at the knee.
Maxidresses work well with sneakers, burkinstocks, flats ect
OrthoFeet has some fun dress shoes and boots. Kinda pricy but worth it! I can “walk” again and look nice.
I love your content from Canada and was wondering do you live in area with snow in winter and if so what do you wear on your legs to keep them warm when going out?
Thank you, we really don’t get snow.
You can buy tights that are lined with fleece inside to wear under dresses. They are incredibly warm as they so close to the body.
You can put "nude style tights" in any search engine
They are very economical. They have a "black tights over nude legs" look - BUT they are completely opaque and your legs cannot be seen at all. They also come in many colors
Also a tall boot that ends above the hem of the dress (your tights will not be exposed)
For your top half, you can wear a turtle neck under your dress, and a long coat.
I also live in Ontario and this is keeps me very warm
Hope this helps
Thank you some great ideas, I will look for these tights 🥰
There are lots of styles of pants that are elegant, feminine, and not revealing. Women should wear whatever they like and makes them feel comfortable and pretty. Being attractive and modest can be achieved in countless ways. 😊
It sure can but there is a reason a dress looks most feminine.
I want to be a dress wearing woman. My current figure is not flattering. It would take a lot of work for me.
Dresses make the feminine figure so beautiful while hiding much that we don't wish to reveal all while giving us the desire to strive for an even more lovely silhouette.
I really enjoyed this precious message. It’s been a while since I’ve enjoyed your videos and I see that they are still inspiring. :)
What you said about jeans resonated with me as I also feel that they show everything and prefer to wear dresses. I receive many comments. You’d think people would be aware that women wore them for centuries. Now we stand out in a crowd of black leggings and jeans everywhere we go. I always say, “It’s as comfortable as wearing a nightgown but looks dressed up.” We are living in strange times when wearing a pretty, flowy dress elicits surprise.
I’m so glad you enjoyed this! It was nice to read your thought on this, thank you for taking the time to share them. I agree 🌹
"Oh, yes, thank you so much, as I uncovered a "memory that puzzled me so much," about dressing as a woman!"
"My daughter is a professor and received an invitation to present her scholastic paper at a university in the Hollywood,
California area!" "MY husband took us to an upscale restaurant for lunch afterwards, and as we walked into the place,
we were immediately mocked, pointed at, laughed at, the "whole nine yards of bullying!" "One could simply not determine the women from the men easily!' "It looked like all were in tee shirts, jeans, no makeup, hair askew, and staring at us with scowls!"
"HUH?" Well, my husband was able to get a waiter to assist us, we ate quickly in this beautiful trendy place, then left
without our saying a word to each other, even, I guess were were actually scared silent, too!" "What was going on there??"
"MY husband figured "what" was there right away, and the answer was " HOLLYWOOD CROWD WAS TRENDING TOWARDS NO DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN," AND "WE WERE BREAKING THEIR TRENDS!" "WHOOPS, we had to pay for coming into "THEIR TERRITORY WITH THEIR SEVERE INTIMIDATION AND SHUNNING!" "DEAR DEAR LORD......WELL, AS YOU ALL KNOW, NOW, THE "REST IS THE HISTORY OF TODAY!" "HOWEVER, my daughter and I still shiver at the real hostility that these people
expressed to us......they were all dressed in neutral colors, and we came in done up in pinks and light blue, my husband was dressed in beige , however, so ?????? "Frankly, we felt that "they could have hurt us," as "THEY HAD REAL ANGER!!!" "OH, MY!!"
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i'm surprised you didn't mention your friend jennifer scott!
I haven’t know Jennifer to wear strictly dresses. These were the ladies that had an incredible impact on my way of thinking about this subject in letting go of pants.
I love wearing dresses and always have but now that I have gained a little bit of weight in my thigh area my legs rub together. It is so uncomfortable. I’m wondering if there’s a solution to it besides the terrible nylon type of shape wear that’s out there, especially in the heat of the summer. I prefer cotton based undergarments. I have a couple of pairs of long denim shorts I wear to the park with my kids but otherwise I really don’t like them.
I found some cotton pettipants on Poshmark in various sizes. I would search those as some sell those. I got a pair for my daughter and she loves them. I should get some for myself but I usually am okay with nylon and like how it doesn't stick to the dress or slip.
@@TheLadyoftheHouse thank you! That’s a good point about the static, as well.
Why not skirts? Just curious!
It was a way to identify an all dresses wardrobe. Something very simple, that one and done outfit and uniform. Skirts are great too though🌹
That is beautiful, I love it! The older I get (44) the more dresses I wear. A mom of a 1st grader I teach in Sunday school told me that his son calls me the pretty lady with the pretty dresses! It warmed my heart so much! How we present ourselves matters, and no clothing item is more feminine and pretty than a dress. I do also love skirts, but dresses are extra special.
Thank you ❤ I'm turning 35 this year and only now deciding that dressing feminine is now important to me and I'm tired of looking casual. I'm sure I can find more girly clothes that are also comfortable and somewhat practical haha I find dresses easy in summer but matching them with jackets etc harder in the cold months. But it'll be a fun journey. I've just taken out my nose piercing too haha you can tell I'm a single mother and wanting to find a husband before its too late hehe
You've come to the right place! I hope you find so much inspiration here and enjoy the journey 🌹
Although I fully understood where your friend was coming from by ‘looking away’. I think if it had been me, I would have said ‘What I was wearing and why’.
Not long ago our local cinema put on a special evening of the ‘Grease’ film and my friends and myself dressed up as the Pink Ladies only I didn’t have a Pink Jacket, but I did have access to a pair of skin tight black trousers which I paired with a black and white top. Plus full face makeup 💄 and a fluffed up hairstyle.
The compliments that I received was awesome even from my husband. It wasn’t so much what I was wearing but the fact that I could carry it off at the age of 69.
My oncologist praised me for putting myself on a diet in February 2020 because at the diagnosis of breast cancer in October 2021; she said to me ‘It was the perfect thing to do, as dieting starves cancer cells. Getting myself into better shape is a super way to start wearing dresses again and I haven’t looked back.
Femininity is an attitude, not a way of dressing. Dresses are great (pants too), but we shouldn't be legalistic about this. A woman can be in construction gear and working on an oil rig and still be feminine. Also femininity is not weak and passive nor subordinate to masculinity (yin and yang, two equal parts of a whole).
There is clothing that is deemed feminine and clothing deemed masculine. There is nothing legalistic being spoken of. There may be a misunderstanding of what was spoken about. There are also feminine traits and masculine traits.
Wear a dress everyday?😳
Yes!