In the last few years, I’ve lost everything. Husband, house, furnishings , jewelry etc. etc. Now I’m slowly dying of cancer, and realize that absolutely nothing is forever, just borrowed. All that matters these days is giving and receiving kindness.
@@adammorra3813 as a thought, consider why the statement triggered your emotions to the point where you completely misread the comment. They said no "normal" friends. Money changes the dynamics of relationships. To argue otherwise shows you're naivety.
I have great possessions in spaces, yet barely use them, yet still added on to them the smallest of spaces and only because I could, and at little cost. Had rooms big enough to fit houses in, but spent time in ones I can't even stand in. Now I feel I build for looks over function, and in a way, in abandoning the structures is likely in time, beauty alown me help them lore people in to keep them beautiful, regardless of any function. As as a tree is beautiful for not being bothered, a building is ugly for not being bothered with work enough, and who cares if the ugly get ugly?
eventually nobody will ever be a fully mature person. we will always be an uncared for baby, crying out its needs angrily in some aspects of our personality. its our human condition to want and want and want.
I remember Slavoj Zizek saying something like this; "There are two tragedies in life, those who don't get what they want, and those who get what they want."
Modern wave feminism has greatly boosted entitlement in women. & then modern wave "give him his tablet" parenting greatly boosted entitlement in kids We are jumping into the big societal crisis era very hard & it feels like this one will be the last for humans 😬
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
After nearly 6 years of feeling entitled to not being single, letting go of that concept is actually proving to be more productive than chasing the "perfect partner". Thanks for the reminder that our partners will almost definitely not check all the boxes. We settle constantly in life in so many ways, and it is part of joy
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
@@adammorra3813 People know whether they're interested in someone in the first few seconds they see each other. There's a point in making yourself more visible if you think you have a chance, but not in chasing. A job isn't similar at all - it's guaranteed to pay you as long as you make an effort and if it doesn't pay you despite promising to in the contract, it's illegal.
“Until we have begun to go without them, we fail to realise how unnecessary many things are. We’ve been using them not because we needed them but because we had them.” - Seneca
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
I have always knew this as a notion. Until the earthquake hit to where i used to live in Turkey. The next two days was a shock to me, seeing it crystal clear that this life-my life was never mine. The fleeting nature of everything i have, my friends, my job, my students, my school, my home, the ground i put my foot on to. That anything can happen any time. Yes we survived, but there is no guarantee something else wont happen tomorrow and take everything else that is left. You cant possibly remain in this mindset more than 2 days, then you cant live. We have to do both. Which sounds impossible to me. Now i am living as if i will not die someday. But the understanding of certain things remained. For example i always thought that i will regret for not going to different places for not being brave, for not being outgoing etc when i am in the deathbed at the end of my life or something. But i never thought of those things. I was suffering mostly when i thought about the hearts i ve broken. For the times i couldnt hold myself and got angry at my students, even yelled at them sometimes. Saying mean things to the people i love just because i was depressed or tired. The very clear fact that i cant take any of it back. And everything is buried under ground, there is nothing to do anymore. I made peace with that. Because there is nothing to do except applying the lessons i learned on the future lies ahead of us. I hope you guys can grasp it without actually living it. Thank you einzelganger :)
There were similar things I knew as a notion, like I intellectually understood it without having experienced it. But I didn't really get a lot of them until I experienced them firsthand, then I understood on a personal level. Like knowing life isn't forever is something most people understand when very young, but it tends to not sink in until a loved one dies. Only once death happens to a loved one and realizing never again can you interact with them like you used to does death really start to sink in. It's good to balance lessons. Nothing is permanent, and things tend to not immediately disappear, aka a lot of the time we can work towards something and the thing will still exist once we're done striving for it. I view it as a good way to prioritize stuff. Strive for the things you really want to strive for because you'll never know when you no longer will be able to. It's not good to waste time doing things that aren't fulfilling because each minute you waste is one less minute that could be spent with loved ones, achieving our dreams, helping others, etc. Easier said than done for a good chunk of people but I let this guide a lot of what I do and think, dwelling on mortality and lack of true ownership softens my heart and sharpens my ability to live a life I want to live vs living a life I think I need to live.
@@yerpderp6800 very well said. I think it is wonderful because if Dwelling on mortality and lack of true ownership really softens your heart and sharpens your ability to live, then i think you have gone a good amount of way in your journey of acceptance. It still terrifies me at first, but then when i think about it a little more, there i can see the possibility of that peaceful feeling of being free from all kinds of attachments that there is.
I've practiced and studied religion my whole life. It has always fascinated me. In my opinion Stoic philosophy is the most meaningful and useful for the modern era and our clearly terrifying future times. It's just perfection.
@@nguyengiorno9026 Because if they weren't afraid of anything, they would've already died from doing something dangerous. Why do you think we have emotions?
Going throughone of the hardest years of my life, brain tumor, and now my fiancee of 5 years going behind my back even during my surgery. This is so true, everyone eventually leaves you no matter the reason.
Strength my friend strength my partner of 16 years betrayed me just keep going something good has to come I been waiting 4 years I still don't loose hope.
She wasn't in relationship with you. She's in relationship for beneficial to her. Once your service to her is no longer, she's going to find it elsewhere. Learn about women nature, you'll expect less and also know why they come to you.
@@JN-wr9he guess women are always assumed innocent victims because they play victims by default and use it as weapons. Women make a living as victims at times and as their go to until it doesn't.
It always drove me crazy when I went to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and people told me "You deserve a good life." I knew this wasn't true. The world owes us nothing. Not even if we are good people that make good decisions.
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
EVERY GOOD HUMAN DESERVES A GOOD LIFE, GOOD PEOPLE WITH GOOD DECISIONS NOT ONLY DESERVE BUT ALSO LIVE A HAPPY LIFE... A BAD PERSON ALWAYS LIVES A BAD LIFE ,NO MATTER WHETHER THAT PERSON IS RICH,HEALTHY OR NOT...
I've met many people who feel entitled to people or things without deserving them. You should be careful, there is an inmense greed and hunger in the world. Being away from attachments is a blessing!
I am often overwhelmed by my emotions, but your videos have helped me through the years to deal with them appropriately. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of the stoics.
Makes a lot of sense. Do make choices, do put your effort but remember that nature is alive like an organism and since we are part of nature it helps us to learn to dance to its motion.
I've implemented minimalism and aspects of stoicism into my daily routine over the past 6 years. Asking myself critical questions through countless hours of introspection has made me more at peace with the person i am now becoming. It's exciting to now have goals and ambitions as opposed to experiencing daily routine as a never-ending struggle, and to work towards reaching them has given meaning to the journey itself. The journey that will lead me to actualize potential i did not previously know i was capable of achieving.
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
@@pride2184 We all strive towards different ends, each of us choosing our own path to achieving individual goals. There's many layers of minimalism and poor is always a relative concept that can be attempted to be measured in many ways. As i stated before, I've implemented minimalism into my daily routine. I don't label myself as a minimalist. I combine elements that i find useful where ever i may find them to form my own philosophy.
@@SamuelBlack84 That would imply that the ambition of a stoic is to not have goals, which would be a goal in itself! This would obviously be a contradiction. We all perform certain actions to sustain and prolong our existence, these actions are goals that need to be achieved in order to stay alive.
@@Suiseisexy If you honestly believe what you just wrote then you have serious issues. Like I read a lot of nonsense on TH-cam but this comment right here is like a new level of insanity.
@@Suiseisexy I can almost guarantee the most political action you've ever taken is adding hashtags to your profile. People like you are so effing exhausting.
For me, stoicism is the only method I have found that allows me to be at peace and satisfied with my life. Chasing wants, and “I deserves” is counter productive.
I keep feeling entitled to a better salary working for a first world company from a third world country. That entitlement has become a source of constant anger, thinking obsesively about how much I "should" get paid. This video hits the nail in the head.
@@user-vq7nm9hr5o They do. It just so happens that first world companies can pay better because they're making all the money. Keep in mind that first world companies hire in third world countries specifically BECAUSE they can pay people there less.
Just remember if there is for example a narcissist in your life causing you pain and suffering being with toxic people and getting rid of them isn't entitlement it is taking control of what is in your control and that is by getting the toxic out of your life as much as you can.
Thank you, I was looking for someone talking about that circumstance. Where someone is being a piece of shit because they are deeply narcissistic and manipulative, how does one can apply all that pretension of not expecting or not being entitled to kindness of others, while not getting completely abused by this person. How could one apply Stoicism and still get bad people out of your life
Well, if stoicism is about knowing that you only have control over your thoughts and actions - you’re free to move away from those toxic people in your life, because that’s within your control. And the not being entitled would probably mean not feeling like you need them to be kind to you if they’re just toxic people in general
@Rush actually the principle being that you "deserve" respect and kindness from others ties in to the concept that you are not offended by toxic people but by the way your brain tells you that you are being disrespected. Therefore you should accept people for how they are cause we are all limbs of a super body.
@@conanobrian8580 but keeping in mind to achieve a place of contentment you are allowed not to accept people for who they are and move forward by leaving them alone and focus on your self and people you do accept in your life. For example you have a toxic person in your life wife or husband and they don't want to be kind to you then you have the power of control to move them out of your life as much as possible in order to feel content with yourself. It's not entitlement... People that can't accept this mentality in itself has entitlement because they feel that they have to force their ideas onto others for acceptance.
Amen❤.. they suck our energy, fill their ego. An adult argument is a massive fight, i always tell when i am angry, i care so it hurts. But they have no empathie, en Instant trying to hurt me , using my weak side. Which told in trust. And mirror. She has no friends. So i helped. She was on bad medication. Tapering. Had a baby ( with my narc ex) she told me every thing 😅. Wat too much. Now she is of meds. Ieft him. He is an wife beater, cheater, raped a 12 yr old , she got away. Me... 15 times. We 🎉 yes. She ended it. Door closed. And my kid told same day. She plans a vacation. And tomorrow we go 3 days. I was pissed But she turned it al around. And the way.,. It was a monster. 😮 Leasons learned. Use energy for you. Helping here was also boosting my ego.. And never again argue with a narc.
Videos like these are like free therapy but actually helpful, learning about the ancient ways of viewing happiness is the most liberating thing I've ever experienced
This meaningful video needs to be shown to all those greedy, dishonest and corrupt politicians of this world who always want to cling to power even at the cost of their own citizens.
The most painful sense of entitlement is what some call "heaven's reward" the notion that just because you did a good deed such as work hard most of your life that you are entitled to good things, sadly shit just doesn't work like that. Mostly you get what you reward not what you deserve.
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
its almost as if this channel is geared towards making the already privileged in society not feel guilty for the have nots. its neoliberalism personified.
Awesome presentation, thank you! I like the following story, which I believe is attributed to the Jewish tradition, but could apply in any tradition: a man went to see a Holy man for advice. While he was there in the small lodging of the wise teacher, he couldn't stop thinking about the fact that the room was almost completely bare. Eventually he blurted out: "Where are all your things? Your furniture, your possessions?" The Holy man replied, 'Well, where are yours?' .. the man responded: 'But I am just a guest here, I'm only here for a short time.' .. the wise man said, "I am too."
*_To God what He has given, and to God what He has taken_* Thank you very much. I always avoid mentioning anything related to my faith publicly, but just bear with me on this. I've been reading on stoicism since at least 1 year and I'm always amazed with its similarities to my current faith, as said, I always avoid mentioning it publicly but this time, bear with it. The core concept in this video is very similar to another very important concept in Islam that we have a idiom for it, below I'll leave the Arabic text, in English it translates to *To God what He has given, and to God what He has taken* لله ما أعطى ولله ما أخذ
I really enjoyed this video and needed this teaching and talk on entitlement today. It feels good to remain balanced, grateful and grounded in life and it’s something I’ll be complementing for a lifetime ❤
Exactly, I can’t shake the feeling the stoicism taken to it’s logical end is just nihilism. Sure, it definitely asks you to be virtuous, but why? Sure, it asks you to endure, but to what end? I really like stoicism. Yet, I get the nagging feeling that something is missing in it.
@@CoreofShane To be virtuous because they believe it’s the only genuine good that’s completely in our control. And that to live according to nature our nature as humans requires us to be virtuous And Reasonable not just logical because us humans have that chief capability. To Endure because endurance its a virtue therefore a moral Good. They believe Anything Natural isn’t evil and that only moral good and moral evil exist.
@@CoreofShane That's a good take, I think, but (and this is just my opinion) it goes past nihilism in the sense that it asks/instructs one to enjoy the possessions that one borrowed, but not be desirous of them. This is similar to what Buddhism preaches as well: that desire is what leads to suffering. To put a finer point on it, when one loses a loved one, they are bound to feel sad, devastated even, but when one learns to observe this as a third person, they can be truly at peace. You don't have to get rid of the feeling, but watch it, much as you would watch a river flow past you. It's easy to preach and incredibly difficult to follow but I have a feeling that it would be well worth it.
I have been subscribed to/fan of your channel for many years so far, but I'd like to say that out of all other helpful videos you've already uploaded this one is in my opinion the best of them all. I'd like to add to your wisdom that by wanting something you can't have (or as your title sad: don't deserve) you're actually giving your brain a task it cannot solve. The brain does not speak to the individual with words, but it does speak to you with a feeling of unpleasantment. Rather one chooses to address that unpleasant feeling and act on it or choses to suppress it instead and continue one's behavior is up to the individual. I don't think the individual can be blamed for not chosing the right option here, as I think the individual in that case for whatever personal reason doesn't believe yet that he or she to can become happy. Of course, there's always time to learn for as long as that individual lives. :) Thank you for uploading this video.
These videos always seem to come out just as I need them. :) I've watched so many of these and they have improved my life in many ways. I recently endured a short term toxic relationship falsely believing by stoic teachings that I should have the ability to endure, and make that person better through example. Until one day I came across a writing by epictetus surrounding the removal of toxic people. "Surround yourself with philosphers," and it makes sense. It's not about taking pain continuously but a clever way to deal with aversion until you can remove yourself far, far away from them. The relationship ended and I've never felt so grateful for the simple things I have in life. I've never felt entitled personally but the people I consequently end up being in relationships with, are by their narcissistic nature. I'm kind of a giggling because I know my ex narc would watch some of these with me and say "it's a bunch of shit". 😅 So they'd never value this content with their entiltment alone 🤣🤣🤣. A part of me feels pain for this individual. There is nothing I can do other than control my own actions. I did feel angry because I did at least feel I was owed to be treated with respect by this individual, but as this video points out - it's a waste of time, especially if the other person chooses not to. It was infuriating. However, I've let go now. :)
I simply love this chanel. I can't describe how helpful it was for me in so many moments of my life. This is a huge gift, thank you so much Einzelgänger!!
1) when we attach ourselves to external factors, we limit our happiness to things that are not under our control 2) it's not the person who calls you names, it's not the person that is annoying, it's you who believed these things are insulting. 3) makes you feel less grateful for things you do have. reduce your needs to such a small amount that fortune cannot steal it away from you. get intimate w poverty that it doesn't feel like such a burden 4) Don't ask for things to happen as you want, wish things happen as they do and you find peace in it. 5) if we're all limbs of a body, entitlement is like asking for more resources which will disrupt the balance of the whole body, and ultimately, you won't be happy either.
I typically dont comment or read comments on videos of this nature due to wanting to come to my own divine revelation on what was said but I felt lead to comment today. Also there is nothing wrong with commenting on these types of pages on sage wisdom its just my first time doing so. And this episode comes right on time as I am currently evolving my perspective on a health situation my uncle is dealing with for now. And I must say thank you for another Evergreen episode on a timeless topic👌🏽
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
Thanks so much for all of your amazing and edifying videos. They are truly enlightening and inspiring. I am now trying to incorporate Stoic ideas into my own life as often as possible. It just seems to make dealing with the madness of modernistic life, so much easier. Thanks
I agree that we must remove our feeling of entitlement to things from our heads, as it is a rather foolish assumption that we own anything in this world. Anything can get legally taken away from us. Thus I am able to let go of a feeling that I deserve something, simply because I never thought I deserve it. I know that all I get is temporary. As is my life. However, there is something I cannot quite understand. "We know we aren't entitled to it, so why hold onto it?" you said. Well, does that mean I should stop feeling attachments to people? Just because I am not entitled to own a person, which I am obviously not, does not necessarily mean I should relieve myself of any emotions I feel. While I do not believe I am entitled to have a girlfriend, I do strongly believe that I am allowed to love a girl. Loving someone is not a sense of entitlement. You do not wish to own the person you love. You wish to protect them. Not because you feel a sense of entitlement towards them, not because you need them to remain in your life, but because you care for theirs. Because you wish best for them. You wish to protect them. Love is not about oneself. Love is all about the other person, and certainly not about you having an "I need to own that girl" mentality.
Family! The biggest foundation of human society seems where all the 'entitlement' starts early on. My family, my son, my daughter, my next generation...that starts extending to things, pets, lands, countries.. Loss of entitlement is a huge sense of freedom ❤
I prefer not to shackle myself to children. I don't even know why having kids is such an important thing to do. Unless the population took a huge nosedive It's just blindly obeying the instinct to reproduce
Just when the day before I heard and was considering that "I deserve what I want" and "I'm entitled to what I want". Thank you! You're a candle that lights up the neighborhood
There are some useful tools in Stoicism, but I believe that it can foster indifference and encourage acceptance of the status quo. Additionally, I think it teaches people to repress their emotions and be less empathetic.
I find this to be true as well 👍🏽 I think finding a balance between being a "stoic monk" internally, while still being meaningfully engaged with the world & yourself is the "trick" so to speak 🗣 the duality of the world strikes again! ☯️
Hi I agree , the stoicism at the moment will be the death of us , we need action not acceptance , we should not accept slavery when there is a chance of stopping it ,
a couple days ago a 200 bucks perfume i had fell down and broke. my room stank beautifully and i was in despair. but only shortly because i realized...yes. it was a possession and it was never meant to last. ALL THINGS IN THE WORLD WILL COME TO PASS. i can re-earn 200 bucks. i can re-buy this scent any day. had i lost an eye, or an arm, had i been able to rebuy that? eventually i will lose my LIFE, before that, my physical faculties. *ALL THINGS IN THE WORLD WILL COME TO PASS. THE DUDE ABIDES.*
I already knew that but it’s still fascinating to hear that yes everything and everyone is borrowed and it’s temporary but we can enjoy it until it’s time for god to call us
@@miguelatkinson despite the different choices and Beliefs people choose that does not matter to me. As long as we get together and be in peace and respect and get along that’s all that matters to me have a good day miguel
Some think that Lao Tzu travelled into Afghanistan, spreading the ideas which are foundational to Stoicism, while his Tao Te Ching became influential for Buddhist thought into the 1st Century. This would explain that link but I came to the ideas largely on my own and have grown from earlier insights and lessons.
As always thank you. Your videos have really helped me push aside that desire for more and more and working myself to the bone to get it. Im so content with a simpler life now, working less and spending time with my children and just being mindful of my life and actually enjoying it. Its so sad in our western society we are raised to be so driven to have the newest things, to feel if we are not pushing ourselves to work OT and make our companies more and more profit we are failures. Tell next time everyone :)
The sense of intitlement if taken away is cause for suffering is only half of the story. In some ways it works getting or holding on to things that you want in the real world. People use this emotion to fight for something or abuse it to manipulate to gain or maintain what they 'have'. Let's say power, wealth, position but also affection. This should be understood aswell before someone uses it against you, especially in case of power.
Thank you so much for taking time to create this video! Much needed in today's time and age. We need to constantly remind ourselves of this message.Grateful 🙏🤍
Owning an object is indeed a strange concept. It is an arrangement of atoms. Atoms created in a supernova explosion billions of years ago that will continue to exist for billions more. They are just temporarily arranged into that object you call "mine".
Thank you so much for this video. I do wish I could share it with my dear mom but she doesn’t understand English… the way you weave the story, the pace, the editing, and of course the content in itself is so deep, rich and engaging! Hard to replicate in simple words. Nevertheless I shall try and share these wise thoughts with her and see if I can find any videos about stoicism in Korean. Thank you again for this great video. It really struck a chord with me. ✨
"When it comes to entitlement, the world not giving us what believe we earn isn't the problem. The problem is believing we deserve something we don't." Pause for a second and reload it.
I feel like it's important to say that what you want and what a person needs are different. Don't use this philosophy to stiffle social benefits, like housing, healthcare, and things people need. Always fight for a better life, we can't all be Diogynese living in a pot
By the same logic, you are entitled to whatever you can take, whatever the means. If you possess the ability to take something, then it is yours. Whoever had it before was just borrowing it anyway, so no need for remorse.
@@andyschwartz8808The four virtues of stoicism are justice, courage, temperance, and wisdom. I’d think if you’re entitled to your neighbors wife or possessions, simply because you can take it by force, then you’re compromising on justice, which is regarded as the source of all other virtues. Not only that, if you go around taking whatever you want without fairness, you are inviting a pool of enemies into your world.
If we didn't have a consumer and capitalist culture, we would still be living primitive lives and having half our children die before they're 5 yo. These old philosophies were practical adaptations to the opportunities and limitations of the times in which they were created.
Yes ..but nothing extreme is good. What I have realized that Everyone can not be same .it will be not good for humankind..Passion desire greed everything is required for new innovation or any corporate which benifit us in big way... But personally I am not such type person. For me everything feels meaningless..so I choose these philosopher's path..
Entitlement under these definitions could lead to accepting poor treatment and poor conditions. This has a negative impact on personal and societal progression.
i didnt get the message that u shud accept poor treatment, more that u shud work to change the things than u can and dont despair because life is treating u unfairly... because u cant make life fair, u can only work on the things that r in yr control
@@triciabernard4434 How you are treated is much more in your control then this video leads you to believe. Your actions alter the way that people treat you and because you can control your actions you can change the way people treat you. This video is way less profound then people think it is.
In the last few years, I’ve lost everything. Husband, house, furnishings , jewelry etc. etc. Now I’m slowly dying of cancer, and realize that absolutely nothing is forever, just borrowed. All that matters these days is giving and receiving kindness.
You're so strong... I wish you perseverance and strength ❤
bless you soon.
Wish you fast recovery. Hope the best.
Hope you will improve!
I am so sorry. Lots of hugs. Please know that you are loved.
*”Do not fear having no friends. Fear having bad friends”* ~My life taught lesson
When there is money you have no normal friends. Collective is bad, self centered and lost without real moral compass.
@gregorizi so people with money have no friends? U r crazy
@@adammorra3813 some have seen your programming and majority think your skills suck
@WisdomQuotes Amen to that.
@@adammorra3813 as a thought, consider why the statement triggered your emotions to the point where you completely misread the comment. They said no "normal" friends. Money changes the dynamics of relationships. To argue otherwise shows you're naivety.
“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” Epictetus
indeed!
Then I am enormously wealthy and very content!
i'm pretty sure i know about a few wealthy guys who are defined by the fact that they want everything, their wealth comes from it
I have great possessions in spaces, yet barely use them, yet still added on to them the smallest of spaces and only because I could, and at little cost. Had rooms big enough to fit houses in, but spent time in ones I can't even stand in. Now I feel I build for looks over function, and in a way, in abandoning the structures is likely in time, beauty alown me help them lore people in to keep them beautiful, regardless of any function. As as a tree is beautiful for not being bothered, a building is ugly for not being bothered with work enough, and who cares if the ugly get ugly?
Only poor people say that
Everytime I watch your videos. I get to realise how much work I need to do in my unconscious. Thank you
Man. It feels crippling. I'm vaguely old now, and have so little knowledge of myself. How did this not happen? It's wild.
eventually nobody will ever be a fully mature person. we will always be an uncared for baby, crying out its needs angrily in some aspects of our personality. its our human condition to want and want and want.
Then I suggest...Manly P Hall.
@@fistyann8434 destiny!
But don't loose hope you will reach supreme peace
I remember Slavoj Zizek saying something like this; "There are two tragedies in life, those who don't get what they want, and those who get what they want."
Yes it is one of my most favorite quotes by Oscar Wilde.
Actually, that quote was stolen from me
How do I be cursed to get what I want?
@@MrGuggisberg cause it will be taken away from you eventually
@@orhanguldag3419 The old adage "you can't take it with you [when you die]".
nobody deserves anything we are born with nothing and we leave with nothing.
you got it!
Modern wave feminism has greatly boosted entitlement in women.
& then modern wave "give him his tablet" parenting greatly boosted entitlement in kids
We are jumping into the big societal crisis era very hard & it feels like this one will be the last for humans 😬
Facts! But we leave consequence of our actions. So enjoyment of this experience called "life" it's not nothing!
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
@Ouga Bouga: After we die we experience nothing, we simply are not. Experiencing nothingness is oxymoronic.
After nearly 6 years of feeling entitled to not being single, letting go of that concept is actually proving to be more productive than chasing the "perfect partner". Thanks for the reminder that our partners will almost definitely not check all the boxes. We settle constantly in life in so many ways, and it is part of joy
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
I haven't even wasted my time on the chasing part... It's all gonna happen by itself... Or it won't...
@@kirdot2011 sure let me sit at home and have everything come to me including a partner, job, money, etc.
@@adammorra3813 People know whether they're interested in someone in the first few seconds they see each other. There's a point in making yourself more visible if you think you have a chance, but not in chasing. A job isn't similar at all - it's guaranteed to pay you as long as you make an effort and if it doesn't pay you despite promising to in the contract, it's illegal.
@Scr all I am saying is put effort in. You dont have to chase but go out there and get what you want by putting in the hard work
for the mind that expects too much , life is continually at fault, as reality never satisfies.
~Einzelgänger
Who tf is that?
@@luisd5098 this video's creator.
@@luisd5098 😂
@@luisd5098 German word for The Lone Ranger.
"I got caught taking money from a billionaire who looks like Emperor Palpatine."
- Kurzgesagt
“Until we have begun to go without them, we fail to realise how unnecessary many things are. We’ve been using them not because we needed them but because we had them.”
- Seneca
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
Thanks for sharing this quote. I really needed to trip on this gem today. 🩷
What things are considered unnecessary?
I have always knew this as a notion. Until the earthquake hit to where i used to live in Turkey. The next two days was a shock to me, seeing it crystal clear that this life-my life was never mine. The fleeting nature of everything i have, my friends, my job, my students, my school, my home, the ground i put my foot on to. That anything can happen any time. Yes we survived, but there is no guarantee something else wont happen tomorrow and take everything else that is left. You cant possibly remain in this mindset more than 2 days, then you cant live. We have to do both. Which sounds impossible to me. Now i am living as if i will not die someday. But the understanding of certain things remained. For example i always thought that i will regret for not going to different places for not being brave, for not being outgoing etc when i am in the deathbed at the end of my life or something. But i never thought of those things. I was suffering mostly when i thought about the hearts i ve broken. For the times i couldnt hold myself and got angry at my students, even yelled at them sometimes. Saying mean things to the people i love just because i was depressed or tired. The very clear fact that i cant take any of it back. And everything is buried under ground, there is nothing to do anymore. I made peace with that. Because there is nothing to do except applying the lessons i learned on the future lies ahead of us. I hope you guys can grasp it without actually living it. Thank you einzelganger :)
There were similar things I knew as a notion, like I intellectually understood it without having experienced it. But I didn't really get a lot of them until I experienced them firsthand, then I understood on a personal level. Like knowing life isn't forever is something most people understand when very young, but it tends to not sink in until a loved one dies. Only once death happens to a loved one and realizing never again can you interact with them like you used to does death really start to sink in.
It's good to balance lessons. Nothing is permanent, and things tend to not immediately disappear, aka a lot of the time we can work towards something and the thing will still exist once we're done striving for it. I view it as a good way to prioritize stuff. Strive for the things you really want to strive for because you'll never know when you no longer will be able to. It's not good to waste time doing things that aren't fulfilling because each minute you waste is one less minute that could be spent with loved ones, achieving our dreams, helping others, etc. Easier said than done for a good chunk of people but I let this guide a lot of what I do and think, dwelling on mortality and lack of true ownership softens my heart and sharpens my ability to live a life I want to live vs living a life I think I need to live.
@@yerpderp6800 very well said. I think it is wonderful because if Dwelling on mortality and lack of true ownership really softens your heart and sharpens your ability to live, then i think you have gone a good amount of way in your journey of acceptance. It still terrifies me at first, but then when i think about it a little more, there i can see the possibility of that peaceful feeling of being free from all kinds of attachments that there is.
So, we are not supposed to strive for a better life and live in poverty is the key to happiness? I don't know if I can agree with this.
@michaelpidoto3521 I most certainly don't. Denying good things in life to be more at 9ne wirh the universe or some other backward idea?
I've practiced and studied religion my whole life. It has always fascinated me. In my opinion Stoic philosophy is the most meaningful and useful for the modern era and our clearly terrifying future times. It's just perfection.
The past was terrifying. The future is unknown.
Nothing is terrifying, it is what it is.
@@deioped Pretending you are not afraid of anything isn't stoicism. It's being a poser.
@@Miranox2 why do you think that person is pretending?
@@nguyengiorno9026 Because if they weren't afraid of anything, they would've already died from doing something dangerous. Why do you think we have emotions?
Going throughone of the hardest years of my life, brain tumor, and now my fiancee of 5 years going behind my back even during my surgery. This is so true, everyone eventually leaves you no matter the reason.
Strength my friend strength my partner of 16 years betrayed me just keep going something good has to come I been waiting 4 years I still don't loose hope.
She wasn't in relationship with you. She's in relationship for beneficial to her. Once your service to her is no longer, she's going to find it elsewhere. Learn about women nature, you'll expect less and also know why they come to you.
@@orangemike802 guess men are angels
This too shall pass
@@JN-wr9he guess women are always assumed innocent victims because they play victims by default and use it as weapons. Women make a living as victims at times and as their go to until it doesn't.
It always drove me crazy when I went to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and people told me "You deserve a good life." I knew this wasn't true. The world owes us nothing. Not even if we are good people that make good decisions.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
EVERY GOOD HUMAN DESERVES A GOOD LIFE, GOOD PEOPLE WITH GOOD DECISIONS NOT ONLY DESERVE BUT ALSO LIVE A HAPPY LIFE... A BAD PERSON ALWAYS LIVES A BAD LIFE ,NO MATTER WHETHER THAT PERSON IS RICH,HEALTHY OR NOT...
@@mahdisultan3546 What is a "good person" though? We all have forces of both good and evil inside of us, unless our name is Jesus Christ
@@benholden3 You still drink? Do you use this as an excuse to still dabble in your bad habits?
@@rsmetz88 No I'm sober and happy with sober life. I was never one to use excuses. All my problems in life were caused by ME
I've met many people who feel entitled to people or things without deserving them. You should be careful, there is an inmense greed and hunger in the world. Being away from attachments is a blessing!
@All about Narcissism WHO are you to tell someone has wisdom or not? WHO am i to tell you have wisdom or not?
I know what I want out of life and no amount of stoicism will change that
I love the saying “when people do things To us, they do things For us.”
I am often overwhelmed by my emotions, but your videos have helped me through the years to deal with them appropriately. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of the stoics.
Makes a lot of sense. Do make choices, do put your effort but remember that nature is alive like an organism and since we are part of nature it helps us to learn to dance to its motion.
nature is beauty!
@@anonymous-jp7bo true
@@anonymous-jp7boNature is a narcissist. Pretty but deadly to people
Nature is chaotic. It doesn't adhere to philosophy or any particular mindfullness
Nature is brutal. Kill or be killed
Your content is a gift to mankind.
I am the gift.
If you think Soros still a man, maybe. We'll find his phylactery eventually.
You’re content to gift mankind
Germans laughing with the double meaning of Gift
I've implemented minimalism and aspects of stoicism into my daily routine over the past 6 years. Asking myself critical questions through countless hours of introspection has made me more at peace with the person i am now becoming. It's exciting to now have goals and ambitions as opposed to experiencing daily routine as a never-ending struggle, and to work towards reaching them has given meaning to the journey itself. The journey that will lead me to actualize potential i did not previously know i was capable of achieving.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
Minimalism or you just poor? Having one on your mantle doesnt necessarily mean your a Minimalist.
@@pride2184 We all strive towards different ends, each of us choosing our own path to achieving individual goals. There's many layers of minimalism and poor is always a relative concept that can be attempted to be measured in many ways. As i stated before, I've implemented minimalism into my daily routine. I don't label myself as a minimalist. I combine elements that i find useful where ever i may find them to form my own philosophy.
Aren't having goals and ambitions against the philosophy of stoicism?
@@SamuelBlack84 That would imply that the ambition of a stoic is to not have goals, which would be a goal in itself! This would obviously be a contradiction. We all perform certain actions to sustain and prolong our existence, these actions are goals that need to be achieved in order to stay alive.
Basically, everything is going to be okay. Thanks for the perspective.
Sleep well !!! And carry on too ;)
And trust the government, who definitely didn't pay this guy to spread content that encourages apolitical behavior and acceptance of bad conditions.
@@Suiseisexy If you honestly believe what you just wrote then you have serious issues. Like I read a lot of nonsense on TH-cam but this comment right here is like a new level of insanity.
@@Suiseisexy I can almost guarantee the most political action you've ever taken is adding hashtags to your profile. People like you are so effing exhausting.
@@Suiseisexy
they are watching you
they gangstalk you
they are in your walls
wake up wake up wake up
"Everything in this world is borrowed." says it all. Thank you for this... :)
For me, stoicism is the only method I have found that allows me to be at peace and satisfied with my life. Chasing wants, and “I deserves” is counter productive.
I needed this lesson today. Was feeling jealous and hurt and sensitive. this really helped put life in perspective
Lots of great points, thank you. There is so much of this entitlement. "What injures the hive, injures the bee."
I keep feeling entitled to a better salary working for a first world company from a third world country. That entitlement has become a source of constant anger, thinking obsesively about how much I "should" get paid. This video hits the nail in the head.
Oh...why 3 rd country can't make any company's of there own !!! Empty box...
@NothingSpecial exactly what I mean, I have trouble letting go of the entitlement, but thats what it is.
@MYwinters1945 You mean it's better to have a small soulful studio rather than a big shitty soulless corporation?
@@user-vq7nm9hr5o They do. It just so happens that first world companies can pay better because they're making all the money. Keep in mind that first world companies hire in third world countries specifically BECAUSE they can pay people there less.
You are not entitled to better salary and the company isn't entitled to your good work either.
Just remember if there is for example a narcissist in your life causing you pain and suffering being with toxic people and getting rid of them isn't entitlement it is taking control of what is in your control and that is by getting the toxic out of your life as much as you can.
Thank you, I was looking for someone talking about that circumstance. Where someone is being a piece of shit because they are deeply narcissistic and manipulative, how does one can apply all that pretension of not expecting or not being entitled to kindness of others, while not getting completely abused by this person. How could one apply Stoicism and still get bad people out of your life
Well, if stoicism is about knowing that you only have control over your thoughts and actions - you’re free to move away from those toxic people in your life, because that’s within your control. And the not being entitled would probably mean not feeling like you need them to be kind to you if they’re just toxic people in general
@Rush actually the principle being that you "deserve" respect and kindness from others ties in to the concept that you are not offended by toxic people but by the way your brain tells you that you are being disrespected. Therefore you should accept people for how they are cause we are all limbs of a super body.
@@conanobrian8580 but keeping in mind to achieve a place of contentment you are allowed not to accept people for who they are and move forward by leaving them alone and focus on your self and people you do accept in your life. For example you have a toxic person in your life wife or husband and they don't want to be kind to you then you have the power of control to move them out of your life as much as possible in order to feel content with yourself. It's not entitlement... People that can't accept this mentality in itself has entitlement because they feel that they have to force their ideas onto others for acceptance.
Amen❤.. they suck our energy, fill their ego. An adult argument is a massive fight, i always tell when i am angry, i care so it hurts. But they have no empathie, en Instant trying to hurt me , using my weak side. Which told in trust.
And mirror. She has no friends. So i helped. She was on bad medication. Tapering. Had a baby ( with my narc ex) she told me every thing 😅. Wat too much. Now she is of meds. Ieft him. He is an wife beater, cheater, raped a 12 yr old , she got away. Me... 15 times. We 🎉 yes. She ended it. Door closed. And my kid told same day. She plans a vacation. And tomorrow we go 3 days. I was pissed
But she turned it al around. And the way.,. It was a monster. 😮 Leasons learned.
Use energy for you. Helping here was also boosting my ego..
And never again argue with a narc.
I had a professor last name Aste, who would always quote
"Life is a paradise of lies, mine and yours."
love that
I'm glad I discovered this channel. Stoicism has been a difficult practice since I started, but I'm glad it allows me to be gentle with myself.
i think stoicism is greater when combined with mindfullness meditation
It's tough to hold my attention without skipping. You do it VERY well. Wonderful content.
Videos like these are like free therapy but actually helpful, learning about the ancient ways of viewing happiness is the most liberating thing I've ever experienced
This meaningful video needs to be shown to all those greedy, dishonest and corrupt politicians of this world who always want to cling to power even at the cost of their own citizens.
They wouldn't care.
The most painful sense of entitlement is what some call "heaven's reward" the notion that just because you did a good deed such as work hard most of your life that you are entitled to good things, sadly shit just doesn't work like that. Mostly you get what you reward not what you deserve.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
Your videos are getting better and better!
Every human being deserves a safe home and to be protected from abuse. Stop saying people who are abused DESERVE it.
its almost as if this channel is geared towards making the already privileged in society not feel guilty for the have nots. its neoliberalism personified.
Awesome presentation, thank you! I like the following story, which I believe is attributed to the Jewish tradition, but could apply in any tradition: a man went to see a Holy man for advice. While he was there in the small lodging of the wise teacher, he couldn't stop thinking about the fact that the room was almost completely bare. Eventually he blurted out: "Where are all your things? Your furniture, your possessions?"
The Holy man replied, 'Well, where are yours?' .. the man responded: 'But I am just a guest here, I'm only here for a short time.' .. the wise man said, "I am too."
(he was aware of death and impermanence, so he did not feel the need to own anything and was content with very little)
The world owes you nothing. It was here first. ~ Mark Twain
Temporary gifts… thank you i needed to hear this. Now im gonna toughen up and actually stand up for myself
One of the greatest pleasures is deriving pleasure from not seeking great pleasure.
*_To God what He has given, and to God what He has taken_*
Thank you very much.
I always avoid mentioning anything related to my faith publicly, but just bear with me on this. I've been reading on stoicism since at least 1 year and I'm always amazed with its similarities to my current faith, as said, I always avoid mentioning it publicly but this time, bear with it.
The core concept in this video is very similar to another very important concept in Islam that we have a idiom for it, below I'll leave the Arabic text, in English it translates to *To God what He has given, and to God what He has taken*
لله ما أعطى ولله ما أخذ
"Everything that happens happens as it should, and if you observe carefully, you will find this to be so." - Marcus Aurelius
I really enjoyed this video and needed this teaching and talk on entitlement today. It feels good to remain balanced, grateful and grounded in life and it’s something I’ll be complementing for a lifetime ❤
Tiberius: Mother died, feels horrible.
Epictetus: You and your selfish entitlements.
Epictetus is like: "so?" 😂
Exactly, I can’t shake the feeling the stoicism taken to it’s logical end is just nihilism. Sure, it definitely asks you to be virtuous, but why? Sure, it asks you to endure, but to what end?
I really like stoicism. Yet, I get the nagging feeling that something is missing in it.
Let's just say it's at odds with Christianity because in Christianity you are called to become a child of God. He is a good Father.
@@CoreofShane To be virtuous because they believe it’s the only genuine good that’s completely in our control. And that to live according to nature our nature as humans requires us to be virtuous And Reasonable not just logical because us humans have that chief capability. To Endure because endurance its a virtue therefore a moral Good. They believe Anything Natural isn’t evil and that only moral good and moral evil exist.
@@CoreofShane That's a good take, I think, but (and this is just my opinion) it goes past nihilism in the sense that it asks/instructs one to enjoy the possessions that one borrowed, but not be desirous of them. This is similar to what Buddhism preaches as well: that desire is what leads to suffering. To put a finer point on it, when one loses a loved one, they are bound to feel sad, devastated even, but when one learns to observe this as a third person, they can be truly at peace. You don't have to get rid of the feeling, but watch it, much as you would watch a river flow past you. It's easy to preach and incredibly difficult to follow but I have a feeling that it would be well worth it.
I have been subscribed to/fan of your channel for many years so far, but I'd like to say that out of all other helpful videos you've already uploaded this one is in my opinion the best of them all. I'd like to add to your wisdom that by wanting something you can't have (or as your title sad: don't deserve) you're actually giving your brain a task it cannot solve. The brain does not speak to the individual with words, but it does speak to you with a feeling of unpleasantment. Rather one chooses to address that unpleasant feeling and act on it or choses to suppress it instead and continue one's behavior is up to the individual. I don't think the individual can be blamed for not chosing the right option here, as I think the individual in that case for whatever personal reason doesn't believe yet that he or she to can become happy. Of course, there's always time to learn for as long as that individual lives. :)
Thank you for uploading this video.
so this is where the phrase "not your girl, just your turn" comes from
yes, it’s a quote from Marcus Incelius
but seriously, no. stoicism doesn’t condone the immorality of betrayal, adultery and ghosting.
These videos always seem to come out just as I need them. :)
I've watched so many of these and they have improved my life in many ways.
I recently endured a short term toxic relationship falsely believing by stoic teachings that I should have the ability to endure, and make that person better through example.
Until one day I came across a writing by epictetus surrounding the removal of toxic people.
"Surround yourself with philosphers," and it makes sense.
It's not about taking pain continuously but a clever way to deal with aversion until you can remove yourself far, far away from them.
The relationship ended and I've never felt so grateful for the simple things I have in life.
I've never felt entitled personally but the people I consequently end up being in relationships with, are by their narcissistic nature.
I'm kind of a giggling because I know my ex narc would watch some of these with me and say "it's a bunch of shit". 😅
So they'd never value this content with their entiltment alone 🤣🤣🤣.
A part of me feels pain for this individual. There is nothing I can do other than control my own actions.
I did feel angry because I did at least feel I was owed to be treated with respect by this individual, but as this video points out - it's a waste of time, especially if the other person chooses not to.
It was infuriating. However, I've let go now. :)
I simply love this chanel. I can't describe how helpful it was for me in so many moments of my life. This is a huge gift, thank you so much Einzelgänger!!
1) when we attach ourselves to external factors, we limit our happiness to things that are not under our control
2) it's not the person who calls you names, it's not the person that is annoying, it's you who believed these things are insulting.
3) makes you feel less grateful for things you do have. reduce your needs to such a small amount that fortune cannot steal it away from you. get intimate w poverty that it doesn't feel like such a burden
4) Don't ask for things to happen as you want, wish things happen as they do and you find peace in it.
5) if we're all limbs of a body, entitlement is like asking for more resources which will disrupt the balance of the whole body, and ultimately, you won't be happy either.
This is what the boss says after you work a full day and he refuses to pay you.
Something we all dont want to hear and be told.
I typically dont comment or read comments on videos of this nature due to wanting to come to my own divine revelation on what was said but I felt lead to comment today. Also there is nothing wrong with commenting on these types of pages on sage wisdom its just my first time doing so. And this episode comes right on time as I am currently evolving my perspective on a health situation my uncle is dealing with for now. And I must say thank you for another Evergreen episode on a timeless topic👌🏽
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
@@Novastar.SaberCombatThere's nothing to embrace in the present
I've made plans for the future and others dismantled them
We feel that way because other people have those things! We hate the unfairness!
This is exactly what I needed now. Thank you for the this message. You have really help me today. Thank you again, kind soul.
Thanks so much for all of your amazing and edifying videos. They are truly enlightening and inspiring. I am now trying to incorporate Stoic ideas into my own life as often as possible. It just seems to make dealing with the madness of modernistic life, so much easier.
Thanks
When we don't aim higher than what we already have, we are crushed by the people who do.
Your Chanel changed how I experience life
I agree that we must remove our feeling of entitlement to things from our heads, as it is a rather foolish assumption that we own anything in this world. Anything can get legally taken away from us. Thus I am able to let go of a feeling that I deserve something, simply because I never thought I deserve it. I know that all I get is temporary. As is my life. However, there is something I cannot quite understand.
"We know we aren't entitled to it, so why hold onto it?" you said.
Well, does that mean I should stop feeling attachments to people? Just because I am not entitled to own a person, which I am obviously not, does not necessarily mean I should relieve myself of any emotions I feel. While I do not believe I am entitled to have a girlfriend, I do strongly believe that I am allowed to love a girl. Loving someone is not a sense of entitlement. You do not wish to own the person you love. You wish to protect them. Not because you feel a sense of entitlement towards them, not because you need them to remain in your life, but because you care for theirs. Because you wish best for them. You wish to protect them. Love is not about oneself. Love is all about the other person, and certainly not about you having an "I need to own that girl" mentality.
This phrase popped into my head a few years ago and now it runs my life: "You want what you want, but you get what you get."
Family! The biggest foundation of human society seems where all the 'entitlement' starts early on. My family, my son, my daughter, my next generation...that starts extending to things, pets, lands, countries..
Loss of entitlement is a huge sense of freedom ❤
I prefer not to shackle myself to children. I don't even know why having kids is such an important thing to do. Unless the population took a huge nosedive
It's just blindly obeying the instinct to reproduce
Just when the day before I heard and was considering that "I deserve what I want" and "I'm entitled to what I want".
Thank you! You're a candle that lights up the neighborhood
There are some useful tools in Stoicism, but I believe that it can foster indifference and encourage acceptance of the status quo. Additionally, I think it teaches people to repress their emotions and be less empathetic.
I find this to be true as well 👍🏽 I think finding a balance between being a "stoic monk" internally, while still being meaningfully engaged with the world & yourself is the "trick" so to speak 🗣 the duality of the world strikes again! ☯️
Hi I agree , the stoicism at the moment will be the death of us , we need action not acceptance , we should not accept slavery when there is a chance of stopping it ,
Stoicism actually promotes action. The acceptance part comes when we can't change something
a couple days ago a 200 bucks perfume i had fell down and broke. my room stank beautifully and i was in despair. but only shortly because i realized...yes. it was a possession and it was never meant to last. ALL THINGS IN THE WORLD WILL COME TO PASS. i can re-earn 200 bucks. i can re-buy this scent any day. had i lost an eye, or an arm, had i been able to rebuy that? eventually i will lose my LIFE, before that, my physical faculties.
*ALL THINGS IN THE WORLD WILL COME TO PASS. THE DUDE ABIDES.*
I really love your videos and found them at a time in my life when I badly needed them. Peace and love from Ireland!
Man, I needed this video. Thanks!
I really needed this video. This definitely is keeping me in check.
You are not entitled to it though
We deserve everything we can imagine and believe.
I already knew that but it’s still fascinating to hear that yes everything and everyone is borrowed and it’s temporary but we can enjoy it until it’s time for god to call us
Great message despite me being an agnosticatheist
@@miguelatkinson despite the different choices and Beliefs people choose that does not matter to me. As long as we get together and be in peace and respect and get along that’s all that matters to me have a good day miguel
This just helped me through a very dark thought process thank you so much
Quite amazing that Stoicism overlaps with Buddhism in their attitudes towards things.
We came naked into the world, and so are we when we leave.
Some think that Lao Tzu travelled into Afghanistan, spreading the ideas which are foundational to Stoicism, while his Tao Te Ching became influential for Buddhist thought into the 1st Century. This would explain that link but I came to the ideas largely on my own and have grown from earlier insights and lessons.
@@rainmanjr2007 Quite possibly Neil. I'd also add that the Silk Road will have played a role in it too.
Watching this, is not less than a meditation ❤
Know Buddhism and these thoughts and stories feel a lot more powerful than they already do. Thanks for the video.
Ouch. Virtuous parents and fair siblings. I needed to hear this.
Peace to the world and mankind ❤
Starting a new chapter of my life
Always remember. No good deed goes unpunished .
Thank you so much
I love this channel ❤️
beautiful, thank you so much for making this video
As always thank you. Your videos have really helped me push aside that desire for more and more and working myself to the bone to get it. Im so content with a simpler life now, working less and spending time with my children and just being mindful of my life and actually enjoying it.
Its so sad in our western society we are raised to be so driven to have the newest things, to feel if we are not pushing ourselves to work OT and make our companies more and more profit we are failures.
Tell next time everyone :)
I think this is easily the best stoic video on internet rn.
It’s simple to get what you want is to deserve what you want. Your worth it factors
The sense of intitlement if taken away is cause for suffering is only half of the story. In some ways it works getting or holding on to things that you want in the real world. People use this emotion to fight for something or abuse it to manipulate to gain or maintain what they 'have'.
Let's say power, wealth, position but also affection.
This should be understood aswell before someone uses it against you, especially in case of power.
Thank you so much for taking time to create this video! Much needed in today's time and age. We need to constantly remind ourselves of this message.Grateful 🙏🤍
Every lesson I think "this will be the hardest aspect of self to overcome" but instead they become easier.
Owning an object is indeed a strange concept. It is an arrangement of atoms. Atoms created in a supernova explosion billions of years ago that will continue to exist for billions more. They are just temporarily arranged into that object you call "mine".
Thank you so much for this video. I do wish I could share it with my dear mom but she doesn’t understand English… the way you weave the story, the pace, the editing, and of course the content in itself is so deep, rich and engaging! Hard to replicate in simple words. Nevertheless I shall try and share these wise
thoughts with her and see if I can find any videos about stoicism in Korean. Thank you again for this great video. It really struck a chord with me. ✨
"When it comes to entitlement, the world not giving us what believe we earn isn't the problem. The problem is believing we deserve something we don't." Pause for a second and reload it.
Thanks
Your videos are truly life changing. Thank you tremendously!
I feel like it's important to say that what you want and what a person needs are different. Don't use this philosophy to stiffle social benefits, like housing, healthcare, and things people need. Always fight for a better life, we can't all be Diogynese living in a pot
You don't get what you want. You get what you fight for.
I am always amazed by how much Epictetus has in common with the Buddha
I love your wise words. I feel like I'm not being ad bombed and scammed when I watch your videos, and this is so very refreshing.
"All idealism is mendacity in the face of what is necessary" - Nietzsche
Being entitled and thinking your deserve better treatment than others is also what is causing the horrible conflict we are witnessing today.
By the same logic, you are entitled to whatever you can take, whatever the means. If you possess the ability to take something, then it is yours. Whoever had it before was just borrowing it anyway, so no need for remorse.
True but the very core of stoicism is virtue. If your actions are not virtuous. They are unacceptable.
@@SophiaAphrodite doubt it
@@andyschwartz8808The four virtues of stoicism are justice, courage, temperance, and wisdom. I’d think if you’re entitled to your neighbors wife or possessions, simply because you can take it by force, then you’re compromising on justice, which is regarded as the source of all other virtues. Not only that, if you go around taking whatever you want without fairness, you are inviting a pool of enemies into your world.
😭😭😭😭😭 I needed to hear this. Thank you so much 😭😭😭😭😭😭
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Epictetus: “no”
Credits!
Brilliantly narrated wisdom!!
If we didn't have a consumer and capitalist culture, we would still be living primitive lives and having half our children die before they're 5 yo. These old philosophies were practical adaptations to the opportunities and limitations of the times in which they were created.
Yes ..but nothing extreme is good. What I have realized that Everyone can not be same .it will be not good for humankind..Passion desire greed everything is required for new innovation or any corporate which benifit us in big way... But personally I am not such type person. For me everything feels meaningless..so I choose these philosopher's path..
One of your most important videos. People so much are sold this bill of goods and do not realize this is even happening. 🌈🌠🙏
Thank you for your video, man! It's a great inspiration
Joao is that you? Are you still in Portugal? Hit me up.
Thank you ❤️
Entitlement under these definitions could lead to accepting poor treatment and poor conditions. This has a negative impact on personal and societal progression.
i didnt get the message that u shud accept poor treatment, more that u shud work to change the things than u can and dont despair because life is treating u unfairly... because u cant make life fair, u can only work on the things that r in yr control
@@triciabernard4434 How you are treated is much more in your control then this video leads you to believe. Your actions alter the way that people treat you and because you can control your actions you can change the way people treat you. This video is way less profound then people think it is.
…or more if you understand it
@@treeforged9097 u cannot change people though .. u missed the message..
That's your perspective