“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”
Hellena Troi : funny how everyone chrystal hugging in faux-pas happy : it is engeenered into the cooking : "those alchemical bodies" : in my case they´ll burn me into the biggest horn dog this Universal has ever seen! ah those impressions : now easy on the rubberband Juno sydnrome. -- reclaim the *Scapegoat* or remain lost!
1: Being cheerful whatever befalls 2: Caring less about reputation 3: learning to endure 4: letting go of people 5: letting go of Material things 6: choosing our response 7: Accepting Death Edit: Watch the video, Thanks.
I gave you a like and it's because I appreciate your comment, even though you did it for likes you still put time and effort into something that benefits others without causing any harm👍
I swear, this channel is one of the best channels on youtube. If only more and more people could see and reflect on these videos the world would be a better place for sure.
When I was young I’ve always thought the greatest freedom I can get is to do anything that I want. But as I grow older I realised that the greatest freedom is the freedom from all of these. Fear of the uncertainty, thinking of others opinion about us, lamenting on the things that people do (and don’t do) to us. And so on. I’ve still got a long way to go but I’ll keep going 😉
Broke my foot 6 weeks ago. I’ve learned so much about myself, about endurance, and the benefits of hitting rock bottom. So many challenges and stresses to deal with alone. There’s a lot of freedom in being forced to stop caring about things beyond your control.
I have been there....with a broken toe at work. Never sued them when I could have though looking back I should have to teach them a lesson and prevent further negligence towards other workers but Karma is watching ;) To you I say feel better and eat a lot of fish esp sardines as it heals joints trust me and refrain from sugar and soda. Speedy recovery ;))
That's what my asshole of a car has done for me. It's like exposure therapy. It's making it hard for me to get seriously upset about shit that used to bother me
Broke my foot 6 weeks ago. It was another fascinating experience. It altered all my plans and I am living in the moment. Even more grateful for my ability to walk. ✌🏽❤️🌹
This channel has changed my life, listened to every video available. Started listening about 8 months ago. The information provided needs time to sink in. If you’re reading this comment please commit to the teachings and the ideas that this channel has to offer. You will not regret it, J.
TY Jason for the recommendation I find it quite interesting too having been somewhat of a " Seeker " most of my life. Will subscribe for more dimensional experience of existence. Stay well and best wishes ☮️
For a look at 'the system' which has created this world we so crave to disengage with, you could also do the reading of some standard curriculum books and essays from a community college English semester. In that respect I found that related ideas channels, such as 'After Skool, merely do the synthesis, thinking, pop-culture-acceptance-wrapping of dsyfunctional civilization for you ... and then break it up into digestible twitterbytes for those unwilling to climb the discourse of times recently past. I found that doing the study, and writing about it, brought me to similar yet original conclusions on my own.
The endeavor of going off grid can put great stress on a person, and so might the way of life. You are speaking of your own experience and want to project it as a general rule.
@@Dowlphin it’s hard at first but once you become accustomed to less, it is very calming. It’s also satisfying to achieve offgrid living after being raised with modern luxuries.
Start by managing your thought stream. Approve and Deny your thoughts in real time. This will allow you to better manage your manifestations. Micromanage them at first, and after about a month you will never have to again. The world is like a small child or pet, it wants your affection but it needs your energy. Provide feedback through your thought stream, what is and what is not acceptable in your experience.
Energy vampires exist. If you are around a toxic person or situation, make a plan and get out. Don’t make excuses or engage in mental gymnastics. Stoicism works in some cases and in some circumstances it doesn’t. That’s why we have critical thinking skills. Use what works and get out of negative situations.
After attending Yoga Philosophy for a month i found your channel. Before sleeping i watch your videos every night and now i feel like my mind is shifting to the real side of my existence
Whether you like it or not, external circumstances are, by definition, beyond our control. The Stoics simply find a way to accept that and still move forward...
Regarding loss of reputation, dealing with toxic people, etc. a nice neighbour told me to hold my head high, and I do. I smile and in the beginning it was difficult but now it's natural and sincere. I smile, I hold my head high, I am friendly and I take care of myself, I no longer neglect my health, my weight or my appearance. Now I dress well and look well - the toxic people must be wondering what wonderful turn my life has taken! And I even sing, to let the bullies know that I choose happiness. I've also reconnected with people, even though they are not close friends, it's important to have some people around you even if you're an introvert like me. I talk to people when I'm out and about, even short conversations add up to feeling less alone.
I took a few months without watching/listening to Einzelganger’s videos. I come back to hear exactly what I needed to hear in my current life situation. It just goes to show that these beliefs are timeless and are very malleable to many different situations. I love Einzelganger’s content!
“Nothing happens to any man that he is not fitted by nature to bear.” Look at everything you’ve endured so far in this life, is this quote not made true through your own experience?
@@srenbro916 that’s just your perspective and the way you choose to see it which is all on you, not the situation. Before you act like there is no choice understand there are thousands of people who endured similar circumstances that are grateful or atleast accepting of their trials. It makes a huge difference. You seeing it as shit is just adding your own weights on top of the suffering. Release that shit and see that where you are is right here reading this, you may not be flourishing but you have endured and that’s what the comment was about.
@@derealratos6332 exactly right. “The ego is therefore unwilling to give up its surreptitious feeding on itself, as forlorn as that may sound. Although the ego outwardly protests suffering, inwardly, it gladly welcomes it.”
The fact that we believe fate can be manipulated is the real problem that makes us worry about the negative stuff Understanding and accepting negative happenings is the key✨🙏
7 Stoic ways 1. Being cheerful whatever befalls 2. Caring less about reputation 3. Learning to endure 4. Letting go of people 5. Letting go of material things 6. Choosing our response 7. Accepting death
I've tried reading and watching many inspirational stuff, but find it hard to execute since the hardest enemy is myself, but after discovering your channel...I can say I made a big progress, one is letting go of materials things which I find hard to give up at first because it still "sparks joy" but Stoicism makes more sense that I have realized that I am capable of losing my desire for material things if I focus well enough, which I did. Now I also gave up drinking cola/soda which is hard for some because of its addicting contents that is said to be refreshing especially this summertime. You sir are a blessing to lost people like me.
After watching depressing news, I always end my video watching sessions with some of your content even if I've seen it before, in order to center my mind and spirit. You've become a part of my meditation, and for that I cannot thank you enough. You've also helped me explain a lot of philosophy to my wife that I have a hard time expressing with my own words. I look forward to the next thing you post, always. Cheers!
Whenever, I face tough decisions and emotional turmoil. One channel never ceases to calm me down and re-center, my life approach. This isn't a cheap plug for the channel but my genuine feeling about how any video in this channel makes me feel. Today I have been in a state of a never ending loop of emotional and mental turmoil based on my actions and the universe around me. So I decided nothing better than a reminder that all around me is avoid my choice but within I can manage change
Much love brother, your voice has been with me as I lay my head on my pillow and go into sleep for the past month. Accepting life and everything that comes with it. Peace ✌️
This channel really helps me a lot. I always find myself worrying about what the future holds for me, so I come to here and relearn even the videos that I've watched before. It gives me a peace of mind and teaches me how to just let go of what we can't control. These days I find myself applying all the lessons I've learned here on some situations at hand and I've never been more proud.
These videos are helping me change my outlook on life for the better. It feels nice to not to attach yourself to things, people and outside forces beyond your control.
I really needed to hear that one about reputation being fickle. I used to think reputation was everything but man alive it can be so destructful. Thanks so much for your content
This is such a great channel, there are only a few who work hard & have the knowledge, thank you for taking the time to share it. It is needed & very liberating . Better than Therapy, Again MASSIVE THANK YOU LIFE SAVING/CHANGING Stuff ! Peace.
There's a bigger system than that we govern ourselves with. It's called the laws of nature. It governs man and beast no matter how much we progress, we will always be acting in ways nature intend us to be. Taking control of my life and not worrying about misfortune or tomorrow, has brought me so much happiness. Indifference is the ultimate freedom
Great video Einzelgänger. Your videos are really well put together. The part about learning to endure is true. Dialectical Behaviour Therapy talks about the importance of Distress Tolerance and it is important to accept that negative emotions are a part of life. Keep doing what you're doing 👏🏼
I'd say I started to not give a shit about reputation, material posessions and clinging onto people about a year ago. I still have a way to go, but it has been one of the most liberating experiences imaginable and I encourage everyone to try it!
Thank you so much for investing your time and energy into creating such wonderful content for this channel. Listening to one or two ‘lessons’ each morning has become a part of my routine which I find an invaluable start to each day. Thank you again.
I’m so grateful for that split second before i get upset at something/someone where my mind asks me - your own way or your peace? Almost always the latter!
Every other video on TH-cam that teaches you how to “succeed” always teaches you that gaining more money, fancy things, beautiful women and etc. but these videos teach you that letting go is the true key to “success.” The kind that actually makes you happy.
This can't work for everyone. I was unknowingly very stoic a few years ago, and although I was calm and accepted things as they came, I still felt empty. I don't know if I misinterpreted what I was learning or just pushing down my emotions, but now I am letting all my emotions flow and trying to take from life what it has to offer. Yes, it leads to heartbreak, tears, and lots of flowing emotions, but that is what life has to offer. Stoicism and following eastern philosophies helped me cope with situations, but all I did was cope and never learn how to actually look at what I was feeling and WHY. For me, I was just pushing down my emotions and becoming isolated during this time in my life. We are human and emotions are can't be avoided!!!! We need to learn how to understand them.
pay off debt check, get a car check, get a source of income,free bank account so get min balance of 5k. invest in ur self to get better income in long term. build a fam. buil a home....damm!!! I was almost there, we must start again.....
it’s great that you tell others to stop needing happiness from material items, which would mean they wouldn’t watch your videos. That’s how you know it’s a good message.
I’m currently working hard to express myself with filmmaking, as a 15 year old boy I understand I good amount of the core of storytelling and if been seeing so much philosophical videos as well. I’ve expanded my mind and I understand a lot of things at this point. I’ll work hard and gain my happiness on what I work on, and won’t set my happiness on external forces. So when something external happens It won’t tear me apart…
" The Joy is in the doing " So no matter what, best wishes and see where it takes you... Wishing you fufilment no matter where it takes you so long as it enhances your being.
Thank you! I really appreciate your work. This video takes stoic themes just a little further and give me new ways to consider them each day. I hope you see how many you are helping.
Awesome wisdom, thank you for putting that together for us. Learning to respond to the things Life gives us in the best possible way is the highest wisdom. I think I need that tattooed on my arm to remember. We can do this, just push the bolder up the mountain and enjoy every minute of it. 🙌💝🎶🌎😊 !
You lone wolf are one of the people who helped me out of my cognitive dissonace. I am more in tune with myself. I control more how I choose to feel. Vielen danke Herr.
This has to be one of the greatest conclusions and the most proper 'means to an end' of any video I've ever watched, so settling and full of guaranteed surety within all important matters of true living from beginning to end right here, the ending is just exceptional I must say, too brilliant and I appreciate this very much!, thanks for doing what you do Einzelgänger!, sending forth a most outstanding contribution towards humanity
Suggestion: I think it would be interesting to know more about the people behind Stoicisim. For example: Zeno of Citium or Marcus Aurelius, why did they live the way they did, what events taught them those lessons
@@frog6054 Fine selection. I read The Meditations for the first time 20 years ago. POWERFUL stuff! Like it physically rewired my brain ... total major upgrade!
I'm 50. Have absolutely nothing except water, food if I work hard and a little hut in the jungle. No money no future to speak about. No real reason really to go up in the morning. But I don't need anything more. And I'm happy 😊
@@sandeepsuri7515 when I lived in Sweden, chasing money and all that, it didn't make me happy. Now I'm happy with little and that makes me feel rich. I don't really understand that chinese saying, but in my case it's hard work 16, sometimes 18 hours per day 7 days a week. But I did the cowardly thing. I ran away from that rat wheel and settled for a bamboo hut in the jungle of Thailand
There is no path, there's only the direction you face when you put one foot in front of the other. If you believe you are on a path then you are truly lost.
To be honest, not entirely. This channel generates ad revenue, like any other monetized TH-cam channel. But these videos are created with good intention, if that's sufficient. ;)
Very powerful video, There is one struggle in here that I still have huge problem with and it's always been the fear of loss, ironically the fear itself caused me to lose the person I dearly cared about. Ever since then (2 years ago) it has been really hard to move on from that haunting past, the constant loneliness reminds me of my failure to be a better a man, a more competent person and failed in that department to that person's standards. It feels like a strike to heart when I remember locking eyes with her for minutes long and to think that she want's nothing to do with me now destroys any confidence I had before, demoralized. This video is very knowledgeable on the idea that these hurtful situations are inevitable to hide or run from. I hope one day I find enlightenment from all of it but it's extremely hard to let go of it, I dearly cared about this person like a family member and they isolated from me like I was a monster, it's a terrible thought to say the least, I continue to endure the pain it throws and have some faith that ill come out much stronger after the full acceptance of it. Amazing video!
I know it sounds easier said than done but do not sleep with the past. Obviously she isn't and although it hurts, nurture yourself not your ghosts. We all get lonesome but loneliness often attracts just what you don't want, need or desire rather than work through the pain of fully letting go of what wasn't for your highest good and the highest good of all. JMO at this moment 2 your comment. Wishing you all the best man, God 🙏 Bless Goodnight 🌉
As the video says, endure the feelings. I was dumped in November and while it took a long time for them feelings to subside, i have no feelings and i feel like im thriving. It'll get easier brother, trust me
@@sentientpower I have a hard time believing that, it shifted much within me and not in a good way, ever since the incident I've gotten more involved with alcohol and weed. That's not the worse of it, I lost most of motivation on everything I felt passionate about before, I barely feel a quarter of the man I used to be. I worked 2 jobs, 60+ hours a week and worked out 5-6 days a week (don't even have a job anymore) and it all came to a halt as soon I went back to go see her and got nothing but silence and isolation in return, she didn't even look at me and every time I wanted to go up to her she hid. You tell me how this is all good.
@@zombiekila187 you don't seem to be accepting of what is. Nothing outside of yourself can bring you the lasting happiness you desire. Bring your awareness to this present moment and become aware that you're aware. This is not easy of course but the first step is that you must be willing.
Always love your posts; they are trenchant, insightful, and really reflect a deep dive into stoicism and other approaches to life. That said, while it's an apt analogy, I truly did NOT expect to see the Star Wars prequels as the reference point. It was like, "Seneca, Epictetus...Anakin Skywalker? Izzat SENATOR PALPATINE?" This isn't meant negatively, I assure you. It was just funny having your usual soothing voice exploring philosophy over tastefully chosen graphics and then HERE COMES GEORGE LUCAS like the Kool-Aid pitcher crashing through a wall.
@@Einzelgänger Star Wars is a terrible analogy. There isn’t anything wrong with passion. Yes passion is quality of the Sith, you’re suppose to know how to balance these aspects within you, not demonize them. If you demonize and discard/push them away it’ll come as something worse. Please don’t use Star Wars to give spiritual and philosophical teachings. Star Wars is a sci-fi action film that is trying to give you its POV and perspective on morality
@@Einzelgänger most people throughout history who committed horrible atrocities, it wasn’t because they gave into the “dark side of the Force” it’s because what they thought they were doing was good and righteous
Cold Water immersion at 4 Degrees or so every morning for 3-5 minutes will solve most of these problems its the simplest solution i have found to peace n happiness.
My dearly departed grandpa cared less and less about possessions as he got older, he seems to have achieved what he wanted, and found satisfaction beyond my understanding. I'll never be half the man he was.
Thank you for life-saving concepts! Thank you! Please continue to reach the masses with understanding, knowledge, and wisdom. We are never to old - so you can teach an older person to ask, seek, find, and apply the lessons we truly must learn and apply,; for more peaceful, loving, fulfilled life. Thank you, God Bless Teach one teach one
This might be controversial but some of this sound exactly like: oh you were born poor you shall die poor but in the mean time don't complain just endure, and if your loved ones also die around you just remember there are other humans like them that you can love... like wtf if this doesn't sound manipulation then i don't know what... also majority of philosophers from this era were usually rich so they had all this time, resources that majority didn't. Therefore I think it's important to bear in mind how much of a relevance of this has on our life currently, sure they sound wise(especially in a video like this) but it has its faults
I'm having trouble forming real relationship while maintaining a stoic view. I have less fear of loss of people and it made me see the world differently from the way people around me do. I do not feel any rush even tho i know death is walking closer to everyone around me and myself by the seconds. I always remember " the whole of it calls for tears" as the quote hits me deeply and is where i discovered stoicism. I'm not having trouble having real feelings towards people, it just feels insignificant. Every time I chat deeply with someone i always feel like I'm in the back of my head viewing my body having the conversation with that person. And while the emotions are there, It does not feel whole like a bit empty. Sometimes I even try to look more intense in dealing with troubles, as it may seem that the old me before stoicism would be very desperate if handed the same situations. Every time I talk about this to someone they look like they try to help me, some stop trying after a month some more. I'm not even sad about this it's just seem interesting. great content btw
@@boyvidi9041 What!? Oh the joys of connecting your online identites to your real life (or was it an online-only friend?)! I'm sorry bro! But that person either got it the wrong way, or wasn't a friend. But real friends that like you when you're honest and open, accept you despite being different from them, and care more about YOUR wellbeing than THEIR egos are hard to find. Most people are just very "normal" like the donkey in the video, and only tolerant towards other "normal" people. My advice: keep on letting them go and be as self-sufficient and independent as possible. Keep on looking for people that are not "normal", but expect NOTHING. Maybe you'll find ONE such person in your lifetime if you're lucky. This system has decimated them/us a lot, and the few who exist probably have given up on this society and hide outside of it. Good luck!
@@allesdurchprobiert It was a friend I met in highschool, currently we're on summer break transitioning in uni. She probably had much on her table already. Thanks for sparing your time writing the advice, its refreshing and brings clarity to my mind. Though i wasn't afraid of losing her it did kinda sucked. Now I view life more pessimistic not as the bad way but as a greater optimism. Also unrelated but i notice you have a german username if i'm not mistaken. Funny I'm currently learning the language myself as I'm planning to go there for uni. When you stop awhile and look around life do be making weird connections.
@@boyvidi9041 Yea, I understand it still sucked. Maybe you can talk to her some day and clarify everything. Maybe not to fix that relationship but to at least let her know it wasn't about her. Maybe she thought she was that special deep friend for you, and your comment meant she was just one of the many shallow unfulfilling pseudo friends, or something like that. Oh and you got that optimism right! What I wanted to say was basically: don't be a bitter, negative total misanthrope. But just don't expect anything from anyone, while still keeping your eyes open for someone to connect with, even though they are rare. It's totally possible, just not very likely. Yes I'm german. Where do you want to go to uni? Feel free to ask me anything or contact me via TH-cam. But I didn't go to Uni (a mistake maybe) so I don't know much about that. Prepare for bureaucracy, being casually stared at for no reason (its a german thing, that happens to german-looking germans too, so don't take it personally or racist. They just don't think it's impolite or embarrassing. Especially outside bigger cities.), a somewhat complicated unrelaxed mentality, but also lots of good. Despite everything bad it's certainly one of the better countries I'd say. As for typical germans: well, they are like any people, just slightly worse 😜 For some funny things about germany/germans and Berlin in particular check out the channel "radical living". PS: Where are you from?
I 'lost' $140,000 to the IRS which could have been legally avoided if I had been more astute. I was initially angry, wishing I had that money, to buy stuff with it. But, I have to say, the balance that these videos Einzelgänger give me, whether it is through promoting Buddhism, Stoicism, Jung, or even the analogies in Hollywood cinema, makes me think more, and makes me think that attachments and materialism are not important, whilst the greater good (helping to build a better society), are much more significant and empowering. On my deathbed, I won't remember that new car I bought or the boring holiday I went on, I will remember how that money helped others and kept society's institutions running. To everyone, don't be a slave. Please help others less fortunate.
If you were happy with it, you wouldn't feel the need to advertise your loneliness as the very first word about yourself. Watch out for the truly awake.
@@Cadeaux_Man -but that is your opinion. Your truth. I have people I hang out with. I’m not a hermit. But most times I am by myself. Happy at that. BTW, believe what you want.
@@lonerhappy dismissal. Admission of lying. Another admission of a lie. A third lie in a row. A fourth lie for good measure, but don't worry. If something is so untrue, there's no need to defend it to a random comment on the internet. You will never escape.
@@Cadeaux_Man -well here you go Bucky f-off. How’s that for a lie. Get a life. You have some issues. Jealousy is one of them. Unless you have a PhD on this subject get lost. Now you see why I stay away from riff raff such as yourself. Much happier that way.
Being homeless for three years is one of the best things that ever happened to me. I have ban To the bottom and I survived once I accepted where I was and got comfortable then everything came back to me. And if I should lose it all again I don't think I would care.
But it's a long painful process. I saw death in my family and it's made me afraid of a slow agonizing experience. Fast death is more okay. Like you shoot yourself in the head. Still, it's hard to imagine not being.
Yes, I think Epictetus' advice is incredibly harsh: almost inhuman. I guess it's a good reminder of reality, and a way to prepare for the worst. * Update and clarification. My commentary is directed at this passage alone: "If you kiss your child, or your wife, say that you only kiss things which are human, and thus you will not be disturbed if either of them dies." In my opinion (from a Western, contemporary point of view), this advice is "harsh"; mainly because it aims for us to "not be disturbed" if our child or wife dies. Should we aim to be undisturbed when we lose a loved one? Is this realistic? For most people, it's probably too much to ask. But this doesn't mean that Epictetus' advice isn't useful. It can help us prepare for the loss of a loved one, and soften the blow. To me, that's already a tremendous benefit. - Einzel
@@Einzelgänger Yeah, but on the other hand, it is better for my child, if i am stable, as long as i am not cold and unloving. As a father you have to bear the hard truth and it would be worse for my child if i am weak, to emotional and overprotective.
Stoicism also says that we live in a deterministic universe, which has been disproved by quantum physics. Stoicism has some good points but anyone who follows it to the letter will soon find their lives joyless.
With all due respect to stoicism, it seems fanatical what they preach, as I kept watching more and more over the years. It's just like with fundamentalists, only has no religious or political label to alert us, "hey, take it with a grain of salt." People want to accept it so readily, just because of traditionally it's called "wisdom". But when we use our common sense, we find them exaggerating, unnatural, acting larger-than-life. The very essence of philosophy is to think for oneself. It's okay to be human, to make mistakes, to experience, to be in uncertainty, to be ignorant but yet being stubborn and try to grow again and again. Here stoicism is pursuing some fantasy, as if humans can be superheroes of rigid "reasoning". Despite how it preaches about being "natural", it ties us to act unnatural in life. The proof is the person watching oneself how one tries to control everything one does, the very act of maintenance of being "natural"/"peaceful"/"rational" turns into heavy burden inside, bigger than what one felt before practicing such "wisdom". Either the person sees it from 3rd view and realize how one is trapped in their own indoctrination OR they simply go into denial and fabricate more justifications to not feel uncomfortable that one has been having a delusional mindset. The way I've seen it over the months, this youtuber is creating content as a way not to only sell his own book but also to convince himself of his own defeatism being something not only "positive" but also "wise". I'm sorry for you, mate. In the end of any spiritual/intellectual/emotional journey, you will stop quoting, listening, and reading this and that, which otherwise only leads to alienate yourself, and more follow your own heart and do what you want and like deep inside. Many people start from here, following others, until eventually finding their own path and realizing all the past is not relevant anymore and start a renaissance within themselves, detached from preachings of others.
Very true. Especially in the business world or any other livelihood based around social interactions and dynamics, taking it too far can be detrimental. What you make up for in being unable to manipulated, you lose in relatability and likability. Stoic mentality when overdone can iron out the natural spontaneity of human reaction and emotion. It’s all balance
I've read a book about stoicism and somehow doing that made me feel better, let go of the past, and negative visualization is great, but I still can not let go of attachment to my husband, I want to spend as much time with him because otherwise I don't know how to deal with myself and I don't use the dichotomy of control a lot. Still, I feel better and am thankful to people who suggested it as a good idea.
not going to be sad if my wife or child dies?? You gotta be KIDDING ME. You can't have the highs without the lows. If your loved one dies and you're not sad, you never loved them.
He didn't say that and that's not what it means. Non attachment doesn't mean not caring. It's about not being caught up in feelings so that they control you.
pheonix373 stoicism is great for dealing with every day inconveniences. but if you don’t “feel” anything from the death of a wife and/or child. you did not love them. and if stoicism keeps you from feeling loves full depths it is an inadequate ideology. life is suffering no matter what. to make life worth living, instead of numbing your emotions, you have to balance them negative with the positive. love deeply. that makes the suffering worth while.
I lost a brother before 2021 started. Not too long ago, a cousin died from catching the covid virus, then his wife died the same way after just a month. Then one more relative, an uncle recently passed away of covid. Am I sad, you may ask. Yes, but I am not attached to that emotion (sadness).
“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”
Hellena Troi : funny how everyone chrystal hugging in faux-pas happy : it is engeenered into the cooking : "those alchemical bodies" : in my case they´ll burn me into the biggest horn dog this Universal has ever seen! ah those impressions : now easy on the rubberband Juno sydnrome.
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reclaim the *Scapegoat* or remain lost!
Heyy I visit your channel, your playlist. You are fantastic👍
This is very well expressed. I totally agree!
Ooh who said that quote?
:) that explains why such society declines because progress is slowed down by fears.
1: Being cheerful whatever befalls
2: Caring less about reputation
3: learning to endure
4: letting go of people
5: letting go of Material things
6: choosing our response
7: Accepting Death
Edit: Watch the video, Thanks.
@@AEDan71 you got mine
I gave you a like and it's because I appreciate your comment, even though you did it for likes you still put time and effort into something that benefits others without causing any harm👍
In other words: become a plant 🪴.😀. Don’t suffer when your kid dies….you may as well as us to not bleed when cut.
@@za_izhar The titles of the 7 sections of this video are written under the video. But it has timestamps included.
What's dealth?
I swear, this channel is one of the best channels on youtube. If only more and more people could see and reflect on these videos the world would be a better place for sure.
Thank you for the compliment :)
Between this channel, crappy childhood fairy, and “school of life”, my healing accelerates. I’m grateful
@@keepmoving1185 I'm on the same road. You're doing great
@@keepmoving1185 crappy snapped at me for not buying into her christianity. I don’t recommend her.
Agreed. Best channel. It has gotten me through so much & is always right on time🙏🏽
When I was young I’ve always thought the greatest freedom I can get is to do anything that I want. But as I grow older I realised that the greatest freedom is the freedom from all of these. Fear of the uncertainty, thinking of others opinion about us, lamenting on the things that people do (and don’t do) to us. And so on. I’ve still got a long way to go but I’ll keep going 😉
The freedom of peace ❤️
Same
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The freedom of just letting go and letting it be.
"Attachment is the source of all suffering." - Gautama Buddha
Sometimes disattachment can attract suffering for well being🍹
the desire not to desire is itself a desire
@@dotdashdotdash how many egos is living in every desire.
It's been my observation that for many people suffering is a way to afflict their pain on others so that they can get attention
I agree to disagree at point of conflict sufficient suffering its your own choice.
Broke my foot 6 weeks ago. I’ve learned so much about myself, about endurance, and the benefits of hitting rock bottom. So many challenges and stresses to deal with alone. There’s a lot of freedom in being forced to stop caring about things beyond your control.
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I have been there....with a broken toe at work. Never sued them when I could have though looking back I should have to teach them a lesson and prevent further negligence towards other workers but Karma is watching ;)
To you I say feel better and eat a lot of fish esp sardines as it heals joints trust me and refrain from sugar and soda. Speedy recovery ;))
That's what my asshole of a car has done for me. It's like exposure therapy. It's making it hard for me to get seriously upset about shit that used to bother me
Broke my foot 6 weeks ago. It was another fascinating experience. It altered all my plans and I am living in the moment. Even more grateful for my ability to walk. ✌🏽❤️🌹
This channel has changed my life, listened to every video available. Started listening about 8 months ago.
The information provided needs time to sink in.
If you’re reading this comment please commit to the teachings and the ideas that this channel has to offer.
You will not regret it, J.
Thank you, I think you're cool
TY Jason for the recommendation
I find it quite interesting too
having been somewhat of a
" Seeker " most of my life.
Will subscribe for more dimensional experience of existence. Stay well and best wishes ☮️
For a look at 'the system' which has created this world we so crave to disengage with,
you could also do the reading of some standard curriculum books and essays from a community college English semester. In that respect I found that related ideas channels, such as 'After Skool, merely do the synthesis, thinking, pop-culture-acceptance-wrapping of dsyfunctional civilization for you ... and then break it up into digestible twitterbytes for those unwilling to climb the discourse of times recently past.
I found that doing the study, and writing about it, brought me to similar yet original conclusions on my own.
I love this channel so much!
how do u become a stoic
TRUST ME, being off grid and being emotionally stable with an independence mindset HELPS A LOT
How’d you do it?
@@WonderlustThingfor starters not using social media
The endeavor of going off grid can put great stress on a person, and so might the way of life. You are speaking of your own experience and want to project it as a general rule.
@@Dowlphin it’s hard at first but once you become accustomed to less, it is very calming. It’s also satisfying to achieve offgrid living after being raised with modern luxuries.
Marcus Aurelius... the greatest of the Roman emperors! A man who practiced what he preached. We can learn so much from the Stoics.
I need this so bad I'm my life right now..I feel like I'm just trying to get through the day at this point.
I think lots of people feel the same, myself included.
This won't last LR. It too shall pass. You will get through this day and many more. I believe in you.
I hear you. Endurance and simple joys each day as you can find them -- I don't know how Stoic the latter idea is but it works for me!
Unfortunately we could all think ourselves into a box
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There is no one way
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All 🕯️s One
Goodnight Scouts !!!
Start by managing your thought stream. Approve and Deny your thoughts in real time. This will allow you to better manage your manifestations. Micromanage them at first, and after about a month you will never have to again. The world is like a small child or pet, it wants your affection but it needs your energy. Provide feedback through your thought stream, what is and what is not acceptable in your experience.
Energy vampires exist. If you are around a toxic person or situation, make a plan and get out.
Don’t make excuses or engage in mental gymnastics. Stoicism works in some cases and in some circumstances it doesn’t. That’s why we have critical thinking skills. Use what works and get out of negative situations.
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Exactly. Taking action is sometimes crucial.
To add to this.. if that person starts acting like you and admires you to an unhealthy level. Get out, fast. It's a trap.
That's like the difference between an extrovert-battery-sucker and an introvert-battery-recharger.
can u give an example?
After attending Yoga Philosophy for a month i found your channel. Before sleeping i watch your videos every night and now i feel like my mind is shifting to the real side of my existence
Whether you like it or not, external circumstances are, by definition, beyond our control.
The Stoics simply find a way to accept that and still move forward...
Guess I'm doin it right then koo
growth mindset
“When your soul will emerge from its compartment” love that 🙏🏼✨❤️
Regarding loss of reputation, dealing with toxic people, etc. a nice neighbour told me to hold my head high, and I do. I smile and in the beginning it was difficult but now it's natural and sincere. I smile, I hold my head high, I am friendly and I take care of myself, I no longer neglect my health, my weight or my appearance. Now I dress well and look well - the toxic people must be wondering what wonderful turn my life has taken! And I even sing, to let the bullies know that I choose happiness. I've also reconnected with people, even though they are not close friends, it's important to have some people around you even if you're an introvert like me. I talk to people when I'm out and about, even short conversations add up to feeling less alone.
Don't give anything, or anyone, the privilege, to disturb your inner peace and tranquillity :)
This should be a mandatory 'mantra' for all young people. Thank You for reminding me...
It's hard
Not even your self.
Real
Easier said than done.
I took a few months without watching/listening to Einzelganger’s videos. I come back to hear exactly what I needed to hear in my current life situation. It just goes to show that these beliefs are timeless and are very malleable to many different situations. I love Einzelganger’s content!
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It's called evergreen content in the youba tuba werld. Eternally relevant.
“Nothing happens to any man that he is not fitted by nature to bear.”
Look at everything you’ve endured so far in this life, is this quote not made true through your own experience?
what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger… but it can also leave you with a limp for the rest of your life
What doesn't kill you gives you unhealthy coping mechanisms.
NO, it is shit you just learn to cope.
@@srenbro916 that’s just your perspective and the way you choose to see it which is all on you, not the situation. Before you act like there is no choice understand there are thousands of people who endured similar circumstances that are grateful or atleast accepting of their trials. It makes a huge difference. You seeing it as shit is just adding your own weights on top of the suffering. Release that shit and see that where you are is right here reading this, you may not be flourishing but you have endured and that’s what the comment was about.
@@derealratos6332 exactly right. “The ego is therefore unwilling to give up its surreptitious feeding on itself, as forlorn as that may sound. Although the ego outwardly protests suffering, inwardly, it gladly welcomes it.”
The fact that we believe fate can be manipulated is the real problem that makes us worry about the negative stuff
Understanding and accepting negative happenings is the key✨🙏
Outstanding. Thank you. My favorite: If something is endurable, don't complain about it. If something is unendurable, why bother to complain about it.
7 Stoic ways
1. Being cheerful whatever befalls
2. Caring less about reputation
3. Learning to endure
4. Letting go of people
5. Letting go of material things
6. Choosing our response
7. Accepting death
I've tried reading and watching many inspirational stuff, but find it hard to execute since the hardest enemy is myself, but after discovering your channel...I can say I made a big progress, one is letting go of materials things which I find hard to give up at first because it still "sparks joy" but Stoicism makes more sense that I have realized that I am capable of losing my desire for material things if I focus well enough, which I did. Now I also gave up drinking cola/soda which is hard for some because of its addicting contents that is said to be refreshing especially this summertime. You sir are a blessing to lost people like me.
After watching depressing news, I always end my video watching sessions with some of your content even if I've seen it before, in order to center my mind and spirit. You've become a part of my meditation, and for that I cannot thank you enough. You've also helped me explain a lot of philosophy to my wife that I have a hard time expressing with my own words. I look forward to the next thing you post, always. Cheers!
May I suggest you stop watching the news altogether? I did and don't regret it all. I've found it has aided spiritual life.
Whenever, I face tough decisions and emotional turmoil. One channel never ceases to calm me down and re-center, my life approach. This isn't a cheap plug for the channel but my genuine feeling about how any video in this channel makes me feel. Today I have been in a state of a never ending loop of emotional and mental turmoil based on my actions and the universe around me. So I decided nothing better than a reminder that all around me is avoid my choice but within I can manage change
Much love brother, your voice has been with me as I lay my head on my pillow and go into sleep for the past month. Accepting life and everything that comes with it. Peace ✌️
5:16 This is a tough pill to swallow but once you do it relieves the anxiety and overthinking that comes along with trying to please people💁🏽♂️
This channel really helps me a lot. I always find myself worrying about what the future holds for me, so I come to here and relearn even the videos that I've watched before. It gives me a peace of mind and teaches me how to just let go of what we can't control. These days I find myself applying all the lessons I've learned here on some situations at hand and I've never been more proud.
Youre awesome ...are you getting better at it ?
I consider videos like these as antidotes for dealing with everyday life.
This channel is really helping me view my fears differently. And I resonate so much with Stoic philosophy. Thank you so much for such quality content.
Such a beautiful last line. That thought brings me so much peace. Thank you 🙏🏻
Each sentence is lovely. The wording and cadence!
These videos are helping me change my outlook on life for the better. It feels nice to not to attach yourself to things, people and outside forces beyond your control.
I really needed to hear that one about reputation being fickle. I used to think reputation was everything but man alive it can be so destructful. Thanks so much for your content
This is such a great channel, there are only a few who work hard & have the knowledge, thank you for taking the time to share it. It is needed & very liberating . Better than Therapy, Again MASSIVE THANK YOU LIFE SAVING/CHANGING Stuff ! Peace.
There's a bigger system than that we govern ourselves with. It's called the laws of nature. It governs man and beast no matter how much we progress, we will always be acting in ways nature intend us to be. Taking control of my life and not worrying about misfortune or tomorrow, has brought me so much happiness. Indifference is the ultimate freedom
Granny you're a trip !!!
Happy trails !!!
Great video Einzelgänger. Your videos are really well put together. The part about learning to endure is true. Dialectical Behaviour Therapy talks about the importance of Distress Tolerance and it is important to accept that negative emotions are a part of life. Keep doing what you're doing 👏🏼
I've read a lot about DBT: one of the few therapies with profound Buddhist influences. Anyways, thanks for the compliment!
@@Einzelgänger thankyou it's brilliant!! It's deep and always deeply meaningful.
Youre channel is phenomenal, thank you for your accumulation of knowledge and then sharing. You are changing lives!
I cannot put my thoughts into words on how these videos help me through tough time. Thank you for making these videos.
Thank you for your work. This content helps me to manage better in this rather challenging time. 🙏🏻
This way of thinking has changed my life. ❤
You are 100 % responsible for all your own thoughts. No one can make you angry - it's your own choice how you feel about anything.
I'd say I started to not give a shit about reputation, material posessions and clinging onto people about a year ago. I still have a way to go, but it has been one of the most liberating experiences imaginable and I encourage everyone to try it!
Thank you so much for investing your time and energy into creating such wonderful content for this channel. Listening to one or two ‘lessons’ each morning has become a part of my routine which I find an invaluable start to each day. Thank you again.
When you turn loneliness, sadness,emptiness and pain into solace, joy,fullness and love youve lived an experience only you could ever understand..
Me.
I’m so grateful for that split second before i get upset at something/someone where my mind asks me - your own way or your peace? Almost always the latter!
They're just trying to bring down your vibe to their level because they can never reach your level of vibe.
That's true power 🙏🏽
Every other video on TH-cam that teaches you how to “succeed” always teaches you that gaining more money, fancy things, beautiful women and etc. but these videos teach you that letting go is the true key to “success.” The kind that actually makes you happy.
This can't work for everyone. I was unknowingly very stoic a few years ago, and although I was calm and accepted things as they came, I still felt empty. I don't know if I misinterpreted what I was learning or just pushing down my emotions, but now I am letting all my emotions flow and trying to take from life what it has to offer. Yes, it leads to heartbreak, tears, and lots of flowing emotions, but that is what life has to offer. Stoicism and following eastern philosophies helped me cope with situations, but all I did was cope and never learn how to actually look at what I was feeling and WHY. For me, I was just pushing down my emotions and becoming isolated during this time in my life. We are human and emotions are can't be avoided!!!! We need to learn how to understand them.
When you worry you make payments on a debt that may never come due.
Thank you so much , I really needed to hear this , little refresher and I appreciate your work tremendously 🙏❤️💜
You have a nice face Amanda 🥰
pay off debt check, get a car check, get a source of income,free bank account so get min balance of 5k. invest in ur self to get better income in long term. build a fam. buil a home....damm!!! I was almost there, we must start again.....
it’s great that you tell others to stop needing happiness from material items, which would mean they wouldn’t watch your videos. That’s how you know it’s a good message.
I’m currently working hard to express myself with filmmaking, as a 15 year old boy I understand I good amount of the core of storytelling and if been seeing so much philosophical videos as well. I’ve expanded my mind and I understand a lot of things at this point. I’ll work hard and gain my happiness on what I work on, and won’t set my happiness on external forces. So when something external happens It won’t tear me apart…
" The Joy is in the doing "
So no matter what, best wishes and see where it takes you...
Wishing you fufilment no matter where it takes you so long as it enhances your being.
@@petemavus2948 yes indeed
Work for your dreams best wishes
This channel should be made mandatory viewing in schools. Students would excel learning from this channel and philosophy in general
Thanks so much for your channel. The principles are so helpful in coping with anxiety. You explain them in such a clear and practical way.
This is one of the best videos ever on stoicism. And it mentions toxic people! Saved to favorites!
Yes!! Great use of the Anakin story!!!!
Thank you! I really appreciate your work. This video takes stoic themes just a little further and give me new ways to consider them each day. I hope you see how many you are helping.
Awesome wisdom, thank you for putting that together for us. Learning to respond to the things Life gives us in the best possible way is the highest wisdom. I think I need that tattooed on my arm to remember. We can do this, just push the bolder up the mountain and enjoy every minute of it. 🙌💝🎶🌎😊 !
I am grateful for the Creator within🙏
One of your most important videos in these times we are living
Absolutely brilliant. This video should be shown in schools.
If Einzelgänger was a church, I’d be there at any service. Such a worthy channel.
I love how you mentioned Star Wars in order to exemplify your argument and to explain a stoic teaching. Keep up the great work!
one of the best videos i have seen. really needed this as i have become to attached to the world
Very grateful for this video coming up at a right moment, thank you! I will note and practise them. Wisdom ❤ clear and simple, Amen. 🙏🌹
You lone wolf are one of the people who helped me out of my cognitive dissonace. I am more in tune with myself. I control more how I choose to feel. Vielen danke Herr.
This has to be one of the greatest conclusions and the most proper 'means to an end' of any video I've ever watched, so settling and full of guaranteed surety within all important matters of true living from beginning to end right here, the ending is just exceptional I must say, too brilliant and I appreciate this very much!, thanks for doing what you do Einzelgänger!, sending forth a most outstanding contribution towards humanity
Suggestion: I think it would be interesting to know more about the people behind Stoicisim. For example: Zeno of Citium or Marcus Aurelius, why did they live the way they did, what events taught them those lessons
I'm also reading Marcus Aurelius's meditation in the moment :)
@@frog6054 Fine selection. I read The Meditations for the first time 20 years ago. POWERFUL stuff! Like it physically rewired my brain ... total major upgrade!
Other videos
The stoic listen to God
Genius teachings, quite reflective and fulfilling
I'm 50. Have absolutely nothing except water, food if I work hard and a little hut in the jungle. No money no future to speak about. No real reason really to go up in the morning. But I don't need anything more. And I'm happy 😊
Beautiful ❤️
Like young Chinese saying 'lying flat 'for cool life but is that not escapism
@@sandeepsuri7515 when I lived in Sweden, chasing money and all that, it didn't make me happy. Now I'm happy with little and that makes me feel rich. I don't really understand that chinese saying, but in my case it's hard work 16, sometimes 18 hours per day 7 days a week. But I did the cowardly thing. I ran away from that rat wheel and settled for a bamboo hut in the jungle of Thailand
One of the best channels on TH-cam. So much amazing wisdom for life. It has come at a time when I needed it most. Thank you so much!
Thank you. This is keeping me on the path when I slip.
There is no path, there's only the direction you face when you put one foot in front of the other. If you believe you are on a path then you are truly lost.
this channel is one of the examples of selfless service
To be honest, not entirely. This channel generates ad revenue, like any other monetized TH-cam channel. But these videos are created with good intention, if that's sufficient. ;)
Very powerful video, There is one struggle in here that I still have huge problem with and it's always been the fear of loss, ironically the fear itself caused me to lose the person I dearly cared about. Ever since then (2 years ago) it has been really hard to move on from that haunting past, the constant loneliness reminds me of my failure to be a better a man, a more competent person and failed in that department to that person's standards. It feels like a strike to heart when I remember locking eyes with her for minutes long and to think that she want's nothing to do with me now destroys any confidence I had before, demoralized. This video is very knowledgeable on the idea that these hurtful situations are inevitable to hide or run from. I hope one day I find enlightenment from all of it but it's extremely hard to let go of it, I dearly cared about this person like a family member and they isolated from me like I was a monster, it's a terrible thought to say the least, I continue to endure the pain it throws and have some faith that ill come out much stronger after the full acceptance of it. Amazing video!
I know it sounds easier said than done but do not sleep with the past. Obviously she isn't and although it hurts, nurture yourself not your ghosts. We all get lonesome but loneliness often attracts just what you don't want, need or desire rather than work through the pain of fully letting go of what wasn't for your highest good and the highest good of all. JMO at this moment 2 your comment.
Wishing you all the best man,
God 🙏 Bless
Goodnight
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How do you know this wasn't the best thing to happen to you? Just take a break from looking behind you and you may just see it was for the best!
As the video says, endure the feelings. I was dumped in November and while it took a long time for them feelings to subside, i have no feelings and i feel like im thriving. It'll get easier brother, trust me
@@sentientpower I have a hard time believing that, it shifted much within me and not in a good way, ever since the incident I've gotten more involved with alcohol and weed. That's not the worse of it, I lost most of motivation on everything I felt passionate about before, I barely feel a quarter of the man I used to be. I worked 2 jobs, 60+ hours a week and worked out 5-6 days a week (don't even have a job anymore) and it all came to a halt as soon I went back to go see her and got nothing but silence and isolation in return, she didn't even look at me and every time I wanted to go up to her she hid. You tell me how this is all good.
@@zombiekila187 you don't seem to be accepting of what is. Nothing outside of yourself can bring you the lasting happiness you desire. Bring your awareness to this present moment and become aware that you're aware. This is not easy of course but the first step is that you must be willing.
This TH-cam channel is one of the best channels on TH-cam! ✔️🦅🏆
Always love your posts; they are trenchant, insightful, and really reflect a deep dive into stoicism and other approaches to life.
That said, while it's an apt analogy, I truly did NOT expect to see the Star Wars prequels as the reference point. It was like, "Seneca, Epictetus...Anakin Skywalker? Izzat SENATOR PALPATINE?"
This isn't meant negatively, I assure you. It was just funny having your usual soothing voice exploring philosophy over tastefully chosen graphics and then HERE COMES GEORGE LUCAS like the Kool-Aid pitcher crashing through a wall.
I even did a video about Yoda in the past ;) th-cam.com/video/2QFIoQpbULc/w-d-xo.html - Anyways, thanks for the comment.
@@Einzelgänger Star Wars is a terrible analogy. There isn’t anything wrong with passion. Yes passion is quality of the Sith, you’re suppose to know how to balance these aspects within you, not demonize them. If you demonize and discard/push them away it’ll come as something worse. Please don’t use Star Wars to give spiritual and philosophical teachings. Star Wars is a sci-fi action film that is trying to give you its POV and perspective on morality
@@Einzelgänger most people throughout history who committed horrible atrocities, it wasn’t because they gave into the “dark side of the Force” it’s because what they thought they were doing was good and righteous
An excellent video to start the day, and end the day...very important in these dark times to override the discordance in our America. Thanks.
Cold Water immersion at 4 Degrees or so every morning for 3-5 minutes will solve most of these problems its the simplest solution i have found to peace n happiness.
Joe rogan's in the house
@@sirclarkmarz Lol Larry..try it not joking..but good one though..its not a bro science it actually works
Thank you so much , your video’s are food for thought and very up lifting for the spirit ……i am feeling grateful every time i listen to them.
The wisdom of non attatchment is the consolation prize of aging
Consolation prize? So in that case what would be first prize?
@@montag4516 getting there
My dearly departed grandpa cared less and less about possessions as he got older, he seems to have achieved what he wanted, and found satisfaction beyond my understanding. I'll never be half the man he was.
@@abelq8008 well said friend
Thankyou Einzelganger 👍❤️
I love the example of Anakin and Padme. That sequel is my most favorite..what happened to Anakin really shows what paranoia can do..
Thank you for life-saving concepts!
Thank you! Please continue to reach the masses with understanding, knowledge, and wisdom. We are never to old - so you can teach an older person to ask, seek, find, and apply the lessons we truly must learn and apply,; for more peaceful, loving, fulfilled life. Thank you, God Bless
Teach one teach one
Thank you Enzelganger💚
This might be controversial but some of this sound exactly like: oh you were born poor you shall die poor but in the mean time don't complain just endure, and if your loved ones also die around you just remember there are other humans like them that you can love... like wtf if this doesn't sound manipulation then i don't know what... also majority of philosophers from this era were usually rich so they had all this time, resources that majority didn't.
Therefore I think it's important to bear in mind how much of a relevance of this has on our life currently, sure they sound wise(especially in a video like this) but it has its faults
The Buddha taught this and more. Go and research what riches he gave up before Enlightenment and you may just change your opinion.
@@sentientpower yes i know about that but that's not the same as what's been said in this video
@@pkriszti01 you imply its not relevant to modern life?
Dank je wel voor een wederom prachtige boodschap.
I'm having trouble forming real relationship while maintaining a stoic view. I have less fear of loss of people and it made me see the world differently from the way people around me do. I do not feel any rush even tho i know death is walking closer to everyone around me and myself by the seconds. I always remember " the whole of it calls for tears" as the quote hits me deeply and is where i discovered stoicism. I'm not having trouble having real feelings towards people, it just feels insignificant. Every time I chat deeply with someone i always feel like I'm in the back of my head viewing my body having the conversation with that person. And while the emotions are there, It does not feel whole like a bit empty. Sometimes I even try to look more intense in dealing with troubles, as it may seem that the old me before stoicism would be very desperate if handed the same situations. Every time I talk about this to someone they look like they try to help me, some stop trying after a month some more. I'm not even sad about this it's just seem interesting. great content btw
A long friend of mine unfriended me just now after i wrote this comment. Its cool that I can use the internet as like a journal lmao
@@boyvidi9041 they need to go. Let them go. Them leaving is often to make space for a new relationship/opportunity etc
@@boyvidi9041 What!? Oh the joys of connecting your online identites to your real life (or was it an online-only friend?)!
I'm sorry bro! But that person either got it the wrong way, or wasn't a friend. But real friends that like you when you're honest and open, accept you despite being different from them, and care more about YOUR wellbeing than THEIR egos are hard to find. Most people are just very "normal" like the donkey in the video, and only tolerant towards other "normal" people.
My advice: keep on letting them go and be as self-sufficient and independent as possible. Keep on looking for people that are not "normal", but expect NOTHING. Maybe you'll find ONE such person in your lifetime if you're lucky. This system has decimated them/us a lot, and the few who exist probably have given up on this society and hide outside of it.
Good luck!
@@allesdurchprobiert It was a friend I met in highschool, currently we're on summer break transitioning in uni. She probably had much on her table already. Thanks for sparing your time writing the advice, its refreshing and brings clarity to my mind. Though i wasn't afraid of losing her it did kinda sucked. Now I view life more pessimistic not as the bad way but as a greater optimism. Also unrelated but i notice you have a german username if i'm not mistaken. Funny I'm currently learning the language myself as I'm planning to go there for uni. When you stop awhile and look around life do be making weird connections.
@@boyvidi9041 Yea, I understand it still sucked. Maybe you can talk to her some day and clarify everything. Maybe not to fix that relationship but to at least let her know it wasn't about her. Maybe she thought she was that special deep friend for you, and your comment meant she was just one of the many shallow unfulfilling pseudo friends, or something like that.
Oh and you got that optimism right! What I wanted to say was basically: don't be a bitter, negative total misanthrope. But just don't expect anything from anyone, while still keeping your eyes open for someone to connect with, even though they are rare. It's totally possible, just not very likely.
Yes I'm german. Where do you want to go to uni? Feel free to ask me anything or contact me via TH-cam. But I didn't go to Uni (a mistake maybe) so I don't know much about that.
Prepare for bureaucracy, being casually stared at for no reason (its a german thing, that happens to german-looking germans too, so don't take it personally or racist. They just don't think it's impolite or embarrassing. Especially outside bigger cities.), a somewhat complicated unrelaxed mentality, but also lots of good. Despite everything bad it's certainly one of the better countries I'd say. As for typical germans: well, they are like any people, just slightly worse 😜
For some funny things about germany/germans and Berlin in particular check out the channel "radical living".
PS: Where are you from?
I 'lost' $140,000 to the IRS which could have been legally avoided if I had been more astute. I was initially angry, wishing I had that money, to buy stuff with it. But, I have to say, the balance that these videos Einzelgänger give me, whether it is through promoting Buddhism, Stoicism, Jung, or even the analogies in Hollywood cinema, makes me think more, and makes me think that attachments and materialism are not important, whilst the greater good (helping to build a better society), are much more significant and empowering. On my deathbed, I won't remember that new car I bought or the boring holiday I went on, I will remember how that money helped others and kept society's institutions running. To everyone, don't be a slave. Please help others less fortunate.
I stay in my house and keep the riff raff out. I stay in truth and peace.
If you were happy with it, you wouldn't feel the need to advertise your loneliness as the very first word about yourself. Watch out for the truly awake.
@@Cadeaux_Man -but that is your opinion. Your truth. I have people I hang out with. I’m not a hermit. But most times I am by myself. Happy at that. BTW, believe what you want.
@@lonerhappy dismissal. Admission of lying. Another admission of a lie. A third lie in a row. A fourth lie for good measure, but don't worry. If something is so untrue, there's no need to defend it to a random comment on the internet. You will never escape.
@@Cadeaux_Man -well here you go Bucky f-off. How’s that for a lie. Get a life. You have some issues. Jealousy is one of them. Unless you have a PhD on this subject get lost. Now you see why I stay away from riff raff such as yourself. Much happier that way.
thank you eimzelganger. im enjoying my inner peace
The secret of life is to “die before you die” - and find that there is no death. - Eckhart Tolle
an upload from my favorite channel always sweetens my day✨❣️
My fear of death died the same day that death was introduced to my soul.
Being homeless for three years is one of the best things that ever happened to me. I have ban To the bottom and I survived once I accepted where I was and got comfortable then everything came back to me. And if I should lose it all again I don't think I would care.
But it's a long painful process. I saw death in my family and it's made me afraid of a slow agonizing experience. Fast death is more okay. Like you shoot yourself in the head. Still, it's hard to imagine not being.
Thank you for this time of meditation and reflection.
Point 4 is hard to swallow, especially as a father.
Yes, I think Epictetus' advice is incredibly harsh: almost inhuman. I guess it's a good reminder of reality, and a way to prepare for the worst.
* Update and clarification. My commentary is directed at this passage alone: "If you kiss your child, or your wife, say that you only kiss things which are human, and thus you will not be disturbed if either of them dies."
In my opinion (from a Western, contemporary point of view), this advice is "harsh"; mainly because it aims for us to "not be disturbed" if our child or wife dies. Should we aim to be undisturbed when we lose a loved one? Is this realistic? For most people, it's probably too much to ask. But this doesn't mean that Epictetus' advice isn't useful. It can help us prepare for the loss of a loved one, and soften the blow. To me, that's already a tremendous benefit.
- Einzel
@@Einzelgänger Yeah, but on the other hand, it is better for my child, if i am stable, as long as i am not cold and unloving. As a father you have to bear the hard truth and it would be worse for my child if i am weak, to emotional and overprotective.
Stoicism also says that we live in a deterministic universe, which has been disproved by quantum physics. Stoicism has some good points but anyone who follows it to the letter will soon find their lives joyless.
@@Einzelgänger It's inhuman to accept the reality of human nature; that human beings die? 🤔
@@insiderperson18279 Try to be undisturbed when your wife or child dies, and most people will see you as a psychopath.
Such great wisdom. Thank you.
Don’t trust the shepherd sheep , he is more to be feared than a maybe wolf , The Shepherd you as a roast
Every day, the kindly farmer brings food and water to the Turkeys
Thank you for this video, my friend.
With all due respect to stoicism, it seems fanatical what they preach, as I kept watching more and more over the years.
It's just like with fundamentalists, only has no religious or political label to alert us, "hey, take it with a grain of salt." People want to accept it so readily, just because of traditionally it's called "wisdom". But when we use our common sense, we find them exaggerating, unnatural, acting larger-than-life. The very essence of philosophy is to think for oneself.
It's okay to be human, to make mistakes, to experience, to be in uncertainty, to be ignorant but yet being stubborn and try to grow again and again.
Here stoicism is pursuing some fantasy, as if humans can be superheroes of rigid "reasoning". Despite how it preaches about being "natural", it ties us to act unnatural in life.
The proof is the person watching oneself how one tries to control everything one does, the very act of maintenance of being "natural"/"peaceful"/"rational" turns into heavy burden inside, bigger than what one felt before practicing such "wisdom". Either the person sees it from 3rd view and realize how one is trapped in their own indoctrination OR they simply go into denial and fabricate more justifications to not feel uncomfortable that one has been having a delusional mindset.
The way I've seen it over the months, this youtuber is creating content as a way not to only sell his own book but also to convince himself of his own defeatism being something not only "positive" but also "wise". I'm sorry for you, mate.
In the end of any spiritual/intellectual/emotional journey, you will stop quoting, listening, and reading this and that, which otherwise only leads to alienate yourself, and more follow your own heart and do what you want and like deep inside.
Many people start from here, following others, until eventually finding their own path and realizing all the past is not relevant anymore and start a renaissance within themselves, detached from preachings of others.
Very true. Especially in the business world or any other livelihood based around social interactions and dynamics, taking it too far can be detrimental. What you make up for in being unable to manipulated, you lose in relatability and likability. Stoic mentality when overdone can iron out the natural spontaneity of human reaction and emotion. It’s all balance
I've read a book about stoicism and somehow doing that made me feel better, let go of the past, and negative visualization is great, but I still can not let go of attachment to my husband, I want to spend as much time with him because otherwise I don't know how to deal with myself and I don't use the dichotomy of control a lot. Still, I feel better and am thankful to people who suggested it as a good idea.
not going to be sad if my wife or child dies?? You gotta be KIDDING ME. You can't have the highs without the lows. If your loved one dies and you're not sad, you never loved them.
He didn't say that and that's not what it means. Non attachment doesn't mean not caring. It's about not being caught up in feelings so that they control you.
@@pheonix373 that was still a bit weird..
pheonix373 stoicism is great for dealing with every day inconveniences. but if you don’t “feel” anything from the death of a wife and/or child. you did not love them. and if stoicism keeps you from feeling loves full depths it is an inadequate ideology. life is suffering no matter what. to make life worth living, instead of numbing your emotions, you have to balance them negative with the positive. love deeply. that makes the suffering worth while.
I lost a brother before 2021 started. Not too long ago, a cousin died from catching the covid virus, then his wife died the same way after just a month. Then one more relative, an uncle recently passed away of covid. Am I sad, you may ask. Yes, but I am not attached to that emotion (sadness).
It simply about accepting the feeling (anger, sadness, fear or happiness) instead of resisting it and keep moving forward :)
This channel is underrated.