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You are spreading a lot of misinformation. What you describe as an empath, that you know what other people feel and think, and always scan around you, that you had a disturbed childhood and always feel unsafe. That is cognitive empathy. You are describing a narcisistic person not an empath. What you describe in this video It's the definition of a narcissist and how one is created.
I am sixty now and still can't really shut off that empathic field of being able to 'read' people so well. It got so tiring that these days I just stay away from people as much as I can. But I also have to admit that it took me years to realise that not everyone walks around being able to do that.
Someone told me (and then I read it in a book - which means the universe REALLY wanted me to get the message): you can‘t stop to feel the energies, so don‘t try to avoid it or build walls. But you can recognize the difference between your energy and the energy from someone else. If you feel, it‘s not yours, don‘t try to build walls or block it out - let the energy flow through you without resistance. I am practicing to say to myself: thank you for feeling that and visualize to give the energy back to someone to whom it belongs (maybe the ancestors of the other person or my guiding team, or my oversoul, whatever). I hope my experiences open a new perspective for you and that you find the best way to handle it without the need to stay away from people. Sorry also for any mistakes I’ve maybe made - English isn’t my first language. All the best to you, my friend.
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@@anitapaul230 Liebe Anita, meine Antwort an dich wurde leider nicht gespeichert. Nochmal in Kürze: ich empfehle die Arbeit / Kontaktaufnahme mit inneren Anteilen, die dich offenbar vor etwas schützen wollen. Alles Liebe!
I have always been able to feel energy even as a young child. I spend most of my time alone because it can be exhausting being around all the emotional drama most people create in their lives!!!!!
@@jfhow - can't get people to understand how exhausting this is for me. Thoughts and feelings have context built in so no need to say much. When people find me/my thoughts in their minds, they freak out. It's normal for me.
@@EricCosmicWhat do you mean, can you explain, please? I often feel better with sunglasses on because I think everyone reads my mind through my eyes like I do with them.
ever since i got healthy boundaries there are those who don't like it but i no longer care. i found self love and self worth aling with my boundaries. so freeing
Being an empath is not only from a wound. Being empathetic is a personality trait. There are more reasons you can have higher levels of empathy besides a chaotic childhood.
Sometimes it's also from people being empathic with you... Empath though is different because of the lack of self and connecting to others people due to lack of self. I teach my animals gentleness by being gentle with them. It's sweet to see them go from aggressive to calm relaxed and loving
@@alllifematters empaths don’t inherently lack a sense of self. That’s a false idea spread by people who don’t understand psychology. There’s no correlation between empathy and how much of a sense of self you have. There may be correlations between amounts of trauma and sense of self, but empathy is unrelated. Hypervigilance doesn’t equal empath which doesn’t equal a lack of self.
I agree! I am an empath, as is my mother. My parents are the most loving caring people I know. I had a wonderful childhood, no trauma, no abandonment issues, no wound. There are a lot of empaths on my mother’s side, I never knew that there was a name for it until I learned about empaths about 12 years ago. I have always wanted to fix and heal other people, even as a child everyone came to me with their problems. My mother has always been the same way. I don’t think she had a chaotic childhood either. I’ve never heard anyone say that being an empath was due to this.
Being an empath and not attracting narcissist is very easy. Have strick boundaries for yourseve and defend them by all means. Even if it means you have to akt out of charakter. Some will say this is an ashole attitude but that is exactly what keeps narcissist away from you.
I’m not an empath anymore. I set boundaries and isolate BUT I am an angry individual and I feel like everyone who brushes up against me (so to speak) is trying to hurt me, doesn’t like me or is jealous of me and what’s mine. I just prefer to be alone. I am SICK of life and SICK of people.
Thank you!!!! When I was little Dad said, "don't even try to stand up to your mom, you will never win" Hence, I had two bad marriages with narcissists. This is awesome, I'm joining the High Vibe Tribe! I'm 71 yrs. old and determined to stop this. Thank you Aaron.
71 years strong! 71 years alive! You are a Warrior, and YOUR time is Now. You are a gift to the world, and you have purpose.... I'm sooo excited for your coming days 🔥💯💞
Be one with the Flow and fly freely: Empaths attract narcissists and struggle with setting boundaries, but by embodying their own energy and learning to feel safe in their own bodies, they can break free from this pattern and find empowerment.
I work as a cashier in a fantastic company that's very busy ! I feel people's energy and even can pick up on their thoughts ! What I've learned is that no matter who it is in the line, or what age . Everyone could use healing each and every day I keep selenite on me to cleanse and heal . I do notice that when I use selenite the entire atmosphere is calmer and people are more pleasant than when I don't carry it with me .
Something that really helped me on my journey to self-actualization/self-acceptance (ascension) was to really understand “I don’t owe people anything”. I don’t owe them a call, visit, help, an answer, a relationship etc. I started looking at everything, every relationship that I was lording over me and I told myself “I don’t owe them anything”, it frees you from the expectations put on you by others. ( This is for especially great empaths who tent to over extend themselves and live confined to a life others think they should live).
Just came across your channel and subscribed. I am now 67 and turning away from those (including my kids and grandkids) who have been draining my energy and taking my time and money away from myself. I have been this way since a kid caring about others and feeling their energy and thoughts at times. It is a bit hard pulling away after being like this for so long sometimes it is hard for me to even face them. 2024 has got to be the time to wake up and do me. Thank you for this information.
I am an empath and it has taken me a few years to get to the point that idgaf what anyone thinks of me and I've been single and live alone and love it!! I didn't even really know what an empath was until around 2019, I cut the users out of my life and the drama disappeared! I have treasured choosing to be alone and learn what I've learned in this time to myself! Thank you for teaching people these things! I'm glad I finally have!
I always know when people are not good people. It's horrible when I'm in a crowd and can't pinpoint the person. The worse the person, the worse my stomach gets upset. I've never been wrong. Some people think I'm crazy, some think I'm just a b*tch.
@@karmadog4565 I was relating to the struggle. I understand it and I don't share advice when it isn't requested. Others are on their own path. Are you proud of your comment? Was it life giving, or life denying? What was your intention, towards me? Because it comes across as shaming.
I am a 67 year old empath and the last few years I have learned to be free, to be in my own frame and just let other people be who they are! I am more peaceful than I have ever been!! I have let a lot of people go and it's fine! I am safer for it!! I love your energy!!!
I hope you can read this Aaron. My name is Rachel. I suffer from dealing with everyone’s task. I am an empath. I never knew how to be myself. I wish I could go to one of your live events. This is the first time I’ve ever seen your video and I needed this right now more than you’d ever know you saved my life thank you thank you❤
Yeah, that's right. And we are the ones primarily overseen and underrated. We are the ones called the devil because as soon as we learn to set our boundaries by speaking our truth, everyone else turns away. But that only shows those people did not belong next to us. Even if those people are your family, kids, or or or. We are loners, invisible and invincible. The dark superhero. The one who walks through hell untouched.
My in-laws don't understand and dislike me. They used to like me because I was a people pleaser and had significant trauma from my childhood. The work I've done for myself has led me to be okay with that. I'm 64 and am finding my peace and not taking on others' energy. My mother passed away a year ago. Her second marriage after my father died is a narcissist. She died a very emotionally horrific death. I am finding my peace. I embrace Mother Earth and work in our yard as well as spending time alone. I'm finding peace because I don't take on others' energy.
My only regret is that nobody explained us as child the world will not be the same at all when we will be more old, I had grew up in 80 s .. the world is so different ... it's normal so many people are lost and don't understand what happen energetically 😅 I'm part of them . We are lucky have this kind of video 🙏 thanks
I resonate with this completely.. had to do a lot of self reflection and work the last few years from being in so many of these connections, what I believe to be soul contracts with the same type of people in order to heal these people pleasing wounds that were within me, not truly a reflection of my core self but were developed as defense mechanisms to survive in the environment I lived in as a child. I am still in this same environment today, and I know I can never fully heal this part of me until I move on from this environment I was repetitively traumatized in, which will soon take place. Thank you for the message it serves as great confirmation I am on the right track in my journey. much love
Thank you Aaron for the video. Alfred Adler was actually an Austrian (like Sigmund Freud), not Australian psychologist. I know, the two countries get confused all the time but because we in Austria have not many famous history people here I just wanted to make that clear that this one was from Austria 😂.
You in Austria have at least one the most famous person in the world (he was doing paintings but then changed his life path)...☠️ Btw, only native engish speakers always get confused about Austria and Australia. I am Russian, we never mixed these countries up. Maybe because for us the prononciation of the countries sounds very different. And in English it's same sound .
My "tuning to others" is a result of being in a military family during childhood. I had to move every 2-3 years. In order to fit in to a new community/school, I had to learn how I could seamlessly move in and out of these new communities. Now I am finally learning that I have my own frame, my own energy that I need to keep to myself. I am learning to nurture my own energy and not tuning to others anymore. Will I continue to "read the room" oh yes! Now I know that I do not have to match that energy. I can use my own energy and remain in my frame. Thank you so much for all of your help, Aaron!!!
I feel energy of people, animals and the earth. I go to church regardless of whether I am agreed with or liked. The church has almost a hundred people loving God all at the same time. I get lost and energized by their celebration. Those people that use my energy teaches me how to be patient.
Spot on, I am in the process of becoming in my frame, and in placing in those boundaries, it took me a while to get it, years even but i am stronger now, and will no longer allow myself to become someones meal. Thanks for sharing
Good Riseing, its none of our business what other think of us. My energy irritates there demons.Were not responsible for anyone's happiness the only approval you need is yours.
I am empath ...detached empath I give unconditional love , when my heart is warm and it overflows with joy i share it with others yes boundaries are important . I enjoy your content specially your meditations thank you so much Aaron for all u do for humanity
I had been suffering from this for years and I didn't know what's happening inside my body but watching your videos have changed my life, thank you a lot ❤️
Training to get me stronger and self stronger is exactly what my way of things are now mountain bike riding, scuba is my self worth and control back in my life. Never again will I be manipulated or taken advantage of!
I'm in the High Vibe Tribe!! Thank you so much for all you workshops, videos and meditations.. I've really transformed myself with your advice and help!!❤❤❤
Whoa! This describes me (empath) and my husband (narcissist). I now know why I’m super tuned into everything he says and does. It’s the same way I was with my father when he started drinking, just waiting for the monster to come out. I made myself responsible for keeping my mother and siblings safe from him, exactly the way I now try to keep my children safe from their narcissistic father. Ugh, it’s exhausting always being the one to stand in the gap.
The stillface baby was one of the most transformative videos I’ve ever scene. My mom is borderline personality with narcissistic tendencies - that video had a huge impact on me
They need a job and that’s why people put up with it. We need to change the methods of work ethics. I had a situation where my boss started to correct me in front of the customer. I then told her on the side how dare you humiliate me in front of the customer. You need to address it in private.I said to her I will not allow you to disgrace me. I also said that I know you have done this to others. I also said this also affect my moral . I know how to do my job. Everyone has their own approach on to do things. I got tired that it was not to her standard .If this happens again I am going to quit.These people in management don’t know shit and how to do their job because they have a freaking title that doesn’t entitles them to treat a person the way they want.We need to start analyzing everything about life and changing direction and how people are being treated. We all need to learn to address it right away and it’s not acceptable.Learn to set boundaries and speak our truth . We are not robots we are all different.
I have the same exact issues/journey you mentioned with guilty, people pleasing, then ADD diagnosis, guilt, depression, empathic & yet a professor of wellness ironically. So easy to help others but not ourselves. Thanks for all this great info!! 🙏🏼
Letting go of codependency and knowing who you are and who you want to become enough to let others feel their own tension. Resist the urge to help somebody over your own needs! Thank you for the video:)
OMG! OMG! YES! I jut posted the exact same on my fb. I often reference the empath and the narcissist exactly the same way as you have just done. They are the exact same frequency but at the polar opposite of that frequency and so are magnetically attracted to each other. This is how we learn! Amazing confirmation for me - thank you! If all the empaths healed themselves there would be no space for the narcissist and then they in turn would also heal!
That’s partly true and possibly in some ideal situation. Usually abused people need external help in pulling out of the situation because of their frame of mind and other manipulations a narcissist may have put on place, like financially depleting the person is a common one. Other than that it’s like asking a puppy dog to not be kicked around
I am an empath and codependent as was my mother. I am a victim of child abuse and narcissistic abuse. I have worked for people who have yelled, screamed, cussed at me, threatened me. I have always said boundaries, boundaries, boundaries but was told I have to take it. That probably comes from my childhood. I have carried alof guilt and have felt not good enough. I am 61 and I am still struggling to find out who i am and to feel worthy. I am so glad i have found you Aaron! ❤
I've known the concept of frames from physics for a veeery long time. And have been using them for maybe even longer. This dude right here explained to me how to use them to impact my focus area with a freaking candle in UNDER A MINUTE. And I'm not even talking about the rest of the video. Now this guy here is on a completely different pathway in life than I am, yet he managed to reach such a distance to pass this over. Happy life to you, mister Doughty, happy life to you.
Well done Aaron, it’s really awesome to see your growth over time. I agree with your thoughts and I endeavour to keep going on my personal growth out of caring what others think of me as a trauma response.
The timing of seeing this for me is absolutely impeccable. I’m so thankful I’m learning these lessons finally. I’m super grateful and proud of myself for being on track. I finally chose me. ❤
Thank you for the video!!! Everything that you said in this video is totally me. Every relationship I’ve been in has been with a narcissist. I for sure have an abandonment would.
You expressed my lifetime experience word for word. I fully understand boundaries now, but it took the last four years after realising there was nothing wrong with me to implement them through self worth minus the guilt. Thank you for your online support and the candle exercise 🙏
I have always felt energy so I spend 98% of my time alone! A lot of my relationships are over the phone! I feel so deeply that other people’s drama affects me so deeply!! I can’t even have other people in my house! It has great benefits but I have to protect myself physically!
Thank you for this video ! It's really helping me setting boundaries with my family in law! I remember you once said : don't be afraid to create frictions to set boundaries ! I'm doing it now, even if people could think I'm the black sheep or something.. Thanks again
Thank you for making this video. You completely described how I was and felt when I was younger. Trouble setting boundaries, and acting a certain way to ‘please’ others was something all too common. During my whole schooling and upbringing I got so far away from my true self that I didn’t care about anything and developed many self destructive habits. Thank you for showing us that there are many others who went through the same experience and that we can all heal and be our best self!
The first time I met you, I was looking for the treatment of the wound of abandonment in TH-cam search, and this sentence remained in my mind: "This is not my fault!" This one sentence took a lot of weight off my shoulders. Thank you Aaron!❤
This was great insight & information. I am working on not attracting narcissists & trying to understand myself as to what I need to change about myself. Thank you!
Very good talk. Your the only person I've listened to that talks very fast that I can easily understand. Few people have the gift of talking fast and still have good diction and easy to listen too.
I’m in the high vibe tribe! Doing the somatic breathing bought stuff up I thought I had already dealt with. I had a second session last month and feel like together, they wiped out the parts that pushed me out. I’m in my body now and life is so much better than it’s ever been! Thank you!!
I really just want to find people to enjoy life that can be kind and fun and have their own strength, but strength of character, not strength to dominate others. I want fun, charismatic friends that have kindness and self awareness so we can enjoy life together and really see how good life can be when you’re supported by others and take responsibility for your own healing.
Hey! have you joined the High Vibe Tribe yet? its my new free community! I go live and do free workshops and meditations in there, join here! aarondoughty.com/highvibetribe
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Love & Appreciation to you Aaron!
I am in the highvibetribe🎉
You are spreading a lot of misinformation. What you describe as an empath, that you know what other people feel and think, and always scan around you, that you had a disturbed childhood and always feel unsafe. That is cognitive empathy. You are describing a narcisistic person not an empath. What you describe in this video It's the definition of a narcissist and how one is created.
Yes I am and ❤ it!!!! Thank you SO MUCH for creating this Free, AWESOME community of like minded people.
I am sixty now and still can't really shut off that empathic field of being able to 'read' people so well. It got so tiring that these days I just stay away from people as much as I can. But I also have to admit that it took me years to realise that not everyone walks around being able to do that.
Someone told me (and then I read it in a book - which means the universe REALLY wanted me to get the message): you can‘t stop to feel the energies, so don‘t try to avoid it or build walls. But you can recognize the difference between your energy and the energy from someone else. If you feel, it‘s not yours, don‘t try to build walls or block it out - let the energy flow through you without resistance. I am practicing to say to myself: thank you for feeling that and visualize to give the energy back to someone to whom it belongs (maybe the ancestors of the other person or my guiding team, or my oversoul, whatever). I hope my experiences open a new perspective for you and that you find the best way to handle it without the need to stay away from people. Sorry also for any mistakes I’ve maybe made - English isn’t my first language. All the best to you, my friend.
@@ZarteSeeleDasselbe sagte mir vor vielen Jahren ein Siddhi Arzt in Indien. ❤ Meine Mauern aus der Kindheit sind trotzdem noch da..
@@anitapaul230 Liebe Anita, hast du dich schon auf die Suche nach deinen schützenden Anteilen in dir begeben, die diese Mauern nicht fallen lassen wollen? In meiner Erfahrung können tief sitzende Überzeugungen und Glaubenssätze erst effektiv losgelassen werden, wenn der ursprüngliche Schmerz / der Kernglaubenssatz gefunden und ins Bewusstsein gebracht wurde. Ich habe schon viele Durchbrüche bei meinen Klient*innen erlebt, sobald sie den Teil in sich gefunden und angesprochen haben, der lange Zeit verdrängt oder verschüttet war aufgrund vergangener Traumata. 💚
Wenn du dich zu dem Thema austauschen möchtest, melde dich gern.
@@anitapaul230 Liebe Anita, meine Antwort an dich wurde leider nicht gespeichert. Nochmal in Kürze: ich empfehle die Arbeit / Kontaktaufnahme mit inneren Anteilen, die dich offenbar vor etwas schützen wollen. Alles Liebe!
I thought everyone was like this.
My past doesn't define me. Thats my boundary
So good🫶
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Whoa!😮🤯 Brilliant! 👏🏼🫶🏼🙌🏼✨🦋
Brilliant
Well, actually... yes, it does. We are nothing more than the current output of our processed experiences.
I have always been able to feel energy even as a young child. I spend most of my time alone because it can be exhausting being around all the emotional drama most people create in their lives!!!!!
Plus the feeling of having to converse all the time
@@jfhow - can't get people to understand how exhausting this is for me. Thoughts and feelings have context built in so no need to say much. When people find me/my thoughts in their minds, they freak out. It's normal for me.
I'm right with you!💜
@@EricCosmicWhat do you mean, can you explain, please? I often feel better with sunglasses on because I think everyone reads my mind through my eyes like I do with them.
It’s crazy when u become aware of it and ur watching yourself subconsciously still doing it
Yep. And it's not been easy to stop, but being aware is definitely the first step.
Much Love 🙏🏻💕
💯. Identifying the pattern is awareness. Choosing not to repeat the cycle is growth 🫶🏼
Do journal
"Be yourself. Everyone else is taken." Anon
Not anonymous. That’s Oscar Wilde.
ever since i got healthy boundaries there are those who don't like it but i no longer care. i found self love and self worth aling with my boundaries. so freeing
Have you been called a narc, since you set boundaries...?
Being an empath is not only from a wound. Being empathetic is a personality trait. There are more reasons you can have higher levels of empathy besides a chaotic childhood.
Sometimes it's also from people being empathic with you... Empath though is different because of the lack of self and connecting to others people due to lack of self.
I teach my animals gentleness by being gentle with them. It's sweet to see them go from aggressive to calm relaxed and loving
@@alllifematters empaths don’t inherently lack a sense of self. That’s a false idea spread by people who don’t understand psychology. There’s no correlation between empathy and how much of a sense of self you have. There may be correlations between amounts of trauma and sense of self, but empathy is unrelated. Hypervigilance doesn’t equal empath which doesn’t equal a lack of self.
I agree! I am an empath, as is my mother. My parents are the most loving caring people I know. I had a wonderful childhood, no trauma, no abandonment issues, no wound. There are a lot of empaths on my mother’s side, I never knew that there was a name for it until I learned about empaths about 12 years ago. I have always wanted to fix and heal other people, even as a child everyone came to me with their problems. My mother has always been the same way. I don’t think she had a chaotic childhood either. I’ve never heard anyone say that being an empath was due to this.
Being an empath and not attracting narcissist is very easy. Have strick boundaries for yourseve and defend them by all means. Even if it means you have to akt out of charakter. Some will say this is an ashole attitude but that is exactly what keeps narcissist away from you.
Some narcissists are hard to spot!
I’m not an empath anymore. I set boundaries and isolate BUT I am an angry individual and I feel like everyone who brushes up against me (so to speak) is trying to hurt me, doesn’t like me or is jealous of me and what’s mine. I just prefer to be alone. I am SICK of life and SICK of people.
Thank you!!!! When I was little Dad said, "don't even try to stand up to your mom, you will never win" Hence, I had two bad marriages with narcissists. This is awesome, I'm joining the High Vibe Tribe! I'm 71 yrs. old and determined to stop this. Thank you Aaron.
71 years strong!
71 years alive!
You are a Warrior, and YOUR time is Now. You are a gift to the world, and you have purpose.... I'm sooo excited for your coming days 🔥💯💞
My dad told me the same thing growing up… don’t give up friend!
YES, I'm 74, and doing the same,...!
Inspiring
My dad was and still is afraid of my mom 😢
Be one with the Flow and fly freely: Empaths attract narcissists and struggle with setting boundaries, but by embodying their own energy and learning to feel safe in their own bodies, they can break free from this pattern and find empowerment.
Same here 🙏
Empath here when you do set boundaries it's not a fix at all. The feelings come back you learn to kind of deflect energy but it does take work
@@chrisrosado1507 yess hard work!!
I work as a cashier in a fantastic company that's very busy ! I feel people's energy and even can pick up on their thoughts ! What I've learned is that no matter who it is in the line, or what age . Everyone could use healing each and every day I keep selenite on me to cleanse and heal . I do notice that when I use selenite the entire atmosphere is calmer and people are more pleasant than when I don't carry it with me .
This video is gold! That book the Courage to be Disliked was a game changer for me last year! Working on being more disliked right now ❤
cool I will order the book.
Amazing ❤❤❤
😁🤣😆 HaHa… me too. Being Disliked is the new good 👍🏻
Me too ✋️ 😂😂
Me three 🔥🙌😹
Something that really helped me on my journey to self-actualization/self-acceptance (ascension) was to really understand “I don’t owe people anything”. I don’t owe them a call, visit, help, an answer, a relationship etc. I started looking at everything, every relationship that I was lording over me and I told myself “I don’t owe them anything”, it frees you from the expectations put on you by others.
( This is for especially great empaths who tent to over extend themselves and live confined to a life others think they should live).
Like I’m not obligated to do any of that 😮
Just came across your channel and subscribed. I am now 67 and turning away from those (including my kids and grandkids) who have been draining my energy and taking my time and money away from myself. I have been this way since a kid caring about others and feeling their energy and thoughts at times. It is a bit hard pulling away after being like this for so long sometimes it is hard for me to even face them. 2024 has got to be the time to wake up and do me. Thank you for this information.
My old boss made me cry on several occasions. So many red flags I ignored in hindsight. So glad I left and healed
Same happened to me. Quit before he could fire me. There was no way i was giving him that power
I am an empath and it has taken me a few years to get to the point that idgaf what anyone thinks of me and I've been single and live alone and love it!! I didn't even really know what an empath was until around 2019, I cut the users out of my life and the drama disappeared! I have treasured choosing to be alone and learn what I've learned in this time to myself! Thank you for teaching people these things! I'm glad I finally have!
I always know when people are not good people. It's horrible when I'm in a crowd and can't pinpoint the person. The worse the person, the worse my stomach gets upset. I've never been wrong. Some people think I'm crazy, some think I'm just a b*tch.
I’ve always been the one who wants to fix everyone!
Same
Until you realize that you are worthy and enough without doing that. 💥
I have all of these answers why is no one interested 😅😭 it sucks
@@PaigeSquaredare you proud of your comment Paige?
@@karmadog4565 I was relating to the struggle. I understand it and I don't share advice when it isn't requested. Others are on their own path.
Are you proud of your comment? Was it life giving, or life denying? What was your intention, towards me? Because it comes across as shaming.
I am a 67 year old empath and the last few years I have learned to be free, to be in my own frame and just let other people be who they are! I am more peaceful than I have ever been!! I have let a lot of people go and it's fine! I am safer for it!! I love your energy!!!
I hope you can read this Aaron. My name is Rachel. I suffer from dealing with everyone’s task. I am an empath. I never knew how to be myself. I wish I could go to one of your live events. This is the first time I’ve ever seen your video and I needed this right now more than you’d ever know you saved my life thank you thank you❤
Yeah, that's right. And we are the ones primarily overseen and underrated. We are the ones called the devil because as soon as we learn to set our boundaries by speaking our truth, everyone else turns away. But that only shows those people did not belong next to us. Even if those people are your family, kids, or or or. We are loners, invisible and invincible. The dark superhero. The one who walks through hell untouched.
My in-laws don't understand and dislike me. They used to like me because I was a people pleaser and had significant trauma from my childhood. The work I've done for myself has led me to be okay with that. I'm 64 and am finding my peace and not taking on others' energy. My mother passed away a year ago. Her second marriage after my father died is a narcissist. She died a very emotionally horrific death. I am finding my peace. I embrace Mother Earth and work in our yard as well as spending time alone. I'm finding peace because I don't take on others' energy.
My only regret is that nobody explained us as child the world will not be the same at all when we will be more old, I had grew up in 80 s .. the world is so different ... it's normal so many people are lost and don't understand what happen energetically 😅 I'm part of them . We are lucky have this kind of video 🙏 thanks
it's like that for every generation..
I mite say, that's when you feel like you hit the hard road...
wanna go home..
but where's home? Inside of us?
I resonate with this completely.. had to do a lot of self reflection and work the last few years from being in so many of these connections, what I believe to be soul contracts with the same type of people in order to heal these people pleasing wounds that were within me, not truly a reflection of my core self but were developed as defense mechanisms to survive in the environment I lived in as a child. I am still in this same environment today, and I know I can never fully heal this part of me until I move on from this environment I was repetitively traumatized in, which will soon take place. Thank you for the message it serves as great confirmation I am on the right track in my journey. much love
Reminds me of what Mrs. Roosevelt said, “ What you think of me is none of my business.” This thinking keeps us in our own frame.
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This is very wise. Thank you for sharing
Thank you Aaron for the video. Alfred Adler was actually an Austrian (like Sigmund Freud), not Australian psychologist. I know, the two countries get confused all the time but because we in Austria have not many famous history people here I just wanted to make that clear that this one was from Austria 😂.
You in Austria have at least one the most famous person in the world (he was doing paintings but then changed his life path)...☠️ Btw, only native engish speakers always get confused about Austria and Australia. I am Russian, we never mixed these countries up. Maybe because for us the prononciation of the countries sounds very different. And in English it's same sound .
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Today I will encounter selfish people,angry people, and sad people and that’s okay.
My "tuning to others" is a result of being in a military family during childhood. I had to move every 2-3 years. In order to fit in to a new community/school, I had to learn how I could seamlessly move in and out of these new communities. Now I am finally learning that I have my own frame, my own energy that I need to keep to myself. I am learning to nurture my own energy and not tuning to others anymore. Will I continue to "read the room" oh yes! Now I know that I do not have to match that energy. I can use my own energy and remain in my frame. Thank you so much for all of your help, Aaron!!!
The Beautiful Beings of Gaia would like to thank Aaron Doughty for his service. We are forever grateful.
I feel energy of people, animals and the earth. I go to church regardless of whether I am agreed with or liked. The church has almost a hundred people loving God all at the same time. I get lost and energized by their celebration. Those people that use my energy teaches me how to be patient.
Blessing be to Aaron for his calling in life to teach others.
Many blessings
I wrote that in my book, I am an Empath and have narcissists in my family. Narcissists love empaths.
You are spot on for me...I tested into an Empath and Infj
Spot on, I am in the process of becoming in my frame, and in placing in those boundaries, it took me a while to get it, years even but i am stronger now, and will no longer allow myself to become someones meal.
Thanks for sharing
Good Riseing, its none of our business what other think of us. My energy irritates there demons.Were not responsible for anyone's happiness the only approval you need is yours.
Absolutely Aaron, setting boundaries is key, Amen! 💚
I am empath ...detached empath I give unconditional love , when my heart is warm and it overflows with joy i share it with others yes boundaries are important . I enjoy your content specially your meditations thank you so much Aaron for all u do for humanity
I had been suffering from this for years and I didn't know what's happening inside my body but watching your videos have changed my life, thank you a lot ❤️
Me too!!🎉
This showed up right when I needed it.
Love you Aaron.
Training to get me stronger and self stronger is exactly what my way of things are now mountain bike riding, scuba is my self worth and control back in my life. Never again will I be manipulated or taken advantage of!
I'm in the High Vibe Tribe!! Thank you so much for all you workshops, videos and meditations.. I've really transformed myself with your advice and help!!❤❤❤
Whoa! This describes me (empath) and my husband (narcissist). I now know why I’m super tuned into everything he says and does. It’s the same way I was with my father when he started drinking, just waiting for the monster to come out. I made myself responsible for keeping my mother and siblings safe from him, exactly the way I now try to keep my children safe from their narcissistic father. Ugh, it’s exhausting always being the one to stand in the gap.
The stillface baby was one of the most transformative videos I’ve ever scene. My mom is borderline personality with narcissistic tendencies - that video had a huge impact on me
They need a job and that’s why people put up with it. We need to change the methods of work ethics. I had a situation where my boss started
to correct me in front of the customer. I then told her on the side how dare you humiliate me in front of the customer. You need to address it in private.I said to her I will not allow you to disgrace me. I also said that I know you have done this to others. I also said this also affect my moral . I know how to do my job. Everyone has their own approach on to do things. I got tired that it was not to her standard .If this happens again I am going to quit.These people in management don’t know shit and how to do their job because they have a freaking title that doesn’t entitles them to treat a person the way they want.We need to start analyzing everything about life and changing direction and how people are being treated. We all need to learn to address it right away and it’s not acceptable.Learn to set boundaries and speak our truth . We are not robots we are all different.
meditate, calmness
i applaud your steps, being angry with him anymore only causes you harm, make most of present
I have the same exact issues/journey you mentioned with guilty, people pleasing, then ADD diagnosis, guilt, depression, empathic & yet a professor of wellness ironically. So easy to help others but not ourselves. Thanks for all this great info!! 🙏🏼
Letting go of codependency and knowing who you are and who you want to become enough to let others feel their own tension. Resist the urge to help somebody over your own needs!
Thank you for the video:)
OMG! OMG! YES! I jut posted the exact same on my fb. I often reference the empath and the narcissist exactly the same way as you have just done. They are the exact same frequency but at the polar opposite of that frequency and so are magnetically attracted to each other. This is how we learn! Amazing confirmation for me - thank you!
If all the empaths healed themselves there would be no space for the narcissist and then they in turn would also heal!
That’s partly true and possibly in some ideal situation. Usually abused people need external help in pulling out of the situation because of their frame of mind and other manipulations a narcissist may have put on place, like financially depleting the person is a common one. Other than that it’s like asking a puppy dog to not be kicked around
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear as an empath. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Great reminder!
I’m in the high vibe tribe !!!
Grateful for you brother ⚡️⚡️⚡️
Thank you for being you
When someone says something and it makes me have a come to Jesus moment ❤ 😊❤🎉🎉🎉 thank you ☺️
I am an empath and codependent as was my mother. I am a victim of child abuse and narcissistic abuse. I have worked for people who have yelled, screamed, cussed at me, threatened me. I have always said boundaries, boundaries, boundaries but was told I have to take it. That probably comes from my childhood. I have carried alof guilt and have felt not good enough. I am 61 and I am still struggling to find out who i am and to feel worthy. I am so glad i have found you Aaron! ❤
I’m in the High Vibe Tribe!
Love it Brother!
I've known the concept of frames from physics for a veeery long time.
And have been using them for maybe even longer.
This dude right here explained to me how to use them to impact my focus area with a freaking candle in UNDER A MINUTE.
And I'm not even talking about the rest of the video.
Now this guy here is on a completely different pathway in life than I am, yet he managed to reach such a distance to pass this over.
Happy life to you, mister Doughty, happy life to you.
Me for sure ❤ that’s why I can feel on a deeper level
I’m in the high vibe tribe. I love the group energy. I love your content, Aaron. 🙏🏻💖🐉
Well done Aaron, it’s really awesome to see your growth over time. I agree with your thoughts and I endeavour to keep going on my personal growth out of caring what others think of me as a trauma response.
I love this episode! People really need this right now!
You are right about the childhood.
What I feel so sad about is that I very rarely feel someone good
✨ I’m in The high vibe tribe✨
Love your thinking about “labels” (ADHD, etc…) they lock you in a frame.
Love the long hair. It's grown alot
This video is PURE GOLD!! I needed to hear this.. thank you Aaron , I’m aware now. ❤
I am in the High Vibe Tribe. Thank you for the wonderful video. I am an Empath and see some of the things you are stating in video within me.
I’m in the high vibe tribe 🤩 great video
Im in the hivibe tribe...a much needed video. I look forward to the training ❤
The timing of seeing this for me is absolutely impeccable. I’m so thankful I’m learning these lessons finally. I’m super grateful and proud of myself for being on track. I finally chose me. ❤
I'm in the High Vibe Tribe Aaron. Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏼🥹
Thank you for the video!!! Everything that you said in this video is totally me. Every relationship I’ve been in has been with a narcissist. I for sure have an abandonment would.
I’m an empath but isn’t it being narcissistic if you don’t care what other people think of you?
No, it's not.
@@aCarolinaGal can you elaborate?
I'm in the High Vibe Tribe...love the aha moments here! Very insightful.
I’m in the high vibe tribe. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us.
I'm in the High Vibe Tribe ❤ Loved this message. Thank you.
Aaron, I am thankful that I found your channel accidentally last year. You are better than some therapists. Much love💗
You expressed my lifetime experience word for word. I fully understand boundaries now, but it took the last four years after realising there was nothing wrong with me to implement them through self worth minus the guilt. Thank you for your online support and the candle exercise 🙏
I have always felt energy so I spend 98% of my time alone! A lot of my relationships are over the phone! I feel so deeply that other people’s drama affects me so deeply!! I can’t even have other people in my house!
It has great benefits but I have to protect myself physically!
That's me all day! I kinda hate it. It's overwhelming! You are right I grew up in such household.
I’m in the high vibe tribe. Thank you for sharing ❤
I'm in the High Vibe Tribe. Loving it! ❤
Thank you for this video ! It's really helping me setting boundaries with my family in law! I remember you once said : don't be afraid to create frictions to set boundaries ! I'm doing it now, even if people could think I'm the black sheep or something.. Thanks again
Thank you for making this video. You completely described how I was and felt when I was younger. Trouble setting boundaries, and acting a certain way to ‘please’ others was something all too common. During my whole schooling and upbringing I got so far away from my true self that I didn’t care about anything and developed many self destructive habits. Thank you for showing us that there are many others who went through the same experience and that we can all heal and be our best self!
I totally enjoy your videos. Keep it up!!
The first time I met you, I was looking for the treatment of the wound of abandonment in TH-cam search, and this sentence remained in my mind: "This is not my fault!" This one sentence took a lot of weight off my shoulders. Thank you Aaron!❤
This was great insight & information. I am working on not attracting narcissists & trying to understand myself as to what I need to change about myself. Thank you!
AMAZING! EYE-OPENING! Feels like you have seen into my entire life for the last 41 years 🖤🖤🖤
This is the first video I have ever seen of you, and I am now subscribed! Keep on being YOU! LOVE IT!!
I’m in the high vibe tribe! 😊💚
Thank you for your video Aaron! helped me a lot to see that I am in the good path to "break" the pattern
You have given me a clear understanding about my family's dynamics... thank you... I'm the empath. All others are narcissists.
Beautifully Explained Thank You💖 Sending Love and Light
Very good talk. Your the only person I've listened to that talks very fast that I can easily understand. Few people have the gift of talking fast and still have good diction and easy to listen too.
Own my entire personality 100- it's not my task/ job. I'm learning this - drawing my own power.
I’m in the high vibe tribe! Doing the somatic breathing bought stuff up I thought I had already dealt with. I had a second session last month and feel like together, they wiped out the parts that pushed me out. I’m in my body now and life is so much better than it’s ever been! Thank you!!
I’m in the high vibe tribe!!💚✨💚🤩
I love how I find your videos when I'm processing the same concepts internally
I really just want to find people to enjoy life that can be kind and fun and have their own strength, but strength of character, not strength to dominate others. I want fun, charismatic friends that have kindness and self awareness so we can enjoy life together and really see how good life can be when you’re supported by others and take responsibility for your own healing.
I needed to hear this today, thanks for keeping it real
Hey, I’m a starfish Palladian too 🌟😜
Aaron you’re on fire my dude! Your messages are 🔥🔥🔥
You’re awesome, man. I’m am an empath, my mom is a narcissist and I live with her. Thank you for sharing this priceless information.
I'm at that stage but I don't like being disliked currently.
That’s understandable. Most people don’t like being disliked.