AITA For Refusing to Leave So My Fiancé and the Baby Could Sleep Alone & Won't Kid Swap Over Holiday

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  • @vmcovers1
    @vmcovers1 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +355

    Parents who only pay child support and think they will save money if they get custody over their children drive me insane 💀

    • @sydneyice
      @sydneyice 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      I was just thinking this! Like yeah you might not be paying as much child support, but now you need to pay for the actual child! Doesn't really sound like you'll be saving money

    • @AnamiDK
      @AnamiDK 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      ​@@sydneyicebut that money would mostly come from the joint account, so she would be paying for half the food, utilities, etc. + there is no way a farther, who spend so little time with his kids, that he managed to hide them from his own wife, and only wants them to save money on child support, would pony up for new shoes.

    • @CharlieApples
      @CharlieApples 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      For real!! Because child support stays the same every month but the amount of money you actually have to spend to properly care for a child varies wildly. Like, child support doesn’t suddenly skyrocket if a kid needs braces, or falls down and breaks a bone, or a tree limb falls onto the house and now the roof above the child’s room needs repaired. Mfers will complain about doing the BARE MINIMUM.

    • @emme2141
      @emme2141 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Exactly, child support is the cheaper option 😂

    • @LocdnessMomster
      @LocdnessMomster 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Like the check likely don’t even cover daycare let alone insurance and day to day expenses

  • @briannahatcher9422
    @briannahatcher9422 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +165

    First story, you can ALWAYS tell when a mother grooms her children to enable her bad behavior. My husband would never allow me to be treated like that. Absolutely not.

    • @mignalyortiz4589
      @mignalyortiz4589 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      My ex-MIL acted this way and everyone walked on eggshells around her to keep the peace. I mean the ENTIRE family. It was exhausting.

    • @briannahatcher9422
      @briannahatcher9422 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @mignalyortiz4589 my mother would LOVE if all of us walked on eggshells. And most of the family does, but my husband and I kind of just don't, and then she gets mad and we leave 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

  • @cheekofeather6310
    @cheekofeather6310 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

    The period pants one- why are we as women expected to educate men? It's tiring.

    • @CharlieApples
      @CharlieApples 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      They spend so much time chasing “kitty cats” but can’t be bothered to find out how they work

  • @alexis_nichole
    @alexis_nichole 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +82

    Fun fact! The reason couples had separate beds in old sitcoms was because of TV content ratings. 1 bed could insinuate s*xual relations and was thought of as immodest. Producers would try to get around it by putting 2 separate beds next to each other.

    • @CharlieApples
      @CharlieApples 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Even though all those couples were MARRIED lol.

    • @lucycarlisle9120
      @lucycarlisle9120 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      It was about if kids saw the show, they wouldn't have ideas put into their heads about what was going on. It was a big deal when Lucille Ball was pregnant on camera.

  • @catT5236
    @catT5236 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +156

    45:19 Claire is ableist against her own daughter. It's not about spending time with her boyfriend's niece, it's about replacing her disabled child with a "normal" kid. I hate to use that term but it's very clear that's what Claire thinks. Really sucks for Ruby that both her parents are awful.

    • @maggiedk
      @maggiedk 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      THIS!!!

    • @Manon627
      @Manon627 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      yeah i got that vibe too. she probably wants to have the experience of taking a child out for fun things like iceskating but cant with ruby. at the same time she want a break from her "difficult" kid so this seems like a double win for claire

    • @emme2141
      @emme2141 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I wouldnt say it necessarily means she’s ableist, I’m sure she still loves her. I have a relative with a child who has special needs, and I’ve seen how much they struggle to look after that child, and how tired they are all the time.
      I don’t know what Ruby’s needs are, and I don’t agree with Claire for asking (especially the way she went about it), but if she really does love kids like OP said she does, I can imagine she does get a bit jealous of OP sometimes being able to do normal family things with her child, that aren’t as easy for her to do with Ruby.
      I think OP was thinking along the same lines in her reply too, she seemed slightly more empathetic towards Claire there. And although I don’t think OP is the AH, I do think she could have responded to Claire more tactfully (although I understand it was probably an in the moment response).

    • @catT5236
      @catT5236 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@emme2141 you can love someone & still be ableist against them. It's an unfortunate reality most disabled people face that we have to either help our family & friends unlearn ableism that society instills in them or put up with ableist attitudes & comment that are incredibly painful, sometimes both.

  • @andreaguy9534
    @andreaguy9534 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    My dad snores like all hell. My mom has hearing like a bat. They need to be in separate rooms for their different sleep needs. If you can afford that extra bedroom and you've got very specific sleep needs, go for it

  • @aimee657
    @aimee657 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    😂😂😂 I pooped my pants when I was pregnant… more than once. I cried and cried and my husband cleaned it up while I was in the shower. According to the docs it’s normal, and I love my husband for making me feel normal. Period underwear? He don’t care.

  • @Delphine945
    @Delphine945 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    For the second story, I have a new baby and my husband and I literally have been alternating who sleeps on the couch on rough nights.

    • @jojoyeu
      @jojoyeu 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This was my thought when they were discussing that story. The couple should make an arrangement for both to be comfortable on a rough night. They could get a comfortable couch or cot bed for the nursery.

    • @jonathandennis8299
      @jonathandennis8299 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      We did this for the first couple months so that my wife could get rest and I could still get some sleep before going to work.

  • @MulteeFandomMadness
    @MulteeFandomMadness 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    No matter how long these videos are, they’re never long enough lol. Can’t wait for the premier of the blachelor

  • @gays4wumbology396
    @gays4wumbology396 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    With the snoring guy, it just makes me think how so many of these stories are men with children, acting like entitled children still. No one’s gonna be a perfect parent out the gate, but the way they put a little bit of their own discomfort over the needs of their often newborn babies and tired new mothers is wild. Him keeping his newborn up to not have to sleep on a couch. The guy who woke up the mom and kid to talk to him during a long roadtrip. the guy who brought his brother with LICE in against the mothers wishes, and expected her to help clean the kids even tho she just gave birth. The guy who invited his sister and her children to the house despite his own wife being sick and pregnant, and expecting her to clean everything. It’s ridiculous, and they have the nerve to ask “am I the a-hole”??☠️

  • @Terriblenogoodverybadartist
    @Terriblenogoodverybadartist 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    the fifth one was so weird the guy was downright evil lied to his partner, filed for 50/50 so he could save money, and then wanted her to take care of them and he only told her cause he wanted to save money! thats insane literally disney gaston villain

    • @MSBap237
      @MSBap237 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I was looking for this! The lie by omission (at least) concening about having kids was the stance for anullment based on fraud 54:40 . The guy is an idiot if he thinks less than half of his child support would actually cover 50/50 care for 2 kids.

    • @kellharris2491
      @kellharris2491 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      In truth Gaston wanted lots of kids but he actually planned on providing for him. So....he is worse then Gaston.

    • @Summer-cu7do
      @Summer-cu7do 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Stupid like Gaston, too. Get it in writing in text and see what kind of stuff the judge pulls out at him.

  • @Alteredcupid333
    @Alteredcupid333 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    I opened TH-cam at the exact right time today

    • @kathypayne3964
      @kathypayne3964 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bahaha SAME

    • @liebling4069
      @liebling4069 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same broo 😭

  • @FairyGodBitch
    @FairyGodBitch 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Your bachelor should be two-sided for Sam. One for male best friends and one for females.

  • @CreativelyChayaBee
    @CreativelyChayaBee 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    Y’all don’t understand, I am CRYING 😂💕
    You deeefinitely got my name wrong but it’s ok (except Madi - I’m mad at YOU SPECIFICALLY😡) everyone gets it wrong on the first try 🤭
    I sent Sam another voice message about how to pronounce it…..so, get it right next time…..or else 🫵🏽
    Thanks for the shoutout!!! ❤
    26:06

  • @petr0w
    @petr0w 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I've been with my partner for 12 years we sleep in separate rooms not because he snores just because he comes to bed a lot later than I do and I get really annoyed if he comes to bed and wakes me up because I can't go back to sleep

  • @Queen-Blue
    @Queen-Blue 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Regarding the child custody story...
    She should just LEAVE!!!
    He was deceptive!!! DEAL BREAKER!!!

  • @mellodees3663
    @mellodees3663 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    People are usually more used to couple sharing a room for romantic reasons. But most people have no choice because the parents have a room and the kids have a room and there's no extra room. But then one person basically lives on the couch.

  • @spoopydidit-uwuchannel6108
    @spoopydidit-uwuchannel6108 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Story 1: I don't think OP is being petty. It sounds like she wants to just avoid causing MIL anymore jealousy issues.
    Story 2: I totally get having your own bed even as a couple, but my husband and I tried that in a hotel once, and we ended up in one bed cause neither one of us could fall asleep😂
    Story 3: He needs to grow up.
    Story 4: It sounds like the mom doesn't want to have a special needs child..

    • @ma.2089
      @ma.2089 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That and imagine putting so much effort and money into making food your MIL destroys in jealous rage. Gross.

  • @heathermitchell1708
    @heathermitchell1708 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    The Facebook groups are called things like “are we dating the same guy + city name” or “don’t date him 🚩🚩🚩+ city name” when I got back on the dating apps recently (I really liked FB dating even though y’all don’t lol) and there were some guys I asked about in those groups and turns out they had multiple girlfriends at once, had beat their ex wife, would keep making new profiles, and so on. It’s interesting to look at the drama but I had to leave the groups because I couldn’t take it anymore

  • @jessrosem
    @jessrosem 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    The twinkle over “Christmas spirit” 😂 perfect.. PS.. we need you to sell these Christmas sweaters to us

  • @lemonadeplayback1985
    @lemonadeplayback1985 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    44:47 Claire is clearly trying to replace her daughter Ruby with Bea; that's why she is so insistent on babysitting Bea and even child-swapping because Bea is a normal lil baby girl who does not have special needs. I know caring for a child with special needs/disabilities is very hard, but I know parents who would NEVER want to replace their child with a healthier, younger one. And the audacity to keep asking (basically begging) OP to swap kids is disgusting, and she is acting like she loves to babysit when really she wants a normal child. I wouldn't be surprised if Claire had her way. She would probably run away with Bea, claim her as her child, and abandon Ruby to OP's family.

    • @catT5236
      @catT5236 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Exactly this! Claire is ableist against her own daughter.

  • @bradiedean7466
    @bradiedean7466 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    My great grandparents slept in separate twin beds for the last couple decades of their message bc of the time his medication made his sleep walking so much worse that he ended up standing up in bed and peeing on his wife while dreaming she was a log. The separate beds definitely saved their marriage after that 😅😭

  • @AnamiDK
    @AnamiDK 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    I'm a mom of a special needs child, and whilst I some times daydream about what a outing day would look like, without carefully planning and, at minimum, one mini meltdown, I wouldn't exchange my child. A brake would be to go out without him, but then again, this just is what my family is, and at the end of the day, I want memories with my family.
    The way she wants to swap the kids do give me semi creepy vibes. Borrowing a nipling to live out your neuro normative family dreams, sounds really off.

    • @nicolebesser3548
      @nicolebesser3548 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hi. I am a caregiver for special needs people. I provide basic care as well as active treatment. I truly love my residents and am as protective of them as my own children. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be able to do things with a child that you cannot do with a special needs child. There is nothing wrong with needing a break from your child special needs or not. You equating those things to not wanting your child or not loving your child is far more concerning to me than her wanting to swap children for a few hours. I do agree with the OP being concerned about not knowing how to care for the special needs child which seems to be more of the issue than YOU are making it. It is very important that a parent can recognize burnout and all parents do. Shame on you for parent shaming.

    • @AnamiDK
      @AnamiDK 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@nicolebesser3548 I'm not equating it to anything. I'm just saying that I don't want to make MY kid feel left out, or that we kan only make fun memories without him. And I'm not parent shaming. The sil asked and she said no. If that had been the end of the story, it'll be fine, but sil and brother decided to boundary stomp the hell out of the situation, and that makes it kind of icky. "No" is a hole sentence.
      I'm sorry if I come a cross as mean. It was not my intention to shame parents in general, I'm just sharing my experience. I also feel like mentioning that I my self was a special needs child, and it does not feel nice when your parents always views you as a hindrance for everyone else to have fun. If my parents right out swapped me like that at christmas holiday, I would have been broken.

    • @nicolebesser3548
      @nicolebesser3548 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@AnamiDK You are. Wanting to hang with her niece for a few hours is not emotionally damaging her daughter. You are projecting your insecurities onto this woman and judging her for it. Even the OP clarified that her only concern was not knowing how to take care of the special needs child. That is just as understandable as wanting to do something with her niece that she cannot do with her daughter. Again, you have made it about you.

    • @AnamiDK
      @AnamiDK 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@nicolebesser3548 Well, It sounds like you have some build up resentment yourself. Parents of your residents perhaps? So you thought you read "shame" and decided to sent it right back. Nice.
      Anyways I have stated very clearly, that yes, this comment was about my experience. Insecurities does color that.
      You disagree, and that's your right.

    • @nicolebesser3548
      @nicolebesser3548 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AnamiDK LMAO! The narcissistic circle of bs. Have the day you deserve.

  • @saronzewdie7194
    @saronzewdie7194 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    12:53 op is not the asshole, but she should’ve at least said “I would be happy to do it, as long as last year doesn’t repeat.” She can even be super “nice” and phrase it as “because I don’t want you to feel like the family doesn’t love you or be upset when they eat mine.” I know being mean is petty, but being backhandedly extra nice to someone who acts childish, to stop them from bothering you is even pettier..
    16:10 it’s always a bad time when men called, taking care of their own child “helping out”

  • @megantiffany
    @megantiffany 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    My partner and I have separate rooms but still sleep together every night! We have only one bed actually and it’s in my room lmao. We just liked the idea of having our own space/sanctuaries where we can decorate in our own way and have our own area if we ever need time or literally anything. It’s been really nice and healthy and I think it was the best thing we could’ve done. I like my stuff a certain way, as does she, so it just makes sense for us. :)

  • @sav..hyer26
    @sav..hyer26 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    i was about to re watch an old episode, now i don’t have to 😍

  • @julie2480
    @julie2480 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    "She's too old?" Hey man by 21 I'd been having periods for eleven years. It gets old quick.

  • @moth_6_6_6
    @moth_6_6_6 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My parents have always had their own rooms because my mom is an incredibly light sleeper and will wake up and stay up if my dad snores or gets up to go to the bathroom. I always wanted to have one room for myself and my partner to sleep together but as time goes on with us living together (for 6 years now) two rooms is a lot more practical for us, he will come in a sleep with me when we don’t have to get up early but he stays up later than me and tends to fall asleep anywhere. The thing that makes it work is that both of us have free rein of the house and we’re always welcome in each others rooms. I never feel unwelcome in his room and vice versa and we each get to decorate our own spots and come together in the common areas it’s pretty great lol

  • @PeculiarCrafts
    @PeculiarCrafts 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Correct me if it’s wrong but I thought that the separate beds in one room (sitcoms like Sam said) only came on because of the Hays code. Like it would be more modest to not insinuate any fun time in a bed.

    • @mewmedic
      @mewmedic 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You are correct!

    • @tatkkyo9911
      @tatkkyo9911 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes and no that is how it became comon alon tv but it happend irl before than but not very comon

  • @maggiedk
    @maggiedk 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Oh no, I feel so bad for poor Ruby in the "kid swap" story. Claire is clearly ableist against her and I worry that she's being (at least) emotionally neglected, given the fact that her mom seems to prefer her able-bodied niece over her own daughter. There are sadly so many stories of disabled children being mistreated like this by their parents (a large aspect of autistic activism is focused on fighting this/the idea that disabled children are a burden).
    I really hope the rest of Ruby's family is supportive and loving towards her, and/or that her mom majorly educates herself and stops treating her like she's unwanted. It's so traumatic for a child to go through that.

    • @babytooty04
      @babytooty04 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      This was my thought exactly

    • @nicolebesser3548
      @nicolebesser3548 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      How you leaped to emotional neglect and decided that she preferred another child over her own to do activities her child most likely cannot do sounds like some serious projection. I am a caregiver for special needs people. I am a mother of three kids. There are things I can do with some of my residents that I cannot do with others. There are things I can do with one of my children that I might not be able to do with one of the others. This doesn't mean that I love one more than the other. It means I understand the limitations of them on an individual basis. Parents with special needs children struggle as much if not more than parents with fully healthy children. The OPs biggest concern is not knowing how to care for the special needs child. She is not doing a character assassination of the mother of the special needs child. Shame on you for parent shaming. All parents get burn out from time to time. Sorry but parents that say they don't are dishonest.

    • @joc9370
      @joc9370 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thought the same thing :(

  • @tarag5077
    @tarag5077 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    To Madi: the sleeping separate thing is only if you need to (loud snoring, up too late, disturbing your partner). If you don’t have those issues then you don’t need to be for or against it.

  • @TheYTWatchCat
    @TheYTWatchCat 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    You CAN drink eggnog in June!
    I freeze eggnog and bring it to music festivals, use it as an ice pack then when it’s ready I pull it out and people loose their minds! I fucking love eggnog.

  • @jenimhills
    @jenimhills 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    When my partner (of 10 years) and I first started living together, we were in a small room so we had to share a bed. I’m autistic and have sensory issues, and he snores. So I could not fall asleep. What I ended up doing was staying up until 7 am when he went to work, and fall asleep then. We have more space now, so he sleeps on the couch and I sleep in a bed.
    This sounds like a bad deal for him- and really it kind of is. However, he has never said he minded. We both feel guilty - me for putting an unfair sleep situation on him and him bc of how miserable I get when I can’t sleep.
    Our place recently got some water damage, and that has brought up an opportunity to fix some things in our place. (I.E. A window that won’t close, and we live in a cold state.)
    Once all the contractor stuff is done and the place is put back together- we’ll get a bed in the office. Hopefully that’s more comfortable. 😅

  • @nikkivalentina3332
    @nikkivalentina3332 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I just filled out the google doc to date sam and the where were you on Jan 6 th took me out 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @dawncraig3340
    @dawncraig3340 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    About the dude who hid that he's a dad... So he's never spent time with these kids and now he expects them to be with him, who to them is a total stranger, 50% of the time....wtaf? Not only is he delusional to think 50/50 is cheaper but he's an AH for thinking going 50/50 after all these years is good for the kids (or not caring what's good for the kids).

  • @honeylipgloss
    @honeylipgloss 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    brandon’s “oh that’s rich 😏” has me dyingggg 😂😂😂

  • @bulelwashezi4540
    @bulelwashezi4540 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Story 1: it's not a mistake if you never acknowledged it as that' let alone apologize.

  • @briannahatcher9422
    @briannahatcher9422 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Lolol this dude wants to have custody of his kids to "have more money and have more fun" 😂😂😂 🤡🤡🤡

    • @CharlieApples
      @CharlieApples 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      He’d be begging her to take them back in 72 hours or less lmao

  • @Luna-ig6jk
    @Luna-ig6jk 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Yalls parents raised you right ❤

  • @misslerhin1785
    @misslerhin1785 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    First story - I would stay home AND make lasagna for my husband and I. And then posted it on social media with a tag Family Christmas traditions. Going on 7 years 😂😂😂😂 and husband needs to butt out from that conflict and not let his toxic mother to get away with sh$t like this!

  • @Marthroy9000
    @Marthroy9000 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Challenging the time space continuum is my favorite kind of gimmick for a podcast.

  • @soph-so1wj
    @soph-so1wj 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I found you guys a few weeks ago and have been non stop binging videos since. Really love your content!!

  • @rhysparkz4150
    @rhysparkz4150 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The kid swap auntie is a super red flag! Like the answer is right there and there husband doesn't see it

  • @jazzyperson6797
    @jazzyperson6797 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My husband and I sleep in our own rooms every night. We're both bigger people, both snore and move a lot in our sleep. There are other reasons, extra closets is another big pro. It works really well for us, but we also make sure to spend a lot of time together while awake and communicate about if our( really my) physical needs are being met enough. Anything is possible with good open communication!!!

  • @mercurialmelody
    @mercurialmelody 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sleeping separately can actually be good for couples, especially if you're on different schedules. My husband and I frequently sleep separately and it works out great.

  • @davie2892
    @davie2892 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    MADDIE! That intro was maddddd cute, props from another editor on your creativity, what a fun way to start the show. Cudos!

  • @angelicanewton2458
    @angelicanewton2458 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I agree with OP from the period story. I used to do the same, wash underwear that got stained and re-use them during my monthly. It makes more sense than ruining new pairs every month. Also, very strange he has no problem with having sex with a woman who is on her period but grossed over stained underwear. Like why are you focused on that?

    • @Alluponit31
      @Alluponit31 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I went through so many comments to find this! How the heck you have sex whilst she’s bleeding, but turn around and act immature over old stains????

  • @qa1989_
    @qa1989_ 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    18:50 The saying is No one will remember you staying at work late, but your kids will ❤

  • @paulatobler8354
    @paulatobler8354 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    It makes sense that taking care of a child without special needs can be a break even if you are taking care of another child. It’s nice that Claire isn’t saying that outright, maybe because she feels guilty about it. It’s okay to acknowledge the reality but it is also necessary to respect the realities of other people who may not their child with you full time or may not know how to care for a special needs child. No one is the AH, but both need to be better at putting themselves in other shoes and explaining rather than beating around the bush.

    • @nicolebesser3548
      @nicolebesser3548 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is the best response I have seen on this story. I am a caregiver for special needs people. I am truly horrified by the parent shaming of Claire. I fully understand the position of the OP. Both are very valid.

  • @misslauren6798
    @misslauren6798 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have a very irregular period and was staining a lot of panties. My solution was to just start buying all black pairs of panties for my period. Hard to see stains on black.

  • @TheCrownJules98
    @TheCrownJules98 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just right when I had a hour left working from home 🙌🏽PERFECT🙌🏽

  • @oshinofalakoju5749
    @oshinofalakoju5749 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ya'll are literally my favorite Podcast on the interwebs at the moment. COMFORT LEVEL POD TO THE WORLD!!

  • @ashleylee7103
    @ashleylee7103 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Me and my partner had separate rooms at one point (we needed to rent the room out) and I can't tell you how beneficial it is for a relationship.

  • @azure-mist
    @azure-mist 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I 100% agree with one of the guys - the fact that Claire wanted to "take a break" via having Ruby, their disabled child, being taken care of by someone else, while also babysitting someone else's ABLED child, is a major eyebrow-raiser for me. That, plus the fact that Claire is so oddly attached to Bea, PLUS doing so while OP has comparatively almost-never seen Ruby, PLUS the fact that she was going to send Ruby away with two practical-strangers (which, depending on her specific disability, might be extremely mentally taxing for Ruby) WHO *DON'T KNOW HER SUPPORT NEEDS*?? Nuh-uh. That is INCREDIBLY dangerous.
    I get that disabled children are difficult to raise, but, as a disabled person myself, this sounds like blatant irresponsibility with her disabled child at *best*. At worst? Thinly-veiled resentment towards Ruby for being so "difficult to raise".
    The husband needs a good talking-to, as well, regarding the line about taking care of Ruby for a day, without knowing her needs, "doesn't need a degree". It's not ONLY a matter of knowing how to care for disabled people in general, but also about the needs *of that specific child*. What helps one disabled child may make the issue worse for another.
    OP did the correct and responsible thing, and I hope she doesn't end up caving to Claire or to her husband.

  • @hawthornhandcrafts1925
    @hawthornhandcrafts1925 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am totally all for sleeping separately if needed! Something that has greatly improved my relationship is having our own blankets so we dont fight over them in the night

  • @mindywilder7142
    @mindywilder7142 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Are We Dating The Same Guy? is a series of over 120 individual Facebook groups where women share red flags about individual men and check that he is not dating another person. It is done by taking screenshots of a man's dating profile and posting it onto her city's designated Facebook group, asking "any tea?".

  • @Nacanaaaaaa
    @Nacanaaaaaa 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The opening was so slay y’all 😂

  • @Imc0di
    @Imc0di 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are one of my favorite pods! should do a live episode

  • @PenelopeAstony
    @PenelopeAstony 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Okay I'm gonna go ahead and give this a like barely a minute in, cuz that intro was SIIIIIIICK!

  • @ashleyduckworthyt3224
    @ashleyduckworthyt3224 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    the news intro is hilarious lmfao 😅😂 ❤

  • @mignalyortiz4589
    @mignalyortiz4589 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The period story was annoying. He is ok with having period sex but not seeing period stains? It's good that she dumped him.

  • @sammmm9624
    @sammmm9624 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The "kid´s swap" story gives me the impression that Claire wants to play pretend with op´s kid, it really seems like she is trying to replace (even if it´s just for some days) her disabled child with op´s non disabled kid, trying to play the perfect little happy family. It really sucks.

  • @psychologistinthemaking6541
    @psychologistinthemaking6541 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I did not expect that ending 😂😅

  • @MSBap237
    @MSBap237 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The lie by omission (at least) about having kids was the grounds for anullment based on fraud 54:40 . The guy is an idiot if he thinks less than half of his child support would actually cover 50/50 care for 2 kids

  • @Allia_Lov
    @Allia_Lov 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    On the seperate beds thing. My husband and I usually curl up in mine with my plushies and stuff (Yes I still sleep with plushies 😅). But if I'm having really bad PTSD issues and need to sleep alone, or am getting my ass kicked by my chronic physical illnesses, he will sleep in another room (his office which has his music collection and a bed). Then he come check on me when he wakes up or goes to the bathroom.

  • @jamaljoseph4951
    @jamaljoseph4951 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm curious how you marry someone and don't know they have kids. Who was at the wedding on his behalf or leading up to it that no one asked where his kids were or mentioned them?

  • @annettaadams8685
    @annettaadams8685 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Y’all might get me to come visit when The Blachelor happens!!! Got to meet the new son/daughter-in-law!

  • @inanutshellbyanna
    @inanutshellbyanna 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Man, I missed the Blachelor application period. Sad times! Lol

  • @MzKC78
    @MzKC78 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    There’s a difference between “olders” and “elders” …sometimes when people get over a certain age, they feel entitled to the respect and understanding they didn’t show to others. Disrespectful people should t be enabled, regardless of their age.

  • @demial4
    @demial4 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My partner and I often sleep separately. My partner likes to sleep downstairs in the livingroom because it's cooler and he can sleep with our cats. I sleep lightly and one of our cats gets up and starts yelling at 5am. He's just a huge brat. I get murdery without good sleep so it's just what we do right now. It would be nice to sleep together but we make it work.

  • @kellharris2491
    @kellharris2491 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The boyfriend 'doesn't mind' period sex. And then he is mad there are blood stains on the underwear? Um🙄
    And can you imagine getting rid off your underwear every time you had a wet dream and came in your underwear? You would never have any underwear.

  • @brookiez3
    @brookiez3 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That introoo!!!! 🔥 🔥

  • @dabi332
    @dabi332 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    For the first story I would make the lasagna using one noodle and the smallest amount of everything to make a mini version. You can than say yes I did make lasagna and that would go perfectly on petty revenge.

    • @mmmmmmmmaria
      @mmmmmmmmaria 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      it’s lasagna

    • @dabi332
      @dabi332 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@mmmmmmmmaria thanks I am bad at spelling I'll fix it

  • @veronicabrown2328
    @veronicabrown2328 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ppa is postpartum anxiety it's under the umbrella of PMADs which stands for perinatal mood and anxiety disorders. These can occur while pregnant or within the first year after birth. There are lots of disorders under the umbrella postpartum depression is the most known but there is postpartum psychosis and postpartum bipolar and multiple other really difficult issues. It's a massive issue

  • @HappyDayandLove
    @HappyDayandLove 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have never been this early and got excited when I seen 30 mins ago 😭🤣

  • @luminousghosts
    @luminousghosts 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Omg I'm so excited for the Blachelor 😂

  • @charlenaretly6914
    @charlenaretly6914 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My mom makes lasagna for holidays (Christmas, Easter, etc). Funny enough, she stopped making it and left it to me for quite some time. Her evil sister didn't realize this. Came over as I was making it, then complained how it tasted "funny" or "off". Which I knew she would. Mom very innocently asked me what I did differently from last year. Nothing mom. Same as I, we, have done for at least the same 10 years. Aunt X just saw me making it this year. ;) So continued the gaslighting from that relative.

  • @amandakriss4244
    @amandakriss4244 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    As an elder in my friend group, I get not wanting to go on the cruise again lol

    • @comfortlevelpodcast
      @comfortlevelpodcast  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      not "the elder in my friend group" hahaha .. we need to start referring this to sam lolol

  • @prisibun
    @prisibun 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    About the bed thing i have mix feelings because on one side i find it great you have your space your things and everything but at the same time i have the idea that once you're married or engaged you're supposed to be one? With your loved one.. so idkkk

  • @Mariethechaotic
    @Mariethechaotic 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've been single for the majority of my adult life so don't expect this to be an issue but I would definitely want a separate bedroom if possible, or continue sleeping in the recliner in the living room, which is what I usually do anyway. I would want to cuddle in the bed but I have chronic pain, insomnia and sensory issues and I'm a very light sleeper. I haven't shared a bed with anyone for about 9 years (holy shit, I just realized that) but I struggle with sleep enough on my own.

  • @nikkivalentina3332
    @nikkivalentina3332 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yay new pod! 🎉

  • @soggytortillla
    @soggytortillla 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can we talk about how amazing that intro was >>>

  • @cleverhaunts
    @cleverhaunts 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I used to end up on the couch whenever I stayed at my partner’s place! I’m a very light sleeper and they were a heavy sleeper who would in this exact order, move, mumble, smack their mouth and then itch there face stumble every few minutes. Over and over and over. So I would go out to there catch and curl up. We always said if we moved in together we’d have separate rooms and beds 😂

  • @spagetd1526
    @spagetd1526 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    my parents sleep separately, and i think they always have. the only reason is because my dad snores a lot, and my mom is a really light sleeper. he likes to have background noise while he tries to sleep, and she likes silence, so they have separate rooms. his room is directly below hers and she still complains sometimes that she can hear him snoring through the vents so i got her a noise machine and it helps to have noise that isn’t distracting blocking out the loud snores of her husband lol. they have a good relationship and have been together for 26 years

  • @gwendolynspendulum
    @gwendolynspendulum 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sam’s twerk killed me😭😭😭

  • @snabors12
    @snabors12 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The Facebook group is called, Are we Dating the Same Guy? They do have this Facebook group in many cities.

  • @samanthabahde9690
    @samanthabahde9690 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My grandparents had two twin beds in the same room! Always thought that was odd but they were more conservative

  • @liapratts3971
    @liapratts3971 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The story about the kid swap was so weird. I could see if she said she wanted to take both girls ice skating together so the parents had a break and then maybe the other parents could to the same so they each have some time alone. But wanting to take the daughter alone is just weird, how is that a break?

  • @ChipperCherry
    @ChipperCherry 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The aunt wanting to borrow clothes and take her child with the father and not the mother? Red flag. I don't know what's going on in her head but she's not okay. Sounds like jealousy.

  • @marciavanwormer5956
    @marciavanwormer5956 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I refuse to try eggnog also! 😂

  • @MouseBaby85
    @MouseBaby85 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is my new favorite place ❤❤😂

  • @jack_attack8946
    @jack_attack8946 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Where are we going to be able to watch The Blachelor? 👀

  • @amberg5865
    @amberg5865 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sam should see that one Markiplier clip "Siri call me Daddy."

  • @kathypayne3964
    @kathypayne3964 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Try the Southern Comfort Vanilla Spice EGGNOG!!!!

  • @Nytemist21
    @Nytemist21 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yall are amazing ❤🎉😊

  • @errtothebear
    @errtothebear 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sam we don't do ham for X-Mas we do shrimp boil (shrimp, red potatoes, small corn cobs, kielbasa, and mussels) come hang! 💕 🦐

  • @JosefinaQB
    @JosefinaQB 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    the dad who chose to stay up late story, bro should just put a single bed he likes into his office or smthn

  • @Ash-xt1ej
    @Ash-xt1ej 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hahaha the intro!

  • @trippierie
    @trippierie 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Unpopular opinion on the second one the mom could’ve laid the baby down in their own room and came back to bed…

  • @KJBlover97
    @KJBlover97 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love the twerking at the end 😅👏👏👏