@@LisaCulton ABSOLUTELY TRUE! I had an old boyfriend that I told, "You wanted to be in the streets, so stay out there. Ain't no coming back over here!"
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isn't always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is, to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, sister. after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Unfortunately they dont get it right the first time around is right but i would like to be with the person who appreciated me the first time around. You leave me with trauma and im supposed to accept you back....na.
They only try to come back if they think that you are still weak enough to tolerate his nonsense !! I CANNOT take him back ! NEVER !! He burnt his bridges . PERIOD ! I am done and dusted . . . I moved on . I would not allow him back to continue wasting my time and energy. If he was distracted by external interferance , good for him , let him go to where he thought the grass was greener . . . If he thought I wasnt enough for him then , what has changed to make him try n come back to me ??? Never , never , never , never . The word No is a complete sentence . . .
My husband and I broke up twice before getting back together. We just celebrated 9 years of marriage. We have learned about each other and ourselves. I'm thankful for this journey.
I’m not even offended bc I treat these types of connections in a logical fashion. If they go, they go. Expecting a woman to just wait around… and if y’all are in your child bearing age and you want kids, you gonna wait for this man to make up his mind while your child bearing window closes. Next. I didn’t wait around. I moved on and found a man and settled in! Had me a family. My ex came running back and I was just about to have my first baby with someone else, 4 yrs later! Connections aren’t that important just keepin’ it 💯 My ex remained close to my family to feel close to me while I left the country with my husband. If you’re a man stop wasting women’s time and go trauma bond with someone that deserves you!
You have to take a break and let people get themselves together it takes time if it was ment to be it will be if not then you pray and keep moving forward with your life dont rush back into anything
Agreed. There are just some connections that only time can heal. If that person really truly wants you in their life, they will move mountains to be with you. If your paths cross and it's a beautiful moment to just say, "Hey, it's great seeing you." Then let it be that and move on. Or see what God has in store for you two and walk through life together.
@@brendahstarr1349 it is absolutely okay to love and miss you ex. If God wants your paths to cross, it will happen. If not, it’s okay to move on in the love that you shared to heal and be well yourself.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
I'm very sorry about your long relationship ending. That pain of the love of your life not being in your life anymore takes time to work through. You need to allow yourself the time and respect and compassion to feel your feelings and think about everything, what went right, what went wrong, how their smile or the sound of their laughter lit up your life, how they helped motivate you into growing into a better, healthier and safer version of yourself. All of it. It was your relationship, so please show yourself, and your loved one, the compassion and respect that you both deserve. Do not try to "magic" someone back into your life when they made their choice to leave. You do not have their consent. So even if you do and they didn't really choose you, think about the consequences that can come from that. Unfortunately there are consequences to everything, action and inaction. It's frustrating, I agree. However there is always hope and it comes from genuine integrity, in your words and your actions, and the same goes for them. Maybe it's the timing. Maybe your loved one needs to work through some stuff. Maybe you need to work through some stuff. Praying to God and meditating has helped me, sitting with my thoughts and feelings and understanding why things happened the way they did has been helpful for me, as well as watching wise advice from therapists and psychologists and folks like Mr. Stephen Speaks, because it starts to make better sense. I think we, as spiritual beings, do need help sometimes navigating this thing called life and through our own unique perspectives, but be very careful on who you go to, because..unforseen consequences. I find the general tarot card readings on here very helpful, and it made me realize that we are all going through similar things, micro and macro, and that we really are all connected, through Divine Souce Energy/God/the Universe, and Love. If you really love your individual, be good for them, love them from afar, because we all deserve safe and respectful love. Put that good energy out there and have faith in God to help show you your path. You are loved. Take a deep breath and show yourself compassion first. No need to try to control everything and everyone. Take a deep breath and show yourself compassion. Vibrate from genuine, authentic love, and let that be your healthy, safe and respectful path to alignment and enlightenment. I wish you all well and may God bless you and all of yours, dear fellow Earthlings. Namaste 🙏🌻🍀.
I came to this conclusion with the person I know is my person our connection was surreal and he isn’t completely ready for it. And I’m not necessarily waiting on him but I know he’s returning and I prayed on it and I’m preparing myself for what Gid revealed to me
Congratulations because we need to realize that men are human beings! As much as we want them to be perfect no one is! It’s the effort and direction for me!
@@edithk2997 naw I’m not around I’m just open to allow God to be God. So if someone else comes along and God verifies them I’m with them. But yeah I’m woke and preparing myself for God himself because He’s my 1st husband. I thank God for not holding on to anything or anyone but also having a peace that surpasses understanding and for understanding for a man without being bitter, angry or hurt.
@ naw he didn’t forget about me. And we didn’t have an argument or anything, sometimes people don’t feel worthy of healthy love and its a protection more than a rejection, perspective is everything
They need to learn that a woman's time is not to be played with. We need to stop being kind to a fault. This is the real world and you're dealing with an adult that should have a fully developed brain. This back and forth is a game that wastes valuable years.
I was with my ex for four years. We met through my brother this man was used by so many women for his money. I came and showed love the only woman that gave him affection and gifts on holidays meanwhile i got verbally abused. Severely and decided to end the relationship permanently he reaches out to my sister saying he misses me but i never responded. Its been 6 years since we broke up. And i don't regret it.
It's not shocking that a man can make a genuine mistake. It's just not the first thing that women will assume because of the culture we live in. But, life is too short to spend on a part of it on reopening closed chapters, especially if the separation was disrespectful. If you had a close connection once with one man out of the four billion on this planet, you can form another one out of that four billion. Keep moving forward. If he truly means to make things right then he would apologize with no strings attached. But there is nothing for a man to gain in that. Regardless of whether his underlying intentions, he returns because he knows what he stands to gain from you. If you're fine with spending a little time to see if it'll work out, then go ahead. But you are not obligated to do anything aside from caring for your own best interest. No one can do that for you and the consequences of ignoring your best interest can be severe. Be careful about who you let into your life and doubly careful about who you allow back. This is a general rule for ALL types of relationships.
@@marciawade9101 there are all kinds of possibilities in life presented all kinds of ways I am not thirsty I want what I am supposed to have not what I think I am supposed to have. If it is for me it will be period.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
A guy ain’t gonna tell me he don’t want me and then expect to come back I married another man the previous guy was slunking and wasting time I met my soulmate ya’ll unless he apologizes for his mistakes that’s different but don’t let a man play in ya face!
There was a real connection but he is a liar and a cheater. I'm talking 5 or more at all times. Goes from one to the next. Like what flavor of the day do I want today kinda thing. Unless he gives his life to God and brakes those chains, he doesn't have a place in my life.
💯 after the heartbreak comes reflection healing and then growth. The process of learning the lessons wasn’t easy but if you return to that place after the heartbreak equipped with determined to apply those lessons, man, it’s the most beautiful sequel ever. Now, if you f up this go around, just let it be for a different lesson and not a repeat of the past!
We must know the difference between a genuine connection vs a perceived connection that stems from trauma, unhealed wounds, etc. I didn’t have a genuine connection with my ex-husband of 21 years and when I finally left him…I never wanted to go back.
Sometimes you connect deeply with a person because you were both broken in the same place.. that relationship can cause you to heal and there’s no point of going back… I had this with a man … I worked to heal … and grow … he came back still toxic … I blocked him and continued to heal… yes he slept around and dated a lot and according to him “no one makes me feel like you do, it doesn’t feel the same” … baby I know I’m one of one… I spent too much time roasting bad behavior… God would have to tell me give him another chance and he would have to come back with a ring and proof of therapy… I’m past the point of bf gf ….
Coach Steph u are so wise and gifted could you imagine I ran into a guy I dated years ago and we both just started smiling at each other he walked up to me and said ARE YOU READY FOR THIS ??😅 he handed me a slip of paper and on it was written FRIENDS FOREVER with my signature on it and he then whispered to me WAS this a SPELl l can,t seem to forget you ,we have unfinished business to take care off
My woman leaving me was the best thing she could have done. For whatever her true reasoning was, she didnt feel valued and I don't blame her. The space and time gave me the ability to identify and understand everything that has been holding me back whether it be in my life or our relationship. I have a genuine love for her so I would try again due to the connection but I also know that I need to become a better version of myself in order to not fall into old patterns. Any other way I would be doing us both a disservice.
I’m currently experiencing this and I’m literally waiting on the lord. This person was someone I deeply loved and for them to come back around, is wild to me but the lord told me who he is to me. He’s slowly getting things in order for him and I to come back together righteously. So, I totally agree with you Stephen, wait on the lord and ask for him to reveal to you who he is and what’s his real intentions are.
Well he shouldn’t have taken the connection for granted and perhaps he would still have it. I give zero room for him to have an opportunity to mess with me
🙏🙏Only God knows how much grateful i am. After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!
Hello how do you make such monthly ?? I'm a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 🤦 of myself because of low finance but I still believe in God 🙏..
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.🙏
Wow that's nice She makes you that much!! please is there a way to reach her services, I work 3 jobs and trying to pay off my debts for a while now!! Please help me.
I'm sorry, but if he leaves, it's over, and if I leave, it's over because what God has for me it is for me. I will feel the sincere acceptance of me and my flaws that come with it he will be able to deal with it or at least talk it through or, if needed, give it to God to fix it through his prayer life. I have been there and done it most of the time. There are red flags from the beginning that we omit or tha🎉t we don't pay attention to until you let them go and accept them back . That's when you tell yourself this is the reason I let this man go the first time real life 💯
Have a deep connection with a younger person, dont want nothing serious. He always come back,after he ghosts me for months.and i let him back in,im so weak and stupid, to continue this toxic connection.
Not stupid sounds like lonely. Just know your worth. Don't let your loneliness be your crutch. We all have felt that at one time or another. Just follow your heart and pray on it. God bless you
Connection is so very real. Stephan in your book 40 Prayers for my Future Husband you write, "You don't attract what you want. You attract who you are". I love this statement, this book is amazing. Thank you ❤ 🙏
Totally agreed… realising that my deepest fear was engagement ! 😅 especially when you love independance and autonomous. Thrue love is also to let : doing or not doing, being or not being (my view). Thanks for the video 🙏
Not healthy, not same person in year's. Find NPD/self centered expect you to be open for them to return, HOWEVER THEY ARE 'HOOVERING' to see if YOU still 'trauma bonded' to give them attention. DO NOT GO BACK...TURN THE PAGE. REMAIN NO CONTACT. 'Friendship' different if respect/care/attunement. Otherwise avoid 'intimacy'.
If the guy who returns is now older he probably wants ‘a nurse with a purse’ ie his kids are grown/married/moved away, he’s divorced/widowed or just an ageing player whose charms don’t work any more, or he’s at retirement age and thinking “Who can I entice (con) to look after me now I’m old?” Don’t let it be you! Keep everything you have achieved WITHOUT HIM for yourself and look for a man who can match you in every way. Trust me, I got burned but I’m healed now.
Another brilliant message Stephan. Thank you for all your dating and relationship advice over the years. I'm so grateful to have had God lead me to you years ago. I look forward to watching the full TH-cam video 😊 God bless you 🙏
Stephan I am a BYU International Student and your talks helped me a lot improve my english listening skills and vocabulary and grammar as well . I do not use your talks for dating purposes but for education purpose and it helped a lot I listen to your talks almost everyday before going to bed . Your native accent and words are amazing . And your smile can melt any heart even the most hardest heart . Thank you so much .God Bless
He is only returning to check if you are still naive sisters, so wake up! If that man played games with you for years, do you believe he will return to give you what you really deserve? Absolutely not! He will simply provide you with additional trauma. Simply because he returns doesn't imply that you should allow him back into your personal environment. Do not reply, do not take any presents, cash, or in-person meetings! Leave that sucka behind!
Thank you very much Mr. Stephen. Always good hearing from you sir and your very helpful wisdom. May God bless you, protect you and continue to guide you, as well as us all. Thank you again sir. Amen. Namaste 🙏🌻🍀.
Fr ..I know it's inappropriate for them to even think it's ok to just show up nah dude ..hearts don't work like that. It's more hurtful to be so arrogant n well it's them trying to soften the lesson so letm them stay in what they created n let us be healed n better because they played themselves. Blocking us n diluting it even more is never good. Like yeah yeah good to see your still alive happy for you bye.
I don't know anymore. Part of me feels like there is a connection. Part of me feels like the more time we spent together the feelings started to grow. Men know what they want from the beginning. I just don't understand why would a man want to be around a female for 15+years as a friend. Honestly, are they waiting for a chance? I don't quite understand. I know feelings mean nothing when theres the TRUTH! Im blocked from this person because I called him out on BS. I feel like this person is playing games. I feel like this person incited love out of me with no intentions of returning that love. I feel like this person used me to boost their EGO. They used me as a placeholder for whatever reason. They were grooming me to better understand the next. I feel like this person do want me (like and loves me) but is afraid to say it, thus the disrespect. A 15+ year friendship wasted..... for what???? I just don't understand unfortunately. So why bother coming back? Im worth way more!!!! SMH I guess im a little too powerful 😊.
I believe that what you refer to as a "connection" are the divine relationships that are appointed before we are born. Those ties are guides for your specific path/journey. Like Jonah, we can run and elongate the timeline if we want to, but at some point, both parties will get hit hard enough and surrender.
Some people can go round two etc. I just want my round to be for life. Tired of these stupid games and immature men. Put the games away and treat the Queen as such. I just can't be with a man that, still wants to play those video games all the time. Waste of my time. Grow up. Relax with a good book and a cuddler instead. Who wants their man all consumed with the fellas coming over or even him just wanting to engage in that all the time. That's why the Queen looks for a real king. Wake up ...
Very true bad guidance outside interference trauma immaturity but we jump into other relationships but that never works now you are with someone you don't really want to be with.
I have one guy from the past where I could potentially entertain a rekindle, but I need to know what is.his intentions? He has a busy life. Where do I fit in? Will I be a priority and not an option? What does career and his woman mean to him? I know what hindered us from our past , I am willing to grow from it, does he have any past trauma we need to discuss? Are you ready to dribble the ball or shoot it? In other words, I need to know what are we doing? It is simple for me. I have one with a connection but I need these questions answered. Are we on a quest or are we just here? It's simple.
Just because they come back doesn’t mean you have to take him back romantically. If there was a genuine connection, he will be happy to be just a friend.
Everything is a choice. If you choose to turn away from a “connection”..its still a choice. As women, we need to stop allowing men the time and grace, to come back. His dishonoring a connection is divine protection. Stay present.
I would like to give men the benefit of the doubt here, but the men in my life came back because they realized I gave them more than anyone else ever did. Eventually, I walked away because they could never return the favors.
What? We women don't feed ourselves the negative reasons for them leaving. You guys/ men are the ones that tell us "if he ghosts you, he doesn't love you" blah blah blah
My ex left me for a young school girl after 30years mind you, he was 29 years her senior married have a child, they stayed together for 17years. She step out on him not before she clears out his banks accounts, she take house car, van,etc clean him out, and you all knew what he came back 😏 I give him a piece of land he built a business place on it doing great, but that is as far as I can go with him. We chat of and on, and that is. I have no hatred towards him but we are finish i living my life and he his 🎉
If this is a man you're just getting to know. Things are different. But if he's already had complete access to you and you did each other wrong. Stay away. This trauma bonding is unnecessary.
What if we have genuine and strong connection and it’s been 18 years since I was 19 and he was 18. I had a kid he had 2 kids and married and now divorcing after 3 years. Our connection is magnetic but I can’t do it anymore and I’m losing my love for him. He’s a man of pride holding things against me from when we were young. He makes every excuse in the world not to commit to me..he says I’m beautiful all the time and physically we are great together and I’m smart. So why keep wasting my youth. He can have any woman he wants like I can have any man I want and yet he won’t walk away from me.
.. if its a “relationship” that never got off the ground and u were JUST getting to know each other, MAYBE you can give a CHANCE.. However, look at Jlo.. My godfather went back to his childhood girlfriend almost 30yrs later, and married her.. She sent her adult son to KILL him just to get his money. Say NO to the EX.
There are so many broke women in the comment section where they have this unforgiveness & keep saying thing’s that are broken please Stephen make videos about broken women
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NEVER let them come back. They're ONLY coming back because whatever options that they thought they had didn't pan out. Say no, ladies.
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@@LisaCulton ABSOLUTELY TRUE!
I had an old boyfriend that I told, "You wanted to be in the streets, so stay out there. Ain't no coming back over here!"
@@marciawade9101
True . When there’s a connection, it can’t be created or destroyed ❤️
Men come back when their hookup disappointed them, and they can't find another hookup.
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@@EarthWindFireable Yep. That's the ONLY reason they try to circle back; it's not because they want to be with YOU in particular.
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isn't always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is, to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, sister. after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Unfortunately they dont get it right the first time around is right but i would like to be with the person who appreciated me the first time around. You leave me with trauma and im supposed to accept you back....na.
Right, happened to me today,I didn't even answer the phone for him and I never will,I cried, sacrificed, loved,have nothing left I'm done❤
@KimberlyGray-cd3lt yes I too must be in season they are all returning at the same time
That's how I feel. Trauma is a lot more to deal with than drama. Ijs
Wow took the words right out of my mouth 🤍😮💨
Don't go back to a abusing narc it gets worse
👠🌹If they are truly for you, then they will come back. But will you still feel the same about them?🤷🏽♀️ijs
If the connection was true and reciprocal, maybe yes, if not, NO.
If they were meant to be there, they would've stayed
The End. 🤷
@@marciawade9101 Or maybe: right person, wrong time.
@@marciawade9101 Or maybe: "right person, wrong time". Well, they could be good friends.
@@TerryGuzmanMartinez Stop "Holding on to Yesterday"! - Ambrosia
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They only try to come back if they think that you are still weak enough to tolerate his nonsense !! I CANNOT take him back ! NEVER !! He burnt his bridges . PERIOD ! I am done and dusted . . . I moved on . I would not allow him back to continue wasting my time and energy. If he was distracted by external interferance , good for him , let him go to where he thought the grass was greener . . . If he thought I wasnt enough for him then , what has changed to make him try n come back to me ??? Never , never , never , never . The word No is a complete sentence . . .
My husband and I broke up twice before getting back together. We just celebrated 9 years of marriage. We have learned about each other and ourselves. I'm thankful for this journey.
Did you both have other relationships in between times you came back to each other?
That's a red flag. If he wanted you he should have held onto you
@@AS-wj1du Not true stop speaking about feelings and life what you and I no nothing about, periiod.
@@AS-wj1du 👏👏👏
Females REALLY need to get a clue!
He's back because other females put him out and he had no where else to go. 🤷
@@vanessacs538 Someone fighting THIS hard for b.s., is NOTHING but a clueless doormat!
YOU ☝️!
I’m not even offended bc I treat these types of connections in a logical fashion. If they go, they go. Expecting a woman to just wait around… and if y’all are in your child bearing age and you want kids, you gonna wait for this man to make up his mind while your child bearing window closes. Next.
I didn’t wait around. I moved on and found a man and settled in! Had me a family. My ex came running back and I was just about to have my first baby with someone else, 4 yrs later! Connections aren’t that important just keepin’ it 💯 My ex remained close to my family to feel close to me while I left the country with my husband. If you’re a man stop wasting women’s time and go trauma bond with someone that deserves you!
You have to take a break and let people get themselves together it takes time if it was ment to be it will be if not then you pray and keep moving forward with your life dont rush back into anything
Agreed. There are just some connections that only time can heal. If that person really truly wants you in their life, they will move mountains to be with you. If your paths cross and it's a beautiful moment to just say, "Hey, it's great seeing you." Then let it be that and move on. Or see what God has in store for you two and walk through life together.
Love this, perfectly said ❤
You are so darn spot on!!! I really love and miss my ex. He is in another relationship. I don’t interfere in that..
@@KimberlyGray-cd3lt thank you, it’s taken me years to get to that point.
@@brendahstarr1349 it is absolutely okay to love and miss you ex. If God wants your paths to cross, it will happen. If not, it’s okay to move on in the love that you shared to heal and be well yourself.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I'm very sorry about your long relationship ending. That pain of the love of your life not being in your life anymore takes time to work through. You need to allow yourself the time and respect and compassion to feel your feelings and think about everything, what went right, what went wrong, how their smile or the sound of their laughter lit up your life, how they helped motivate you into growing into a better, healthier and safer version of yourself. All of it. It was your relationship, so please show yourself, and your loved one, the compassion and respect that you both deserve. Do not try to "magic" someone back into your life when they made their choice to leave. You do not have their consent. So even if you do and they didn't really choose you, think about the consequences that can come from that. Unfortunately there are consequences to everything, action and inaction. It's frustrating, I agree. However there is always hope and it comes from genuine integrity, in your words and your actions, and the same goes for them. Maybe it's the timing. Maybe your loved one needs to work through some stuff. Maybe you need to work through some stuff. Praying to God and meditating has helped me, sitting with my thoughts and feelings and understanding why things happened the way they did has been helpful for me, as well as watching wise advice from therapists and psychologists and folks like Mr. Stephen Speaks, because it starts to make better sense. I think we, as spiritual beings, do need help sometimes navigating this thing called life and through our own unique perspectives, but be very careful on who you go to, because..unforseen consequences. I find the general tarot card readings on here very helpful, and it made me realize that we are all going through similar things, micro and macro, and that we really are all connected, through Divine Souce Energy/God/the Universe, and Love. If you really love your individual, be good for them, love them from afar, because we all deserve safe and respectful love. Put that good energy out there and have faith in God to help show you your path. You are loved. Take a deep breath and show yourself compassion first. No need to try to control everything and everyone. Take a deep breath and show yourself compassion. Vibrate from genuine, authentic love, and let that be your healthy, safe and respectful path to alignment and enlightenment. I wish you all well and may God bless you and all of yours, dear fellow Earthlings. Namaste 🙏🌻🍀.
I came to this conclusion with the person I know is my person our connection was surreal and he isn’t completely ready for it. And I’m not necessarily waiting on him but I know he’s returning and I prayed on it and I’m preparing myself for what Gid revealed to me
Congratulations because we need to realize that men are human beings! As much as we want them to be perfect no one is! It’s the effort and direction for me!
Look at you praying and waiting for him while he ‘isn’t ready’ for you meaning he doesn’t want to commit to you. So easy to keep women around. Wake up
@@edithk2997 naw I’m not around I’m just open to allow God to be God. So if someone else comes along and God verifies them I’m with them. But yeah I’m woke and preparing myself for God himself because He’s my 1st husband. I thank God for not holding on to anything or anyone but also having a peace that surpasses understanding and for understanding for a man without being bitter, angry or hurt.
If the connection was real he won't easily forget you.. hopefully he comes to his senses sooner rather than later❤
@ naw he didn’t forget about me. And we didn’t have an argument or anything, sometimes people don’t feel worthy of healthy love and its a protection more than a rejection, perspective is everything
Never go back
It depends on the situation. I know people go back together and married now. Some people are meant to be together.
GO FORWARD NOT BACK!!!!
@@lashawnshipp8271 No, his other women put him out and "Lashawn The Doormat" thought it was "love" and took him back.
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They need to learn that a woman's time is not to be played with. We need to stop being kind to a fault. This is the real world and you're dealing with an adult that should have a fully developed brain. This back and forth is a game that wastes valuable years.
I was with my ex for four years. We met through my brother this man was used by so many women for his money. I came and showed love the only woman that gave him affection and gifts on holidays meanwhile i got verbally abused. Severely and decided to end the relationship permanently he reaches out to my sister saying he misses me but i never responded. Its been 6 years since we broke up. And i don't regret it.
This is so sad
@rockyblue2378 yeah I'm still traumatized.
A sad man.
He self-sabotaged his life.
@dome4ever yes he did
Similar situation with me 😪
It's not shocking that a man can make a genuine mistake. It's just not the first thing that women will assume because of the culture we live in. But, life is too short to spend on a part of it on reopening closed chapters, especially if the separation was disrespectful. If you had a close connection once with one man out of the four billion on this planet, you can form another one out of that four billion. Keep moving forward. If he truly means to make things right then he would apologize with no strings attached. But there is nothing for a man to gain in that. Regardless of whether his underlying intentions, he returns because he knows what he stands to gain from you. If you're fine with spending a little time to see if it'll work out, then go ahead. But you are not obligated to do anything aside from caring for your own best interest. No one can do that for you and the consequences of ignoring your best interest can be severe.
Be careful about who you let into your life and doubly careful about who you allow back. This is a general rule for ALL types of relationships.
It can also be the right person wrong time.
No such thing.
O it is a such thing
@@LisaHollis-s9u in your delusional brain. A man who doesn’t see your value initially, never will but keep believing a lie if it soothes your ego.
@@LisaHollis-s9u No, you WANT it to be a thing, but, it's not.
If he wasn't rockin' with you from jump, he wasn't your guy. PERIOD!
@@marciawade9101 there are all kinds of possibilities in life presented all kinds of ways I am not thirsty I want what I am supposed to have not what I think I am supposed to have. If it is for me it will be period.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is Father Akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
A guy ain’t gonna tell me he don’t want me and then expect to come back I married another man the previous guy was slunking and wasting time I met my soulmate ya’ll unless he apologizes for his mistakes that’s different but don’t let a man play in ya face!
Maybe I shouldn't say this but there's something very jive about Stephen. He seems incredibly disingenuous.
@@danilaroche1156 he can be unrealistic at times I agree with your statement wholeheartedly
@@danilaroche1156how exactly? Haven’t met him personally I never got that vibe from him ❤
They just like to keep their options open / when things are not going well in some other relationship they have you on the back burner
There was a real connection but he is a liar and a cheater. I'm talking 5 or more at all times. Goes from one to the next. Like what flavor of the day do I want today kinda thing.
Unless he gives his life to God and brakes those chains, he doesn't have a place in my life.
Sounds very broken.. healing is poss but only with God, and not dragging us around in their stuff ... You're right
AMEN. Keep your word for your mental health.
Amen 🙏🙏🙏
💯 after the heartbreak comes reflection healing and then growth. The process of learning the lessons wasn’t easy but if you return to that place after the heartbreak equipped with determined to apply those lessons, man, it’s the most beautiful sequel ever. Now, if you f up this go around, just let it be for a different lesson and not a repeat of the past!
We are not going back Stephan! Men come back because where they went, things didn’t work out. They come back because you let them come back.
That's right.
I couldn’t ever go back to any of my Ex’s. If it ended on a bad note why would I bounce back to that. It’s just better to move on IMO…👏🏻😊
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I couldnt agree more 💯
Nah I don't want that individual!
RIGHT ❤
I dodged a missile yall 😂🎉❤
We must know the difference between a genuine connection vs a perceived connection that stems from trauma, unhealed wounds, etc. I didn’t have a genuine connection with my ex-husband of 21 years and when I finally left him…I never wanted to go back.
Comes back unchanged and still dragging commitment. And we have a genuine and deep soul connection.
Sometimes you connect deeply with a person because you were both broken in the same place.. that relationship can cause you to heal and there’s no point of going back… I had this with a man … I worked to heal … and grow … he came back still toxic … I blocked him and continued to heal… yes he slept around and dated a lot and according to him “no one makes me feel like you do, it doesn’t feel the same” … baby I know I’m one of one… I spent too much time roasting bad behavior… God would have to tell me give him another chance and he would have to come back with a ring and proof of therapy… I’m past the point of bf gf ….
Coach Steph u are so wise and gifted could you imagine
I ran into a guy I dated years ago and we both just started smiling
at each other
he walked up to me and said ARE YOU READY FOR THIS ??😅
he handed me a slip of paper and on it was written FRIENDS FOREVER with my signature on it
and he then whispered to me WAS this a SPELl l can,t seem to forget you ,we have unfinished business to take care off
The best relationship expert so far! Why? You always mention God. God bless you Stephen!
Agree 💯 percent! Stephan definitely is about putting God in any decision or relationship. 🙏❤✝️
My woman leaving me was the best thing she could have done. For whatever her true reasoning was, she didnt feel valued and I don't blame her. The space and time gave me the ability to identify and understand everything that has been holding me back whether it be in my life or our relationship. I have a genuine love for her so I would try again due to the connection but I also know that I need to become a better version of myself in order to not fall into old patterns. Any other way I would be doing us both a disservice.
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I’m currently experiencing this and I’m literally waiting on the lord. This person was someone I deeply loved and for them to come back around, is wild to me but the lord told me who he is to me. He’s slowly getting things in order for him and I to come back together righteously. So, I totally agree with you Stephen, wait on the lord and ask for him to reveal to you who he is and what’s his real intentions are.
Well he shouldn’t have taken the connection for granted and perhaps he would still have it. I give zero room for him to have an opportunity to mess with me
I agree with this message wholeheartedly. I pray a lot, release, and move abundantly. If he comes back, i stay lovingly open and say what i need.
🙏🙏Only God knows how much grateful i am. After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!
Thank you Jesus🙏🙏🙏, $32,000 weekly profits Our Lord Jesus have lifted up my Life.
Hello how do you make such monthly ?? I'm a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 🤦 of myself because of low finance but I still believe in God 🙏..
Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Mrs Martha Ann Hammerton ..👍
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.🙏
Wow that's nice She makes you that much!! please is there a way to reach her services, I work 3 jobs and trying to pay off my debts for a while now!! Please help me.
If you left,Leave for good ,Don't play with no one's heart..🙏❤️
They come back to enjoy the benefits he was receiving when he was with you
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This video was too short, sir.. but it makes you think. I like it. 😄👋🏼💯
I'm sorry, but if he leaves, it's over, and if I leave, it's over because what God has for me it is for me. I will feel the sincere acceptance of me and my flaws that come with it he will be able to deal with it or at least talk it through or, if needed, give it to God to fix it through his prayer life. I have been there and done it most of the time. There are red flags from the beginning that we omit or tha🎉t we don't pay attention to until you let them go and accept them back . That's when you tell yourself this is the reason I let this man go the first time real life 💯
I just (kindly) told a guy I like to stay away until he wants the same thing as me. I am clearly here looking for hope 😂🤦♀️
True sometimes, you dont get it right the first time. Sometimes you should never go back.
Needed this today , thank you for your wise words , and your 💯 correct 😊
Beautifully elaborated. Thank you for clarifying🤎🙏
Have a deep connection with a younger person, dont want nothing serious. He always come back,after he ghosts me for months.and i let him back in,im so weak and stupid, to continue this toxic connection.
Not stupid sounds like lonely. Just know your worth. Don't let your loneliness be your crutch. We all have felt that at one time or another. Just follow your heart and pray on it. God bless you
Connection is so very real. Stephan in your book 40 Prayers for my Future Husband you write, "You don't attract what you want. You attract who you are". I love this statement, this book is amazing. Thank you ❤ 🙏
Where to get his book? Is it on Amazon, I need help😑
Totally agreed… realising that my deepest fear was engagement ! 😅 especially when you love independance and autonomous.
Thrue love is also to let : doing or not doing, being or not being (my view).
Thanks for the video 🙏
Speaking for myself, it never works out the 2nd time around. I tried it 3 times.
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I'm sorry but he cannot have the same version of me in the second time around. Like duhhh if you love me youbwont leave it he first place.
Nice colours, comforting atmosphere
Stephan thank you for this video connection is so real and important
Not healthy, not same person in year's. Find NPD/self centered expect you to be open for them to return, HOWEVER THEY ARE 'HOOVERING' to see if YOU still 'trauma bonded' to give them attention. DO NOT GO BACK...TURN THE PAGE. REMAIN NO CONTACT. 'Friendship' different if respect/care/attunement. Otherwise avoid 'intimacy'.
A guy who truly loves you don't leave, he married you n makes a home w you, silly relationships if u accept silliness
I wish it wouldn't be so one sided.
But the chemistry is fantastic 😊
Thanks, you teaching I have learned so much from you and I’m still learning .May God be with you always.
on again off again does not work
If the guy who returns is now older he probably wants ‘a nurse with a purse’ ie his kids are grown/married/moved away, he’s divorced/widowed or just an ageing player whose charms don’t work any more, or he’s at retirement age and thinking “Who can I entice (con) to look after me now I’m old?” Don’t let it be you! Keep everything you have achieved WITHOUT HIM for yourself and look for a man who can match you in every way. Trust me, I got burned but I’m healed now.
Is the woman he's returning back to not older too?
@@chiagozieokwuaka6254 Men don't age as well as women. Women are healthier and live longer.
Another brilliant message Stephan. Thank you for all your dating and relationship advice over the years. I'm so grateful to have had God lead me to you years ago. I look forward to watching the full TH-cam video 😊 God bless you 🙏
Excellent analysis
Thank you Sir
He came back because the grass wasn't greener on that other side. He never wanted commitment but just the fun part of it with nothing attached
Stephan I am a BYU International Student and your talks helped me a lot improve my english listening skills and vocabulary and grammar as well .
I do not use your talks for dating purposes but for education purpose and it helped a lot
I listen to your talks almost everyday before going to bed .
Your native accent and words are amazing .
And your smile can melt any heart even the most hardest heart .
Thank you so much .God Bless
He is only returning to check if you are still naive sisters, so wake up! If that man played games with you for years, do you believe he will return to give you what you really deserve? Absolutely not! He will simply provide you with additional trauma. Simply because he returns doesn't imply that you should allow him back into your personal environment. Do not reply, do not take any presents, cash, or in-person meetings! Leave that sucka behind!
I agree with all that you mentioned. ❤
Thank you very much Mr. Stephen. Always good hearing from you sir and your very helpful wisdom. May God bless you, protect you and continue to guide you, as well as us all. Thank you again sir. Amen. Namaste 🙏🌻🍀.
Very timely. Thank you 😊
WOW ❤ This Is So True 💯 I Experienced It 😊
Fr ..I know it's inappropriate for them to even think it's ok to just show up nah dude ..hearts don't work like that. It's more hurtful to be so arrogant n well it's them trying to soften the lesson so letm them stay in what they created n let us be healed n better because they played themselves. Blocking us n diluting it even more is never good. Like yeah yeah good to see your still alive happy for you bye.
Everyone's situation different.right
wa sebetsa ka thata baya khutla hotlo destroy life yea hau.😢😢 😢 Ho molemo ho tshepa ntja hofeta monna🤣🤣🤣
❤ trust God, don't lose the faith
I don't know anymore.
Part of me feels like there is a connection.
Part of me feels like the more time we spent together the feelings started to grow.
Men know what they want from the beginning.
I just don't understand why would a man want to be around a female for 15+years as a friend.
Honestly, are they waiting for a chance?
I don't quite understand.
I know feelings mean nothing when theres the TRUTH!
Im blocked from this person because I called him out on BS.
I feel like this person is playing games.
I feel like this person incited love out of me with no intentions of returning that love.
I feel like this person used me to boost their EGO.
They used me as a placeholder for whatever reason.
They were grooming me to better understand the next.
I feel like this person do want me (like and loves me) but is afraid to say it, thus the disrespect.
A 15+ year friendship wasted.....
for what????
I just don't understand unfortunately.
So why bother coming back?
Im worth way more!!!! SMH
I guess im a little too powerful 😊.
Amen, Preach and Fact's 💯💯💯🙏🙏🙏
woow - that's a good advice yo ❤🙏🌟🍀
I believe that what you refer to as a "connection" are the divine relationships that are appointed before we are born. Those ties are guides for your specific path/journey. Like Jonah, we can run and elongate the timeline if we want to, but at some point, both parties will get hit hard enough and surrender.
Some people can go round two etc. I just want my round to be for life. Tired of these stupid games and immature men. Put the games away and treat the Queen as such. I just can't be with a man that, still wants to play those video games all the time. Waste of my time. Grow up. Relax with a good book and a cuddler instead. Who wants their man all consumed with the fellas coming over or even him just wanting to engage in that all the time. That's why the Queen looks for a real king. Wake up ...
Very true bad guidance outside interference trauma immaturity but we jump into other relationships but that never works now you are with someone you don't really want to be with.
I never go back for seconds (of mistreatment, abuse, etc.)!
Interesting insight!🙏
Sweetest delivery ❤
Some, not all, that's the true. ❤
No man come back to me, unless it was my husband who is abusive¿ And I am not a bad person and I treated them good
I have one guy from the past where I could potentially entertain a rekindle, but I need to know what is.his intentions? He has a busy life. Where do I fit in? Will I be a priority and not an option? What does career and his woman mean to him? I know what hindered us from our past , I am willing to grow from it, does he have any past trauma we need to discuss? Are you ready to dribble the ball or shoot it? In other words, I need to know what are we doing? It is simple for me. I have one with a connection but I need these questions answered. Are we on a quest or are we just here? It's simple.
The ship has sailed
Just because they come back doesn’t mean you have to take him back romantically. If there was a genuine connection, he will be happy to be just a friend.
Everything is a choice. If you choose to turn away from a “connection”..its still a choice. As women, we need to stop allowing men the time and grace, to come back. His dishonoring a connection is divine protection. Stay present.
Because all his other options couldn’t compare!🙇🏽
Apologies and figure out the issues
Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton got married twice 💝
I don't think it applies for narcissits guys that you already gave more than 3 chances but things got worse every time. How can u tell the difference
The way I got over him and the constant lies is with a book called the magic by Rhonda Byrne . ❤
How do you move past all of the women he was with while the two were separated?
You don't. Just move on and don't give him any consideration.
I would like to give men the benefit of the doubt here, but the men in my life came back because they realized I gave them more than anyone else ever did. Eventually, I walked away because they could never return the favors.
What? We women don't feed ourselves the negative reasons for them leaving. You guys/ men are the ones that tell us "if he ghosts you, he doesn't love you" blah blah blah
I believe you 🌸
My ex left me for a young school girl after 30years mind you, he was 29 years her senior married have a child, they stayed together for 17years. She step out on him not before she clears out his banks accounts, she take house car, van,etc clean him out, and you all knew what he came back 😏 I give him a piece of land he built a business place on it doing great, but that is as far as I can go with him. We chat of and on, and that is. I have no hatred towards him but we are finish i living my life and he his 🎉
Can't find anyone else
Thank you 💋 😊😊 I understand and yes a very real connection 😊😊Amen Thank you for this video . Enjoy 😉Wise words spoken 👏 ❤❤😊😊AMEN God
If this is a man you're just getting to know. Things are different. But if he's already had complete access to you and you did each other wrong. Stay away. This trauma bonding is unnecessary.
What if we have genuine and strong connection and it’s been 18 years since I was 19 and he was 18. I had a kid he had 2 kids and married and now divorcing after 3 years. Our connection is magnetic but I can’t do it anymore and I’m losing my love for him. He’s a man of pride holding things against me from when we were young. He makes every excuse in the world not to commit to me..he says I’m beautiful all the time and physically we are great together and I’m smart. So why keep wasting my youth. He can have any woman he wants like I can have any man I want and yet he won’t walk away from me.
There not coming back to this one. They're lost see you.
.. if its a “relationship” that never got off the ground and u were JUST getting to know each other, MAYBE you can give a CHANCE.. However, look at Jlo.. My godfather went back to his childhood girlfriend almost 30yrs later, and married her.. She sent her adult son to KILL him just to get his money. Say NO to the EX.
There are so many broke women in the comment section where they have this unforgiveness & keep saying thing’s that are broken please Stephen make videos about broken women
What is the name of the full video? Does anyone have a link?
Shocking reason why he’s to scared to come back! Better not try it!