How Covert Narcissists Sabotage Their Own Lives
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How Covert Narcissists Sabotage Their Own Lives//Most people think of narcissists as confident, successful people. But what happens when a narcissist's false persona starts to crumble? In this video, Rebecca Zung explores the dark side of narcissism and how covert narcissists sabotage their own lives.
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It’s so true, they are absolutely obsessed with impressing strangers but will treat their own family members, who love them, like trash.
I just away from a family narc and she treated stray dogs better than me.
But she damn sure loved my time and money.
Accurate 🫡
Yes. Narcissists tend to constantly look for people outside their relationships (family, friends, husband/wife) to try and find anybody who feels bad for them, as a way to feel loved, when that isn't love, at all. It's as though they know what they do/say will end up destroying their relationship with someone. Yet they still do/say it anyway, because they will always have a backup person who cares about them, when they realize their trash talking isn't going to keep them there.
@@martinbasten192 My narc has no back up and now she's going insane ever since I ditched her. I'm not wanting karma ... but karma is a bitch.
Truth
Biggest red flag to discover a covert : they ratchet up your sympathy/ guilt for " not helping THEM enough" even though they do ZERO for you and you have been BEYOND generous with your love, time and money.
You are so spot on.
RIIIIIGHT!!!!! I had a narcissist neighbor, luckily they moved away.... I have a painful autoimmune disease, Ankylosing Spondylitis and also have Fibromyalgia. I enjoy gardening, and my yard looks really nice. Well, my neighbor got her panties in a twist because I didn't "help" her with her yard .... My yard is mainly succulents and the rest of the yard is river rocks and palm trees. Very easy to take care of, although when the autumn leaves fall, that can be work... Her yard was nice, but neglected. Never once in my ten years of living here has this neighbor asked me if I needed help in the yard, nor would I expect her to..... Though if she was nicer to me, I may have helped her on my good days (aka when my pain levels are low). 🤷♀️
Yes!! Give guilt trip card…. “ thanksss , thanks a lot “ …narcs play nasty and double standards, rules don’t apply to them 😡
Absolutely! I am overcoming my chronic fatigue but I do my best to help her here around the house. Yet as mentioned by Rebecca, my so called missus gets angry for not jumping up on my feet to help her haul things inside.
So true, and absolutely zero value for what you have done for them
What's sucks is that we find this information and help after the damage is done. The aftermath of their actions is the worst....so painful and destructive.
Aye to that, make this information compulsory in schools etc
@@howyduinyall7653 yes it definitely should be. luckily younger generations have the internet exposer of the subject
For sure!
So true. You don't see the person is a narcissist until the damage is done. You might see red flags but get blindsided by them.
It’s one of those fatalist things where the outcome was always inevitable. Even knowing or finding this information wouldn’t change a single damn thing.
It was still going to play out with lots of collateral damage. Yourself, the kids, them, grandparents, cousins, brothers sisters.
Finding the info early could help mitigate and prepare yourself.
Getting away from the narc in my life was the best decision I ever made in my life.
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July 18, 2016- I left my ex husband narcissist 7yrs ago. He bragged everyday when someone was there to listen to him. I quit believing when he hit me and broke me down. But I bounced back with advocate of Domestic violence. Best thing I ever done & don't date either. I'm happier than I ever been. 😊
MAY God bless you for your strength
Oh yes!!😍😍
🎉🎉🎉🎉AMEN🎉🎉🎉🎉
Narcs truly are already living in their own hell. Under their false self they are self-loathing and miserable.
And that is no excuse for what they say and do - they know the difference between right and wrong.
No sympathy whatsoever after what I have been put through.
It is always said they are living in their own hell. but are they really? Or are they just so out of touch it doesn’t even occur in their mind?
@@MJ87808 They believe the lies they tell themselves and others. This way they think they don't have to hold themselves accountable.
I have a friend she one
They will destroy their own lives and anyone else in their path who they blame.
That is the truth.
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Let them destroy their own life first, and, please Dearest Lord in Heaven, let me be a witness to her emploding. That would be the best thing ever.
Let them dig their own grave and don't look back. Move on with your life and stay strong. They sow their own seeds so don't give them any water.
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Wow Mom ..thoses are truly words of wisdom!
Unfortunately True...Even the One's You Love You Have to Let Go of Them Emotionally and Physically in Order to Move On With Your Own Life.....
"They underestimate you. They overestimate themselves. Allow their ego to be their downfall. As long as you give them rope they will hang themselves."
How we hope this is true-reaping and sowing manifest.
I have been around narcissistic people all my life. I walked away because of their toxic attitudes. I keep moving on and look to better times ahead.
Wish you the best for that. Although I'm now financially far better of than in my former profession and am well liked in my new I still have to deal with depressions because what was done to me and others I couldn't protect. Their toxicity ruins everything.
@@Akkordeondirigent it's hell.. 33 years.. unfortunately it's a story that no one is out there to help.. with the trauma.. But moving on is the only escape.. starting over at 53 with nothing. It hurts deep.
@@carolbeukes4810 I share this experience.
They say just cut them off, but what if you just run into more. It's like zombies everywhere 😂
@@whoKnew1621 Exactly what happened to me all the time. My whole life people said to me that I couldn't reach my goal. I kept going, was successful - and brought down by people who said that I wasn't enough. It can break you.
“Never interrupt the enemy when they’re making a mistake!”
3/7/23 - Now that I think about it, I think Peter O’Toole said it in “The Lion In Winter” when he played King Henry II, Plantagenet.
Yeah. Good one.
Just don't play the game at all
Wall away and you'll see them self destruct
Love this! Will remember it. Best advice I've gotten in 2022.
@@kimberlyadams1300 Thanks. I don’t remember who the quote came from but it’s great advice I try to follow!
I'm so GRATEFUL for so many things. I refused to be a victim. I thrive anyways.Despite being villianized, and bullied, and shit on. I'm still grateful, and thankful and I still dance,smile , and laugh.
Also because you’re nothing like them , let this be the biggest victory. 🙏
God got you in his hands keep going u not alone🙏🏾❤
Dance On! 👍
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@@RebeccaZungEsq thank you! Much appreciated.. 💛. Still hanging in there.
I’m moving on… what is painful for me is that others don’t know or see the narcissism they’ve seen the false self that was presented and I look like the angry bad guy!
Right?!? I’ve been dealing with the same thing. I’m sorry this has been painful for you...
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This is a chance for us to dive into ourselves like never before. Realize just how much value, or lack there, of that they give to your life. All of them. It’s so difficult to be on your own completely, but I feel the inner strength growing. I don’t know how that will benefit me yet, but I have a feeling it’s good. I no longer have to be co-dependent on anyone if I don’t want to. I have things I’ve wanted to do my whole life, and that’s what I will fight for now. I will see my dreams come true without the hinderance from others. I don’t feel guilty.
The same here. Stay strong
I hear you on that. I have other parents at my kids sports that no longer talk to me because they’ve been told I’m abusive and that’s why we separated. She called the police on me and told them I was abusing (verbally) her just as soon as she’d finished an angry outburst, finger pointing while telling me I’m a nasty person, and then yelling F#%k you F#%k off. I stayed in my seat and communicated calmly, I even remember apologising for swearing during the incident. Talk about projection. Apparently my children are scared of me and they run and hide from me but just 5 days after the angry outburst from her and a day before I moved out she agrees to 50/50 care of our boys 😂 so much for caring about them! Classic absence of empathy. Meanwhile, I have them with me tonight and they are happily tucked up in bed following a nice dinner out stories and lots of cuddles. Shit I’m a bad parent! Haha😂
I felt sorry for this person for 50+ years. Then I got sick. Boy, did I get kicked in the face by the emotional abuse.
I got cancer and my wife of 18 years started right away looking for someone else then I had a major heart attack and boy did she pick up the pace LOL. I honestly believe the lord had me go through this to get me out. I'm strong as an ox now
Somebody said to me: "Did you realize that you married somebody stupider than you?"
Same here. My entire life for 50+ years felt sorry for my malignant covert Mom.
I never lived my life. It is all her agenda , plans, fulfilling her desires…..
Yep, 4 days after having a cancerous kidney removed I was home in bed recovering & she told me I was being “poor-me”, lazy & that just lying in bed wouldn’t help me get better & that I should get up & take her out for lunch! The complete lack of empathy astounded me!
@@assplundah ya time to take her out permanently
I have experienced the tantrum after telling a toxic person I no longer wanted to be their friend anymore because they told me they would no longer respect my boundaries, and I was tired of all the emotional, verbal, and gaslighting. They went into a rage, told me they unfriended me first. Ok, whatever. Lol..... The very next day, they were acting like nothing was wrong, and they are "Ok" with me...... Nope. Did not reply.
If they see me as the "bad person", that is on them. Not My problem. These boots are from walking away from toxic people and situations.
I have witnessed that so often!! Being treated like crap by that narcissist. And then he flips around as though he never said or did what he did. I chalk it up to gaslighting. Trying to make you feel like you are going nuts. But I remember every last thing that creep has done to me. Haven't had any contact at all, other than what was absolutely necessary.
It never ends.
Yes...its all ok now...i forgive you for saying you have had enough... let's act like nothing has happened...AGAIN...yep when it's time to walk...KEEP on walking...
That acting like nothing was wrong the next day... that was my experience every day that followed one of my husband's outbursts. And it drove my two daughters up the wall as well. They couldn't understand how he could be so hateful and irrational at night, then act like he was a happy, loving husband/father the next day. We left him a year ago and still, he doesn't understand why they don't want to talk to him. As my 16-year-old put it, "He'll never understand the damage he did to us. Because of that, we can never move past it together, so I'm moving on without him."
I follow the same creed - life's too short 😊
This is all true. Especially that they are genuinely shocked when you leave them.
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They are all so good actors.
It was never real.
I had to remind myself...they flip the blame back to you .
The crocodile tears are squeezed out just to throw you off....They have to win at any cost.
Stay strong and remember that always.
Good luck ❤
I am moving on!
I so relate to this. I used to ask him why he sabotaged all the time. With lying or deceit or secrets something would always come to the light and then he’s the victim. Apologizing and hoovering. I’ve never experienced anything like this before. The emotional abuse is unbelievable.
Stay strong. The guilt trips will be trying. They will not change if truly diagnosed narcs. With weekly therapy forever a marriage might work. Might....for others reading this: Be careful about how much time you are willing to lose and attention you are willing to devote to someone who simply needs a supply. Any supply will do. Listen carefully. Does your partner compromise, date nights with you, like you, respect you, trust you, and love you or want to control you? God bless you. May he bless us all in our brokenness💙
I'm in a legal battle with mine and its bizarre to see how every time they make a false claim and get called out and proven wrong on it they just rearrange their narrative and go at it again, as if none of their claims are being documented let alone are all going to be used against them in court later as proof this whole shyte show is just a huge narcissistic bullying and extortion attempt gone wrong.
Exactly!!!
They truly believe they will get away with things because they have gotten away with things for so long one way or another. They want to be able to continue to weasel their way out of responsibility, honesty, and accountability.
@@myblueskye777 That's pretty much what I see too. They have bullied their way through everything all their lives and now that someone close has stood up to them they don't know what to make of it other than to throw everything they have at me no matter the losses they will take on for it.
It's a sport to them.
I'm going through an ongoing divorce (26 months now) and this is exactly what I'm going through. One thing my attorney and I picked up early on was that if ex was accusing me of something, he was the one doing it.
The saddest part of them is when they get old & they see that everyone around them has moved on in their own lives & they’re still stuck in a particular time period. They look around & see that they absolutely have nothing - no family, friends, money, etc and that others have successfully secured their future. I’ve seen it in many of my friends as time went on. They would rather live as a victim- then come clean about their poor judgement & take responsibility for anything in their life. That my friend is SAD .
You have described my younger sister. With the added bonus that she blames me for how her life turned out. So I shut down that BS to her face. I interact with her only if needed and minimally at that. My other sibs tell me she regularly complains to them about me. I’m happy to be free of her aura.
OMG THIS IS THE TRUTH!!
@@mariewheeler6522
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I've moved on!
Amended my divorce paperwork today, from barely taking anything, to making him give me half of everything.
He was always a victim. I even asked him, don't you get tired of being a victim?? He rolled his eyes.
Whatever. I'm stronger then him. I will prevail.
I can’t thank you enough for the help you have given me in understanding the way I’ve been demeaned and demoralised by close family members many years of my life. Due to your advice over the last three years, I was able to listen to this video retrospectively and realise that no contact whatsoever has given me both strength and peace without regret.
No contact is so very powerful. I had a friend for over 50 years, it was an, on and off friendship. I didn’t realise she was a narcissist, once I realised , the friendship fall apart.
@@wendyhannan2454 I had to end a friendship like that. The controlling got to be too much!
@@amandakropen3273 Its disappointing Amanda,however when you start to feel bad about your self in their company, it’s time to bow out. And we can do it gracefully 😉
Good for you, I know it took strength bc my abuser said I would not get anything. Well that was a lie. I got more than half. I haven't seen him in 5yrs, yay! Poor 4th wife, she'll wake up. I don't wish anyone to live with him. He's evil as they come.
I didn't want sympathy, I wasn't a victim, I'm a survivor, he's the looser. It's awesome to make my own decisions, I thank God everyday 🙏 I'm celebrating happiness .🎉
Even a paralyzed person has enough self respect not to seek PITY.
I live with a narcissist and he was shocked when I stopped talking to him. Just a awful condition, or whatever it is. Definitely agree with you that they think kindness and empathy are a weakness.
"They have to be the victim" really resonates its really quite shocking in the middle of stabbing you in the back they r crying about how hurt they are. And that they would rather have outside sources than family is so damn true.
I have moved on 😊
I agree, they are THE WORST! Like an enemy that pretends to be a friend.
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I moving on,with God on our side we win!🙏💙💙
Although there are times I've asked myself if I've sabotaged my life, there's been many times that I believed I was the frog in the pot as you put it lol for years I struggled internally but normally I kept to myself about things, and in that same light tried to be nice/uplifting to others...we are our worst critic ironically, but thank you for helping clear some of the garbage with your wisdom, I respect you alot for giving information to help others
Well put!
I'VE MOVED ON! Over a month ago now. And it's been wonderful!
Great video!!!
Death by 1000 cuts is real! Thanks for saying that. That’s how they get people sucked in. We say to ourselves. Hummm. Did he mean that? Is he socially inept? He didn’t mean that bc that was so mean. He has no reason to be mean to me.
They are excessively insecure and jealous but have learned how to dole it out to where they can get away with it for awhile. They can’t help themselves.
I am moving on. My sister I feel sorry for her, self victimizing has become her MO. My sister has everything a person could want and still the world holds no joy. She releases her rage of lack of self worth onto those who love her the most.
Believe me I know how all that whining gets old.
My sister was the same. She would say, "I got all this money and things are going good, but why am I not happy?" Such a shame smh.
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@@whoKnew1621 happy are those conscious of their spiritual need...Matt 5:3
My covert narcissist ex seems to have much better control of his emotions. I rarely ever in 20 years saw him lose it. I’m the one who has the passionate honest transparent outburst of emotion when something unjust is done.
Unfortunately a true narc doesn't really have genuine emotions or feelings. You probably mistook that as having 'better control of his emotions'. They can imitate/pretend emotions and feelings of course. Many times the only visible rage or upset or emotional person in sight is the victim of the narc. The victims end up shattered, not the narc.
That's what gives them joy...your pain. Don't give it to them.
@@kennethlapointesongwriter3330 they defiantly have emotions, they have envy, jealously, anger, sadness all negatives.
This is it here! Recently I felt as if I was loosing my mind. I just can’t figure out why the recurring distance and unkindness. At first I feel it but he denies it and does little things to prove he is not pulling away still I feel the absence. He just keeps a foot in the door so to speak but treats me like crap. He is a quiet one though. No discussion, no conversation. I am left to wonder what went wrong. Drives me crazy. I don’t want to do this anymore. There has not been one year in over 30 years without this happening. This time around he told me after 7 months of withdrawal that I did nothing wrong and he does not know why he treats me so poorly. Still he has made no attempts to apologize or reconcile. Of course not. I usually do that.
same
Number 6 is where the flying monkeys come in. Once the story has been established about how difficult you are, always carefully based on a truth or a true situation but they run with it and you can never atone for whatever it was that you displayed or something you said in distress and frustration.
I suspect my sister-in-law of being one of these, she brings havoc in other people's lives but she's the victim
My ex-, his evil sister, mum and dad are all narcissists..
Now haven crashed his second marriage, they again accuse the stupid janitor who fell for his tricks (acting like a single Dad)..she used voodoo too..now she is stuck with 3 miserable daughter .gets cheated on, hit, abused and debased (left her paid job in her country to join him here
Now i just look at him with zero affect as we co-parent our teen son.
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My husband and I took the very sage advice of going zero contact. Things improved so much we both know it was the correct move.
I was with a covert narcissist for a couple of yrs. The 1st covid isolation gave me that little bit of time to research his behaviours - & there were many. That's when I was card & out. It hurt but staying would have hurt even more. I was lost, & a mere shadow of my former self.....
I moveD on! Thank you for all the clarity 🙏 May God bless you for all the good💕
Am moving on! This is so helpful amazing I have to say it takes a year or so to head your brain back when you been with a NARS for 20 years, it has taken me long time. Thankful to you Rebecca and Dr. Ramani
Oh, my goodness, you are completely spot on. Dealing with this behavior in an ex and a narcissistic sister. It's through videos like this That I have come to understand this crazy behavior. Thank you so much for your video and advice.
I’ve tried to move on- 8yrs later, she’s still dragging me through court. It’s truly a sickness.
Rebecca, it's been ramping up...then there's you!!!! The sun comes out. I get more grit
I'm moving on!! Thanks so much for everything, Rebecca! Listening to you has been so helpful.
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"I'M MOVING ON!"
Thank YOU for sharing this with us all!
Much Respect & Gratitude, with a whole lotta LOVE & LIGHT!
🙏✌️💚🕊️💫
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This is actually quite comforting to me. Their infuriating behavior and trigger attempts have a pretty serious downside. The flip side of destruction is self-destruction! I am definitely moving on! Merry Christmas, Rebecca. Peace, Love, and Light to you and yours.
both my parents and now brother are narcissists... so naturally all my first boyfriends were narcissists... one day i decided NO MORE - and was amazed to find this kind amazing guy... who of course turned out to be a covert narc.... now finally 18 years later I am almost free of all of them ( 2 kids with the covert... ) the covert was actually the most HELLISH of them all
My Mom was a histrionic narc - the drama queen, so of course I wanted the calm, cool and controlled guy, who turned out to be a covert. Same coin, just 2 sides. The covert is by far more dangerous and destructive.
Same. 😢
I’m moving on! Thank you, Rebecca
Wow. This is my ex to the T. I also find that they sabotage themselves by doing nothing when you are negotiating. Totally agree you can change the way your brain is. I am in the process of releasing the trauma in my body which changes the way your brain operates. Thank you for all what you do for people
Where did you learn that?
How?
Are you asking how I release my trauma.
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I let my kindness be a huge weakness and get exploited as an unknowingly willing victim by two different bad people in my life; however, after realizing that I had some codependent issues and had come under the influence of people skilled in subtle manipulation, and played power games, I have been able to change myself in a not-toxic way where i'm still a decent, giving human being, but not with everyone and not right away.
Thank you for great advice and your invaluable help and assistance on my healing journey. God bless you Rebecca. ❤
Thank you for this video Counselor Zung. I have already dealt with several of them. And I have already moved forward. Blessings! 🙏🙏🙏❤💐
After reviewing a number of your videos I see your heart and "get" what you are about in reaching out to enlighten others. God speed, and may your devoted efforts provide wisdom and savvy to the sincere and vulnerable. Thank you, Ms. Zung! ... ... The biggest take away for me on this video seemed to coin it like no other expert in this field I have yet heard: ... "...They need to be the victim. And, that deeply sabotages their own lives. That's how empty they feel. Instead of actually having a genuine, loving, whole, complete relationship that's filled with joy and light and peace and really experiencing the wholeness of what life has to offer they're down in this low level vibration of sadness and guilt and bad feelings. It's just horrible. They do everything they can to get sympathy from other people, and making poor choices, and talking bad about others, and their line are just always this woah is me. And, that's total self sabotage. Who wants to live in that space. That's the worst way that covert narcissists can sabotage their own lives." Thanks again for sharing these words.
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I’m so here for this topic ❤
Thank you from the top of my heart. Just what i needed to hear especially from someone who has lived through this horrible nightmare. ❤
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This is presented so accurately, that it is impressive.
Do the narcs not care that they are destroying their own life along with destroying the life of their victim? This question was running in my mind for the past few days and I got the answer through your video. Thank you so much ❤️
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Thank you for all your hard work and informative information. You are helping me so much personally.. and I'm able to pass on your great channel to my Clients. 🙏
I'm moving on !Thank you very much for being you!
12 Years of Living with this woman I am moving on thank you
Narcissists are EVERYWHERE. Only finding out now what these people are about. I’ve been a narcissist magnet in the past but now I get the hell out if its looking suspicious. My most recent experience was a “friend” who was bossy and non caring uninterested in my stuff. Blocked her and she tried another platform blocked that and everything else she was on. Next thing I’m getting a text from her granddaughter, they are relentless. It’s over now thank goodness
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Hang on. Indulge me for a moment.
So you have basically given her the silent treatment because she
Didn't give YOU enough attention. She wasn't interested in YOU enough.
Did you tell her how.you felt? I would say no because that would require effort on your part to name her negative behaviours and say how they affected you. You decide its best to block her and go no contact because again YOUR the victim, right?
I mean doing that is nothing like abandoning someone when your finished with them.😑
Do you know what we don't like in others is just a mirror of what we don't like in ourselves?
I am going to put it to you that you are the Narcissist. I know you will hate this and I could be way off and I hope I am but your comment absolutely reeks of someone who is not emotionally mature and that in its essence is narcissism .
Totally agree Rebecca. Great video 🙂
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i'm so glad to come across your content again. i have to white jacket/gray rock this one.
Good job Rebecca Zung. You would be a narcissists worst nightmare in court. But here on the video i feel like i am on your team, and your presentation helps a lot. Thanks for revealing this mysterious subject.
I have been through narcissistic abuse as a child then when my mom passed away I have since moved and found myself for the second time and it's the same covert narcissist 🙏🏻
Huh? Are you saying that you are a covert narcissist?
Yes they will never change.
I'm in the exact same boat! My mother was diagnosed with BPD, but it's always been very obvious to anyone who spent any length of time with her that she is highly narcissistic. She was physically and extremely emotionally/mentally abusive to me as a child. My degree is in Psychology and I've spent most of my life studying mental illness, and because of the personal injury inflicted by my mother, I never thought I'd encounter another like her. Wrong. Almost a decade after I cut her off, I was in a serious relationship with a man who exhibits the same traits that she did and I'm still in disbelief as to how the wool was pulled over my eyes so easily. I should have known better!
@@sarahfagan3243 Charm can be deceitful...the Bible
Same with a friend lol
I'm moving on! IT feels good... I realize I just can't go down with the sinking ship!!!!!
Over a decade of crazy ! Mine smokes weed every day all during the day and drinks alcohol .the combination of her narcissism fueled by marijuana and alcohol it’s like hell on earth . It’s been 30 days now blocked . I hope I can do this .. I have to say I feel my energy coming back because these people are true soul suckers…
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I m moving onnnn. Thank you baby ❤❤❤
I'm moving on , thankyou for your for your experience znd guidance in recovering from a covert Narcissist x
I’m moving on!! They don’t think people can truly live them because they don’t truly love themselves. They don’t really think no one could love them!!!
it feels SO GOOD to walk away 💥
With positive support (family, friends, prayers, and the good Lord). I’m moving on!
I’m moving on! Thank you so much for these!!
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My ex narc did his self in when practicing law & lost his license to practice any more. His behavior was horrible & blamed others & of course it was not his fault - ever. Glad I got out before it happened!!! He never thought I would leave - but I did!!! I moved on!
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My sister sabotaged her own life so other people would take care of her. We both worked for our overt narc parents (the worst mistake of my life). She was bad at her job on purpose and then trapped me with guilt into staying. Cost me 10 years of no retirement contributions and being severely underpaid. I should have left at 18 and never looked back.
I see that a lot especially with Narc Mothers and their grown up kids instead of building up their confidence to make it on their own they put them down 'Oh you wont pass the driving license" 'If your gonna move bk in it has to be long term and and any extra money u hv has to come my way...my way or no way......dont go anwhere this week end might need you IF something comes up..."boo hoo dont talk to your auntie she hurt me you ex cant do this or that with MY Grandchildren...never ending control over others or flying monkeys.
Thank you Ms Zung. Much appreciated.
Thank you Rebecca ❤ God bless you❤
There is also a genetic component to Narcissism. It’s not just due to a bad childhood.
Someone I know, didn't exhibit narcissistic behavior until a couple of traumatic things happened to him. It's complex for sure.
The Narcissist in my Life, is one of my adult daughters, and she had exactly the same upbringing as all her siblings. She didn't seem anything other than a sweet little girl, when she was growing up, but then after being at College for a few years, she became like a Demon. It's too much to try and say here, but she's a Full Blown Narcissist, with All that entails.
She's Completely destroyed me, so much so that I barely recognize myself anymore. I'm only now beginning to recover, after she's given me the Silent Treatment for about a year now, and I'm starting to enjoy the Peace, after all the tears and heartbreak, All Mine, incidentally.
I'm Moving On. ❤
@@Janeintheok maybe you didnt know that person enough
Definitely!
Mother Theresa was a kind person in the first sight but after the door was closed I understood that she was a person who really knew "what she wants"..
been there! Moving On!!
Great counsel, counselor!
You are right. My covert narc self sabotaged his entire life. He is always the victim and it is always someone else. He holds grudges and his ego won’t allow him to help work through problems in the relationship.
Stay strong! ❤
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This one. He did this with his Masters, then blamed me for him underachieving.
You are so inspiring great content
Yes, well done! A tendency to make the good in others look bad.
I did confront her twice the last two weekends ago and I called her out and told her all the ugly things she had done to me and she just stayed quiet so I got up to leave and then she asked me what I was doing I didn't answer and left she called and called I blocked her I'm done never again will I give her and opportunity again and thank you I have never been so happy I feel way better and again thank you for waking me up
When I meet someone that's not that " exciting" and dose t make me anxious now I'm excited because I know most likely they are not a narcissist.
I am moving on 😐 up to the East side to a deluxe apartment in the sky- y y! I've finally got a piece of the pie! 🥧
Love it!!
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I can't wait to hear. You know me and I'm with a passive aggressive Covert Narcissist.
N D from CT.
So insightful, so thanks from across the pond.
Dealing with a wife that is like that. 25 years is long enough. Enough abuse.
Good for you! Yes get out, get away, she’s not worth all that if she continues to devalue you. If she can live and support her own drama, let her do it. I wasted 29 years of my life that I can’t get back.
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Thank you Rebecca 😘😘😘
I just ordered the book. It is going to be cool.
I have been dealing with narcs for about a year or so. It is getting exhausting. I have 3 volumes of books documenting their actions.
I learned a long time ago that there are people far smarter than I will ever be. Some of them are nice enough to write books to help others. I cannot wait for the info I need to move on with my life.
Thanks for this video.
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I’m moving on. Thank you so much for this video.
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Thank you well said, ... unfortunate we have these kinds of people.. predator/control freaks in denial of their sickness 😔
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Yes and they suck all smiles but rotten to there core sighs and runs away
Thank You Rebecca!!!🙏✨I'm Moving On!!!!😊
Powerful. Thank you
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My covert narcissist mom sabotaged her own life by naming my malignant narcissist brother as trustee over her estate. As the water was getting warmer and warmer all around her, he turned up the heat, phonying up evidence to get her declared incompetent so he could get control over her money. When that didn't work, he hastened her death by getting her addicted to higher and higher levels of sugar while he had sole control over her diet. Yes, people, narcissists are capable of going that far! Don't underestimate their resources. And don't fail to stay far ahead of them. As slick as she was with setting up required signatures on the Power Of Attorney over her finances, Mom overestimated herself. In the end, after she was gone, the malignant narcissist reimbursed himself from her estate money he was never authorized to spend in the first place. That's embezzlement, so now, to avoid embezzlement charges, he's holding ransom the inheritances of heirs by requiring they approve the final accounting, or else they get disinherited by the in terrorum clause he bullied out of mom. Mom playing the victim & succumbing to the malignant narcissist's bullying tied my hands to help her. It was gut wrenching to watch it play out.
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@@tanyatanya891 I try to keep looking forward, instead of back, and to remain thankful, despite what has been dealt me.
You need a good estate attorney
@@jeanchampion671 Wrong. The trust instrument has a disinherit clause. Any action against the trustee in how he administers the estate, and I get disinherited. I already looked into it. Estate litigation lawyers want a $2,500 retainer just to dole out advice, and even then, they accept no liability if the advice they give causes me to get disinherited. I worked as a paralegal for over 25 years in California, and even for an estate planning law firm here in Missouri where I live. I did my due diligence long ago. An embezzlement conviction & an order of restitution is the only route for going after him without getting disinherited. The thing I will face before all that comes together is a deadline for approving his accounting, lest he declare my failure to approve it an interference with his administration of the estate. My only recourse seems to be to go to the state bar over the attorney's lengthy delay in providing an accounting, & taking the embezzlement matter to the police as soon as I get the final accounting. Until I get the accounting, I'm at a stalemate. Meanwhile, he owes me at least $80k!
The Frog in boiling pot of water. This is where I am at. I can not go home because my grown children and soon to be ex LIED on a restraining order. I attacked him and my our grown child. (I have severe carpel tunnel and sciatica. ) He lied on the divorce documents also. I was arrested , no place to live, my he isolated me from family . I owe two lawyers and my family . I get up daily with GRADITUDE. Thank you, Rebeca for your free training.
Thanks for the video. I now know when my relationship with the covert Narc ended. When I stood up to her drinking.
Great insight!
She thinks I’m weak because I’m a nice person. She has to be in conflict with everyone.
In 1963, our mother was misdiagnosed as "neurotic" by our family physician. Our doctor treated her with the new wonderdrug, Valium. Meanwhile our childhood (sister and I) was littered with mom's passive aggressive insinuations and physically violent actions. The years went by and by the time I was in my second-year of medical school, and our class had finished studying axis I and II personality disorders (DSM-III). It was then I realized that our mother was psychotic. She was torturing us, her children, to illustrate to the world how physically and emotionally abused she is. Our father was a U.S. Air Force Senior Officer, and her didn't allow his emotions or those of other people, to wedge in between his sense of duty, honor and the country he loved. Our father died in 1979, and was being eulogized by his friends, family and members of the United State Air Force, with whom he had served. Our mother stood up and told everyone the cold-hard-truth about our father (that was a real Betty Davis moment). No one was shocked or dismayed by her behavior. Our mom, a three-pack-a-day smoker, died of bilateral, non-small cell pulmonary carcinoma two-years after our dad passed away. Mom was far too ill and malnourished to raise the roof about her self-inflicted malady. At the end of her life, in a vented mask on 3.0 liters/min of Oxygen, she died crying. Here is the moral of the story: don't trust your PCP to diagnose abnormal behaviors exhibited by your family members.
I hope your life is filled with what you want it filled with.
You’ve had a very interesting childhood. It would be a very interesting movie.
You so nail it! Our mother preferred the company of drunks at a random bar, over the company of most of her own children and grandchildren. Asking her to do something with us was met with a solid "No" or "IT'S MY TIME!!". Every effort to love her, to ingratiate ourselves to her, was met with backbiting and outright lies that made us look bad to her audiences. And when we finally walked away, honoring "her time" by giving her the opportunity to reach out, she responded with, "THEY'VE ABANDONED ME! THEY HATE ME!" It was insane dealing with her.
I’m moving on! Thank you Rebecca
Proud of you! You got this ❤