These videos are keeping me going. Thank you so much. The mask slipped when the one he was triangulating me with finally told me they weren't just friends. Instantly it all made sense after 8 years of brain fog. No contact all the way
When they finally change the mask, after they no longer can mess with you, it's the most bizarre thing you can experience. It's really sad to because you still probably have hope that they could be someone great, but they have no interest in changing their ways.
When I lived in the everyday fog, everything was innocent. Once i found out about my ex husband's seedy world,, it was like being in the bowels of humanity. Hello backstabbing, hello smear campaign, hello trying to discredit me because i was telling the truth, hello all the seedy people ganging together, like snakes, sticking to their lies. It was disgusting.
Yes! Blocking and cutting off contact is a MUST! I can say, without a SINGLE doubt, THAT is what helped me get over my relationship with the narcissist once and for all! I simply burned that… and ALL bridges that led to the narc. I made SURE I could NOT go back no matter HOW much I started to miss him, because I KNEW that was the ONLY way to heal!!! It was the BEST decision I could POSSIBLY have made!! Each day got easier and easier!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Welcome back, Jennifer! 👍I heard a thousand times- "Don't Burn Your Bridges," but with those Narcs, when they ignite that bridge by dropping the mask and going full on nasty and disrespectful, you help in burning it all down completely, to be sure that Narc doesn't come back.
@@jhavajoe3792 That’s right, Jhava! It’s not always going to be pretty business, but you don’t want there to be ANY room for things to continue if at all possible. You want to even remove the possibility of being tempted, yourself, in the future, to go back to them. That’s not to say do anything bad to anyone AT ALL, but once you start blocking them and mutual friends on social media, people start to get the message, annnnd you don’t wanna try and explain your way out of that one, so just assume they DID notice they were blocked, DON’T bother explaining anything to them, and pretty soon they AND the narc are just a bad memory 😁👍👍❤️❤️❤️
I was just an 18 year old kid when we met. I was unsure about which direction my life was headed; he was a decade older and seemingly accomplished. I fell in love with and married the mask. Having a wedding was the first and last time he actually kept his word. Every other check he wrote, bounced. After nearly 2 decades of empty promises, false hope, stringing me along, lame excuses, stonewalling, triangulating, and sabotaging....with all my hopes and dreams a distant memory...and with no support system....I am done for good.
All facts! I'm so glad I was led to your channel a few months ago. I have almost made it to the pinnacle of indifference. My life has changed drastically for the better after leaving the Narc of 8 years. Thank you for this wisdom!
I ended the narcissistic relation ship 2 years ago now after 28 years of on and off. Your explanations are exactly on point as to how you start feeling. Etc!! So after 2 years the butt head was in my driveway when I pulled in. Comments I know I'm not supposed to be here but I just wanted to tell you about what's been going on with me..... Well, he has Colin cancer. I already knew about it. I just looked at him and said and SO???? YOU'RE NOT WELCOME HERE!! He left.. just another tactic for them to gain pitty attention and suck ya back in.. I'm over it..Karmas a bitch right?! I seriously don't GAF Taking care of me❤
For anyone new, it may not seem like it now but it WILL get better. May sound cliche, but don’t take it personal either, these narcs are demonic and anyone who gets too close to them will catch it at some point. It is just like Andrew says, every narcissistic relationship has an expiration date. You are on the right track to getting better, you made it here!
I married one and he will never leave me alone… we have a 11 year old son and I left 9 years ago. He threatens me every week and enjoys taking me to court. I won’t give him attention. I block him. He throws an adult text tantrum. He wants my house and take my son away. I just say go away from me. And yes, I was successful, I paid all the bills as he was a lazy father and husband. 16 years together. Endured Physical abuse. He can’t stand I moved on and say NO more!! No Thank you!!!! Good Bye!! Thank you! Love your motivation.
Remember as a newly wed and asking what dress to wear to the business Christmas party and being told I wasn't invited...and when he came home from the party cried to me that there was a place set for me and was asked why i wasn't there...he was so upset...but the first red flag happened when he was flirting with one of the other brides at the newlywed table on our honeymoon cruise...
How absolutely cruel. I remember such antics from my ex. Please make a plan to get out asap You don’t deserve one more minute with this creep The mask has fallen ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️❤️
I met my monster when I was 17, a month after my dad was killed. I didn't have a clue people like that existed, neither did my family or friends. Almost 40 years later, I am waking up. I realize they are like zombies, and your feelings are the brains they need to feed off of because they don't have any of their own. lol. Thank you Andrew, you are doing good in the world, making it a better place for sure. It is absolutely amazing to me, how well you know my monster having never met her, the accuracy is uncanny. How can they all be the same, and look different ? It is amazing to me.
I believe they are all basically the same because they are controlled by demons or some evil force. This does not excuse their behavior. At some point in their lives, they made a conscious decision to live and treat people this way. It's sad. They attempt to destroy everyone around them while simultaneously destroying themselves. It's hard at first when you/ they leave but you quickly realize you are so much better without them.
Hi Andrew! Glad to catch your video today. Yes, I was one who "got away." Didn't even realize the strength to leave was there, but by the grace of God...I got away and never regretted leaving him. Living through that has made me stronger and now, by the grace of God, I can see "those type of people" a mile away. I learned something I never knew existed and will remember it always.
Knowledge is Power. Know the Narcissist, and you can claim your Power. Andrew is so accurate on every account. Especially that "you" (the healthy person) had no friggin' clue what a Narc is, until you have been destroyed by one. Most important --> Have your own space! Maintain your connection with true friends and healthy family.
Helen Keller: Your sense of smelling becomes stronger. Even if you were deaf…. and blind. Once you recognize or smell the presence of a narcissist, you can smell their sent like a blood hound dog 🐶. And exit them quickly 🙄👏😎
You're giving me energy daily to become a strong person. Thank for all your hard work. At first I didn't know what's going on. I was blaming myself all the time. Now I'm understanding facts.
Andrew, you are our hero . I was in a relationship with a narcissist. I ended the relationship. I kind of had a feeling she was getting supply elsewhere. We were not having conversations or S relations for the last three years.i had my own bedroom. The good thing is that the house was mine.but checking out your videos, I ended up winning .I feel great with no contact for 5 months.she already came by twice, but I installed locks on my gates.she could not get to my door.i don't and won't ever speak to her again. I want to thank you, Andrew .you have educated me and many other people. ❤ from Corpus Christi Texas.
Yup. There is no going back to “normal”. We are functioning on an entirely different vibrational plane now. A big part of that is the understanding now that so much of “normal” is a nicely packaged lie 🫠
It was the hardest thing to go home after visiting a sister whom I hadn't seen for many years. I knew I would be punished, and a feeling of dread weighed heavily upon me. My young children were the only reason I went home. He gave me the silent treatment and was cold. No welcome home, I missed you, nothing but silent anger.
The wonderful thing is: we are not them. We can walk away and be happy. I mentally block people out, all I see is their lips moving and give feed back like really? Hummm. 🤣🤣🤣Cannot fill my head with garbage 🫶
@jhavajoe3792 Yes, the sad thing about all this is that I truly loved my husband and did everything I knew how to do to make our marriage work. Which wasn't good for me or our children. 26 years of our life wasted, yet not totally. It taught me some valuable lessons and after countless years and long hours of reflection and introspection I have a greater understanding of what real love is and isn't, I know who I am, what I am, and what I will and will not allow in my life. There's a song by Bonnie Raitt, " I Can't Make You Love Me," that says it all about unrequited love with the wrong person 🎶 💔 ❤️🩹♥️ ✌️🙏
Jeg har fundet ud af hvem de er det to mig ikke lang tid at finde ud af det, jo Andrew jeg er kommet op igen og har også tænkt mig at blive ved med at gå frem af. Så God dag Andrew 🙂❤️👍👍
Very common, and not just with Narcissism but with insecure people in general. The Narc I was talking to did just that..Idiot, loser, m'fer, delusional, a shit leader, and even called ME insecure. Only after talking to me for 3 months..Not to mention the tantrums.She had me going, I was really buying into it at some point but I noticed at the start of it something was off..just had to give it more time to be able to tell what was up. Now she thinks that she "one up'd" someone and is full of a false sense of pride and ego and going on to the next person. I didn't shut it down quick enough because I didn't know what to make of it..Gotta chock it up to experience and be thankful it was within a short time.
Yes Andrew! the smear campaign with neighbors is real, and tearing down especially to my own kids about me. Learning about how the trauma bond is something to face even months after the discard. Thank you for all you do. MJ.
I recieved the reverse dicard because I caught on quick, it was still too late though, because I fell for the euphoric stage. What a terrible experience it is for this to happen to anyone. It's just indescribable how awful it is unless you've gone through it.
"Sometimes you don't feel the weight of what you're carrying until you feel the weight of its release."(---Brian Weiner) HELLO...I AM MOVING TOMORROW!!!
The mask dissolved when I saw the long time fake friend trying to control every move, thought or plan that I would make. It became so obvious & suffocating... I went no contact thank God! 🌈 🎀😘
I suffered alone and after the 20 yr marriage ended I still suffered anxiety and depression until I came across professionals like you who new all about narcissism now I feel healed. Thank you Andrew.
So true Andrew he had a harem closet even on an international level. Thank God the marriage ended. Thank you Andrew by breaking free from the ex narc we became super powers and survived and now on a higher level. So true. Thank you!
Looking back now I realize I started to call her out on things, noting inconsistencies in what she would say or do trying to have a civil discussion but then she would always turn it around on me and would blow my mind. 1 year of doing that and she got a new supply and me, my dog and 5 kids were all discarded. Guess I was pulling on her mask 😂
Andrew everything you are saying resonates with me 100% Mark used to say all that stuff to me…. I am glad I know your videos exist now and that healing is possible. I love you Andrew. Namaste. ❤😊🙏
👹👺 So true they fly under the radar I didn't think the narcs around me were evil opposite to me full of love ready to give and determined to make the relationships work. 🤕🤒 So exhursting. No Hoover's. . Getting educated understanding being empowered everyday is a wonder and learning is fun I don't have to prove myself to anyone I'm just loving being me 🐕🌈 puppies and rainbows forever 😊❤
It's really a good feeling to know that you now have so many answers. I look back and relate to so much of what you share, Andrew. Sometimes I can't believe what I tolerated! Thanks for the awakening! #neveragain. NAMASTE
My last name is actually Bonet'...I was happy to find your channel after work today. I think it's great that you're sharing this information. It's hard to be a victim of this. You are right, it's hard work but, it can be done. My problem was I couldn't wrap my head around it, because I'm an empathetic person. I came to radical acceptance. I know my value and what I bring to the table. I deserve relationships that are healthy. ❤
@@jennifernewton4637 doing good could be better my truck was totaled so I bought a cheap one trying to save myself a new car payment now that truck won't start just my luck ill get it fixed later I think its the battery other then that im good my daughter is going to work here for the school board im looking forward to her being here in July 1st shell be living with me we are going to find a bigger house 4 bed 2 baths room for everybody I can't wait im excited that about it
2:16. "maybe you would have even married the person." Thank goodness she overstayed her visa, preventing me from marrying her!! I surely would have, I wanted to!
All I’ve had were narcissists. My most recent woke me up. Worst ever. He had nothing. Hated his job. I was his gf. I built him back up. Furnished his apartment. Motivated him and financed him to create sneakers. He loved sneakers. I bought him a sneaker room. Full of high end customs and Jordan's. I bought him a special sewing machine and the materials needed to make sneakers. He gets a job with a high end sneaker creator and discarded me in the most callous way. I didn’t even know who this dude was that discarded me as if I were tissue paper on a highway. I didn't know but it was a mask and all a lie. Awful. Woke me up though. I found Jesus so I’m grateful for it.
Thank you Andrew every word you speak I experience with the narc ex and his narc family and my narc family. Being married for 20 years to the narc I exited by asking him to leave so he left. Then I took on 22 years of hard work to raise kids and remain independed them for life. Life is beautiful now after No Contact with the lot of them out with the Narcs for life!
I hated those rage fits, but, they were patterns so I missed a lot of glass! Ive always thought of myself as a very patient individual but at the end of 6 years, I was not doling it out any longer. Im on my 4th year away from all that nonsense and blocked it off. I had to see it for what it was and now there is no "unseeing" it. Its like having those glasses on in the movie, " They Live"!
There comes a day when you are finally educated, you've been bold, you've survived your own poor life choice. You've finally turned the Titanic around and you are thankful to God for the strength, the wisdom and endurance to take your life back. As you are climbing out of your own shameful pit of regret slowly day by day... the sun ⛅️ shines and the other similar personalities are blaring red flags 🚩 It's scary to lose your innocence Pollyanna outlook. It's creepy. You pray for "them" but ... eventually the disease spreads, you take the hits ducking & swerving and you start to feel sick. One day you realize your one and only source of goodness is gone. A parent or grandparent. You realize the only reason you live where you do is now for no reason. You become what you have always been but only under a spotlight. You are the scapegoat the one to blame the one to talk about... the one who actually has it together. You are kind, trustworthy and giving. Its time to rise up. Claim your quiet. Relocate or become involved with true purpose. Ask your Heavenly Father for purpose for a life given dream fulfilled 💖😎💖 it will happen Stay strong and keep going
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Narc language.... the gift 🎁 one never wanted but now has! Keep up the great broadcasting. Really appreciate. It's brutal but truth~
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Narc language.... the gift 🎁 one never wanted but now has! Keep up the great broadcasting. Really appreciate. It's brutal but truth~
I’ll go outside for one piece of vegetable if it gets me out of the house and away from the narc😂 nowadays it’s difficult to even get outside without being “bullied” about it.. yet he doesn’t even want me around most of the time anyway.. and the feeling is very much mutual.. he’s here more than ever and it’s really getting on my nerves.. but I can’t be outside forever and sometimes I just want to go “home” and rest and can’t because of the narc’s behaviour.. I can very much relate to what many of your clients seem to be telling you Andrew.. except I don’t have a job.. also you mentioned you also had to develop an exit plan.. could you elaborate on this further? On your own exit plan and just about exit plans in general, in a video? .. Also thank you for saying “your mental capacity was getting crushed”.. this pretty much sums up what has happened to me.. and I don’t understand why they need to act single all the time.. if they want to be single then they should just stay single and keep all their relationships casual and be upfront and honest about it.. thanks for explaining the everyday fog too.. as you say.. nothing wrong with it.. it personally made me feel lonely though.. but narc fog loneliness is worse.. I much appreciate this video today.. there was a lot of valuable info in it. 💜💜🪻🪻
dear lailaa my heart is breaking for your soft I know all too well the torment of being in that toxic situation and finding it difficult to break free You must find a way for your own mental, physical and emotional health. My suggestions: Google this article, it may help you Checklist for Ending a Relationship With a Narcissist Find it in your heart to sincerely ask God to help you. I promise you He will Carefully and quietly seek temporary shelter, with a friend, relative, church or social services organization. Do this when narc is gone or asleep for your own good. I had to leave “things” behind but it was for my own good and I’d do it again. If at all possible, try to make a phone appointment with Andrew to sort your mind out before implementing exist You have to do what is right for you and you most certainly do not deserve this kind of life or treatment. Read Psalm 91 and 23. Praying for your protection and safe release from your situation. May God bless and protect you. Numbers 6:24-26 ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️❤️
I had a friend ask me the other day How do you know if a narc is dangerous ? I said : they're all dangerous Gave her what I thought were helpful resources Thanks Andrew
I lost my brother and sister both to suicide today would have been my sister's birthday.i grew up with it.And still fell into the trap.But I found my peace
I used to try and sit down and watch TV with my dad, it always ended up the way. Every two seconds "hey can you put some ice in my drink; hey the dogs need to go out; hey if I order a pizza can you go pick it up?" I could feel the low vibration everytime I was around him, I didn't know what that feeling was at the time. I finally gave up.
College/University -> Here's your 2 page report on narcissism and what we will do to you, Social/Community Group -> Here's your 2 page report on narcissism and what we will do to you Spiritual Group -> Here's your 2 page report on narcissism and what we will do to you
An old, old saying is: 'Street Angel, House Devil'...we just didn't know how widespread and wicked this phenomenon actually is. Great clip, as always...many thanx, yet again. Hang in there everyone and all the best to you all.
They move musk instantly when see they misjudged me. I am extremely good beyond limits and brave, sacrifizing myself, but.....but I love myself. Surprize, surprise! Shock!
She caught-on to me some months after the end of another relationship of mine. She was friendly with that ex's parents - almost a "surrogate daughter" as she was at the time estranged from most of her own family, which was the first warning sign I ignored. I was indeed a bit lost in the wilderness after that ending and as a result, I lapped-up her mirroring/love-bombing, and the mask of apparent stability and yes, loved every minute of it. One thing I eventually learned - and not just from her, was that her most successful/longest lasting previous and possibly since relationships had all been with men who displayed different types/levels of narcissistic traits. Might it be possible that in those situations, neither partner gives enough of themselves into the relationship to fully trigger the narcissistic cycle and inevitable mask-slips in quite the same way as with a normal/empathic person? That eventual realisation and having to accept that she could not change was one of the things that told me I couldn't go-on, so I had to start working on my exit strategy for when the final discard came.
Andrew can you please do a video about how to protect the children against narcissistic abuse. In my case narc mother in law is using my daughter against me, her own granddaughter.
You are so right Andrew. I see so clearly now what has been going on. I need to persevere and know that one day my daughter will see behind narcs Nana's mask too and I will be there to catch her.
I went on a trip to Paris with my narc ex, who is from France. He walked 20 yards ahead of me at all times. Imagine spending all the $$$ and expecting a romantic trip to beautiful Paris, then to be treated like trash the entire time. It was heart breaking for me. I have numerous photos of his back as we were walking thru the city. I’ll never forgive him for that.
One of the most painfully revelatory things I ever did was find out why I was a people pleaser. After I learned I was a people pleaser , I learned why I was that way; and that hurt a lot. Because……pain does things to people…..I would recommend to leave the narcissist in your life behind you. And if it’s a husband or wife I think it’s best to be safe and not even let them know you are leaving until you are in a safe place. And if it’s a parent……God be with you.
The micro discards were so excruciatingly painful. I didn’t understand what was happening at the time. I lost 40 pounds and I’m not a big person. Thank God I’m out. Ten months NC and still healing
Andrew you are so right thank you for these videos. I woke up the second time around I hoped for better, the first time I was married to a Navy Chief I never knew he was seeing a female officer at the time I had 3 young children under 10 years old. My husband told my children he was going to kill them an toss them out on the way back to Whidbey Island, and he would kill Mom before they left. I have been thrown down stairs, was gardening on my knees the sun was bright I looked up an was knocked out by a shovel when I woke up he was standing on my back, he lined up my three boys who were crying, when I woke I heard him say ,"see I told you I could do this to your mother ".divorced in Connecticut was told by a victims advocate this was the worst she has heard told me to stop talking she heard enough. So when I met the second he was what I thought was a good family man a good person but I was wrong he is a textbook narcissist 7 years in of trying too hard to make things work because I just wanted a friend I wanted a relationship but there I was stuck in this guy's abusive emotional rants an I saw right through it had enough want him gone
Good thing I never married #2 just bought a house so that is the only thing in the way. He put 1/4 in on the house I put 3/4 But as you know you cannot talk or reason with a narcissist at all tried it once the reply was classic. He said give me $15 thousand and you leave. I said you ok???? do the math, how about I give you $15 thousand you leave He said but tha5 is not 2hat
That is not what I put in. They never make sense just want to confuse an manipulate. I'm done showing him the door not easy unless he finds another victim
It is harder when you are raised by a narcissistic mother. As an innocent child we have no language to express what is really going on, nor the experience to know that what is being done is not right from societal perspective. Can only praise God and the connection with Him that helped me to break free. Only sad that it took so long to get the true picture.
Wow! The picture that just formed in my mind 😮 Narcs equate with the Spider. Don't get caught in their web. Because if you do, they will feed from you! Shutters!
The best summary I’ve heard, Ex .of exit plan? I kept saying to myself I can’t be the only one ( but I wasn’t sure what it was about) then thru the experiences I knew I was never alone.
I need help. My ex was manageable too a point, and he’s in bad health. His mother is trapping my daughter at her home in contempt of court. God I have to make a choice leave my 8 year old or deal with her. She said because I work can’t have my daughter during The week. And only every other weekend I can’t take it anymore. I need a lawyer but she’s just drained my finances.
You are brilliant and this video is about me and the woman who still keeps telling me we should be a couple. The woman who so often keep saying I am doing everything incorrectly.
I was no contact for 6 good years only light communication. Came back around my father's dead and my hand is broken. My credit is now s***, all my hobbies are gone. Do not accept the Hoover they just want to finish you off. Now I really do need that therapy they scream at me that I need. Run and run now. I feel like I'm under attack all the time. Doctor won't operate on my broken hand because I'm too thin after living with the covert narcissist. Just lovely, learn for me run from these people!!!!!!!
Me again I relapsed she reached out to me and even made a new account. I'm having such a hard time getting out of this trap and cage. I universally blocked her on everything again and I don't want to talk to her again just keep getting pulled back in getting hovered.
The mask always slips in the end , it may take months or years, but it slips, and there is the fall out.
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These videos are keeping me going. Thank you so much. The mask slipped when the one he was triangulating me with finally told me they weren't just friends. Instantly it all made sense after 8 years of brain fog. No contact all the way
When they finally change the mask, after they no longer can mess with you, it's the most bizarre thing you can experience. It's really sad to because you still probably have hope that they could be someone great, but they have no interest in changing their ways.
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Another way it ends is when you find their disgusting cheating double life on their phone. Divorce final, 10 months no contact, thriving. 💯
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So proud of you ❤im in the divorce process currently
@@ladyvirgo013 They will drag it out. Hang in there. It gets so much better. You will finally have peace on the other side.
One person to the outside world, nice and helpful, and then slowly showing who they were, when time passes, and they can’t sustain the false facade 😢
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Yes that was my grayrockee....
Well said and very true.
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When I lived in the everyday fog, everything was innocent. Once i found out about my ex husband's seedy world,, it was like being in the bowels of humanity. Hello backstabbing, hello smear campaign, hello trying to discredit me because i was telling the truth, hello all the seedy people ganging together, like snakes, sticking to their lies. It was disgusting.
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Yes! Blocking and cutting off contact is a MUST! I can say, without a SINGLE doubt, THAT is what helped me get over my relationship with the narcissist once and for all! I simply burned that… and ALL bridges that led to the narc. I made SURE I could NOT go back no matter HOW much I started to miss him, because I KNEW that was the ONLY way to heal!!! It was the BEST decision I could POSSIBLY have made!! Each day got easier and easier!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
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Good evening Jennifer. ❤️🌹❤️ How are you today?
Welcome back, Jennifer! 👍I heard a thousand times- "Don't Burn Your Bridges," but with those Narcs, when they ignite that bridge by dropping the mask and going full on nasty and disrespectful, you help in burning it all down completely, to be sure that Narc doesn't come back.
@@Divinely_Guided444 I’m doing better today, Sherry, thank you!!! 🙏😊🙏😊🙏❤️❤️❤️ My appetite is slowly returning so that’s good!
@@jhavajoe3792 That’s right, Jhava! It’s not always going to be pretty business, but you don’t want there to be ANY room for things to continue if at all possible. You want to even remove the possibility of being tempted, yourself, in the future, to go back to them. That’s not to say do anything bad to anyone AT ALL, but once you start blocking them and mutual friends on social media, people start to get the message, annnnd you don’t wanna try and explain your way out of that one, so just assume they DID notice they were blocked, DON’T bother explaining anything to them, and pretty soon they AND the narc are just a bad memory 😁👍👍❤️❤️❤️
I was just an 18 year old kid when we met. I was unsure about which direction my life was headed; he was a decade older and seemingly accomplished. I fell in love with and married the mask.
Having a wedding was the first and last time he actually kept his word. Every other check he wrote, bounced.
After nearly 2 decades of empty promises, false hope, stringing me along, lame excuses, stonewalling, triangulating, and sabotaging....with all my hopes and dreams a distant memory...and with no support system....I am done for good.
Well done very brave lady 😀👍
@@michellepurcell8703 Thank you🙏
All facts! I'm so glad I was led to your channel a few months ago. I have almost made it to the pinnacle of indifference. My life has changed drastically for the better after leaving the Narc of 8 years. Thank you for this wisdom!
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I ended the narcissistic relation ship 2 years ago now after 28 years of on and off. Your explanations are exactly on point as to how you start feeling. Etc!!
So after 2 years the butt head was in my driveway when I pulled in. Comments I know I'm not supposed to be here but I just wanted to tell you about what's been going on with me.....
Well, he has Colin cancer. I already knew about it. I just looked at him and said and SO???? YOU'RE NOT WELCOME HERE!! He left.. just another tactic for them to gain pitty attention and suck ya back in.. I'm over it..Karmas a bitch right?!
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The hoover has happened … met with my indifference …
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God bless you Andrew and to all going through / been through the narcissistic black hole…. ❤🙏 🇬🇧
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I am still afraid of people. Alone but safe.❣️
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For anyone new, it may not seem like it now but it WILL get better. May sound cliche, but don’t take it personal either, these narcs are demonic and anyone who gets too close to them will catch it at some point. It is just like Andrew says, every narcissistic relationship has an expiration date. You are on the right track to getting better, you made it here!
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Andrew, always coming through at the right time, thank you so much!
I married one and he will never leave me alone… we have a 11 year old son and I left 9 years ago. He threatens me every week and enjoys taking me to court. I won’t give him attention. I block him. He throws an adult text tantrum. He wants my house and take my son away. I just say go away from me. And yes, I was successful, I paid all the bills as he was a lazy father and husband. 16 years together. Endured Physical abuse. He can’t stand I moved on and say NO more!! No Thank you!!!! Good Bye!! Thank you! Love your motivation.
Remember as a newly wed and asking what dress to wear to the business Christmas party and being told I wasn't invited...and when he came home from the party cried to me that there was a place set for me and was asked why i wasn't there...he was so upset...but the first red flag happened when he was flirting with one of the other brides at the newlywed table on our honeymoon cruise...
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How absolutely cruel. I remember such antics from my ex. Please make a plan to get out asap
You don’t deserve one more minute with this creep
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I met my monster when I was 17, a month after my dad was killed. I didn't have a clue people like that existed, neither did my family or friends. Almost 40 years later, I am waking up. I realize they are like zombies, and your feelings are the brains they need to feed off of because they don't have any of their own. lol. Thank you Andrew, you are doing good in the world, making it a better place for sure. It is absolutely amazing to me, how well you know my monster having never met her, the accuracy is uncanny. How can they all be the same, and look different ? It is amazing to me.
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I believe they are all basically the same because they are controlled by demons or some evil force. This does not excuse their behavior. At some point in their lives, they made a conscious decision to live and treat people this way. It's sad. They attempt to destroy everyone around them while simultaneously destroying themselves. It's hard at first when you/ they leave but you quickly realize you are so much better without them.
Hi Andrew! Glad to catch your video today. Yes, I was one who "got away." Didn't even realize the strength to leave was there, but by the grace of God...I got away and never regretted leaving him. Living through that has made me stronger and now, by the grace of God, I can see "those type of people" a mile away. I learned something I never knew existed and will remember it always.
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Knowledge is Power. Know the Narcissist, and you can claim your Power. Andrew is so accurate on every account. Especially that "you" (the healthy person) had no friggin' clue what a Narc is, until you have been destroyed by one. Most important --> Have your own space! Maintain your connection with true friends and healthy family.
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You are doing God's work Andrew, thank you for helping me. 🙏
You're giving me energy daily to become a strong person. Thank for all your hard work. At first I didn't know what's going on. I was blaming myself all the time. Now I'm understanding facts.
Andrew, you are our hero . I was in a relationship with a narcissist. I ended the relationship. I kind of had a feeling she was getting supply elsewhere. We were not having conversations or S relations for the last three years.i had my own bedroom. The good thing is that the house was mine.but checking out your videos, I ended up winning .I feel great with no contact for 5 months.she already came by twice, but I installed locks on my gates.she could not get to my door.i don't and won't ever speak to her again.
I want to thank you, Andrew .you have educated me and many other people.
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He is doing a great job!
Yup. There is no going back to “normal”. We are functioning on an entirely different vibrational plane now. A big part of that is the understanding now that so much of “normal” is a nicely packaged lie 🫠
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It was the hardest thing to go home after visiting a sister whom I hadn't seen for many years. I knew I would be punished, and a feeling of dread weighed heavily upon me. My young children were the only reason I went home. He gave me the silent treatment and was cold. No welcome home, I missed you, nothing but silent anger.
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That word- "Predictable ( dread, them, etc. )" says a lot. And there they be- still wallowing in that stew of toxic, "flipped around" Blaming.
The wonderful thing is: we are not them. We can walk away and be happy. I mentally block people out, all I see is their lips moving and give feed back like really? Hummm. 🤣🤣🤣Cannot fill my head with garbage 🫶
@jhavajoe3792 Yes, the sad thing about all this is that I truly loved my husband and did everything I knew how to do to make our marriage work. Which wasn't good for me or our children. 26 years of our life wasted, yet not totally. It taught me some valuable lessons and after countless years and long hours of reflection and introspection I have a greater understanding of what real love is and isn't, I know who I am, what I am, and what I will and will not allow in my life. There's a song by Bonnie Raitt, " I Can't Make You Love Me," that says it all about unrequited love with the wrong person 🎶 💔 ❤️🩹♥️ ✌️🙏
We must have nothing to do with evil. Narcisists are driven by evil forces. Evil spares nobody. We must have nothing to do with them.
Jeg har fundet ud af hvem de er det to mig ikke lang tid at finde ud af det, jo Andrew jeg er kommet op igen og har også tænkt mig at blive ved med at gå frem af. Så God dag Andrew 🙂❤️👍👍
Is it common for narcissist to project their traits/behaviors onto you in order to make you feel like you are the problem?
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Very common, and not just with Narcissism but with insecure people in general. The Narc I was talking to did just that..Idiot, loser, m'fer, delusional, a shit leader, and even called ME insecure. Only after talking to me for 3 months..Not to mention the tantrums.She had me going, I was really buying into it at some point but I noticed at the start of it something was off..just had to give it more time to be able to tell what was up. Now she thinks that she "one up'd" someone and is full of a false sense of pride and ego and going on to the next person. I didn't shut it down quick enough because I didn't know what to make of it..Gotta chock it up to experience and be thankful it was within a short time.
So smart, Andrew! I never thought of "micro discards".
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Yes Andrew! the smear campaign with neighbors is real, and tearing down especially to my own kids about me. Learning about how the trauma bond is something to face even months after the discard. Thank you for all you do. MJ.
Street angels, home demons. Glad we made it. Stay strong!💞
I recieved the reverse dicard because I caught on quick, it was still too late though, because I fell for the euphoric stage.
What a terrible experience it is for this to happen to anyone. It's just indescribable how awful it is unless you've gone through it.
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So intelligent on this subject!!!
Should be taught in school!!!
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"Sometimes you don't feel the weight of what you're carrying until you feel the weight of its release."(---Brian Weiner) HELLO...I AM MOVING TOMORROW!!!
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The mask dissolved when I saw the long time fake friend trying to control every move, thought or plan that I would make. It became so obvious & suffocating... I went no contact thank God!
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To use a common expression of how I'd feel to be around that kind of person--"Ewwww!!" 😝
Yes, micro discards… I didn’t know what was going on for sure.
Thank you Andrew! ❤ the micro-discards…the fog…thank you for being a part of my healing journey. You are my guru of truth and healing. Namaste
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I suffered alone and after the 20 yr marriage ended I still suffered anxiety and depression until I came across professionals like you who new all about narcissism now I feel healed. Thank you Andrew.
We are all a good work in progress,,sending love light and encouragement ,❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏
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Million Thanks Andrew 🙏❤💐Thank You for your devotion, your compassion in educating us of these cunning, extremely toxic creatures. Namaste 🙏
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Great video Andrew!
The mask doesn't fit if you can see behind it.
Wishing everyone clarity and peace.
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So true Andrew he had a harem closet even on an international level. Thank God the marriage ended. Thank you Andrew by breaking free from the ex narc we became super powers and survived and now on a higher level. So true. Thank you!
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Looking back now I realize I started to call her out on things, noting inconsistencies in what she would say or do trying to have a civil discussion but then she would always turn it around on me and would blow my mind.
1 year of doing that and she got a new supply and me, my dog and 5 kids were all discarded.
Guess I was pulling on her mask 😂
Andrew everything you are saying resonates with me 100% Mark used to say all that stuff to me…. I am glad I know your videos exist now and that healing is possible. I love you Andrew. Namaste. ❤😊🙏
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👹👺 So true they fly under the radar I didn't think the narcs around me were evil opposite to me full of love ready to give and determined to make the relationships work. 🤕🤒 So exhursting. No Hoover's. . Getting educated understanding being empowered everyday is a wonder and learning is fun I don't have to prove myself to anyone I'm just loving being me 🐕🌈 puppies and rainbows forever 😊❤
It's really a good feeling to know that you now have so many answers. I look back and relate to so much of what you share, Andrew. Sometimes I can't believe what I tolerated! Thanks for the awakening! #neveragain. NAMASTE
That is so true I was off work at 5 but never got home time 7 I would always find things to do just to avoid coming home
My narcissistic mother told me I was an accident and constantly criticized me for not doing things right.
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My last name is actually Bonet'...I was happy to find your channel after work today. I think it's great that you're sharing this information. It's hard to be a victim of this. You are right, it's hard work but, it can be done. My problem was I couldn't wrap my head around it, because I'm an empathetic person. I came to radical acceptance. I know my value and what I bring to the table. I deserve relationships that are healthy. ❤
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Wow this was good Andrew,paying this forward,,to some collegues and friends in my community,,,night night everyone,,,😴❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
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❤❤❤❤❤ Good night, Flower! Sleep well! Sweet dreams!!! 🛌😴💤
@@jennifernewton4637you too sweet dreams 💗💗💗💗🌺🌼☘️
The mask never changed I just began to see through it
Hi angel sending love hugs and lots of kisses
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Hey there Hanna! Hope you’re doing well!!! 🙌🤗❤️
Good One, Hanna!
@@jennifernewton4637 doing good could be better my truck was totaled so I bought a cheap one trying to save myself a new car payment now that truck won't start just my luck ill get it fixed later I think its the battery other then that im good my daughter is going to work here for the school board im looking forward to her being here in July 1st shell be living with me we are going to find a bigger house 4 bed 2 baths room for everybody I can't wait im excited that about it
@@hannastrack4310Well good, I hope everything works out for y’all!!! ❤️😁👍
Nice and dramatic and yet informative. The world will be a better place when people understand who Narcissists are and say No to them.
2:16. "maybe you would have even married the person." Thank goodness she overstayed her visa, preventing me from marrying her!! I surely would have, I wanted to!
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THANK YOU ANDREW!! for showing all of us!! The MASK & TWISTED WAYS OF A NARC ABUSE,,, I am FREE OF HER CLEVER , EVIL WAYS😂🇫🇷🙏🤣
All I’ve had were narcissists. My most recent woke me up. Worst ever. He had nothing. Hated his job. I was
his gf. I built him back up. Furnished his apartment. Motivated him and financed him to create sneakers. He loved sneakers. I bought him a sneaker room. Full of high end customs and Jordan's. I bought him a special sewing machine and the materials needed to make sneakers. He gets a job with a high end sneaker creator and discarded me in the most callous way. I didn’t even know who this dude was that discarded me as if I were tissue paper on a highway. I didn't know but it was a mask and all a lie. Awful. Woke me up though. I found Jesus so I’m grateful for it.
You have no idea how valuable your videos are. Thank you for showing me the way x
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Thank you Andrew every word you speak I experience with the narc ex and his narc family and my narc family. Being married for 20 years to the narc I exited by asking him to leave so he left. Then I took on 22 years of hard work to raise kids and remain independed them for life. Life is beautiful now after No Contact with the lot of them out with the Narcs for life!
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I hated those rage fits, but, they were patterns so I missed a lot of glass! Ive always thought of myself as a very patient individual but at the end of 6 years, I was not doling it out any longer. Im on my 4th year away from all that nonsense and blocked it off. I had to see it for what it was and now there is no "unseeing" it. Its like having those glasses on in the movie, " They Live"!
There comes a day when you are finally educated, you've been bold, you've survived your own poor life choice. You've finally turned the Titanic around and you are thankful to God for the strength, the wisdom and endurance to take your life back. As you are climbing out of your own shameful pit of regret slowly day by day... the sun ⛅️ shines and the other similar personalities are blaring red flags 🚩
It's scary to lose your innocence Pollyanna outlook. It's creepy. You pray for "them" but ... eventually the disease spreads, you take the hits ducking & swerving and you start to feel sick. One day you realize your one and only source of goodness is gone. A parent or grandparent. You realize the only reason you live where you do is now for no reason. You become what you have always been but only under a spotlight. You are the scapegoat the one to blame the one to talk about... the one who actually has it together. You are kind, trustworthy and giving. Its time to rise up. Claim your quiet. Relocate or become involved with true purpose. Ask your Heavenly Father for purpose for a life given dream fulfilled 💖😎💖 it will happen Stay strong and keep going
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Narc language.... the gift 🎁 one never wanted but now has! Keep up the great broadcasting. Really appreciate. It's brutal but truth~
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Narc language.... the gift 🎁 one never wanted but now has! Keep up the great broadcasting. Really appreciate. It's brutal but truth~
I’ll go outside for one piece of vegetable if it gets me out of the house and away from the narc😂 nowadays it’s difficult to even get outside without being “bullied” about it.. yet he doesn’t even want me around most of the time anyway.. and the feeling is very much mutual.. he’s here more than ever and it’s really getting on my nerves.. but I can’t be outside forever and sometimes I just want to go “home” and rest and can’t because of the narc’s behaviour.. I can very much relate to what many of your clients seem to be telling you Andrew.. except I don’t have a job.. also you mentioned you also had to develop an exit plan.. could you elaborate on this further? On your own exit plan and just about exit plans in general, in a video? ..
Also thank you for saying “your mental capacity was getting crushed”.. this pretty much sums up what has happened to me.. and I don’t understand why they need to act single all the time.. if they want to be single then they should just stay single and keep all their relationships casual and be upfront and honest about it.. thanks for explaining the everyday fog too.. as you say.. nothing wrong with it.. it personally made me feel lonely though.. but narc fog loneliness is worse.. I much appreciate this video today.. there was a lot of valuable info in it. 💜💜🪻🪻
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dear lailaa
my heart is breaking for your soft
I know all too well the torment of being in that toxic situation and finding it difficult to break free
You must find a way for your own mental, physical and emotional health.
My suggestions:
Google this article, it may help you
Checklist for Ending a Relationship With a Narcissist
Find it in your heart to sincerely ask God to help you. I promise you He will
Carefully and quietly seek temporary shelter, with a friend, relative, church or social services organization. Do this when narc is gone or asleep for your own good. I had to leave “things” behind but it was for my own good and I’d do it again.
If at all possible, try to make a phone appointment with Andrew to sort your mind out before implementing exist
You have to do what is right for you and you most certainly do not deserve this kind of life or treatment. Read Psalm 91 and 23.
Praying for your protection and safe release from your situation. May God bless and protect you.
Numbers 6:24-26
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I had a friend ask me the other day
How do you know if a narc is dangerous ?
I said : they're all dangerous
Gave her what I thought were helpful resources
Thanks Andrew
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Great answer, succint and to the point,,no messing around
Yep. Did not know!
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Narcissist = Extraction Vampire 🤦♀️
Always think about it goings-on
These videos help people so much thankyou for your guidance much appreciated ☘️
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I lost my brother and sister both to suicide today would have been my sister's birthday.i grew up with it.And still fell into the trap.But I found my peace
So sorry for your losses Alison.
Glad you found piece...that's a hard one.
Today would have been my mother's birthday as well.
Blessings
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I am so sorry to hear this, stay strong,stay alive for them,and most of all for yourself @alisonpatton5028
@@alisonpatton5028 sorry for your losses, wow.
I used to try and sit down and watch TV with my dad, it always ended up the way. Every two seconds "hey can you put some ice in my drink; hey the dogs need to go out; hey if I order a pizza can you go pick it up?" I could feel the low vibration everytime I was around him, I didn't know what that feeling was at the time. I finally gave up.
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College/University -> Here's your 2 page report on narcissism and what we will do to you, Social/Community Group -> Here's your 2 page report on narcissism and what we will do to you Spiritual Group -> Here's your 2 page report on narcissism and what we will do to you
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the. gift of good bye just keeps on giving…❤️
They wear the mask a lot. When they need something 😂😂
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"You thought that a villain was somebody in a movie or on a TV show." Wow... that hits hard.
An old, old saying is: 'Street Angel, House Devil'...we just didn't know how widespread and wicked this phenomenon actually is. Great clip, as always...many thanx, yet again. Hang in there everyone and all the best to you all.
Oh wow! My mother’s words are written all over this video Andrew! You nailed it in such detail. So sad.
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They move musk instantly when see they misjudged me.
I am extremely good beyond limits and brave, sacrifizing myself, but.....but I love myself.
Surprize, surprise! Shock!
It takes 1 year and 1 day of separation before you can even think of filing for divorce in NC!
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She caught-on to me some months after the end of another relationship of mine. She was friendly with that ex's parents - almost a "surrogate daughter" as she was at the time estranged from most of her own family, which was the first warning sign I ignored. I was indeed a bit lost in the wilderness after that ending and as a result, I lapped-up her mirroring/love-bombing, and the mask of apparent stability and yes, loved every minute of it.
One thing I eventually learned - and not just from her, was that her most successful/longest lasting previous and possibly since relationships had all been with men who displayed different types/levels of narcissistic traits. Might it be possible that in those situations, neither partner gives enough of themselves into the relationship to fully trigger the narcissistic cycle and inevitable mask-slips in quite the same way as with a normal/empathic person?
That eventual realisation and having to accept that she could not change was one of the things that told me I couldn't go-on, so I had to start working on my exit strategy for when the final discard came.
Andrew can you please do a video about how to protect the children against narcissistic abuse. In my case narc mother in law is using my daughter against me, her own granddaughter.
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You are so right Andrew. I see so clearly now what has been going on. I need to persevere and know that one day my daughter will see behind narcs Nana's mask too and I will be there to catch her.
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🙌🙌🙌 Hey Matty! 😊❤😁
I went on a trip to Paris with my narc ex, who is from France. He walked 20 yards ahead of me at all times. Imagine spending all the $$$ and expecting a romantic trip to beautiful Paris, then to be treated like trash the entire time. It was heart breaking for me. I have numerous photos of his back as we were walking thru the city. I’ll never forgive him for that.
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One of the most painfully revelatory things I ever did was find out why I was a people pleaser. After I learned I was a people pleaser , I learned why I was that way; and that hurt a lot.
Because……pain does things to people…..I would recommend to leave the narcissist in your life behind you.
And if it’s a husband or wife I think it’s best to be safe and not even let them know you are leaving until you are in a safe place.
And if it’s a parent……God be with you.
Always love the pause after…”think about that…”.
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The micro discards were so excruciatingly painful. I didn’t understand what was happening at the time. I lost 40 pounds and I’m not a big person. Thank God I’m out. Ten months NC and still healing
Andrew you are so right thank you for these videos. I woke up the second time around I hoped for better, the first time I was married to a Navy Chief I never knew he was seeing a female officer at the time I had 3 young children under 10 years old. My husband told my children he was going to kill them an toss them out on the way back to Whidbey Island, and he would kill Mom before they left. I have been thrown down stairs, was gardening on my knees the sun was bright I looked up an was knocked out by a shovel when I woke up he was standing on my back, he lined up my three boys who were crying, when I woke I heard him say ,"see I told you I could do this to your mother ".divorced in Connecticut was told by a victims advocate this was the worst she has heard told me to stop talking she heard enough. So when I met the second he was what I thought was a good family man a good person but I was wrong he is a textbook narcissist 7 years in of trying too hard to make things work because I just wanted a friend I wanted a relationship but there I was stuck in this guy's abusive emotional rants an I saw right through it had enough want him gone
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Good thing I never married #2 just bought a house so that is the only thing in the way. He put 1/4 in on the house I put 3/4 But as you know you cannot talk or reason with a narcissist at all tried it once the reply was classic. He said give me $15 thousand and you leave. I said you ok???? do the math, how about I give you $15 thousand you leave He said but tha5 is not 2hat
That is not what I put in. They never make sense just want to confuse an manipulate. I'm done showing him the door not easy unless he finds another victim
It is harder when you are raised by a narcissistic mother. As an innocent child we have no language to express what is really going on, nor the experience to know that what is being done is not right from societal perspective. Can only praise God and the connection with Him that helped me to break free. Only sad that it took so long to get the true picture.
Absolute True Andrew 💙 thankful for the wisdom 💙❤️🙏 Very helpful for healing love hugs and prayers to you and all who are healing ❤❤
1, 2, 3!❣️
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Wow! The picture that just formed in my mind 😮
Narcs equate with the Spider. Don't get caught in their web. Because if you do, they will feed from you!
Shutters!
Andrew …. Thank you!!! You actually make me feel validated ❤
The narc decided one day to tell me they had a FB community.
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The best summary I’ve heard, Ex .of exit plan? I kept saying to myself I can’t be the only one ( but I wasn’t sure what it was about) then thru the experiences I knew I was never alone.
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I need help. My ex was manageable too a point, and he’s in bad health. His mother is trapping my daughter at her home in contempt of court. God I have to make a choice leave my 8 year old or deal with her. She said because I work can’t have my daughter during The week. And only every other weekend I can’t take it anymore. I need a lawyer but she’s just drained my finances.
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You are brilliant and this video is about me and the woman who still keeps telling me we should be a couple. The woman who so often keep saying I am doing everything incorrectly.
Ty Andrrew ❤
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Thanks Andrew. You've helped me so very much with your podcasts. Your the BEST
Is it possible that a Narcissist doesn’t even know that they are a narcissist??
The most/closest to self enlightenment I ever got from mine was - "I know I can be a little bit selfish sometimes. But"...!
I was no contact for 6 good years only light communication. Came back around my father's dead and my hand is broken. My credit is now s***, all my hobbies are gone. Do not accept the Hoover they just want to finish you off. Now I really do need that therapy they scream at me that I need. Run and run now. I feel like I'm under attack all the time. Doctor won't operate on my broken hand because I'm too thin after living with the covert narcissist. Just lovely, learn for me run from these people!!!!!!!
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You described me in detail
Me again I relapsed she reached out to me and even made a new account. I'm having such a hard time getting out of this trap and cage. I universally blocked her on everything again and I don't want to talk to her again just keep getting pulled back in getting hovered.