Nothing has propelled me to more self-awareness, growth and healing from childhood trauma than coming out on the other side of this narcissistic abusive relationship. I am 55 and have been in therapy on and off most of my adult life. I continued to have periodic episodes of depression and anxiety. I never really felt like I had a strong sense of self. Now I do. I have been deep diving into how and why I allowed this to happen to me. Now I know. I am healing (on-going) but I now know exactly how it all unfolded. Thank you Andrew! You were (and are) so instrumental to my continued growth!!
March FORWARD every day,, you deserve the MOST!!! I am going through the discord still, and without finding Andrew last June 1st., I would have never gotten to where I am now and I still have a lot of self work to do, but I do know that I’m so so much better off without the toxicity I’d been in it for so long that I truly thought that it was a ME problem,,,, ha, NO WAY!!!! And oh there are truly no words to begin to express the relief that I’ve found myself by doing the work and listening to Andrew everyday., he is amazing, and so are you! I’d love to chat with you more sometimes, I’m bout your exact age,, and starting over now seems impossible but I’m learning that it’s not, it’s never to late to put YOU first!!!! Keep on your journey and hope to see you soon in the community. ❤️🙏💯💯‼️
I feel the same. The "Deep Dive ( going back through every corridor through my life)" produced some profound understanding of people, situations and radical acceptance.Overall, it was excellent to add to the healing process and I came away with a few amazing bonuses.
They're sadists. The only thing that excites them is hurting others. They got stuck in their feeding hole, like the main character in the book, "A Perfect Day For Bananafish" They got too fat to escape their feeding hole, so they will die down there.
To all those still healing, hang in there. I've been there. What Andrew says here is correct. You have already won. You will realize this soon if you haven't already. Keep going. Lean on God in prayer. You got this
when you say NO to the narcissist, you are saying YES to: -your self-respect -your dignity -being the best version of yourself saying YES to yourself is the greatest vote of confidence and act of self-love possible. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾 And every day without them will be a blessing!!!!!!!! Never return!!!!! I'm 1 year, 9 months free and life is a dream come true!!!! I'm soooooo incredibly happy!
Today I bought a very nice coffee mug with flowers all over it and written 'I love you' on it. When I saw it in that store it made me smile because it is so beautiful. I decided to buy it as a gift for myself. Yes, I love myself so much and since I had such a hard time with the narcissist I really deserve to be told 'I love you' by my wonderful coffee mug every morning from now on😊
,@i.l.9546,,yes a bit of retail therapy,,it's the small things that mean so much,,,I bought pink curtains with stars ,,yesterday ,,Self Love,I'm getting acquainted with, have a lovely weekend,🌺😊🦋🌟
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armor of God, that we may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Ephesians 6:12-13 Blessings! IT IS A SPIRITUAL WAR!! ❤❤
Narcissists confuse a lot. They seem to be very caring and send long texts to show their concern, on the contrary, their lies, sudden changed behaviours, sweet voice when they need a favour, broken promises, but they have a whole world of commitments to show, those promises are lingered on daily basis and leaves one in thinking loops! What a mess they create in the brain! I am shocked what type of people walk on Earth!
I just read an article that said, “When stress is acute and prolonged, it can become pathogenic.” Also in some personal research I’ve learned that many autoimmune disorders can be “switched on” by acute stress. It can actually cause brain damage. If you’re in a relationship like this, it really is important for your own health to get out!
That's me 🙋♀️ stumbled across a quick IG post on how to identify a NARCISSISTIC person. Later, I understood it wasn't a coincidence. It was God showing/telling me for oh I don't know maybe the 1,000,000,000 time, "LADY WAKE UP!" The coward decided to pull the reverse discard, but guess what...Here I am today, wide awake and still standing stronger than ever. It wasn't a punishment. It was a lesson.
I have won because I am free from toxicity and narcissistic abuse, and I will NEVER go back and will never be lured into another relationship like that. Healthy relationships are made of sharing caring, respect and understanding. Each willingly and equally compromising. Listening to each other and helping each other through the hard times and joyfully celebrating the good times. Being supportive and lovingly encouraging. I might never have the privilege of having a healthy relationship at this stage of my life but at least I have the satisfaction of knowing the difference between the two and would be better at it. Healthy relationships are not and shouldn't be a competition. 😊
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I feel the same way. After surviving 33 years of abuse my priority is healing not another relationship. God is first & I am enjoying peace. Never broke anymore either
After 58 years of abuse , 14 months no contact from my sick family. ...the Hoover's are tapering but my demonic malignant narc sister is feeling defeated and I know its driving her crazy and this makes me so happy. they should be in jail!!!!
Demonic! It's like the Narcissist was conquered by literal Demons👹 and they are minions of them and they attempt to vanquish their victims through abuse and create more demons. From my experience the Narcissistic abuse cycle has an occult aspect. The spirits of the evil dead feeding on the souls of the living.😮
I haven't blocked the narcissist but do not answer his calls. I am afraid to block him. Part of me fears his rage. Part of me actually feels sorry for him. Just being honest. Still learning. My mind is getting clearer. I smile randomly and am mostly self isolating, working on healing. A heavy load has been lifted. Thank you Andrew.....always So uplifting and inspiring. ❤
Block him off everything and every day you will feel empowered they love the fact that you are still there. maybe keep a journal of the abuse you have endured. They have never loved us and will never they wont change. i would say that on the healing journey there will be a time when you think that he better fear you. Take care💐
Block him sweetie. It will help you so much with the lingering confusion. Deny him all access or the pain will continue. Be kind to yourself now and just do it. Do it and don’t look back!
Made my last payments last month. 8 years , 75.000 euros, her boyfriend taking over my home and children, her relationship ending ……728,50 every month and three children at university. She never paid into their education. The joy of blocking her phone number in January. No more ties.
Much respect to you Andrew. I have forgiven myself for blaming myself for all the abuse. In reality I was dealing with a selfish person not capable of loving anyone. Some people DO only think about themselves. You teach us to recognise them.
Yes!! I now realize that I actually won the war! Lost battles along the way because I just didn't know. But I figured it out when a friend said, "Girrrl, he's gaslighting you; he sounds like a narcissist!" Since I had no idea what she was talking about, she immediately sent me a video, and I kept watching videos. I then put an end to the game. I continue being informed and putting in the work. No contact forever, no hoovers accepted--EVER. Each and every day, I get stronger and wiser. I am so grateful. Thank you for the knowledge, Andrew. I thank God for you. I'M A WINNER! NAMASTE
I will not win. I have 5 daughters. Since the marriage broke up my girls have been lied and to by my mother and my ex. I lived my life and got my degree at university. I am very grateful for that. My mother has passed away but my ex is at it again. He called my daughter and asked how I am doing. My daughter said I was doing great. Now the other shoe needs to drop. He will go after my daughters again. They think their father is perfect. They have no idea what happened to me. It is like we lived in two houses. I am so needing help to recover. This is hard on me. I know I will get through. Just wish it was faster. My ex is not well and is aging. He has been drinking since about 13 years old. He is now 76 so he probably does not have long to go. He will never get the chance to abuse me again. I am done with all of that.
Yeah, the grocery store is a good thing...and cooking for myself. Tho I am used to cooking for my family, and cooking for one is much harder, at least I don't have to worry about what anyone else wants to eat. Always a plus!
I’ve been making myself nice Sunday dinners like my favorite aunt used to do. She was my safe place! I make a big meal and freeze portions for myself so I can have more healthy meals later. It’s good to have a roast last 7 meals 😊
Life is about Evolving... Realizing we have won brings new Strength and Hope for our Future.. We survived living in Darkness with the Narcissist and have entered the light with a new attitude....It's OK if now if someone doesn't like us... Not everyone has Good Taste...
After 19 almost 20 years of being in a narcissistic relationship, I finally open my eyes something just clicked and I am indifferent. I don’t care anymore. I care about me my kids my life he does not matter to me anymore. I got it I got it and I’ve been on contact for three weeks and it’s freaking awesome. The trauma bond isawful the silent treatment is damaging. The discard kills you, but there’s hope it’s not your fault.
Yes, yes and yes; narc brother, took me five decades to finally see it having grown up walking on eggshells; he is 7 years older; the golden boy, achiever; ivy league school, etc. - even when his partner told me bro said to him "she hasn't been punished enough" - still years later came the realization. The emotional abuse, I never could please him; by wit; by marriage; by my own good achievements; so painful because I worshipped him.
Worship God not Man. We will all fail ourselves and each other. Those 5 decades are not in vain... you are the 3rd Version now... the Galvanized Version. You now don't live to seek approval or please him or others, you won't allow or be emotionally invested for some one to "punish" you. Don't worship anything walking this earth- focus on the higher power, invest in your self and healing. And your 5 decades of Learning will be beneficial to the next uneducated empath experiencing abuse... because how you move forward is truly the lesson 😊 they can learn from 🙏🏽
I just found this explanation online and it's just brilliant: Narcissism is not self love. In fact, there is a very little well-developed sense of self. This was stunted early in childhood by the need to learn how to appear to others rather than develop one's own sense of personal identity and value. The narcissist has therefore developed a personality that is addicted to “narcissistic supply". This is an image of himself which he cultivates in all his significant relationships. The image he needs reflected back to him is generally grandiose and entitled. It tends to warp his interpretation of reality and others…i.e. the truth. As a result a narcissist does not relate to others as people but rather as mirrors.
Really, it isn't about winning. This isn't a contest or competition. It is about getting your life back in order, with joy, peace, and love and being able to truth ❤️ again!!!
Yes I have won, I am healing. It has been 6 years of torture.. I have been watching these videos for 2 years to finally get to this point SAFELY. I learned how to react and not fall back into despair. Blood pressure has been NORMAL since he left.
They are jealous of your power and success and hate you being independent they actually resent you it was a one sided relationship they are children in a mans body hate responsibilities rely on you for everything they are takers
After walking on eggshells for 30 years, I left 2. months ago. I'm finding joy and happiness again. I got up from my deathbed, after learning about these people. They do want you dead. And they do get worse with age. Don't waste your life with them. You deserve better.
After bending over backwards, being totally committed to the marriage, I found myself in a lonely, loveless marriage that was draining life,health,and peace from me. After 33yrs I left and divorced my husband. It's been 2yrs .Leaving was costly in everyway, but worth it. Before separating I did an exit plan. I saved for my new living arrangement, saw a therapist twice monthly and had a network of 5 persons who I trusted and were willing to be there for me,no matter what.Leaving shattered the life of lies and denial that I chose to believe. I choose to live in truth,love and reality,and will not allow takers or controlling people in my life. I now know that I'm worthy of joy,peace,and love. I love ,care for and respect me. If this isn't your m/o...don't come knocking.
Good for you fellow traveler. May the Lord God strengthen you as you walk on the path of healing,peace ,and self-love. Thank you for sharing your experiences. As you weather this storm,remember it will surly pass,the sun will shine upon you face and your tears will turn to joy. Peace & blessings ❤❤❤
Just now realising the true depth of the demon in my home. I'm only just now coming to terms with the extent of the empty evil that has all but destroyed me and my family. The discard has not happened yet but I now know what I must do. The more I learn, the more pain I feel. The time has come.
It's as if you're telling my life! Apart from the older he got the more violent and vicious he got towards me, stealing my clothes dressing them up in them taking pictures ! Thousands claimed to be a serious hubbies photographer that's how he maintained his supply sleeping and sexual encounters that his slip up I have serious porn images he has on his phone !!. He cut my phone off but I was prepared up graded my soft wear and he had images hidden in one of my files!! I screenshot all b4 he was made a aware to delete and posted them out on my media page for suspecting folk to see it wasn't my madness 🙃 but his I'm battling for a divorce few yrs now and been looking after myself 26yr he made me go to the state for money to live and hasn't supported me since but keep putting clus to make it difficult to divorce him however I am not giving up it is a must to set me free fom a monster x
It took me 16 years to exit a toxic marriage which was doomed from day one. The next relationship lasted 11 years. At least I had the good sense to not marry her because something was off even though I could not see (in that moment) what was wrong. I inherently want to fix things. The most recent relationship, the one after the narc that brought me to this channel.. is she perfect? No, nor am I. But, it seemed like it was going well for ~4 months. But the thing is, I now have the wisdom. Once it became clear to me that she is toxic (most likely BPD vs NPD) I had the strength to end it. I could have burned another decade. I know now that I cannot change another... I cannot save another. So now I focus on myself. This is progress.
You are right, people who have no experience with narcissist they just don't understand what you are talking. But we should never forget who they truly are.
Thank you for this excellent, informative, inspiring video, Andrew. We WON when broke connections with the narc and God removed us from the torment. We WON when we found you and your channel, Andrew. Thank you for your help and devotion to narcissistic abuse. May each one heal to our optimum health in mind. body, soul and spirit, living our best lives unhindered. ❤️
Finally ,...FINALLY you reach your destination ! 🎉🎉🎉 It's been a long bumpy ride to full recovery , but you got there at long last . They were your reality , you channelled everything through them , and you had to peel back the thousands of bloodsucking mental and emotional tentacles that had entrapped you for so long ! Finally you are YOU once again , and a far better , stronger and wiser version ! WELL DONE YOU !!! 🙏👋❤
Thank you Andrew for being here! Thank God I am out, healing, safe, doing self care, and your videos helped me so much to understand what it was, when I was still stuck in that hell. Your videos helped me know I am not alone, and that I deserved better. Thank you again Andrew, You are a bright and shining light in this world and you shined brightness into the darkness when I was in hell, and you helped me get out. Alive! Love you brother, Namaste!
Thank you. I’ve listened and run away to cry a few times here. Acceptance was really thrashing around in truth, wishing I could grieve in denial but I didn’t progress in that state. I had to be mad and in horrible self pity and bitter crushing sadness. I was mad at you for truth when he created that crap and my anger was misdirected. I’m going to be ok and my gratitude for your words is now genuine. May God reward you for doing the tough stuff. Narcissists really are evil.
My believe is not about winning in a relationship It is about communication. And honestly being one self..having a common goal and growing together. Narcs starting out as the partner you wished for. Forgive yourself for falling into their web of fakeness and lies. It took a Lot of time for me to understand These dynamics. A big hug and thank to you Andrew and your channel.
“They want an unpaid helper and walking apology.” This, exactly. My ex destroyed my house, smashed the clay pizza oven I had built, and ruined my yard, with the “big dream” he was selling at that time about the amazing renovations we would do by “building the house back up together.” That went on for six years. Unreal to think back on it. I finally escaped and am just now building back. Videos like this help ease my mind and help me heal. Thank you ❤❤❤
I am a blown Malignant Narcissist Survivor. It took me 6 years to confront him and tell him exactly who I KNOW he is!! And as you know, he fired up on me, and I flooded him with screenshots of other abused women by him who came to me. He blocked me and shut down his Facebook within minutes. Victims PLEASE.....realise that they are NO THREAT!!! Walk away, get stronger and speak up!!!!
In a place of three million people, the lazy narrsist happens to be unknowly to people where you work, working there witchcraft. The more I listen to, the more i pick up memories . Soon after she took overdose of prescription drugs,swallow by bottle of wine, came back to house during my sleep period, daughter was thirteen, and woke me up, dadsomething is wrong with mom. She made sure she did it in front of kids. She survived, and it cost me. Dam if you dont, dam if you do. Still i did not play her judge. I was on my cross, but was able to say it is finished. Hallelujah..
To me it was a spiritual war. They have the jazabel spirit, male Or female. It's a spiritual war against the enemy. We need to do as Christ did & walk away from the enemies; And be the best we can be with the knowledge that Christ will get justice. We are to never look back, lest we turn into a pillar of salt by looking/ going back. Our win is our salvation in the end. Live your best. Know your enemies. Protect your heart. Try every person's spirit before letting them into your life.
Your comment is perfect for my situation. A jezabel spirit in my DIL. Complete with the black eyes. My covert, enabling, blame taking, shame shifting son who puts the blame on me for innocently finding out about her myriad of affairs and I refusing to apologize about finding out. Being raged at, slandered, bullied and threatened. I had knowledge about Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder but my Mama heart wasn't willing to give up and lose my son and 6 year old grandson. There are no winners in this sad game only losers. Heartbreaking sorrow to mourn over loved ones for the sake of our own sanity. But life is too short to live with this hostility. God helps me every single day to cope and I put my faith and trust in him.
I told him after 7 years to go home & grow up & never shared another word - written ior spoken - with him. Let them sneak off & find their luck somewhere else. No need for regret; get on a new better path & share your light with someone deserving. Thank you Andrew & greetings from Switzerland
I got out. Part of my loss took place when the narcissist ex-wife turned my oldest daughter against me. Parent Alienation. The daughter is just like her mother, hateful and vindictive. This has been going on for 18 years now. The ex and daughter went to my job years ago and tried to get me fired. I was not invited to my daughter's wedding a few years ago. I have not seen or spoken to the daughter in years or seen my grandson. It is a no-win situation. I am damned if I do, damned if I don't. It doesn't feel like a win. It is Collateral Damage.
So well said. Yes, a kapow to the nose is karmic. Thank you for helping so many people. We need to be informed as to their manipulative tactics, the more we are aware, then we can avoid their evil agenda. Self-empowerment is crucial. Blessings to you.
Thank you for your light & helping me understand to heal myself. Ive been in this very toxic relationship for nearly 5 years to the point that ive OD’d many times, he told me to go for it and the other times, he simply walked out on me. I have no more friends & nobody to talk to but your videos are giving me some strength to care a little about myself. God bless you & may we all heal from the evils of this world 🙏🌹
The narcissistic tricks, traps and manipulation is gone forever! I will never allow anyone to mistreat me ever again! People need to seek help for mental and spiritual abuse. ❗💯🙏🏼
It's taken me a long time to process and heal from 30 years with a malignant narcissist. Psychologically and emotionally. My current challenge is to heal the physical ailments I developed as a direct result of the years of being in the constant state of "fight or flight". I developed rheumatoid arthritis. I have a medical background, and it is my belief that a lot of people who have these ailments, are, or have been, in a narcissist relationship. This is what these creatures do to you. Especially if you stay too long, as I did. So run a mile. You won't regret it. Thank you , Andrew, as always, spot on. ❤
Awe Andrew 😭 this video was SPOT ON. Some of the things you say is exactly how I felt. Like the crumpled up paper thrown along the side of the road. It's like you took the words right out of my mouth! They are the complete opposite of everything I'm looking for in a relationship/partner. There is no way I can achieve my vision or build my life with them. It's unfortunate that you had to experience your own version of this, but you win because you harnessed the pain into something positive and beautiful. You are giving others the gift of knowledge. You are a selfless guide and a brilliant teacher. They try to obliterate everything you've built, your dreams, the essence of you. Thank you for reminding me that I win. I win because I am rid of the dead weight and once again free to pursue my potential without their hindrance!
Whenever we meet someone who acts ENTITLED, is willing to EXPLOIT us and has NO EMPATHY, we should watch out because there is a strong chance we have met a narcissist. We must have nothing to do with those evil individuals. Thank you Andrew😊 God bless you❤ ps I like your T-shirt 😊
As You Say Andrew, they throw Little punches to Lower your strengh, what they DONT Now is that we DO NOT throw little punches to damage, WE throw A SINGLE punch and that is enough, additinal to you going silent, blocking, disapearing, and it hurts, but i remember ALL their attitud, hearting you, but still they keep using you to pull the most they can. I was shocked !! But NOT any more. Again thank you for sharing your strenght and wisdom that awaken US !
You're a winner too, Andrew ( Big Time). I accept the Win, but there's always a Narc watching, doing the same ol' thing, jealous of your joy and can't wait to try their hand at working you. That's where all these tools remain vital to me. Wind, rain, sunny day ... this is powerful knowledge for All Seasons! Thanks! 🙏👍👁Namaste.
Thank you Andrew. You have given me peace watching these videos, per my therapist for battered women. My husband has done this since before we were married in 2016 with my first black eye. I’ve gone back several times not knowing what was going on or why but wanting to make it better. He was a constant reminder it was me and all my fault and I was the crazy one. He would shove down my throat all he’s done for me and no one wants me. He took everything from me and I could not go anywhere without him. The end of this abuse I’d never left my room, isolated all my family and kids. He was a master manipulator. These last 5 days free have been eye opening, emotional and your videos are what I needed. I understand so much now by watching them and they give me strength. I feel more connected to reality and relate to you. I have to watch these multiple times a day and pray I continue to heal and educate myself and try to stay safe as he found me two days ago. I pray now. Thank you 🙏🌸
Thanks to you you Andrew, and the community, I've healed faster. And yesterday my "I've probably won"-moment came when I heard that rumors say she's going to sell her house just a few hundred yards away from me. She hasn't lived there for a couple of years since she moved in with me and rented her house out. When I kicked her out she rented another house a few miles away since she'd made a number of enemies during the years she lived in this neighborhood and felt she wasn't welcome anymore. Not the way I intended things to go when I married her but as things developed I'm grateful to not have her close by.
Dude you’re amazing. How do you hit the nail on the head so well?? It’s like my whole life is being described perfectly. Thank you so much for the help.
Thanks as always Andrew. I used to watch your videos every day, but now I dip in and out, but this is a good thing as I'm healing and can remind myself of all your wise words of support without listening to your video every day. Keep up the good work. God bless you x
Amen. I have walked through the fire. He tried to take me down but I’m a survivor. I lived the red flag for years. I have found myself again and am flourishing beyond my wildest dreams.
I was watching your "Uploads" from today & this video started to play after. I didn't notice yesterday that you gave a subtle wink in the beginning of this video with your head tilt 🙂. "When you realize that you have won", head tilt, wink😉. When you reach the pinnacle of indifference there is no doubt in your mind that you have won. Your subtle wink speaks to me. You often say people who come out of a narcissist relationship speak the same language. So I appreciate your wink🙂. To me it means well done🙂. I extend the same wink back to you Andrew. You have won😉, well done🙂. God bless ☀️☀️☀️🦅
Bad stuff still happens but now I’m seeing just how much the narcissist stress was different. His black cloud affected my health in a scary way. That continued in the bizarre complex grief in his wake. It’s hard to see a difference having been sick and worried about another’s sickness and the usual financial concerns etc. but finally I’m seeing a difference. I need to grab this hope and hold on. No one needs that narcissist nightmare. It’s not worth the glorious crumbs they throw you. Life on life’s terms is going to be ok.
Amazing video Andrew. I want to make a point of how important self care is for you to WIN. Post relationship especially if you’re dealing with divorce and or parental alienation it’s extremely important that you look after yourself, keep an eye out on compound exhaustion, take your vitamins, eat well! Exercise if you have the energy! ❤
My gift to the Narcissist is my unwavering loyalty to guarding my own heart ❤️ I personally believe what is written that Jesus said; John 14:27 "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid." Even in a marriage... it is possible that you may have committed to the wrong person. That initially you were not mature and grounded enough to make a solid decision. Or personally not knowing the person well enough. Having the knowledge now, it's my mission to protect children. To gain education. To encourage children to be empathetic. To trust their innocence. You don't need to be abused or lose your entire identity, family & peace ✌🏽 to accommodate the whiny Narc. We are not afraid 💖💖😎💖💖
I know I won, fairly quickly in the short-term by getting right out of the abusive relationship, keeping a roof over my head and regaining my life/self respect and in time I won again by finally understanding, which took a whole lot longer but it remains a "victory" I can take absolutely no satisfaction in.
Right right and right 👍 I guess I was so weak back then being with a narcissist trying to control me I never looked so good since I left him I was so stressed aggravated and not a happy person back then my health was failing my finances and now I can put myself back together thank you so much ty 😊 couldn't do it without you and God bless you ❤️😂
It’s amazing to hear this . He has recently in the last few months moved on to the new supply and all his dates and things they do are all the things I would set up and tell him about . He was always a boring person with no originality and it’s so clear to see now
Wow brother, you are something special! Your wisdom is beyond your age. Thanks so freaking much! We must have experienced the same things! However you are articulate enough to explain. Thanks so much for your insight and being there for us all. And thanks for the FLOWERS! Namaste
I have learned a lot regarding illnesses. Just when I think I have seen a video on every aspect, there you go again, and there is something else. I realized that my older sister has a lot of these traits. Thanks Andrew!
Thank you Andrew for all your words. I find myself real hyper diligent when I come across a new narcissist. I hope it is not too much to look into. Thank you for helping me with my self esteem and using the most powerful word in the dictionary. "NO"
Nothing has propelled me to more self-awareness, growth and healing from childhood trauma than coming out on the other side of this narcissistic abusive relationship. I am 55 and have been in therapy on and off most of my adult life. I continued to have periodic episodes of depression and anxiety. I never really felt like I had a strong sense of self. Now I do. I have been deep diving into how and why I allowed this to happen to me. Now I know. I am healing (on-going) but I now know exactly how it all unfolded. Thank you Andrew! You were (and are) so instrumental to my continued growth!!
Welcome 💯🙏😌🙌
Amazing! Keep asking questions. Therapy is only scary to those who want to deny truth.
March FORWARD every day,, you deserve the MOST!!! I am going through the discord still, and without finding Andrew last June 1st., I would have never gotten to where I am now and I still have a lot of self work to do, but I do know that I’m so so much better off without the toxicity I’d been in it for so long that I truly thought that it was a ME problem,,,, ha, NO WAY!!!! And oh there are truly no words to begin to express the relief that I’ve found myself by doing the work and listening to Andrew everyday., he is amazing, and so are you! I’d love to chat with you more sometimes, I’m bout your exact age,, and starting over now seems impossible but I’m learning that it’s not, it’s never to late to put YOU first!!!! Keep on your journey and hope to see you soon in the community. ❤️🙏💯💯‼️
Propelled....... is an understatement.
You are on rocket boosters.😊😊😊😊😊
What a great comment!
I feel the same. The "Deep Dive ( going back through every corridor through my life)" produced some
profound understanding of people, situations and radical acceptance.Overall, it was excellent to add to the healing process and I came away with a few amazing bonuses.
Not only won, but made it out alive...
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Yes!
Your rmisery is their fuel. Your prosperity is their demise. It has been a long way to find that out. Lets thrive!
Indeed!@@marcharsveld2914
It is so strange how a narcissist would rather destroy you rather than build you and benefit their life.
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I was thinking the same today. Why spend8ng all time and effort to destroy instead of loving and having a REAL good time and life...
They're sadists. The only thing that excites them is hurting others. They got stuck in their feeding hole, like the main character in the book, "A Perfect Day For Bananafish" They got too fat to escape their feeding hole, so they will die down there.
To all those still healing, hang in there. I've been there. What Andrew says here is correct. You have already won. You will realize this soon if you haven't already. Keep going. Lean on God in prayer. You got this
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Yes! Amen❤️🙏😊
Yes, God is a strength in our weakness!
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I am 53 and I just realised that there are no winners but I survived and am thriving xx
Amen AND Amen!!
when you say NO to the narcissist, you are saying YES to:
-your self-respect
-your dignity
-being the best version of yourself
saying YES to yourself is the greatest vote of confidence and act of self-love possible.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
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@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone excellent andrew.
-cheers, steven 🍁
@flowerpower4944 beautiful emojis! 💙
-cheers, steven 🍁
Cheers
I WON ! I WON ! I WON! I LEFT MY EX NARC 8 DAYS AGO.
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❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾 And every day without them will be a blessing!!!!!!!! Never return!!!!! I'm 1 year, 9 months free and life is a dream come true!!!! I'm soooooo incredibly happy!
YAHOO !!!❤
No more pain = WINNING!🏆 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
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Me too. Been gone 5 years healing now after 35 years of abuse! I won! 🤗✌️😍🏆
Winning IS getting out... NO contact is the ONLY way!
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Today I bought a very nice coffee mug with flowers all over it and written 'I love you' on it. When I saw it in that store it made me smile because it is so beautiful. I decided to buy it as a gift for myself. Yes, I love myself so much and since I had such a hard time with the narcissist I really deserve to be told 'I love you' by my wonderful coffee mug every morning from now on😊
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,@i.l.9546,,yes a bit of retail therapy,,it's the small things that mean so much,,,I bought pink curtains with stars ,,yesterday ,,Self Love,I'm getting acquainted with, have a lovely weekend,🌺😊🦋🌟
You can buy yourself flowers write your name in the saaand 💃💃
Look up Dr Emoto's work with water ice crystals. That is actually healing!
@@ThimbleFox350 yes great song!❤️
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armor of God, that we may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Ephesians 6:12-13 Blessings! IT IS A SPIRITUAL WAR!! ❤❤
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It's so good that society is waking up to and becoming educated about narcissistic abuse because narcissism is an epidemic.
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Yes..
Narcissists confuse a lot. They seem to be very caring and send long texts to show their concern, on the contrary, their lies, sudden changed behaviours, sweet voice when they need a favour, broken promises, but they have a whole world of commitments to show, those promises are lingered on daily basis and leaves one in thinking loops! What a mess they create in the brain! I am shocked what type of people walk on Earth!
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I just read an article that said, “When stress is acute and prolonged, it can become pathogenic.” Also in some personal research I’ve learned that many autoimmune disorders can be “switched on” by acute stress. It can actually cause brain damage. If you’re in a relationship like this, it really is important for your own health to get out!
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That's me 🙋♀️ stumbled across a quick IG post on how to identify a NARCISSISTIC person. Later, I understood it wasn't a coincidence. It was God showing/telling me for oh I don't know maybe the 1,000,000,000 time, "LADY WAKE UP!" The coward decided to pull the reverse discard, but guess what...Here I am today, wide awake and still standing stronger than ever. It wasn't a punishment. It was a lesson.
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Is that not amazing..?!!!
@@MattyNelson-rs3ikAbsolutely!
The Devil was a liar from the beginning; don’t be beguiled. You’re wise to the serpent now, and his hypocrisy isn’t your reality. 🙏❤️.
Yes, A divine rescue!!!!
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No, thank you! Andrew for being there, and here. I’m grateful for you and your knowledge and especially your encouragement!!!
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I have won because I am free from toxicity and narcissistic abuse, and I will NEVER go back and will never be lured into another relationship like that. Healthy relationships are made of sharing caring, respect and understanding. Each willingly and equally compromising. Listening to each other and helping each other through the hard times and joyfully celebrating the good times. Being supportive and lovingly encouraging. I might never have the privilege of having a healthy relationship at this stage of my life but at least I have the satisfaction of knowing the difference between the two and would be better at it. Healthy relationships are not and shouldn't be a competition. 😊
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Better to be happy and alone than with misery whom loves company?
I admire your strength! Stay true to yourself! ❤️
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How will u know many have because they come in nice so u won’t know
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I feel the same way. After surviving 33 years of abuse my priority is healing not another relationship.
God is first & I am enjoying peace. Never broke anymore either
After 58 years of abuse , 14 months no contact from my sick family. ...the Hoover's are tapering but my demonic malignant narc sister is feeling defeated and I know its driving her crazy and this makes me so happy. they should be in jail!!!!
Demonic!
It's like the Narcissist was conquered by literal Demons👹 and they are minions of them and they attempt to vanquish their victims through abuse and create more demons. From my experience the Narcissistic abuse cycle has an occult aspect. The spirits of the evil dead feeding on the souls of the living.😮
Congratulations on your freedom. Stay no contact & keep healing!💜🎭
That happy feeling is the sweetest😊
I haven't blocked the narcissist but do not answer his calls. I am afraid to block him. Part of me fears his rage. Part of me actually feels sorry for him. Just being honest. Still learning. My mind is getting clearer. I smile randomly and am mostly self isolating, working on healing. A heavy load has been lifted. Thank you Andrew.....always So uplifting and inspiring. ❤
just block, you're more important
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Block him off everything and every day you will feel empowered they love the fact that you are still there. maybe keep a journal of the abuse you have endured. They have never loved us and will never they wont change. i would say that on the healing journey there will be a time when you think that he better fear you. Take care💐
Block him sweetie. It will help you so much with the lingering confusion. Deny him all access or the pain will continue. Be kind to yourself now and just do it. Do it and don’t look back!
Unless you're in immediate danger, block him. I blocked the ex and his mama and life has been an absolute bliss!🎉🎉🎉🎉❤
Made my last payments last month. 8 years , 75.000 euros, her boyfriend taking over my home and children, her relationship ending ……728,50 every month and three children at university. She never paid into their education. The joy of blocking her phone number in January. No more ties.
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Much respect to you Andrew. I have forgiven myself for blaming myself for all the abuse. In reality I was dealing with a selfish person not capable of loving anyone. Some people DO only think about themselves. You teach us to recognise them.
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Living was scary enough without realizing the depths of evil that walk the layers of this onion that we call life? Stay true to yourself!
@@RustyMeadowsHomestead Yes to thy self be true 💕
Thank you Andrew. Stand in our truth! Never alone here. Namaste 🙏.
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How timely ! Lady Justice Prevails again ! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
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Yes!! I now realize that I actually won the war! Lost battles along the way because I just didn't know. But I figured it out when a friend said, "Girrrl, he's gaslighting you; he sounds like a narcissist!" Since I had no idea what she was talking about, she immediately sent me a video, and I kept watching videos. I then put an end to the game.
I continue being informed and putting in the work. No contact forever, no hoovers accepted--EVER. Each and every day, I get stronger and wiser. I am so grateful. Thank you for the knowledge, Andrew. I thank God for you. I'M A WINNER! NAMASTE
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That friend is a keeper! 👍
Narcissist is usually only in the vocabulary of a narcissist. No shame in innocence.
I will not win. I have 5 daughters. Since the marriage broke up my girls have been lied and to by my mother and my ex. I lived my life and got my degree at university. I am very grateful for that.
My mother has passed away but my ex is at it again. He called my daughter and asked how I am doing. My daughter said I was doing great. Now the other shoe needs to drop. He will go after my daughters again. They think their father is perfect. They have no idea what happened to me. It is like we lived in two houses. I am so needing help to recover. This is hard on me. I know I will get through. Just wish it was faster. My ex is not well and is aging. He has been drinking since about 13 years old. He is now 76 so he probably does not have long to go. He will never get the chance to abuse me again. I am done with all of that.
You won, their loss.
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Stay focused stay strong. Stay prayed up.
“We now have boundaries and we know how strong we are and we know we are the winners!” Yes! Thank you, Andrew!
Yeah, the grocery store is a good thing...and cooking for myself. Tho I am used to cooking for my family, and cooking for one is much harder, at least I don't have to worry about what anyone else wants to eat. Always a plus!
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I’ve been making myself nice Sunday dinners like my favorite aunt used to do. She was my safe place! I make a big meal and freeze portions for myself so I can have more healthy meals later. It’s good to have a roast last 7 meals 😊
@@maryannspicher right on! Good idea! Thanks 👍🙏🏻😊
Yes that's right.
From 5/22. 1/24. Thank U JESUS I Made it So Far🙏💞🔥💯😘
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Ditto 👃
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank U. U Have Helped Me So Much 🙏💞🔥💯😘
YES its a Beautiful Feeling ,,we do the Hard Long Work, Now we Reap the Benefits.of Peace ,Freedom ,and Sheer Joy,, No more Chaos❤❤❤❤❤
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Amen!..
Life is about Evolving... Realizing we have won brings new Strength and Hope for our Future..
We survived living in Darkness with the Narcissist and have entered the light with a new attitude....It's OK if now if someone doesn't like us...
Not everyone has Good Taste...
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Lol...cheers 👍
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Your videos are outstanding. You are helping thousands of people. Thank you,,,,
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Dear Andrew I have left everything you say is true. I'm still healing it takes a long time. Thank you 🙏❤❤❤😊
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After 19 almost 20 years of being in a narcissistic relationship, I finally open my eyes something just clicked and I am indifferent. I don’t care anymore. I care about me my kids my life he does not matter to me anymore. I got it I got it and I’ve been on contact for three weeks and it’s freaking awesome. The trauma bond isawful the silent treatment is damaging. The discard kills you, but there’s hope it’s not your fault.
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Yes, yes and yes; narc brother, took me five decades to finally see it having grown up walking on eggshells; he is 7 years older; the golden boy, achiever; ivy league school, etc. - even when his partner told me bro said to him "she hasn't been punished enough" - still years later came the realization. The emotional abuse, I never could please him; by wit; by marriage; by my own good achievements; so painful because I worshipped him.
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Bless you🙏❤️. Stay strong.
Worship God not Man. We will all fail ourselves and each other. Those 5 decades are not in vain... you are the 3rd Version now... the Galvanized Version. You now don't live to seek approval or please him or others, you won't allow or be emotionally invested for some one to "punish" you. Don't worship anything walking this earth- focus on the higher power, invest in your self and healing. And your 5 decades of Learning will be beneficial to the next uneducated empath experiencing abuse... because how you move forward is truly the lesson 😊 they can learn from 🙏🏽
I just found this explanation online and it's just brilliant: Narcissism is not self love. In fact, there is a very little well-developed sense of self. This was stunted early in childhood by the need to learn how to appear to others rather than develop one's own sense of personal identity and value. The narcissist has therefore developed a personality that is addicted to “narcissistic supply". This is an image of himself which he cultivates in all his significant relationships. The image he needs reflected back to him is generally grandiose and entitled. It tends to warp his interpretation of reality and others…i.e. the truth. As a result a narcissist does not relate to others as people but rather as mirrors.
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Really, it isn't about winning. This isn't a contest or competition. It is about getting your life back in order, with joy, peace, and love and being able to truth ❤️ again!!!
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Sounds like winning to me the prize yourself.
Yes I have won, I am healing. It has been 6 years of torture.. I have been watching these videos for 2 years to finally get to this point SAFELY. I learned how to react and not fall back into despair. Blood pressure has been NORMAL since he left.
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Keep it up! ❤️🙏. That’s a great sign!
They are jealous of your power and success and hate you being independent they actually resent you it was a one sided relationship they are children in a mans body hate responsibilities rely on you for everything they are takers
You are wonderful, your compassion and understanding is saving the lives of so many, congratulations
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After walking on eggshells for 30 years, I left 2. months ago. I'm finding joy and happiness again. I got up from my deathbed, after learning about these people. They do want you dead. And they do get worse with age. Don't waste your life with them. You deserve better.
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After bending over backwards,
being totally committed to the
marriage, I found myself in a lonely, loveless marriage that
was draining life,health,and peace from me. After 33yrs
I left and divorced my husband. It's been 2yrs .Leaving was costly in everyway, but worth it. Before
separating I did an exit plan. I
saved for my new living arrangement, saw a therapist twice monthly and had a network of 5 persons who I trusted and were willing to be there for me,no matter what.Leaving shattered the life of lies and denial that I chose to believe. I choose to live in truth,love and reality,and will not allow takers or controlling people in my life. I now know
that I'm worthy of joy,peace,and love. I love ,care for and respect me. If this isn't
your m/o...don't come knocking.
Good for you fellow traveler. May the Lord God strengthen you as you walk on the path of healing,peace ,and self-love. Thank you for sharing your experiences. As you weather this storm,remember it will surly pass,the sun will shine upon you face and your tears
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Just now realising the true depth of the demon in my home. I'm only just now coming to terms with the extent of the empty evil that has all but destroyed me and my family. The discard has not happened yet but I now know what I must do. The more I learn, the more pain I feel. The time has come.
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Stay safe,you and yours above anything else .Live to breathe another day..
Amen thank you ! 39yrs I put up and shut up no more 😮 I'm healing and rebuilding x😊
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It's as if you're telling my life! Apart from the older he got the more violent and vicious he got towards me, stealing my clothes dressing them up in them taking pictures ! Thousands claimed to be a serious hubbies photographer that's how he maintained his supply sleeping and sexual encounters that his slip up I have serious porn images he has on his phone !!. He cut my phone off but I was prepared up graded my soft wear and he had images hidden in one of my files!! I screenshot all b4 he was made a aware to delete and posted them out on my media page for suspecting folk to see it wasn't my madness 🙃 but his I'm battling for a divorce few yrs now and been looking after myself 26yr he made me go to the state for money to live and hasn't supported me since but keep putting clus to make it difficult to divorce him however I am not giving up it is a must to set me free fom a monster x
Yes, I have scars, it is horrible. It will take years to recover. But, I am on a good path.
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Thank you for this video. You're so intuitive. Still on the healing path. You're a bright, shining light in all our lives 🌞♥️
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It took me 16 years to exit a toxic marriage which was doomed from day one. The next relationship lasted 11 years. At least I had the good sense to not marry her because something was off even though I could not see (in that moment) what was wrong. I inherently want to fix things. The most recent relationship, the one after the narc that brought me to this channel.. is she perfect? No, nor am I. But, it seemed like it was going well for ~4 months. But the thing is, I now have the wisdom. Once it became clear to me that she is toxic (most likely BPD vs NPD) I had the strength to end it. I could have burned another decade. I know now that I cannot change another... I cannot save another. So now I focus on myself. This is progress.
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I just survived it,I did get physically hurt,this person is blocked
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I am doing fantastic 8 months free from narcissistic relationship. Love your videos. North Carolina looks like a beautiful place to live.
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You are right, people who have no experience with narcissist they just don't understand what you are talking. But we should never forget who they truly are.
Thank you for this excellent, informative, inspiring video, Andrew.
We WON when broke connections with the narc and God removed us from the torment.
We WON when we found you and your channel, Andrew.
Thank you for your help and devotion to narcissistic abuse.
May each one heal to our optimum health in mind. body, soul and spirit, living our best lives unhindered.
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Finally ,...FINALLY you reach your destination ! 🎉🎉🎉 It's been a long bumpy ride to full recovery , but you got there at long last . They were your reality , you channelled everything through them , and you had to peel back the thousands of bloodsucking mental and emotional tentacles that had entrapped you for so long ! Finally you are YOU once again , and a far better , stronger and wiser version ! WELL DONE YOU !!! 🙏👋❤
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Exactly!
Once you’ve lost yourself, who’s got your back? Scary thought if/when it’s your narc.
Thank you Andrew for being here! Thank God I am out, healing, safe, doing self care, and your videos helped me so much to understand what it was, when I was still stuck in that hell. Your videos helped me know I am not alone, and that I deserved better. Thank you again Andrew, You are a bright and shining light in this world and you shined brightness into the darkness when I was in hell, and you helped me get out. Alive! Love you brother, Namaste!
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30 years just left 6 months ago I am free and I have one everything you say, is so, very true. Thank you.❤
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I have lost a lot...but on a winning trajectory...
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Thank you. I’ve listened and run away to cry a few times here. Acceptance was really thrashing around in truth, wishing I could grieve in denial but I didn’t progress in that state. I had to be mad and in horrible self pity and bitter crushing sadness. I was mad at you for truth when he created that crap and my anger was misdirected. I’m going to be ok and my gratitude for your words is now genuine. May God reward you for doing the tough stuff. Narcissists really are evil.
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My believe is not about winning in a relationship It is about communication. And honestly being one self..having a common goal and growing together.
Narcs starting out as the partner you wished for. Forgive yourself for falling into their web of fakeness and lies.
It took a Lot of time for me to understand These dynamics. A big hug and thank to you Andrew and your channel.
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I won a life of solitude.
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Thank you Andrew and community, love you all, God bless 🙏 ❤️
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“They want an unpaid helper and walking apology.” This, exactly. My ex destroyed my house, smashed the clay pizza oven I had built, and ruined my yard, with the “big dream” he was selling at that time about the amazing renovations we would do by “building the house back up together.” That went on for six years. Unreal to think back on it. I finally escaped and am just now building back. Videos like this help ease my mind and help me heal. Thank you ❤❤❤
I am a blown Malignant Narcissist Survivor. It took me 6 years to confront him and tell him exactly who I KNOW he is!! And as you know, he fired up on me, and I flooded him with screenshots of other abused women by him who came to me. He blocked me and shut down his Facebook within minutes.
Victims PLEASE.....realise that they are NO THREAT!!! Walk away, get stronger and speak up!!!!
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Tricked, trapped, and manipulated pretty much sums it up.
Yup me too sad
In a place of three million people, the lazy narrsist happens to be unknowly to people where you work, working there witchcraft.
The more I listen to, the more i pick up memories . Soon after she took overdose of prescription drugs,swallow by bottle of wine, came back to house during my sleep period, daughter was thirteen, and woke me up, dadsomething is wrong with mom. She made sure she did it in front of kids.
She survived, and it cost me. Dam if you dont, dam if you do. Still i did not play her judge. I was on my cross, but was able to say it is finished. Hallelujah..
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To me it was a spiritual war. They have the jazabel spirit, male Or female. It's a spiritual war against the enemy. We need to do as Christ did & walk away from the enemies; And be the best we can be with the knowledge that Christ will get justice. We are to never look back, lest we turn into a pillar of salt by looking/ going back. Our win is our salvation in the end. Live your best. Know your enemies. Protect your heart. Try every person's spirit before letting them into your life.
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Your comment is perfect for my situation. A jezabel spirit in my DIL. Complete with the black eyes. My covert, enabling, blame taking, shame shifting son who puts the blame on me for innocently finding out about her myriad of affairs and I refusing to apologize about finding out. Being raged at, slandered, bullied and threatened. I had knowledge about Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder but my Mama heart wasn't willing to give up and lose my son and 6 year old grandson. There are no winners in this sad game only losers. Heartbreaking sorrow to mourn over loved ones for the sake of our own sanity. But life is too short to live with this hostility. God helps me every single day to cope and I put my faith and trust in him.
I told him after 7 years to go home & grow up & never shared another word - written ior spoken - with him. Let them sneak off & find their luck somewhere else. No need for regret; get on a new better path & share your light with someone deserving. Thank you Andrew & greetings from Switzerland
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I got out. Part of my loss took place when the narcissist ex-wife turned my oldest daughter against me. Parent Alienation. The daughter is just like her mother, hateful and vindictive. This has been going on for 18 years now. The ex and daughter went to my job years ago and tried to get me fired. I was not invited to my daughter's wedding a few years ago. I have not seen or spoken to the daughter in years or seen my grandson. It is a no-win situation. I am damned if I do, damned if I don't. It doesn't feel like a win. It is Collateral Damage.
Write your daughter a letter keep reaching out.
I understand. Parental alienation is the worst. It will start feeling like a win when you find yourself again and start your new life ❤
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So well said. Yes, a kapow to the nose is karmic. Thank you for helping so many people. We need to be informed as to their manipulative tactics, the more we are aware, then we can avoid their evil agenda. Self-empowerment is crucial. Blessings to you.
Thank you, Andrew, for your videos and for providing inspiration and encouragement. Blessings to you and everyone on this channel 🙏 ❤☮️🕉🪷
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Yes, Amen!
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Thank you for your light & helping me understand to heal myself. Ive been in this very toxic relationship for nearly 5 years to the point that ive OD’d many times, he told me to go for it and the other times, he simply walked out on me. I have no more friends & nobody to talk to but your videos are giving me some strength to care a little about myself.
God bless you & may we all heal from the evils of this world 🙏🌹
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The narcissistic tricks, traps and manipulation is gone forever! I will never allow anyone to mistreat me ever again! People need to seek help for mental and spiritual abuse. ❗💯🙏🏼
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It's taken me a long time to process and heal from 30 years with a malignant narcissist. Psychologically and emotionally. My current challenge is to heal the physical ailments I developed as a direct result of the years of being in the constant state of "fight or flight". I developed rheumatoid arthritis. I have a medical background, and it is my belief that a lot of people who have these ailments, are, or have been, in a narcissist relationship. This is what these creatures do to you. Especially if you stay too long, as I did. So run a mile. You won't regret it. Thank you , Andrew, as always, spot on. ❤
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Awe Andrew 😭 this video was SPOT ON. Some of the things you say is exactly how I felt. Like the crumpled up paper thrown along the side of the road. It's like you took the words right out of my mouth! They are the complete opposite of everything I'm looking for in a relationship/partner. There is no way I can achieve my vision or build my life with them. It's unfortunate that you had to experience your own version of this, but you win because you harnessed the pain into something positive and beautiful. You are giving others the gift of knowledge. You are a selfless guide and a brilliant teacher. They try to obliterate everything you've built, your dreams, the essence of you. Thank you for reminding me that I win. I win because I am rid of the dead weight and once again free to pursue my potential without their hindrance!
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Whenever we meet someone who acts ENTITLED, is willing to EXPLOIT us and has NO EMPATHY, we should watch out because there is a strong chance we have met a narcissist. We must have nothing to do with those evil individuals. Thank you Andrew😊 God bless you❤ ps I like your T-shirt 😊
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As You Say Andrew, they throw Little punches to Lower your strengh, what they DONT Now is that we DO NOT throw little punches to damage, WE throw A SINGLE punch and that is enough, additinal to you going silent, blocking, disapearing, and it hurts, but i remember ALL their attitud, hearting you, but still they keep using you to pull the most they can. I was shocked !! But NOT any more. Again thank you for sharing your strenght and wisdom that awaken US !
Yes! And FEAR 😘🤦♀️🙄🙈
You're a winner too, Andrew ( Big Time). I accept the Win, but there's always a Narc watching, doing the same ol' thing, jealous of your joy and can't wait to try their hand at working you. That's where all these tools remain vital to me. Wind, rain, sunny day ... this is powerful knowledge for All Seasons! Thanks! 🙏👍👁Namaste.
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When you emancipate your own mind and heart, from the narcissist. Nothing feels more freeing tbh. Thankful for my clarity and new, found peace.... ❤❤❤
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Yes!❤️👍.
their only weapon was guilt.
indifference is power.
Thank you Andrew. You have given me peace watching these videos, per my therapist for battered women. My husband has done this since before we were married in 2016 with my first black eye. I’ve gone back several times not knowing what was going on or why but wanting to make it better. He was a constant reminder it was me and all my fault and I was the crazy one. He would shove down my throat all he’s done for me and no one wants me. He took everything from me and I could not go anywhere without him. The end of this abuse I’d never left my room, isolated all my family and kids. He was a master manipulator. These last 5 days free have been eye opening, emotional and your videos are what I needed. I understand so much now by watching them and they give me strength. I feel more connected to reality and relate to you. I have to watch these multiple times a day and pray I continue to heal and educate myself and try to stay safe as he found me two days ago. I pray now. Thank you 🙏🌸
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Thanks to you you Andrew, and the community, I've healed faster. And yesterday my "I've probably won"-moment came when I heard that rumors say she's going to sell her house just a few hundred yards away from me. She hasn't lived there for a couple of years since she moved in with me and rented her house out. When I kicked her out she rented another house a few miles away since she'd made a number of enemies during the years she lived in this neighborhood and felt she wasn't welcome anymore.
Not the way I intended things to go when I married her but as things developed I'm grateful to not have her close by.
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Andrew, you have helped so much, to get to the good place I am at now 😊 Thank you again❤
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Dude you’re amazing. How do you hit the nail on the head so well?? It’s like my whole life is being described perfectly. Thank you so much for the help.
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Thank you Andrew for coming on here everyday giving very much needed pep talks and opening eyes on this "abuse". 🕊️🌺
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Love it. I have been in no contact since October and your videos always help me when I still struggle.
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Thanks as always Andrew. I used to watch your videos every day, but now I dip in and out, but this is a good thing as I'm healing and can remind myself of all your wise words of support without listening to your video every day. Keep up the good work. God bless you x
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Amen. I have walked through the fire. He tried to take me down but I’m a survivor. I lived the red flag for years. I have found myself again and am flourishing beyond my wildest dreams.
I was watching your "Uploads" from today & this video started to play after. I didn't notice yesterday that you gave a subtle wink in the beginning of this video with your head tilt 🙂. "When you realize that you have won", head tilt, wink😉. When you reach the pinnacle of indifference there is no doubt in your mind that you have won. Your subtle wink speaks to me. You often say people who come out of a narcissist relationship speak the same language. So I appreciate your wink🙂. To me it means well done🙂. I extend the same wink back to you Andrew. You have won😉, well done🙂. God bless ☀️☀️☀️🦅
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Wow! Great Therapy Andrew, as usual ! Thanks !!
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I isolated my self, it is true no one understood. Comments like “forget her” “snap out of it” no one understood what happened
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Thank You Abundantly, Andrew!
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Bad stuff still happens but now I’m seeing just how much the narcissist stress was different. His black cloud affected my health in a scary way. That continued in the bizarre complex grief in his wake.
It’s hard to see a difference having been sick and worried about another’s sickness and the usual financial concerns etc. but finally I’m seeing a difference. I need to grab this hope and hold on. No one needs that narcissist nightmare. It’s not worth the glorious crumbs they throw you. Life on life’s terms is going to be ok.
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Amazing video Andrew. I want to make a point of how important self care is for you to WIN. Post relationship especially if you’re dealing with divorce and or parental alienation it’s extremely important that you look after yourself, keep an eye out on compound exhaustion, take your vitamins, eat well! Exercise if you have the energy! ❤
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My gift to the Narcissist is my unwavering loyalty to guarding my own heart ❤️ I personally believe what is written that Jesus said; John 14:27 "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid."
Even in a marriage... it is possible that you may have committed to the wrong person. That initially you were not mature and grounded enough to make a solid decision. Or personally not knowing the person well enough. Having the knowledge now, it's my mission to protect children. To gain education. To encourage children to be empathetic. To trust their innocence. You don't need to be abused or lose your entire identity, family & peace ✌🏽 to accommodate the whiny Narc. We are not afraid 💖💖😎💖💖
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Excellent video. I can tell you've "walked the walk" ❤
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I know I won, fairly quickly in the short-term by getting right out of the abusive relationship, keeping a roof over my head and regaining my life/self respect and in time I won again by finally understanding, which took a whole lot longer but it remains a "victory" I can take absolutely no satisfaction in.
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Left turn at Albuquerque! Who doesn't love Buggs Bunny
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Thank you Andrew. Listening to you helps my journey. It’s been hard ❤ but I’m getting there.
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Right right and right 👍 I guess I was so weak back then being with a narcissist trying to control me I never looked so good since I left him I was so stressed aggravated and not a happy person back then my health was failing my finances and now I can put myself back together thank you so much ty 😊 couldn't do it without you and God bless you ❤️😂
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It’s amazing to hear this . He has recently in the last few months moved on to the new supply and all his dates and things they do are all the things I would set up and tell him about . He was always a boring person with no originality and it’s so clear to see now
Wow brother, you are something special! Your wisdom is beyond your age. Thanks so freaking much! We must have experienced the same things! However you are articulate enough to explain. Thanks so much for your insight and being there for us all. And thanks for the FLOWERS! Namaste
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I have learned a lot regarding illnesses. Just when I think I have seen a video on every aspect, there you go again, and there is something else. I realized that my older sister has a lot of these traits. Thanks Andrew!
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Thank you Andrew for all your words. I find myself real hyper diligent when I come across a new narcissist. I hope it is not too much to look into. Thank you for helping me with my self esteem and using the most powerful word in the dictionary. "NO"
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