I’m know I’m better off without the narcissistic abuse but I’m still traumatized by the abandonment and being left destitute after years in the relationship. He lied about everything. Just blows my mind.
The trauma bond and looking back at what really happened afterwards is some of the most painful times after you put so much love into it. We gave more chances than most would to turn things around, so to me, they had their chances. It is a painful reality. Try to move forward into your best life and don’t look back, when the time is right for you. God bless you. ❤️🌷
One way I was finally able to get over my abuser on an off for 20 yrs I say that because of all the times he abandoned me an I keep remembering that. I went complete no contact and he is still trying to find a way to contact me.. I finally had enough.
Yes....they are the victim in front of others while smearing previous supply...during this time they are finding ways to manipulate and get information from the new supply so they can fleece them. Privately they are rubbing their hands together in glee as their bank accounts are getting fuller.
So can‘t we as long as we ignore that we are a part of a system inside which our weak boundaries make this sinister game possible until we change and really value ourselves
The Narcissist has no peace. That’s why they’re constantly on the move. They are running away from hearing their conscience. And trying to run away from themselves. But…….. they soon find out that ,every where they go….. there, ……they are. Meaning: they never can escape themselves 🦈🤷🏼♀️🤦♀️🤷🏼♀️
I was with the narcissist for 20+ years. I discarded him then told him who he really is, a narcissist. Been narc free going on 7 years now. I am enjoying my peace of mind and tranquility.
I wanted my mother to get a divorce. Instead, she lied and said there was nothing wrong with her marriage. And she said that knowing he was a child molester as well as bending her fingers back so far he bruised her. I left as soon as I was able.
They know how much damage they do and they get a really big payoff from it. They can become incredibly spiteful if you confront them with their garbage. It's best just to get far away from them as fast as you can. Keep the reactions for someone you can trust to have listen to your story: your counsellor or your lawyer!
Not all golden children grow up to be narcissists. Some of us grow up and realize what’s happening and leave the toxic system. Now I’m a scapegoat for rejecting the family
😮 SAME here! I left EVERYONE, 30+ family & friends. Alone w/my 1 beautiful Son since 2015. THEY HAD NO IDEA HOW STRONG I AM.....And it pisses them off!!😂😂😂
These people never change. They can be some of the nicest people in the beginning and then flip and run to the next victim in seconds and don’t feel anything
Yes! I was with my ex 17 years, I stood by him when his family and children’s moms all turned their back on him. Caught him cheating, and he lied that she was his friend’s sister. I left, and he pursued so I went no contact. He kept his relationship hidden for a year from his family and kids and made me the bad guy. His son’s mom was supportive of me throughout. It’s been 2 years, and I just heard that he’s with his son’s mom now as he was cheating on the other woman with her. I have blocked her now. She will see soon enough that he hasn’t changed since they were in high school and he cheated on her.
Once you discern someone is exploiting you, feels entitled to preferential treatment and has no empathy which means love and mercy for you, it is a sign you are dealing with a narcissist. Get away from such people and have nothing to do with them. They will destroy you and your life. We must have nothing to do with evil.
After eleven years of marriage, I got away from him! I divorced him (2017). I stayed in therapy for years from the emotional damage he caused. He only went downhill after that. He died five days ago. His funeral is today! I'm not going. I have not shed one tear. All I wanted was validation that he was really dead!
Maybe some probably didn't understand.. But you have one on this side that understands how you feel..... 💯! It's like the person that attacked you mind can no longer do it anymore.. You have to be at peace..if not more! Blessings 💖💯😇😊😎💪
My kids and I joked that we would go to their dad's funeral just to make sure he's dead. All joking aside, he is dying now. And we'd all have to travel so that won't happen. He's in jail.
When the past catches up to the Narcissist..They will have to walk completely on their own into the future and live every minute with their evil, darkness and shame.....Good Riddance...Now That's Karma....
Yes his word salad caused me a heart attack. He didn't stop when I told him I had chest pain. But that was ok acc him because he visited me in hospital with toothpaste! Very heroic!!? Very evil behaviour. I believe he wanted me to care for his disabled daughter Clair as step mum left him and she was nearly sole carer. Clair's mum died young of a heart attack! Meanwhile lovely Clair was used as his s pity party! He thought he could get engaged to me while he was still married and even tho his wife had left he told her he loved her! What a change from the fake entity he portrayed at the start! To protect future possible victims I feel it's my duty to name him, Brian sandford Bournemouth/Poole. In him I saw pure evil. Be careful folks
@@rde4017yes narcs think they are saints in their heads. I went no contact with my narc and had to meet her one day and she goes “I’ll always be kind no matter how poorly I’m treated that’s my nature” .. it’s sickening to listen to a narc talk because the psychological damage they have caused to so many people is beyond humanly bearable. I just keep quiet because you don’t wrestle with pigs.. but the ones that don’t know about their mental illness can get angry to the point of hitting their face with a saucepan…my god the way these psychos act.. it’s just demonic… hard to witness.. acting like a hero and a victim..
Dear brother, my ex may be the exception. I worked 3 jobs at time, dishes, wash clothes, cooking, watching children, housework, grocery shopping (with the money I earned). I can tell you he was not going everywhere. He sat on the couch watching TV all day, getting high. The longest he held a job was 3 months. He sat on the couch and watched the door. I had such bad panic attacks, I couldn't leave the house anymore. That's when he burned down our house for the insurance money. Lazy a$$. I stayed married to him for 15 years out of loyalty and love. I am free now❣️🦅🦅🦅💟
When I met this person initially he played me like a fiddle. Had other relationships on the go. Could only see me certain nights of the week. I should have seen him for what he was. Almost 10 years have passed of misery and abuse. No more . I identified red flags in the beginning but I am a genuine nice empathetic person and didn't realise the extent of the damage these people can inflict towards another person. Thankyou Andrew for keeping me strong. passes.
They try to demonize everyone else but won’t face their own real demons; wrong-doing, anger, unforgiveness.. Casualties are family, friends & jobs - ancient ruins. So right Andrew, the inability to sleep & constant state of 🌪️ only worsens.. They have NO peace... but we are getting more every minute. ❤️🙏🏻☮️
They can’t communicate and be vulnerable to even authentically apologize. I was threatened with a false arrest. Then it happened. Ruined my career, cost me a ton of money, was embarrassing, humiliating. The response was “ not my finest moment”. Even worse, she expected it to be water under the bridge. 4 years a later. She says “ Nothing happened, I did everything necessary to get it dropped”. Oh, thanks! What a lovely jester. You talk about minimizing! Google searches. Mug shots. Her career was always more important. I get a better role, more money, nope, she’s moving to another state, with or without me. Her words. I didn’t leave for my children. I sacrificed. Not her. She took everything from me. Then, cheated. Created a new relationship prior to any separation. Using work travel as a shield, to see the guy. While I was home with this kids. People like this. Scum. Everything said in this video, which surprised me, how accurate it all is, from my experience, is spot on! Devalued…. I feel like I was behind enemy lines, locked in a prison camp for 10 years. PTSD. You stated it gets worse with age. Spot on. I didn’t see this the first 2 to 3 years. If I did. It was flashes. The last 6 years. All out assault. She caused it all. Then expected someone, who was already catering to her every need, to be more in love with her. It’s not realty. You get what you put in. In my experience, she couldn’t even show affection. A simple hug. A kiss. I love you. I’m sorry. Nothing. Cold as ice. Yet, typical. She plays the victim card, manipulating everything, lying daily, about the truth, to justify her distorted behavior. I never knew these people existed. I have two young children. Which she is using as a weapon. More sick. I pray to God they don’t grow up or take on this evil way of life. It scares me! I’m an empath. I thought I could fix it. She was / is closed off. No getting to her. She hurt me so bad two summers ago. I begged her to talk to me for a year to fix it. She said she was too busy working. These people are the worst, run run run.
@@DualThreatGamble Control only what you can .. let the rest go.. know this journey of healing is going to take time with setbacks but worth every step… Know your true value which is precious & loving. Watch as many videos as you can but don’t let them consume you, forgive & be free. 🙏🏻❤️🪽✝️
@dualthreatgamble I feel for you! Gives me chills because she also said word for word “not my finest” moment after she monkey branched to a new supply after 5 years , began devaluing him , cheating on him with me , lying that they weren’t intimate and were in the process of breaking off and wanted to get back with me then moves in with him a month later , still lying about sleeping with him , and being in a relationship with him but rather just helping him out as a friend because he was down on his luck. Whole time she’d be jealous of me even hanging out with friends of mines that were girls (that I wasn’t sleeping with mind you). She admitted later that she was sleeping with him but it wasn’t the same and would do it to spite me because she thought I had moved on. After reflecting back it would hit when she was having low moments and would text me that she felt disgusted in herself (turns out cuz she was sleeping with that low new supply) and would Hoover me to feel okay again then back to the same stuff. Stay strong man keep on the healing journey you’ll improve , do it for the kids ! They need you so that they don’t turn into a monster like the one you described.
They don't take pleasure in the free gifts in life. Like Birds chirping, Picnics, Nature walks, star gazing, etc. If they can't go to nice dinners, or go shopping, things that cost money are only important to them.They have no authenticity. They always are the person saying: "I'm bored, I'm bored."..The Truth is they are just boring people with no substance and no original personality. I've been really enjoying your videos the past few days. Thank You for your words Andrew! You are absolutely a bright light in this world!
I don’t think the one I dealt with could always afford it. And he knew stress was causing him hair loss so he would go towards nature esp where he was ‘ spiritual ‘. But end of day whatever they are, they’re still fake..
The narcissist in my life was very espiritual 50%of the time she talked about god and the other 50%about demons because she was espiritual narcissist and yes she did love nature.
Every word of this video is so true. Marriage 10 years. It's over. Almost took me down. Some damage was done. I do believe in myself. No phone call from me in 2 months. Proud of myself
I am free from him now. He has lost his home, all his money, his reputation is destroyed. He went into a toxic spiral ended up with terrible drug and sex addictions, which cost him his health. All because I would not be part of his harem and he is still trying to destroy me and my reputation and it's all backfiring terribly on him and all his toxic friends that joined him to destroy nme. I have Peace that surpasses all understanding. I set boundaries and will not budge from them. God has my back.!!!!!!
They are contrary? Grandiose but extremely fragile, they dish it out but can't take it , demand their needs are met , but others needs are irrelevant, hypersensitive while being totally insensitive to others , perpetually oppositional, yet the slightest hint of opposition infuriates them , and they will demonstrate exaggerated intolerance, emotionally entitled , though they intentionally deprive others , unwilling to be accountable, yet quickly blame others , fully self obsessed , while simultaneously lack any self awareness, demand absolute loyalty, but will betray you at the drop of a hat ! Lastly they become enraged , vindictive , dangerous when they become aware you know this about them !
@@Stubbornclarity you must escape. Make your plans, but don't tell him. You don't want to waste anymore of your precious life with him. Do you have good family?
My ex was a Succubus... a soul sucking demon who had a tragic string of boyfriends after our divorce. Every one of them that I was aware of dies in tragic self inflicted accidents, alcohol poising, shotgun blast to the face, high risk sporting accidents, hard to believe I am still alive.
I knew I was in the cycles. He kept returning. I thought he would change. I didn’t realize he has a disorder. Thank you Andrew for sharing. You are saving many of us ❤
Leopards 🐆 don't ever change their prints . Narcissists don't change . They just get more self aware for the ones that realizes how messed up they treat people. Other than that Leopards don't change their prints
I was discharged right before major surgery, while I was engaged to him; he married someone else during our 2 weeks of no contact ✝️✝️✝️. Thank you Lord. So glad that I am out of that relationship, I'm in a much better place. Peace be still.👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽His part in my story is over👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽.
I ended a friendship that had devolved into me receiving phone calls 45 minutes long that start with a complaint about a Dentist, A veterinarian, A supermarket employee... One "incompetent" person after another. You know what was missing from these calls?. A simple Hello. I became their emotional gauze pad. 45 minutes of listening, then when it was my turn to speak, They Gotta Go. That association went on for a decade. Then it ended. There is a gap where all those minutes used to be wasted. Let something else fill that gap
I knew a guy like that ( yup, in hindsight he had the Narc Official Club membership Rat Ears cap). When it was my turn to speak after his enraged whining because his wife left him, he'd look into space with glazed eyes. Now I think, his wife is the luckiest woman in the world to get away from him.
You're not a sounding board. I also ended a friendship with someone who would text me about something out of the blue without even a simple "hello" or even a "how are you doing?"
You are all so lucky. They are only friends and you can kick them out of your life. My husband is exactly like that. Talks about what he was doing, what he is planning to eat, everything about his work and then a sudden ''Oh, I have to go! " Cold hearted with no hugs or affection. Except for other people's wives or daughters!
They do they're best to get you thinking like them it's not them it's everyone else , no it isn't They are always testing , to keep track of how well they have you deceived , the slightest indication you are not causes them to double down they,re efforts as they know what they would do if the table was turned , that is discard you with malice !
Having been exposed to those who suffer with alcoholism, with family members and others, and learning so much in the Al-Anon program, I commend you for your courage and honesty. Some, not only those suffering with alcoholism, will take their secrets and regrets to the grave. Blessings to you! ❤❤
Patrick,Teehan, does a lot of videos of children who grew up in disfunctional families,,he covers so much,about trauma in Childhood and the unfortunate.residue it left on them,❤❤❤❤
My son who is 29 now, has not spoken with his narcissistic father in 5-6 years. He realized their relationship was super-toxic. I split from his dad when he turned 18. My son is more like me than his father, thank the Lord!
Absolutely right on 100%...Thank You...keeps me reminded to go on after 11yrs of there sh__.tramabonded.....sick of it ! I educated my self thru the great help videos like yourself daily still, just to keep my head above water, to keep reminding myself to not get sucked back in...stinkinthinking"...Thought I learned enough to deal with a visit, doesnt work. Stay strong each day. And watch such as you...Thank You again....
Because of you Andrew, I am at my best now. Thank you for helping me heal from my Narc experience. Watching your videos has made a huge impact on my life and I’m so grateful. I am more aligned with God and understand good versus evil. May God Bless you and shower you with love, happiness and peace 🙏🏼🇬🇧
I am a Born Again Christian. I had a brother who was a narcissist, my ex was a narcissist, my sister n law was a narcissist, my nephew is a narcissist. I wondered why my mother was always against me. I found out that she was a covert narcissistic mother. I’m thankful that I have the Lord. I was scared for 53 years. The Lord took fear off me this year
Where I am "right now" listening to this astounding message", reaffirms to me that I am a survivor. To have had this experience happen in my life was total hell. I feel like I survived a drowning. It is up to me 100% to confront "my weaknesses and poor choices" and change myself. Thank you. Namaste
What I appreciate the most Andrew, is your encouragement not to seek revenge; the level of their toxicity would drive a person mad without a voice of reason( such as yours) encouraging us to let go and move on...and I'm moving in 2 days!!!
Romans 12:19 “Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.”
Today I celebrate exactly one year free of Narcissistic abuse !! ❤❤❤ Thank you God !!! I am so grateful for being here today , surviving the unthinkable mentally and physically! I am grateful with All of my heart and soul!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻☮️
After 30 years, id had enough! My health broke down and i was in a terrible emotional state. 9 years later, i have learned a lot about narcissism and adressed my childhood issues, and now have reached a point of being able to heal myself and look forward to the future. What i would say to others who are going through this, is educate yourself, look within and find yourself, and you come out the other side a much stronger and wiser person. It takes time and dep doul searching, but you can get there in the end
Good that you are speaking out it takes courage and hopefully others will read and take note. I have been at the hand of narcissism for a very long time it’s incredibly painful and challenging also so so exhausting and it hurts so much when those people you love so much believing you can somehow help them face their demons but I believe the one true healer is the Lord Jesus he can reach literally anyone.
It's painful remembering the painful experiences of the past for everyone trying to heal. It's sad that a narcissist has to be placed on a deserted island or similar conditions in order to introspect. I have ALWAYS been an introspective individual, and I have ALWAYS been accountable for my actions, often taking on the guilt of others, but I have learned to be accountable for only MY mistakes. I am thankful that I can introspect and process my experiences and make positive changes to continually improve upon who I am. Even when at times it feels like I am moving at a snails pace.... 🐌 but narc free 😊
Does anyone watch The Traitors? I'm in the UK and find the programme makes you reflect on the destructive power of the lie. Narcissists appears to think that lying gives them power, but I believe every time they do it, they move further away from any chance of having genuine happiness and peace in their lives. They are tangled in their own web of deceit, which gets bigger and more deadly as they age. I don't feel sorry for these people because of the destruction they cause, it just makes me sad. What a waste of a life.
Andrew, you are 100% accurate in your description of narcissism. I divorced my wife 7 years ago after 26 years of marriage (and 3 kids). She had multiple extramarital affairs during our marriage, and she had many live-in boyfriends after our divorce. I have been “no contact” with her for years (now that our kids are adults), but I occasionally hear something about her from someone who knows/knew her. Just yesterday, I heard from someone that my ex-wife is “angry and lonely and crazy.” Of course, that did not surprise me at all. Even our kids avoid interacting with their own mother, while I have a great relationship with them. My ex-wife turned 50 years old a month ago, and she presents herself as a victim. My life is characterized by peace, tranquility, happiness, and lots of healthy social interaction. Her life is a total disaster as she struggles to confront the massive amount of damage that she has inflicted on many people over the years.
This is the best message in your daily series 👏 by far. "You made your bed so now you can lie in it." My famous last words to the narcissist begging for a last chance.
A true hard core malignant narcissist is not capable of intersection. The only time they will feel actual remorse is when all their power is gone. Generally they will never feel remorse.
My narc has no problem sleeping at all and I did because I was always thinking about how he raged at me and I never knew what was going to set him off but I knew if he was caught in a lie or messaging women who were all attractive and he didn't know them which he did to me and his prior girlfriend and he did it a lot and he'd deny it even when you had the proof and the things he said about me to other female friends and some he'd never met but said he knew them and years later I found out through him that he'd never met her and yet I have in print on messenger and text that he knew her so it was all lies and he talked so bad about me it was like he was laughing at me and lying about me behind my back and telling them we'd had porn star style sex and different things like that. It's been one thing behind the other and he'd use my words I'd used to describe the relationship such as I said I felt like I was walking on egg shells and he'd tell his female friends that is how he felt and I'd done absolutely nothing wrong except caught him doing me wrong and he joined a dating site the same day he had said we were working exclusively on us. He lies and people believe him so why would I be friends with him even now? I know what he is and can show all of his female friends how badly he talked about them behind their back but I've never done that or not yet. I could have his job for how he's talked about everyone he works with and yet I don't and I'm so tired of being done like that in his smear campaign and then when they ask him why he's my friend he tells them because he loves me and can't walk away and has to be my friend because of that. If they only knew the truth. They'd all feel really fool is for making me feel like the bad guy and for believing his lies and I she recordings of him raging and now people are talking about him because he's been raging at people everywhere like at the fast food places and all kinds of places. But, one day I may make a post of everything he's said about the female friends that believe what he says about me in his smear campaign and if they're Christians as they say they are then they will apologize to me. But, I don't want to hurt them with them seeing and hearing what he said about them.
if it was not for you andrew, i would had already gone to go look for the narcissist. you are a life savior. thank you. no contact changed my phone number. corpus christi texas.
@@Wherethereisnodarkness 1. dehumanized treatment, causes dehumanized langue, Causes dehumanized world. 2. Please Stop blame shit! 3. A behave that kills/destroys people, is evil, so I name it evil!… Evil exists in every human so I think I can call this evilness human … so in the end evil and devil is not dehumanizied language! 4. I name it as I think/describe it!!
Thank you yes truth sets us free, I left over 3 years ago and I’m healed happy and enjoying my life on my spiritual journey, there red flags are now I’m wide awake the veil has lifted I can spot them easily like 123 , im Gods chosen and very blessed… keep spreading truth sir you’re on point have a blessed day…
Thanks Andrew, its so true. They are stucked in a certain part if their life- "their best times", when they were young. They do everything to keep this status, there is no development. The fog is around them. Looking from the distance (time/ personally) I see, that he needed me more then I needed him. He tried to absorbe my strength, my self-confidence, he tried to break me. I am getting stronger each and every day. Finally he failed and I am a stronger person than before. 😊 He cannot hold the candle to me.
Thanks. I am a narc and never knew. Was trying to change and this open my eyes to what was wrong. I’m a child of a narc and this is what I was looking for. I want to break the bonds of this slavery and want peace in life.
The only way you can be assured you are not a narc is to wonder "Am I a narcissist?" For sure a narcissst will NEVER as themselves that question... Congrats! You are no narc.
You’re not alone. But I think it’s a blessing to have the eyes to see that we need help and in the work. Hopeless narcissist blame and find excuses for the bull. Good luck to you. May victory and healing be yours🙏🏼
Sometimes people are running away from the pain of that (the narcissist parent mindf*cking you constantly during your development) and they do things that might seem like something a narcissist would do but deep down in our heart it's just pain that's all and there's lots of different ways we expressed that. Most didn't understand and couldn't be there for us because of that. For me it was a narcissistic grandmother & codependent mother, they bought some land with the preschool on it and employed my mom full-time as the director so my grandmother could have full-time co-parenting me. We lived in a trailer in the back of the property they got for us.
They devour relationships like candy! I wonder, do they even have a split second of remorse? In retrospect, I now see his maneuvers clearly. Thank you, Andrew. You give us hope that with time, introspection, and wisdom, we will be victorious and hopefully unscathed.❤💪☮️👍⏳️🙏
One of the tactics I hate the most, is how they'll take ANYONE ELSE'S side. Never had my back. Im still trying to figure out which one claimed I was abusive first. The sibling, or the husband .. both narcs. 🤷🏼
Truth!! My next NEVER DEFENDED ME and let hus family just tear me apart. I couldn't figure out why!! My guess is that, as his flying monkeys, they were repeating what HE had already said. Super abusive to go through. I can't wait for this divorce to be OVER!!
@@lisamariegriffin2012 much agreed!!! I haven't even gotten to the divorce part yet, and already I'm wondering if I need to get power of attorney over his finances, or to just leave all that to the kids, or his supply...if he has one. I guess the kids would have a real hard lesson to learn really quick. The disease he has caused him to be violent, due to pressure on the brain. I just don't know what to do. 🤷🏼🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Andrew I can’t stand him. The only thing I’m angry about is that he got away with it for 16 months. I can’t get my wasted time back. But God gifted me a new gentleman . Recently the Narc came to my house denying he wasn’t involved with another woman.I won’t elaborate here but I saw with my own eyes and I heard him say “ My girl”. I say God is watching. These evil beings do get their karma in due time. One thing I won’t do is wish him anything bad because his karma will become mine. All I pray for is that I get to hear the day karma arrives at his doorstep.
as a recovering narcissist, I can identify with the past catching up with you. yes, you can go into recovery as a control freak alcoholic narcissist with complete honesty to self and others, meditation, accountability partners, a 12-step program, counseling, spiritual shadow work, saying I'm sorry, and making things right when appropriate with zero expectations of forgiveness. realizing it is a process of having some forgiveness for self and others while becoming someone you can respect and love.iv been on this journey for almost 7 years and off the bottle just as long making it a double whammy. I'm so sorry to the people I hurt and on the behalf of others like me who hurt you I'm so sorry I'm trying to be better
I don't think you are a narcisist you capable. Of self reflection a narcisist is never to see themselves in the mirror ever it would kill them... So I you might had narcisistic traits but I don't think u a narcisist
For all the new people in the community, please know that Andrew explains it plainly and he is correct. I found this channel almost 2 years ago. Get away and block your narc. It’s so hard, but I made it. I still listen to these videos because in some way, it still helps me understand where I’ve been and I’m so grateful to be out of. Stay the course and the sky will turn blue again!!
On thing to remember narcissistic damage is an eternal wound on your soul. Once you know this you can move on knowing you will never ever be "just fine" again. Your sense of loving another person unconditionally has been permanently destroyed.
Seems to me the only closure a person can get from a narcissistic relationship is through education. We have to give ourselves closure by understanding the way narcissists exist. I don't think it matters which person was discarded.
@@malibu90265 I am on the healing path . I left a 23 year marriage in 2023 Jan . The realization that I had been played all along hurt like hell . . . I knew I couldn't continue being with him so I left and have never desired to go back . My 2 young adult sons chose to leave with me . . . One has to process everything. Feel the pain to heal it .
Love your profound words. 'Before they plan to sleep, and their obsessive interaction on many iphones, they may take a few seconds to go over all the lives they have destroyed' ..lol! The way you have told this totally cracked me up, as unfortunately it is so true. They are indeed a wrecking ball, and if we can laugh at them, then we have moved on. I have totally moved on from all the toxic drama in some others, and do not interact at all, and you are so correct. Blessings to you. We need to be aware of these dysfunctional people and have strong boundaries.
The day after my former narc roommate physically harmed his wife, he told me “ one day I won’t have any friends or family anymore. I’ll be sitting on the porch smoking a cigarette “. His right he was.
As a daughter of a narc, my father was a "god" to me until the age of about 16, and I was constantly trying to gain his approval. He recently passed away, and its been a really challenging thing to deal with.. I just finished dealing with the ex-husband narcissist and was starting to dig into my father's influence, the original narc in my life, when he died. Its even harder than the others to deal with.....
I was in a toxic relationship for 44 years and he destroyed everything in my life. Thank you Andrew for helping seeing how it really was. God bless you and keep up your good work..❤
Thanks so much Andrew, I’m in a place where I can hear this now. I’ve been in such grief over being alienated from my children and then being stuck with only their other mother and coerced into “hating me”, a judicial system who doesn’t know how to handle this. I appreciate your knowledge and content.
It took me 2.5 yrs to figure out NOTHING will change after 41 years. 8 days to D day. Long overdue yet not quite ready? I refuse to look back at this point, those last 2.5 years were extremely hard and painful. It really hit him when I said "try being a gentleman". That shut his mouth for several hours. Reverse silent treatment!
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 4 day going in pro sé (without a lawyer) and petrified to be in the court room. I crumpled up a judges decision when the bailiff handed me her denial for protection. As I left to enter the gallery to exit, the door SLAMMED it was really loud, as I was say oh shlitz in my mind I was blocking out her threat to hold me for jail, contempt of court I pushed the door as it was going to be hard to open, I remember that exact thought, and next I hear that bang from the door, I mortified my OWN SELF! I really was thoroughly embarrassed over my own actions. I hope to the heavens above it's NOT the same judge
I also notice that even some people who talk about the topic of narcissists can’t sit still in their videos. Just an observation: I like how calm you are and the surroundings seems nice. Thanks Andrew for your reminders.
I am just so glad I found folks like Andrew that pour it all out and it serves as a healing thing triggering memories. Thank you Andrew for the hard work🙂👍🙏✌🏻✝️ I have made videos it takes intense focus and time.
I don't want to know if/when his past catches up with him. I don't want to witness the screeching, raging or whatever else might go on. I don't want to hear from flying monkeys or spectators. I gave my best and was used up. I now move forward each day. If I had been told 14 years ago that I could grow this far, I would not have trusted the possibility. So I am even grateful for the time that it has taken to get here. The wisdom through you and this channel is hugely a factor❤ Thank you again for all you give ❤
Hello Andrew, I want you to know that I came upon your channel when you were living in Costa Rica. Just a few months after God saved me when I was at rock bottom. Depressed and in dispare. God helped me to break free and LOVE ME once again. Sadly, as the years have passed, many veils were removed from my eyes, and It was shocking and heartbreaking to realize I WAS SURROUNDED BY NARCISSISTS MY ENTIRE LIFE. Now it's just my dogs and I . I have a handful of friends. BUT, I'm isolating and learning how not to be a major codependent ANYMORE. Working on myself and caring for myself. I'm looking to take a leap of faith and move to a wonderful face filled with nature and caring neighbors. That's where I'll spend the rest of my life,with a smile on my face and love in my heart. Namaste my beautiful brother, SHINE ON❤
Im the scapegoat child. She turned all 3 of my siblings (and who knows who else she talked about me to) against me with lies because she is so jealous and envious.
I’m the scapegoat child myself ..I put my foot down though and blocked a sister that’s just terrible person and claims to be a “christen” lol umm more like evil 👿 so she’s blocked permanently
"Vibrates lower than your shoes"... love that interpretation. Great video Andrew! Very inspiring, I'll bet you're a Water sign. Love those NC pine needles & blue skies behind you too. Thx for all your efforts!!
I have seen this first hand. I worked with a narc that I no longer have to deal with because they were moved elsewhere in the company. When I had the misfortune to work with them, I mentioned two other people who were victimized by them. I just got a blank stare. It was frightening.
Im free now.the trauma is hard but im moving into the best part of my life..this video is 100% true.My lesson was over nov the 5th 2023.It was ugly but i am still alive after being assaulted.12 yrs of everything traumatic but i see it clearly now.Yes i loved him but there was no reciprocity bc he had no clue how to truly love anyone.I feel for his next source but pray they see it sooner than i did.
By God, this perfectly describes my "true love." She used me, ghosted me, and when I tried to contact her many years later, she tore into me like a rabid wolverine. I'm still trying to heal from the wounds she inflicted and shake this "love" that my heart still holds for her. This video has helped me tremendously. Thank you so much.
I have actually accomplished walking away from all the Narc's in my life which was challenging but so well worth it!!! Beginning with my exhusband family / extended family/ friends/ neighbors / coworkers etc.... which SAVED MY LIFE 🙌 These people enter your life because of you allowing them to walk all over you non intentially....you are a sweet forgiving soul that gives them multitude of chances to change their way but it only keeps repeating itself with different people in your life for a reason! Learn, grow and expand yourself so that you'll never attract anotherone ever again ❤
Greetings Andrew, it's been a while. We have been recovering for about 3 years together, you as mentor. You look great and give such strong positive energy. I rarely think of the ex Narcissist now I'm so busy enjoying my life. For the community here, don't give up. This education is priceless for recovery from the toxic abuse. May you all find your way to the pinnacle of indifference. ❤
Omg I started dating a narc about 4 years ago. I thought I had hit the dating lottery. Such a sweetheart and so attentive to my needs, texts every morning but a little voice told me “why is this dude moving so fast” then the babe this and babe that started but soon enough I noticed red flags but since he was perfect in my eyes I ignored them. He began doing the roller coaster emotions and the on/off attention when I called him on it he would stop answering for weeks (we were long distance) then when I would send my goodbye text, then he would reach back… this went on for 4 years. I was so trauma bonded I didn’t know what to do or how to leave because it was unbearable not being connected to him. Every holiday he would get lost or fight, my birthdays were all ignored, death in the family ignored never provided comfort or anything. I never knew these people existed but I’m glad I was able to finally wake up and leave this MF. Thanks for all your videos now I know better in case I come across another Narc in my life. 😅
MF is such an ugly expletive. We are ALL here living on planet Earth because our mother did get f’d. I’m a mother myself…& l had children while enduring a horribly abusive 17 year marriage to a “narcissistic sociopath who flew just below the radar” in the public eye…a lot of the time…& when it was blatantly obvious he was at fault & the one doing the nasties, the mean, the irresponsible, the abusive he still managed to turn it around & l’m the one who got shamed, shunned, evil spoken of…even up to 10 years after we were divorced, until a police sergeant opened up a case against him & he was personally warned to stop phoning & verbally abusing me & l was told to not answer or open the door to him but to call the police & they would take him away in handcuffs. I really wish l’d called the police on him years previously. He wrecked so much for me…but l AM the mother of those children & will ever be.
My narcissistic father was shown his life. It rocked him to his very core, and he put a 30-30 Model 94 Winchester in his mouth and blew the top of his head off...and I don't miss him. I know that sounds brutal, but I really don't. Same with my narcissistic mom and a narcissistic younger sister. I was the only sibling of five children that didn't speak at my mom's memorial service. Didn't even attend my sister's service. Since then, I have exited stage right from all of these toxic relationships. I'm still healing, but life is amazing now!
Sad story. I was at 'War" with my father till the day he died. I couldn't engage. It was only when I found this channel, I could take it all apart and figure out what happened to my father and myself as well. The tragedy was "if" there was information like this way back in my father's day, no question it could have helped him to understand the anger and frustration bestowed on him by his parents. This info on Narcissism is basic enough, so anyone not turning their heads away would understand it. It is a profound missing piece of the puzzle for millions of people walking into a "social dust storm." I wish you Peace and a Good Life, none of it was your fault.
Great to see your new videos Andrew, as always you're totally Awesome 👌 ❤👍thanks to you, I'm currently living a Narcissists Free and Happy life ! 😊 Goodluck to all Empathy Humankind around the world 🌎 💓 💙 May LOVE, PEACE, and Harmony will always be with you ! God Blessed 🙌 Buddha Blessed 🙏
I'm a child of a narcissist mother. At 50 years old i just realized why i was so dependent in relationship and then got discarded. Always say yes isn't good and doesnt create boundaries for you. thanks a lot, i learned a lot in tour videos.
Im trying really hard to take the high road and believe that they will get what is coming to them, but it is hard to not wish them pain and suffering. I hope karma makes things right (and i hope i get to see it!)
I was married to a narcissist. Simultaneously I was working in a work place run by narcissists. between the two situations I was so scapegoated and gaslighted that I could not believe it was happening. So many things happened so fast I went into complete denial fully repressing memories of events that were intended to blackmail me. In my delusional state of "everthing is fine" these narcissists were even more upset with me that I didn't react to their abuse so they doubled down to the point every one else noticed and I found a whole community of friends who very calmly and politely invited me to join them for many fun rewarding activities never mentioning I was being scapegoated and gaslighted. It took may years to realize how much damage I endured and still have trauma from the compound abuse.
Thanks Andrew. 3 smart phones! 😂😂😂 Yep that's absolutely right! Didn't know about The phones until after the discard and had to separate the accounts. What a mess! But hearing you talk about it now I can laugh😂 It takes a long time but you can recover. Keep up the good work..😁
It’s seems like I have had narcs all around me for most of my life. Now I’m pretty much alone because I’m on to These people now and in time I’m sure I’ll find like minded people to be around. 4 months now Iv been away from the last narcissist and it gets better Iv blocked out any “good times” because it was just fools gold.
My son took his life and the blame was on him. Then I pound his diary and in there he said “ narcissist always blames the other person for their fault all the time. I m tired of it” but he let him self be abused to where he finally took his life. She got rid of his clothes and everything that belonged to him the very next day!
Thank you, Andrew. I continue on the healing path. No contact; out of sight, out of mind. Off the radar and hoping to remain there! No giving in to any hoovers--ever!NAMASTE❤
Andrew you described my 50 year old son’s behavior to a ‘t’. God gave me the strength to have him move out as painful as it was for me. I knew I had to do it for my survival!
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I’m know I’m better off without the narcissistic abuse but I’m still traumatized by the abandonment and being left destitute after years in the relationship. He lied about everything. Just blows my mind.
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They are compulsive liars and always get caught out
The trauma bond and looking back at what really happened afterwards is some of the most painful times after you put so much love into it. We gave more chances than most would to turn things around, so to me, they had their chances. It is a painful reality.
Try to move forward into your best life and don’t look back, when the time is right for you. God bless you. ❤️🌷
I hear you, I feel the same after 12 years married & then blindsided
One way I was finally able to get over my abuser on an off for 20 yrs I say that because of all the times he abandoned me an I keep remembering that. I went complete no contact and he is still trying to find a way to contact me.. I finally had enough.
Narcissists won’t be thinking of the destruction, they’ll be playing the victim.
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So so true.
Yes. He calls himself the victim.
Yes....they are the victim in front of others while smearing previous supply...during this time they are finding ways to manipulate and get information from the new supply so they can fleece them. Privately they are rubbing their hands together in glee as their bank accounts are getting fuller.
That is spot on. Like it was all done to THEM. YES DEAR, blows my mind too. Prayers. Wisdom. Protection over you,,
Our blessing is we can get away from them… their curse is they can never be free of themselves.
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VERY VERY TRUE.
So can‘t we as long as we ignore that we are a part of a system inside which our weak boundaries make this sinister game possible until we change and really value ourselves
It's hard because my adult kid won't let me see my grandkids. 😢
Finally,... 2 cousins are old- and very alone! Most folks finally caught on to their Toxic Stunts.
The Narcissist has no peace. That’s why they’re constantly on the move. They are running away from hearing their conscience. And trying to run away from themselves. But…….. they soon find out that ,every where they go….. there, ……they are. Meaning: they never can escape themselves 🦈🤷🏼♀️🤦♀️🤷🏼♀️
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Their own worst enemy is themselves.
Hence, no matter where you go, there you are.
Only God can change a narcissist.
I was with the narcissist for 20+ years. I discarded him then told him who he really is, a narcissist. Been narc free going on 7 years now. I am enjoying my peace of mind and tranquility.
Amen ❤
I wanted my mother to get a divorce. Instead, she lied and said there was nothing wrong with her marriage. And she said that knowing he was a child molester as well as bending her fingers back so far he bruised her. I left as soon as I was able.
telling one they are a nark, is like telling a tree, its a tree. 0 effect.
They know how much damage they do and they get a really big payoff from it. They can become incredibly spiteful if you confront them with their garbage. It's best just to get far away from them as fast as you can. Keep the reactions for someone you can trust to have listen to your story: your counsellor or your lawyer!
Me too 25 years and now away 8 years
Not all golden children grow up to be narcissists. Some of us grow up and realize what’s happening and leave the toxic system. Now I’m a scapegoat for rejecting the family
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THE chances are they rejected u long ago but of course they prefer the idea u rejected them.
Similar boat
Same for me.
😮 SAME here! I left EVERYONE, 30+ family & friends. Alone w/my 1 beautiful Son since 2015. THEY HAD NO IDEA HOW STRONG I AM.....And it pisses them off!!😂😂😂
These people never change. They can be some of the nicest people in the beginning and then flip and run to the next victim in seconds and don’t feel anything
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Yes! I was with my ex 17 years, I stood by him when his family and children’s moms all turned their back on him. Caught him cheating, and he lied that she was his friend’s sister. I left, and he pursued so I went no contact. He kept his relationship hidden for a year from his family and kids and made me the bad guy. His son’s mom was supportive of me throughout. It’s been 2 years, and I just heard that he’s with his son’s mom now as he was cheating on the other woman with her. I have blocked her now. She will see soon enough that he hasn’t changed since they were in high school and he cheated on her.
Some of us do, but it's rare. I've greatly improved my behavior in many ways
Superficial charm is their business card.
Rare but some CHOOSE to get help (Leon Walker Jr).
Once you discern someone is exploiting you, feels entitled to preferential treatment and has no empathy which means love and mercy for you, it is a sign you are dealing with a narcissist. Get away from such people and have nothing to do with them. They will destroy you and your life. We must have nothing to do with evil.
This is correct. Always doing damage and smirking when he hurts me .
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After eleven years of marriage, I got away from him! I divorced him (2017). I stayed in therapy for years from the emotional damage he caused. He only went downhill after that. He died five days ago. His funeral is today! I'm not going. I have not shed one tear. All I wanted was validation that he was really dead!
Maybe some probably didn't understand..
But you have one on this side that understands how you feel..... 💯!
It's like the person that attacked you mind can no longer do it anymore..
You have to be at peace..if not more!
Blessings 💖💯😇😊😎💪
My kids and I joked that we would go to their dad's funeral just to make sure he's dead. All joking aside, he is dying now. And we'd all have to travel so that won't happen. He's in jail.
When the past catches up to the Narcissist..They will have to walk completely on their own into the future and live every minute with their evil, darkness and shame.....Good Riddance...Now That's Karma....
Whew 😂❤you said a mouthful of truths 🎉🎉
Truly 👏👏✔️✨🤍
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You aint kiddin 🙌
Yes his word salad caused me a heart attack. He didn't stop when I told him I had chest pain. But that was ok acc him because he visited me in hospital with toothpaste! Very heroic!!? Very evil behaviour. I believe he wanted me to care for his disabled daughter Clair as step mum left him and she was nearly sole carer. Clair's mum died young of a heart attack! Meanwhile lovely Clair was used as his s pity party! He thought he could get engaged to me while he was still married and even tho his wife had left he told her he loved her! What a change from the fake entity he portrayed at the start! To protect future possible victims I feel it's my duty to name him, Brian sandford Bournemouth/Poole. In him I saw pure evil. Be careful folks
"No good deed goes unpunished." coined by the narcs victim.
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you don't do bad things to good people and get to have a good life
My narc ex used that line but for themselves all the time.
@@rde4017yes narcs think they are saints in their heads. I went no contact with my narc and had to meet her one day and she goes “I’ll always be kind no matter how poorly I’m treated that’s my nature” .. it’s sickening to listen to a narc talk because the psychological damage they have caused to so many people is beyond humanly bearable.
I just keep quiet because you don’t wrestle with pigs.. but the ones that don’t know about their mental illness can get angry to the point of hitting their face with a saucepan…my god the way these psychos act.. it’s just demonic… hard to witness.. acting like a hero and a victim..
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Dear brother, my ex may be the exception. I worked 3 jobs at time, dishes, wash clothes, cooking, watching children, housework, grocery shopping (with the money I earned). I can tell you he was not going everywhere. He sat on the couch watching TV all day, getting high. The longest he held a job was 3 months. He sat on the couch and watched the door. I had such bad panic attacks, I couldn't leave the house anymore. That's when he burned down our house for the insurance money. Lazy a$$. I stayed married to him for 15 years out of loyalty and love. I am free now❣️🦅🦅🦅💟
So proud of you!!!
When I met this person initially he played me like a fiddle. Had other relationships on the go. Could only see me certain nights of the week. I should have seen him for what he was. Almost 10 years have passed of misery and abuse. No more . I identified red flags in the beginning but I am a genuine nice empathetic person and didn't realise the extent of the damage these people can inflict towards another person. Thankyou Andrew for keeping me strong. passes.
They try to demonize everyone else but won’t face their own real demons; wrong-doing, anger, unforgiveness..
Casualties are family, friends & jobs - ancient ruins. So right Andrew, the inability to sleep & constant state of 🌪️ only worsens.. They have NO peace... but we are getting more every minute. ❤️🙏🏻☮️
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They can’t communicate and be vulnerable to even authentically apologize. I was threatened with a false arrest. Then it happened. Ruined my career, cost me a ton of money, was embarrassing, humiliating. The response was “ not my finest moment”. Even worse, she expected it to be water under the bridge. 4 years a later. She says “ Nothing happened, I did everything necessary to get it dropped”. Oh, thanks! What a lovely jester. You talk about minimizing! Google searches. Mug shots. Her career was always more important. I get a better role, more money, nope, she’s moving to another state, with or without me. Her words. I didn’t leave for my children. I sacrificed. Not her. She took everything from me. Then, cheated. Created a new relationship prior to any separation. Using work travel as a shield, to see the guy. While I was home with this kids. People like this. Scum. Everything said in this video, which surprised me, how accurate it all is, from my experience, is spot on! Devalued…. I feel like I was behind enemy lines, locked in a prison camp for 10 years. PTSD. You stated it gets worse with age. Spot on. I didn’t see this the first 2 to 3 years. If I did. It was flashes. The last 6 years. All out assault. She caused it all. Then expected someone, who was already catering to her every need, to be more in love with her. It’s not realty. You get what you put in. In my experience, she couldn’t even show affection. A simple hug. A kiss. I love you. I’m sorry. Nothing. Cold as ice. Yet, typical. She plays the victim card, manipulating everything, lying daily, about the truth, to justify her distorted behavior.
I never knew these people existed. I have two young children. Which she is using as a weapon. More sick. I pray to God they don’t grow up or take on this evil way of life. It scares me! I’m an empath. I thought I could fix it. She was / is closed off. No getting to her. She hurt me so bad two summers ago. I begged her to talk to me for a year to fix it. She said she was too busy working. These people are the worst, run run run.
@@DualThreatGamble Control only what you can .. let the rest go.. know this journey of healing is going to take time with setbacks but worth every step… Know your true value which is precious & loving. Watch as many videos as you can but don’t let them consume you, forgive & be free. 🙏🏻❤️🪽✝️
They are demons .i m so happy I Came out of it Alive. That person almost killed me.. I have to live with the scarfes
@dualthreatgamble I feel for you! Gives me chills because she also said word for word “not my finest” moment after she monkey branched to a new supply after 5 years , began devaluing him , cheating on him with me , lying that they weren’t intimate and were in the process of breaking off and wanted to get back with me then moves in with him a month later , still lying about sleeping with him , and being in a relationship with him but rather just helping him out as a friend because he was down on his luck. Whole time she’d be jealous of me even hanging out with friends of mines that were girls (that I wasn’t sleeping with mind you). She admitted later that she was sleeping with him but it wasn’t the same and would do it to spite me because she thought I had moved on. After reflecting back it would hit when she was having low moments and would text me that she felt disgusted in herself (turns out cuz she was sleeping with that low new supply) and would
Hoover me to feel okay again then back to the same stuff. Stay strong man keep on the healing journey you’ll improve , do it for the kids ! They need you so that they don’t turn into a monster like the one you described.
It's sad. The majority of aged narcs end up in nursing homes. Family are uninterested.
The staff are left to deal with them.
It's really sad.
It is hard to feel sorry for such people though.
@@angelalewis4213 It's sad for the staff. But I agree regarding narcs...hard to feel sorry for someone who tried to send you to an early grave.
They treat the staff better then their children!!!
@@jazstar4622only because they can use them.
@@carolprivate418I definitely feel sorry for the staff!
They don't take pleasure in the free gifts in life. Like Birds chirping, Picnics, Nature walks, star gazing, etc. If they can't go to nice dinners, or go shopping, things that cost money are only important to them.They have no authenticity. They always are the person saying: "I'm bored, I'm bored."..The Truth is they are just boring people with no substance and no original personality.
I've been really enjoying your videos the past few days. Thank You for your words Andrew! You are absolutely a bright light in this world!
I don’t think the one I dealt with could always afford it. And he knew stress was causing him hair loss so he would go towards nature esp where he was ‘ spiritual ‘. But end of day whatever they are, they’re still fake..
They don't appreciate God's grace
Covert narcs PRETEND to enjoy all that.
The narcissist in my life was very espiritual 50%of the time she talked about god and the other 50%about demons because she was espiritual narcissist and yes she did love nature.
Birds..nature walk .. picnics and not spending money all the time is my dream life ..
Blessings 💖😎😇💯 and Enjoy!
Every word of this video is so true. Marriage 10 years. It's over.
Almost took me down. Some damage was done. I do believe in myself. No phone call from me in 2 months. Proud of myself
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Stay Strong 🤺☮️
@@simpleandpurenature most definitely
Keep it up you got this 👍
Yes! I had to remove myself
I am free from him now. He has lost his home, all his money, his reputation is destroyed. He went into a toxic spiral ended up with terrible drug and sex addictions, which cost him his health. All because I would not be part of his harem and he is still trying to destroy me and my reputation and it's all backfiring terribly on him and all his toxic friends that joined him to destroy nme. I have Peace that surpasses all understanding. I set boundaries and will not budge from them. God has my back.!!!!!!
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They associated with like minded people. The Titanic club
I’m happy to hear you’ve experienced the justice you always deserved. ♥️
So happy for you 😊. Please pray for me. I'm not out yet.
@@Stubbornclarity I will keep you in my prayers!!!!
They are contrary? Grandiose but extremely fragile, they dish it out but can't take it , demand their needs are met , but others needs are irrelevant, hypersensitive while being totally insensitive to others , perpetually oppositional, yet the slightest hint of opposition infuriates them , and they will demonstrate exaggerated intolerance, emotionally entitled , though they intentionally deprive others , unwilling to be accountable, yet quickly blame others , fully self obsessed , while simultaneously lack any self awareness, demand absolute loyalty, but will betray you at the drop of a hat ! Lastly they become enraged , vindictive , dangerous when they become aware you know this about them !
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Very well said !
This describes very well ppl that I know 🫤
Perfect description. That's my husband and Son
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I got away. I won. He took my babies and they came to find me. I win again.
If you let them destroy you, they win. Be strong 👍
Congratulations 🎈🎉🎊
@@hongtruong4576 thank you sweetie 🤗🙏
Please pray for me. Mines destroying everything in my life. Help,! Pray he exposes himself.
@@Stubbornclarity you must escape. Make your plans, but don't tell him. You don't want to waste anymore of your precious life with him. Do you have good family?
I removed myself from drama and the energy vampire.
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Human being*
My ex was a Succubus... a soul sucking demon who had a tragic string of boyfriends after our divorce. Every one of them that I was aware of dies in tragic self inflicted accidents, alcohol poising, shotgun blast to the face, high risk sporting accidents, hard to believe I am still alive.
@@MrDogonjon I'm glad you saw the light and moved on.
@@MrDogonjonthank God....😊
I knew I was in the cycles. He kept returning. I thought he would change. I didn’t realize he has a disorder. Thank you Andrew for sharing. You are saving many of us ❤
Also being a hopeless romantic gets empathatic ppl into deep waters ..gotta have a boundary hold it strong🙏💜
Leopards 🐆 don't ever change their prints . Narcissists don't change . They just get more self aware for the ones that realizes how messed up they treat people. Other than that Leopards don't change their prints
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@@deb2319I am with you deb, I've been there and am also a helpless romantic and empath.
Amen
Thanks. This sums up 40years of my life with narcissistic father and a mother who did nothing to stop it.
Welcome..😌😌🙏
“Vibrate lower than your shoe.” Lol😄🤣. I love you Andrew! You are so funny!
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😆🤣🙃💥 Bingo!
That was one of my favorites too!
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How about this one - Treating people like dog 💩 on your shoe.
(Credit, my friend Viki)
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I was discharged right before major surgery, while I was engaged to him; he married someone else during our 2 weeks of no contact ✝️✝️✝️. Thank you Lord. So glad that I am out of that relationship, I'm in a much better place. Peace be still.👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽His part in my story is over👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽.
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I ended a friendship that had devolved into me receiving phone calls 45 minutes long that start with a complaint about a Dentist, A veterinarian, A supermarket employee...
One "incompetent" person after another.
You know what was missing from these calls?.
A simple Hello.
I became their emotional gauze pad. 45 minutes of listening, then when it was my turn to speak, They Gotta Go.
That association went on for a decade. Then it ended. There is a gap where all those minutes used to be wasted. Let something else fill that gap
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I knew a guy like that ( yup, in hindsight he had the Narc Official Club membership
Rat Ears cap). When it was my turn to speak after his enraged whining because his wife left him, he'd look into space with glazed eyes. Now I think, his wife is the
luckiest woman in the world to get away from him.
You're not a sounding board. I also ended a friendship with someone who would text me about something out of the blue without even a simple "hello" or even a "how are you doing?"
You are all so lucky. They are only friends and you can kick them out of your life. My husband is exactly like that. Talks about what he was doing, what he is planning to eat, everything about his work and then a sudden ''Oh, I have to go! " Cold hearted with no hugs or affection. Except for other people's wives or daughters!
They do they're best to get you thinking like them it's not them it's everyone else , no it isn't They are always testing , to keep track of how well they have you deceived , the slightest indication you are not causes them to double down they,re efforts as they know what they would do if the table was turned , that is discard you with malice !
Took me a whole year to make all my amends when I got clean and sober 18 years ago. Am so grateful I did this to clean up my side of the street.
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Having been exposed to those who suffer with alcoholism, with family members and others, and learning so much in the Al-Anon program, I commend you for your courage and honesty. Some, not only those suffering with alcoholism, will take their secrets and regrets to the grave. Blessings to you! ❤❤
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It's so sad, like a slow suicide.😢
Patrick,Teehan, does a lot of videos of children who grew up in disfunctional families,,he covers so much,about trauma in Childhood and the unfortunate.residue it left on them,❤❤❤❤
My son who is 29 now, has not spoken with his narcissistic father in 5-6 years. He realized their relationship was super-toxic. I split from his dad when he turned 18. My son is more like me than his father, thank the Lord!
Absolutely right on 100%...Thank You...keeps me reminded to go on after 11yrs of there sh__.tramabonded.....sick of it ! I educated my self thru the great help videos like yourself daily still, just to keep my head above water, to keep reminding myself to not get sucked back in...stinkinthinking"...Thought I learned enough to deal with a visit, doesnt work. Stay strong each day. And watch such as you...Thank You again....
Because of you Andrew, I am at my best now. Thank you for helping me heal from my Narc experience. Watching your videos has made a huge impact on my life and I’m so grateful. I am more aligned with God and understand good versus evil. May God Bless you and shower you with love, happiness and peace 🙏🏼🇬🇧
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I am a Born Again Christian. I had a brother who was a narcissist, my ex was a narcissist, my sister n law was a narcissist, my nephew is a narcissist. I wondered why my mother was always against me. I found out that she was a covert narcissistic mother. I’m thankful that I have the Lord. I was scared for 53 years. The Lord took fear off me this year
The narcissist “vibrates lower than your shoe” 😂 So true! Thanks for making us all laugh. Love and light 🙏 🕊 💕
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LOL!! well said and so true!!
Where I am "right now" listening to this astounding message", reaffirms to me that I am a survivor. To have had this experience happen in my life was total hell. I feel like I survived a drowning. It is up to me 100% to confront "my weaknesses and poor choices" and change myself. Thank you. Namaste
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Thanks Andrew, for reninding me that the best thing I ever did was leaving the narcissist. Drama free is so nice. 👍
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What I appreciate the most Andrew, is your encouragement not to seek revenge; the level of their toxicity would drive a person mad without a voice of reason( such as yours) encouraging us to let go and move on...and I'm moving in 2 days!!!
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Romans 12:19
“Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.”
Blessings and lot of luck and peace. You are great and don't let anyone tell you different. ❤❤😊😊
Amen and He will
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The best revenge on a narcissist is living a very happy and successful life without them. They absolutely HATE that.
Today I celebrate exactly one year free of Narcissistic abuse !! ❤❤❤ Thank you God !!! I am so grateful for being here today , surviving the unthinkable mentally and physically! I am grateful with All of my heart and soul!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻☮️
SO glad that you made it!!! Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉
Your channel is growing and you are helping lots of people daily.
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Your channel is so valuable in that you help us identify the narcissist,council on healing and also call out the enabler.
After 30 years, id had enough! My health broke down and i was in a terrible emotional state. 9 years later, i have learned a lot about narcissism and adressed my childhood issues, and now have reached a point of being able to heal myself and look forward to the future. What i would say to others who are going through this, is educate yourself, look within and find yourself, and you come out the other side a much stronger and wiser person. It takes time and dep doul searching, but you can get there in the end
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Good that you are speaking out it takes courage and hopefully others will read and take note.
I have been at the hand of narcissism for a very long time it’s incredibly painful and challenging also so so exhausting and it hurts so much when those people you love so much believing you can somehow help them face their demons but I believe the one true healer is the Lord Jesus he can reach literally anyone.
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It's painful remembering the painful experiences of the past for everyone trying to heal. It's sad that a narcissist has to be placed on a deserted island or similar conditions in order to introspect. I have ALWAYS been an introspective individual, and I have ALWAYS been accountable for my actions, often taking on the guilt of others, but I have learned to be accountable for only MY mistakes. I am thankful that I can introspect and process my experiences and make positive changes to continually improve upon who I am. Even when at times it feels like I am moving at a snails pace.... 🐌 but narc free 😊
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Does anyone watch The Traitors? I'm in the UK and find the programme makes you reflect on the destructive power of the lie. Narcissists appears to think that lying gives them power, but I believe every time they do it, they move further away from any chance of having genuine happiness and peace in their lives. They are tangled in their own web of deceit, which gets bigger and more deadly as they age. I don't feel sorry for these people because of the destruction they cause, it just makes me sad. What a waste of a life.
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Lies are far from the truth
He has taken the last possible thing he could from me. Literally. I really needed to hear this today. Thank you.
Andrew, you are 100% accurate in your description of narcissism. I divorced my wife 7 years ago after 26 years of marriage (and 3 kids). She had multiple extramarital affairs during our marriage, and she had many live-in boyfriends after our divorce. I have been “no contact” with her for years (now that our kids are adults), but I occasionally hear something about her from someone who knows/knew her. Just yesterday, I heard from someone that my ex-wife is “angry and lonely and crazy.” Of course, that did not surprise me at all. Even our kids avoid interacting with their own mother, while I have a great relationship with them. My ex-wife turned 50 years old a month ago, and she presents herself as a victim. My life is characterized by peace, tranquility, happiness, and lots of healthy social interaction. Her life is a total disaster as she struggles to confront the massive amount of damage that she has inflicted on many people over the years.
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She needs sympathy, not hate.
@@miriamwilson9542 Compassion, not a sympathy. All we need is to pray for them , not contacting and not trying to understand evil.
@@miriamwilson9542Your a fool or a narcissist yourself. These wicked people are demonic and who wants to feel sorry for Satan! I think not!
This is the best message in your daily series 👏 by far. "You made your bed so now you can lie in it." My famous last words to the narcissist begging for a last chance.
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Focusing on myself. True, they are energy robbers. Excellent video. Thank you. God bless you.♥
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It is worse than that... much worse... never underestimate the demonic force in them... death comes quickly if you ignore their warning signals.
Stay safe everyone.❣️
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A true hard core malignant narcissist is not capable of intersection. The only time they will feel actual remorse is when all their power is gone. Generally they will never feel remorse.
Thanks Andrew ❤
This is exactly why my soon ex husband never sat still or slept😈 Always plotting, being sneaky & scheming.
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My narc has no problem sleeping at all and I did because I was always thinking about how he raged at me and I never knew what was going to set him off but I knew if he was caught in a lie or messaging women who were all attractive and he didn't know them which he did to me and his prior girlfriend and he did it a lot and he'd deny it even when you had the proof and the things he said about me to other female friends and some he'd never met but said he knew them and years later I found out through him that he'd never met her and yet I have in print on messenger and text that he knew her so it was all lies and he talked so bad about me it was like he was laughing at me and lying about me behind my back and telling them we'd had porn star style sex and different things like that. It's been one thing behind the other and he'd use my words I'd used to describe the relationship such as I said I felt like I was walking on egg shells and he'd tell his female friends that is how he felt and I'd done absolutely nothing wrong except caught him doing me wrong and he joined a dating site the same day he had said we were working exclusively on us. He lies and people believe him so why would I be friends with him even now? I know what he is and can show all of his female friends how badly he talked about them behind their back but I've never done that or not yet. I could have his job for how he's talked about everyone he works with and yet I don't and I'm so tired of being done like that in his smear campaign and then when they ask him why he's my friend he tells them because he loves me and can't walk away and has to be my friend because of that. If they only knew the truth. They'd all feel really fool is for making me feel like the bad guy and for believing his lies and I she recordings of him raging and now people are talking about him because he's been raging at people everywhere like at the fast food places and all kinds of places. But, one day I may make a post of everything he's said about the female friends that believe what he says about me in his smear campaign and if they're Christians as they say they are then they will apologize to me. But, I don't want to hurt them with them seeing and hearing what he said about them.
if it was not for you andrew,
i would had already gone to go look for the narcissist.
you are a life savior.
thank you. no contact changed my phone number.
corpus christi texas.
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Never ever will I talk to this evil creatures! It’s a wonderful feeling to be free of this devils
Dehumanising language
@@Wherethereisnodarkness 1. dehumanized treatment, causes dehumanized langue, Causes dehumanized world.
2. Please Stop blame shit!
3. A behave that kills/destroys people, is evil, so I name it evil!… Evil exists in every human so I think I can call this evilness human … so in the end evil and devil is not dehumanizied language!
4. I name it as I think/describe it!!
@@tathe3786 so why is that not the same for them? Do you not think they suffered abuse first? So now you are evil?
@@Wherethereisnodarkness think what you want. I have no need to discus this!
@@tathe3786 because you're a narcissist 🙂 it's OK. I'm just pointing out the double standards in these comment sections.
Thank you yes truth sets us free, I left over 3 years ago and I’m healed happy and enjoying my life on my spiritual journey, there red flags are now I’m wide awake the veil has lifted I can spot them easily like 123 , im Gods chosen and very blessed… keep spreading truth sir you’re on point have a blessed day…
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Thanks Andrew, as always, you never disappoint 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thanks Andrew, its so true. They are stucked in a certain part if their life- "their best times", when they were young. They do everything to keep this status, there is no development. The fog is around them. Looking from the distance (time/ personally) I see, that he needed me more then I needed him. He tried to absorbe my strength, my self-confidence, he tried to break me. I am getting stronger each and every day. Finally he failed and I am a stronger person than before. 😊 He cannot hold the candle to me.
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Thanks. I am a narc and never knew. Was trying to change and this open my eyes to what was wrong. I’m a child of a narc and this is what I was looking for. I want to break the bonds of this slavery and want peace in life.
The only way you can be assured you are not a narc is to wonder "Am I a narcissist?" For sure a narcissst will NEVER as themselves that question... Congrats! You are no narc.
You’re not alone. But I think it’s a blessing to have the eyes to see that we need help and in the work. Hopeless narcissist blame and find excuses for the bull. Good luck to you. May victory and healing be yours🙏🏼
Sometimes people are running away from the pain of that (the narcissist parent mindf*cking you constantly during your development) and they do things that might seem like something a narcissist would do but deep down in our heart it's just pain that's all and there's lots of different ways we expressed that. Most didn't understand and couldn't be there for us because of that. For me it was a narcissistic grandmother & codependent mother, they bought some land with the preschool on it and employed my mom full-time as the director so my grandmother could have full-time co-parenting me. We lived in a trailer in the back of the property they got for us.
They devour relationships like candy! I wonder, do they even have a split second of remorse? In retrospect, I now see his maneuvers clearly. Thank you, Andrew. You give us hope that with time, introspection, and wisdom, we will be victorious and hopefully unscathed.❤💪☮️👍⏳️🙏
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One of the tactics I hate the most, is how they'll take ANYONE ELSE'S side. Never had my back. Im still trying to figure out which one claimed I was abusive first. The sibling, or the husband .. both narcs. 🤷🏼
It's over. You won't ever be disrespected to that level for the rest of your life.
@@jhavajoe3792 true that! Thanks for the good thoughts! ❤️🙏🏻
Truth!! My next NEVER DEFENDED ME and let hus family just tear me apart. I couldn't figure out why!! My guess is that, as his flying monkeys, they were repeating what HE had already said. Super abusive to go through. I can't wait for this divorce to be OVER!!
@@lisamariegriffin2012 much agreed!!! I haven't even gotten to the divorce part yet, and already I'm wondering if I need to get power of attorney over his finances, or to just leave all that to the kids, or his supply...if he has one.
I guess the kids would have a real hard lesson to learn really quick. The disease he has caused him to be violent, due to pressure on the brain. I just don't know what to do. 🤷🏼🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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Andrew I can’t stand him. The only thing I’m angry about is that he got away with it for 16 months. I can’t get my wasted time back. But God gifted me a new gentleman . Recently the Narc came to my house denying he wasn’t involved with another woman.I won’t elaborate here but I saw with my own eyes and I heard him say “ My girl”. I say God is watching. These evil beings do get their karma in due time. One thing I won’t do is wish him anything bad because his karma will become mine. All I pray for is that I get to hear the day karma arrives at his doorstep.
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I've been on off with one for 14 years . Only thing is he's extremely successful and has never drained my finances . Drained my sanity, yes . :(
as a recovering narcissist, I can identify with the past catching up with you. yes, you can go into recovery as a control freak alcoholic narcissist with complete honesty to self and others, meditation, accountability partners, a 12-step program, counseling, spiritual shadow work, saying I'm sorry, and making things right when appropriate with zero expectations of forgiveness. realizing it is a process of having some forgiveness for self and others while becoming someone you can respect and love.iv been on this journey for almost 7 years and off the bottle just as long making it a double whammy. I'm so sorry to the people I hurt and on the behalf of others like me who hurt you I'm so sorry I'm trying to be better
I don't think you are a narcisist you capable. Of self reflection a narcisist is never to see themselves in the mirror ever it would kill them... So I you might had narcisistic traits but I don't think u a narcisist
For all the new people in the community, please know that Andrew explains it plainly and he is correct. I found this channel almost 2 years ago. Get away and block your narc. It’s so hard, but I made it. I still listen to these videos because in some way, it still helps me understand where I’ve been and I’m so grateful to be out of. Stay the course and the sky will turn blue again!!
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On thing to remember narcissistic damage is an eternal wound on your soul. Once you know this you can move on knowing you will never ever be "just fine" again. Your sense of loving another person unconditionally has been permanently destroyed.
Seems to me the only closure a person can get from a narcissistic relationship is through education. We have to give ourselves closure by understanding the way narcissists exist. I don't think it matters which person was discarded.
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True . . . only radical acceptance can give an empath closure . . . It's painful but it eases with time
@@Blessed591 It is easing with time, but its taking quite a long time. I hope that you are living well.
@@malibu90265 I am on the healing path . I left a 23 year marriage in 2023 Jan . The realization that I had been played all along hurt like hell . . . I knew I couldn't continue being with him so I left and have never desired to go back . My 2 young adult sons chose to leave with me . . . One has to process everything. Feel the pain to heal it .
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Love your profound words. 'Before they plan to sleep, and their obsessive interaction on many iphones, they may take a few seconds to go over all the lives they have destroyed' ..lol! The way you have told this totally cracked me up, as unfortunately it is so true. They are indeed a wrecking ball, and if we can laugh at them, then we have moved on. I have totally moved on from all the toxic drama in some others, and do not interact at all, and you are so correct. Blessings to you. We need to be aware of these dysfunctional people and have strong boundaries.
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The day after my former narc roommate physically harmed his wife, he told me “ one day I won’t have any friends or family anymore. I’ll be sitting on the porch smoking a cigarette “.
His right he was.
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Boy, what a great video, this was totally my experience for 25 years. Been free now 17 years, AMEN
As a daughter of a narc, my father was a "god" to me until the age of about 16, and I was constantly trying to gain his approval. He recently passed away, and its been a really challenging thing to deal with.. I just finished dealing with the ex-husband narcissist and was starting to dig into my father's influence, the original narc in my life, when he died. Its even harder than the others to deal with.....
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People are interchangeable to them, doesn’t matter who they are. Thanks for your videos.
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I was in a toxic relationship for 44 years and he destroyed everything in my life. Thank you Andrew for helping seeing how it really was. God bless you and keep up your good work..❤
Thanks so much Andrew, I’m in a place where I can hear this now. I’ve been in such grief over being alienated from my children and then being stuck with only their other mother and coerced into “hating me”, a judicial system who doesn’t know how to handle this. I appreciate your knowledge and content.
It took me 2.5 yrs to figure out NOTHING will change after 41 years.
8 days to D day. Long overdue yet not quite ready? I refuse to look back at this point, those last 2.5 years were extremely hard and painful. It really hit him when I said "try being a gentleman". That shut his mouth for several hours. Reverse silent treatment!
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 4 day going in pro sé (without a lawyer) and petrified to be in the court room. I crumpled up a judges decision when the bailiff handed me her denial for protection. As I left to enter the gallery to exit, the door SLAMMED it was really loud, as I was say oh shlitz in my mind I was blocking out her threat to hold me for jail, contempt of court I pushed the door as it was going to be hard to open, I remember that exact thought, and next I hear that bang from the door, I mortified my OWN SELF! I really was thoroughly embarrassed over my own actions. I hope to the heavens above it's NOT the same judge
I also notice that even some people who talk about the topic of narcissists can’t sit still in their videos. Just an observation: I like how calm you are and the surroundings seems nice. Thanks Andrew for your reminders.
I am just so glad I found folks like Andrew that pour it all out and it serves as a healing thing triggering memories. Thank you Andrew for the hard work🙂👍🙏✌🏻✝️
I have made videos it takes intense focus and time.
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Yes Andrew has a certain poise and serenity I adore about him.
I was sick and tired of the slanderous words that my ex had verbalized in reference to my past. So infuriating. I had to leave!
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Same. They are traitors!!!
I don't want to know if/when his past catches up with him. I don't want to witness the screeching, raging or whatever else might go on. I don't want to hear from flying monkeys or spectators. I gave my best and was used up. I now move forward each day.
If I had been told 14 years ago that I could grow this far, I would not have trusted the possibility. So I am even grateful for the time that it has taken to get here.
The wisdom through you and this channel is hugely a factor❤
Thank you again for all you give ❤
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Hello Andrew, I want you to know that I came upon your channel when you were living in Costa Rica. Just a few months after God saved me when I was at rock bottom. Depressed and in dispare. God helped me to break free and LOVE ME once again. Sadly, as the years have passed, many veils were removed from my eyes, and It was shocking and heartbreaking to realize I WAS SURROUNDED BY NARCISSISTS MY ENTIRE LIFE. Now it's just my dogs and I . I have a handful of friends. BUT, I'm isolating and learning how not to be a major codependent ANYMORE. Working on myself and caring for myself. I'm looking to take a leap of faith and move to a wonderful face filled with nature and caring neighbors. That's where I'll spend the rest of my life,with a smile on my face and love in my heart. Namaste my beautiful brother, SHINE ON❤
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone , btw I was in a 30 year relationship when I WALKED OUT. God gave me the strength "I asked and I received!"
They vibrate lower then your shoe!!! 😂 So glad i came across your video, your awesome! 🙏
Oh, our dear Andrew ❤ Have a nice rest of your day ☀️ and thanks for another wonderful video.
Hello Rubyyy!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
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Im the scapegoat child. She turned all 3 of my siblings (and who knows who else she talked about me to) against me with lies because she is so jealous and envious.
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I’m the scapegoat child myself ..I put my foot down though and blocked a sister that’s just terrible person and claims to be a “christen” lol umm more like evil 👿 so she’s blocked permanently
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"Vibrates lower than your shoes"... love that interpretation. Great video Andrew! Very inspiring, I'll bet you're a Water sign. Love those NC pine needles & blue skies behind you too. Thx for all your efforts!!
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So which is it? Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces?? Inquiring minds wanna know, lol@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
I have seen this first hand. I worked with a narc that I no longer have to deal with because they were moved elsewhere in the company.
When I had the misfortune to work with them, I mentioned two other people who were victimized by them. I just got a blank stare. It was frightening.
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The Accuracy and the Truth. ❤
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Im free now.the trauma is hard but im moving into the best part of my life..this video is 100% true.My lesson was over nov the 5th 2023.It was ugly but i am still alive after being assaulted.12 yrs of everything traumatic but i see it clearly now.Yes i loved him but there was no reciprocity bc he had no clue how to truly love anyone.I feel for his next source but pray they see it sooner than i did.
By God, this perfectly describes my "true love." She used me, ghosted me, and when I tried to contact her many years later, she tore into me like a rabid wolverine. I'm still trying to heal from the wounds she inflicted and shake this "love" that my heart still holds for her. This video has helped me tremendously. Thank you so much.
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This guy is the wisest dude I’ve ever seen on this subject.
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I have actually accomplished walking away from all the Narc's in my life which was challenging but so well worth it!!! Beginning with my exhusband family / extended family/ friends/ neighbors / coworkers etc.... which SAVED MY LIFE 🙌
These people enter your life because of you allowing them to walk all over you non intentially....you are a sweet forgiving soul that gives them multitude of chances to change their way but it only keeps repeating itself with different people in your life for a reason! Learn, grow and expand yourself so that you'll never attract anotherone ever again ❤
I love and enjoy the Carolinas. It’s very beautiful there and a beautiful place to retire. Enjoy yourself and your surroundings.
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Greetings Andrew, it's been a while. We have been recovering for about 3 years together, you as mentor. You look great and give such strong positive energy.
I rarely think of the ex Narcissist now I'm so busy enjoying my life.
For the community here, don't give up. This education is priceless for recovery from the toxic abuse. May you all find your way to the pinnacle of indifference. ❤
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Always a fan! You saved my life. Thank you ❤
Omg I started dating a narc about 4 years ago. I thought I had hit the dating lottery. Such a sweetheart and so attentive to my needs, texts every morning but a little voice told me “why is this dude moving so fast” then the babe this and babe that started but soon enough I noticed red flags but since he was perfect in my eyes I ignored them. He began doing the roller coaster emotions and the on/off attention when I called him on it he would stop answering for weeks (we were long distance) then when I would send my goodbye text, then he would reach back… this went on for 4 years. I was so trauma bonded I didn’t know what to do or how to leave because it was unbearable not being connected to him. Every holiday he would get lost or fight, my birthdays were all ignored, death in the family ignored never provided comfort or anything. I never knew these people existed but I’m glad I was able to finally wake up and leave this MF. Thanks for all your videos now I know better in case I come across another Narc in my life. 😅
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Sounds like we are dealing with the same narc. I've tried the no contact but I find myself reaching out to them first.
Its just so hard to break that bond.
MF is such an ugly expletive. We are ALL here living on planet Earth because our mother did get f’d. I’m a mother myself…& l had children while enduring a horribly abusive 17 year marriage to a “narcissistic sociopath who flew just below the radar” in the public eye…a lot of the time…& when it was blatantly obvious he was at fault & the one doing the nasties, the mean, the irresponsible, the abusive he still managed to turn it around & l’m the one who got shamed, shunned, evil spoken of…even up to 10 years after we were divorced, until a police sergeant opened up a case against him & he was personally warned to stop phoning & verbally abusing me & l was told to not answer or open the door to him but to call the police & they would take him away in handcuffs.
I really wish l’d called the police on him years previously.
He wrecked so much for me…but l AM the mother of those children & will ever be.
My narcissistic father was shown his life. It rocked him to his very core, and he put a 30-30 Model 94 Winchester in his mouth and blew the top of his head off...and I don't miss him. I know that sounds brutal, but I really don't. Same with my narcissistic mom and a narcissistic younger sister. I was the only sibling of five children that didn't speak at my mom's memorial service. Didn't even attend my sister's service. Since then, I have exited stage right from all of these toxic relationships. I'm still healing, but life is amazing now!
Sad story. I was at 'War" with my father till the day he died. I couldn't engage. It was only when I found this channel, I could take it all apart and figure
out what happened to my father and myself as well. The tragedy was "if" there was information like this way back in my father's day, no question it could have helped him to understand the anger and frustration bestowed on him by his parents. This info on Narcissism is basic enough, so anyone not turning their heads away would understand it. It is a profound missing piece of the puzzle for millions of people walking into a "social dust storm." I wish you Peace and a Good Life, none of it was your fault.
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My daughter's recently ex narc husband just did this. The divorce was final and she wouldn't take him back. He was 33.
You exactly described a POS narcissist that I knew.
Great to see your new videos Andrew, as always you're totally Awesome 👌 ❤👍thanks to you, I'm currently living a Narcissists Free and Happy life ! 😊
Goodluck to all Empathy Humankind around the world 🌎 💓 💙 May LOVE, PEACE, and Harmony will always be with you ! God Blessed 🙌 Buddha Blessed 🙏
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I'm a child of a narcissist mother. At 50 years old i just realized why i was so dependent in relationship and then got discarded. Always say yes isn't good and doesnt create boundaries for you.
thanks a lot, i learned a lot in tour videos.
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I hear you. 💚
I wish my narc would stop trying to wreck my future!
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The awareness is growing, end of line for narcs is coming
The narc will not be able to continue this evil game because you become aware. You will live your best life!! Take care!
I will be dead before I am healed from the narcissist.
Im trying really hard to take the high road and believe that they will get what is coming to them, but it is hard to not wish them pain and suffering. I hope karma makes things right (and i hope i get to see it!)
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I was married to a narcissist. Simultaneously I was working in a work place run by narcissists. between the two situations I was so scapegoated and gaslighted that I could not believe it was happening. So many things happened so fast I went into complete denial fully repressing memories of events that were intended to blackmail me. In my delusional state of "everthing is fine" these narcissists were even more upset with me that I didn't react to their abuse so they doubled down to the point every one else noticed and I found a whole community of friends who very calmly and politely invited me to join them for many fun rewarding activities never mentioning I was being scapegoated and gaslighted. It took may years to realize how much damage I endured and still have trauma from the compound abuse.
Thanks Andrew.
3 smart phones! 😂😂😂
Yep that's absolutely right!
Didn't know about The phones until after the discard and had to separate the accounts. What a mess!
But hearing you talk about it now I can laugh😂 It takes a long time but you can recover.
Keep up the good work..😁
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At first I didn’t know how I would do it… but now almost 3 years later I did… now I want nothing to do with that person
It’s seems like I have had narcs all around me for most of my life. Now I’m pretty much alone because I’m on to
These people now and in time I’m sure I’ll find like minded people to be around. 4 months now Iv been away from the last narcissist and it gets better Iv blocked out any “good times” because it was just fools gold.
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I needed your words today Andrew...made a big step today thanks to my help from you and you all in TH-cam Land...thank God I found your channel
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This video is so brutally true. And validating. Thank you so much for this video. ❤
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My son took his life and the blame was on him. Then I pound his diary and in there he said “ narcissist always blames the other person for their fault all the time. I m tired of it” but he let him self be abused to where he finally took his life. She got rid of his clothes and everything that belonged to him the very next day!
The best quote I heard was....THEY MIGHT OF WON THE BATTLE BUT WE WON THE WAR !
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Thank you, Andrew. I continue on the healing path. No contact; out of sight, out of mind. Off the radar and hoping to remain there! No giving in to any hoovers--ever!NAMASTE❤
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Andrew you described my 50 year old son’s behavior to a ‘t’. God gave me the strength to have him move out as painful as it was for me. I knew I had to do it for my survival!