Wow, thanks for hearing that, XenosBioZ. Those parts are always the ones I love the most, too... because they're where I really feel creativity surging through me. Anyhow, thanks for watching & commenting. Gratitude. Eric D.
I don't want to hate myself, I'm responding to what others tell me. I pop sleeping pills regularly just to escape the self hate. I am weird guy at work that everyone shuns.
As a Chinese, I used to love how my American friends are so outgoing, happy, positive about the world, and I hoped I could be as positive and humorous as they were. However, after knowing more about the American culture, I found the positivity of my American friends, their usual or daily compliments are actually also a reason of social requirement or societal rule, or out of habit instead of true appreciation, I just found all the positive sides of them, including their avoidance of hatred or anything related to "hate", fake. I felt a sense of betrayal, and then I noticed although I dislike my own culture of overly self-effacing or lack of confidence, I also dislike this kind of ingenuine positivity and avoidance of the true emotions of humans. I know not all Americans are like that and that's just some of my own experience, but I just would like to comment about it.
At 57 my hatedometer is at full capacity at the moment. Salary low, bills high, certain ‘friends’ a real let down, family at a distance all too busy to spare some time, cataracts and a macula hole threatening to make me redundant (self employed seamstress) not eligible for any government support (while said ‘let down friend’ claims endless support)
There's a lot of pressure to be overtly happy in America. A lot of us are just thoroughly depressed and maybe that's not culturally acceptable for us. I find myself wishing I lived in a more introverted society, but as they say, if everyone were to throw their own problems in a pile on the street... you'd want your own problems back once you saw everyone else's
Very well put. American culture very much pushes "positivity". Americans have become very weak in resilience to anything "negative" or difficult. You have to treat American adults like children.
I struggle with this everyday. My anxiety and shame is like the centerpiece in my life. It cripples me but I guess the worst part I’m realizing now is that I’m complicit in a way with it, kicking myself while I’m down and justifying it to myself. Thank you sincerely from my heart for covering this. (Btw this is just the kind of comment my anxiety would lead me to delete! I resist! Loved the part about motivational self-hate and seeing it as a predator on the prowl for weaknesses to improve and address. It’s more “motivating” than any of the positive thinking BS people give me.)
Rob Vel Cognitive therapy would have you be on the watch for denigrating self-statements. And then dispute them with self acceptance. One does not need "motivational self-hate" in order to transcend bad acts.
Hi Rob. I guess that I'd like to dilate a bit on Kevin H's remark. Yes, there are many paths in this life and in this world, and the one I'm outlining in this video is only one. And it seems to me that one of the biggest tricks in life is to find the one suits each of us personally. Yeah, I agree that a lot of the time people's well-intended positive-thinking-BS actually ends up making things worse. That's because most of the time what we're really looking for is someone who's willing to see and honor our struggle, and perhaps even to accompany for a moment or two... as a companion, rather than as someone who's dispensing advice from on-high. In any case, I wish you well on your journey. Eric D.
I felt your comment deeply. The anxiety and shame are crippling, and I am also going to resist the compulsion to delete this reply to your comment. There's sort of a strength in solidarity
I can’t seem to get to the motivational self hate. I’m so full of hatred for myself that it hurts me physically so I don’t even have to do any cutting or whatever. I’m always in pain. It’s ridiculous and makes no sense whatsoever! What a spiral. No way to pull out.
Well, thanks, Kevin. I'm still thinking about your surgery. I hope that it's not too serious, and that you heal very quickly. Anyhow, occasionally my students tell me that they like to get stoned before my lectures, and that they actually enjoy them more and get more out of them that way. Maybe the same thing is happening with this video and the pain-killers you're taking. Ha ha... In any case, get well soon, Kevin.... Eric D.
I’m at that bottoming out experience. I’m at that choice between moving up and death. I don’t want to die. I’ve never seen someone describe my situation and my life with such accuracy. Thank you.
Stumbled across your video today while searching for answers to improve my estimation of myself and overcome my depressive self hate. I really enjoyed your video and "saved" it to watch again more in the future. Very thoughtful content that needs to really be ruminated on, over and over. Very deep but very accurate in what you said. I will continue to meditate on these thoughts from now on as I do see the need now to transition from paralyzing self hate to motivational self hate. Thank you for your insights that have given me much food for thought. I especially recognize that my self hatred comes from others in how they have treated me or assessed me as worthless. Instead, I need to assess myself! And not give such weight to how others view me or treat me. I do feel hopeful that I can move into the motivational aspect where I can begin to take control to judge myself more accurately. So that I CAN be MY best SELF in this world, (the best ME)...something no one else can do...only me! I do have good qualities and I am not going to let this repetitive destructive cycle of outside judgement and rejection affect me any longer. I really do want to be my best self! And I'm the judge of what that is and will be...no one else! Just thinking about all you said is very enlightening and empowering! Thanks for this video! It will make a big difference in my life going forward!
Well, I suppose that there's a first time for everything. Anyhow, maybe this experience is life's way of telling you that things are changing. Just a thought. Anyhow, thanks for watching. Eric D.
Eric Dodson that’s exactly right. Recently I’ve decided to open up to the possibility, with the help of my siblings, of starting a relationship with a woman who may want to have children. The fear of fatherhood has kept me single for a while and I want to keep putting it off although now I’m more open to the idea. Listening to your thoughts helps clear up some issues I’m having since I do believe in learning from one’s elders as long as I perceive that they have it together. I hope to hear more from you.
@@alancostello7500 You say that you've never had a male figure who had your best interest at heart. And you say that you're afraid of fatherhood. I know it's scary, because you could possibly repeat that, but... Don't you see that from having such a horrible father, you could be a much better father? Like how people with bad parents can be the best parents, since they know exactly what *not* to do. My point is, don't let your past restrict your future. You have a great opportunity to turn your past suffering into someone else's happiness. Why waste that out of fear? Best of luck
@@alancostello7500 My pleasure. You and everyone in your life deserve happiness. That makes me so happy how you've been going upward. By "now to figure how to fund a family," do you mean you faced your fear and are now with that woman? That'd be freaking awesome. Let me know (if you want) J
Dear Mr. Dodson, once again you made an impact on my self examination. I am grateful for your valuable lessons. I look forward to your next installment of insight into the experience of being human.
Well, a big thank-you to YOU for being open enough to hear what I'm trying to say, and also for being willing to try it out in your own life! Thanks for that. Gratitude. Eric D.
Hmm I got out of this- stop looking at your environments and circumstances to tell you who you are because there’s a whole world inside of you to explore and cherish!
Motivational self-hate: I like that. A kind of anger at oneself. The idea that we must always love ourselves is unrealistic as are the ideas of these self-help gurus who run around telling us about "positivity". Good thing books came out telling us to "f*ck feeling" and all. Don't make lemonade - learn to live with lemons.
Never took a course in philosophy, but your channel has sparked an interest. I am at the philosophy 101 level, but your lecture is more like a discussion which I like very much not like I'm taking a class, especially how you respond and make videos to the questions of your viewers.
you just described the past 6 months of my mental health with complete accuracy although i still hate myself i just distract myself with mediums of escape
Well, thanks, TROD! Yeah, the thing about psychedelics is that, like anything else, they always have their limitations. And if we're really interested in expanding our awareness as much as possible, we need to be willing to pass over the threshold of that boundary. Anyhow... thanks as always for taking the time to watch and comment! Eric D.
Eric Dodson A few days ago I had spine surgery. I have more opiates than I could ever need. Hallucinations have their place in the human experience. Personally, they are only a fleeting tool for better enabling my embrace of reality. Yes, it is paradoxical.
Hours ago I look myself at the mirror, and tried to say something positive about myself, and as always I end up saying "I hate you" but for some reason I also said "But that dosen't mean that you're not pretty or good" and I was like MAAAAAN Can I actually hate myself and some how love mysalef at the same time?, and then I watch this video... EVERYTHING MAKES SENSE NOW Like when you answer a big part of my existencial crisis in 13 min
Hola, mi estimado profesor Enrique: es un honor tener comunicación contigo. Como estudiante aprendo todos los días, también gracias a tus vídeos. Eres un genio peligroso. Un abrazo de éste quien te distingue, LC
Ja ja... "..un genio peligroso..." Qué cumplido! Creo que un genio peligroso es el mejor tipo de genio. De todos modos, muchas gracias por tus palabras muy amistosas... te mando un abrazo.
Woaw! Thank you for so much love Mister Dodson. This was so insightful... I just discovered your channel with this video. I'm also a big fan of R.M. Rilke's poetry and Nietzsche ideas. THANK YOU
Well, thanks, Will. I think that experiencing excitement is one of the better indicators of where our better destinies lie. But that might be just me. In any case, thanks again for watching & commenting. Eric D.
What if you reach the bottom and contemplate suicide? To me, reaching that bottom state would drive me more towards suicide, rather than trying to change my situation
Well, that's not necessarily a bad sign. Sometimes giving up our illusions feels like depression and hopelessness for a while. Anyhow, thanks for watching... Eric D.
I think you just saved my life. Ok so background, I’m an lgbt kid who doesn’t even know the most basic aspect of who a person is, their gender. And I’ve fallen into a cycle of self hate that I just can’t get out of. But maybe there is a chance that I can actually be someone in the future, that I can be sure of something, anything. Thanks ima go sleep now.
Excellent and timely video. As I write Georgia struggles with vote counting for the Senate runoffs. Anyway, as he says, hatred is out their and isn't a boggyman. The pc crowd tries to tell us its shameful. Fyi I saw a vid by a sociopath who explained how she was trying to live a normal life. Happy New Year.
3:39 correction: thats always been there lol. Even since I was a kid. Any feelings of hatred I may have had were stigmatized by my parents. Very nice video though! I would say that nowadays people *indulge* more in toxic hate, though. I can definitely give ya that
Is it really NOT BAD to feel hate? I feel so much shame and guilt to feel hate for my abusers.... As if I'm not allowed to feel hate. Thinking hating is not bad is bringing me SO much relief is the self hate. Bless you
Have you read any David Loy, Eric? If you haven't, I highly recommend his book "Lack and Transcendence," which analyzes the various strands of existentialism through a Buddhist lens. I read it last month, and I still think about the book a lot.
No, I haven't read that one. But it definitely sounds like a good book -- the kind that would interest me. I'll bear it in mind. Thanks for the suggestion. E.
Technically the sensation of hate is not the same as the thought of hate we just attach a label-What’s the root?, likely fear We have Tension of the opposites, so to speak on a multi layered level because we live in a dualistic paradigm This tension leads to a choice, modify behavior to accommodate belief or modify believe to accommodate behavior.
Wow, it makes me happy that you're able to experience beauty in what I've done, as well as to make use of it in your life. Things like that make it all worthwhile. Thanks for telling me that. Gratitude. Eric D.
according to Gilligan, the feeling of inferiority and being dissed is a huge motivator of horrible violence. Look at studies of Gilligan’s work within the Massachusetts Prison system
Well, it's mostly a matter of developing an internal sense for it over time. In that regard, it's a lot like knowing when we're being honest with ourselves or not. And I'd say that that internal sense feels like a kind of congruence... when we feel like we're deeply aligned with our deeper potentials and destinies in this world. However, I should probably qualify that by also saying that that sense can easily vary over time, especially as we (hopefully) learn to see a little more deeply into the reality of our lives as we mature. Consequently, what seemed to be a moment of authenticity at one point in our lives can easily prove to be an irrelevant deflection a little farther down the road. So, authenticity is usually an ongoing work-in-progress, rather than a one-and-done phenomenon. It's not so much a matter of learning it... but of re-learning it in an ever deepening way. Anyhow... excellent question. Props. Eric D.
Well, I tend to use terms like that in a fairly phenomenological way... in other words, as markers of certain kinds of subjective experience, rather than as terms that denote X, Y or Z about objective reality. So, in this case, the word "soul" is a way of describing the kind of subjective experience that feels like a profound depth in our existence, most especially in a personal way. In that regard, I suppose that it's something very much related to our corporeality (and hence to matter), as well as to our minds... but which isn't simply synonymous with either one. Hope this helps, or is at least confusing in an interesting way. In any case, thanks for taking the time to watch & comment. Eric D.
@@ericdodson2644 I dont fully comprehend what you mean, though perhaps out of my own ignorance. However I understand its essence. Thank you for taking the time to respond, I look forward to your next video.
This is the video I will use to explain why suicidality is so pervasive among trans and adjacent sorts people who aren't able, for one reason or another, to live as they are. It's so not about petty identity politics.
So, what happens if I find both forms of self-hate brewing within me? Also it seems that depressive self-hate comes from an external locus of control, while motivational self-hate comes from an internal locus of control. So, maybe I need to seek out my own power. Essentially what I'm good at. (Basically the point of saying "it is your own potential that you can actualize".) But why do I find both aspects? That is the better question.
I find it ironic that the second philosopher that you referenced was Heidegger.....the very person who would be unable to self hate due to his near sociopathic behavior.....I think Hanna Arendt and Karl Jaspers both concluded that "he had no conscious".....but I defer to your better judgement on this issue....good talk but depressing
Well, my sense is that even terrible human beings who do rotten things can sometimes speak important truths. It's mostly a matter of our being able to perceive people like that in terms of their full humanity... with a realistic awareness of their faults, of course, but also an appreciation for the gifts they possess. I guess that I no longer believe in monsters or saints in this world... mostly because I find only human beings. But, hey, that's just me. In any case, thanks once again for taking the time to watch and comment, Doc J. Eric D.
Hmm... it sounds like you're interested in The Birth of Tragedy, where Nietzsche talks a lot about all of that. I've been wondering about doing a series on specific books, and I'll bear that one in mind. In any case, thanks for watching and commenting. Eric D.
Hola a mi viejo amigo. Si... ambivalencia... y ambigüedad... Como estoy creciendo mas viejo, estoy hallando que vivimos la vida en el medio de cosas (mas o menos). Por ejemplo, en el medio de amar y odiar. Supongo que asi es la vida.
Hi Naufil... Well, I suspect that there's no single answer that simply fits everyone's experience equally. My own preference is for sitting meditation. However, I would say that it's best to try many things in life, and gradually hone-in on what works best for you (which of course may change with time, as you mature). Basically, we're allowed to be experimental with our lives.... and so I'd recommend that general approach. Anyhow... I'm thinking my next video will be on your earlier question about why we want other people to like us.... Eric D.
It's always hard to know what other people are capable of perceiving... whether we think we're hiding something successfully or not. Anyhow... thanks once again for watching. Eric D.
Let’s talk about mind matrix next This is In approach to learning that just develops, but I’m looking at umbrellas from up here and I’m the only one that can see how they are all linking together
Well, sometimes life is depressing. And so it's okay to feel that side of things... especially if you're interested in understanding life's reality. Eric D.
Hi Dr. Dodson, I wonder if you could do a video on the psychology of communism or socialism. It seems to me that despite the several examples of failure communism has under its belt, many people still appeal to many communist ideas.
i always love how you become super poetic at the end of the videos like in 14:00 and 16:46 its like music to my ears.
Wow, thanks for hearing that, XenosBioZ. Those parts are always the ones I love the most, too... because they're where I really feel creativity surging through me. Anyhow, thanks for watching & commenting. Gratitude. Eric D.
I don't want to hate myself, I'm responding to what others tell me. I pop sleeping pills regularly just to escape the self hate. I am weird guy at work that everyone shuns.
As a Chinese, I used to love how my American friends are so outgoing, happy, positive about the world, and I hoped I could be as positive and humorous as they were. However, after knowing more about the American culture, I found the positivity of my American friends, their usual or daily compliments are actually also a reason of social requirement or societal rule, or out of habit instead of true appreciation, I just found all the positive sides of them, including their avoidance of hatred or anything related to "hate", fake. I felt a sense of betrayal, and then I noticed although I dislike my own culture of overly self-effacing or lack of confidence, I also dislike this kind of ingenuine positivity and avoidance of the true emotions of humans. I know not all Americans are like that and that's just some of my own experience, but I just would like to comment about it.
At 57 my hatedometer is at full capacity at the moment. Salary low, bills high, certain ‘friends’ a real let down, family at a distance all too busy to spare some time, cataracts and a macula hole threatening to make me redundant (self employed seamstress) not eligible for any government support (while said ‘let down friend’ claims endless support)
There's a lot of pressure to be overtly happy in America. A lot of us are just thoroughly depressed and maybe that's not culturally acceptable for us. I find myself wishing I lived in a more introverted society, but as they say, if everyone were to throw their own problems in a pile on the street... you'd want your own problems back once you saw everyone else's
Very well put. American culture very much pushes "positivity". Americans have become very weak in resilience to anything "negative" or difficult. You have to treat American adults like children.
I struggle with this everyday. My anxiety and shame is like the centerpiece in my life. It cripples me but I guess the worst part I’m realizing now is that I’m complicit in a way with it, kicking myself while I’m down and justifying it to myself.
Thank you sincerely from my heart for covering this.
(Btw this is just the kind of comment my anxiety would lead me to delete! I resist! Loved the part about motivational self-hate and seeing it as a predator on the prowl for weaknesses to improve and address. It’s more “motivating” than any of the positive thinking BS people give me.)
Rob Vel Cognitive therapy would have you be on the watch for denigrating self-statements. And then dispute them with self acceptance. One does not need "motivational self-hate" in order to transcend bad acts.
Hi Rob. I guess that I'd like to dilate a bit on Kevin H's remark. Yes, there are many paths in this life and in this world, and the one I'm outlining in this video is only one. And it seems to me that one of the biggest tricks in life is to find the one suits each of us personally.
Yeah, I agree that a lot of the time people's well-intended positive-thinking-BS actually ends up making things worse. That's because most of the time what we're really looking for is someone who's willing to see and honor our struggle, and perhaps even to accompany for a moment or two... as a companion, rather than as someone who's dispensing advice from on-high. In any case, I wish you well on your journey. Eric D.
I felt your comment deeply. The anxiety and shame are crippling, and I am also going to resist the compulsion to delete this reply to your comment. There's sort of a strength in solidarity
I can’t seem to get to the motivational self hate. I’m so full of hatred for myself that it hurts me physically so I don’t even have to do any cutting or whatever. I’m always in pain. It’s ridiculous and makes no sense whatsoever! What a spiral. No way to pull out.
This is a very substantial meditation. I hope a lot of people listen and cogitate.
Well, thanks, Kevin. I'm still thinking about your surgery. I hope that it's not too serious, and that you heal very quickly. Anyhow, occasionally my students tell me that they like to get stoned before my lectures, and that they actually enjoy them more and get more out of them that way. Maybe the same thing is happening with this video and the pain-killers you're taking. Ha ha... In any case, get well soon, Kevin.... Eric D.
I’m at that bottoming out experience. I’m at that choice between moving up and death. I don’t want to die. I’ve never seen someone describe my situation and my life with such accuracy.
Thank you.
My self-hate is beyond redemption. I don't want to be here anymore.
Well, who says that life needs to be about redemption, or about getting what we want?
Stumbled across your video today while searching for answers to improve my estimation of myself and overcome my depressive self hate.
I really enjoyed your video and "saved"
it to watch again more in the future.
Very thoughtful content that needs to really be ruminated on, over and over.
Very deep but very accurate in what you said. I will continue to meditate on these thoughts from now on as I do see the need now to transition from paralyzing self hate to motivational self hate.
Thank you for your insights that have given me much food for thought.
I especially recognize that my self hatred comes from others in how they have treated me or assessed me as worthless.
Instead, I need to assess myself! And not give such weight to how others view me or treat me.
I do feel hopeful that I can move into the motivational aspect where I can begin to take control to judge myself more accurately. So that I CAN be MY best SELF in this world, (the best ME)...something no one else can do...only me!
I do have good qualities and I am not going to let this repetitive destructive cycle of outside judgement and rejection
affect me any longer.
I really do want to be my best self!
And I'm the judge of what that is and will be...no one else!
Just thinking about all you said is very enlightening and empowering!
Thanks for this video!
It will make a big difference in my life going forward!
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Never really had any male figures who had my best interest at heart my whole life. Thank you for the videos.
Well, I suppose that there's a first time for everything. Anyhow, maybe this experience is life's way of telling you that things are changing. Just a thought. Anyhow, thanks for watching. Eric D.
Eric Dodson that’s exactly right. Recently I’ve decided to open up to the possibility, with the help of my siblings, of starting a relationship with a woman who may want to have children. The fear of fatherhood has kept me single for a while and I want to keep putting it off although now I’m more open to the idea. Listening to your thoughts helps clear up some issues I’m having since I do believe in learning from one’s elders as long as I perceive that they have it together. I hope to hear more from you.
@@alancostello7500 You say that you've never had a male figure who had your best interest at heart.
And you say that you're afraid of fatherhood.
I know it's scary, because you could possibly repeat that, but...
Don't you see that from having such a horrible father, you could be a much better father?
Like how people with bad parents can be the best parents, since they know exactly what *not* to do.
My point is, don't let your past restrict your future. You have a great opportunity to turn your past suffering into someone else's happiness. Why waste that out of fear?
Best of luck
Vikeing Blade thank your for your reassurance. Since then I’ve arrived at a similar conclusion and now to figure how to fund a family.
@@alancostello7500 My pleasure. You and everyone in your life deserve happiness. That makes me so happy how you've been going upward.
By "now to figure how to fund a family," do you mean you faced your fear and are now with that woman? That'd be freaking awesome.
Let me know (if you want)
J
Dear Mr. Dodson, once again you made an impact on my self examination. I am grateful for your valuable lessons. I look forward to your next installment of insight into the experience of being human.
Well, a big thank-you to YOU for being open enough to hear what I'm trying to say, and also for being willing to try it out in your own life! Thanks for that. Gratitude. Eric D.
Hmm I got out of this- stop looking at your environments and circumstances to tell you who you are because there’s a whole world inside of you to explore and cherish!
Motivational self-hate: I like that. A kind of anger at oneself. The idea that we must always love ourselves is unrealistic as are the ideas of these self-help gurus who run around telling us about "positivity". Good thing books came out telling us to "f*ck feeling" and all. Don't make lemonade - learn to live with lemons.
Never took a course in philosophy, but your channel has sparked an interest. I am at the philosophy 101 level, but your lecture is more like a discussion which I like very much not like I'm taking a class, especially how you respond and make videos to the questions of your viewers.
you just described the past 6 months of my mental health with complete accuracy although i still hate myself i just distract myself with mediums of escape
Your videos never fail to change my perspective on life for the better. Even the strongest LSD can't rewire my brain like your uploads do. :)
Well, thanks, TROD! Yeah, the thing about psychedelics is that, like anything else, they always have their limitations. And if we're really interested in expanding our awareness as much as possible, we need to be willing to pass over the threshold of that boundary. Anyhow... thanks as always for taking the time to watch and comment! Eric D.
Eric Dodson A few days ago I had spine surgery. I have more opiates than I could ever need. Hallucinations have their place in the human experience. Personally, they are only a fleeting tool for better enabling my embrace of reality. Yes, it is paradoxical.
@@kevinhornbuckle Holy crap, Kevin... I hope that you heal quickly. Health to you.... Eric D.
Hours ago I look myself at the mirror, and tried to say something positive about myself, and as always I end up saying "I hate you" but for some reason I also said "But that dosen't mean that you're not pretty or good" and I was like MAAAAAN Can I actually hate myself and some how love mysalef at the same time?, and then I watch this video... EVERYTHING MAKES SENSE NOW
Like when you answer a big part of my existencial crisis in 13 min
Hola, mi estimado profesor Enrique: es un honor tener comunicación contigo. Como estudiante aprendo todos los días, también gracias a tus vídeos. Eres un genio peligroso. Un abrazo de éste quien te distingue, LC
Ja ja... "..un genio peligroso..." Qué cumplido! Creo que un genio peligroso es el mejor tipo de genio. De todos modos, muchas gracias por tus palabras muy amistosas... te mando un abrazo.
I love Dr. Dodson’s worldview! Big fan
Ha ha... My spider-sense is telling me that you might also be a fan of Robert Pirsig. Anyhow... thanks so much for the shout-out! Eric D.
Fine definitions of and distinctions about this term. Intriguing podcast.
Woaw! Thank you for so much love Mister Dodson. This was so insightful... I just discovered your channel with this video. I'm also a big fan of R.M. Rilke's poetry and Nietzsche ideas. THANK YOU
Great speech again. This one got me all excited.
Well, thanks, Will. I think that experiencing excitement is one of the better indicators of where our better destinies lie. But that might be just me. In any case, thanks again for watching & commenting. Eric D.
You have a great command of language. This was a very unique video for me. I feel I've gained a new perspective on my life. Subscribed.
What if you reach the bottom and contemplate suicide? To me, reaching that bottom state would drive me more towards suicide, rather than trying to change my situation
Wow. This was so depressing. What little hope I had... it gone.
Well, that's not necessarily a bad sign. Sometimes giving up our illusions feels like depression and hopelessness for a while. Anyhow, thanks for watching... Eric D.
I think you just saved my life. Ok so background, I’m an lgbt kid who doesn’t even know the most basic aspect of who a person is, their gender. And I’ve fallen into a cycle of self hate that I just can’t get out of. But maybe there is a chance that I can actually be someone in the future, that I can be sure of something, anything. Thanks ima go sleep now.
Dr. Dodson is a real G
Thanks, CC. Personally, I like to think of myself as the OG of the professoriate. Anyhow, thanks for watching & commenting. Eric "OG" Dodson
@@ericdodson2644 I love your content. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. It has helped me. Peace
Valentine's Day.
If you want to love yourself, learn to hate yourself without losing yourself in addictive depression.
Very good video. Thank You. In my Chrome there was no comment section. Now I am in Microsoft Edge.
Wish I knew how to love myself
This just helped me so much. Thank you.
The most helpful video about self hate on-line. Thank you.
I sometimes think if I could step outside my body, I’d beat it into oblivion.
The best way to love yourself is to learn how to set healthy boundaries
Beautiful and enjoyable poetic touch, thank you!
Thank you
This was deep...I enjoyed this and Russell Brand videos. Thank you for trying to help me out this depression and get my anxieties in order.
Excellent and timely video. As I write Georgia struggles with vote counting for the Senate runoffs. Anyway, as he says, hatred is out their and isn't a boggyman. The pc crowd tries to tell us its shameful. Fyi I saw a vid by a sociopath who explained how she was trying to live a normal life. Happy New Year.
Thank you, Mr. Eric "Anyhow" Dodson
Sorry for the joke, I am genuinely thankful
3:39 correction: thats always been there lol. Even since I was a kid. Any feelings of hatred I may have had were stigmatized by my parents. Very nice video though!
I would say that nowadays people *indulge* more in toxic hate, though. I can definitely give ya that
Is it really NOT BAD to feel hate? I feel so much shame and guilt to feel hate for my abusers.... As if I'm not allowed to feel hate.
Thinking hating is not bad is bringing me SO much relief is the self hate. Bless you
Very well done thank you
Have you read any David Loy, Eric? If you haven't, I highly recommend his book "Lack and Transcendence," which analyzes the various strands of existentialism through a Buddhist lens. I read it last month, and I still think about the book a lot.
No, I haven't read that one. But it definitely sounds like a good book -- the kind that would interest me. I'll bear it in mind. Thanks for the suggestion. E.
One of the best videos.
Thanks. And thanks for taking the time to watch it. Eric D.
Thank you.
Excellent video!
Technically the sensation of hate is not the same as the thought of hate we just attach a label-What’s the root?, likely fear
We have Tension of the opposites, so to speak on a multi layered level because we live in a dualistic paradigm
This tension leads to a choice, modify behavior to accommodate belief or modify believe to accommodate behavior.
Beautiful essay & helpful.
Wow, it makes me happy that you're able to experience beauty in what I've done, as well as to make use of it in your life. Things like that make it all worthwhile. Thanks for telling me that. Gratitude. Eric D.
according to Gilligan, the feeling of inferiority and being dissed is a huge motivator of horrible violence. Look at studies of Gilligan’s work within the Massachusetts Prison system
Without a path up you can't escape. Life becomes an exercise of repeatedly bottoming out.
how do i know i'm living authentically and how do i know im pursuing that?
Well, it's mostly a matter of developing an internal sense for it over time. In that regard, it's a lot like knowing when we're being honest with ourselves or not. And I'd say that that internal sense feels like a kind of congruence... when we feel like we're deeply aligned with our deeper potentials and destinies in this world. However, I should probably qualify that by also saying that that sense can easily vary over time, especially as we (hopefully) learn to see a little more deeply into the reality of our lives as we mature. Consequently, what seemed to be a moment of authenticity at one point in our lives can easily prove to be an irrelevant deflection a little farther down the road. So, authenticity is usually an ongoing work-in-progress, rather than a one-and-done phenomenon. It's not so much a matter of learning it... but of re-learning it in an ever deepening way. Anyhow... excellent question. Props. Eric D.
I'm somewhat new to this channel and I was wondering what you mean by soul. Is it something separate from matter or simply a synonym for mind?
Well, I tend to use terms like that in a fairly phenomenological way... in other words, as markers of certain kinds of subjective experience, rather than as terms that denote X, Y or Z about objective reality. So, in this case, the word "soul" is a way of describing the kind of subjective experience that feels like a profound depth in our existence, most especially in a personal way. In that regard, I suppose that it's something very much related to our corporeality (and hence to matter), as well as to our minds... but which isn't simply synonymous with either one. Hope this helps, or is at least confusing in an interesting way. In any case, thanks for taking the time to watch & comment. Eric D.
@@ericdodson2644 I dont fully comprehend what you mean, though perhaps out of my own ignorance. However I understand its essence. Thank you for taking the time to respond, I look forward to your next video.
This is the video I will use to explain why suicidality is so pervasive among trans and adjacent sorts people who aren't able, for one reason or another, to live as they are. It's so not about petty identity politics.
I think I swing between these two states. Periods of high energy work on one week to being a self sabotaging hermit the next
Very good. Thank you
As always, great video Eric! :)
Well, thanks. And thanks for taking the time to watch it. Eric D.
Best video ever .
This ending was fantastic
So, what happens if I find both forms of self-hate brewing within me? Also it seems that depressive self-hate comes from an external locus of control, while motivational self-hate comes from an internal locus of control. So, maybe I need to seek out my own power. Essentially what I'm good at. (Basically the point of saying "it is your own potential that you can actualize".) But why do I find both aspects? That is the better question.
Profound
How precious
I find it ironic that the second philosopher that you referenced was Heidegger.....the very person who would be unable to self hate due to his near sociopathic behavior.....I think Hanna Arendt and Karl Jaspers both concluded that "he had no conscious".....but I defer to your better judgement on this issue....good talk but depressing
Doc Johnson Citations, please.
Well, my sense is that even terrible human beings who do rotten things can sometimes speak important truths. It's mostly a matter of our being able to perceive people like that in terms of their full humanity... with a realistic awareness of their faults, of course, but also an appreciation for the gifts they possess. I guess that I no longer believe in monsters or saints in this world... mostly because I find only human beings. But, hey, that's just me. In any case, thanks once again for taking the time to watch and comment, Doc J. Eric D.
Real helpful, TY.
Great video thanks a lot. Would you be interested in doing a video on Nietzsche's ideas concerning Apollonian and Dionysian affirmation of life?
Hmm... it sounds like you're interested in The Birth of Tragedy, where Nietzsche talks a lot about all of that. I've been wondering about doing a series on specific books, and I'll bear that one in mind. In any case, thanks for watching and commenting. Eric D.
Ambivalencia: Amar y odiar simultáneamente.
Hola a mi viejo amigo. Si... ambivalencia... y ambigüedad... Como estoy creciendo mas viejo, estoy hallando que vivimos la vida en el medio de cosas (mas o menos). Por ejemplo, en el medio de amar y odiar. Supongo que asi es la vida.
Eric dodson - i have one question - which is better , if you only have time to do any one meditation or dairy writing ?
Hi Naufil... Well, I suspect that there's no single answer that simply fits everyone's experience equally. My own preference is for sitting meditation. However, I would say that it's best to try many things in life, and gradually hone-in on what works best for you (which of course may change with time, as you mature). Basically, we're allowed to be experimental with our lives.... and so I'd recommend that general approach. Anyhow... I'm thinking my next video will be on your earlier question about why we want other people to like us.... Eric D.
@@ericdodson2644 thanks
I have self hate. I am an inadequate man.
Could you make also video about self-shame. A common phenomenon
but not so much spoken
I’m starting to hate that I hate myself
i love you man
I know what to say after that,you had rendered a form of profound deep love
I hate my boss sometimes but I don't show it. I hope
It's always hard to know what other people are capable of perceiving... whether we think we're hiding something successfully or not. Anyhow... thanks once again for watching. Eric D.
Digging the beard Doc
I'm so simple people are too complicated for me
Let’s talk about mind matrix next
This is In approach to learning that just develops, but I’m looking at umbrellas from up here and I’m the only one that can see how they are all linking together
The only one in my small circle
I bookmarked, but this shit depressing.
It made me feel enlightend and exhilarated
Well, sometimes life is depressing. And so it's okay to feel that side of things... especially if you're interested in understanding life's reality. Eric D.
i encourage you to look at the work of Aschead and James Gilligan before you dismiss “sociopaths” as beyond repair
13:46 aaaand you totally lost me.
You quote Heidegger?!? That shit be depressing. Or, rather, I mean... that shit dasein depressing.
Ha ha... he'll be here all week, folks. Yeah, that was cute. Thanks for the laugh. Eric D.
@@ericdodson2644 I might have been a little snookered last night. Just a little.
Snape in the thumbnail huh
I'm at the death stage
Lemon cake, yum.
No mystery
Hi Dr. Dodson, I wonder if you could do a video on the psychology of communism or socialism. It seems to me that despite the several examples of failure communism has under its belt, many people still appeal to many communist ideas.
Hmm... that sounds like a good idea. I'll put it on the list... Thanks for the idea! Eric D.
I don't hate pineapples on pizzas. 😂
Neither do I. But anchovies are another story. Such is life. Anyhow, thanks for watching. Eric D.
Whole pineapples!? Surely you just want chunks?
You need a black person to comfort you.
Sounds depressing
Not helping me at all.
Lol self hate is a touchy topic when everybody experiences it to some degree? LMAO the irony
Excellent video!
Thank you