The Enigma of Self-Deception
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ก.พ. 2019
- This video explores the phenomenon of self-deception, first in terms of the lies we tell ourselves about our inner darkness, and then in terms of how we evade the brilliance of our inner potential.
Here's a table of contents for the material in this video:
0:35 - Lying to ourselves
1:47 - The small lies we tell ourselves
2:38 - The censored chapter of our lives
3:40 - When we can't handle the truth: The parts of ourselves we hate
5:19 - Projection and the psychology of insults
6:23 - The quest for superiority over others
8:58 - The Jonah Complex: Evading the brilliance of our inner fire
9:50 - Assuming responsibility for our deeper possibilities
12:18 - Fear of being misunderstood and rejected
14:48 - Fear of annihilation
17:05 - Paths toward self-honesty
18:58 - The illusion of ultimate truth
I think one of the most frequent and heaviest ways people lie to themselves is when they tell themselves they are stupid or a bad person or unworthy.
Yeah, that's definitely a way of entering into the whole Jonah Complex dynamic. Part of the trick to understanding it from a psychological perspective is to appreciate what we get out of doing that. And of course, in the case of the Jonah Complex, telling ourselves that we're stupid and unworthy serves as a pretty effective deflection from the terror of having to acknowledge the opposite reality. If we're constantly telling ourselves that we're stupid, then we never have to shoulder the burden of assuming responsibility for our unacknowledged intelligence, talent, worthiness, etc. We never have to endure the uncertainty and hard work of striving to fulfill our potential for all of that... mostly because we've already condemned ourselves ahead of time. Anyhow... I hope your recovery is continuing to go well. Health! Eric D.
A tip : watch series on Kaldrostream. Me and my gf have been using them for watching loads of movies lately.
@Jorge Rene definitely, have been using kaldrostream for months myself =)
The D in Dodson stands for
Damn, what a great video
Thanks, yaboity... I'm glad that you liked it. Thanks for watching it. Eric Damn, what a great video.
You're awesome Eric. Thank you for all the amazing video's.
Well... thank-you, Turo (wheel?) for taking the time to watch this video, and for telling me that. Eric D.
About your brother...
How sad. I'm sorry, Eric.
....as always, great vid
It was very hard
To make it through that tough time
But I learned a lot
@@ericdodson2644
The price of wisdom
Often times is paid with tears
..and parts of one's soul
@@ericdodson2644 I share this tragedy. Haiku below says "price of Wisdom". Yes, this is true.
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That was beautiful...
Every word glowing brightly
Thank-you for that gift.
This was great. Knowing about the Jonah Complex will be extremely useful. Thanks as always!
Thanks, AQE... I'm glad that the Jonah Complex idea was useful to you. If you want to read more about it from Maslow himself, try "The Farther Reaches of Human Nature." Anyhow, thanks for watching & commenting. Eric D. P.S. Say "hi" to Phaedrus for me.
This is exactly what I needed to see. Excellent video, thank you so much for making it.
Love your videos! So clear and useful and even funny. Thanks so much for making them.
Mr. Eric Dodson, Thank you so very much for creating and sharing all your great informative videos. Your work is really appreciated!
Happy you and your video’s exists. Thank you!
Bam this is the concept I've been lately thinking about wow I'm bracing myself for this video I feel like it's about to change my life
Your videos really hit the spot. Thank you Eric.
Thanks. I sometimes think that what we perceive as a happy coincidence is really... life's way of asking us to pay attention to something. Anyhow, thanks for watching & commenting. Eric D.
very well put together. Thanks :)
Thanks for the video, a very positive one.
Well, it makes me happy that you're hearing the positive side of it... mostly because I wanted this video to call us toward our deeper possibilities, despite the fact that we're all adept and practiced liars. So, thanks, Roman, for hearing that! Eric D.
Your beard suits you well, professor.
Thanks. My wife likes it, too. Actually, if I grow a beard, it's always during the Winter. But maybe this will be the first one to make into the Summer months. We'll see. Anyhow... thanks for watching & commenting. Eric D.
Thank you too
Great content, thanks a lot.
First video I watched on this channel. This is great content. Really interesting topic, well explained, good pacing, (good looking man). Subscribed
Well, thanks for that, MKC. I'm glad that you enjoyed. And of course, thanks for taking the time & energy to watch it and comment on it. Eric D.
I'm not doubting a thing you're saying. You're just saying to me what I already knew. But it's comforting to hear nonetheless.
I think that a lot of our best learning is like that... just a way of remind us of the truths that are already dwelling within us. So, I'm glad that this video did that for you. Anyhow, thanks for taking the time to tell me that. Eric D.
I don't have to worry about being afraid of being misunderstood by my family, because I KNOW I'm misunderstood by my family. It's why I quit talking to them about any subjects of any depth, which includes my mental health. Edit: On another note, I wish I had a therapist like you.
Great work. I learnt a lot.
Cool! That makes me happy. Eric D.
And I am sorry if you feel annoyed that I'm just randomly dumping comments and questions!
De acuerdo con mi experiencia: ¿POR QUÉ NOS DECEPCIONAMOS DE NOSOTROS MISMOS? Varias razones:
Por no tener fuerza de voluntad para resistir una tentación.
-Por no tener constancia o persistencia.
- Sostener el ejercicio, dieta o lectura. Dejar un mal hábito.
- Por no lograr lo que se supone que tendríamos que haber logrado. Hemos creado marcadores y estándares sociales que a veces interiorizamos y que nos sirven como punto de comparación:
-Hitos o marcadores de logro.
-Obtener un puesto laboral, casa propia, comprar un auto…
MARCADORES TEMPORALES
• Las grandes décadas de la vida (30, 40, 50 y 60’s) son importantes recordatorios que nos llevan a hacer un balance de metas y logros. Regularmente no estamos tan satisfechos. Por ejemplo, estar casado,tener hijos, cierta cantidad de dinero en el banco…
• Especialmente el período entre los 40 a 60 se hace importante (Generatividad vs estancamiento).
• ¿QUÉ HE LOGRADO? ¿QUÉ SOY CAPAZ DE DAR? ¿QUÉ DIFERENCIA HAGO? ¿SOY UN FRACASO?
Pues, me parece que tu estas pensando en algunos asuntos que tambien estan en mi propria mente. Creo que la razon mas profunda por nuestras mentiras es... nuestra humanidad. En otras palabras... no es porque nos falta fuerza, ni siquiera constancia o persistencia. Nos faltan cosas asi porque... es parte de nuestra condicion muy humana.
This is a good video, a lot of clear insights.
A big part of self-deception is cognitive dissonance, wished you would've addressed it...
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I enjoyed the video and glad I found you giving a lecture on Kierkegaard at a university exposing me to your thoughts where I eventually stumbled across your actual TH-cam channel. Not disappointed. Do you have anymore lectures on Kierkegaard not tied to this channel?
Hey Tanner... Well, you evidently know more about my stuff on the Internet than I do. I didn't know that one of my Kierkegaard lectures is out there somewhere. Maybe someone in the audience recorded and posted it without my knowing it.... which is fine with me. But unfortunately it means that I can't answer your question. I did a TH-cam video on Kierkegaard a few years ago, but I'm guessing that you're already aware of that. Sorry to be such a great fount of ignorance. Eric D.
Thank you very much for the video! I'd like to give you a few points of Feedback:
- Firstly, i really like you beard :)
- You can make a little pause when you show the roadmap (no need for the 'just leave it up for a few more seeeeeconds) :P
- I think it might help if we had a little version of the Roadmap to always know, where we are in the video (That is what they tell in my courses on e-learning anyways)
- The questions you raise and the answer are great to keep the attention and make the video much more easy to follow
I hope you get some valie out of the comment. Have a great day, sir :)
Well, thanks for the suggestions, Maxiking. First, there's already a version of the roadmap in the description section of the video (along with links to the timestamps), so viewers can refer to it at any point while they're watching. Also, the main reason why I say the roadmap is going to be up for a few seconds is to give viewers a warning to pause the video if they're not done reading. If there were just dead silence then, viewers wouldn't have a clue about when the roadmap was going to disappear. Anyhow, I'm glad that the questions and general pacing of the video held your attention, and made it easy to follow. One of the main things I'm striving for in these is accessibility, especially given the relatively intellectual nature of their content. So, it makes me happy that you found it to be that. And finally... yeah, my wife likes the beard, too... Have a great day, and thanks for taking the time to watch and comment. Eric D.
15:23 this is a serious topic!
Sir, your video was really helpful and cleared a lot of doubts that I had, I've been seriously struggling with procrastination and i still remember that if an important exam is a month away or a day away, I would find myself doing, watching, eating or doing anything but studying. Then I feel into trying or I should say acting masculine watching these thrillers with men of such will power, mental strength , etc....I don't know why I told you that. I've seriously fucked up and my whole life is crashing down even though I know about it evetytime yet I just somehow keep procrastinating.
Happens to a lot if not most people. I had an amazing life . Then my brother died and step dad and ... a lot of people in a short amount of time. I had a nervous breakdown of sorts. Since then my entire life is different . Went from 10k a month to 0 a month living with my mom. I feel just stuck. Like life is going on and here I sit . Living in the past . Not doing anything to help myself then wondering why I’m stuck. I don’t have the answer but I think it’s always helpful to know others do and feel how you feel. Knowing what needs to be done yet not doing it. Possibly some form of self sabotage ??
@@Thisbecomes Care to elaborate on what your job was and how you got it and progressed on it, and then, how exactly you lost it and were unable to find something else?
I was married we both worked . My partner of 12 yrs worked in sales. Made the majority of our income. When I became depressed and suicidal I began drinking and doing drugs . which led to infidelity And a divorce . I lost everything .. And not working again .when I became depressed getting into an shower was hard enough to achieve.
@@Thisbecomes I see. But was it the death of those you cared for that triggered the drug use and suicidal thoughts, and consequently job loss and divorce?
@@CzechRiot I have been surrounded by trauma my entire life. Let's say that everyone is an egg. And when an egg is boiled too long it's going to crack. Some sooner than others .. some bigger cracks .. some smaller cracks .. that's what happens to people . When there is too much trauma we eventually crack. Not everyone but a lot of us do. So when I had to pull my sister off of my dead brothers body as she screamed he just wants me to hold him.. and watch my mom kiss him goodbye in a body bag in the living room . I started to crack . A month and a day later I saw my uncle dead on a sidewalk covered in blood as my aunt screamed " there is so much blood .. blood is everywhere !" Then my friend was murdered . My step dad died of cancer. Went blind and was screaming our names . My younger cousin died . Shall I go on? Because not one year has gone by in 15 yrs. Without something . This last year my dear friend I love so very much was murdered . By her boyfriend . This is all in 3- 4 months cousin was killed on site at the construction company he owned . Hit in head died in his sleep that night. 4 kids and a wife left behind. Then my cousin hung himself with 2 zip ties in the front yard. So yes my brother dying is what cracked the egg. You haven't heard half of it. So I drank I did drugs I became violent and angry and wanted the pain to just stop . Then I went numb. Even worse . I've done a lot of work to get where I am. And I have a lot more work. I haven't met one person who is an addict who hasn't been through trauma . Kid I helped stay clean. And get his life back. Saw his best friend commit suicide in front of him. Shot himself in the head at 14 shortly after he started using . Guy I just talked to yesterday. Him and his two cousins were boxing In backyard. Cousin hit the other cousin . Killed him instantly. Both survivors started using. I hope I answered your question . I may have rambled lol I just want people to understand . Addiction and suicide come from a place of pain and wanting it to stop. I don't think most people want to die . They just want the pain to end . And sometimes thats the only option they can see. Also they have no hope. And unfortunately you can't give somebody hope .
Just sit there to contemplate it all after you come back because you're gonna see such
crazy and radical things in these trips. That when you come back you're gonna be like what the fuck was that? And you're gonna spend a week just in the shower, what the fuck was that? Cooking your food, what the fuck was that? Driving to work, what the fuck was that? Sitting at work doing your work, what the fuck was that? Thinking that. Trying to wrap your mind around it. Try to remember and trying to figure it out and that's a very valuable process.
Would you please make a video encapsulating Hegel's ideas?
Eric Dodson, any chance you could do a review on Thomas Ligotti's "The Conspiracy Against the Human Race"?
21:40 5&6 are my goto's
If you see this, can you tell me how to get past this block?
The psychology of the mirror..... Please 🙏 please please!!!
Someone could watch these videos and save themselves a fortune from going to a shrink
8:00 I see you
Have you published books? You should write these videos into a book. Topics/Videos could be their own chapters. Get in touch with a publisher and you'll have a respectable self-help best seller. Just come up with a catchy title.
No, I haven't. Every now and then I think that maybe I could do something like that. And maybe someday I will... who knows? In any case, thanks for the idea, as well as for taking the time to watch & comment. Eric D.
Yes. He could either publish a collection of essays as it or, weave it all into a theme, if he could find one.
Can you upload these as podcasts on iTunes?
Well, I don't know what that entails, so I'm not sure... Maybe??? Do you think that it would make this content appreciably more accessible to people who would benefit from it? In any case, I'll keep that possibility in mind, and maybe I'll do it, if I get the feeling like it's worth the effort... Anyhow, thanks for the idea. Eric D.
@@ericdodson2644 Yes I think it would make this content more accessible for those of us who would benefit from it! I work long boring shifts at a warehouse, and having these videos in podcast form would, at least for me, make the day more productive as the monotonous nature of my job puts me in a catatonic trance. Nothing like encouraging words about facing the absurd to motivate one during the trivial periods of the day.
11:30 nope 11:35 yes
12:15 thank you and yes
Estoy preparando mis cosas para ir a trabajar.
Esta bien. Y estoy por hacer ejercisios. Asi es la vida. Enrique D.
Truth and the Mandelbrot set .. lol
15:51 you caught me
Or is it a self deception I'm giving myself?
i feel like am watching older Elijah Wood.
God is a madman who sits on the shore, morphs into a waterfall, and flys off into the sunset without a care in the world.
16:32 So I should do it?
The grammatical mistake is not a mistake!
20:00 so are we digging or we climbing back up?
21:15 same pinch
Around 12 minutes this becomes an advertisement for some cult.
when he says "we" he means all of you not me -(him) . (or me) lol
But what if you made this video to deceive us, cuz I find your thoughts agreeable, too agreeable till this video.... Why? Is this, could this be deception? Can you take a moment to look a this video from a 3rd perspective removing the perspective of yours and mine? Can you tell me what you found out by doing or thinking about this? Please??