She Got Pregnant With Her Cousin's Baby
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ก.ย. 2024
- In today's episode of Unfiltered Stories, we have the honor of hearing Adrionna Lewis courageously share her personal journey with us. At the tender age of 12, Adrionna faced an unimaginable situation that no child should ever have to endure. She found herself pregnant as a result of the profound betrayal and violation of trust by a family member. Adrionna's story sheds light on the deep and lasting impact of childhood trauma.
Through her strength and resilience, Adrionna bravely shares the challenges she faced during this difficult period of her life. She emphasizes the importance of creating a safe and supportive environment for children to speak openly about their experiences without fear or shame. As Adrionna focuses on her own healing and mental well-being, her story serves as a powerful reminder of the transformative power of breaking the silence and seeking support. Join us as we listen with compassion and respect to Adrionna's unfiltered account of her journey towards healing and empowerment.
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Definitely have a story.
I have a story
I have a very deep story 😢
At some point I wonder if she had any bad feelings. When this boy kept calling her into the room. Called. Intuition 😮
Trust NO ONE with your child, not even family. Trauma is irreversible.
Right
That's why I keep a close eye on mine
I AGREE I'm 62 and it still cuts deep and it happened as a child. Then at 14, he tried raping me and my mom did NOTHING which allowed him to actually rape other family members as an adult even his own daughter. It was her brother and she was still trying to protect him as an adult by telling me we don't talk about that. I finally told her no you don't talk about it but I will talk about it as much as I want because it happened to me.
Family is the worst!
I’m almost 40, have no kids and my little sister doesn’t even fully trust me with her kids. Now I WILL say, outside of their dad-she trusts me MORE than ANYONE else & I’m also the ONLY ‘babysitter’ her kids have ever had. I
No i don’t blame her for being so cautious! Not that Ive ever harmed her kids or would ever-it’s just that, she LOVES her babies with EVERY ounce of her being and I absolutely adore that❤.
She’s NEVER said she doesn’t trust me, but that’s my little sister so I know her very well
As a child o didn't understand not sleeping over not being with cousins on weekend sleep overs no church retreat no summer camp now I know why. I appreciate my parents. protection protection ❤❤
Yep my Mom was the same way with me and my sisters. And I was the same way with my girls.
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You what was so funny ( not funny haha , but ahh moment )about that . My mom was the same way . We were allowed to go anywhere. She protected us the world but couldn’t protect us from my dad .
Amen !!!❤❤❤❤
Me to now I understand thanks again the protection ❤
Omg I went to middle school with her! She was always funny and nice. I had no idea she was going through this. So glad to see she is doing better now!
Wow see we never know what someone else has been through
facts!@@alaneofmyown
She's holding on to that pain, I'm a victim too, you push it down, but it never goes away 😢
Wow
You remember her being pregnant in school at 12!
I had my son in 95 when I was 17... there was an 11 yo new mom who also had a baby boy... I thought she was child's sibling...then she said no she's the mom ..she was under police and CPS protection and would be going to foster care with her baby... I still think about them and hope they're safe, loved, and happy
I was molested by my older brother also had a baby by him gave her up for adoption age 12, but by the grace of God I went on to have a family, love and grace
I appreciate ur sharing ur story and strength through hell!!
So, so sorry to hear.. Glad you are in a better place. I don't know if I could give up my kid tho. I wish you peace.
@@ingridsmith-allen1827she was 12.
Thank you for giving this baby up fir adoption and I'm sorry for your trauma
Did he go to jail
As a survivor of molestation as I child..why do we as “survivors” still feel the obligation of not telling the names of the people that violated us? Why do we still “cover them”? When we were the ones that was WRONGED? It’s obvious they didn’t care about us🤷🏽♀️
In my opinion it's hard to let the name roll out of my mouth and to know that someone who is to love you and turn around and hurt in the most horrible way in my case my mom knew that it was happening she would tell me if I didn't act bad that he would stop it so I withdraw and wouldn't talk and so I would start to stuttering
Unfortunately, the grooming process is so complete that we just cover for them...Until one day we in ourselves are strong and mentally mature enough to say to ourselves. "NO this was not right" and we seek help. The grooming process is so ingrained in us that we fear the consequences.
For me it was my abuser telling me he would kill my dog and my cat if I told anyone. They know which buttons to push as they observe everything about you (he knew how much I loved my pets). When you are 11 yrs old and an older teenager tells you this you believe them.
My abuser was not a relative but the oldest son of my Mother's best friend. My parents and his parents went out one night to a wedding and he was babysitting his younger brother & I.
I was fortunate in that it was only one time so I did not become pregnant, but I could have as at 11 I was menstrating and had a regular cycle. Knowing what I know now he had been grooming me from the time I was 9 or 10 yrs old.
Probably don’t want anyone to harm them
I am so sorry to hear that. I’m praying for you and your complete healing. You did not deserve that from anyone.
Personally for me through counseling, the best name I have for my abuser is "ole dude " or that one guy. I'm 38 and still feel disgusting and @ fault for being molested by my ex pastor/CULT LEADER. He vetted me @ 12 and his taste was pre teens. Not to young but DEF not at the 17_18 mark(too old for him) and no matter how many sessions I have...its a DAILY affirmation to say"Sheena you're NOT there anymore. So all that to say...I truly NEVER want to say or hear his name EVER again.
Trust no one with your child and im glad you are doing everything to protect your daughter. Demons are real. 🙏
Facts 💯💯⭐⭐⭐😮😢😢
I think that is a tad paranoid.
@@nancyfarkas3592
It is not paranoid.
It is the truth.
Amen to that!
I have boys and I was very careful with them even with family so sorry you went through this😢😢😢😢😢😢 I watched my children and everybody wasn't allowed to be around them
I'm so sorry you went through that!! I was molested as a 5/6 yr old child by my neighbor Shawn Morgan of Stanfield, Oregon . My stepdad, Tom Pratt was also abusive. We are survivors!!!! You've got this!! Don't allow your cousin to take your shine away!!
Thank you for including the names. Sorry that that happened to you love.
I'm sorry that happened to you.
@@tyheildes6210 they've never been held accountable! My stepdad tried to kill my mom in front of me and my sisters as well. I don't know where to find Shawn Morgan. I'm guessing he was about 15 or 16 when he molested me.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. The world that we live in is so broken 🥺 I pray you’re ok ❤️
Omg I’m from Portland Oregon 😢
Kids can be predators too and I’m thankful my mom taught me what to look out for when I was a kid. I encountered a lot of situations that could have went south if I wasn’t aware. Always trust your gut.
Teenager not a child.
@@nanisteiner9260 sadly kids can be predators. Obviously the kid didn’t know better, but that doesn’t mean what they do to other kids is okay.
@@Blessed_Soundstop calling him a kid he was not a kid he was a teenager and he knew what he was doing was wrong.
@@dmg.2443 Maby it’s best to keep your self out of peoples business because I wasn’t specifically talking about the person in the video. I was speaking about kids in general.
My experiences as a child taught me not to trust children! You dnt know what they are thinking & you don’t no what they’ve seen or how they’ve been raised!!!
Same thing happened to my older sister. People have to consider their own kids before taking kids in. My mom says that she was so concerned with protecting us from men that she never considered kids. I’m like “duh”! Any kid that’s been exposed can be a sexual abuser. For that reason my kids went nowhere snd no one came over.
That Part ❤
Ive been done with my kids fathers after 22 years and it's been 5 grs and I will not have a man over my home 1 I have a adult son that lives at home and a 17 yr old daughter and a 26 yr old daughter who moved out im nit putting them at risk simple im so proud of this lady speaking up more need to be awear
That’s too much you can’t keep your children has prisoners. Protect them and keep it in the Lords hands 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@TonamiBriley-e4v they’re grown now. My sons a nursing student and my daughter will graduate soon. They get it and are thankful. They have friends who suffered abuse and understand why I was that way.
@@Claire76genxI agree. My mom protected me and my sister in this way as well. Literally no dudes came over. I appreciate her for doing that.
I have kids, & I NEVER leave my kids with other kids unsupervised. That includes (cousins, friends kids, neighbors) NOBODY❗️
I literally just said the same thing!
Yea seemed like she was left with Grandma…who didn’t do her job either.
Me neither
Me neither no matter who child it is
Yessss 👏🏽👏🏽. I wish more parents were alert to this. I really don’t think adults see danger with children when it pertains to them being predators.
Nobody was watching....nobody observed, or picked up that anything was wrong. It makes me sad, and angry that this woman's life was regarded this way.
I wish her love, light, peace, and healing.❤
I just dont understand how NoOne noticed anything. Im so close to my daughters that I feel like I wouldve seen or felt something. We don't let them out of our sight like that! Parents Please PAY CLOSE ATTENTION to your kids! Stop letting any and everyone around them!
@@mrsyellowhawk5 They did notice. I remember a time when they came to the door and he was pulling the bed in front of the door. They were weird!! And to add another twist... My grandma was best friends with the molesters mother! He had a job working with the public and he got caught doing something inappropriate and got fired!! He also had a niece that lived in the home and I bet he did the same thing to her and she didn't tell either. That's how they think they got away with something very sinister, but God knows! And my mom was definitely doing her own thing and I do blame her somewhat but I don't hold a grudge against her. I'm 57 years old and it wouldn't do me any good.🤷🏽♀️
Yea especially since the grandma told the mom of the first incident and even her being pregnant idk how they didn’t dig into it.
The grandma knew! When she saw them together... she should have whooped some as*!! Then call the police!!
What’s odd is she said that one time her grandma felt weird about them being in the living room together when she caught them and told her mother but I’m guessing that the mother didn’t listen? Because it was some years later she got pregnant. So sad. 😢
I was touched a lot as a child, but no one was there to protect me. When I became a Mother, I watched my children like a hawk. I'm 46, and my Babies have never been touched. They will never ever know the pain I experienced. I'm so Thankful I saved them from those type of Demons. Her story is so hard to hear, my Prayers to her. 🙏🏾❤
Thank you for protecting your babies.. That means a lot to me because I never understood why so many adults were just negligent about protecting their babies or even willfully letting them endure abuse.. I appreciate you so much ❤️💯
@copperamerindian3373 I'm a mother, and I was doing what a parent is supposed to do🥰
And being touched opens the door to a lot of madness if you not strong or disciplined enough.
Me too I went through it as well I have 2 kids and I’m so Protective over them
The adults around you, they new. Especially your parents.
Her mom started naming family members to find out who the father was because her family always known especially after her grandmother caught him with her, they failed her. They did nothing out of guilt and shame because it would be a reflection of how they were negligent. Before you ask me how do I know? I know this because I was sexually abused by a cousin and my family knew and they failed me too. You know the signs and you intuitively know you’re in a family that’s won’t help you which is why you go silent through the abuse. I was very vocal about my abuse early on and my family still did nothing. Praying for her and her daughter. May that have a peaceful and beautiful life filled with love, happiness and blessings.
How do u learn to leave the family that allowed this to happen to u.
God bless you
What angers me is these predators and freaks get to live their best lives like nothing happened . They usually have a family of their own and seem like they have it going on
Yup… they’re always protected.
Yes they do
Judgement is set there's no way around it everyone got to stand before God it's appointed for mab to die after that the judgment
Exactly!
I'm just blown away by these BLIND adults! They didn't recognize any changes. C'mon. This is awful. This similar situation happened in my family before I was born and for the life of me, I can't understand how. 🤬
They're not blind 🦯🦮, they're in denial.
Is it a black thing? Theyre good at denial and the self pitying accusations
Its not easy to see what is happening when the parents are under pressure when distracted managing a large family and home. Why be suspicious of family members if they appear polite . In this world its hard to trust a family member no matter the relationship alone with your child. Sexual abuse is mainly commited by family members .
As soon as the grandmother told the mother about what she saw, the cousin should have been removed from the household. The mother should have then asked the daughter what happened and reported him to the police/DCF. He is a child sexual predator. Parents are supposed to protect their children and be INVOLVED. SMH.
@@bigdaddyfellowshI don't think they're in denial, they are just black male worshippers and they don't put a stop to it, they let black men and boys behave as the please, you heard her say that she felt like she waa blamed
There’s now a law in some states that allow victims of sexual assault to COME FORWARD no matter how LONG THE CRIME OCCURRED!!!!
Do you know if any southern states are in it?
@@bippityboppityboo2u one second let me go check
What law is that? My brother was molested when he was a kid by another kid
Fl is one
@@4RealTalk1989what about when they are not left alone? And it still happens??!! That's what happened to my 4 year old son. I caught his 10 year old cousin trying to put his dick in my son's butt while my son was playing on a game of his and I SCREAMED SO LOUD that the little demon ran into the bathroom to call his dyke mother. Everyone was home too. I just so happen to catch this brat doing this to my son and from that day forth ....I stopped my son from playing with him and ALL OF THE ADULTS WERE HOME...the kids played in a different area (so u assume they are playing with each other). My son is now 14 years old.
She was failed by every adult in her life. I hope things are better for her ❤
Absolutely everyone! As a mother my child could never be going through and i dont see it 😢.
Facts
I know. And then her mom had the nerve to show an upset reaction over her grades. Where was this reaction when he first started messing with her. So sad
Messed up priorities. Care more about grades than her daughter's well-being.
My husband doesnt understand why i never was comfortable with blended families in one house hold. Aunts, cousins, uncles, everybody needs their own crib period....
I was molested by my older cousin as well and never said anything until I became an adult it sticks with you it's something you never really get over
Me and my sisters were molested and we still hold this secret amongst each other…. I still get angry and depressed about the fact that noone noticed, noone asked.. noone saw the changes. I look back at pictures in kindergarten and see pain in a child, black undereye bags and all but since we were physically abused growing up as well I guess noone paid attention to anything wrong with us. But hell is real and waits for those abusers.
You need to talk to someone about it and stop holding it in
Cry aloud and spare not. Don't keep this secret. Keep talking about it. Pray about it, fast about it. Recover your soul. You can get through this for real.I know it because I'm a living testimony. I was molested as a kid.
Your not alone this was me as well. & I felt the same way I was showing ppl my pain but no one noticed they just cancelled me out as the crazy angry child smh.
Who were your molested by? Say that persons name! Release it. Go to counseling and talk about it. Please don’t hold it in.
@@Youreapwhatyousow17Speak your truth OUT LOUD. Say that persons name outloud and say what they did to you! Tell the world what they did to you! We are no longer protecting predators
. 11 years old. Good God, that is so little. Had a miscarriage at 13? All alone, thats very painful. Im sorry this was happening to you. This is horrifying. Parents wake tf up! Wake up.
TRUE❤
Unfortunately, cases like this parents would put the guy first before their own children. Smh 🤦♀️
Right
EXaclty! How can such a young girl even endure such a thing . And parents need to be hyper- vigilant ! Pay attention to your daughters bodies and their menstrual cycles
It’s not always about parents waking up, this can happen to ppl who believe they are aware, you’d be surprised how these pedos can convince you that their heaven sent and you only realize after the damage has been done that they’re straight from hell.
This is exactly why as parents, we have to ensure that our kids can communicate anything with us and know that we will not blame them. But these molesters are manipulative liars who might threaten them so constant supervision is necessary.
True and besides worrying about being blamed , I learned also we need to assure them that we will protect them without retaliating in a violent way.. I was afraid to tell my parents not because of the blame, but because I was afraid my father and uncles would end up in jail if I told them.. I was always close to my dad like white on rice and was afraid to tell him because I didn’t want to lose my favorite person in the whole world to jail..
@@copperamerindian050 I'm sorry that you had to endure so much evil as a child. If I could hug you and take away all of your pain I would. I hope that you are getting help to deal with everything. Chronic PTSD and anxiety is awful to live with. ❤️
@@natasham5550 it’s okay.. I really didn’t have a bad childhood at all.. I’ve only dealt with 2 attempts of being violated and that’s all.. but other than that I’m okay, not broken or traumatized.. I was just adding that not all children fear being blamed, they also fear the unknown results of what would happen if they do speak up.. Thank you for you concern and supportive words..
I’m sorry but it sounds like her parents didn’t pay too much attention to her. I can’t imagine not knowing my 11 year old missed her period.
I hate how oblivious the adults were.. Breaks my heart that if any of the adults had just talked to her, tried to listen without intimidation, or be more aware could have saved her the trauma.. Hope she's able live a beautiful life
Never leave older boys or men around children alone for extended periods of time.
these boys need to be taught day one ,respect for others especially women periodt.
no one should live in fear of these pedophile and their families keeping secrets.
It be females grooming too. Probably not that often but it happens. 😞
Sadly, women do the same. She was 22, we were 4
@shamf9672 It happens just as much with them. And usually when little boys are the victims they never tell or are very old when they do smh
@bippityboppityboo5963 It doesn't happen NEARLY as much as it does with men. The politically correct answers need to stop l. We're talking about REALITY. The VAST MAJORITY of people like this are MALES. That's like saying "there are female serial kil**ers, grapists, and mass sh**ters too". Knowing that it's so rare that it's negligible in comparison.
My heart breaks for Adrionna and anyone else who has gone through trauma like this! God Bless her and help her in her life.
Absolutely heartbreaking
Yeah it is 😢
Soooo your grandmother walked in on it and still no one did anything? 😮 I really hate to hear this so sorry you went through this. I understand first hand how family will turn a blind eye. I suffer from anxiety, PTSD, and depression. So sorry you went through this. 🙏🏽
I understood it as: The grandmother walked in the living room but they weren't doing anything at that moment, they may have just finished but grandma was like yall should be in bed and sent them to bed.
Praying for her strength to tell her story 🙏🏽
@@speakmymind247Her grandma told her parents of her suspicions and yet they didn’t do anything.
@@stacyr4768 exactly and for years they knew something wasn’t right because when her mom asked her who was the father and she started naming men’s around her she said his name so the mom knew that he could have been the father, like someone said in the comments her family failed her……
Family will turn their back. I charged my cousins son for my daughter. She was four. I had so many conversations with my daughters 😩. I was confused. I pressed charges and im not sure what happened because my mother side blamed me. They say my daughter was lieing to this day. The police had enough evidence to charge.
@@Newscrews10 Hope the pervert in jail
This is sooo sad to hear. How do you not know that this is going on with your child right in your home? N when her grades changed suddenly like that, when she kept getting suspended, and her demeanor had to change? This is heartbreaking that her cousin was able to do this and no one protected her until she became a mom. He deserved way more jail time!!!
May GOD bless and keep her n her daughter.
To add to the sleepover comment, I plan on not having my children sleep over at friends homes etc and visa versa because of situations like this. I don't want my child to get pregnant at such a young age. I don't want my son or daughter to be groomed by an older child or adult when they are underage. Once they turn 18, it is their choice to date an adult of any age.
This is probably why a lot of people don't know who their father's are.😢😢😢😢😢
Praying for the little girl she going needs support.
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How little attention do you pay to your child that you not even notice she’s 9 months pregnant. My God.
Right, like you don't even hug your child? SAD
Exactly
I’m 5 months pregnant and this is why I will be OVER protective of my baby girl. I don’t trust NOBODY! family, friends, and the list goes on! Nope
Yes don't trust nobody even family or long time friends it makes no difference u don't really ever no anybody
Good luck
good luck, & i mean that genuinely. i have two girls under 3 that i have never once in their lives left alone with someone else. it’s hard, never having time alone or being able to do things for myself, but in the world today it literally feels like the only option
That’s right! Do everything within your power to protect your daughter. EVERYTHING. Congratulations and wishing you and your family the best! 🎉🎀
Thats sad that you trust nobody.
Thank you for sharing your story. No woman should go through pregnancy alone and no child should be robbed of their childhood. We NEED to protect our babies man. This happens more than we think .
Oprah winfrey said it most poignantly😮 and real in "The Color Purple".."A girl child ain't safe in a house full of men!" That resonated with me to my soul..cuz I remembered as a child.👪.I was always dodging my cousins and neighborhood males🏃♀️🤺..I really stopped wanting to visit any of them..only to discover that the heathens🥵 made "house👺 calls!"😮😅
How awful that no adult in her life recognized anything going on at all! She got pregnant and miscarried, the pregnant and carried to term and it was a surprise for all of them. I don’t care how chubby she may have been, how do you not see that!
I don't understand that at all. As a parent you should know something was off and different and that is neglect on the mother!!!
I got pregnant at 17 and didn't tell my mom and she didn't know because I hid it well. I told her when I was 8 months and she said she had a clue but because I kept denying it she kinda believed me, she even took me to the hospital but I outsmarted her and took my friend's urine 🤦🏽♀️ I was about 3months when she tool me in, she was super upset when I finally told her but my son is now 18yrs old graduated with honors and now an entrepreneur, smart and very respectful 🙏🏽 but the crazy part is my mom have never been a grandmother to him but he turned out fine with me and his dad side of the family, to God be the glory 🤗
@@kisha1UPRight 👍🏾 my husband said he DK his sister was pregnant cause she was heavy set and didn't tell nobody.. .I mean every and anything is possible 🤷🏾♀️
Grandma knew! The aunt on the dad side knew, & they said she was lying! They prob told grandma to mind her business
This story is awful! I was molested by numerous cousins, but never told anyone. I felt horrible and disgusting! I now have PTSD from this and OCD, I take 3/4 showers a day, my therapist said my OCD came from being molested 😢 and feeling dirty.
I wish she would've pursued more action against him.
Thank you for sharing. I'm so so sorry this happened to you.
I'm sorry you went through that
Exactly!
I felt the same way but didn't know why for years. I carried it in secret for many years. I was molested by an uncle, a female teacher, also by an older cousin's husband. I detach from my body just to survive the shame and guilt i carried for "allowing" this to happened to me. More so the teacher and cousin's husband situation. When i got older, i did finally get my day in court with my cousin's husband because he molested his own daughter. That's a crazy long story for another time. Talking to my aunt as an adult about what happened to me and what happened to cousins in my family. I was mind blown at the fact that the adults around us didn't know was going on. And the fact that they knew that there were perverts in my family but didn't do anything about it. I feel like they knew what was going on and just looked the other way. I know for a fact that there were adults( parents) in my family who failed their children when they were informed about what happened to their own children. And i hold some resentment towards them. It's also my blowning to me that the parents dnt understand something like this could damage their relationship with their's adult children. I couldn't imagine telling my father what happened to me and him not believing me or doing something about it. Im very big on talking to your kids about sex at a young age. And talking to kids about being touch. Im also big on not teaching your kids to keep secrets( no matter how small). Because it's a bad learned lesson that can harm your children in the long run. What happened to me is probably one of the biggest reasons why i decided not to have kids.
There is help for ocd I have it nit due to sexal abuse but definitely trauma based I did cbt treapy abd it helped alot hope u get help u can recover
I was sexually assaulted when I was 11 years old back in 1998. I told my mother and she made the mistake of not telling her best friend. The man was 46 at the time and his wife was my mother’s best friend. I never said anything for years because I was afraid of not being believed, fear or retaliation, and nothing happening. Now that I’m 36 years old and have three sons and two daughters. My daughters are the age I was when I was sexually assaulted. I don’t want the cycle to repeat itself. Therefore, I opened my mouth and told his wife.
What happened after that?
What happened?
His wife stayed with him and I never spoken to them ever again. It’s been 25 years since it happened. I had to see at her for a while to heal from that trauma. I still have nightmares. Sometimes I’ll watch my children sleep just to make sure they’re okay
@@kaiaballobey4239 I hope you heal and the nightmares go away ❤️
She didn’t make a mistake, that man should have been reported to the police. She left a predictor who violated her baby walk free.
The ultimate act of betrayal. Someone takes you in and you abuse their daughter. You are a survivor, not a victim, may God continue to bless you on your journey to healing.
It’s no excuse but sadly he was probably molested too.
I WILL NEVER APOLOGIZE for PROTECTING my babies. I will NEVER apologize for being to cautious over them. Shit being called over protective is a compliment to me because it means im doing my job as mama. I hope this woman heals. And to other victims reading this i wish you love and healing as well.
I want EVERYONE to listen to me when I say “Parental Supervision” amongst adolescents is extremely important!
Hormones run rampant during preteen and teen years and it’s not something to take lightly. Dads and uncles need to have a sit down with their sons and nephews on WHAT NOT TO DO WHEN THEY GET THE URGE!
Amen on that!
Good points!!
Thank you!
And with their daughters and nieces too. I remember those days and it was a hot mess
also, sadly, an abused child MAY (not always but sometimes) end up assaulting another child. so it can spread from an adult to a child to another child in a home. i believe that’s what causes abuse that runs through many generations. people just pass it down. so sad and scary.
I hear more and more people mention their older male cousins molesting them. Keep these sexually curious young men away from your children, especially your daughters. This is so sad.😢
This is so true! But please watch out for little boys too. It happens to them, and they seldom tell.
So sorry to hear this 😢
My uncle was molested as a child by his cousin and he became one of the first in the community who got Aids. There wasn’t resources like it is today since the 80 & 90s. So my childhood was watching him suffer n die slowly. My mom never let us spend the night and I understand why.❤
The first time I knew the concept of AIDS was prolly in '89 or '90, when I was 13 or 14. Reading about Ryan White as well
So sorry about your uncle. I am so glad there are people who can live longer now.
So sorry this is sad
Wow. So sad :(
Wow
I was molested too by my mom's ex boyfriend from 6-10 and it has completely changed me as a mother.. I watch my kids so close and I don't want anyone to be around them that are men thats not their dad.. please watch your children.. child molestation is something that stays with you your whole life.. love and light to you all ❤
Watch the real dad to
And I even women too, lots of crazy things happening
Father's do it to their children as well trust no one
I was never abused in any way but I'm appalled how prevalent this is. I truly hope that some part of her knows how brave and strong she is and proud of what she's accomplished in spite of the terrible acts she endured and the clueless adults that didn't protect her from a member of her own family. ❤
Well, bless you for that, and may your children never be touched .
The stats are 1/3 but it’s looking more like 1/2
Me either I never experience that but I know plenty of people have and I also appalled when people for tell there story sending much prayer too her & family🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Terrible 😢
It was statutory rape
Molestation
& incest 😢😢😢😢 im sorry 😞 u went through that
You are so right, how did he not get charged with incest…??? That’s crazy.
It's not statutory, she didn't consent 😠
@@Nita_100right
It is statutory because she was under age and could not give consent.
@@theromeprimussr5760 it's not statutory because she was forced & so young no way she could consent.
I partially blame this woman's parents.
It appears that her parents never consistently talked to her about molestation, rape, and predatory grooming.
It is the parents responsibility to give their children pertinent information about life and to properly supervise their children.
The mom dead so blame the father
@@cheetarraalford1468her Mom was alive. She literally said her "Mom" several times.
The fact that no one knew she was pregnant is very telling
Yup
So we have to take our child's innocence in order for them to survive in this horror filled world.
Her mom knew what happened! Why would her mother even think of naming family members! She knew!
Exactly that’s what I said. She knew! In most cases, the parents/ guardians are aware they just turn the blind eye.
So her grandmother, mother nor aunt noticed she was pregnant 😤 ? What were they doing during this time?
Right! Since she had a highschool sweet heart you would think momma named dropped him and other boys at school but she immediately went to the family members
My thoughts exactly!!!
But she said her grandmother told her mother about the situation with them in the living room so maybe that’s why the mother mentioned his name
Her testimony may have just saved someone's life. Sending prayers and love.
As an educator who experienced molestation and rape as a child and an adult I thank you for sharing your story. This is the reason I have been teaching the way I have for over 20 years. This is the reason I never let my daughter be watched by anyone other than a few trusted people. I barely rusted anyone, women or men. I did not put anything past anyone. Never any sleepovers, especially with friends that had either brothers or dads no sitting on laps. Don’t take gifts, if anyone offers let me know. What kind of touch was appropriate, etc. not being men home and leave around her. All dates were outside the home. I kept a very watchful eye over her. The irony of you entering the field of education does not surprise me. As I you want to be the soundboard for little girls like you. This happens all too often and gets swept under the rug as family secrets. The life trauma of family secrets is not only physical but mental. I’m so glad at the time of this video you are in a positive space and did not allow your violator to steal your soul. Your story will help millions.
Honey it doesn't matter how long you been with a person you still need to watch your boyfriend around your daughter...Trust no one
Exactly I'm not sure why she trust him
Never trust a MALE around your daughter!
Right very weird......doesn't make sense
Sons to for that matter no child is safe
You will have a baby. Go to your doctor now and don't just THINK. You did nothing wrong, and you are amazing. Dude is not winning; he is gross and he will get his due. Heal your womb by forgiving yourself for NOTHING. You did nothing wrong. You were a victim. Someone in that house should have protected you. I believe you said weight issues? That can contribute to low fertility and also heal. Also stop the pattern of not seeking help for your gynl issues. Work with a doctor and speak life. Take vitamins, eat healthy and a baby will come. You are more than this situation. You are a VICTOR.
Beautifully said😢
Amen
Amen in Jesus name!!🙏🏾😢💛
@@meganswartz7212 ty 🩵
@@risaisrael4516 🩵
I’m retired military, I also have PTSD, depression, anxiety… I know our trauma comes from different places in life, but the end result is just the same. You could have been explaining my own life when you said how you react the things with unnecessary intensity, your impulsivity, etc. I also can’t do therapy. I just don’t feel comfortable, and maybe that’s something coming out of the black community where we “keep problems at home and don’t announce them to the world.” I’m not sure. I just want to say, I hear you. I really “hear you.” And opening up like you just did- wow. You are so mich stronger than me, a real inspiration. God is going to use what was meant for evil for his glory. Watch and see. You and your daughter are going to do amazing things in life, I just know it. May God continue to bless you every day (and tell your Man to get off his butt and put a ring on it! Y’all don’t have to spend a ton of money to get married. You don’t even to invite anyone else or even tell them if you don’t want. But you deserve a strong, God-fearing man to stand beside you and your daughter. If this guy isn’t it, then let him go so you can find the one who is. Xoxo, lots of love from an internet stranger ❤)
Hello my fellow retiree. We both suffer from the same incurable illnesses. I also have physical injuries. I say incurable illnesses because they will never go away , but they can go into remission. It will become reoccurring. It just feels good when it is in remission. I hope you are getting your care from the VA or Civilian PCM. I really hope that you can eventually find someone to talk with. I really enjoy my therapist. I don’t always talk about my trauma. Anyway, I retired 2008, at Fort Sill OK. Wishing Love, Peace and Happiness.
I’m retired AF and also have PTSD that just won’t go away
Watching this triggered me in a way I didn’t expect. I had a cousin, my mother’s brothers son who used to try to get me alone often any time we’d visit. He’d start showing me inappropriate videos of porn and get close to me but I never thought anything of it. One day he asked his father if he could spend the night with us. My mother agreed. He started acting much more aggressive in my home compared to his, maybe because his father wasn’t around. He touched me inappropriately that night and I waited until the next morning to tell my mother. She immediately told him to get dressed because he was going on and he never stepped foot into my home and we stopped going to his house. I love his father because he’s such a sweet man and has always been a loving uncle and my cousin has a lot of issues due to the way he grew up so I excused his behavior. But listening to this made me realize had I not opened my mouth and my mother believed me that situation could of been way worse.
The fact that nobody noticed is scary..not even the physical pregnancy just the change in you..from honor roll to bad grades , from funny & joyful to being around to fighting , always being sick, nobody paid attention or noticed the signs ..The adults around you failed you miserably
As some who grew up in a house with cousins of different ages I can relate to the grooming.
me too why do they do this it’s insane
This sounds so terrifying.
@@amethyste684Many times it happened to them…and/or they are just sick
Same. It's a vicious cycle becythey more than likely were touched too
@@amethyste684because the older family members. Friends and neighbors did the same to them
Damn... How horrific. 😢
I see why my grandma always got me out of the room with my boy cousins and made me sleep with her😢I’m so sorry
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Adrianna, you are an inspiration to other women! Wow!
I had a baby when I was 15 too. I was molested by my step-dad prior to it. I made terrible choices out of my fear of him being my first sexual experience so I agreed to give up my virginity to a 19 year old when I was 11. Then I dated a guy who was 24 when I was 14 and got pregnant before my 15th bday.
I raised my baby until she was almost 2 when I feel I lost my mind. I tried to end my life, was unsuccessful and my mom ended up adopting my baby.
It was heartbreaking. But I now share 3 amazing grandchildren with my mom and they make it all worthwhile. I pray you have the positive experience I’ve ended up having.
It wasn’t easy, but I’m 47 now and my abuser just died. I am going through some ptsd like issues cus it made it all come back. Oh yes, I should mention that as much as I love my mom, she didn’t believe me that my stepdad abused me and raised my baby girl with him which scared me half to death but I chose to risk family having her over total strangers.
My daughter and I are very close.
And she says he never abused her. I think it’s because he got sick and had to quit drinking (thank GOD!!!).
I don’t hate him. I am angry that I didn’t get my death bed confession.
It hurts that my mom can’t see anything bad about him. He was the bitchiest, crankiest, most demanding man I’ve ever met, so I don’t get it. I pity her for thinking how he treated her was ok.
Your daughter is a gift. You deserve this gift after the childhood you had. She may have bad days throughout her childhood and you’ll see him in her at times, but that’s your ptsd. That’s not her fault.
I believe she will help you heal from the shit experience you had. Give her a big hug and let her hug you and give you the love you need to heal.
Hugs girl! You’re a survivor, not by choice, but you’re doing it girl!!!
Males = PREDATORS
THATS WHY I DONT HAVE ANY LIVING WITH ME.
wait, you let your baby live in the same house as that man that sexually abused you? wtf
Where was your mom and grandmother and seem like a lot of grown-ups failed you. Why you didn't tell on your cousin before you got pregnant the second time.
My heart aches for your experience..."A girl child ain't safe in a family of men, but I ain't never thought I'd have to fight in my own house!…" God Bless you..
Facts
I really believe they knew what was going on. Because as she stated before they thought auntie was lying about the things he was doing. So that would have been in the back of my head from the start. And then you got to ask yourself what was allowed to happen to him under the care of his mother. Because I've learned that hurt people hurt people.
Not all hurt people hurt people. Most of hurt people who experienced trauma turn to be soo humble
I don't understand either. It's just so sick...
The mom asked who is the father and started naming relatives.. she knew something
Not all hurt people hurt people. I was molested by an older female cousin from the age of 5-10 and then I was raped at 12 and violently gang raped by my then boyfriend at the time and five of his friends at 17 and I could never imagine doing the things that were done to me to others. It’s all about what the hurt people choose to do with the cards they were dealt.
@@artisthusnatalal3099exceptions don't change rules.
Always trust your kids when/if they’re uncomfortable. Or, they say that they’ve been touched❗️
This is such an important, important thing that all parents should be aware of. Please listen to your children when they're uncomfortable around someone. There's something going on there.
Been my experience too , family will side with the abuser. Then they wonder why we dont speak up!!😢
AND wonder why you not thriving as a child/adult...all the while knowing why. Evil. I'm still tryna forgive, with God is the only way cause......smh❤🙏🏾
You were raped and not molested! I pray that you’re able to heal.
If your boyfriend knows about your past why would he think it’s a good idea to have male family members spend the night with you having a daughter and the way you feel with men around her.
The adults were ignoring this you can't tell me they weren't. This makes my blood boil and I'm so sorry she had to go through this. 🤬🤬🤬🤬
The mother had to know something, imagine your daughter ends up pregnant are you going to start naming family members, even if they lived with you? Only if you were seeing things that didn’t look right when they were around.
exactly!! she knew just didn’t want to face the truth. And ultimately her daughter suffered
She’s so beautiful and I’m sorry that happened to you! I’m glad you’re doing really well you and your daughter.
Isn't she a doll babe Bless you and your Child I do understand,and I'm older older now.❤I still think about it sometimes I wonder if that's y in my 20 30s I was mean and wild asf !!towards men""but I'm not a Dike nor lesbo""""but if a man said or touch me in a certain way it triggers""and I pull my razor out it's a reaction "but now I'm fine,.or am I....
How did the grandma walk in on it and not do anything
Don't leave your daughter around your boyfriend either, you never know. Don't trust anyone.
My mother had a best friend that she would let "watch" me. Her brother would take me in his room and do things to me and I couldn't have been any older than 4. He would pull his bed in front of the door! They knew!! I later found out that he molested my Aunt. He has no legs now to stand on! Literally!!🙎🏽♀️ Now I wish I could pardon my French...Kick his weird ass! Secrets and lies are never good to hold on to. I told my mom later on and she was devastated but it doesn't stop there!🤦🏽♀️ Please be careful who you expose your loved ones to.😞
My brother put my dresser in front of the door and molested me. I thought I was dreaming I pinch myself and I was able to get up and I tried to open my door and it made a loud bang noise because he put the dresser slightly in front of my door, I pushed the heavy dresser and I ran into the bathroom I told my cousin and my grandma and my grandma said I was dreaming and I was like no I pinched myself I wasn’t dreaming!!! She said well all he has to say is that you are a nasty girl and nobody would believe you. Years later I found out by my auntie that he admitted it to my grandma the day it happened, but for years I was made to believe it happened because of me, I was 13 he was 20 or older. He told me sorry years later.
There's so much abuse and violation going on in the Black community that is covered up with that keep it in the family nonsense. One of my mom's friends had a situation with her grandson molesting his own sister. No one believed her until he tried to molest their cousin and she was like hell no! She told her mother what was happening and from that point all hell broke loose. He was arrested and sentenced for ten years I believe. It caused a huge divide in the family but it had to be done. Imagine if he had gotten his own sister pregnant... My heart is with everyone who has suffered this pain.
Not the black community alone all over
That’s the part that annoys me. The division that comes or the one that told gets ostracised. The person did a crime & is being punished . Support the victim!!!!!
Abuse to black little girls! Often time black males are protected
Yh by MALES the usual suspects !
this!!
Lord watch over my daughter in the name of JESUS!!! I have 1 daughter and My mom had THREE! She never let us stay over I didn’t understand! I don’t let my daughter stay over anyone’s house .. But im forced to do time sharing with her dad.. and I do not know the full circumstances around the sleeping arrangements.. I just ask that God protects my daughter ! I teach her bad touch from good touch!
It's not being sneaky it's being sick.
How the hell... NOT Only do you have sex with an 11 year old kid, but your own cousin?
HE'S SICK!!😡
I am truly sorry that you went through this as a child. I can't even imagine how frightened you were. You have good spirits regardless of what you've been through. God bless you with peace 🕊️ and a happy full life.
DOES YOUR DAUGHTER KNOW WHO HER FATHER IS?
AND HOW DID YOU EXPLAIN THAT FOR HER TO UNDERSTAND?😢
My heart breaks for her. What the hell is going on with the mother? She is not supervising her daughter and keeping her and the other children safe. Keep in mind the victim said her cousin was removed from the other relative's house because something happened. The grandmother also sensed something was up. This is terrible 😢😪😔
YOU SAID EVERYTHING IM THINKING… IM A MOTHER OF FOUR AINT NO WAY IN HELL!!!!🤬
Wow really, noway in hell huh ?! She said the were a close family. No one thinks a family member let alone a cousin would be that evil. Are you at school with your children? How about church ? How about when they are at grandmas for holidays? How about when they get older and go outside to play with the neighborhood children? I pray you get the point. You cant and wont be attached to your children at the hip at all hours of everyday. I pray your child/ children never have to experience what we have as children. My story is the complete opposite of this warrior's. I hope your glass house is unbreakable.
@@Tyme_flies We need to be vigilant and educate our children about sexual abuse. Sounds like no one is really observing what is going on in the home. 2 pregnancies raises a red flag to me, and the Department of Social Services would have removed the children. That's what I'm saying 😪🌸
Nope… MY SONS COULDNT DO SLEEP OVERS UNTIL 17YRARS OLD… NO GRANDMOTHER HOUSE… NO UNCLE HOUSE…NO OTHERS HOUSES PERIOD… NO AFTER SCHOOL PROGRAM… MY MOTHER WAS A VICTIM OF INCEST… SO NO ONE KEPT THEM BUT ME…
That’s black parenting for you……
He should’ve been charged 100% . Save the next child.
You are such a brave beautiful young woman! I'm so proud of you for telling your story! It's not your fault, your cousin is a sexual predator and there's a good chance that you weren't his 1st or last victim. I'm also glad you were able to get a job you enjoy and that you have a supportive partner and lovely daughter. I wish you all the best! 💯❣️
Yes, she wasn't his first and surely not the last. She allowed him to continue doing that when he got out and she decide not to press further charges. She allowed him to go on to the next victim. But... :(
Thank you for being transparent and continue to protect your child. I’m that parent who stands unapologetically firmly by “I don’t do sleep overs” I was molested by my brother and unfortunately family are the ones u have to watch…
Thank You for Your honesty. I am a fellow Survivor. 💔🙏🏽❤️🩹🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
This is so sad. My boyfriend was molested by his older girl cousin. Alot of people don't realized that most of the time. The predators are your own family members. I feel so bad for anyone that has endured this kind of trauma in their lives🙏😔
I was a victim of child molestation by my biological father from the earliest i remember is 3 until i was 12 years old. I told my mom when i was 25. I went through a lot mentally as a child. I thank God for being there for me and for bringing my step dad in my life because he helped me out with getting over a lot of this. I went to therapy 3x at different stages in my life. I thank God that I'm at a point where i can talk about it and it doesn't have a negative effect on me like it used to.
Wishing you all the best that life has in store for you.
I’m so sorry
You are so brave and strong’ -- you are loved
What did your mom say when you told her?
@@sunkissed6413 she apologized but I told her it was not her fault. She didn't know. I remember she suspected things when I was little. He was dead 2 years by the time I told her.
My Mom NEVER let us spend the night over anyone's house except my grandma, but then come to find out my uncle was a creep and use to come look under the covers at night with a little flashlight. He got severely beat up for it once it was found out.
Did anyone report it to the police?
@user-do1qf8rm7b nope, he just got beat up real bad. I don't know what's wrong with families not getting police involved. After that we were just not to be around him anymore.
It's these males that make reality dangerous
@@LedePat Female family members do sick ish like this too. You gotta be aware of everyone who go’s in and out of your home, who lives in your home, etc cuz you never know what’s really going on in someone’s head.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809False it mostly men !
The worse part about being violated, is being afraid to tell, but once you gain enough bravery to speak up, NOT ONE ADULT RUNS TO YOUR RESCUE, because of “ embarrassment to the family”. Yes, being violated is just as bad, but if no one intervenes, the predator keeps preying. If that predator is young, ignoring the situation won’t help him/her either.
This beautiful brave woman was once a precious little girl who didn’t ask to be taken advantage of. Sharing her story will help others. I wish her the best. Protect your babies.
That’s why I’ve never been ashamed of embarrassing my family
I don’t blame you. Stop the cycle girl.
Violated my ass, she knew what the hell she wanted and they both was willing, you people always try to make believe that the girls are innocent when they both knew right from wrong. She was damn 12 she knew what she was doing.
@nadia- who says she DIDNT know what was happening? No one. But she was groomed as a younger child, which is where the VIOLATION started. And yes, girls are innocent as children when it comes to an act that they are not maturely ready for. Rather they WANTED IT OR NOT. Maybe your fass ass liked sitting on your uncles laps or being touched by older cousins or family friends, but most victims don’t. Most are scared and confused.
I have my own story about a cousin & my own father. Ur very brave I u inspire me. There’s so much I’d love to say but even after all these years… mental health, addiction & now I’m an OVER PROTECTIVE Mamaw. Thank U for saying what so many of us have NOT! Maybe 1 day, with a safe place as this? Ur a very strong lady… Thanks Again.
Adrionna's story reminds me of what happened to Aretha Franklin when she was a young girl and also what happened to that 10yr old girl last year in Ohio who had to cross state lines into Indiana to have her abortion.
This is so sad at 12 I was still playing with baby dolls and collecting Lisa Frank 💩 hell I did not start my period until I was almost 15. Alot of children are exposed to things other children are not. Aways know where your children go! Go up in the parents house make sure you know those people for a long time before you let your kids' stay the night and for the love of God STOP putting men above your children I am so sorry this happened to you....
Never blame yourself for not telling anyone. Blame the mom and dad.... There is no excuse of parents not teaching their children to go to them.
That's not quite fair. Some parents do teach their children to come to them about any and everything but for whatever reason the child still doesn't. Sometimes the kid doesn't want to "disappoint" their parent even tho, especially in this case, the victim did nothing wrong.
You can’t say that many parents don’t teach that to their children because many children are taught but still afraid to speak up.. I remember being taught but still protecting myself against 2 ppl as a child and being afraid to tell my parents because I was afraid my dad would react and go to jail.. My dad was always my best person in my life and I was afraid of losing him to jail and possible deportation if I told him.. And from hearing other children’s experiences I learned many other children were taught but also had their own fears of speaking up also..
Facts
@@copperamerindian050 Provide facts that "many" parents teach their children to come to them. Then, we can continue this discussion.
@@shanna853 I never presented that argument.. Maybe you need to read again 🤷🏽♀️ Presenting a fallacy doesn’t substantiate your argument or mines
Always believe your child concerning these types of issues. Not believing is pathetic. Why would a kid make this stuff up.
I’m so sorry to every woman who has experienced abuse in the comments . You all are here for a purpose!!! Your strong !!!!! And blessed despite . I love you all
Why did mom start to name family members?? Even after she said it was a boy from school who got her pregnant 🤔🤔
I didn’t want to feel bad but i have a lot of questions!!! I don’t play about thing like this !!!
Survivors of any form of abuse, especially S.A., are amazing people. I could only begin to try and imagine the strength it takes to ENDURE S.A. for an extended time, all of the changes you go through as a result, the healing process- Sheesh! The whole gamut! Godspeed, much fortune, light and TRUE love to and for you ALL. You're ALL FIERCE IRON CLAD WARRIORS and CHAMPIONS.❤
No child should go through this. As a parent myself I talk about this stuff with my children. I let them know that’s they can speak up to anyone who tries to and what things to watch out for plus I am always there for them to tell because if they don’t tell me how can I protect them from anything further. It’s truly heartbreaking to hear these kind of stories because no child deserves this to happen to them and no parent who is aware or even thinks it’s a possibility should turn a blind eye. All parents should do their uttermost to protect them from these predators.
And this is why my daughter is not allowed to sleep at anyone’s house or none of my sons friends can sleep over AND ABSOLUTELY NO CLOSED DOORS IN MY HOUSE
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry about what happened to you. It wasn’t your fault & you didn’t do anything wrong. I’m sorry but your family failed you at the time. You were a baby. I can’t imagine going through a pregnancy/miscarriage all alone at 11. When your grandmother caught the predator on you the first time it should have been dealt with. ❤
So sorry you had to go through those terrible experiences so young and so alone. Hope and pray you continue to heal. I think you’re right to be overprotective of your daughter because it’s better safe than sorry. Many blessings to you and your family.♥️
I hope your family has not let the cousin back around anyone in the family!
Makes me mad when parents/guardians are so clueless
So sad ... my mother always told us that if anybody touched us in private places or asked us to touch them...don't do it and tell her and my Dad , 🙏🏾get some therapy you are very broken 🤦🏽♀️
I don't care what nobody say.... if I get pregnant by a rape... that child is not living a DAY OF LIFE