3:30 i struggled with that for the better half of the last year. trying to let go of a toxic and abusive relationship, feeling vindictive and vitriolic about how everything happened.
hope you’re not beating yourself up over things man, because its so much more than what appears on paper. You’re on your own journey rn, and what I’m about to write is so hard to explain but ima do my best here. From my own experience I see you’ve reached a state of mind that you don’t enjoy being in; that’s the first step. Google, Reddit, every platform makes it sound so easy to just ignore/forget/get over but Rome wasn’t built in a day; people don’t change overnight either. These type of thing require a long gradual change, which sucks but that’s how you keep it sustainable. To get back to that first step though, in your mind you’ve turned on a light switch, which isn’t much right now but we’re doing things gradually so it’s fine, you know that you do not like giving your mind’s attention to your ex. You know best what that does to you, how it affects your day to day and ruins overall mood; all that jazz. Side note here, I hate people imposing how “well here’s what worked for me, so it should do it for you!” But I’m doing this because I see you in a position I found myself to be in; all I hope is that by sharing my clarity to you, maybe you get one or two more bricks to build your Rome. Going back, you prob understand the repercussions of shit and while easiest thing to say is “stop thinking about it” is on the same level of going up to somebody and saying “don’t think of an elephant” the more you go through with that the harder shit gonna be. But, hey, you know what it’s like going through those motions. Do it deliberately. Knowingly go through the rounds your mind will take in that mourning process. Understand it best you can, I want to say that’s the mind digesting it. Long time friend and I had to separate for each other’s health. Everything we shared, cared about, being aware of any of it just stung; every time knowing that we had cut those ties. “Ignore it ignore it ignore it” felt like the best solution; wasn’t sustainable at all when everything came back at once. I got help though, lot of insightful stuff from Dr. K, but I’m sure most of mental health based content out there all get to the same idea eventually; it’s just how long until it clicks for you. A whole humanity’s worth of experience to realize it’s just knowing our own processes to digesting what emotions our minds want to make for us. The mind and our selves are not the same, but knowing how my mind needs to go through certain things makes that easier. If emotions are tenants within my mind palace, it’s knowing what needs to be done to have them check out sooner; knowing what the emotions need to leave feeling content. It doesn’t get easier, you just go through the process faster. Time helps, and I hope from one internet stranger to another that this was helpful; if not that’s fine too as this also is a part in helping me understand myself.
your brain has to process it bro........ took me like 3 years to feel DONE. i felt better when i realized that no matter what i did, that person would have STILL done whatever they wanted to do.... its not about you or a shortcoming. people who are for you will stay, if they give you stress or bad feelings,,,, there just not for you..... dont compromize your sanity for some booty bro.
The gameplay in the background is just there so it's not an empty video. This is a talk channel that happens to have gaming going on in the background.
I needed this reminder thank you friend. Much love to you brother
I’m glad the video helped you. Much love to you too my friend 🩵
Hope you doing well. Keep doing what you doing!!!
Holy yap (good vid btw)
3:30 i struggled with that for the better half of the last year. trying to let go of a toxic and abusive relationship, feeling vindictive and vitriolic about how everything happened.
time to stop giving my therapist attention
LMAOOO I mean if your therapist isn’t good then maybe 😭😭
hope you’re not beating yourself up over things man, because its so much more than what appears on paper.
You’re on your own journey rn, and what I’m about to write is so hard to explain but ima do my best here.
From my own experience I see you’ve reached a state of mind that you don’t enjoy being in; that’s the first step.
Google, Reddit, every platform makes it sound so easy to just ignore/forget/get over but Rome wasn’t built in a day; people don’t change overnight either. These type of thing require a long gradual change, which sucks but that’s how you keep it sustainable.
To get back to that first step though, in your mind you’ve turned on a light switch, which isn’t much right now but we’re doing things gradually so it’s fine, you know that you do not like giving your mind’s attention to your ex. You know best what that does to you, how it affects your day to day and ruins overall mood; all that jazz.
Side note here, I hate people imposing how “well here’s what worked for me, so it should do it for you!” But I’m doing this because I see you in a position I found myself to be in; all I hope is that by sharing my clarity to you, maybe you get one or two more bricks to build your Rome.
Going back, you prob understand the repercussions of shit and while easiest thing to say is “stop thinking about it” is on the same level of going up to somebody and saying “don’t think of an elephant” the more you go through with that the harder shit gonna be.
But, hey, you know what it’s like going through those motions. Do it deliberately. Knowingly go through the rounds your mind will take in that mourning process. Understand it best you can, I want to say that’s the mind digesting it.
Long time friend and I had to separate for each other’s health. Everything we shared, cared about, being aware of any of it just stung; every time knowing that we had cut those ties. “Ignore it ignore it ignore it” felt like the best solution; wasn’t sustainable at all when everything came back at once.
I got help though, lot of insightful stuff from Dr. K, but I’m sure most of mental health based content out there all get to the same idea eventually; it’s just how long until it clicks for you. A whole humanity’s worth of experience to realize it’s just knowing our own processes to digesting what emotions our minds want to make for us.
The mind and our selves are not the same, but knowing how my mind needs to go through certain things makes that easier. If emotions are tenants within my mind palace, it’s knowing what needs to be done to have them check out sooner; knowing what the emotions need to leave feeling content.
It doesn’t get easier, you just go through the process faster.
Time helps, and I hope from one internet stranger to another that this was helpful; if not that’s fine too as this also is a part in helping me understand myself.
it's why i stopped playing lol after arcane. I don't want garbage to take my attention, no matter how much i loved the ip before hand
Hiding in the shadows. Hiding from who you truly are! You can't escape yourself!
Very well said
your brain has to process it bro........ took me like 3 years to feel DONE. i felt better when i realized that no matter what i did, that person would have STILL done whatever they wanted to do.... its not about you or a shortcoming. people who are for you will stay, if they give you stress or bad feelings,,,, there just not for you..... dont compromize your sanity for some booty bro.
Word!
what is this video about? when r you gonna start talking about marvel rivals
The gameplay in the background is just there so it's not an empty video. This is a talk channel that happens to have gaming going on in the background.
I'm giving attention to your mom. :v
(Nice vid ngl.)
eww hela. (awesome vid but hela kills me a lot)