When He Ignores You DO THIS | Feminine Energy Tools w/ Adrienne Everheart
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- What are you to do when a man ignores you? Do this using my FEMM Tools.
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Always be willing to walk away in any relationship, that’s how you maintain your power.
Rebecca Riesinger: even when they block ur #, he's done with u & doesn't want to know u anymore right, I guess?
100%
That's what I was forced to do.
Ok I know I’m not the only one who IMMEDIATELY goes to listen to the gospel of Adrienne Everheart to catch myself when I get wine wasted & feel like I’m about to spiral 🤣
I"m doing it now. Best of luck on your journey.
hahahha love me some AE❤️ and some 🍷
😂😂😂
When he ignores you do this:🤸🤸♀️🤸♀️ LEAVE.
It never feels good to be ignored!
Ignore the heck out of him. Mirror his behavior
Y u p
If u abandon me. Prepare to be abandoned as well. lol
I discovered you last year right when i almost gave up on love 🙈
Two days ago my sweet man told me about how happy he is to finally be in a healthy and happy relationship. He was a stranger last year, now is my fiance 😁😅
Thank you Adrienne! Love you so so very much im encouraging my girl friends to watch your TH-cam videos.
Keep up the good work! 🥰 ❤️❤️
That’s wonderful! Congrats I’m at the point of giving up but sigh.. will have to find that belief that not every guy lies.
I suggest New Man Manifesto to learn more. bit.ly/newmanmanifesto
Exactly what happened to me!!
This video really opened up my eyes. I never thought of me googling and trying to solve a problem as masculine energy but that makes so much sense now.
Yess same
"Give it a Viking funeral." That's hilarious.
It does feel good to send a Viking funeral gif to someone when you walk away. Can recommend.
@@vmr_6543 Please don't send me a Viking funeral gif.
So tired of dealing with angry men. It’s exhausting.
Sooo I just wanted to update ya! Okay so after ten years being single not knowing wth I was doing I found my hero Adrienne lol I listened to her, got a few of her programs, really did the homework like actually wrote stuff down and cried lol and soon after I met a man and used her techniques to give him a chance etc. And omg. I’ve never been in a relationship like this. It is weird at first getting used to being vulnerable but it gets easier. We have almost been together for a year now and our love is stronger than it’s ever been. I love how you mention empathy because my man is pretty sensitive and I need to work on having empathy SO BAD. But he does everything for me and LIKES TO DO IT. He said he has never felt this way. He said he has never cared for a woman so much and with examples from his life, I believe it. I feel so beloved and taken care of. I need lots of Adrienne to remember to stay in my feminine. Everything vía nature and nurture just wants me in my masculine for some reason?! Anyway Adrienne you’re the best. My tubes are tied but if he and I ever have a kid I’m naming it Adrienne. That would truly work for a boy or a girl anyway lol
3 ways a man can ignore you:
1. The non-texter (he doesn't respond to your text)
2. The Stone-Waller (he shuts down and get quiet)
3. The dodger (He has a short-term memory, He forgets conversations, get dodges conversations or makes a joke about important matters, e.g. marriage, sex, responsibility)
When a person ignores you,they basically stop all conversation. (Stone walling). It might be a form of "freezing".
so wtf do you do??????!!!
@@carissacarisma9668 walk away - very easy.
So many men who think they have options ignore & do not care about doing it. Dating has changed.
When iam in the stone waller...what i have to do...(i do a lot healing meditation)
Ugh ,the dodger my fav one 😅
From the bottom of my heart thanks for this.. I had never realised this before and you explained so well. I held back and just said how I feel instead of pushing solutions or demands. Letting him lead and he asked me for a new date to start again. Amazing progress in one day x
Stonewalling is flight. Going away for a while. Gottman says they need to say they need time out but must come back and communicate. Maturity.
Aw! We love you Adrienne! I hope all of your “health stuff” is okay and sorted out and that your time of reflection is refreshing and productive.
I love your work Adriane! You make the world better place ❤️
Thank you Adrienne! I always sigh in relief when I listen and I feel like I value myself more. Take care💕🌺🌸
Thank you, you are a blessing.. I love supporting 👍 you as this community you have built truly supports so many! ❤ much gratitude!
You saved my evening Adrienne💖 I feel filled with feminine energy after watching your video
Again perfect timing
I love your ABCs not only to bring the man back but more to get yourself back! I plan on going through the program again! I think it’s a good way to stay on the right track 😉
Yes, it is about getting back to YOU. Unfortunately that title would probably never pique anyone’s attention 🤷🏻♀️ but I do try to let women know that the ABCs reinvents YOU. Learn how to GET the man you love BACK 👉🏼bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
I had a thought about you! So glad you went live today. 🙌🏽 💞
Your masculine energy voice is so funny. It really raises my spirits in hard times. Because that’s exactly how I feel when I’m in masculine energy
You are the best!💓 i ve healed so much since your last advice, i appreciate your work!
I love the info that you give! Thank you!
You are the absolute Best coach. I wish you posted More frequently because you give me so much peace and your advice is amazing. Thank you so much, Adrienne. This video was spot on, as always.
Back in for a visit. This was so perfect for me to hear. Love you!
Love Your hair color !
ABC program works for me. I sincerely thank you for designing this wonderful program. My man and I are together again coz of it. Thanks so much!🤗🥰🧡💜❤️
You're so good and gifted in what you do and teach. You make women realise their worth, their value and the examples and techniques you give explain it all perfectly. The timing of this video is just what I needed to hear. I'm in a situation where my man I was casually seeing suddenly disappeared on me end of last week for no reason meaning he's not texting back, and although I know he will come back round again when he's ready as he's done so before. I am trying to be okay with it but it's not ok when they disappear for more than a week. I'm just angry because I can't allow it, they will just walk all over you if you accept crappy treatment and know if you'll put up with it.
You do not want to be ok with abandonment. Disappearing on a committed relationship is not how a healthy functioning relationship grows and repairs.
I love this, Thank you for the validation of my thoughts. Life gets confusing
Thank you so much for this. It helped me so much today. x
Adrienne you're the best coach!
You’re very kind! Much love! ❤️
Thank you Adrienne. Happy New Year 2023 ❤ I discovered you a few months back while watching a video you did with Helena Hart. I was so in my masculine at first I didn't understand what you were about. But NOW, I am addicted to your approach and your method. Your energy is welcoming and soothing. You inspire me to really become the best version of myself. I am sending you blessings and my prayers that any health issues are resolved and you find the answers you are looking for going forward. Lots of light ☀️ from 🇨🇦
TH-cam recommended this video to me and wow. I’ve learned so much! All of my past encounters make sense now lol Thank you so much for this! new sub😍✨💕
Great advice…. Trust the universe!
Love your work Adrienne
I would love more on how to balance energy - I do the masculine to masculine thing sometimes and I end up attracting the fem man ...
This is a very huge advice and i learned alot about this.❤❤❤❤❤
♥ you Adrienne. Thanks as always for the wonderful advice. I need a refresher, I'll be back to go through all of your programs again that I did last fall. ♥ I love what you said "The brain doesn't solve emotional problems". I think my biggest issue is the urgency to resolve conflict. That urgency turns into anxiety and then intolerable distress. I need to work on that because it's very true, I become the chaser and it's degrading to me. I'm doing it less and less, but those times when it happens, I really regret it. Doing nothing sometimes results in long spans of time where there is no communication (we live together). He digs in his heels and will never make the first move. I usually end up breaking the ice and I'm trying so hard to shift that. It's tough. Hope you're having a most wonderful Sunday! ♥ Sorry I missed this live!!!
Don’t fix this for him. Stay warm but allow him room to fix it.
@@AdrienneEverheart Thanks ♥♥♥
Watching from near Rochester, NY...
I have learned so much from you...💗
Thank you Adrienne ☀️
Adrienne! I felt so happy to see a new video from you! I Clicked right away. It’s so soothing to hear your voice
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@@AdrienneEverheart I do. I got 500, abc, femm dating. They were all so wonderful and he did come back. I learned and grew so much I am now on another level so I no longer wanted to be with him. Now, I’m in a healthy relationship with a quality man who is incredibly loving.
I started dating after a month of finding you. Found the high value man one month after I put up my profile. 😊 thank you Adrienne!
You’re doing great!! Keep up the good work! 🥰
Feeling the same 😻
Thank you so much Adrienne ..... !
❤️❤️
Love Your hair! Love Your videos ! I’m Trying to not give up lol.
Omg new content!!!
Heyyy, there she is! Nice to see you. ❤
I discovered you yesterday and I am CHANGED 💕 thank you
Happy to have you here!
It works! Thank you!
Love your hair color!
Love your hair change!
tbh was enjoying the trippy rainbow look at the beginning 😻😹😻
Yes willing to walk away who's ignoring you.
You're Amazing - Thank you 🌷💚
Missed you Adrienne! Love the message as always
lovely lady you are so sweet & feminine energy is amazing.. love your video & the rad effects.. but also wanted to say love your manifestation energy theory too.. lots of love & goodness from melbourne australia.. x
Adrienne, when will your next live be? I always miss them! 😭💕
Seriously? At this point I almost feel them pulling away as a good thing. If you don’t react to them temporarily disappearing, then they’ll realize your worth, fix it and chase you more.
How long until they reach out if they suddenly dissaprar
Great content. ❤ thanks
This is too funny and right on!
Glad you’re back, Adrienne and hope you’re feeling better. I’ve been following you since 2018. One of the most important things I’ve learned from you is that you can almost always turn an angry trigger into something positive
Ps: I believe Rick Springfield is a very feminine man. (Long story)
I’d love to hear more about Rick! ❤️❤️ So happy to have you here with me.
Any idea which video you might have gotten her advice about turning a trigger to a positive
Hi Laken,
I think it’s from some of Adrienne’s early videos. However, I found it helpful to hear the same message a few times throughout her video series, because twisting something negative into a positive is muscle you need to grow. You feel so much inner peace when it becomes a habit.
It’s okay to feel absolutely irritated 😤 with something someone said, but then you need to work on the trigger. Why did it annoy you? How did it make you feel? Then you need to flip it into how you want to feel or what you want. Then you can politely make a request. I guarantee people will listen and men love and respect it!
Don’t ignore things that irritate you. Work through each trigger ❤️
@@MsActor2009 Thank you 😊 🙏
You’re welcome ☺️
Adrienne, I like the way Rick Springfield has aged. Yes, he is older, but he hasn’t taken the old fart road.
He uses a lot of “sexiness” to woo women, which is a very feminine characteristic and typical of artists.
He feels his feelings. Great in the beginning, but then he becomes a bit of a victim, then a big cry baby. It feels a little bit off putting.
I love the rainbow, you look pretty and it's so pretty ❤️
Great video
Thanks Adrienne 🙏♥️
Greetings from Morocco 🇲🇦
😂 I really like you Adrienne! Thank you!
Sooo helpful ty
You’re so sweet!!! ❤️
Thumbs up!
Very helpful ! I’m getting to know someone who is under a lot of stress and it’s been a challenge but I have to keep thinking about me not about him and his problems ….
I enjoyed this video. I do believe men go try life changes because they do age worse than us women and also in most cases do need to take meds to help them be intimate. I think this issue has caused them to have these behaviors of not feeling they’re still men on their own doing. This in itself can cause him to be self conscious about himself and thinking he cannot perform and that causes a wedge.
I liked the app. Made you look magical!✨
Hi Adrienne
In case you see this,,I'm sure I probably have mention this before but again hoping to hear more about how to flirt and be playful with a man with words in texting or even In person, rather your Just getting to know the person or have known them for awhile, either way love to learn And hear more about it from you since I like watching your videos,and since I hear so many coaches talk bring that up ,but no one ever talks about how or give good examples,
some of us are not that good at it so just some good examples would feel great., and glad you are back hoping to see and learn more from you and your video's..
See my video on how to have a great first date. I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
Your voice is so soothing and your material is always exactly what I need to feel better (which is what we’re always striving for) 😉
I appreciate you so much!
You’re so welcome. 👉🏼Please be sure you subscribe bit.ly/everheartYT
The rainbows and movements gave me acid flashback 🤣 🌈 🙈
So full of sweetness and charm. ❤
Men trapped in their languishing ways, lazy hazy energy is such a turn off.
How to inspire a man to want to take the reigns and be in his masculine energy ?
How to motivate a man in a loving supportive way while maintaining your relationship and getting your needs met? Be aware of how your FEELing, stay in our feminine energy. I want him to meet me in the middle, to reciprocate mutual effort. When they shut down they under give and you under receive.
How to stay in our feminine energy when we shift into our masculine and operate from our thinking logical side?
My heart needs to stop catching feelings.......
I love your content Adrienne!! Im in my mid twenties and come from divorced parents. When it came to dating, never knew how much imbalance I had in my life, or why relationships kept ending. Your content has kept me on a path toward being a more empowered woman and setting goals and boundaries!! I am now happy and dating an amazing guy for one year. Thank you thank you thank you!!
Yay!! Keep up the good work! 🥰 Learn all you need to here: I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
Hey Adrienne, thank you for this video! It was awesome. I'm not sure whether you're still responding to questions, but here goes: How do you know when you're showing enough empathy or when it's taking it too far, ie. empathy at the expense of yourself? My guy is really close with his family (it's part of his culture), and he visits them for several hours at least once a week, or even two or three times a week. I've never stood in his way of doing this and am supportive. I get along great with his family. However, visiting his family that much is way too much for me personally, so I only go when I'm willing and able to time-wise and energy-wise, which is only every second or third week. He gets pouty when I don't go and acts as if his feelings are hurt. What's the best way to handle a a guy who does this?
When you are married you can discuss this more with him. But here’s a script: I feel so lucky to have a man who is so loyal to family. I am looking forward to building a family with you one day, and getting to know them better as well.” “I’m honored you want to include me, I love time with you, and sometimes parents too, but once a month feels good to me, more than that and I feel out of balance.”
@@AdrienneEverheart that's totally awesome, Adrienne, thank you! I suppose I have to get comfortable with stating my feelings and leaving it at that. It's so tempting to want to people please :( but I am getting better at this.
I recently told a guy that backed away, and then came back around that I really want to be in a Loving Exclusive Relationship!
It sparked feelings again, and I'm realizing more, and more he might not be able to have an intimate loving relationship!
Thank You...
Hugs to you! Please check out FEMM Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
Brilliant, Colleen! The words “want to” are super powerful and activate a man’s masculinity for some reason.
It takes a lot of energy to go deep down into your feelings (feminine) and decided what you “want”and men can feel it and trust it!
I like what Adrienne has taught me about flipping the switch. You flip it from don’t want to want!
@@AdrienneEverheart Yes, Will Do~
Love Femm Tools...
So Grateful for the work you do to help Women with this Content! Its helped me so much, and I have Faith I will meet a Genuine, Loving Man to walk into the Sunset With...💕💓 🌅
@@MsActor2009
Yes, I'm so Grateful to be learning these Amazing Tools for Dating and do want to stay true to what I really want! I know one thing for sure is I Don't want to be just an Option and would much rather be a Priority, and in a Exclusive Loving Relationship! Not easy, yet something I must let him know with the way he is, and where he is at!
Can I tell man I’m dating that I want him back I mean he have contact but I want him back like he was a month ago sweet and showing feeling saying he miss me when he was away…not he won’t say nothing..I want him back other wise I don’t want it at all,you think I can tell him this?
Mine is overseas, travel banned. We've waited 18 months. He shuts down. I shut down because it's easier than being emotional all the time. The longest we've shut down is a week, and we've been carrying on for nearly 4 yrs. The pandemic is the wedge. Thank you.
Hugs to you! Do you feel happy with this relationship, as it is? Or are you 'in love with his potential' or what could be? I encourage you to connect to NOW/ present time, not in the future and keep your options open. bit.ly/femmtools
@@AdrienneEverheart No. I am not happy with the relationship as it is. How could I be? He is in Cape Town, S. Africa, and I'm in NYC. We were so excited he was flying here on Jan. 29th. We talked for weeks about all we would do together, and then a travel ban went into effect Jan. 30th, so the flight was cancelled. The 3rd cancellation since last year, due to the pandemic. We were devastated.
I'm a young 72 -- but don't have the luxury of time. He's an old 49. He opened up my life in so many ways. We talk hours on the phone, sometimes all day and night, and never run out of things to talk about. We spent one week together in person, after 2 yrs of near daily contact online (we met in a FB film group). We were both shy in person, but got along great; no awkward silences. He's been thru 3 lockdowns, his dog and cat both died, his mother is ill. I must consider these grievances when expecting him to text or call just because I want him to. I always keep my options open, have been alone since the 80s. My choice. Men in NYC are either gay, married or have major issues (booze, drugs). I tried dating sites and nearly got sexually assaulted. I used to model and am still attractive. Much younger guys hit on me all the time. I'm not loose like that.
I just happened upon someone who became my heart, and I his, and the world goes to shit. Thank you though.
I suggest Femm Tools for Dating bit.ly/femmtools
When he ignores you call the other 5
Or…. Lean back focus on you and let the other men dial you up. 🥰
Adrienne i started watching this video dropped down into my body, and my ex just texted me🤣🤣
Thank you for this video. I think my guy is a combination of all of the above. We have been dating for 2 years and as of late things have been chaotic. We have both experienced lost that hit home of both ends. With that it had put a lot of stain and pressure on our relationship. I will admit that I have not been in my feminine power, I actually forgot about it lol. But I agree empthy is very important. I need to take a few steps back and let him breathe. I would love a private session with you.
Keep up the good work! 🥰 Go deeper with “500 Ways,” ebook and 2 day video classes. bit.ly/500waysbook
Adrienne, I mistakenly (in between asleep and awake) grabbed my phone the other night and expressed my undying love via AUDIO MESSAGE to one of my dearest guy friends. Even though I was deliriously tired--the message was true, so I left it thinking..."well, what do I have to lose," it's been 3 days, and...no answer. This guy would probably register under emotionally unavailable if I'm being honest with myself. But I'm curious if these techniques work in situations like this as well? Oh...how to redeem this messy mess! Haha!
AMEN!!!!!!
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Thank you, not as yummy. 😋 Get my free ‘scripts men love to hear’ guide 😘 www.everheartcoaching.com/freegift/
Maybe he would propose on the week in Tahiti
My fiancé has been the dodger..
I have been the one who doesn’t open up and talk about how I feel .
I find it difficult as I’ve always been met with anger if I talk to him about my feelings.
How do I work my way through this x
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Feminine energy Queen❤️ Love your videos 😊❤️ My man (we live together and he has always been attentive and loving) has become depressed with a low sexdrive. I am trying to meet the issue with love and understanding, but I feel that it makes me shut down and I take it personal i form of "I am not attractive to him anymore" . How would you deal with this in a Queen-energy-way?
Do you have 500 ways? I have a depression script in there. Also in my ig posts. Loyalty is through good and bad times. Care for yourself foremost.
@@AdrienneEverheart thank you ❤️ Yes, I do have 500 ways and it is AMAZING! Feminine is difficult for me, it is SO much easier to fall into "acting and doing". I appreciated your response so much, makes my heart feel warm, thank you again ❤️
Does this work in situationships ?
Do you think it’s ok to ask the man who’s not good husband material (the dodger) to introduce you to people he may know? I live in a small town and maybe this is a good way to increase the people pool?
Thank you for the video! I've been seeing a man since March but it's purely a friends with benefits situation. No amount of feeling statements have ever worked on this man and he's not very HV but it served my needs at the time and kept me from putting too much energy on the others I was dating. ... But now by some miracle I have found myself pregnant even after taking precautions. Of course he has ghosted me now that he has found out. I dont even know if it's worth trying to to communicate with him now. Now my boy energy is trying to protect me and figure out what to do and its been so hard to get back into my feminine. Anyone have any pointers to help me get back?
My question to you is: Is this really your dream relationship? Have you waiting your whole life for a man who ghosts you when he discovers you are pregnant with his child? You need INSIGHT. This is step one, reclaiming your power through insight. Get the ABCs and go see this video: th-cam.com/video/-Uen7NU2Q24/w-d-xo.html
Thank you so much!
Your about to have the love of your life, congratulations. All that matters is you and your baby. Make a great life for you both.
Put yourself on a pedestal Melinda, enjoy every minute of this :) ❤️❤️❤️
Hmmm. Assuming you didn’t get pregnant on purpose un consciously, the man is going to act like he did before.
If you want him to pay child support he will have to by law. You still won’t have the relationship but a court order for financial support and child visitation. He may choose to pay but not choose to be part of the child’s life.
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What about the guy that messages but is a slow responder. And thats when HE sends the initial message
Games
How long do you give the stone Waller space? We have been married 6 years and he’s stone walking me. Really pulling away he feels cold and distant
I absolutely will not deal with a stonewaller ever again! After 24 years of this I just don't think the effort required with men is worth it at all!
When you walk away. If he messages or calls how much do you engage with him?
Be sure to read the blog and get ABCS Program. You can be warm and engage some but not so much as to give him solace long term. He must miss you and make a date with you. Learn how to GET the man you love BACK 👉🏼bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
Hi Adrienne,
I am devastated because my husband of just over a year has just informed me that he has decided he does not want to have children with me. I am 38 years old, he is 62. Prior to our marriage he was excited about having kids with me and talked about it all the time, even telling me that " the truest test of whether you are with the right person is whether you can see yourself having kids with them."
However, we have had a difficult first year of marriage that has been punctuated with fighting, tension and drama over our political, background, and worldview differences, and he now feels that we should not have children. While I understand his reasoning, I am struggling badly with this and feel that a rug has been ripped out from under me. This is a decision that will affect me in a much longer term way that it will him since he is 25 years older than I. He has agreed to see a family therapist to discuss this further but still seems very adamant in his decision. Do you have any tips for me, particularly with regard to staying in control of my emotions and staying in feminine energy through this?
Thank you Adrienne
Herb is selfish for not giving you what he has promised. I bet if you knew he does not want children you would not marry his old ass. Divorce and go after what you want, while you can. He will not make you happy in the long run and you don't need to be his comfortable carer in his old age .
I hear of this often. Men rarely are eager for children at any age. I encourage that you have your boundary and allow him to have his. Your boundary could sound like this, “I am no longer using birth control. I would like to have children.” And let it unfold. Start there. You still get to do what you want to do.
Thank you very much Adrienne. In thinking about your response, may I ask a follow-up question regarding boundaries?
I am not on birth control, and without getting too personal, suffice it to say that the nature of our sexual relationship is such that he is 100% in the driver's seat when it comes to procreation. That being said, would my only other option for a boundary be to let him know that I am contemplating leaving or taking a break? I am in love with and devoted to this man, so it's difficult for me to think of divorce or even separation as an option, but...?
@@nicoleseger5674 ...think about your well being.. if you want family maybe he is not the right person.
If you get pregnant, among rhe possibilities he might acusse you of manipulation and can leave you alone with the child..
If you want a baby, consider this: it is your baby wether he is the father or not.
If you get pregnant of him (or from him.. sorry for my english), the responsability is all yours, because he can take any excuse to leave you alone, you must be prepared for any situation.
In another topic, 25 years between you are too much.. you will end caring for a mummy... and supporting a young adult in 20 years..
I have been there .. not an easy task.
...he is 20 years older than me, and my daughter is 19, he left me alone since pregnant until she became sick with cancer..
Now I'm caring for an old grumpy guy (that blames me for his money becoming short).. and a child in recovery from chemotherapy.
I'm 52, but look and feel 20 years younger.. (just God knows how this last part happened)
Unless he’s had a vasectomy, I’d give it more time. Read my blog on walking away, it’s not just physical. More time. Don’t talk about it for a month. Be sure to get eggs frozen if possible!!!
my husband used not to talk for 10-15 days almost every month from the very start of the wedding. I even stayed at my mom's for 6months. I am at my mom's again for a month and he has not even messaged him. He is after my money since the start and things went uglier day by day.
Unfortunately shutting down due days is not how adult relationships operate. I suggest you read my blog on “why walking away works”. It’s ok to walk away from a person who abandons you. You need not prove anything or fix it.
@@AdrienneEverheart thanks for the reply. It means a lot. I saw ur video and one of the reasons for his behavior is over-pampering from his parents especially his mother.
@@miguelsfoster552 hi thanks for your reply. but who is this person.
But I don't want to b married.
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