@@opinioniloveyou4530 Yes, but it's something about your energy that when you're doing YOU...he has a sense of freedom and then he can "see you". Although some men claim to not chase. It drives them when the attention is not on them and we're doing our thing!! And I'm talking a "healthy man".
I love your point of view and advice. It really resonates with me. There are a lot of very good coaches out there. I’ve consulted with more than one. While I appreciate them all, I feel there’s a need for everyone to find the right fit with coaching. I think I found my niche here. Thank you 🙏
Got it! If you've chosen a man, you have to let go of your pride & need to contol and let him choose you. You have to be indifferent and know whether he chooses you or not that your value hasn't changed. In fact it increases each time you take care of yourself.
This is good; I’m letting go of a man I truly consider a good man; now giving him time to choose me without me having to force him; or compete anymore with the women he’s choosing or has chosen before me. My goal is to be the predominant choice so that I can get his attention; and then he can decide if he can dance with me & then pursue; these men move in stages ; segments of attraction.
For once, I hear someone who doesn’t only advocate walking away from a guy. I understand setting limits, boundaries, self care, and valuing yourself, but I don’t think giving up on someone is not always the best case. I like that you’re different and advocate giving someone changes. Thanks.
I wanted to tell you that I feel less alone when I watch your videos.. I find myself crying and nodding to your anecdotes and words of wisdom! In a previous breakup I watched other youtubers on this topic but I find your way of speaking the most soothing and genuine. Thank you so much ❤
thank you! His problems are not my problems, I think as woman we always wanna be the nuturer and fix things. But I am a goddess on my pedestal. Yes Diamond Girl!
Thank you. I feel like he is emotionally unavailable lately and playing games. But he still text me to ask me how my day is going every day. His behavior has changed, and at first I was understanding because I know that he was grieving and also working very hard. I’m watching his dog while he’s away on business and I don’t feel appreciated. I don’t like to feel breadcrumbs From any man so I may have to start ignoring him until he makes a decision to actually pick up the phone and call me to have a conversation as opposed to sending a measly text message. It hurts, but I have to respect myself first. I don’t feel comfortable with this nasty behavior and poor communication
I'm going through the same things 😔 I've had patience and excused it on work and stress for 3 years. Now I think he's cheating. But he insists he's not.
Loooved when you said “uh uh I drove far away because I wasn’t going to compromise my values, my boundaries. I knew if this isn’t the man God has for me, I’m ready to walk away” ... - God HAS the right one for you! And He wouldn’t want you compromising yourself for anyone. That’s a test and you must pass it!! Trust in the Lord. He wants the best for you.
If you are not in a committed, an exclusive relationship with a man, then why would you spend regular time with him consistently without getting a commitment? You’re putting yourself in a position where you’re investing a lot of time and emotions in to one person without any kind of commitment. That cuts you off from doing the quantum dating that you say we need to do.
Hugs to you, honey! 💕 You will stay Quantum Dating until there is an offer on the table. If you decide to be exclusive with a man, you will need to talk about the terms of conditions of the relationship. Check in every 3 months once you are in a committed relationship and see how things are going. You want to be a wife one day, not getting stuck in the Girlfriend Trap! Learn more here. bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
Just be open is what’s this dating thing is be up front and when you’re out front if he wants to move your mountains he will make it clear to you until he does that spend time with him and others to 🥰
I like the information on dealing with “urgency” - the primal “simply must act or do something right now to fix this” dread that comes over me. Over the last two years I’ve got better at handling this emotion. I’ve learned waiting and seeing and giving into the mystery of life is a more feminine way to live.
I'll address this more Advanced Work in upcoming videos. Ultimately, you want to observe the urge with a calm curiosity, the part of you that wants to take action and find what it is you are thinking, see if you can just w/o good/bad thinking observe it. The thought always leads to the feeling. That part comes next. Your way out of this is your awakening into Feminine Energy in that you are not impulse driven by thoughts (brain/BOY) instead you can drop into your body, find what you feel, track it to a thought(boy) and perchance lean into a more positive way of thinking. EX: I need to call him right now, or he will forget all about me. Notice the thought is 'I may be forgotten, I need to change this.' You then feel anxious and trying to figure out what to say. FLIP IT: I have not forgotten him, so I know he has not forgotten me. I'm aware if he wanted to connect with me he'd reach out and I feel sad he's not reaching out, yet, I've got to trust he knows what is best for him. I have to now do what is best for me. Hmm, what is a better feeling thought for me? I am alone... yet I am healthy, I ate well today, I called two old friends and connected, I walked in the park. If I keep doing things I love certainly a man will find his way to me instead of me doing the work for him, right??? -- In this example you don't reject the part that is wanting to take action but instead sit with it, curiously, and ultimately going into your own body instead of a place of action.
The “I am healthy” bit was an “Adrienne aha moment“ for me! Although slightly overweight, I am very agile in my body and I love to move. Felt better after exercising and working on my health goals!
Had an AHA moment recently...just like a man has a refractory period after sex (which women don’t criticize because it is natural) it is like many men require an emotional refractory time after intimate contact. Learning to look at it as biological and keeps me from taking it personally. I think men can learn to handle emotional contact for longer times but perhaps it takes conditioning where he can trust a woman not to get cranky. Learning to amuse myself and become a more secure, appealing person in my own rite
I never felt like mine has to pull away after any kind of intimacy. I guess I can call myself lucky. In fact he loves to cuddle and talk after it and I seem to be the one who needs more space afterwards.LOL
I read that somewhere. And I understand. But two weeks? After our last conversation after such closeness over 8 months. He was nasty, frustrated, excuses about work and ranting blaming me because I was worried And yet, it sounds like he ended it. I'm not sure. I decided to ask today because I don't have time. And I did it with such feminine energy. I have explained my boundaries before. I don't do stonewalling or silent treatments. I do communication. (He doesn't deserve warmth).
I will never forget as soon as I started to care more about me- he texts me and says” are you ignoring me?”” Sorry. But I loved it! I returned with love of course. It’s been good since!!
AMEN SISTA! You tell that man you do not want to marry HIM either if he completely doesn't value YOU. I walked away with a 3 week old newborn cause I was tired of being abused in multiple forms and at the worst time a man could have treated me like shit: while carrying out baby and this was a guy that "came back for me", told me he wanted a life with me and to grow with me then turned into a Monster during the 3rd trimester of my pregnancy. I left him 2 times before birth and then I left him again, for the last time, right after. WE deserved better. My son deserved a dad that treated his mom good.
You poor dear and love to your little one as well. While no one is mood free or behaves as we desire all the time, both partners want to be on the same team. Relationships require us to face our own issues and somehow not take them out on our partners. There is so much learning we do together as a couple. If he is fighting for you, perhaps you can slowly just date again, let it unfold. No instant relationship. See if slowly you two can get warm toward one another. Be sure you have “500 Ways,” bit.ly/500waysbook
Omg girl.. I'm currently going exactly through this. Pregnant, and at first he was like yeah let's live together have a family, everything. Then he just stopped answering for a week, but without blocking me or anything.. I just feel like I'll have my baby alone instead of these mood swings
You have no idea how much i needed someone like you to talk to me rn. You are so personable, I feel like i just chatted with my bestie. I feel like a woman again, instead of this pathetic girl crying over a boy. God Bless you love
I knew these things from your previous videos, but I really needed a reminder. You helped me to focus on myself instead of overthinking and while I was watching this and feeling better he contacted me, apologized for being distant (he was emotionally overwhelmed) and even acted a little bit clingy as if doing his best to make up for it. I let him and enjoyed every second, it was cute and I'm happy to have my man back. Thank you and I'm sending you a lot of love!
I could cry at how sweet it is that he just showed up like that, so romantic that he realized your value & couldn't go on without you. Space is key, you're so right about stepping back to focus on yourself. 🥰🥰🥰
You are simply the best. Hit on everything we need to hear. Women are so emotional and I know as a woman, I tend to make decisions emotionally. This is my problem. I act quickly and sabotage what could have been a long lasting. Ugh. I need to listen to you every day!!! Thank you!! You look beautiful in pink BTW!
Such a comforting words to listen. ❤️🌹 Even if he's going to pull away Forever it's fine because we can't control the Individual especially men. ☀️🧘♥️ We can only control ourselves.
I'm tired of struggling to feel connected to him. What happens if I stop making the effort? I believe it will all fall apart and my love for him will drain away.
“When we’re together we have so much fun and I love being with you but I miss your touch and I miss making each other feel good and I’m curious what do you feel like? “ will need to try this sounds super feminine and I never posed it that way
I really like how she's connected to God and law of attraction on spiritual plane and physical plane and knows what she's saying. 😌🌺 Also she shines like a flower.
Thank you so much for this!!!! The thoughts you talked about - I've had almost every single one of them! Even the words you used, it is verbatim what I've thought. But I felt embarrassed, ashamed of myself, and stupid for having those thoughts. I felt like it was a sign of weakness. I thought if I'm a strong woman then I shouldn't have those thoughts. I didn't even want to admit to myself that I felt that way. Now I feel like it's nothing to be ashamed of. Thank you so much. Also, what you said about my inner girl and what she wants - that is a game changer for me.
I’m a Leo and we don’t like to be ghosted but we like to do the ghosting. We will push to get his attention back to just let him go. We hate rejection and we get petty and gotta get our lick back
Although the guy I was interested in told me we is looking for friends with benefits(which I said no to) I have not dealt with a situation this well in YEARS. I am so grateful for your videos. They have helped me in so many ways. Not just when it comes to talking to men but also in so many areas of my life! From friendships and having fun with my girlfriends or my overall sense of self and confidence. I feel so lucky to be a woman on this earth and am truly connecting and leaning back into my feminine energy. Very grateful for you and your videos! You are an angel!
Adrienne, you are amazing! Every time I listen to you, I receive such great invites about myself! Thank you for sharing all you know! I want you to know Phillip has come back into my life, he is treating me like a high value woman. He apologized for his previous actions and we have made agreements about our relationship. There is still a lot of stress in his life but he is managing that much better! He is communicating with me like I am his woman and it feels amazing! He is gentle and affectionate and cares what I think! Now I really want to be his wife! Thank you for talking about that!
You covered literally everything I needed to hear to the T. Wow!! Nobody has said it better. I'm going through this right now with my fiance and he's not acting the way he used to over a fight and I had to leave but now he hasn't said much to me in two nights and it hurts, but I refuse to chase him. I'm a high value women. I hope he isn't cheating on me though cause it would kill me inside. I'm the catch. Not him.
Thank you Adrienne! My relationship is getting better by being in Feminine Energy...❤❤❤❤It is just amazing how just a little shift in energy creates a huge difference 💛💛
Hi Adrienne, I’ve battled with anxiety a lot and especially anxiety about my relationship even though they give me no reason to freak out, and I always come to your videos and your voice just soothes me and your videos help me to calm down and feel way more in control of my life, thank you for all your videos.💕
I’m so happy to help you. I battled years of deep anxiety so bad at one point I couldn’t leave my home. I found a workbook that helped me as well as feminine energy and not resisting that anxious feeling yet befriending my nervous inner girl. Spend time with her and invite her to join you. She’ll warm up, relax and get more focused centered as the relationship develops between you two. 🥰
Wow! The timing is amazing. I literally have been going through this. Thank you dear lady for sharing this. To all those beautiful ladies out there. This is good stuff. Wish I heard this at 18. I'm a widow in a serious relationship that I hope turns out as I hope but I refuse to lose myself in the process. 💕
I'm just discovering your channel and website right now. I just wanted to let you know that beyond the great advices you give, your fashion style and graphic signature are just AMAZING and make me feel so good, connect me right away to my femininity and the willing to explore and improve it even more. Thank you so much
WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE!!!! you are on another LEVEL! I've been watching Anna Bey and the algorithm picked you up, never been so grateful for data collection in my life 🙌🙌🙌🙌
Hi Adrienne, this is the second time I’ve come to your channel - after a bad break up I learnt so much from you. The guy I was dating just called it off bc I was too much of the pursuer. I needed this so much today so thank you!!!!!!
It usually takes some time to get over a relationship even a short one. There no shortcut for that unfortunately. Is important to find your true self ASAP. No wasting time on that one. You might start on it even b4 the relationship officially ended
You got me on the asking them what it means to be committed🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 not afraid and I’ve been shut down but wow.. I don’t even feel a little bit bad cuz if they can’t handle that conversation... not for me... thank you Adrienne
Hugs to you! 💕 It’s so important to not get stuck in the Girlfriend Trap that so many fall into. You remain QD until an offer is on the table from the man. Speaking your feelings and boundaries with warmth is key. Learn more here. bit.ly/500waysbook
When you talked about this man showing up at your door the day you woke up and decided to do your own thing, maybe you felt good that morning because you could feel his energy and that he was going to come back. I know it's important to do your own thing, but it seems it's more important to communicate what your needs are and be able to quickly walk away if he shows he is not going to respect your needs and boundaries.
I just stumbled upon your channel and you talk and speak the right words. You absolutely direct and realistic to the point where you can help a woman overcome all the struggles about this topic. In fact, I consider you as one of my answered prayer. You’re so enlightening and helpful. Thank you so much!!!! 🥺💖💖💖
A man I was seeing wasn’t putting in the effort and I used the FEELING statements you taught to tell him how I felt. I was the purest, most honest, most transparent “break up” I’ve ever had. No regrets.
I find it impossible to ignore it when someone disregards me and after being so close and having an argument just shifts his energy and pulls away. My anxiety goes through the roof no matter how I try to control it.
I feel like anxiety is our intention to try to control everything so trying to control the anxiety is doing more of the same - more about allowing all of those crazy feelings - even though they’re overwhelming
Thank you for specifically mentioning ...”you’re divorced, you have 3 kids, you just turned 55, time is slipping away ...” It feels good to be acknowledged. I realize I have a million things going for me, but it has felt many times that there has always been “one thing or another wrong ... with ... me” and that is why I have not been able to attract a forever man. It can get so depressing ... and it can feel like almost constant work to keep my spirits up and to keep the attention on me. But as difficult as the practice(s) may be, what you say is true. The only key to true personal happiness, as well as our best chance at attracting love, is to value ourself and figure out how to make ourself happy. No one else can be expected to care enough to do this for us ... if we’re not even willing to do that for ourselves. Blessings and true happiness to you all. Much love 💕
Jamie Carr you are so welcome. Trust there the so Many who would trade places with you in an instant simply to experience freedom. You have vitality and freedom, unlock your inner girl and let the man find your warm, open, inviting energy. ❤️🥰
geeee thank you for breaking down WHY he pulls away! it is a coping mechanism and you broke it down to the compound....it is a relief and makes total sense!
I’ve just told 2 married women to follow you and get help from you. I trust your work. I think you are a revolution to really help women profoundly. Let’s also help women get away from domestic violence by teaching them to stay away from hurtful men early on in the dating and walk away. Thank you for that!!!
I passed on this quite a few times due to the length. I am so glad I circled back and watched. Great advice. When you explained how you do what you want and he understands really hit me. Then when you started talking about the kids! Yes! ❤️
Oh my thank you so much for re-grounding me. This worked for me today as i started feeling the urgency to grasp my wet bar of soap haha .. My sweetheart lost his job today and I needed to ground myself again to give him his space. I was in a dark place these past couple days. Ive stayed warm thank God I’m in my feminine energy and I want to stay there
That's what I feel. As soon as they did that men just come flying lol!! Teach their butts a lesson!! Space is space but disconnecting all the time. Who needs that.
Better understand what made him pull away maybe , like learn something... i love to be more easy in teksting for example, be more happy with what he was giving me ... and not push... i pulled him away i think with my expectations even before the date
I spit my drink out while you were describing what my brain does when I'm feeling a sense of urgency from lack. I was laughing so hard that I had to subscribe!
I love your videos so much, Adrienne. During every one I watch I get chills and tear up from the things you say. It is often when you are sharing your personal stories. I wrote you a few months ago about a guy I was seeing and you told me not to let go or walk away when I really wanted to. So I didn't and I was glad I listened, because he came a little closer. The guy was giving hot and cold signals, and then he did the same thing again after we saw each other once, (which covid has put such a damper on our dating opportunities). He began sliding and rain-checking and then I didn't hear from him for like, two weeks, so this time I let him go and told him I didn't know what to do with his uncertainty, but that I'm not waiting around anymore. I used the "Ï'm just a girl" line and wished him well. It was so hard. The initial feelings for this man and our chemistry are unlike any other. I was really out, though. All the while, I am definitely embracing all of the tools I've learned from you. I was online dating for a while, and on top of that man I'm mainly interested in have met some super sweet guys. Even if they aren't anywhere near the strength of connections with men i've met in person, I think they've been good exercise. I just wanted to thank you again, and I still need every video you post. It's like a muscle, but one that you don't have to work for, it's just about being...Wild. I'm not worried about getting this guy back, or that he'll ever come around again. For a moment I wondered if I was too cold in the last message, but he didn't completely disappear. I know he will come around if he's the right one, and walking away as I've learned really is the sexiest thing a woman can do. Sticking to the newer boundaries I've put in place after learning about feminine energy through you has empowered me more than I can thank you for!
And I just have to add some more because I'm here and comment rarely on anything. Walking away from this last guy felt like I gained an extra spine. It gets easier to choose the closer you are to your body. The intuition helps rebuild your body and it's like you almost gain another one. When I began to get in touch with that girl inside, it was a daily toss up on which side would come through. Now, the confidence and ability to speak about the dreams the girl inside wants freely flows. The parts of me that want to be a wife and a mom have regained their voice, and she won't step down from it. And it's only been a couple months of these small, daily shifts. I'm going to be thanking you from the alter one day, I already know it.
@@AdrienneEverheart Thank you, I really want to reconcile with this man. I have deep feelings for him, and know that it's something special. I'm fighting everyday not to reach out because the thought of him still strikes a beautiful chord on my heart every time. Pray for me y'all I've been struck ;'''')
I wasn’t searching for any self-help video, but it came across my feed. I’m glad I click on it, because you provided me with insight that I didn’t think I needed. Thanks.
Right sometimes things do take work and sometimes it takes both parties to want to make change within yourselfs for the relationship to become even healthier
Thank you so much, Adrienne! I love your warm style of teaching Feminine Energy. Because ultimately, we all want more love in our lives & this world! 💜
Wow. Such a timely message to remind me that "I am a Goddess sitting on a pedestal" and I need to let the man pursue ME. I am currently VERY single so I am learning from your lessons. Thank you 🙏🏾💜
Hi Adrienne! you have great and comforting advice. Sadly I think I should have listened to this video this weekend instead of now. The guy in dating exclusively started to pull away last week. I was hoping we could hang out on the fourth for bit. On Friday he let me know he was in his way to the mountains camping with friends all weekend. I asked if he thought he would be gone all day the fourth. He replied that he should be gone til Sunday depending on the weather. I only replied “well have a good holiday weekend!” He said he’d get back to me once he get service back at the end of the weekend. Then Saturday, I was bothered. I decided to send him a text telling him my thought process because otherwise I felt like I was going to be upset when he comes back to me after the weekend. I told him: I was hoping to see him on the weekend, that I know it was an expectation of mine and because of that expectation I got triggered and felt left out. I told him that I know I need to communicate more but I tend to pull away instead cause I don’t to want to appear too demanding. he received the text Sunday afternoon on his way back from the mountains I’m guessing. He did not reply yet. This morning I texted him again telling him I was hoping he didn’t take my text as a blame. That this expectation was all mine and I should have asked clearly to hang out instead of saying nothing. I told him that it’s important to me to see each other regularly to keep on getting to know each other. Then I said i hope he has a great weekend and good luck for the busy work week. I feel really bad about these messages I sent. I feel like I showed some deep insecurities... and not having any answers from him feel like I did something wrong. I’m not a big texter he knows that. I’ve come to understand that my main love language is quality time... and I guess that is what I was trying to tell him. What should I do now? Nothing, even if he ends up never contacting me again?
Hugs to you, honey! 💕 I am so sorry that you are hurting. Men do require time and space. As hard as it can be, you have to lean back and give them the space to come towards you and plan things. I know that holidays always give this so much more pressure. It’s very important that the two of you discuss the terms and conditions of your relationship. Speak your boundaries, feelings and expectations with warmth. Talk less and listen more. Allow him to lead. The good news is, even if you think you messed up it’s never too late! Just lean back and focus on yourself. Don’t go into explaining mode. Just let it be. If he reaches out, you stay warm. I would suggest working through the ABC’s. bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
Adrienne Everheart's Love Academy thank you so much for your answer Adrienne! It felt really good to read you. And I am definitely going to look at your guide. Sadly he texted me back later that day and told me he wanted to end things, giving me a whole paragraph of “excuses”. So I simply told him that I thought it was too bad. That I truly enjoyed my time with him, and wished him best of luck for all these things he told me he has to do. That made me realize that I openly say that I’m ready for a relationship, for THE relationship. But somehow this past year I kept on dating and falling for man emotionally unavailable, and pushed away those who wanted that commitment I want... how paradoxical.
I LOVE that you are including Gottman in your videos a little bit! It’s like the data of research and the magic of feminine energy are coming together ✨ 💕
I just bought your book 500 ways. You are amazing! I learned a lot about myself reading this. I am dating my 2nd Mama's boy that has not set boundaries. She comes first, has strong opinions and is very involved. It would be so helpful to have a video on these types of men. I'm sure there are a lot of wives who also could benefit! :)
Hugs to you! 💕 Thank you so much for that suggestion, I will think about that. I am so happy to hear that you have “500 Ways”. It’s so important to be able to speak your boundaries with warmth. Keep up the good work!
This is a great video thank you so much. So many good points here and so true. As painful as it is when this happens, you have to just be willing to walk away with grace and dignity and move on with your life either way.
Hello beautiful Adrienne I just want to say how right you are about getting in touch with our highest self. Connecting to spirit, god, the universe whatever we may want to call it. I find that when I do this, I’m no longer searching for anything external that a person (more specifically a guy) can give me. If he texted me or not etc.. I just become so invested in connecting with that higher part of myself that I feel like I have it all. Everything else is just a plus. So key, and so true! Thank you 💜✨🌈
I am older and I have never had a man want to move mountains for me. It seems the more I do, the more I get rejected. This last time, I heard, “I don’t feel like I am the right man for you, blah, blah blah!” I have been more supportive than anyone else in his life. We planned this future together that included buying a farm and now I am history. Yes, he is being honorable by returning my investment. I don’t think I know anything about men even though I was in a long marriage and then abandoned. Tried again and again rejection .
I have been listening to so many coaches on TH-cam, finally I found you! I love how you express and explain things. You speak my language, a language that many of my girlfriends don’t get. Thank you fir being you!
I love your advice, but this is too much work. If a man truly wants you, he will move mountains. My advice is, if they leave once and return, I don't take them back.
Forever Wild 🌸 not necessarily, Matthew Boggs (TH-camr, date coach), was told by his girlfriend now his current wife while they were just dating She said something along lines she wanted a happy future, she indicated what she wanted out of life and left because he was complacent at the time & wasn’t stepping up. When she left he pursued her & they are now happily married with children Sometimes men & women don’t realise the treasure they poses till it’s in danger of going or being lost forever If you keep doing this you may actually lose a true soulmate, give someone the benefit of the doubt As long as you sussed in the very beginning he’s a high quality man then you should have no issues, if he’s average lazy joe with no prospects then don’t waste time on a person like that
I am with a time waster right now, but i am using him learn more about myself, and why I am so needy for love, why i am so lonely, and started doing shadow work, he has in an indirect way taught me a lot about myself.
Thank you for this.. I knew this in my spirit but I thought I was alone and to hear this strengthens me and helps me not to be urgent. God bless you!.. walking away from someone you love.. is serious for us girls thanks for helping to ease the pain.
I actually cried... and walked away. He pursued for a few days then was like . U blocked me so I’m saying goodbye thank you for everything wishing u the best
As a guy, I worry that she thinks I’m pulling away, mainly because I am always very tired and tend to be distracted and disorganized. I am definitely not pulling away. She is everything to me. Thank you.
LOVE YOU!!! You have no idea how special you are and how profound your videos are to us ladies. I have a HOT & COLD, confused, not wanting a commitment, keeps stringing me along, just to chase me and once he has me he goes COLD again, but does not want me with anyone else....MAN!!! I just bought a house and do not have the extra money to buy your programs right now, however, I get so much out of your videos.
Love your makeup! Your a beauty from the inside out and I see how you own your self worth truly love your inner divine goddesss and inner girl. Thanks for lighting the way. I am now loving and cherishing myself whether a man is whispering it in my ear or not! I love the woman I am 🌸 Ive been a little frustrated and disappointed in not finding the right combo to look flawless,glowy and healthy w/ Makeup. Do you have any tips on face make up that you have success with?
I’ll have to do a video on that soon. For now it is mostly North Carolina humidity. 💓 Please keep on learning and keeping up With your values. I suggest new man manifesto: bit.ly/newmanmanifesto
"Once you reclaim yourself, once you get your life back - the man will come." I couldn't agree more!!
This is it right here! And share it with a WORTHY MAN!
I think men are always there 🙏🏼🙄
@@opinioniloveyou4530 Yes, but it's something about your energy that when you're doing YOU...he has a sense of freedom and then he can "see you". Although some men claim to not chase. It drives them when the attention is not on them and we're doing our thing!! And I'm talking a "healthy man".
I love your point of view and advice. It really resonates with me. There are a lot of very good coaches out there. I’ve consulted with more than one. While I appreciate them all, I feel there’s a need for everyone to find the right fit with coaching. I think I found my niche here. Thank you 🙏
@@opinioniloveyou4530 Agree.
Got it! If you've chosen a man, you have to let go of your pride & need to contol and let him choose you. You have to be indifferent and know whether he chooses you or not that your value hasn't changed. In fact it increases each time you take care of yourself.
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I’m so confused by your comment because men aren’t the chooser, women are.
This is good; I’m letting go of a man I truly consider a good man; now giving him time to choose me without me having to force him; or compete anymore with the women he’s choosing or has chosen before me. My goal is to be the predominant choice so that I can get his attention; and then he can decide if he can dance with me & then pursue; these men move in stages ; segments of attraction.
For once, I hear someone who doesn’t only advocate walking away from a guy. I understand setting limits, boundaries, self care, and valuing yourself, but I don’t think giving up on someone is not always the best case. I like that you’re different and advocate giving someone changes. Thanks.
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@@freshstrt3140 yes I meant “chances”
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I wanted to tell you that I feel less alone when I watch your videos.. I find myself crying and nodding to your anecdotes and words of wisdom! In a previous breakup I watched other youtubers on this topic but I find your way of speaking the most soothing and genuine. Thank you so much ❤
thank you! His problems are not my problems, I think as woman we always wanna be the nuturer and fix things. But I am a goddess on my pedestal. Yes Diamond Girl!
Yes you are! Go deeper my love: bit.ly/500waysbook
Thank you. I feel like he is emotionally unavailable lately and playing games. But he still text me to ask me how my day is going every day. His behavior has changed, and at first I was understanding because I know that he was grieving and also working very hard. I’m watching his dog while he’s away on business and I don’t feel appreciated. I don’t like to feel breadcrumbs From any man so I may have to start ignoring him until he makes a decision to actually pick up the phone and call me to have a conversation as opposed to sending a measly text message. It hurts, but I have to respect myself first. I don’t feel comfortable with this nasty behavior and poor communication
I'm going through the same things 😔 I've had patience and excused it on work and stress for 3 years. Now I think he's cheating. But he insists he's not.
@@tranquilambiance1751 leave h behind. move on
@@tranquilambiance1751 3 years! Shit I only gave him 2 months. Each to there own i guess. 😘
We want an update
Sometimes people check on you to free up time for their shady deals
Loooved when you said “uh uh I drove far away because I wasn’t going to compromise my values, my boundaries. I knew if this isn’t the man God has for me, I’m ready to walk away” ... - God HAS the right one for you! And He wouldn’t want you compromising yourself for anyone. That’s a test and you must pass it!! Trust in the Lord. He wants the best for you.
I don't even chase my liquor. 😅💯
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Love that! Lol
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My tequila chases me 😉
If you are not in a committed, an exclusive relationship with a man, then why would you spend regular time with him consistently without getting a commitment? You’re putting yourself in a position where you’re investing a lot of time and emotions in to one person without any kind of commitment. That cuts you off from doing the quantum dating that you say we need to do.
Hugs to you, honey! 💕 You will stay Quantum Dating until there is an offer on the table. If you decide to be exclusive with a man, you will need to talk about the terms of conditions of the relationship. Check in every 3 months once you are in a committed relationship and see how things are going. You want to be a wife one day, not getting stuck in the Girlfriend Trap! Learn more here. bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
Just be open is what’s this dating thing is be up front and when you’re out front if he wants to move your mountains he will make it clear to you until he does that spend time with him and others to 🥰
Learnt this the hard way.
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I like the information on dealing with “urgency” - the primal “simply must act or do something right now to fix this” dread that comes over me. Over the last two years I’ve got better at handling this emotion. I’ve learned waiting and seeing and giving into the mystery of life is a more feminine way to live.
I'll address this more Advanced Work in upcoming videos. Ultimately, you want to observe the urge with a calm curiosity, the part of you that wants to take action and find what it is you are thinking, see if you can just w/o good/bad thinking observe it. The thought always leads to the feeling. That part comes next. Your way out of this is your awakening into Feminine Energy in that you are not impulse driven by thoughts (brain/BOY) instead you can drop into your body, find what you feel, track it to a thought(boy) and perchance lean into a more positive way of thinking. EX: I need to call him right now, or he will forget all about me. Notice the thought is 'I may be forgotten, I need to change this.' You then feel anxious and trying to figure out what to say. FLIP IT: I have not forgotten him, so I know he has not forgotten me. I'm aware if he wanted to connect with me he'd reach out and I feel sad he's not reaching out, yet, I've got to trust he knows what is best for him. I have to now do what is best for me. Hmm, what is a better feeling thought for me? I am alone... yet I am healthy, I ate well today, I called two old friends and connected, I walked in the park. If I keep doing things I love certainly a man will find his way to me instead of me doing the work for him, right??? -- In this example you don't reject the part that is wanting to take action but instead sit with it, curiously, and ultimately going into your own body instead of a place of action.
Thanks Adrienne. I need to read this a few times.
Adrienne Everheart's Love Academy thank you, Adrienne. You are golden💖
The “I am healthy” bit was an “Adrienne aha moment“ for me! Although slightly overweight, I am very agile in my body and I love to move. Felt better after exercising and working on my health goals!
I am so glad I read Adriennes reply - love love love it! So working on this one ❤️❤️❤️
Had an AHA moment recently...just like a man has a refractory period after sex (which women don’t criticize because it is natural) it is like many men require an emotional refractory time after intimate contact. Learning to look at it as biological and keeps me from taking it personally. I think men can learn to handle emotional contact for longer times but perhaps it takes conditioning where he can trust a woman not to get cranky. Learning to amuse myself and become a more secure, appealing person in my own rite
A+++, you are learning all the secrets now. Keep on learning more: bit.ly/newmanmanifesto
I never felt like mine has to pull away after any kind of intimacy. I guess I can call myself lucky. In fact he loves to cuddle and talk after it and I seem to be the one who needs more space afterwards.LOL
I read that somewhere. And I understand. But two weeks? After our last conversation after such closeness over 8 months. He was nasty, frustrated, excuses about work and ranting blaming me because I was worried And yet, it sounds like he ended it. I'm not sure. I decided to ask today because I don't have time. And I did it with such feminine energy. I have explained my boundaries before. I don't do stonewalling or silent treatments. I do communication. (He doesn't deserve warmth).
I love her energy! She has such a light, effervescent and refreshing take on this topic. Not to mention, her insight is GOLD!
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Effervescent is the perfect adjective for her :)
I will never forget as soon as I started to care more about me- he texts me and says” are you ignoring me?”” Sorry. But I loved it! I returned with love of course. It’s been good since!!
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AMEN SISTA! You tell that man you do not want to marry HIM either if he completely doesn't value YOU. I walked away with a 3 week old newborn cause I was tired of being abused in multiple forms and at the worst time a man could have treated me like shit: while carrying out baby and this was a guy that "came back for me", told me he wanted a life with me and to grow with me then turned into a Monster during the 3rd trimester of my pregnancy. I left him 2 times before birth and then I left him again, for the last time, right after. WE deserved better. My son deserved a dad that treated his mom good.
You poor dear and love to your little one as well. While no one is mood free or behaves as we desire all the time, both partners want to be on the same team. Relationships require us to face our own issues and somehow not take them out on our partners. There is so much learning we do together as a couple. If he is fighting for you, perhaps you can slowly just date again, let it unfold. No instant relationship. See if slowly you two can get warm toward one another. Be sure you have “500 Ways,” bit.ly/500waysbook
Omg girl.. I'm currently going exactly through this. Pregnant, and at first he was like yeah let's live together have a family, everything. Then he just stopped answering for a week, but without blocking me or anything.. I just feel like I'll have my baby alone instead of these mood swings
this lady is on point. and she is really nice to listen to . thank you
I learn so much from you Adrienne. I don't really get the feminine energy stuff, but am trying. Love your story about your husband.
You have no idea how much i needed someone like you to talk to me rn. You are so personable, I feel like i just chatted with my bestie. I feel like a woman again, instead of this pathetic girl crying over a boy. God Bless you love
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It doesn’t end once you get married. You still need to maintain your self.
I knew these things from your previous videos, but I really needed a reminder. You helped me to focus on myself instead of overthinking and while I was watching this and feeling better he contacted me, apologized for being distant (he was emotionally overwhelmed) and even acted a little bit clingy as if doing his best to make up for it. I let him and enjoyed every second, it was cute and I'm happy to have my man back. Thank you and I'm sending you a lot of love!
Hugs to you! 💕 Keep up the good work! We all need reminding!
I Pray that this happens for me. 🙏🙏💝
Wow you literally just talked me down from the ledge of freaking out and I feel 300x better now. New go-to channel for love advice! Thank you
I could cry at how sweet it is that he just showed up like that, so romantic that he realized your value & couldn't go on without you. Space is key, you're so right about stepping back to focus on yourself. 🥰🥰🥰
Hugs to you! 💕 Give the man time and space, and they will come back to pursue you!
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You are simply the best. Hit on everything we need to hear. Women are so emotional and I know as a woman, I tend to make decisions emotionally. This is my problem. I act quickly and sabotage what could have been a long lasting. Ugh. I need to listen to you every day!!! Thank you!! You look beautiful in pink BTW!
Love this!!! Ladies we can never let these fools treat us like an option 💜
If somebody pulls away with no reason i don't want him anymore..I am devoted but if he doesn't appreciate my presence he will appreciate my absence..
It’s so hard to recover from having a seemingly great committed relationship to being ghosted.
Such a comforting words to listen. ❤️🌹 Even if he's going to pull away Forever it's fine because we can't control the Individual especially men. ☀️🧘♥️ We can only control ourselves.
Sending you so much love! 💕
I'm tired of struggling to feel connected to him. What happens if I stop making the effort? I believe it will all fall apart and my love for him will drain away.
“When we’re together we have so much fun and I love being with you but I miss your touch and I miss making each other feel good and I’m curious what do you feel like? “ will need to try this sounds super feminine and I never posed it that way
Hugs to you! Keep up the good work. "500 Ways" has even more scripts that will help you out. bit.ly/500waysbook
Thank you!
This literally saved my peace of mind. Thank you so much
I really like how she's connected to God and law of attraction on spiritual plane and physical plane and knows what she's saying. 😌🌺 Also she shines like a flower.
Thank you so much for this!!!! The thoughts you talked about - I've had almost every single one of them! Even the words you used, it is verbatim what I've thought. But I felt embarrassed, ashamed of myself, and stupid for having those thoughts. I felt like it was a sign of weakness. I thought if I'm a strong woman then I shouldn't have those thoughts. I didn't even want to admit to myself that I felt that way. Now I feel like it's nothing to be ashamed of. Thank you so much.
Also, what you said about my inner girl and what she wants - that is a game changer for me.
Hugs to you! 🥰❤️ Keep up the good work!
Great example that we can be strong and direct in a graceful gentle way
Wide Awake,your lovely smile can make the news!
I’m a Leo and we don’t like to be ghosted but we like to do the ghosting. We will push to get his attention back to just let him go. We hate rejection and we get petty and gotta get our lick back
Yea I’m a Leo too and I don’t even initiate contact because I hate being rejected.
Finally someone who stands up for femininety!! 👍👍🙏
Adrienne, the way you have your hair clipped is so beautiful. You look beautiful and glowy overall girly!
That’s so sweet of you to say! 🥰
A bit white around the eyes
Agreed. I actually clicked on the video to try to get a better look at her hair.
I know, it's gorgeous and vintage looking.
Although the guy I was interested in told me we is looking for friends with benefits(which I said no to) I have not dealt with a situation this well in YEARS. I am so grateful for your videos. They have helped me in so many ways. Not just when it comes to talking to men but also in so many areas of my life! From friendships and having fun with my girlfriends or my overall sense of self and confidence. I feel so lucky to be a woman on this earth and am truly connecting and leaning back into my feminine energy. Very grateful for you and your videos! You are an angel!
Hugs to you! 💕 That’s wonderful that you were able to stay strong in your boundaries. Learn more here. bit.ly/femmtools
Saying no to friends with benefits is tough
Adrienne, you are amazing! Every time I listen to you, I receive such great invites about myself! Thank you for sharing all you know! I want you to know Phillip has come back into my life, he is treating me like a high value woman. He apologized for his previous actions and we have made agreements about our relationship. There is still a lot of stress in his life but he is managing that much better! He is communicating with me like I am his woman and it feels amazing! He is gentle and affectionate and cares what I think! Now I really want to be his wife! Thank you for talking about that!
Hugs to you! 💕 This makes me so happy to hear!
You covered literally everything I needed to hear to the T. Wow!! Nobody has said it better. I'm going through this right now with my fiance and he's not acting the way he used to over a fight and I had to leave but now he hasn't said much to me in two nights and it hurts, but I refuse to chase him. I'm a high value women. I hope he isn't cheating on me though cause it would kill me inside. I'm the catch. Not him.
I know I’m curious now lol
Thank you Adrienne! My relationship is getting better by being in Feminine Energy...❤❤❤❤It is just amazing how just a little shift in energy creates a huge difference 💛💛
Keep up the good work.
Hi Adrienne, I’ve battled with anxiety a lot and especially anxiety about my relationship even though they give me no reason to freak out, and I always come to your videos and your voice just soothes me and your videos help me to calm down and feel way more in control of my life, thank you for all your videos.💕
I’m so happy to help you. I battled years of deep anxiety so bad at one point I couldn’t leave my home. I found a workbook that helped me as well as feminine energy and not resisting that anxious feeling yet befriending my nervous inner girl. Spend time with her and invite her to join you. She’ll warm up, relax and get more focused centered as the relationship develops between you two. 🥰
@@AdrienneEverheart what was the workbook ? ❤️
Wow! The timing is amazing. I literally have been going through this. Thank you dear lady for sharing this. To all those beautiful ladies out there. This is good stuff. Wish I heard this at 18. I'm a widow in a serious relationship that I hope turns out as I hope but I refuse to lose myself in the process. 💕
I'm just discovering your channel and website right now. I just wanted to let you know that beyond the great advices you give, your fashion style and graphic signature are just AMAZING and make me feel so good, connect me right away to my femininity and the willing to explore and improve it even more. Thank you so much
'How can I take care of myself right now?' Genius!
How do you take care of other people around you?
WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE!!!! you are on another LEVEL! I've been watching Anna Bey and the algorithm picked you up, never been so grateful for data collection in my life 🙌🙌🙌🙌
Hugs to you! 💕 I am so happy to help! Learn more about feminine energy here. bit.ly/femmtools
For real watch your life change with this amazing woman! Her ebooks are all worth it!
Oh my gosh. Anna Bey brought me here too!
Hi Adrienne, this is the second time I’ve come to your channel - after a bad break up I learnt so much from you. The guy I was dating just called it off bc I was too much of the pursuer. I needed this so much today so thank you!!!!!!
Yeah! It's ok we're sometimes the pursuer, but the thing is MAYBE be able to shift to allow him to pursue!
Hugs to you!
It usually takes some time to get over a relationship even a short one. There no shortcut for that unfortunately. Is important to find your true self ASAP. No wasting time on that one. You might start on it even b4 the relationship officially ended
Rimma Shiptsova,hope you are with a good man!
Having difficulty with that now.. He broke up.with me..we have 2 kids and we still live in.one roof until he moves out..so hard
You got me on the asking them what it means to be committed🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 not afraid and I’ve been shut down but wow.. I don’t even feel a little bit bad cuz if they can’t handle that conversation... not for me... thank you Adrienne
Hugs to you! 💕 It’s so important to not get stuck in the Girlfriend Trap that so many fall into. You remain QD until an offer is on the table from the man. Speaking your feelings and boundaries with warmth is key. Learn more here. bit.ly/500waysbook
When you talked about this man showing up at your door the day you woke up and decided to do your own thing, maybe you felt good that morning because you could feel his energy and that he was going to come back. I know it's important to do your own thing, but it seems it's more important to communicate what your needs are and be able to quickly walk away if he shows he is not going to respect your needs and boundaries.
Shoutout to the women that are here because they love themselves, they love their men, and want to be loved by a good man 🥰
I just stumbled upon your channel and you talk and speak the right words. You absolutely direct and realistic to the point where you can help a woman overcome all the struggles about this topic. In fact, I consider you as one of my answered prayer. You’re so enlightening and helpful. Thank you so much!!!! 🥺💖💖💖
Hugs to you, honey! 💕 I am so happy to help! Learn more here. bit.ly/femmtools
Thanks
A man I was seeing wasn’t putting in the effort and I used the FEELING statements you taught to tell him how I felt. I was the purest, most honest, most transparent “break up” I’ve ever had. No regrets.
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I find it impossible to ignore it when someone disregards me and after being so close and having an argument just shifts his energy and pulls away. My anxiety goes through the roof no matter how I try to control it.
I feel like anxiety is our intention to try to control everything so trying to control the anxiety is doing more of the same - more about allowing all of those crazy feelings - even though they’re overwhelming
It’s called being normal. Ignoring it because you a princess that should be chased is just immaturity and bad communication skills
GIRL!!…OMG
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!💜 I FEEL SO EMPOWERED, I ALMOST FORGOT HOW FLY I WAS. lol YOU ROCK!
Thank you for specifically mentioning ...”you’re divorced, you have 3 kids, you just turned 55, time is slipping away ...” It feels good to be acknowledged. I realize I have a million things going for me, but it has felt many times that there has always been “one thing or another wrong ... with ... me” and that is why I have not been able to attract a forever man. It can get so depressing ... and it can feel like almost constant work to keep my spirits up and to keep the attention on me. But as difficult as the practice(s) may be, what you say is true. The only key to true personal happiness, as well as our best chance at attracting love, is to value ourself and figure out how to make ourself happy. No one else can be expected to care enough to do this for us ... if we’re not even willing to do that for ourselves. Blessings and true happiness to you all. Much love 💕
Jamie Carr you are so welcome. Trust there the so Many who would trade places with you in an instant simply to experience freedom. You have vitality and freedom, unlock your inner girl and let the man find your warm, open, inviting energy. ❤️🥰
His problems aren’t your problems 💕👑💕
Yessss. Stand independent from him emotionally.
geeee thank you for breaking down WHY he pulls away! it is a coping mechanism and you broke it down to the compound....it is a relief and makes total sense!
I’ve just told 2 married women to follow you and get help from you. I trust your work. I think you are a revolution to really help women profoundly. Let’s also help women get away from domestic violence by teaching them to stay away from hurtful men early on in the dating and walk away. Thank you for that!!!
Aw 🥰 thank you so much for your recommendations! I am so happy to help!
Hello Miss Sutton! I am also a Miss Sutton lol nice to see you here.
When I overthink about a 👨 my teeth start to ache - not from clenching but from tension!
I passed on this quite a few times due to the length. I am so glad I circled back and watched. Great advice. When you explained how you do what you want and he understands really hit me. Then when you started talking about the kids! Yes! ❤️
Oh my thank you so much for re-grounding me. This worked for me today as i started feeling the urgency to grasp my wet bar of soap haha .. My sweetheart lost his job today and I needed to ground myself again to give him his space. I was in a dark place these past couple days. Ive stayed warm thank God I’m in my feminine energy and I want to stay there
You're so welcome! Hugs to you!
Or when he pulls away , find a new one !
That's what I feel. As soon as they did that men just come flying lol!! Teach their butts a lesson!! Space is space but disconnecting all the time. Who needs that.
@@Dlovely516 mine got mad cant have ur cake and eat it 2 lol
Hahahaha agreee
This the one
Better understand what made him pull away maybe , like learn something... i love to be more easy in teksting for example, be more happy with what he was giving me ... and not push... i pulled him away i think with my expectations even before the date
That's a lovely helpful video. I'm a psycho therapist and even knowing all I know to apply it to myself is extremely difficult. So thank you
Erica Walsh,your lovely smile can make the news!
Thankyou for saying this
Really needed this. Letting go and letting God take control.
I spit my drink out while you were describing what my brain does when I'm feeling a sense of urgency from lack. I was laughing so hard that I had to subscribe!
Same I felt deeply understood listening and realizing I need to start enjoying my own company a lot more
I love your videos so much, Adrienne. During every one I watch I get chills and tear up from the things you say. It is often when you are sharing your personal stories. I wrote you a few months ago about a guy I was seeing and you told me not to let go or walk away when I really wanted to. So I didn't and I was glad I listened, because he came a little closer. The guy was giving hot and cold signals, and then he did the same thing again after we saw each other once, (which covid has put such a damper on our dating opportunities). He began sliding and rain-checking and then I didn't hear from him for like, two weeks, so this time I let him go and told him I didn't know what to do with his uncertainty, but that I'm not waiting around anymore. I used the "Ï'm just a girl" line and wished him well. It was so hard. The initial feelings for this man and our chemistry are unlike any other. I was really out, though. All the while, I am definitely embracing all of the tools I've learned from you. I was online dating for a while, and on top of that man I'm mainly interested in have met some super sweet guys. Even if they aren't anywhere near the strength of connections with men i've met in person, I think they've been good exercise. I just wanted to thank you again, and I still need every video you post. It's like a muscle, but one that you don't have to work for, it's just about being...Wild. I'm not worried about getting this guy back, or that he'll ever come around again. For a moment I wondered if I was too cold in the last message, but he didn't completely disappear. I know he will come around if he's the right one, and walking away as I've learned really is the sexiest thing a woman can do. Sticking to the newer boundaries I've put in place after learning about feminine energy through you has empowered me more than I can thank you for!
And I just have to add some more because I'm here and comment rarely on anything. Walking away from this last guy felt like I gained an extra spine. It gets easier to choose the closer you are to your body. The intuition helps rebuild your body and it's like you almost gain another one. When I began to get in touch with that girl inside, it was a daily toss up on which side would come through. Now, the confidence and ability to speak about the dreams the girl inside wants freely flows. The parts of me that want to be a wife and a mom have regained their voice, and she won't step down from it. And it's only been a couple months of these small, daily shifts. I'm going to be thanking you from the alter one day, I already know it.
Hugs to you! 💕This makes me so happy to hear! Keep up the good work and I know that you will find the right man for you!
@@AdrienneEverheart Thank you, I really want to reconcile with this man. I have deep feelings for him, and know that it's something special. I'm fighting everyday not to reach out because the thought of him still strikes a beautiful chord on my heart every time. Pray for me y'all I've been struck ;'''')
I wasn’t searching for any self-help video, but it came across my feed. I’m glad I click on it, because you provided me with insight that I didn’t think I needed. Thanks.
Hugs to you. Go deeper with “500 Ways,” ebook and 2 day video classes. bit.ly/500waysbook
When relationships come to this, is it something you still want?
Exactly 💯
I totally get your point..but what relationship is perfect? And is there anyone out there that does everything perfectly?
Right sometimes things do take work and sometimes it takes both parties to want to make change within yourselfs for the relationship to become even healthier
Exactly
people and their attachmenr styles cause them to so stupid shit that really doesn't need to happen. yes, give them a chance
Thank you so much, Adrienne! I love your warm style of teaching Feminine Energy. Because ultimately, we all want more love in our lives & this world! 💜
Wow. Such a timely message to remind me that "I am a Goddess sitting on a pedestal" and I need to let the man pursue ME. I am currently VERY single so I am learning from your lessons. Thank you 🙏🏾💜
I’m so happy to help #diamondgirl 💍
Adrienne got a beautiful voice 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼
the less you have sex the more the man pursues it - one of the many reasons those using natural family planning have more sex
Number one thing. You do nothing..... And doing nothing for a long time is what is hard. Greatest message you teach.
Sending love to all those seeking 💞
Hi Adrienne!
you have great and comforting advice. Sadly I think I should have listened to this video this weekend instead of now.
The guy in dating exclusively started to pull away last week. I was hoping we could hang out on the fourth for bit. On Friday he let me know he was in his way to the mountains camping with friends all weekend. I asked if he thought he would be gone all day the fourth. He replied that he should be gone til Sunday depending on the weather. I only replied “well have a good holiday weekend!” He said he’d get back to me once he get service back at the end of the weekend. Then Saturday, I was bothered. I decided to send him a text telling him my thought process because otherwise I felt like I was going to be upset when he comes back to me after the weekend. I told him: I was hoping to see him on the weekend, that I know it was an expectation of mine and because of that expectation I got triggered and felt left out. I told him that I know I need to communicate more but I tend to pull away instead cause I don’t to want to appear too demanding.
he received the text Sunday afternoon on his way back from the mountains I’m guessing. He did not reply yet. This morning I texted him again telling him I was hoping he didn’t take my text as a blame. That this expectation was all mine and I should have asked clearly to hang out instead of saying nothing. I told him that it’s important to me to see each other regularly to keep on getting to know each other. Then I said i hope he has a great weekend and good luck for the busy work week.
I feel really bad about these messages I sent. I feel like I showed some deep insecurities... and not having any answers from him feel like I did something wrong.
I’m not a big texter he knows that. I’ve come to understand that my main love language is quality time... and I guess that is what I was trying to tell him. What should I do now? Nothing, even if he ends up never contacting me again?
Hugs to you, honey! 💕 I am so sorry that you are hurting. Men do require time and space. As hard as it can be, you have to lean back and give them the space to come towards you and plan things. I know that holidays always give this so much more pressure. It’s very important that the two of you discuss the terms and conditions of your relationship. Speak your boundaries, feelings and expectations with warmth. Talk less and listen more. Allow him to lead. The good news is, even if you think you messed up it’s never too late! Just lean back and focus on yourself. Don’t go into explaining mode. Just let it be. If he reaches out, you stay warm. I would suggest working through the ABC’s. bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack
Adrienne Everheart's Love Academy thank you so much for your answer Adrienne! It felt really good to read you. And I am definitely going to look at your guide.
Sadly he texted me back later that day and told me he wanted to end things, giving me a whole paragraph of “excuses”. So I simply told him that I thought it was too bad. That I truly enjoyed my time with him, and wished him best of luck for all these things he told me he has to do.
That made me realize that I openly say that I’m ready for a relationship, for THE relationship. But somehow this past year I kept on dating and falling for man emotionally unavailable, and pushed away those who wanted that commitment I want... how paradoxical.
I LOVE that you are including Gottman in your videos a little bit! It’s like the data of research and the magic of feminine energy are coming together ✨ 💕
Glad you enjoy it!
I just bought your book 500 ways. You are amazing! I learned a lot about myself reading this. I am dating my 2nd Mama's boy that has not set boundaries. She comes first, has strong opinions and is very involved. It would be so helpful to have a video on these types of men. I'm sure there are a lot of wives who also could benefit! :)
Hugs to you! 💕 Thank you so much for that suggestion, I will think about that. I am so happy to hear that you have “500 Ways”. It’s so important to be able to speak your boundaries with warmth. Keep up the good work!
This is a great video thank you so much. So many good points here and so true. As painful as it is when this happens, you have to just be willing to walk away with grace and dignity and move on with your life either way.
Hugs to you! 💕 Sometimes walking away is the best thing you can do.
Adrienne seeing this video really warmed my heart and made me feel better . Thank you!
Hello beautiful Adrienne I just want to say how right you are about getting in touch with our highest self. Connecting to spirit, god, the universe whatever we may want to call it. I find that when I do this, I’m no longer searching for anything external that a person (more specifically a guy) can give me.
If he texted me or not etc.. I just become so invested in connecting with that higher part of myself that I feel like I have it all. Everything else is just a plus. So key, and so true! Thank you 💜✨🌈
Hugs to you! 💕 This is so wonderful to hear! bit.ly/femmtools
Your the best. I just came across you, I needed this. I’m highly empathic so the way you describe all of this is wonderful. Thank you 🙏🏼
Hugs to you! 💕 I’m so happy to help! Learn more here. bit.ly/femmtools
I am older and I have never had a man want to move mountains for me. It seems the more I do, the more I get rejected. This last time, I heard, “I don’t feel like I am the right man for you, blah, blah blah!” I have been more supportive than anyone else in his life. We planned this future together that included buying a farm and now I am history. Yes, he is being honorable by returning my investment. I don’t think I know anything about men even though I was in a long marriage and then abandoned. Tried again and again rejection .
46:22 made me go DAMN! New subbie here & this is just my first video. My eyes feel wide open. I’m ready to purchase! Thank you
You are so amazing🌼 The path is tough but we have your guiding hand🌈 Whenever I watch your videos, I can feel that soft feminine energy in me🌼🌈
I always come back to this video when I need someone to talk some sense into me …Adrienne is the sensible older sister I never had lol
Your make-up is so different from what you normally do! I love it. :)
Awh thank you. I really like brighter colors but somehow for videos I always go neutral. 🥰
I have been listening to so many coaches on TH-cam, finally I found you! I love how you express and explain things. You speak my language, a language that many of my girlfriends don’t get. Thank you fir being you!
Thank you for sharing your real life examples with us ❤️ it makes me feel more connected knowing we’ve all gone through these scenarios together ❤️
Hugs to you! 💕 I am so happy to help!
On thing I've learned when married yes its good idea to each have own interests but too much time alone can lead to separate lives in a bad way!
I love your advice, but this is too much work. If a man truly wants you, he will move mountains. My advice is, if they leave once and return, I don't take them back.
You always have that option! Do what is right for you.
Forever Wild 🌸 not necessarily, Matthew Boggs (TH-camr, date coach), was told by his girlfriend now his current wife while they were just dating
She said something along lines she wanted a happy future, she indicated what she wanted out of life and left because he was complacent at the time & wasn’t stepping up. When she left he pursued her & they are now happily married with children
Sometimes men & women don’t realise the treasure they poses till it’s in danger of going or being lost forever
If you keep doing this you may actually lose a true soulmate, give someone the benefit of the doubt
As long as you sussed in the very beginning he’s a high quality man then you should have no issues, if he’s average lazy joe with no prospects then don’t waste time on a person like that
Forever wild
Me too once they leave me they come back I never take them back
I just block his number and move on
I am with a time waster right now, but i am using him learn more about myself, and why I am so needy for love, why i am so lonely, and started doing shadow work, he has in an indirect way taught me a lot about myself.
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I love how she communicates this information that looks so complicated, she makes you understand how easy it is. Thank you ❤
Hugs to you! 💕 I’m so happy to help!
This video always help me and keep me in feminine energy whenever i come back to my masculine energy. Thank you adreine
YASSSS of course you are a PRINCE fan!
This is a good one: a man will either pull away from you or towards you. There's no in-between.
Thank you for this.. I knew this in my spirit but I thought I was alone and to hear this strengthens me and helps me not to be urgent. God bless you!.. walking away from someone you love.. is serious for us girls thanks for helping to ease the pain.
Hugs to you! 💕 Sometimes it’s what needs to be done. You have to stay true to your beliefs and boundaries.
Agree 100%-I have found myself very late -after painful divorce....had to have this lesson to understand that I am high value woman!
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I actually cried... and walked away. He pursued for a few days then was like . U blocked me so I’m saying goodbye thank you for everything wishing u the best
Oh honey. How terrible. He seems to be punishing you, do you feel that’s accurate? bit.ly/500waysbook
As a guy, I worry that she thinks I’m pulling away, mainly because I am always very tired and tend to be distracted and disorganized. I am definitely not pulling away. She is everything to me. Thank you.
I never managed to get the tendency to burst into tears worked out of me 😂
LOVE YOU!!! You have no idea how special you are and how profound your videos are to us ladies. I have a HOT & COLD, confused, not wanting a commitment, keeps stringing me along, just to chase me and once he has me he goes COLD again, but does not want me with anyone else....MAN!!! I just bought a house and do not have the extra money to buy your programs right now, however, I get so much out of your videos.
Love your makeup! Your a beauty from the inside out and I see how you own your self worth truly love your inner divine goddesss and inner girl. Thanks for lighting the way. I am now loving and cherishing myself whether a man is whispering it in my ear or not! I love the woman I am 🌸
Ive been a little frustrated and disappointed in not finding the right combo to look flawless,glowy and healthy w/ Makeup.
Do you have any tips on face make up that you have success with?
I’ll have to do a video on that soon. For now it is mostly North Carolina humidity. 💓 Please keep on learning and keeping up
With your values. I suggest new man manifesto: bit.ly/newmanmanifesto