Control the controllables | Dr. Arman Taghizadeh | TEDxGrandCanyonUniversity

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  • We often get anxious/overwhelmed and stuck on things that are largely out of our control, which reinforces the feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, discouragement and potentially depression. By choosing to direct our attention to those things within our control, we can better navigate the anxiety/fears/doubts that get in our way while improving our chances for success. Three things we can always control are effort, attitude and gratitude. Growing up as a child, Dr. T always wanted to become a teacher and a coach. After competing at the NCAA Division 1 level in wrestling, Dr. T ultimately chose to attend medical school and later did residency and fellowship in adult, child and adolescent psychiatry. Currently as a practicing board certified psychiatrist and sports psychiatrist, Dr. T has combined his knowledge and experience as a competitive athlete, medical doctor and mental health provider to come back to his “Square One.” He is privileged to provide mental health education, support and mindset training to patients, athletes, coaches, parents and competitive businesses. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @diegosanchelez
    @diegosanchelez 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    “First Attempt In Learning” - that's a keeper. Changes everything!

  • @KForKun
    @KForKun 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Effort, attitude, and gratitude are such powerful tools. Thanks for the reminder!

  • @mitchfine2906
    @mitchfine2906 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is very inspiring! The fear of failure is a huge driving force of anxiety. Reframing failure itself is a great idea.

  • @chloewendler
    @chloewendler 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    One of the smartest people I know. Thank you Dr. T

  • @MyEvilRage
    @MyEvilRage 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This makes perfect sense and managing stress by focusing on controllables is such valuable advice. It's our attitude towards stress and failure that can change our success rate.

  • @nathanweircapfs
    @nathanweircapfs 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The world needs more people like Dr. T! What a fantastic job!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you. We can all make the choice to control our controllables and we would all be happier and more successful.

  • @JoshFlax
    @JoshFlax 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great talk! Feel like I learn something new every time I listen to Dr T.

  • @MeganKiebasa
    @MeganKiebasa 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I admire this man! I really enjoy the F.A.I.L, and watching him sing to us!!

  • @clarewalston9506
    @clarewalston9506 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Really interesting! As a former student athlete, Dr. T has helped me in my journey with my mindset about how to look at failure as one step closer to success. So happy he got to share this with everyone !

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you! More failures will lead to more successes!

  • @soneegoles4539
    @soneegoles4539 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Awesome insights Dr. T, I really loved hearing about the translation of the attitude of an athlete into a professional setting. Very inspiring!

  • @priowgirl119
    @priowgirl119 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    From athelete to psychiatrist... Wow, that's a new one! Thoroughly appreciated the parallels he drew between the skills learned in wrestling and those needed in medicine... How unique and comparable! What passion!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's really special when you choose to closely link your passion to your profession.

  • @saajidahlip
    @saajidahlip 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Gratitude exercise sounds like something I should start doing

  • @leotencall
    @leotencall หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think I missed the moment that connected his love of wrestling, teaching and coaching with applying for med school but so cool that it all lined up like that for him!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych หลายเดือนก่อน

      "Maybe I was training to be a doctor all along so let me at least apply..."

  • @DavidPolsky-xz1jx
    @DavidPolsky-xz1jx 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Truly inspirational. A lot of things are made a bigger deal in your mind than they end up actually being in reality. Really shows how strong your mentality can be.

  • @irisscherr9877
    @irisscherr9877 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This guy helped me so much!! ❤ Thank you Dr. T :)

  • @janefox660
    @janefox660 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So empowering! Thank you for sharing all of your wisdom Dr. T!

  • @tuckerpowell5035
    @tuckerpowell5035 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Focus on the things that you can control! Love that!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych หลายเดือนก่อน

      So important to Control the Controllables!

  • @taylorgoldstein2580
    @taylorgoldstein2580 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This really helped shift my focus to such a more positive light!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych หลายเดือนก่อน

      How and what you focus is a choice!

  • @user-md9be8fg8r
    @user-md9be8fg8r หลายเดือนก่อน

    this is awesome! the overall point of this is very important to me because I try to only focus on what I can control and not what I can't control!

  • @stevecmd
    @stevecmd 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great presentation. Thank you Dr. T

  • @Chea122086
    @Chea122086 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this TED talk and super important message. Thanks Dr T!

  • @cassiayi4889
    @cassiayi4889 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent talk. I sometimes forget how important mindset it in your daily life. Great tips and reminder! Good job Dr. T!

  • @jfall1313
    @jfall1313 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Fantastic video! As a Manager I use the FAIL acronym often. Always train my team that not to focus on what did not go right. Focus on what went right and find things to change to work on next time for the areas that didn’t go as planned. Always need to keep your mind thinking positive.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The reframe applies to so much more than just sports!

  • @user-mv5iu8ue1p
    @user-mv5iu8ue1p 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    F.A.I.L -- First Attempt In Learning -- The acronym is a powerful technique to frame your setbacks in the overall scheme of a successful life. This profound statement resonates with me. I refer back to this Talk to remind myself that we are all learners in this grand experiment.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you. So much value in failure.

  • @gratitudeattitude1801
    @gratitudeattitude1801 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amazing learning and great story! Its like you were put on this earth to be a fighter and a thinker of the best kind. An independent mind finding the best way to contribute to humanity.

  • @charlotte-may9193
    @charlotte-may9193 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What an amazing journey he has had following his passions and also being able to live up to his parents' expectations.

  • @immayasass
    @immayasass 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Oh how I relate! I felt the pressure to pursue a prestigious career to make my parents proud. But deep down, I've always had a passion for sports and coaching, just like he did. Badminton and Basketball were my everything! Although I'm feeling a touch of envy, it's refreshing to see someone who did it

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Appreciate you. Hoping others can be inspired to turn their passions into a profession.

  • @JazzVanLoon-ss5ws
    @JazzVanLoon-ss5ws 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loved this! I will definitely take these lessons forward as I train for my next Triathalon - mindset is everything!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It sure is....and most importantly in any endurance race, remember to control the controllables!

  • @alliecoyle94
    @alliecoyle94 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Effort. Attitude. Gratitude. Never thought of those 3 words together. Especially the gratitude. Definitely going to be a slogan for my upcoming season with my team. Along with embracing the failures. Every failure is an opportunity to learn. This video summed up the key pieces I like to bring to my team each season, but did it in a much simpler way.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych หลายเดือนก่อน

      Gratitude is the hardest one but the most important one!

  • @hudsonwaters5454
    @hudsonwaters5454 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great speech and I really enjoyed the way it emphasizes the importance of effort, attitude, and gratitude. It highlights the significance of embracing failures as opportunities for learning and growth. Overall, this video encapsulates the key elements I value in leadership and serves as a reminder to stay grounded and grateful while pursuing success.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych หลายเดือนก่อน

      When we simplify and reframe our experiences, we are more likely to be successful.

  • @phillipnorris3rd
    @phillipnorris3rd 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    From wrestler to medical school, that's quite a journey. Good talk Arman

    • @tarasuppleton
      @tarasuppleton 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ha, you beat me here. Love that we always find these TED gems...

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you! The journey is all about learning.

  • @ermacohen
    @ermacohen 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    WISDOM! Success is as much about mindset as it is about skill.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you. I would even say mindset>skill

  • @annaintartaglia2453
    @annaintartaglia2453 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this so much!! Thank you so much for the information and inspiring messages Dr. T!!

  • @zackarnold1560
    @zackarnold1560 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's easy to get caught up in the academic grind and lose sight of why we chose this path in the first place.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      It definitely can be. Simplifying to intentional areas of focus can really help.

  • @aldercaltrider188
    @aldercaltrider188 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was a great watch. Learned a lot from it. Thanks for always inspiring Dr. T!

  • @jared9359
    @jared9359 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video. It takes a lot of discipline to be a D1 wrestler and eventually a doctor. You can tell he is passionate about his work.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you! The values that wrestling instilled continue to hold for life beyond.

  • @TheBigFlameDrone
    @TheBigFlameDrone หลายเดือนก่อน

    Mindset, mindset, mindset! Thanks for the reminder. I'm off to buy the t-shirt.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych หลายเดือนก่อน

      Mindset is one of the most powerful choices we have!

  • @11ThaoNguyen11
    @11ThaoNguyen11 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    His whole emphasis on maintaining a balanced mindset and finding joy in the journey reminded me to stay grounded and grateful... Yep. needed that today.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you. When we simplify and focus on the process, we are more likely to improve outcomes.

  • @zadler24
    @zadler24 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is an excellent video! Thank you for your insight Dr. T.

  • @leeannpassaro6101
    @leeannpassaro6101 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dr. T is the man! I wish I had these tools when I was an athlete myself, but I will certainly be applying them to my everyday life. Thank you for this!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I wish I had these tools when I competed as well!

  • @Cheyenne1989
    @Cheyenne1989 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Reframing failure as a learning opportunity! Yes! More of this please!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych หลายเดือนก่อน

      Always remember: First/Further Attempts In Learning!

  • @jakobdewl
    @jakobdewl หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can relate to what he says about the more he focused on winning the less enjoyment he got from wrestling. It's tough lesson but yeah, once you're doing something only for the out come and not the joy of doing it, the joy just goes away

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych หลายเดือนก่อน

      Really important to focus on the process to make it more enjoyable

  • @erinwolfson5858
    @erinwolfson5858 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this! Can apply this to so many parts of my life.

  • @erynyoung8486
    @erynyoung8486 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is POWERFUL !! Sharing 🙌🏼

  • @LifeLolling
    @LifeLolling 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Reframing failure as a learning opportunity is an attitude everyone should learn when growing up. Definitely a "controllable" in your toolkit.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Reframing is so important, so valuable and so controllable!

  • @christyn13
    @christyn13 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this so much, I drew so many parallels to my life being a mom! You have to fall down a few times in order to eventually learn to walk! Will definitely be sharing this with others!!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you. As athletes, professional and parents, the "controllables" always remain the same!

  • @kashaiq
    @kashaiq 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    teamwork and mindset is something I try to instill in myself every day.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych หลายเดือนก่อน

      So important and so valuable.

  • @tarasuppleton
    @tarasuppleton 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I struggle with knowing what I actually do control, and thats where it all starts for me and the spiral down gets faster.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Focus on EFFORT, ATTITUDE, and GRATITUDE!

  • @kelseyisman2950
    @kelseyisman2950 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    love this!!💚

  • @georgenotbest
    @georgenotbest หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm all about this. No point putting your time and energy towards something that's ultimately not up to you to

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      When you control what you can control, you dedicate your time and energy to things that matter

  • @juliebrownley6632
    @juliebrownley6632 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Fantastic! As a late arrival to competitive sports, I can deeply appreciate this important message. Tennis is the love of my life (well, yeah, my husband and kids too). Truthfully, it has been the first window into my psyche, or at least the clearest. The immediate feedback acquired from thoughts, and feelings to outcomes is a thing of beauty. I had a history of snubbing sports as primal, egocentric and wasteful. Now, I see the immense value and all of the important psychological lessons that sports have to offer us and our children. FAILing each time I’m on the court is a gift, so powerful and joyful that I hope all of my patients, family and friends will find it too. Thanks Arman for this poignant talk.

    • @freedomplace5239
      @freedomplace5239 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There's nothing quite like mastery of the mind. Everyday counts I tell myself, thanks for sharing what you've uncovered. Apparently we're all in the game!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Appreciate the feedback and personal parallels

  • @okmak397
    @okmak397 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video, reframing failure is so powerful.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Reframing can make a major difference as the way we think directly influences emotions and actions.

  • @CyberFlossLord
    @CyberFlossLord 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Remembering to have the right mindset for the task at hand can sometimes be the missing X factor to success.

  • @rapid-transit
    @rapid-transit 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's not often you hear about the lessons learned from sports translating into success in other fields like medicine. Pretty cool stuff

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The parallels are powerful.

  • @maverickvassallo
    @maverickvassallo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Balancing familial expectations with personal aspirations can be tough stuff.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Its a struggle but also a privilege

  • @livia3429
    @livia3429 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is excellent

  • @konglum
    @konglum 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Being taught from an early age to reframe failure as a lesson would benefit us all. Not sure how that'd align with certain parents expectations though 😅😅

  • @thisisjustright
    @thisisjustright 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don't think enough sporting coaches realize in full the impact they can make in someones life, on or off the field.

  • @tylermartire1750
    @tylermartire1750 หลายเดือนก่อน

    First. Attempt. In. Learning. It's only a failure if we let it be!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      and the FAIL can also help you grow if you let it!

  • @morefunallthetime
    @morefunallthetime หลายเดือนก่อน

    A lot of migrant parents put that kind of pressure on their kids and I've always seen it as not just about the money but securing them as valuable members of the community and honestly it's a shame that other parents don't instill that on their kids

  • @charlievantas
    @charlievantas หลายเดือนก่อน

    Damn yessir whatever you say 😅😅

  • @The-Only-Deal
    @The-Only-Deal หลายเดือนก่อน

    Had to laugh that the follow up to "I don't like blood" was how about a dentist? like... there's still heaps of blood in a mouth!!! LOL

  • @marcusatticuslordandrule
    @marcusatticuslordandrule 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I feel like there are a lot of parents out there who are scared of the risks of their offspring make, especially if it can come with long term damage... Heh.

  • @samgravell3180
    @samgravell3180 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is like a parody of a TEDTalk and self-help culture in general.

  • @maxinebennier
    @maxinebennier 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I think we all aspire to meet our family's expectations, even when we may not have the skills or talents to do so. We want that approval more than anything else.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's definitely important but so is choosing the mindset needed to get that approval from within.