Liz, I once listened to a person telling people "I used to fear showing any sort of weakness to my children, but one day I woke up and realised that children want to see adults vulnerable too as it makes it easier for them to realise we are all in this together"
So sorry you experienced that. I've had one, 30 years ago, and it was a horrible experience. Sending you hugs and hopes that it never happens again to you.
Thank you my lovely friend, I appreciate your kindness. At least now we know what it was and the breathing technique helped massively. Thank you again xx Liz
A mother's love is precious.. something we store inside us forever and pass it on . Such a gift. For me, the grief of mum's passing came in waves, strong at first. As time went by, the waves became more gentle, until years later I now can peacefully float in beautiful memories and know she is only a thought away.. ❤❤
Another thing we have had to be mindful of is that there is a percentage of people, who choose not to share the joy of what we have done on our holidays. It's jealousy, and there's nothing we can do about it. People
Oh Liz I send you a big hug. A panic attack must be terrifying. You are both surrounded by love remember to lean into it. Remember to be gentle and patient with yourselves. As Bri says just breathe. Arohanui Tracy
Thank you, my friend. You are right...patience is the key. I am reading a beautiful book called "Letting Go" by David Hawkins, it is helping me massively. It's about letting things come to the surface and "being there". I love it...thank you again, Tracy, I appreciate you massively ❤️
@@ItsaDrama You are so strong Liz and although you may not always feel it, you are. You and Bri have moved half way round the world to plant roots in Aotearoa that is no small feat. You are never alone the extended family you and Bri have created through your channel holds you dear my friend. ❤️
It's always such a joy to see your beautiful faces and listen to you both.💖 As I’ve mentioned before, no matter the topic, your conversations bring us so much happiness. If some people don’t resonate with certain topics, that’s okay - you can't control everyone’s preferences, so don’t worry about it.🥰 I completely agree with Brian’s thoughts on time - it's like coming back to reality and diving back into routines.Be kind and gentle with yourself through this process of adjusting to be back home. And Brian is truly an extraordinary man for understanding so well.💖 I’m so sorry you experienced that panic attack. As Brian said, it’s likely the buildup of worries about Tessa. 😢 As parents, we can’t help but worry about our kids, no matter how old they are. 🙉Tessa will be fine - she’s got such loving and caring parents to guide her.💖 We’re so happy you’ll be joining your sister in Fiji for her special occasion. Just remember, you’re not her mom, you’re her big sister who cares deeply for her. 😘 So just relax, trust that everything will be taken care of, and enjoy this special time with your sister. She needs you as her sister, not her mother.💖 We can’t wait to hear all about the wedding!👍 Sending lots of love, hugs, and kisses to both of you.💖💖💖
Oh, Renata and Savoiz...we love you both SO much. I know I say this every time I comment, but there are no other words to describe how I feel except thank you, love and appreciation. Your support is humbling. Thank you. Liz and Brian xx ❤
I wonder if it wouldn't help a bit to afford some of the vacation luxury at home... maybe once a week massage... pop a pool into a greenhouse out back.... things that could bring the vacation to home until you get through the worst part of the grief.... and build a space with no ties to your Mum or pup. Hoping things get easier to cope with, but what you've gone through this year is a lot. Be patient with your pain.
Panic attacks are really sneaky b^st^rds. The first one I ever had was at work, minding my own business, not feeling in any way stressed when out of the blue, my heart started pounding so hard I thought it was trying to climb out of my chest. I sat quietly, breathing deeply trying not to draw attention to myself but nothing was working so I took myself off into the 'sick room' for a bit. Eventually it calmed down but then I found it would try again, sometimes just as I went to bed and I'd leap into action (mentally) being EXTREMELY firm and fierce and face it down with a "NO, you're not doing this crap again, we're NOT doing this" and mostly I'd win. They'd always come when I was calm, chilled and minding my own business. Like I said, sneaky b^st^rds. It wasn't until some years later when I was talking with a therapist and randomly mentioned it that she told me what it was. In hindsight being fierce and firm may have worked but I should probably found a therapist much earlier because I found it extremely helpful and supportive. I love the fact that nowadays many therapists offer sessions at home over Zoom. Having to attend mine in person in a building emblazoned with the name of the business where anyone who knew me could see that "Ohh, she's having counselling" was a situation I would have rather not had to deal with on top of everything else. I'd been trying to soldier on which is typical me, dealing with a lot of stuff on my own at the time and something had to give. It's the fact that they came out of the blue that I found difficult. I expect that everyone's journey with panic attacks and anxiety is quite different but they're very real and can really affect your self confidence. I was going for a walk some years later and out of nowhere I started getting really anxious. No reason that I was aware of at the time, just panicky and anxious. Hadn't had one in years and suddenly!!! but like I said - sneaky b^st^rds. (I did work out why later.) Sending much love to you and Brian, it's such an individual journey but you've had a lot to deal with and your life's still being quite challenging. Take care and loads of love to you both. ❤❤ (Apologies for being soooooo long winded) 😁
Yeah know that feeling well guys. We've just returned from a 3 week trip to Singapore and Italy. Weareslowly settlung back in after 3 weeks of pleasure 😂😂😛
@@ItsaDrama thanks yes we are fine Liz. We so enjoy your commentary. The highlight of our trip was all the lovely people we met, with the exception of one kiwi couple which, if John Cleese had have been there, would have created a complete new alternative version of none other than Fawlty Towers. Liz remember this, I feel your pain. We both love your wonderful energy and totally understand that we can't be like this all of the time
Hi guys, I enjoyed this episode so much. Your so genuine & real. I never suffered with panic attacks until going through grief. They are getting less as time goes on. Be kind to yourself Liz. It's all part of the grieving journey. You've had an awful lot to deal with. Breathing exercises are helpful & help you get through the attack. Enjoy Fiji, take care
I understand how you feel losing your Mum.. Sending love to you Liz❤❤
Thanks for sharing your story ❤❤
Thank you, Michelle. My heart is with you, and to all those who are struggling with loss.❤️
Me te aroha,
Liz x
Liz, I once listened to a person telling people "I used to fear showing any sort of weakness to my children, but one day I woke up and realised that children want to see adults vulnerable too as it makes it easier for them to realise we are all in this together"
Very true, Grant. Thank you, my friend ❤️ Liz x
So sorry you experienced that. I've had one, 30 years ago, and it was a horrible experience. Sending you hugs and hopes that it never happens again to you.
Thank you my lovely friend, I appreciate your kindness. At least now we know what it was and the breathing technique helped massively. Thank you again xx Liz
A mother's love is precious.. something we store inside us forever and pass it on . Such a gift.
For me, the grief of mum's passing came in waves, strong at first. As time went by, the waves became more gentle, until years later I now can peacefully float in beautiful memories and know she is only a thought away.. ❤❤
Oh...I love this so very, very much. What a beautiful description. Thank you. Thank you, so much ❤️❤️
Much love Liz and Brian xx
Same to you, our lovely friend. Thank you xx
Another thing we have had to be mindful of is that there is a percentage of people, who choose not to share the joy of what we have done on our holidays. It's jealousy, and there's nothing we can do about it. People
Oh Liz I send you a big hug. A panic attack must be terrifying. You are both surrounded by love remember to lean into it.
Remember to be gentle and patient with yourselves. As Bri says just breathe.
Arohanui
Tracy
Thank you, my friend.
You are right...patience is the key. I am reading a beautiful book called "Letting Go" by David Hawkins, it is helping me massively. It's about letting things come to the surface and "being there". I love it...thank you again, Tracy, I appreciate you massively ❤️
@@ItsaDrama You are so strong Liz and although you may not always feel it, you are. You and Bri have moved half way round the world to plant roots in Aotearoa that is no small feat.
You are never alone the extended family you and Bri have created through your channel holds you dear my friend. ❤️
Hi you 2 was so nice listening to you this morning 🌄. All I've got to say is:Liz remember to live your day ONE day at a time. Love you 😍 💗 54:50
Thank you, Marléne, so very true...thank you for your support and loveliness xx
Congrats on 10k subscribers.
Thank YOU so much!! 😀 😍🥳
It's always such a joy to see your beautiful faces and listen to you both.💖 As I’ve mentioned before, no matter the topic, your conversations bring us so much happiness. If some people don’t resonate with certain topics, that’s okay - you can't control everyone’s preferences, so don’t worry about it.🥰
I completely agree with Brian’s thoughts on time - it's like coming back to reality and diving back into routines.Be kind and gentle with yourself through this process of adjusting to be back home. And Brian is truly an extraordinary man for understanding so well.💖
I’m so sorry you experienced that panic attack. As Brian said, it’s likely the buildup of worries about Tessa. 😢 As parents, we can’t help but worry about our kids, no matter how old they are. 🙉Tessa will be fine - she’s got such loving and caring parents to guide her.💖
We’re so happy you’ll be joining your sister in Fiji for her special occasion. Just remember, you’re not her mom, you’re her big sister who cares deeply for her. 😘 So just relax, trust that everything will be taken care of, and enjoy this special time with your sister. She needs you as her sister, not her mother.💖
We can’t wait to hear all about the wedding!👍 Sending lots of love, hugs, and kisses to both of you.💖💖💖
Oh, Renata and Savoiz...we love you both SO much. I know I say this every time I comment, but there are no other words to describe how I feel except thank you, love and appreciation. Your support is humbling. Thank you.
Liz and Brian xx ❤
@@ItsaDrama we are glad you are feeling better. 💕🙏. Thank you for your kind words. 😘😘😘❤️
I wonder if it wouldn't help a bit to afford some of the vacation luxury at home... maybe once a week massage... pop a pool into a greenhouse out back.... things that could bring the vacation to home until you get through the worst part of the grief.... and build a space with no ties to your Mum or pup.
Hoping things get easier to cope with, but what you've gone through this year is a lot. Be patient with your pain.
Thank you, Jenny, what a wonderful idea...thank you for your kindness ❤️ Liz xx
Panic attacks are really sneaky b^st^rds. The first one I ever had was at work, minding my own business, not feeling in any way stressed when out of the blue, my heart started pounding so hard I thought it was trying to climb out of my chest. I sat quietly, breathing deeply trying not to draw attention to myself but nothing was working so I took myself off into the 'sick room' for a bit. Eventually it calmed down but then I found it would try again, sometimes just as I went to bed and I'd leap into action (mentally) being EXTREMELY firm and fierce and face it down with a "NO, you're not doing this crap again, we're NOT doing this" and mostly I'd win. They'd always come when I was calm, chilled and minding my own business. Like I said, sneaky b^st^rds. It wasn't until some years later when I was talking with a therapist and randomly mentioned it that she told me what it was. In hindsight being fierce and firm may have worked but I should probably found a therapist much earlier because I found it extremely helpful and supportive. I love the fact that nowadays many therapists offer sessions at home over Zoom. Having to attend mine in person in a building emblazoned with the name of the business where anyone who knew me could see that "Ohh, she's having counselling" was a situation I would have rather not had to deal with on top of everything else. I'd been trying to soldier on which is typical me, dealing with a lot of stuff on my own at the time and something had to give. It's the fact that they came out of the blue that I found difficult. I expect that everyone's journey with panic attacks and anxiety is quite different but they're very real and can really affect your self confidence. I was going for a walk some years later and out of nowhere I started getting really anxious. No reason that I was aware of at the time, just panicky and anxious. Hadn't had one in years and suddenly!!! but like I said - sneaky b^st^rds. (I did work out why later.) Sending much love to you and Brian, it's such an individual journey but you've had a lot to deal with and your life's still being quite challenging. Take care and loads of love to you both. ❤❤ (Apologies for being soooooo long winded) 😁
Oh, what a gorgeous message...thank you SO much. This makes me feel like I am not alone and I love you for that. Thank you ❤️ Liz xx
@@ItsaDrama ☺💐❤
Yeah know that feeling well guys. We've just returned from a 3 week trip to Singapore and Italy. Weareslowly settlung back in after 3 weeks of pleasure 😂😂😛
Right, Grant??!! The trip sounds like bliss, I hope NZ springtime is looking after you and raising your spirits 🥰🇳🇿
@@ItsaDrama thanks yes we are fine Liz. We so enjoy your commentary. The highlight of our trip was all the lovely people we met, with the exception of one kiwi couple which, if John Cleese had have been there, would have created a complete new alternative version of none other than Fawlty Towers. Liz remember this, I feel your pain. We both love your wonderful energy and totally understand that we can't be like this all of the time
Hi guys, I enjoyed this episode so much. Your so genuine & real. I never suffered with panic attacks until going through grief. They are getting less as time goes on. Be kind to yourself Liz. It's all part of the grieving journey. You've had an awful lot to deal with. Breathing exercises are helpful & help you get through the attack. Enjoy Fiji, take care
Think of a piano! A piano has white keys & black keys! Black keys are the negative flat keys but together with the white keys they make music!
Stop worrying it's not worth it
Thak you, Marléne x