How Do You Find Self Worth? | Dr. Lisa Strohman | TEDxGrandCanyonUniversity
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 17 พ.ค. 2021
- What if we allowed everyone to feel they are enough? What if we didn’t subscribe to the belief that there are mountains we need to climb to be important? What if we didn’t fill the need to have a verified badge on our social media that told us we are worthy? Every human is verified by one simple value. Respect.
Focusing on the ability to differentiate our self-value from how we become "verified" in these digital worlds forces us all to think through our own perspective. Growing up homeless, surviving years of abuse, and dealing with several challenges of trying to choose whether life was worth living, Lisa ultimately came to look at life through the eyes of helping others.
Clinical psychologist, author, public speaker, and founder and director of Digital Citizen Academy Lisa Strohman has held titles for several institutions and organizations. From working with the FBI to being a member of the American Bar Association and past Chair of the American Psychological Association Committee, she has a great number of experiences under her belt. She uses all of her experiences today to educate others on mental health and raise awareness for technology wellness.
Dr. Lisa Strohman is a clinical psychologist, author, public speaker, and the founder and director of Digital Citizen Academy. She established Digital Citizen Academy to proactively prevent and educate students, educators, and parents on the issues resulting from technology use and misuse. Dr. Strohman has spent more than a decade working with adolescents and families in her private practice and a career working with schools to address challenges with student mental health and well-being.
In addition, Dr. Strohman was a Visiting Scholar for the FBI working on homicidal pedophilia when a Columbine occurred giving her the opportunity to be on the front lines of how technology impacts our youth. She has continued to work with law enforcement and the FBI on safety and cybercrimes involving adolescents, while also lending her knowledge and guidance to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.
Dr. Strohman holds a Bachelor's Degree in Psychology from the University of California, Davis, where she graduated Magna Cum Laude and later earned a Ph.D. and J.D., completing a joint integrated program in Law and Psychology at Villanova and Drexel Universities with honors. She was an active member of the American Bar Association, a past Chair of the American Psychological Association’s Committee on Legal Issues, and a current member of Pinnacle Forum. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
In my point, 4 ways of cultivating unconditional self-worth:
1. Forgive yourself for past mistakes. Acknowledge the situation that led to your mistake and say "I forgive me“ in an honest and kind way.
2. Practice self-acceptance. Let go of your thoughts about how you think you should be. Embrace the things you like about yourself as well as the things you think others may not like. You are worthy just the way you are.
3. Be there for yourself when life gets rough. Acknowledge your emotional pain and say nice things to yourself.
4. Connect with supportive people.
Really great advice
I appreciate this, I was going to post something similar. I was waiting for the application part of the TEDTalk, which didn’t really happen until the last minute of the post, but it was still vague. Your points are exactly what I was going to resonate.
Well said. 💕👍🏽
Technology is a tool, that's what I tell myself. To explore. Not to define who you are and what you are worth.
His iss more about social media's effects of self worth, it shouldd be retitled
I just watch this video, and I agree absolutely, but she does do a good job of explaining some of the effects, and vicious cycle of social media on a persons self confidence.
All roads lead to Rome
The whole video is waste of time, the key point at the end, which could be said in 20sec time, drag 10mins...lack of content to find Self worth
Thank you for saving me 10 minutes! I’m only 1 minute and 21 seconds in 😊
Agree.
Thank you for this. Those last 5 minutes hit home for me. You are relating this to social media because that is where it is amplified and personified. But I'm taking this at more than face value because we do this both on and off the internet, the internet just makes these validations more "tangible" and quantifiable. I appreciate you uncovering this for us.
No matter where I go, what I look like, what I say, or what I do, I have inherent worth and value💎and so do you💖🦋
love the perspective but might i suggest that social medial only amplifies .. the lack of self worth or need for validation still exists .. social media makes it worse ... i deleted FB it made me depressed from all the fakeness
Was hopingbthis would be more encompassing, about ourselves and society at large not just social media
Wonderful Talk that really makes you stop and think
If that girl heard this talk she still would have killed herself.
"Don't let it get to you" is not a solution.
I agree, this is just the tip of the iceberg for me.
Social media addiction is just a symptom of a bigger problem, not the root of the problem.
We should be diving deeper and ask why we're looking for our worth in social media, why we feel deeply ashamed of who we are and why we feel so invisible and isolated from the world.
If you're curious about this, I highly suggest reading John Bradshaw's book "Healing the Shame that Binds You".
Thank you 🌷
-External validation, eliminate dependency
-Self worth-being human. You r innately enough
-Way u live ur life, be u??
Thank you, Dr. Lisa, for sharing your talk on our 2021 stage. What an incredible and informative talk. Thank you for all of your time and dedication our team was honored to have worked with you.
We also hear in Corinthians 6,7,8, “We are always confident, knowing that, while we are home in the body, we are absent from the lord. For we walk by faith, not by sight. We are confident, I say and willing rather be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.” So, we need to be present with the Lord. When we hear and sing His Holy Names, we can feel His presence easily. Where there is transcendental love there is confidence, there is spiritual strength, there is purpose, there is direction. That is real spiritual self-esteem based on wisdom.
Wow, what a wonderful video. Thank you so so much.
i value myself enough to say , you are a beautiful woman and thanks for the awareness that unless we become conscious creators of our lives we will be of the herd. i am sure that so many people are bored of uploading another pic or selfie. i choose to have the perception of self-defining myself without that constant thought structure of mind that says I am loved because how many likes I have. and again all these people that give a thumbs up I don't know them. i remember doing facebook and thinking why do all these people want to be friends with me? the illusion of social media. it does take consciousness and courage to be oneself believing in whatever one chooses particularly when you might think differently about things than the mass collective I have bipolar 2 condition and the insight that I am still integrating is self-worth saying I love myself is one thing creating the evidence of that for oneself alone is another.
Very helpful!
This doesn't apply for me. I don't participate in this online social media, because I don't care about the life of others.
Yeah, how can you explain a lack of self worth if you don't hold other people on a high pedestal? Because I'm there as well. I don't think most people are better than me but still struggle because I think I did sth wrong
Thank you ❤gbu
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Eliminate external validation to start seeing changes in your life.
I think we all struggle with self-worth because we have to all subscribe to the same standards and no one is allowed to be different. This is beneficial in a capitalist society. They can sell us stuff to finally be enough. If we’re not aware of it, we’re victims of it. So when we don’t fit that “norm” in the way we look, behave and grow, then we feel ashamed. With access to the internet and social media, everyone is starting to think the same, act the same, want the same things. No one is just trying to be themselves.
Just Be Yourself.
I wish someone could talk more deeply about the topic, this was more about navigating self-worth in a world full of social media. I wish someone could bring in the concept of the Jungian shadow etc.
Just curious about what specifically you'd like more deeply covered?
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how about we start from there ?
This is beyond words. I found content with a similar message, and it was absolutely mind-blowing. "Your Body Your Temple" by Sophia Wintergreen
5:00
Goldmine
Not helpful, also misleading title. I wasn't looking for a lecture on social media. I almost don't use them, yet still have problems with self-worth. That did not help a bit
I notice this a lot with Ted talks. The title does not match the information.
agreed:(
It's an important presentation, and the content is good. But the title is all wrong. This presentation is about the impact of social media on one's self-worth.
first of all, what is a self worth ?
This was a good talk but the title is misleading.
1:19
Self worth is not important. Self-reliance is what is important. I feel completely worthless to myself and others. However, I am far more self-reliant than humans that waste time being social because they feel they are worth being known to others. They feel they would benefit others for more than just companionship. I have no such handicap and waste no time seeking humans for the purposes of amorous or amicable relationships. I have had no social existence since the 8th of August 2000 at 18:34. The benefits of having no social existence are many.. The benefits of being social are few. There is no need to be social in the 21st century.
I don't have likes and followers, I can't feel self worth
Vroo i can feel you but we have to realise that doesn't even matters 🤧
6 mins in still no word regarding the subject that the title suggests the video is about......not waiting another 4 mins....
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why are you here ? just say it directly
to complicated for you, tifany ?
Bad title. If the talk is about social media then that should be in the title.
misleading title
hey, do you understand how a brain works ?