This is so spot-on about defaulting to the other person's interests. So spot-on! That has been me and a topic of conversation within my relationship, which helped me feel not as resentful. It's so frustrating that head-bumping! OMG, yes! For example, I find that I can't share my love of learning languages with someone who is a first-generation American from an Italian family who knows some Italian! Like, WTF! I ADORE Latin, have taken Latin multiple times, and am pretty solid in, say, Latin 1 and translating myths from Latin to English (Latin Via Ovid), and of course, my partner would LOVE to share this with me! No, not at all - LOL. This frustration and anger of mine have lessened into disappointment and humor. (Like, "Want me to read Latin to you?) So, I do this on my own, a solitary pursuit. I do still wish he would, but he is not interested. I have judgments toward him about having this foundation to enhance the ease of learning Latin, but it doesn't make him happy. I don't know if I watched this video already and commented months ago, but watching it again really connects to me right now!
Appreciate you for sharing a number of things here! I love the way you spoke about the pumpkin, I want more pumpkin relationships in my life now and less carriage ones! And although I’ve heard it a million times now, your reminder to come back to meeting my own needs and not feeling or holding others obligated to fulfill mine, yet still keeping a look out for people that want to do it out of their own heart is really where it’s at for me. Much gratitude Connor and Brittany! 🤗🙏
I was with a younger man occasionally. I am 75 and he is 57. He black, me white. I had a couple situations of possible std. I didn't get tested. He didn't offer to get tested. I fear being with him again as friends with benefits.
Well, you sound perfect together if neither of you got tested- I don't understand why not but if trust that someone is going to follow through on important matters then it doesn't see mature. And why do you need him to get tested for you to get tested. You do your thing too- it shouldn't be only dependent on him.
my suggestion would be to see in what reality these needs are, in what reality the people around you are and then you need to meet them yourself or if you have cleared your mind about your needs you look for a person specifically to meet the need.
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Interesting discussion.
This is so spot-on about defaulting to the other person's interests. So spot-on! That has been me and a topic of conversation within my relationship, which helped me feel not as resentful. It's so frustrating that head-bumping! OMG, yes! For example, I find that I can't share my love of learning languages with someone who is a first-generation American from an Italian family who knows some Italian! Like, WTF! I ADORE Latin, have taken Latin multiple times, and am pretty solid in, say, Latin 1 and translating myths from Latin to English (Latin Via Ovid), and of course, my partner would LOVE to share this with me! No, not at all - LOL. This frustration and anger of mine have lessened into disappointment and humor. (Like, "Want me to read Latin to you?) So, I do this on my own, a solitary pursuit. I do still wish he would, but he is not interested. I have judgments toward him about having this foundation to enhance the ease of learning Latin, but it doesn't make him happy. I don't know if I watched this video already and commented months ago, but watching it again really connects to me right now!
Appreciate you for sharing a number of things here! I love the way you spoke about the pumpkin, I want more pumpkin relationships in my life now and less carriage ones! And although I’ve heard it a million times now, your reminder to come back to meeting my own needs and not feeling or holding others obligated to fulfill mine, yet still keeping a look out for people that want to do it out of their own heart is really where it’s at for me. Much gratitude Connor and Brittany! 🤗🙏
Love that this landed, you're awesome! 🤗
Felt that deeply. Thank you for reminding me to celebrate and mourne. All is valid. You are truely precious!
So much love to you!
Amazing conversation... Thanks guys x
Love you guys! Thank you for sharing with us💜
WOW! This makes so much sense! Thank you xxx
Thank you both for being you!!!!
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Been watching you guys for years and I'm curious about what your mbti types are?
Do you guys have tiktok?
I was with a younger man occasionally. I am 75 and he is 57. He black, me white. I had a couple situations of possible std. I didn't get tested. He didn't offer to get tested. I fear being with him again as friends with benefits.
Well, you sound perfect together if neither of you got tested- I don't understand why not but if trust that someone is going to follow through on important matters then it doesn't see mature. And why do you need him to get tested for you to get tested. You do your thing too- it shouldn't be only dependent on him.
Love this. Thank you.
What if a lot of people still don’t meet your needs?!
my suggestion would be to see in what reality these needs are, in what reality the people around you are and then you need to meet them yourself or if you have cleared your mind about your needs you look for a person specifically to meet the need.
Brilliant video thank u 🙏
So true thank you