I’m working on better understanding n respecting monogamous partners. I recently realized how inconsiderate it is of me to simply chalk their beliefs off as not relatable all while expecting others to appreciate my core values
My partner told me she wanted to be polyamorous after we had a Three way with a mutual friend. I wasn’t open to it very much and was insecure about it and i did not communicate well with her at all. My lack of good communication with her made it so that she didn’t fully communicate her wants because I would react so badly. It got to the point where I agreed to things I wasn’t comfortable with a got very hurt when she spent the night and had sex with another partner that I had no knowledge about. It’s pretty much killed us and Im having a really hard time feeling like I wasn’t worth a little more effort for communication from her.
same. I’ve been able to share this video with a partner I’m so excited about but his wife is hesitant about opening their relationship. She has all the legitimate fears. Obviously, I am struggling with participating in some thing that could be so hurtful to somebody else. Since they’ve already had the conversation about opening their marriage I’ve been able to sent him to you guys ❤️ I know that even if our relationship doesn’t make sense to continue or we don’t reconnect, your comment about sustaining a false presentation of your wants and needs… I know from first-hand experience it will present itself. I know, yes I feel certain, that he’s gonna lose this awesome relationship with his wife that he cherishes if they don’t find a way to be themselves( even if you stay together, you’ve lost the relationship if you’re not yourself in my opinion). I’m so so so hoping it works out for them and thank you so much for being a resource for me on my journey. Pretty important stuff you’re doing.
Me and my partner have spoken about this, but I am scared it's going to effect us. He has told me that he never wants to leave me he loves me and everything he does with the other person will just be physical. I feel like I'm not enough for him anymore and I don't want to lose him please give me advice I would appreciate it. I'm a really jealous person too but I can be understanding, I just dont know what to do, how am I going to cope
If you don’t want to share your partner and he wants something else, I would leave. This isn’t what you want, and honestly if you’re not comfortable now then you’re never gonna be later. Go with what you truly want in a relationship, not what he wants.
Some ppl have a very sexually curious, explorative mind. It has nothing to do with loving your partner any less. Sexual experiences get very repetitive in relationships. And it’s hard to bring up the conversation. These feelings of desire to explore are natural, regardless the level of love for your partner. I am one of these ppl. There is no girl on this planet that can convince me she’s a better lover and lifer partner for me than my partner. No one. No matter the sexual experience. Jealousy most likely will diminish as time goes by as long as you two are respecting and following each other’s initial guidelines that you agreed on
Have you or will you talk about other family members reactions? I am very close with my parents and while they are very open minded, I worry about them having a negative reaction to me coming out as poly, especially with serious, committed relationships and the potential of children one day. Just curious if you've had to handle this with your own relations.
You are absolutely correct about self reflection in an open relationship. When my partner wanted one and I didn't I thought it was because i wasn't good enough. I had to take a lot of time to realized I had severe self esteem issues that came from my childhood and it was keeping me from feeling a sense of self worth. Even though my relationship ended for other reasons I'm so happy I had that experience and now I'm completely non monogamous I use that to build trust and honesty in relationships I have now.
💞Much *Authentic* Love To You Both ! I have Had my Love for Many Exploited as Well as Shamed..... I Now Feel Safe in Expressing myself with Full Authenticity VS Enmeshment ... FEAR OBLIGATION GUILT as well as TOXIC LEVELS of SHAME STEW are not Love or Loving❤
Thank you for this. Non-monogamy is hard for me and doesn’t come naturally but I believe in the style of the relationship. I might not ever sleep with other people but I know it makes my partner happy to have that option
Thanks so much. This hit a lot of spots in me. I feel like this is going to get me closer to a truer me. Thanks for this journey. You really help me reflect on myself ❤️ I'm so greatfull do everything you share!
What about when you are just starting out with a potential new relationship and you are transparent that you are Polly e and then they agree but then get more immersed and then say they want just you and only you and then question if you really wouldn’t like them seeing other ppl and that makes you realize you wouldn’t want them to see other ppl -catch- wen they put it like that. You see.. the poly you all describe is sooooooo “other” than what ppl typically categorize as poly. How do I describe the poly we constantly talk about here to a new love interest before they take it as permission from me to go f whoever whenever they want!?
I’m working on better understanding n respecting monogamous partners. I recently realized how inconsiderate it is of me to simply chalk their beliefs off as not relatable all while expecting others to appreciate my core values
This video confirmed everything I thought I felt about polyamory. Not for me. I’m going to have to end a relationship that I really enjoy. This sucks
This is wonderfully put. Thank you for sharing space and shedding clear light in this. Beautiful! ❤️
YAY! A Conor & Brittany video:]
I love your thoughts on this and I'm not even finished with the video yet.
Yay! 😘
i love this ❤️
THIS VIDEO IS SO TITE
Ah hell no, if my wife asks me for a non monogamous relationship I'll set her free.
My partner told me she wanted to be polyamorous after we had a Three way with a mutual friend. I wasn’t open to it very much and was insecure about it and i did not communicate well with her at all. My lack of good communication with her made it so that she didn’t fully communicate her wants because I would react so badly. It got to the point where I agreed to things I wasn’t comfortable with a got very hurt when she spent the night and had sex with another partner that I had no knowledge about. It’s pretty much killed us and Im having a really hard time feeling like I wasn’t worth a little more effort for communication from her.
this video couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. thank y’all so much for making this! this is exactly the advice i was looking for
same. I’ve been able to share this video with a partner I’m so excited about but his wife is hesitant about opening their relationship. She has all the legitimate fears. Obviously, I am struggling with participating in some thing that could be so hurtful to somebody else. Since they’ve already had the conversation about opening their marriage I’ve been able to sent him to you guys ❤️ I know that even if our relationship doesn’t make sense to continue or we don’t reconnect, your comment about sustaining a false presentation of your wants and needs… I know from first-hand experience it will present itself. I know, yes I feel certain, that he’s gonna lose this awesome relationship with his wife that he cherishes if they don’t find a way to be themselves( even if you stay together, you’ve lost the relationship if you’re not yourself in my opinion). I’m so so so hoping it works out for them and thank you so much for being a resource for me on my journey. Pretty important stuff you’re doing.
Me and my partner have spoken about this, but I am scared it's going to effect us. He has told me that he never wants to leave me he loves me and everything he does with the other person will just be physical. I feel like I'm not enough for him anymore and I don't want to lose him please give me advice I would appreciate it. I'm a really jealous person too but I can be understanding, I just dont know what to do, how am I going to cope
If you don’t want to share your partner and he wants something else, I would leave. This isn’t what you want, and honestly if you’re not comfortable now then you’re never gonna be later. Go with what you truly want in a relationship, not what he wants.
Some ppl have a very sexually curious, explorative mind. It has nothing to do with loving your partner any less. Sexual experiences get very repetitive in relationships. And it’s hard to bring up the conversation. These feelings of desire to explore are natural, regardless the level of love for your partner. I am one of these ppl. There is no girl on this planet that can convince me she’s a better lover and lifer partner for me than my partner. No one. No matter the sexual experience. Jealousy most likely will diminish as time goes by as long as you two are respecting and following each other’s initial guidelines that you agreed on
Have you or will you talk about other family members reactions? I am very close with my parents and while they are very open minded, I worry about them having a negative reaction to me coming out as poly, especially with serious, committed relationships and the potential of children one day. Just curious if you've had to handle this with your own relations.
You are absolutely correct about self reflection in an open relationship. When my partner wanted one and I didn't I thought it was because i wasn't good enough. I had to take a lot of time to realized I had severe self esteem issues that came from my childhood and it was keeping me from feeling a sense of self worth. Even though my relationship ended for other reasons I'm so happy I had that experience and now I'm completely non monogamous I use that to build trust and honesty in relationships I have now.
Rewatching this in a way that my heart can actually hear this time ❤ thank you to you both! You’re invaluable 🤗
So it’s basically an open relationship.?
You are both so well spoken! :)
Thanks Caroline!
@@conorandbrittany :) You're welcome!
so good. my favorite notification is your new videos
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omg this video is absolutely just what i was looking for this is the exact same situation im in that the writer was in
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Thank you....
💞Much *Authentic* Love To You Both !
I have Had my Love for Many Exploited as Well as Shamed.....
I Now Feel Safe in Expressing myself with Full Authenticity VS Enmeshment ...
FEAR OBLIGATION GUILT as well as TOXIC LEVELS of SHAME STEW are not Love or Loving❤
Thank you for this. Non-monogamy is hard for me and doesn’t come naturally but I believe in the style of the relationship. I might not ever sleep with other people but I know it makes my partner happy to have that option
I would say thats fine for you
Oooh. My job is to love and support you no matter what. That hit home ❤️❤️❤️
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Thanks so much. This hit a lot of spots in me. I feel like this is going to get me closer to a truer me. Thanks for this journey. You really help me reflect on myself ❤️ I'm so greatfull do everything you share!
We appreciate you 💓
Who watches your child while you do these videos? ♥️ love your stuff!
What about when you are just starting out with a potential new relationship and you are transparent that you are Polly e and then they agree but then get more immersed and then say they want just you and only you and then question if you really wouldn’t like them seeing other ppl and that makes you realize you wouldn’t want them to see other ppl -catch- wen they put it like that. You see.. the poly you all describe is sooooooo “other” than what ppl typically categorize as poly. How do I describe the poly we constantly talk about here to a new love interest before they take it as permission from me to go f whoever whenever they want!?