Nothing to do with "god" Claire, and 100% to do with YOU... :-) We make our own reality--don't trust (or pray) to anything or anyone else for help creating your reality, you have to do it yourself. So trust in yourself and have belief and FAITH in yourself. That's it.
Can she feel separation anxiety if she’s in a rebound that is long distance? The new guy she lined up and emotionally cheated on me with is giving her the validation/attention and security she craves, so time will only tell
@@A2Kaid She has been in a long distance rebound with the other guy for five months already. I live 15 minutes away from her and we were together for 6 months
Coach Craig and Margaret has gotten me through the worst time of my life. I've been watching to their videos everyday for the last 5 months and exercising no contact. The heartache has gone away and I feel like I don't want my ex back any longer, I can move on now with confidence. Thank you for all you do for us.
I am watching these type of videos daily too as a constant reminder to stay strong, gain back my power by not chasing him as his behaviour is not good enough for me
After five months apart, I am back together with my ex. To everyone who wants to get back together, don't give up. Coach Craig's advice is so important. For men, not losing emotional self control is critical as is not chasing a woman who has rejected you, and letting her come to you. I had to make some adjustments to the principles because my woman is from SE Asia and her culture is very different from ours in the west. But essentially they do work. I was in a three year LDR before the roof fell in last November much to my surprise of course. Guys rarely see it coming. So thanks Coach Craig. It feels good to feel happy again.
Thank you so much coach. We are currently in a new honeymoon phase and learning about each other again. It is a good time as everyone knows. When the work starts I will email you the story. Your videos really taught me how to handle a very difficult situation and I know they saved me from some serious and potentially fatal mistakes because so much of what you teach is counterintuitive. Thanks again. Life is good. I will continue to follow your work closely.
Thanks for sharing your success! As you know, break ups are very scary and feel hopeless! I absolutely know how to turn them around and I love hearing success stories! Love makes the world go around :)
The key is to give space, be respectful and think about their feelings, and not yours. It's actually a good lesson. Sometimes the breakup is 100% due to clingeness. The life is not only relationship. Focus on other parts, and try to balance everything. We normally suffer when we put the relationship in the center of our lives, that also leads to breakup.
Even if no contact doesn't result in getting your ex back, at least you keep your dignity. Plus, to be honest, it's better to just move on from that person. If they dumped you that means they were okay with you meeting someone else and never getting you back. Let that sink in. Plus, who knows what they did while you were apart. Pretty good chance they hooked up with someone else. That innocent trust will never be there again. Let them go...there are so many other people out there that won't do that to you, will value you, and you can experience a new love.
My “ex” called me after I asked him to come back from his friends to the apartment we live at to help me clean. It was actually the new girl who answered. She picked up, said “this is [my exes] gf. I don’t want any problems but he’ll be home to help pick up later” I said “ ok, bye”. Later I made the mistake to plead at him “why did you move on after 3 days” “did you ever love me” “did you use me the way you are this girl (he borrowed from her to pay me off)” etc. that was 3 days ago. I’m still a wreck. All I knew is that he broke up with me, and that he was staying at a friends... then he posted on Snapchat pics of them, then the call. I assumed the Snapchat was a new friend. I had such disbelief he’d move on that quick, but obviously he’s trash and as Taylor Swift would say “we are never getting back together”. He blindsided me so bad, it was horrible.
Coach Craig's advice was super on point! I did the no contact rule to a T and completely cut off all contact. In 4 months, my ex came back saying he missed me and couldn't bear to be another day without me. This period also helped me improve my self value and made me realize everything Coach Craig said was ideal to get me to this great place. Don't settle for friendship and be disciplined about no contact! It works! It works so good that perhaps when they do come back you might be the one who doesn't even want them back!
I cried when I saw this, because I realized I’ve been doing everything wrong. Now I feel hopeless, because I want my ex back so bad. But after thinking about what you said, I stopped crying and I felt better. My bf broke up with me a bit over a week ago and I’ve been trying to get him back by contacting him and promising to make things better and work on myself. But my constant reaching out to him made things worse. I am taking your advice and I will try to accept the break up even thought it hurts. I hope it is not too late. I also realized that constantly promising to make things better and work on myself is not going to help. He doesn’t need promises. He wants to SEE the improvement. So I will stop contacting him, use the time to work on myself and hope that he will reach out to me soon.
I have an update. Right after I made this comment, I texted my ex that I was sorry for not giving him space, that I would accept his decision, that I love him, and will be here if he needs to talk. I didn’t contact him anymore after that. And less than he week after, he contacted me and said that he was sorry about the break up and that he misses me. I really didn’t expect this at all!
@@naiko6700 We are no longer together. I stopped pursuing him and did the “no contact”-thing, and one time when he invited me home. But he ended up changing his mind, because he “wasn’t ready” and woke me up in the middle of the night and kicked me out in freezing weather. After that he kept promising me to work things out and got my hopes up, but would change his mind all the time. I realized that everything happened on his premises only... I also saw him on the street holding hands with another girl less than a week after he invited me home for sex. This behavior from him really messed me up... it was also the hardest heart break I’ve ever experienced. I feel like he was playing with my feelings. I now go to therapy because his behavior affected me so much.
NC !!!! Keep yourself busy and work on you !!!! I’m a strong believer that you shouldn’t rely on any human being to create happiness for you !!!! If you can’t be happy together then maybe you can be happy apart😃
I don't want her to feel the pain that I have. If she wasn't happy with me it's hard to take but I'd rather her be happy then just being with me because I'm not happy. I want her back but you can't be selfish in situations like this. You have to take into consideration what the other person wants.
This is my favorite video ever and I watch it quite frequently whenever I need a reminder of how to behave after a breakup. "They treated you like you were on sale, you were on clearance, they were gettin' rid of you" LOL I love this! They are no longer a priority in your life. This is probably one of the best videos ever made on breakups & How to Make Your Ex Miss You (From a Psychotherapist) is also my go-to when I'm suffering heartbreak. Thank you Coach Craig & Margaret you guys always make me laugh. Thank you for all the beautiful work you do and for always being my compass!
I watch your videos daily, especially when I get needy, have negative thoughts and bad behavior. Thanks again for all that you and Margaret do on here. It truly is a blessing to hear and act upon all of what you're talking about. :)
The more time that passes by the less chances you might have if you are not actively there or in their minds. Things are either meant to be or they are not. Each party has things to work on; with the pass of time you might just become a better person suitable for somebody else
Io Europa Ganymed Kallisto well, I’ve been doing all the “wrong things such as talk, texting, apologizing, explaining also changed my poor habit ” for 2 months post break up. He is adamant and been ignoring most of my texts but he didn’t block me. Recently I noticed he viewed my stories and I think he realized I can see, so the next 2 days he went completely “not online” for 9-10 hours, which is very odd as usually he’s always on/ wouldn’t be away for too long. Today he suddenly turned off the active notice on messenger 😅. Why? I haven’t been texting him for a week and living my life. Why the need to do so when I’m giving him space now?
I was broken up with. I sort of followed the no contact rule. My ex is coming over and it was her idea. I want to make sure I am not just friends with her and I make her attracted to me. I will be more masculine and more emotional stable and less attached to her and less showing her that I still feel for her. Wish me luck, she comes over tomorrow.
Just broke up with my girlfriend after 2 years + . I feel broken. I need to put focus on my self and so does she. I wish this wouldn't be true, wish we could get back together because we do love each other very much, it took us 5 hours to decide that we were both crying and wouldn't let go of each other. but deep down inside we know we are not good for each other at the moment.. I hope things will be better, either if we get back together or not.. just hope things will be better by days passing. Yeah I will do NC rule because I believe in it's pros of self healing, not just to make her "jealous" or something because I don't care if she is. And I think she will do the NC too because she knows she hurt me and she need to improve her self too. I love her, and I wish her the best in the world. I had so much fun hugging her and stroking her hair when she felt down. I so miss these moments when I protected her from her bad moments. I do hope we will find our way back together because I think that despite our issues, we did care a lot for each other. but truth to be told : I know I can't relay on that "hope", I need to move on but it's so hard, I just wanna be vanished from the world right now and stop feeling. hope to be better soon asap.
yall listen to coach man no contact works my ex text me today after only 3 weeks of no contact woooow this works... it really works. .... gota be strong
long story but I was acting insecure and a lil jealous.. she wasnt perfect either it was a combo of both.. play it cool doe if she does contact you..act like you dont care
The way Craig teaches no contact here is the ONLY real way to do no contact. It means you're ex never ever hears from you again for any reason possible. You have to absolutely go stone cold silent and make them feel a sense of loss or you don't stand a real good chance of reconnecting with them. Don't listen to the "30 day no contact" coaches out there that teach you to keep chasing your ex like that. I have rarely seen that work in the way people wanted it to.
dayum12 Yeah, you're results are typical of what happens when people try the 30 day no contact method cause there's usually a very good reason why you always have to be the one initiating the contact in these cases cause the ex is probably dating someone new and or they are still pissed at you, so I have never struck to a certain amount of time of no contact, then started contacting them and that's why this is the better way of doing it.
Jack Bravo Yeah I agree. I try not to assume anything negative as that doesn't help me as a person with anxiety. She could be dating someone else or she probably isn't. I know I can't even think about dating someone else at this point. She still has our photos on her Facebook account. I'm not going to call again unless she does.
dayum12 Yeah man, that's the best thing to do right now cause any further contact by you just places her more in the power position and she can treat you any way she wants but I can tell you, there's been many cases where the person that got dumped eventually was moving on and that's when the ex reappears, I had ex's want to come back later and I was not in that same emotional stare of needing them anymore, so I know this from experience and I can vouch for how Craig teaches, even I just found his video's last night, he teaches you the correct way.
Because of narcissistic forms of behaviors, I ended it after 3 1/2 years. Trauma bonded I couldn’t move on. Though I reached out to him respectfully, over the course of a few years, he never contacted me again and is now getting married. In this case anxiety did not trigger desire. I never expected healing to be so difficult and moving on to be so hard. Thank you for your content and knowledge.
I wonder... I can understand why you need to maintain no contact when your partner broke up because you were to clingy or needy, but what if they broke up with you because they felt YOU weren't giving them enough affection, and they feel disconnected to such an extent they wanted to leave? Going no contact in that scenario seems like an affirmation of their belief that you don't care, and only increases disconnection further?
My girlfriend just broke up with me last night and this was very helpful information Craig. I never heard of someone speaks such knowledge about how to go about a break up. You are amazing Sir
My wife of a little over a year left me said she needed space and time to figure things out. I just found out last night that she moved out of state and moved in with another older man. I had no idea this was her intentions. I'm so devastated and so upset.
@@lisawilkins7976 same here. My baby mama and my 3 yr old went to Florida. They're like 12 hours from me :( massive waves of depression and anxiety. I miss them so much.
Guys ,Stick with Craig kenneth advice ... After 8 months of no contact after he broke up with me now my ex reached out and try to win me back.. Everyday i watch the videos of Craig and Margareth,dont give up guys ...thanks so much you really help us, Godblesd ...awesome ♥
It's not true that a woman would never leave a man if her attraction level is is high and she loves the man. She will leave a man she deeply loves if she feels there is no real commitment from the man, no future. This was the case for me.
That is my plan to WORK ON MYSELF! YOU AND MARGARET ARE THE BEST! [I am teary eyed ] and it was hard to hear but, its all true Blessings to you and Margaret. Craig I am back in the gym and began seeing my friends . I feel myself healing. I thank you both!
I almost lost it when you began talking about, "...not wanting to be in a relationship 'RIGHT NOW'". I figured she lost attraction to me, but she said that, "everything seemed to be so undecided about what we wanted." She also told me that she didnt have the time or energy to be in a relationship. I've lost about 12 pounds in the last months from the anxiety and struggle of this. Going to try the NC, because we are a part of the same group of friends. To anyone going through this, please be strong. If I can't, you need to.
@@ryanchaney94 You do not want them back.... ever. Who I was at that time doesn't exist anymore. After a while, you begin to understand why NC is important for combating emotional instability. When my brain started easing away from the trauma, the logical side of me started piece together all of the things that happened. All the bad traits you chose to ignore scream at you once more. ... except now there isn't a person there to "let it go" for anymore. With the help of videos like this, and others from various channels, the pain will subside. The memories will never cease, but this is your process. So, it worked out in my own way. Mind you, every result varies, and every interpretation of NC varies.
This is what I needed to hear. Thanks for giving me the strength to make the decision of 'no contact' from someone who after 14 years decides to leave the house without making the leaving for good or not decision and just leaving me waiting/hoping for her to come back... thank you
you are very good & correct with all your advise. above all you speak clearly & slowly. others u tube speak like a marathon & that is stupid. you are one of the BEST
All women are different. It's a personality thing. My experience with men shows that they often like women whose feelings are unclear. I on the other hand hate and I repeat hate men whose feelings about me are unclear.
Craig you are the most amazing therapist and coach I've ever listened to. I'm a 43-year-old male and I thought I knew everything about relationships and break ups. Boy was I wrong after listening to you. I just ended a three-year engagement three days ago because she moved in some guy she works with into her house to rent out a room. Next thing you know they're texting each other all the time and deleting all the text messages so I can't read them. I'm very hurt right now and lost emotionally. I've been searching the last two days for someone to help me with some great advice. You are way beyond the most knowledgeable person I could imagine to come across. You are a godsend and I am very very thankful to come across you. I'm looking forward to doing a one on one coaching session in the next couple days.
My ex-partner reached out (crying in the phone she's missing me) in 48 hours after the breakup and 3 weeks later broke up again. Probably the worst position to be in. We didn't have time to work on ourselves after the breakup and the 2nd chance is wasted at the same time... Every positivity I do (she's checking my social media all the time) does not affect her, not enough at least.
@@billerin7995 She married to the same guy she met one week after our final breakup. Nonetheless she reached out 10 months after our breakup. So I won the NC war. On top of that, I'm over it ever since. This happened nearly 3 years ago.
Can he feel that separation anxiety if he is happy without you ? and besides, he wants to be free from you in the first place so how can he feel that separation anxiety? Im confused now.
@@gwynbleiddroach2589 i broke up with my ex and then got back with her for like a week. But was still hurt about what had happened before and cut it off. And a few months later i was groveling that i missed her. But she had moved onto another man. Tbh though im glad i didn't get back with her. She was very toxic and possessive and controlling. My current ex though. I love her to the moon and back and we broke up on miscommunication. She thinks she ruined things and we can't be happy now because she left on miscommunication. And it sucks..... Bad... I was being her friend. She was still being.... Close and stuff but then i got in an accident and things have been.... Really messed up since then. She's still here but I'm tired of hurting so bad. I've gone silent. And she seems to be upset/worried about it.
Oh all these little games. I wish I would meet a man who doesn't play cat and mouse. If you're interested be consistent, show respect, I'll do the same and it will all work out. In a consumerist society, we have come to consume people as well and then throw them away, just because you got to have the "new". Until that turns old and then the whole thing all over again.
Real love would not include this type of behaviour. People need to address their individual intimacy issues rather than run away then go back when missing the person . Healthy relationships take work and above all commitment .
Not that simple. My girlfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago via text of all things. Anyways, she claims that I became more into the relationship than her, even though she started off that way. She said she thinks she didn't become the girl I wanted her to be. I feel as if I became more affectionate and she didn't like it and ran off. Dating and relationships is all a game. The people who play it best are the ones that have the better relationships.
@Catarina Guerra , there is something to human psychology that leads people even a very well spiritually developed ones to end up playing by the rules of those manipulative games unconsciously. It is hard to resist the entropy i guess. Same rules that allow dishonest psychopathic pickup artists and narcissists to perform better in that game than honest and sincere people, just because they are more sophisticated in manipulation and deception. What is only wrong with this world.
My gf broke up with me and we called and said he can never see someone as perfect as I'm and I told her not to keep pitying her and I said I will never tx her again ..and I accept it as fate and I don't want us as friends and I blocked her everywhere.
My ex and I broke up recently. I told him we should take a break bc the things he was doing now didnt show that he wanted to be in a relationship. The break lasted a week. But after the break, he said he wanted to break up for good.... He didnt get separation anxiety. He said he felt relieved, instead...
Success story here!! My ex bf and I are back together. We were broken up for a little over a month. He said he still loves me and everyday he thought of me and everything made him think of me. I was in NC for about 25 days until I reached out about money I needed from him for concert tickets I still had. He sent over the money and we had very sporadic and random chill conversations every other day for about a week. I really felt like he only replied to my texts to be polite because we didn’t really end on bad terms. His replies were casual and seemed apathetic. So finally I asked an open ended question and asked how he was doing. Then we had a whole day of good conversation then that same day he asked me out to get boba. That same night but he said he was scared that I was going to move on and had to tell me he still loves me and missed everything about me. We both agreed to work on ourselves and push each other to be our best and be a strong couple. I said we can take it slowly and I’m open to it. But ultimately I told him I loved him still too!
One thing I saw not covered here is what to do when they reach out and won’t make dates to come to your place - after they reach out twice and won’t commit to a date you must stop asking them. At this point they must be the ones to bring it up. If after 2-3 messages back and forth and they haven’t asked you then you must tell them you are busy and you have other things to do. If they do finally bring up making a date make 3 consecutive dates at your place and let them do 100% of the contacting and pursuing until they bring up that they are ready for something more.
This is a great video. My story is that I felt my boyfriend who I was in a Long Distance Relationship with didn't value me, didn't give me the attention I longed for. He had been distant and always on social media. We had been together for a while and he told me he had childhood issues that he had never been able to get over. He lacked emotional skills, could not give affection or love. Yesterday he called me and wondered why I was being distant. I point blank asked him how he felt about me and he got upset saying how women always want something. I didn't argue or raise my voice but it was clear that he was not happy that I asked him that question which he never answered. I never intended to break up with him because I love him. One thing lead to another and I told him maybe it was time to let go. He agreed and we left it at that. I was so beside myself like what just happened here? I have not contacted him because I'm the confident one but this breakup really gave me anxiety issues. I fear I may have lost him. I just wanted to do the 'let go' thing as other coaches have recommended to make him realize what he lost and beg to me to come back. That isn't happening and I miss him so much. I don't want to reach out to him because I don't want him to settle back to himself again. He'll have the upper hand and keep things the way they have been which is not what I want. I want him to tell me he loves me and how much he misses me. Why does it have to be so difficult?
Hey Craig, I've been separated from My Love since December 28,2016 and I've emailed him continually and have had little response from him. He's only responded twice through email saying"I just don't have anything to say!" Recently, I've watched your TH-cam video and I'm going to take your advice not call at all. Today is January 9,2017 and I hope that it's not too late for me! Hopefully your advice works in my favour! I LOVE this man with my WHOLE heart!! I miss him dearly and I just want this work. We were even engaged and he wanted his ring back, it broke my heart! I'm going to take your advice on this!!! Wish me luck!😎😎😎
@SureRon, actually no we didn't reconcile. A lot transpired and I had to move on. He chose who he chose and had a baby and I believe got married. I wished them well and cried for a minute about it, but eventually, God and my ancestors helped me heal my heart. My intentions were pure, but it was one sided.I did learn a valuable lesson through all of this and it was Self love will always be the best love and it would eventually be reciprocated and appreciated. I've been working on myself and since then I've gotten a lot accomplished and I'm still looking forward to what's in store for myself and family. A lot of set backs and heartache since the breakup, but God put me in a position for the greatest comeback. I'm grateful for the experience we shared together and the memories that were created. Thanks for responding💜 Have an awesome rest of your day! 😊
I want her back. But I feel like a looser if I do. I'm angry, I feel hurt. I love her so much. Been a month since we broke up.. Only 5 days into no contact.. Feel like I'm going insane. I already texted her, but I wouldnt call it begging, more like questing her If she made the right choice.. Now I'm going silent, and I want to move on..
Tow months broke up , failed with NC for few times now 11 days NC , I didn’t see any possibility between us but I’m still hoping a bit .. I want it over no matter in which way
Yes I’m a Minecraft youtuber. But gamers can feel love too. Anyway I dated her for about 16 months and she had a rare anxiety disorder. I did the best I could to support her, but she felt it wasn’t enough. She started to believe that it was me, likely because she felt her self distancing from me. I knew I could be too much with the support, it was probably suffocating at the time. I’m doing no contact now. It’s only been a week, but I’ve been handling it greatly. Working out, I’m learning piano, rediscovering the social element I had years ago when I met her. I can only hope that she reaches out, but right now self discipline is my first priority. I do care about her, and I know that anxiety will likely catch up to her. I miss her, but if she doesn’t reach out, I’ll be prepared to move on. Wish me luck!
Im amazed at how spot on he is! Im dealing with being separated from the woman ive been with for 17 years and the pain is so bad it's become physical. Everything he says not to do is exactly what I've been doing! Lol. I just feel so lost and alone. Thanks for the advice
i was dumped by my ex after 4/5 months with excuse "i loved u but i dont have a career i wanna go study/work abroad. i can't get u what u deserve". Guess what? I have anxiety disorder and clinical depression, imagine how it causes to me. so after one week he came to see me invited for coffee and dinner and replayed the same talk (even cried) but he just wanted to make sure i was "fine". I'm not..i live with anxiety, it's part of me
I wish I watched this video 6 weeks ago. GF of 6 years left me 6 weeks ago. Asked me to leave same day. Lived with her for 5 years and was going to ask her to marry me in January. Since in hadn't heard from her, I mailed her a letter one month later, not asking for her back, more just to say that now I need to move on, goodbye, and hopefully in the future we can have some form of friendly relationship. I wrote the letter not expecting a reply. Didn't have time for "a calm talk"the day I moved out. I probably shouldn't have sent her anything, but after sending the letter, I have sworn to myself to NEVER contact her again. I have done what I can.
what if your ex didn't think you gave her enough attention as it was. I'm trying the no contact right now. I'm afraid this will only help prove her point that I didn't. Which isn't true, I did care I just have trouble showing emotion.
Same boat. I try to go with strategic pull backs. As soon as I feel I'm coming off overbearing or she doesn't seem to be in a receptive mood. I'm really bad at it though, I told myself I'd pull back after she was "too sick" to go out to dinner with me this weekend......but I've talked to her every day. (She really was sick but probably also using it as a cop out, broke my heart, that yes was a dream for me)
This is exactly what I did, I told her I couldn’t remain friends as she wanted, I told her I could only be in a relationship with you, then I went straight into NC, 6 days have passed and I feel great as I know she will be thinking ohhhhh this Guy is different, he’s not chasing and doing what all other guys do which then pushes them further away and I want my current partner come closer to me as I want to end my days with her
How about she only me contact me for taxes or electric bill . So that's the only reason to talk just for Bill only. Please help, I want answer, I cry all day
what if she told you when she broke up that hopes are slims to getting back together and she has other plans .she needs time for herself. but she still wouldn't mind us being friends eventully . but for now time apart to heal..
im going thru a breakup as well as we speak with the father of my son im doing the no contact rule please pray for me im going thru the anxiety but im not caving
Ughhh this is so hard!! My ex has been telling me he wants me to be his wife every weekend for the past month. Now we don’t talk and more! I’m so devastated tbh. Only time will tell
Craig, I was the one who dumped and I’m worse than him. I think about him all day, and I message him saying that I wish him the best and saying sorry for any pain. But the fact is that I’m the one who is suffering and he don’t want to talk at all
My girlfriend broke up with me over a year ago and now that this corona virus came I used it as an excuse to reach out to her so that we can start talking again and we are. Now I’m starting to ignore her a bit because I was initiating the conversation mostly and right now I ignored her for two days and she texts me “Hey stranger” and “Sorry I been busy😂”. I haven’t text her since she sent that and that was yesterday. I ask people older than me about it and they tell me that she really misses me but she doesn’t want a relationship right now. I don’t know how to get her back but she was the only one I truly loved and I would be happy for her if she moved on completely but right now I have her but not completely on lock and I don’t want to mess it up.
My story summarized: 1. I pushed her away by saying mean things to her, because she got clingy and needy.. 2. Didnt allow separation anxiety to kick in for her when she decided to push me away. She actually broke up with me twice but I didnt go no contact..on the contrary 3. When she got indifferent and started avoiding me with no contact, I got separation anxiety and proceeded to plead and beg with gifts, long texts, letters, invitations 4. Tables turned and she ended up ignoring my feelings because her trust was no more 5. I kept forcing with texts, flowers, letters but she already proceeded to a new rebound relationship and blocked me 6. 40 days of no contact and 5 days before her bday she unblocks me from whatsapp but no comms yet All this because I couldnt shut my mouth Feels like no hope scenario since i did her wrong first and she got her revenge full circle. Do you think i have a chance?
Thank you Coach Craig and Margaret. I truly appreciate your words of encouragement and support. I also appreciate your wonderful advice about relationships. I've been through alot. Let's just say 2019 wasn't my best year. All i can say is that, I'm working really hard to get back on my feet. I'm also working real hard on personal growth. I love watching your videos. God bless you and take care of yourself.
Well some people just don't get attached, and as a result don't experience anxiety. My friend was seeing a guy casually for about 8 months - a lot of that going on these days, "casual" relationships - she got sick of it, told him to get lost and he just moved on. He never called her....
Hi Craig, First of all i want to let you know that your videos are very calming. I am going through severe anxiety due to my break up (GF of 3 years left me for another guy) and watching your videos tend to relax me, at least for a while, which is a breath of fresh air, because in moments of complete darkness a bit of light can certainly make the difference! So thank you for that! I will be definitely signing up soon, as this ordeal is unbearable, but i just wanted to ask about the NC, specifically for social media. Should you refrain from even posting new pictures or from even being active on Facebook? Wouldn't her seeing you in photos, your ''likes'' etc cancel out the Separation Anxiety that we are meant to try create within her, due to the fact that she sees you? Wouldn't complete absence work better in order to create the ''missing you'' effect? To have her wonder what you are doing and if you are ok? Thanks again Craig and i look forward to getting in contact with you soon J
joedagreek post images of you having fun. women that initiate break ups want to see you suffering. her girlfriends advised her to leave you. her girlfriends feed on seeing you suffering. put pics of you having fun with friends and family..
omg! already done the shitiest thing! wish ive found you first...theres no undo...just want to revive myself from losing over someone.... ill keep watching you craig... very spontaneous and realistic!
It can be difficult to know whether, or not, what you're doing is working; especially if they get exclusive with someone else, but I still believe no contact is the best thing; also, going dark on social media.
I got heartbroken a few hours ago and I’m glad I stumbled upon this video because I would’ve done something I would’ve regretted in the future. Thank You for giving me this advice because I’m not in the right state of mind because I have a lot of anxiety.
Coach Craig, could you please give us some hints about how to handle the worst breadcrumbs from ex like "Hope all is well."? Would need your advice, thank you!
In my situation, I broke up with him. I didnt know what I wanted. I knew I loved him but I also knew I wanted him to get his life together. We remained friends after the break up, we hung out, went dancing, had dinner, invited him to family functions, just like we were dating still. I knew I had made a mistake but I didnt speak up. I let him think we were okay at just being friends. He wanted more and I broke his heart. One day he moved without saying goodbye. I was so lost. Why didn't I tell him I loved him? I want him back more than anything in the world. He is the love of my life. Please help me.
Guys, use this time to get healed and rebrand yourself for someone better then your ex - don't look back, plan only ahead and be happy with the one who the future you will attract and be a real blessing for you instead to waste your efforts for people that don't value you - is not enough you to love, you need to be loved by the same one, you need reciprocity 😊
I pray whoever is reading this gets through the pain of being dumped by someone they truly love. God bless. Thank you Craig for this video
Thank you ❤
Does it work
Mexico Ralph it really does...it’s just sooo hard to refrain yourself from not contacting the person you love so much.
I feel so empty inside its hurts
My first 24 hours of no contact, I dont want them back, never want that pain again
To the ones who got dumped: Don’t be afraid to lose someone who is not afraid to lose you
Jennifer West - I don’t even want my ex back. I moved on
@@TacticalNuke321 lol specially if they breadcrumbed you or fed you under the table. 🙄
Speak for yourself cupcake
But I messed up
Perfect.
Well like the saying goes....you treat them like a celebrity, they'll treat you like a fan.
Wow....true story
Just came across this...so true. Thanks!
What about you treat them like a king and they will treat you like a queen
Love that!!
@@deraviagrace8340 true, but I’m straight! 😂
“Anxiety leads to the beginning of desire.”
Got it! 👍🏻
Getting off my ex is like getting off a drug.
Jackie Maisie Much worse imo and I’ve partied pretty hard in my time
Getting off my ex.. is ... damn near impossible since he's an avoidant. Lol
Make life your drug
Jackie Maisie it sure is! My ex left me after 34 years of marriage(we were together for 40)! I’m devastated I can’t get him out of my head
Exactly!
I am going to trust in this. I am also praying to God that if it’s meant to be it will be.
How did it work out?
Nothing to do with "god" Claire, and 100% to do with YOU... :-) We make our own reality--don't trust (or pray) to anything or anyone else for help creating your reality, you have to do it yourself. So trust in yourself and have belief and FAITH in yourself. That's it.
papalazzzaru thank you. I agree. God can’t make anything happen, we can trust in him to lead us but WE have to do the work.
Update?
update
"She needs to feel separation anxiety from YOU". True words!!!!
Can she feel separation anxiety if she’s in a rebound that is long distance? The new guy she lined up and emotionally cheated on me with is giving her the validation/attention and security she craves, so time will only tell
@@austintang1645 yes she still can. The rebound likely won't last. Esp if yoir relationship was mostly good.
@@A2Kaid She has been in a long distance rebound with the other guy for five months already. I live 15 minutes away from her and we were together for 6 months
@@austintang1645 just curious how'd it work out? U get her back?
No contact only works if she still has feelings for you. Otherwise you’ll never hear from her again.
I don't know if I ever get my ex back.... but videos like that, makes me feel better every day.
Been a year now? Update, back together or?
2 years now…
It's been 5 years and I'd like to know y'all are back together 😢
Coach Craig and Margaret has gotten me through the worst time of my life. I've been watching to their videos everyday for the last 5 months and exercising no contact. The heartache has gone away and I feel like I don't want my ex back any longer, I can move on now with confidence. Thank you for all you do for us.
Me to bro trust me
I am watching these type of videos daily too as a constant reminder to stay strong, gain back my power by not chasing him as his behaviour is not good enough for me
@@kittykat.88 me to girl
My ex finally reached out !!!♥️♥️ We broke up July 16th, 2020 and he reached out, August 16th, 2020!!!! NO CONTACT REALLY WORKS for me!!! 💓💓💓💓💓😍😍😍
Thank you so much for your message. Gives me hope.
its been 18months. Are you still together? If not, how soon after did he do the same thing? Hope you are ok!
Damn, wish I would've watched this video months ago before I started breaking all the cardinal rules.
me too lol
I swear bro. I fucked up because I messaged her that I wanted my shit back from my house and boom I got blocked
Zheyue Zhao I meant her house lol but yeah it’s funny to look back at now
Me too...can this be fixed?
kjf 4runner gg shit lol Nd I still don’t have my shit
After five months apart, I am back together with my ex. To everyone who wants to get back together, don't give up. Coach Craig's advice is so important. For men, not losing emotional self control is critical as is not chasing a woman who has rejected you, and letting her come to you. I had to make some adjustments to the principles because my woman is from SE Asia and her culture is very different from ours in the west. But essentially they do work. I was in a three year LDR before the roof fell in last November much to my surprise of course. Guys rarely see it coming. So thanks Coach Craig. It feels good to feel happy again.
That's great! I'm really happy for you! If you send me a success story I just may share it in a video.
Keep working and learning :)
Thank you so much coach. We are currently in a new honeymoon phase and learning about each other again. It is a good time as everyone knows. When the work starts I will email you the story. Your videos really taught me how to handle a very difficult situation and I know they saved me from some serious and potentially fatal mistakes because so much of what you teach is counterintuitive. Thanks again. Life is good. I will continue to follow your work closely.
Thanks for sharing your success! As you know, break ups are very scary and feel hopeless! I absolutely know how to turn them around and I love hearing success stories! Love makes the world go around :)
Steve Urquhart another wmaw couple. Ugh
After the breakup did she hit u with the "I'm uncomfortable speaking to you at all" text and didn't reply to your last text?
The key is to give space, be respectful and think about their feelings, and not yours. It's actually a good lesson. Sometimes the breakup is 100% due to clingeness. The life is not only relationship. Focus on other parts, and try to balance everything. We normally suffer when we put the relationship in the center of our lives, that also leads to breakup.
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So true- as a child I was raised w money but no emotional closeness, so I didn’t care about pursuing money- only intimacy.
Same here.
Me too
Very insightful, thank you
Even if no contact doesn't result in getting your ex back, at least you keep your dignity. Plus, to be honest, it's better to just move on from that person. If they dumped you that means they were okay with you meeting someone else and never getting you back. Let that sink in. Plus, who knows what they did while you were apart. Pretty good chance they hooked up with someone else. That innocent trust will never be there again. Let them go...there are so many other people out there that won't do that to you, will value you, and you can experience a new love.
That story about the other guy answering the door is brutal.
Sure was. I did the Grand Gesture years ago... The results were not good. Won't ever make that mistake again.
I wouldnt even entertain wanting her back if that happened :)
😂😂😂
My “ex” called me after I asked him to come back from his friends to the apartment we live at to help me clean. It was actually the new girl who answered. She picked up, said “this is [my exes] gf. I don’t want any problems but he’ll be home to help pick up later” I said “ ok, bye”. Later I made the mistake to plead at him “why did you move on after 3 days” “did you ever love me” “did you use me the way you are this girl (he borrowed from her to pay me off)” etc. that was 3 days ago. I’m still a wreck. All I knew is that he broke up with me, and that he was staying at a friends... then he posted on Snapchat pics of them, then the call. I assumed the Snapchat was a new friend. I had such disbelief he’d move on that quick, but obviously he’s trash and as Taylor Swift would say “we are never getting back together”. He blindsided me so bad, it was horrible.
@@candykane1080 take care dear
This is by far the most insightful relationship channel on TH-cam
don't contact them for any reason ever again lol...his face and reaction when he says that: priceless
We want what we can’t have or what is threatened to be taken away- every car salesman knows this truck!!
Coach Craig's advice was super on point! I did the no contact rule to a T and completely cut off all contact. In 4 months, my ex came back saying he missed me and couldn't bear to be another day without me. This period also helped me improve my self value and made me realize everything Coach Craig said was ideal to get me to this great place. Don't settle for friendship and be disciplined about no contact! It works! It works so good that perhaps when they do come back you might be the one who doesn't even want them back!
May I ask did you respond to him when he contacted you during no contact?
I cried when I saw this, because I realized I’ve been doing everything wrong. Now I feel hopeless, because I want my ex back so bad.
But after thinking about what you said, I stopped crying and I felt better.
My bf broke up with me a bit over a week ago and I’ve been trying to get him back by contacting him and promising to make things better and work on myself. But my constant reaching out to him made things worse.
I am taking your advice and I will try to accept the break up even thought it hurts. I hope it is not too late.
I also realized that constantly promising to make things better and work on myself is not going to help. He doesn’t need promises. He wants to SEE the improvement. So I will stop contacting him, use the time to work on myself and hope that he will reach out to me soon.
yes girl i am in day 5
I have an update. Right after I made this comment, I texted my ex that I was sorry for not giving him space, that I would accept his decision, that I love him, and will be here if he needs to talk. I didn’t contact him anymore after that. And less than he week after, he contacted me and said that he was sorry about the break up and that he misses me. I really didn’t expect this at all!
Melanie Beckmann Rasmussen thanks for the update!
@@melanierasmussen8792 hi! Do you have any update? You guys still together?
@@naiko6700 We are no longer together. I stopped pursuing him and did the “no contact”-thing, and one time when he invited me home. But he ended up changing his mind, because he “wasn’t ready” and woke me up in the middle of the night and kicked me out in freezing weather. After that he kept promising me to work things out and got my hopes up, but would change his mind all the time. I realized that everything happened on his premises only... I also saw him on the street holding hands with another girl less than a week after he invited me home for sex.
This behavior from him really messed me up... it was also the hardest heart break I’ve ever experienced. I feel like he was playing with my feelings. I now go to therapy because his behavior affected me so much.
Craig crushes every break up expert by far!!!!! nobody else is this insightful
Don't think about someone who isn't thinking of you. Move on. No one is worth pain and heartache.
"What does that say about your value? That means you have a low value of yourself." Truth. Thank you, Craig!!
NC !!!! Keep yourself busy and work on you !!!! I’m a strong believer that you shouldn’t rely on any human being to create happiness for you !!!! If you can’t be happy together then maybe you can be happy apart😃
Daaam. That real. Im take your advice
I don't want her to feel the pain that I have. If she wasn't happy with me it's hard to take but I'd rather her be happy then just being with me because I'm not happy. I want her back but you can't be selfish in situations like this. You have to take into consideration what the other person wants.
Jesse Boggis, Ahhhhhh! That's so sweet! You'll get an amazing fork soon who totally loves you with that attitude. I'm even jealous of her.
This guy deserves a love. I'm jelous with your ex. Can I just have you hahaha btw this comment was 2 yrs ago..
@@jesseboggis8976 aw man! can I just have you until now I'm available 🤣🤣🤣😉
Jesse Boggis I adore how brave you were at handling this.
True. I feel you
This is my favorite video ever and I watch it quite frequently whenever I need a reminder of how to behave after a breakup. "They treated you like you were on sale, you were on clearance, they were gettin' rid of you" LOL I love this! They are no longer a priority in your life. This is probably one of the best videos ever made on breakups & How to Make Your Ex Miss You (From a Psychotherapist) is also my go-to when I'm suffering heartbreak. Thank you Coach Craig & Margaret you guys always make me laugh. Thank you for all the beautiful work you do and for always being my compass!
that guy is officially part of the gentlemens club
I watch your videos daily, especially when I get needy, have negative thoughts and bad behavior.
Thanks again for all that you and Margaret do on here. It truly is a blessing to hear and act upon all of what you're talking about. :)
The more time that passes by the less chances you might have if you are not actively there or in their minds.
Things are either meant to be or they are not.
Each party has things to work on; with the pass of time you might just become a better person suitable for somebody else
This is the best video of his I've seen. The things he says are really powerful. When ever I've been tempted to contact my ex, I listen to this.
Update please ?
Please make a version of this for women on getting an ex boyfriend back! This only has female psychology :(
It's the same for men. Everybody wants what he cannot have.
Anyway, have you got your ex back?
Io Europa Ganymed Kallisto how would you know? Are you a guy?
@@cynthiab8377 yes I am.
Io Europa Ganymed Kallisto well, I’ve been doing all the “wrong things such as talk, texting, apologizing, explaining also changed my poor habit ” for 2 months post break up. He is adamant and been ignoring most of my texts but he didn’t block me.
Recently I noticed he viewed my stories and I think he realized I can see, so the next 2 days he went completely “not online” for 9-10 hours, which is very odd as usually he’s always on/ wouldn’t be away for too long. Today he suddenly turned off the active notice on messenger 😅. Why? I haven’t been texting him for a week and living my life. Why the need to do so when I’m giving him space now?
You just saved me from looking like a fool this weekend...thank you man!!!
I was broken up with. I sort of followed the no contact rule. My ex is coming over and it was her idea. I want to make sure I am not just friends with her and I make her attracted to me. I will be more masculine and more emotional stable and less attached to her and less showing her that I still feel for her. Wish me luck, she comes over tomorrow.
Just broke up with my girlfriend after 2 years + . I feel broken.
I need to put focus on my self and so does she.
I wish this wouldn't be true, wish we could get back together because we do love each other very much, it took us 5 hours to decide that we were both crying and wouldn't let go of each other. but deep down inside we know we are not good for each other at the moment..
I hope things will be better, either if we get back together or not.. just hope things will be better by days passing.
Yeah I will do NC rule because I believe in it's pros of self healing, not just to make her "jealous" or something because I don't care if she is.
And I think she will do the NC too because she knows she hurt me and she need to improve her self too.
I love her, and I wish her the best in the world. I had so much fun hugging her and stroking her hair when she felt down. I so miss these moments when I protected her from her bad moments.
I do hope we will find our way back together because I think that despite our issues, we did care a lot for each other.
but truth to be told : I know I can't relay on that "hope", I need to move on but it's so hard, I just wanna be vanished from the world right now and stop feeling.
hope to be better soon asap.
Updates
yall listen to coach man no contact works my ex text me today after only 3 weeks of no contact woooow this works... it really works. .... gota be strong
itsme Mario I'll hit 3 weeks tomorrow, it's so hard. Why did you break up?
long story but I was acting insecure and a lil jealous.. she wasnt perfect either it was a combo of both.. play it cool doe if she does contact you..act like you dont care
itsme Mario Do you guys work together or go to the same school, me and my ex go to the same school and have classes together
@@Alchemygem brooo im having the same story could you tell me how it went pls?
The way Craig teaches no contact here is the ONLY real way to do no contact. It means you're ex never ever hears from you again for any reason possible. You have to absolutely go stone cold silent and make them feel a sense of loss or you don't stand a real good chance of reconnecting with them. Don't listen to the "30 day no contact" coaches out there that teach you to keep chasing your ex like that. I have rarely seen that work in the way people wanted it to.
Yeah, I did the 30 day no contact, texted her, and got nothing.
dayum12
Yeah, you're results are typical of what happens when people try the 30 day no contact method cause there's usually a very good reason why you always have to be the one initiating the contact in these cases cause the ex is probably dating someone new and or they are still pissed at you, so I have never struck to a certain amount of time of no contact, then started contacting them and that's why this is the better way of doing it.
Jack Bravo Yeah I agree. I try not to assume anything negative as that doesn't help me as a person with anxiety. She could be dating someone else or she probably isn't. I know I can't even think about dating someone else at this point. She still has our photos on her Facebook account. I'm not going to call again unless she does.
dayum12
Yeah man, that's the best thing to do right now cause any further contact by you just places her more in the power position and she can treat you any way she wants but I can tell you, there's been many cases where the person that got dumped eventually was moving on and that's when the ex reappears, I had ex's want to come back later and I was not in that same emotional stare of needing them anymore, so I know this from experience and I can vouch for how Craig teaches, even I just found his video's last night, he teaches you the correct way.
Yeah, I've heard that from several people. Thanks for the advice. I'm going to focus on my growth and tackling this anxiety.
Please don't forget all the problems and issue's that lead to this breakup in the first place
Because of narcissistic forms of behaviors, I ended it after 3 1/2 years. Trauma bonded I couldn’t move on. Though I reached out to him respectfully, over the course of a few years, he never contacted me again and is now getting married. In this case anxiety did not trigger desire. I never expected healing to be so difficult and moving on to be so hard. Thank you for your content and knowledge.
I wonder... I can understand why you need to maintain no contact when your partner broke up because you were to clingy or needy, but what if they broke up with you because they felt YOU weren't giving them enough affection, and they feel disconnected to such an extent they wanted to leave? Going no contact in that scenario seems like an affirmation of their belief that you don't care, and only increases disconnection further?
i see this asked a lot and see no reply. my ex was the needy one she broke up because i stood up to her and she was not willing to reflect on herself.
Yes. And or an argument not a loss of attraction over time but a sudden, brutal switch. 🤔
My girlfriend just broke up with me last night and this was very helpful information Craig. I never heard of someone speaks such knowledge about how to go about a break up. You are amazing Sir
My wife of a little over a year left me said she needed space and time to figure things out. I just found out last night that she moved out of state and moved in with another older man. I had no idea this was her intentions. I'm so devastated and so upset.
Damn brother. I feel for you.
I am living this
My husband moved six hours away from me
@@lisawilkins7976 same here. My baby mama and my 3 yr old went to Florida. They're like 12 hours from me :( massive waves of depression and anxiety. I miss them so much.
And another guy answered the door! LOL LOL LOL. This made my day while I am sitting here depressed over my own loss!
Me too right now
Guys ,Stick with Craig kenneth advice ... After 8 months of no contact after he broke up with me now my ex reached out and try to win me back.. Everyday i watch the videos of Craig and Margareth,dont give up guys ...thanks so much you really help us, Godblesd ...awesome ♥
It's not true that a woman would never leave a man if her attraction level is is high and she loves the man. She will leave a man she deeply loves if she feels there is no real commitment from the man, no future. This was the case for me.
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That is my plan to WORK ON MYSELF! YOU AND MARGARET ARE THE BEST! [I am teary eyed ] and it was hard to hear but, its all true Blessings to you and Margaret. Craig I am back in the gym and began seeing my friends . I feel myself healing. I thank you both!
I almost lost it when you began talking about, "...not wanting to be in a relationship 'RIGHT NOW'". I figured she lost attraction to me, but she said that, "everything seemed to be so undecided about what we wanted."
She also told me that she didnt have the time or energy to be in a relationship.
I've lost about 12 pounds in the last months from the anxiety and struggle of this. Going to try the NC, because we are a part of the same group of friends. To anyone going through this, please be strong. If I can't, you need to.
How did it work out?
@@ryanchaney94 You do not want them back.... ever. Who I was at that time doesn't exist anymore. After a while, you begin to understand why NC is important for combating emotional instability. When my brain started easing away from the trauma, the logical side of me started piece together all of the things that happened. All the bad traits you chose to ignore scream at you once more. ... except now there isn't a person there to "let it go" for anymore. With the help of videos like this, and others from various channels, the pain will subside. The memories will never cease, but this is your process.
So, it worked out in my own way. Mind you, every result varies, and every interpretation of NC varies.
This is what I needed to hear.
Thanks for giving me the strength to make the decision of 'no contact' from someone who after 14 years decides to leave the house without making the leaving for good or not decision and just leaving me waiting/hoping for her to come back... thank you
Thank you Craig! These videos have helped me in the lowest times of my life after break up. Always honest and real with us
Same here
💯Anxiety leads to the beginnings of desire!
you are very good & correct with all your advise.
above all you speak clearly & slowly.
others u tube speak like a marathon & that is stupid.
you are one of the BEST
I didn't realize I had competition ;)
All women are different. It's a personality thing. My experience with men shows that they often like women whose feelings are unclear. I on the other hand hate and I repeat hate men whose feelings about me are unclear.
Craig you are the most amazing therapist and coach I've ever listened to. I'm a 43-year-old male and I thought I knew everything about relationships and break ups. Boy was I wrong after listening to you. I just ended a three-year engagement three days ago because she moved in some guy she works with into her house to rent out a room. Next thing you know they're texting each other all the time and deleting all the text messages so I can't read them. I'm very hurt right now and lost emotionally. I've been searching the last two days for someone to help me with some great advice. You are way beyond the most knowledgeable person I could imagine to come across. You are a godsend and I am very very thankful to come across you. I'm looking forward to doing a one on one coaching session in the next couple days.
Mark Bjorkquist how did it turn out?
Man up and get to steppin. Any girl that plays those games is not worth the trouble in the long run
How you doing now 7 years later?
If someone isn’t sure or can’t commit, they’re probably not someone you want to get involved with.
My ex-partner reached out (crying in the phone she's missing me) in 48 hours after the breakup and 3 weeks later broke up again. Probably the worst position to be in. We didn't have time to work on ourselves after the breakup and the 2nd chance is wasted at the same time... Every positivity I do (she's checking my social media all the time) does not affect her, not enough at least.
Same situation for me now, any update on yours?
@@billerin7995 She married to the same guy she met one week after our final breakup. Nonetheless she reached out 10 months after our breakup. So I won the NC war. On top of that, I'm over it ever since. This happened nearly 3 years ago.
Can he feel that separation anxiety if he is happy without you ? and besides, he wants to be free from you in the first place so how can he feel that separation anxiety? Im confused now.
How's thing going sis?
@@lisaclifford4000 i can almost guarantee its not the same for guys. I bet men return a lot more than wimen do.
@@gwynbleiddroach2589 i broke up with my ex and then got back with her for like a week. But was still hurt about what had happened before and cut it off. And a few months later i was groveling that i missed her. But she had moved onto another man. Tbh though im glad i didn't get back with her. She was very toxic and possessive and controlling. My current ex though. I love her to the moon and back and we broke up on miscommunication. She thinks she ruined things and we can't be happy now because she left on miscommunication. And it sucks..... Bad... I was being her friend. She was still being.... Close and stuff but then i got in an accident and things have been.... Really messed up since then. She's still here but I'm tired of hurting so bad. I've gone silent. And she seems to be upset/worried about it.
Oh all these little games. I wish I would meet a man who doesn't play cat and mouse. If you're interested be consistent, show respect, I'll do the same and it will all work out. In a consumerist society, we have come to consume people as well and then throw them away, just because you got to have the "new". Until that turns old and then the whole thing all over again.
Real love would not include this type of behaviour. People need to address their individual intimacy issues rather than run away then go back when missing the person . Healthy relationships take work and above all commitment .
Catarina Guerra I’m here , where are you ?
Not that simple. My girlfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago via text of all things. Anyways, she claims that I became more into the relationship than her, even though she started off that way. She said she thinks she didn't become the girl I wanted her to be. I feel as if I became more affectionate and she didn't like it and ran off. Dating and relationships is all a game. The people who play it best are the ones that have the better relationships.
Not the same for everyone, I was respective, loyal but I was too clingy
@Catarina Guerra
, there is something to human psychology that leads people even a very well spiritually developed ones to end up playing by the rules of those manipulative games unconsciously. It is hard to resist the entropy i guess. Same rules that allow dishonest psychopathic pickup artists and narcissists to perform better in that game than honest and sincere people, just because they are more sophisticated in manipulation and deception. What is only wrong with this world.
Ya know what the problem with people these days is? No one drinks from the skulls of their enemies.
My gf broke up with me and we called and said he can never see someone as perfect as I'm and I told her not to keep pitying her and I said I will never tx her again ..and I accept it as fate and I don't want us as friends and I blocked her everywhere.
My ex and I broke up recently. I told him we should take a break bc the things he was doing now didnt show that he wanted to be in a relationship.
The break lasted a week. But after the break, he said he wanted to break up for good....
He didnt get separation anxiety. He said he felt relieved, instead...
Success story here!! My ex bf and I are back together. We were broken up for a little over a month. He said he still loves me and everyday he thought of me and everything made him think of me. I was in NC for about 25 days until I reached out about money I needed from him for concert tickets I still had. He sent over the money and we had very sporadic and random chill conversations every other day for about a week. I really felt like he only replied to my texts to be polite because we didn’t really end on bad terms. His replies were casual and seemed apathetic. So finally I asked an open ended question and asked how he was doing. Then we had a whole day of good conversation then that same day he asked me out to get boba. That same night but he said he was scared that I was going to move on and had to tell me he still loves me and missed everything about me. We both agreed to work on ourselves and push each other to be our best and be a strong couple. I said we can take it slowly and I’m open to it. But ultimately I told him I loved him still too!
Thanks for the update x
Were you friends during those 25 days, did you have contact?
@@chloegibson9504 no we didn’t haha. Funny enough we dated for another 3 months then broke up. We broke up for almost a year and he’s back AGAIN
Craig, sometimes I hate how right about all this you are!! It works too too well! Thank you!
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My ex says I cause him anxiety, I don’t think more anxiety would help 😬
One thing I saw not covered here is what to do when they reach out and won’t make dates to come to your place - after they reach out twice and won’t commit to a date you must stop asking them. At this point they must be the ones to bring it up. If after 2-3 messages back and forth and they haven’t asked you then you must tell them you are busy and you have other things to do. If they do finally bring up making a date make 3 consecutive dates at your place and let them do 100% of the contacting and pursuing until they bring up that they are ready for something more.
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This is a great video. My story is that I felt my boyfriend who I was in a Long Distance Relationship with didn't value me, didn't give me the attention I longed for. He had been distant and always on social media. We had been together for a while and he told me he had childhood issues that he had never been able to get over. He lacked emotional skills, could not give affection or love. Yesterday he called me and wondered why I was being distant. I point blank asked him how he felt about me and he got upset saying how women always want something. I didn't argue or raise my voice but it was clear that he was not happy that I asked him that question which he never answered. I never intended to break up with him because I love him. One thing lead to another and I told him maybe it was time to let go. He agreed and we left it at that. I was so beside myself like what just happened here? I have not contacted him because I'm the confident one but this breakup really gave me anxiety issues. I fear I may have lost him. I just wanted to do the 'let go' thing as other coaches have recommended to make him realize what he lost and beg to me to come back. That isn't happening and I miss him so much. I don't want to reach out to him because I don't want him to settle back to himself again. He'll have the upper hand and keep things the way they have been which is not what I want. I want him to tell me he loves me and how much he misses me. Why does it have to be so difficult?
Because he’s one of the avoidant attachment one’s
This is similar advice to Coach Corey Wayne -- I've been following both of you guys. The movies definitely teach us all the wrong things!
Xanaking same things 2 is better than one, well i like both of them
Hey Craig, I've been separated from My Love since December 28,2016 and I've emailed him continually and have had little response from him. He's only responded twice through email saying"I just don't have anything to say!" Recently, I've watched your TH-cam video and I'm going to take your advice not call at all. Today is January 9,2017 and I hope that it's not too late for me! Hopefully your advice works in my favour! I LOVE this man with my WHOLE heart!! I miss him dearly and I just want this work. We were even engaged and he wanted his ring back, it broke my heart! I'm going to take your advice on this!!! Wish me luck!😎😎😎
Did you guys ever get back together ?
@SureRon, actually no we didn't reconcile. A lot transpired and I had to move on. He chose who he chose and had a baby and I believe got married. I wished them well and cried for a minute about it, but eventually, God and my ancestors helped me heal my heart. My intentions were pure, but it was one sided.I did learn a valuable lesson through all of this and it was Self love will always be the best love and it would eventually be reciprocated and appreciated. I've been working on myself and since then I've gotten a lot accomplished and I'm still looking forward to what's in store for myself and family. A lot of set backs and heartache since the breakup, but God put me in a position for the greatest comeback. I'm grateful for the experience we shared together and the memories that were created. Thanks for responding💜 Have an awesome rest of your day! 😊
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I want her back. But I feel like a looser if I do. I'm angry, I feel hurt. I love her so much. Been a month since we broke up.. Only 5 days into no contact.. Feel like I'm going insane. I already texted her, but I wouldnt call it begging, more like questing her If she made the right choice.. Now I'm going silent, and I want to move on..
Tow months broke up , failed with NC for few times now 11 days NC , I didn’t see any possibility between us but I’m still hoping a bit .. I want it over no matter in which way
Yes I’m a Minecraft youtuber. But gamers can feel love too. Anyway I dated her for about 16 months and she had a rare anxiety disorder. I did the best I could to support her, but she felt it wasn’t enough. She started to believe that it was me, likely because she felt her self distancing from me. I knew I could be too much with the support, it was probably suffocating at the time. I’m doing no contact now. It’s only been a week, but I’ve been handling it greatly. Working out, I’m learning piano, rediscovering the social element I had years ago when I met her. I can only hope that she reaches out, but right now self discipline is my first priority. I do care about her, and I know that anxiety will likely catch up to her.
I miss her, but if she doesn’t reach out, I’ll be prepared to move on. Wish me luck!
Hmm why do I feel like this strategy works on girls not guys? Feel like my ex bf wouldn’t think this way
What if the girl gets in an immediate rebound relationship and forgets about you as a way to deal with it?
how they can have anxiety about losing you when they have no attraction for you???????
Im amazed at how spot on he is! Im dealing with being separated from the woman ive been with for 17 years and the pain is so bad it's become physical. Everything he says not to do is exactly what I've been doing! Lol. I just feel so lost and alone. Thanks for the advice
i was dumped by my ex after 4/5 months with excuse "i loved u but i dont have a career i wanna go study/work abroad. i can't get u what u deserve". Guess what? I have anxiety disorder and clinical depression, imagine how it causes to me.
so after one week he came to see me invited for coffee and dinner and replayed the same talk (even cried) but he just wanted to make sure i was "fine".
I'm not..i live with anxiety, it's part of me
I wish I watched this video 6 weeks ago. GF of 6 years left me 6 weeks ago. Asked me to leave same day. Lived with her for 5 years and was going to ask her to marry me in January. Since in hadn't heard from her, I mailed her a letter one month later, not asking for her back, more just to say that now I need to move on, goodbye, and hopefully in the future we can have some form of friendly relationship. I wrote the letter not expecting a reply. Didn't have time for "a calm talk"the day I moved out. I probably shouldn't have sent her anything, but after sending the letter, I have sworn to myself to NEVER contact her again. I have done what I can.
john smith are u better now???
did she respond?
that's brutal bro. my condolences for your loss
what if your ex didn't think you gave her enough attention as it was. I'm trying the no contact right now. I'm afraid this will only help prove her point that I didn't. Which isn't true, I did care I just have trouble showing emotion.
Same boat. I try to go with strategic pull backs. As soon as I feel I'm coming off overbearing or she doesn't seem to be in a receptive mood.
I'm really bad at it though, I told myself I'd pull back after she was "too sick" to go out to dinner with me this weekend......but I've talked to her every day. (She really was sick but probably also using it as a cop out, broke my heart, that yes was a dream for me)
Here's a super simple way to get your ex back: HootMine.xyz
Tell her how you love her, show her. Otherwise you lose her. She needs to know that she matters
I had a terrible reason of breaking up do u think I am right for the no contact?
Then grand gestures are the way to go. I know because I'm that way. Even more No contact only gives her time to find out how to live without you.
help me.. i very depressed about this break up .it feels death
Did they come back?
This is exactly what I did, I told her I couldn’t remain friends as she wanted, I told her I could only be in a relationship with you, then I went straight into NC, 6 days have passed and I feel great as I know she will be thinking ohhhhh this Guy is different, he’s not chasing and doing what all other guys do which then pushes them further away and I want my current partner come closer to me as I want to end my days with her
Hardest thing is maintaining high attraction level all the time. Its like u cant have a weak moment at all.
How about she only me contact me for taxes or electric bill . So that's the only reason to talk just for Bill only. Please help, I want answer, I cry all day
what if she told you when she broke up that hopes are slims to getting back together and she has other plans .she needs time for herself. but she still wouldn't mind us being friends eventully . but for now time apart to heal..
im going thru a breakup as well as we speak with the father of my son im doing the no contact rule please pray for me im going thru the anxiety but im not caving
emoboz how did it go
Ughhh this is so hard!! My ex has been telling me he wants me to be his wife every weekend for the past month. Now we don’t talk and more! I’m so devastated tbh. Only time will tell
Lol. My ex fiancé is still planing everything with me till the day we break up which is tow months ago
Craig, I was the one who dumped and I’m worse than him. I think about him all day, and I message him saying that I wish him the best and saying sorry for any pain. But the fact is that I’m the one who is suffering and he don’t want to talk at all
My girlfriend broke up with me over a year ago and now that this corona virus came I used it as an excuse to reach out to her so that we can start talking again and we are. Now I’m starting to ignore her a bit because I was initiating the conversation mostly and right now I ignored her for two days and she texts me “Hey stranger” and “Sorry I been busy😂”. I haven’t text her since she sent that and that was yesterday. I ask people older than me about it and they tell me that she really misses me but she doesn’t want a relationship right now. I don’t know how to get her back but she was the only one I truly loved and I would be happy for her if she moved on completely but right now I have her but not completely on lock and I don’t want to mess it up.
My story summarized:
1. I pushed her away by saying mean things to her, because she got clingy and needy..
2. Didnt allow separation anxiety to kick in for her when she decided to push me away. She actually broke up with me twice but I didnt go no contact..on the contrary
3. When she got indifferent and started avoiding me with no contact, I got separation anxiety and proceeded to plead and beg with gifts, long texts, letters, invitations
4. Tables turned and she ended up ignoring my feelings because her trust was no more
5. I kept forcing with texts, flowers, letters but she already proceeded to a new rebound relationship and blocked me
6. 40 days of no contact and 5 days before her bday she unblocks me from whatsapp but no comms yet
All this because I couldnt shut my mouth
Feels like no hope scenario since i did her wrong first and she got her revenge full circle.
Do you think i have a chance?
What's the update now ??😅
Fuck
Thank you Coach Craig and Margaret. I truly appreciate your words of encouragement and support. I also appreciate your wonderful advice about relationships. I've been through alot. Let's just say 2019 wasn't my best year. All i can say is that, I'm working really hard to get back on my feet. I'm also working real hard on personal growth. I love watching your videos. God bless you and take care of yourself.
Bro im going thru hell myself. Almost sick to my stomach missing my girl
Well some people just don't get attached, and as a result don't experience anxiety. My friend was seeing a guy casually for about 8 months - a lot of that going on these days, "casual" relationships - she got sick of it, told him to get lost and he just moved on. He never called her....
Staying strong with no contact. Thanks Craig! Gonna be taking your course! Self betterment is the truth!
Only a week but these videos immeadiatly made me feel better the day it happened. You?
I broke up with him because it felt like I was doing all the chasing 😭😭
Me too!!!
Guy broke up with me because he wanted me to chase him too. Men are not men no more.
Hi Craig,
First of all i want to let you know that your videos are very calming. I am going through severe anxiety due to my break up (GF of 3 years left me for another guy) and watching your videos tend to relax me, at least for a while, which is a breath of fresh air, because in moments of complete darkness a bit of light can certainly make the difference! So thank you for that!
I will be definitely signing up soon, as this ordeal is unbearable, but i just wanted to ask about the NC, specifically for social media. Should you refrain from even posting new pictures or from even being active on Facebook? Wouldn't her seeing you in photos, your ''likes'' etc cancel out the Separation Anxiety that we are meant to try create within her, due to the fact that she sees you? Wouldn't complete absence work better in order to create the ''missing you'' effect? To have her wonder what you are doing and if you are ok?
Thanks again Craig and i look forward to getting in contact with you soon
J
joedagreek post images of you having fun. women that initiate break ups want to see you suffering. her girlfriends advised her to leave you. her girlfriends feed on seeing you suffering. put pics of you having fun with friends and family..
I too was in total darkness....and yes some light appeared as I watch the video....thanks Graig for the light!!!!
omg! already done the shitiest thing! wish ive found you first...theres no undo...just want to revive myself from losing over someone....
ill keep watching you craig... very spontaneous and realistic!
Any time I didn’t do no contact. I never heard from her. No contact worked almost always
It can be difficult to know whether, or not, what you're doing is working; especially if they get exclusive with someone else, but I still believe no contact is the best thing; also, going dark on social media.
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This stuff is gold! Thank you.
I got heartbroken a few hours ago and I’m glad I stumbled upon this video because I would’ve done something I would’ve regretted in the future. Thank You for giving me this advice because I’m not in the right state of mind because I have a lot of anxiety.
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Coach Craig, could you please give us some hints about how to handle the worst breadcrumbs from ex like "Hope all is well."? Would need your advice, thank you!
In my situation, I broke up with him. I didnt know what I wanted. I knew I loved him but I also knew I wanted him to get his life together. We remained friends after the break up, we hung out, went dancing, had dinner, invited him to family functions, just like we were dating still. I knew I had made a mistake but I didnt speak up. I let him think we were okay at just being friends. He wanted more and I broke his heart. One day he moved without saying goodbye. I was so lost. Why didn't I tell him I loved him? I want him back more than anything in the world. He is the love of my life. Please help me.
Barbie S what ended up happening
Guys, use this time to get healed and rebrand yourself for someone better then your ex - don't look back, plan only ahead and be happy with the one who the future you will attract and be a real blessing for you instead to waste your efforts for people that don't value you - is not enough you to love, you need to be loved by the same one, you need reciprocity 😊