Dear Breastmilk Donors: THANK YOU!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 มี.ค. 2022
- [Vlog 2.25.22] - A grateful look into our process of feeding Elijah donated breastmilk!
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What a blessing! Thank God for all the selfless and generous breast milk donors!
My amazing wife recently received a certificate from the hospital thanking her for the 3000+ ounces and over 10,000+ preemie meals her donated breast milk provided. Our daughter was born 16 weeks early so she started pumping then....We had a 20 cubic foot standing deep freezer full of milk and decided to contact the NiCU my daughter was at to see if we could donate. Turns out they had a program so we sent as much as they could hold 😆 Can't wait to show her this!!!
As a NICU nurse please tell your wife Thank You!! 💕
@@mnmom723 Yup but we thank you even more for what you and your colleagues do. Our daughter was in the NiCU 126 days and we would not have our healthy baby girl (who is now 1) without you all!!!
My son was a failure to thrive baby, who had severe sucking issues. My milk dried so quick with him. So a community of people donated to help with the transition to formula it helped him with his immunity.
This is amazing! My sister had major issues when my nephew was born and ended up with a supplemental system - since my son was about 11 months older I had a freezer full of my pumped milk - my son refused bottles and only wanted to breast feed so we gave it all to my nephew. We Jokingly call them the “twins” to this day (and they are 20 and 21) and I have no regrets and she was so grateful! He had nearly a year of breast milk from me.
That is such a sweet bond for you all!🥰💕
Theres so much that breast milk can do from babies to chronically ill people! A friend of mine husband had cancer & the lactation nurse said for him to take some breast milk before chemo & that it helps with it! Theres so so much that breast mild can help with not just feeding babies but helping sick people as well! What a gift you get to share!!!🧡🌺🙏🏼🦋🧡
Being a breast milk donor was one of the nicest mitzvahs I was able to do when David was tiny. Here in the UK the milk bank milk is used for sick babies in the NICU and I was glad to be able to help xxxxxxxxx
I donated breastmilk to a friend who ended up combo feeding her baby a combo of her own milk, formula, and my milk. I was so honored to help out her sweet little one 💗
It’s beautiful these moms are helping out with other’s babies. Wet nurse has definitely evolved. Kindness is always free. ♥️
I have a genetic condition in where I’m unable to produce breast milk. My daughter Lennon thrived on donor breast milk. In all, she consumed over 20,000oz of donor milk. She self weaned right around the age of two. It was incredible. Every time I would get low, the Lord would always provide us with an abundance of milk. I’m so thankful other mamas were able to feed my sweet girl. I’m so glad y’all get to experience this, too!!!
I had an oversupply with my oldest, but didn't know about breastmilk donation. I ended up wasting so much milk. I am two month postpartum now with my second and made the decision early in my pregnancy to donate. It's exhausting finding extra time to pump while full time nursing my son and homeschooling... but it is so worth it. We are donating right now to a milk bank. They have seen a sharp decrease in donations during the pandemic, so I am so happy to do my little part since I was blessed with my supply. It's so nice to see the other side through your video and see how much those hours spent pumping truly mean to those that receive my milk.
You didn’t know about donating and I didn’t know it was available. I had a C-section and was so miserable after my son was born. Hecwas born in a military hospital and I didn’t even know that was a thing. No one ever mentioned it. It would have been such a blessing. We were so broke and of course formula cost the earth as it still does today!
I’m a NICU nurse and a NICU Mom. I was an overproducer as well as my baby was on IV nutrition only for the first month of life before being tube fed. I actually was called after we had been home for a week that my milk was taking up too much room in the unit’s freezer and I needed to come get it. I asked if they would take it as a donation so I went back to sign papers,etc. and that was that. My baby was diagnosed terminal at 14 weeks but God gave us a miracle! I pumped every 2 hours 24/7 for 3 months on top of nursing him for the last month he was there. Breastmilk gets tested the same way blood/blood product gets tested. Because I am an RN, when getting donated breastmilk, always make sure the Mama giving it to you can be trusted or has medical proof she is safe to do so. I know Mary and Peter are being super safe and most of the time it is fine. Just a little PSA for anyone who may not know. ❤️
Breastmilk gets tested in various ways depending on the organization handling the breastmilk. Not all breastmilk gets tested. As one gets closer to the 'community donor' setups....there is less and less testing or even none at all. I still advise parents to discuss their options with a 'reliable' resource. Regardless of how safe one might think a YT couple/person is, there have been issues in the past where behavior and comments relayed by Mary were not true (and she was far from being super safe in public). This was confirmed by communicating directly with the CDC. Just saying.....one should really never assume something we see or hear on YT is reliable and we should take it upon ourselves to validate from a reliable resource.
Prayers and blessings for all the donating Mamas.
Amazing! I was an exclusive pumping mom with an *oversupply. I was able to donate for 3 other babies and feed my baby until almost 2 years old. It's truly a labor of love to spend your time (when YOU have an infant nearby!) hooked up to a pump instead of anything else- especially sleeping!! God is amazing with our abilities as Mamas in ALL walks of motherhood.
*Oversupply sounds amazing but when you physically can't go longer than 3 hours between pumping, have plumitting electrolytes because you can barely stay hydrated, and have to eat an additional 1,000 cal a day it's a bit precious! It took me 3-4 months to wean and I got mastitis 3 times in that window. I'm so very grateful for every drop of liquid gold however!
Sounds like we had a very similar experience! My over supply ended up maxing out my chest freezer and so I donate alot of it to clear room for more. Labour of love for sure
Such a beautiful, kind and loving act to donate breast milk. Truly a selfless blessing! God Bless all breast milk donors 🙏🙏🙏
Such a blessing!
I’ve never heard of donated breast milk before this, thank you for sharing ❤️❤️
OMG, how precious is his little hands hugging you! Your diligence in providing the the best possible nutrition for him is beyond remarkable! I pray God blesses you and your family!
Her: “grateful “
Me: -crys over it bec im overly glad shes so happy”
I love the fact that you can breast feed Elijah through these donations. What an amazing bond.
My daughter and other friends of an adoptive mother pumped for her sweet baby. What a gift :)
Elijah has grown so much ! He has so much strength in his neck and head. You are absolutely inlove with each other and your baby and it is so sweet to see it
When they start putting their fingers in your mouth when you talk, they're learning how the words are formed. 😁👋💖
What an absolute blessing and inspiration from God.
Such a beautiful gift to both give and to receive! I’ve been blessed to be both a donor while pumping for my first son, and a recipient for one of my adopted children. ❤️
such a gift providing milk for other babies a true blessing your the best parents love all his little outfits a great video
What a blessing to you and Elijah. Thank you to all the mothers who donate.
Just think of the friendships made between the breast milk donor and recipient moms and the babies! It’s really quite beautiful!
Just beautiful. Community raises a baby xxx
This gives a whole new meaning to "It takes a village"... So many people contributing to your son's life. Precious.
it is a blessing. as an overproducer I was glad I could help a mom friend whos milk wasn't coming in. helped relieve my super overfull freezer and helped take some of the pressure off of her
Awe i saw his little Face when he and peter were in the Hammock, so cute :)
Women used to have another woman breast feed their child, if, for some reason, the mother couldn't. It was called, being a "wet nurse". Society looks down on that so much now, but when I was visiting my twin sister, years ago, she had to take her 2-year old to the hospital over night. We both had newborns, so I just nursed hers, when she needed it, during the night, which wasn't often. I was so glad I could do that for her, because her husband was out of the country, and couldn't help.
I think donating breast milk is a selfless act, and a wonderful thing to do.
How sweet for the mother's to do that. What a blessing.
I love his little outfit.
How amazing! God bless to all the breast milk donors, what you do is selfless and incredible. ❤️🥰
My SIL overproduced so much, and my niece could only drink from a bottle, but even feeding her own daughter breastmilk for two years, my SIL was still able to donate to other mamas gallons and gallons a month. So amazing!
Seeing Elijah gave me a lot of joy today ❤️
Thank goodness for those donors. They are really a blessing. I noticed that you were feeding him in an inclined position. That’s great. Otherwise it can lead to ear issues, so keep him in an inclined position when feeding and not laying down flat. God bless you both for being such great parents to little Eli!
so happy I got to be part of your village, even for a short time! ❤️❤️
Its such blessing that people hve donated milkto you and your friends its great Elijah has excepted it well
He’s grown so much! Holding his head up strong! Mary is doing so well that I almost forget she has CF! It’s incredible!
I love how Eli and Mary match with their outfits
I hope that when I start nursing my baby due in June that I will produce enough to be able to donate. It such an incredible thing to be able to do.
That's great You get donated breast milk Bless those that donate
Ya'll always make my heart smile and then it shows up on my face,thankyou❤
What a blessing these mothers are to nourish little babies. Elijah you're striped pjs are adorable just as you are god bless.
I love hearing Elijah's squeals of delight!
I loved donating my milk to help babies in need. I donated to milk banks and private people and it was so awesome! I am glad you are educating people. I think it is important to note "trusted" donors...as everything consumed goes into milk...so screening donors is so important. Loving this!!!!
My 34-weeker was 2 pounds 7 oz, I'm grateful that our NICU used nothing but (donated) breastmilk until I could feed him. And when it turned out I had IGT and couldn't feed him, a friend (who produced a lot and really didn't need her frozen supply) gave me all her frozen colostrum and milk from her son who was 4 months older than mine. To those who donate their milk, THANK YOU! (PS, my 34-weeker will be 3 this Summer, happy and healthy)
I donated breast milk when my daughter was in the neonatal ward I really didn't think how I was helping other babies I'm so glad I did it now!
Believe me as a NICU nurse and NICU Mama, we thank you!
Best parents ever.
I literally just ran to my neighbor two nights ago at 11 pm for frozen breast milk. My 4 year old is suffering with conjunctivitis and fun fact put some breast milk in eyes with conjunctivitis and it clears right up. Liquid gold has so many benefits.
Awesome!! Works well for cradle cap too. And breastmilk in the bath water is good for eczema. It's amazing stuff
One drop of breast milk also clears a little stuffed snoddy nose.
@@meganrausch8396 that's what I do with mine if it has sat in the fridge too long! I have 2 boys with sensitive skin and eczema, a little oatmeal and milk bath is so good for them!
I love this!! Our son received donor breast milk when he was in the NICU before my milk came in. 💜
Thank you to all the breast milk donatating mamas!! Thats an amazing thing you're doing!! 💖 May God bless you all!
My daughter is almost 15 months old and I still sit in the back with her.
It's amazing you guys are getting donor milk. A great way to give back to those mama is to give them breast milk bags. I was an exclusive pumper as well due to lip and tongue tie.
That is wonderful that moms will give their breast milk! Everyone knows how nutritious and filled with antibodies is breast milk to help children's immune systems and I imagine, their brains develop. Blessings to all you moms out there! And blessings to those moms and dads who receive the breast milk for their babies!
You're amazing parents 2 your son ❤💙
I exclusively breast fed and also referred to as white blood because of the living organism. I just loved it and it is amazing how bodies work to feed our babies. So happy Elijah gets to benefit. What a blessing.
Love your voice. My hubby is a pastor also. We are totally blessed.
Some flowers for your next donor mama would be lovely! I agree Mary, it is a sacrifice and it’s incredibly generous! It’s also amazing that you can need a blood donation or an organ donation and you can have a reaction but not only does God include women in this miracle of giving birth, but He also gives our babies the protection of breast milk even if it’s from a donor mama! To all moms, wherever you are, whoever you are, a huge thank you for your contribution to babies you help nourish!
Oh,my,look at all that hair on your baby boy head,he sure has some. I love seeing how happy the two of you are with your son!!! And thank god for mama’s who do have more breast milk so other babies can have it too!!!
I love the way you educate everyone abreveout the useful and good things you experience. I was able to nurse my 2 youngest for 18 mo and 24 mo's. I think it really benefits them and prevents some allergies and digestive problems. There are angels among us , such as those who donate milk to others in need. At times , I have to say , my babies seemed like barricudas , especially with their tiny teeth, but mostly fine. There are fancy breast pump things now too. 😄🥰
Hi Peter and Mary, I love your channel so mcuh
We are SOOOOO THANKFUL TO GOD AND THESE MOMMIES!!! It was so hard to figure it all out when we brought Mae Li home.
Social networking through technology was still kind of new. I cried because between that and her special needs taking up all our time, tearfully I was never able to do it for her.
… BUT PRAISE JEHOVA JIRAH for providing the nourishment she needed through the recipes I used to make her formula. She LOVED it and her pediatrician kept saying, ”whatever your doing KEEP IT UP!”
We ALL KNEW you both would be the BEST BEST BEST MOMMY AND DADDY in the WHOLE WORLD!!!
BTW…ADORABLE mama baby matching get ups today✨💚
Love you FIVE!!!!
Very nice vlog!
I think its so sweet that other mamas donate breast milk for babies in need 💕
He is so cute 😍!!
I wish I had known about this when my children were baby's. I couldn't breast feed because I have epilepsy & took anti-seizure medication.
I didn’t know about it either. I have depression and had severe postpartum depression and wasn’t eating enough to produce enough milk to satisfy my hungry boys. I fed both of them for at least 2-3 weeks but they quickly got too hungry and needed more!
Omg! As a mom of 3
Please hold his head, please. Elijah is way too young to hold his head without a little more support. God has graced you with a wonderful gift, don't be in such a hurry with him mom 💕.
Agree totally, also hold him on your chest when feeding not on your legs with your hand under his head.
@@HayleySulfridge looks like she hasn't held too many babies.
Agreed......support his head!!! He doesn't have the muscle strength yet! Mary should know better since she's had so much experience with kids. Doesn't look like it to me.
@@MissTupsy has she?????
@@HayleySulfridge wow thank you,unbelievable
Oh damn it he is cute!!! The parts we could see! And I have no doubt the rest of him is equally as adorable!!!
Ollie is so cute 🐶
I know you have lots of comments and you may have had answers. I was thankful to have an oversupply and exclusively pumped for my two girls for 13 months each time. I was so blessed to be able to help nine other babies in that time. The regulations are debated however I always went with 5 days in the fridge fresh milk, I believe it's 3-6 months in a standard attached to fridge freezer, and up to 12 months in the deep freeze.
I'm thankful that you get donated breast milk for Elijah. I only had enough for my baby. It's a gift of love for sure and so healthy for him💙 Thank you for sharing your journey!
The sharing of breath milk has been done for long time .. in older days other nursing moms in family or close friends would ..what was called wet nursings
Oh my goodness that baby just looks so kissable!😍😍
His legs are so strong
I really hope you come back to not necessarily daily vloging but uploading vlogs from like up to 3 days before and not a month back
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God bless those sweet breast milk donors!!
I’m a current donor and I have a question for you. Is there a volume amount in each bag that you prefer? I was doing 3oz but recently switched to 5oz but I’m not sure if this is better or not
My daughter donated alot to someone she didn't know and fed baby for 2 years
I sat in the back with my oldest until she was almost 2 ! It just felt right :)
I sat with mine until she started forward facing.
😂
Unless you're single parent and can't sit in the back in the car with the kids like my mother she was always single parent. She died a year ago she was the best.
Good and cute family
That's awesome that women donate breast milk. When my kids were babies I tried to breastfeed them. I guess I never had enough milk.. so we wound up using formula. It broke my heart. But I'm thankful my babies were fed
Just like your IVIG is a blood product from donation so is this milk... And it keeps the family going.
Yeah, I need dozens of these packages…
Have you considered giving the milk donors a thank you card with Elijah’s little handprint turned into a flower?
“Thank you for helping me grow.”
I know that Moms may also decide to pump and to donate their breast milk after losing a baby. So, that is a very tender aspect of breast milk donation that the recipients may not know.
Breastmilk is good unfrozen for about 4 hours, refrigerated for a few days, and frozen for up to a year if it is in a deep freeze
Wow Mary! That’s a lot of breast milk
My friend got donated breast milk for her daughter back in 2012. Her mom found the resource as she wasn't able to breast feed for valid reasons. What I learned from her experience is that unless times have changed the recipient needs to be close to the same age as the donor's child. It's also a good way to pickup on food sensitivities and allergies. Her donor drank regular cows milk and my friend's daughter was allergic to cows milk and had to stop using the donor's breast milk. Unfortunately, my friend didn't seek to find a donor using something besides cows milk. She ended up using soy formula and it was not easy on her daughter, but it fed her until she was able to be off of it.
Omg he is such a little cutie , those little feet . Donated breast milk for the win !!!
That's awesome. Do you give the mommas new bags?
Lol. Nevermind, just watched a minute more. Lol
Greetings from Germany
Sounds like the breast milk donors you have do it as an act of love. 😁👋💖
Anyone know when his adoption through the court will happen? Or did it already happen?
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Hi Mary and peter
That is a blessing. You should get a breast milk pendent made with a cute saying or something and give it to her. I know its her breastmilk but it would be kinda like a keepsake for one of the babies she has donated her milk too.
Time line for breast milk goes by 6
6 hours at room temperature
6 days in the fridge
6 months in the freezer
I would love to donate breast milk, but here in Germany it isn't that easy. Also I don't know if it would have worked out for me, just because I had so much milk after both pregnancys, but I could get barely anything by pumping 🤷♀️.
Thanks goodness I had no problems breastfeeding my baby's
There are different guidelines depending on what source you are following.
I was watching and think it's amazing that people donate ... I was wondering if Mary considered inducing lactation before elijah arrived or if you'd have had more time would you have?
Not to speak for Mary, but the medication she takes may preclude that option.
Ya'll kinda just did a breast milk drug deal. LOL! jk! These women are angels. So sweet and amazing.