This is actually one of the saddest topics. Also, should note, this isn't just a hetero thing. But, it seems a lot less frequent in other couple pairings. It's genuinely gross how much pressure people are put under to stay in these situations and "affirm" their partners. Yeesh.
I agree. If a husband or wife is straight and their partner transitions into the other gender then it shouldn't be unusual for them to want to break up or divorce. Their parnter transitioning isn't going to the other partner gay, bi or, pan. However, I think Chris coming out was for the best because if they had his this want then it would've put a strain on their relationship with his wife and child that likely would've resulted in a divorce anyways. It's etter to get a divorce with someone you aren't going to be compatible with before a massive confrontation than after one.
Exactly. They make these wild claims to basically say it means nothing and that there is no binary to gender, and then they start comfortably in the binary system of gender. You can't have these conversations because they'll just insult and label to silence you. Society is falling apart. That's really all there is to it. The ones left will be those who didn't fall for the nonsense. Maybe this is nature's funny way of weeding out the weak ones to self correct. We are still in the survival of the fittest paradigm. It just doesn't look like predator and prey anymore. It's weak and strong minds.
There's nothing hypocritical about it, gender is a social construct and some people want to be of a different gender so they take on the social implications of that gender, lol. This isn't exactly complicated buddy
My mom was a transwidow before there was really a word for it. My mom back in the 70s started finding her clothes were stretched out and worn. Turns out my dad was starting to wear her clothes and then asking for her to buy him his own underwear, slips, etc. My mom thought it was super weird but she also thought maybe this is something wives have to do. It wasnt until one day when I was born and he was holding me (an infant girl) that he asked what she would do if he was sexually attracted to me. That was it. My mom left. Back then states did not go after chidl support in the way they do now. He was in a different state, my mom didnt have any money, etc, She kept all of this a secret since she felt like she would be judged as the problem. I didnt find out until years later when my "sperm donor" tried to connect with me. I TRIED at the time - but then he got awfully weird. He was a "trans lesbian" and he started to send me constant selfies of his cleavage, his legs, etc - and the straw for me was when he would send me Christmas cards he made of half naked women dressed as santas. I am grateful in the sense he reached out to me since I was able to connect with my half sister - who I found out a few years later had been molested by our sperm donor before her parents divorced. He is an AGP of the textbook definition and a predator. Truthfully he should not be able to be in private womens spaces.
Your story is a good example of the fact that a lot of these people who ‘transition’ are actually just playing out fetishes. It’s disgusting. Sorry you went through that.
This story needs to be heard on big platforms. Too many of these trans folks fit into how you described your sperm donor. Especially the people pushing for children to transition early
Not a trans situation but something similar happened to a good friend from high school recently. Her husband of 20+ years told her that he was gay and had always been so. He packed up and left and she was now facing a world in which she'd just spent the past two decades of her life essentially blindsided. What made it worse is that the public reaction was that "he was so brave for coming out" and "it took a lot of courage" while there seemed to be little sympathy for the woman who sacrificed her years to help raise their child and support his career. The public support only seems to flow one way and that's truly sad.
Very much the same for women who discover they are gay and abandon their husbands. I feel that is even more accepted than anything else which is worrisome.
I know of a classmate who publicly stated that he had wished he had wrote his "term paper" about his dad coming out as gay... and yup, most of our classmates were all head over heels to be "supportive" of his dad. 🤦 I never really thought about how his mother must have felt, but it seemed I was the only person who was willing to state how completely screwed up that was (as I couldn't have cared less whether or not all of my "clicky" classmates thought I was a "phobe"). As you could guess, I had plenty of my idiot classmates making comments about how stupid I was despite the fact they all knew I ranked in the top % of the class! 🤣
My ex started cross dressing and started identifying as a woman soon after we had discovered I was pregnant in 2014. I had tried to help him work it out but in the end had to leave because he became manipulative and dangerous with his drunk rages. Years later, after analyzing it, I think he had a breakdown. He had a terrible childhood and when confronted with the responsibility of a child he just lost it. Possibly because he was afraid he'd be like his dad. And no he wouldn't go to counseling for it. I can say he had a bad childhood. His parents were divorced and his father was abusive. Both parents doing drugs and he bounced back and forth between houses because he had behavior issues. He never had a stable environment. He recently passed away after overdosing to which I am heart broken. I'm not talkimg bad about him rather I want everyone to learn from it. A stable environment with loving parents is essential for a child's development and well being. Love your children. Hug them everyday and don't talk to them like you talk to yourself. Don't be too harsh on them. They're kids. And, for the love of God, keep them off of cellphones and tablets. Let them play outside.
sorry for your lose. as for the stable environment. dont forget that a healthy stable environment includes a male and female figure in the childs life as in Father and mother. It is proven fact that kids with both parents do better in life. but it seems that this is slowly disappearing and it terrifies me for the future of my children. We all should be putting our efforts towards making sure all families have a healthy stable environment. kids really are our future. Adults were kids at one point and the choices made when they were kids effect the choices in adulthood. it is all linked. As for technology limit use to 2 hr a day or less is good.
Trans people are also loved people. I was a very loved child, had everything to read, had present caring parents, and... Trans. Love your children don't matter what and accept them if they discover more about themselves later, going blind is difficult. I trusted my parents, so I came out early, they learned quickly, and everything is a peace at home, even my grandma knows about gender neutral pronouns. 🎉
@LOVE buuuh non binary makes cisgender scary. I would answer you seriously, coating researches and such (you can see bagno if wanted, is a Brazilian author. He'll explain to you why the language is fluid and a tool of the talker, ever changing, ever evolving, and why words can have new meanings, applications, and even new words can exist. You know... They all were invented, right?) Doubt you'll even look for the book. If is not saying something you wanna hear, in a ten minute video, can you comprehend? My opinion in all transfobics.
@LOVEOh, honey, I don't believe. I am. Can you tell the difference? The difference is that, unlike you, I'm not in a cult that's one or two steps away from naz*s (saw them with the protesters of your kind? that's what I mean, baby)
I didn't realise there was a name for it, but I am in fact a transwidow (ex husband came out to me 3 months after our wedding). I was effectively pressured into accepting it, being told that I was the only one that didn't take it well, while all their friends and family accepted it and encouraged the transition. I on the other hand questioned everything; my sexuality, my future, hell I even questioned my own femininity. I accepted their transition, and offered to help, gave them some of my old clothes, but they instead sought counsel elsewhere, while I sat at home. I was left behind, nobody asked how I was, how I was taking it/handling it. The marriage ended when I caught them on dating apps (twice) and then THEY told ME they didn't love me anymore and wanted a divorce. I moved to a different country to start again. It's been hard. Thanks Sydney for actually bringing this to people's attention, I don't think everyone realises that when someone transitions and finally comes to terms with who they are, their partner also has a lot of work to do, and also, in a way, has to transition, against their will. I was called a bigot, a transphobe, a homophobe, all these names under the sun because I wanted a husband, not a wife.
From what you wrote, why are you using NB pronouns?? So odd... to be injured by this fad, and STILL buying in to it. Emotional pain is SOOO damaging! But, WHY??
@@bicicogito989 people can be who they want to be, and i do my best to accept. I guess it's just a habit; I tried to accept it and worked hard on not using masculine language. I don't like using the preffered pronouns, but I still seem to correct myself when I do. And anyway, if I use he/him, it makes me think that my husband is still alive. If I use they/them, it's less personable and I can distance myself from the person I thought I knew and loved.
@@genniebee8573 Losing someone that you love, or used to love, can be grievously painful. Wish that I could comfort you in a real manner. Thank you for taking the time/effort in elaborating upon the pronouns you used here. Your answer is much clearer than my imperfect question. Again, thank you.
I think that's how it works. You have to say that you have always been a woman bc otherwise you would have to admit that you have been influenced by the mob.
A woman I know is doing this to her family after 18 years of marriage and 25 year long relationship. My wife wants me to be understanding. But all I can think about is her soon to be ex husband and their 2 teenage kids, who's lives are being ripped apart because she's terminally online and infected with the woke mind virus.
My girlfriend of seven years decided to transition to male back in 2016. I think the term widow/widower is really accurate in a way because that person I knew and fell in love with is gone in every way you can think of.
I am a trans-widow. It’s painful and lonely and I don’t know what to do. My “husband” wants to come out as a (as he calls it) girl. We have gotten into many of fights over this and he can’t comprehend why I want to leave. I’m being called a horrible person and transphobic because I want my husband back. I feel like I’m grieving and have no right to. Now he wants to tell our son and that’s something I won’t allow.
It sounds like you built a life with him and then he did a rug pull on your entire life. Do what's best for you and your son, don't apologize. You're defintely not a horrible person.
@@robinbozeman6215 I hope you can keep your children without them knowing those absolutely idiotic choices of ur husband/ex husband, don’t worry I’m praying you get out of this okay
This feels like the even more extreme version of losing a partner after they come out as gay and leave for a same-sex relationship. A lot of the same sentiments were expressed by the widow/ers, that it was impossible to grieve because they would instantly viewed as horrible people, that affirmation was the only "right" way to react. But it is a death, and we should be permitted to mourn. Your relationship has died, your future, your hopes and dreams with this other person. That is devastating! To be essentially told that we aren't "allowed" to mourn in those situations, to feel betrayed or hurt or abandoned, is a cruelty. It is a cruelty committed by a subset of the population that only wants to do for themselves and doesn't want any sort of intrusion that might make them feel like what they're doing is wrong. "Please don't call me out on my crap, it makes me feel bad" is a heck of a thing to affirm.
Selfishness, inwardness, and affirmation… what a terrible, sick and depraved society were creating. My heart is with every single person who has lost their spouse in this way. It’s worse than a death.
The hypocrisy is pretty astounding considering how they themselves believe that 'dead names' are a thing. Refusing to let others mourn for the man or woman that once was but has changed and abandoned those left behind is just an admittance of selfishness and complete lack of compassion on their part.
It is similar to the loss a parent feels for a trans identifying child. It’s an unmourned death, especially if the child is old enough to legally change their birth name. That’s a gut punch. The path they’re on just spirals down and down.
My ex husband hid that he was gay for 17 years. I felt like that part of my life was complete sham! It hurts to think about it. No one ever talks about the family affected by these men/women choices choosing to marry when they really shouldn't.
I think in the case of homosexuality, its a little different. Namely, he probably didn't have the option to come out as gay. Also after he came out did he abandon you guys, stick around and try to raise the kids or what?
@Li Tobler Well in this case there's a lot of context missing; is he facing family pressure, has he suppressed it and is trying to convert himself etc. I'm just saying it's not so black and white
@@randomloverofcheese It's same thing. Both are due to some kind of mental illness as evidenced by the lifestyle led by the vast majority of gay people. The difference is how normalized homosexuality has become.
@@randomloverofcheese For 17 YEARS? That is absolutely ridiculous and inexcusable. He was nothing but selfish to waste so many years of her life and lie to her the entire time. He should have never suppressed or tried to convert himself at the cost of another person's life. Disgusting.
@@SK-ut6tw yeah i have heard apparently if the wife or heck i would say husband does not support his soupuse transitioning they get labeled as bigot. as they should apparently love their soupuce no mater the gender.(but then that would mean everyone should be bi sexual) but being gay and lesbian is celerbated. so yeah like how do you handle not being a biggot unless you are bi sexual.
When Chris said he “had the full support of his 2 year old son”…. That is what a narcissist says. It is never a kid’s job, ESPECIALLY a toddler, to support their parents.
Nobody said the boy needs to support him. Chris can do what he wants, I don't understand how this affects his son in anyway.... he's still in his kids life.
@@LeahBreHappywhat do you mean how does this affect this son in any way? His father is trying to be a woman ... he left his family, his son lost a male rolemodel, his father doesn't know who the f he is and is playing into a trend of being lost in your own identity ... disgusting honestly
Right? Like what kinda support is a 2 yr old going to actually be able to give? They don't even understand the complexities of the situation. It's actually sad how we put this burden on children and act like everything's okay because the child says it's okay. The child says it's okay because to them you are their world and as long as you're smiling they don't really care and they don't know what else is going on.
@@MurakiChiyo I mean you don't know him or his son at all... these are just worries and judgments you have on the poor boy. Maybe don't act like you know what's going on in someone's life until you are around them and see it for yourself
I just found out (through a facebook post) that my cousin falls into this category and is still bitter about it (understandly so). The father of her now 20 year old daughter abandoned them to "find himself/herself," when her daughter was still a baby. It was very hard on her and her parents had to help raise her daughter since he gave no support. To me it sounds like many of these men are narcissistic and need therapy.
@@miepmiep3017 The bad ones. Bad therapists blindly affirm anything their clients put before them because thats what many clients want. Someone to tell them that they're right and everyone else is wrong. Good ones instead will tell you when you're bullshitting.
I've never thought about this before but it makes sense that it happens. My dad "came out" after thirty years of marriage and he's now shacked up with some dude while she's working in her retirement years. And social media cheers these people on for being "true to themselves", never mind all the social contracts they shred along the way. That poor ex-wife. She's got to feel so lied to.
I know a family this happened to, too. The wife felt so sad. She has really been honorable about it and hung out with her ex husband and his boyfriend for the sake of her grandkids, which is really cool of her. If I remember correctly though the kids were not thrilled about it the situation when it happened when they were in high school. It has taken a lot of time to heal
@@cheesemakerkeesee395 Just for marrying someone allegedly under false pretenses, stringing them along for three decades, then expecting them to happy about it when he pulled the rug out
That 10 year relationship lady I really feel for. She spent her best, youngest years on a relationship that went nowhere, with someone she was GENUINELY in love with. That was a pretty shitty thing to do to her, especially since it seems she wanted to be a mom.
My mom's best friend had this happen to her husband. He experienced a lot of trauma that he never had therapy for. It drove our families apart quite a bit and I've had more than one uncomfortable interaction with 'Carey'. He talked to my mom about 'cramps' and my sister about 'having some girl time' and me about gender ideology in general (which I'm pretty versed in). His relationship with his wife seems fine on the outside, but his son now identifies as non-binary. It's an ongoing issue because my mom doesn't want to let her best friend of two decades go because of something beyond her control. I honestly feel pity for my moms friend, her family is falling apart. And so much saddness for my dad, who lost a good friend in this man, now 'woman'.
Yeah I don't even know where to start with this type of scenario. In highschool my sweetheart's best friend (and a mutal friend of mine) was in love with her and we didn't know until me and my highschool sweetheart started dating so it was even messier. She is a fairly healthy trans man now thankfully but yeah.
She needs to just 'snap' and put her foot down.....tell this man to stop with the delusions and do his damn job. He is clearly unaware or IS aware, but doesnt care about the sheer humiliation and trauma that hes putting his family through....it would.probably be better that he just leave and never return if he doesnt snap out of it. She needs to divorse this asshole and get him out of her life....her sons and her own mental health and future happiness clearly depend upon it. The father is a selfish asshole....and thats it. Its that simple. Their family was destroyed on the day he put on a dress and she should just call it now, before she gets even more miserable (coz she is.....there is no way that shes not.....no matter what she may say in the outside).
Don't forget about the multitude of trans widows who've been silenced in such a way because if they ever speak up on their graveless grieving or how it affected their family and children. They are seen as bigots and transphobes and if they do try to search for resources for help, usually they are led towards the resources of affirmation, inclusion, and acceptance rather than processing loss.
What is the problem? People change and kids and other family members need to have unconditional love for one another. Who cares what they look like? They didn't die
Remember when honor was more common and valued among men? To protect and provide for your family was and still is the greatest thing you could do in your life.
Ohhh my goodness Jacob! I thought I was False Memories! I was ready to have myself committed! So those things really did exist! I feel so relieved! Thank you!❤
I saw a regular non famous man get utterly canceled and destroyed. Why? Because his wife decided to be a dude out of the blue one day. He stayed with her long past any reasonable man would, even when she started getting a tiny “thing” down there. But one day she wanted to be the man in the relationship during intimacy and he wasn’t comfortable with that and said no. She called him a transphobe and said “let me do this or leave” so he left. In the name of transphobia she got the house, the kids, the car, the money. Everyone hated the husband!! There is NOTHING more selfish and narcissistic than forcing your straight husband to be gay against his will. And same goes in the other way too. You can’t force a straight woman to be gay either. And those poor children in these situations lose both parents.
I personally watched this happen. Happily married couple, he starts dressing and acting more femme, she’s initially supportive, but as he goes further and further things become really strained. Eventually they divorce so he can “live his authentic life” as a woman. So a great wife and two small kids are left in the dust so that he can turn himself into a catty, obnoxious, wannabe pronstar with ridiculous fake bewbs and fry-dyed long blonde hair, in his late 40’s. It was the most selfish thing I’ve ever seen a human do.
@T B that's a very harmful blanket statement. don't assume everyone is like that. also love that intentional misgendering for the ex wife mentioned above. transphobes oof.
@@nayladoodles2123 he didnt even make a blanket statement, he said "a lot of that" comes from porn addiction. do you just say "transphobes" and leave it at that because you can't say anything against their point, or because you are unable to empathize with someone who doesn't fit in your ideology?
I was a trans widow before it was a thing. We married in 2012 and split 3 years later, as he wanted to be a she and wanted to stay with me if I could accept his lifestyles. I felt so manipulated. It was a betrayal of our vows to come together as one man and one woman. This wasn't what I signed up for. Now it's everywhere...
It’s because porn has become such a monster in society. He was probably nursing a secret addiction, and over time he decided his fetish was more important than anything else. Sadly there are thousands of cases of this nowadays. Used to be exceptionally rare.
That other guy that replied is retarded. It has nothing to do with porn - he's an idiot. Some people are just whack jobs. Sucks that happened to you. Hope you've been able to move on.
We are now so deep into bizzarro world that when a man compliments a woman on being beautiful, she has to wonder if he is interested in her or if he is just asking for hair and makeup tips.
I dont compliment women in their looks because i dont wanna be reported for harassment or be filmed and placed all over tiktok. Thats the more likely scenario these days for complimenting a woman on her looks in any way. I would never compliment a woman, ever lol
I imagine this is why many people find it hard to compliment others in their daily lives. Edit: Like the dude that commented before me. People take compliments the wrong way.
@@ShinFahima i have no problem complimenting others unless they are women lol. I compliment men from time to time because they take compliments at face value. But i wont ever compliment a woman ever in this new era of woke i will never say anything nice to any woman i meet unless i know them
Hey man nothing wrong with that, lol. I work as a chef for a sorority and I get tips all the time 😂 just a little while ago I was told I had blackheads and had one of the girls take me to Sephora to get me some blackhead remover 😂 so moral of the story apparently blackheads are a thing and you should remove them
I remember watching a few episodes of the Kardashians where Bruce transitioned, and Kris spent weeks in bed and wouldn’t come out of her room. Then one of the girls caught Kris wearing Bruce’s jacket and she was crying saying she could still smell him on it and she felt like he had died. She considered it his death that’s she was a widow. It was actually very sad to watch.
Yea…the only time I’ve ever felt anything for that family was when I saw a clip of Kris carefully dancing around her grief. Eventually, she just came out and said it, that it felt as if the man she loved not only was gone, but apparently had never even been there. I find her to be a deplorable woman for many reasons, but on this one, I really felt deeply sad for her.
I think coming out as bisexual when you're married is a huge red flag. Like, why are you announcing what you're attracted to or that it has changed? It doesn't matter anymore, you're married.
Right? The only reason my husband knows I'm bi is because we were friends for a long time before even dating. Otherwise I don't think it would've ever really needed to come up, especially to the public/ our family/ our friends. I ended up with a guy it doesn't matter to me or anyone else anymore🤷🏻♀️
I'm bi and my husband has always been aware. I fully agree with you. Suddenly realizing you're attracted to the sex opposite of your partner's means that there is someone else you're attracted to, which is very close to cheating in my book.
It just goes to show that they lied to you for all these years until they tied you down with marriage. The expectation might be that you're going to be ok letting them experiment, lol. I'm a really accepting person when it comes to Lgb. If my partner waited until marriage to tell me he's bi, I'd reconsider the marriage because clearly there must be more going on otherwise he would have told me earlier. It's just trickle truthing until he would get to the core which is probably that he's actually gay and I'm his beard, or that he's trans and wants to transition, or he wants to be in an open relationship. All of these are deal breakers and they know, which is why they keep this from you until they trapped you with marriage, sometimes even with kids. Just look on the mypartneristrans subreddit.
@@CieraMychele You don't talk about your various life experiences? I can't imagine not using past relationships and experience as referencing points and how to troubleshoot on issues. Maybe we just see differently on the topic
Just another perfect example of how narcissistic many trans can be. They honestly do not care who they hurt in the process, as long as they get to do what they want. You see it here, you see it with the trans athlete not giving one iota what they are doing to women;s sports and the women athletes. It is 100% all about them and their wants. Everything and everyone else who is not 100% supportive gets left behind. There is no question this is a cult.
Not all are like that, it dispenses on the person. But I do hope they get objective, genuine help, instead of being told to mutilate themselves and take pills/injections.
You are so right, we arenin the Me era, My truth my feelings what's good for my true me. The path to happiness is being responsible and helping others. Primarily your family, society used to shun people who deserted their families now the elite owned media the educational systems and governments demand and embrace it.
I feel like trans athletes don't count here Because frankly if even 20% are actually trans im gonna be shocked These people are mediocre athletes who are narcs and if they can't win a fair fight they can at least cheat and win
The argument I get is, "You're the problem. You shouldn't be hurt by someone who is being their authentic self." Maybe not, but I think I would have a right to feel hurt by a person who is in such a desperate need to control everything in their life, that they want to alter reality itself.
my exe gf is now a trans male. I was indirectly informed by her dressing like a man and cutting her hair army style. Never had any thoughts about transitioning for 11 years. Spent lots of time online with "friends" who convinced her to try it out. This obviously ended our relationship. I think this was done for the wrong reasons (I base this on our 11 years together). I'm realizing that many detransition once they can't stand the complications that they go through and can't find support from their surroundings. It's a sad realization. I will not be accepting my exe back should she detransition. Hormones change a person's personality and psyche. This is no longer and will never be the one I cared about years ago.
R/late lesbianblommers said eveb if my parenter transitions to be a man im calling her my wife. Transman who dicvred husband comments on rita ora's husabands post of wife appriacation while on her won instahgram page she mocks her own ex-husband. Alog with all the degarding of men and AFAB people degrade towards AMAB and that tiwards AMAB gay men.
"Hormones change a person's personality and psyche" This! The effects of hormones NEED to be discussed (especially with children). But regardless of age, I wish more people would talk about this, and it seems to only worsen the situation. I'm really sorry you had to go through that. Jesus loves you! Have a blessed day!
First of all you do realize he was already divorced right? And second of all why do you think it's in your place to decide that he has a fetish? Also you shouldn't kink shame, lol. I used to kink shame a lot but then I learned you can't knock it till you try it
@@cheesemakerkeesee395 First of all, i was speaking of trans widows in general. Second autogynephilia is a fetish and what drives 99.7% of the men who come out as “trans” in their later years. Finally, kinks and fetishes are the result of unresolved psychological issues and they should be shamed so people get the proper help they need in the form of therapy.
My brother did this 18 years ago. He abandoned his wife and 2y old child. His argument, even then, matched Chris'. "My child would WANT me to be happy; I am doing this for them!!!". Nope, your child wants a Daddy. His wife was devastated, never really recovered and floated through various religions looking for meaning and hope. Never remarried and she wanted so badly to have a family. No one wanted to date her (once they found out) and take on the social stigma that she was stuck with, since she shared a child with him and could not escape his orbit. The child has since been swallowed by this gender ideology and also transitioned, had surgery, and is estranged from Mom. His actions led to the complete destruction of a family. It divided the extended family. We can't have family reunions anymore. I am no contact to avoid the contagion to my young, impressionable kids. This ideology is a disease that destroys families and relationships all to useless sacrifice for a false idol of selfishness and "happiness". I hate it.
My dad did this to my mom 21 years ago. He was kind enough to attempt to hide it from me and my younger brother, but my older Sister and oldest brother found out before the separation, when he abandoned the family and left. 14 months later on a visit to his apartment I found women's clothes in the balcony closet and was told the truth about why my father abandoned his family. Six weeks later on our next visitation (since I and my younger brother were still minors) his roommate dressed as a woman showed up. My little brother declared loudly "you are having an affair!". (Which was the only funny thing about this situation.) That Roommate broke their word by showing up, and my dad ended up kicking them out of the apartment so visitation could continue. At this point I didn't want to be there, but I had to protect my younger brother. (It wasn't court ordered visitation, so I had the option not to go, but my younger brother wanted so badly to try and fix dad, despite not knowing the true cause, that he always wanted to visit if he could.) In the end my dad took a credit card out in my mom's name and that was the final straw and my mom filed for divorce, in the process to change our last names. 2 years of dealing with this stupid situation my dad became an ex-trans "because of Jesus" and married my step mom. But the phycological strain over this time caused me to flunk out of highschool, and struggle with serious depression and trouble dating. (It didn't help that I also had a brain tumor try to kill me at this point too.) For the summer of radiation therapy my dad back as a man made an effort to spend time with me at the hope lodge, but he only said sorry once, but didn't specify what he was sorry for. Now my dad is suffering from serious health problems because of those two years wrecking his body with the wrong hormones, he's probably going to die in a year or two, if not sooner. To this day he won't acknowledge or accept the damage he did to his children and he is still angry and upset that my mom divorced him. I don't have access to his side of the family because they took his side on the situation.* (Well my grandpa, his dad, before he died told my mom he didn't blame her and wrote our birthday check to us kids in our new names. But my currently only living grandparent his mom refuses to acknowledge the new name since she doesn't want to have the family name die because of what happened. She is intolerable if I bring up anything about my name or my mom.) Anyway while my situation was much better then the one you know about, there was still massive emotional and psychological damage that was done. My older brother never was able to date again because he worked hard to support the rest of family until he suffered a massive breakdown. (He took care of me for 13 years) My sister had the opposite problem and dated abusive guys nonstop until she married one, and is dealing with him taking custody of her two girls away because she is too transphobic. I dated only one woman who rejected me because I was going to end up a freak like my dad. And I have struggled to deal with that, despite knowing I am like the opposite of my dad in every way. Thankfully my little brother got married and has a mostly normal life. But he also cut off my mom and my sister because my brother still talks to my dad. I have a middle ground relationship with my little brother, but it's been a problem trying to visit him and his family. My mom got destroyed over the last 20 years getting her alimony reduced little by little from $3900 to the current $500 /month despite never getting remarried or doing anything else wrong. (Except for not hiring a big enough snake to fight my dad's snake of a lawyer.)
@@Mac_Omegaly I am so sorry. In case no one told you, what he did to you and your family was wrong and you deserved much better. Good things lead to life and bless others. Bad things destroy the person and poison everything it comes in contact with. I wish the world would talk more about the fruits of this movement. Thank you for sharing. May you continue to grow into a responsible person who loves their friends and family in truth and empathy.
@@JenWulf thank you. It's hard to talk about this subject, and I originally wanted to focus on the things that were similar to the situation you were talking about. The words of my last ex girlfriend really hurt me, because I have a medical issue that naturally destroyed my pituitary, and it no longer produces any hormones, and requires me to take medicine daily. She was wrong to try to rush into having sex with me after only three months, and she was wrong to say such things to me because i refused. But it took a long time for me to realize those facts. As I was right not to have sex with her since she clearly wasn't for me, and if things did continue a worse breakup was looming in the future. Even knowing those things I still struggle even to think about trying to date again. My loneliness is my main motivation and the pool of available "kind" women who would be willing to accept damaged goods like myself is incredibly small to impossible. Even though these things are not entirely true, I put up these walls to prevent myself from getting hurt. (And this is not all my Dad's fault, but the effects of his choices are a big part of this.) Anyway I am planning on trying to go to a local 30's singles event this summer. I don't want to rush things but I feel like time is running out to try to start a family.
So, it'wrong to have the deadbeat dads/moms, but it's totally ok to have the deadbeat "thems/zems/whatever tf else is out there," so long as they get to be "zeir" authentic selves... Is that what I'm expected to understand?
Yes. That is exactly what the unhinged mentally ill progressive movement demands from you. Call them what they are, don't let them police your language. The only way to beat their game is to refuse to play it.
@@southerncatlady I hate this too. Men and women who abandon their families to be their "authentic selves" are pathetic. I pray that all of this gender ideology crap goes away soon, because I can't stand it.
This happened to me. I got married (the first time) to a man. About 8 months into our brand new marriage I was informed that he was trans and wanted to be a woman. I was devastated. We went to "support group" meetings where I was made to feel like I was a bad baaaaaad person if I didn't "love my partners soul". My husband also uses my bisexuality as a blanket. It was gonna be fine. I'd still love and find him attractive because I'm bi. Which is not how that works. I stomached him wearing wigs and women's clothes and doing makeup even though it made me feel vile inside. I married a man. And I didn't want a 6'3, broad shouldered woman who was going to look exactly like my Mother In Law. But I hung on for 4 more years as he treated me like garbage, drug me all over the country, quit job after job. I really feel for Chris' wife. It's heartbreaking and world shattering when the man you thought would lead your family decided they're a woman and it becomes your responsibility to be a "good wife" and stick with them. It's vile and selfish.
Nah your in hypocrisy of "bi". Bi means equality amoungst both. And if he identifies as a woman. If you reject that. Your a hypocrite. And you married the wrong man. It's that simple
It's stunning for me, a gay person, to hear stories like this. I am NOT attracted to women's bodies, regardless of the souls. Society spent years wrapping its head around homosexuality, and then things like this happen. Suddenly we're offended again that people have a sexual orientation!? Common sense grows less common by the day! And even for bisexuals, they aren't attracted to all people who present in every kind of way! I totally understand how even bi people can lose attraction when their spouse completely changes presentation and even their body. I'm sorry you had to experience this struggle firsthand.
I'm a gay trans widow from a 10 year relationship. Problems started showing up around the 7th year with him hanging out with super progressive "friends" and wanting to go on vacation trips without me (which I later found out included a lot of risky sex and drugs). He shaved his beard, then later everything else except his head and started seeing a therapist (later found out it was a gender therapist) and got into cross dressing. He also created an alternate online identity around this time. I broke up with him because of the risky sex, which admittedly I only found out about since I cracked his phone so some secrets had to come out. I spent 3 years feeling like a stranger in my own house and completely unable to get him to explain to me what was going on. I found it all out nearly 2 years later that he decided to change his name, had been on hormone therapy for some time and was looking forward to surgery, and had disowned his family and many of his friends. He also reported having multiple personalities, spending most of his time crying uncontrollably but self-reportedly "happy". I was so traumatized I have since cut all contact and most contact of contact out of my life. I feel so entirely betrayed and hateful even 6 years later I surprise myself, not least of all spending much of my free time in the past 4 years reading up on all of this and seeing how completely predatory and bogus it all is. This garbage caught a guy in his late 20's who was (as far as I could tell) very happy in his relationship. I feel for these ladies, I lost my high school sweetheart after 10 years, I can't imagine 20, 30, 40? How could you ever trust anyone again when the man you trust the most comes out with this nonsense?
It reminds me of stories where in a relationship of multiple years the couple's working off the understanding that they want kids in the future and then out of nowhere one partner says that they don't actually want to have kids. Like... people have finite lives. Leading them on is kinda evil.
Your situation sucks but it's completely unrelated to Chris's situation. I hate that morons like Walsh are misconstruing the whole situation which a. Doesn't involve them personally, b. Don't know Chris personally, c. Are using old edgy posts from Chris and wrap this up with the whole transtrender ideology. Chris never advertised it nor was virtue signalling... The right is being as stupid as the left is and it can't be any more depressing. Bring balance to the force!
I’m so sorry this happened to you. You didn’t deserve this at all 🤍 I pray you’re able to trust again and build meaningful life long relationships and friendships. You deserve to be happy and loved 🤍🤍
I am so sorry. I truly am that that actions of another person has caused you so much harm you don't deserve. There are men who also can relate to your story where their wives are now into women. It isn't fair to the partners. For what it's worth, the best revenge is living a happy life. Your ex sounds like a piece of selfish garbage. Don't let him steal the rest of your life.
I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine this. Changing life directions and goal is one thing. Y’all can talk and negotiate and determine if the relationship is still viable for you both. But just going behind your back and essentially saying “too bad, so sad for you” with that behavior is gross.
My girlfriend has a dad who is now a trans woman. It really is basically like having that person die because they're no longer the person my gf grew up with having as a father. Still really messes with her to this day. Feel terrible for the child and mother
From what I get even the most benign transition leaves the family scarred because the father(or mother) entirely changes personalities almost over night. It really is like someone passed away.
@@Mupyeong And then they'll tell you they're still the same person, and you know they're really not. Or else, this was always them, they just covered it up. Either way, they're no longer the person you knew or thought you knew.
@@MarieAnne. That seems to be an either or. Detransitioners seem to return to their original personalities but you are most definitely on the nose there.
Yes you can't even call them dad or mom (depending on what they charge for gender to) and sometimes you can't keep your friends or interact with relatives because they would remind your parent of their real gender. Sleepovers are now a issue because now one wants their kids over your disfuncional household and now your paperwork is changed at hospitals and school because now your dad is your "mom" and your mom and your "dad" Now your parents are divorced and now they are dating people some I'm which are the same gender. Now you are stuck with one of the parents and everytime the other parent comes around it's a reason for drama. It is a never ending cycle and because they want to decide to transition after being parents they ruin their child's experiences and destroy their marriages. This isn't hate speech I am simply stating my issue with this situation. Hopefully I don't upset YT.
Absolutrly correct. Trans people say that they are being yheir authentic self but this is bullshit - they are making and becoming a NEW PERSON. I kniw it as im a detrans
Once was at a get together and someone had said about a girls husband coming out as gay and another women said good for him. Wtf is wrong with the world when someone ruins a partners life and you get celebrated for it.
My mother came out as "trans" when I was 15. My parents are still married, but she basically doesn't allow my father to find a woman... Once there was an incident when my father fell in love with someone they both knew - it was horrible. She (my mother) felt betrayed and the whole thing blew up... I already had depression at this point but of course there was no place for my feelings in that situation. Now, five years later, I'm over my depression and eating disorder, married and have a daughter of my own. No way this ideology is going to touch her, no way that I'm going to tell her I have two dads.. hell no. We are still arguing about this, I will never give in to this family destroying ideology. Now I can neither talk about her as my mother, nor as my father... I wonder, if being a woman and all womanly things are so bad, why did she give birth thrice? My father is really hypocritical too, he follows her every word.. like literally saying: "he used his uterus to give birth to you". Wtf?! Not every woman can give birth, but every person who can give birth is a woman.
You need to distance yourself from both of the ASAP if you don't want to get your child influenced by their twisted minds. Your dad is as guilty as your mother.
I feel for you - my father is "trans" and it is a sexual fetish paraphilia - I have been cautious of all of this since I knew of it about 15 years ago - I wouldnt ask for any of this idealogy to be near any kids.
If a woman’s husband comes out as gay, it’s game over. But if a woman’s husband comes out as trans, she’s trapped by marital obligation to stick by her spouse because she could be painted as transphobic if she leaves? How does this make sense? There is definitely a double standard here.
@Marcela Rodriguez Yep, that's what Ellen Page's wife did, and everyone was shocked. Like how is that surprising? A lesbian woman's wife just transitioned into a "man." The woman loves boobs not flat pecks.
This topic is a long time coming. Back in 2018 the father of one of my children's former classmates came out as trans. I have counseled the family as best I could because there have been no resources to assist families go through this particular grieving process. The father is gone, replaced by a narcissistic personality that is competing with their spouse for the title of "most feminine". The spouse has been berated, minimized, and financially neglected as the sperm donor of her two young children (also the primary financial earner) used the bulk of the incoming money to pay for his own needs. It has been awful to see. Unfortunately the spouse chose not to leave despite being manipulated, abused, and financially neglected. She is totally brainwashed.
Something is causing it. I know everyone hates him, but remember Alex Jones a while ago when he found out frogs and fish were changing sex due to high levels of the hormone drugs people take getting into the water supply? When they clean water for us to drink they can't get that stuff out. You can't filter it out. You can filter out dirt, and kill germs and bacteria, but you can't get a lot of chemicals out of water once it's in there.
I remember noticing the beginnings of this phenomena probably a decade ago now. A man had made a couple of TH-cam video telling his story. How he'd always thought both women and men were beautiful, but didn't realize he was really gay till he got drunk and fooled around with some guy at a party. So he left his wife and started dating men. He and his wife also had an elementary school aged daughter. What struck me about the story wasn't that he was an awful man who ruined his marriage and greatly damaged the lives of his wife and kid for his own selfishness. But that the internet was CELEBRATING him for it. I just couldn't fathom how people thought that him "discovering his true self and true sexuality" made abandoning his vows and his family not only permissible but a good thing. In hindsight, I should have seen the writing on the wall then and realized what our culture was in the process of turning into. Though nowadays it's transgenderism that turns your sins into virtues, and not simply "coming out".
Likewise media gardening personality Alys Fowler, who decided she was lesbian after many years of marriage, had an affair, and proceeded to kick her husband - who has a long-term illness - out of the family home. It's possible that it was actually _her_ house but still.
Lack of thinking is pervasive these days. Very dangerous and very manipulated via propagandas of all sorts, major and minor, unless one really does some critical thinking.
I met a girl that went through this. Married a guy and had two kids with him. Then he transitioned and she was left unsatisfied in the bedroom but felt she didn't want to completely give up on the person. It's crazy. This is such a new thing.
@@sigmacademyas a vanilla gal married to a vanilla male where we both enjoy our rolls in marriage, there would be absolutely no joy if my husband decided to be a female in the bedroom. Somethings just don't work, why do we get shamed for our wants but they aren't? If they lie to us for years about their roll and change the script that isn't our fault. The genuine partner I telling the truth the whole time and yet they are the ones punished, it doesn't make sense they have to sacrifice their comfort in something so intimate.
@@PossibleBat "...the good nature of women..." Look around at the state of women in the Western world. They are about themselves. Alot of them are very toxic. Not all of them but a lot.
At 37 years old my wife discovered she is gay...yeah we'll go with that. I won't go into how she's behaved this past year or so but it's been the worst experience of my life. You think you know someone and they just "hold my beer" your ass. The damage she's done to me and our daughters during her journey of self discovery is irreparable.
This exact scenario Ali happened to a friend of mine, at roughly the same age. They have a daughter as well. Wishing you the best as you work through this.
When anyone says they need to 'find themselves' it means they're gonna do some really gross shit and pretend they're more mature and wiser than you cuz they stick stuff up their butt and smoke crack.
As a mechanic, the bit where you said "comb your hair, and learn a skill, like welding" gave me a giggle, in the UK there's a ridiculous shortage of young people learning trades, they do theory-based degrees and then go to work at McDonald's
Honestly unless someone is interested in the trade they wont learn it and that applies to everything. Cant force someone to do a job or learn a trade they have zero interest in.
People always say learn a trade and trades make good money and theirs a shortage of them but I’ve seen people on these trades and most of them don’t make as much as they are suppose to make and if they aren’t lucky to find a union they usually have shit family lives due to being sent all over the country. Depending on the trade you only have so many years in it before your body falls apart. That being said I only know a little bit and it’s in the Midwest of the United States haha so nothing I say is factual in the grand scheme of things.
Two guys I know have done this, one was the partner of a friend at the time. The pressure on women to affirm the fetish is huge. In both cases their selfies got more objectifying over time; it was creepy to watch. Last I heard they were calling themselves lesbians and bugging actual lesbians on dating sites. P*rn has messed up so many men.
The porn industry needs to be broken up and heavily regulated because it's effects on society are out of control and intentionally toxic. Crazy how the same people who own Hollywood also exclusively own every porn studio.
As the adult daughter of a trans parent, I’d like to thank you for making this video. Whilst the parent who decides to transition has a entire community of support to validate and celebrate their “journey,” the spouse and children have little to no resources to help them navigate this new emotional landscape. Many therapists are committed to prioritizing gender affirmation for the trans parent and the feelings of the wife and children are disregarded. The trans community is openly hostile. Nothing less than enthusiastic support for the trans spouse/parent is tolerated. If the wife opts to leave the marriage citing their spouse’s transition as the reason, she is labelled “transphobic.” And even though trans women consider their former male identities as “dead” and take umbrage to anyone calling them by their “dead name”, they object to their former wives calling themselves “trans widows.” Apparently only trans people are allowed to give themselves (and everyone else) labels. It isn’t all sunshine, rainbows, and sparkly unicorns when a spouse/parent decides to transition, so thank you for highlighting the situation of the wives and children who have been silenced. It’s like living in the world of Invasion of the Body Snatchers and it helps to know that sane and reasonable people are still out there.
I’m also an adult daughter of a trans parent and wanted to thank you for leaving your comment. Never in my life have I had the freedom to truly express the grief or work through the long term damage this transition has had on our family, friendships, the childhood development of 3 kids or any of our self worth, in general. I always considered myself a “daddy’s girl” when I was little, until things changed so vastly that it just didn’t feel right anymore. I was never allowed to mourn that loss. The transition started nearly 30 years ago. I spent many years angry. Still to this day, there’s an urgency to the trans parent needing inclusion in everything. It’s always felt like “me, me, me”, yet I can’t even make it through an afternoon with said parent without being tuned out in a conversation. We got the version where there’s “co-parenting”, but it’s really more like low effort straddling of “I’m being a good parent” and “I’m being my authentic self”. I guess the parent believes it, *gold star* but neither truly happened imo and mom was never free to try to move on, either. It’s difficult, but we can’t talk about it. We never really had the option of walking away, just the gaslight to stay and be supportive because “why would anything else change”? 🙃 The sacrifices and shame the rest of us endured, growing up in this mess (to try to explain something we don’t even truly understand to those around us) to allow our PARENT of all things (ex-husband, in mom’s case… but co-parenting) some kind of “normalcy” in this is 100% absurd. Just one man’s decision, right? To those that say it’s easy to walk away, try being in the middle of a situation like this. Then, consider what it would be like for the person you looked up to most in the world to pull this crap, and you’ve never wanted anything more than to be the apple of their eye. Devastating. Edited to add: To this day, I don’t want to hurt my dad’s feelings. It’s f’d. 💔
You highlighted something I was always curious about. When a parent decides to transition: how much actually changes. The trans community would have me believe that nothing changes. They were always the opposite sex and now they've become their authentic self. Or everything changes because you're transphobic.
Dad’s then: ok I need to get milk (never to return) Society: you’re a bad father Dad’s now: ok I’m gonna go become a woman Society: beautiful and brave
As someone who used to be a little girl with a father, the modern version would have traumatized me significantly more. Just imagining it was traumatizing. 😅
Actually got some personal experience on this subject. My best friends sister got married to this guy, they were together for about 3 years and she got pregnant. As soon as the baby was born he suddenly came out as transgender and tried to get custody of the baby. He's long gone now, but that was a pretty low thing to do.
My son transitioned with 2 grown boys and a loyal wife at 46. She has stayed with him but the boys are gone. The weird part of this is that he announced after the surgeries etc. that he was gay. So in essence he changed to a faux woman but still is attracted to them. I do not associate with my son anymore. He transitioned but put so many restrictions out there my 2 daughters and myself couldn't handle his selfishness. His they/them garbage, his do not call him by his dead name, he even changed his date of birth. So I mourn the loss of my son that I loved so so much, but he has no right to try and change us to agree with his mental disorder.
When Blair White transitioned her mom supporter her thru it, her mom did mourn the loss of her son, Blair understood the loss her mom felt. Fortunately Blair didn’t have a wife or kids thu.
Sorry to hear that. I do have a theory that these type of people do have some hidden depression or just get at the critical age and do stupid stuff similar to 40-50 year old men buying motorcycles to feel young again or some other expensive “toy”. Obviously buying a motorcycle or something if the sort is not something dangerous and has not inherently bad. I believe these “trans” people have some rough moments in life and turn to “cultists” and turn this way.
My aunt and cousin are victims of this. She married a man who knew his whole life he "was a woman." After getting married and having a daughter, he took them to Germany, as far as he could get them away from my grandfather, a Christian conservative man, and transitioned. Honestly, a truly heartbreaking story of my family, and I didn't know it was more than just us. To this day I pray for my cousin, who has sadly been going down a depressive spiral. Unfortunately, her parents make it hard for us to contact her.
I've been asking people on the board who have had a relative transition. The argument I get from the trans community is that "The relationship doesn't change, I'm just the opposite sex now." If you don't mind, honestly, how much of that relationship is, "Yeah, it's the same person, just the opposite sex. Only really minor things have changed" and how much is, "No, this is not the same person. It's completely different."
"A wife that can't leave." That's why women must care about education and financial Independence first before the start to get married and breed. An independent women can take the children and leave if the partner goes crazy.
Trans siblings/families have very few, if any, resources to cope with the change. My brother announced he wanted to be a woman suddenly in 2019 and I felt such trauma and grief from it that it made me sick for weeks. I confided these feelings in my best friend, who then shamed be for being a bigot and told me I wasn’t “losing a brother, but gaining a sister” and I was furious. It was as if my brother had died, and eventually he did, but the lack of support and feelings I was dealing with was impossible to cope with. It is traumatizing. Edit: Since a lot of commenters are just proving me right about the fact it's stigmatized to say you don't know how to deal with that change, I'm going to provide some additional context. 1. My brother's first mission upon coming out was to utterly destroy all tangible evidence of his male self. This included precious family photos that were of both of us, that I cherished and did not want destroyed. I offered to just take them away, but that "wasn't good enough" and those photos were destroyed behind my back. Arguing the point of them being good memories we shared meant absolutely nothing to him -- he outright said so. I was floored. He wanted the original photos all shredded, screamed when I suggested making copies instead, and he still insisted he get his way or else I wasn't being supportive. Countless memories from my childhood are now lost forever. They were just as much mine, and I was willing to do my part to keep them "out of sight" so they would not be harmed or remind him of what it was that was paining him. But my pain didn't matter at all here, and people outright supported the manipulation and not me. 2. I was supportive to his face. He never knew I had any doubts or concerns, I did exactly what people are expected to do performatively. It was just devastating to see the toll it took on him to pursue transition, the hormones made him immediately ill. He would also go on long tangents to me about how beautiful he wanted to be, and became incredibly vain. It became clear to me at that point he had a ridiculously hungry ego, and the way he would go on about how much easier he perceived women's lives to be, especially pretty women, made me sick. I was sad for him because I had seen his life prior, but didn't think it was a valid reason to become that shallow, critical, and demanding. Many times he would even say "we" when making criticisms of "our" inherited looks not being good enough, even just berating me separately a few times. 3. The dynamic between the two of us changed seemingly overnight. A brother and sister seldom compete the way two sisters do. Who is the prettier sister? Who is the smarter sister? Who is the richer sister? I had never experienced that before, and that juvenile sort of game was something sisters who grew up that way would likely outgrow for the most part. We were already adults, so I felt like it was ridiculous. I just tried to ignore it until it became inappropriate. He would comment on the size of my breasts, hips, and other body parts that you otherwise wouldn't want your sibling (that you've known your whole life as a *brother*) to be looking at. I was more than uncomfortable. 4. Family damage. I had to clean up the "mess", essentially, and facilitate communication between my adult brother and parents for a long time. They offered to pay for counseling, spent countless hours doing research so they could understand, but because my brother had held onto the impression they wouldn't have been supportive for so long he was unwilling to work with them. We could no longer have family holidays, as my brother refused to show up or even be in the same room as my father. They did have a strained relationship, but my brother was not willing to receive apologies or therapeutic assistance at any point, only the money they offered. I finally broke down and told my parents and brother both that this had to stop because I was tired of being the middleman and therapist to all of them, and that they all needed to grow the F up and work it out because I was done. There are no guidelines for proper behavior for either side, or really anyone in the family here. And I do not think that it was fair to put the majority of the burden on me, especially if we were both adults. (He was actually older than me, by the way.) I hope that people will eventually understand that this level of change is far more than just surface level and is not isolated to the trans person themselves only. It's clearly mental illness. Selfish, centered in the ego, and I refuse to believe anything else. Obviously not everyone that is trans will act this selfishly, but using that identity as a shield from consequence is something far more common. It was not my job to steer him in the direction of appropriate behavior. There were no resources to help me navigate going through this. I'm just recounting an experience. I did love him, and tried to be compassionate, but dealing with someone in that state of mind is difficult and saying that does not make someone evil.
How's it traumatising , he's a child and your a child bruv . He's hella weird and your hella sensitive. One of my friend is trans , we laugh at him, cause he's fking weird , but we don't go puking over it . He's stayed with us for months in our house too
@@flo.1018 your reading comprehension might be lacking here...no offense, but you dont make enough of an effort i think, and you are expecting the poster to help you with this? i think she has enough to deal with, as this sounds really fuckin horrible to go through..
I am so sorry. I see that while talking bout these topics people don't point out the feelings of the families and friends! Thats not just for a trans person to feel bad while being the 'wrong' gender but also people around that might just have their whole lives crushed because of the transition. I hope you feel okay now or if you don't, then I hope you'll find happines and yk forget about that. Greetings
this reminds me of the story where a man was being humiliated just because his wife came out as lesbian and he didn't want to support her. He claimed all the memories they shared felt fake. everyone, including his own children, turned against them.
That's the thing with this stuff.. most of these people (trans, gay...) Know from very early days what they are.. still they decided to deceive another, clueless person and string them along with lies. Build everything on a lie. Same concept it when you don't want kids, you so wants and you keep telling them "not now" until too late. I also find it so stuoid when people first say "sexuality isn't a choice" yet when spouse tells they are trans and will transform, the other spouse is expected to CHOOSE to be gay or bi. Because if you don't turn gay, you are transphobic and homophobic.
I was thinking of those kind of stories too. People who have literally been living a lie with the person they are supposed to know and love best in the world are bullied and harangued for expressing they feel betrayed. Ridiculous.
I've lived that very scenario... My wife of 15 years (total relationship of 22 years and parents of two wonderful kids) had an affair with a woman and became part of that lifestyle, to this day she is a lesbian. You lose that part of your life, your memories seem like lies.... a very weird thing happens, you have the memories but that person fades away in them. It truly is like your spouse has passed and you can't grieve..... you carry that for a very long time if not forever. It put me in a space I had never been before...... you think about ending the pain forever.
@@TheSlowoldman I hope you're doing better now. On the bright side, you at least have two children. I call it bright side because they are proof that the things you went through, while lies, had a silver lining. This is me just assuming you have a great relationship with them btw. Your wife may have tricked you to live a lie but hopefully your children helped you get through with it.
@@captaindeadpool313 Thank you, my children stayed with me through it all, we've never been closer. They are what kept me here. I just found out I'm going to be a grandpa so life is definitely looking up!
As a father, my kids are my ultimate purpose in life, protecting them, providing for them and teaching them. Everything else takes the back seat. This is how real men are hardwired.
@@creepyjesus1471 not sure what you're getting at, but the point is, being selfless is what being a man and father is all about, not about your sexual proclivities and aspirations.
@@-_-_-_-318I've wondered if that's partially what it's about. Being a man has got to be hard af, in a way that being a woman isn't. Their father worries about things that I don't, as he doesn't even think of the amount of clean underwear in the house. I wonder if some males think being a woman is an easier way to go through life.
Benjamin Boyce has done some great interviews with "trans widows" (i.e. women who married heterosexual men who later came out as trans). A common thread is that the husband introduces the idea of cross dressing into the bedroom first, and often encourages the wife to play along with it. Pornography also plays a major role. After doing that for awhile, the husband pushes the boundaries further by bringing his fetish out into the public sphere. In many of these stories, the husband seems to have a case of autogynophylia. After awhile, it becomes no longer satisfying to confine the act to the private bedroom, he has to involve the rest of the world in order to get some sort of satisfaction from it.
Ehh, gross. So there's a bunch of crossdressers who actually get their kicks off being looked at and being "validated" while in their "new identity"? Super messed up, really makes you question people's intentions.
I'm a trans widow. I have 2 teen daughters that have been fighting with me against all this trans rubbish, they've been through hell. Trans Widows Voices have been incredible for us, as has Standing For Women and Kellie-Jay Keen. It happened to us when my daughters were a lot younger and I was completely alone, it's nice to see someone like you amplifying the message. Thanks, Syd ❤️
@dejuren You have no right to tell me or others who've been through this what they can call themselves. Maybe listen to some of the women who speak about this and they can explain why it feels like the person you loved actually died. I'm not here to justify my existence or experiences to anyone else. Peace ✌🏻
@dejuren I think you are mocking me. I mean, I don't care, you've never had this happen to you so you don't know what it feels like but comparing man becoming trans after 15+ years of marriage and having children to break ups with 20 girls is nonsense.
I've noticed the only time people expect you to work it out is when your partner is trans, any other type of difficulty within a relationship and these same people will tell you to get a divorce
I had a friend of a friend come out as lesbian after having a few kids with her husband. Husband was devastated. She also said she was never into men. WTF?! How did you have 3 kids?! She is a selfish person and probably very narcissistic and her whole family just accepted it. They say she is “brave” lol the ex husband is on anti-depressants still. He has zero self worth left.
Because maybe she wasn’t comfortable enough in herself, or hadn’t let herself come to this conclusion previously? Of course it’s sad for the family but someone should always do what feels best for them
@@kateosullivan4964 this is exactly the problem. I disagree. You have to put your family and your kids first. The selfishness of parents is why so many people’s kids are devastated emotionally and mentally.
Everyone has occasional attraction to perversions or strange desires. Most people will realise that's not healthy and avoid develop those feeling, or at the very minimum explore it behind close doors. When the media is constantly telling you that making a particular weird sexual fetish your entire identity and obsessing over it will lead to happiness, it's a very dark path, especially when you eventually get bored of it and suddenly realise you destroyed your entire life just to jerk off.
It's not just partners who suffer in this way, it's parents too. We're helpless bystanders watching the child we poured ourselves into, disappear, to be replaced with an angry, judgmental stranger who is unapproachable and completely lacking in compassion and empathy.
@Seductive Raven . Actually your wrong. Parents are responsible for children until the age of adulthood, that’s 18 here in the States. Allowing a child to mutilate itself falls under willful neglect of your child’s welfare. This transgender insanity is going to be short lived especially since the overwhelming majority believes it to be utterly unacceptable for children under the age of adulthood.
My best friend from childhood recently did this. I looked up to him as an older brother for over 30 years of my life. He grew up only a few houses down from me. He had been married for 6 years, bought a house with his wife, and was working as an electrician. I hadn't talked to him for about a year and didn't think much of it just though maybe he was busy and he had always been prone to depression after his parents divorce as a teenager. Come to find out he left his wife and is going head over heels into transitioning to being a "woman" He's been taking HRT from what I found and and god knows what else he's done. It was like watching a family member die in real time and finding it out through the grapevine was like a rusty knife in my heart. I will forever miss my friend who was like a brother to me and feel for his family who I'm sure is struggling too.
What’s the most baffling to me is when grown, married men become trans even after witnessing their wives become pregnant and give birth to their children. They have first-hand witnessed these capabilities & experiences exclusive to women that should be constant, glaring reminders that he is, in fact, not a woman and will never be a woman. I find it extra insulting that a father could turn around and claim that identity for himself.
They do it to still get a lineage. It’s almost like tricking women into giving them babies and then taking off the mask and being able to live the lives that they’ve always wanted
I feel it's the next level of selfishness and narcissism - they realise that they're not the most important person in the situation, so they up the ante to get the focus back on themselves and away from the tiny new human who needs more care and attention than the grown-arse man who isn't getting enough of it, apparently.
A man or woman who abandons their spouse and children by claiming to be another sex is one of the most selfish people ever. They don't care about their family, only about their own "needs". This is just the same as abandoning your spouse for another partner. It is disgusting.
A grown man abandons his wife and his children for another woman, he's an imbecile, deadbeat, selfish and overall bad person. A grown man abandons his wife and his children to become another woman, he's brave, courageous, inspirational, a role model, an advocate, someone to be adorned/looked up to and the list goes on. Whichever was the motivating cause of his poor decision does not change that it was a dreadfully poor decision: A GROWN MAN abandons his WIFE and his CHILDREN.
If my loving partner demands I stay attracted to him even if he tries to become a she, that's not my loving partner anymore. If you're bullying your SO into staying, that's a little thing we call abuse. And abuse is one of the only grounds where I would justify divorce (the other being unfaithful). People dealing with their SO transitioning and/or abusing them into staying, you have my deepest sympathies and sorrows. Get out of there if you can, I'm so sorry
Okay, yes shaming someone to stay atracted to you / abusing them is wrong. But left wing people are not arguing that you should? If you are a straight women and you husband comes put as a trans woman you have all the right to leave and any good lefty will support you. I don't know why you make up such a hyperbolic statement in order to paint trans people as abusers. This is genetally not condoned by the left and by trans people. You are arguing against a ghost
But in this great world we live in the "justice system", state, government, any authority figure, and likely a chunk of your own family and friends will NOT see this clear abuse as abuse, and will attack you over it. You will lose your child to that pervert, and they will then be permanently messed up by them as well. I think the answer is to be REALLY DAMN sure you know who you're marrying, and be VERY OPEN and communicate about everything like this. And finally to be very HONEST and don't feed these demonic thoughts, nip them in the bud as soon as they show their degenerate head like everyone should do.
@yochiartz2839 although the main topic of the video is about chris, there were many examples of this case besides him. The commentator above most likely is referring to the video essay as a whole
I went to high school with a couple of people who eventually got married after we all graduated. They have a couple of kids and the wife always looked so happy. But now almost 20 years later the husband decided to become a woman. The wife stayed with him because she loves him and wanted to be supportive but all her pictures went from her looking really happy to her looking miserable and all the life is gone out of her eyes. I can only imagine how it's affecting the kids. It's really sad.
The thing about all of this is that i just love the hypocrisy of it all. They say they can be any gender or no gender at all and that gender has no traits. But, by saying you want to become a "woman" or a "man" or "neither," just say that genders do have traits that people want to have or to avoid. They say a man can be feminine or be a mother, yet they say just because a woman has productive organs doesn't mean shes female or the other way around. They try to get rid of definitions, yet their core ideology lies on the pure concept of definition. If people debate that genders have no definitions or traits and that you can be feminine or masculine or whatever, then why are you trying to become that gender? It's just a bunch of stupidity and ignorance.
Talk about throwing salt in the wound. Your husband comes out as trans and starts ordering women’s clothes like crazy online…I bet the same guy gave his wife a hard time about her shopping habits the whole time they were married, questioned “why do you spend so much in hair and makeup”, etc….but when they do it the wife has to shut up and deal with it or get called a transphobe.
Trans widow here! Worst experience ever!!! I have 4 kids and had been married for 18 years. We divorced as I knew I couldn't live that life. I went through suicidal ideation and questioned my own existence as a woman. I'm much better now, but I hate the impact it has and continues to have on my kids. Also sick of society trying to make me something I'm not. I married a MAN, had kids with a MAN and divorced a MAN! He is a man and will always be a MAN!
as a bisexual, i was in a relationship with a woman than during our relationship said that she's going to be transitioning as a man. even as a bisexual, i couldnt bring myself to not be hurt. even more, because she acted as if it's only her business, as if it doesnt affect me at all. even if i'm bisexual, it doesnt mean i'm attracted to a man with a vagina, or her version of "man". even when you dont take account of their appearances, their characters change too. they're simply different person, mutilated to make appearance of someone else, acting like someone else.
I agree it's terrible. We knew a guy who did this to his gorgeous childhood sweetheart girlfriend 20 years ago and it was devastating for her. Can't imagine what it's like for long-term marriages with multiple children. These men need to balance their own needs against those who they've taken responsibility for.
@@vector_vector__ Exactly. Imagine a recently formed dictatorship that is recruiting adult men to be seen as propaganda symbols of strength and power, and everyone is claiming that iits perfectly fine to go there, no matter how much it hurts your absence and change of behavior confuses your family This trans stuff is replacing the military for a lot of men
I dated a guy who did this 6 months into our relationship. Just dropped this bomb on me and it fucked me up mentally so bad. People don’t even realize how these selfish decisions can effect others & the domino effect it has. This was all 7 years ago before everything was crazy. Let’s just say that relationships ended horribly after 11 months of mental abuse & dragging me through the mud. Not only did he treat me like shit & cheat on me, but out of all my breakups that guy did it in the most heart breaking soul crushing way. I also just want to add, his father was still in the home. His parents also got along & never fight, however they didn’t sleep in the same room and his dad was a man of few words. But they were overall very nice & caring. My guess is that he was babied by them. I didn’t realize till after we broke up also that this guy had some serious mental issue even pushed me back into anorexia & made me hate my body again. So yeah. 7 years later I chose a real man with a good family, he treats me like a treasure & now he is my husband. My conclusion, people selfish enough to do thing kinda stuff to someone tend not to be that great personality wise & will always choose whatever benefits them & their selfish wants no matter who it hurts.
There was a time I really wanted to be a hippie hobo and travel in a van. But I had a 2 year old and I had to put him first. Any parent who puts their desires before the good of their children is an A-S-S-H-O-L-E!!
100%!! ...you should add to that parents who forcibly push their children to become "trophy children" to feed their own narcissistic desire to brag about how "special" their children are.
If no one "decides" to be trans, surely all these married trans people knew that they were trans before they got married and still did it to their partner anyway? Why would you do that to someone you claim to love?
we need to address the impact PORN and FETISH have on this phenomenon. the large majority of married men who decide to go trans are doing so as part of an ongoing escalation of fetish that usually spawns from porn usage. given the fact that chris has made many tweets about loli, shared disturbing pornographic art, and even laughed about how his wife is too innocent to understand his porn jokes.... its adding up
porn that leans into darkness, BDSM, kink, fetish, like forced feminization porn, sissy porn, sex slave porn. The question put forth by mrmenno, "was I born this way, or porned this way?"
I appreciate this video. Thank you for bringing trans widows to light. What got me most was reading about the pressure on the kids of transitioners to just go with it and ignore their feelings.
Expecting your partner to still love you when you can't even love yourself and has to fundamentally change who you are and then calling them phobic when they don't is just disgusting behaviour.
My ex-husband did the same thing, only without transitioning. After 8 years and 2 kids, he decided real life was "too stressful". So, he quit his job and moved out of state. Now, he lives in the sewer beneath Las Vegas with a new gf and a bag of fentanyl. He says the sewer life is "peaceful and better for his blood pressure".
My god. The amount of effort it took me to overcome opioid addiction and the fact that it is the reason why I am unmarried and have no children (two things that I’ve deeply wanted all throughout my life) makes me feel incredulous that there are so-called men out there who would abandon the very things I would give most anything to have in my own life in order to pursue the most rotten and soul-sucking demon one could ever encounter… He deserves the fate he’s chosen. Yeah, it’ll be oh so peaceful when he’s in acute opioid withdrawal in a sewer while his new girlfriend is off fellating a dealer to get her fix which she won’t be sharing with him. I hope when he tastes their seed on her lips while she’s nodding off right in front of his shaking withdrawal ridden walking corpse that he thinks back upon his life and the choices he’s made and realizes that he has only himself to blame for pitifully miserable existence his decisions have begotten.
I'm 33 and I've never had a relationship last longer than 13 months. My only goal at this point is to get married and have kids. How a guy could just throw away a marriage and his responsibilities literally blows my mind. How could you not care?
Seriously I have no idea 🤷♀️. I don't get how some people get divorced and remarried either especially multiple times. Like... I can't find one person and somehow you found 3 willing to marry you 🤨
It's an aspect of psychopathy. These people lack empathy, and they lack the ability to form permanent attachments. Other people are just objects to them. So, on a fundamental level, they just don't care.
This happens to men as well… my ex-wife wanted a divorce because she claimed she was not attracted to me and she wanted to explore a life with women. Lucky, we didn’t have children together, otherwise it’d be much worse. But I was left devastated as well, I had put my heart and soul into my marriage, I had so many dreams of a life together including children! Now I have serious trust issues for obvious reasons. Never know if your life partner will become a different person all of a sudden.
@@yavinklein-katz7719 I will probably sound rude but, this thing is only happening in Western countries wtf is happening?, I genuinely feel sad for people , thank god I live in third world country and this shit is not happening there.
I have a close friend whose father transitioned and it destroyed their family and left my friend without a real dad. It's so sad what this does to families.
A very very good friend got his girlfriend of two months pregnant and they got married. He was her first boyfriend as she had only been with women before. Last I talked to him they were happy and he was over the moon being a father. Then their daughter was diagnosed as autistic at 3, and the wife decided she wanted out of the marriage because she was only attracted to women. She said the only way she would keep him is if he was trans. He transitioned to keep his family together. I feel like I’ve lost my friend, his dad lost his wife to cancer and son to transition and no longer gets to see his granddaughter because he dared to question his sons choice to transition instead of leaving the crazy woman.
When I was in university my roommate's dad decided to cross-dress / trans but was still called a him. He dumped my roommate's mother, got a 20-something year old girlfriend, bought a sportscar... the whole thing. He later gave the fancy car to his daughter (my roommate). She couldn't hardly drive it (manual) and didn't have the money to keep it up, so I asked her once why she even took it. She said she took it so he wouldn't give it to his young girlfriend 😢. My roommate said she supported him, and all the lbgtq stuff, but the absolute pain in her eyes was just soul crushing. And that was 1998. I never understood it then and I don't get it now, how it's ok somehow to dump your family like that and terrorize your kids by transitioning.
And dude wasn't even gay, its literally a fetish that gives them access to woman...how can people not see creeps have been waiting for something like this to happen
I am in my late 50s, so I can say that it's what every middle aged man goes through, just like when women of a certain age goes through menopause, it's called Middle Aged Crazy. Just something for you to look forward too.
If you want to mid life crisis and abandon your wife and kids, but be considered a stunnings and brave hero for it, you just identify as coming out as gay or trans. Then you shack up with your secretary
What I find so egregious is how hard it is for women/females who are suffering various hormonal problems, to get hold of HRT as a reliable treatment....yet!
Sometimes I forget how rare it is to find a creator that is truly unbiased yet still has strong, clearly stated, and logical beliefs... Then Sydney drops a new video and reminds me.
Nah the whole right wing has misconstrued the whole situation. This guy has been under pressure from his conservative religious family to get a fkn kid (YOUR VALUES MIND YOU), his ex wife even said she knew back when they were dating, so no she wasn't forced anything but rather felt bad for Chris being excommunicated from his CONSERVATIVE RELIGIOUS parents if he didn't get a kid. The whole Loli post was years ago, let's not start digging each other's past edgy posts please. The whole enby thing is usually when you're not passing enough, but I guess Chris didn't care after a while. So please do yourselves a favor and stop watching fkn matt Walsh and read up more as the news come out and not jump to conclusions
@@Mayucraft16YT I'm fairly certain I understand where the breakdown is here, so I'll try to explain. _Beliefs_ and _bias,_ while typically aligned and working in concert to create the all-too-common feedback loop of confirmation bias, are actually independent concepts. _Bias_ affects a person's interpretation of events by skewing their view of reality one way or the other away from a point of objectivity. Bias is bad because the person affected begins from an unfair perspective and thus develops beliefs that don't align with reality. _Beliefs_ are essentially our fundamental understanding of the world based on the aggregation of everything we have experienced throughout life. It is natural for people to interpret new events/information through a filter of past experience, so unless consciously avoided, a person's beliefs will cause them to also have bias. Though incredibly rare, a person can objectively interpret reality and consider all relevant perspectives while still holding strong beliefs. Sydney happens to be one of these rare and wonderful people.
absolute abandonment, HE should be ashamed. I hope Chris never gets full visitation rights and his ex-wife gets a lot of money out of it and HE gets shunned.
Unfortunately this doesn't just happen to women. I watched my brother become a "trans widower" when his wife decided she wanted to be a man. She tried to make him out to be the bad guy because he didn't want to be married to a man. She/He/It/They now has a new family and a new baby. My nephew does have visitation with his "other" parent but lives with my brother. The first time I heard him refer to her as "daddy" I nearly went nuclear (not in front of the kid of course).
My daughter has decided she's a "they". I tried to still have a relationship with her and just not say any pronouns regarding her as I adjusted to the situation, but she kept correcting me, not just about pronouns but EVERYTHING. It got to the point where it was just insufferable to be around her. So when she cut off contact I... let her. I just couldn't take the constant nagging. We used to talk about video games, art, her work, and other things, now it's constantly telling me I'm wrong about something. Sadly we haven't spoken in over a year, and I honestly don't know if we will ever speak again. But I guess she gets to be right all the time now. And since she doesn't speak to me I no longer care about trying to "get her pronouns right" cause it doesn't matter.
If she's under 25, she might yet come round after she's grown up a bit, met other people and had some life experience. If she's 30+ there is still hope, but yeah you did the best thing for your mental health. Don't chase a relationship if it's not wanted - you raised a human who could take care of themselves and that is the best a parent can do
Not a widow, but a very dear friend of mine "came out" to me last spring, and to say that it hurts doesn't even begin to cover it. I know his insecurities, and it's due to past male abuse and his lack of good hygiene. He is kind, headstrong, talented, trustworthy, and my soul's long lost brother, and I cannot bring myself to accept him as a sister of any kind. I love him still, but I suspect our friendship may die because of this disagreement.
You don’t have to agree with that ideology, you can still be respectful and kind. You can have that boundary, and say no. Please don’t let people guilt trip, manipulate, peer pressure, or harass you into agreeing with something you don’t or following any ideology. God loves you. Romans 8:38-39. You can cast all your anxieties to God because He cares about you. 1 Peter 5:6-7. ✝️
Yea the same thing happened to a very close friend (basically a brother) of mine. We never stopped talking but he was extremely suicidal and very unhappy with who he was. He started saying he was a she and I always had a feeling with how his mental state was going it would have happened. He speaks like gender is a construct and acts like he’s been a woman his whole life, it genuinely feels like I lost a dear friend. I don’t hate him and I hope one day he gets serious help because I know if he makes those changes, he’s gonna regret it.
Maybe I'm evil but if a friend of mine who had a wife and kids became a woman, I wouldn't be friends with him anymore. It's just too weird and I wouldn't want my young children interacting with someone like that.
It would depend on the case. There are people who genuinely feel that they in the wrong body. We've always known that. But I'd argue that in 9 out of 10 (or even 99 out of 100) cases the root of the issue lies elsewhere. Whether it's attention seeking, the desire to belong and have purpose, the social advancement or just sheer mental illness, is a question that needs to be investigated. One thing should be clear: It's not normal, in the same way as it wouldn't be normal, if the sky turned green all of a sudden. So if this friend is able to convince me, that his desire to become the opposite gender (and it would definitely take some convincing) I'd certainly not abandon him. If he'd be one of the above-mentioned, I'd probably start questioning my friendship with him. Still, he might be in need of a friend to help him get back to his normal self.
Again, another story on the internet that makes me love and be even more thankful for my wonderful hubby of 35+ years. He has always been and will always be the man in our household. I've never wanted for anything, worried about anything, or ever been fearful. He's always been a great provider and protector. With every passing day and the more freaky ish and freakish people I see online I thank the good Lord above for putting this wonderful man in my life wayyy back when we were teens. Young ladies, if you listen to anything an old lady has to say, respect yourself enough to save yourself for your husband. It will mean so much more to both of you if you do. And it will take your relationship to a whole new level. Thanks for the thoughtful videos Sydney. ❣️ Have a lovely day y'all and God bless! ❣️
15:38 - I would argue that somebody who transitions is not standing by their partner. It's the individual's responsibility to process the trauma of their past BEFORE pairing off with lifetime commitments.
No that's ridiculous to expect that of anybody, and we have divorce and marriage counseling for a reason. Time changes and trauma can happen AFTER you're married
This is actually one of the saddest topics. Also, should note, this isn't just a hetero thing. But, it seems a lot less frequent in other couple pairings. It's genuinely gross how much pressure people are put under to stay in these situations and "affirm" their partners. Yeesh.
Finally, Sydney has come back! 😁
Always excited to see Sydney post a video on her channel.
Just say you hate trans genders
I agree. If a husband or wife is straight and their partner transitions into the other gender then it shouldn't be unusual for them to want to break up or divorce. Their parnter transitioning isn't going to the other partner gay, bi or, pan. However, I think Chris coming out was for the best because if they had his this want then it would've put a strain on their relationship with his wife and child that likely would've resulted in a divorce anyways. It's etter to get a divorce with someone you aren't going to be compatible with before a massive confrontation than after one.
That really does seem torturous. Even Mr Beast looks like he's lost his best friend and isn't even allowed to grieve.
@sydnetwatson Hey beautiful after we marry, I guarantee you won’t have to worry about me ever transitioning 😍😘
I love how on one hand they say gender is just a construct but then they wear make-up and dresses to identify as a woman.
Hypocritical.
It's not supposed to make sense. It's supposed to confuse you. No matter what theu always think they're right, even if they contradict themselves.
Exactly. They make these wild claims to basically say it means nothing and that there is no binary to gender, and then they start comfortably in the binary system of gender. You can't have these conversations because they'll just insult and label to silence you. Society is falling apart. That's really all there is to it. The ones left will be those who didn't fall for the nonsense. Maybe this is nature's funny way of weeding out the weak ones to self correct. We are still in the survival of the fittest paradigm. It just doesn't look like predator and prey anymore. It's weak and strong minds.
There's nothing hypocritical about it, gender is a social construct and some people want to be of a different gender so they take on the social implications of that gender, lol. This isn't exactly complicated buddy
@@applefarm6126 literally how?
My mom was a transwidow before there was really a word for it. My mom back in the 70s started finding her clothes were stretched out and worn. Turns out my dad was starting to wear her clothes and then asking for her to buy him his own underwear, slips, etc. My mom thought it was super weird but she also thought maybe this is something wives have to do. It wasnt until one day when I was born and he was holding me (an infant girl) that he asked what she would do if he was sexually attracted to me. That was it. My mom left. Back then states did not go after chidl support in the way they do now. He was in a different state, my mom didnt have any money, etc, She kept all of this a secret since she felt like she would be judged as the problem. I didnt find out until years later when my "sperm donor" tried to connect with me. I TRIED at the time - but then he got awfully weird. He was a "trans lesbian" and he started to send me constant selfies of his cleavage, his legs, etc - and the straw for me was when he would send me Christmas cards he made of half naked women dressed as santas. I am grateful in the sense he reached out to me since I was able to connect with my half sister - who I found out a few years later had been molested by our sperm donor before her parents divorced. He is an AGP of the textbook definition and a predator. Truthfully he should not be able to be in private womens spaces.
Your story is a good example of the fact that a lot of these people who ‘transition’ are actually just playing out fetishes. It’s disgusting.
Sorry you went through that.
I'm pretty sure that your Dad has autogynephilia more so than Trans. Surprised he isn't locked up.
This story needs to be heard on big platforms. Too many of these trans folks fit into how you described your sperm donor. Especially the people pushing for children to transition early
What the actual fuck….. I’m so sorry
And people will actually fight for his right to be in women's changing rooms, where's feminism when you actually need it?
Not a trans situation but something similar happened to a good friend from high school recently. Her husband of 20+ years told her that he was gay and had always been so. He packed up and left and she was now facing a world in which she'd just spent the past two decades of her life essentially blindsided.
What made it worse is that the public reaction was that "he was so brave for coming out" and "it took a lot of courage" while there seemed to be little sympathy for the woman who sacrificed her years to help raise their child and support his career. The public support only seems to flow one way and that's truly sad.
Very much the same for women who discover they are gay and abandon their husbands. I feel that is even more accepted than anything else which is worrisome.
I know of a classmate who publicly stated that he had wished he had wrote his "term paper" about his dad coming out as gay... and yup, most of our classmates were all head over heels to be "supportive" of his dad. 🤦
I never really thought about how his mother must have felt, but it seemed I was the only person who was willing to state how completely screwed up that was (as I couldn't have cared less whether or not all of my "clicky" classmates thought I was a "phobe"). As you could guess, I had plenty of my idiot classmates making comments about how stupid I was despite the fact they all knew I ranked in the top % of the class! 🤣
Oh well, you see, the bible tells women we exist for men or children never for ourselves. that's some powerful cult conditioning right there
I hate that people call it brave. It's literally the least brave thing in 2023, you're celebrated for it, not shamed.
@@dragonfox2.058 It’s not a cult (people can leave the faith if they choose), and that’s not what the Bible says.
My ex started cross dressing and started identifying as a woman soon after we had discovered I was pregnant in 2014. I had tried to help him work it out but in the end had to leave because he became manipulative and dangerous with his drunk rages. Years later, after analyzing it, I think he had a breakdown. He had a terrible childhood and when confronted with the responsibility of a child he just lost it. Possibly because he was afraid he'd be like his dad. And no he wouldn't go to counseling for it.
I can say he had a bad childhood. His parents were divorced and his father was abusive. Both parents doing drugs and he bounced back and forth between houses because he had behavior issues. He never had a stable environment. He recently passed away after overdosing to which I am heart broken.
I'm not talkimg bad about him rather I want everyone to learn from it. A stable environment with loving parents is essential for a child's development and well being. Love your children. Hug them everyday and don't talk to them like you talk to yourself. Don't be too harsh on them. They're kids. And, for the love of God, keep them off of cellphones and tablets. Let them play outside.
sorry for your lose. as for the stable environment. dont forget that a healthy stable environment includes a male and female figure in the childs life as in Father and mother. It is proven fact that kids with both parents do better in life. but it seems that this is slowly disappearing and it terrifies me for the future of my children. We all should be putting our efforts towards making sure all families have a healthy stable environment. kids really are our future. Adults were kids at one point and the choices made when they were kids effect the choices in adulthood. it is all linked. As for technology limit use to 2 hr a day or less is good.
Trans people are also loved people. I was a very loved child, had everything to read, had present caring parents, and... Trans. Love your children don't matter what and accept them if they discover more about themselves later, going blind is difficult. I trusted my parents, so I came out early, they learned quickly, and everything is a peace at home, even my grandma knows about gender neutral pronouns. 🎉
Phenomenal thoughts. Thank you so much for sharing.
YES, KEEP THEM OFF DEVICES, THE INTERNET IS CANCER FOR CHILDREN.
@LOVE buuuh non binary makes cisgender scary. I would answer you seriously, coating researches and such (you can see bagno if wanted, is a Brazilian author. He'll explain to you why the language is fluid and a tool of the talker, ever changing, ever evolving, and why words can have new meanings, applications, and even new words can exist. You know... They all were invented, right?) Doubt you'll even look for the book. If is not saying something you wanna hear, in a ten minute video, can you comprehend? My opinion in all transfobics.
@LOVEOh, honey, I don't believe. I am. Can you tell the difference? The difference is that, unlike you, I'm not in a cult that's one or two steps away from naz*s (saw them with the protesters of your kind? that's what I mean, baby)
I didn't realise there was a name for it, but I am in fact a transwidow (ex husband came out to me 3 months after our wedding). I was effectively pressured into accepting it, being told that I was the only one that didn't take it well, while all their friends and family accepted it and encouraged the transition. I on the other hand questioned everything; my sexuality, my future, hell I even questioned my own femininity. I accepted their transition, and offered to help, gave them some of my old clothes, but they instead sought counsel elsewhere, while I sat at home.
I was left behind, nobody asked how I was, how I was taking it/handling it. The marriage ended when I caught them on dating apps (twice) and then THEY told ME they didn't love me anymore and wanted a divorce.
I moved to a different country to start again. It's been hard.
Thanks Sydney for actually bringing this to people's attention, I don't think everyone realises that when someone transitions and finally comes to terms with who they are, their partner also has a lot of work to do, and also, in a way, has to transition, against their will. I was called a bigot, a transphobe, a homophobe, all these names under the sun because I wanted a husband, not a wife.
From what you wrote, why are you using NB pronouns?? So odd... to be injured by this fad, and STILL buying in to it. Emotional pain is SOOO damaging! But, WHY??
I'm so sorry this happened to you, but I hope you can see now you dodged a bullet in losing that narc.
"He"
@@bicicogito989 people can be who they want to be, and i do my best to accept.
I guess it's just a habit; I tried to accept it and worked hard on not using masculine language. I don't like using the preffered pronouns, but I still seem to correct myself when I do.
And anyway, if I use he/him, it makes me think that my husband is still alive. If I use they/them, it's less personable and I can distance myself from the person I thought I knew and loved.
@@genniebee8573 Losing someone that you love, or used to love, can be grievously painful. Wish that I could comfort you in a real manner.
Thank you for taking the time/effort in elaborating upon the pronouns you used here. Your answer is much clearer than my imperfect question. Again, thank you.
If he comes out and says he always felt he was a woman, yet still got married and had a child, especially in this day and age, he’s disgusting
I think that's how it works. You have to say that you have always been a woman bc otherwise you would have to admit that you have been influenced by the mob.
He's already disgusting for divorcing his wife and abandoning fatherhood.
@@tylerchapman9234 absolutely. I don’t know how people can’t wrap their head around the fact this is a social contagion
I think they're going through a divorce
A woman I know is doing this to her family after 18 years of marriage and 25 year long relationship.
My wife wants me to be understanding.
But all I can think about is her soon to be ex husband and their 2 teenage kids, who's lives are being ripped apart because she's terminally online and infected with the woke mind virus.
My girlfriend of seven years decided to transition to male back in 2016. I think the term widow/widower is really accurate in a way because that person I knew and fell in love with is gone in every way you can think of.
Oh my gosh! How old was she?
It often happens then youth starts attending college/universities.
Really sorry dude💔
Thats sad but the person you fell in love with wasn't real to start with
@@ashleybrown5883 That's part of the hurt. If you've never been fooled by someone who was fake, count your blessings.
I am a trans-widow. It’s painful and lonely and I don’t know what to do. My “husband” wants to come out as a (as he calls it) girl. We have gotten into many of fights over this and he can’t comprehend why I want to leave. I’m being called a horrible person and transphobic because I want my husband back. I feel like I’m grieving and have no right to. Now he wants to tell our son and that’s something I won’t allow.
It sounds like you built a life with him and then he did a rug pull on your entire life. Do what's best for you and your son, don't apologize. You're defintely not a horrible person.
@@mandypepper Not at the expense of our family. He should have been honest with me from the beginning so I wouldn’t of wasted 16 years with him.
@@robinbozeman6215 I hope you can keep your children without them knowing those absolutely idiotic choices of ur husband/ex husband, don’t worry I’m praying you get out of this okay
@@mandypepper They both do but he did not have the right to take her happiness and throw it in s garbage can.
It is a loss. It's like a death of something. It's okay to grieve it. It's okay to move on.
This feels like the even more extreme version of losing a partner after they come out as gay and leave for a same-sex relationship. A lot of the same sentiments were expressed by the widow/ers, that it was impossible to grieve because they would instantly viewed as horrible people, that affirmation was the only "right" way to react. But it is a death, and we should be permitted to mourn. Your relationship has died, your future, your hopes and dreams with this other person. That is devastating! To be essentially told that we aren't "allowed" to mourn in those situations, to feel betrayed or hurt or abandoned, is a cruelty. It is a cruelty committed by a subset of the population that only wants to do for themselves and doesn't want any sort of intrusion that might make them feel like what they're doing is wrong. "Please don't call me out on my crap, it makes me feel bad" is a heck of a thing to affirm.
Selfishness, inwardness, and affirmation… what a terrible, sick and depraved society were creating. My heart is with every single person who has lost their spouse in this way. It’s worse than a death.
The hypocrisy is pretty astounding considering how they themselves believe that 'dead names' are a thing. Refusing to let others mourn for the man or woman that once was but has changed and abandoned those left behind is just an admittance of selfishness and complete lack of compassion on their part.
Hell, in any other divorce, you're allowed to mourn!
It is similar to the loss a parent feels for a trans identifying child. It’s an unmourned death, especially if the child is old enough to legally change their birth name. That’s a gut punch. The path they’re on just spirals down and down.
I always hated those activists that enabled this. And the feckless partners that broke up their marriages because of their warped ego and ideology.
My ex husband hid that he was gay for 17 years. I felt like that part of my life was complete sham! It hurts to think about it. No one ever talks about the family affected by these men/women choices choosing to marry when they really shouldn't.
I think in the case of homosexuality, its a little different. Namely, he probably didn't have the option to come out as gay.
Also after he came out did he abandon you guys, stick around and try to raise the kids or what?
@@randomloverofcheese he did have an option not to lie and deceive a woman he made his wife however
@Li Tobler Well in this case there's a lot of context missing; is he facing family pressure, has he suppressed it and is trying to convert himself etc.
I'm just saying it's not so black and white
@@randomloverofcheese It's same thing. Both are due to some kind of mental illness as evidenced by the lifestyle led by the vast majority of gay people. The difference is how normalized homosexuality has become.
@@randomloverofcheese For 17 YEARS? That is absolutely ridiculous and inexcusable. He was nothing but selfish to waste so many years of her life and lie to her the entire time. He should have never suppressed or tried to convert himself at the cost of another person's life. Disgusting.
I just can't imagine how any woman would feel if all of a sudden her husband said, "I'm going to be a woman now."
Like a death. Anyone even bother checking up on her? Like where is her support?
I would be devastated, and I wouldn't know what to do.
she would be silenced and be cancelled if she dare call it out
@@SK-ut6tw Good point. 👍
@@SK-ut6tw yeah i have heard apparently if the wife or heck i would say husband does not support his soupuse transitioning they get labeled as bigot. as they should apparently love their soupuce no mater the gender.(but then that would mean everyone should be bi sexual) but being gay and lesbian is celerbated. so yeah like how do you handle not being a biggot unless you are bi sexual.
When Chris said he “had the full support of his 2 year old son”….
That is what a narcissist says.
It is never a kid’s job, ESPECIALLY a toddler, to support their parents.
Nobody said the boy needs to support him. Chris can do what he wants, I don't understand how this affects his son in anyway.... he's still in his kids life.
@@LeahBreHappywhat do you mean how does this affect this son in any way? His father is trying to be a woman ... he left his family, his son lost a male rolemodel, his father doesn't know who the f he is and is playing into a trend of being lost in your own identity ... disgusting honestly
Right? Like what kinda support is a 2 yr old going to actually be able to give? They don't even understand the complexities of the situation. It's actually sad how we put this burden on children and act like everything's okay because the child says it's okay. The child says it's okay because to them you are their world and as long as you're smiling they don't really care and they don't know what else is going on.
@@MurakiChiyo I mean you don't know him or his son at all... these are just worries and judgments you have on the poor boy. Maybe don't act like you know what's going on in someone's life until you are around them and see it for yourself
@@LeahBreHappy Again, leftists insisting that things don't or won't have consequences.
I just found out (through a facebook post) that my cousin falls into this category and is still bitter about it (understandly so). The father of her now 20 year old daughter abandoned them to "find himself/herself," when her daughter was still a baby. It was very hard on her and her parents had to help raise her daughter since he gave no support. To me it sounds like many of these men are narcissistic and need therapy.
Don't know about the narcissism, but therapy? Definitely. Oh boy, definitely.
@@anitasassassineMany modern therapists support the trans stuff tho.
They are narcissists. You're right.
They have earned their own deaths.
@@miepmiep3017 The bad ones. Bad therapists blindly affirm anything their clients put before them because thats what many clients want. Someone to tell them that they're right and everyone else is wrong. Good ones instead will tell you when you're bullshitting.
I've never thought about this before but it makes sense that it happens. My dad "came out" after thirty years of marriage and he's now shacked up with some dude while she's working in her retirement years. And social media cheers these people on for being "true to themselves", never mind all the social contracts they shred along the way.
That poor ex-wife. She's got to feel so lied to.
I know a family this happened to, too. The wife felt so sad. She has really been honorable about it and hung out with her ex husband and his boyfriend for the sake of her grandkids, which is really cool of her. If I remember correctly though the kids were not thrilled about it the situation when it happened when they were in high school. It has taken a lot of time to heal
And you fault him for coming out somehow?
@@cheesemakerkeesee395 he completely screwed over his wife, dude.
@@cheesemakerkeesee395 Just for marrying someone allegedly under false pretenses, stringing them along for three decades, then expecting them to happy about it when he pulled the rug out
That 10 year relationship lady I really feel for. She spent her best, youngest years on a relationship that went nowhere, with someone she was GENUINELY in love with. That was a pretty shitty thing to do to her, especially since it seems she wanted to be a mom.
My mom's best friend had this happen to her husband. He experienced a lot of trauma that he never had therapy for. It drove our families apart quite a bit and I've had more than one uncomfortable interaction with 'Carey'. He talked to my mom about 'cramps' and my sister about 'having some girl time' and me about gender ideology in general (which I'm pretty versed in). His relationship with his wife seems fine on the outside, but his son now identifies as non-binary.
It's an ongoing issue because my mom doesn't want to let her best friend of two decades go because of something beyond her control. I honestly feel pity for my moms friend, her family is falling apart. And so much saddness for my dad, who lost a good friend in this man, now 'woman'.
Yeah I don't even know where to start with this type of scenario. In highschool my sweetheart's best friend (and a mutal friend of mine) was in love with her and we didn't know until me and my highschool sweetheart started dating so it was even messier. She is a fairly healthy trans man now thankfully but yeah.
So tons of self induced mental illness. Check.......... and sad.
@@nateo200 No +ran$ person is healthy, they are men+ally ill.
She needs to just 'snap' and put her foot down.....tell this man to stop with the delusions and do his damn job. He is clearly unaware or IS aware, but doesnt care about the sheer humiliation and trauma that hes putting his family through....it would.probably be better that he just leave and never return if he doesnt snap out of it. She needs to divorse this asshole and get him out of her life....her sons and her own mental health and future happiness clearly depend upon it. The father is a selfish asshole....and thats it. Its that simple. Their family was destroyed on the day he put on a dress and she should just call it now, before she gets even more miserable (coz she is.....there is no way that shes not.....no matter what she may say in the outside).
If my best childhood friend turns into a woman it is getting a slap and told to leave me tf alone
When you read "You can't say daddy anymore" I literally almost started crying. These people are selfish- and make me ill.
Little Girl: Daddy, I'm hungry
Twitter: STOP SEXUALIZING THAT LITTLE GIRL.
I'm glad your sense of self inside, matches your outside appearance, so you too don't need to be, "selfish."
@@LauraFunFunFloweries if someone feels like a woman in a man's body, maybe they should tell their wife that before marrying her
Don't forget about the multitude of trans widows who've been silenced in such a way because if they ever speak up on their graveless grieving or how it affected their family and children. They are seen as bigots and transphobes and if they do try to search for resources for help, usually they are led towards the resources of affirmation, inclusion, and acceptance rather than processing loss.
What is the problem? People change and kids and other family members need to have unconditional love for one another. Who cares what they look like? They didn't die
Remember when honor was more common and valued among men? To protect and provide for your family was and still is the greatest thing you could do in your life.
I mean I would say that based on utilitarian principles that's not even remotely correct
Honor is dead
He died a long time ago
Pretty sure this creator is a dude. I can see the Adams apple
No, I thought it was to work corp all the life
Ohhh my goodness Jacob! I thought I was False Memories! I was ready to have myself committed! So those things really did exist! I feel so relieved! Thank you!❤
I saw a regular non famous man get utterly canceled and destroyed. Why? Because his wife decided to be a dude out of the blue one day. He stayed with her long past any reasonable man would, even when she started getting a tiny “thing” down there. But one day she wanted to be the man in the relationship during intimacy and he wasn’t comfortable with that and said no. She called him a transphobe and said “let me do this or leave” so he left. In the name of transphobia she got the house, the kids, the car, the money. Everyone hated the husband!! There is NOTHING more selfish and narcissistic than forcing your straight husband to be gay against his will. And same goes in the other way too. You can’t force a straight woman to be gay either. And those poor children in these situations lose both parents.
Wow😕😕😕
Sounds rapey. Bet she wouldn’t have appreciated the same proposition.
What the hell is wrong with these people??? What the hell is wrong with the law???
He shouldve moved to a red state
Oh my gosh!😐
I personally watched this happen. Happily married couple, he starts dressing and acting more femme, she’s initially supportive, but as he goes further and further things become really strained. Eventually they divorce so he can “live his authentic life” as a woman. So a great wife and two small kids are left in the dust so that he can turn himself into a catty, obnoxious, wannabe pronstar with ridiculous fake bewbs and fry-dyed long blonde hair, in his late 40’s.
It was the most selfish thing I’ve ever seen a human do.
@T B that's a very harmful blanket statement. don't assume everyone is like that. also love that intentional misgendering for the ex wife mentioned above. transphobes oof.
@@nayladoodles2123 he didnt even make a blanket statement, he said "a lot of that" comes from porn addiction. do you just say "transphobes" and leave it at that because you can't say anything against their point, or because you are unable to empathize with someone who doesn't fit in your ideology?
They didn't have to be left in the dust, she could've stayed
@@nayladoodles2123 there’s that word again when someone doesn’t agree with you 🤦🏻💀
@@nayladoodles2123 oh shut up
I prefer my dad leaving for cigarettes and not coming back to coming back in drag and stealing my Mum’s clothes
I actually had the exact same thought. Have some respect, and just fkn leave.
If he was willing to do this so fast without regard for his family, it makes me wonder how good of a father/ husband he really was.
I bet people will try to blame her for it. Trans man outranks all women apparently on the intersectional totem pole.
I was a trans widow before it was a thing. We married in 2012 and split 3 years later, as he wanted to be a she and wanted to stay with me if I could accept his lifestyles. I felt so manipulated. It was a betrayal of our vows to come together as one man and one woman. This wasn't what I signed up for. Now it's everywhere...
It’s because porn has become such a monster in society. He was probably nursing a secret addiction, and over time he decided his fetish was more important than anything else. Sadly there are thousands of cases of this nowadays. Used to be exceptionally rare.
That other guy that replied is retarded. It has nothing to do with porn - he's an idiot. Some people are just whack jobs. Sucks that happened to you. Hope you've been able to move on.
The coom
WE MUST REJECT LIBERALISM.
@@Electric_ exactly bro. Hit the nail right on the head. I hate porn and what its done and honestly its getting worse
We are now so deep into bizzarro world that when a man compliments a woman on being beautiful, she has to wonder if he is interested in her or if he is just asking for hair and makeup tips.
I dont compliment women in their looks because i dont wanna be reported for harassment or be filmed and placed all over tiktok. Thats the more likely scenario these days for complimenting a woman on her looks in any way. I would never compliment a woman, ever lol
I imagine this is why many people find it hard to compliment others in their daily lives.
Edit: Like the dude that commented before me. People take compliments the wrong way.
@@ShinFahima i have no problem complimenting others unless they are women lol. I compliment men from time to time because they take compliments at face value. But i wont ever compliment a woman ever in this new era of woke i will never say anything nice to any woman i meet unless i know them
@@Doomguy9OOO I feel you. XD
. . . I wish I could see what led to this comment being censored, it's pretty insightful.
Hey man nothing wrong with that, lol. I work as a chef for a sorority and I get tips all the time 😂 just a little while ago I was told I had blackheads and had one of the girls take me to Sephora to get me some blackhead remover 😂 so moral of the story apparently blackheads are a thing and you should remove them
I think it's extremely disrespectful for a man to watch his wife grow and birth his child, and then go on to claim that he is ALSO a woman.. LIKE WHAT
and it's very common!!
Just wanted to skip on "dad" responsibilities
I remember watching a few episodes of the Kardashians where Bruce transitioned, and Kris spent weeks in bed and wouldn’t come out of her room. Then one of the girls caught Kris wearing Bruce’s jacket and she was crying saying she could still smell him on it and she felt like he had died. She considered it his death that’s she was a widow. It was actually very sad to watch.
thanks for sharing this!
i am not a fan of the kardashians but this nugget of info was very enlightening. thank you
At least they’re rich
@@brianaguilar8283haha
Yea…the only time I’ve ever felt anything for that family was when I saw a clip of Kris carefully dancing around her grief. Eventually, she just came out and said it, that it felt as if the man she loved not only was gone, but apparently had never even been there. I find her to be a deplorable woman for many reasons, but on this one, I really felt deeply sad for her.
I think coming out as bisexual when you're married is a huge red flag. Like, why are you announcing what you're attracted to or that it has changed? It doesn't matter anymore, you're married.
Right? The only reason my husband knows I'm bi is because we were friends for a long time before even dating. Otherwise I don't think it would've ever really needed to come up, especially to the public/ our family/ our friends. I ended up with a guy it doesn't matter to me or anyone else anymore🤷🏻♀️
I'm bi and my husband has always been aware. I fully agree with you. Suddenly realizing you're attracted to the sex opposite of your partner's means that there is someone else you're attracted to, which is very close to cheating in my book.
It just goes to show that they lied to you for all these years until they tied you down with marriage. The expectation might be that you're going to be ok letting them experiment, lol. I'm a really accepting person when it comes to Lgb. If my partner waited until marriage to tell me he's bi, I'd reconsider the marriage because clearly there must be more going on otherwise he would have told me earlier. It's just trickle truthing until he would get to the core which is probably that he's actually gay and I'm his beard, or that he's trans and wants to transition, or he wants to be in an open relationship. All of these are deal breakers and they know, which is why they keep this from you until they trapped you with marriage, sometimes even with kids. Just look on the mypartneristrans subreddit.
@@HumanLandslide Do we know if he came out before or at the same time as tweeting about it?
@@CieraMychele You don't talk about your various life experiences? I can't imagine not using past relationships and experience as referencing points and how to troubleshoot on issues. Maybe we just see differently on the topic
Just another perfect example of how narcissistic many trans can be. They honestly do not care who they hurt in the process, as long as they get to do what they want. You see it here, you see it with the trans athlete not giving one iota what they are doing to women;s sports and the women athletes. It is 100% all about them and their wants. Everything and everyone else who is not 100% supportive gets left behind. There is no question this is a cult.
Not all are like that, it dispenses on the person. But I do hope they get objective, genuine help, instead of being told to mutilate themselves and take pills/injections.
You are so right, we arenin the Me era,
My truth my feelings what's good for my true me.
The path to happiness is being responsible and helping others. Primarily your family, society used to shun people who deserted their families now the elite owned media the educational systems and governments demand and embrace it.
I feel like trans athletes don't count here
Because frankly if even 20% are actually trans im gonna be shocked
These people are mediocre athletes who are narcs and if they can't win a fair fight they can at least cheat and win
The argument I get is, "You're the problem. You shouldn't be hurt by someone who is being their authentic self." Maybe not, but I think I would have a right to feel hurt by a person who is in such a desperate need to control everything in their life, that they want to alter reality itself.
@@TheRisky9 I say to them that an "authentic" self is one that doesn't require medication and surgery to be authentic.
It's the opposite in fact.
my exe gf is now a trans male. I was indirectly informed by her dressing like a man and cutting her hair army style. Never had any thoughts about transitioning for 11 years. Spent lots of time online with "friends" who convinced her to try it out. This obviously ended our relationship. I think this was done for the wrong reasons (I base this on our 11 years together). I'm realizing that many detransition once they can't stand the complications that they go through and can't find support from their surroundings. It's a sad realization. I will not be accepting my exe back should she detransition. Hormones change a person's personality and psyche. This is no longer and will never be the one I cared about years ago.
I'm sorry you went through that and I would feel/do the same. wishing you the best
R/late lesbianblommers said eveb if my parenter transitions to be a man im calling her my wife. Transman who dicvred husband comments on rita ora's husabands post of wife appriacation while on her won instahgram page she mocks her own ex-husband. Alog with all the degarding of men and AFAB people degrade towards AMAB and that tiwards AMAB gay men.
"Hormones change a person's personality and psyche" This! The effects of hormones NEED to be discussed (especially with children). But regardless of age, I wish more people would talk about this, and it seems to only worsen the situation.
I'm really sorry you had to go through that. Jesus loves you! Have a blessed day!
It’s so sad for trans widows and the kids when a man choses his fetish over his family. They go through so much gaslighting.
First of all you do realize he was already divorced right? And second of all why do you think it's in your place to decide that he has a fetish? Also you shouldn't kink shame, lol. I used to kink shame a lot but then I learned you can't knock it till you try it
@@cheesemakerkeesee395 First of all, i was speaking of trans widows in general. Second autogynephilia is a fetish and what drives 99.7% of the men who come out as “trans” in their later years. Finally, kinks and fetishes are the result of unresolved psychological issues and they should be shamed so people get the proper help they need in the form of therapy.
@@cheesemakerkeesee395 degenerate
@@cheesemakerkeesee395 - I just checked out your channel and you’re the exact person I expected you to be. Lord help you. I mean that sincerely.
@@gnarlycat - I couldn’t have said it better myself.
My brother did this 18 years ago. He abandoned his wife and 2y old child. His argument, even then, matched Chris'. "My child would WANT me to be happy; I am doing this for them!!!". Nope, your child wants a Daddy. His wife was devastated, never really recovered and floated through various religions looking for meaning and hope. Never remarried and she wanted so badly to have a family. No one wanted to date her (once they found out) and take on the social stigma that she was stuck with, since she shared a child with him and could not escape his orbit.
The child has since been swallowed by this gender ideology and also transitioned, had surgery, and is estranged from Mom.
His actions led to the complete destruction of a family. It divided the extended family. We can't have family reunions anymore. I am no contact to avoid the contagion to my young, impressionable kids.
This ideology is a disease that destroys families and relationships all to useless sacrifice for a false idol of selfishness and "happiness". I hate it.
My dad did this to my mom 21 years ago. He was kind enough to attempt to hide it from me and my younger brother, but my older Sister and oldest brother found out before the separation, when he abandoned the family and left.
14 months later on a visit to his apartment I found women's clothes in the balcony closet and was told the truth about why my father abandoned his family. Six weeks later on our next visitation (since I and my younger brother were still minors) his roommate dressed as a woman showed up. My little brother declared loudly "you are having an affair!". (Which was the only funny thing about this situation.)
That Roommate broke their word by showing up, and my dad ended up kicking them out of the apartment so visitation could continue. At this point I didn't want to be there, but I had to protect my younger brother. (It wasn't court ordered visitation, so I had the option not to go, but my younger brother wanted so badly to try and fix dad, despite not knowing the true cause, that he always wanted to visit if he could.)
In the end my dad took a credit card out in my mom's name and that was the final straw and my mom filed for divorce, in the process to change our last names.
2 years of dealing with this stupid situation my dad became an ex-trans "because of Jesus" and married my step mom. But the phycological strain over this time caused me to flunk out of highschool, and struggle with serious depression and trouble dating. (It didn't help that I also had a brain tumor try to kill me at this point too.)
For the summer of radiation therapy my dad back as a man made an effort to spend time with me at the hope lodge, but he only said sorry once, but didn't specify what he was sorry for.
Now my dad is suffering from serious health problems because of those two years wrecking his body with the wrong hormones, he's probably going to die in a year or two, if not sooner. To this day he won't acknowledge or accept the damage he did to his children and he is still angry and upset that my mom divorced him. I don't have access to his side of the family because they took his side on the situation.* (Well my grandpa, his dad, before he died told my mom he didn't blame her and wrote our birthday check to us kids in our new names. But my currently only living grandparent his mom refuses to acknowledge the new name since she doesn't want to have the family name die because of what happened. She is intolerable if I bring up anything about my name or my mom.)
Anyway while my situation was much better then the one you know about, there was still massive emotional and psychological damage that was done. My older brother never was able to date again because he worked hard to support the rest of family until he suffered a massive breakdown. (He took care of me for 13 years) My sister had the opposite problem and dated abusive guys nonstop until she married one, and is dealing with him taking custody of her two girls away because she is too transphobic. I dated only one woman who rejected me because I was going to end up a freak like my dad. And I have struggled to deal with that, despite knowing I am like the opposite of my dad in every way.
Thankfully my little brother got married and has a mostly normal life. But he also cut off my mom and my sister because my brother still talks to my dad. I have a middle ground relationship with my little brother, but it's been a problem trying to visit him and his family.
My mom got destroyed over the last 20 years getting her alimony reduced little by little from $3900 to the current $500 /month despite never getting remarried or doing anything else wrong. (Except for not hiring a big enough snake to fight my dad's snake of a lawyer.)
I WOULD SUE
@@Mac_Omegaly I am so sorry. In case no one told you, what he did to you and your family was wrong and you deserved much better.
Good things lead to life and bless others. Bad things destroy the person and poison everything it comes in contact with. I wish the world would talk more about the fruits of this movement. Thank you for sharing.
May you continue to grow into a responsible person who loves their friends and family in truth and empathy.
@@JenWulf thank you.
It's hard to talk about this subject, and I originally wanted to focus on the things that were similar to the situation you were talking about.
The words of my last ex girlfriend really hurt me, because I have a medical issue that naturally destroyed my pituitary, and it no longer produces any hormones, and requires me to take medicine daily.
She was wrong to try to rush into having sex with me after only three months, and she was wrong to say such things to me because i refused. But it took a long time for me to realize those facts. As I was right not to have sex with her since she clearly wasn't for me, and if things did continue a worse breakup was looming in the future.
Even knowing those things I still struggle even to think about trying to date again. My loneliness is my main motivation and the pool of available "kind" women who would be willing to accept damaged goods like myself is incredibly small to impossible. Even though these things are not entirely true, I put up these walls to prevent myself from getting hurt. (And this is not all my Dad's fault, but the effects of his choices are a big part of this.)
Anyway I am planning on trying to go to a local 30's singles event this summer. I don't want to rush things but I feel like time is running out to try to start a family.
@@Mac_Omegaly my husband was 49 when we got married (he was never married before), and in his 50s when we had our kids. Don’t give up or lose hope.
So, it'wrong to have the deadbeat dads/moms, but it's totally ok to have the deadbeat "thems/zems/whatever tf else is out there," so long as they get to be "zeir" authentic selves... Is that what I'm expected to understand?
Yes. That is exactly what the unhinged mentally ill progressive movement demands from you.
Call them what they are, don't let them police your language. The only way to beat their game is to refuse to play it.
Sadly, yes.
@@princesstt9778 yikes. Sorry, but I can't accept that...
The world is going insane. Idk what to even do about it. But no... Just... No...
@@southerncatlady I hate this too. Men and women who abandon their families to be their "authentic selves" are pathetic. I pray that all of this gender ideology crap goes away soon, because I can't stand it.
Rules for thee not for me is classic leftist behavior.
This happened to me. I got married (the first time) to a man. About 8 months into our brand new marriage I was informed that he was trans and wanted to be a woman. I was devastated. We went to "support group" meetings where I was made to feel like I was a bad baaaaaad person if I didn't "love my partners soul". My husband also uses my bisexuality as a blanket. It was gonna be fine. I'd still love and find him attractive because I'm bi. Which is not how that works. I stomached him wearing wigs and women's clothes and doing makeup even though it made me feel vile inside. I married a man. And I didn't want a 6'3, broad shouldered woman who was going to look exactly like my Mother In Law. But I hung on for 4 more years as he treated me like garbage, drug me all over the country, quit job after job. I really feel for Chris' wife. It's heartbreaking and world shattering when the man you thought would lead your family decided they're a woman and it becomes your responsibility to be a "good wife" and stick with them. It's vile and selfish.
@@lololollololol-td4ew Aww. Stick in there, li'l buddy. Eventually you'll learn how to get the attention you crave. You just need to get good.
Nah your in hypocrisy of "bi". Bi means equality amoungst both. And if he identifies as a woman. If you reject that. Your a hypocrite. And you married the wrong man. It's that simple
Fsxking trolls 🙄
It's stunning for me, a gay person, to hear stories like this. I am NOT attracted to women's bodies, regardless of the souls. Society spent years wrapping its head around homosexuality, and then things like this happen. Suddenly we're offended again that people have a sexual orientation!? Common sense grows less common by the day! And even for bisexuals, they aren't attracted to all people who present in every kind of way! I totally understand how even bi people can lose attraction when their spouse completely changes presentation and even their body. I'm sorry you had to experience this struggle firsthand.
Real question. Weren't there any warning signs? Like this was completely out of the blue? Like nothing?
I'm a gay trans widow from a 10 year relationship. Problems started showing up around the 7th year with him hanging out with super progressive "friends" and wanting to go on vacation trips without me (which I later found out included a lot of risky sex and drugs). He shaved his beard, then later everything else except his head and started seeing a therapist (later found out it was a gender therapist) and got into cross dressing. He also created an alternate online identity around this time. I broke up with him because of the risky sex, which admittedly I only found out about since I cracked his phone so some secrets had to come out. I spent 3 years feeling like a stranger in my own house and completely unable to get him to explain to me what was going on. I found it all out nearly 2 years later that he decided to change his name, had been on hormone therapy for some time and was looking forward to surgery, and had disowned his family and many of his friends. He also reported having multiple personalities, spending most of his time crying uncontrollably but self-reportedly "happy".
I was so traumatized I have since cut all contact and most contact of contact out of my life. I feel so entirely betrayed and hateful even 6 years later I surprise myself, not least of all spending much of my free time in the past 4 years reading up on all of this and seeing how completely predatory and bogus it all is. This garbage caught a guy in his late 20's who was (as far as I could tell) very happy in his relationship. I feel for these ladies, I lost my high school sweetheart after 10 years, I can't imagine 20, 30, 40? How could you ever trust anyone again when the man you trust the most comes out with this nonsense?
It reminds me of stories where in a relationship of multiple years the couple's working off the understanding that they want kids in the future and then out of nowhere one partner says that they don't actually want to have kids. Like... people have finite lives. Leading them on is kinda evil.
Your situation sucks but it's completely unrelated to Chris's situation. I hate that morons like Walsh are misconstruing the whole situation which a. Doesn't involve them personally, b. Don't know Chris personally, c. Are using old edgy posts from Chris and wrap this up with the whole transtrender ideology. Chris never advertised it nor was virtue signalling... The right is being as stupid as the left is and it can't be any more depressing. Bring balance to the force!
I’m so sorry this happened to you. You didn’t deserve this at all 🤍
I pray you’re able to trust again and build meaningful life long relationships and friendships. You deserve to be happy and loved 🤍🤍
I am so sorry. I truly am that that actions of another person has caused you so much harm you don't deserve. There are men who also can relate to your story where their wives are now into women. It isn't fair to the partners. For what it's worth, the best revenge is living a happy life. Your ex sounds like a piece of selfish garbage. Don't let him steal the rest of your life.
I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine this. Changing life directions and goal is one thing. Y’all can talk and negotiate and determine if the relationship is still viable for you both. But just going behind your back and essentially saying “too bad, so sad for you” with that behavior is gross.
I genuinely feel bad for Chris' son. He will be growing up without a dad.
And with girls shoes
Dude why do I see you literally everywhere lol
Are you a Bot? I see you everywhere.
@@BenShapirosLowerLip yes
FACT
My girlfriend has a dad who is now a trans woman. It really is basically like having that person die because they're no longer the person my gf grew up with having as a father. Still really messes with her to this day. Feel terrible for the child and mother
From what I get even the most benign transition leaves the family scarred because the father(or mother) entirely changes personalities almost over night. It really is like someone passed away.
@@Mupyeong And then they'll tell you they're still the same person, and you know they're really not. Or else, this was always them, they just covered it up. Either way, they're no longer the person you knew or thought you knew.
@@MarieAnne. That seems to be an either or. Detransitioners seem to return to their original personalities but you are most definitely on the nose there.
Yes you can't even call them dad or mom (depending on what they charge for gender to) and sometimes you can't keep your friends or interact with relatives because they would remind your parent of their real gender.
Sleepovers are now a issue because now one wants their kids over your disfuncional household and now your paperwork is changed at hospitals and school because now your dad is your "mom" and your mom and your "dad"
Now your parents are divorced and now they are dating people some I'm which are the same gender.
Now you are stuck with one of the parents and everytime the other parent comes around it's a reason for drama.
It is a never ending cycle and because they want to decide to transition after being parents they ruin their child's experiences and destroy their marriages.
This isn't hate speech I am simply stating my issue with this situation.
Hopefully I don't upset YT.
Absolutrly correct. Trans people say that they are being yheir authentic self but this is bullshit - they are making and becoming a NEW PERSON. I kniw it as im a detrans
Once was at a get together and someone had said about a girls husband coming out as gay and another women said good for him. Wtf is wrong with the world when someone ruins a partners life and you get celebrated for it.
My mother came out as "trans" when I was 15. My parents are still married, but she basically doesn't allow my father to find a woman... Once there was an incident when my father fell in love with someone they both knew - it was horrible. She (my mother) felt betrayed and the whole thing blew up... I already had depression at this point but of course there was no place for my feelings in that situation. Now, five years later, I'm over my depression and eating disorder, married and have a daughter of my own. No way this ideology is going to touch her, no way that I'm going to tell her I have two dads.. hell no. We are still arguing about this, I will never give in to this family destroying ideology. Now I can neither talk about her as my mother, nor as my father... I wonder, if being a woman and all womanly things are so bad, why did she give birth thrice? My father is really hypocritical too, he follows her every word.. like literally saying: "he used his uterus to give birth to you". Wtf?! Not every woman can give birth, but every person who can give birth is a woman.
I’m so sorry your mother did this to you and your family.
You need to distance yourself from both of the ASAP if you don't want to get your child influenced by their twisted minds. Your dad is as guilty as your mother.
I'm very suprised about your father going along with it!! Thank you for sharing your experience with this madness
He needs to leave her asap
I feel for you - my father is "trans" and it is a sexual fetish paraphilia - I have been cautious of all of this since I knew of it about 15 years ago - I wouldnt ask for any of this idealogy to be near any kids.
If a woman’s husband comes out as gay, it’s game over. But if a woman’s husband comes out as trans, she’s trapped by marital obligation to stick by her spouse because she could be painted as transphobic if she leaves?
How does this make sense? There is definitely a double standard here.
transgenderism is arguably the most homophobic ideology known to man
I'd leave. No one is going to make me stay and put up with this bullshit.
Well she should leave She's not lesbian
Why would anyone be scared of being labeled a made up word? Just leave the relationship.
@Marcela Rodriguez Yep, that's what Ellen Page's wife did, and everyone was shocked. Like how is that surprising? A lesbian woman's wife just transitioned into a "man." The woman loves boobs not flat pecks.
This topic is a long time coming. Back in 2018 the father of one of my children's former classmates came out as trans. I have counseled the family as best I could because there have been no resources to assist families go through this particular grieving process. The father is gone, replaced by a narcissistic personality that is competing with their spouse for the title of "most feminine".
The spouse has been berated, minimized, and financially neglected as the sperm donor of her two young children (also the primary financial earner) used the bulk of the incoming money to pay for his own needs.
It has been awful to see. Unfortunately the spouse chose not to leave despite being manipulated, abused, and financially neglected. She is totally brainwashed.
😢 this is heartbreaking
@@bronminett4042 yes it is.
Poor kids
@@jemimahkendall6579 yes
Something is causing it. I know everyone hates him, but remember Alex Jones a while ago when he found out frogs and fish were changing sex due to high levels of the hormone drugs people take getting into the water supply? When they clean water for us to drink they can't get that stuff out. You can't filter it out. You can filter out dirt, and kill germs and bacteria, but you can't get a lot of chemicals out of water once it's in there.
I remember noticing the beginnings of this phenomena probably a decade ago now. A man had made a couple of TH-cam video telling his story. How he'd always thought both women and men were beautiful, but didn't realize he was really gay till he got drunk and fooled around with some guy at a party. So he left his wife and started dating men. He and his wife also had an elementary school aged daughter. What struck me about the story wasn't that he was an awful man who ruined his marriage and greatly damaged the lives of his wife and kid for his own selfishness. But that the internet was CELEBRATING him for it. I just couldn't fathom how people thought that him "discovering his true self and true sexuality" made abandoning his vows and his family not only permissible but a good thing. In hindsight, I should have seen the writing on the wall then and realized what our culture was in the process of turning into. Though nowadays it's transgenderism that turns your sins into virtues, and not simply "coming out".
I personally say that’s cheating on the marriage/relationship and grounds for divorce. Like, bruh I can’t do nothing with that now🤷🏽♂️
Likewise media gardening personality Alys Fowler, who decided she was lesbian after many years of marriage, had an affair, and proceeded to kick her husband - who has a long-term illness - out of the family home. It's possible that it was actually _her_ house but still.
Lack of thinking is pervasive these days. Very dangerous and very manipulated via propagandas of all sorts, major and minor, unless one really does some critical thinking.
I met a girl that went through this. Married a guy and had two kids with him. Then he transitioned and she was left unsatisfied in the bedroom but felt she didn't want to completely give up on the person. It's crazy. This is such a new thing.
Wouldn't the solution then be to figure out something in their sex life that works for BOTH of them? :/
@@sigmacademyas a vanilla gal married to a vanilla male where we both enjoy our rolls in marriage, there would be absolutely no joy if my husband decided to be a female in the bedroom. Somethings just don't work, why do we get shamed for our wants but they aren't? If they lie to us for years about their roll and change the script that isn't our fault. The genuine partner I telling the truth the whole time and yet they are the ones punished, it doesn't make sense they have to sacrifice their comfort in something so intimate.
They are abusing the good nature of women. Holding the relationship by a thread. Her patience.
@@abigailloar956 that's why dildoes were invented honey!
@@PossibleBat "...the good nature of women..." Look around at the state of women in the Western world. They are about themselves. Alot of them are very toxic. Not all of them but a lot.
At 37 years old my wife discovered she is gay...yeah we'll go with that. I won't go into how she's behaved this past year or so but it's been the worst experience of my life. You think you know someone and they just "hold my beer" your ass. The damage she's done to me and our daughters during her journey of self discovery is irreparable.
RUN AWAY FAST! Your marriage is DEAD!
It's always assumed that the "self" someone is going to discover is something good, while most often there seems to be a selfish prick in the hiding.
Sorry to hear that man
This exact scenario Ali happened to a friend of mine, at roughly the same age. They have a daughter as well.
Wishing you the best as you work through this.
When anyone says they need to 'find themselves' it means they're gonna do some really gross shit and pretend they're more mature and wiser than you cuz they stick stuff up their butt and smoke crack.
It's always "how brave of you to express your true self", but it's never "what you are doing is selfish, you are destroying your family".
None of them want to hear the truth these days
As a mechanic, the bit where you said "comb your hair, and learn a skill, like welding" gave me a giggle, in the UK there's a ridiculous shortage of young people learning trades, they do theory-based degrees and then go to work at McDonald's
Honestly unless someone is interested in the trade they wont learn it and that applies to everything. Cant force someone to do a job or learn a trade they have zero interest in.
If you get me a greencard I would love to learn a trade in the old country
People always say learn a trade and trades make good money and theirs a shortage of them but I’ve seen people on these trades and most of them don’t make as much as they are suppose to make and if they aren’t lucky to find a union they usually have shit family lives due to being sent all over the country. Depending on the trade you only have so many years in it before your body falls apart. That being said I only know a little bit and it’s in the Midwest of the United States haha so nothing I say is factual in the grand scheme of things.
Two guys I know have done this, one was the partner of a friend at the time. The pressure on women to affirm the fetish is huge. In both cases their selfies got more objectifying over time; it was creepy to watch. Last I heard they were calling themselves lesbians and bugging actual lesbians on dating sites. P*rn has messed up so many men.
The porn industry needs to be broken up and heavily regulated because it's effects on society are out of control and intentionally toxic. Crazy how the same people who own Hollywood also exclusively own every porn studio.
Wow what the actual f !
As the adult daughter of a trans parent, I’d like to thank you for making this video. Whilst the parent who decides to transition has a entire community of support to validate and celebrate their “journey,” the spouse and children have little to no resources to help them navigate this new emotional landscape. Many therapists are committed to prioritizing gender affirmation for the trans parent and the feelings of the wife and children are disregarded. The trans community is openly hostile. Nothing less than enthusiastic support for the trans spouse/parent is tolerated. If the wife opts to leave the marriage citing their spouse’s transition as the reason, she is labelled “transphobic.” And even though trans women consider their former male identities as “dead” and take umbrage to anyone calling them by their “dead name”, they object to their former wives calling themselves “trans widows.” Apparently only trans people are allowed to give themselves (and everyone else) labels.
It isn’t all sunshine, rainbows, and sparkly unicorns when a spouse/parent decides to transition, so thank you for highlighting the situation of the wives and children who have been silenced. It’s like living in the world of Invasion of the Body Snatchers and it helps to know that sane and reasonable people are still out there.
I’m also an adult daughter of a trans parent and wanted to thank you for leaving your comment. Never in my life have I had the freedom to truly express the grief or work through the long term damage this transition has had on our family, friendships, the childhood development of 3 kids or any of our self worth, in general. I always considered myself a “daddy’s girl” when I was little, until things changed so vastly that it just didn’t feel right anymore. I was never allowed to mourn that loss. The transition started nearly 30 years ago. I spent many years angry. Still to this day, there’s an urgency to the trans parent needing inclusion in everything. It’s always felt like “me, me, me”, yet I can’t even make it through an afternoon with said parent without being tuned out in a conversation. We got the version where there’s “co-parenting”, but it’s really more like low effort straddling of “I’m being a good parent” and “I’m being my authentic self”. I guess the parent believes it, *gold star* but neither truly happened imo and mom was never free to try to move on, either. It’s difficult, but we can’t talk about it.
We never really had the option of walking away, just the gaslight to stay and be supportive because “why would anything else change”? 🙃 The sacrifices and shame the rest of us endured, growing up in this mess (to try to explain something we don’t even truly understand to those around us) to allow our PARENT of all things (ex-husband, in mom’s case… but co-parenting) some kind of “normalcy” in this is 100% absurd.
Just one man’s decision, right?
To those that say it’s easy to walk away, try being in the middle of a situation like this. Then, consider what it would be like for the person you looked up to most in the world to pull this crap, and you’ve never wanted anything more than to be the apple of their eye. Devastating.
Edited to add: To this day, I don’t want to hurt my dad’s feelings. It’s f’d. 💔
@@mnmnmnmnmnmnm @amiek9226 Huggs for BOTH of you guys, I can SO understand how you feel xxx
@@mnmnmnmnmnmnm Honestly i feel like you should write your dad a letter explaining how you feel
You highlighted something I was always curious about. When a parent decides to transition: how much actually changes.
The trans community would have me believe that nothing changes. They were always the opposite sex and now they've become their authentic self. Or everything changes because you're transphobic.
Your parent isn't 'trans.' There's no such thing.
Dad’s then: ok I need to get milk (never to return)
Society: you’re a bad father
Dad’s now: ok I’m gonna go become a woman
Society: beautiful and brave
As someone who used to be a little girl with a father, the modern version would have traumatized me significantly more. Just imagining it was traumatizing. 😅
real
? Can you explain how does this analogy work, cuz it just seems dumb acussations made by a 7 year old
@@ZZZZZZDDDDADA in both scenarios the child is robbed of a father
I've not seen a comment saying Chris is anything but bad for transitioning
Actually got some personal experience on this subject. My best friends sister got married to this guy, they were together for about 3 years and she got pregnant. As soon as the baby was born he suddenly came out as transgender and tried to get custody of the baby. He's long gone now, but that was a pretty low thing to do.
Abandoning your kids is never ok trans or not.
Jesus. Was that straight after the birth?
@@amyrodgers4252 Pretty much. Less than 6 months if memory serves.
'I'm really beginning to believe society needs a hard reset'
Been saying that for the last decade, myself.
That's what they're trying to do with this insanity. What society needs is mass pushback from the people.
Oh there is a plan for a great reset mark my words and this transgender hysteria is a part of it
Or society just doesn't need to exist
@@kittygirl0872 People always want the world to end so
I just call it perverted. Because it is.
My son transitioned with 2 grown boys and a loyal wife at 46. She has stayed with him but the boys are gone. The weird part of this is that he announced after the surgeries etc. that he was gay. So in essence he changed to a faux woman but still is attracted to them. I do not associate with my son anymore. He transitioned but put so many restrictions out there my 2 daughters and myself couldn't handle his selfishness. His they/them garbage, his do not call him by his dead name, he even changed his date of birth. So I mourn the loss of my son that I loved so so much, but he has no right to try and change us to agree with his mental disorder.
How the hell did he change his date of birth? Isn't that supposed to be illegal?
When Blair White transitioned her mom supporter her thru it, her mom did mourn the loss of her son, Blair understood the loss her mom felt. Fortunately Blair didn’t have a wife or kids thu.
Blairs story isn't relevant here. Stop.
Sorry to hear that, but you are correct
Sorry to hear that. I do have a theory that these type of people do have some hidden depression or just get at the critical age and do stupid stuff similar to 40-50 year old men buying motorcycles to feel young again or some other expensive “toy”. Obviously buying a motorcycle or something if the sort is not something dangerous and has not inherently bad. I believe these “trans” people have some rough moments in life and turn to “cultists” and turn this way.
My aunt and cousin are victims of this. She married a man who knew his whole life he "was a woman." After getting married and having a daughter, he took them to Germany, as far as he could get them away from my grandfather, a Christian conservative man, and transitioned. Honestly, a truly heartbreaking story of my family, and I didn't know it was more than just us. To this day I pray for my cousin, who has sadly been going down a depressive spiral. Unfortunately, her parents make it hard for us to contact her.
Wow to another country where the wife and kids cant leave.
I've been asking people on the board who have had a relative transition. The argument I get from the trans community is that "The relationship doesn't change, I'm just the opposite sex now."
If you don't mind, honestly, how much of that relationship is, "Yeah, it's the same person, just the opposite sex. Only really minor things have changed" and how much is, "No, this is not the same person. It's completely different."
@@TheRisky9they're trying to completely change themselves. It's never minor.
Jesus that's the plot of Synecdoche, New York
"A wife that can't leave."
That's why women must care about education and financial Independence first before the start to get married and breed.
An independent women can take the children and leave if the partner goes crazy.
Trans siblings/families have very few, if any, resources to cope with the change. My brother announced he wanted to be a woman suddenly in 2019 and I felt such trauma and grief from it that it made me sick for weeks. I confided these feelings in my best friend, who then shamed be for being a bigot and told me I wasn’t “losing a brother, but gaining a sister” and I was furious. It was as if my brother had died, and eventually he did, but the lack of support and feelings I was dealing with was impossible to cope with. It is traumatizing.
Edit: Since a lot of commenters are just proving me right about the fact it's stigmatized to say you don't know how to deal with that change, I'm going to provide some additional context.
1. My brother's first mission upon coming out was to utterly destroy all tangible evidence of his male self. This included precious family photos that were of both of us, that I cherished and did not want destroyed. I offered to just take them away, but that "wasn't good enough" and those photos were destroyed behind my back. Arguing the point of them being good memories we shared meant absolutely nothing to him -- he outright said so. I was floored. He wanted the original photos all shredded, screamed when I suggested making copies instead, and he still insisted he get his way or else I wasn't being supportive. Countless memories from my childhood are now lost forever. They were just as much mine, and I was willing to do my part to keep them "out of sight" so they would not be harmed or remind him of what it was that was paining him. But my pain didn't matter at all here, and people outright supported the manipulation and not me.
2. I was supportive to his face. He never knew I had any doubts or concerns, I did exactly what people are expected to do performatively. It was just devastating to see the toll it took on him to pursue transition, the hormones made him immediately ill. He would also go on long tangents to me about how beautiful he wanted to be, and became incredibly vain. It became clear to me at that point he had a ridiculously hungry ego, and the way he would go on about how much easier he perceived women's lives to be, especially pretty women, made me sick. I was sad for him because I had seen his life prior, but didn't think it was a valid reason to become that shallow, critical, and demanding. Many times he would even say "we" when making criticisms of "our" inherited looks not being good enough, even just berating me separately a few times.
3. The dynamic between the two of us changed seemingly overnight. A brother and sister seldom compete the way two sisters do. Who is the prettier sister? Who is the smarter sister? Who is the richer sister? I had never experienced that before, and that juvenile sort of game was something sisters who grew up that way would likely outgrow for the most part. We were already adults, so I felt like it was ridiculous. I just tried to ignore it until it became inappropriate. He would comment on the size of my breasts, hips, and other body parts that you otherwise wouldn't want your sibling (that you've known your whole life as a *brother*) to be looking at. I was more than uncomfortable.
4. Family damage. I had to clean up the "mess", essentially, and facilitate communication between my adult brother and parents for a long time. They offered to pay for counseling, spent countless hours doing research so they could understand, but because my brother had held onto the impression they wouldn't have been supportive for so long he was unwilling to work with them. We could no longer have family holidays, as my brother refused to show up or even be in the same room as my father. They did have a strained relationship, but my brother was not willing to receive apologies or therapeutic assistance at any point, only the money they offered. I finally broke down and told my parents and brother both that this had to stop because I was tired of being the middleman and therapist to all of them, and that they all needed to grow the F up and work it out because I was done.
There are no guidelines for proper behavior for either side, or really anyone in the family here. And I do not think that it was fair to put the majority of the burden on me, especially if we were both adults. (He was actually older than me, by the way.) I hope that people will eventually understand that this level of change is far more than just surface level and is not isolated to the trans person themselves only.
It's clearly mental illness. Selfish, centered in the ego, and I refuse to believe anything else. Obviously not everyone that is trans will act this selfishly, but using that identity as a shield from consequence is something far more common. It was not my job to steer him in the direction of appropriate behavior. There were no resources to help me navigate going through this. I'm just recounting an experience. I did love him, and tried to be compassionate, but dealing with someone in that state of mind is difficult and saying that does not make someone evil.
How's it traumatising , he's a child and your a child bruv . He's hella weird and your hella sensitive. One of my friend is trans , we laugh at him, cause he's fking weird , but we don't go puking over it . He's stayed with us for months in our house too
That sounds horrible
how is it that you felt so terrible when your sibling was still there...
@@flo.1018 your reading comprehension might be lacking here...no offense, but you dont make enough of an effort i think, and you are expecting the poster to help you with this? i think she has enough to deal with, as this sounds really fuckin horrible to go through..
I am so sorry. I see that while talking bout these topics people don't point out the feelings of the families and friends! Thats not just for a trans person to feel bad while being the 'wrong' gender but also people around that might just have their whole lives crushed because of the transition. I hope you feel okay now or if you don't, then I hope you'll find happines and yk forget about that. Greetings
this reminds me of the story where a man was being humiliated just because his wife came out as lesbian and he didn't want to support her. He claimed all the memories they shared felt fake. everyone, including his own children, turned against them.
That's the thing with this stuff.. most of these people (trans, gay...) Know from very early days what they are.. still they decided to deceive another, clueless person and string them along with lies. Build everything on a lie. Same concept it when you don't want kids, you so wants and you keep telling them "not now" until too late.
I also find it so stuoid when people first say "sexuality isn't a choice" yet when spouse tells they are trans and will transform, the other spouse is expected to CHOOSE to be gay or bi.
Because if you don't turn gay, you are transphobic and homophobic.
I was thinking of those kind of stories too. People who have literally been living a lie with the person they are supposed to know and love best in the world are bullied and harangued for expressing they feel betrayed. Ridiculous.
I've lived that very scenario... My wife of 15 years (total relationship of 22 years and parents of two wonderful kids) had an affair with a woman and became part of that lifestyle, to this day she is a lesbian. You lose that part of your life, your memories seem like lies.... a very weird thing happens, you have the memories but that person fades away in them. It truly is like your spouse has passed and you can't grieve..... you carry that for a very long time if not forever. It put me in a space I had never been before...... you think about ending the pain forever.
@@TheSlowoldman I hope you're doing better now. On the bright side, you at least have two children. I call it bright side because they are proof that the things you went through, while lies, had a silver lining. This is me just assuming you have a great relationship with them btw. Your wife may have tricked you to live a lie but hopefully your children helped you get through with it.
@@captaindeadpool313 Thank you, my children stayed with me through it all, we've never been closer. They are what kept me here. I just found out I'm going to be a grandpa so life is definitely looking up!
As a father, my kids are my ultimate purpose in life, protecting them, providing for them and teaching them. Everything else takes the back seat. This is how real men are hardwired.
As it should be. You are a good man, sir.
Wow, so Chris is a woman, since he is not a 'real man' :)
@@creepyjesus1471 not sure what you're getting at, but the point is, being selfless is what being a man and father is all about, not about your sexual proclivities and aspirations.
Yes yes yes !
@@-_-_-_-318I've wondered if that's partially what it's about. Being a man has got to be hard af, in a way that being a woman isn't. Their father worries about things that I don't, as he doesn't even think of the amount of clean underwear in the house. I wonder if some males think being a woman is an easier way to go through life.
Benjamin Boyce has done some great interviews with "trans widows" (i.e. women who married heterosexual men who later came out as trans). A common thread is that the husband introduces the idea of cross dressing into the bedroom first, and often encourages the wife to play along with it. Pornography also plays a major role. After doing that for awhile, the husband pushes the boundaries further by bringing his fetish out into the public sphere. In many of these stories, the husband seems to have a case of autogynophylia. After awhile, it becomes no longer satisfying to confine the act to the private bedroom, he has to involve the rest of the world in order to get some sort of satisfaction from it.
What is auto thinga majig?
Ehh, gross. So there's a bunch of crossdressers who actually get their kicks off being looked at and being "validated" while in their "new identity"? Super messed up, really makes you question people's intentions.
@@DirectorHMAN men being sexually aroused about the thought of themselves as women
@@escribopapelitos lots of men that should have never ever married in the first place.
@@Ynh932 u got a link?
A woman is someone who never have to worry about being kicked in the balls
I'm a trans widow. I have 2 teen daughters that have been fighting with me against all this trans rubbish, they've been through hell. Trans Widows Voices have been incredible for us, as has Standing For Women and Kellie-Jay Keen. It happened to us when my daughters were a lot younger and I was completely alone, it's nice to see someone like you amplifying the message. Thanks, Syd ❤️
You aren't a victim. You are just rude
@dejuren You have no right to tell me or others who've been through this what they can call themselves. Maybe listen to some of the women who speak about this and they can explain why it feels like the person you loved actually died. I'm not here to justify my existence or experiences to anyone else. Peace ✌🏻
@dejuren it completely applies. Because the person they married and loved is gone and replaced by the trans version.
@dejuren You're comparing 2 completely different things and I think you know it...
@dejuren I think you are mocking me.
I mean, I don't care, you've never had this happen to you so you don't know what it feels like but comparing man becoming trans after 15+ years of marriage and having children to break ups with 20 girls is nonsense.
I've noticed the only time people expect you to work it out is when your partner is trans, any other type of difficulty within a relationship and these same people will tell you to get a divorce
No, they tell the woman to get a divorce. They tell the man to just "man up" and deal with it.
@@codechartreuse Try telling that to modern Western women. LOL
I had a friend of a friend come out as lesbian after having a few kids with her husband. Husband was devastated. She also said she was never into men. WTF?! How did you have 3 kids?! She is a selfish person and probably very narcissistic and her whole family just accepted it. They say she is “brave” lol the ex husband is on anti-depressants still. He has zero self worth left.
That would absolutely destroy me.
Sounds like a reddit story i heard an i think its actually disgusting how everyone is accepting her
should be able to sue imo
Because maybe she wasn’t comfortable enough in herself, or hadn’t let herself come to this conclusion previously? Of course it’s sad for the family but someone should always do what feels best for them
@@kateosullivan4964 this is exactly the problem. I disagree. You have to put your family and your kids first. The selfishness of parents is why so many people’s kids are devastated emotionally and mentally.
Everyone has occasional attraction to perversions or strange desires. Most people will realise that's not healthy and avoid develop those feeling, or at the very minimum explore it behind close doors. When the media is constantly telling you that making a particular weird sexual fetish your entire identity and obsessing over it will lead to happiness, it's a very dark path, especially when you eventually get bored of it and suddenly realise you destroyed your entire life just to jerk off.
It's not just partners who suffer in this way, it's parents too. We're helpless bystanders watching the child we poured ourselves into, disappear, to be replaced with an angry, judgmental stranger who is unapproachable and completely lacking in compassion and empathy.
It’s like Jim Jones in 2023. If it’s not some Jesus cult it’s something else.
@Seductive Raven . Actually your wrong. Parents are responsible for children until the age of adulthood, that’s 18 here in the States. Allowing a child to mutilate itself falls under willful neglect of your child’s welfare. This transgender insanity is going to be short lived especially since the overwhelming majority believes it to be utterly unacceptable for children under the age of adulthood.
@Seductive Raven sure, yes believing in fanciful woke bs is the way, everyone should do it!
@Seductive Raven
These people are ruining their children's childhood,what are you saying?
@T B
Yes they remind me of a abusive relative of mine.
My best friend from childhood recently did this. I looked up to him as an older brother for over 30 years of my life. He grew up only a few houses down from me. He had been married for 6 years, bought a house with his wife, and was working as an electrician. I hadn't talked to him for about a year and didn't think much of it just though maybe he was busy and he had always been prone to depression after his parents divorce as a teenager. Come to find out he left his wife and is going head over heels into transitioning to being a "woman" He's been taking HRT from what I found and and god knows what else he's done. It was like watching a family member die in real time and finding it out through the grapevine was like a rusty knife in my heart. I will forever miss my friend who was like a brother to me and feel for his family who I'm sure is struggling too.
What’s the most baffling to me is when grown, married men become trans even after witnessing their wives become pregnant and give birth to their children. They have first-hand witnessed these capabilities & experiences exclusive to women that should be constant, glaring reminders that he is, in fact, not a woman and will never be a woman. I find it extra insulting that a father could turn around and claim that identity for himself.
They do it to still get a lineage. It’s almost like tricking women into giving them babies and then taking off the mask and being able to live the lives that they’ve always wanted
Maybe they just want to pretend to have headaches too and show 'em what it's like.
I feel it's the next level of selfishness and narcissism - they realise that they're not the most important person in the situation, so they up the ante to get the focus back on themselves and away from the tiny new human who needs more care and attention than the grown-arse man who isn't getting enough of it, apparently.
Dude... The mental gymnastics you had to do...
@@thumbwitch4607 okay now you’re definitely reaching. Like I agree with the what you guys are saying but now you’re assumptions are turning ridiculous
A man or woman who abandons their spouse and children by claiming to be another sex is one of the most selfish people ever. They don't care about their family, only about their own "needs". This is just the same as abandoning your spouse for another partner. It is disgusting.
Except that it didn't happen here.
@@davegecat159He/She/it divorced.
A grown man abandons his wife and his children for another woman, he's an imbecile, deadbeat, selfish and overall bad person.
A grown man abandons his wife and his children to become another woman, he's brave, courageous, inspirational, a role model, an advocate, someone to be adorned/looked up to and the list goes on.
Whichever was the motivating cause of his poor decision does not change that it was a dreadfully poor decision: A GROWN MAN abandons his WIFE and his CHILDREN.
He didn’t abandon his children, bruh he still provides for them and is a part of their lives
@Unknown Bannana you're probably a they/them
@@texastea5686 Okay but that they/them is correct.
@@texastea5686 lol stay salty, I just don’t blindly follow the leftist mob or rightist mob.
She abandoned her, by the looks of it
If my loving partner demands I stay attracted to him even if he tries to become a she, that's not my loving partner anymore. If you're bullying your SO into staying, that's a little thing we call abuse. And abuse is one of the only grounds where I would justify divorce (the other being unfaithful). People dealing with their SO transitioning and/or abusing them into staying, you have my deepest sympathies and sorrows. Get out of there if you can, I'm so sorry
But whats that got to do w chris😭 cuz the soon to be ex wife found out recently after a yr of them not being together
Okay, yes shaming someone to stay atracted to you / abusing them is wrong. But left wing people are not arguing that you should?
If you are a straight women and you husband comes put as a trans woman you have all the right to leave and any good lefty will support you.
I don't know why you make up such a hyperbolic statement in order to paint trans people as abusers. This is genetally not condoned by the left and by trans people.
You are arguing against a ghost
But in this great world we live in the "justice system", state, government, any authority figure, and likely a chunk of your own family and friends will NOT see this clear abuse as abuse, and will attack you over it. You will lose your child to that pervert, and they will then be permanently messed up by them as well.
I think the answer is to be REALLY DAMN sure you know who you're marrying, and be VERY OPEN and communicate about everything like this. And finally to be very HONEST and don't feed these demonic thoughts, nip them in the bud as soon as they show their degenerate head like everyone should do.
amen
@yochiartz2839 although the main topic of the video is about chris, there were many examples of this case besides him. The commentator above most likely is referring to the video essay as a whole
I went to high school with a couple of people who eventually got married after we all graduated. They have a couple of kids and the wife always looked so happy. But now almost 20 years later the husband decided to become a woman. The wife stayed with him because she loves him and wanted to be supportive but all her pictures went from her looking really happy to her looking miserable and all the life is gone out of her eyes. I can only imagine how it's affecting the kids. It's really sad.
That's so sad 😢
Situations like this is why it's best to just adopt children and not bother with marriage.
@@Arcania9516thats like saying the best way to mow the grass is setting the lawn on fire
@@imperatornoinga3646What's wrong with rescuing a child from those horrible ophanages???
The thing about all of this is that i just love the hypocrisy of it all. They say they can be any gender or no gender at all and that gender has no traits. But, by saying you want to become a "woman" or a "man" or "neither," just say that genders do have traits that people want to have or to avoid. They say a man can be feminine or be a mother, yet they say just because a woman has productive organs doesn't mean shes female or the other way around. They try to get rid of definitions, yet their core ideology lies on the pure concept of definition. If people debate that genders have no definitions or traits and that you can be feminine or masculine or whatever, then why are you trying to become that gender? It's just a bunch of stupidity and ignorance.
Talk about throwing salt in the wound. Your husband comes out as trans and starts ordering women’s clothes like crazy online…I bet the same guy gave his wife a hard time about her shopping habits the whole time they were married, questioned “why do you spend so much in hair and makeup”, etc….but when they do it the wife has to shut up and deal with it or get called a transphobe.
Trans widow here! Worst experience ever!!! I have 4 kids and had been married for 18 years. We divorced as I knew I couldn't live that life. I went through suicidal ideation and questioned my own existence as a woman. I'm much better now, but I hate the impact it has and continues to have on my kids. Also sick of society trying to make me something I'm not. I married a MAN, had kids with a MAN and divorced a MAN! He is a man and will always be a MAN!
" Comb your hair... Learn a skill... Like welding" Hellishly true and yet hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
Lol I thought she said quilting
Welding is harmful to your health, there's other manly occupations though.
That had me laughing so hard. Love her sense of humour!
as a bisexual, i was in a relationship with a woman than during our relationship said that she's going to be transitioning as a man. even as a bisexual, i couldnt bring myself to not be hurt. even more, because she acted as if it's only her business, as if it doesnt affect me at all. even if i'm bisexual, it doesnt mean i'm attracted to a man with a vagina, or her version of "man". even when you dont take account of their appearances, their characters change too. they're simply different person, mutilated to make appearance of someone else, acting like someone else.
I agree it's terrible. We knew a guy who did this to his gorgeous childhood sweetheart girlfriend 20 years ago and it was devastating for her. Can't imagine what it's like for long-term marriages with multiple children. These men need to balance their own needs against those who they've taken responsibility for.
Totally
Needs of many, for the best or for the worst, outweigh the needs of the few.
Whered the guy end up
They so narcissistic af .
these type of people : it's all about ME ME ME
Maybe these women should love their partners for who they are and not make partner's medical issues about themselves.
@@vector_vector__ Exactly.
Imagine a recently formed dictatorship that is recruiting adult men to be seen as propaganda symbols of strength and power, and everyone is claiming that iits perfectly fine to go there, no matter how much it hurts your absence and change of behavior confuses your family
This trans stuff is replacing the military for a lot of men
I dated a guy who did this 6 months into our relationship. Just dropped this bomb on me and it fucked me up mentally so bad. People don’t even realize how these selfish decisions can effect others & the domino effect it has. This was all 7 years ago before everything was crazy. Let’s just say that relationships ended horribly after 11 months of mental abuse & dragging me through the mud. Not only did he treat me like shit & cheat on me, but out of all my breakups that guy did it in the most heart breaking soul crushing way.
I also just want to add, his father was still in the home. His parents also got along & never fight, however they didn’t sleep in the same room and his dad was a man of few words. But they were overall very nice & caring. My guess is that he was babied by them. I didn’t realize till after we broke up also that this guy had some serious mental issue even pushed me back into anorexia & made me hate my body again. So yeah.
7 years later I chose a real man with a good family, he treats me like a treasure & now he is my husband.
My conclusion, people selfish enough to do thing kinda stuff to someone tend not to be that great personality wise & will always choose whatever benefits them & their selfish wants no matter who it hurts.
at least it wasn't longer and you didn't marry the creep. Sorry
@@dragonfox2.058 oh for sure. Thank god for that.
There was a time I really wanted to be a hippie hobo and travel in a van. But I had a 2 year old and I had to put him first. Any parent who puts their desires before the good of their children is an A-S-S-H-O-L-E!!
100%!!
...you should add to that parents who forcibly push their children to become "trophy children" to feed their own narcissistic desire to brag about how "special" their children are.
Amen
If no one "decides" to be trans, surely all these married trans people knew that they were trans before they got married and still did it to their partner anyway? Why would you do that to someone you claim to love?
we need to address the impact PORN and FETISH have on this phenomenon. the large majority of married men who decide to go trans are doing so as part of an ongoing escalation of fetish that usually spawns from porn usage. given the fact that chris has made many tweets about loli, shared disturbing pornographic art, and even laughed about how his wife is too innocent to understand his porn jokes.... its adding up
Very much so!
porn that leans into darkness, BDSM, kink, fetish, like forced feminization porn, sissy porn, sex slave porn. The question put forth by mrmenno, "was I born this way, or porned this way?"
@@vickils9571 I've seen more than one transwomen say sissy porn made them trans.
Very interesting take on the matter could you share more info on your view it seems quite the statement providing you have evidence......
@@vickils9571 interesting……
She’s back! Also yeah I feel sorry for Chris’s son. There goes his stable family life and father figure in one go.
He has God The Father, if he chooses him, and The Lord Jesus Christ. God loves him. Romans 8:38-39. ✝️
Women should be proud of the fact they ripped to shreds the fabric of society.
Blame his Single Mother for a fatherless home.
I appreciate this video. Thank you for bringing trans widows to light. What got me most was reading about the pressure on the kids of transitioners to just go with it and ignore their feelings.
Expecting your partner to still love you when you can't even love yourself and has to fundamentally change who you are and then calling them phobic when they don't is just disgusting behaviour.
My ex-husband did the same thing, only without transitioning. After 8 years and 2 kids, he decided real life was "too stressful". So, he quit his job and moved out of state. Now, he lives in the sewer beneath Las Vegas with a new gf and a bag of fentanyl. He says the sewer life is "peaceful and better for his blood pressure".
My god. The amount of effort it took me to overcome opioid addiction and the fact that it is the reason why I am unmarried and have no children (two things that I’ve deeply wanted all throughout my life) makes me feel incredulous that there are so-called men out there who would abandon the very things I would give most anything to have in my own life in order to pursue the most rotten and soul-sucking demon one could ever encounter…
He deserves the fate he’s chosen. Yeah, it’ll be oh so peaceful when he’s in acute opioid withdrawal in a sewer while his new girlfriend is off fellating a dealer to get her fix which she won’t be sharing with him. I hope when he tastes their seed on her lips while she’s nodding off right in front of his shaking withdrawal ridden walking corpse that he thinks back upon his life and the choices he’s made and realizes that he has only himself to blame for pitifully miserable existence his decisions have begotten.
Sounds like the piece of shit finally found home.
@@Thor-Orion shit man, you should write a book. What you wrote was disturbingly beautiful.
This was some 1st class dark poetry. I actually got chills reading it as I can see the scene in my head.
I'm 33 and I've never had a relationship last longer than 13 months. My only goal at this point is to get married and have kids. How a guy could just throw away a marriage and his responsibilities literally blows my mind. How could you not care?
Those are not mentally stable, so it is easy
Seriously I have no idea 🤷♀️. I don't get how some people get divorced and remarried either especially multiple times. Like... I can't find one person and somehow you found 3 willing to marry you 🤨
@Priestess of fun If you're a girl, you're doing something incredibly wrong.
It's an aspect of psychopathy. These people lack empathy, and they lack the ability to form permanent attachments. Other people are just objects to them. So, on a fundamental level, they just don't care.
I've been married 23 years married at 21 become a Christian and find a good woman call out to God and ask him to give you faith
This happens to men as well… my ex-wife wanted a divorce because she claimed she was not attracted to me and she wanted to explore a life with women. Lucky, we didn’t have children together, otherwise it’d be much worse. But I was left devastated as well, I had put my heart and soul into my marriage, I had so many dreams of a life together including children! Now I have serious trust issues for obvious reasons. Never know if your life partner will become a different person all of a sudden.
That's so sad, I hope you are doing better❤
@@kookie_2178 thank you 🙏 it’s a process but every day away from her and her betrayal gets easier and better. Thank you again for your kindness!
@@yavinklein-katz7719 I will probably sound rude but, this thing is only happening in Western countries wtf is happening?, I genuinely feel sad for people , thank god I live in third world country and this shit is not happening there.
@@kookie_2178 not rude and true but I was married in Mauritius 🇲🇺, not a western country…
I have a close friend whose father transitioned and it destroyed their family and left my friend without a real dad. It's so sad what this does to families.
A very very good friend got his girlfriend of two months pregnant and they got married. He was her first boyfriend as she had only been with women before. Last I talked to him they were happy and he was over the moon being a father. Then their daughter was diagnosed as autistic at 3, and the wife decided she wanted out of the marriage because she was only attracted to women. She said the only way she would keep him is if he was trans. He transitioned to keep his family together. I feel like I’ve lost my friend, his dad lost his wife to cancer and son to transition and no longer gets to see his granddaughter because he dared to question his sons choice to transition instead of leaving the crazy woman.
He transitioned because his wife wanted him to?! Omg, what a nightmare of a situation.
How tragic. I'm sure that'll work out well long term. What if she changes her mind and wants a biological woman?
That's insane, poor bloke should have run a mile.
Holy moly...
That's why people shouldn't have sex.
Most pregnancies are unwanted and nowadays breeding a healthy child is pretty rare.
"Lots of people's feelings rest on you suppressing yours."
Such a great quote!
When I was in university my roommate's dad decided to cross-dress / trans but was still called a him. He dumped my roommate's mother, got a 20-something year old girlfriend, bought a sportscar... the whole thing. He later gave the fancy car to his daughter (my roommate). She couldn't hardly drive it (manual) and didn't have the money to keep it up, so I asked her once why she even took it. She said she took it so he wouldn't give it to his young girlfriend 😢. My roommate said she supported him, and all the lbgtq stuff, but the absolute pain in her eyes was just soul crushing. And that was 1998. I never understood it then and I don't get it now, how it's ok somehow to dump your family like that and terrorize your kids by transitioning.
And dude wasn't even gay, its literally a fetish that gives them access to woman...how can people not see creeps have been waiting for something like this to happen
I am in my late 50s, so I can say that it's what every middle aged man goes through, just like when women of a certain age goes through menopause, it's called Middle Aged Crazy. Just something for you to look forward too.
@@visaman Ok I hit middle age and nowhere in my mid life crisis was there any crossdressing, that's just fckn weird.
@@garymccray7822 what about a shiny red sportscar and a new trophy wife?
If you want to mid life crisis and abandon your wife and kids, but be considered a stunnings and brave hero for it, you just identify as coming out as gay or trans. Then you shack up with your secretary
What I find so egregious is how hard it is for women/females who are suffering various hormonal problems, to get hold of HRT as a reliable treatment....yet!
Sometimes I forget how rare it is to find a creator that is truly unbiased yet still has strong, clearly stated, and logical beliefs... Then Sydney drops a new video and reminds me.
She's unbiased? LMAO WHAT
Nah the whole right wing has misconstrued the whole situation. This guy has been under pressure from his conservative religious family to get a fkn kid (YOUR VALUES MIND YOU), his ex wife even said she knew back when they were dating, so no she wasn't forced anything but rather felt bad for Chris being excommunicated from his CONSERVATIVE RELIGIOUS parents if he didn't get a kid. The whole Loli post was years ago, let's not start digging each other's past edgy posts please. The whole enby thing is usually when you're not passing enough, but I guess Chris didn't care after a while. So please do yourselves a favor and stop watching fkn matt Walsh and read up more as the news come out and not jump to conclusions
@@Mayucraft16YT I'm fairly certain I understand where the breakdown is here, so I'll try to explain. _Beliefs_ and _bias,_ while typically aligned and working in concert to create the all-too-common feedback loop of confirmation bias, are actually independent concepts.
_Bias_ affects a person's interpretation of events by skewing their view of reality one way or the other away from a point of objectivity. Bias is bad because the person affected begins from an unfair perspective and thus develops beliefs that don't align with reality.
_Beliefs_ are essentially our fundamental understanding of the world based on the aggregation of everything we have experienced throughout life. It is natural for people to interpret new events/information through a filter of past experience, so unless consciously avoided, a person's beliefs will cause them to also have bias.
Though incredibly rare, a person can objectively interpret reality and consider all relevant perspectives while still holding strong beliefs. Sydney happens to be one of these rare and wonderful people.
Nobody is truly unbiased.
@@MRJMXHD In the literal sense, you are correct. She comes a lot closer than most though.
"Comb your hair. And learn a skill. Like welding!" Okay, I LOLd on that. 😆
Chris went from a good looking dude,
to a hideously creepy dude. 👌
absolute abandonment, HE should be ashamed. I hope Chris never gets full visitation rights and his ex-wife gets a lot of money out of it and HE gets shunned.
So, We can't deal with a real woman on a syrup bottle, but we praise a fake woman on a beer can? I think I'm done trying to accept this insanity.
Facts
Unfortunately this doesn't just happen to women. I watched my brother become a "trans widower" when his wife decided she wanted to be a man. She tried to make him out to be the bad guy because he didn't want to be married to a man. She/He/It/They now has a new family and a new baby. My nephew does have visitation with his "other" parent but lives with my brother. The first time I heard him refer to her as "daddy" I nearly went nuclear (not in front of the kid of course).
I love how you say She/He/It/They
@@d3l_nev He/She/It. Sounds funnier when you say it out loud.
its an it no more gender applies to IT.
weak women and men becoming attention seekers
Did she have the baby?
My daughter has decided she's a "they". I tried to still have a relationship with her and just not say any pronouns regarding her as I adjusted to the situation, but she kept correcting me, not just about pronouns but EVERYTHING. It got to the point where it was just insufferable to be around her. So when she cut off contact I... let her. I just couldn't take the constant nagging. We used to talk about video games, art, her work, and other things, now it's constantly telling me I'm wrong about something. Sadly we haven't spoken in over a year, and I honestly don't know if we will ever speak again. But I guess she gets to be right all the time now. And since she doesn't speak to me I no longer care about trying to "get her pronouns right" cause it doesn't matter.
so sad... that's terrible
I'd probably do the same, wretched and sad as it is...
If she's under 25, she might yet come round after she's grown up a bit, met other people and had some life experience. If she's 30+ there is still hope, but yeah you did the best thing for your mental health. Don't chase a relationship if it's not wanted - you raised a human who could take care of themselves and that is the best a parent can do
Beat your daughter
But then mainstream society is gonna see you as the bad guy and call you a bigot. This shit is ridiculous
Oh dear Lord this video aged remarkably well
Not a widow, but a very dear friend of mine "came out" to me last spring, and to say that it hurts doesn't even begin to cover it. I know his insecurities, and it's due to past male abuse and his lack of good hygiene. He is kind, headstrong, talented, trustworthy, and my soul's long lost brother, and I cannot bring myself to accept him as a sister of any kind. I love him still, but I suspect our friendship may die because of this disagreement.
You don’t have to agree with that ideology, you can still be respectful and kind. You can have that boundary, and say no. Please don’t let people guilt trip, manipulate, peer pressure, or harass you into agreeing with something you don’t or following any ideology. God loves you. Romans 8:38-39. You can cast all your anxieties to God because He cares about you. 1 Peter 5:6-7. ✝️
Doesn’t have good hygiene, yet wants to be a woman, where the expectations of hygiene are so much more??
Yea the same thing happened to a very close friend (basically a brother) of mine. We never stopped talking but he was extremely suicidal and very unhappy with who he was. He started saying he was a she and I always had a feeling with how his mental state was going it would have happened. He speaks like gender is a construct and acts like he’s been a woman his whole life, it genuinely feels like I lost a dear friend. I don’t hate him and I hope one day he gets serious help because I know if he makes those changes, he’s gonna regret it.
Why did you put came out in parentheses?
@@applefarm6126 The fact you actually tried to advocate for love and put a Bible verse in the same sentence makes me laugh, lol.
Maybe I'm evil but if a friend of mine who had a wife and kids became a woman, I wouldn't be friends with him anymore. It's just too weird and I wouldn't want my young children interacting with someone like that.
It's not evil at all. It's called protecting yourself and family
For being transgender? 💀
Idk, ur not evil for it, but I'm the kind of person that if that friend were a ride or die i wouldn't give a shit
It would depend on the case. There are people who genuinely feel that they in the wrong body. We've always known that. But I'd argue that in 9 out of 10 (or even 99 out of 100) cases the root of the issue lies elsewhere. Whether it's attention seeking, the desire to belong and have purpose, the social advancement or just sheer mental illness, is a question that needs to be investigated. One thing should be clear: It's not normal, in the same way as it wouldn't be normal, if the sky turned green all of a sudden.
So if this friend is able to convince me, that his desire to become the opposite gender (and it would definitely take some convincing) I'd certainly not abandon him. If he'd be one of the above-mentioned, I'd probably start questioning my friendship with him. Still, he might be in need of a friend to help him get back to his normal self.
@Patbwoy have you noticed that gender is new soul? Which I don't believe exists. You can't be born in the wrong body you are the body.
Again, another story on the internet that makes me love and be even more thankful for my wonderful hubby of 35+ years. He has always been and will always be the man in our household. I've never wanted for anything, worried about anything, or ever been fearful. He's always been a great provider and protector.
With every passing day and the more freaky ish and freakish people I see online I thank the good Lord above for putting this wonderful man in my life wayyy back when we were teens.
Young ladies, if you listen to anything an old lady has to say, respect yourself enough to save yourself for your husband. It will mean so much more to both of you if you do. And it will take your relationship to a whole new level.
Thanks for the thoughtful videos Sydney. ❣️ Have a lovely day y'all and God bless! ❣️
❤for a Godly woman praising her husband! Love this!
15:38 - I would argue that somebody who transitions is not standing by their partner. It's the individual's responsibility to process the trauma of their past BEFORE pairing off with lifetime commitments.
No that's ridiculous to expect that of anybody, and we have divorce and marriage counseling for a reason. Time changes and trauma can happen AFTER you're married
@@ellagage1256 Nobody said that you need to process trauma that occurs after you get married before you get married.