This is happening in my family. A feminine leaning cousin, 3 kids, married long-term. A bit of a shy nerd who never felt confident. All of a sudden, he decided he wanted to be a woman; thus, he changed his name and is currently on hormone therapy. They had to move back in with his parents, with three small kids due to a "burnout." All in the name to live his " personal truth. " He still looks like a man because he's in his 40s. His wife stayed out of sheer desperation to keep the family unit going, taking on a " lesbian" relationship role. Imagine the sheer lunacy and selfisheness to be able to drag your family through such destruction so you can chase your delusional sense of distorted self.
It is risky to stay, as I see in the data on us I'm collecting that these husbands are often engaging in sex outside with men or prostitutes. From the women I've got information on who stayed for 3 or 5 or 10 years, it does them harm, leading to problems of anxiety being held in the body: panic attacks, teeth grinding, muscle spasms, nightmares. I hope she'll find enough help to get him out and start her next chapter.
@@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals Ute, are you on Tik Tok? There’s a trans widow on there that my heart bleeds for. She made a video FINALLY letting out that she misses her husband (she’s a fitness instructor so she tries to be positive , positive & more positive but you can tell she is dying inside) and of course now she has been turned into a lesbian. Meanwhile her husband is so happy, living his best life in his delusion (aided by the affirmations of other trans who see him as a courageous and brave idol). He has boasted on Tik Tok of sleeping with other men, whilst married but that’s all about validating being a woman.
Very selfish thing to do, it is women that have made it so very easy to leave marriages & now a few selfish men who likely have AGP are leaving to "find themselves" & their "personal truth " as women have been doing well. They have a right to do even if they to are destroying family's & marriages because there are no boundaries for women or men to hold them or constrain them to a marriage or relationship. Well done feminists
Thanks so much, Tammy! It was wonderful to revisit our conversation. I now have data on the experiences of 53 trans widows, and counting. May you walk in the light, always. Ute
I am a transwidow too and my kids were little. 2 months old and 3 when I discovered what he was doing. This happened in 2020. Thank you for voicing this!
Around 1:25 Tammy remarks about women dying in childbirth being buried with warriors in one society. I think it was Dr. Peterson who said men go to war and women have babies and in this risking of their lives they ensure there will be a future for their people.
My father cross dresses and was affirmed similarly. He also hid it from everyone. Funny enough i always felt his sexual perversion in that i wanted to always be covered and less feminine around him. Curious how that worked. Thanks for this, will send to my mother x
I'm so sorry for what you went through. There are other women who've experienced the same, though, and I hope you'll find some of their stories on TH-cam.
As a Gay man, God BLESS you both. Tammy I've followed Jordan for years. Its so wonderful to see you WELL and bringing voice to the divine feminine spirit. God- The eternal Spirit of Renewal is present here. Thank you.
@@Proverbs--tx6yr Well, you can pick up whatever flowers from the garden you want - fresh or rotten - and make a garland for yourself or others. Will they appreciate it as with the case of @rxdeath who is trying to discriminate and attack some particular part of society. Also, he getting emotional and already saying words like "So when you refer to "god" your referring to some vague spiritual non-sense?". It implies several things - one thing for sure - he has never had experience of God (nor his love which you would shower upon others) and another using identity of being part of certain religious group (trying to act out as Christian) to attack another part of society (LGBT community). Using knowledge as a pretext to discriminate certain part or group of society. Isn`t love more important quality of God then knowledge? That`s a good question...
There is no such thing as “the divine feminine spirit”. Good lord, this is the most misogynistic, pseudoscientific nonsense I’ve ever heard. This is nearly as bad as the nonsense the gender crowd talks about. 🙄
I just came across this video. I didn't know there is a community of trans widows. Can't wait to join in since I'm one of them in this marginalized group.
It's a growing community, Ute has done a great deal of work to help survivors find their voices. There are also parents-of, children-of, and siblings-of coming forward with their own stories, trying to find healing.
Highly recommend Ute's youtube channel. It's a fantastic source for a criminally underrepresented group in trans widows. I would warn however that some of the stories are heartbreaking but for that reason it's all the more important that they're listened to. It's also a fantastic source for a critique of new studies and often the first place I see new studies and articles mentioned. (I regularly see other places pick them up two months later or miss important inconsistencies). A truly remarkable woman.
I know someone who is divorcing her husband and somewhere in this process, he decided he is a "woman". He has addiction issues. I suspect there is a history of childhood abuse that is arising with this shaken confidence in his manhood. They have two young sons who are caught in this situation. Mental health professionals tied to the courts cannot be trusted to properly assess this to help protect the children from the man's current confusion.
Hi Tammy, as a therapist I know several therapists with common sense and I pray they stay that way. It’s a privilege to know some even if they are few and far between.
@@babs_babsOh so you do bare-faced lying? "Conversion therapy" was a terrible practice for homosexuals that is incredibly rare nowadays (particularly outside of the USA) . The name has been appropriated for exploratory therapy, the type most ppl assume would happen in affirmative care but doesn't. I wonder if you've read about the Dutch protocol and know how many kids in affirmative care are same-sex attracted? You don't think that is more apt for the name "conversion therapy"?
@@robertmarshall2502 “exploration” therapy the way you mean it IS conversion therapy. you are intentionally treating gender incongruence (not gender dysphoria) as the psychological symptom that needs to be cured. you’re trying to change someone’s gender through manipulation and coercion in order to make them fit into your narrow world view. and you’re citing a well known quack. ffs i’ve been able to publish papers, it’s not that hard to publish bullshit in a journal if you know what you’re doing . find a meta study that supports your bullshit and maybe i’ll believe you
@@robertmarshall2502 These TRA types engage in forced-teaming with the LGB to create a false sense of (coerced) compliance and artificially inflate their numbers (same as they appropriate DSD's). The bastardization of language is also part of this process... conversion is what they do to gay kids - GC folk are trying to save gay kids them from unnecessary surgeries, hormones, and genital mutilation.
@@glszq4still more feminine than your husband turned "wife" who will never be feminine, only effeminate at best. your comment is an obvious neg on these women from someone that claims to be oh-so-tolerant based on your other comments. not shocking in the least, par for the course in fact.
It is the natural, aging beauty of the mature and confident woman. There is strength and gentle at the same time in the countenance. There is wisdom in their words, but a desire to listen as well. It is a beauty inside and out. It is true beauty.
As a 54 year old woman, I often tell my 28 year old daughter that I wish young women had the confidence of us older women. The world would be a different place! ❤
I know a woman with 3 children from church who was abandoned by her husband in this way. I think he had the surgeries, too. The sickening thing is that many people "affirmed" him and blamed her! She has supported herself with an online bookstore, St. Joseph's Press. I heard that he has regretted it, but that it was too late to go back.
Glad to hear her story. Gardening and praying has gotten me through the most traumatic experiences in my life. Or, I should probably say praying while gardening.
Tammy you have such a sweet smile and your entire demeanor says "Tammy is kind person". I love watching and listening to you. Ute has the same kind demeanor and I am so sorry she had to go through this, but it turned her into a wonderful person. God bless you both.
Hey Tammy, I enjoyed this podcast. I typically listen to your husband's podcast a lot and I found this episode to be captivating and nice to listen to. Thank you.
My heart is breaking for what you've been through, I am estranged from my parents (they abdoned me) so I can relate, both very abusive. I am a mother to 2 teenage sons and this whole ideology is terrifying. I an an ex psychotherapist and I quit it because I couldn't affirm it for anyone. Tammy you are wonderful woman, this is my first time listening to your podcast, I've listened to your fantastic husband and your daughter lots of times ❤
That physical therapies you mentioned, Ute, helped me a lot too to reconnect with my body. It‘s a very important point but is totally neglected in treatment of mental illnesses.
I have heard talk recently that some people want to make changes so that people can only be divorced in the cases of abuse or adultery. Personally I hope they never do that. However, if they do make those changes, one’s spouse changing their gender identity, or their sexual orientation should qualify a person for a divorce.
I’m only 53 but you’re making me super excited about being over 60! Thanks, gals. And I thought I had a big mouth already. My mouth will be huge by the next decade. :-) and on a very serious note, this was a heartfelt story. Thank you for sharing and being so beautiful.
I mean your mouth is already huge my friend 🤣🤣🤣🤣coz you were waiting for the you know what but then you realized that no one wants to you know what with you.🤣🤣🤣🤣
How many families are breaking like this for decades is heart-breaking. 😭 May God sees each family with his eternals love and help them to heal. Thank you Tammy. I have started listening Dr. JP a year ago, then your daughter and now I have subscribed your channel too. You are a great family voice. Keep the good work of sharing knowledge objectively in your own way. God bless you all.
Tammy, thank you so much for having Ute on your show. She's a sanity-companion to so many of us. 5:25 For anyone interested, there are (I use the terms with some irony) medical and academic pedigrees for this "science." Here's a core list -- not exhaustive. *Medicine/Psychiatry* Havelock Ellis (eugenicist) Magnus Herschfeld (eugenicist) John Money *Sexology* Alfred Kinsey Ray Blanchard Kenneth Zucker J. Michael Bailey *Academia* Michel Foucault Gayle Rubin Judith Butler *Informed Dissent* Steven B. Levine Michael Biggs Miriam Grossman
"Attention is a manifestation of love", so fantastic and something that has been more on my mind in recent weeks... thank you so much for these conversations and sharing so much of what is needed in the world right now - and always.🕯❤
I agree with Tammy's remark re concerns about very young children in childcare. I think one of the parents or extended family caring for the child is absolutely best.
I am a mother who's aspergic son is under the control of a trans person (a man who mistakenly thinks he is a woman). My son no longer speaks to me. I am bereaved. 😢
Appreciated your ‘Hokusain’ introduction Ladies. Thank you for highlighting the unacknowledged suffering of the Wives lost to this insane ideology. You’re a brave and joyous woman Ute. Thank you both!
This is like the soft side of the Peterson duo perspective. It's relating to the same current issues the other Peterson often addresses, yet this is from another perspective. Women connecting. Awesome.
...but believe me, this is why children need to know Jesus meek and mild, as well as Jesus who ineased in wisdom and stature and in favour with God and man. We need guidance and love in these areas as we grow up into adulthood.
What a brilliant discussion, so important. Ute Heggen was really impressive, I had not heard of her before. As a child I was a bit of a tomboy, musical and creative, and I loved to play soccer and cricket in the back garden, play with toy soldiers, knights and archers in a castle, train sets, toy cars etc. But I also loved teddy bears, dinosaurs, animals, and any art materials for drawing or painting etc. Today someone would probably be trying to convince me that I was really a boy trapped in a girl's body. I do have a more male brain in some ways and my ability to play jazz on more than one instrument, including improvisation, is quite unusual in a woman. But I grew up very much a heterosexual woman. Sadly my own age group of men showed no interest in me, I had more success with older men, most often foreign or with some strong foreign connection eg my Jewish boyfriend David. He ditched me after a few months but we stayed good friends up until his untimely death from lung cancer at the age of 39. The fact that I have never been married or had children does not mean that I am really a man hidden within a woman. I shudder to think what is going on in schools now, here in the UK children as young as nine years old are being told about transgenderism, pansexualism and more besides, this is happening in Church of England primary schools too. To their great credit, Muslims and Orthodox Jews push back hard against this collective insanity. Many children can see through it, and even satirise it, as I would have done if I were a child now. However, many are being confused and upset by what is going on. These young people have been badly let down by those adults who have brought in this gender identity madness. At some point in the future, when they have reached more influential positions within society, there is going to be a terrible backlash. They will want to take their revenge on someone or some thing. Incidentally, I am told that at the local secondary school, the gender neutral toilet that was introduced a few years ago, is used as place for kissing and cuddling between heterosexual teenagers. So perhaps there is some hope still !
The "mistaken identity" story of Sarah wanting to be called Steve (:55-1:05 minutes) is a wonderful recollection with a happy outcome for Sarah. Imagine if her too-busy-for-Sarah lawyer mother faced that dilemma today...what a nightmare...for not just Sarah, but all her kin and all her school chums and all the people outside her immediate circle FORCED TO CALL HER STEVE!!! Excellent job in child psychology, Uta! Thank you on behalf of Sarah...and all the others in her life spared a nightmarish scenario but for your simple questions and much-needed attention properly placed.
Tammy, thank you! it is a delight to hear the interviews you have with other women! Truh femininity and maternity! it is healing for us women in the western world, how are just to seeing only feminists in the public… I never had the gut to go with feminisam ( I am 48). So this is amazing. in Love and pray with you both. And dear Tammy, we are praying for your catechumenat… We whant to you wellcome HOME in prayer. Love from Medjugorje!
I mean they fill me up with joy and laughter when they tell their fake and pathetic stories and also how they weaponize actual widow's pain to hate other people and spread bigotry. These are attention seekers and they are only making fools of themselves.
What a disgusting man you married... I am so sorry for what you are going through/went through... I know people like this all too well... It is despicable... And you are so worthy, such a wonderful person.... I am sorry but your children are awful too at this stage for not seeing this and being on your side...
The story of Sarah the little kindergartener Ute told brought me to tears - that to me is the gospel of Jesus Christ in action - lovingly patiently helping her giving all the positive attention while standing firmly in the truth - Ute was placed there on that little girls path like a guardian angel to help her I see that clearly ❤ I pray to God we can all be useful in His ways like this especially to children
Ute is a remarkable patient , and responsible woman, educator and mother. What more could she have done? Nothing. I was glued to her story. I feel desperation as my daughter and her husband have allowed, by all appearances, puberty blockers to my 15 year old granddaughter after she became friends with two school mates when she got to high school who were long time friends and kind of befriended her. She is a shy kid and is not bold, and is quite suggestionable. I’m not allowed to speak and I keep even keeled as possible. She, my granddaughter had no defence against these two best mates who have adopted the gender fluidity idea. Dear God I pray for awareness of these traps.
Your daughter may have been threatened with the lie that *her* daughter would commit soo icide if she didn’t get the hormones. Many parents get terrorized into doing things they know are bad, then they have to use cognitive dissonance to maintain their decision
Traps? What are these traps that you speak of? A person who is allowed to be exactly how they feel? Who is to say what a single individual can be allowed to express. Freedom of self? Question that and then question your faith, because there is no reason in the world you should bring hate into your heart due to a reason one single person makes in regard to their own life. You know, it's like abortion....I don't condone it, I wish it wouldn't happen, but I understand the reasons why it does. My son is gay, he had no choice in that, it's just who he is. I have Transgender friends, is it their fault that they feel to be the opposite gender they were born? They didn't ask to be born the way they were, and now they receive hate, just like gays and lesbians and queer thinking individuals. Non Binary, that is fantastic! If that is what you believe, and if you don't believe in basic humanity, which is what this is, then you're holding yourself up to a higher position and that is self righteous and self serving and should not be connected to any faith or religion.
New info for them is the man who wanted stepfather role with them is now dealing with a sarcoma cancer diagnosis. I will let them know. I wonder if their brainwashing or their shame will prevent them from supporting their mother in her second great grief.
Wow thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed to find and hear today 🙌🏼 God is good. I have so many commonalities with Ute, But not quite as bad, as it’s my son / middle child with the cross sex ideation, and my 2 daughters that affirm him. They have disrespected and rejected me, but we are not fully estranged (yet) … because I’m about to go public speaking out against this and I suspected it will turn them completely against me, but I can’t be quite any longer! Too many people are being harmed.
Tammy this is all about foundation and formation. Unfortunately mothers do play a big part in childrens lives during the first 4 years and/but fatherhood is essential too but more so after. I am not big on these trans terms. Just my thoughts. I am in my 60's and have done a fair share of work and study in this department. God Bless Ute and her sons. Hope everyone heals.
These are pre-heaven conversations. I like that Ute was able to rise up at the Judges chambers, though she perseveres in a way that is remarkable. The love God loves us with is like that. I take issue with the phrase "unfortunately mothers", but I still love you.
I can tell that Tammy has been treat so well by her husband. She doesn't have a single frown line on her face, her femininity is in tact. I believe that the sacred feminine disolves when women are not cherished.
@@amateur_football9751 honey trans people exist you can't stop it from happening and for your now wife to come out as trans in the current bigotry of hate for us trans people she is incredibly brave so with that much live and healing to you. Transitioning is hard ok its HARDER to transition from MALE TO FEMALE especially if they are doin it much later in life with all the male characteristics already there.
Oh dear, such a tragic story. Interesting how many parallells there are to stories of physical abuse as well of those that were in a relationship with someone with narcissistic personality disorder. Seems to me that we should be cautious of these dangerous men and not pity them for being confused! Actually, when I have watched videos of ”transwomen” (Blaire White & others) the give away is a special kind of aggression no matter how well they ”pass” in looks. Also, an interesting story on how to survive, come through the turmoil and find natural happiness again ❣️🌹
It's domination, they're men domineering a space, they can't help it. I think it's sheer hubris that a man can think he's able understand a woman's inner workings enough to become one. I see them for what they are, hyper effeminate homosexuals.
A never ending progression....living past 70...then 80....and more...🙄....always full of introspective surprises we discover....(some harder to face/swallow, than others)....Family disconnects, moving apart from each other on such divisive matters does indeed scramble your deep innards...As for your experience with conversion...regardless of any religion for that matter, trust in the source of all..." Shu " required that all day and everyday we looked into our own hearts, discovered what caused us pain, and then refrained, under all circumstances, from inflicting that distress upon other people. It demanded that people no longer put themselves into a special, separate category, but constantly related their own experience to that of others."...."Happy Trails....!!!
I was never for the licentiousness part of liberalism. And liberalism always likes that space that courts Evil with glee. I've always felt like I've had to protect my individuality from Liberals. Isn't that funny and strange?
Ute talked about the child in her class needing attention. I wonder how much the loss of attention is contributing to children not identifying with their body or born gender. With most families not having a stay at home parent and most of us addicted to our phones, are kids getting the attention they need to build a strong sense of self?
Another way to put lack of attention is called neglect. The groomers look for that child. The only antidote to this that I can see is giving the child attention, but insightful attention that is consistent where the child can walk away, but come back when they need more help.
Sy Rogers spoke at a church I was attending. He was a gentle, magnificent, speaker spoke from his heart. unfortunately, he died at age 63 )a couple years ago ) He was president of Exodus international an organization promoting conversation therapy.. His writings and utube educational videos are amazing and loving. I think the sad part is the young people that are being influenced. Some young people wanting to detransition . Some are sad and I hope not depressed…….they are & were so very vulnerable. ❤️🙏
maybe the 3 of you should go to a gyno appointment and see what treatments you can have for your bad menopause coz it's driving you HYSTerical and deranged.
In Swedish, Ute means “outside” which I think suits her so well. Nothing’s hidden, no lies and deeply connected to nature and the earth. I am not religious myself, even though I do have my own ideas of what god means to me. Weird I know, but also very Swedish. However, my morals and ideas are almost identical to yours. I found it sad that Ute won’t call herself a feminist anymore, and women like her are exactly what that word once stood for, and I wish it would have never been stolen from us, however we know our truth. I also loved Utes talk about what heaven could be, a place in good memory of those who are still alive. I am much younger than Ute, and she will definitely forever live in my memory as the good hearted and caring woman that she is. I wish her all the best.
Theres way more ftm then mtf in my town, its interesting. There were only like a couple I knew of when I was younger, now theres lot's, I used to joke with my friends that this would be the next step to feminism, I still cant quite believe just how fast it took off.
I don't believe you and I can bet you a million dollars that there are more original PS3s that play PS2 games than there are trans people and that's a fact. Btw the PS3 launched in November 2006 and it was fully compatible at first but then that model was discontinued in mid 2007 then there was a later fat model and from that one going forward they were no longer backwards compatible with PS2 games. You have become obsessed with trans people you people make it seem like we are 50% population but in reality there are way more original PS3s than there are trans people.
It was very interesting but I kept waiting for more of the story of her actual experience and maybe an explanation of what AGP (I think that’s the term) is. But I’m knew to even this term. I guess I need to do more research. So did her ex-husband get the surgery to “change” physically. I wanted to hear more of her actual marriage story. Maybe I should read her book. Anyway, I pray for her and especially the reconciliation with her sons.
Its a very debunked theory just so you know and yet you are still sucking Blanchard off and not only that, the man that is behind the scrap of "science" that holds up your beliefs doesn't even agree with you.
Maybe Ute would like “The heavens declare the glory of God. The skies proclaim the work of his hands.” Psalm 19:1 ❤️ I too love all Creation and find my Lord always waiting when I spend time in the quiet of nature. God bless you, ladies. I am new to your channel, and over 60 myself. (Wink) We DO have things to share now.
If a may be allowed to just make an informative comment that might lead to major clarifications for all those involved in this kind of suffering. The most important work one can read on this, these topics are the four books published by Prof. Dr. Robert Stoller on the gender dysforia syndromes. There is some relief in analytic (psychoanalitic) comprehension of the necesary conditions for any genaeology of these sad phenomena. Stoller devoted a life's work trying to understand what had to have gone wrong here. Highly recommended to come to some kind of clear grip on this puzzling suffering of the soul.
52:53 Alas this is where Postmodern Critical Theory and Transhumanism take that line of thought -- Postmodernism: There is no inherent sanctity of form Transhumanism: The body as form is imperfect and incomplete The influence of these schools of thought is so intertwined with "transing" from the 1990s forward that any notion of sanctity or inherent value is moot (as is medical ethics).
This is happening in my family. A feminine leaning cousin, 3 kids, married long-term. A bit of a shy nerd who never felt confident. All of a sudden, he decided he wanted to be a woman; thus, he changed his name and is currently on hormone therapy. They had to move back in with his parents, with three small kids due to a "burnout." All in the name to live his " personal truth. "
He still looks like a man because he's in his 40s. His wife stayed out of sheer desperation to keep the family unit going, taking on a " lesbian" relationship role. Imagine the sheer lunacy and selfisheness to be able to drag your family through such destruction so you can chase your delusional sense of distorted self.
It is risky to stay, as I see in the data on us I'm collecting that these husbands are often engaging in sex outside with men or prostitutes. From the women I've got information on who stayed for 3 or 5 or 10 years, it does them harm, leading to problems of anxiety being held in the body: panic attacks, teeth grinding, muscle spasms, nightmares. I hope she'll find enough help to get him out and start her next chapter.
God Bless those children. Something horribly went wrong and someone should have at least rescued those poor little things.
Exactly!
@@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals Ute, are you on Tik Tok? There’s a trans widow on there that my heart bleeds for. She made a video FINALLY letting out that she misses her husband (she’s a fitness instructor so she tries to be positive , positive & more positive but you can tell she is dying inside) and of course now she has been turned into a lesbian. Meanwhile her husband is so happy, living his best life in his delusion (aided by the affirmations of other trans who see him as a courageous and brave idol). He has boasted on Tik Tok of sleeping with other men, whilst married but that’s all about validating being a woman.
Very selfish thing to do, it is women that have made it so very easy to leave marriages & now a few selfish men who likely have AGP are leaving to "find themselves" & their "personal truth " as women have been doing well. They have a right to do even if they to are destroying family's & marriages because there are no boundaries for women or men to hold them or constrain them to a marriage or relationship. Well done feminists
Thank you for your excellent content. The World needs these conversations.
Thanks so much, Tammy! It was wonderful to revisit our conversation. I now have data on the experiences of 53 trans widows, and counting. May you walk in the light, always. Ute
Good work Ute. I’m looking forward to the results of your questionnaire . Thanks again for joining me in conversation
Yes, our cohort grows, our need for healing ideas must grow equally~@@TammyPetersonPodcast
❤thank you for writing and talking about this❤
Thanks, I hope to gather information on our experiences for the rest of my active life. @@amyc.peters1064
I am a transwidow too and my kids were little. 2 months old and 3 when I discovered what he was doing. This happened in 2020.
Thank you for voicing this!
Around 1:25 Tammy remarks about women dying in childbirth being buried with warriors in one society. I think it was Dr. Peterson who said men go to war and women have babies and in this risking of their lives they ensure there will be a future for their people.
My father cross dresses and was affirmed similarly. He also hid it from everyone. Funny enough i always felt his sexual perversion in that i wanted to always be covered and less feminine around him. Curious how that worked. Thanks for this, will send to my mother x
I'm so sorry for what you went through. There are other women who've experienced the same, though, and I hope you'll find some of their stories on TH-cam.
It's a pity adults won't keep their sh-t away from children. That's the least good they could do.
Thank you for your comment. God bless you and your mother
These men claiming to be women ARE DANGEROUS
I'm sorry you've had to experience that. Your feelings of wanting to cover yourself may well have been instinctively self-protective.
praying rosary everyday keeps me grounded
As a Gay man, God BLESS you both. Tammy I've followed Jordan for years. Its so wonderful to see you WELL and bringing voice to the divine feminine spirit. God- The eternal Spirit of Renewal is present here. Thank you.
@rxdeath I wish people would argue with such intensity to love and care for someone...At least, sometimes.
@@ainarsavotins3659there's no argument, that person is merely stating facts, but most don't like facts and truths...
@@Proverbs--tx6yr Well, you can pick up whatever flowers from the garden you want - fresh or rotten - and make a garland for yourself or others. Will they appreciate it as with the case of @rxdeath who is trying to discriminate and attack some particular part of society.
Also, he getting emotional and already saying words like "So when you refer to "god" your referring to some vague spiritual non-sense?". It implies several things - one thing for sure - he has never had experience of God (nor his love which you would shower upon others) and another using identity of being part of certain religious group (trying to act out as Christian) to attack another part of society (LGBT community). Using knowledge as a pretext to discriminate certain part or group of society.
Isn`t love more important quality of God then knowledge? That`s a good question...
There is no such thing as “the divine feminine spirit”. Good lord, this is the most misogynistic, pseudoscientific nonsense I’ve ever heard. This is nearly as bad as the nonsense the gender crowd talks about. 🙄
I just came across this video. I didn't know there is a community of trans widows. Can't wait to join in since I'm one of them in this marginalized group.
It's a growing community, Ute has done a great deal of work to help survivors find their voices. There are also parents-of, children-of, and siblings-of coming forward with their own stories, trying to find healing.
@@-Stella-Maris- It must be a living hell for these families.
Highly recommend Ute's youtube channel.
It's a fantastic source for a criminally underrepresented group in trans widows. I would warn however that some of the stories are heartbreaking but for that reason it's all the more important that they're listened to.
It's also a fantastic source for a critique of new studies and often the first place I see new studies and articles mentioned. (I regularly see other places pick them up two months later or miss important inconsistencies).
A truly remarkable woman.
@@Helloitsme328 Glad to hear it. 4 months on from this comment and not seen a bad video yet.
My dear UTE, YOU ARE THE SAVING ANGEL FOR THOUSANDS AND THOUSANDS OF WOMEN.🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
I can see how Tammy is the calm listener and Dr. JBP the jumping bean talker in the marriage.
I regard their marriage as monolithic! I've also seen him interview Helen Joyce and Chloe Cole, quite calmly and with well crafted insights.
@@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals 🙂
'Mistaken Identitites' was a profound phrase, Tammy. That's exactly what they are.
The story Ute told about the child who said she wanted to be called by a different name, and how Ute handled it, is worth the entire video.
Do you know the time stamp?
Starts around 57.20
@@deborahanne9793 57:20
I know someone who is divorcing her husband and somewhere in this process, he decided he is a "woman". He has addiction issues. I suspect there is a history of childhood abuse that is arising with this shaken confidence in his manhood. They have two young sons who are caught in this situation. Mental health professionals tied to the courts cannot be trusted to properly assess this to help protect the children from the man's current confusion.
Hi Tammy, as a therapist I know several therapists with common sense and I pray they stay that way. It’s a privilege to know some even if they are few and far between.
oh so you do conversion therapy?
@@babs_babsOh so you do bare-faced lying?
"Conversion therapy" was a terrible practice for homosexuals that is incredibly rare nowadays (particularly outside of the USA) . The name has been appropriated for exploratory therapy, the type most ppl assume would happen in affirmative care but doesn't.
I wonder if you've read about the Dutch protocol and know how many kids in affirmative care are same-sex attracted? You don't think that is more apt for the name "conversion therapy"?
@@robertmarshall2502 “exploration” therapy the way you mean it IS conversion therapy. you are intentionally treating gender incongruence (not gender dysphoria) as the psychological symptom that needs to be cured. you’re trying to change someone’s gender through manipulation and coercion in order to make them fit into your narrow world view.
and you’re citing a well known quack. ffs i’ve been able to publish papers, it’s not that hard to publish bullshit in a journal if you know what you’re doing . find a meta study that supports your bullshit and maybe i’ll believe you
@@robertmarshall2502 THIS 🙌🙌
@@robertmarshall2502 These TRA types engage in forced-teaming with the LGB to create a false sense of (coerced) compliance and artificially inflate their numbers (same as they appropriate DSD's). The bastardization of language is also part of this process... conversion is what they do to gay kids - GC folk are trying to save gay kids them from unnecessary surgeries, hormones, and genital mutilation.
WOW! So struck by the beauty & femininity of these two women.
On the thumbnail, definitely
@@glszq4still more feminine than your husband turned "wife" who will never be feminine, only effeminate at best. your comment is an obvious neg on these women from someone that claims to be oh-so-tolerant based on your other comments. not shocking in the least, par for the course in fact.
It is the natural, aging beauty of the mature and confident woman. There is strength and gentle at the same time in the countenance. There is wisdom in their words, but a desire to listen as well. It is a beauty inside and out. It is true beauty.
Yes. Gratitude.
As a 54 year old woman, I often tell my 28 year old daughter that I wish young women had the confidence of us older women. The world would be a different place! ❤
Go take your estrogen your menopause is showing
I know a woman with 3 children from church who was abandoned by her husband in this way. I think he had the surgeries, too. The sickening thing is that many people "affirmed" him and blamed her! She has supported herself with an online bookstore, St. Joseph's Press.
I heard that he has regretted it, but that it was too late to go back.
Aww I'm sorry that menopause isn't treating you well please get some help and stop blaming trans women for your unattractiveness.
This is my favourite episode so far. Beautiful inspiring women, thank you both 💖
Glad to hear her story. Gardening and praying has gotten me through the most traumatic experiences in my life. Or, I should probably say praying while gardening.
THANKS for confirming this healthy path to healing ❣️
What a courageous woman ❤
I fully agree. I am 65 and I also feel that it is the right time for me to say something. I wrote a big book about art therapy.
Tammy you have such a sweet smile and your entire demeanor says "Tammy is kind person". I love watching and listening to you. Ute has the same kind demeanor and I am so sorry she had to go through this, but it turned her into a wonderful person. God bless you both.
Hey Tammy, I enjoyed this podcast. I typically listen to your husband's podcast a lot and I found this episode to be captivating and nice to listen to. Thank you.
Well 4 kids over 20 years tells you how exceptional it is. Also sometimes kids get exposed to things they shouldn't by their home life.
My heart is breaking for what you've been through, I am estranged from my parents (they abdoned me) so I can relate, both very abusive. I am a mother to 2 teenage sons and this whole ideology is terrifying. I an an ex psychotherapist and I quit it because I couldn't affirm it for anyone. Tammy you are wonderful woman, this is my first time listening to your podcast, I've listened to your fantastic husband and your daughter lots of times ❤
That physical therapies you mentioned, Ute, helped me a lot too to reconnect with my body. It‘s a very important point but is totally neglected in treatment of mental illnesses.
I have heard talk recently that some people want to make changes so that people can only be divorced in the cases of abuse or adultery. Personally I hope they never do that. However, if they do make those changes, one’s spouse changing their gender identity, or their sexual orientation should qualify a person for a divorce.
So happy you had Ute on! Great conversation❤️
I loved hearing this woman’s story. ♥️ Thank you both so much.
I’m only 53 but you’re making me super excited about being over 60! Thanks, gals. And I thought I had a big mouth already. My mouth will be huge by the next decade. :-) and on a very serious note, this was a heartfelt story. Thank you for sharing and being so beautiful.
Don’t be. It’s 5h1t
I mean your mouth is already huge my friend 🤣🤣🤣🤣coz you were waiting for the you know what but then you realized that no one wants to you know what with you.🤣🤣🤣🤣
Just don't let menopause drive you insane and you'll be fine.
How many families are breaking like this for decades is heart-breaking. 😭 May God sees each family with his eternals love and help them to heal. Thank you Tammy. I have started listening Dr. JP a year ago, then your daughter and now I have subscribed your channel too. You are a great family voice. Keep the good work of sharing knowledge objectively in your own way. God bless you all.
Tammy, thank you so much for having Ute on your show. She's a sanity-companion to so many of us.
5:25 For anyone interested, there are (I use the terms with some irony) medical and academic pedigrees for this "science." Here's a core list -- not exhaustive.
*Medicine/Psychiatry*
Havelock Ellis (eugenicist)
Magnus Herschfeld (eugenicist)
John Money
*Sexology*
Alfred Kinsey
Ray Blanchard
Kenneth Zucker
J. Michael Bailey
*Academia*
Michel Foucault
Gayle Rubin
Judith Butler
*Informed Dissent*
Steven B. Levine
Michael Biggs
Miriam Grossman
"Attention is a manifestation of love", so fantastic and something that has been more on my mind in recent weeks... thank you so much for these conversations and sharing so much of what is needed in the world right now - and always.🕯❤
I am in awe of you! Your Divine femininity is beautiful. The way you speak, so much kindness and understanding.
I agree with Tammy's remark re concerns about very young children in childcare. I think one of the parents or extended family caring for the child is absolutely best.
I am a mother who's aspergic son is under the control of a trans person (a man who mistakenly thinks he is a woman). My son no longer speaks to me. I am bereaved. 😢
I am so sorry
I’m sorry your child got caught in this cult 😔
Wow, such a fascinating story. Thanks for the interesting interview.
Appreciated your ‘Hokusain’ introduction Ladies. Thank you for highlighting the unacknowledged suffering of the Wives lost to this insane ideology. You’re a brave and joyous woman Ute.
Thank you both!
Thank you!
@@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals 🩰
Thanks. I never know if I'm going to come off as sensible and linear. Tammy is the best interviewer! Thanks again.@@Terpsichore1
This is like the soft side of the Peterson duo perspective. It's relating to the same current issues the other Peterson often addresses, yet this is from another perspective. Women connecting. Awesome.
1:57:51 Stay away from the multiplicity that is created when you leave God. So well said Tammy Peterson.
...but believe me, this is why children need to know Jesus meek and mild, as well as Jesus who ineased in wisdom and stature and in favour with God and man.
We need guidance and love in these areas as we grow up into adulthood.
What a lovely rapport between these two wise women. Ute, you are brave and gracious ❤
What a brilliant discussion, so important. Ute Heggen was really impressive, I had not heard of her before. As a child I was a bit of a tomboy, musical and creative, and I loved to play soccer and cricket in the back garden, play with toy soldiers, knights and archers in a castle, train sets, toy cars etc. But I also loved teddy bears, dinosaurs, animals, and any art materials for drawing or painting etc. Today someone would probably be trying to convince me that I was really a boy trapped in a girl's body. I do have a more male brain in some ways and my ability to play jazz on more than one instrument, including improvisation, is quite unusual in a woman. But I grew up very much a heterosexual woman. Sadly my own age group of men showed no interest in me, I had more success with older men, most often foreign or with some strong foreign connection eg my Jewish boyfriend David. He ditched me after a few months but we stayed good friends up until his untimely death from lung cancer at the age of 39. The fact that I have never been married or had children does not mean that I am really a man hidden within a woman. I shudder to think what is going on in schools now, here in the UK children as young as nine years old are being told about transgenderism, pansexualism and more besides, this is happening in Church of England primary schools too. To their great credit, Muslims and Orthodox Jews push back hard against this collective insanity. Many children can see through it, and even satirise it, as I would have done if I were a child now. However, many are being confused and upset by what is going on. These young people have been badly let down by those adults who have brought in this gender identity madness. At some point in the future, when they have reached more influential positions within society, there is going to be a terrible backlash. They will want to take their revenge on someone or some thing. Incidentally, I am told that at the local secondary school, the gender neutral toilet that was introduced a few years ago, is used as place for kissing and cuddling between heterosexual teenagers. So perhaps there is some hope still !
Tammy you have such a tender way of speaking, you do indeed have wisdom of women and life❤️
This was the best episode! We need to have more of these kind of conversations ❤️
The "mistaken identity" story of Sarah wanting to be called Steve (:55-1:05 minutes) is a wonderful recollection with a happy outcome for Sarah. Imagine if her too-busy-for-Sarah lawyer mother faced that dilemma today...what a nightmare...for not just Sarah, but all her kin and all her school chums and all the people outside her immediate circle FORCED TO CALL HER STEVE!!!
Excellent job in child psychology, Uta! Thank you on behalf of Sarah...and all the others in her life spared a nightmarish scenario but for your simple questions and much-needed attention properly placed.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you ladies for this great episode ❤️ Much love Ute xx
Tammy, thank you! it is a delight to hear the interviews you have with other women! Truh femininity and maternity! it is healing for us women in the western world, how are just to seeing only feminists in the public… I never had the gut to go with feminisam ( I am 48). So this is amazing. in Love and pray with you both. And dear Tammy, we are praying for your catechumenat… We whant to you wellcome HOME in prayer. Love from Medjugorje!
These women fill me with the joy of the next chapters in my own life. Beautiful women with wisdom. Thank you, thank you both.
I mean they fill me up with joy and laughter when they tell their fake and pathetic stories and also how they weaponize actual widow's pain to hate other people and spread bigotry. These are attention seekers and they are only making fools of themselves.
I'm thinking the closet is the a good place for people to keep their weirdnessses.
Yes, and please please do not involve others and children. Shame shame shame. Go get some help.Please.
@@maryrankin9869 Who are you shaming? Not sure you understood my comment. I don't need any help on this front. Perverts, however, do.
Lovely to hear from you Ute.
With the woman coming into her power, her confidence can be intimidating for a man who does not know himself.
What a lovely heartfelt conversation between two lovely graceful women. ❤
What a disgusting man you married... I am so sorry for what you are going through/went through... I know people like this all too well... It is despicable... And you are so worthy, such a wonderful person.... I am sorry but your children are awful too at this stage for not seeing this and being on your side...
Thank you Tammy for interviewing Ute. Happy to see you and your family having peaked. God bless you!
No one is peaking at you especially with what is dry crusty and smelling down there absolutely tf not. 🤣🤣🤣
Bringing back the wisdom of the Elders (in comparison to that of those in their twenties at least!) ❤✨❤
Great conversation. Thank you.
God give strength to all family members and people hurt by the trans movement
The story of Sarah the little kindergartener Ute told brought me to tears - that to me is the gospel of Jesus Christ in action - lovingly patiently helping her giving all the positive attention while standing firmly in the truth - Ute was placed there on that little girls path like a guardian angel to help her I see that clearly ❤ I pray to God we can all be useful in His ways like this especially to children
Great to see Mrs Peterson looking so well. God bless you from Ireland ❤
What an insightful interview. Thank you so much, Ladies. ❤️
Ute is a remarkable patient , and responsible woman, educator and mother. What more could she have done? Nothing.
I was glued to her story.
I feel desperation as my daughter and her husband have allowed, by all appearances, puberty blockers to my 15 year old granddaughter after she became friends with two school mates when she got to high school who were long time friends and kind of befriended her. She is a shy kid and is not bold, and is quite suggestionable.
I’m not allowed to speak and I keep even keeled as possible.
She, my granddaughter had no defence against these two best mates who have adopted the gender fluidity idea.
Dear God I pray for awareness of these traps.
I am so sorry to hear about your granddaughter. I hope she finds her way. I will pray for you and your granddaughter
Your daughter may have been threatened with the lie that *her* daughter would commit soo icide if she didn’t get the hormones. Many parents get terrorized into doing things they know are bad, then they have to use cognitive dissonance to maintain their decision
Traps? What are these traps that you speak of? A person who is allowed to be exactly how they feel? Who is to say what a single individual can be allowed to express. Freedom of self? Question that and then question your faith, because there is no reason in the world you should bring hate into your heart due to a reason one single person makes in regard to their own life. You know, it's like abortion....I don't condone it, I wish it wouldn't happen, but I understand the reasons why it does. My son is gay, he had no choice in that, it's just who he is. I have Transgender friends, is it their fault that they feel to be the opposite gender they were born? They didn't ask to be born the way they were, and now they receive hate, just like gays and lesbians and queer thinking individuals. Non Binary, that is fantastic! If that is what you believe, and if you don't believe in basic humanity, which is what this is, then you're holding yourself up to a higher position and that is self righteous and self serving and should not be connected to any faith or religion.
This was an amazing interview.
My sister gets mad at me because I’m 60 now and I speak the truth that’s all I love the freedom and Mrs. Peterson I think you guys are amazing
I so wish your sons knew the truth about Neddy's lying and the effort you made to give your sons a good childhood.
As they come to know God they will see the difference between lying and truth.
New info for them is the man who wanted stepfather role with them is now dealing with a sarcoma cancer diagnosis. I will let them know. I wonder if their brainwashing or their shame will prevent them from supporting their mother in her second great grief.
@@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals Ute, I am praying that God will cause circumstances to change that will cause them to realize the truth.
Wow Ute and Tammy podcast ❤️❤️❤️. Thank you both so much what you do
Thank you both ❤
"Contrived affirmation" is a really astute term.
I'm looking forward to her next book!
Glad to hear this today. Helps put my own losses in perspective.
WOW!!! Excellent show ❣️🙏🙌🕊️🤍
Why did I just find you?? ❤ I admire you as well.
Incredible interview. Thank you
Wow thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed to find and hear today 🙌🏼 God is good. I have so many commonalities with Ute, But not quite as bad, as it’s my son / middle child with the cross sex ideation, and my 2 daughters that affirm him. They have disrespected and rejected me, but we are not fully estranged (yet) … because I’m about to go public speaking out against this and I suspected it will turn them completely against me, but I can’t be quite any longer! Too many people are being harmed.
Tammy this is all about foundation and formation. Unfortunately mothers do play a big part in childrens lives during the first 4 years and/but fatherhood is essential too but more so after. I am not big on these trans terms. Just my thoughts. I am in my 60's and have done a fair share of work and study in this department. God Bless Ute and her sons. Hope everyone heals.
These are pre-heaven conversations.
I like that Ute was able to rise up at the Judges chambers, though she perseveres in a way that is remarkable. The love God loves us with is like that.
I take issue with the phrase "unfortunately mothers", but I still love you.
In sisterhood from a transwidow. I appreciate what you are saying.
I can tell that Tammy has been treat so well by her husband. She doesn't have a single frown line on her face, her femininity is in tact. I believe that the sacred feminine disolves when women are not cherished.
Tammy also talks alot about her food intake impacting her health and physical appearance
Excellent talk.
I can tell you are a really good teacher ❤
Stop gender ideology!
Stop your bigoted ideology
My cousin husband is now a "woman" she is devastated, the ex husband who I know from college was always a man's man, I can't understand what happened
@@amateur_football9751 honey trans people exist you can't stop it from happening and for your now wife to come out as trans in the current bigotry of hate for us trans people she is incredibly brave so with that much live and healing to you. Transitioning is hard ok its HARDER to transition from MALE TO FEMALE especially if they are doin it much later in life with all the male characteristics already there.
I have the same story after 10 years of marriage
Me as well 😢I am so sorry this happened to you
Oh dear, such a tragic story. Interesting how many parallells there are to stories of physical abuse as well of those that were in a relationship with someone with narcissistic personality disorder. Seems to me that we should be cautious of these dangerous men and not pity them for being confused! Actually, when I have watched videos of ”transwomen” (Blaire White & others) the give away is a special kind of aggression no matter how well they ”pass” in looks.
Also, an interesting story on how to survive, come through the turmoil and find natural happiness again ❣️🌹
It's domination, they're men domineering a space, they can't help it. I think it's sheer hubris that a man can think he's able understand a woman's inner workings enough to become one. I see them for what they are, hyper effeminate homosexuals.
Beautiful, interesting and intelligent women ❤
A never ending progression....living past 70...then 80....and more...🙄....always full of introspective surprises we discover....(some harder to face/swallow, than others)....Family disconnects, moving apart from each other on such divisive matters does indeed scramble your deep innards...As for your experience with conversion...regardless of any religion for that matter, trust in the source of all..." Shu " required that all day and everyday we looked into our own hearts, discovered what caused us pain, and then refrained, under all circumstances, from inflicting that distress upon other people. It demanded that people no longer put themselves into a special, separate category, but constantly related their own experience to that of others."...."Happy Trails....!!!
I was never for the licentiousness part of liberalism. And liberalism always likes that space that courts Evil with glee. I've always felt like I've had to protect my individuality from Liberals. Isn't that funny and strange?
So powerful!
Ute talked about the child in her class needing attention. I wonder how much the loss of attention is contributing to children not identifying with their body or born gender. With most families not having a stay at home parent and most of us addicted to our phones, are kids getting the attention they need to build a strong sense of self?
…or getting the wrong kind of attention. Mature men act this out.
Another way to put lack of attention is called neglect. The groomers look for that child. The only antidote to this that I can see is giving the child attention, but insightful attention that is consistent where the child can walk away, but come back when they need more help.
Sy Rogers spoke at a church I was attending. He was a gentle, magnificent, speaker spoke from his heart. unfortunately, he died at age 63 )a couple years ago ) He was president of Exodus international an organization promoting conversation therapy.. His writings and utube educational videos are amazing and loving. I think the sad part is the young people that are being influenced. Some young people wanting to detransition . Some are sad and I hope not depressed…….they are & were so very vulnerable. ❤️🙏
That was awesome. I want to have lunch with these two ladies.
maybe the 3 of you should go to a gyno appointment and see what treatments you can have for your bad menopause coz it's driving you HYSTerical and deranged.
In Swedish, Ute means “outside” which I think suits her so well. Nothing’s hidden, no lies and deeply connected to nature and the earth. I am not religious myself, even though I do have my own ideas of what god means to me. Weird I know, but also very Swedish. However, my morals and ideas are almost identical to yours. I found it sad that Ute won’t call herself a feminist anymore, and women like her are exactly what that word once stood for, and I wish it would have never been stolen from us, however we know our truth. I also loved Utes talk about what heaven could be, a place in good memory of those who are still alive. I am much younger than Ute, and she will definitely forever live in my memory as the good hearted and caring woman that she is. I wish her all the best.
I think its grand that she doesent do it. I dont either anymore - that ideology has been broken.
You must interpret all of this sexu confusion in light of the phenomenal increase in pornography at younger & younger ages.
❤ed this thank you!
Theres way more ftm then mtf in my town, its interesting. There were only like a couple I knew of when I was younger, now theres lot's, I used to joke with my friends that this would be the next step to feminism, I still cant quite believe just how fast it took off.
I don't believe you and I can bet you a million dollars that there are more original PS3s that play PS2 games than there are trans people and that's a fact. Btw the PS3 launched in November 2006 and it was fully compatible at first but then that model was discontinued in mid 2007 then there was a later fat model and from that one going forward they were no longer backwards compatible with PS2 games. You have become obsessed with trans people you people make it seem like we are 50% population but in reality there are way more original PS3s than there are trans people.
It was very interesting but I kept waiting for more of the story of her actual experience and maybe an explanation of what AGP (I think that’s the term) is. But I’m knew to even this term. I guess I need to do more research. So did her ex-husband get the surgery to “change” physically. I wanted to hear more of her actual marriage story. Maybe I should read her book. Anyway, I pray for her and especially the reconciliation with her sons.
Its a very debunked theory just so you know and yet you are still sucking Blanchard off and not only that, the man that is behind the scrap of "science" that holds up your beliefs doesn't even agree with you.
Maybe Ute would like “The heavens declare the glory of God. The skies proclaim the work of his hands.” Psalm 19:1 ❤️ I too love all Creation and find my Lord always waiting when I spend time in the quiet of nature. God bless you, ladies. I am new to your channel, and over 60 myself. (Wink) We DO have things to share now.
Tammy, you are absolutely the best!!!
If a may be allowed to just make an informative comment that might lead to major clarifications for all those involved in this kind of suffering. The most important work one can read on this, these topics are the four books published by Prof. Dr. Robert Stoller on the gender dysforia syndromes. There is some relief in analytic (psychoanalitic) comprehension of the necesary conditions for any genaeology of these sad phenomena. Stoller devoted a life's work trying to understand what had to have gone wrong here. Highly recommended to come to some kind of clear grip on this puzzling suffering of the soul.
52:53 Alas this is where Postmodern Critical Theory and Transhumanism take that line of thought --
Postmodernism: There is no inherent sanctity of form
Transhumanism: The body as form is imperfect and incomplete
The influence of these schools of thought is so intertwined with "transing" from the 1990s forward that any notion of sanctity or inherent value is moot (as is medical ethics).
These ideas are luciferian -- rejection and distortion of God's creation and natural order.
Okay, did the mother's role in cross-dresser's psych ever get told? I was really hoping for the answer.
If you mean in Ute's story, she's spoken elsewhere about the father having been abusive. I believe she also gives details in her book.