It happened to me recently, I tried to be polite and greet her friend , it felt so awkward until around 7 minutes into the date I told her I will be right back…I got in my ride and drove off , she never seen or heard from me again 🤷🏾
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Ladies, if you feel the need to bring a friend on a date which takes place in public at a nice restaurant......DON"T GO! Just stay home or just go out with your friend. Leave him alone so he can find another adult woman who will deal with him one on one.....like most normal people. And if you are doing this because of past experiences, again.....DON"T GO. It's too bad you had a bad experience but others should NOT have to pay for it. Just wait until you are mentally over it then try again.
I find it particularly distasteful and rude if she shows up with a friend(s) and expect me to fit the bill for ALL of them. If I wanted an audience, I would've asked for one. I asked to meet with just her because I am interested in only her. If she asks me beforehand is a little more respectful. Now if she feels insecure and wants to validate me thru her friends then they can do that WITHOUT expecting a free meal. Lol ijs thats how I currently feel about it. It isn't about whether or not we can afford it as men. I feel like it all comes down to this thing called respect and courtesy.
If she tries to bring someone else, the date is over. Leave her where she stands. Reason #1 If she is insecure and feels unsafe, this means that her fear is stronger than her desire for you, charge her to the game. Reason #2 If she had a previous bad experience and is not willing to risk facing her fears to get to know you, this also means that her fear is stronger than her interest in you, so you charge her to the game. Reason #3 If she has already expressed she doesn't like you that much, don't waste your time trying to make her like you. Charge her to the game and move on. STOP WASTING TIME WITH LOW INTEREST FEMALES!! Reason #4 If she is really that shy, it is not your job to get her to open up to you. Stop wasting your time, and find a well adjusted mentally healthy woman that is attracted to you. If you want to learn more about not wasting your time with dating come check out some of my videos. Thank you Jessica Os.
I completely reject all those reasons. Jess if you don't like me or if you don't feel comfy with me, then you got no biz going out with me in the first place. The only logical response here is to reject the suggestion completely. To hell with her feelings, I also have mine. On the other hand, I could accept and check out the buddy and if I like her, go for her in full gear
In a situation like that I would ask her if it’s ok if i bring a friend my friend can keep her friend occupied while I get to spend some time with her that’s my approach to that type of situation that way her friend went feel like the 3rd wheel if that makes sense
It happened to me with 1 woman multiple times...craziest part is the friend would pick up my tab sometimes and I would pick up hers others...I ended up liking the friend way more sorry I didn't keep in touch
If she informs me I might accept to pay the bills but if she didn't inform me before bringing her friends along with her I will walk away because only gold diggers will bring her friends along on a date without informing the guy just to rip from where they did not sow.
I had a woman try that nonsense with me once even though I made it a point to Tell her I want to take her on an actual date. She brought her friend on the date with her. I was like if you didn't feel safe coming on a date with me alone and why didn't you say something. At that point I said separate checks and left. She then got an attitude when she tried to text me later on. I was like if you didn't feel safe and you bought your friend and how come your friend wasn't pulling recon on the side or something. I wasn't born yesterday.
It happened to me on a second date. The girl told me she'll on the date with a friend of her who is a boy. And he'll pay for his bill. I just cancelled the date saying that we should have another date. Since then, i didn'y call her back
The main reason: SHE DOESN’T LIKE YOU THAT MUCH. (If she would, then she could easily surpass her shyness, fear and bad experience). The only solution: MOVE ON.
If she comes along with her friends without first clearing that out with me, i will deliberately engage and focus my attention on one of the gang members. Maybe she won't repeat same tomorrow either with me or any other guy. Thank you for always educating us about the other gender for free. Much love Jessica, from Nigeria.
Firstly thanks for this video it really makes alot of sense and bring more light into why things happen. Personally I don't feel comfortable when a girl brings her friend on a date because of many reasons. Some of which are distractions, makes me loose focus on why I invited her on a date trying to entertain her friends also. But then I get why it may happen and now how a clearer understanding on how to handle the situation if it happens again. Thanks to you.
It has never happened to me on the date, but two girls have told me that they wanna bring friends along. First girl, I declined and she agreed to meet up with me only and the date went pretty decent. Second girl, I declined as well and she hasn't replied yet as I'm writing this comment lmao. In my opinion, yes girls can have bad experiences in dating apps that lead them to wanting to bring a friend along but let's be real, if she's a grownup, what does it say about her? That she's shy and has no control over her anxiety, do you really wanna connect with a girl like that? It's up to you, but personally that is a red flag. Just be honest that you don't fancy the idea, and she will either adjust to your plan or go away.
Thank you Jessica really for raising this topic and this was one of my experience during my first date and to tell you the truth i was not comfortable and happy during that moment when she brought her friends
Thumb up Jessica for your work, marvelous really. To me, it has happened. I only did my best to let her enjoy that moment but I could not go extra mile because I want her Friends to enjoy too. We all enjoyed what I program for two of us then later I explained to her on phone that I wasn't expecting her coming with her friends
Even if the woman is shy, bringing non-invited people is just rude and tacky. If she is that shy, she should COMMUNICATE that, and engage in more talking before venturing out on a date. Dates are for getting to know each other. An uninvited '3rd wheel' won't help that. As for the girl who decides to go on a date that she doesn't really want to, AND brings friends, if he is still sitting there after that happens, he's a fool. C'mon, really? You're disrespected in that manner and you put up with it? Then you get what you deserve. I think he should just walk out b4 ordering. My belief is that, if someone brings an uninvited friend on a date, there's no romantic interest at all, and you should call it a wrap. Now, if he allows it, it's on him. Ba-da-bing! Ba-da-boom!
Again, I will add you ANOTHER reason why she might come with a friend: she doesn't trust HERSELF with the man. She gets turned on just by the thought of the guy and she knows if the guy makes the smallest move, she's gonna sleep with gim and she thinks it's not the right time to do that just yet.
Get out!!! If she brings her friends walk away and find Someone else. The whole point is to get to know her How are you going to do that with all that blocking Going on. This goes unsaid.
So i cut off with her. She just asked for two to three times what happened & i said nothing. Now no more texting from yesterday till now. I'm still in patience but don't know what will happen now. Just asking what to do now
It just happened to me today. I asked my crush to a public event, and she was keen to come. However, two days out she asked another guy to come too. This other guy is a person she always wants to bring to events I make plans for. I make plans to meet at 9am... she says she will see. By some coincidence, the time she arrives, which is 11:30am just so happens to be the same time as the other guy to meet up. The other guy brings his friends along too. I left the event. I feel nothing. I don't need a woman (my crush included) playing an unfair game where the rules pertain that she is in control of who wins or loses. I don't mind "the chase", but if that "chase" WASTES MY TIME; it's simply not worth it . My advice to the men in similar situations is... Yes, we must chase. But if it comes at a cost of your time, personal goals and self-care. Step back... re-evaluate your worth and use the experience for the next one
Anything lost can be found again except for time wasted! If she does this move on! Communication is vital! That's why you talk on the phone to gauge her mood. Ask her what she likes or don't like. Tell her you're willing to meet up with her to put her mind at ease. I'm dating you not them however I'm willing to do Poly lifestyle😂. I had a lady do this to me once and I ghosted her and her sister!💯
Am Echee. I like your program. I have been in that shoe before. I met a lady but she wants her two friends to follow us go and eat. Right away , the date was off. If i knew her long before this time, no problem. But the first time. I know she wants me to go and spend. Going out is off😅. When she calls me to go with her alone, my interest was gone. All reasons you gave were correctl
This just happened to me. She brought her sister to the date without telling me. I've told her that I've been going through a bit of a rough financial patch and had won movie tickets from work so I wasn't planning on spending any money so now I had to buy her sister a movie ticket by transferring money from my credit card, the whole thing was so awkward. 😢 I don't even know how to feel about the whole thing.
I have had this once.... I got no warning and first off although I really didn't feel a way about it until my date expected me to pay for her and the friends 🙃 things....And that upset me....
I actually havent seen befiore another coach talk about that. es i experienced that. all scenarious: 1) she suggests to bring her friends on the date 2) she says too late before the date begins that her friends will come 3) she tells druting the date that her friends will come 4) she doesnt tell at all. It is disrespectful and unomfortable. The thing is she doesnt care enough to act decently.
If she's an adult (18+) and you're meeting in a well known, very public establishment, she has zero need to bring along a friend. If she had a previous bad experience and needs a babysitter then she should go get some therapy (we all need it to deal w trauma) before trying to start dating again. If you ask a chick out and she declines due to something else but doesn't suggest an alternative day/time for a date, don't contact her again. Is pointless.
I can understand the world being a harsh place and she wanted to bring her friend for security issues but the problem with that is it would just be awkward especially if you want to get this girl to really open up and it would be kind of weird for me to open up to her friend because I don’t wanna share a personal thoughts with someone I don’t knowespecially her friend
Well thank you for always giving us guidance, but I have a question about a girl I like but she keeps on telling me she wants to know me more first, can you tell me what she's up to
If she tells me of her friends and give her reason I see no prob, and if her mind is to waste my money that day I will keep her on a penalty table(pay part of the bill). But if she brings her friends without telling me I will embarrass her by keeping them there and leave
When a girl shows up with a friend or asks to bring one... I might be into her but its a red flag to me. The girl is just playing games. 1) She's not into me. 2) She just wants a free meal. 3) She cares about her friend more than she does about getting to know me. As a guy I am just not going to put in the effort. I might stick out the date and ghost her or ignore her going forward if I can't afford to sacrifice the social capital. If I can I might go to the bathroom and keep going... out the door to my car and back home. My advice to girls who are concerned about creepers, or for what ever reason need a "nanny" on a date: 1) If your confidence is that low, and you need a friend to help you break out of your shell, go on a casual midday coffee date first. let him take you out but have a phase two in mind that you invite him out to if things are going well. It could be latter that after noon or on a different day. Or if the date is not going well, after about an hour go your own way while the sun is still shining with the rest or your day to do as you please. Also, the cool thing is you can "meet for coffee" as often as it takes to work up the confidence and security to go out after dark. 2) If you need to have a "nanny" (again, for what ever reason) but are into the guy suggest a date to an outing with a mixed group of people, but not a house party. Think more a dinner or barbecue. An outing to the park, or an event, or some other casual event with few obligations or expectations. And let your friends know that you want to get to know the guy so they can keep a watch... but, from the other side of the room without interrupting. Set up a sign if you need them to mix into the conversation to make some space for you. 3) Never surprise a guy with a third wheel. From a guys perspective that is disrespectful. Despite your reasons (legitimate or otherwise) what we "hear" and "see" are, "you don't mind paying for my friend's dinner while she and I talk and chat about things you have no context or insider knowledge about? No? Great lets order the expensive items on the menu! Oh, and just so you know I will be asking her opinion about you just as soon as the date is over to see if you are worthy of my time. I have asked her to rate you!" Instead of being on a date the guy ends up being the third wheel on your outing with your friend. 4) Turn your perspective around. Bringing a friend to a date is a serious red flag. It shows the guy that your not really interested, you don't respect him, are only interested about what you can get from him, and you value your friends more than actually getting to know the guy. Or at least not interested enough to invest the time into him. Its like friend-zoning the guy you while on the date with him. If you're not into him tell the guy, tell him. Simply, and in as few words as necessary. Don't go on a date to not hurt his feelings instead of turning him down. In the long term guys value cut and dry honesty over playing games or social pity. Put your self in the his seat. How would you feel if a guy you really wanted to get to know turned up to a date with one of his friends to a date. How would you feel? Would you want to invest more time and energy into the guy? Would you go a 2nd date with the guy?
This seems much normal these days. I personally don't mind it. I always figured women do this because maybe they feel uncomfortable and want someone with them. Plus what if you and that person don't vibe? Maybe you might vibe better with the friend. It's cool with with me I've had good experiences with this but sometimes you get the 'buddy hustlers' who come along for a free meal and want to run up the bill
I understand paying for the woman on a one on one date, but if she brings friends, or room mates along, i'm 100% not paying for them. I'd be a sucker for her maybe but not for a crowd.
Thats crazy this is being justified , if you dont feel safe or “shy” Dont go. Yeah the world is becoming unsafe day by. Day but bringing a friend to a date is a sign of disrespect
I have had this happen to me with 2 different women and it is an extra obstacle. The 1st time it happened the woman turned out to be very sneaky.. My current situation she always brings her guy buddy. He drives her everywhere and lives near her. I think she might be spoiled and a user even though she buys him drinks. She actually bought us both drinks. She is divorced and has all these male friends. She is a coworker so that makes it more complicated
Hello thanks for the good work,I need your advice I want my girl to fall in love with me again but everytime I talk about it, she becomes annoyed, she doesn't want to settle this matter but am in deep love with her.i don't know what to do
Lesbian dating as well - safety concern. Also, a date bringing a friend or tens of friends could also you/me/they in a compromised position, even if you do set a boundary - I'll pay for your dinner and mine, but not your friends'. Finally, whatever her apprehensions are are her problems. She should live and be well, but we're on a date, and I'm not her therapist.
I got it when you say the insecurity but if you're meeting them at a public place there is no reason to have a friend be there she can get up and leave whenever she needs to I just think it's extremely disrespectful if I find a date that does that once like a double date I'm okay with that but if it happens a second time to me that's a deal-breaker how can you ever get to know a date if you keep bringing friends along
Not watched your video yet just watching, but my first reaction is who cares if she brings her friends then just have fun with the girls, and if you want to go on a date just the 2 of you, just say great meeting your friends but would you like to go somewhere just the 2 of us ? The movies maybe, what's the problem
Well i feel awkward if am going out with u and u show up with ur friends.u said it all but to my own experience too I think (1) she might be a player,so she will not want to go out with u alone,y bcus she can defend herself, she went out with a group of friends,so will never dance, drink or move around so that people who knows her dnt see her.give her a close eye watch u will realize she's gonna dodge someone telling u she don't want that person to see her..(2)they always avoid going places with u, crowded place especially.. if she's that type of lady's/guys who thinks they go out with better ones than you..(3)they give u unnecessary excuse they won't go out with you... bcuz they have some set of people like themself who understands them either a male or female who knows what they do as a player.if the partying thing will be in 5mintues time n all their friends who does the same thing like them r gonna be around, they will definitely show up too.. And bliv u me they will be the happiest person amongst all..
I just wish women would straight up tell me they’re interested but I want to bring my friend(s) cause I don’t want to run into these situations over and over. If they bring random friends and I don’t pay their bills, as a man i feel like I’m not adequate enough to support her financially. I’d rather spoil her going to another restaurant just for dessert. But me paying for friends too cuts back on how much I can spoil. When girls do that I feel like men want to attempt less dates with women.
physical beauty shouldn't be a reason for choosing a spouse because we are in an era in which people carry out enlargement because they perceived that the opposite gender prefers them big and sexy For those seeking life partners one should look out for disagreements, issues, conflicts, sins, and misunderstandings, conflicts reveal the strength or resilience of a person. Disagreements or misunderstandings reveal the way a person thinks.
When i was in high school a girl i asked to take to t h e movies brought like 10 friends with her. She wanted me as a backup plan. Something i would never allow. I must be a woman's first choice.
I would consider that a meet-and-greet more than a date. Find out before you set the time and space for an evaluative encounter versus an individual outing.💯👆
Hi Jessica. I have been living in London and I have been watching your videos and I found them captivating. Yes, that happened to me when I met a woman and every time we would go out she invited her friends. At beginning I was not worried about that but as time got along I started thinking why on earth she wants to bring her friends into our date. I never asked her the reason but I have always support her idea and respectful with her. Thank you for your video as always amazing, and have a nice evening.
Hey never had that experience so will not be able to answer. Went on dates before and they were comfortable with us alone but to say she not comfortable or bringing a friend etc never had that
@JessicaOS This is why men never take dating advice from women. First off there are so many thing that can go wrong with everything you said. you are right about one thing, If shes not insterested in you , then the date will be an epic fail anyway. Now to answer your question it has happened to me and all I did was leave ,,I do not have time for games and I will not have my time wasted or punished for something someone else did. People like her will Die Alone
It happened to me recently, I tried to be polite and greet her friend , it felt so awkward until around 7 minutes into the date I told her I will be right back…I got in my ride and drove off , she never seen or heard from me again 🤷🏾
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Lets be honest bringing a friend for an exclusive date is disrespectful.
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Ladies, if you feel the need to bring a friend on a date which takes place in public at a nice restaurant......DON"T GO! Just stay home or just go out with your friend. Leave him alone so he can find another adult woman who will deal with him one on one.....like most normal people. And if you are doing this because of past experiences, again.....DON"T GO. It's too bad you had a bad experience but others should NOT have to pay for it. Just wait until you are mentally over it then try again.
Jessica what can we all do without you?...Nothing!... Thank you for always coming through.... You are indeed the goddess of this temple... Thank you🤗
Your channel has really changed and shaped me as a person, much love from Kenya.
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Yea, amenisaidia sana especially in my social life✔️✔️
I find it particularly distasteful and rude if she shows up with a friend(s) and expect me to fit the bill for ALL of them. If I wanted an audience, I would've asked for one. I asked to meet with just her because I am interested in only her. If she asks me beforehand is a little more respectful. Now if she feels insecure and wants to validate me thru her friends then they can do that WITHOUT expecting a free meal. Lol ijs thats how I currently feel about it. It isn't about whether or not we can afford it as men. I feel like it all comes down to this thing called respect and courtesy.
If she tries to bring someone else, the date is over. Leave her where she stands. Reason #1 If she is insecure and feels unsafe, this means that her fear is stronger than her desire for you, charge her to the game. Reason #2 If she had a previous bad experience and is not willing to risk facing her fears to get to know you, this also means that her fear is stronger than her interest in you, so you charge her to the game. Reason #3 If she has already expressed she doesn't like you that much, don't waste your time trying to make her like you. Charge her to the game and move on. STOP WASTING TIME WITH LOW INTEREST FEMALES!! Reason #4 If she is really that shy, it is not your job to get her to open up to you. Stop wasting your time, and find a well adjusted mentally healthy woman that is attracted to you. If you want to learn more about not wasting your time with dating come check out some of my videos. Thank you Jessica Os.
If she bring a friend it’s no longer a date. It’s a group hangout
I completely reject all those reasons. Jess if you don't like me or if you don't feel comfy with me, then you got no biz going out with me in the first place. The only logical response here is to reject the suggestion completely. To hell with her feelings, I also have mine. On the other hand, I could accept and check out the buddy and if I like her, go for her in full gear
In a situation like that I would ask her if it’s ok if i bring a friend my friend can keep her friend occupied while I get to spend some time with her that’s my approach to that type of situation that way her friend went feel like the 3rd wheel if that makes sense
Always learning something new....thanks Jessica.
More love from Kenya
It happened to me with 1 woman multiple times...craziest part is the friend would pick up my tab sometimes and I would pick up hers others...I ended up liking the friend way more sorry I didn't keep in touch
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If she informs me I might accept to pay the bills but if she didn't inform me before bringing her friends along with her I will walk away because only gold diggers will bring her friends along on a date without informing the guy just to rip from where they did not sow.
I had a woman try that nonsense with me once even though I made it a point to Tell her I want to take her on an actual date. She brought her friend on the date with her. I was like if you didn't feel safe coming on a date with me alone and why didn't you say something. At that point I said separate checks and left. She then got an attitude when she tried to text me later on. I was like if you didn't feel safe and you bought your friend and how come your friend wasn't pulling recon on the side or something. I wasn't born yesterday.
It happened to me on a second date.
The girl told me she'll on the date with a friend of her who is a boy. And he'll pay for his bill.
I just cancelled the date saying that we should have another date.
Since then, i didn'y call her back
First to comment Jessica.... you're simply the best
The main reason: SHE DOESN’T LIKE YOU THAT MUCH. (If she would, then she could easily surpass her shyness, fear and bad experience). The only solution: MOVE ON.
Jessica 👏❤️.. always with contents worth watching 🤩.
If she comes along with her friends without first clearing that out with me, i will deliberately engage and focus my attention on one of the gang members. Maybe she won't repeat same tomorrow either with me or any other guy.
Thank you for always educating us about the other gender for free.
Much love Jessica, from Nigeria.
She might equally want her friends to assist her check you out. Her friends must either commend, or condemn you once they return home.
@Teddy no. Listen to Jessica again.
Firstly thanks for this video it really makes alot of sense and bring more light into why things happen. Personally I don't feel comfortable when a girl brings her friend on a date because of many reasons. Some of which are distractions, makes me loose focus on why I invited her on a date trying to entertain her friends also. But then I get why it may happen and now how a clearer understanding on how to handle the situation if it happens again. Thanks to you.
You did a good job here Jessica. Thanks
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It has never happened to me on the date, but two girls have told me that they wanna bring friends along. First girl, I declined and she agreed to meet up with me only and the date went pretty decent. Second girl, I declined as well and she hasn't replied yet as I'm writing this comment lmao. In my opinion, yes girls can have bad experiences in dating apps that lead them to wanting to bring a friend along but let's be real, if she's a grownup, what does it say about her? That she's shy and has no control over her anxiety, do you really wanna connect with a girl like that? It's up to you, but personally that is a red flag. Just be honest that you don't fancy the idea, and she will either adjust to your plan or go away.
You actually got the points covered.👍
Any woman who brings her friends on a date is a red flag.
I have no experience of this situation but will come back to comment when I get the experience.
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Thank you Jessica really for raising this topic and this was one of my experience during my first date and to tell you the truth i was not comfortable and happy during that moment when she brought her friends
Be jovial, make your order, let them make theirs. Settle your bill. Leave them to the own devices.
Thumb up Jessica for your work, marvelous really. To me, it has happened. I only did my best to let her enjoy that moment but I could not go extra mile because I want her Friends to enjoy too. We all enjoyed what I program for two of us then later I explained to her on phone that I wasn't expecting her coming with her friends
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Even if the woman is shy, bringing non-invited people is just rude and tacky. If she is that shy, she should COMMUNICATE that, and engage in more talking before venturing out on a date. Dates are for getting to know each other. An uninvited '3rd wheel' won't help that.
As for the girl who decides to go on a date that she doesn't really want to, AND brings friends, if he is still sitting there after that happens, he's a fool. C'mon, really? You're disrespected in that manner and you put up with it? Then you get what you deserve. I think he should just walk out b4 ordering.
My belief is that, if someone brings an uninvited friend on a date, there's no romantic interest at all, and you should call it a wrap. Now, if he allows it, it's on him. Ba-da-bing! Ba-da-boom!
Hi Jessica? I really love the way i have been going through changes because of you 😊😊 i salute you.
Are you from Kenya?
Again, I will add you ANOTHER reason why she might come with a friend: she doesn't trust HERSELF with the man. She gets turned on just by the thought of the guy and she knows if the guy makes the smallest move, she's gonna sleep with gim and she thinks it's not the right time to do that just yet.
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Get out!!! If she brings her friends walk away and find
Someone else. The whole point is to get to know her
How are you going to do that with all that blocking
Going on. This goes unsaid.
So i cut off with her. She just asked for two to three times what happened & i said nothing. Now no more texting from yesterday till now. I'm still in patience but don't know what will happen now. Just asking what to do now
Even on the other side of life I'll be watching your videos.... Nice one
It just happened to me today. I asked my crush to a public event, and she was keen to come. However, two days out she asked another guy to come too. This other guy is a person she always wants to bring to events I make plans for.
I make plans to meet at 9am... she says she will see. By some coincidence, the time she arrives, which is 11:30am just so happens to be the same time as the other guy to meet up. The other guy brings his friends along too.
I left the event. I feel nothing. I don't need a woman (my crush included) playing an unfair game where the rules pertain that she is in control of who wins or loses. I don't mind "the chase", but if that "chase" WASTES MY TIME; it's simply not worth it .
My advice to the men in similar situations is... Yes, we must chase. But if it comes at a cost of your time, personal goals and self-care. Step back... re-evaluate your worth and use the experience for the next one
Anything lost can be found again except for time wasted! If she does this move on! Communication is vital! That's why you talk on the phone to gauge her mood. Ask her what she likes or don't like. Tell her you're willing to meet up with her to put her mind at ease. I'm dating you not them however I'm willing to do Poly lifestyle😂. I had a lady do this to me once and I ghosted her and her sister!💯
Hi Jessica, this just happened to me, I even froze, Just had to pretend.
Thanks for the insight bigger up.
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I love your vids, always on point.
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Am Echee. I like your program. I have been in that shoe before. I met a lady but she wants her two friends to follow us go and eat. Right away , the date was off. If i knew her long before this time, no problem. But the first time. I know she wants me to go and spend. Going out is off😅. When she calls me to go with her alone, my interest was gone. All reasons you gave were correctl
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Wow still growing strong 630k sub you kind of give me hope that hardwork kind of pay off.
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Oh that Date over at that point
This just happened to me. She brought her sister to the date without telling me. I've told her that I've been going through a bit of a rough financial patch and had won movie tickets from work so I wasn't planning on spending any money so now I had to buy her sister a movie ticket by transferring money from my credit card, the whole thing was so awkward. 😢 I don't even know how to feel about the whole thing.
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My mom told me about this. She explained that is an opportunity to freeload. It has never happened to me, but I think I would walk away.
I have had this once.... I got no warning and first off although I really didn't feel a way about it until my date expected me to pay for her and the friends 🙃 things....And that upset me....
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I actually havent seen befiore another coach talk about that. es i experienced that. all scenarious: 1) she suggests to bring her friends on the date 2) she says too late before the date begins that her friends will come 3) she tells druting the date that her friends will come 4) she doesnt tell at all. It is disrespectful and unomfortable. The thing is she doesnt care enough to act decently.
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I feel like they are being very disrespectful if they show up with a friend without telling me ahead of time
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If she's an adult (18+) and you're meeting in a well known, very public establishment, she has zero need to bring along a friend.
If she had a previous bad experience and needs a babysitter then she should go get some therapy (we all need it to deal w trauma) before trying to start dating again.
If you ask a chick out and she declines due to something else but doesn't suggest an alternative day/time for a date, don't contact her again. Is pointless.
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😂my friend said the same thing!! If she doesn’t suggest another day/time then forget it
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I can understand the world being a harsh place and she wanted to bring her friend for security issues but the problem with that is it would just be awkward especially if you want to get this girl to really open up and it would be kind of weird for me to open up to her friend because I don’t wanna share a personal thoughts with someone I don’t knowespecially her friend
Well thank you for always giving us guidance, but I have a question about a girl I like but she keeps on telling me she wants to know me more first, can you tell me what she's up to
Amazing content jessica
Atleast they should tell the man before surprising him with such tin
If she shows up with her friend, then I'll make it a date for two☺...there's big room enough for love☺☺☺
If she tells me of her friends and give her reason I see no prob, and if her mind is to waste my money that day I will keep her on a penalty table(pay part of the bill). But if she brings her friends without telling me I will embarrass her by keeping them there and leave
When a girl shows up with a friend or asks to bring one... I might be into her but its a red flag to me. The girl is just playing games. 1) She's not into me. 2) She just wants a free meal. 3) She cares about her friend more than she does about getting to know me. As a guy I am just not going to put in the effort. I might stick out the date and ghost her or ignore her going forward if I can't afford to sacrifice the social capital. If I can I might go to the bathroom and keep going... out the door to my car and back home.
My advice to girls who are concerned about creepers, or for what ever reason need a "nanny" on a date:
1) If your confidence is that low, and you need a friend to help you break out of your shell, go on a casual midday coffee date first. let him take you out but have a phase two in mind that you invite him out to if things are going well. It could be latter that after noon or on a different day. Or if the date is not going well, after about an hour go your own way while the sun is still shining with the rest or your day to do as you please. Also, the cool thing is you can "meet for coffee" as often as it takes to work up the confidence and security to go out after dark.
2) If you need to have a "nanny" (again, for what ever reason) but are into the guy suggest a date to an outing with a mixed group of people, but not a house party. Think more a dinner or barbecue. An outing to the park, or an event, or some other casual event with few obligations or expectations. And let your friends know that you want to get to know the guy so they can keep a watch... but, from the other side of the room without interrupting. Set up a sign if you need them to mix into the conversation to make some space for you.
3) Never surprise a guy with a third wheel. From a guys perspective that is disrespectful. Despite your reasons (legitimate or otherwise) what we "hear" and "see" are, "you don't mind paying for my friend's dinner while she and I talk and chat about things you have no context or insider knowledge about? No? Great lets order the expensive items on the menu! Oh, and just so you know I will be asking her opinion about you just as soon as the date is over to see if you are worthy of my time. I have asked her to rate you!" Instead of being on a date the guy ends up being the third wheel on your outing with your friend.
4) Turn your perspective around. Bringing a friend to a date is a serious red flag. It shows the guy that your not really interested, you don't respect him, are only interested about what you can get from him, and you value your friends more than actually getting to know the guy. Or at least not interested enough to invest the time into him. Its like friend-zoning the guy you while on the date with him. If you're not into him tell the guy, tell him. Simply, and in as few words as necessary. Don't go on a date to not hurt his feelings instead of turning him down. In the long term guys value cut and dry honesty over playing games or social pity.
Put your self in the his seat. How would you feel if a guy you really wanted to get to know turned up to a date with one of his friends to a date. How would you feel? Would you want to invest more time and energy into the guy? Would you go a 2nd date with the guy?
This seems much normal these days. I personally don't mind it. I always figured women do this because maybe they feel uncomfortable and want someone with them. Plus what if you and that person don't vibe? Maybe you might vibe better with the friend. It's cool with with me I've had good experiences with this but sometimes you get the 'buddy hustlers' who come along for a free meal and want to run up the bill
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I feel another way is to ask her before hand if she is coming with a +1 and discuss abt it .
if some psychotic girl not capable to come on date alone, she is probably not capable for good relationship.
I understand paying for the woman on a one on one date, but if she brings friends, or room mates along, i'm 100% not paying for them. I'd be a sucker for her maybe but not for a crowd.
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If she bring her friends then I am not paying😌😌😌😌😌
Yes, happens more often than you think! Happened to me😶😳
Thats crazy this is being justified , if you dont feel safe or “shy” Dont go. Yeah the world is becoming unsafe day by. Day but bringing a friend to a date is a sign of disrespect
I have had this happen to me with 2 different women and it is an extra obstacle. The 1st time it happened the woman turned out to be
very sneaky.. My current situation she always brings her guy buddy. He drives her everywhere and lives near her. I think she might be spoiled and a user even though she buys him drinks. She actually bought us both drinks. She is divorced and has all these male friends. She is a coworker so that makes it more complicated
Hello thanks for the good work,I need your advice I want my girl to fall in love with me again but everytime I talk about it, she becomes annoyed, she doesn't want to settle this matter but am in deep love with her.i don't know what to do
Lesbian dating as well - safety concern. Also, a date bringing a friend or tens of friends could also you/me/they in a compromised position, even if you do set a boundary - I'll pay for your dinner and mine, but not your friends'. Finally, whatever her apprehensions are are her problems. She should live and be well, but we're on a date, and I'm not her therapist.
Wow this helps
I got it when you say the insecurity but if you're meeting them at a public place there is no reason to have a friend be there she can get up and leave whenever she needs to I just think it's extremely disrespectful if I find a date that does that once like a double date I'm okay with that but if it happens a second time to me that's a deal-breaker how can you ever get to know a date if you keep bringing friends along
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Not watched your video yet just watching, but my first reaction is who cares if she brings her friends then just have fun with the girls, and if you want to go on a date just the 2 of you, just say great meeting your friends but would you like to go somewhere just the 2 of us ? The movies maybe, what's the problem
Well i feel awkward if am going out with u and u show up with ur friends.u said it all but to my own experience too I think (1) she might be a player,so she will not want to go out with u alone,y bcus she can defend herself, she went out with a group of friends,so will never dance, drink or move around so that people who knows her dnt see her.give her a close eye watch u will realize she's gonna dodge someone telling u she don't want that person to see her..(2)they always avoid going places with u, crowded place especially.. if she's that type of lady's/guys who thinks they go out with better ones than you..(3)they give u unnecessary excuse they won't go out with you... bcuz they have some set of people like themself who understands them either a male or female who knows what they do as a player.if the partying thing will be in 5mintues time n all their friends who does the same thing like them r gonna be around, they will definitely show up too.. And bliv u me they will be the happiest person amongst all..
I just wish women would straight up tell me they’re interested but I want to bring my friend(s) cause I don’t want to run into these situations over and over.
If they bring random friends and I don’t pay their bills, as a man i feel like I’m not adequate enough to support her financially.
I’d rather spoil her going to another restaurant just for dessert. But me paying for friends too cuts back on how much I can spoil. When girls do that I feel like men want to attempt less dates with women.
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For those seeking life partners one should look out for disagreements, issues, conflicts, sins, and misunderstandings, conflicts reveal the strength or resilience of a person. Disagreements or misunderstandings reveal the way a person thinks.
When i was in high school a girl i asked to take to t h e movies brought like 10 friends with her. She wanted me as a backup plan. Something i would never allow. I must be a woman's first choice.
I would consider that a meet-and-greet more than a date. Find out before you set the time and space for an evaluative encounter versus an individual outing.💯👆
Once I gave the friend the attention. No go zone for me. Simplito.
Hi Jessica. I have been living in London and I have been watching your videos and I found them captivating. Yes, that happened to me when I met a woman and every time we would go out she invited her friends. At beginning I was not worried about that but as time got along I started thinking why on earth she wants to bring her friends into our date. I never asked her the reason but I have always support her idea and respectful with her. Thank you for your video as always amazing, and have a nice evening.
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Is it the same thing if your gf wants to invite her friends together with me on a trip and i just want to be with her?
Hey never had that experience so will not be able to answer.
Went on dates before and they were comfortable with us alone but to say she not comfortable or bringing a friend etc never had that
I've never experienced such, I'm still 💯 single
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NO FRISNDS ARE REQUIRED. MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE AND BRING YOUR OWN CARS.... GROWN up need only apply
I would Walk away if she brings her friends on a date
If she is not interested, its better to break up.
Other point maybe she loves you sana and she needs to confess to her friends
@JessicaOS This is why men never take dating advice from women. First off there are so many thing that can go wrong with everything you said. you are right about one thing, If shes not insterested in you , then the date will be an epic fail anyway. Now to answer your question it has happened to me and all I did was leave ,,I do not have time for games and I will not have my time wasted or punished for something someone else did. People like her will Die Alone