So you're advising poor communications, and responding to game-playing with game-playing? If you want a genuine connection, wouldn't it make more sense to talk with her about why she seems to be pulling away? There are many potential reasons. It's very presumptive to assume that it's game-playing (a test).
No. Im advising that when a woman STOPS communicating and tests you by pulling away, she WANTS you to give her the space. I can tell you are inexperienced with women… because ALL ALL ALL WOMEN test
Thanks for your take on this. I'd be interested to hear your response to some thoughts I've written below. I think it's important to recognise that people do sometimes pull away in romantic interactions/ relations, which your theory points out. There can be a lot of different reasons for this, however, outside of it being a test. For this reason, your catch-all advice to pull away harder i think is misguided. Considering reasons people create distance sometimes: Firstly, life gets busy and a person's focus can shift - the excitement of a new relationship can't stay forever and real life responsibilities have to be addressed. We all also experience emotional ups and downs and how we feel about outselves and this naturally affects how we feel about others; if someone for example feels low they might create distance because they feel less atttactive at that time. As a consequence of these natural fluctuations, a woman or man (this applies to men too imo) then sees how you react when they are doing their own thing/ addressing their needs. And yeah i agree with you that it can definitely be offputting if you feel someone is encroaching on space you've tried to create, hence the feeling of repulsion you mention. It can feel like an invasion. In contrast to this, you suggest pulling away is done as a conscious (or perhaps subconscious) test. I suspect it more likely happens as a natural consequence of life. That being said some people may do this sort of thing as a test. Some people do play games. Respectfully I would challenge your advice to pull away harder because then you're inviting and encouraging game playing, which is arguably somewhat disingenuous and a barrier to true connection, which requires honesty. Additionally, if you feel someone pulling away, you don't know why theyre pulling away. Maybe theyre having a hard time that is separate to anything you're involved with e.g. at work or with their family. For you to then pull away harder in response to distance they create amounts to you taking something personally that may have little to do with you. It's almost a form of narcissism to assume that the way someone is acting must be due to their feelings about you. That being said, I agree with you that trying harder to close the distance theyve created is the wrong track. We have to allow space for people to come closer and pull away, to experience their own ups and downs without somehow trying to correct that. Ultimately i think relating to someone comes down to being attuned to one another and holding a kind space.
@@dan.gibson.dating a girl pulling away from you is not a test or anything, she is just bored of you and tried to hide it, so once u pull away silently too she is gonna go most likely be with another man who looks more masculine, and the only reasons she gonna get back if you pull away too or ghost her or something are not good, it's something like she got bored of the other guy or the other guy dumps her so she comes back to mess around with u again for some time while you think she recognized your worth or something, when a girl acts cold u should be a masculine man and tell her to cut this BS and not disappear or try to chase her like a weak one, if that doesn't help then just change her, never wait for anyone
Absolutely true. She did this to me, once. I pulled back harder (and I wasn't bluffing), then got the "I'm so sorry" message the day after.
Literally shows men should never chase only chase their goals
@Ethyro life purpose first, women second. But no reason to not have women.
So you're advising poor communications, and responding to game-playing with game-playing?
If you want a genuine connection, wouldn't it make more sense to talk with her about why she seems to be pulling away? There are many potential reasons. It's very presumptive to assume that it's game-playing (a test).
No. Im advising that when a woman STOPS communicating and tests you by pulling away, she WANTS you to give her the space. I can tell you are inexperienced with women… because ALL ALL ALL WOMEN test
Thanks for your take on this. I'd be interested to hear your response to some thoughts I've written below.
I think it's important to recognise that people do sometimes pull away in romantic interactions/ relations, which your theory points out. There can be a lot of different reasons for this, however, outside of it being a test. For this reason, your catch-all advice to pull away harder i think is misguided.
Considering reasons people create distance sometimes: Firstly, life gets busy and a person's focus can shift - the excitement of a new relationship can't stay forever and real life responsibilities have to be addressed. We all also experience emotional ups and downs and how we feel about outselves and this naturally affects how we feel about others; if someone for example feels low they might create distance because they feel less atttactive at that time. As a consequence of these natural fluctuations, a woman or man (this applies to men too imo) then sees how you react when they are doing their own thing/ addressing their needs. And yeah i agree with you that it can definitely be offputting if you feel someone is encroaching on space you've tried to create, hence the feeling of repulsion you mention. It can feel like an invasion. In contrast to this, you suggest pulling away is done as a conscious (or perhaps subconscious) test. I suspect it more likely happens as a natural consequence of life. That being said some people may do this sort of thing as a test. Some people do play games.
Respectfully I would challenge your advice to pull away harder because then you're inviting and encouraging game playing, which is arguably somewhat disingenuous and a barrier to true connection, which requires honesty. Additionally, if you feel someone pulling away, you don't know why theyre pulling away. Maybe theyre having a hard time that is separate to anything you're involved with e.g. at work or with their family. For you to then pull away harder in response to distance they create amounts to you taking something personally that may have little to do with you. It's almost a form of narcissism to assume that the way someone is acting must be due to their feelings about you.
That being said, I agree with you that trying harder to close the distance theyve created is the wrong track. We have to allow space for people to come closer and pull away, to experience their own ups and downs without somehow trying to correct that.
Ultimately i think relating to someone comes down to being attuned to one another and holding a kind space.
Wrong theory
We can tell who lacks experience with women here…
@@dan.gibson.dating a girl pulling away from you is not a test or anything, she is just bored of you and tried to hide it, so once u pull away silently too she is gonna go most likely be with another man who looks more masculine, and the only reasons she gonna get back if you pull away too or ghost her or something are not good, it's something like she got bored of the other guy or the other guy dumps her so she comes back to mess around with u again for some time while you think she recognized your worth or something, when a girl acts cold u should be a masculine man and tell her to cut this BS and not disappear or try to chase her like a weak one, if that doesn't help then just change her, never wait for anyone
@AimeneDjebaili bro, i can tell you have basically zero experience with women… so i’m not gonna discuss this
@@dan.gibson.dating well I'm not the one that women get bored of here, it's not like i didn't try your (strategy) before