Great advice! Thank you! A number ten might be…that I’ve witnessed a lot with some friends…is “Don’t become a raging feminist”…where the woman refuses to let the guy do anything nice or gentlemanly for her and accuses him of thinking she can’t do things for herself. It really puts a guy down, from small issues like opening a door or car door for a woman, only to get the response “I can do this myself”…or….tit-for-tat, where she might sulkily or self righteously say “ well if you’re going out with the boys then I’m going out with the girls”…as though she only arranges to see her friends because he is seeing his friends….
Women-never do this for you men 1. Do NOT become the female version of him. 2. Do NOT hide/down play your intellect. 3. Do NOT become mom 2.0! 4. Do NOT put your dream on hold. 5. Stop avoiding conflict. 6. Do NOT fully rely on him financially. 7. Do NOT excuse his behavior. 8. Do NOT isolate yourself from your personal circle. 9. Avoid uncomfortable intimacy. Bonus: never send him naked pictures!!
1. Most of us women can't be the female version of him, because, he's acting like a girl. 3. No matter how much you try to be his lover, he will take his mom issues out on you. 6. I don't know any woman who can fully rely on him financially...Nor, would want to...except lazy, entitled dummies. 9. There has to be intimacy for it to be uncomfortable and avoided. Bonus: Only a moron, needs to learn this. Send him a fake of body parts...Kim K, JHo, etc. ? Sebastian Soto, please school the masses on this.🤷🏾♀
#4. I put my life on hold for him. Married for 28 years, followed him around the country for his job. I had to keep starting over while he got transferred and promoted. Then when he finally started resenting me, I had to get a lawyer through the divorce because he was only going to allow me a third of our assets because I only made two-thirds of what he did. And after 28 years of marriage, I had to learn to buy a car, do household repairs, all the stuff that I, as "the little woman" wasn't allowed to do. After divorce, I bought a car, bought a house, finished two more college degrees. Moved across the country, spent time volunteering overseas... The first half of my life was lived for other people. I'm living the second half of my life for me.
@@0906blueYes. A lot of divorcées end up in poverty. The system should be fair. I don’t like it when I see men getting soaked in their divorces, either. Remember that your value does not come from worldly values. Your Heavenly Father loves you. Work hard and He will make up for your husband’s lack. Bless you.
I have a boyfriend, he's great, we love eachother. Recently we're facing an issue. I want to move to US to get a nursing phd and make more money, and he wants to move to another country and become a dentist. Our plans don't align. I don't know what to do. I'm so confused and frustrated
@@Ivana_piranha I know a grown boy of 37, who cannot even boil an egg, and expects to be waited on, hand and foot. Unfortunately, he has obviously been enabled to do this all his life. He won’t even wash a pair of underpants, or a shirt if he needs it in a hurry. He definitely will not wash his own cup, or plate. He dumps it with half eaten food, on the sink, and expects someone to clean up after him. I am actually surprised, he can even go to the toilet by himself, or even wipe himself without assistance.
My wife and I married right out high school and this year make 33 years. We have similar like but we have dislikes as well. We agree , we have disagreements. It’s about balance and compromise. Marriage isn’t easy but, it’s not impossible. A good marriage is a beautiful blessing.
I hit all 9 of these in my marriage … and he not only had zero respect but he became very cruel to me and walked out on me & our daughter… he’s my ex husband and I’m an ex people pleaser
People can’t respect doormats. No offense. I dated one once and he was pathetic. He just wanted to make me happy. What about his happiness? You can’t exist solely for someone else. It will never work. It was ok at first. Then it just got on my nerves.
It's really simple ladies. Respect yourself. Love yourself. You don't have to have a "man". Be who you are, do what you like, and if you meet someone you like, and he can't handle you being you, that's his problem. Single is best.
My first impulse about your video was not to like it. However, I made myself listen to you. I ended up agreeing with a lot of what you were saying. There are so many arrogant and disrespectful men out there doing videos on how to abuse women. I'm glad you are not one of them.
As a retired pastor I can say, right on bro. I have seen so many couples in trouble because they did not follow your list. And your recommendations apply to both parties in the relationship, not just the women. Good advice.
A Christian woman...date for marriage. Be modest, be honest, be straightforward, and be in control of yourself. Save yourself for marriage, get to know who you're with.
Wouldn't buy a car without a test drive or buy a house sight unseen. You need to know what you're getting into. "Save" yourself for marriage is some of the most harmful advice an adult can give.
No need for disagreement to be a “ FIGHT “ … I’m so glad how you explained that one at the end. It’s so scary and hurtful to have a man fully yelling at you.
@cassandraknight8804 The amount of times iv been told my husband screaming profanities at me and insulting and calling me names in front of my kids was my fault (usually in different words but that was the point) bc I had a "bad attitude" or bc I'm "hard to handel" bc of my mental health disorders, or even bc "he's stressed" is insane iv even been told that it's OK bc "everyone looses their temper" even though it's a multiple times a week occurance. Society today literally teaches men that screaming and throwing fits is normal and it's sadly the women who try to love them who pay for it.
@@katelyncourtright866 He is targeting any weak spots in your self esteem ( we all have them) sometimes I’m not even sure they realise they’re doing it, it seems to come so disgusting naturally to them… SELFISH.. your to blame for all his feelings he is struggling to process, didn’t you know that? So he has very low emotional intelligence and low ability to regulate his tantrums… can’t seem to sort out his own values and worth….. and again it’s all your fault, hey your even doing it to HIS kids. I know tHIS type well … If you have the resources and or support, run and lawyer up fast. If not know he cannot destroy who and what you truly are…. And what he feels you are- BETTER THAN HIM!! what they fear and believe.. they create.
Interesting video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
@@LindaD.Rowland you might want to rethink if you want to directly write the name of a person that you don't wish harm in a youtube comment section. especially if she's working in a highly frowned-upon field like spirituality. people can be so cruel and just need a name to google the person and ruin her life just because they feel like trolling today.
I know you're probably in the denial stage of grieving. But if she's not reciprocating you need to respect that and try to focus more on detaching. When my ex was contacting me, desperately wanting me back, a year after I left him - it was very unsettling because I did not feel the same way and he couldn't see it. I had blocked him on social media and changed numbers. But he created another account to contact me. I had moved on. You don't want to end up with a restraining order out on you. I know that's harsh but you have to face reality.
Primero: Acepta qué tu relación ya sé terminó, acepta qué todo en la vida tiene un final, no puedes seguir negando una situación qué llegó a su fin. Vive tu luto, romper una relación sea corta ó larga, se asemeja parecido cuando un ser querido ha fallecido, así permite vivir tu dolor, llorar és la mejor terapia para liberar emociones, no minimices tus emociones. Tómate tu tiempo. Trata de salir a lugares nuevos, viaja, conoce nuevas personas, aprende un deporte. Evite los lugares donde frecuentaba salir con tu ex - pareja, al menos mientras viviendo tu luto. Recuerda: Amor qué se deba mendigar no és amor, és falta de dignidad. Deja de insistir donde ya te dijeron que No. Aprenda a trabajar sus apegos emocionales, cultive su amor propio, aprenda a disfrutarse usted mismo, quiérete mucho. No corras detrás de alguien qué ya no quiere caminar junto a ti, aprende del contacto cero, cero llamadas, cero redes sociales de ésa persona, cero WhatsApp, etc!! Por tu salud mental. No hay mejor maestra que la soledad y aprender a estar solo 🙌 sino aprendes a estar solo, difícilmente podrás estar con alguien. Entre más insistas en perseguir alguien, más lo alejas, qué tu ex - pareja, algún día retome la comunicación NO quiere decir qué regresen. Recuerda: No persigas las mariposas, deja qué las mariposas lleguen a ti 🦋 Un Mago ó Hechicero no va hacer qué regrese tu ex pareja, si ni tu mismo te amas. Tu eres tu propio hechicero, trabaja tu magia interna a tu favor. Aprende del rechazo, hazlo tú aliado. Y recuerda: Tu estás en primer lugar.
Relationship is built on accepting and respecting the differences in each other. Learning about each other and enjoying each other's company. Laugh, talk, discuss subjects, ask for each other's support. Work hard together. Play hard together. Have a good argument and agree to disagree. It's not about winning. Wear what you feel comfortable in. See your friends and family when ever you want. Study as you wish. That is how you stay together and thrive.
A financially independent woman gets a double edged sword. Men definitely feel relieved through actions if the woman doesn't spend his money. In fact when a woman makes her own money, men hardly take care of them but if asked he'll say she doesn't make me feel needed, doesn't let me provide. These are regular guys I'm talking about not the toxic ones. The discrepancies in how they feel and what they say will always remain a major contributor to failed relationships or miscommunication. Most of my friends are males and I've often seen these discrepancies. Perhaps I've gotten to know them too well that they've kinda lost their charm to me but I love them as friends.... hardly any drama and almost always a very breezy and great hangout! ❤
Ismael, what could it imply if a man is not willing to communicate openly about intimacy? I'm the type of person who'd talk about it to see what we're both comfortable with. I absolutely agree with you on all these points, Ismael. I can't stand immature behaviour and recently have stopped playing dumb and agreeing with everything that a partner says. Life is too short to not go after your dreams!
Have been married 60 yrs. Realized after video, I made mistakes. My parents divorced when I was 9. My dad was everything and he left me, mother and sister. I thought pleasing a man would keep him from leaving me. I lost myself and should have demanded more from my marriage. Never have been left alone and not sure how I will adjust. We have a beautiful family, due to many sacrafices. Prayers everyday
I'm not saying that I'm 'Ms. Perfect', but I would never have been comfortable not being myself. It would have been the other way around. And, if a man is not in it for the same reason I am, loses interest, or disrespects me, I'd be SO gone. I taught my 2 sons early on that when it comes to relationships and marriage, you can NOT have love with OUT Respect. I read a great explanation of respect that has stayed with me: 'One husband said that receiving respect from his most intimate friend, his wife, reduces his fear of failure and being inadequate....it is like wind in my sails.'❤
ISMAEL, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. I ALWAYS STAY TRUE TO WHO I AM. I AM WHO I AM, & IF ITS NOT LIKED THEY CAN KEEP IT MOVING. WHAT THEY MAYNOT APPRECIATE ANOTHER CAN & WILL!
I never change my plans for a man. If he’s trying to get a date at the last minute I assume that he was waiting to make sure something better wasn’t going down. I do have one exception. I planned to cut down a tree after work & my guy friend wanted to take me go dinner so I said yes bcz he offered to help me cut it down. We took care of my tree & then we went out to dinner.
I don’t think it’s that women become a sponge, it’s that we are mirrors and multipliers. So often if we love someone or they mean a lot to us, we will mirror them in many aspects. So I think it’s important to understand there is a balance we must keep in that
I think that's true of everyone to a point. We seem to mirror the people we love and admire in subtle ways. God made men and women different in obvious ways, but in ways to balance each other out. Thank heaven for men. He knew what He was doing!
I used to watch my love addict cousin morph into her partners. She would even dress as they did, take on their interests , beliefs, values, friends and troubles...their ENEMIES even.... Money...sure , 50 grand, live with me right away, no problem, Ignore my famiky , sure. She would disappear and his girlfirend was left in her place . Took me into contra independence , absolutely . I deprogrammed and have been single since widowed .
@childearth4039 I whole-heartily agree! Mr. Gomez understands how women should treat themselves better than a lot of women know how to treat themselves.
I am amazed at your advice. I have daughters that are 23 and I’m going to share one of your videos with them! This is good news for today’s young ladies! You speak with a calm and reassuring voice of wisdom!
I confess I thought this was going to be another one of those arrogant videos where a guy tells women how they need to behave and what they need to give and give up to have a chance with guys. But this is right on. All us female oldsters can vouch fir this advice.
Omg I’m sad to say I have done most of these (except the naked selfies) … but never will I again! Thank you for such a helpful insightful video! Especially starting to like the same football team, doing too much wife chores at girlfriend prices, enjoying being around his family more than my own, I did so much for him thinking he’d value me more but he actually valued me less and I valued myself less. Now that we broke up after trying to date long distance for a year I now realized he was an avoidant attachment and I’m an anxious attachment, I have been on a journey to healing and working on giving all that love, time and energy I gave to him back to myself. Thank you for this reminder to just be me!
Regarding #6 How sad for that woman who can’t rely on her man. A Man who will take care of her and protect her from the evil in the world. I’ve seen that women who don’t rely on a men are much more mannish (because they have to be.)They become less feminine and less attractive. What’s happened to “my hero” and “my knight in shining armor”? Sad..😔
Number one had to be the most surprising!😮 I genuinely cannot recall any other male coach who has given his female audience such crucial piece of advice. Not being into the same hobbies or interests as my man is still an insecurity of mine but I’m so glad that I’m hearing something so reassuring from another male. There truly is beauty & excitement in other people’s differences. This is why I love your channel Ismael 🎉 You give great wisdom that is not heard enough for your audience 🙏🏻☮️
A man will respect you most if you are just confident about being you. Men and women will always have different hobbies and interests. It's pretty crucial that they do have some separate time. You eventually live together and share so many things, that it's good to have some separate interests. Some women just lose themselves in a man. This can be compounded when they have kids.
Two things, first, the doing what he is interested in stuff, that's what magazines tell us from the time we're 12. 'How to keep a guy...find out what he likes and like it too'. Second, us French people, we swear in French. 'Pardon my language' would be better. It's like saying, pardon my Italian, or pardon my German...and then swearing in English. Doesn't make sense, feel free to tell your friends. Totaly agree with everything else you said, 67 years younge female here. One thing to add, don't dress provocatively, he already knows you've got boobs.
My husband and I had a rift the other day, talking about having a landline (that he doesn't want to have) I said yes, we are keeping it, and if you have a problem with that, WE are going to have a problem. And he didn't say a word. We are good together, we have been married 37 years♡
Sharing nude photos can actually be quite dangerous for BOTH people. Guys, unless you've seen her physical ID, y'all have absolutely no way of knowing if she really is 18. I've known of younger men who have gotten caught up in a ton of legal trouble-not b/c they are predators, but b/c they were legal adults and didn't know that the girl they're trading pix with lied about her age until her parents found out and called the law.
Worse yet are those adult people, male and female, who trade images with adult partners, then when the relationship goes south, the images go online. I know so many people to whom that has happened. Just don't send the images and do not allow any to be taken.
Just be you. Pleasing him will make you lose yourself. The saddest part is when he says “you changed” because he miss the old you how he met you first.
Great suggestions. I did all of those things and am married to the same man for 30 years and still going strong. Nothing is totally perfect but we always work things out.
Never be the first to cook dinner. Let him be excited to cook for you. Oh and don't help. Be the guest. Later much later...then you can cook if you want.
Yes. Women need to receive more. He’ll disrespect you if you start running after him from early on. Only once you’re sure of him and know he is willing to invest in you then you can cook ❤
Wow. That was so interesting. I can thankfully say I don't do most of those things. I have always spoken my mind and I truly believe if you don't have respect for the person you're with you can't love them. For me my respect is very important. Your video has validated my thought process and I am so grateful for it. You always make things so clear and provide great examples which are relatable. Thank you😊
There's a difference between watching a movie with him because you want to spend time with him and acting like it's your favorite movie. I didn't really enjoy the Pirates of the Caribbean movies. But, my husband did. So I watched them. But, he'd come home from work, find me watching a movie and would watch it with me. It HAS to work both ways.
Such good advice, and should really be taken into account, when in a relationship, especially the ‘mommy’ one! Some guys never grow up, and expect everything to be done for them. I have seen it over and over again.
Hi Ismael, I am guilty of doing some of these. I have a problem with #5 Because my previous relationship was very abusive when he didn't get what he wanted. Thank you so much for being here to teach us what you know. Your videos are wonderful.
Wish we had had the internet years ago. I’m 73 and have learned more about relationships than I did in a 34 year marriage!! Hope the younger ladies see your video and put your advice to work!!
You should couch more men to be like you. Genuinely a healthy, good and a wise masculine man ❤️ It is truly joyful to see that men like you exist and are guiding others to the better
I am happily married for 50 years, we decided a few things when we got married. I am not his mother, I am his wife. The door is open, if he wants to leave, then he goes and takes everything that belongs to him including all children in the marriage. I carried the children, gave birth, sat nights with them, I have done my share, so if he wants a new life, he takes them. I don't want his house, cars, money or anything that belongs to him if he leaves. He is still here, adores me and still seems happy.
Reminds me of a couple in my neighborhood when I was a child. Both parents seemed to do all they could to avoid each other. I learned later that their marriage was really over; but when husband filed for divorce, his wife said he HAD to take primary custody of the children. He wanted her to take them. There being no agreement, the judge refused to grant them a divorce! LoL
I never have sex with a man until I’m in love with him. Sex never makes a person love who you are, but it is important to meet your partners sex needs in a marriage!
i had a touch of healthy skepticism before watching (never seen You before so unsure if You could be trusted). but You have integrity. thank You for giving excellent advice.
Ismael really hits the nail of my failed relationships on the head. The mistakes he mentions are utterly ingrained in me. Were I to be myself and follow my own dreams, I'd be a completely different person. This is partly my own failures, but also a great deal down to the fact that we still live in a male-dominated society in which men are served more than women, so men can afford to say to their womenfolk - 'it's my way or the highway', and go their own way. In this circumstance, to be oneself and do one's own things leads the woman to being on her own.
You are absolutely correct with all your recommendations. I divorced the man I tried to make happy simply because I understood why he was cold (mother issues transference/insecurity from his parent's awful marriage & parental skills & his personal escapism with drug & alcohol abuse & more.) He hid this from me for years.
If you’re in a relationship rn and relate to these things, you’ll probably end up denying everything. I was exactly like that, but after we broke up, it felt so freeing. It felt like I can socialize more, I can just sit back and spawn into someone’s life, someone who can make more of an effort. I’m still his friend, and honestly we both need to figure ourselves out. Before you look for a relationship or socialize more, just please look for new long lasting friends rather than a partner, and think about what you want out of life in general.
Thank you so much 😢😢..now I know I knew nothing about men😢😢..your vdos hopefully help me move on with peace knowing I had been a dark neglecting place...thank you so much...❤
Not sure how this video popped up for me, since I'm 68 and have been married for almost 30 years, but...ladies, this man knows what he is talking about. Women always seem to undervalue themselves, and girls, I learned this the hard way. Listen to what this man has to say.
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
i have been in such a situation. i love my woman and unfortunately we separated about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
This came up in my feed for whatever reason, so I thought I’d check it out. I listened, and as someone who’s been married for decades, it came to me I wish someone would’ve told me these things while I was looking for a lifelong partner. But I also bet unmarried people are probably going to dismiss this good advice so they aren’t alone or for their own personal reasoning.
Let me appreciate you first.I found all of the points so accurate because I have lived this way since two decades and this really works although it becomes quite difficult to maintain your identity sometimes when the other person is too dominating and controlling.Listening to this felt like going back in time.Saw your video for the first and subscribed already.Thank you and keep it up.👍
How your thinking develops depends on the type of society you live in. If the society promotes porn and sex in the name of open thoughts and children become addicted since childhood, then the people of the society are at fault.
When my husband and I started dating, we would talk about for instance, capital punishment. I'm totally for capitol punishment , he wasn't. So our compromise was, to stand on opposite side and " throw stone" , not literally, at each other but we knew were were going home together at the end of the night. This is how we settled our stuff. We are married and have been for 25 years. And that's not saying that we don't disagree we do, but we both know that at the end of the night, we were still going to be there for each other.
Everything you said is so true.. I had a terrible home life and all I wanted was to get out of there. I married him and thought I was going to have a beautiful life. I was wrong. His mother passed and I did exactly what you said not to do, I became his mother. He is so controlling, He tells me how to drive where to park and doesn't want me to have anytime away from him. He is now 86 and I am 81. I just always did what he wanted just to get along. I could write a book. He doesn't beat me with his hands he beats me with his mouth. I hate to see him get up in the morning. I have to see what mood he is in so I know what kind of a day it will be.
All is true this was me 30 yrs wasted ..all about him nothing about me ...pay attention this young man has wonderful insight pay attention so you don't throw away your life as I did for so long...on the road to recovery have a beautiful man friend I'm trying to make sure I grow in the right direction this time❤
Good list. I am not now, nor have ever been, the one to play dumb. That stops a lot of men in their tracks. Keep your own bank account as well. Some of the best relationships I've seen have a joint account for bills and separate accounts for other things. Money is discussed and open, even if it's separate.
I had a wonderful man. Unfortunately he passed away three years ago. We drove semi truck coast to coast for twenty three years together. We were hazmat endorsed hauling chemicals, poisons, flammables, explosives and radioactive materials..... He slept just fine behind me over icy roads, mountainous terrain or hot deserts. We worked well together and had a wonderful marriage for nearly thirty years.
My mom has financially depended on my dad for 42 years and they are still going strong. I depend on my husband for 8 years now and going strong. I'm protected in divorce with our prenup and will live a comfortable life no matter what happens. I'm able to be a present mother for our children and take good care of my health because I dont have to work. If you vet a man properly and get the right legal paperwork you can be protected. I dont understand. What happened to men who take pride in providing and protecting so woman can be in their feminine energy?
I see so many male "relationship coaches" give such toxic advice to both men and women. Thanks for breaking that trend. This was such a breath of fresh air ❤
Thank you so much, this advice is so great and true. Been there done that ,after all this lost time, it was not worth the relationship period. Learned lessons are hard ,get over it,do not repeat. Stay true and love yourself ,
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It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.
I appreciate all you are doing but what about gifting a guy you are datin? Or suporting him financially more like a loan??
Great advice! Thank you! A number ten might be…that I’ve witnessed a lot with some friends…is “Don’t become a raging feminist”…where the woman refuses to let the guy do anything nice or gentlemanly for her and accuses him of thinking she can’t do things for herself. It really puts a guy down, from small issues like opening a door or car door for a woman, only to get the response “I can do this myself”…or….tit-for-tat, where she might sulkily or self righteously say “ well if you’re going out with the boys then I’m going out with the girls”…as though she only arranges to see her friends because he is seeing his friends….
Like that thanks 😊
So what does it mean when he pulls away from you and makes you feel like you have done something wrong I feel he still has feeling's for his X
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Women-never do this for you men
1. Do NOT become the female version of him.
2. Do NOT hide/down play your intellect.
3. Do NOT become mom 2.0!
4. Do NOT put your dream on hold.
5. Stop avoiding conflict.
6. Do NOT fully rely on him financially.
7. Do NOT excuse his behavior.
8. Do NOT isolate yourself from your personal circle.
9. Avoid uncomfortable intimacy.
Bonus: never send him naked pictures!!
Yuk only a dipstick would take naked pictures.... zero self respect.
Thank you 😊
Thank you
1. Most of us women can't be the female version of him, because, he's acting like a girl.
3. No matter how much you try to be his lover, he will take his mom issues out on you.
6. I don't know any woman who can fully rely on him financially...Nor, would want to...except lazy, entitled dummies.
9. There has to be intimacy for it to be uncomfortable and avoided.
Bonus: Only a moron, needs to learn this. Send him a fake of body parts...Kim K, JHo, etc. ?
Sebastian Soto, please school the masses on this.🤷🏾♀
Never send anyone naked photos!!!!
#4. I put my life on hold for him. Married for 28 years, followed him around the country for his job. I had to keep starting over while he got transferred and promoted. Then when he finally started resenting me, I had to get a lawyer through the divorce because he was only going to allow me a third of our assets because I only made two-thirds of what he did. And after 28 years of marriage, I had to learn to buy a car, do household repairs, all the stuff that I, as "the little woman" wasn't allowed to do. After divorce, I bought a car, bought a house, finished two more college degrees. Moved across the country, spent time volunteering overseas... The first half of my life was lived for other people. I'm living the second half of my life for me.
I had to sign off on everything so I could get out alive. A life of poverty now, but I knew that leaving. Still I left.
Good for you @julietellsthetruth4811!
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@@0906blueYes. A lot of divorcées end up in poverty. The system should be fair. I don’t like it when I see men getting soaked in their divorces, either. Remember that your value does not come from worldly values. Your Heavenly Father loves you. Work hard and He will make up for your husband’s lack. Bless you.
I have a boyfriend, he's great, we love eachother. Recently we're facing an issue. I want to move to US to get a nursing phd and make more money, and he wants to move to another country and become a dentist. Our plans don't align. I don't know what to do. I'm so confused and frustrated
“A grown man should be able to take care of himself.”
Say it louder for the people in the back. 🙌🏻
I'm glad you found my video helpful.
@@Ivana_piranha I know a grown boy of 37, who cannot even boil an egg, and expects to be waited on, hand and foot. Unfortunately, he has obviously been enabled to do this all his life. He won’t even wash a pair of underpants, or a shirt if he needs it in a hurry. He definitely will not wash his own cup, or plate. He dumps it with half eaten food, on the sink, and expects someone to clean up after him. I am actually surprised, he can even go to the toilet by himself, or even wipe himself without assistance.
@@jacksprat429 sounds like my ex
@@Ivana_piranha 🤦♀️🙈😱😂🤣🤣
amen❤
This young man has excellent advice. Over 70 yrs old/40 years married… he speaks the truth !
I was just thinking the same. 41 years of marriage and still going strong.Yes he gave very goid advice, take heed ladies.👍👍
My wife and I married right out high school and this year make 33 years. We have similar like but we have dislikes as well. We agree , we have disagreements. It’s about balance and compromise. Marriage isn’t easy but, it’s not impossible. A good marriage is a beautiful blessing.
I hit all 9 of these in my marriage … and he not only had zero respect but he became very cruel to me and walked out on me & our daughter… he’s my ex husband and I’m an ex people pleaser
I can understand how hard it all must have been for you!
Bc of narcissism.
Empath plus narcissist always ends in tears...
😢 I’m sorry that was my ex husband too.
People can’t respect doormats. No offense. I dated one once and he was pathetic. He just wanted to make me happy. What about his happiness? You can’t exist solely for someone else. It will never work. It was ok at first. Then it just got on my nerves.
It's really simple ladies. Respect yourself. Love yourself. You don't have to have a "man". Be who you are, do what you like, and if you meet someone you like, and he can't handle you being you, that's his problem. Single is best.
Very well said!😊
Love these insights. Thanks for sharing.
It takes a hell of a man to beat no man at all....
Tell any guy ;
"As is" is what's on offer.
@@JWayne-ej4jy Dude, this is aweaome. I think I may make this new mantra: "it takes a hell of a man to beat having no man at all."
“…Being yourself is the ONLY way to be IRREPLACEABLE…”🐝🐑😘
@ajcraft-hello I love that statement too!!
My first impulse about your video was not to like it. However, I made myself listen to you. I ended up agreeing with a lot of what you were saying. There are so many arrogant and disrespectful men out there doing videos on how to abuse women. I'm glad you are not one of them.
It’s so nice to be 67 and have worked through all this crap!! A book that changed it all for me was ‘The Road Less Traveled’. 😊
I appreciate you sharing that. How did it make you feel?
I LOVE that book
As a retired pastor I can say, right on bro. I have seen so many couples in trouble because they did not follow your list. And your recommendations apply to both parties in the relationship, not just the women. Good advice.
@@zelmalang1695 any pastor work so hard don't retire
My dad told me to NEVER call the boy back if he doesn’t return your call and he’s so right.
A Christian woman...date for marriage. Be modest, be honest, be straightforward, and be in control of yourself. Save yourself for marriage, get to know who you're with.
Christian men too, right? It had to go both ways.
There's no god, delusional rubbish, offensive to read that, keep your misguided beliefs off media
Wouldn't buy a car without a test drive or buy a house sight unseen. You need to know what you're getting into. "Save" yourself for marriage is some of the most harmful advice an adult can give.
💯 %....
Trust....trust God.@@LisavonAustralis
No need for disagreement to be a “ FIGHT “ … I’m so glad how you explained that one at the end. It’s so scary and hurtful to have a man fully yelling at you.
Yes, believe me, I know.......
@cassandraknight8804 The amount of times iv been told my husband screaming profanities at me and insulting and calling me names in front of my kids was my fault (usually in different words but that was the point) bc I had a "bad attitude" or bc I'm "hard to handel" bc of my mental health disorders, or even bc "he's stressed" is insane iv even been told that it's OK bc "everyone looses their temper" even though it's a multiple times a week occurance. Society today literally teaches men that screaming and throwing fits is normal and it's sadly the women who try to love them who pay for it.
@@katelyncourtright866 He is targeting any weak spots in your self esteem ( we all have them) sometimes I’m not even sure they realise they’re doing it, it seems to come so disgusting naturally to them… SELFISH.. your to blame for all his feelings he is struggling to process, didn’t you know that? So he has very low emotional intelligence and low ability to regulate his tantrums… can’t seem to sort out his own values and worth….. and again it’s all your fault, hey your even doing it to HIS kids. I know tHIS type well … If you have the resources and or support, run and lawyer up fast. If not know he cannot destroy who and what you truly are…. And what he feels you are- BETTER THAN HIM!! what they fear and believe.. they create.
Interesting video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@@LindaD.Rowland you might want to rethink if you want to directly write the name of a person that you don't wish harm in a youtube comment section. especially if she's working in a highly frowned-upon field like spirituality. people can be so cruel and just need a name to google the person and ruin her life just because they feel like trolling today.
I know you're probably in the denial stage of grieving. But if she's not reciprocating you need to respect that and try to focus more on detaching. When my ex was contacting me, desperately wanting me back, a year after I left him - it was very unsettling because I did not feel the same way and he couldn't see it. I had blocked him on social media and changed numbers. But he created another account to contact me. I had moved on. You don't want to end up with a restraining order out on you. I know that's harsh but you have to face reality.
Primero:
Acepta qué tu relación ya sé terminó, acepta qué todo en la vida tiene un final, no puedes seguir negando una situación qué llegó a su fin.
Vive tu luto, romper una relación sea corta ó larga, se asemeja parecido cuando un ser querido ha fallecido, así permite vivir tu dolor, llorar és la mejor terapia para liberar emociones, no minimices tus emociones.
Tómate tu tiempo.
Trata de salir a lugares nuevos, viaja, conoce nuevas personas, aprende un deporte.
Evite los lugares donde frecuentaba salir con tu ex - pareja, al menos mientras viviendo tu luto.
Recuerda: Amor qué se deba mendigar no és amor, és falta de dignidad.
Deja de insistir donde ya te dijeron que No.
Aprenda a trabajar sus apegos emocionales, cultive su amor propio, aprenda a disfrutarse usted mismo, quiérete mucho.
No corras detrás de alguien qué ya no quiere caminar junto a ti, aprende del contacto cero, cero llamadas, cero redes sociales de ésa persona, cero WhatsApp, etc!! Por tu salud mental.
No hay mejor maestra que la soledad y aprender a estar solo 🙌 sino aprendes a estar solo, difícilmente podrás estar con alguien.
Entre más insistas en perseguir alguien, más lo alejas, qué tu ex - pareja, algún día retome la comunicación NO quiere decir qué regresen.
Recuerda: No persigas las mariposas, deja qué las mariposas lleguen a ti 🦋
Un Mago ó Hechicero no va hacer qué regrese tu ex pareja, si ni tu mismo te amas. Tu eres tu propio hechicero, trabaja tu magia interna a tu favor.
Aprende del rechazo, hazlo tú aliado.
Y recuerda: Tu estás en primer lugar.
Relationship is built on accepting and respecting the differences in each other. Learning about each other and enjoying each other's company. Laugh, talk, discuss subjects, ask for each other's support. Work hard together. Play hard together. Have a good argument and agree to disagree. It's not about winning. Wear what you feel comfortable in. See your friends and family when ever you want. Study as you wish. That is how you stay together and thrive.
I couldn't have said it better.
A financially independent woman gets a double edged sword. Men definitely feel relieved through actions if the woman doesn't spend his money. In fact when a woman makes her own money, men hardly take care of them but if asked he'll say she doesn't make me feel needed, doesn't let me provide. These are regular guys I'm talking about not the toxic ones. The discrepancies in how they feel and what they say will always remain a major contributor to failed relationships or miscommunication. Most of my friends are males and I've often seen these discrepancies. Perhaps I've gotten to know them too well that they've kinda lost their charm to me but I love them as friends.... hardly any drama and almost always a very breezy and great hangout! ❤
They are sooo confused. Everything they say is contradictory. It’s always something the woman is doing wrong
As a 45 year old woman this gentleman is 100% correct! 👏🏾👏🏾
I'm going to be my independent self no matter what my man does. It's being fake to take on his attributes. Always be you. ❤
Ismael, what could it imply if a man is not willing to communicate openly about intimacy? I'm the type of person who'd talk about it to see what we're both comfortable with. I absolutely agree with you on all these points, Ismael. I can't stand immature behaviour and recently have stopped playing dumb and agreeing with everything that a partner says. Life is too short to not go after your dreams!
Have been married 60 yrs. Realized after video, I made mistakes. My parents divorced when I was 9. My dad was everything and he left me, mother and sister. I thought pleasing a man would keep him from leaving me. I lost myself and should have demanded more from my marriage. Never have been left alone and not sure how I will adjust. We have a beautiful family, due to many sacrafices. Prayers everyday
All good points for staying secure in developing emotional boundaries. Thank you.
I'm not saying that I'm 'Ms. Perfect', but I would never have been comfortable not being myself. It would have been the other way around. And, if a man is not in it for the same reason I am, loses interest, or disrespects me, I'd be SO gone. I taught my 2 sons early on that when it comes to relationships and marriage, you can NOT have love with OUT Respect. I read a great explanation of respect that has stayed with me: 'One husband said that receiving respect from his most intimate friend, his wife, reduces his fear of failure and being inadequate....it is like wind in my sails.'❤
❤ respect is definitely important, in relationships and in everyday life.
@@sharitacash9318 Oh absolutely. Respect is a 'life' thing...for other humans, animals and the planet.😊
ISMAEL, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. I ALWAYS STAY TRUE TO WHO I AM. I AM WHO I AM, & IF ITS NOT LIKED THEY CAN KEEP IT MOVING. WHAT THEY MAYNOT APPRECIATE ANOTHER CAN & WILL!
And in the words of Jordan Peterson, never agree to something you don't agree to.
I never change my plans for a man. If he’s trying to get a date at the last minute I assume that he was waiting to make sure something better wasn’t going down. I do have one exception. I planned to cut down a tree after work & my guy friend wanted to take me go dinner so I said yes bcz he offered to help me cut it down. We took care of my tree & then we went out to dinner.
I don’t think it’s that women become a sponge, it’s that we are mirrors and multipliers. So often if we love someone or they mean a lot to us, we will mirror them in many aspects. So I think it’s important to understand there is a balance we must keep in that
Smart talk
I think that's true of everyone to a point. We seem to mirror the people we love and admire in subtle ways. God made men and women different in obvious ways, but in ways to balance each other out. Thank heaven for men. He knew what He was doing!
I used to watch my love addict cousin morph into her partners. She would even dress as they did, take on their interests , beliefs, values, friends and troubles...their ENEMIES even.... Money...sure , 50 grand, live with me right away, no problem, Ignore my famiky , sure. She would disappear and his girlfirend was left in her place . Took me into contra independence , absolutely . I deprogrammed and have been single since widowed .
@@MizrahiChick It is laughable, embarrassing and ridiculous!
Shows you dont have to be a woman to understand how women should treat themselves. Thank you Mr Gomez from all women.
@childearth4039 I whole-heartily agree! Mr. Gomez understands how women should treat themselves better than a lot of women know how to treat themselves.
I am amazed at your advice. I have daughters that are 23 and I’m going to share one of your videos with them! This is good news for today’s young ladies! You speak with a calm and reassuring voice of wisdom!
I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.
I confess I thought this was going to be another one of those arrogant videos where a guy tells women how they need to behave and what they need to give and give up to have a chance with guys. But this is right on. All us female oldsters can vouch fir this advice.
Omg I’m sad to say I have done most of these (except the naked selfies) … but never will I again! Thank you for such a helpful insightful video! Especially starting to like the same football team, doing too much wife chores at girlfriend prices, enjoying being around his family more than my own, I did so much for him thinking he’d value me more but he actually valued me less and I valued myself less. Now that we broke up after trying to date long distance for a year I now realized he was an avoidant attachment and I’m an anxious attachment, I have been on a journey to healing and working on giving all that love, time and energy I gave to him back to myself. Thank you for this reminder to just be me!
Regarding #6
How sad for that woman who can’t rely on her man. A Man who will take care of her and protect her from the evil in the world. I’ve seen that women who don’t rely on a men are much more mannish (because they have to be.)They become less feminine and less attractive. What’s happened to “my hero” and “my knight in shining armor”? Sad..😔
I intimidate most men because I am a confident woman. And you are correct about displaying your intellect.
Number one had to be the most surprising!😮 I genuinely cannot recall any other male coach who has given his female audience such crucial piece of advice.
Not being into the same hobbies or interests as my man is still an insecurity of mine but I’m so glad that I’m hearing something so reassuring from another male. There truly is beauty & excitement in other people’s differences.
This is why I love your channel Ismael 🎉 You give great wisdom that is not heard enough for your audience 🙏🏻☮️
That's very sweet of you. Thanks.
A man will respect you most if you are just confident about being you. Men and women will always have different hobbies and interests. It's pretty crucial that they do have some separate time. You eventually live together and share so many things, that it's good to have some separate interests. Some women just lose themselves in a man. This can be compounded when they have kids.
Two things, first, the doing what he is interested in stuff, that's what magazines tell us from the time we're 12. 'How to keep a guy...find out what he likes and like it too'. Second, us French people, we swear in French. 'Pardon my language' would be better. It's like saying, pardon my Italian, or pardon my German...and then swearing in English. Doesn't make sense, feel free to tell your friends. Totaly agree with everything else you said, 67 years younge female here. One thing to add, don't dress provocatively, he already knows you've got boobs.
Single me watching this at 2 am for God knows why😅
Same here but at 10pm😌🤦♀️
Exactly me, its 2 a.m 😂
Same..2.29am now
It’s 2:19am😂
Haha me too 😅😅😅
My husband and I had a rift the other day, talking about having a landline (that he doesn't want to have) I said yes, we are keeping it, and if you have a problem with that, WE are going to have a problem. And he didn't say a word. We are good together, we have been married 37 years♡
Sharing nude photos can actually be quite dangerous for BOTH people. Guys, unless you've seen her physical ID, y'all have absolutely no way of knowing if she really is 18. I've known of younger men who have gotten caught up in a ton of legal trouble-not b/c they are predators, but b/c they were legal adults and didn't know that the girl they're trading pix with lied about her age until her parents found out and called the law.
Worse yet are those adult people, male and female, who trade images with adult partners, then when the relationship goes south, the images go online. I know so many people to whom that has happened. Just don't send the images and do not allow any to be taken.
Now I came to know,I was doing this mistake everytime. Thanks now I am aware.
Just be you. Pleasing him will make you lose yourself. The saddest part is when he says “you changed” because he miss the old you how he met you first.
Great suggestions. I did all of those things and am married to the same man for 30 years and still going strong. Nothing is totally perfect but we always work things out.
Never be the first to cook dinner. Let him be excited to cook for you. Oh and don't help. Be the guest. Later much later...then you can cook if you want.
I don't play games or follow anyone's rules about when I can or can't cook 🤷🏾♀️
@@vodkavuitton... I agree with you... Never manipulate the relationship... U may even lose a genuine partner....!!
Yes. Women need to receive more. He’ll disrespect you if you start running after him from early on. Only once you’re sure of him and know he is willing to invest in you then you can cook ❤
So true. Especially about changing when it changes. Acknowledge when you gambled. You got to know when to hold 'em, know fold them...
Wow. That was so interesting. I can thankfully say I don't do most of those things. I have always spoken my mind and I truly believe if you don't have respect for the person you're with you can't love them. For me my respect is very important. Your video has validated my thought process and I am so grateful for it. You always make things so clear and provide great examples which are relatable. Thank you😊
I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.
There's a difference between watching a movie with him because you want to spend time with him and acting like it's your favorite movie.
I didn't really enjoy the Pirates of the Caribbean movies. But, my husband did. So I watched them.
But, he'd come home from work, find me watching a movie and would watch it with me. It HAS to work both ways.
I’m married 30 years and this young man is spot on!
I had a 55 year old man ask me, “will you be my mommy?” Yeah I RAN AWAY FAST! 😂
Such good advice, and should really be taken into account, when in a relationship, especially the ‘mommy’ one! Some guys never grow up, and expect everything to be done for them. I have seen it over and over again.
I wholeheartedly agree. Sadly it took me almost 35 years before I learned all of this. 😢
Hi Ismael, I am guilty of doing some of these. I have a problem with #5
Because my previous relationship was very abusive when he didn't get what he wanted.
Thank you so much for being here to teach us what you know. Your videos are wonderful.
Wish we had had the internet years ago. I’m 73 and have learned more about relationships than I did in a 34 year marriage!! Hope the younger ladies see your video and put your advice to work!!
You should couch more men to be like you. Genuinely a healthy, good and a wise masculine man ❤️
It is truly joyful to see that men like you exist and are guiding others to the better
I'm with you on that 😊
@@SaveTheMessenger yes, guys urgently need more men like You as mentors. there is a lack. You should consider stepping in.
This is also highly applicable to men with women or anyone in any relationship. Thank you!
Ismael Gomez Godbless You for this Particular Post, Iv Learnt a whole lot from your Channel, You're Brilliant. Kp doing great 👍👍
I am happily married for 50 years, we decided a few things when we got married. I am not his mother, I am his wife. The door is open, if he wants to leave, then he goes and takes everything that belongs to him including all children in the marriage. I carried the children, gave birth, sat nights with them, I have done my share, so if he wants a new life, he takes them. I don't want his house, cars, money or anything that belongs to him if he leaves. He is still here, adores me and still seems happy.
Reminds me of a couple in my neighborhood when I was a child. Both parents seemed to do all they could to avoid each other. I learned later that their marriage was really over; but when husband filed for divorce, his wife said he HAD to take primary custody of the children. He wanted her to take them. There being no agreement, the judge refused to grant them a divorce! LoL
I never have sex with a man until I’m in love with him. Sex never makes a person love who you are, but it is important to meet your partners sex needs in a marriage!
i had a touch of healthy skepticism before watching (never seen You before so unsure if You could be trusted). but You have integrity. thank You for giving excellent advice.
I also embrace healthy skepticism. Thanks for watching.
I refuse to settle for. I did twice. Never again.
Ismael really hits the nail of my failed relationships on the head. The mistakes he mentions are utterly ingrained in me. Were I to be myself and follow my own dreams, I'd be a completely different person. This is partly my own failures, but also a great deal down to the fact that we still live in a male-dominated society in which men are served more than women, so men can afford to say to their womenfolk - 'it's my way or the highway', and go their own way. In this circumstance, to be oneself and do one's own things leads the woman to being on her own.
Am I dating the right man ?? This makes me question or just am lowering my standard
You are absolutely correct with all your recommendations. I divorced the man I tried to make happy simply because I understood why he was cold (mother issues transference/insecurity from his parent's awful marriage & parental skills & his personal escapism with drug & alcohol abuse & more.) He hid this from me for years.
Ladies, you only need 1 rule. Embrace yourself.❤
Main point : Don't lose yourself for him/her.
Keep it mutual. Don't overdo it. Manipulation is worst. Always remember If they wanted to they will.
i stopped period i don't waste my time anymore i come first
You are totally right, you can hardly change his behavior stand for what is right let him love you for who you are. Thank you young man
Excellent. Thanks for standing up for women - especially the sexual part.
Yeah, #9 for me is a huge deal breaker. Especially when you are married and children are involved.
Thank you ❤. This really helps!
Glad it helped!
Thanks for everything ❤❤
It will help me in the future while i choose a partner 😊
If you’re in a relationship rn and relate to these things, you’ll probably end up denying everything. I was exactly like that, but after we broke up, it felt so freeing. It felt like I can socialize more, I can just sit back and spawn into someone’s life, someone who can make more of an effort. I’m still his friend, and honestly we both need to figure ourselves out. Before you look for a relationship or socialize more, just please look for new long lasting friends rather than a partner, and think about what you want out of life in general.
I appreciate your comment. I always say find a great friend before finding a great partner. Thanks for sharing.
Absolutely right on all of it.
They are so right. I have seen many young women getting in this kind of relationship without knowing that’s toxic.
Well done! I found this informative, comprehensive and succinct. Thank you, Blessings to you 👃❤
you're mid 30s? wow you look 28. Thank you for another great video ❤
Yes, he'll age well.😅
I'm also working on reversing aging haha
@@SaveTheMessengerdo You have videos on your process?
Does that mean I look like in my 30s hehe
Thank you so much 😢😢..now I know I knew nothing about men😢😢..your vdos hopefully help me move on with peace knowing I had been a dark neglecting place...thank you so much...❤
You were so cute when you slipped those 'french' words and getting a bit mad on men
Not sure how this video popped up for me, since I'm 68 and have been married for almost 30 years, but...ladies, this man knows what he is talking about. Women always seem to undervalue themselves, and girls, I learned this the hard way. Listen to what this man has to say.
I believe you lady. No ifs,ands or buts.❤
Good advice thank you!❤️
Quit trying to please him.
Make him come after you. Being desperate is a turn off.
Don't be his toy.
Stay yourself.
Don't settle.
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
i have been in such a situation. i love my woman and unfortunately we separated about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
wow, please how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach him?
Dr Ben Spell Castle is the advisor I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with to set up an appointment
you can look his name up online and you will find all you need.
Thanks for sharing. I curiously searched for his full name and his website popped up after scrolling a bit.
This came up in my feed for whatever reason, so I thought I’d check it out. I listened, and as someone who’s been married for decades, it came to me I wish someone would’ve told me these things while I was looking for a lifelong partner. But I also bet unmarried people are probably going to dismiss this good advice so they aren’t alone or for their own personal reasoning.
Let me appreciate you first.I found all of the points so accurate because I have lived this way since two decades and this really works although it becomes quite difficult to maintain your identity sometimes when the other person is too dominating and controlling.Listening to this felt like going back in time.Saw your video for the first and subscribed already.Thank you and keep it up.👍
You are so real. Great advice! It is a shame that so many women need it and don't have any idea of the behaviors that are ruining their relationships.
Excellent - Practice Detachment!
I have been married for 5 years, I don't do any of these things, and my husband is still crazy about me.
Don't blame society. Watching porn is His Choice, and so is How to Act.
But it literally is all of society.
@@MommasPeachCobbler No, it's NOT.
How your thinking develops depends on the type of society you live in. If the society promotes porn and sex in the name of open thoughts and children become addicted since childhood, then the people of the society are at fault.
@@MommasPeachCobblerno its only weak minded beings with no brains.
When my husband and I started dating, we would talk about for instance, capital punishment. I'm totally for capitol punishment , he wasn't. So our compromise was, to stand on opposite side and " throw stone" , not literally, at each other but we knew were were going home together at the end of the night. This is how we settled our stuff. We are married and have been for 25 years. And that's not saying that we don't disagree we do, but we both know that at the end of the night, we were still going to be there for each other.
Everything you said is so true.. I had a terrible home life and all I wanted was to get out of there. I married him and thought I was going to have a beautiful life. I was wrong. His mother passed and I did exactly what you said not to do, I became his mother. He is so controlling, He tells me how to drive where to park and doesn't want me to have anytime away from him. He is now 86 and I am 81. I just always did what he wanted just to get along. I could write a book. He doesn't beat me with his hands he beats me with his mouth. I hate to see him get up in the morning. I have to see what mood he is in so I know what kind of a day it will be.
Bless you Bonnie! I really feel for you. Sending you best wishes and a big hug from Scotland!
All is true this was me 30 yrs wasted ..all about him nothing about me ...pay attention this young man has wonderful insight pay attention so you don't throw away your life as I did for so long...on the road to recovery have a beautiful man friend I'm trying to make sure I grow in the right direction this time❤
Great advice!!! We need more of this for women who do not know how to treat. Man.
Good list. I am not now, nor have ever been, the one to play dumb. That stops a lot of men in their tracks. Keep your own bank account as well. Some of the best relationships I've seen have a joint account for bills and separate accounts for other things. Money is discussed and open, even if it's separate.
I had a wonderful man. Unfortunately he passed away three years ago. We drove semi truck coast to coast for twenty three years together. We were hazmat endorsed hauling chemicals, poisons, flammables, explosives and radioactive materials..... He slept just fine behind me over icy roads, mountainous terrain or hot deserts. We worked well together and had a wonderful marriage for nearly thirty years.
Here's one I go by..."never allow someone to be your priority, whole allowing Yourself to be that someones option"
My mom has financially depended on my dad for 42 years and they are still going strong. I depend on my husband for 8 years now and going strong. I'm protected in divorce with our prenup and will live a comfortable life no matter what happens. I'm able to be a present mother for our children and take good care of my health because I dont have to work. If you vet a man properly and get the right legal paperwork you can be protected. I dont understand. What happened to men who take pride in providing and protecting so woman can be in their feminine energy?
I see so many male "relationship coaches" give such toxic advice to both men and women. Thanks for breaking that trend. This was such a breath of fresh air ❤
Very good advice. I needed this years ago..
Wow you're smart. Thank you. This was very good advice
🎉a woman is not a maid.
Thank you so much, this advice is so great and true. Been there done that ,after all this lost time, it was not worth the relationship period. Learned lessons are hard ,get over it,do not repeat. Stay true and love yourself ,
Wonderful!