My 4th Trimester | What happens AFTER having a baby (C section recovery)!

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  • @brilliantbutblue
    @brilliantbutblue ปีที่แล้ว +111

    Can we all just appreciate how well this young lady explains everything, clear, concise, and factual information from her experience. Anyone having a planned c-section should definitely watch these videos 👍

  • @Sammie-Lou-Miss-UK
    @Sammie-Lou-Miss-UK ปีที่แล้ว +23

    **Just to give everyone a lil bit of a giggle**
    I remember after having my daughter (she is now 21- 22 in January) my doctor had come with my midwife to do my 6wk check up at home n was talkin to me about using contraceptives again… I went bac on the pill again but he had said that for the first couple of wks of taking my pill that I had to use a “sheath” if I was to start having sex until my pill kicked in fully to prevent me getting pregnant again so fast after having my lil ones…
    Now because he was from Pakistan n hadn’t been in England for long his accent was really strong n thick so I kept misunderstanding him n I thought that he had said sheet…
    After asking him 8 or 9 times to repeat himself I was 100% sure he was saying sheet so 17yr old me (yes I was a young mom) innocently turned round n asked him “how I would use a sheet as a contraceptive method….” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
    I’d never ever in my life heard anyone call a condom a sheath before!! Lol… xxxx

  • @justathumb
    @justathumb ปีที่แล้ว +29

    god, can you even imagine anyone else being in hospital for major abdominal surgery, then being expected to run around that same day lifting babies? it's crazy how dismissed women are postpartum! i felt it too after my c-section 🥴 basically left for dead after they get the baby out lol. so glad you're feeling better now bryony! ❤

    • @MaddHeather
      @MaddHeather ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same.. and I also had one nurse that was just not nice...

    • @gabrielacortez4893
      @gabrielacortez4893 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree. Basically left for dead after the baby is born. They don't care about us women.

  • @hannahhoover5391
    @hannahhoover5391 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I was just the same way with the sweat/odor postpartum. My baby is now 9 months still breastfeeding and I am still sweaty and stinky. I read that the increased odor is evolutionary because the armpits are close to the breast so the odor allows the baby to find the breast more easily. Knowing that made me feel better!

  • @larelles1
    @larelles1 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The headaches can be a symptom of dehydration if you're breastfeeding, since your body is losing a lot more fluid than it ususally would! Upping water intake and taking a baby safe electrolyte can help :)

  • @kayelizabeth1965
    @kayelizabeth1965 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think shared wards were the saving grace for me, i didnt have anyone with me and was only in 1 night, because i was alone the noise and the hubbub eavesdropping peoples conversations actually made me feel so calm like i wasnt alone, i was worried about going home to the quiet it felt scary, my son is 6 months now and i still remember the bliss of habing him through planned c section (he was bum down ankles behind his head) 😅

  • @amandaloutsch3563
    @amandaloutsch3563 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I've had issues with adhesive from dressings sticking to my skin before, and I've found that a pad with a little bit of rubbing alcohol can help loosen it up. Just be careful not to get it in the incision site cause it's gonna hurt.

  • @JMPschool1
    @JMPschool1 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    If you can get Lume in the UK, I highly recommend it. It's natural & safe for breastfeeding, & even the unscented stick completely prevents body odor for literally DAYS so you can fall asleep without a bath and its not a problem. This is not an ad or anything lol just a tip from a life long sweater that just discovered an amazing product 😂 Anyway, thank you for sharing your experience as always! ❤

    • @katfoster845
      @katfoster845 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think natural is a bit of a stretch given the ingredients and I can't find any evidence that deodorant is unsafe whilst breastfeeding.

    • @JMPschool1
      @JMPschool1 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@katfoster845 That's understandable. I'm not a professional or anything I was just sharing the information from the manufacturer's website and offering a suggestion based on my personal experience. It is up to every individual what they feel is suitable.

  • @kat_trabue
    @kat_trabue ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My epidural wore off so fast! Like the nurses kept insisting I was wrong and would fall if I stood up ( I didn't). Honestly it was so light even during labor that I still felt a lot of it so I think that was part of it.

  • @EnglishVirgo
    @EnglishVirgo ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Good on you for putting in limits on visitors. I know that people want to come and congratulate and support you and meet the baby, but if we really think about it, the parent/s are new to the baby too and need time to get to know and bond with the new arrival and people coming in and out, having to keep handing over this new life for cuddles, not exactly ideal. People feel rude for asking visitors to wait a week or two, but they shouldnt.

  • @chantellsenekal2641
    @chantellsenekal2641 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My spinal wore off within 8 hours. It started wearing off at around 5hours. My first stop was the shower😂 and I did exactly the same with my baby in hospital in terms of getting up, walking around the bed etc.

  • @akalia2564
    @akalia2564 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My numbness went away in a few hours. Both times the surgery was in the evening, and the next day I could "walk" around. And I think I only had pain medication for three or four days. 🤷🏼‍♀️😊

  • @KatieJane31
    @KatieJane31 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You explained the bathroom thing so well. I had vaginal births but had the same thing of not feeling the need to pee, having to remind myself to go every couple hours. The midwife told me an empty bladder is better for bleeding control.

  • @rebekah3483
    @rebekah3483 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm so glad it went so well for you for the most part! Great job explaining everything so well! I'm glad you're back and can't wait for the breastfeeding journey video! It's a true struggle for so many of us!

  • @MinimumViablePicnic
    @MinimumViablePicnic ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm 3 weeks post emergency c section, the pee thing is so weird, I also have this, it's so funny, I'm kind of "I think I probably should need a pee by now" and then go and do one, with no sensation of needing a wee at all. My recovery fairly similar, easier than I expected in some ways. I did overdo is on second week by walking too far, but lifting etc seems pretty normal by week 2-3.

  • @KatieJollimore-yk7gg
    @KatieJollimore-yk7gg หลายเดือนก่อน

    I find you so soothing

  • @chevandisla
    @chevandisla ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I had the honeycomb dressing too, it was great as it let the area breath and wasn't uncomfortable

  • @donnasmith1025
    @donnasmith1025 ปีที่แล้ว

    I had a shared ward for my first baby and the first night the lady next to me had to get up and wake me up because I hadn't noticed my baby was crying. It's hard to rest and listen for your own child when you are trying to tune out 5 other mums & bubs.

  • @amandawilliams253
    @amandawilliams253 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I couldn't imagine being in a shared ward 😮 I didn't even know they still did that

    • @Cheeseban151
      @Cheeseban151 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Almost like a 3rd world country!

    • @MinimumViablePicnic
      @MinimumViablePicnic ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I just did 5 nights in my own room, I think it was better but I did also get really lonely and claustrophobic so there's possibly some benefits also. Mum made friends for life on the ward when I was a baby

    • @Armadillae
      @Armadillae ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Most of Australia does this too 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think individual suites are seen as very fancy haha
      Having said that, for my 3rd and 4th baby, they gave me an empty dorm because I needed a lot less midwife attention (could also be covid related isolation 🤔)
      Besides sleep in a solo room, having people around and knowing everyone is in the same situation is a bit homely, since we don't really have partners stay after the birth.

  • @T3hXinro
    @T3hXinro ปีที่แล้ว +13

    You explained everything so well and sound so calm and composed! I'm glad it's been positive for you. For me, who doesn't want to have kids, every bit sounds horrifying and continues to confirm my choice not to do it!

    • @gabrielacortez4893
      @gabrielacortez4893 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Don't do it. It's terrible. They are all lying. I had to learn the hard way 😢

    • @hbeau224
      @hbeau224 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too 😅

    • @BhappyD
      @BhappyD ปีที่แล้ว

      @gabrielacortez4893 Nobody is lying, and insinuating as much is ignorant. Women are not all the same, and we don’t all have the same desires, perspectives or experiences. There are countless (billions) of women who genuinely love experiencing pregnancy, birth and motherhood, and would never in a million years call it a terrible experience. They see all of it as a blessing, and one they would do over and over again if it meant them having their child and expercing motherhood. Those are real feelings and experiences. That is valid.
      The same goes for your experience. If you decide you do not want children, or do not enjoy pregnancy or birth or postpartum, that’s also valid. Nobody’s personal experience is a lie, and no two experiences within the scope of motherhood are exactly the same. We are all unique individuals.
      Let’s refrain from telling people what they should or shouldn’t do when it comes to deciding whether or not to have children, and let’s refrain from calling other women liars simply because they had a different experience from your own. By all means, share your own experience as you desire, but understand that it was an entirely unique experience specific to you, and not a reflection of anyone else’s reality nor an exact replica of how their own experience is guaranteed to occur.

  • @moyse001
    @moyse001 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    For stinky sweat I just got a special deodorant called Etiaxil and it’s LIFE CHANGING. You put it on at night 1-2 times per week and wash it off in the morning and that’s it. I don’t even need normal deoderant, it’s incredible!

  • @nebulakei4144
    @nebulakei4144 ปีที่แล้ว

    For my c-section, the spinal wore off by the time the two hour recovery was up and I was placed in my room. When I got to recovery and they started to push on my uterus, the spinal had just started to fade. It was a weird. I could feel the clots coming out. Although, I could still kind of move my legs when the surgery started. So maybe that is why.

  • @heatherw.4561
    @heatherw.4561 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    American here. I had to walk out. I wasn't given the option for a wheelchair. I don't know where you got that from.

  • @MaddHeather
    @MaddHeather ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Question: mom of two here did that hospital not have a baby nursery to help take baby for you to rest and recover a little and for all the baby testing and stuff like that?

    • @MarnieJohnston
      @MarnieJohnston ปีที่แล้ว +2

      No, these days unless your baby is sent to NICU for a health reason, you have to keep your baby with you at all times. Like legitimately the cots they sleep in are on wheels, you are told to wheel them everywhere with you 😅 No breaks for mummas on the postnatal ward!

  • @BeckyJayson
    @BeckyJayson ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hold on, my spinal started wearing off within 2 hours (moving my toes) and completely wore off within 4 hours. So wicked how it affects different people.

    • @MinimumViablePicnic
      @MinimumViablePicnic ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I was the same, I was able to lift bum up for pad change after an hour, however I had random leg jerkiness for 48 hours when I tried to sleep.

  • @milkymilkshake244
    @milkymilkshake244 ปีที่แล้ว

    So so so happy for you! Sending lots of love ❤️

  • @vickypike2447
    @vickypike2447 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hey
    Much love to you and your little boy. ❤

  • @CharlotteJacksonX
    @CharlotteJacksonX ปีที่แล้ว

    Just wanted to mentioned I checked Oryn's astrological birth chart and he will be a super talkative child 🤭 and very bright!

  • @jemmalow8958
    @jemmalow8958 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    With the hair loss I'd get your thyroid checked out make sure thats level. (I vaguely remember you saying in previous videos that you have a thyroid problem)
    I have an underactive thyroid and it played up so much in the first 12 months after having my son!

    • @SomeoneBeginingWithI
      @SomeoneBeginingWithI ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hair loss after birth is normal. Hair folicals have a cycle where the hair grows and then falls out and then a new one grows. This happens all the time and is normal. In pregnancy, the pregnancy hormones cause the hair folical cycles to sync up with each other. In late pregnancy, the hair that would normally be due to fall out stays in the scalp a bit longer, and then after birth when the hormones change a lot of hair falls out around the same time. You're right that excessive hair loss can be a sign of illness but in this case it is probably just the pregnancy hormones and not something to worry about.

  • @gabrielacortez4893
    @gabrielacortez4893 ปีที่แล้ว

    Were you on any medications for the mental health like the depression and anxiety? If not, what did you do to manage? How did you cope?

  • @jeaninevanzantvoort4042
    @jeaninevanzantvoort4042 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Girl, you have some orbs flying around. To start at 7.40-7.50 on the rightside of the screen. Keep an eye on that side when you hit the 8.33 min.

  • @SirAxolotlTheWise
    @SirAxolotlTheWise ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I gave birth to my third in an NHS hospital. We only stayed for one night after the birth. But nobody said anything when I had the baby in bed with me the whole time, day and night. Maybe a third baby thing, who knows. It was a ward of 8 or 10. Ugh... Previous two were born in a different country. One in a hospital and one at home. Again, with the hospital birth I kept the baby in bed with me and nobody objected.

  • @sandyseibelhager7131
    @sandyseibelhager7131 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Do you think the shared ward is more for women who stay longer and the private rooms are for shorter stays? Or is four days typical? Just wondering if that’s how they keep up there?Here in the states I went to two different hospitals for three vaginal births one had a private room and the other had two patients but I was never there for more than two days.

    • @courtneywaltz6153
      @courtneywaltz6153 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m here in the states too and I had to stay for 3 days with all of my c-sections. 3 days is the standard for them due to it being a major surgery.

    • @MarnieJohnston
      @MarnieJohnston ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I don't think so - I'm in the UK and when I had my baby I was only in for 24 hours after birth and I was on a shared ward too.

  • @maddiejoy6619
    @maddiejoy6619 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm in the US and I was supposed to walk out of the hospital after birth. They said they could get me a wheelchair, but they preferred me walking out. I think the rule about being wheeled out of the hospital is falling out of fashion (unless the person has just gotten a leg amputated or something).

  • @Booksnsourdough
    @Booksnsourdough ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As much as it's a 6 week recovery, it's not in the terms of when you feel better after having a csection. It's more to the point that the surgery you had was major abdominal surgery and therefore an open wound. So regardless of how you felt, it takes 6 weeks to heal internally. That's why most places you need a pass to drive earlier than 6 weeks otherwise you aren't covered for insurance. Doesn't matter if you are feeling well 4 days after major abdominal surgery, your still a wound. Which is also another reason as to why they tell women to abstain from sex for the first 6 weeks (most are hella horny not long after having a baby, depending on trauma from the birth or not) but you're not supposed to because you have an open wound and risk an infection. Not because of anything else.

  • @1992MarieLisa
    @1992MarieLisa ปีที่แล้ว

    Do you use cloth nappies?

  • @middleoftheroadmama
    @middleoftheroadmama ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I remember 10% of the 24 hours I laboured, pushed then under general for a real emergency section, recovery and meeting my daughter. 10%. And do you know what takes up most of that 10%?
    The ONE miserable nurse I had on my care team. 😐

  • @shannonanndavey4024
    @shannonanndavey4024 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am a smelly girl too post partum! I had to try every deodorant on the shelves - mitchem stick is working for the moment!

  • @Jay-oh5yk
    @Jay-oh5yk ปีที่แล้ว

    Do you know - does the hair grow back that falls out? Xx

  • @Fudge-go4xl
    @Fudge-go4xl ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Can we just appreciate how pushed the NHS is just how hard all the staff work being on a shared ward makes it somewhat easier maybe you should of gone private

    • @katfoster845
      @katfoster845 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Whilst nhs staff work hard, staff convenience shouldn't be used as a reason to worsen the patient experience. Being on a shared ward is not a nice experience. You get no sleep and it actively makes recovery harder, so it might make things slightly easier in the short term; but in the long term it actually probably makes things worse.
      I have been a carer for people with dementia. There is no way I'd have been able to give people the dignified care they deserve if they'd been sharing.

  • @AprilAyden
    @AprilAyden ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow it took so long for your numbness to go away! 12 hours after my section I was begging the nurses to remove my catheter so I could get out of bed 😂

    • @AprilAyden
      @AprilAyden ปีที่แล้ว

      Also I felt fully recovered after 2 weeks! This was my third baby and second section. After my first section with my second baby I felt better after a week! So lucky! My first baby was a natural birth and i couldn't barely move for about 3 months!!!

  • @c.morland
    @c.morland ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks

  • @nicolestewart
    @nicolestewart ปีที่แล้ว

    Congratulations sweetie ❤

  • @1995laurensimpson
    @1995laurensimpson ปีที่แล้ว

    That sticky residue from the dressing literally wouldn’t come off for weeks!!! No amount of scrubbing that I could do in the area seems to get it off😂

    • @chevandisla
      @chevandisla ปีที่แล้ว

      A small amount of baby oil on some q tips helped get the sticky stuff of for me

    • @Armadillae
      @Armadillae ปีที่แล้ว

      Wouldn't recommend, but my mechanic partner used prepsol to help me get the sticky off when I'd really had enough 😂 desperate times

  • @courtneywaltz6153
    @courtneywaltz6153 ปีที่แล้ว

    Some things you didn’t mention that I experienced with both of mine so I am wondering who has a shared experience. I experienced WILD shaking from the spinal. Like intense shivering but I wasn’t cold. This lasted for several hours post op. My anesthesia wore off/ I was up and walking within 4-5 hours. Also, in the States after a c-section, nurses push on your uterus fairly hard. It’s called a fundal massage (massage my ass). Do nurses do this elsewhere?

    • @toriainsworth5224
      @toriainsworth5224 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hiya- UK student doctor here :) from my experience we massage the uterus directly, before closing up the C-section - all while mum is still in theatre. It’s great for controlling bleeding, and a good surgeon won’t close until the uterus has contracted.

    • @courtneywaltz6153
      @courtneywaltz6153 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@toriainsworth5224 Interesting. They do the massage every 15 minutes here, after in the recovery room, for a few hours to ensure the uterus continues to contract.

    • @MinimumViablePicnic
      @MinimumViablePicnic ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I also had shaking

  • @toni5543
    @toni5543 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🎉

  • @LilySaintSin
    @LilySaintSin ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yeah, the wheelchair thing is for liability reasons.

  • @laurakinsella1692
    @laurakinsella1692 ปีที่แล้ว

    What is your mum going to be called my mum goes by the name Nan

  • @karinseaman4060
    @karinseaman4060 ปีที่แล้ว

    The sticky residue from the dressing was the worst! 😂 Took forever to get it off..
    I also had to roll it off bit by bit 🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @Comptonisa
    @Comptonisa ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sorry if this is too personal but im interested were/ are u a virgin giving birth and does that change your virginity? I may or may not be considering doing what u did to have a baby

    • @chloexo7915
      @chloexo7915 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Virginity is just a social construct, you don’t “lose” your virginity through birth as it’s what society deems as “lost” during sexual intercourse.

    • @SomeoneBeginingWithI
      @SomeoneBeginingWithI ปีที่แล้ว

      Virginity is partly a social thing to do with whether a person has had the experiance of having sex, and partly a way of descrbing how the body changes if something large has ever gone into a person's vagina. Giving birth doesn't change whether you've had sex or not. If Bryony had given birth vaginally, then that would stretch her vagina. Bryony didn't give birth vaginally, she had a C section, so the baby came out through the C section incison rather than out vaginally.

  • @MB-xc9fp
    @MB-xc9fp ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The NHS are hugely overstretched and under funded. How can you expect your own room and reclining chairs 😂

    • @katfoster845
      @katfoster845 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm not sure it's expecting. It's saying that they would make the experience better and easier. Being able to have someone with you overnight in hospital when you have a baby isn't unreasonable. Being able to have your own room so you're able to sleep better isn't unreasonable either.

  • @sparkleg4468
    @sparkleg4468 ปีที่แล้ว

    You have to be Jimmy carrs daughter?

    • @ashy2074
      @ashy2074 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lol, no she isn't

  • @emma12345890
    @emma12345890 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow you talk fast