Great advice. Clearly comes from experience. 1. Your spouse is not God. They cannot complete you. 2. Communication is essential. Arguing is better than silence, so long as there is constructive communication happening. 3. You don't always have to be right. Listen more than you talk. 4. Fix yourself in order to perfect your marriage. Be the person you want to marry. 5. Friendship first. Romance second. Romance fades - are you really friends with this person? 6. Talk about things that matter and unite - things both intellectual and spiritual.
the 6th - not really that what they meant, and all of them are a little bit not fully, they speak about God, and not in a philosophical way, do not ' censor '
Thanks for the Video! Forgive me for the intrusion, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you heard about - Taparton Saving Family Takeover (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for helping a troubled marriage minus the normal expense. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my m8 got amazing success with it.
There are a few tips for saving your marriage Try to talk more Cooperate with each other more Try to give and take more (I discovered these and why they work on Pavs Partner Pundit website )
After 41 years and still going in our marriage, it's refreshing to hear your advice. Friendship and laughter makes a difference. In today's world here's a tip to add - Be mentally present when you are physically present. (put down the iPhone/iPad.) Blessings on your marriage.
I just ended a relationship we liked each other in atraction and friendship, but not in faith. So, I truly worked hard to persuade her about the meaning and importance of Jesus' friendship in our daily relationship, but we couldn't make it. It ain't easy at all if we don't share faith. God bless!!!
I have just discovered your videos, and have subscribed. It might sound odd, given that I am not Catholic, and aged seventy six and widowed. We are never too old to learn, and what might not apply in my life could be helpful to another. It is refreshing to hear two young married people speak openly about the dynamics which undergird a successful marriage. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 👏👏👏
If only I would have heard talks like this before getting married but I'm glad my husband and I are listening to it now! Thank you so much for your videos please make more!!! God bless
Very good. These things need to be counselled and worked on before marriage. So glad the Grace of God led you to put these videos up for public consumption.
aw you 2 are so sweet! Looking forward to more videos. If you have made videos before, I must have missed them. I love #1 so much!! Learned it when I was dating and it was so freeing - that no human will complete me. That it's okay that I need time with girlfriends, etc. My husband is amazing but he's not perfect - God is perfect!!
Jackie and Bobbie, THANK YOU. This is outstanding adivce. Wouldn't it be great if a marriage course like this was presented to high school students. I had a course in Marriage at St. Louis University during college that included what you are saying and even expanded it on it. It was so hugely helpful! Thank you for this and for your down-to-earth real personalities. I also loved the video about using the Interactive Mass Book for children. Thank you very much. Sue Anthony
This is a big thing, I hear the “they don’t complete you” and that’s true, but I’m not fixable before marriage. I can start, but I feel a lot of pressure from videos like this to be “fixed” first… just throwing that out there in case anybody feels the same…
Thank you that was very helpful. Lord I have learned so much from Ascension Presents that with out these brothers and sisters I would not be as close to you as I am today. God bless
It is so important to understand the fundamentals of marriage. I started dating my husband when we were 14 years old and have been together ever since. We now have one beautiful baby girl. I made a video of our marriage secret sauce too :)
Practice the art of listening and giving the other your full attention without interrupting them when they are speaking. When you let the other finish what they are saying you're showing them that you value their thoughts and ideas as much as your own.
This sounds like perfect advice. Some of it is for before you are married and some after though this leans more towards before. I'd like to see a video on advice once you are married and you realize that you've already made a lot of the mistakes listed here. a) maybe you don't have common goals or b) maybe you don't have a friendship and can't talk about deep things together. How do you acquire these things once you are married and realize that you don't have them?
Amazingly Wise Advice! All of them! Thanks To God!! May God Bless you and The Blessed Virgin Mary Protect you and your marriage, you are one flesh now, guys, hold on to God. God Love you. Thank you, guys!
You are both very blessed. Thank you for the video and the helpful advice. Where oh where can we meet couples like us? I struggle 😔 God bless you both 🙏🏻🕯❤️
God bless you and all listening.. True, when GOD is in the relationship the well-being of your soulmate is rooted in LOVE. Life has no guarantees but if you marry a person who brings out the best in you-that’s another indication...as a couple grows, the love grows deeper (even in the challenging times when we can’t see it in the moment). Always thankful for all my blessings - the big ones, the small ones and the ones we may not notice. May we never lose our focus ❣️
@Ascension Presents Jackie & Hubby, what great advice. I doubt you remember me Jackie, my name is Bruno. You were Keynote at our Diocese of San José Youth Tahoe Retreat. My goodness it must be 10 years now. You were an amazing Keynote, and ready to jump in on the most ridiculous fun. Such a Sport. So, yeah, Hi‼️ I pray the Holy Spirit rain abundant blessings upon your Sacramental Union, especially as it connects you to the Most Holy Trinity, and should your family grow, may the Lord favor them and Blessings be Abundant upon them as well. In the Most Precious Name of Jesus Christ we pray, amen‼️‼️🛐🛐🛐🤘🏼🤘🏼🤘🏼🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💞💞💞💯💯💯
Jackie and Bobby, glad you're doing these bits. I really appreciate it. I have a few questions of my own. In these so-called modern times, we're often seeing a lot of talk about gender roles and the gender binary, to what extent is it inherent, or socialized, et cetera. What do you think are the ideal, essential, bare minimum roles for the husband and wife to inhabit in a solid, holy Catholic marriage? What is absolutely necessary, and what is not? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.
We've been married for 16 years . Got married in the Courthouse After that we got married in the cafe church The priest Bless Our wedding rings. We did good for a while Then I made a huge mistake and left the church My wife Took the kids to church when I went to my own church. Eventually I came back to the church did all my confessions Going to mass every sunday And taken the holy week communion. I've been Back To the church seven weeks now. My wife and my kids are catholic . So far it hasn't sunk in Then i'm here to stay Still married still living at the same house . I'm praying for my wife that she start coming to Mass Again None the cars of her not going to mass I messed up Don't worry thing I can do is pray for her and keep going myself until she's ready the golden mass.
Some of the problem comes from one person being insistent of what they "need" but really, its just what they "want". Before imposing on your loved one, be strict on yourself remembering emotional independence is a good thing too, the best precursor to sharing emotions.
Can someone finally make a video on couples who struggle with infertility? I.e. why God would prevent something inherently good from occurring - "be fruitful and multiply"
Maybe it’s a way to guide you to other options. So many children need to be adopted and shown love, maybe one of them is meant for you and you for them. Maybe pray to God for his will for your life?
I've been married for 40 years and still trying to communicate with my husband in a healthy manner but unfortunately I have had to reconcile to the fact that things happen in God's own time.... please pray for me...
What if your communication is not welcomed by your spouse and they just don’t want to hear it, like being open to more children? For years… now it is becoming a huge resentment that grows with each passing month.
I hate that line from "Jerry McGuire", I've told that to other people: "No one completes you, you're already a whole person. Marriage is 1 + 1, not half + half"
I think what she means by "completes" is that when you marry someone, you are partaking in a covenant ultimately with God, and because of that covenant, and the husband and wife help each other through life by a special way (marriage) it more fully helps you to become in full union with God that you might've missed otherwise. This doesn't apply to everyone, obviously priests, and nuns and other clergy are called to become closer with God in a different way, but the general idea that a marriage can help "complete" you, is not incorrect because it points to God ultimately and not the husband or wife that is helping you become closer to God.
Hy there! Could you pls tell me according to your religion, when or if a wife has the right to refuse the sexual embrace of her husband ( if she feels sick, tired or simply preocupated of sth else, not in the right mood) Or, if she is not ready to get pregnant again , so soon? According to mine, married People should withhold during lent, but only if they both agree. Otherwise is considered a sin to say no bc you want to fast for it ( bc you "force" the Other one to do it against his /her will) What if the Other spouse is nota catholic and he disagree the catholic ideas about the reasons of having sex ? ( asking to do it just for physical satisfaction, but avoiding the possibility of procreation, or even not excluding the possibility of pregnancy termination)?
Great advice. Clearly comes from experience.
1. Your spouse is not God. They cannot complete you.
2. Communication is essential. Arguing is better than silence, so long as there is constructive communication happening.
3. You don't always have to be right. Listen more than you talk.
4. Fix yourself in order to perfect your marriage. Be the person you want to marry.
5. Friendship first. Romance second. Romance fades - are you really friends with this person?
6. Talk about things that matter and unite - things both intellectual and spiritual.
the 6th - not really that what they meant, and all of them are a little bit not fully, they speak about God, and not in a philosophical way, do not ' censor '
That's really lovely and so true.
Thanks for the Video! Forgive me for the intrusion, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you heard about - Taparton Saving Family Takeover (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for helping a troubled marriage minus the normal expense. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my m8 got amazing success with it.
There are a few tips for saving your marriage
Try to talk more
Cooperate with each other more
Try to give and take more
(I discovered these and why they work on Pavs Partner Pundit website )
Super advices 👍🙏
After 41 years and still going in our marriage, it's refreshing to hear your advice. Friendship and laughter makes a difference. In today's world here's a tip to add - Be mentally present when you are physically present. (put down the iPhone/iPad.) Blessings on your marriage.
Garry Hall Amen
"Look at the soul of the camera honey" 😂 I love how their personalities complement eachother
Thank you for not giving the "never go to bed angry" cliche. Trust me. It will happen. It doesn't mean you're a failure.
Thank you! Opened my heart and mind to a new relationship with my husband. God bless your union!
Praise God! Beautiful!!
Love: “...reality is better than the romance....” and the fact that friendship is a strong key point in marriage
Thanks. Pray someday, I'll get a great wife too if that's the vocation for me.
God bless, Proverbs 31
I just ended a relationship we liked each other in atraction and friendship, but not in faith. So, I truly worked hard to persuade her about the meaning and importance of Jesus' friendship in our daily relationship, but we couldn't make it. It ain't easy at all if we don't share faith. God bless!!!
Just experienced this myself. Without the common bond of faith it’s doomed to failure
I am devoting time in prayer for your marriage and family. May your hearts and minds be guarded against all that can harm it.
Great advice Jackie and Bobbie!. Also the ways you guys interact with each other is too cute😍😍
I love how he just stares at you, God Bless your beautiful marriage 🙏🏼🥰
I have just discovered your videos, and have subscribed. It might sound odd, given that I am not Catholic, and aged seventy six and widowed. We are never too old to learn, and what might not apply in my life could be helpful to another. It is refreshing to hear two young married people speak openly about the dynamics which undergird a successful
marriage.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 👏👏👏
I'm so glad I found this channel. I will also share this with my family and friends.
I can already tell I'm going to love this new series!
If only I would have heard talks like this before getting married but I'm glad my husband and I are listening to it now! Thank you so much for your videos please make more!!! God bless
Wish I had heard this as far back as high school. Excellent.
Very good. These things need to be counselled and worked on before marriage. So glad the Grace of God led you to put these videos up for public consumption.
Incredible advice! I'm already soooo excited about your series here on Ascension Presents. Can't wait for more content 😁👍 God bless!
Thank you for sharing this message! God continued blessings in your marriage❤️
Glad you two are on this channel now. Looking forward to more!!
Loved u two from the time I first heard your testimony of how God brought y'all together...great video!
Really enjoy watching your videos. Good advice. God bless your marriage and family xx
Good series and I'm looking forward to hearing more! Good bless!
So happy to have you here!!!!! 🎆🎉
so happy to see a young catholic couple!!! youre rockin it guyssss
Wonderful advice. Friendship is built on trust and respect without that you have nothing.
aw you 2 are so sweet! Looking forward to more videos. If you have made videos before, I must have missed them. I love #1 so much!! Learned it when I was dating and it was so freeing - that no human will complete me. That it's okay that I need time with girlfriends, etc. My husband is amazing but he's not perfect - God is perfect!!
Thank You Very Much Bobby for the Concept of "Grounding" a real relationship, because without it, The Current of Love, cannot "flow".
Sincere and natural . Thank you both for sharing . God bless . May your marriage continue into eternity.
Thank you, Paul!
Thank you so much for this beautiful video!
Jackie and Bobbie, THANK YOU. This is outstanding adivce. Wouldn't it be great if a marriage course like this was presented to high school students. I had a course in Marriage at St. Louis University during college that included what you are saying and even expanded it on it. It was so hugely helpful! Thank you for this and for your down-to-earth real personalities. I also loved the video about using the Interactive Mass Book for children. Thank you very much. Sue Anthony
Very practical tips. You two are great! As they say in French: keep em' coming!
This video is amazing~! Bless you two for the Wisdom you share. You are a Gift to us all, Alexandra~ Heaven~
This is a big thing, I hear the “they don’t complete you” and that’s true, but I’m not fixable before marriage. I can start, but I feel a lot of pressure from videos like this to be “fixed” first… just throwing that out there in case anybody feels the same…
Please pray for our marriage 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🕊🔥
Thank you that was very helpful. Lord I have learned so much from Ascension Presents that with out these brothers and sisters I would not be as close to you as I am today. God bless
Great job guys!🙏🏻
Thankyou so much for you sharing your experiences and advise. May God bless you always🙏
Such a beautiful couple. Thanks for this.
Great advice, thanks!
It is so important to understand the fundamentals of marriage. I started dating my husband when we were 14 years old and have been together ever since. We now have one beautiful baby girl. I made a video of our marriage secret sauce too :)
God bless u
You guys are great!
Great video, good advice. Looking forward to seeing more like it. Keep up the great work.
Thanks for the encouragement, Tim!
Yaaay. Its Jackie and Bobby!!!
God loves you keep it up to be a true witness to marriage in this generation
Thanks for the advice.
Great advices! I’m still single and happy with the way it is
I totally agree with your advice.
I can see unhappiness in his eyes..
Maybe he’s burnt out on being told what to do all the time 😂
Great tips!
Great video guys
So excited for this new series!
Also, what happened to our Matt Fradd Monday? xP
Great advice
Practice the art of listening and giving the other your full attention without interrupting them when they are speaking. When you let the other finish what they are saying you're showing them that you value their thoughts and ideas as much as your own.
Thank you!
Great video you guys keep up the good work. GOD BLESS 🕇 ❤ 😆
This sounds like perfect advice. Some of it is for before you are married and some after though this leans more towards before. I'd like to see a video on advice once you are married and you realize that you've already made a lot of the mistakes listed here. a) maybe you don't have common goals or b) maybe you don't have a friendship and can't talk about deep things together. How do you acquire these things once you are married and realize that you don't have them?
Y’all are too cute. God Bless your marriage until death do you part.
Alleluia🙌🏻🙏🏻❤️🕊
Amazingly Wise Advice! All of them! Thanks To God!! May God Bless you and The Blessed Virgin Mary Protect you and your marriage, you are one flesh now, guys, hold on to God. God Love you. Thank you, guys!
Ahhh my favorite couple!!
You are both very blessed. Thank you for the video and the helpful advice. Where oh where can we meet couples like us? I struggle 😔 God bless you both 🙏🏻🕯❤️
Thank you .
God bless you and all listening..
True, when GOD is in the relationship
the well-being of your soulmate is rooted in LOVE.
Life has no guarantees but if you marry a person who brings out the best in you-that’s another indication...as a couple grows, the love grows deeper (even in the challenging times when we can’t see it in the moment).
Always thankful for all my blessings - the big ones, the small ones and the ones we may not notice. May we never lose our focus ❣️
love u guys
🙌🙌🙌 I knew it was going to be a party. 🎉🎉🎉
More more !! Yes!!!
🤣 mixed tapes
Great advice guys can’t wait to see what you come up with next!
@Ascension Presents Jackie & Hubby, what great advice. I doubt you remember me Jackie, my name is Bruno. You were Keynote at our Diocese of San José Youth Tahoe Retreat. My goodness it must be 10 years now. You were an amazing Keynote, and ready to jump in on the most ridiculous fun. Such a Sport. So, yeah, Hi‼️ I pray the Holy Spirit rain abundant blessings upon your Sacramental Union, especially as it connects you to the Most Holy Trinity, and should your family grow, may the Lord favor them and Blessings be Abundant upon them as well. In the Most Precious Name of Jesus Christ we pray, amen‼️‼️🛐🛐🛐🤘🏼🤘🏼🤘🏼🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💞💞💞💯💯💯
❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻 I love this hahaha
And I also want this!!! 🙏🏻🤗💖
THANK YOU
Epic advice🤯
Jackie and Bobby, glad you're doing these bits. I really appreciate it. I have a few questions of my own.
In these so-called modern times, we're often seeing a lot of talk about gender roles and the gender binary, to what extent is it inherent, or socialized, et cetera. What do you think are the ideal, essential, bare minimum roles for the husband and wife to inhabit in a solid, holy Catholic marriage? What is absolutely necessary, and what is not?
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.
Jackie can you please do a hair routine my hair used to also be curly
Mother Mary bless you family. .
Peace brother and sister. Great advice. I can only wish my wife liked my beard.
Yay!!! Are they going to be on every Tuesday?
Yes! Tuesdays 3:30 eastern :) if you have any requests use #askjackieandbobby
or #askjackie #askbobby
We've been married for 16 years . Got married in the Courthouse After that we got married in the cafe church The priest Bless Our wedding rings. We did good for a while Then I made a huge mistake and left the church My wife Took the kids to church when I went to my own church. Eventually I came back to the church did all my confessions Going to mass every sunday And taken the holy week communion. I've been Back To the church seven weeks now. My wife and my kids are catholic . So far it hasn't sunk in Then i'm here to stay Still married still living at the same house . I'm praying for my wife that she start coming to Mass Again None the cars of her not going to mass I messed up Don't worry thing I can do is pray for her and keep going myself until she's ready the golden mass.
When are we getting new videos . We miss you guys. God bless you both
communication will save nations! ay
Pure statements
Some of the problem comes from one person being insistent of what they "need" but really, its just what they "want". Before imposing on your loved one, be strict on yourself remembering emotional independence is a good thing too, the best precursor to sharing emotions.
I like his beard too! 😃
Can add tips on how to listen to your spouse without getting agitated? Or how do exactly to argue without detriment our relationship?
And affirm, affirm, affirm. That's right honey.
Can someone finally make a video on couples who struggle with infertility? I.e. why God would prevent something inherently good from occurring - "be fruitful and multiply"
Great request - thank you!
Sympathies, folks. It's not God's doing, any more than any other disease.
There are children with no mommy and daddy, there are adults with no children. Mix these together and destiny!
@lrenturn You know, you're not actually helping!
Also, the contents of the Bible were decided on by the church, so it can't be the sole authority.
Maybe it’s a way to guide you to other options. So many children need to be adopted and shown love, maybe one of them is meant for you and you for them. Maybe pray to God for his will for your life?
I've been married for 40 years and still trying to communicate with my husband in a healthy manner but unfortunately I have had to reconcile to the fact that things happen in God's own time.... please pray for me...
We’re 33 years married and also still working on this vital area. Offering Prayers!
great
Pray for us. Please
Shucks ♡ haha what a nice video
... the way they look at each other...
Gorgeous couple, inside and out. Just one comment, for Bobby - mixed tapes? Really?
7:52 they have to be your best friend.
Amen
What if your communication is not welcomed by your spouse and they just don’t want to hear it, like being open to more children? For years… now it is becoming a huge resentment that grows with each passing month.
Jackie and Bobby
How long have u guys been married???
"shucks"😅😅
Sure you dont have to be perfect, but God calls each and everyone to be HOLY. SO BOTH OF YOU SHOULD LIVE HOLY LIVES.
Amen🙌💕
I hate that line from "Jerry McGuire", I've told that to other people: "No one completes you, you're already a whole person. Marriage is 1 + 1, not half + half"
I think what she means by "completes" is that when you marry someone, you are partaking in a covenant ultimately with God, and because of that covenant, and the husband and wife help each other through life by a special way (marriage) it more fully helps you to become in full union with God that you might've missed otherwise.
This doesn't apply to everyone, obviously priests, and nuns and other clergy are called to become closer with God in a different way, but the general idea that a marriage can help "complete" you, is not incorrect because it points to God ultimately and not the husband or wife that is helping you become closer to God.
Hy there! Could you pls tell me according to your religion, when or if a wife has the right to refuse the sexual embrace of her husband ( if she feels sick, tired or simply preocupated of sth else, not in the right mood)
Or, if she is not ready to get pregnant again , so soon?
According to mine, married People should withhold during lent, but only if they both agree. Otherwise is considered a sin to say no bc you want to fast for it ( bc you "force" the Other one to do it against his /her will)
What if the Other spouse is nota catholic and he disagree the catholic ideas about the reasons of having sex ? ( asking to do it just for physical satisfaction, but avoiding the possibility of procreation, or even not excluding the possibility of pregnancy termination)?