I really enjoyed this video. I think it's so important to accept all of your identities. Amin Malouf discusses the vertical and horizontal identities we all have in his "In The Name of Identity." I also think you addressed cultural mourning and realizing that certain parts of your culture have been stripped of you, but also multiculturalism, with your Chinese and English identities. Keep up the good work. :)
thank you! Yes I agree, there is this duality in being Chinese and British but also sadness with the loss of being Chinese, also that sounds like a really interesting read I will deffo check it out :)
Hello!!! I’ve always wanted to adopt from China so I watch a lot of documentaries about Chinese adoption. Have you seen Somewhere Between? The girls have the same feelings as you. It’s an amazing documentary.
I also hate that, the being told different things about your identity and what you should see yourself as. When I got to college, I met this girl who would always point out to me that I wasn't really Korean and that no Korean would see me as such, but she wasn't even Korean herself. It was confusing because even my parents would ignorantly walk up to Koreans and tell them "oh my daughter is Korean, you guys should be friends!" And also when I met Koreans and told them I'm American they would be like "동양인인데" (but you are Asian) So I began to have an identity crisis about whether I was simply too American to be Korean. Growing up adopted, you always feel different, and no one can truly understand how deep that cuts into your self conscious except other adoptees. In my mind, I always try to tell myself that I am Korean American, and that it is okay to be both despite so many people telling you you have to choose one. It's difficult but being around others who understand helps a lot. :)
Be happy! You are a amazing and pretty girl. You just you. Unic Dont think what the people think! Whatever... Live your beautifull life!!! You are a lucky girl
Such an interesting video, I don't think you rambled at all! One of the main positives I think is that if u weren't adopted I prob never would've gotten to know u and your awesome self! :)
Hey this was really great video, it expressed a lot of what I felt growing up as an Asian adoptee in Midwest America. I suggested you watch Ben Deen he is a you tuber that talks about Korean adoptees living in Korea. But ya I know what you meant when you said having two identities as an adoptee. That's what sucks as about transracial adoptee, our adoption is visible for everyone from birth to adulthood or when we move out of parents house. I grew up on predominant white neighborhood, but since I'm a 20 year old and in college I'm focusing on moving into an Asian American community like in California, New York, or Washington DC.
Yes I saw Ben's video and I forgot to say but this video is sort of inspired by his video about growing up adopted. I understand what you mean, I'm also hoping to move to a more Asian community in the future, maybe see you there xD
Hey! I've always, always dreamed of adopting children in the future so I'm watching you videos now and kind of making notes on how to be the best possible parent to an adoptee. I was wondering if you have any siblings, if so are they adopted as well? Do you think that having adopted siblings (whether it's from the same country or a different place completely) helps in not feeling so alone? I feel like my family is already going to be seen as very different since my potential kids are going to be growing up with two mommas, do you think that just makes it worse, or possibly just helps the mindset of "different is good". Maybe weird questions.. hope you don't think so lol. All the love to you dear xx
Hi there, I don't have any siblings, so I can't say from that perspective however possibly yes? It is difficult to tell with my experience of feeling alone whether it is more of an adopted experience or an only child one with that, however perhaps a bit of both. I think it would've been nice just to see another face that looked like mine as I rarely ever saw it and potentially it gives you another person to talk with what you're going through. hmm I haven't had personal experience with it, however I would say that having two mums will of course have an impact on how your child is perceived by others, and sadly it is not always positive :/ however I think a lot is down to how you as parents go about it, as you said with the approach 'different is good' can promote a positive image whilst acknowledging the difficulties that your child will face, growing up apart from their culture and people's constant questions. The balance is being open to talking to your child about it without pushing them. Similarly where you live has a big impact and what access to culture and seeing diversity and people from their respective ethnicity, as I have mentioned it was quite difficult growing up without those things, however everyone is different. If you'd like to speak more on it, you can always drop me an email or send a message to my facebook page. Good luck with everything ^^
Might I suggest, for you to join Adoptees from Asia private group on Facebook. A great online support community. Also, I know what you mean when you say born to be different. I have been thinking about that lately, how sometimes j wish I could just have stayed in Asia and sometimes wish I was never adopted. But ya adoption is so hard white people dont fully accept me even though I am just like them on the inside and Asians don't fully accept me, why is it that one of the most important choices of my life was made by two strangers in America? Why couldn't I have made the choice, I was 5 years old when I was adopted. And have quite the anxiety issues
hey there I'm actually already part of it, but thanks so much for asking! It's a really nice group. Yeah I agree with you I feel like a lot of this has been out of my control, and like I said with adoptees many questions are unknown so this perpetuates our feelings of helplessness. Also I know what you're saying about the feelings of not being fully white or asian. I believe that this duality we have to live with an struggle through, especially in todays society which is very keen for you to be one or the other. Have you seen my video on 'finding my identity' I speak more about this topic? With anxiety I'm wondering if there is anyone you can speak to? often it can be a good thing to talk to people about these issues, adoption is really tough so I can only hope for you to be able to work through both, and thanks for sharing your story with me. :)
I really enjoyed this video.
I am adopted from Vietnam and I am glad to see that someone else is feeling the same way I do 😊
thank you, this iis so relatable. I'm adopted form India, but the feelings are the same, and it's really nice to know that I'm not alone ^^
hey there :) you're not alone and thank you !
I really enjoyed this video. I think it's so important to accept all of your identities. Amin Malouf discusses the vertical and horizontal identities we all have in his "In The Name of Identity." I also think you addressed cultural mourning and realizing that certain parts of your culture have been stripped of you, but also multiculturalism, with your Chinese and English identities. Keep up the good work. :)
thank you! Yes I agree, there is this duality in being Chinese and British but also sadness with the loss of being Chinese, also that sounds like a really interesting read I will deffo check it out :)
You are just you.A beautiful and confident girl.Be happy and embrace two different cultures on their bright sides:)
thank you so much for your lovely comment!
+The Here and Nao Oh,you replied so quickly:p
Hello!!! I’ve always wanted to adopt from China so I watch a lot of documentaries about Chinese adoption. Have you seen Somewhere Between? The girls have the same feelings as you. It’s an amazing documentary.
I also hate that, the being told different things about your identity and what you should see yourself as. When I got to college, I met this girl who would always point out to me that I wasn't really Korean and that no Korean would see me as such, but she wasn't even Korean herself. It was confusing because even my parents would ignorantly walk up to Koreans and tell them "oh my daughter is Korean, you guys should be friends!" And also when I met Koreans and told them I'm American they would be like "동양인인데" (but you are Asian) So I began to have an identity crisis about whether I was simply too American to be Korean. Growing up adopted, you always feel different, and no one can truly understand how deep that cuts into your self conscious except other adoptees. In my mind, I always try to tell myself that I am Korean American, and that it is okay to be both despite so many people telling you you have to choose one. It's difficult but being around others who understand helps a lot. :)
Be happy! You are a amazing and pretty girl. You just you. Unic
Dont think what the people think!
Whatever...
Live your beautifull life!!!
You are a lucky girl
Such an interesting video, I don't think you rambled at all! One of the main positives I think is that if u weren't adopted I prob never would've gotten to know u and your awesome self! :)
Aww Thanks Brendan xx Gonna Miss you 😁
Hey this was really great video, it expressed a lot of what I felt growing up as an Asian adoptee in Midwest America. I suggested you watch Ben Deen he is a you tuber that talks about Korean adoptees living in Korea. But ya I know what you meant when you said having two identities as an adoptee. That's what sucks as about transracial adoptee, our adoption is visible for everyone from birth to adulthood or when we move out of parents house. I grew up on predominant white neighborhood, but since I'm a 20 year old and in college I'm focusing on moving into an Asian American community like in California, New York, or Washington DC.
Yes I saw Ben's video and I forgot to say but this video is sort of inspired by his video about growing up adopted. I understand what you mean, I'm also hoping to move to a more Asian community in the future, maybe see you there xD
God bless you . I wish you all the best
Hey! I've always, always dreamed of adopting children in the future so I'm watching you videos now and kind of making notes on how to be the best possible parent to an adoptee. I was wondering if you have any siblings, if so are they adopted as well? Do you think that having adopted siblings (whether it's from the same country or a different place completely) helps in not feeling so alone? I feel like my family is already going to be seen as very different since my potential kids are going to be growing up with two mommas, do you think that just makes it worse, or possibly just helps the mindset of "different is good". Maybe weird questions.. hope you don't think so lol. All the love to you dear xx
Hi there, I don't have any siblings, so I can't say from that perspective however possibly yes? It is difficult to tell with my experience of feeling alone whether it is more of an adopted experience or an only child one with that, however perhaps a bit of both. I think it would've been nice just to see another face that looked like mine as I rarely ever saw it and potentially it gives you another person to talk with what you're going through.
hmm I haven't had personal experience with it, however I would say that having two mums will of course have an impact on how your child is perceived by others, and sadly it is not always positive :/ however I think a lot is down to how you as parents go about it, as you said with the approach 'different is good' can promote a positive image whilst acknowledging the difficulties that your child will face, growing up apart from their culture and people's constant questions. The balance is being open to talking to your child about it without pushing them. Similarly where you live has a big impact and what access to culture and seeing diversity and people from their respective ethnicity, as I have mentioned it was quite difficult growing up without those things, however everyone is different. If you'd like to speak more on it, you can always drop me an email or send a message to my facebook page. Good luck with everything ^^
Might I suggest, for you to join Adoptees from Asia private group on Facebook. A great online support community. Also, I know what you mean when you say born to be different. I have been thinking about that lately, how sometimes j wish I could just have stayed in Asia and sometimes wish I was never adopted. But ya adoption is so hard white people dont fully accept me even though I am just like them on the inside and Asians don't fully accept me, why is it that one of the most important choices of my life was made by two strangers in America? Why couldn't I have made the choice, I was 5 years old when I was adopted. And have quite the anxiety issues
hey there I'm actually already part of it, but thanks so much for asking! It's a really nice group. Yeah I agree with you I feel like a lot of this has been out of my control, and like I said with adoptees many questions are unknown so this perpetuates our feelings of helplessness.
Also I know what you're saying about the feelings of not being fully white or asian. I believe that this duality we have to live with an struggle through, especially in todays society which is very keen for you to be one or the other. Have you seen my video on 'finding my identity' I speak more about this topic?
With anxiety I'm wondering if there is anyone you can speak to? often it can be a good thing to talk to people about these issues, adoption is really tough so I can only hope for you to be able to work through both, and thanks for sharing your story with me. :)
Beautiful people
Thank you :)
Did you act in Skins?