I read a book called "I Just Lost Myself." I started prioritizing sleep and walking... Those were the first steps and they triggered my husband. That was when the clarity set in. He actually thought there was something wrong with my brain. We're divorced and I am much happier now. I'm not only healthier mentally but physically I became much healthier.
I haven't listened to you for a number of years, but I have to thank you for being the main instrument God used to give me the knowledge and the courage to leave a toxic marriage. Your wisdom combined with a gentle spirit drew me to you. I have referred others to your channel. Thank you again! I don't listen to you much now because I don't need to any more, thank the Lord!😊 I am doing well now. Bless you!
I want my kids to know me as a person, not just a cook, dishmaid, or laundress. My mom loves tennis, theater, spa getaways, shopping, and her group of close gal pals that helps her enjoy those. She loves my dad, too and supports us like an ox her love is so powerful. But those things light her up and that is as fun to see for me as finding out my young kids' interests and seeing their smiles. I want my kids to know me as more than a complainer of chores. To know they are so much more valuable to me as people with personalities than as simply folks that provide more chores for me to do.
This is great advice If I may add, if a woman is struggling with her emotions and they tend to get the better if her, it is not enough to try to "control" them. We have to deal with root issues around these intense emotions or we won't be able to stay regulated when triggered in the relationship. I mention this bc sometimes women can feel shamed / not good enough for not being able to "control emotional reactions". These intense reactions are usually due to trauma which was not the womens fault But, it is our responsibility to find healing. And with God and our willfulness, all things are possible.
Thank you for sharing your gift Leslie. My husband of course thinks your are a husband basher. I know you are not. I have lived in a toxic marriage for over 35 years.
After 57 yrs of destructive and now dangerous marriage, I did prepare to leave. Unfortunately, in the State of Florida, anything acquired during your marriage is divided equally, regardless that he did not contribute one cent to my savings. Incidentally he filed for divorce not me (God intervened) and has spent his savings and retirement. Just wanted to point that out and it varies by State.
I was trying to make a terrible relationship work with an emotionally abusive man. For nearly 3 years I had terrible insomnia. Do u think it was because I was being abused? I believe it was. I'm looking for a Christian therapist. Do u know someone who accepts mvp insurance?
@@danilaroche1156 absolutely; and her lessons are VERY NEEDED for people in ABUSIVE relationships; to forgive does not mean putting oneself BACK into a position to be abused again is the primary lesson.
She's not male bashing. Abuse and toxicity is real. We must protect ourselves. I adore men. Women can be abusive, too. I want to marry but I have to be careful. Witnessing my dad abuse my mom for decades...I gravitated towards cruel men. Am I male bashing? No..I'm bashing the devil.
When you speak in general about abuse in marriage you always refer to the victim as “she” and the abuser as “he”. This definitely gives the impression of a one sided view on the subject.
You isolate yourself because you're exhausted or embarrassed or ashamed...
Spot on! Thank you!
Leslie Vernick is so insightful and I love the way she explains this matter. I appreciate her wisdom!
The questions in this podcast are everything I’m thinking about right now. It’s terrifying, but helping me feel less alone. Thank you.
I read a book called "I Just Lost Myself." I started prioritizing sleep and walking... Those were the first steps and they triggered my husband. That was when the clarity set in. He actually thought there was something wrong with my brain. We're divorced and I am much happier now. I'm not only healthier mentally but physically I became much healthier.
I haven't listened to you for a number of years, but I have to thank you for being the main instrument God used to give me the knowledge and the courage to leave a toxic marriage. Your wisdom combined with a gentle spirit drew me to you. I have referred others to your channel. Thank you again! I don't listen to you much now because I don't need to any more, thank the Lord!😊 I am doing well now. Bless you!
God bless you, Lynn. So thankful you are doing well now. - Julie, Stronger Together Team
I want my kids to know me as a person, not just a cook, dishmaid, or laundress.
My mom loves tennis, theater, spa getaways, shopping, and her group of close gal pals that helps her enjoy those.
She loves my dad, too and supports us like an ox her love is so powerful.
But those things light her up and that is as fun to see for me as finding out my young kids' interests and seeing their smiles.
I want my kids to know me as more than a complainer of chores. To know they are so much more valuable to me as people with personalities than as simply folks that provide more chores for me to do.
This is great advice If I may add, if a woman is struggling with her emotions and they tend to get the better if her, it is not enough to try to "control" them. We have to deal with root issues around these intense emotions or we won't be able to stay regulated when triggered in the relationship. I mention this bc sometimes women can feel shamed / not good enough for not being able to "control emotional reactions". These intense reactions are usually due to trauma which was not the womens fault But, it is our responsibility to find healing. And with God and our willfulness, all things are possible.
Thank you for this. I needed this, I'm I this situation.
So helpful and biblical wisdom and advice ❤
Most of this is good advice and relevant to ANY important relationship that is destructive and causes distress.
❤ excellent content. I listened to the whole podcast. I might listen again bc it’s so helpful
This podcast episode is so good, I want to come back to this.
Very helpful
Thank you for sharing your gift Leslie. My husband of course thinks your are a husband basher. I know you are not. I have lived in a toxic marriage for over 35 years.
Definitely not a husband basher. Just a truth teller. God bless you, Lyn. - Julie, Stronger Together Team
The truth hurts. I’m sorry that you have lived in this for so long. ❤️
i hope u are out of that marriage
Im very angry and sad. Thanks for the reminders.😊🙏🙏
After 57 yrs of destructive and now dangerous marriage, I did prepare to leave. Unfortunately, in the State of Florida, anything acquired during your marriage is divided equally, regardless that he did not contribute one cent to my savings. Incidentally he filed for divorce not me (God intervened) and has spent his savings and retirement.
Just wanted to point that out and it varies by State.
Great video!! ❤
I was trying to make a terrible relationship work with an emotionally abusive man. For nearly 3 years I had terrible insomnia. Do u think it was because I was being abused? I believe it was. I'm looking for a Christian therapist. Do u know someone who accepts mvp insurance?
try the Kris Reece channel; shes excellent on this topic.
I know exactly who she is. She's great! Thanks.
@@danilaroche1156 absolutely; and her lessons are VERY NEEDED for people in ABUSIVE relationships; to forgive does not mean putting oneself BACK into a position to be abused again is the primary lesson.
Male bashing is destructive.
She's not male bashing. Abuse and toxicity is real. We must protect ourselves. I adore men. Women can be abusive, too. I want to marry but I have to be careful. Witnessing my dad abuse my mom for decades...I gravitated towards cruel men. Am I male bashing? No..I'm bashing the devil.
When you speak in general about abuse in marriage you always refer to the victim as “she” and the abuser as “he”. This definitely gives the impression of a one sided view on the subject.
@@hapottery7638 Anyone with a brain knows she's sincere, astute and unbiased. She mostly counsels women, so cool your jets.
@@danilaroche1156 Thank you for your kind understanding and for demonstrating my point.
You cannot or choose not to see truth.