I just love it when a general public person knows more than a neuro psych specialist. I'm so disappointed to know I didn't need to go through so many stressful assessments to find out why I struggle with simple tasks when I could have just asked someone in the supermarket to tell me if I am autistic or have ADHD.
I basically made the same comment on yesterday's video! Like, unless you live it or learned about it (in which case, still tread lightly) just shut up!
Stephanie, I don't know if I've ever told you this before but you are such an inspiration to me! You sharing your kids and now sharing your autism journey takes a lot and I'm so glad that your doing it. I appreciate all the information and time that you show and take into your vlogs. Your an amazing advocator Stephanie and I hope you continue to realize that! I hope you are having a great day and thank you so much for sharing your autism journey with us!
I almost rolled my eyes out of my head over the gatekeeping lol. I personally think you are very brave of you to share your (very personal) journey. You've done a great job on these videos and should be very proud.
I can’t believe I’m just now seeing this! Thank you so much for addressing my two questions. That video was very impactful for me and made me realize a lot about myself. I am also so sorry to hear that you are scaling back on your channel, but at the same time I am happy for you. You definitely do not owe anyone anything and you have given so much value to so many. You need to take care of yourself and your own happiness too. Wishing the best for you all and thank you for your channel❤️
About September last year I guessed a friend of mine had autism. She told me yesterday, briefly, and I didn't want to make it into a longer conversation just incase she was uncomfortable. I'm in school, and if you don't mind asking, (obviously you wouldn't of had a diagnosis), but what would you have liked someone to do or help you during your school years? You don't need to answer anything you didn't want to obviously, but although I was about 60% sure she had it (why I have been watching) I never asked... because that seemed weird to ask. Oh and about the empathy, she doesn't really immediately seem empathetic when you may be sad, but I have told her if things are worrying me and she is very reassuring and one of the kindest people I know! I only get to have lessons with her 2/3 times a week, but I have a brief chat every day nearly, and they are definetly some of the highlights of my day!
It is so amazing that other people who do NOT even know you...think they know you better than you know yourself!!! It must be so nice to think that you are so smart that you can evaluate someone by some videos!!! It takes a LOT of smarts to figure out what everyone wants you to be...and then be it!!!
My daughter is 32 and is just in the process of autism diagnosis. When I look back in hindsight knowing what I know now I see how desperately she wanted to fit in and masked a lot. She was the round peg in the square hole and was bullied a lot. 😢
Great video! I’ve saved it because I can’t focus for that long haha even though I’ve sped it up and I’m very interested in it!! I’ve been diagnosed bipolar for nearly 10 years, but honestly it’s never felt like a right fit. I’m awaiting ADHD assessment, really hoping for autism assessment too! I’m 30 now, I’ve got two young boys and I see those ADHD/autism traits in them but I’m really struggling to get the help I need! I can’t afford to go private. I really hope my boys get the help while they’re young, and not wait as long as I have! Like you’ve said, it’s incredibly damaging to receive the wrong diagnosis!!
I’m 23 years old, and I have autism. I also have complex PTSD, and a physical disability that I dare not sharing here to the public. To be honest, I don’t really mask my autism. Even though in my past, I was forced in cruel and abusive ways to mask my autism. Now that I’m out of that environment, I don’t mask it anymore. However, I try to mask my CPTSD.
I’m going through the diagnostic process myself and if I’m autistic I fear others won’t believe it because of how successful I appear but I feel like I struggle more than my coworkers and friends to do every day things.
It drives me nuts when people say oh you defiantly do not have that. They are not doctors. People have said things to me like Oh you make eye contact your fine.
With all I hear about how most girls with autism so successfully mask I feel left out because I can't. I'm more poison dart frog than chameleon, everyone can tell right away with me as my symptoms are on the more severe side unfortunately. I have had a few friends over the years but often my friendships have been one-sided. I like them a lot more than they like me.
I am sorry Robin. I feel like masking is a good and bad thing so I can get the desire to wish you could! It's hard to find quality friendships so I understand that.
I just love how doctors prescribe medications and basically hope one sticks. I don't have bipolar disorder but I have epilepsy. I've had to change my medications multiple times because the medicines prescribed would mess with my moods; I basically become a different person with each medication change. If you notice, alot of the same medications for bipolar disorder also are for epilepsy. Same medication for different problems. But Depakote isn't like Tylenol (at least to me) where you can use Tylenol for a fever and then use it for pain. I did terrible on Depakote for my epilepsy. Yeah I wasn't having seizures but I was like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. Also the medications tend to make you feel like you're in a fog. Sorry for the rambling, but yes I agree that those antipsychotics damage mental health.
its so interesting because im a transgender guy, i never really masked any of my autism, but it still took like 24 years to figure out i was autistic. in school they just diagnosed me with intellectual disability. i also have shutdowns and get quiet, when i was young i had meltdowns.
I'm 23, and i found your comment interesting because everyone always talk about either having meltdowns or shutdowns. But as a child I had meltdowns as well and now as an adult i have shutdowns. I remember from when I was 13 until i was like 19 my meltdowns were horrible after that my meltdowns became shutdowns... Like i will still have a meltdown but only if I'm SUPER HYPER MEGA stressed I can go literal months without them lol sorry for the long comment
At one point I was on 1600mg of seroquel twice a day I literally forgot how to function...my mom said it was like the lights were on but nobody was home I couldn't walk or talk it was terrible....I stopped all treatment after that and have been terrified to really seek help since
What is the C-PTSD diagnosis process like, particularly for an adult if you’ve experienced it? I believe that I have it based on the way I was treated in mainstream school but I’m worried that I either won’t explain myself correctly or my ASD diagnosis will get in the way somehow.
Is there a way I could be evaluated privately? My parents are the type that would compare me to my two severely autistic girls and say that there's nothing wrong with me but hearing your story and looking back on my past and current traits is starting to make more sense. I may want to know for myself but I don't want anyone else to know my diagnosis. Maybe there's a way I could do telehealth or zoom appointments?(getting out of the house by myself with my kids without them noticing would be tough) 😬
Stupid people asking stupid questions…I just want to slap some people. What you do is what you do. I don’t think you want money for your autism. You just made this channel for educational purposes to inform parents about the autism diagnosis process. And the rest is history. I’m glad you found out what was going on with you. I think bipolar disorder can mimic autism and I think that makes people confused about autism. Especially in girls. Girls can be shy and in autism usually people think about boys. Like you said, turning the wheels on cars. There’s needs to be more information about autism in girls, not just in boys. Not everybody is Rain Man lol. Rain Man is also a savant so not just autistic. People need to get over what they don’t understand. They don’t understand that you are an amazing mama. Yes, I said that! You are a great mama to your kids. And no one else has the right to say that you don’t have autism. Well, thanks for sharing! Have a great day!
I hate when people think you have to ask like Rain man, the good doctor, or Leonardo from what's eating Gilbert grape, to be ASD....it's so annoying, it shows they have no idea what ASD is.
@@OurLANDingCrew8 yeah I just had my 16 month screen for autism and come to fine out she has autism and other delays and she’s the only one who has autism and all my other ones have add and HDHD though so this is all new to me though
I just love it when a general public person knows more than a neuro psych specialist. I'm so disappointed to know I didn't need to go through so many stressful assessments to find out why I struggle with simple tasks when I could have just asked someone in the supermarket to tell me if I am autistic or have ADHD.
I basically made the same comment on yesterday's video! Like, unless you live it or learned about it (in which case, still tread lightly) just shut up!
Stephanie, I don't know if I've ever told you this before but you are such an inspiration to me! You sharing your kids and now sharing your autism journey takes a lot and I'm so glad that your doing it. I appreciate all the information and time that you show and take into your vlogs. Your an amazing advocator Stephanie and I hope you continue to realize that! I hope you are having a great day and thank you so much for sharing your autism journey with us!
I almost rolled my eyes out of my head over the gatekeeping lol. I personally think you are very brave of you to share your (very personal) journey. You've done a great job on these videos and should be very proud.
I can’t believe I’m just now seeing this! Thank you so much for addressing my two questions. That video was very impactful for me and made me realize a lot about myself. I am also so sorry to hear that you are scaling back on your channel, but at the same time I am happy for you. You definitely do not owe anyone anything and you have given so much value to so many. You need to take care of yourself and your own happiness too. Wishing the best for you all and thank you for your channel❤️
About September last year I guessed a friend of mine had autism. She told me yesterday, briefly, and I didn't want to make it into a longer conversation just incase she was uncomfortable. I'm in school, and if you don't mind asking, (obviously you wouldn't of had a diagnosis), but what would you have liked someone to do or help you during your school years?
You don't need to answer anything you didn't want to obviously, but although I was about 60% sure she had it (why I have been watching) I never asked... because that seemed weird to ask.
Oh and about the empathy, she doesn't really immediately seem empathetic when you may be sad, but I have told her if things are worrying me and she is very reassuring and one of the kindest people I know! I only get to have lessons with her 2/3 times a week, but I have a brief chat every day nearly, and they are definetly some of the highlights of my day!
My son was diagnosed at the age of 1 and thats when I started learning that I might be autistic too I can relate to this video so much.
It is so amazing that other people who do NOT even know you...think they know you better than you know yourself!!! It must be so nice to think that you are so smart that you can evaluate someone by some videos!!! It takes a LOT of smarts to figure out what everyone wants you to be...and then be it!!!
My daughter is 32 and is just in the process of autism diagnosis. When I look back in hindsight knowing what I know now I see how desperately she wanted to fit in and masked a lot. She was the round peg in the square hole and was bullied a lot. 😢
Just like me
Great video! I’ve saved it because I can’t focus for that long haha even though I’ve sped it up and I’m very interested in it!!
I’ve been diagnosed bipolar for nearly 10 years, but honestly it’s never felt like a right fit. I’m awaiting ADHD assessment, really hoping for autism assessment too! I’m 30 now, I’ve got two young boys and I see those ADHD/autism traits in them but I’m really struggling to get the help I need! I can’t afford to go private. I really hope my boys get the help while they’re young, and not wait as long as I have! Like you’ve said, it’s incredibly damaging to receive the wrong diagnosis!!
❤️❤️❤️ reminds me of my father in law ugh…”that doctor is a quack” thank you! I hate the stereotypes! I hate how people doubt you.
I’m 23 years old, and I have autism. I also have complex PTSD, and a physical disability that I dare not sharing here to the public. To be honest, I don’t really mask my autism. Even though in my past, I was forced in cruel and abusive ways to mask my autism. Now that I’m out of that environment, I don’t mask it anymore. However, I try to mask my CPTSD.
Stephanie! Love ya just the way you are.One tough lady.! Take care, stay safe.💕💙🙂🌟🌟
I’m going through the diagnostic process myself and if I’m autistic I fear others won’t believe it because of how successful I appear but I feel like I struggle more than my coworkers and friends to do every day things.
It drives me nuts when people say oh you defiantly do not have that. They are not doctors. People have said things to me like Oh you make eye contact your fine.
Hi Stephanie, you are a good person.so lovely.that is so cool that you have photographic memory x
Woah I think I hyper focus on things 🤭 the more I learn the more I think I might be autistic
With all I hear about how most girls with autism so successfully mask I feel left out because I can't. I'm more poison dart frog than chameleon, everyone can tell right away with me as my symptoms are on the more severe side unfortunately. I have had a few friends over the years but often my friendships have been one-sided. I like them a lot more than they like me.
I am sorry Robin. I feel like masking is a good and bad thing so I can get the desire to wish you could! It's hard to find quality friendships so I understand that.
Side note -your lipstick and sweater look so pretty on you!
I just love how doctors prescribe medications and basically hope one sticks. I don't have bipolar disorder but I have epilepsy. I've had to change my medications multiple times because the medicines prescribed would mess with my moods; I basically become a different person with each medication change. If you notice, alot of the same medications for bipolar disorder also are for epilepsy. Same medication for different problems. But Depakote isn't like Tylenol (at least to me) where you can use Tylenol for a fever and then use it for pain. I did terrible on Depakote for my epilepsy. Yeah I wasn't having seizures but I was like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. Also the medications tend to make you feel like you're in a fog. Sorry for the rambling, but yes I agree that those antipsychotics damage mental health.
Thanks Stephanie! I appreciate you 🤗
its so interesting because im a transgender guy, i never really masked any of my autism, but it still took like 24 years to figure out i was autistic. in school they just diagnosed me with intellectual disability. i also have shutdowns and get quiet, when i was young i had meltdowns.
I'm 23, and i found your comment interesting because everyone always talk about either having meltdowns or shutdowns. But as a child I had meltdowns as well and now as an adult i have shutdowns. I remember from when I was 13 until i was like 19 my meltdowns were horrible after that my meltdowns became shutdowns... Like i will still have a meltdown but only if I'm SUPER HYPER MEGA stressed I can go literal months without them lol sorry for the long comment
Hi Stepanie Tank you for the asome infomation aboute atism.
Get it, girl! Watched every second 😎🎉
At one point I was on 1600mg of seroquel twice a day I literally forgot how to function...my mom said it was like the lights were on but nobody was home I couldn't walk or talk it was terrible....I stopped all treatment after that and have been terrified to really seek help since
I was such a zombie on Seroquel
Same I just stopped taking meds altogether at that point and had to find a new doctor
If you ever get a chance- visit Ireland.... Beautiful country and lovely people...
Wow! We are so much alike... going to ask about getting evaluated.!
Very good vlog Steph
What is the C-PTSD diagnosis process like, particularly for an adult if you’ve experienced it? I believe that I have it based on the way I was treated in mainstream school but I’m worried that I either won’t explain myself correctly or my ASD diagnosis will get in the way somehow.
I hope you were able to hit the delete or block button on some of the questions. 😊
Is there a way I could be evaluated privately? My parents are the type that would compare me to my two severely autistic girls and say that there's nothing wrong with me but hearing your story and looking back on my past and current traits is starting to make more sense. I may want to know for myself but I don't want anyone else to know my diagnosis. Maybe there's a way I could do telehealth or zoom appointments?(getting out of the house by myself with my kids without them noticing would be tough) 😬
You need to watch this too. You probably need to each part 1 first though
Stupid people asking stupid questions…I just want to slap some people. What you do is what you do. I don’t think you want money for your autism. You just made this channel for educational purposes to inform parents about the autism diagnosis process. And the rest is history. I’m glad you found out what was going on with you. I think bipolar disorder can mimic autism and I think that makes people confused about autism. Especially in girls. Girls can be shy and in autism usually people think about boys. Like you said, turning the wheels on cars. There’s needs to be more information about autism in girls, not just in boys. Not everybody is Rain Man lol. Rain Man is also a savant so not just autistic. People need to get over what they don’t understand. They don’t understand that you are an amazing mama. Yes, I said that! You are a great mama to your kids. And no one else has the right to say that you don’t have autism. Well, thanks for sharing! Have a great day!
I hate when people think you have to ask like Rain man, the good doctor, or Leonardo from what's eating Gilbert grape, to be ASD....it's so annoying, it shows they have no idea what ASD is.
I think your amazing. ❤️❤️
Hi I follow your page I want to ask can a special list that screen for autism can they say that a 16 month baby girl has autism yet at 16 months
Yes they can. Both My 2 and 3 year old were evaluated at 16-17 months for autism. They're both now clearly autistic so the accuracy rate is like 80%
@@OurLANDingCrew8 yeah I just had my 16 month screen for autism and come to fine out she has autism and other delays and she’s the only one who has autism and all my other ones have add and HDHD though so this is all new to me though
I also don’t laugh at dad jokes but I think that’s mainly because they are just not funny.
I’m the opposite. I laugh because it’s not funny and it’s awkward
Hi
You sound just like me
Since when is a disability a money maker