It’s really tough showing your life on social media. I so commend you on doing this. Many adults feel awkward doing such things. Thankyou for sharing this
You’re very brave however also very kind as this may be the push someone watching may need to seek the same for themselves and to validate who they have always been. It’s such a valuable vlog
My therapist has told me before that she thinks that I’m possibly on the spectrum and have ADHD. This is so educational Steph. Thank you so much for making this video! I think I’m going to go forward in finding out information about myself and now I have a good guide to go about whether or not I’ve got autism as an adult female!
I'm proudly Autistic and wouldn't change it for the world ❤ I'm a female who was diagnosed at 19 a couple years ago. I highly recommend the book "What Every Autistic Girl Wishes Her Parents Knew." Neurodiversity is so beautiful 😍
My boyfriend is on the spectrum and your channel really helps me to familiarize myself with things that are/arent his fault or active doing , its helped a ton and i cant thank you enough !!! ♡♡
I applaud you on your bravery and honesty. You are an amazing person. An evaluation result does not define the person! No matter the outcome, you are still awesome Stephanie of Landing Crew!
I commend you on sharing this part of your life Stephanie. It is difficult to open up about mental health issues. I truly feel that your openness will help a lot of people. Have a wonderful day sweetheart.
Thank you for making these videos as I always say, we are all the same no matter what needs we have. Congratulations for being an exemplary mother and for having such beautiful children 💕💓
Stephanie, I have chronic PTSD, panic disorder and severe anxiety. It’s a lot. I often wonder if I fall on the spectrum at all since my son has Autism and several delays. I try to bring awareness to both Autism and mental health, so thank you for doing the same. I love that you live local. Very much wish we could chat. Enjoying your channel!
I'm in Colorado, too. Can you point me to where I should go for me and my kid's? I'm 47, diagnosed with ADHD. I started researching for my kids and I can't believe how much I relate to these wonderful women who are sharing their experiences! I need to go forward with an evaluation. My kids and I need more support.
Thanks for sharing this side of your life. I had my eval about 2 months ago. I definitely was concerned about “accidentally” masking during the part where they observe how you interact. For me it was kind of weird because autism is like my main special interest so I didn’t want to talk about too much. I was kind of nervous they would think I was reading too much about autism and had convinced myself I had it. I probably shouldn’t have worried about that though. It sounds like you had a positive experience overall. Best of luck and looking forward to following all of your updates!
Yes!!! Masking is what we get so good at!!! When my son was diagnosed last year with inattentive ADHD is when I really started questioning things for myself but that panel for me just didn’t feel complete. This led me to testing for autism for myself! Thank you for documenting your process! I had one in person appointment with the final testing and diagnosis. The first two were telehealth.
I´m 25. Got the ADHD and Autism diagnoses this year. Formerly diagnosed with GAD, Panic disorder etc. The list is long. If been in therapie since 12. No one noticed... or wanted to. Because I`m female and masked well enough. Ritalin changed my life and my future. Autism selfhelp groups were my ritalin for my autism. It changed so much. Professionals have wasted more than 10 years of my life. I hope your kids will have better experiences. You are a damn good mom and I have the deepest of respect for what you do for your family!
Your comment about not sucking as a person really resonated with me. I have severe social anxiety & have been to therapy/taken medication for it. I’ve always struggled with not being able to make friends easily and it really makes me sad. People write me off straight away & it confuses/upsets/makes me feel bad (like there’s something wrong with me). I took one of those online tests & the results showed I have many tendencies of an asd. I come from a very small place in Europe (population 34,000) so not surprised I was never diagnosed (I’m 35). Going to look into getting assessed as I think it would help me feel better about myself and that I also don’t suck as a person.
I just found you on here and I'm so glad I did. My son is autistic and I have been noticing alot of his problems are exaggerated versions of my problems and it's made me question the same thing. I'm absolutely terrified though of going anywhere though. I hope one day I have the strength to go through everything you're doing because it will help you so much. Ppl don't realize were not trying to just get a certain diagnosis, we just want answers. We just want to do better. Is that so wrong?
thank you so much for your videos and the time you take to spread awareness. your videos have helped me a lot and pushing myself to seeking a diagnosis ... ❤
Thank you for this video. I'm 20 and think I'm on the Autism Spectrum and have wondered what the process of getting a diagnosis as an adult is. I started the process over a year ago but didn't follow through with it after one appointment where I was told I'm probably on the spectrum. I've been nervous to do the whole evaluation not knowing what it would look like and not sure my parents would believe me. I think now I might start the process again. Love your videos.
I am 42 and finally got my diagnosis last week. I was super lucky to find a neuropsychologist in my rural area who is very knowledgeable about autism in adults. It's been a major roller coaster of emotions this week. Suddenly life makes sense.
I'm so glad that you've been so open with all of this and your journey, I'm really wanting to get tested myself (I'm also 34) because I'm starting to realize that several of the traits that my son has (he's 7 1/2 and is level 1 autism spectrum disorder, combined type adhd and has an unspecified anxiety disorder) are exactly like I was as a child and that I stim and several other things that make me wonder if I am also on the spectrum... right now I'm trying to find somewhere in my area (Kansas City, MO) that does adult testing and what all my insurance covers but it's such a relief to see another adult female going through the process! Thank you so much!
thank you! I’m a teen who is waitlisted (8+ months🙄) for an eval and I’m so excited and nervous and yeah like all the feels. my parents are not like 100% onboard but like they’re letting me do it . So yeah thank you!
My parents won’t let me do it, though I KNOW I’m level 1 (a close friend of mine and a psychologist told me they thought I’m a high-functioning autistic) How did you convince your parents, if you don’t mind me asking?
You’re amazing, I’ve always absolutely just loved your personality. You’re so brave and kind for putting this information out on the internet for the many people it will likely benefit. Blessings on you on your journey ❤️
this is exciting, and important. Plus I am so glad that you moved to a state with great health care. I do know my cousin was diagnosed as an adult with autism (more what we called Aspergers) and it explains her social issues, but she is a happy mother and wife... but boy, she comes across as RUDE, as she just says things before THINKING. Now that we KNOW... it's so much easier for all of us. She can't help it!
When you search your house thinking your fire alarm is chirping.... 😂 Aside from that, thank you for sharing this! It is so awesome to hear someone else’s experience through assessments. I am diagnosed with PTSD and I know the process of getting diagnosed was really hard. You are so incredibly brave to not only go through the process of so many assessments but also sharing it. 💜
My assessment was two 50 minutes appointments, as an interview, about 6-7 questionnaires, a 1.5 hour cognitive assessment, and the feedback. Plus my hubby did 2 questionnaires as well. Was very intense.
@@OurLANDingCrew8 and my sister thinks it wasn't good enough because it was all over telehealth. Because in Australia, Victoria, we weren't able to do face to face. ...
@@OurLANDingCrew8 I'm sure she couldn't get everything from me with telehealth. From a physical standpoint. But I was very detailed with everything, and she was able to pick up a lot. The cognitive assessment was meant to be in person, but she got a cold, so we couldn't.
I am blind, and my blindness was caused by a neural tube defect at birth. I have been followed by neuropsychologist and such my entire life. One time they were doing an evaluation on me and I was asked to spell the word pusillanimous. I responded by telling the evaluator that that was not a word. I assure you, it is. Trust me, some of these parts of the exams really do seem strange, but they make sense. Once you figure out what they are trying to evaluate. I will be one of those people that ask them what they are looking for specifically, and we end up talking shop a little bit.
Growing up I always told my mother I thought I had some sort of learning disability. Not necessarily Autism but maybe something. I always had issues concentrating wether it’s learning or just doing daily tasks. Homework would take me HOUUUURS because I’d have to go back numerous times to go over what I just read/ learned. Forget about remembering what I learned after those hours. My parent would always respond with a “you’re just distracted”. My thoughts wonder to where I can think of one lil thought and a minute later I went through a series of thoughts . Like everywhere distracted thinking/thoughts. In my late 20’s I began having panic attacks and my concentration, memory n thought process has gotten worse. I’m 37 n I want to see if In deed I need help or it’s just “distracted thinking”. Who would I talk to to even start a process of getting tested? I hope I made sense lol. Also I notice that my thought process is completely different. My wording is ALWAYS misconstrued by family. May i ask for an opinion on what u think.. I know u are not a physician but maybe u can have some insight.
There is always other learning disabilities. I don’t know all the names of them. But I do know one which is a genetic on the KAT6B gene. Google it, . There is several others intelligence disorders.
I think it is awesome you are sharing the process with us. I kinda wish I would have had my son evaluated. I was always told oh he is just a "boy" or he will grow out of it, or it is common for kids to do those things. Now he is 16 and says he doesn't want to be labeled. He is high functioning but it is hard because people don't understand his behavior at times or his anxiety. They think him not wanting to take vitamins he is deficient of is a choice and he is just being defiant but in our world it is that he feels taking pills means he is sick. His depression or mood swings people don't understand, it is very scary when you know your child us hurting and you can't find help for them. He was suicidal and I was told he couldn't go to one place because they don't take insurance, and another place here said they only take kids on state insurance. We worked thru his feelings and it got real for him when they did a phone assessment on him. There are so many road blocks and Stephanie you have been amazing for your kids and self.
With me i was diagnosed as a kid with adhd and at 25 I was diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder. I do have questions bc my real dad kicked my mom in the stomach when she was pregnant. I used to have to go to the children's hospital constantly they wanted to do a brain scan but my mom refused she said she didn't want to know if something is wrong with me. So now im kind of wondering bc there are signs of me possibly having autism when I went down the list but I could also be paranoid.
Good for you Stephanie! I hope you find your answers! I was diagnosed through a child & adolescent psychologist specializing in autism, cause there was no one who specialized in adults! I'm grateful this psychologist took the time to diagnose and work with me or else I would've been S.O.L. There is so little for autistic adults in some areas. It seems like we love our autistic children but when they turn into adults they either don't have autism anymore or we just don't care that they do and they can fend for themselves.
It's because a lot have the attitude of "well they have made it this far without being detecting" not realizing or acknowledging the severe amount of psychological trauma and mental health issues it's caused along the way.
I have autism , PTSD, adhd and a few other disorders so I understand It took me 18 months to get my diagnoses 3 doctors out of the mental health area and 1 gp doctor and 1 neuro doctor and a lot of talking to family members who remembers me as a kid
You got this girl so proud of u 💙 i feel like my dad is autistic but he thinks he is too old to be dignosed but eh . Ur story is inspirational 💙💙😘 I remeber them tests they well hard 😘💙
I think that’s really interesting that they do an interview with your mom, even though you’re a full grown adult. Like it obviously makes sense to, I just never realized that 😂 I thought it was weird enough when I was 17 and getting an ADHD diagnosis, when they asked my mom about all my developmental milestones as a baby
I want to have my self evaluated but first we are getting my son evaluated who is currently in therapy. Like you said in your video. I noticed a lot of similarities between me and him as I noticed his sensory issues and my mom has even said the same things to me. So I’m thinking I make be on the spectrum and never knew it before but it would explain so many things for me! Hopefully one day I will have answers until then I’ll look forward to seeing your results and my sons evaluation is in December 💜
I get it, I had to consciously not mask during my assessment. It was super hard. But found out that I don't use non verbal social cues or facial expressions.
My therapists always dismiss my concerns without digging into them at all. So I just keep going along with it, but I am pretty sure I am on the spectrum.
Omg this make me want to get evaluated my 3.5 year old is already diagnosed going with my 2 year old in a few days already kind of know the answer to that but I've always masked as well when talking with a therapist or filling out paperwork because I be like you do not want to know how I would handle that situation and put down what is socially exceptional on the paper
Thank you 🙏🏻 so much for touching on cost ... I feel somewhat uncomfortable asking but it does make a difference what Services I can get. Sad for a lot of people that need the help even more than myself. When it comes to our Mental Health I believe “it should be a given but it’s not.” When you talk about “Your insurance “ may I ask are you referring to Social Service or County help?? Thank you so much for your openness to all of us so we can thrive to be our best self, You’re the best !!
@@OurLANDingCrew8 That's nice that they have that in Colorado. In Florida they have Medicaid for kids, but for adults you get Medicaid for medically needy. You can't even use it until you pay over 700.00 a month out of pocket. It's only good for major things or if you are hospitalized.
This is so important to discuss bc there isn't much research around autistic women; most (if not all) research is conducted only with white, autistic men/boys - which is why a lot of women/BIPoC do not get diagnosed until well in their teen years/adulthood :(
I'm currently still on the waiting list for a valuation for autism my two children are on the autism spectrum my therapist put me forward for myself cause we can see traits that my children have in me from when u was little
Do you suffer from depression? I’ve struggled with depression since I was 20. I’m diagnosed as bipolar now. I was severely abused as a child. It’s hard bc there is a lot of stigma about mental health. Wish you the best!
I tried getting evaluated too, but ended up without a diagnosis because I didnt have enought traits to get it. I guess only those who are really far into the spectrum gets a diagnosis as an adult
I tried that too. They said I have traits that are similar to autism but that mine are not severe enough to be called autism. They explained that my symptom were created and not inherent, due to chronic illnesses and childhood trauma. Makes it difficult to get people to believe that you have difficulties similar to people with autism have without having the diagnosis. I really hope you can find the help you need.
I don’t want this comment to be too invasive, so feel free to delete it but I’m curious what health insurance you/ you family has and utilizes? Thank you so much for bringing us through this process! I had a very difficult time communicating as a child, my coach/ teachers would ask my parents if I was on the spectrum. I’m interested in possibly being evaluated in the future as well.
We are on Medicaid here in Colorado. They have a buy in program. Similar to Florida but Florida’s was only for kids and it was very limited. Not everyone accepted it. Here the buy in program is for kids and adults and everyone takes it ❤️ once Lonnie’s insurance kicks in we will have private insurance too but for now we are really really lucky
Women can mask it MUCH better than men for some reason. Obviously it’s case by case eg: Nelly. I can totally understand why you stopped daily vlogging! Seriously considering being evaluated but my physical health isn’t good enough to do ANYTHING (except lay down) for an hour
Thank you!!! I'm in Colorado and just starting this journey for my kids and me. Can you share who did your evaluation? I feel paralyzed as to where to start.
It will be the last video so basically there’s going to be a video on the evaluation results, my traits of autism, and then there will be a video about being diagnosed with bipolar disorder
We have a specific group of people who just don’t like us. Some might call them haters but when you invest that much time in a strangers life, you’re a fan 🤷♀️
I wanted to be tested and I asked my therapist about it. She told me that I could not be tested after age 18 and that a diagnosis is only for treatment and if I did have it, I have already created my own coping mechanisms and treatment would not work.
Wow that is some intense testing. There is no way I would have done all that. I feel like I could be on the spectrum. I have 2 boys who are and a daughter who has a few traits, but I think I will just go to my grave not knowing for sure. I'm not going to put myself or my family through all that. It's not that important to me. I've lived this long not knowing, and I've functioned fine. I'm glad you are able to find out though. Looking forward to the results. If I had to guess, I don't think you are on the spectrum. Maybe ADHD, yes.
Ok once again. I would be happy w/ 1/4 th of the hair of Your Liam.so beautiful. Can’t seem to spell or write tonight but I hope you get it. 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼🌟🌟🌟🎄🎄🎄
Watching this video was a lot like I imagine the inside of a person on the spectrum’s thoughts are. I didn’t mean that in a mean or disrespectful way. I spent years helping children on the spectrum. Until you have been around (I can’t remember what the current term is, they used to be labeled As high functioning and/or aspergurers syndrome) individuals it is hard to comprehend how they can be totally fixated on a subject one day and totally distracted the next.
@@GroundhogBaby I know - I'm so used to using that in-person for clarity because some people don't understand the levels and then if I have to explain it everyone asks how I know 😬 It's just too much of a hassle in the long-term, especially because my parents are so against it for some reason.... This transferred into online spaces as well. Thank you for correcting me and I will be sure to use include the levels in the future :)
@@OurLANDingCrew8 oh that’s great! Thank you. I’ve always heard they won’t, so that’s really helpful to hear. I’d like to for myself, also my 14-yr-old son we’ve long suspected of ADD and ASD. He’s got ODD, and it’s so heartbreaking, we struggle every second of every day.
My husband is on the spectrum. I've never been evaluated but there's a possibility I am. You would think a psychologist would know about masking. But this one psychologist told my husband he didn't think he is autistic cause he made eye contact. That he just has low IQ.
I am seventeen and I have shown signs of autism since I was a kid if I was ever to be tested what I be given the test for children or the test for Adults?
You do not act like bi polar at all. I know several bi polar and they can be so hard to get along with at times. You always appear so nice and are sooo good with your kids. No, you are most likely on the spectrum. I hope nobody gives you a hard time on here. You don't deserve it or need it.
Thank you steph. Being so open and showing this progress. It will help many, especially people in this era. Best of luck
It’s really tough showing your life on social media. I so commend you on doing this. Many adults feel awkward doing such things. Thankyou for sharing this
Oh it's definitely awkward but I think if someone doesn't step out of their comfort then the same stigma will always stand
You’re very brave however also very kind as this may be the push someone watching may need to seek the same for themselves and to validate who they have always been. It’s such a valuable vlog
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My therapist has told me before that she thinks that I’m possibly on the spectrum and have ADHD. This is so educational Steph. Thank you so much for making this video! I think I’m going to go forward in finding out information about myself and now I have a good guide to go about whether or not I’ve got autism as an adult female!
Unmasking for the evaluation was the hardest and simplest at the same time!
Best description ever.
I'm proudly Autistic and wouldn't change it for the world ❤ I'm a female who was diagnosed at 19 a couple years ago. I highly recommend the book "What Every Autistic Girl Wishes Her Parents Knew." Neurodiversity is so beautiful 😍
My boyfriend is on the spectrum and your channel really helps me to familiarize myself with things that are/arent his fault or active doing , its helped a ton and i cant thank you enough !!! ♡♡
I applaud you on your bravery and honesty. You are an amazing person. An evaluation result does not define the person! No matter the outcome, you are still awesome Stephanie of Landing Crew!
Yesss!!!Dealing with my ADHD child answered a lot of my childhood issues. It prompted me seeking my own diagnosis.
I commend you on sharing this part of your life Stephanie. It is difficult to open up about mental health issues. I truly feel that your openness will help a lot of people. Have a wonderful day sweetheart.
Thank you for making these videos as I always say, we are all the same no matter what needs we have. Congratulations for being an exemplary mother and for having such beautiful children 💕💓
Stephanie, I have chronic PTSD, panic disorder and severe anxiety. It’s a lot. I often wonder if I fall on the spectrum at all since my son has Autism and several delays. I try to bring awareness to both Autism and mental health, so thank you for doing the same. I love that you live local. Very much wish we could chat. Enjoying your channel!
I also moved to Colorado 3 months ago because of my son. He just turned 4 yrs and I can say this states is a blessing ♾🙌
I'm in Colorado, too. Can you point me to where I should go for me and my kid's? I'm 47, diagnosed with ADHD. I started researching for my kids and I can't believe how much I relate to these wonderful women who are sharing their experiences! I need to go forward with an evaluation. My kids and I need more support.
Thanks for sharing this side of your life. I had my eval about 2 months ago. I definitely was concerned about “accidentally” masking during the part where they observe how you interact. For me it was kind of weird because autism is like my main special interest so I didn’t want to talk about too much. I was kind of nervous they would think I was reading too much about autism and had convinced myself I had it. I probably shouldn’t have worried about that though.
It sounds like you had a positive experience overall. Best of luck and looking forward to following all of your updates!
Yes!!! Masking is what we get so good at!!! When my son was diagnosed last year with inattentive ADHD is when I really started questioning things for myself but that panel for me just didn’t feel complete. This led me to testing for autism for myself! Thank you for documenting your process! I had one in person appointment with the final testing and diagnosis. The first two were telehealth.
This sounds so thorough and I'm so happy for you to get some more definitive answers!
Thank you for being so honest and openly explaining! Just ignore the negative! Your an awesome mom ! Great family!
I´m 25. Got the ADHD and Autism diagnoses this year. Formerly diagnosed with GAD, Panic disorder etc. The list is long. If been in therapie since 12. No one noticed... or wanted to. Because I`m female and masked well enough. Ritalin changed my life and my future. Autism selfhelp groups were my ritalin for my autism. It changed so much. Professionals have wasted more than 10 years of my life.
I hope your kids will have better experiences. You are a damn good mom and I have the deepest of respect for what you do for your family!
Your comment about not sucking as a person really resonated with me. I have severe social anxiety & have been to therapy/taken medication for it. I’ve always struggled with not being able to make friends easily and it really makes me sad. People write me off straight away & it confuses/upsets/makes me feel bad (like there’s something wrong with me). I took one of those online tests & the results showed I have many tendencies of an asd. I come from a very small place in Europe (population 34,000) so not surprised I was never diagnosed (I’m 35). Going to look into getting assessed as I think it would help me feel better about myself and that I also don’t suck as a person.
I just found you on here and I'm so glad I did. My son is autistic and I have been noticing alot of his problems are exaggerated versions of my problems and it's made me question the same thing. I'm absolutely terrified though of going anywhere though. I hope one day I have the strength to go through everything you're doing because it will help you so much. Ppl don't realize were not trying to just get a certain diagnosis, we just want answers. We just want to do better. Is that so wrong?
I gave this a Big Thumbs up! I applaud you for being brave enough to let us know. Go Stephanie, be a leader for the rest of us!
I am in Australia and was evaluated this year. I am toying with the idea of doing a youtube channel to chronicle my journey and experience
I am almost 22 and I will be getting evaluated at the end of December and start of January (6hr session split into two 3hr long sessions)
thank you so much for your videos and the time you take to spread awareness. your videos have helped me a lot and pushing myself to seeking a diagnosis ... ❤
Thank you for this video. I'm 20 and think I'm on the Autism Spectrum and have wondered what the process of getting a diagnosis as an adult is. I started the process over a year ago but didn't follow through with it after one appointment where I was told I'm probably on the spectrum. I've been nervous to do the whole evaluation not knowing what it would look like and not sure my parents would believe me. I think now I might start the process again. Love your videos.
I am 42 and finally got my diagnosis last week. I was super lucky to find a neuropsychologist in my rural area who is very knowledgeable about autism in adults. It's been a major roller coaster of emotions this week. Suddenly life makes sense.
I'm so glad that you've been so open with all of this and your journey, I'm really wanting to get tested myself (I'm also 34) because I'm starting to realize that several of the traits that my son has (he's 7 1/2 and is level 1 autism spectrum disorder, combined type adhd and has an unspecified anxiety disorder) are exactly like I was as a child and that I stim and several other things that make me wonder if I am also on the spectrum... right now I'm trying to find somewhere in my area (Kansas City, MO) that does adult testing and what all my insurance covers but it's such a relief to see another adult female going through the process! Thank you so much!
thank you! I’m a teen who is waitlisted (8+ months🙄) for an eval and I’m so excited and nervous and yeah like all the feels. my parents are not like 100% onboard but like they’re letting me do it . So yeah thank you!
My parents won’t let me do it, though I KNOW I’m level 1 (a close friend of mine and a psychologist told me they thought I’m a high-functioning autistic) How did you convince your parents, if you don’t mind me asking?
You’re amazing, I’ve always absolutely just loved your personality. You’re so brave and kind for putting this information out on the internet for the many people it will likely benefit. Blessings on you on your journey ❤️
I am so sorry I am so late. Great vlog and I love you all! I love being a member of your LANDing Crew!
I admire your bravery so much, Steph. Your transparency is going to help so many people. This information is so valuable.
this is exciting, and important. Plus I am so glad that you moved to a state with great health care. I do know my cousin was diagnosed as an adult with autism (more what we called Aspergers) and it explains her social issues, but she is a happy mother and wife... but boy, she comes across as RUDE, as she just says things before THINKING. Now that we KNOW... it's so much easier for all of us. She can't help it!
Love this!!! Thank you so much! My sister is starting the process, she's made an appointment to get the Prescreening type questionnaires!!
When you search your house thinking your fire alarm is chirping.... 😂
Aside from that, thank you for sharing this! It is so awesome to hear someone else’s experience through assessments. I am diagnosed with PTSD and I know the process of getting diagnosed was really hard. You are so incredibly brave to not only go through the process of so many assessments but also sharing it. 💜
I love learning about this stuff ❤️ I was diagnosed with ADD in high school and just recently I was diagnosed with ADHD as a 35 year old!
I was diagnosed when I was 34, 3 years after my son was diagnosed
My assessment was two 50 minutes appointments, as an interview, about 6-7 questionnaires, a 1.5 hour cognitive assessment, and the feedback. Plus my hubby did 2 questionnaires as well. Was very intense.
Yep. Sounds like mine lol
@@OurLANDingCrew8 and my sister thinks it wasn't good enough because it was all over telehealth. Because in Australia, Victoria, we weren't able to do face to face. ...
For me I don’t know how they would’ve done telehealth but if it works it works
@@OurLANDingCrew8 I'm sure she couldn't get everything from me with telehealth. From a physical standpoint. But I was very detailed with everything, and she was able to pick up a lot. The cognitive assessment was meant to be in person, but she got a cold, so we couldn't.
Stephanie you are an amazing person. It takes so much courage to put yourself out there to help others.
Thank you!
I am blind, and my blindness was caused by a neural tube defect at birth. I have been followed by neuropsychologist and such my entire life. One time they were doing an evaluation on me and I was asked to spell the word pusillanimous. I responded by telling the evaluator that that was not a word. I assure you, it is. Trust me, some of these parts of the exams really do seem strange, but they make sense. Once you figure out what they are trying to evaluate. I will be one of those people that ask them what they are looking for specifically, and we end up talking shop a little bit.
Thank you for being so open about this process. ❤
Growing up I always told my mother I thought I had some sort of learning disability. Not necessarily Autism but maybe something. I always had issues concentrating wether it’s learning or just doing daily tasks. Homework would take me HOUUUURS because I’d have to go back numerous times to go over what I just read/ learned. Forget about remembering what I learned after those hours. My parent would always respond with a “you’re just distracted”. My thoughts wonder to where I can think of one lil thought and a minute later I went through a series of thoughts . Like everywhere distracted thinking/thoughts. In my late 20’s I began having panic attacks and my concentration, memory n thought process has gotten worse. I’m 37 n I want to see if In deed I need help or it’s just “distracted thinking”. Who would I talk to to even start a process of getting tested? I hope I made sense lol. Also I notice that my thought process is completely different. My wording is ALWAYS misconstrued by family. May i ask for an opinion on what u think.. I know u are not a physician but maybe u can have some insight.
There is always other learning disabilities. I don’t know all the names of them. But I do know one which is a genetic on the KAT6B gene. Google it, . There is several others intelligence disorders.
@@kathyerb3134 Thank u Miss Kathy 👏🏼
Thank you so much for sharing, I really value your experiences 🙏
I think it is awesome you are sharing the process with us. I kinda wish I would have had my son evaluated. I was always told oh he is just a "boy" or he will grow out of it, or it is common for kids to do those things. Now he is 16 and says he doesn't want to be labeled. He is high functioning but it is hard because people don't understand his behavior at times or his anxiety. They think him not wanting to take vitamins he is deficient of is a choice and he is just being defiant but in our world it is that he feels taking pills means he is sick. His depression or mood swings people don't understand, it is very scary when you know your child us hurting and you can't find help for them. He was suicidal and I was told he couldn't go to one place because they don't take insurance, and another place here said they only take kids on state insurance. We worked thru his feelings and it got real for him when they did a phone assessment on him. There are so many road blocks and Stephanie you have been amazing for your kids and self.
This makes me super happy for me cause I think I might have autism so this puts me kinda at ease
Hey Stephanie, I hope you get the answers your looking for and that you have an amazing rest of your day!
With me i was diagnosed as a kid with adhd and at 25 I was diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder. I do have questions bc my real dad kicked my mom in the stomach when she was pregnant. I used to have to go to the children's hospital constantly they wanted to do a brain scan but my mom refused she said she didn't want to know if something is wrong with me. So now im kind of wondering bc there are signs of me possibly having autism when I went down the list but I could also be paranoid.
This is so informative. Thank you so much!!!
Good for you Stephanie! I hope you find your answers! I was diagnosed through a child & adolescent psychologist specializing in autism, cause there was no one who specialized in adults! I'm grateful this psychologist took the time to diagnose and work with me or else I would've been S.O.L. There is so little for autistic adults in some areas. It seems like we love our autistic children but when they turn into adults they either don't have autism anymore or we just don't care that they do and they can fend for themselves.
It's because a lot have the attitude of "well they have made it this far without being detecting" not realizing or acknowledging the severe amount of psychological trauma and mental health issues it's caused along the way.
@@OurLANDingCrew8 That is exactly right!
I have autism , PTSD, adhd and a few other disorders so I understand It took me 18 months to get my diagnoses 3 doctors out of the mental health area and 1 gp doctor and 1 neuro doctor and a lot of talking to family members who remembers me as a kid
I was diagnosed at 7 but ur amazes me how much harder it is for an adult to get assessed
Steph ,you explained so much and I hope you know that you are a wonderful person ❤ 💕 💖 I adore you and your courage, strength and love 💘
You got this girl so proud of u 💙 i feel like my dad is autistic but he thinks he is too old to be dignosed but eh . Ur story is inspirational 💙💙😘
I remeber them tests they well hard 😘💙
Very interesting Stephanie...thank you so much for sharing. 💗
I think that’s really interesting that they do an interview with your mom, even though you’re a full grown adult. Like it obviously makes sense to, I just never realized that 😂 I thought it was weird enough when I was 17 and getting an ADHD diagnosis, when they asked my mom about all my developmental milestones as a baby
Hi Stephanie I'm so glad you chose to make this video it really can help others 💓☺️
I want to have my self evaluated but first we are getting my son evaluated who is currently in therapy. Like you said in your video. I noticed a lot of similarities between me and him as I noticed his sensory issues and my mom has even said the same things to me. So I’m thinking I make be on the spectrum and never knew it before but it would explain so many things for me! Hopefully one day I will have answers until then I’ll look forward to seeing your results and my sons evaluation is in December 💜
This is very interesting and enlightening. Thank you.
I get it, I had to consciously not mask during my assessment. It was super hard. But found out that I don't use non verbal social cues or facial expressions.
Thank you so much for making this video x
We're blessed to have you ❤ 🙏 💛
My therapists always dismiss my concerns without digging into them at all. So I just keep going along with it, but I am pretty sure I am on the spectrum.
Omg this make me want to get evaluated my 3.5 year old is already diagnosed going with my 2 year old in a few days already kind of know the answer to that but I've always masked as well when talking with a therapist or filling out paperwork because I be like you do not want to know how I would handle that situation and put down what is socially exceptional on the paper
Thank you 🙏🏻 so much for touching on cost ... I feel somewhat uncomfortable asking but it does make a difference what Services I can get. Sad for a lot of people that need the help even more than myself. When it comes to our Mental Health I believe “it should be a given but it’s not.” When you talk about
“Your insurance “ may I ask are you referring to Social Service or County help?? Thank you so much for your openness to all of us so we can thrive to be our best self, You’re the best !!
It’s state insurance in Colorado. You can get it at no cost to you if your income is below a level or pay monthly premiums!
@@OurLANDingCrew8 That's nice that they have that in Colorado. In Florida they have Medicaid for kids, but for adults you get Medicaid for medically needy. You can't even use it until you pay over 700.00 a month out of pocket. It's only good for major things or if you are hospitalized.
Oh I know, I’m very thankful Colorado is way more progressive
This is so important to discuss bc there isn't much research around autistic women; most (if not all) research is conducted only with white, autistic men/boys - which is why a lot of women/BIPoC do not get diagnosed until well in their teen years/adulthood :(
Ok
I'm currently still on the waiting list for a valuation for autism my two children are on the autism spectrum my therapist put me forward for myself cause we can see traits that my children have in me from when u was little
Omg thank you for this. I actually wanted to know of I was autistic too because of my son..
Thank you so much for sharing ☺️
I like you and your channels SO much
Steph your so pretty, beautiful blue eyes and red hair ❤️
Do you suffer from depression? I’ve struggled with depression since I was 20. I’m diagnosed as bipolar now. I was severely abused as a child. It’s hard bc there is a lot of stigma about mental health. Wish you the best!
No I usually don’t get depressed and if I do, it’s pretty mild and passes quickly
I tried getting evaluated too, but ended up without a diagnosis because I didnt have enought traits to get it. I guess only those who are really far into the spectrum gets a diagnosis as an adult
It has to be pretty significant as an adult. I have a lot of the classic traits but who knows 🤷♀️ I may not have enough to warrant a diagnosis
I tried that too. They said I have traits that are similar to autism but that mine are not severe enough to be called autism. They explained that my symptom were created and not inherent, due to chronic illnesses and childhood trauma. Makes it difficult to get people to believe that you have difficulties similar to people with autism have without having the diagnosis. I really hope you can find the help you need.
I don’t want this comment to be too invasive, so feel free to delete it but I’m curious what health insurance you/ you family has and utilizes? Thank you so much for bringing us through this process! I had a very difficult time communicating as a child, my coach/ teachers would ask my parents if I was on the spectrum. I’m interested in possibly being evaluated in the future as well.
We are on Medicaid here in Colorado. They have a buy in program. Similar to Florida but Florida’s was only for kids and it was very limited. Not everyone accepted it. Here the buy in program is for kids and adults and everyone takes it ❤️ once Lonnie’s insurance kicks in we will have private insurance too but for now we are really really lucky
Women can mask it MUCH better than men for some reason. Obviously it’s case by case eg: Nelly. I can totally understand why you stopped daily vlogging! Seriously considering being evaluated but my physical health isn’t good enough to do ANYTHING (except lay down) for an hour
Ohhh I didn’t know your 34. I am also 35 in February 😊
Great video x
one thing i had to do is remember the 3 words they gave me at the start of it
Oh I would ace that! LOL
@@OurLANDingCrew8 I did not but that cause i have other issues added to my autism that leads to me not have a good short term memory
Thank you!!! I'm in Colorado and just starting this journey for my kids and me. Can you share who did your evaluation? I feel paralyzed as to where to start.
Whole Kids Co.
Good luck! 💪❤️👍
Thanks 🤗
I’m bipolar and would love a video about it, if you could.
It will be the last video so basically there’s going to be a video on the evaluation results, my traits of autism, and then there will be a video about being diagnosed with bipolar disorder
Has anyone else noticed that there are always the same amount of "dislikes" on all of Stephanie's videos? Trolls will be trolls.
We have a specific group of people who just don’t like us. Some might call them haters but when you invest that much time in a strangers life, you’re a fan 🤷♀️
You are an incredible and inspirational person i really admire you and your beautiful family Stephanie sending you lots of love
I'm so interested because I feel like maybe I need to take the assessment. I'm 20 btw.
I wanted to be tested and I asked my therapist about it. She told me that I could not be tested after age 18 and that a diagnosis is only for treatment and if I did have it, I have already created my own coping mechanisms and treatment would not work.
The benefit of a diagnosis is way more than just treatment. I’m so sorry you were misinformed.
@@OurLANDingCrew8 The downside of living in Maryland. I know it is more than that. I have 3 kids on the spectrum.
Hi
Wow that is some intense testing. There is no way I would have done all that. I feel like I could be on the spectrum. I have 2 boys who are and a daughter who has a few traits, but I think I will just go to my grave not knowing for sure. I'm not going to put myself or my family through all that. It's not that important to me. I've lived this long not knowing, and I've functioned fine. I'm glad you are able to find out though. Looking forward to the results. If I had to guess, I don't think you are on the spectrum. Maybe ADHD, yes.
It’s worth it to me to know for sure 🤷♀️
Hey Stef
Hey Candis! 👋
You are amazing. Pls know that. Hugs from Florida.
Come on back to Jacksonville, why don’t ya!
Nope. I am so good 😆
Ok once again. I would be happy w/ 1/4 th of the hair of Your Liam.so beautiful. Can’t seem to spell or write tonight but I hope you get it. 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼🌟🌟🌟🎄🎄🎄
Can u link to the tiktok please? The one you said "that's me"? Thanks
Watching this video was a lot like I imagine the inside of a person on the spectrum’s thoughts are. I didn’t mean that in a mean or disrespectful way. I spent years helping children on the spectrum. Until you have been around (I can’t remember what the current term is, they used to be labeled
As high functioning and/or aspergurers syndrome) individuals it is hard to comprehend how they can be totally fixated on a subject one day and totally distracted the next.
It’s still high-functioning :) Some use Asperger’s but the usage stopped in 2013. Those who use the term were usually diagnosed before then
@@xohope4 I don't think they even use high functioning anymore. They just use levels like level 1,2, or 3.
@@GroundhogBaby I know - I'm so used to using that in-person for clarity because some people don't understand the levels and then if I have to explain it everyone asks how I know 😬 It's just too much of a hassle in the long-term, especially because my parents are so against it for some reason....
This transferred into online spaces as well. Thank you for correcting me and I will be sure to use include the levels in the future :)
@@xohope4 what are your parents against? I don't understand.
@@GroundhogBaby Nevermind- that has nothing to do with anything... I'm just so used to not using the levels that I didn't and now I will in the future
Interesting!
I was diagnosed in hs
Do you mind sharing the costs of the testing as an adult? Self pay of did insurance assist?
Insurance covered if so idk how much it would be but probably around $2000
@@OurLANDingCrew8 oh that’s great! Thank you. I’ve always heard they won’t, so that’s really helpful to hear. I’d like to for myself, also my 14-yr-old son we’ve long suspected of ADD and ASD. He’s got ODD, and it’s so heartbreaking, we struggle every second of every day.
My husband is on the spectrum. I've never been evaluated but there's a possibility I am. You would think a psychologist would know about masking. But this one psychologist told my husband he didn't think he is autistic cause he made eye contact. That he just has low IQ.
I am seventeen and I have shown signs of autism since I was a kid if I was ever to be tested what I be given the test for children or the test for Adults?
Probably both
You do not act like bi polar at all. I know several bi polar and they can be so hard to get along with at times. You always appear so nice and are sooo good with your kids. No, you are most likely on the spectrum. I hope nobody gives you a hard time on here. You don't deserve it or need it.
If you are diagnosed with autism it doesn’t make you less of a person
I don’t think it would
A TH-camr called Autmazing got herself an evaluation. She is in the same situation as you.
I love her 😍
@@OurLANDingCrew8 me too
Not watched for a while