FREE help for woman w/ PTSD - packing up home to move (closet)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ก.ย. 2024
- This video is part of a playlist. I started working on this home back in April and posted a few videos of the progress that was made in the home. This home had issues with carpet beetles and pantry moths. After cleaning up the kitchen, living room, her son's room, and three bathrooms, I left there thinking things were under control and that she was making good progress on her own, and she was, so it was a surprise to me when I texted her a few weeks ago just to see how things were coming along and this was the response I got:
"We have gotten a little bit more done at the house, but not as much as I would like. I've had some health issues comes up that have made it harder for me to clean and honestly my anxiety has made it hard, too. My neck has been hurting since early this year and at some point it became so painful that I couldn't turn my head which made it hard to drive or do much of anything. I went and got an MRI and have a few things going on in my cervical spine that are causing nerve pain and they're wanting me to get injections that will help with the pain and potentially help with the inflammation and, if that doesn't relieve the pain, I might have to get surgery. On top of that, my husband and I have been wanting to get pregnant, but haven't been able to due to my latest test showing positive for polyps in my uterus (this is the second time), so I will have to get surgery to remove the polyps either later this month or next month. Anyway, all of it has been too much, so I haven't been doing much, But I started feeling like there's more to my struggle to get this house clean. I have some pretty bad memories there with my ex-husband." -- then she goes on and tells about the abuse, which I told her I would leave out the details -- "I think the longer I've been staying away from that house, the more I've felt like I could never go back and I keep thinking it's just because of the bugs, but I think it's also because of the PTSD associated with my ex-husband. So, this past week, we started looking at houses and we're strongly considering selling our house. However, that still means we need to clean our house so, if we find somewhere we'd like to go, we're gonna have a big push to move everything to storage pretty quickly."
For more to this homeowner's story, watch the other videos in this playlist.
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Waiting patiently for your collaboration with Barbie and Midwest magic cleaning.
You be patient 😂 I'm biting my nails and cleaning house so I can have popcorn and a big cup of coffee while I watch their magic together 😂😂❤❤
I'm with you Dixie! I'm not very patient. I just want it to be October already!!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp as soon as I get paid, I'm joining your channel ❤️ I joined Mack and Barbie and you're next 🥰❤️
I’m excited since you are the 3 cleaning channels I sub to!
I too borrowed my wedding dress, many moons ago! For me personally, I’m glad I did so there was no sentimental attachment to it! ❤️🌻
Me too
Great job on the assistance to this homeowner. As for the prom dresses, see if there is a place called The Glass Slipper project in a city near you. They take used prom dresses, bridesmaid dresses, shoes, jewelry and give it to some of the high school kids that cannot afford a brand new dress.
Some Highschools have a program that takes prom/party dresses as well.
That's a great idea! I just looked it up and, though we don't have that same project, I found a couple that are similar. I'll have to tell her about that.
Watching my way through your videos, thank you.
Bless his heart. Please tell your husband thank you for what he does 🙏🏻
I will. Thank you!
I would encourage her to donate the dresses and any clothes that are out dated to local theater groups. They can use them as costumes.
Great idea!
I firmly believe that for some people the more space they have the more they keep stuff
Glad she is donating. There is always someone who will wear them and can't afford new items. Thanks for sharing ❤❤❤
Absolutely!!
Bonnie, so thankful for you and your family. You are making a difference in so many lives! xoxo
I am already exhausted from watching you doing all the work. I really could not do that, it is so overwhelming.
Your hubby is a CSI GUY !!! Wonderful job young lady. Beautiful family. Enjoy your time away.
The cleaning Titans together!!! I can’t wait for the October collab!!!🎉❤
Sort of a CSI guy. He doesn't do the investigating, just gathering all the evidence to hand over to the detectives. But yes, he has seen some pretty gnarly crime scenes!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp In my world, he's STILL a CSI guy. Without him, investigators couldn't do a proper job. Blessings and respect to him and your whole family.
I’m truly glad she has you helping her with the home. I wanna say something to her. If she sees this. If not maybe you can tell her for me. I want her to know I’m proud of her for divorcing her abuser. She is a strong woman and did the right thing for herself and her child. My mother stayed. She’s still with him and we are all grown. He stopped hitting her when I hit my teens. It truly messed all of us kids up. We had some serious therapy to learn how proper relationships work etc. She’s a saint and I wish I could hug her. New beginnings are on the horizon. Stay strong. ❤
Thank you so much for posting this. I don't think she really reads the comments anymore after there were a couple of not so nice ones and I told her just to not worry about reading them. So I will definitely pass this along. I agree, it can really mess up, not only the spouse being abused, but also the kids that are seeing that behavior. I'm glad you were able to get therapy to figure out how a good relationship is supposed to look! It's definitely very brave when somebody can actually leave their abuser.
@heatherakagamermom7790 God bless you!! Yep, had a handful of users/abusers/MI/substance abusers in my dating "journey"!!
#singleforever!! Been there, done that!! Prayers out to her as well for making the right decision sooner than later...my she get the help she needs, including asking for help from ABM!!
A family member stayed in one for 35+ years!! 😢😮😢😢 (just had 2nd stroke late last year; FACT: abuse causes not only PTSD, but B/I & Stroke!! ) she lost her house too as a result since the last stroke!! 😢😢😢🙏🙏
Hugs to you, and this lady!! Stay strong!!
If she had not been inside the closet for years, all of it should have been trashed or donated. You are very kind to your clients. Excited for the house series in October.
You took on a big job with this lady. Helping someone move is a lot of work.
It's been so much fun!
I always go to the liquor store and get liquor boxes for books. They are the perfect size… not too large.
I'm so impressed with your organizing and packing skills. This video is incredible. I donated my dresses to a theater department. I donated my wedding dress to a theater production.
Thank you! And, that is a great idea for getting rid of a wedding dress. I'm sure they appreciated that!
Thrift stores love those gowns....p.s. i had to make my own prom dresses , my mom was a widow and we had no money and didn't mind...got great at sewing and had one of a kind dresses and clothes, coats, etc....my mom did buy me the best sewing machine ❤❤❤❤
Love that! I love sewing. Very therapeutic! What a great way to get really good at something at such a young age!
I'm watching older episodes that you posted before I started watching your channel. I enjoy them, and I'm hoping it helps your channel.
Thank you so much! I wish I knew what "pleased the algorithm." Lol!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I'm a software engineer and I'm always trying to figure that out, lol. Wish I could tell you!
You and your family are a gift to your community. I commend your husband for his skills to bring justice to children of horrific crimes. He is needed in ways that most people cant deal with. I hope he a you have a great time on your getaway. ✌❤💪
Thank you, Colleen. It was a fantastic retreat, helped me to understand a bit more what he goes through with his job. It does take a special person to do that kind of job and, unfortunately, a lot of them have nothing left over for their families. I'm thankful my husband deals with it so well and I'm thankful for the Stirling Foundation for seeing the need to support those who do these kinds of jobs with their mental health and dealing with the baggage the job comes with.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp ❤️
New sub here. Heard about you from Midwest and Barbie. Can't wait for those videos. You all do a fantastic job about caring for people and cleaning.
Thank you so much! I'm so glad you're here!
You are so kind to help the homeowner in her struggles. I hope they find peace in their new home. Maybe they will find that a lot of the stuff in storage is only making their house cluttered. Downsizing can help with anxiety, I know from experience.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Yes, they are definitely decluttering and getting rid of a lot of stuff before they move so that something like this doesn't happen again. She has made an amazing transformation since I met her back in April and is like a whole new person with a totally different outlook on the stuff she has. I think there is a much brighter future ahead.🥰
Well done to this couple getting rid of so much stuff as they pack up. It’ll definitely make it easier when they get their new place. Do your best to relax while you are away. Have a great time. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏💪👍🙏💐
You and your family are AMAZING! Thank you for your continued kindness in helping others.
Thank you so much!
I am a retired acupuncturist and Chinese Medicine says that "The Heart opens onto the tongue". The Heart meridian runs from under each armpit down to the little finger right and left. Perhaps some acupuncture on the Heart points might help. I practised Five Element acupuncture and this system would use Heart points. Not sure what TCM or Japanese acupuncturists would do.
Great video
Interesting. I may have to check that out. Thanks for the suggestion!
You asked about what to do with high school dresses, prom dresses after they have been worn-suggestion: in many communities, there is an organization- in ours it is the local teachers' union- where the dresses and male formal wear can be donated! There are seamstresses/tailors and dry cleaners who help with getting the fit right and the spots out before wearing. Students can quietly and privately pursue a dress or tux this way via their school office and qualify usually due to indigent circumstances although I have seen some dresses "awarded" in other situations. It varies a bit. My wedding dress was used for this purpose and I have never been sorry. Feel it got to serve another woman (girl) and have another "life" of usefulness, rather than stay in my closet. Hope this is helpful.
I did look this up and there are a couple of places we can donate them here in this area. Thanks for the suggestion!
You're welcome- so glad this works!@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp
All of my prom dresses, my daughters prom dress. The Wedding dress and flower girl dress all went to be donated. Hopefully someone can get some use out of them.
What a beautiful family you have! You are such a great example to your boys. Great parenting!
As others have said, I have heard of singing as a therapy for stuttering. Never heard of Ketamine therapy. I found it interesting to read a comment below about "eye therapy". Sending prayers for you to find the proper therapy for him. 🙏🙏🙏 As a parent myself, we try whatever we can for our kids. Looking forward to your collaboration with Midwest and Barbie in October!
Thanks for your comment! Yes, we do try whatever we can. It never used to be a big deal because it was just part of who he was and we fully accept him that way. If it wasn't for the fact that it holds him back from doing some of the things he really wants to do after he graduates this upcoming year, I wouldn't be so worried about it because it makes him pretty endearing, but he just met with a recruiter from the Space Force because he eventually wants to work for NASA and the recruiter said he would have a hard time passing the interview with his stutter. That made me a little furious as a mom because the things that he wants to do for Space Force doesn't require that he speak that much. It's not like he is trying to be an air traffic controller for heaven's sakes! Anyway, just don't want it to hold him back in any capacity, so praying we find something to help him. Thanks for your support!!
Your kind heart shows in in videos. Looking forward to the collaboration next month!
Great job,as usual Bonnie
The collaboration is going to be AWESOME!
Bonnie, I'm glad to see you doing that closet, unfortunately, mine is full of carpenter ants. The exterminator will be coming this week but they told me to leave everything in the closet for now😢 You, Mack and Barbie are great, I can't wait!!!! I still wear my clothes from the 90's, TRUE 😂😂😂
Oh no! I'm so sorry. I know more than I want to about carpenter ants as I used to sell pest control door to door when I was 20 and that was the main problem where we were located in Indianapolis. I hope they can get rid of them without ruining your clothes. And that's awesome you still wear clothes from the 90s! You go girl!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I'm 69 and I don't grow 🤣🤣🤣 5' tall, 100lbs 😳 yikes, I'm little 🤣 they haven't gotten to the clothes but my carpet has to go and possibly replace the floor 😔
I was reading about different drug therapies for stuttering, without much success in my search. Can your son sing without troubles. Sometimes people are able to add a rhythm/song to their speech to help. When my mom was working in a stroke rehab section of our hospital, she was amazed to see non-verbal people were able to sing. I’m not one to throw a pill at things, but he’s not my child. 💙
My oldest son had a stuttering problem. He wears glasses and did eye therapy. It helped him a lot. He still stutters from time to time but way better than he was.
The eye Dr told him to Google eye therapy for stuttering. He did this for some time. Made a big difference.
Holly, yes, though he doesn't sing much now, I used to make him sing or talk in kind of a sing-songy type voice when he was a lot younger and he wouldn't stutter, but as he has gotten older, he "feels weird" doing that, but it is pretty amazing that it goes away when stutterers sing. I have seen that same phenomenon with stroke patients. It's pretty incredible. I don't like to throw a pill at things either, but we have tried all of the normal therapies and even some alternative ones. The ketamine therapy is not like a daily thing you do, but more of a drug that puts you in a relaxed state (almost as if you are hypnotized) and a therapist guides you through some steps to help usually with anxiety or depression, but I just wondered if anyone had tried it for anything other than those two things. I'm actually more interested in psilocybin treatment (mushrooms), but more research needs to be done in that area before I would want him to try that.
Misty, I think the eye therapy you are talking about is very similar to what we have tried at a place called Brain Rehab and it seemed to help a little bit and he still keeps up with the exercises, but now it seems to be getting worse again, so it may be worth going back for more treatment. It stinks that insurance doesn't pay for treatments like that and those treatments get expensive, but of course we will do anything for him to help get rid of this stutter as it is starting to hold him back in some areas as he wants to be part of the Space Force and they told him that it would be hard for him to pass the interview with his stutter.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp My son does his eye exercises at home. He also takes 5HTB it's a herbal supplement for anxiety and ADHD. This has helped him a lot. Have you considered talking to his Doctor about a medication for anxiety? That might help him calm down and not stutter as much.
I know there are people that can use donated wedding dresses (and probably prom dresses) to make burial dresses for infants. There was a lady- I want to say in the bountiful area- that I took my wedding dress to and she was able to make it into several infant burial gowns. It's hard to let go of dresses, but knowing that it went for such a special cause made it worth it for me.
Oh my gosh, I love that idea! I've gotten a lot of great ideas on here. I'm going to present these options to her and see if she's willing to part with it. That's what I think I would choose to do if it were me is donate it to someone who would make it into burial dresses. Thanks for the suggestion!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp you're welcome, I hope it helps❤️
I donated money wedding gown to ‘Angel gown’
They made a burial gown out of it
@@assistant2d446 that's awesome!
Hope you enjoyed your pampering and was able to relax. Your hubby is a hero! I can't imagine doing his job though to be fair I couldn't imagine doing yours either! You are both heroes and good role models to your children, they are obviously as generous in spirit as you are Bonnie 🙂
Thank you, Sarah! It's true that we both have very mentally taxing jobs, but on a completely different scale. I know he could not do what I do and I couldn't do what he does. It's great that there are so many different types of people who can handle different things. And you are just the sweetest! Hope you're doing great today!❤️
What a beautiful dress you got there, I hope it fits you well. My favourite clothing period is the 90´s which I guess is now old fashioned but not retro yet. I think it got drilled in with Friends, we all wanted to be like them. You did a great job in this house and your family is so nice to come and help.
Yes! Friends! That's why I like everything from the 90s to about 2010! You nailed it. I guess I didn't realize that, but I think I could attribute it to that show. How funny!
Awsm. You are an inspiration to me. I sew little girls clothing (sizes 1/2 to 4), bake for extra $$'s, so my dining area becomes a bit overwhelming. My niece gave me 3 big bins to organize my Stuff!!! So I'll be putting my items in order. Thank you.
That's so awesome! I love to sew and I totally understand the mess it creates! I think organizing fabric and other sewing supplies is one of my favorite things to do, so I'm a little jealous that you'll be working on that without me.. lol! Have fun with that!❤️❤️❤️
It is so nice that you are doing this for her. Everyone needs help at one time or another, there is no shame in that. You are a good hearted person. I will be back! lol
Another wonderful job! I'm binge watching all of your videos and i wish we lived closer because i would love to work with you (at no fee...I LOVE to clean!❤). My heart goes out to your son. I had a pretty significant stutter growing up. Once I started taking Effexor years ago, my speech is now fluent. I did speech therapy which did nothing. I hope you can find something to help him. I'm like a different person! 😊
Thank you, Karen! That's so nice of you to want to come and help! Maybe you could throw it out there on your local social media that you want to do a free cleaning, but put stipulations as to what you are comfortable with, of course. Even just a couple of hours can help tremendously for someone just needing a little lift.😊
And that's definitely interesting about the Effexor. I have thought about doing something like that, but there is one other treatment, besides possibly the ketamine therapy still, that we are looking into first and, if that doesn't help, it may be worth a try. Thank you for sharing your experience!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Thank you Bonnie for planting the seed of just putting myself out there to help someone in need. ❤ Blessings to you and your beautiful family!
Midwest Magic Cleaning told me to subscribe 😂💕 So happy for the upcoming collab!! He really is a wonderful person. Loving your videos 💕
Yay! Thank you! Yeah, Mack is hilarious. Just got done with his latest video and my abs hurt from laughing!🤣❤️
Same here!❤
First, enjoy your weekend retreat, you’ve earned it, second, another great job on that closet, I would love to have a closet that size w/ all the shelving
Thank you! I'm having a great time at my retreat. Just took a few minutes to come respond to a few comments so they don't pile up too much...LOL! Yes, that closet and the shelving were amazing!
You Earned being part of this Collaboration!!!
Awww...thank you!
Wunderbar, Sie haben eine sehr gute Seele. ❤️
Awesome job! I wish I had half your energy❤
I'd love it if you'd explain more of what's going on, both on and off-camera, eg: are they right there, and going thru the boxes, or is all the clutter just being boxed up? Are there carpet beetles in the closet? If she hasn't been in the closet for a decade, where are the clothes she wears currently? You're so awesome to help! Best of luck with your son.
You're right, I could be better about explaining what is going on. I basically took everything out and spread it out on her bed for her to go through and decide what was trash, what we needed to wash to donate and what we needed to wash and keep. For those things like the dresses that we couldn't really wash, we did sprinkle borax on them to kill any remaining carpet beetles, though anything we did find was dead. And, she is not actually currently living at this house and hasn't been for quite some time. She is living with her parents and so that's where all of her current clothes are.
As I'm watching this video I also borrowed a dress for the 1 prom I went to. I borrowed my wedding dress also. . I did make a pink cummerbund and decorated my white had with tulle and a pink & pearl band. The dress was a plain white dress made of cotton. No need to pay a dry cleaner to clean the dress and store it for whatever. I have taken some of my dressy dresses to a local high school for girls that are not able to afford a dress for the prom or homecoming. They were classic black so not an old ladies dress! cleaner to clean the dress and store it for whatever. I have taken some of my dressy dresses to a local high school for girls that are not able to afford a dress for the prom or homecoming. It was a good feeling to help them out.
Yes, I think borrowing in both of those situations is the best idea ever.. or renting them. It is stressful to try to figure out what to do with them afterwards and you have a picture of it so why do you actually need to keep the dress?
And I love that you have donated some of your other dresses!
I am so excited for the COLAB!!!!💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞
It's getting so close! Just get here already, October!!
I'm sure the homeowner feels comforted from all your help ❤ Bless you for helping her family 😊
Yes, thank you!
I love ❤ your videos and appreciate all you are doing to help people. Please try not to get discouraged!
Thank you so much!
I don’t know anything about the therapy you mentioned you were considering for your son but I remember a few years ago a British pop star Gareth Gates had success with something called the McGuire programme which you might want to look into. It certainly wasn’t a quick fix and required a lot of work but made a real difference to his life.
I will look into anything to help him. I will definitely look up that program. Thanks for your suggestion!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp a friend of mine was essentially mute because his stutter was so bad. He is a huge advocate of the McGuire program, and it really helped him. It's controlled breathing, (not just that) but he can now speak, even though his speech rhythm can sound odd if you aren't aware.
Nice! I love to hear success stories. I am definitely going to look into this!
You and your family are kind to help others. I pray the Lord will bless your channel to grow so you can do this as much as you want! 🙏❤🙏
Thank you so much!
A friend of mine has undergone ketamine therapy for anxiety and PTSD. It was helpful for her.
Both my grandsons are soon to graduate from speech therapy after about 8 years of it, one of whom had a stutter among other things. I’m not certain if stuttering can be caused in part by anxiety, etc., but I think that ketamine therapy can open new neural pathways, which seems to me would be useful in retraining speech. I’m certainly no doctor, but I don’t believe it could hurt, and it might help. Best of luck to him ( and to your whole very cute family - enjoy the retreat)!
Thank you for this information! That is helpful to know. I also have wondered if it could help because of the new neural pathways. I would actually love to find a place that uses psilocybin, but I know that is still in the early stages of being evaluated as a safe treatment. I think ketamine therapy is probably the next best thing. Thanks again for your input!
My deceased husband had a very bad stutter. He couldn’t talk on the phone and had a very hard time getting out certain words. He went through years of therapy that helped some but what helped him the most was the people who knew him and gave him the time to talk. Often he had to change a word to get through a sentence. I guess what I am saying is the more someone tried to change him the harder it was for him. Unconditional love and respect for who he was seemed to be his best therapy. He was actually a savant in that he could take any mathematical equation and solve it easily in his mind instantly. Getting into his mind gave him super confidence and he didn’t stutter.
I totally agree with you that giving them space and time to just get out what they need to say helps a lot. We have always been very patient with him and don't try to finish his sentences. And it never really used to bother him that much, but now that he is wanting to go into the space force and work for NASA at some point, the Space Force recruiter basically told him that, unless he was able to get rid of his stutter, he probably wouldn't pass the interview to get into the space force. That was really disheartening. Fortunately, he's a very positive kid and is looking at other routes to get to where he wants to be with his future career. But, we also are just looking to see what other options are out there that might be able to help him.
Funny, first time watching your channel. I say funny because I was married 2 times my first was alot of physical abuse, we where only married for 6 months had a baby and it was after ower son was born is when the abuse started I left him then years later got married again and there was alot of psychological abuse but no physical abuse. Had ower daughter, then left him after she was 4yrs old reason I did not want to raise another child alone , but I did moved 5 states away from ever thing I new and started fresh. I know all to well about abusive relationships. I have been single know for over 13 years and I don't wish to be in any relationship. Love your channel has well has Midwest cleaning and Barbie. Keep up the good work you all do. 😊
I'm so sorry you had to suffer two abusive relationships. I think I would find it hard to want to try another one again, as well. Best to you and your family!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Thank you, two very good things came from it all my kids, my son who is 47 and my daughter who is 25 we all go through something in ower life. God bless, stay safe & well. 😊
I am in my 60’s and still stutter…have tried everything all my life…I am on an anti anxiety medication and it does help a whole lot…when stressed or on phone still stutter sometimes…just love and patience is what happens to help me with the clonazapam…let him know he’s loved no matter what (which I know you do)❣️
I'm so sorry it has plagued you your whole life. I think it is endearing actually. My heart really just loves people who stutter. Unfortunately, his has gotten so bad that it is holding him back some. He wants to apply to be part of the Space Force so that he can later join NASA possibly and, when he met with the Space Force recruiter, he was told that he would have a hard time passing the interview with his stutter. I was kind of angry that he told him that actually because I think, for what he wants to do, his speech shouldn't be an issue. We may need to try some anti-anxiety medication to see if it at least decreases it. He definitely knows he is loved no matter what! Thanks for your input!
Great job! I hate clothes and I hate moving. Looking forward to Oct!!
Ive always wondered/worried about the people who have to see that type of horror. How they cope with it and seperate it from their daily lives. I love that they do this for them and their spouses.
Right? I don't know how he or anyone else can do that job without losing their mind. I'm glad there are people who make that sacrifice to help the innocent though. 🙏
Thanks!
Oh my goodness...I am in awe of your generosity. Thank you so much! I really, really appreciate it.🙏🩷❤️🩷
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I came across your video of you organizing a scrapbookers room and then I went over to your channel and watched your videos and found out what it is that you do and when I found out what it is that you do I cried because I wish I came across your channel 2 years ago. I have bipolar depression with occasional manic episodes, ADHD , anxiety and panic attacks when something out of my control happens or I’m overwhelmed with worry over something that hasn’t even happened. I’m 41 and I was diagnosed at 37. My husband was my home, caretaker, provider, cook, my family and my best friend just to name a few. Then March 13, 2022 he passed in his sleep from a heart attack. After his services, everyone disappeared from my life because he was the only connection. The so called friends that said they’d help me with whatever I needed never came. I became depressed, disconnected from my 2 English bulldogs and stopped taking care of them besides feedings and the bare necessities. I was in a very dark place and then one year later I had an infestation outbreak of carpet beetles and burrowing termites out of no where throughout my entire 2 level condo and I had laryngitis so I texted my family, my husbands family, and those friends that said they’d come to help and never did. So I was alone and just had the sense to rush and bag up everything and threw out so much out feeling I had no time to go thru first, I didn’t have anyone to help me go through all the bags to make sure I was t getting rid off important clothes especially the shirts and sweaters from each state we traveled to and went to a baseball game which was our tradition for 15 years. I had a hauler with a 18foot trailer take all the bags and furniture that I felt were destroyed, I was alone with no one to be there to check each bag to make sure it wasn’t a bag with stuff I wanted to keep. The life my husband and I lived for over 15 years was hauled away. And I dealt with the cleaning and the exterminators, boarded my dogs for 3 weeks I stayed in a hotel going back and forth to clean, this went on for months until I had heat treatment done last May 2023. 2 weeks later, the hill I live next to collapsed against my wall where my front door is and muddy water flooded some in my garage and through the bottom of my front door. I was going thru all this with no help. Everyone night I was in my garage going thru 43 years of my husbands life alone, crying over every picture, plane ticket, graduation video, his first car paperwork and so so so much more , so many bins and bags and boxes of his personal things he just accumulated and brought with him from home to home and ended up stored in our garage in our first condo we bought together. Then the repairs started then I went back to work this year so I still have not had time for myself or time to properly grieve and still have so much left to do. So when I watched your videos and cried going back to those memories wishing I found your channel sooner or had someone like you I could reach out to for help. Not only do I relate to a lot of the people you help, you doing this for them for free just struck that nerve and I would have flown you out to help me and pay you for your help. And watching you do most of the work alone is just amazing and I appreciate what you do for people like me that can easily get into those situations they don’t mean to do on purpose, it just starts with not doing one thing and before we know, it’s taken over our home and life. I hope you get more donations to keep helping people for as long as you can. I kept wishing I could just leave and have someone or service clean organize and do everything for me and come home with everything clean and organized for me. And that’s what you do. So keep doing what you’re doing love. God bless you and your family! ❤️🙏🏻
I wept while reading this. I am truly sorry for all that you've experienced. Just one of those incidents (or diagnoses) is more than enough for one person to handle, let alone all of them...and within such close proximity to each other. I'm very sorry you were basically abandoned by everyone in your greatest time of need. I always wonder about that kind of stuff and wonder if people just don't know what to say and so they turn a blind eye to the whole situation, thinking "someone else will take care of it." I know I find it hard to know what to say when something extremely tragic like you've described happens, but the fact that no one would help even when you asked for it really hurts my heart. That's so awful you have had to go through this all on your own.
I don't know if you are religious and I'm not even sure why I'm bringing this up other than the fact that I know how much having knowledge of the gospel and my Savior brings me so much peace. It's actually the main reason I started this channel was to try to help my "brothers and sisters" by being His hands here on Earth and it's sort of my way of thanking him for all I have been blessed with. I belong to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, more commonly known as "Mormon." We get a bad wrap sometimes because people don't take the time to understand what we really believe and think it's some sort of cult or something. I am not going to go into all the ins and outs of the church here, that would take too long, but one thing I really love about my church community is that we all look out for each other. We actually have an organization of the women of the church called the Relief Society, and one of the main focuses of this organization is to make sure we are ministering to those around us and giving them assistance when needed. Service is a HUGE part of our church and we often have service projects we do for neighbors or charities. I don't really talk about my religion on my channel other than telling people I'm Christian, but I do try to be an example of a good Christian and hope that when people do find out I'm "one of those Mormons," they will see that we aren't crazy (although there are always those outliers who take things too far and get a little whacko -- Ruby Franke, Jodi Hildebrandt, Lori Vallow Daybell, Tim Ballard), we aren't part of a cult, but we are just trying to live our lives as disciples of Christ.
I hope sharing that doesn't scare you off. If so, ignore that part of this comment...LOL! I just wanted you to know that I have found so much peace and happiness living the principles of the gospel. It is a worldwide church and I guarantee there are missionaries wherever you live if you ever wanted to learn more about it. When you shared that you were abandoned by everyone, I just couldn't help but think about my church community and how much we all take care of one another. You would have had the Relief Society Sisters there to help you in a heartbeat because that's just part of what we believe we need to do is to look out for everyone. BTW, you don't even need to be a member. We have done service projects for people who aren't members of our church. However, when we aren't seeing those people at church every week and don't know as much about them, it is hard to know if something is amiss, but if you contacted a local LDS Bishop, he could get the Relief Society involved...if you ever needed help with something again. It sounds like you might have it under control now.
Sorry. That was probably way more than you bargained for in a reply comment. I really wouldn't be offended if you never responded to this or just said, "Thanks, but no thanks." I just felt a need to share that with you for whatever reason.
Again, thank you for your very generous donation and for sharing your experiences. Life can really be rough sometimes, but I know with every trial, we also have the opportunity to have amazing personal growth from it and learn empathy and compassion for others along the way. Sounds like you already have.
You are always welcome to email me if you wanted to chat some more. My email is btashdown@gmail.com.
Take care!🙏😘
Thank you Bonnie for your words of support and encouragement. And sharing the religious part of your life outside of TH-cam - and I have or had Mormon friends ❤ I grew up catholic and once my grandma passed when I was 24 - she was the glue that kept my family together and committed to the church and its community. When my husband passed I joined a grief share group which is a christian group but they don’t push the religious portions on people but it really helped me and still helping me and it’s like learning that faith all over again but as an adult and now understanding the lessons and what they mean. So I’ve been adding baby steps of religion back in my life and practicing on my own outside my grief share group so far. I hope one day I can make it back to church and the church my husband dad belonged to and just like me, his dad was the one that was strict about being part of the church- also catholic, and its community so when his dad passed when my husband was 13 his family quit the church. My husband had his dad’s cross I found in his things I found one day about 8 years ago. I didn’t know what to give him for Xmas so I bought a chain for it and gave it to him to wear. He wore it until the day he passed. Now I wear it everyday and it brings me comfort that both my husband and god are always with me ✝️❤
Everyday is different, emotionally, physically and or mentally and it’s a struggle to do the simplest things and I have to learn to do them again and taken on more responsibilities that my husband always took care of which was pretty much everything. I just pray and hope to one day have some peace and balance and time to myself to finally process everything I’ve gone through these past 2 years and grieve all that I’ve lost🙏🏻
Thank you again Bonnie for responding back and your understanding people like me and all you do to help them and it is always nice to know there are a lot of us and that you’ve gone through your own experiences along with your husband. It makes the depression part of life feel less shameful ❤
And thank you for letting me know I can email you to chat 🙏🏻❤️
I look forward to more videos!!!
Stay well❤
- D’Anna (Lizzy)
great job 😊😊😊😊😊😊
Thank you so much 😀
Came from Midwest Magic Cleaning's channel, and I just binge watched all of your videos! What you guys do is amazing, and i love your videos. I hope to see many more in the future🙏
Wow, thank you! I've been hanging out with Mack and Barbie tonight getting ready for our collab tomorrow. So, so excited! Thank you for supporting my channel!!❤️❤️🙏
What a Transformation !!! Way to go--Cannot wait until October now
I was an abuse victim for 3 marriages. A therapist told me that sometimes happens when people observe a father abusing a mother(which was my case) and they are used to the dynamics of that relationship and don't notice during courtship when a prospective spouse have those behaviors. The answer is to stop having a victim mentality, wanting sympathy for what a person has been through. Use the abuse as a tool for learning what attracted you to the abuse. Avoid it and should the need arise again stand against it. Prayer really helps.
Thanks for sharing your experience. That makes sense.
I gave my wedding dress and 2 bridesmaid dresses to our local charity shop. It was in the middle of October. On Halloween the neighbours little 10 year old came trick or treating in my gown,veil and hat. She looked adorable. We had a good laugh about it later.
That is awesome!
Great job, thank-you for helping! 🙂👍
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Wow, I SO want a wardrobe that big!
I know. Mine is about half this size. It was a really big closet!
She is strong to get through such an ordeal. She is a survivor. Good for her. I wish her luck and happiness in the future. That’s so cool that she allowed you to take some clothes. Another great job.
I've heard sometimes a person who shudders can sing like Mel Tillis😊
Great work!
Thanks!
I really enjoy the videos and the comments that I read. Go and have a well deserved pampering.
Thanks, mom! I'm enjoying my time here. Went on a really long horseback ride this morning, which was pretty awesome. I think I'm going to be sore tomorrow though!😬
The retreat sounds really interesting. I love forensics. Amazing job again. 🥰❤️🥳💯
Thank you! 🤗 Yes, the retreat was so nice.
I just found your channel. Getting caught up on videos 💜
I'm so happy you're here! Enjoy. Just know that my first few are pretty awkward. 🤪 All of this is so out of my comfort zone, but getting a little better with each one.
What a great service for this family. And being a kind listener when she talked about her abuse. You ROCK!!
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Great video again, thank you. Regarding stuttering and Ketamine, Ketamine is a drug that is used recreational in the UK. I’m not sure I would want to allow a teenager to use it, as it can be abused, and can provide an emotional blocker.
Right, I understand the potential for abuse. With my husband being in forensics and having talked to our kids a countless number of times about the dangers of different drugs, etc., this is something I don't take lightly. In this kind of therapy, it is a very controlled environment and not something where they just give you a prescription for a lot of ketamine, but it's use in this kind of therapy is to relax the patient enough to where they are in a more suggestible state and can access those parts of the brain that control different functions. It's mainly used for depression and anxiety, but I have heard of people using it to treat other kinds of brain dysfunctions. If it was something where they were just giving him a prescription of ketamine, for sure that would not even be a consideration.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp whatever path you go, I wish your son all the best. It’s a difficult situation.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpI hope I didn’t come over as judgemental or condescending with my initial comment regarding Ketamine. I’m very sorry if you perceived it that way.
@@sadieross-johnson2800 I didn't take it that way at all. I appreciate your concern!
This is a beautiful room. You did a great job for her on this God bless you 🙏❤️
Thank you.❤️🙏
I would add some Diatomaceous Earth with the Borax. No need to repack just lift the lid a bit and use a puffer.
I would have just added the borax to the stuff in the tote, but it needed to be repacked so that I could put some cloth in between the breakable items. It wasn't originally packed to be moved, more just to get out of the cupboards so that they could be thoroughly wiped down. That's the only reason I repacked it. Otherwise, you're right, I would have just added it as is.❤️😊
bravo!
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You are very gracious toward those you serve! Lovely
Oh thank you!
I'm curious about the upcoming collaboration. How will you all manage recording? Taking turns? All setting up cameras at the same time in different areas? And will you all be coordinating your uploads?
We have decided we are all going to record our own videos (plus we will have a videographer there from Business Insider, so A LOT of cameras) and then we will each do our own videos with our own spin. I'm not sure if they will all come out at the same time or not. I'm guessing Mack will have his out first since he seems to edit his in record time and he can do voiceovers with no problem where I have to really plan mine out and have to record, re-record, re-record about a thousand times before I get it to sound not so dumb! LOL!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp It sounds super exciting, so I hope you all have a blast!
Great Job!! Thank you for sharing.
Thanks for watching!
Wow ! You're good !! Amazing job !! 👍🇨🇦❤👏👏👏👏
Thank you! 😃
I've tried ketamine. I hated the taste. I have had success with lamictal (lamotrigine) for depression and memory issues. This helps me big time. Depression, anxiety, autism, cancer, dementia, and many more diseases are from brain inflammation. I go to a psychologist/ neurologist who has helped me. You have to be careful with lamictal you can have an allergic reaction too.
Interesting. I will have to look into Lamictal a bit more. Thanks for the suggestion!
The world needs more people like you
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You are a saint!!!
Great job!!!! That closet was wild!!
I have no clue how to reach out to people like this I however can tell where you are at because the houses in our area are a lot alike but I love to help .
You really are welcome to come help me whenever. I see you are in Eagle Mountain, so not too far from here. I have one lady in Lehi whose house I may be cleaning soon if that's easier for you. You can email me at btashdown@gmail.com if you really are interested in helping and we can make arrangements. Thanks for your support!
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Great job!!
Did the homeowners declutter at this time? Or just pack it all up ? 💐
It sounded like she donated a bunch of shoes and clothing.
Yes, she donated and threw away a whole bunch of stuff. I actually have a picture of a truckload of stuff I took to be donated that I'll put in the last video of this house. It probably won't be next week, but the week after. I am doing a video of a different house next week.
excellent tote packing. 😄
Thank you 🤗
I love your videos
Thank you!
A CSI, how interesting and important!!!
Not exactly a CSI, but rather he gathers the evidence to hand over to the detectives. Still, he has seen some pretty interesting things!
I can’t wait for the collab!
Wow, its amazing that the whole family stepped in! I know how hard it can be, to see so much stuff that you'd personally get rid off. And despite that, respect their attachement to their belongings. That one wedding dress was the symbol for a pretty sad story. Thank you for listening to her. 💙🤍
Yes, I think once I let her know some of the great options she can donate her wedding dress for, she would be willing to let go of it, but that's all I can do is present options. Thanks, Coline!
I have a great deal of respect for you and what you do. You also have a beautiful family. I’m new to your channel, but I’m hooked!
Thank you so much!🥰
05:44 oh yes, i know that too ☺whenever i do something like that, i always find myself humming the tetris melody.😄
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I have never heard of drug therapy for stuttering. My husband has a stutter although not as pronounced as it used to be. Learn something new every day.
It's a new form of therapy for mostly anxiety, depression, trauma, etc., but I just wondered if anyone had used it and how they liked it because I am not sure it would even work for stuttering, but we are running out of options.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp My husband has had his stutter since childhood and he's 67 now. He's been on low doses of anti anxiety meds (busparone) for about 28yrs now. He also has social anxiety and until I came along, no one ever insisted that he get treatment. A combination of psychological therapy and the meds have helped ENORMOUSLY. And he doesn't stutter unless he's in high stress situations and even more rarely around me. It's a long story but it is what it is.
You did an awesome job
Thank you!
Hey I’m in Utah too!
Awesome! What part?
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I’m actually from Kamas Valley but my husband and I are in Ogden now!
So cool! Kamas is where the retreat was I just went on with my husband for law enforcement and their spouses. It's BEAUTIFUL there! My in-laws are in Pleasant View.
Hi love your videos, about the therapy , don't please, let him grow, , see if there isn't an anxiety issue behind it, and don stop the speach therapist, maybe try another one, my sun stoped at 17, it was caused by anxiety. There are other cases, the therapist teaches to think before speack, give him the tools he need. I stoped at 24.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤, ignore it at home.
Midwest magic cleaning sent me. Almost time for the collaboration. Looking forward to seeing it. New sub.
Awesome! Thank for being here! Yep, flying out in the morning for the collab! Soooo excited!
Also have to add that one of my grandsons used to stutter and that was because his brain was working faster than his mouth could handle. Your son is probably way more intelligent than most other people. Embrace his talent and don’t try to change him. He is unique and wonderful.
Awesome job.
Thanks!