How to tidy a messy house when you just don’t know where to begin!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 23 เม.ย. 2024
- In this video I show one of the tidying methods I like to use when I need to tackle a very messy house and am feeling overwhelmed. I really hope it helps!
I am a 68 year old woman, and I want you to know that this is probably one of the most honest, down to earth videos like this that I have seen in a long, long time! You had guts to show the "real" mess going on....and you really followed your lists so that you did what needed to be done! I thought I would quit watching not too long after starting, but you held my attention very well! Great job!!!! I think I will hang around a bit and see what the young lady has to teach this old one! LOL!!!! I loved that you made a matter of fact statement that you just didn't have the funds to do certain things.....no griping, no whining...just the facts....and I believe you will come out of this season to rise as high as you want....you have the real "want to", and that makes a big difference.
well said.
Hi! I 48 and you said everything exactly the way I was thinking! Thank you for putting my thoughts into words. I'm also going to be subbing ... Just did. This girl is awesome!
Amen!
I agree!! X
Totally agree. A real mum trying to help others
Procrastination is not really a sign of laziness. It is a person struggling with decision making and trying to do the “right” or more so “perfect” solution. You become so anxious that it turns into no decision, which affords you some relief at that moment. A job half done is better than a job done perfectly that never happens.
Well said and so true.
Finally a realistic cleaning video. I also get frustrated and feel paralyzed when things get too messy. It helps to see step by step how you manage the housework.
its comforting to know I'm not alone in feeling this
Thank you
#truth
Sister, you are speaking my language. I, too, have gained so much weight since Covid, been ill frequently, and am overwhelmed by my clutter. Thank you for being genuine and providing some much needed motivation! This video popped up on my feed at just the right time. ❤
As someone with ADHD and a very cruel inner critic, hearing the way you talk about being compassionate with yourself is so heartwarming. Thank you for this video, I have saved it and will watch it often! Keep being wonderfully kind, and know that you are a fantastic mum!
Finally a real human being with real issues and how she is slowly but surely working to overcome them. Not these perfect looking house goddesses where the house is already in perfect order. Thank you.
I could cry just knowing I'm not alone... Winter is the worse, low energy, viruses, and lack of sun light. Once I get going though, it takes no time at all. Thanks for your honest video.
Yes! Winter... Its cold and dark and so hard to even get out of bed let alone to clean and declutter... 🙃🤪
Thank you so much for this video. Seeing other real houses and messes like mine are comforting. I'm not alone! And I always make a massive list and then get overwhelmed! Going to try your method next time ❤
I can't believe you get hate for showing your messy house. As someone who struggles to keep up on housework, nothing is more demoralizing than clicking on a video like this and seeing a home that already looks clean as the "before" shot. Your house looks like mine and I find that comforting
Haha. I think those people who send her hate mail really need to get a life.
Omg. A woman who didn't clean her house before she video tapes her "cleaning house". Where have you been? Love this! Thank you! By the way- you're doing amazing!
This video felt like a warm hug
Oh this made me so happy! I’m glad! ☺️
@@remiclog you deserve to be happy, angel✨🧚🏻✨
People like you are rare and special - a gift to this world. I wish all the joy and happiness in life. What a wonderful video!
This is so lovely, thank you! 🥺 I wish the same for you! ❤️
To anyone giving this wonderful lady a hard time: GET STUFFED
Thank you for sharing ❤
I am 56, much older than you, and no kids left to keep up with, but I remember. I could not have felt more proud of you than if you were my own daughter. And so much of what you said made me think of my own life and others I know. You keep doing whatever it is that you're doing. You are a wonderful inspiration. And videos like this should not be shameful!! As a matter of fact, you inspire me to do something I've been talking to my husband about and that is videoing us cleaning our junk rooms! Scary thought. Because I feel more inspired watching people cleaning/clearing things that actually need it, then all the videos out there of people who are already OCD and near freaks showing me how to clean the already clean!!! Loved this video and you!!! ♥️♥️♥️
You are so sweet. When you said you didn’t have a dishwasher because of piano lessons for you child, I literally teared up. Good mama!
I could not believe how much I related to everything you said about yourself!! It’s so comforting knowing someone even in a completely different continent from me, is going through the same exact thing I am but successfully and graciously getting it done. Like there’s hope!!! 😂🤗 I’ve been messy all my life (bad example was my dad lol) I have ADHD, PTSD, Bipolar Depression and Narcolepsy. Some days I am overwhelmed and paralyzed and don’t do anything and some days are better where I try to do at least 1 thing. It’s hard not to shame or blame myself for the mess and when I do shame myself, it makes me feel crappier and then more depressed and less motivated to do anything at all. It’s a vicious cycle. I also have a 7yo who hasn’t learned the best example on how to be tidy or stay tidy either, from myself, which makes me feel guilty as a mother feeling like I failed. My mom lives with my daughter and I right now though, and my mom is constantly overwhelmed by the mess and is not in the best physical shape to get done what she wants to get done either so the burden lies on me to do most of it. I feel so guilty for it, feeling that I am the cause of my mom’s overwhelmingness, stress and depression. I know it’s not me 100% but I feel guilty that I am a contributing factor in it. I’ve been trying to be gracious with myself though in knowing why I struggle with it and not shaming myself for it either. I’ve learned a cleaning tip that has helped me especially with ADHD, is doing 1 section at a time, rather than 1 task at a time. So doing all the trash, organizing and cleaning in 1 whole section and then continuing that in the next section. It’s helps it not be so overwhelming for me and even if another section is still messy, I did accomplish at least 1 section and that makes me feel good as that is better than no sections! Like you said about yourself, I also like cleaning but hate tidying! It’s the tidying that sucks! 😂😤 Figuring out which method or mentality works best for you and your capabilities and struggles too is so key! I learned a lot from a channel called Midwest Magic Cleaning. He’s autistic and loves cleaning and helps clean people’s homes for free as cleaning helps his autism and he loves helping people in need. He’s also hilarious and gives great tips for people who struggle. I highly recommend people check him out!
Thank you for your video and being so transparent, it’s refreshing in today’s world of Karens and judgmental moms who shame other moms for messy and dirty homes who completely do not understand nor care to understand our struggle. I subbed immediately and hope you continue to accomplish great things! You’re doing awesome, Momma! 🥰💜
I’m 54 and I’ve been messy my whole life. I absolutely love a clean and tidy home, it makes my brain go quiet. I’ve had high powered jobs which allowed me to employ cleaners but my husband died recently from cancer, I gave up my job to care for him and now money is tight and I’ve gone back to being as messy as I was as a teenager. Now I’ve watched your video I feel like I’ve found a kindred spirit so I thank you Remi, firstly for being so honest and secondly for inspiring me to give your method a go. Keep going with your videos, they’re great! X
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I’m so sorry for your loss, don’t beat yourself up for being messy your dealing with brief, be kind to yourself. X
You absolutely have the greatest common sense attitude, so realistic. Thank you. Don't let people's comments bother you. You are wonderful.
i agree you are wonderful and realistic!!!
You are a REAL person, what a great video! I’m sitting on my bed with a house in a mess and I found your video. Thank you so much
I can not tell you how much your video encouraged me. It was deadly honest. Everything you said is the same I would say if I did a video about my thinking about my life and my struggles with keeping my house in order. God bless you and your children.
Here's something I learned from my elderly landlady: clean up your pots and pans while you are cooking. She always amazed me by how clean her kitchen was right after she finished cooking. Best advice and example I ever had. 😊
That’s what I was taught, do it as you go!
that’s what I learned after 50 yrs if cooking. I also learned during covid to cook the food you can before too tired after work. Cut veg, marinate the meat, get whatever you can prepared before you are too tired to cook. also have heAlthy munchies while preparing bc it’s sometimes stressful to have another thing to do. Don’t come home r dry night and work done more. take 2-3 nights and plan what you’re going to do. maybe all the laundry, maybe food shop, but do t leave all work for. the weekend. it leaves us drained and not rested. never stop learning how to do better. I’m now, making lists of chores and distributing them to others in home.
I cannot say how much I appreciate your video. You have spoken to so much of my life. The chronic disorganization, the guilt, the ADD, the low self esteem because of it all. The not being able to afford the helpful gadgets. Forget about any haters. People like me appreciate this so much!
The executive function and being unable to tackle a problem, now I can stop beating myself up. Also, looking at old cards and pictures, getting totally sidetracked, same. Weight struggles, so many similarities, at times I felt you were telling my story. My kids are grown but I still share many of the same struggles. You inspire me that I can make progress in decluttering and in life. I’m in a challenging season and I’m learning so much. I’m not sure why it took me 58 years but at least I’m learning and, like you, I can use it to have a better life.
I find this very positive because I suffer from mental health and find it difficult to tidy up but she has helped me feel happy about my self and it would encourage me to alot she brilliant
It saddens me, when I see the mom doing everything in the house. Yes, these videos can be motivating, but I know the family can do more to help out. When I was a child, we helped dust and sweep on Saturday mornings. The adults did the heavy work. We played my moms records, as we cleaned. It builds character. It’s left lasting memories for us as adults. Best wishes lady.
I'm the sole cleaner in our home, too. My 17 year daughter and 9 year Son are more trouble to motivate to help, then it's worth. I k mnow, I've failed
@@RagdollsOfLasVegas You’re not a failure! You’re a great mom. I just hate to see mothers, stress themselves with everything. Growing up, my mom didn’t allow me to cook. She said I was in the way. I taught myself to cook. I don’t fault her at all. I know some children are lost when they get to the real world, when they’ve never been taught the essentials. I survived, because I had to eat! lol!!! You can probably get the 9 year old, to start helping. Maybe it’ll make the 17 year old, to feel badly and fall in line. ❤️🖤❤️🖤
Love your transparency. I'm 77 years old, and there are days I feel overwhelmed. It's just my husband and me with three cats. Some days are good. Some days are bad. As my grandma told me years ago when my children were little, "In a hundred years, no one will ever know you had dust bunnies under your bed." ❤
It’s true that in 100 years most people won’t remember us at all. But your quality of life can be affected by those dust bunnies, especially if they are under your bed. Why not treat yourself to a cleaner space that is going to have cleaner air to breathe? Indoor air quality is a health hazard people don’t think about. I’ve seen people get sick sleeping in rooms that have dusty books, and require asthma medicine. A friend of mine who got into essential oils started cleaning her house with an all-purpose cleaner infused with a powerful antimicrobial blend, and after one season she commented that this is the first year that her family wasn’t continually sick during the winter. Another friend has lived in two houses with mold issues, resulting in so many health problems that they ended up bankrupt. Even though I am a nurse, I’m not a clean freak: I do think we need some germs to keep our immune systems in good shape, but I can’t deny that people do get sicker In houses with cleanliness issues. Your feelings of overwhelm may not only be from being 77, they may also be from a body overwhelmed with sensitivities. Especially with pets and all the hair that they typically generate. I literally buy HVAC filters for one relative as a present because they have four dogs and one cat, talk about hair! Her husband is always sick, he’s allergic to pets and would rather suffer with allergy medicine. It is compromising their income, because he has declined promotions because of his health.
Love yourself more, decluttering and cleaning are two great ways to do this. So are simple things like being outdoors to watch the sun come up and the sun go down, and it put your bare feet on the grass or the dirt, or last choice, on the concrete. Stay hydrated, take a touch of pure sea salt when you drink clean water throughout the day, maybe half a class at a time. Oh, and don’t wear glasses or sunglasses or contact lenses when you are enjoying these outdoor times. These actions help modulate the response of your immune system so that it doesn’t overreact or under react so much, and it’s perfectly free to do. Except buying the sea salt and maybe the filters needed for clean water.
Your grandma gave you wise advice so that you didn’t worry about cleaning in an excessive way at the expense of things that really matter.
But you can give your descendants both that same advice, and more, based on the wisdom that you have acquired throughout your life.
Blessings on you and yours!
Thank-you for your vulnerability! At 50, executive dysfunction is still a major foible for me. I find this video so soothing and inspiring. You've just gained another follower.
Love me the power of a good “to do” list. The satisfaction of the crossing stuff off. Love listening to good music or podcasts too as I clean and tidy. Good on you! What a resilient growth mindset you have developed - your kids are lucky to have you as a mum 😊
In a world of “fake”, thank you for your honesty and transparency. Makes me feel like I can do it too!
Thank you for the video!! I am 66 , and still struggle with my house!! I love your accent, and your personality!!! You did a GREAT job!!!!
It is so refreshing seeing a house clean video that doesn’t make me depressed, by watching perfect dolly birds tidy their already perfect homes. This video is relaxing and takes the shame out of being Nuero divergent/messy. I’ve subscribed.. what a lovely lass. ❤
Thank you so much!! Glad you enjoyed it ☺️❤️
@@remiclog thank you for the encouragement - Im 57 and up to 20 years ago I tackled the house similar to you but also enjoyed gardening, redecorating. I was very physically fit and strong.. But a bad back accident has made me increasingly immobile and when you get this needing of help you find, well, everyone disappears! (husband of 30 years included) I struggle to exist - actual living is out of reach. I live in dread of something breaking down or worse needing replaced! Yeah life can get tough but please remember this YOUR HEALTH IS YOUR WEALTH -
I think I've found a kindred spirit! I can honestly relate to many of your tasks here. I wash dishes by hand because my kitchen doesn't have space for a dishwasher, either. I almost always have to do a little dance to get the bag out of the bin. And it must be a mom thing because I will usually use my hand to scrape off plates, etc, rather than using a utensil. It's just more efficient. Right. Now that you've inspired me, it's time to start my own cleaning/tidying. Thanks! ❤
Hello from an American ex-pat in Israel. You are sooo likeable! I appreciate your honesty and humility. You did a great job on your voice over, filming and editing. Your video is encouraging and helpful. But your sweet personality is what really shines through. I feel like I found a very nice new neighbor, albeit a few thousand miles away. God bless you.
My dear, I am 74 and get sidetracked the same as you, procrastinating is my life, and I am living alone, no kids , and the grandkids come to visit on the weekends. You are a great role model for young women who have the same issues
I think this is the second time I watched you on this video. I’m so happy I’m not the only one who struggles with this. You do you hon, it’s ok to not do everything 100% every day! You are awesome! I found getting up a little bit earlier and I have the Bible on my iPad and I sit and read this first, and I pray, feel better the rest of the day!
Thank you for being honest and relatable. I’ve been struggling for weeks and felt like I couldn’t possibly do anything about it. I put this on and watched for a few minutes and then turned to having it on in the background. It made me feel validated and less lonely. I was able to put all my laundry away while watching this.
I am a retired cleaning woman; I cleaned houses for 27 years. Now at 62, even though I'm rather OCD, it can be hard to get motivated to clean, because I've been doing it since I started washing dishes at 4 years old! 😂 So, here are some helpful tips: Your list was a great idea. It breaks it down into smaller tasks. But daily cleaning is key to keeping your home orderly. So, what I do when I'm tired and overwhelmed is choose one relatively small task, like clearing a cluttered table and cleaning it. Then I'll reward myself with maybe a ten minute TH-cam video. Or I'll clean a whole room top to bottom and then allow myself a 45 minute break. I have five parrots, a rescued Cottontail rabbit, and a large garden I maintain. I also run a small online business. But this method really works! Also, I'm a serious deep cleaner, so I can get bogged down in one room and lose time. I've learned to pick a room each week and deep clean it over the course of the week--baseboards one day, ceiling fans another, etc. If you need really good cleaning tips, I'm happy to help. I can clean just about anything, lol. For starters, get yourself a good quality spray bottle and mix one part dish liquid to about 5 parts water. As soon as a meal is over, layer the dirty dishes in the sink, spraying them with the dish liquid from the bottom up. Let them set about five minutes. Then come back with either a paper towel or pre-wash cloth and do a quick wipe and rinse and stack them next to your sink. This is a great way to keep dishes from overwhelming your kitchen. Because maybe you don't have time to wash all the dishes right then--but when you can come back to it later, they won't have food hardened on them. And start teaching your children to help. Use a reward system. I started folding laundry and washing dishes at the age of four (I stood on a chair). While this is a little extreme, children actually need to feel useful and helpful. It's good for them! 😊
This are really good tips! Thank you very much ❤
Good wolker you are!!👏👏👏
I cannot thank you enough for this video. The shame and guilt I’ve been carrying around. You have blessed me in knowing I’m not alone.
Right!!
Hi 👋 Ms Mirage. Ikr! You’re not alone. “Lynn’s video was the fire 🔥 that I needed! I went to both dollar trees yesterday. I’ll keep you posted. I have until Christmas… 🎅🎄
*Update* I gave myself a couple weeks to clean up and organize using both dollar “stores and I feel like I got a whole new home for 2023 leaving 123123 and a clean 🧼 🏡 Thank you!
Just found you by accident. I am astonished. I have never heard anyone describe my life the way you just did to a T! My whole life ive struggled, i dont even know how these messes happen, but im going to try some of your great methods and i think this is really going to help me. Thank you so much! ❤💐🌺🌼🌸🌹🌻🌷
Your post is almost exactly what I was going to write! I found this video to be very much how I feel, both by clutter and physically. I'm going to try to work with a list. I get so lost when I try to tackle a bit of everything at once.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤❤❤ a lot of what you said about procrastination and being overwhelmed resonated with me. I'm not the best at keeping my house neat either and have been that way from childhood. Your system seems doable. Thanks for sharing!!!
It's great to see a realistic home & tidy up. Most of the time the homes you see on TH-cam don't even need cleaning 🙃 you're fab 🙂 x
This was a really helpful video, not just because of the excellent content, but also for the honesty. It’s rare to see a content creator talk about the realities of working class life in a normal home like my own home.
You are a breath of fresh air. You are so honest about what it feels like to be overwhelmed and I like how you are not taking drastic steps towards your health but more manageable steps with fit your lifestyle. Thank you for your candor and vulnerability. I know many people have benefited from this video, including myself. You gave me lots of good ideas. Thank you!
Just have to commend you for such a brilliant video. If ppl were honest we'd see there are lots more of us who struggle with motivation and procrastinating, like me lol. I loved the comment by the 68 yr old woman. I'm 62 and also watched your entire video. Great job! Thanks for posting
Just a suggestion for those who may be couch potatoes, or older, like me. When I'm watching TV, I make sure that EVERY time a commercial comes on, I get up and do something. I'm really good at cleaning or tidying in small bursts rather than longer sessions. I find that I'm amazed at how much I can get done this way. I wish that I could do a marathon of cleaning, like you, but I'm much older, and we all have to find what works best for us. You did an AMAZING job and should be really proud of yourself!
Girl, nobody should judge you for HAVING a messy house, they should be impressed that you’re cleaning a messy house. We ALL have had our homes get messy, the point is to get it cleaned so it doesn’t STAY messy. ❤️
Indeed!
Messy house happy kids it only takes a couple of hours a day to clean up do it while the kids are at school love your videos ❤🎉
I am not judging anyone all I said was mess house happy kids and u can tidy up when their at school or nursery I lived in a house with 5sister that wasn't tidy at all time not by a long shot
Girl..I am soooo PROUD of YOU! And you're seriously speaking my story! I love lists too & thank you for all those supplements that helped you; I will try them too. Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing this amazing & helpful video. Xo
Thank you soooo much for this honest video! I, too, have struggled with this my entire life. You are so right about a messy person not necessarily enjoying the mess. I hate it so much, and feel embarrassed that my house frequently looks the way it does. IT IS SO OVERWHELMING SOMETIMES. I truly appreciate your ideas and the fact that you showed your house in a realistic way. It makes me feel a lot less bad about my own home to see that other people live like I do. 😊 I think you are exactly right right that it comes down to an organization problem. I have struggled with that my entire life as well. This was my first time visiting your channel, but your video was so honest and hey, I have subscribed and am already looking forward to seeing more. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! 💜💕
I have been there for decades. An insane amount of working hours in hospital, kept me on the edge, always remedying the damage. At a certain point, however, the method the Fly Lady method was a turning point to me. The best channel where I got the basis from, in a simple way is The secret slob, youtube channel. Easy and efficient.
I noticed the plants along the window ledge,and it made me happy to see that you have an eye for beauty.You and I have sooo much in common as I listen to you.I've never had a diagnosis but lately,at age 73 (!!) I realize that I probably have ADD. I've been reading some things online that have been helpful.
You are smart and wise and I'm impressed with your work and style.Yay You!!🥰
Girl. I cried after the video. I thank you for your transparency and the encouragement thru your words, energy, and actions. This content was #1 for me. Thank you for sharing your content and deep rooted story.
Remi you're not going to believe this but you have even helped me! Im 72 yo! Im messy but love to have everything neat. With complications from old age i can work maybe 30 min then need to rest. My problem with that is i get involved with TH-cam or games and sit way too long. I know i need to get up and get out, do things, see people while I'm able but i spend all day trying to just get everyday housework done. I like to craft, sew, garden and get upset with myself that i don't allow myself time for those things. I truly believe that your list making suggestion completing one thing at a time will help me and encourage me to go a little longer before i stop for a rest. Then writing the next thing will excite me to get back busy faster to get it done! I'm going to start now! I moved about 1 1/2 mo ago and still have boxes sitting around. If i can finish my chore list (and its not as long as yours--no toys, and such as that) and then put up a few things or even empty one box it will lift my spirits so much! Then maybe i can get outside and get my flower garden going or go see an old friend!
I’m 75 and I am inspired.
Using a kitchen timer set in the next room helped me move.
You sound like me. I hope we both get back to doing things we enjoy!
This is one of the best voiceovers I’ve heard. I can relate to everything 😂 love the realism
You helped my mental health today so much. Truly, thank you for this. Why shouldn't we feel joy? Best line. Thank you.
It's so refreshing to see someone have a messy house and put it in order just like us ordinary people do. I hate seeing someone with a glamorous updated house saying they have to clean and in 5 minutes it's all perfect again. I often get distracted from one chore so your idea of the list sounds perfect for me. I'll be starting that tomorrow...thank you so much for this wonderful dose of reality!
I greatly appreciate your candor ❤
As an empty nester who's nearly 50, I've finally found a way to make laundry easier. I sort my clothes based on where they get put away. All my hanging clothes go together, my folded clothes are together, etc. It's the only way I've found that makes certain all my clothes are put away.
Blessings to you and your family!
I love your honesty. I can't even imagine how many people you're helping with videos like this! Very motivating!
The making a small list by priority is genius!!
First, I think your doing great. People that don’t understand how the mess happens and judge you for it have never had to be in your shoes. I had to stop working for pay when my grandmother who I took care of after became completely bedridden (dementia for ten years before) I also have rescue animals including some I had to save from a feral heard of cats I try to care for they would have died by morning if I had left them. I have a husband as well who works all the time to make up for me not being able to work for pay anymore, I’m the only one taking care of the house, cooking, caring full time for grandma and the animals all the cleaning etc.. I was in an accident that almost killed me n I couldn’t move for months, I’m still trying to catch up now and it’s impossible when I’m in pain. My house went from order to chaos and has been that way for awhile. I also have never owned a dishwasher I am the dishwasher 😂 I also don’t like coffee and I’m very caffeine sensitive, when I need some caffeine once in awhile I will drink a Bai, it’s got about 55-75 mg caffeine depends on which one you get. I’m glad your phasing out the soda a little at a time it’s the best way to kick something so your body isn’t overwhelmed with detox symptoms. I lost my favorite kitten yesterday after two weeks of caring for her, she died at the vet n I’m so heartbroken I’m not motivated and tired but your video helped I’m gonna try to push through and get some things done💯❤️
Ok straight up this is the best cleaning video I've ever seen for people with ADHD and Autism. Like...the list idea where you just start off with writing your first two most important tasks and then add others as you cross them off is so smart so that you don't get super overwhelmed just from the list. And as you cross things off, the house slowly becomes less and less overwhelming which makes it easier to keep going. Thank you so so much, I really appreciate this.
A video that gives positive energy.
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You are enough. You are human. You are doing what works for you at this moment- you are inspiring many others by showing a real home and how easily messes multiply! Thank you for sharing!!! ❤
I'm so glad I'm not the only one watching this right now! It just sucks you right in!
I won’t lie, I personally can’t relate to the mess! I was taught very young “do it as you go”! Listening to you helped me so much. I realised that we just aren’t all the same! I respect you for what I watched you accomplish in this video, the way you explained yourself and your acceptance and understanding of yourself! The reason this helped me is because I have a daughter-in-law just like you in her housekeeping! We are close because she doesn’t have the mother influence she needed growing up! I’ve tried my best to teach her, to no avail! She wants to, she just can’t get it done! You’ve opened me to a new understanding! I want her to watch this and maybe she will relate to you in a positive way!
I learned so much, not housework techniques, I learned a new way of acceptance. Allowing my daughter-in-law to be who she is and work on theses issues a little at a time! I think you are are awesome! You’re doing a lot of good by you being you! Thank you!
Sometimes it’s so clear how God works through people and even chance meetings though a TH-cam video that popped up. God bless you for allowing your mind to be open and see your daughter-in-law’s struggles. And that she’s not lazy, she just needs to adapt skills in baby steps - and not beat herself up. Trust me, negativity and statements of disapproval and judgment replay through our heads All. Day. Long. I’m so glad for her sake that you are able to put judgment aside so you can meet her where she is in your support of her. I (now 50) wish all these young mommas courage, faith in themselves, and the belief that they and their kids are worth a better living environment. My house might have gotten this bad when I was struggling with severe depression a time or two - but mostly I did see my younger self in her and loved how she has explained things and her realizations and thoughts as well.
If she has children, and if you don’t already do so… offer to take them to your house so she can have some alone time to do what she wants to get done. Nice you are trying to understand we all do things differently.👍👍👍
I'm living alone, but have some paralyzing mental struggles recently, making it extra hard to maintain a tidy clean home. These videos are helping a lot, thank you!!
Thank you for sharing this. I seriously thought It was just me who did this. I get so overwhelmed and the negative thoughts just pour in. However seeing you tackle this and knowing other people struggle to gave me hope and inspiration. Thank you.
Have to say to expose yourself and home like this is really commendable. Thanks for this .
I couldn’t be more serious when I say I genuinely love and respect you for this. You are so honest and nearly everyone can truly relate to how our homes can get out of hand. I can’t tell you how much I admire you and appreciate your candor. This is actually a gift of encouragement for so many of us who have those times in our life where we are just absolutely exhausted and overwhelmed by the day to day demands that life can put on us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤❤❤
I enjoy your introspection, your self-awareness and your honesty. You’re an inspiration! ❤
Hello, I saved this video to watch later, months ago. Watching today 4/9/24, and I'm glad I did. Thank you for being real with everything. Even when you opened up about your own struggles. I def can relate to a lot, if not, all of it. Definitely liked and subscribed. Looking forward to watching more of your videos/shorts. Thank you, from across the pond. Sincerely. ❤
Omg I love this video. Sick of watching videos of people cleaning their already clean homes. And your personality is fantastic. I could see us being besties
Dear Remi. What a fantastic video. I thank you. I am in my 70s and can SO RELATE to everything you said. I was a single mom for quite a few years and I felt so frustrated at times because my energy level was at a low. Working full time then working with my son. I loved helping him with his schooling, but I wish I had had a bit more money to spend on him and more energy. Please. Take it from another woman, you are absolutely perfect the way you are. You do so much for everyone else and like most women, we tend to not take as good of care of ourselves as we should. As Imaged, I too am noticing I can get sidetracked quickly. Very frustrating, but I quite beating myself up about it. I have learned to say no when I know I cannot take on a project for someone. Your candor about tackling a huge project is truly appreciated. I have one large room I absolutely must organize but I keep putting it off. Take good care of yourself.
I cannot express enough how grateful I am for your channel and your content. Please continue for as long as it suits you but just know, ive been binge watching everything you have today.. its exactly what i needed.
I think you did a fantastic job in a short time. I am a housekeeper and I clean whole houses in 2-3 hours so I know it can be done and you did MARVELLOUS! I think you have a great understanding of yourself and wonderful attitude.
Thank you so very much for posting a video showing what a real messy house looks like and real ways to deal with the executive dysfunction. This is so so helpful.
So pleased you found the video helpful! X
Getting distracted is so easy…my solution used to be that my best friend and I would clean each other’s house once a week, dusting, floors, bathrooms, and that type of thing. It was amazing! Alas, my best friend is now waiting for me in heaven and I am caring for my Mother, which is a whole other challenge…I’m not young like you but watching your video made me think of good times in the past! You are wise beyond your years. Love from the USA!♥️
I feel this. My house is always a mess. But is so hard to me to start cleaning. I hate my mess. But most of the time is so hard to start simple things. I have ADHD. My mind is always I need to do this and that. But my body doesnt move. I also when a finally start to tidy up. I need to stop because I have alot of pain in my back. Because of my back problems. So is so hard. Thank you for your video. At least I dont feel alone.
You’re absolutely not alone ❤️
Well done. Its bloody hard keepin ont top of a clean house when you're working full time. Can't imagine how hard it is with wee ans an all.
As a young stay at home mum with anxiety, especially when I’m struggling to do the house, you’ve made me feel less alone with this so thank you 🥰
I’m so pleased to hear this 🥰
I feel bad for your kids.
@@kristykanen9315 what an awful thing to say. I imagine her children are quite well and happy.
@@kristykanen9315 so you're miss perfect? Quality time with your kids and a pristine organised house hub? Not possible unless you pay for a cleaner!!
@@tamsin1975 I'm a disabled 71 year old, never married no children.
I just recently had to accept help for some housekeeping chores. I have had roommates who were lazy and or hoarded up my home. I must be
" perfect " or an obsessive compulsive " clean freak", because there's nothing on the floor of my house but rugs. furniture and shoes. 🙄
I was meant to find this today. Chronic clinical depression depletes my motivation and I often stay in bed to avoid the mess. I’m messy, my son is messy and autistic so both of us are overwhelmed. I love your method and am going to try it. Wish me luck - and motivation! I’ll keep following you to keep the mojo going. Thank you!
Wishing you all the luck and motivation! and I hope this method worlds for you! X
I love reading all these comments, look how many people are truly helped here.
I suffer from depression and no motivation. Be encouraged with the little things you get done each day. My mother would ask me, "how do you eat an elephant...one bit at a time.
I take pride in cleaning one corner and if that's all I can do that's okay. The next day I take another bite at that elephant. We can do it!!!☺️
Wishing you luck boo! You got this, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
@@carmendunklin6407 So true, and so beautiful!
Omg! I'm sitting here depressed with no children waiting on my bf coming home from work. House is a mess.. but just listening to you hunni im about 1/4 the way through my list. So much love you hunni im going to follow you and watch you forever. Thank you so much. Your an amsjng woman and don't ever forget that ❤❤❤ xxxxxxxxxxx
WOW!!! Just found you, will be binge watching as I try your techniques❤🎉
58 years old, the same as you my WHOLE LIFE! ! Let’s do this 😊
Your tips are great but your candor and transparency is refreshing, relatable, and very much appreciated.
I agree!
Well I’m 67 and I totally agree with Sharon Hughes, I loved your video and applaud your strength in showing us your vulnerability. How honest and refreshing g you were. It was a joy to watch you clean your house. I’m a neat freak and even I took away some tips but what I most appreciated was your life tips. You truly are an amazing woman. Off to watch all your videos ❤
This is so relatable, I too do laundry and then leave it on the chair in the lounge to 'sort later' I can be either OCD organised or in an eternal haze of procrastination and overwhelm and dont 'have the time' to do the things i need to do... one day my house will be completely tidy from top to bottom... one day
This looks like a home that I know. I clean it thinking that others will keep it up only to do the same thing over and over. I like watching cleaning videos for inspiration and this one is so relatable. Thank you for your video.
God bless you THANK YOU for showing me that others have homes that get like this too. My heart is broken, I lost my son a year ago to a fentanyl overdose and I've lost my ability to fight on some days. I want my home clean during the holidays. You gave me hope. THANK YOU .
I am really sorry about your loss. That must be devastating on a daily basis. Please know that there are people that care about you, and want you to do well.
I love your idea of only putting the most important tasks on the list and then only adding more after crossing the completed ones off! I think this could really help my ADD brain to not get so overwhelmed. Thank you for the tips and for being so open and posting. Women should SUPPORT other women, not tear them down. How dare they call themselves a “feminist” and then go after another woman for something as simple as how they clean their home, what they wear, etc., we MUST support one another and build each other up💜
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I LOVE the way you ramble on. It makes me feel like I'm right with you while you're picking up the house. ❤️
Your videos make me feel more normal, I feel overwhelmed at home with zero energy to do much at all and it feels like no matter how much I clean and tidy, the very next day it looks like I've done nothing at all 😢
I struggle with severe depression and bipolar disorder. My house looks horrible right now but this video motivated me to least do a little bit. I know I can’t clean it all in one day but I can do a little today and a little tomorrow. With depression, my motivation comes in spurts but most days I’m far too tired and worn down to do anything. I like how you said messy people DO mind the mess, we just can’t keep it clean. I felt that in my soul lol. Thank you for this. You’re a beautiful woman with a gorgeous home. You’re doing such a great job at it! And I’m living paycheck to paycheck too so you’re not alone 😊 no dishwasher here either haha!
Bless you, I’m so glad that you were able to find some motivation here! ☺️ and thank you so much for your kind words, I’m wishing you all the best, and make sure you take it easy and remember even completing the smallest tasks is an accomplishment to be proud of!
And I love to see Mens watching videos like this for motivation.... keep it up babe . One day you will finally realize how easy it is 🎉🎉🎉
@@Braymers2023 thank you so much! You have a wonderful day! ☺️
I’m 74, living in California, USA.
Thank you for an honest video, and sharing things that I recognize in myself. Chronic fatigue, and physical limitations make clearing difficult. But, I believe your hints will help a lot.
Hopefully, I can get through my mess as ‘easily’ as you did. Again, thank you!
Don't knock yourself. Pat yourself on the back. You're helping others who feel overwhelmed too! Well done!
This was the best video ever. This is how my house looks like now. I love your messy hair and real house clothes. Sending love from one overwhelmed mom to another ❤
Watching this video makes me feel seen and understood. I'm crying. Thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone.
Thanks! You just made my day! Not because you straightened up faster than anyone, but because your voice and story filled me with delight. Your sincerity, honesty and your ability to remain true to yourself are calming to we who are fighting the same demons. With gratitude, Sally
I am 64 years old and I have struggled with executive dysfunction my entire life! You are helping me a lot! I am ok IF I can get started, but I am paralyzed trying to begin. You hit my nail on the head! Thank you thank you, and keep on truckin’ .
I had an Epiphany when Flylady said “you can do anything for 15 minutes.” I figured if 15 minutes was good, so was five. And so was two minutes. The more distasteful the task, The shorter the time I put on my timer. Just dividing things into categories is brilliant. But if overwhelmed, it’s perfectly OK to say that you will only pick things out for two minutes if that’s all you can handle at once. Generally once we get started, we find we can do another couple of minutes and so forth. I use the 2-5 minute rule for the tasks that repel me the most and break those tasks down into the tiniest steps possible. And sometimes the first task is “Think about what the very first thing is that I have to do to do this, and write it down.”
I live in central british columbia. After working a long shift today and coming home, i could tell my wife was overwhelmed with the house and kids all day and I didnt know where to start. I found this video and have began cleaning up and tidying for the past 30 minutes and it helped me out a lot i appreciate it 🙏
You are my CUP OF TEA! This video just popped up in my feed. Thank the Lord. Thank you for having the nerve to put this out there for those of us that need it. I’m sorry you have to put up with the haters. Please know, you are helping others!!!!! I can’t wait to watch another of your videos. Good Bless!
I think you summed it up perfectly for most of us. We like clean, we just don't like cleaning. I'm an empty-nester now and though I don't have the struggle of laundry and dishes that I had when the kids were little, I still struggle with just day to day tidiness. I make a daily list of the things that need to be done if I had an unannounced visitor. Clean bathrooms, a clean kitchen, a made bed. Those are my minimum things to do during the day. A swish/swipe in the two bathrooms, load the dishwasher, make the bed. Those things make me feel better, even though I know it's been more than a month since I dusted the living room furniture or mopped the bathroom floor. I'm still working on it after all these years and maybe, just maybe, I'm at peace with the fact that I'm not a great housekeeper, but I am a nice person.
I love the idea of the list being short and then adding on another item as one is finished. This is SO clever.
It's nice to hear real talk about "who blew up my house?"
It's nice to hear your accent too ☺️
Thank you for your honesty and inspiration. You are very kind to help the rest of us xxxx🌹💖
I was just watching true crime videos and have no idea how I came across this but I started watching and I swear it was like you were talking directly to me!! I'm just the same! I struggle with depression pretty heavily and my house is never clean. I'm 45 and married with 2 young girls ages 12 and 9. (I have a 21yr old son but he moved out)
My house gets trashed sometimes less than a day after I bust my butt and break my back cleaning it so sometimes I think why bother doing it at all. It's so overwhelming and I never know where to start. Yes, my children should be helping but getting them to do it is world war 3! And my poor husband deserves better. He is a clean freak! It didn't use to be this way. My first husband died tragically at work in 2004. He had a a son, who is now 21. I loved cleaning, all of it. After he died, of course I was never the same. I wish I could get that motivation to clean back. I am so happy that I came across this video. I'm going to subscribe and go watch the rest of your videos! I think it could help motivate me. Thank you for having the courage to post this. People's homes are usually a private thing and rightly so, so I really do appreciate your courage. Thank you all the way from Ft.Worth Texas!