Cleaning shared room of two siblings to help overwhelmed single mom with ADHD
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I am helping to clean and organize this shared bedroom to help a single mom with ADHD who had a pile of stuff dumped on her front doorstep by her ex-husband before he moved to Australia, which was quite overwhelming for her. She is actually quite organized in most areas of her home and having this dumped on her suddenly created a problem as she just couldn't mentally deal with it all, so she asked for my help. Much of the stuff you see in the center of this room is not necessarily even the kid's things, but there was little room elsewhere in this two-bedroom apartment to store anything. She has quite a lot of nice storage, but just not enough space. The kids themselves are VERY creative and even gifted I would say. They have a lot of creative projects around their home and in their room and A LOT of TINY TINY THINGS which made for some tedious organizing, but we had a lot of fun as well.
I also talk about my recent autism diagnosis in this episode and how that has helped me to understand some stuff about myself a little better.
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I thought I would just do a pinned comment about this so I don't have to spend a ton of time responding to each of these comments separately.
First of all, thank you for making me feel not so weird, but just that it's a pretty normal way to act in front of family. I think it's true we can all act differently with family when we feel comfortable. The difference is I would act like this 80% of the time if I wasn't "trying to fit into society," so I'm constantly thinking, "is this acceptable out here or will people think I'm nuts?" and most of the time I am suppressing the urge to act more like you see me act here and I know that wouldn't fly to act like that all the time. But, I didn't mean to imply that my "weirdness" is the main thing that makes me autistic. It's not. There are other things that the diagnosis has helped me to make more sense of why I do the things I do, such as getting obsessed with or hyperfocused on things to the point that almost nothing else matters and it's upsetting when I'm pulled away from whatever my current obsession is. I'm sure I'll talk more about those things at some point in my future videos. But I also have sensory issues and a hard time with loud noises (like a motorcycle or loud truck going up my street) to the point I feel enraged by it, which I never could figure out why that didn't bother other people. I won't get into all the different things that have been cleared up by this diagnosis or this could be a super long comment, but I just wanted to give you a couple other examples so you don't think that I just think being weird is an autistic thing.
I love that we are all different and have different strengths and weaknesses. It makes us unique and gives us all a different purpose. I appreciate all the support from my subscribers. And, if you have a weird side like me, rock that weirdness!!🤘😋❤
Your vulnerability is such a beautiful strength.
PS I hope that UTI is gone, they’re miserable to deal with.
PSS your mom, like you, is cute as buttons and you’re such a good team.
Thank you for sharing yourself unmasked! I am new here. I found you on Max’s channel. You are a true blessing to each person you help. Much love to you and your family
YOU ARE PERFECT JUST AS YOU ARE. Don't forget it. The way you are with family is a joy and I'm so happy to see such a loving mom/daughter bond.
Well said
UTI infections are awful!!! 23:05 When I try to heal it myself, of course I drink lots of water and I eat chobani yogurt because it contains the good bacteria. And I’m not going to believe I will share this online for all to see, but here goes, I purchase really thick adult pads and walk around a lot and that standing and moving works for me, one time I couldn’t make it to the bathroom and drenched the pad and the overflow went on my kitchen floor cause I had not been able to urinate all day, it was a lot, but the UTI went away with no antibiotics I’ve used antibiotics before but one should not take so many antibiotics if they can help it. Anyone reading this please be kind with your comments. The elephant joke was funny by the way. You are not like Mac and Barbie because you have your own style and how you approach cleaning and differences in people is a good thing! What works for one person may not help another person. Have a great day!
This all seemed totally normal to me. When we are a part of a family that we love and trust, where we can truly be ourselves, sans judgment, our goofiness and nerdiness are "free to roam". That's what healthy, loving and trusting relationships are about. Don't be so hard on yourself. We are all quirky and unique in our own ways.
I find that I regress about 15 years whenever I’m around my family (because that’s how long ago I moved away from them), and I become a lot more, well, annoying. I slide right back into that whiny, annoying little sister mode seamlessly.
Right?! Isn't it so nice to just feel free to be yourself? I spend so much of my life trying to act how I see other people act and model that behavior, but it doesn't come super natural to me, so it can be exhausting. When I am around my family, I just unleash the real me, which, as Kati said, I regress in age and become a bit immature. As long as I know when it's time to put on the grown up face, I'm fine with that!😄👍❤️
Yep I agree with you all. If people could just see me and my fiance together sometimes 🤣were like a couple of kids and he's 51 and I'm 53!😆It's perfectly normal, plus we all have different faces we have for different people or situations because different situations call for it.
@@cat-mum-JulesWe are like two kids having hysterical laughter fits with my mom. She is over 70 and i'm over 40 😂 Then she pretends to be a crab in public or what ever makes us laugh. I love it.
Man, everything you talked about is so normal. Being strange and quirky is awesome, and putting on a social face to fit in is what 85% of people do, not just autistic people. I'm glad you got some answers! You didn't need a label, but learning more about why you do certain things is fun and helpful. You're a good model to all of us, Bonnie!
Thank you everyone for the wonderful comments and for supporting my daughter on this adventure.
I am so grateful for my good health. I really enjoyed getting together and doing this with my daughter. I see her skills grow each week.
She really did scare me when she suddenly threw that popper game at me. We did have fun.
I saw many of you comment about too many toys and why so many. You may have missed my daughter explaining how the ex-husband dumped all of the stuff from his house in front of her house before he left the country to live. It was quite overwhelming to the family. We helped to organize everything so they could better make a decision of what to keep and what to give.
They did, by the way, give away a lot of things to charity that you did not see. I am sure more will be donated. This mother is doing a great job under the circumstances.
Thanks for coming to help me, mama!
Donna, is your apron from when you had your own cleaning business? It's SO great. I could have really used that when I was downsizing and packing up for a big move. I had a little purse that I kept my sharpies, scissors and masking tape in for labelling, but it wasn't big enough and I was always so dusty.
You seem like a really cool and sweet lady!
It's called having a mad 5 minutes enjoy time with your Mum❤
Your Mom done such a great job
Your shirt will say , “oh look. More small things.”
Former single mom of two here. When they got to be 9 and 12 they could no longer live in the same room and maintain any of my sanity. So the oldest got the small bedroom to herself and I moved the youngest in with me in the master bedroom. One of the benefits of this was I could send them to their rooms and it would separate them. Bonus!
When it was the three of us in a tiny condo, we didn’t keep any books that they were too old for. When grandchildren came along, I just bought the books again. And there were limits on how much crafting stuff we could keep. While I wanted to keep everything, there just wasn’t room.
When your kids have too many toys and not enough room, nothing that is played with is enjoyed. I had to tell the grandparents that they couldn’t gift toys anymore. Experiences and clothes were all I allowed them to give. Going to the ballet with grandma is remembered much better that another little thing collection.
If I keep doing houses like this with a lot of little things, that might be a good shirt to put on my channel merchandise shop.😁
You can’t create more space but at this point it’s time to declutter! Decluttering will naturally make the space feel bigger. The kids will also feel better having a clean and tidy room.
I agree. Too much stuff to try to organize.
Purge toys they no longer use, books that are too young, things that are broken.
When I realized that the homeowner wasn't going to be decluttering I had to leave this video.. too much sttuuuffff
@@Sienna10Sunz well it is definitely easier to declutter if you’re able to clean and organize it first. It would be much less overwhelming as well. It’s a lot of stuff but not her fault that it got dumped on her.
Have the creator pick a certain number of items to display and crate the rest if there’s storage space?
Saw nothing weird.all i saw was a mom and daughter interacting the way they always do. Lots of love and fun and laughter.
Your are real, and not weird at all. That’s what families are all about when there’s love, trust and acceptance.
I had a boy & a girl. I built a knockdown wall with a door in it. They each had a window, & respected each other's space. When my son moved out, I took the wall down. Easy peasy, lemon sqeezy.
In an apt., I would hang a curtain on a rod, dividing the room. Your Oregon Viewer.
Great idea! Thank you!👍
Why a daughter needs a MOM 😢, I miss my MOM enjoy the memories. 👍⭐️
Thank you! Yes, glad I have that on film. ❤️
you are amazing and the transformation you create in these people's lives is such a blessing...
I didn't find anything wrong with the interaction between you and your mom. Just a playful moment. It shows that you are comfortable with each other. You often mention that you think you sound uninteresting and maybe speak to slowly. You are doing a great !
Thank you so much! I just pinned a comment at the top to explain a little more about the stuff I didn't really explain well in the video.
I tend to speak slowly,and am “weird”,so I’m glad to see you being yourself. I’m 61,my youngest has ADHD and I think I might too.
I did not find you were acting weirdly … it was fun seeing you laughing with your mother …. and I am impressed to see that at 72 she is still so full of energy ! greetings from Belgium
I agree. I didn't mean to say that just my weirdness in this video was because of autism. I actually pinned a comment at the top of the comments section that goes into a little more detail about the other things that make me autistic, not just me being a little weird and playful with my mom.😁👍
Please don't ever apologize for being authentically you! You're amazing. And masking or not you're a fun, loving, kind hearted human, and I'm so glad to have found your channel! I hope you have all the support you need as you navigate this next chapter. 💜💜💜
Wow I couldn’t have said this better myself! ❤❤
Masking is basically lying to yourself and it messes with your head and body. I find that Bonnie has great talent in verbalizing. Many high IQ people don't ramble but think first before speaking with pauses in between. I can learn from that 😅
You guys are so nice! And, to be clear, I fully embrace my weirdness. I actually just pinned a comment at the top of this comments section to clarify a little bit more about the autism diagnosis because the way that I worded it in this video makes it sound like just because I can be quirky and weird means that I'm autistic, but there are other things that I have wondered about that that diagnosis cleared up. Anyway, see the pinned comment if you want more detail on that. I appreciate all of the love and support you guys give!❤️❤️❤️🙏
I love kitties….to know a cat is to fall madly in love 🥰
Please, stop say you are sorry! You are so generous, kind and a lovely person! You add a lot of peace and joy for so much people! You are better than so much non autistic people!😉
LOL. I have gotten a lot better at not apologizing for who I am in the six months since I posted this video. I definitely feel a little more comfortable with each video. Thanks for your sweet words!
Those children must have been so excited to see their room. Hope you feel better soon.
Thank you!
That is a lot of stuff for 2 children to manage. I speak from experience, not condemnation. You and your mom did a great job on this cleaning/organizing!
Thank you so much 🤗
Such a good point. I used to get so frustrated by how messy my kids’ rooms would get and I talked with my mom about it. I pointed out to her that our (me and my eight siblings) childhood bedrooms never got nearly as messy. She said “You kids didn’t own much stuff.” It seems obvious but it was a lightbulb moment for me. She also taught me that you can’t just tell a child to clean their room because they don’t know how, and even as they get older they can get overwhelmed. She pointed out it is more helpful to clean with them and show them the different steps that go into cleaning.
@@carolefoldPacNW you were raised by a good human!
@@ithinkmeh3565 I really was, thank you so much for saying this. I miss her.
Enjoy your moms company, you only have one, and she will always be your best friend. I miss my mom so much. So treasure every moment. She is so energetic for 72 well done mom
Thank you for your kind words.
The mom and the daughter could share the largest room, using some of the son's room for storage of daughters things.
I thought of that too.
That was a thought I had as well. Good idea!
No. The mom needs her "Fortress of Solitude."
I would say that it’s fine for a brother and sister to share a room until puberty hits,then try the suggestion above about mom and daughter sharing a room,with brother’s room holding their overflow storage. (They make bunk beds where the bottom bed is a double or queen and doesn’t feel as “cave like” because part sticks out,just a thought if mom and daughter eventually have to share a room,they don’t have to share a bed.)
When I was growing up I shared a room with my older sister and actually found I liked sharing a room with my little brother more. Way less fighting 😅. Honestly two siblings sharing a room regardless of gender is tough in a small room with a lot of stuff, maybe put the two in the bigger room and mom takes the smaller one, at least that’s what we did and it worked out well for all. 😊
For anyone struggling with UTIs, I used to struggle with frequent issues and my chiropractor said that I need to build up the good bacteria in my gut. He said I could eat these items 2-3 times daily and then to daily then whenever I needed or liked.
Miso
Kimchi
Sauerkraut
Kefir
Fermented foods
And other things that have probiotic properties.
This made it so I rarely get a UTI anymore. Such a relief! I hope this helps someone 💗
That's great advice.
Please don’t apologize for being yourself. It doesn’t matter what someone may see as quirky or different, it is just who you are which is a better person than many others. This mom and her children were blessed with your talent and kindness.
On the children sharing a room, it is perfectly fine and will likely lead to them having a very close bond. I know other families that have done or are doing the same with bunk beds and all is well.
Normal is boring, stay weird. Don't ever apologize for being yourself. You're a wonderful person 💗
As an autistic person who started following you because I’ve been trying to clean up my space for my Depression’s sake: it makes me unbelievably happy to see another autistic person helping others. Especially hearing that you also have processing issues that impact your speech as I do too. Seeing you unmask makes me happy since it’s seeing you at one of your most genuine points, and the fact your family also doesn’t judge you for it but enbraces it (like how my family does) makes me hopeful, and I hope it makes others hopeful too.
Edit: For reference, when I was diagnosed they didn’t know where to place me on the spectrum, but with the updated terminology I personally see myself as somewhere between level 1 and level 2, though I lean more into level 2 in a lot of aspects. Mask or unmasked, we’re all normal, and you (both as the creator and those reading this) shouldn’t be ashamed of those kinds of traits!
I love this comment. ❤️ Isn't it interesting how being autistic can look so different from person to person? We have processing issues that impact our speech while others, like Mack, seem to have no problems with expressing themselves.
I do agree that we are all normal...or rather there is no normal, but we are all beautiful in our own way. Thank you for sharing!❤️🙏
I'm so glad you felt that you could share your diagnosis with us! I'm definitely not unsubscribing. You and Mack are both wonderful to watch no matter what your diagnosis. Keep being yourself. You're amazing!
Aw, thank you! I'm so glad to hear that. I really did worry there would be a few people that would be like, "holy crap, she's crazy" and unsubscribe.😂 But that's probably just silly. I have always enjoyed the quirky things about other people.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp From another fan of yours that's on the spectrum too... You're not crazy; you're AWESOME! Never forget that. Also, with the UTIs, I used to have them all the time until I got those cheap Neo 120s (bidet attachment to toilet) for every single potty in the house. They're basic (cold water only), but they do the trick. I was tired of living on Macrobid, TBH. Haven't had one since. There are fancier brands/types out there that do warm water though if you care to spring for it. But the cheap cold water ones are enough.
Message for algorithmic help, but you both are amazing for doing this! Cannot believe your mom can get on her knees like that! Amazing!
Thank you so much!
That was an overwhelming amount of stuff! The size of the room is the size of the room, so rather than working so hard to organize it would be helpful to work with the kids to declutter about 50% of the objects.
They are working on doing some decluttering now that everything is out of boxes and they can more easily assess what they have. 🤗
You should never apologize for being weird! We're all a little weird in our own ways. That's what makes us uniquely different. Otherwise we'd all be boring. And if someone claims to not be weird, I assume they are boring. Your friends, family, and subscribers love and accept you just as you are. Never apologize 😊
Your Mom is doing great for 71! I am 61 and can't do half as well. Those UTIS are the worst! i hope you are feeling better.
Yep, she's always been pretty active and healthy. Longevity runs in her family. Her dad lived to 103, so I'm sure she will be around for a while. And I'm feeling much better, thank you!
somehow, that all looks like perfectly normal family communication to me. Happy laughter, what more can you aspire to.
My sister and I are 7 years apart and my family didn’t have a lot of money growing up so we shared a room until she was almost 18. Totally normal to me
I shared a room with my brother who is 10 years older. We got along really well. Still do. We each had a side of the room to decorate how we wanted. My toys and stuffed animals stayed on my side, his skateboards and books on his. We were in charge of keeping our own space tidy.
Love it!
Be "weird" with your mom as often as you can, I lost my mom to ovarian cancer when she was 62.
I'm so sorry. That's so young! Indeed, I will enjoy my time with her. 🥰
Being someone that is autitistic and struggles with auditory comprehension and processing speed (I have very bad reflexes), I want to tell you that a lot of us have been there, doubting our intelligence and basically getting told that we sound and/or look dumb. It's a really harsh message that gets into your head so fast. Also, I get really childish as well and that also gets often taken as 'oh that guy is dumb'. You are not dumb and having to think about something longer doesn't mean the thinking isn't good :) And a bit of childish humor is just good to brighten up the day. Seeing it in other autistic people, I feel the connection and I'm so happy that we are just a little bit of funny weirdness going around and making each others day brighter. You definately do that with your videos!
Awwww...thanks so much.❤️🙏 It feels nice to be seen and understood. 😊
You do not ever need to apologize for being yourself!!! We love you!!! You are so kind, patient, helpful, have a great sense of humor, and anyone who says otherwise can just find something better to do!! Because you’re so awesome, talented, and beautiful! And I love that your mom helps you so much! She’s such an amazing cleaner as well!!! We love you guys and all of your videos!!! 🩷🩷🩷🤩🤩🤩💖💖💖💜💜💜😻😻😻💓💓💓
You are so sweet! Thank you so much!🙏❤️
I didn’t notice anything about you out of the ordinary you’re a lovely sweet hard working organized smart etcetc person and I love watching your shows. The fun always breaks out!!
Thank you so much!
Your mom seems wonderful. I'm shocked that you were able to get through this room in one day. Seems like they really need to purge a lot of stuff. So many toys, that's about the only way to make more room. The artwork that you showed was awesome. Great job!
It was fun to be with her. I too was surprised how much we got done.
@@DonnaStockingYou did a fine job raising this sweet, hardworking woman. I know you must be proud of her!
I really am. She has grown so much from this channel.
I’m so glad you felt comfortable to share the good news with us, your audience ❤
It’s always great when we get to know ourselves better and I’m glad you’re embracing autism as part of who you are, I’m waiting for my appointment with a psychiatrist to know if I’m in the spectrum as well and it’s really encouraging to see you, Mac from the midwest cleaning, and many other people unmasking and letting people know that the diagnose of autism is not a problem, is just a part of who that person is. So I want to thank you for sharing this great news. I can’t wait to do the tests as well.
Thanks for another great video! Sending lots of love! Take care 🤗❤
I'm so glad you are getting testing as well. It's really nice to have answers as to why you do certain things so differently than most people. And, you're right, it's not a problem unless it makes you feel so different that you don't ever interact with others. I just pinned a comment at the top that actually explains a little more about some of the things I struggle with. Because I know it probably came across as, "I'm just weird and quirky, therefore I am autistic," and that's not the only thing that I wanted people to take away from that.
I hope you get the answers you're looking for! Good luck!🤗
Never apologize for who you are and who God made you to be. You are very special and God doesn't make mistakes and God doesn't make any bad decisions. Be who you are and you are a very precious young lady and I thoroughly enjoy you and your videos. 🥰
I appreciate that!
The room was lovely and tidy when you finished. The only solution to making more room is to declutter and get rid. Kids don't really need all that stuff. As for sharing, I see nothing wrong with sharing with siblings. As they get older, maybe a folding screen across the room when they want a bit of privacy?
You were brave and honest talking about your diagnosis, and if it helps you to understand yourself better then that is good. Personally I don't like people given labels. We are all individual and there is no such thing as 'normal'. Learn to accept yourself, and just enjoy being you x
I agree with getting rid of stuff. It would definitely help open up some space. As for the diagnosis, I totally get what you're saying about not wanting labels for people. For me, this was important just because I have wondered about certain things that I do and felt like this has answered a lot of questions for me and helped me to understand myself a little better. But, I embrace myself exactly as I am. Having the diagnosis just helps me to navigate the world a little better.😊
We love you, quirks and all! We all have our own unique qualities- it makes the world beautiful!
I have a boy and a girl in a 2 bedroom. My boy is a teenager and gets the one room. My daughter and I share and are very happy right now. She is 8 and a mamas girl. If my son is still home when starts needing privacy I will partition the room.
I always have so many things to say, but hopefully it helps the algorithm.
1. My daughter is what I like to call “exhaustingly creative,” and there are so many 3D games and creations and homemade costumes that do not fit nicely anywhere!
2. I love your playful interactions with your mom. My mom is in her 70s too, and we sadly don’t have the same dynamic. It was so lovely to watch you two.
3. I hope you learn to love and embrace the weird. It was evident from a young age that I required interventions for my neurodiversity, and the nice thing about that is that you know from the beginning that you’re different, and you can learn to accept it because it’s just always been that way. I relate to you in a lot of ways, though in some ways we’re different.
Thanks for the video, keep doing what you’re doing! Kudos to you for working through a UTI, but also don’t put your health in jeopardy, man! 😂
Thanks for the comments! Yes, exhaustingly creative people tend to make a lot of things that don't fit very well anywhere...lol!
I have always loved the weird side of me, but knew that I was quite different from other people and so I've learned to hide the weird most of the time, which means that my family gets a huge dose of it since I'm busy suppressing it all the time. What you see in this video is just a very small part of my weirdness. And the weirdness isn't necessarily why I feel so different from other people. It's the other stuff like being really rigid about my schedule and getting upset if it is changed suddenly, getting super hyperfocused on different things, almost to the point of obsession, having sensory issues, and getting so angry to the point of rage when I hear a loud motorcycle or a loud truck go past our house. It infuriates me! And I never really understood why until this diagnosis.
What are some of the things you deal with? I don't even know what your diagnosis is necessarily. You have just mentioned that you are neurodivergent.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Mine is severe anxiety since the age of 7 (but sensory issues before that-think toddler screaming about the seams on her socks). I find that anxiety symptoms overlap somewhat with autistic symptoms. The need for things to be a certain way, the need for order, becoming easily overstimulated. And like you said, feeling ENRAGED by loud sounds. I definitely have that.
I was the first severely anxious child my small private school had encountered, so I was their guinea pig! I also wear variations of the exact same outfit every day, just in different colors. One pair of shoes that I reorder once they fall apart. My specific brand of anxiety is agoraphobia, so a fear of enclosed spaces, wide open spaces, standing in line, crowds, or being alone. Which pretty much covers EVERY SITUATION.
Cleaning is one of the few things that keeps my mind in the present. The physical activity calms me and takes me out of fight or flight mode. A couple days ago, I had a panic attack, called my dad, and just set the phone on a tripod in my backyard so I could talk to him and rake leaves. When I am cleaning a really dirty house, I become very focused on the task at hand and few moments of satisfaction as I make things clean again.
I always tell people that if I had to pick which illness to keep-the anxiety or the type 1 diabetes-I’d keep the diabetes in a heartbeat.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp And one of the reason I hope to do some free cleanings is that even if my life is a little miserable now (the anxiety has been in hyperdrive for about a year), I can make someone else’s life a little better and perhaps add some purpose to my own.
@@katiblue Probably not that fun to be a guinea pig. But, hey, you made it to adulthood and taking it one day at a time. The agoraphobia sounds very distressing...yikes! I'm sorry. I'm just glad you've found something that calms you, and helps other people as an added bonus. 👍
Its not weirdness, it's creativity and FUN ❤
I agree. I didn't mean to say that just my weirdness in this video was because of autism. I actually pinned a comment at the top of the comments section that goes into a little more detail about the other things that make me autistic, not just me being a little weird and playful with my mom.😁👍
@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I still don't think it's weird, I think it's just being silly and playful and fun. Life would be very boring if all us adults just sat with our legs crossed and our hands folded politely in our laps while we discussed "mature" topics. I, too, struggle with feeling immature, but then I wonder why society decided adults could only be stuffy and boring all the time. We only live once, have all the fun you can. People who don't love that about you aren't your people. They can have all the boring people 😜
It's not weird being silly with your mom. Memories are all we have sometimes. Great job on the room.
We had fun. Or at least I did.
Yes, we have fun together. 😊
Good job, it looks much better. Even if the kids had separate bedrooms, that's a lot of stuff.
Never apologize for being weird just embrace it, I always tell my kids to embrace their weirdness because it makes you unique. Your mom seems really sweet and I'm glad she was able to help you. Love your channel 🤗
My mixed gendered kids shared a room until my son was 8 and my daughter was 13. We moved house which gave them each a room. They also had bunk beds that separated into their own beds later on. We had a system for them to dress in their closet. His color was red, hers was blue. They would put a string of beads on the closet door (a big walk-in) so we all knew who was in there changing. Had we needed to stay in that house longer, we probably have used room dividers or bunk beds that had opposite side entrance. But the kids were so close that they probably didn’t want to separate the room. They shared everything. They loved having their own rooms but they never complained about sharing. :)
Don't ever apologize for being you. No one can be a better you. ❤
I would have divided the room. Take bunk beds apart. Make some kind of divider. Maybe the dresser.
'Playfulness 'is fine, nice and 'normal '!! 🎉❤🎉❤ tyfs!! Kudos to mom for helping! Hoping you feel better soon.
Thank you!! 😊
As a single mom of a boy and a girl (which I am not) I would have slept on a futon in the living room, which could be a couch during the day.
Also as the mom of an autistic 28-year-old, I would love to hear more about how you organize thousands of the tiny seemingly unrelated but Very Important things you find scattered all over this room.
Weird family you say? Girl, I feel seen.
I think autism presents very differently for different people because I know it probably is kind of odd that I can actually clean and organize well while others struggle mightily with that. To me, it's all like a puzzle, and I like putting those pieces together. Granted, when there are a thousand different sets of different things, I don't always know what belongs to what, but I try my best to at least sort them into a somewhat organized fashion.
Also, love your last comment!😄❤️👍
Bonnie, you are amazing! Don't ever apologize for being you, God created you in his image. Love watching you and how you help so many. What a blessing you are. Love watching you, Mack, and Barbie! Such inspirations, keep it up girl. - Tiffany from NC
Thank you, Tiffany!❤️
You are not weird, and we are all more ourselves around our families. You are just wonderfully yourself, and we all really appreciate who you are. I don't find you awkward. We are all our own worst critics. Keep just being who you are, because people love you for it! ❤
You are not weird. Just stop saying that, you are bringing yourself down. You have a good heart, humor, nice looks and you are perfectly fine just the way you are.
It looks like the mom or anyone needs to sit with the kids and start off with...for ever 4 toys or books you keep you need to donate 1 to a child who has non. Next year drop it to 3 and donate 2. Also when something new comes in, 1 has to leave. This was the only way we kept our children's things under control. Our 37 year old daughter still does this. Her husband is very happy 😊 lol
Oh honey I go off in front of my mom too.. this was so endearing and lovely to watch! You two are so freaking cute! Thank you for being so candid, it’s refreshing ❤
Thank you so much!!
I was thrilled when she invited me to come along.
The ideal solution to the storage problem would be to reduce the amount of inventory by at least half. Barring that, I would try setting up back-to-back Ikea Kallax units perpendicular to the bed like a room divider, just left of the floor vent, separating the room into a sleeping area and a play area. Each child would have their own assigned cubes in the Kallax. The current chest of drawers would be placed on the end of those units.
Great suggestion!👍
Love it!❤️
Honestly I didn’t see anything weird, just a mum and daughter having fun together.x your mum is amazing at 63 I could never kneel on the floor for that long or keep going all day. Do you ever think children have far too many toys these days. X
Very typical silly and fun chatter in a family. Everyone feels awkward, you are not alone in this. Enjoy your parents. Great to see your mum and you working together. ❤️
Thank you so much!😊❤️
I have 3 brothers, and at various times during our childhood we all shared 1 bedroom (usually because of a move). All I remember is how much fun we had. Of course we didn’t have as many toys as kids do today (I’m in my 60’s), so storage wasn’t as much of an issue.
The best way to create more space is to purge some of the items that are rarely used and rarely played with. Of course, the owner of the items would do this and not the cleaner of the items; for clarity. 😊
Was really sweet how the both of you work together with such good humor
So nice to see your mom helping you, you’re an amazing team❤. As a military family when my now adult children were kids, boy and girl, many times they’d have to share a room. One of the easiest ways with the small things (Barbie accessories, legos, little cars, craft supplies, etc) is to put them in gallon size ziplock bags. They can see through the bag and much easier to store. I always told my kids they could play with whatever they wanted but ONE thing at a time and couldn’t get out another until the first was put away. The kids are so creative and artistic! I’m so glad to see they have lots of books instead of lots of electronics, games, creative toy sets, etc. In my opinion, she’s an awesome mom❤. Thank you so much for helping her and her for humbling herself to accept your help. A big hi to your mom.
Debby/ New York
I love the ziplock bag idea! It's an easy solution to being able to see exactly what is there, but also keeping things separate at the same time.
I agree. This mom is awesome. She was so involved with her kids and helps at their school and always picks up the free craft items at Home Depot for the kids to put together. She definitely supports their creativity. And, yes, a lot of books, which is so awesome to see. They are going through and getting rid of a lot of them that they have outgrown, but I love to see kids who love to read.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp me too, much better than electronics all the time. We military families often pack “littles” in ziplock bags before we are moved to the next place or those become one huge mess when moving into your next housing. I used them for hot wheels, legos, art supplies, Barbie and doll accessories and even when I’d “prepack” my silverware drawer, junk drawer, medicine cabinet items, etc. It really did help alot
I didn't see anything weird at all. We all act differently around our families. Also mother-daughter relationships are often fraught with awkwardness. Please don't feel a need to apologize and try not to worry about being 'different' from others - you really aren't. If I had been with my mom, we would already have had a loud discussion and she would have stormed off in a huff. Anyway, you are perfect how you are. We all have something. 😊❤
Aw, thank you! I will embrace my weirdness!😄
You are so lucky to have your mom and she’s able to join you. I’d give anything to have my mom back. And never apologize for who you are. I’m sure 99.9% of your subscribers would agree with me that your honesty and generosity comes through on every video. And I’d they don’t like you I’m going to send them over to Mac for a good spin kick! You are a lovely person and I enjoy your videos so very much. Thank you for sharing your journey. ❤❤❤
I had fun being with her.
Thank you so much! 🥰🙏
I can just hear those kids “Mom, I got nothing to do, I’m bored!” They must be totally overwhelmed with all that stuff. You and your mom did a terrific job of organizing.
I really think the family needs to declutter and donate some of the things 👍🏼❤️😉🇨🇦
They are working on that now that everything is out of boxes and more easily seen.
They have things you can get to make each bunk bed it’s own private unit. Put the bunk bed in the middle of the room. Not a lot of room but it does prepare the for dorm living in college
Don't apologize for being you! What a fun time to have with your Mom!
I got my brushes and scrapers today I love them the brushes are soooo nice and so are the razors I love that the small one has plastic and metal blades to use in it. Thank you so much and yes you do not have to comment I am commenting to help your channel
Rather than having so many different areas for "stuff", there could be shelving put on the walls that would allow for MORE storage and give more room to play. It would also free up the closet area.
It's lovely that you and your mom were working together! I admire your decluttering skills!! 🩵 much love X
Thank you, Coline!❤️💜
Awww I just love you Bonnie. And I don’t think you’re weird at all!! You don’t even need to mask anything you are a sweet and beautiful person no matter what!! This was an amazing transformation and seeing you work with your sweet Mom was so nice!! And the fact that you had a uti and did all of this hard work speaks volumes on your work ethic. When I get a uti I’m down for the count and in bed!! Love you girl!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Oh thank you! What a very sweet comment!🥰🙏
I am impressed that your mom at 72 can sit on the floor like she does. I am 57 and cannot so that !
I know, right?! It's even hard for me a lot of the time. She really is doing amazing for 72.
My brother and I had to share a room for awhile. Bunk beds, too. They'll be fine. As for the Lego items that are put together, why not hang them from the ceiling with fishing line or use a clear shoe bag hanging from the closet door to display them? You can do this for stuffed animals, too. But after a certain point, it's time to purge. It's a good way to teach the kids about donating. Thanks for sharing!
Great ideas, but yes, ultimately, some stuff needs to go.
That’s a lot of toys, however you sure did a great job! You’re mom is a gem to go and help these kiddos
Thanks.
I got to know you because of your collaboration with Mack and keep watching. You have serious props from me because of stepping out on faith with switching up your job. I am cheering you on constantly if that means anything. I love what you do and commenting today because you asked. So if you need something don't be afraid to ask because you definitely have supporters
Aw, thank you! Your support means a lot!🥰🙏
I can watch you organize and clean forever. It's amazing the progress you make in a short period of time. ❤
Oh thank you!❤️
I don’t think you’re weird. I love your channel. They really need to declutter. I hope they’ll be able to keep that room clean and organized.
Oh, Bonnie, you don't know what weird is until you spend an afternoon with me and my kids! We laugh at ourselves and each other and we have FUN! And isn't that the best part of being with the people who love you the most? No need for pretensions, just being able to let your weirdness flow. We don't even rein it in much in public either, because we don't really care what strangers think!
Btw, this was an amazing transformation. I would have been totally overwhelmed by all those tiny things that needed sorting! I'm glad your mom was able to help you with this job, especially since you weren't feeling well. Did you notice how her outfit matched the colors of the area rug and bottom bunk? She couldn't have planned it better! I hope you feel better soon! 🩷
I actually enjoy working with teeny tiny things.
I'm so glad other people are weird with their family, too!😄❤️👍
You should never be sorry, you are you and you are lovely and beautiful and you working with your mom helping others is a blessing and a treasure. Hold on to that tightly and enjoy these special moments together.It's rare to see mothers and daughters working so well together these days, Keep smiling ❤
Thank you.
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Maybe this makes me weird too but I didn’t see anything that you did as weird. I saw someone who was enjoying their time with their mother and I just saw you as happy. Keep being you! We love you as you are! 💜. This made me miss spending time with my mother and just having a good time.
Sorry you were feeling unwell. You did a crazy amount of moving around and sorting for a sick person! That room has a LOT of stuff in it, but at least there is floor space for now. I hope the kids appreciate the effort and try to at least keep it a bit tidy as a result. Great work by an awesome team! I hope you are feeling better now.
Thank you! The medication I took for the symptoms really helped until they started wearing off at the end of the day. Then, once I got home and was able to take my antibiotic, it's completely gone now and I feel much better.
I know the mom and kids are now going through the stuff they have and getting rid of a lot of it. Half the battle was just getting everything out of the boxes that the ex husband dumped there and, now that it's out of boxes and they can see everything a little better, it will be easier to sort through and get rid of stuff.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I’m glad they are having a clear out. They will feel better for it. I feel sorry for the kids. Their dad has emigrated! Not much chance of seeing him very often.
At some point, you just have to minimize how much STUFF you have. Especially with two kids in one room. I know it's hard, especially younger kids, but you have to make it manageable.
It was especially hard in this room because I could tell that they actually use a lot of the items that are there. But, yes, it would help to be able to get rid of some of the stuff. There were a few things we did get rid of, but hopefully they can continue to declutter a bit.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing not only your story but also just you being you! It made me smile to see the interaction with your mom. I can tell there is a lot of love and support! It’s so wonderful to feel free and accepted being who you really are! And a lot of times it can be difficult with family. I’m glad that you have such a wonderful relationship with yours. Much love and appreciation for all you do! ❤
I had to laugh when she threw that thing at me and surprised me.
Thank you for your support. This was a fun cleaning to do with my mom!
We did exactly that with our boy and girl. They had Bunk beds until he turned 12 and she was 9,then got seperate twin beds and a partician for privacy. High school we gave them each a bedroom and we slept in the living room until our son went off to college. Sometimes ppl have 2 make do with what they have.
Yes, they do. Those kind of sacrifices I think kids remember and hopefully are grateful for what they have.
Hey Bonnie I'm a 62 yr old grandma and I am sooo quirky. My kids think I'm weird but my grandkids think I'm great and love it. Great you could help this family.
Love it!!
We all have our own brand of weirdness that comes out when we're around our own people. Even if you feel awkward, it doesn't come across to me as anything strange. We are all just here to see you. You are funny, compassionate and kind and we like you just the way you are! ❤
Aw, thank you.🥰🙏
You are not the slightest bit weird. Be happy you have a Mom to joke with!
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Dont you ever apologize for being who you are! You are fabulous and real. We love that you are genuine with your thoughts and feelings. You always do such a great job helping your clients. My son has autism. He has high functioning asperger's. Being clean and organizing is one of his big things. I feel that is something common in people with that diagnosis.
It's so interesting that it could go either way with the autism. When I first looked up some of the characteristics, a lot of the sites mentioned being really disorganized. I think that may be when it overlaps with ADHD, which I was not diagnosed with ADHD at all, so it must be purely the autism part of it that we really like cleaning and organizing. I'm learning so much about neurodivergence since this diagnosis. It's super fascinating!
Great video! The mother and her children will feel a lot better when they are able to donate and declutter at least half of the toys they have! I wish them the best of luck in going forward.
I didn’t see or hear anything abnormal! You and your mom seemed to be having fun and working very hard to help this family.Way to go!❤️🇨🇦
Go MOM... Crawling around and working on her knees. She is awesome!
Time to make a Goodwill run. Christmas is coming upon us quickly. So garage sale or Goodwill. Thin out the toys they outgrew. My kids had so many toys. It was always crazy. Maybe a tall storage cabinet for their toys.
You and your mom did a great job! I just did this at my daughter's house, my grandsons room is the same, so many bins of little things...drives me crazy, too much stuff! Had a little talk with both of them, trying to convince them to give to others or sell stuff. Learn the difference between wants and needs.
You are a wise mom.
You know what? Everyone is alittle weird. It’s interesting that little quirks that people have wondered about for years now have a name and a list of traits. It’s reassuring to find out others are relating to the things we thought was unique to just ourselves. I’m enjoying your videos. Thanks for sharing
I agree. Everyone is a little weird and has their own quirks built into them.🤪 It's not necessarily the weird quirky things that I do in this video that made me wonder if I was autistic. There are a bunch of other things, like sensory issues and getting obsessed and Hyperfocused on different things, plus a few other issues I deal with that are more the things that I was wondering about and I'm so glad to know that it's normal for me to do those things based on the way my brain is wired. I don't think I necessarily needed a diagnosis, but it does feel a little validating to have some of those answers so that I can understand myself a little better.🤗
OMG! That reorganization would have driven me straight up the wall! So many tiny little pieces of flotsam! That's girl toys for you!
Bonnie, since subscribing last week I have had much enjoyment watching your videos. Your apologies are so unnecessary…I appreciate your realness. In this specific video it’s fun watching you and your Mom together! Thanks for being here! 🤗
Thanks so much!