OMG, I did NOT see one negative reaction to your story. We 100% support you. Men allowed to touch a woman in ANY way without consent will escalate their illegal behavior. IT'S NOT OKAY, NOT OUR FAULT, AND HAS TO BE STOPPED. You're awesome for holding your ground and holding our ground. The sisterhood needs you and we so appreciate Ryan's support. Love to all those guys who are our allies. ❤️
100% agree. You press charges not just for you but FOR ALL OF US. Men need to be held accountable. Make an example of him. Sexual assault is serious and should be treated as such. THANK YOU for taking that on and standing up for yourself. Your feelings are absolutely valid. Tight pants are NOT an invitation for touching, you should in no way feel responsible for him touching you inappropriately.
First and foremost Kelli You didn't ruin his vacation.... He ruined his vacation. You did the right thing. Assault is Assault and he had NO RIGHT to put his hands on you. No one has the right to put their hands on you without your permission EVER. YOU ABSOLUTELY ROCK for standing up for yourself. You did the right thing and koodoos to Ryan for standing by you doing the right thing. Thank you so much for sharing this with your followers. It may help someone else who is to afraid to speak up. 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
The fact that security and cameras in such a high profile area as the Strip didn't deter that a**hole just goes to show you how emboldened men are to attack women in public spaces. They almost never face repercussions for such things and when they do it's a slap on the wrist. I hope some vindication and justice is done for you Kelli, you didn't deserve that, nobody does!
As a Vegas resident, I gotta say it's shameful how the resorts handle SA. They routinely do nothing about it or gaslight women after they report. It's awful 😔
Thank you for normalizing holding creeps accountable. There is no “he just grabbed…” or “it could have been worse…”. Women are programmed to be compliant and are so easily deterred from pressing charges because “it’s no big deal.” He ruined his vacation. He got drunk and decided he was entitled to grope a stranger. I hope you’re ok. PTSD is easily triggered by these events. I’m glad you have a supportive partner. Those pants are so cute! Sending washing info, because they also deserve to continue being fabulous: -turn inside out, wash on gentle/cold water, use the shortest spin cycle possible. Thanks again, Kelli, this is how we fight back.
@Kelli Marissa Vlogs I am delighting at the thought that he'll have to decide whether to tell every future girlfriend that he was arrested for sexual assault. He'll have to worry that she'll find out on her own. It's always going to hang over him and his future relationships. He deserves worse, but that is satisfying.
I actually showed some of this to my son. I think it's important for him to learn about it in case he's ever on either side of this situation and frankly more parents need to be educating their sons on consent
There is a book LEAD ME WHERE THE LIGHT IS OURS the chapter - moral compass upgrade and a healtheir option is about consent and the book is good because it talks about real people who stood up for victims and helps young people to see them as role models and see the importance of standing against sexual assault. . . N galilea wrote it
We won’t achieve real equality until we talk to our sons. It’s the other half of the equation so to speak. But we do this not only for our daughters, but also so our sons can finally learn to be whole humans again and not this rigid stereotype of what it’s supposed to mean to be a man. Lack of emotional intelligence is killing our boys.
Assault is bad enough, but to have it activate your trauma is a whole other wheelhouse. 😔 It’s never “just a butt grab.” You did do a service, Kelli. You took a bad situation and turned it into a power move for your younger self, for his other victims, and for anyone walking on the strip in the future. Thank you. I’m proud of you and thank you.
Many women are dissuaded from pressing charges because of how difficult the process is. The fact that you're willing to see it through helps make other women safer. Full of admiration for your awesomeness.
THIS!!! One time I was in a similar situation and the police said, and I quote, "You don't want to press charges, do you?" I was so upset that I just lowered my head and shook it no. It happened so fast and I didn't feel like I had a chance to change my answer. Kelli is awesome for not only standing up for herself, but for having the wherewithal to say yes right away.
As an almost 60 year old woman, I AM guilty of thinking that what happened to you as "not that big of a deal". I used to. I am so proud of you and admire your strength and courage in having him arrested and pursuing this. Thankfully, the younger generation is NOT going to take this kind of SA and thank you for speaking out to your fans and reporting this. Talking about these things is how we grow and educate each other.
The guy's response, both immediately and for the rest of the evening while he was being held, shows that he felt 100% entitled to do that, which makes it that much more important to throw the book at him. I hope tonight goes better for you. ❤️
I mean this happened at 5pm so we have no idea what this dude was PLANNING to do that night. Kelli could have prevented another crime again another woman. We'll never know.
These type of entitled people end up escalating their behaviour unless they are held accountable. It was good that Kelli stood her ground and pressed charges. It will be a sobering wake up call for that jerk, and it will always follow him, he deserved it ….he could have gone on and done something worse after even more drinking. Good on you Kelli ! Take care of you. 💜
Men will never understand the daily fear that we women must walk through the world in. We are always on the alert for predators, jerks, perverts. It happens across the lifespan, from preschool with our precious female babies all the way even into retirement homes. If all of the assaulted women were empowered and made aware that they CAN press charges, half of the world's population would be in jail where they belong. Or at least half of the disgusting men (not the good ones -- there are some out there!).
It's good to always press charges, because you don't know if he's done it before or will again, and this starts a paper trail of their behavior so someday when it comes down to he said she said, they've got this to back it up as a prior.
As someone who went through the legal process which resulted in my abuser getting 2 lifetime sentences plus 20 years, you are doing the absolute best thing given the circumstances. Some men will never learn to correct their bad behavior. Period. And in those cases, having them removed from society is the best case scenario not just for them, but for potential other victims. That was my driving force pushing me through my trial; I'm doing this so he can't hurt anyone else. Kelli, you are strong and your feelings are more than valid. Use your support system to get through this tough chapter, so you can move on with your life with you head held high.
Kelli, I don't know if you realize how important this video is, both for you and other women who will see it. Most women I know have spent their lives dealing with SA and worse, and have dealt with the exact same responses you have, "it's your fault" "you invited it" "take it as a conpliment" "it didn't happen". You taking a stand and saying this behavior isn't okay is exactly what you needed to do, both for Kelli now and Baby Kelli, who couldn't in the past. I'm sending all the good and healing vibes to you and keep pushing this until this monster is prosecuted. No SA, in any circumstance, is okay and you taking action in your own defense should be viewed as strong and empowering. That's exactly what you are, and any response less than what you've read here is likely rooted in the same pain and preconditioning you've experienced in your life. Pray for them and take care of you 💛
No one has the right to your body for any reason in any circumstance. I'm glad you stood up for yourself, I'm glad you were brave and confident enough to speak up and speak out, and never downplay being violated in any way. He didn't "just grab your butt"....he touched you in a sexual manner because he felt he had the right to. Fuck that shit forever. I'm so over it too. And I'm so proud of you.
I literally started crying when you said “it’s nice after a lifetime of not feeling supported…” It’s sad, but you are right. You did the right thing. We (especially as women) need to be holding people accountable for the shitty things they inflict upon us. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for actually pressing charges. I’ve been asked if I wanted to press charges before and I didn’t want to be “dramatic”. That sure as hell is never going to happen again. I’m through letting things slide. WHEN it happens to me again, you will be my inspiration
Thank you for the support Joni. I felt the exact same way when they asked me but it felt like such a rare opportunity, I surprised even myself when I said yes, I DO want to press charges! I'm glad I can inspire you to fight for yourself too, please always make sure you are safe before you do though! People in this world are crazy and awful and you need to take care of yourself out there ❤️
I'm so glad you pressed charges and didn't let this slide! And if anyone tries to say you ruined that guy's vacation, they need to be reminded that HE ruined his vacation by assaulting you. That was HIS choice, not yours.
Judging by this guy's reaction to you calling him out I can almost guarantee he's done things like this before. Probably many, many times. Everyone who's ever had to experience abuse by an idiot like this owes you thanks. People like this will never stop this kind of behavior unless they start suffering consequences for it. I'm so sorry you had to deal with this, but I'm very grateful to you and all those like you who have the strength to stand up for what's right.
And you just KNOW the kind of gaslighting BS he's going to defend himself with when he has to tell people why he was arrested. Hopefully he does some jail time and really learns the true meaning of consent.
He ruined his vacation by being a disgusting excuse for a human! This is the tip of the iceberg what else would he do if he thought he could get away with it. Definitely the right thing do. So many people don't say anything. Well done xx
I think people (mainly men though) really just incredibly underestimate the statistics of sexual assault against women. It is borderline miraculous to go through life as a woman and never experience it. I am in awe of your strength and how you stood up for yourself.
Eanae Choppa:You may find these articles of interest: *Rape Culture Rooted in Patriarchy, Media Portrayal, and Victim Blaming* by Danielle Cusmano and "16 ways you can stand against rape culture" Monday, 18 November 201, and *Rape, rape culture and the problem of patriarchy* by Robert Jensen.
i was recently sexually assaulted at work by my supervisor at work he came behind me and jiggled my boob and on top of that he always bragged about being in the Navy
@@violetviolet888 Little boys, and yes, even men get sexually assaulted. That happens as a product of a demented mind, period. There’s frikking female teachers in a position of trust, molesting male students at the elementary level of school and they don’t get thrown in jail for being a pedophile.
When I was younger (I'm 48 now), I used to think that being fat would protect me from SA. It did not. I've been groped, had disgusting comments made about my chest, and had something put in my drink. And I feel fortunate that that's been the worst of it for me. Not the case for a lot of women I know. You did the right thing. F@#k that guy.
A message from 16 year old me: Thank you for pressing charges. Hold this man accountable because clearly he was bold enough to do this in front of hundreds of other people, who knows what else he is capable of. I’m 44 now, and I for the first time bought velvet pants at Christmas. I realized how I blamed myself when my high school boyfriend’s uncle groped me for over an hour when I was 16 because I wore a very soft velvet skirt to Christmas dinner. I was frozen in fear and never even thought back then that I should have gone to the police, because it was “my fault”. (Even though this older man stalked me at my work place). Please never feel like it’s not worth it, you may have changed a worse outcome for some girl in the future because you called him out. I’m so sorry your night and your gorgeous pants are tainted forever. Sending you giant hugs. ❤❤❤
I work for a police department. This is type of report that should be always be reported. For victims of any age. It doesn't matter if they touch you on top of clothes or under, report, report, report!! I'm glad you reported it. I bet he's done this before. This is a sexual assault. Good job Kelli! 👏👏
My first thought is that you spent most of this vlog apologizing for standing up for yourself and explaining why you felt the need to do so, and I am so sorry that you feel like you have to do that. The guy that touched you inappropriately should be the one apologizing and you should never ever feel the need that you have to be on the defensive for speaking up and speaking out. My second thought is thank god you have found someone that will stand by your side and protect you and be there for you no matter what. Thank you, Ryan, for being every single man that Kelli needed in every situation that made her feel uncomfortable or small or scared. And thank you, Kelli, for posting this. I'm sorry you missed your date night, I hope you are able to get reservations there again soon. You did all the right things, don't feel like you didn't.
My heart broke when you were describing other instances of men violating you throughout your life. I’m sorry you were made to feel like it was your fault all those other times, and I’m sorry you didn’t feel supported enough to tell someone about it. Thank you for talking about this. Assault is never OK, no matter the degree. I’m proud of you for saying something. I really hope the person who groped you will learn a lesson. ❤
If something like this happened in the workplace and the woman goes to HR to report it and HR’s response is “boys will be boys”, the woman has every right to go higher. She needs to make sure to document that she went to HR and that was the response. If the higher ups don’t doing anything, she has every right to go to law enforcement and seek legal action not only against the man but the company as well. A lot of companies are starting to take that stuff seriously. Some because they realize that everyone should feel safe in the workplace… some because they don’t want the potential legal consequences. Unfortunately, sexual assault goes underreported because it has always been dismissed and the blame put on the victim. It is never the victim’s fault. You did the right thing.
That sort of assault has happened to me many times. I was a young women in the 80s and 90s. At that time there were not many cameras and the attitude toward women speaking up about things like this was not good. I am so glad you are pressing charges against that jerk. It sends the message that women are done putting up with these belittling moves men make on women. You are not little, Kelli. Good for you. Please wear your bright colors. I went decades wearing only white and dark blue because of this kind of thing. I also kept my hair short.
I want to scream. No one has the right to touch another without permission, man, woman, or non-identifying. Keep 👏 your 👏 hands 👏 to yourself. Thank you for standing up. Thank you for your voice. You are strong. ❤
Hey Kelli, I normally don’t comment but I wanted to say that you are NOT being dramatic, and you absolutely deserve to be heard and taken seriously, because this is a serious issue and people need to be held accountable. Thanks for sharing all your thoughts and experiences, it makes me and many other women feel less alone. It takes a lot of courage to speak up and stand up for yourself especially in a world where women are not taken seriously. Wishing you the best 💖
Never ok. It doesn’t matter what other people think. It was without your consent, and it’s important to speak out and show people that invasions like this hurt women and stay with us. So, so sorry this happened to you Kelli. You are incredibly brave for speaking up when it happened and calling out the behavior.
Thank you for the support ❤️ I'm glad I have a platform where I can share this experience and remind women that it's not okay and we aren't overreacting when these events hurt us!
Well said Loren! Kelli, it is brave and right for you to speak out and take action against this completely unacceptable and atrocious behaviour. The man who did this is cowardly and believes that even in THE most public place imaginable, he can behave this way with no consequences. That is insane. By taking the action that you (and Ryan) did, you have changed that dynamic in relation to that man's experience, for everyone watching your blog and most importantly, for yourself.
We all as a society need to stop minimizing all forms of SA. I'm so proud of you for pressing charges. You will likely save another woman from him in the future or at least help her be believed. ❤️
My friend was sexually assaulted in an elevator and when she filed a police report, the cops asked what she might’ve done to provoke the attacker. It made me so sick to hear that and I’m glad that wasn’t your experience with security, though none of this should’ve happened in the first place. Men need to do better and women who enable it do, too.
I’ve never seen your channels before, not a single video. I’m so glad this was suggested to me. I’m so fricking gosh dang flabbin proud of you. I want to come back to this video repeatedly and reaffirm my beliefs and my confidence in what I encourage others to do, and what I do myself. I’m blown away by you, like a breath of the freshest air. You’re seriously so spot-on. I’m flabbergasted at the response of the cop - I can’t imagine one responding as appropriately as that! At long fricking last, a little bit of progress, at least. I can’t thank you enough for sharing this, for so throughly and bravely explaining this experience and the way your decision was informed. The world needs this. The world needs you, and you need a world that does not make you feel small and violated - we all do. Thank you.
I'm glad you found it, and I hope it feels like a breath of fresh air because it definitely felt that way for me when the security and cops here took me seriously! As infuriating as the experience was, it really gave me so much hope that this is how authorities treat SA now and it's just one step closer to not having to deal with it anymore. I feel so weirdly empowered now that someone in power listened and cared haha
@@KelliMarissaVlogs You SHOULD feel empowered - you are incredibly powerful! And authorities *ought* to take crimes seriously, and in this case they did, which you’re right is just so refreshing. As you’ve demonstrated, SA is SA is SA. That’s not to belittle the trauma brought about by more heinous incidents, that’s just to say a CRIME is a CRIME is a CRIME and dang right he oughta be arrested for committing one! I’m glad you’re decently okay - I’m glad you were taken seriously - I’m so glad you saw this crime for a crime, and that you saw this story as an example and you shared it. You are a force in a great change. You are so incredibly powerful. I subscribed yesterday, and I’m looking forward to getting to know you through your channel. I’m grateful we were introduced by the algorithm. I’m grateful for your strength, your will, your caring, and the good people around you. 💜
@@KelliMarissaVlogs I live in a city where things are handled very differently. One might find understanding in the ER, but it’s unlikely with the police. I’ve reported to cops who are unaware of the correct laws regarding SA and the procedure by which reports are made. I’ve been victim-blamed and mis-quoted and scrutinized and yelled at by a cop here. When I was 17, in my home state, I picked up my 18yo friend from a house party and took her to the ER…the cops then stood in the waiting room asking me the wildest questions about her previous sexual experiences, relationship status, her child … while evidence was collected from her body … I didn’t know all the words then, I didn’t know how to SAY what was wrong with them, but it felt so messed up and I was getting so upset at them … that was around 2012. When you said to us, what you THOUGHT the cop was about to say to you, my mind went back to that hospital and I thought “YUP” - and then the reality of your recent experience was so literally the opposite. I needed to hear that. YOU needed to hear that. I needed to hear you say you heard that. We all need to hear that, directly to ourselves and spoken to our peers and we need to believe that’s what we will hear, to have any chance that WHEN (not IF) we are assaulted, we will have a scrap of reason to believe we deserve to file a report. It’s important to speak about what going wrong, to hear what needs to be changed. It’s important to speak about what goes right, to know what the expectation OUGHT to be, and to build the belief that we WILL be believed and taken seriously.
Big big shout-out to Ryan and the whole security at the place for helping you and taking it seriously. I'm very sorry you had to go through that, no one should do that, especially with no consent. I really love your outfit, those pants looks amazing💙💚💛 💛 Every women/girls should be able to wear what they want without being worried to go outside or anywhere. I'm so proud of you Kelli 💖💖💖💖
Thank you so much ❤️ I'm going to try my best to remember them as the pants I wore when I put a disgusting a-hole in his place and feel proud to wear them!
@@KelliMarissaVlogs They are your power pants. Back in the day, people wore yellow in corporate jobs to signify power. You earned your power pants this weekend. Wear them proudly and if anyone asks you can tell them you stood up for yourself and took your power back.
Please don't apologize for standing up for yourself, Kelli! You have the right to defend your sexual freedom and you're doing it by legal means, like a good citizen. Getting groped is dehumanizing and makes you feel completely powerless. You're taking your power back. Stay strong! 💪
Second comment! This also jogged a memory from the one time my husband and I went to vegas. After a night at the slots at the Mirage we were heading back to our room. We observed this very clearly INSANELY intoxicated female being carried by a man towards the elevators (barely walking). There was always security there at night like checking for your room key and such. My husband right before security whispered to me “should we go up to her and make sure she’s alright?” (This was after we both agreed he was giving us bad vibes). I said “security is right there if they don’t do anything then yeah we should.” Luckily security stopped him and was like “What’s your name?” To the guy. Asked him if he had a booking with the hotel because they were about to look it up. He said no and he was “just trying to get this girl to her room.” (I don’t even know if he knew her name) and the male security guard was like “yeah we will take it from here.” And the female guard grabbed the woman to take her up to her room. In my experience security takes things VERY seriously down there and afterwards my husband and I were happy she got up to her room safely and also didn’t want to think about that man’s possible motives. It sucks that you think the worst but it’s so hard not to when assaults happen all the time.
I had a similar situation happen to myself. Oddly enough I was at the mirage as well. I've lived in Vegas for nearly 20 years now and in my 20s I partied a lot. But I almost always could hold my own. Never got to the point of not being able to walk or to the point of being pretty much unresponsive. But there was one time it happened. I had gone out the night before and then spent all day at Bare pool. Was fine the entire day, but then when I went to stand up at the end of the day after laying on one of the beds for sometim, my legs just gave out and I couldn't walk. I remember my friends trying to help me walk but then things just went real fuzzy. The next thing I sort of remember is sitting down and being in a wheelchair and hearing some commotion going on around me. That's the last thing I remember. I apparently had started to throw up while in the wheelchair, but the commotion that I recall hearing ended up being this guy that was trying to take me up to his room. I had been talking to him n hanging out with him earlier in the day but I didn't know him. Security was there and I think he was trying to get me away from them, saying he knew me n was going to take me up to his room. Another one of my friends just so happened to be in the vicinity, not one of the ones that had originally tried to walk me out but could not, since they were too intoxicated themselves. I honestly don't know where they went after they got me a wheelchair, I guess I was left alone with security. But anyway this other friend sees what's happening and comes in and just swoops me up out of the wheelchair to get me away from this guy and carries me back to the room we had and puts me to bed. I wake up a few hours later so confused about what had happened and he told me what happened. So if it wasn't for him this random guy could have potentially taken me up to his room to do whatever with. Not sure how security didn't question my friend and how he knew me, maybe they knew who he was since he was an independent vip host so he knew people in pretty much every hotel. But yah my friend saved me from some creep who was probably trying to take advantage of me. And to this day I'm not sure what happened as to why suddenly I just couldn't function. But good looking out for others when you know they can't look out for themselves, glad security escorted her back to her room alone and didn't allow him to come with.
Me too. And that's what I kept repeating to them, it's just not fair that this happens and society always lets it slide. And I'm just so so grateful that they didn't let it go 💪
You are NOT being dramatic, Kelli. My heart hurts that this happened to you. The fact that this isn't the first time you've experienced this is so sad. Though, I feel like a lot of us are in that boat. You 100% did the right thing. Never for a moment doubt that. I'm so happy that you have a supportive partner. While, I can't speak for anyone else, know that I support you. Stay well, Kelli.
So proud of you. In my early 20s I went clubbing so much and guys would grope me and I was conditioned to think “this means I’m pretty I should feel honored that he did that”…. I wish I could go back and do something about it but I thought it was normal and I had to just accept it. I’m 32 now and am so disgusted by this bc it happens. A lot. People need to learn it’s not okay.
I'm a Mom to a 9 year old girl, and the Mom side of me just wants to give you the biggest virtual hug and tell you that I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself! Also, thank you for sharing your story so other little girls and grown women can learn that it is not okay, and we need to stand up for one another!
Good for you Kelli! WHO CARES about his vacation! If he wanted to be free to enjoy a fun vacation, he should've NOT ASSAULTED ANYONE. I totally would have not pressed charges, probably not even yelled or called attention to it if this happened to me, but you know what - now I will!
I'm glad I could inspire you to speak up - please make sure to think of your safety first and only speak out if it is safe to do so! There are so many dangerous men in this world and if I wasn't in such a high traffic area I wouldn't be surprised if that man tried to regular assault me when I called him out. But the more we speak up about it and call them out on their BS, the more scared they'll be of us💪
When I was a teenager back in the 70s my mother warned me I was going to experience unwanted attention from men and I’d need to learn how to handle it. Well that was crap, what she should have said was don’t allow any man to make you feel violated or uncomfortable. I won’t list how many times men have inappropriately touched, propositioned and been vulgar to me during my lifetime. I am almost 60 now and I was just complaining to my husband that this month alone I have been catcalled two different times while I was out alone making me feel really uncomfortable and unsafe. You absolutely did the right thing making this guy accountable for his actions, how will men learn boundaries otherwise. I am glad you did, thank you for being so brave ❤
This IS a big deal!!! This post should go viral. You did us ALL a service. Thank you. I'm 51 yrs old and 14 the first time this happened to me. I am so sorry and proud of you, and so sorry this is still happening.
I love your take on “if you can report it, do!” Safety is so important. Not everyone can report it - thank you for calling that out. I’m sending you so much love. I am so sorry that you experienced this and everything else. ❤
You are spot on right in everything you said in this video. The “level” of assault is irrelevant, this kind of behavior is NOT acceptable. I’m in HR, and if one of our employees did this, they would be immediately fired and escorted off our property. I’m glad you’re Ok and I’m glad you and Ryan are taking a stand. Sending you love and support!
Your choice to stand up and say “ENOUGH!” has inspired someone to do the same. Women don’t talk about this enough. When we hear your story we don’t feel weak and isolated. We feel empowered to do something. You’ve changed someone’s life by posting this video. Well done, Sis!
Ryan - you're a good one. I'm so glad you dumped that other bum. I dumped a guy I'd dated for years, the very next day, for letting me be assaulted and then telling me how cool I was for taking it. Done. Thank you so much to Ryan for being a real partner and real, decent guy.
As a woman who has been grabbed by the p-word, among other situations similar to yours, thank you for pressing charges and most of all thank you for speaking out.
F*** anyone who pushes back on you, Kelly. You absolutely did the right thing, you were assaulted and he needs to be held accountable. You should be extremely proud of yourself.
Kelli, I am so proud of you for standing up for yourself! Behavior like this is completely unacceptable! When he grabbed you, that was a choice, he messed with the wrong girl, and he needs to face the consequences. Just know that what you were wearing has nothing to do with what happened to you, as a human you are allowed to wear whatever you want! Sending you hugs and positive vibes.
I hope that handful of booty he got was worth the arrest LOL! I am definitely going to testify against him in court because he doesn't deserve to get off free for this.
@@KelliMarissaVlogsYou are so brave, and (I hope this doesn’t come across condescending) I am so proud of you. It takes a lot of courage to stand up against this kind of behavior when we have been so heavily conditioned our entire lives to accept it. I wish that 12 year old me had the resources to report abuse, and I hope that future me has the courage to do so.
Thank you for speaking up for yourself! Such a powerful decision. Thank you for sharing - bringing this into the light is the hard work of making sure other people don’t have to experience what you have too many times. I hope you are so proud of yourself and tell the 10 yr old you that you are strong and still fighting for her! 💜💙💜💙💜💙💜
Literally in tears watching this. You did the right thing!! I can’t say it enough and you can’t hear it enough. You did the right thing!! I’m 50 yrs old and this has been happening to me since age 11. And like you, I never told. I watched friends being told “ boys will be boys” and knowing I’d hear the same. This is not ok and it needs to stop!!
I don’t care if your pants had flashing lights on, no one has the right to touch you inappropriately. Good for you for pressing charges against him and stand up for yourself
I'm so proud of you! As a Mom of 2 daughters, one who was sexually assaulted, you absolutely did the right thing. Violating someone is just never ever ok, ever.
The fact that they kept asking if you wanted to press charges is such BS. I'm glad the one cop was supportive. That jerk will think twice next time he gets the urge to put his hands on anyone. Never minimize that stuff. Thank you for protecting yourself. This is not something to brush under a rug. Eff that.
You stood up for my 6, 9, and 15 year old me, but not only that... you may have just been the snowball to someone else's avalanche and you stopped it before attacking anyone else. No one has any right to say how you should feel or what you should do. Keep doing you Kelli (never stop fighting for yourself) and keep that man of yours, he's you Knight in Shining Armor. God Bless You Both
Kelli, I just want you to know that this is a big deal and you did the right thing by reporting it and pressing charges. It is absolutely NOT OK that this man did that to you and it is ABSOLUTELY NOT YOUR FAULT. You did not deserve what happened that night, it doesn't matter what you were wearing. I hope you have/had a nice dinner with Ryan and know that I am proud of you for being able to speak up about this ❤
It is NEVER OK for ANYONE to put their hands on another person, sexually or otherwise!!!!!!! And anyone who gives you backlash, is a piece of s*%!. And even if someone has had worse than this done, what happened to you still matters!! it's still not OK!! and it should be brought forward! I don't care if you're walking around in a thong and see through bra, NO ONE has a right to say anything, let alone put their hands on you!! this should never be acceptable!!
You ABSOLUTELY did the right thing. And briefly grabbing/ hard tapping his shoulder to get his attention is not even remotely the same thing. Anything that happens to him legally is his own fault. I once pressed charges on a guy for hitting me in the butt at a Dave Matthews concert in Salt Lake City. He was drunk and walking down the aisle of the lawn section yelling "Woo!: and hitting multiple women on the butt as he walked. He hit me so hard I fell into my husband. He was with 3 other guys so my husband followed them and grabbed security and pointed him out. They grabbed him just as he was trying to jump over the wall from the lawn into the seated area. We went to the police tent and an officer took my statement. I couldn't even sit in the chair property because he had hit me so hard. I was shaking and trying not to cry, and the cop had the nerve to ask if I had been drinking because I looked "unsteady". I yelled at him what the hell does that matter? I was just assaulted, I'm upset! He apologized and my husband told him I had one drink about 3 hours prior, and to move on. I pressed charges, and they told me that if he pled guilty that I wouldn't need to go to court. I never heard anything else from them. We approached 2 of the other girls he hit but they wouldn't talk to the cops. The right side of my butt hurt for 2 days afterward. I don't regret getting him in trouble. Thank you for sharing your story, and hope others take inspiration from you. 🖤🖤🖤
@@KelliMarissaVlogspeople can have their opinions and I respect that but the guy violated you and it was not ok and there are consequences for actions. You aren’t being dramatic. I’m so glad you are standing up for yourself and all the other girls and women who have been violated and have not felt like they could say anything and didn’t feel supported. 💗
Just because there are worse things that could have happened does NOT mean that what happened to you is ok. NO ONE has the right to touch you without your permission. My dad drilled that into my head when I was a child and I am doing the same for my kids. Your body is yours, and no one has the right to touch you without consent… drunk or not, it is not OK… and anyone that makes you feel bad for standing up for yourself should be ashamed of themselves. You 1000% did the right thing! I’m sorry you had to experience this when all you wanted was a nice night out with your husband.
Okay, but why am I on the verge of tears at the police/ security believing you. I'm SO sorry this happened to you, but it was INCREDIBLY brave of you to follow through!
That is NEVER ok. That creep had absolutely NO RIGHT to touch you in any way, shape, or form! I'm so sorry this happened to you and good for you for pressing charges.
It was your butt today, but tomorrow he might take it further. You standing up for yourself might have saved someone from needing the trigger warning on videos like this. Well done, be strong and see it through to the end...
I had almost the same exact thing happen to me at a train station. I asked an older lady nearby if she saw it and she said "no, and I wouldn't go looking for trouble either". I ran after him and yelled at him in front of a bunch of people and he said, "you've got tickets on yourself, don't you". I'm glad you had people with you who took it seriously and gave you options ❤️ edit: about the whole "it was ONLY groping" pushback you're anticipating - if he could do that to a stranger, what is he doing or capable of doing to the women in his life? Hoping that this has sent a very strong message to him and the jackass with him that this shit is NOT OKAY and never was.
This is totally not a non-issue and you’re right to stand up for yourself about it. It’s disgusting, even if it’s too normal of an occurrence. Don’t be mad at yourself for your first thought being what we as women have been conditioned to think; you did a great job with it by “making a scene” and shaming him as publicly as possible. Thank you for sharing this so that more people understand this kind of shit really is way too common.
Who knows how long he's been doing this and who knows how far he would take it if he isn't stopped. I have numerous experiences from when I was in my teens and early twenties. And just like you, the one time I did try to report a co-worker that was scaring me, instead of helping me, my manager actually looked at the guy and said in front of everybody "Jennifer thinks you have a crush on her!" I was so embarrassed and so upset. It's absolutely awful how women are treated. I'm almost 50 years old and it's about time we're taken seriously. Hugs. I'm proud of you.
I’m so proud of you for standing up for yourself!!! And to anyone who says “it’s not a big deal”….where is the line drawn? With a butt grab? With a boob grab? Under clothing? Forced kissing? Or worse?! If more people were called out for SA attacks like yours, maybe the streets would start to get incrementally safer for everyone and these creeps wouldn’t be able to keep up their attacks, getting bolder each time since they have never been held accountable for their disgusting behavior! Thank you so much for your bravery and for sharing your story. I don’t think a lot of people realize how often situations like this actually happen. Sending you a huge hug and wishing you the best!
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Don't apologize for making it a thing. You didn't make it a thing. It IS thing. A thing 97% of us expierence! As a mom of young girls, THANK YOU, for speaking about it, for saying something when it happened, for taking the action so many of us have been too scared to take. I hope my girls have someone like you to look up too when they're old enough to be on the internet
You did the right thing. He needs to be held accountable. Today its groping, tomorrow it could be worse. People who don't value consent and respect boundaries will continue to behave that way and escalate their offenses if they think no one with stop them. I am proud of you for standing your ground, and speaking out. You have an important role in the lives of many, and this will give others the courage to speak out. Don't let people minimize your experience. You deserve to feel safe. Much love to you, Kelli.
A BIG HUG AND THANK YOU! Being a senior, I suffered a rape by my husband! Couldn't do a thing about way back then! Also I was riding my 10 speed bike down a main street as teen when some guy in a car slapped my rear! Needless to say it caused me to crash as it really startled me. Oh there have been countless times of forced other things! So Thank you for all of us that couldn't do anything about our assaults! I can guarantee that if I could of reported it l, I would have. 😢 They are scars we carry for ever! Quit worrying about these things, you waste time getting upset or worrying when you could put that time towards something better or positive! This is what I have learned to get me through stuff! Especially now that I'm older, I just don't have the time . I have so much better things to do with my time! 💅👩🦳❤
The second you said what happened to you, I thought, "POOR KELLI! This BS is garbage." And also "I hope she doesn't not wear the pants now, as they are amazing."
Every woman who has the ability to push forward with pressing charges is a step forward for all women, because men need to be held accountable. Period. I'm so glad you felt empowered to protect yourself in that moment, because you and all women deserve to feel safe in public. We love you.
Thank you for not letting him get away with it! The initial assault is bad enough, but the fact that his reaction to being called out on it was intimidation and threats of violence…ugh. Your courage is wonderful. If you hear anything further about the charges or what comes out of it, please share!
You go girl. So proud that you pressed charges and stuck up for yourself and women in general. That person is a piece of garbage and you’re so so strong! This is 0% your fault. I’m really glad you’re with a good man now who has respect for women.
So proud of you. Think of how many other women you saved from the same experience that night. That early in the evening he was bound to continue his behavior as he apparently had no respect for women.
I am beyond grateful that you chose to speak out. It is so often kept quiet or reframed to blame the victims of assault so we are all insanely grateful that you used your platform to boost the signal of this important message. You’ve brought many of us comfort and support by speaking out and standing up for yourself in this situation. In standing up for yourself you’ve stood up for the rest of us too. Thank you Kelli 💜 I wish you and Ryan all the positive vibes always 💜✨
It’s not just for that instance where it’s “not a big deal” (it is a big deal, but) it’s also for every other instance and everything that guy might do worse down the track because he keeps getting away with it. No one should keep getting away with it
I am so proud of you Kelli! I just turned 57 and this has happened to me so many times. A few years ago I asked my mother if she had any “me too” moments. It was like I opened Pandora’s box. I thought she would never stop recounting instances. This has got to stop and the only way it will is with courageous women like you! ❤
How sad that your mom has been holding all those stories in her memories. And how sad that things haven't changed in all this time. It is brave wonderful women like Kelli that will help make the world a better place for the women coming up behind us.
I hate that you have experienced all of that. I hate that we (children, women, even men) have to experience this and then get shame for it. It took me about 15 years to stand up to my sexual assault as a child and I’m glad I did. There are ppl out there that think I should have already gotten over it but it’s something that haunts me every damn day! So I’m sooo happy you share this and that it helps others to speak up. I also hope that ppl watching this video take things like more serious.
You didn't ruin that guy's vacation. He ruined it by being an @$$hole. I hate that jerks do jerk things and the victims are the ones that are blamed and shamed. It's time for people to be called out, and I'm so happy that at least parts of society are starting to take notice. Thank you for calling attention to this. A dude in my middle school slapped my butt in the hall between classes, and it was super humiliating and felt like such a violation. I wish I had the courage to say something, but I didn't.
I can’t even count how many times this happened to me in NYC when I was young. If I could have caught ANY of them, I would have pressed charges. Every. Single. Time. You did the right thing.
You didn’t take it too far. Consent is consent. Whether a p***s or a fingertip. Your clothing didn’t cause this, he caused this. He made the decision to touch you, his decision led him to be arrested. Standing up for yourself is something to be proud of and takes a lot of courage and others should lift you up for this. I commend you and I stand with you.
This showed up in my home page, I’ve never seen your channel before but I just want to say. I’m so proud of you!!! Woman to woman hearing your story reminds me of something almost identical that happened in my city but there was no cameras and nobody around me when I scream and pointed even looked like they cared at all. In fact I got looked at like I was insane. Not that I expected random strangers to like chase him or anything but a “hey are you okay?” Or “I’m so sorry.” would have given me a bit more hope for humanity. The fact that you got taken seriously is amazing! I’m glad there was physical evidence. I hope he suffers the consequences of his actions and learns to never do something like that again.
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YOU 👏 DID 👏 THE 👏 RIGHT 👏 THING 👏!!! WE SUPPORT YOU!!! WHAT HE DID WAS WRONG AND WE DESERVE BETTER.
Thank you Jessica 💚
OMG, I did NOT see one negative reaction to your story. We 100% support you. Men allowed to touch a woman in ANY way without consent will escalate their illegal behavior. IT'S NOT OKAY, NOT OUR FAULT, AND HAS TO BE STOPPED. You're awesome for holding your ground and holding our ground. The sisterhood needs you and we so appreciate Ryan's support. Love to all those guys who are our allies. ❤️
So glad you pressed charges. Hopefully he'll learn his lesson
100% agree. You press charges not just for you but FOR ALL OF US. Men need to be held accountable. Make an example of him. Sexual assault is serious and should be treated as such. THANK YOU for taking that on and standing up for yourself. Your feelings are absolutely valid. Tight pants are NOT an invitation for touching, you should in no way feel responsible for him touching you inappropriately.
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First and foremost Kelli You didn't ruin his vacation.... He ruined his vacation. You did the right thing. Assault is Assault and he had NO RIGHT to put his hands on you. No one has the right to put their hands on you without your permission EVER. YOU ABSOLUTELY ROCK for standing up for yourself. You did the right thing and koodoos to Ryan for standing by you doing the right thing. Thank you so much for sharing this with your followers. It may help someone else who is to afraid to speak up. 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
YES! Absolutely!
The fact that security and cameras in such a high profile area as the Strip didn't deter that a**hole just goes to show you how emboldened men are to attack women in public spaces. They almost never face repercussions for such things and when they do it's a slap on the wrist. I hope some vindication and justice is done for you Kelli, you didn't deserve that, nobody does!
I hope that they use him as an example, I want people to be too terrified to do something like this in the future.
As a Vegas resident, I gotta say it's shameful how the resorts handle SA. They routinely do nothing about it or gaslight women after they report. It's awful 😔
Thank you for normalizing holding creeps accountable. There is no “he just grabbed…” or “it could have been worse…”. Women are programmed to be compliant and are so easily deterred from pressing charges because “it’s no big deal.”
He ruined his vacation. He got drunk and decided he was entitled to grope a stranger.
I hope you’re ok. PTSD is easily triggered by these events. I’m glad you have a supportive partner.
Those pants are so cute! Sending washing info, because they also deserve to continue being fabulous: -turn inside out, wash on gentle/cold water, use the shortest spin cycle possible.
Thanks again, Kelli, this is how we fight back.
NO! You did not ruin his vacation - he did that himself! Hopefully he will learn from this and be a better human. Glad you are okay.
I hope he's really inconvenienced by this arrest, and I hope he's terrified to ever touch a woman again without her consent.
100%, it’s his fault, he CHOSE to do that. I’m so proud of you for pressing charges Kelli! You’re so strong.
@Kelli Marissa Vlogs I am delighting at the thought that he'll have to decide whether to tell every future girlfriend that he was arrested for sexual assault. He'll have to worry that she'll find out on her own. It's always going to hang over him and his future relationships. He deserves worse, but that is satisfying.
I actually showed some of this to my son. I think it's important for him to learn about it in case he's ever on either side of this situation and frankly more parents need to be educating their sons on consent
There is a book LEAD ME WHERE THE LIGHT IS OURS the chapter - moral compass upgrade and a healtheir option is about consent and the book is good because it talks about real people who stood up for victims and helps young people to see them as role models and see the importance of standing against sexual assault. . . N galilea wrote it
@Taylor Mist my son is 7. Is it a book that is more digestible for younger kids?
Thank you! That is amazing ♥️
@@mas21188 I'm happy you're teaching your son early on about consent. It's a very important lesson everyone needs to be mindful of.
We won’t achieve real equality until we talk to our sons. It’s the other half of the equation so to speak. But we do this not only for our daughters, but also so our sons can finally learn to be whole humans again and not this rigid stereotype of what it’s supposed to mean to be a man. Lack of emotional intelligence is killing our boys.
As a woman, thank you. Each time someone is brave enough to do what you did, we all move a tiny bit forward.
Exactly ❤
Assault is bad enough, but to have it activate your trauma is a whole other wheelhouse. 😔 It’s never “just a butt grab.” You did do a service, Kelli. You took a bad situation and turned it into a power move for your younger self, for his other victims, and for anyone walking on the strip in the future. Thank you. I’m proud of you and thank you.
Many women are dissuaded from pressing charges because of how difficult the process is. The fact that you're willing to see it through helps make other women safer. Full of admiration for your awesomeness.
THIS!!! One time I was in a similar situation and the police said, and I quote, "You don't want to press charges, do you?" I was so upset that I just lowered my head and shook it no. It happened so fast and I didn't feel like I had a chance to change my answer. Kelli is awesome for not only standing up for herself, but for having the wherewithal to say yes right away.
@@mockingbirdnightingale7169 im so sorry you were put in that situation, it was completely unfair.
As an almost 60 year old woman, I AM guilty of thinking that what happened to you as "not that big of a deal". I used to. I am so proud of you and admire your strength and courage in having him arrested and pursuing this. Thankfully, the younger generation is NOT going to take this kind of SA and thank you for speaking out to your fans and reporting this. Talking about these things is how we grow and educate each other.
The guy's response, both immediately and for the rest of the evening while he was being held, shows that he felt 100% entitled to do that, which makes it that much more important to throw the book at him. I hope tonight goes better for you. ❤️
YES. Exactly.
100% he needs consequences, he felt he had the right to do whatever he wanted. he needs to be cured of that idea real quick.
I mean this happened at 5pm so we have no idea what this dude was PLANNING to do that night. Kelli could have prevented another crime again another woman. We'll never know.
@@selesnyanqueen16 I was thinking this, being that drunk that early in the evening… there’s no saying what he would have done the rest of the night
These type of entitled people end up escalating their behaviour unless they are held accountable. It was good that Kelli stood her ground and pressed charges. It will be a sobering wake up call for that jerk, and it will always follow him, he deserved it ….he could have gone on and done something worse after even more drinking. Good on you Kelli ! Take care of you. 💜
Men will never understand the daily fear that we women must walk through the world in. We are always on the alert for predators, jerks, perverts. It happens across the lifespan, from preschool with our precious female babies all the way even into retirement homes. If all of the assaulted women were empowered and made aware that they CAN press charges, half of the world's population would be in jail where they belong. Or at least half of the disgusting men (not the good ones -- there are some out there!).
It's good to always press charges, because you don't know if he's done it before or will again, and this starts a paper trail of their behavior so someday when it comes down to he said she said, they've got this to back it up as a prior.
Good point I hadn't even considered!
Yes
Exactly. Small behaviors can and often do lead to larger, more aggressive behaviors.
Yes!!!! This is so important!!!!!
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As someone who went through the legal process which resulted in my abuser getting 2 lifetime sentences plus 20 years, you are doing the absolute best thing given the circumstances. Some men will never learn to correct their bad behavior. Period. And in those cases, having them removed from society is the best case scenario not just for them, but for potential other victims. That was my driving force pushing me through my trial; I'm doing this so he can't hurt anyone else. Kelli, you are strong and your feelings are more than valid. Use your support system to get through this tough chapter, so you can move on with your life with you head held high.
Kelli, I don't know if you realize how important this video is, both for you and other women who will see it. Most women I know have spent their lives dealing with SA and worse, and have dealt with the exact same responses you have, "it's your fault" "you invited it" "take it as a conpliment" "it didn't happen". You taking a stand and saying this behavior isn't okay is exactly what you needed to do, both for Kelli now and Baby Kelli, who couldn't in the past. I'm sending all the good and healing vibes to you and keep pushing this until this monster is prosecuted. No SA, in any circumstance, is okay and you taking action in your own defense should be viewed as strong and empowering. That's exactly what you are, and any response less than what you've read here is likely rooted in the same pain and preconditioning you've experienced in your life. Pray for them and take care of you 💛
So beautifully, perfectly put. Thank you 💕
No one has the right to your body for any reason in any circumstance. I'm glad you stood up for yourself, I'm glad you were brave and confident enough to speak up and speak out, and never downplay being violated in any way. He didn't "just grab your butt"....he touched you in a sexual manner because he felt he had the right to. Fuck that shit forever. I'm so over it too. And I'm so proud of you.
I literally started crying when you said “it’s nice after a lifetime of not feeling supported…”
It’s sad, but you are right. You did the right thing. We (especially as women) need to be holding people accountable for the shitty things they inflict upon us.
Thank you for sharing. Thank you for actually pressing charges. I’ve been asked if I wanted to press charges before and I didn’t want to be “dramatic”. That sure as hell is never going to happen again. I’m through letting things slide. WHEN it happens to me again, you will be my inspiration
Thank you for the support Joni. I felt the exact same way when they asked me but it felt like such a rare opportunity, I surprised even myself when I said yes, I DO want to press charges! I'm glad I can inspire you to fight for yourself too, please always make sure you are safe before you do though! People in this world are crazy and awful and you need to take care of yourself out there ❤️
Same!
I also started tearing up at that point 😢
I'm a woman and an attorney. You did the right thing!
Dudes need to start fighting their own friends if they see them being creeps
I'm so glad you pressed charges and didn't let this slide! And if anyone tries to say you ruined that guy's vacation, they need to be reminded that HE ruined his vacation by assaulting you. That was HIS choice, not yours.
Judging by this guy's reaction to you calling him out I can almost guarantee he's done things like this before. Probably many, many times. Everyone who's ever had to experience abuse by an idiot like this owes you thanks. People like this will never stop this kind of behavior unless they start suffering consequences for it. I'm so sorry you had to deal with this, but I'm very grateful to you and all those like you who have the strength to stand up for what's right.
And you just KNOW the kind of gaslighting BS he's going to defend himself with when he has to tell people why he was arrested. Hopefully he does some jail time and really learns the true meaning of consent.
He ruined his vacation by being a disgusting excuse for a human! This is the tip of the iceberg what else would he do if he thought he could get away with it. Definitely the right thing do. So many people don't say anything. Well done xx
I think people (mainly men though) really just incredibly underestimate the statistics of sexual assault against women. It is borderline miraculous to go through life as a woman and never experience it. I am in awe of your strength and how you stood up for yourself.
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i was recently sexually assaulted at work by my supervisor at work he came behind me and jiggled my boob and on top of that he always bragged about being in the Navy
@@violetviolet888 Little boys, and yes, even men get sexually assaulted. That happens as a product of a demented mind, period. There’s frikking female teachers in a position of trust, molesting male students at the elementary level of school and they don’t get thrown in jail for being a pedophile.
When I was younger (I'm 48 now), I used to think that being fat would protect me from SA. It did not. I've been groped, had disgusting comments made about my chest, and had something put in my drink. And I feel fortunate that that's been the worst of it for me. Not the case for a lot of women I know.
You did the right thing. F@#k that guy.
A message from 16 year old me: Thank you for pressing charges. Hold this man accountable because clearly he was bold enough to do this in front of hundreds of other people, who knows what else he is capable of.
I’m 44 now, and I for the first time bought velvet pants at Christmas. I realized how I blamed myself when my high school boyfriend’s uncle groped me for over an hour when I was 16 because I wore a very soft velvet skirt to Christmas dinner. I was frozen in fear and never even thought back then that I should have gone to the police, because it was “my fault”. (Even though this older man stalked me at my work place).
Please never feel like it’s not worth it, you may have changed a worse outcome for some girl in the future because you called him out. I’m so sorry your night and your gorgeous pants are tainted forever. Sending you giant hugs. ❤❤❤
I work for a police department. This is type of report that should be always be reported. For victims of any age. It doesn't matter if they touch you on top of clothes or under, report, report, report!! I'm glad you reported it. I bet he's done this before. This is a sexual assault. Good job Kelli! 👏👏
My first thought is that you spent most of this vlog apologizing for standing up for yourself and explaining why you felt the need to do so, and I am so sorry that you feel like you have to do that. The guy that touched you inappropriately should be the one apologizing and you should never ever feel the need that you have to be on the defensive for speaking up and speaking out. My second thought is thank god you have found someone that will stand by your side and protect you and be there for you no matter what. Thank you, Ryan, for being every single man that Kelli needed in every situation that made her feel uncomfortable or small or scared. And thank you, Kelli, for posting this. I'm sorry you missed your date night, I hope you are able to get reservations there again soon. You did all the right things, don't feel like you didn't.
My heart broke when you were describing other instances of men violating you throughout your life. I’m sorry you were made to feel like it was your fault all those other times, and I’m sorry you didn’t feel supported enough to tell someone about it. Thank you for talking about this. Assault is never OK, no matter the degree. I’m proud of you for saying something. I really hope the person who groped you will learn a lesson. ❤
If something like this happened in the workplace and the woman goes to HR to report it and HR’s response is “boys will be boys”, the woman has every right to go higher. She needs to make sure to document that she went to HR and that was the response. If the higher ups don’t doing anything, she has every right to go to law enforcement and seek legal action not only against the man but the company as well. A lot of companies are starting to take that stuff seriously. Some because they realize that everyone should feel safe in the workplace… some because they don’t want the potential legal consequences. Unfortunately, sexual assault goes underreported because it has always been dismissed and the blame put on the victim. It is never the victim’s fault. You did the right thing.
That sort of assault has happened to me many times. I was a young women in the 80s and 90s. At that time there were not many cameras and the attitude toward women speaking up about things like this was not good. I am so glad you are pressing charges against that jerk. It sends the message that women are done putting up with these belittling moves men make on women. You are not little, Kelli. Good for you.
Please wear your bright colors. I went decades wearing only white and dark blue because of this kind of thing. I also kept my hair short.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.
@@erdiaz13 It was just a time in my life. Life is different now. I am a walking rainbow! Thank you for you concern.
I want to scream. No one has the right to touch another without permission, man, woman, or non-identifying. Keep 👏 your 👏 hands 👏 to yourself. Thank you for standing up. Thank you for your voice. You are strong. ❤
Hey Kelli, I normally don’t comment but I wanted to say that you are NOT being dramatic, and you absolutely deserve to be heard and taken seriously, because this is a serious issue and people need to be held accountable. Thanks for sharing all your thoughts and experiences, it makes me and many other women feel less alone. It takes a lot of courage to speak up and stand up for yourself especially in a world where women are not taken seriously. Wishing you the best 💖
Never ok. It doesn’t matter what other people think. It was without your consent, and it’s important to speak out and show people that invasions like this hurt women and stay with us.
So, so sorry this happened to you Kelli. You are incredibly brave for speaking up when it happened and calling out the behavior.
Thank you for the support ❤️ I'm glad I have a platform where I can share this experience and remind women that it's not okay and we aren't overreacting when these events hurt us!
Well said Loren!
Kelli, it is brave and right for you to speak out and take action against this completely unacceptable and atrocious behaviour. The man who did this is cowardly and believes that even in THE most public place imaginable, he can behave this way with no consequences. That is insane. By taking the action that you (and Ryan) did, you have changed that dynamic in relation to that man's experience, for everyone watching your blog and most importantly, for yourself.
We all as a society need to stop minimizing all forms of SA. I'm so proud of you for pressing charges. You will likely save another woman from him in the future or at least help her be believed. ❤️
My friend was sexually assaulted in an elevator and when she filed a police report, the cops asked what she might’ve done to provoke the attacker. It made me so sick to hear that and I’m glad that wasn’t your experience with security, though none of this should’ve happened in the first place. Men need to do better and women who enable it do, too.
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That’s upsetting though unfortunately not shocking 😔
I’ve never seen your channels before, not a single video. I’m so glad this was suggested to me. I’m so fricking gosh dang flabbin proud of you. I want to come back to this video repeatedly and reaffirm my beliefs and my confidence in what I encourage others to do, and what I do myself. I’m blown away by you, like a breath of the freshest air. You’re seriously so spot-on. I’m flabbergasted at the response of the cop - I can’t imagine one responding as appropriately as that! At long fricking last, a little bit of progress, at least.
I can’t thank you enough for sharing this, for so throughly and bravely explaining this experience and the way your decision was informed. The world needs this. The world needs you, and you need a world that does not make you feel small and violated - we all do. Thank you.
I'm glad you found it, and I hope it feels like a breath of fresh air because it definitely felt that way for me when the security and cops here took me seriously! As infuriating as the experience was, it really gave me so much hope that this is how authorities treat SA now and it's just one step closer to not having to deal with it anymore. I feel so weirdly empowered now that someone in power listened and cared haha
@@KelliMarissaVlogs You SHOULD feel empowered - you are incredibly powerful! And authorities *ought* to take crimes seriously, and in this case they did, which you’re right is just so refreshing. As you’ve demonstrated, SA is SA is SA. That’s not to belittle the trauma brought about by more heinous incidents, that’s just to say a CRIME is a CRIME is a CRIME and dang right he oughta be arrested for committing one! I’m glad you’re decently okay - I’m glad you were taken seriously - I’m so glad you saw this crime for a crime, and that you saw this story as an example and you shared it. You are a force in a great change. You are so incredibly powerful. I subscribed yesterday, and I’m looking forward to getting to know you through your channel. I’m grateful we were introduced by the algorithm. I’m grateful for your strength, your will, your caring, and the good people around you. 💜
@@KelliMarissaVlogs I live in a city where things are handled very differently. One might find understanding in the ER, but it’s unlikely with the police. I’ve reported to cops who are unaware of the correct laws regarding SA and the procedure by which reports are made. I’ve been victim-blamed and mis-quoted and scrutinized and yelled at by a cop here. When I was 17, in my home state, I picked up my 18yo friend from a house party and took her to the ER…the cops then stood in the waiting room asking me the wildest questions about her previous sexual experiences, relationship status, her child … while evidence was collected from her body … I didn’t know all the words then, I didn’t know how to SAY what was wrong with them, but it felt so messed up and I was getting so upset at them … that was around 2012. When you said to us, what you THOUGHT the cop was about to say to you, my mind went back to that hospital and I thought “YUP” - and then the reality of your recent experience was so literally the opposite. I needed to hear that. YOU needed to hear that. I needed to hear you say you heard that. We all need to hear that, directly to ourselves and spoken to our peers and we need to believe that’s what we will hear, to have any chance that WHEN (not IF) we are assaulted, we will have a scrap of reason to believe we deserve to file a report.
It’s important to speak about what going wrong, to hear what needs to be changed.
It’s important to speak about what goes right, to know what the expectation OUGHT to be, and to build the belief that we WILL be believed and taken seriously.
Big big shout-out to Ryan and the whole security at the place for helping you and taking it seriously. I'm very sorry you had to go through that, no one should do that, especially with no consent. I really love your outfit, those pants looks amazing💙💚💛 💛 Every women/girls should be able to wear what they want without being worried to go outside or anywhere. I'm so proud of you Kelli 💖💖💖💖
Thank you so much ❤️ I'm going to try my best to remember them as the pants I wore when I put a disgusting a-hole in his place and feel proud to wear them!
@@KelliMarissaVlogs You're very welcome Kelli, hell yea 💖💖💖😌💪🏻
@@KelliMarissaVlogs They are your power pants. Back in the day, people wore yellow in corporate jobs to signify power. You earned your power pants this weekend. Wear them proudly and if anyone asks you can tell them you stood up for yourself and took your power back.
@@KelliMarissaVlogs Wear em to court!!
Thats right! Ryan did a great job defending Kelli. Great job for the security.
Please don't apologize for standing up for yourself, Kelli! You have the right to defend your sexual freedom and you're doing it by legal means, like a good citizen. Getting groped is dehumanizing and makes you feel completely powerless. You're taking your power back. Stay strong! 💪
Corduroy:
-wash inside out in cool water
-turn right side out after washing
-hang dry
Glad you are okay 🤗
Ahh thank you! Now I can wash off the memory of those grubby hands and wear them fresh and clean haha 🙂
Step two: do the same to the assaulter.
Second comment! This also jogged a memory from the one time my husband and I went to vegas. After a night at the slots at the Mirage we were heading back to our room. We observed this very clearly INSANELY intoxicated female being carried by a man towards the elevators (barely walking). There was always security there at night like checking for your room key and such. My husband right before security whispered to me “should we go up to her and make sure she’s alright?” (This was after we both agreed he was giving us bad vibes). I said “security is right there if they don’t do anything then yeah we should.” Luckily security stopped him and was like “What’s your name?” To the guy. Asked him if he had a booking with the hotel because they were about to look it up. He said no and he was “just trying to get this girl to her room.” (I don’t even know if he knew her name) and the male security guard was like “yeah we will take it from here.” And the female guard grabbed the woman to take her up to her room.
In my experience security takes things VERY seriously down there and afterwards my husband and I were happy she got up to her room safely and also didn’t want to think about that man’s possible motives. It sucks that you think the worst but it’s so hard not to when assaults happen all the time.
I had a similar situation happen to myself. Oddly enough I was at the mirage as well. I've lived in Vegas for nearly 20 years now and in my 20s I partied a lot. But I almost always could hold my own. Never got to the point of not being able to walk or to the point of being pretty much unresponsive. But there was one time it happened. I had gone out the night before and then spent all day at Bare pool. Was fine the entire day, but then when I went to stand up at the end of the day after laying on one of the beds for sometim, my legs just gave out and I couldn't walk. I remember my friends trying to help me walk but then things just went real fuzzy. The next thing I sort of remember is sitting down and being in a wheelchair and hearing some commotion going on around me. That's the last thing I remember. I apparently had started to throw up while in the wheelchair, but the commotion that I recall hearing ended up being this guy that was trying to take me up to his room. I had been talking to him n hanging out with him earlier in the day but I didn't know him. Security was there and I think he was trying to get me away from them, saying he knew me n was going to take me up to his room. Another one of my friends just so happened to be in the vicinity, not one of the ones that had originally tried to walk me out but could not, since they were too intoxicated themselves. I honestly don't know where they went after they got me a wheelchair, I guess I was left alone with security. But anyway this other friend sees what's happening and comes in and just swoops me up out of the wheelchair to get me away from this guy and carries me back to the room we had and puts me to bed. I wake up a few hours later so confused about what had happened and he told me what happened. So if it wasn't for him this random guy could have potentially taken me up to his room to do whatever with. Not sure how security didn't question my friend and how he knew me, maybe they knew who he was since he was an independent vip host so he knew people in pretty much every hotel. But yah my friend saved me from some creep who was probably trying to take advantage of me. And to this day I'm not sure what happened as to why suddenly I just couldn't function. But good looking out for others when you know they can't look out for themselves, glad security escorted her back to her room alone and didn't allow him to come with.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's not right, it's not fair, and I'm glad the security people took it seriously.
Me too. And that's what I kept repeating to them, it's just not fair that this happens and society always lets it slide. And I'm just so so grateful that they didn't let it go 💪
It's not assault to slap a groper, it's self defense
You are NOT being dramatic, Kelli. My heart hurts that this happened to you. The fact that this isn't the first time you've experienced this is so sad. Though, I feel like a lot of us are in that boat. You 100% did the right thing. Never for a moment doubt that. I'm so happy that you have a supportive partner. While, I can't speak for anyone else, know that I support you. Stay well, Kelli.
So proud of you. In my early 20s I went clubbing so much and guys would grope me and I was conditioned to think “this means I’m pretty I should feel honored that he did that”…. I wish I could go back and do something about it but I thought it was normal and I had to just accept it. I’m 32 now and am so disgusted by this bc it happens. A lot. People need to learn it’s not okay.
I'm a Mom to a 9 year old girl, and the Mom side of me just wants to give you the biggest virtual hug and tell you that I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself! Also, thank you for sharing your story so other little girls and grown women can learn that it is not okay, and we need to stand up for one another!
You standing up for yourself is standing up for everyone. Thank you!
Good for you Kelli! WHO CARES about his vacation! If he wanted to be free to enjoy a fun vacation, he should've NOT ASSAULTED ANYONE. I totally would have not pressed charges, probably not even yelled or called attention to it if this happened to me, but you know what - now I will!
I'm glad I could inspire you to speak up - please make sure to think of your safety first and only speak out if it is safe to do so! There are so many dangerous men in this world and if I wasn't in such a high traffic area I wouldn't be surprised if that man tried to regular assault me when I called him out. But the more we speak up about it and call them out on their BS, the more scared they'll be of us💪
When I was a teenager back in the 70s my mother warned me I was going to experience unwanted attention from men and I’d need to learn how to handle it. Well that was crap, what she should have said was don’t allow any man to make you feel violated or uncomfortable. I won’t list how many times men have inappropriately touched, propositioned and been vulgar to me during my lifetime. I am almost 60 now and I was just complaining to my husband that this month alone I have been catcalled two different times while I was out alone making me feel really uncomfortable and unsafe. You absolutely did the right thing making this guy accountable for his actions, how will men learn boundaries otherwise. I am glad you did, thank you for being so brave ❤
This IS a big deal!!! This post should go viral. You did us ALL a service. Thank you. I'm 51 yrs old and 14 the first time this happened to me. I am so sorry and proud of you, and so sorry this is still happening.
I love your take on “if you can report it, do!” Safety is so important. Not everyone can report it - thank you for calling that out. I’m sending you so much love. I am so sorry that you experienced this and everything else. ❤
You are spot on right in everything you said in this video. The “level” of assault is irrelevant, this kind of behavior is NOT acceptable. I’m in HR, and if one of our employees did this, they would be immediately fired and escorted off our property. I’m glad you’re Ok and I’m glad you and Ryan are taking a stand. Sending you love and support!
Thank you for standing up for yourself. In a way, you are standing up for all sexually assaulted victims. I am inspired to be brave and speak up too!
Your choice to stand up and say “ENOUGH!” has inspired someone to do the same. Women don’t talk about this enough. When we hear your story we don’t feel weak and isolated. We feel empowered to do something. You’ve changed someone’s life by posting this video. Well done, Sis!
Ryan - you're a good one. I'm so glad you dumped that other bum. I dumped a guy I'd dated for years, the very next day, for letting me be assaulted and then telling me how cool I was for taking it. Done. Thank you so much to Ryan for being a real partner and real, decent guy.
As a woman who has been grabbed by the p-word, among other situations similar to yours, thank you for pressing charges and most of all thank you for speaking out.
F*** anyone who pushes back on you, Kelly. You absolutely did the right thing, you were assaulted and he needs to be held accountable. You should be extremely proud of yourself.
Kelli, I am so proud of you for standing up for yourself! Behavior like this is completely unacceptable! When he grabbed you, that was a choice, he messed with the wrong girl, and he needs to face the consequences. Just know that what you were wearing has nothing to do with what happened to you, as a human you are allowed to wear whatever you want! Sending you hugs and positive vibes.
I hope that handful of booty he got was worth the arrest LOL! I am definitely going to testify against him in court because he doesn't deserve to get off free for this.
@@KelliMarissaVlogsYou are so brave, and (I hope this doesn’t come across condescending) I am so proud of you. It takes a lot of courage to stand up against this kind of behavior when we have been so heavily conditioned our entire lives to accept it. I wish that 12 year old me had the resources to report abuse, and I hope that future me has the courage to do so.
You did the right thing. People do not have the right to touch us without consent .
Thank you for speaking up for yourself! Such a powerful decision. Thank you for sharing - bringing this into the light is the hard work of making sure other people don’t have to experience what you have too many times. I hope you are so proud of yourself and tell the 10 yr old you that you are strong and still fighting for her! 💜💙💜💙💜💙💜
Literally in tears watching this. You did the right thing!! I can’t say it enough and you can’t hear it enough. You did the right thing!! I’m 50 yrs old and this has been happening to me since age 11. And like you, I never told. I watched friends being told “ boys will be boys” and knowing I’d hear the same. This is not ok and it needs to stop!!
Thank you for taking this seriously and not brushing it off.
Thank you so much Emme ❤️ I hope my story can help my followers realize this sort of thing should not be brushed off and it's not okay. 💪
I don’t care if your pants had flashing lights on, no one has the right to touch you inappropriately. Good for you for pressing charges against him and stand up for yourself
I'm so proud of you! As a Mom of 2 daughters, one who was sexually assaulted, you absolutely did the right thing. Violating someone is just never ever ok, ever.
The fact that they kept asking if you wanted to press charges is such BS. I'm glad the one cop was supportive. That jerk will think twice next time he gets the urge to put his hands on anyone. Never minimize that stuff. Thank you for protecting yourself. This is not something to brush under a rug. Eff that.
You stood up for my 6, 9, and 15 year old me, but not only that... you may have just been the snowball to someone else's avalanche and you stopped it before attacking anyone else. No one has any right to say how you should feel or what you should do. Keep doing you Kelli (never stop fighting for yourself) and keep that man of yours, he's you Knight in Shining Armor. God Bless You Both
Kelli, I just want you to know that this is a big deal and you did the right thing by reporting it and pressing charges. It is absolutely NOT OK that this man did that to you and it is ABSOLUTELY NOT YOUR FAULT. You did not deserve what happened that night, it doesn't matter what you were wearing.
I hope you have/had a nice dinner with Ryan and know that I am proud of you for being able to speak up about this ❤
It is NEVER OK for ANYONE to put their hands on another person, sexually or otherwise!!!!!!! And anyone who gives you backlash, is a piece of s*%!. And even if someone has had worse than this done, what happened to you still matters!! it's still not OK!! and it should be brought forward! I don't care if you're walking around in a thong and see through bra, NO ONE has a right to say anything, let alone put their hands on you!! this should never be acceptable!!
You ABSOLUTELY did the right thing. And briefly grabbing/ hard tapping his shoulder to get his attention is not even remotely the same thing. Anything that happens to him legally is his own fault.
I once pressed charges on a guy for hitting me in the butt at a Dave Matthews concert in Salt Lake City. He was drunk and walking down the aisle of the lawn section yelling "Woo!: and hitting multiple women on the butt as he walked. He hit me so hard I fell into my husband. He was with 3 other guys so my husband followed them and grabbed security and pointed him out. They grabbed him just as he was trying to jump over the wall from the lawn into the seated area. We went to the police tent and an officer took my statement. I couldn't even sit in the chair property because he had hit me so hard. I was shaking and trying not to cry, and the cop had the nerve to ask if I had been drinking because I looked "unsteady". I yelled at him what the hell does that matter? I was just assaulted, I'm upset! He apologized and my husband told him I had one drink about 3 hours prior, and to move on. I pressed charges, and they told me that if he pled guilty that I wouldn't need to go to court. I never heard anything else from them. We approached 2 of the other girls he hit but they wouldn't talk to the cops. The right side of my butt hurt for 2 days afterward. I don't regret getting him in trouble.
Thank you for sharing your story, and hope others take inspiration from you. 🖤🖤🖤
I’m sorry that happened to you and I’m glad you are pressing charges. It’s not ok and you did nothing wrong. And it’s not a “small” thing.
Thank you Laura ❤️
@@KelliMarissaVlogspeople can have their opinions and I respect that but the guy violated you and it was not ok and there are consequences for actions. You aren’t being dramatic. I’m so glad you are standing up for yourself and all the other girls and women who have been violated and have not felt like they could say anything and didn’t feel supported. 💗
@@laural2868 I agree. Opinions are different than the law. This guy broke the law so he was arrested.
Just because there are worse things that could have happened does NOT mean that what happened to you is ok.
NO ONE has the right to touch you without your permission.
My dad drilled that into my head when I was a child and I am doing the same for my kids. Your body is yours, and no one has the right to touch you without consent… drunk or not, it is not OK… and anyone that makes you feel bad for standing up for yourself should be ashamed of themselves. You 1000% did the right thing!
I’m sorry you had to experience this when all you wanted was a nice night out with your husband.
Don't feel guilty at all. You are so strong that you said something.
Thank you for the support Madeleine ❤️
Yes 💪 I agree !
Okay, but why am I on the verge of tears at the police/ security believing you. I'm SO sorry this happened to you, but it was INCREDIBLY brave of you to follow through!
That is NEVER ok. That creep had absolutely NO RIGHT to touch you in any way, shape, or form! I'm so sorry this happened to you and good for you for pressing charges.
It was your butt today, but tomorrow he might take it further. You standing up for yourself might have saved someone from needing the trigger warning on videos like this. Well done, be strong and see it through to the end...
I had almost the same exact thing happen to me at a train station. I asked an older lady nearby if she saw it and she said "no, and I wouldn't go looking for trouble either". I ran after him and yelled at him in front of a bunch of people and he said, "you've got tickets on yourself, don't you". I'm glad you had people with you who took it seriously and gave you options ❤️ edit: about the whole "it was ONLY groping" pushback you're anticipating - if he could do that to a stranger, what is he doing or capable of doing to the women in his life? Hoping that this has sent a very strong message to him and the jackass with him that this shit is NOT OKAY and never was.
🫂. That guy was predatory. I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself. You have a right to exist without being molested.
This is totally not a non-issue and you’re right to stand up for yourself about it. It’s disgusting, even if it’s too normal of an occurrence. Don’t be mad at yourself for your first thought being what we as women have been conditioned to think; you did a great job with it by “making a scene” and shaming him as publicly as possible. Thank you for sharing this so that more people understand this kind of shit really is way too common.
It really is way too common. And I'm going to do my best to speak up every time I can until things start to change!
Who knows how long he's been doing this and who knows how far he would take it if he isn't stopped. I have numerous experiences from when I was in my teens and early twenties. And just like you, the one time I did try to report a co-worker that was scaring me, instead of helping me, my manager actually looked at the guy and said in front of everybody "Jennifer thinks you have a crush on her!" I was so embarrassed and so upset. It's absolutely awful how women are treated. I'm almost 50 years old and it's about time we're taken seriously. Hugs. I'm proud of you.
I’m so proud of you for standing up for yourself!!! And to anyone who says “it’s not a big deal”….where is the line drawn? With a butt grab? With a boob grab? Under clothing? Forced kissing? Or worse?! If more people were called out for SA attacks like yours, maybe the streets would start to get incrementally safer for everyone and these creeps wouldn’t be able to keep up their attacks, getting bolder each time since they have never been held accountable for their disgusting behavior! Thank you so much for your bravery and for sharing your story. I don’t think a lot of people realize how often situations like this actually happen. Sending you a huge hug and wishing you the best!
Panic at the PTS: You may find these articles of interest: *Rape Culture Rooted in Patriarchy, Media Portrayal, and Victim Blaming* by Danielle Cusmano and "16 ways you can stand against rape culture" Monday, 18 November 201, and *Rape, rape culture and the problem of patriarchy* by Robert Jensen.
I'm sorry, Kelli. We're conditioned to not rock the boat, but it's the right thing to do sometimes. Proud of you!
Don't apologize for making it a thing. You didn't make it a thing. It IS thing. A thing 97% of us expierence!
As a mom of young girls, THANK YOU, for speaking about it, for saying something when it happened, for taking the action so many of us have been too scared to take. I hope my girls have someone like you to look up too when they're old enough to be on the internet
You did the right thing. He needs to be held accountable. Today its groping, tomorrow it could be worse. People who don't value consent and respect boundaries will continue to behave that way and escalate their offenses if they think no one with stop them. I am proud of you for standing your ground, and speaking out. You have an important role in the lives of many, and this will give others the courage to speak out. Don't let people minimize your experience. You deserve to feel safe. Much love to you, Kelli.
A BIG HUG AND THANK YOU! Being a senior, I suffered a rape by my husband! Couldn't do a thing about way back then! Also I was riding my 10 speed bike down a main street as teen when some guy in a car slapped my rear! Needless to say it caused me to crash as it really startled me. Oh there have been countless times of forced other things! So Thank you for all of us that couldn't do anything about our assaults! I can guarantee that if I could of reported it l, I would have. 😢 They are scars we carry for ever! Quit worrying about these things, you waste time getting upset or worrying when you could put that time towards something better or positive! This is what I have learned to get me through stuff! Especially now that I'm older, I just don't have the time . I have so much better things to do with my time! 💅👩🦳❤
The second you said what happened to you, I thought, "POOR KELLI! This BS is garbage." And also "I hope she doesn't not wear the pants now, as they are amazing."
Every woman who has the ability to push forward with pressing charges is a step forward for all women, because men need to be held accountable. Period. I'm so glad you felt empowered to protect yourself in that moment, because you and all women deserve to feel safe in public. We love you.
Thank you for not letting him get away with it! The initial assault is bad enough, but the fact that his reaction to being called out on it was intimidation and threats of violence…ugh. Your courage is wonderful. If you hear anything further about the charges or what comes out of it, please share!
You go girl. So proud that you pressed charges and stuck up for yourself and women in general. That person is a piece of garbage and you’re so so strong! This is 0% your fault. I’m really glad you’re with a good man now who has respect for women.
So proud of you. Think of how many other women you saved from the same experience that night. That early in the evening he was bound to continue his behavior as he apparently had no respect for women.
I am beyond grateful that you chose to speak out. It is so often kept quiet or reframed to blame the victims of assault so we are all insanely grateful that you used your platform to boost the signal of this important message. You’ve brought many of us comfort and support by speaking out and standing up for yourself in this situation. In standing up for yourself you’ve stood up for the rest of us too. Thank you Kelli 💜 I wish you and Ryan all the positive vibes always 💜✨
It’s not just for that instance where it’s “not a big deal” (it is a big deal, but) it’s also for every other instance and everything that guy might do worse down the track because he keeps getting away with it. No one should keep getting away with it
I am so proud of you Kelli! I just turned 57 and this has happened to me so many times. A few years ago I asked my mother if she had any “me too” moments. It was like I opened Pandora’s box. I thought she would never stop recounting instances. This has got to stop and the only way it will is with courageous women like you! ❤
How sad that your mom has been holding all those stories in her memories. And how sad that things haven't changed in all this time. It is brave wonderful women like Kelli that will help make the world a better place for the women coming up behind us.
Press charges every. Single. Time. It is unacceptable for people to act this way and should be held accountable.
I hate that you have experienced all of that. I hate that we (children, women, even men) have to experience this and then get shame for it. It took me about 15 years to stand up to my sexual assault as a child and I’m glad I did. There are ppl out there that think I should have already gotten over it but it’s something that haunts me every damn day! So I’m sooo happy you share this and that it helps others to speak up. I also hope that ppl watching this video take things like more serious.
You didn't ruin that guy's vacation. He ruined it by being an @$$hole. I hate that jerks do jerk things and the victims are the ones that are blamed and shamed. It's time for people to be called out, and I'm so happy that at least parts of society are starting to take notice. Thank you for calling attention to this. A dude in my middle school slapped my butt in the hall between classes, and it was super humiliating and felt like such a violation. I wish I had the courage to say something, but I didn't.
GOOD FOR YOU!! We need to stick up for ourselves. Enough is enough with these dirtbags.
I can’t even count how many times this happened to me in NYC when I was young. If I could have caught ANY of them, I would have pressed charges. Every. Single. Time. You did the right thing.
I hate that this happened to you but so proud of you for taking a stand against it.
Thank you for the support ❤️
You didn’t take it too far. Consent is consent. Whether a p***s or a fingertip. Your clothing didn’t cause this, he caused this. He made the decision to touch you, his decision led him to be arrested. Standing up for yourself is something to be proud of and takes a lot of courage and others should lift you up for this. I commend you and I stand with you.
This showed up in my home page, I’ve never seen your channel before but I just want to say. I’m so proud of you!!! Woman to woman hearing your story reminds me of something almost identical that happened in my city but there was no cameras and nobody around me when I scream and pointed even looked like they cared at all. In fact I got looked at like I was insane. Not that I expected random strangers to like chase him or anything but a “hey are you okay?” Or “I’m so sorry.” would have given me a bit more hope for humanity. The fact that you got taken seriously is amazing! I’m glad there was physical evidence. I hope he suffers the consequences of his actions and learns to never do something like that again.
Girl you protected every other women he encountered that night. Thank you