I see too many parents focus on the negative. “Don’t do X.” Instead tell the child what you want. Are you ready to eat? or Thank you for finishing your plate! I am so proud of you for listening to daddy! Do not reward bad behavior! Instead of giving attention for negative, only give attention for what you want him to do. Then celebrate like crazy.
It's important to reward good behavior. Yet realize we don't follow kids. Kids do not have a well develop brain yet to make the best decisions. Some parents too still don't know how to make good decisions 😕 but all and all the structure of the family goes well when the child follows the parents so that's doing what needs to be done to get them to do what the parents assists. If mom needs to get out the door at a certain time then she needs to get out at a certain time and the child must follow. We mold the child.
One thing is making your child eat everything off their plate even if they are full or not hungry.. Now as adults we eat everything off our plates out of habit causing over eating. Wish I was never taught that. I wont teach my children that.
I don’t think it has to be a bad thing, that way we’re not wasting a ton of food. Also, smaller plates help out so much! You’re still getting that satisfaction but not over eating
Yes! But I believe you should make them try everything on their plate, even if they’ve tried it before and don’t like it bc they may like the way it was cooked this time.
1. Short sentence 1.1 let them repeat the command 1.2. Eye contact 3. Limiting time 4. Rest of meal is the next meal 5. Smaller choice 6. Deal with the fussing, make reading time shorter
Anyone saying this makes your child “speed eat” and will cause an eating disorder … just no. My son will take hours to eat his food if you let him. The point is that you make them focus on their meal rather than other things - typically they’ll take that long because they are talking or playing with it. It’s not about forcing them to eat everything on the plate it’s about getting them to eat until they are satisfied without all the distractions. When we give my son a time limit he eats until he is full and if there’s anything left I let him put it away for later. LOL people these days want to let kids run their lives - kids are not capable of seeing the big picture! They need some guidance!
Another tip is to *SING* what you want to say if it's appropriate to do so. Have a jingle that relates back to your family expectations. Choose a little tune that you can instinctively recall and you can freestyle or prepare little rhymes for instances that have commonly been a challenge for you all. Example: *(Tune of "Mary Had A Little Lamb") *It's time to put your shoes on now Shoes on now, shoes on now It's time to put your shoes on now One foot at a time.* Or: "Speak to me with a quiet voice so I can hear your words." and you can do the same as part of your technique for letting some air out of that frustration balloon: " *I'M* going to use a quiet voice So you can hear my words." Experiment and learn what is helpful for you and *your* family. Find your *Groove*. ❤🎵
@@mamacat3547 Great! It's not a cure-all but it is a helpful go to technique. I hope the best for you and every child that you have an opportunity to influence. :-)
This video and comments are so helpful. I have a 4 year old and we yell a lot. It makes me feel terrible and i think it sets the tone for the whole family to yell. I sont want us to be yellers. I want to communicate better. So thank you EVERYONE
Re Lincoln not being able to settle down and listen to the story book, my son was the same but I found out much later that's how he did listen to the story, he could not lie still he actually had to jump on the bed as I would read, but I thought he was being naughty and so I would say I am not reading until you lie down and be still, he would plead for me to read it and lie down but as soon as I began reading he was up jumping again, so I would leave the room. I gave up on his jumping while I would begin to read because he would do it every time so no story time ever again. I have learnt that some children process things in a different way. He is 30 now and he has been and lived in more places in the world than I ever will, guess he just can't lie still after all.
Aww thats precious ❤ I think it’s cool that things came full circle and you learned from it I appreciate the comment because it reminds me of that truth of how every kid is different and may “process things different”
Yes, I used to listen to Focus on the Family a Christian radio show. A mother came on and spoke about children and that each child is different and learn in different ways. She used to home school her son. And he would always do other things while she tried to teach him. She thought he wasn’t listening to her until one day he told her. If I don’t move, I’ll stop listening. He was listening to what she was teaching him, he just could not sit still while doing so. That’s when she herself started studying children and their different learning patterns.
This is coming from an 11 year old girl who is stubborn: -don’t yell at your child if you want an answer that’s why they won’t answer -don’t compare their life to how bad yours was when you were their age THAT there is what is gonna make them upset -don’t rush them for anything get them ready early for whatever it is and then continue
My husband actually told me about the "Don't rush them" thing when he realized I rushed HIM a lot. I apologized and haven't done it since. I either give a lot of time before we leave or have patience and help if we're not ready. I love your self awareness
Theres tips are really incredible When your child refuses to do something... Instead of saying: "You have to do it. You have to write/ brush your teeth/ switch off the TV." Say "I can see you really don't feel like doing it.When I was small, I sometimes didn't like it too when Grandma made me do it. But we all have to do it beta. Come, I will help you." Let's EMPATHISE before reinforcing the rule! Let Children know it's okay to not want to do something, and sometimes we still have to and that you understand. Be in your child's team, even while putting the boundary!
My kids (3 toddlers one disabled) love to take their time to eat no matter if I wake them up early or not. They're super distracted lol so what I started to do is set a timer. Most of the time they really just don't want to eat just snack. So they have morning snacks at school and when they come mid morning They're ready to eat.
I also like to always give a warning shot before times up. If I'm giving them 30 minutes CA minute, I'll tell them I'm giving 30 minutes and then 20 minutes after I will tell them "10 more minutes!" That way the end of the activity doesn't seem so abrupt.
I do that and then 5 mins after, I tell them it's time to go so they can do one more thing. Daniel tiger I think is where I got it. It's time to go so choose one more thing.
No. If you raise your children on tablets then that's a problem. Learn to raise your children with toys and books. Tablets are ok but it shouldn't be used majority of the time.
Not certain about the points made but ,if anyone else is searching for how to talk to toddlers try Loctavan Teaching Toddler Strategy (just google it ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my cousin got cool success with it.
Everyone judges me cause they say my kids don't listen and when they go outside they get dirty and climb everywhere. But my kids are hyper (one has adhd) and I don't ever give them a phone or tablet or anything. When the kids of the girls in the family are misbehaving they are automatically given tablets and phones. But I'm the bad parent. On the plus side mine hardly get sick. They prefer brocoli and carrots over chips and candy and it's not me making them. They've been grocery shopping with their aunts and etc and everyone notices that lol. I'm only here cause they don't help clean their mess lol
5 tips to get your child to listen to you without yelling My mom: yeah tip 1; get the belt and hit them Tip 2; get a spoon and hit them Tip 3; get your flip flop and hit them Tip 4; get a broom and hit them Tip 5; use your hands to hit them
5 tips to get your child to listen to you without yelling My mom: yeah tip 1; get the belt and hit them Tip 2; get a spoon and hit them Tip 3; get your flip flop and hit them Tip 4; get a broom and hit them Tip 5; use your hands to hit them
1:45 if I talk disrespectful, I think my kids would learn from me and do it to their teachers or become bullies. It also bad for my throat to talk like that, just like yelling is according to google. If your kid is not listening ask them why , I recommend to not be rude because I lie to rude people so they are less rude to me
Thank you so much I got my 1 and 5 year old to listen my 1 year old Likes to run around and my 5 year old just doesn't listen and now there listening just fine people are asking me how did you get your kids to listen and I said TH-cam look it up on youtube.
My parents also used to give us old food if we did not eat it the meal before or the day before. Yes! We got the talk about kids starving in Africa and India too.
I am no expert and I’ve only been a mom for 4 years and all I gotta say is I would never force my children to eat fast or eat all their food. They know their body and know when they’re hungry. If they don’t want to eat and they have to go to school, they can eat at school where they get free food or I’ll pack them snacks and lunch. Why would you advise on starting an eating disorder? Goodness.
Every kid is different. If I don't force mine a little, she won't eat anything. When I encourage her, she eats. But I never force her to eat quickly or everything that's on her plate.
Those menus that are books and have 30 to 100 options I just can’t I always have to tell my husband show me the menu before we get there of pick help me pick something and he knows me so we’ll he always picks good stuff.
How do you get your 3 year old to stop screaming no when I'm telling him to do something or not do something? And he doesn't listen for nothing. Locked me out of the house this morning, I had to break the back door down to get in. Smh this child
Two things 1. If your yelling the chances r , I think he learned from you. 2. I would ask him y he is doing that, if he is not answering. I would tell him that emotions always change following them can make a person unsatisfied. It’s ok if someone tells you what to do as long as they r not saying it in a mean tone,words, and facial expressions/mean faces. Or ask him how you should say it to him. If your words are long I recommend acting out a scene about it with your husband or friend, infront of the child
I hope you and your child are happier now. If things are still rocky, watch some supernanny episodes on TH-cam. Take heart ❤ - you aren't the only one. You can help your child learn better behavior - believe that. 🌹
Take the power of no by not responding to it permanently and juts moving in and getting the child to do what you asked then to do. He’s small you can do this ! Take control ! 😊
Me and my husband never yell at our son, but he’s four and getting attitudes now lol he is having a hard time sleeping in his bed and gets upset with me then I get his dad and he stops 🙃
The #1 thing I can't get my 3-year-old to listen to is already very short and sweet, and that's "STOP." She'll be doing something (something actually bad too, I'm not just telling her to stop for no reason) and I say "Stop" or "PLEASE stop" or "[Her name,] stop that" or whatever. And a lot of times, especially if she's tired or something, she'll just completely not listen. She hears me just fine too, it's not like she's not paying attention and didn't here. And she'll laugh at me while continuing to do the thing again. Anyone have any advice? PLEASE HELP 😅😭
She still young to listen to words. So I personally think that you should stop her or take away the object from her and tell her "no don't touch" or "don't do that" and busy her with better like toys, and cartoon.
@@amineninja6111 She talks though, like, a lot, and uses a lot of words that are definitely big words for a 3-year-old, so even still do you think using words is the wrong approach, or is it different if the kid's verbal skills are really good? Just curious your thoughts. This kid can hold full conversations with adults, long ones. She said some random crazy stuff and you can tell when she sometimes doesn't quite get what you're explaining/saying, but she can keep up pretty well with what adults are talking about.
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I know what u mean, most people need to learn how to influence others without harming others and themselves. Yelling is bad for the throat. Anger can cause heart attacks I think . The reason y I list y harming others harm themselves because most people care about themselves rather than others.
Good tips although eating slower tells your brain you are full and you don't over eat as much. Please do not rush your child to eat. I understand if you have to go somewhere but when possible, please do not.
I think SOME of this is good advice. But the advice that whatever your child doesn’t eat at dinner he or she must eat at breakfast is SO WRONG on so many levels!! First of all studies have shown kids can eat small amounts and still be full. Parents often over feed their children, but kids eat what their bodies need and shouldn’t be forced to eat when their not hungry. That’s cruel. Would you like to eat old hard reheated spaghetti for breakfast? Also, kids crave variety. Some parents feed their kids the same old thing every morning or night for the week. Kids need to try new foods, fresh foods, and small portions. If they then finish all the small portions, then you give them more to eat. But to force them to eat and force them to eat their old dinner just makes them hate food, resent you and dinner time. Not helpful. How is this lady an expert anyway?
MoonKat here she trying to tell donot waste food and if will not finish he or she will get the same food in next meal she doesnot mean that you do it every time and put them in struggling for finishing food its just an abvoius manner to tell your child donot waste food and its neccasry to finish their food because its their body need for good health
Yes, my rule of thumb is to realize thier bodies are small, so feed only enough for the size of thier stomachs. And if they don't want to eat it, don't force.
Grew up eating seconds for breakfast because didnt have those options. Its awesome that you didnt have to do that but eating dinner for breakfast wont kill you esp if your a child that probably eats cereal or pop tarts. She never said eat the entire amount or what exactly it is. If the child is eating a healthy dinner having it again for breakfast won't lead to obesity. To add...when you give them time they learn they are given a time limit which is accurate. Are children given longer than an hour at school? Is that abuse or wrong no its life.
See this is why we have so many issues in our western society. Its being to light and a lack of a father figure. My 5 year old wouldn't dare have "selective listening" she does exactly what i tell her
Anyone else come here for a preteen? Lol If I tell my kid how much time she has, often she’ll say “what’s time? Time is a human thing. It’s not natural. We shouldn’t be ran by time.” 🤦♀️
mine had 15 minutes and had a timer. once it went off food was removed, done or not. scream all you want. he learned real fast he'd better the hell hurry.
That’s such an American thing I grew up in Europe and all I ate before I went to school was a glass of chocolate milk then off to school breakfast at school was at 10.15am I wasn’t hungry at all before that ..,oh by the way I walked to school since I was 7 years old and my school was about 1 mile away !
How to get your kidsbto listen: Make sure they are looking at you. Make sure they are repeating what you are saying. Keep your sentence short. They will not remember long sentences. Give less breakfast and take the rest to go. - to get them to eat breakfast. Don't give them too much choice. Give smaller choice. - to get them to read 📚 . Example, choose between two books. instead of more.
“Whatever you didn’t eat for dinner, that’s your next meal.” This is the most horrible and cruel advice!!! The people clapping have never had to live it obviously, I have. . How would you (as a child) like squash and zucchini for breakfast every morning? I’m still Affected by it emotionally 37 years later, and almost became bulimic. It doesn’t make them eat things they don’t like, it just makes them go without breakfast! How many the adults would do the same thing to themselves? You won’t treat yourself that way but you’ll treat your children that way? Take the food you hate the most and force yourself to either eat it or have it for YOUR next meal! then do that again the next day and the next day. This is such cruel advice and I can’t believe somebody would suggest it in modern day. Absolutely shameful!
Your one hundred percent right ! I don't eat beetroot now because I was forced to eat it for breakfast lunch then dinner till it was all gone ! It makes me sick looking at it even discussing beetroot makes me sick ! I'm fifty three and I eat what ever I like not what I'm made to eat ! I'm healthy ! Kids will eat if they are hungry !
I don't think it's a good idea to take the rest to go because I'll get it all over the car and blow up the car and the teacher doesn't want to be bogged with forcing them to eat so that's a bad idea.
5 tips to get your child to listen to you without yelling My mom: yeah tip 1; get the belt and hit them Tip 2; get a spoon and hit them Tip 3; get your flip flop and hit them Tip 4; get a broom and hit them Tip 5; use your hands to hit them
Oh, my first foster parents were like that. He would hit me with the belt. The thing was that I told them that my former guardian (my Vietnamese adoptive father) had hit me with a belt. I wonder if I did not tell my foster parents that, would they still hit me with a belt?? I resent and never forgave them for it. They would hit me excessively like crazy. None of those work at all.
hi everyone ,if anyone else wants to learn about how to discipline toddlers try Loctavan Teaching Toddler Strategy (just google it ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my m8 got amazing success with it.
Maybe you should rethink the way you talk about your spouse. Comparing them to speaking to the child is extremely disrespectful and hurtful. It teaches the child to have the same disrespect that you have. NOT a healthy parenting behavior.
I mean.. I can say it as long as I'm not around my child for them to hear it. Because have you lived with a man? They're children. (Women can be too but in my case...) Nothing wrong with a factual statement 😂
I see too many parents focus on the negative. “Don’t do X.” Instead tell the child what you want. Are you ready to eat? or Thank you for finishing your plate! I am so proud of you for listening to daddy! Do not reward bad behavior! Instead of giving attention for negative, only give attention for what you want him to do. Then celebrate like crazy.
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It's important to reward good behavior. Yet realize we don't follow kids. Kids do not have a well develop brain yet to make the best decisions. Some parents too still don't know how to make good decisions 😕 but all and all the structure of the family goes well when the child follows the parents so that's doing what needs to be done to get them to do what the parents assists. If mom needs to get out the door at a certain time then she needs to get out at a certain time and the child must follow. We mold the child.
Yes! Throughout getting my degree in psy there is such a focus on how positive reinforcement is what changes behavior, not punishment.
This is so helpful
One thing is making your child eat everything off their plate even if they are full or not hungry.. Now as adults we eat everything off our plates out of habit causing over eating. Wish I was never taught that. I wont teach my children that.
Exactly!! I struggle with this
I don’t think it has to be a bad thing, that way we’re not wasting a ton of food. Also, smaller plates help out so much! You’re still getting that satisfaction but not over eating
@Jonas Warren What a great boyfriend lmfao
Same thing here 😢 it would be better to teach them not to waste and put what's left in the fridge
Yes! But I believe you should make them try everything on their plate, even if they’ve tried it before and don’t like it bc they may like the way it was cooked this time.
These moms were so brave to come on tv with their kids!!
I know my son wouldn’t not sit still.
1. Short sentence
1.1 let them repeat the command
1.2. Eye contact
3. Limiting time
4. Rest of meal is the next meal
5. Smaller choice
6. Deal with the fussing, make reading time shorter
Not really
Thankyou
Keeping it short really works! The more you're talking the less I find children listen. Thanks for sharing this
Yes!!!
Thank you will try that
Anyone saying this makes your child “speed eat” and will cause an eating disorder … just no. My son will take hours to eat his food if you let him. The point is that you make them focus on their meal rather than other things - typically they’ll take that long because they are talking or playing with it. It’s not about forcing them to eat everything on the plate it’s about getting them to eat until they are satisfied without all the distractions. When we give my son a time limit he eats until he is full and if there’s anything left I let him put it away for later.
LOL people these days want to let kids run their lives - kids are not capable of seeing the big picture! They need some guidance!
Thank you!
I was told I had to eat faster every meal when I was a kid, and I still struggle with relaxing when eating. I am 34.
Another tip is to *SING* what you want to say if it's appropriate to do so. Have a jingle that relates back to your family expectations. Choose a little tune that you can instinctively recall and you can freestyle or prepare little rhymes for instances that have commonly been a challenge for you all.
Example:
*(Tune of "Mary Had A Little Lamb")
*It's time to put your shoes on now
Shoes on now, shoes on now
It's time to put your shoes on now
One foot at a time.*
Or:
"Speak to me with a quiet voice so I can hear your words."
and you can do the same as part of your technique for letting some air out of that frustration balloon:
" *I'M* going to use a quiet voice
So you can hear my words."
Experiment and learn what is helpful for you and *your* family.
Find your *Groove*. ❤🎵
they can rap 2 , thnx for the advice
Omg I’m using this!! plus I’m an animated so yeahh thanks!!
YES, I do this many times a day
@@mamacat3547 Great! It's not a cure-all but it is a helpful go to technique. I hope the best for you and every child that you have an opportunity to influence. :-)
This video and comments are so helpful. I have a 4 year old and we yell a lot. It makes me feel terrible and i think it sets the tone for the whole family to yell. I sont want us to be yellers. I want to communicate better. So thank you EVERYONE
I agree. I grew up to my mother yelling everyday at us and I yell and tell my child stop or no or don’t do that and it’s so frustrating
Re Lincoln not being able to settle down and listen to the story book, my son was the same but I found out much later that's how he did listen to the story, he could not lie still he actually had to jump on the bed as I would read, but I thought he was being naughty and so I would say I am not reading until you lie down and be still, he would plead for me to read it and lie down but as soon as I began reading he was up jumping again, so I would leave the room. I gave up on his jumping while I would begin to read because he would do it every time so no story time ever again. I have learnt that some children process things in a different way. He is 30 now and he has been and lived in more places in the world than I ever will, guess he just can't lie still after all.
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Aww thats precious ❤ I think it’s cool that things came full circle and you learned from it I appreciate the comment because it reminds me of that truth of how every kid is different and may “process things different”
😂😂 loved the ending
Yes, I used to listen to Focus on the Family a Christian radio show. A mother came on and spoke about children and that each child is different and learn in different ways. She used to home school her son. And he would always do other things while she tried to teach him. She thought he wasn’t listening to her until one day he told her. If I don’t move, I’ll stop listening. He was listening to what she was teaching him, he just could not sit still while doing so. That’s when she herself started studying children and their different learning patterns.
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This is coming from an 11 year old girl who is stubborn:
-don’t yell at your child if you want an answer that’s why they won’t answer
-don’t compare their life to how bad yours was when you were their age THAT there is what is gonna make them upset
-don’t rush them for anything get them ready early for whatever it is and then continue
lol im 11 to im just lookin at this bc my 4 year old sis is turning into a stubborn one
@noir dayum
Absolutely! I love that you have so much awareness at your age.
My mom should have done that a long time ago
My husband actually told me about the "Don't rush them" thing when he realized I rushed HIM a lot. I apologized and haven't done it since. I either give a lot of time before we leave or have patience and help if we're not ready. I love your self awareness
Wonderful information...Thanks guys.
If you have a snack in the car, they'll just wait until they get in the car to eat and skip their breakfast
That's why I make the car snack healthy lol
Theres tips are really incredible
When your child refuses to do something...
Instead of saying:
"You have to do it. You have to write/ brush your teeth/ switch off the TV."
Say
"I can see you really don't feel like doing it.When I was small, I sometimes didn't like it too when Grandma made me do it. But we all have to do it beta. Come, I will help you."
Let's EMPATHISE before reinforcing the rule!
Let Children know it's okay to not want to do something, and sometimes we still have to and that you understand.
Be in your child's team, even while putting the boundary!
Great tips, although it's better to not rush children to eat, you can wake him earlier so that he has more time.
That's what I thought
I agree
My kids (3 toddlers one disabled) love to take their time to eat no matter if I wake them up early or not. They're super distracted lol so what I started to do is set a timer. Most of the time they really just don't want to eat just snack. So they have morning snacks at school and when they come mid morning They're ready to eat.
You're spot on, that makes more sense and it's less stressful for everyone
I also like to always give a warning shot before times up. If I'm giving them 30 minutes CA minute, I'll tell them I'm giving 30 minutes and then 20 minutes after I will tell them "10 more minutes!" That way the end of the activity doesn't seem so abrupt.
I do that and then 5 mins after, I tell them it's time to go so they can do one more thing.
Daniel tiger I think is where I got it. It's time to go so choose one more thing.
Idk but I love her accent and I found this very helpful!
The tablets are the problem cause once you take that away from them all hell breaks loose lmfao
No. If you raise your children on tablets then that's a problem. Learn to raise your children with toys and books. Tablets are ok but it shouldn't be used majority of the time.
Exactly!
Boomers vs zoomers
@@tayliaburey7190 agree with that to
Not certain about the points made but ,if anyone else is searching for how to talk to toddlers try Loctavan Teaching Toddler Strategy (just google it ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my cousin got cool success with it.
Everyone judges me cause they say my kids don't listen and when they go outside they get dirty and climb everywhere. But my kids are hyper (one has adhd) and I don't ever give them a phone or tablet or anything. When the kids of the girls in the family are misbehaving they are automatically given tablets and phones. But I'm the bad parent. On the plus side mine hardly get sick. They prefer brocoli and carrots over chips and candy and it's not me making them. They've been grocery shopping with their aunts and etc and everyone notices that lol. I'm only here cause they don't help clean their mess lol
You might want to give a chance to my video: How to make kids listen to you in one minute th-cam.com/video/dUfBDl4vgP4/w-d-xo.html
It’s natural for kids to be like that, I wouldn’t take them outside. I would cancel party invitations with the excuse of my kids making messes.
@@aiphoneninja2452 I hate going to the family parties
The kids are just being kids. ❤ It’s the adults that set expectations and are judge-mental and competitive. For what? What race??
Host is ripped!
5 tips to get your child to listen to you without yelling
My mom: yeah
tip 1; get the belt and hit them
Tip 2; get a spoon and hit them
Tip 3; get your flip flop and hit them
Tip 4; get a broom and hit them
Tip 5; use your hands to hit them
The main point here is... In a family, the mummy should be wise!
If my kid was slow at eating I would give them a smoothie or soup.
5 tips to get your child to listen to you without yelling
My mom: yeah
tip 1; get the belt and hit them
Tip 2; get a spoon and hit them
Tip 3; get your flip flop and hit them
Tip 4; get a broom and hit them
Tip 5; use your hands to hit them
@@elieanamm6408 hahahahah I relate so much to this lol
I liked that the video was short and helpful
Good info.
Thank you so much it works
1:45 if I talk disrespectful, I think my kids would learn from me and do it to their teachers or become bullies. It also bad for my throat to talk like that, just like yelling is according to google. If your kid is not listening ask them why , I recommend to not be rude because I lie to rude people so they are less rude to me
Thank you so much I got my 1 and 5 year old to listen my 1 year old Likes to run around and my 5 year old just doesn't listen and now there listening just fine people are asking me how did you get your kids to listen and I said TH-cam look it up on youtube.
I needed this
Agree sometimes we don’t know what to do and it’s good to have outside support.
Good advice!
Taking food to go should not be a solution which can encourage another behaviour. 😊
My parents also used to give us old food if we did not eat it the meal before or the day before. Yes! We got the talk about kids starving in Africa and India too.
Shouldn't really make a child speed eat because it can cause a eating disorder .
right ? What kind of advice is this??
Not speeding but you need to be assertive
Oh please.. that's not the point
Keep speech simple. Yes!
I am no expert and I’ve only been a mom for 4 years and all I gotta say is I would never force my children to eat fast or eat all their food. They know their body and know when they’re hungry. If they don’t want to eat and they have to go to school, they can eat at school where they get free food or I’ll pack them snacks and lunch. Why would you advise on starting an eating disorder? Goodness.
Every kid is different. If I don't force mine a little, she won't eat anything. When I encourage her, she eats. But I never force her to eat quickly or everything that's on her plate.
Good advise, for the kids. ;) short sentences for us men too, haha. Also killer Biceps!
I would also suggest not having screen at the table when it’s meal time.
Those menus that are books and have 30 to 100 options I just can’t I always have to tell my husband show me the menu before we get there of pick help me pick something and he knows me so we’ll he always picks good stuff.
How do you get your 3 year old to stop screaming no when I'm telling him to do something or not do something? And he doesn't listen for nothing. Locked me out of the house this morning, I had to break the back door down to get in. Smh this child
Two things
1. If your yelling the chances r , I think he learned from you.
2. I would ask him y he is doing that, if he is not answering. I would tell him that emotions always change following them can make a person unsatisfied. It’s ok if someone tells you what to do as long as they r not saying it in a mean tone,words, and facial expressions/mean faces. Or ask him how you should say it to him.
If your words are long I recommend acting out a scene about it with your husband or friend, infront of the child
I hope you and your child are happier now. If things are still rocky, watch some supernanny episodes on TH-cam. Take heart ❤ - you aren't the only one. You can help your child learn better behavior - believe that. 🌹
Take the power of no by not responding to it permanently and juts moving in and getting the child to do what you asked then to do. He’s small you can do this ! Take control ! 😊
Get the shoes, the shoes!!
I am always yelling 😭😭😭
Flaka B // me too :(
After asking nicely 6 times.. one tends to lose it... especially when its a daily issue
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Me too😩😩 and whoopin that ass lmao you gone learn the nice way or the way I grew up 🤣
I told the pediatrician that mine don't seem to listen. He checked their ears lmao. And he said "they're not deaf, they're just ignoring you" lol
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What if you ask them to repeat it and they wont.
Me and my husband never yell at our son, but he’s four and getting attitudes now lol he is having a hard time sleeping in his bed and gets upset with me then I get his dad and he stops 🙃
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It’s a lot harder when it’s a group of them
Yes that’s true, in our experience if use the same rule for all the children it will become the norm 😊
The #1 thing I can't get my 3-year-old to listen to is already very short and sweet, and that's "STOP." She'll be doing something (something actually bad too, I'm not just telling her to stop for no reason) and I say "Stop" or "PLEASE stop" or "[Her name,] stop that" or whatever. And a lot of times, especially if she's tired or something, she'll just completely not listen. She hears me just fine too, it's not like she's not paying attention and didn't here. And she'll laugh at me while continuing to do the thing again.
Anyone have any advice? PLEASE HELP 😅😭
Godspeed to you. I'm dealing with the same thing, so I'll let you know when I figure it out.
She still young to listen to words. So I personally think that you should stop her or take away the object from her and tell her "no don't touch" or "don't do that" and busy her with better like toys, and cartoon.
@@amineninja6111 She talks though, like, a lot, and uses a lot of words that are definitely big words for a 3-year-old, so even still do you think using words is the wrong approach, or is it different if the kid's verbal skills are really good? Just curious your thoughts. This kid can hold full conversations with adults, long ones. She said some random crazy stuff and you can tell when she sometimes doesn't quite get what you're explaining/saying, but she can keep up pretty well with what adults are talking about.
@@amineninja6111 3 yr Olds talk
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The kids be like - let's prove mommys wrong. 😂
What do you do if the child REFUSES to look at you? Throws a tantrum when you tell them to look at you? We can’t even progress to step 1! Help!
Kids don't know time though. They don't learn that until like 2nd/3rd grade.
My 3 yr old says he slept for 10 hours after a 1 hr nap.
Learning time isn’t necessary it isn’t time to learn about time it about principal. Everything has a beginning and an end.
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My mom has cancer. She paid the price for yelling at me.
I know what u mean, most people need to learn how to influence others without harming others and themselves. Yelling is bad for the throat. Anger can cause heart attacks I think . The reason y I list y harming others harm themselves because most people care about themselves rather than others.
@@aiphoneninja2452 thank you
How is your Mother now?
Good tips although eating slower tells your brain you are full and you don't over eat as much. Please do not rush your child to eat. I understand if you have to go somewhere but when possible, please do not.
1h and 30 minutes?! :D
This is all very behavioral
Babies loves yelling
Not true.
It's how they interpret, encode, and decode, sound...
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I think SOME of this is good advice. But the advice that whatever your child doesn’t eat at dinner he or she must eat at breakfast is SO WRONG on so many levels!! First of all studies have shown kids can eat small amounts and still be full. Parents often over feed their children, but kids eat what their bodies need and shouldn’t be forced to eat when their not hungry. That’s cruel. Would you like to eat old hard reheated spaghetti for breakfast? Also, kids crave variety. Some parents feed their kids the same old thing every morning or night for the week. Kids need to try new foods, fresh foods, and small portions. If they then finish all the small portions, then you give them more to eat. But to force them to eat and force them to eat their old dinner just makes them hate food, resent you and dinner time. Not helpful. How is this lady an expert anyway?
MoonKat here she trying to tell donot waste food and if will not finish he or she will get the same food in next meal she doesnot mean that you do it every time and put them in struggling for finishing food its just an abvoius manner to tell your child donot waste food and its neccasry to finish their food because its their body need for good health
I totally agree we you they don't need alot of food
Yes, my rule of thumb is to realize thier bodies are small, so feed only enough for the size of thier stomachs. And if they don't want to eat it, don't force.
Grew up eating seconds for breakfast because didnt have those options. Its awesome that you didnt have to do that but eating dinner for breakfast wont kill you esp if your a child that probably eats cereal or pop tarts. She never said eat the entire amount or what exactly it is. If the child is eating a healthy dinner having it again for breakfast won't lead to obesity. To add...when you give them time they learn they are given a time limit which is accurate. Are children given longer than an hour at school? Is that abuse or wrong no its life.
I agree with you all, I think the solution is soup and smoothies.
See this is why we have so many issues in our western society. Its being to light and a lack of a father figure. My 5 year old wouldn't dare have "selective listening" she does exactly what i tell her
Oh my god ! This is home not jail
Chill !
So don’t make them eat...but then give them a snack. No...
Anyone else come here for a preteen? Lol
If I tell my kid how much time she has, often she’ll say “what’s time? Time is a human thing. It’s not natural. We shouldn’t be ran by time.” 🤦♀️
mine had 15 minutes and had a timer. once it went off food was removed, done or not. scream all you want. he learned real fast he'd better the hell hurry.
Totally agree! In our experience kids learns very fast.
My mom always yells.
According to google yelling is bad for the throat
holy the host is buff af
Me sending this to my mom: 👁〰️👁
That’s such an American thing I grew up in Europe and all I ate before I went to school was a glass of chocolate milk then off to school breakfast at school was at 10.15am I wasn’t hungry at all before that ..,oh by the way I walked to school since I was 7 years old and my school was about 1 mile away !
2:23 pointing out how busy I am gives me anxiety to be honest
I would ask Lincoln what types of books or stories he likes and if he is not able 2 choose frm 2 I would give him more choices.
How to get your kidsbto listen:
Make sure they are looking at you.
Make sure they are repeating what you are saying.
Keep your sentence short. They will not remember long sentences.
Give less breakfast and take the rest to go. - to get them to eat breakfast.
Don't give them too much choice. Give smaller choice. - to get them to read 📚 . Example, choose between two books. instead of more.
Why is it always mommy? Why not daddy?
Comments like ‘keep it short for your spouses’ undermines your message and integrity.
“Whatever you didn’t eat for dinner, that’s your next meal.” This is the most horrible and cruel advice!!!
The people clapping have never had to live it obviously, I have.
. How would you (as a child) like squash and zucchini for breakfast every morning? I’m still Affected by it emotionally 37 years later, and almost became bulimic. It doesn’t make them eat things they don’t like, it just makes them go without breakfast! How many the adults would do the same thing to themselves? You won’t treat yourself that way but you’ll treat your children that way? Take the food you hate the most and force yourself to either eat it or have it for YOUR next meal! then do that again the next day and the next day. This is such cruel advice and I can’t believe somebody would suggest it in modern day. Absolutely shameful!
Your one hundred percent right ! I don't eat beetroot now because I was forced to eat it for breakfast lunch then dinner till it was all gone ! It makes me sick looking at it even discussing beetroot makes me sick ! I'm fifty three and I eat what ever I like not what I'm made to eat ! I'm healthy ! Kids will eat if they are hungry !
2:37...The tablet placed on the table is the obvious answer even before the analysis starts. Do parents not have common sense?
interesting for children. Thanks for hacking on men as well. We are all stooges. And you wonder why the divorce rate is huge.
??? Why are men any different?
I don't think it's a good idea to take the rest to go because I'll get it all over the car and blow up the car and the teacher doesn't want to be bogged with forcing them to eat so that's a bad idea.
No
Where the good stuff like how to get children, not just toddlers
5 tips to get your child to listen to you without yelling
My mom: yeah
tip 1; get the belt and hit them
Tip 2; get a spoon and hit them
Tip 3; get your flip flop and hit them
Tip 4; get a broom and hit them
Tip 5; use your hands to hit them
Oh, my first foster parents were like that. He would hit me with the belt. The thing was that I told them that my former guardian (my Vietnamese adoptive father) had hit me with a belt. I wonder if I did not tell my foster parents that, would they still hit me with a belt?? I resent and never forgave them for it. They would hit me excessively like crazy. None of those work at all.
hah that's if child like ls to listen to your story what if he doesn't care you thought about that?
hi everyone ,if anyone else wants to learn about how to discipline toddlers try Loctavan Teaching Toddler Strategy (just google it ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my m8 got amazing success with it.
Eye contact.
Repeat it back to me.
Keep the sentence short. Four words or less.
Rubbish advice …
Maybe you should rethink the way you talk about your spouse. Comparing them to speaking to the child is extremely disrespectful and hurtful. It teaches the child to have the same disrespect that you have. NOT a healthy parenting behavior.
I mean.. I can say it as long as I'm not around my child for them to hear it. Because have you lived with a man? They're children. (Women can be too but in my case...) Nothing wrong with a factual statement 😂
@@ashley20233 I'm sure you have an extremely healthy relationship and that your husband really appreciates that.
@@sferris5316 well happily together for 7 years and counting so yeah I'd say we are doing just fabulous 😂 Some people aren't offended by a FART.
I am so amazed that people work so hard. This channel has amazing content. Very much similar to what I have on @TaleTeller