Are you someone who identifies with being "shy"? 🤭Do you feel nervous when talking to others, telling yourself that you simply just "don't know what to say...?" Share your story below and tell me how you've overcame it or if you haven't yet, what tips you will be using to do so!
If you are not an evil person nor wish bad karma on anyone why hold back and close yourself to others? Accepting that got me past it and also realizing that the base of life are relations. We are all a product of human relationships at different levels and nothing could get accomplished without them.
wait - being alone, who will you speak out to? If you mean having an internal dialogue with yourself, then sure makes sense. Otherwise as an introverted approach it's OK to be alone - you just don't need to talk though
I don't speak to others because I feel like they'll quickly start judging me. And this starts a chain reaction in my mind and there comes negativity and awkwardness.
I’m shy, like *EXTREMELY* shy. Talking and socializing is the last thing on my list, people say I’m nice, quiet, and gentle all the time. Here’s something to never say to some one shy “Why don’t you ever talk” “wow you actually said something” those things make me not want to talk anymore. I have all those worries all the time. When someone I’m not close to comes up to me and talks to me, I freeze, I just say “yeah”, or just nod or laugh. The thought that comes to my head is “I bet they don’t like me because I’m shy” and now I know it is because I don’t talk to them. Being shy actually sucks edit: hi! i commented this 1 year ago, and i remember that i commented this because i felt like i wasn’t doing enough with my social skills. i wasn’t good at making friends, talking and standing up myself. i still am struggling with all of those things, but i still found a way to except myself with it and even thought it sucks and i hate myself for it, know it’ll get better:)
I feel you I already experienced it and it made me feel so down. But I realize that we just need to love ourselves and be confident. Now I changed, not that much but I could say I'm better now than before. It's all in our mindset, still sometimes I think of why I have this kind of personality or feeling when I'm in front of people
Yes its really true! I remember years ago when I had family gathering, my aunt deliberately asked if I was mute just because I didnt say anything. I was like wtf and it makes me feel more shy to speak. Until now it is still difficult for me to speak and most of it because I dont know what to say. My mind is busy thinking about what others think about me. This sucks and I really wanted to change but I just find it so difficult😭 well.. thats why I end up watching this video. Hopefully it will helps😢
am going to try first 2 steps hope they wl work ..i wl be applyng t from today to monday mayb by den i wl b hving a gud habit.aas thy say "it tkes 7 consecutive day to build a character...
I've been shy literally all my life. When I turned 13 I started forcing myself into social events without thinking twice, giving my name to literally everything that I have to socialize with other people. I even volunteered to work in a booth at school (It was like a celebration for something) and that forced me to talk to strangers and that decently made me more comfortable with speaking with other people. I started becoming less shy and I talk almost everyone without being shy. I'm 15 now and I still l lack confidence. I can speak with people but I look uncomfortable and get anxious sometimes. It gets awkward. I hope I'll become more confident with myself.
It is a life long process. Continual progress throughout the years is important, if you learn "everything" but just forget it later then it was a waste of time. Maintain skills and progress.
that's so inspiring!! i'm 17 and starting my journey now, i really feel like i'm going to become at least a little less shy. i'm working on self love and self expression too. we can do this :)
You’re on the right path. Half way there actually. Next step is to attain competence, that just takes time. I became a lot less shy when I felt like i could give informed information on something. Best of luck bud.
Don’t worry your like me I’m 16 and get really really shy to the fact that I get red but honestly this is a teen stage my mom even went through it and now she’s such a confident bubbly mom haha
Wow. This is so true. I used to be shy. Like my whole life...like for 30+ years. When I realized that I was shy because I was self focused, I just started interacting more with people based on the premise that everyone likes me and I started talking to people from a space of being interested in them and genuinely curious about them and no longer worrying about how I appear to them. After years of practice, I’m wayyyy less shy! Now, I’m just my natural normal weird self. 😂😉
Usually, there's a person in the comment section summarizing the video and getting tons of likes. let's see if that works!! a brief summary of the video; 4 tips to stop being shy: 1. Adopt a curious mindset (shift your attention from yourself to your partner) 2. Elaborate on your responses to your partner (explain more; not just one word) 3. Have a story to share (especially a hilarious one would do the trick) 4. Be present and listen intently (Listen to what your partner is saying and stop being out of the picture) Hope you guys enjoy! :D
In my experience there's 2 phases to overcoming shyness. The first is the obvious one, putting yourself in more social situations (which makes you more comfortable/confident in them). But for some people, we'll start to put on a persona and become too agreeable even when we don't want to be, and hold back our true thoughts or opinions. The 2nd phase is forcing yourself to just speak what's on your mind. That second phase is important for true freedom, and speaking authentically what you truly want to.
My shyness started when I was 8 Bc when I was gonna preset in front of class I stuttered and everyone started laughing at me I almost cried in tears, and I continued my presentation. When I came home my thoughts keep saying that I should stop talking , but I'm very talkative to my close friends and family I'm trying my best to get rid my shyness 🤗. Take care y'all ♥
Nobody is actually born with social anxiety... We just weren't thought enough to not be anxious when it comes to being in a social setting. We can actually learn and/or get used to it. It's going to be hard for some but it's not impossible tho. With help losing the fear is possible.
Lower self confidence and over self consciousness really comes in the way of communicating with other people. Shifting the focus from yourself to others is a really good tip.
This short video changed my life!!!! This not only prevents me from being shy but the method of “not thinking about yourself” works in lots of situations!
Most people are shy because they are scared of what people will think of them. If someone asks you "why dont you talk" or "wow you talked" will make someone lose confidence. And sometimes what will help is that if you treat a shy person like a person who is not shy they will feel normal and start talking more.
I used to be shy and i think it’s just that I’m focusing on myself, I think I’m clumsy and it always breaks when I want to express myself. I'm often afraid of being off topic
I have no idea how else to get rid of shyness but for me it’s having a career that gives you real joy and propels you forward in life, when you’re moving forward in life and having fun at the same time it creates a confidence like no other.
I understand you and I kinda managed to deal with the fear, I even recorded a video about it on my channel if you are interested in it. And have you ever tried to hide when some guest were at your home?
I can talk to my friend and be myself (I’m very weird) and I never can be myself around anyone else. I tip I like to remember is that: People always feel like their being judged by what they say or wear but the truth is that the people you think are judging you are really thinking that everyone is judging them.
After almost 2 years I eventually found you to say THANK YOU. It was the first random video I saw😊 that had sort of trigger for me..... Your video was the start of my transformation process.
I agree that shyness is a learned behavior and it doesn't help when others point it out because you tend to take on the qualities of shyness. I'm glad there are self help videos out there!
I'm one of those who had been shy when I'm in front of people, trying so hard to embrace my flaws and mistake and do learn from it. This is such a good tips, Well appreciated!💙
When I was a kid all teachers were happy that I never talk or play in class, and they would said that I was a saint and good kid. And I start believe that if I want to be a good kid I don't have to talk, only the necessary. And now, with 16 ( in 6 days 17) it's so complicated to be or to do something else. But now, no one thinks that a kid that doesn't talk is good. I feel uncomfortable at any place that's not my house. I have lost many friendship and the opportunity to make more because of this. But I going to start to change this!!
im one of these people so shy, by the used of vlogging im starting to overcome it. not focusing on my self but by other people. not to be afraid of being judge and what people might say instead im starting to embrace my flaws.
I've been shy a good portion of my life. I see pictures of myself as a child and my body language alone tells me I was always like that and it was practiced. Hiding behind my parents. Always fading in the background and I got too comfortable with that. I've been fighting hard to overcome it. I have to be the adult I needed as a child 🚸 to break free from this mindset. I am working to communicate clearly to become a strong leader. Get my points across to accomplish bigger things.
I was too confident when I was little . Because I wasn't insecure I wasn't pretty back then coz I didn't knew what's the beauty standards are So I never payed attention to that but my confidence level went down coz as I grew older I got acne and facial hair which were terrible it dragged my confidence down . As I grew older I started to groom myself and now I look at myself in the mirror and I feel beautiful I tell myself I'm beautiful it really helps 😊❤️ . I am still alittle shy . But I know its okay and I will again become that confident girl I once was .
This may sound funny but it helps to practice and imagine yourself having a conversation with your reflection in front of a mirror. Maintain eye contact as long as possible and get comfortable with it until it becomes natural to speak to someone that way.
These are really useful tips on how to stop being shy and becoming really confident. A lot of people do not realize that shyness can be dealt with. First, it has to be an intentional decision, then an acknowledgement and willingness to move out of your comfort zone. I find this relevant because I have been through a similar journey of moving from reserved to bold and confident and thankfully, I am more than willing to often share the useful tips that made me confident and vocal enough to engage on various platforms.
I feel like I can be really shy to speak and have a conversation with someone one day, and the next day I have more confident, and I can speak to everybody, Thats so hard to live with because I Don’t know if I’m going to get shy or not. And when I mean shy like one second I get so red and warm, it looks like I have workout haha.
I suggest telling them interesting stories when you were qt home or when you were little and be curious about his/hers also. As an example.. i talked to a stranger classmate in highschool qbout my gradeschool where we(elem buds) had a group project and i brought earthworms to class , thinking those were part of the project.. i then asked him of his embarrassing momments at the same time reasurring he is not feeling akward and such... then before i knew, we became lost in our own little convo..
I also suggest talking about your qnd their hobbies, likes or dislikes , fav movie, embarrassing experiences,what their doing now, what ..etc 2tip:Be determined enough to overcome your anxiety.. convince yourself (Also give a little prayer in your mind that you may communicate well with others qnd overcome your social anxiety) Cause these are what helped me overcome my social anxiety..heh i still have some left right now.. but not as much as before :>
What you are saying is totally right, im that kind person shy to speak to people because im thinking of myself too much whenever i talk with new friends. This video help me alot. Thank you.
Hi Linda! You really have that CHARISMA thing, which helps us to enjoy your advice and tips without getting bored or irritated to the speaker. Thank you, your videos are helpful!
Great tips! I’m always a shy person and still is somewhat. But now I totally understand where the shyness is coming from. It’s so true, I’m way to focus on myself image, too focused on what others will think/judge me. I will definitely remember to keep a curious mind. Thanks!
I love this! It really fits in my current situation. I moved here in the US and I just got my dream job, but the problem is that I am way too shy, to the point where it’s giving me a hard to connect with people. I agree with what you mentioned in the video, that I tend to focus too much on myself, being way too much worried on what others will think about me and the result is that I am actually putting myself in an awkward situation. I need to “delete” this shyness in me. I have to move forward and be curious! Glad that I have found this video! 😊 really helpful!
Hi I am a nursing student who experiences tough times when ever am been asked to do a presentation in the mist of my mates, buh I think u helped me a lot Keep it up
I really like the way you speak and talk, its my goal to speak the way you do. Another thing I like is that your extremely confident but not egotistical and threatening. Its the perfect amount of confidence while being very kind and open. When im confident sometimes i come has rude, which I want to correct.
i want to be a teacher and i am raised by a toxic/ abusive parents. i rarely talk in our house so i got used to it, now when i go outside and communicate with some people, it became really awkward and i always got shy because i always think what people will think of my opinion. watching one of these videos really helps me. :)
This is brilliant.. You are so helpful. I use to feel lick I was trapped when in a meeting with my boss and other co-workers cause u are right I was focused on how I feel not about the topic at hand.thanks Linda I'll do what u said in this video thankyou.
I’ve been diagnosed with asperger syndrome in middle school, so I just accepted my being shy like a part of me, I just avoid every social events and limit myself to do long lonely walks
This was absolutely fantastic. I have had my first week at my internship and my thoughts have mainly been about me not being good enough to be there and I see that these thoughts have made me very shy in the work place. Thank you for such a great video!
Wow,,I really enjoyed this lesson,,infact,I used to be shy but u know I like participating in class also school meeting but the moment I start my speech or presentation I jst made it quick/speed which is sign of shyness
That’s me I’m focus on my self, by watching this video, I have to learn how to switch my focus to the other person. Great video, I will keep watching until I get the hang of it.
I am always feel shy I am not confident enough with my self And if i am attending party or simple gathering i cant talk to them i dont know what to say
Hi Cristy Ann! I have the same problem and when I watched Velody's video it helps me a lot. You can visit Velody Official channel. She posts helpful videos on presenting & camera confidence every Thursday & is quick at answering questions in comments she can definitely help you! All the best!
This video of being shyness is true to me. I am focusing to myself to what other people might say about me,that's why it is so hard for me to talk to somebody especially if that somebody are strangers.
I tried hard to speak to a guy in my working place and then feeling nervous. The upper week we met at work again on the same spot but I step out to dodge myself thinking he will be talking to the other guy Indoors. Do you know he came out and joined me outside but this time we spoke very good for hours and I feel more confident and comfortable with him. Next time I hope it will be more better Smiles 😊😊
I'm still afraid to seem weird. I still think people aren't interested in what i say, that's why i put myself aside, and stand me away from people. Sometimes i can't stop being shy. It's a kind of shield.
Exactly! But here is the thing. In your own shyness ideas don't come up easy and you start giving simple answers: "Yes, of course", "Absolutely", .... etc.
Have just started watching this and I really love your energy Linda. You have such an honest, open bubbly loveable laugh : ) I'm looking forward to losing my shyness.
My problem of being shy is I am worried what other would think about me to much now that I have to focus on others while talking I am going to apply it in my daily life. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and God bless
As student, i have a lot of opinions to share with teacher and friends, however i am not confident. After watching this tips, i am more confident to talk and share my opinions to others . thank you for the tips .
Hey Rosalie! I’ve visited and watched Velody’s videos and it helps me a lot. You can visit the Velody Official Channel, which publishes helpful videos on presentation & camera confidence every Thursday, and is quick to answer questions in comments, she can certainly help! Best of luck
1. too consumed with self, in own head 2. curious mindset, shift focus to other person, news reporter/interview 3. have a story to share, situation, what you did, end result 4. be present and listen intently 5.
Thank u so much for this opportunity, been going through this for many years now. I always find it difficult talking to people especially in class bcuz im shy. I try working on myself but it's not working
Most definitely a lot times l would do that especially if don't know the person.I use to be outgoing and friendly but now a days l am careful who l would enter into a friendly conversation with.
I'm so shy that I can't really have an eye contact while talking and I will be going college next year and my course involve placement but im really scared that I might not be able to do it.
@@tiffanychester9960 hey. Sorry for the 3 years late reply. I would say I'm still the same in term of being shy. Now I'm in second yr of uni, studying nursing. I always thought I would grow out of my shyness but I didn’t unfortunately. I think my shyness have related to my low self-esteem and low self-confidence. I've self referred myself to get tested for any learning disabilities becoz of some signs and symptoms I've noticed. I'm hoping if it turns out I got learning disability, I'll get the right support which could increase my self-confidence etc. Because I do wanna go outside of my comfort zone. I would like to communicate and make friends without being shy.
every time i talk either people don’t listen or they talk over me. that’s why i stay to myself and just talk to the few people ik. and when people actually wanna get to know me i don’t know how to keep a conversation or it will just be awkward 😬
I think what you've said is basically right and true, Raised by a humble and quiet family will turn you into shy and lack of confidence to communicate with others, but if you want to be good like others you need to break that wall, a humble and shy into confident person.
When I try to talk to someone, my mouth goes dry and the best way I can explain it, is like when you wake up, and you try to scream but you just can’t. I want to talk to people so badly, but I just can’t. I know exactly what I want to say, but I can’t talk. I also only smile 10% of the time that I’m at school. I am bullied a lot too.
Great video! It’s true as shy people we need to put boundaries on our self awareness and spend more time focusing on the other person. Redirecting this focus is challenging but doable. I’ve been working on my communication skills for a while now and have used and agree with all of the tips mentioned. I love how you explained this topic. Thank you!
Are you someone who identifies with being "shy"? 🤭Do you feel nervous when talking to others, telling yourself that you simply just "don't know what to say...?" Share your story below and tell me how you've overcame it or if you haven't yet, what tips you will be using to do so!
Linda Raynier Thank you verry much
@Ancient Tomato Damn cuh too savage 😂
Did you get a tan?
Yes am shy and when am asked question I became nervous to answer and even during presentation
Thx so much dear Linda
Wen speaking with someone and his full focus with me directly I m getting confuse and stop speaking
Please help me with this
I think being shy sometimes can be lack of confidence, or worried about what people think of you
I always feel that
Am always shy , i even find it discuss to speak
If you are not an evil person nor wish bad karma on anyone why hold back and close yourself to others? Accepting that got me past it and also realizing that the base of life are relations. We are all a product of human relationships at different levels and nothing could get accomplished without them.
michaela banks Y E S
Im a very shy person even when i walk up infront of people i think that they are talkin abt me
I feel too shy to speak infront of people. But when i was alone i feel confident to speck out.
Me too
wait - being alone, who will you speak out to? If you mean having an internal dialogue with yourself, then sure makes sense. Otherwise as an introverted approach it's OK to be alone - you just don't need to talk though
Same
Me too
Me too
I don't speak to others because I feel like they'll quickly start judging me. And this starts a chain reaction in my mind and there comes negativity and awkwardness.
Same!!
sameeee
I am same as you before
same..haha
Sounds like social anxiety. Try meditating or taking deep breaths
I am such a shy person, I can’t talk in public and I don’t like that. I want to be confident in addressing people or presenting anything at all.
03:41 - Adopt a curious mindset.
04:50 - Elaborate on your responses.
05:15 - Have story to share.
06:10 - Be present and listen intently.
Underrated
Thank you
And don't focus on yourself rather focus on the other person or situation.
Thank you sir 💐.
I’m not a good story~teller.😣
I am shy but I am talkative. You know that feeling?
I know what you mean 😂😂😂
I am 2
Hahahaha same here 😂😂😂😂
same here
same
I’m shy, like *EXTREMELY* shy. Talking and socializing is the last thing on my list, people say I’m nice, quiet, and gentle all the time. Here’s something to never say to some one shy “Why don’t you ever talk” “wow you actually said something” those things make me not want to talk anymore. I have all those worries all the time. When someone I’m not close to comes up to me and talks to me, I freeze, I just say “yeah”, or just nod or laugh. The thought that comes to my head is “I bet they don’t like me because I’m shy” and now I know it is because I don’t talk to them. Being shy actually sucks
edit: hi! i commented this 1 year ago, and i remember that i commented this because i felt like i wasn’t doing enough with my social skills. i wasn’t good at making friends, talking and standing up myself.
i still am struggling with all of those things, but i still found a way to except myself with it and even thought it sucks and i hate myself for it, know it’ll get better:)
Same wtf someone said why don’t I talk I said I didn’t know no one on that class wtf how I was knew on that class
I feel you I already experienced it and it made me feel so down. But I realize that we just need to love ourselves and be confident. Now I changed, not that much but I could say I'm better now than before. It's all in our mindset, still sometimes I think of why I have this kind of personality or feeling when I'm in front of people
I really hate it when they're questioning me why i dont talk!
@@aeiou9423 right!
Yes its really true! I remember years ago when I had family gathering, my aunt deliberately asked if I was mute just because I didnt say anything. I was like wtf and it makes me feel more shy to speak. Until now it is still difficult for me to speak and most of it because I dont know what to say. My mind is busy thinking about what others think about me. This sucks and I really wanted to change but I just find it so difficult😭 well.. thats why I end up watching this video. Hopefully it will helps😢
I agree too much self-consciousness can really affect our way of dealing with others.
soon md indeed,I went through it and it's definitely not a good feeling
soon md true and I don’t want to be like this 😭
am going to try first 2 steps hope they wl work ..i wl be applyng t from today to monday mayb by den i wl b hving a gud habit.aas thy say "it tkes 7 consecutive day to build a character...
Yeah and that's my problem. Im always after what people are thinking of me, if they want me or not and it's disgusting
I've been shy literally all my life. When I turned 13 I started forcing myself into social events without thinking twice, giving my name to literally everything that I have to socialize with other people. I even volunteered to work in a booth at school (It was like a celebration for something) and that forced me to talk to strangers and that decently made me more comfortable with speaking with other people. I started becoming less shy and I talk almost everyone without being shy. I'm 15 now and I still l lack confidence. I can speak with people but I look uncomfortable and get anxious sometimes. It gets awkward. I hope I'll become more confident with myself.
Kudos to you for putting yourself out there, and bettering yourself. 👍
It is a life long process. Continual progress throughout the years is important, if you learn "everything" but just forget it later then it was a waste of time. Maintain skills and progress.
that's so inspiring!! i'm 17 and starting my journey now, i really feel like i'm going to become at least a little less shy. i'm working on self love and self expression too. we can do this :)
You’re on the right path. Half way there actually. Next step is to attain competence, that just takes time. I became a lot less shy when I felt like i could give informed information on something. Best of luck bud.
Don’t worry your like me I’m 16 and get really really shy to the fact that I get red but honestly this is a teen stage my mom even went through it and now she’s such a confident bubbly mom haha
Wow. This is so true. I used to be shy. Like my whole life...like for 30+ years. When I realized that I was shy because I was self focused, I just started interacting more with people based on the premise that everyone likes me and I started talking to people from a space of being interested in them and genuinely curious about them and no longer worrying about how I appear to them. After years of practice, I’m wayyyy less shy! Now, I’m just my natural normal weird self. 😂😉
That's Great News! Way to Go!
Wow I’ve been shy for the longest and I’ve been trying to work on it .
Lovely
Thanks for sharing ❤
Finally, people in the comments down below who understand me. Can we all just make a club and become friends?
Yes
yess plss
Yes
yes let's do it
Yesss
Usually, there's a person in the comment section summarizing the video and getting tons of likes. let's see if that works!!
a brief summary of the video; 4 tips to stop being shy:
1. Adopt a curious mindset (shift your attention from yourself to your partner)
2. Elaborate on your responses to your partner (explain more; not just one word)
3. Have a story to share (especially a hilarious one would do the trick)
4. Be present and listen intently (Listen to what your partner is saying and stop being out of the picture)
Hope you guys enjoy! :D
Liked!💚
ATLEAST IT'S BEEN A DOSEN OF LIKES :)
@@KM-sf6zy haha ... Yeah better than nothing😂
Not all heroes wear capes lmao thanks dude 😂
Thank you 🙏🏾.
Being shy is really effecting my everyday life, I blush so much when talking to people
OMG SAME!
In my experience there's 2 phases to overcoming shyness. The first is the obvious one, putting yourself in more social situations (which makes you more comfortable/confident in them). But for some people, we'll start to put on a persona and become too agreeable even when we don't want to be, and hold back our true thoughts or opinions. The 2nd phase is forcing yourself to just speak what's on your mind. That second phase is important for true freedom, and speaking authentically what you truly want to.
My shyness started when I was 8 Bc when I was gonna preset in front of class I stuttered and everyone started laughing at me I almost cried in tears, and I continued my presentation. When I came home my thoughts keep saying that I should stop talking , but I'm very talkative to my close friends and family I'm trying my best to get rid my shyness 🤗. Take care y'all ♥
The same exact thing happened to me! I was probably about 10yrs old... I too, am very talkative 😊 Have a great day!
My shyness started when i was 9
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Some of us are anxious in social situations simply because we are naturally born that way. We are not necessarily focused on ourselves.
chuck, you get it. never here doctors say this.
It's totally true! I'm agree with you 😮
Chuck Geer some of us have ptsd. Easy for her to say. I start shaking even when I am trying so hard to listen
Nobody is actually born with social anxiety... We just weren't thought enough to not be anxious when it comes to being in a social setting. We can actually learn and/or get used to it. It's going to be hard for some but it's not impossible tho. With help losing the fear is possible.
@@madilynandujar7155 I was. I suffer from AvPD and inherited from my father.
Tip #5: *Accept Yourself*
accept my mystakes ? id rather work on it, i dont like this kind of mindset that u are sharing
Lower self confidence and over self consciousness really comes in the way of communicating with other people. Shifting the focus from yourself to others is a really good tip.
Am shy because i was born into a culture where women are expected to be humble.. am glad i was able to hear this..
You’ll grow out of it they said...
Yup. I feel like ive grown into it instead, and it’s like my thing now 😂
I hate it I hate it I hate it so much no matter how much I try
They were wrong......
I didnt even grow.
Avelyse Odle relatable
This short video changed my life!!!! This not only prevents me from being shy but the method of “not thinking about yourself” works in lots of situations!
Most people are shy because they are scared of what people will think of them. If someone asks you "why dont you talk" or "wow you talked" will make someone lose confidence. And sometimes what will help is that if you treat a shy person like a person who is not shy they will feel normal and start talking more.
I used to be shy and i think it’s just that I’m focusing on myself, I think I’m clumsy and it always breaks when I want to express myself. I'm often afraid of being off topic
I think shyness is a habit, so we have to break it by practicing. 🙂
I have no idea how else to get rid of shyness but for me it’s having a career that gives you real joy and propels you forward in life, when you’re moving forward in life and having fun at the same time it creates a confidence like no other.
True! There is also something called "power posing"!
OMG What she's saying is so true 😟😟
I'm always talking to myself rather than talking out.
I understand you and I kinda managed to deal with the fear, I even recorded a video about it on my channel if you are interested in it. And have you ever tried to hide when some guest were at your home?
I can talk to my friend and be myself (I’m very weird) and I never can be myself around anyone else. I tip I like to remember is that: People always feel like their being judged by what they say or wear but the truth is that the people you think are judging you are really thinking that everyone is judging them.
I totally agree if you shift focus from yourself to others it really helps! Great video
It is so interesting I love it
1)Adopt a curious mindset
2)Elaborate on your responses
3) Have a story to share
4) Be present and listen intently
After almost 2 years I eventually found you to say THANK YOU. It was the first random video I saw😊 that had sort of trigger for me..... Your video was the start of my transformation process.
How have you dealt with this condition?
@@sbodlamini7476 all our answers are inside us ...
I'm not sure abt that......I've tried everything but the panic and anxiety persists......
@@sbodlamini7476 a ok. When a person says I can or I cannot , in both cases she /he is right .....
I agree that shyness is a learned behavior and it doesn't help when others point it out because you tend to take on the qualities of shyness. I'm glad there are self help videos out there!
I'm one of those who had been shy when I'm in front of people, trying so hard to embrace my flaws and mistake and do learn from it. This is such a good tips, Well appreciated!💙
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Thank you 💕
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When I was a kid all teachers were happy that I never talk or play in class, and they would said that I was a saint and good kid. And I start believe that if I want to be a good kid I don't have to talk, only the necessary. And now, with 16 ( in 6 days 17) it's so complicated to be or to do something else. But now, no one thinks that a kid that doesn't talk is good. I feel uncomfortable at any place that's not my house. I have lost many friendship and the opportunity to make more because of this. But I going to start to change this!!
im one of these people so shy, by the used of vlogging im starting to overcome it. not focusing on my self but by other people. not to be afraid of being judge and what people might say instead im starting to embrace my flaws.
I've been shy a good portion of my life. I see pictures of myself as a child and my body language alone tells me I was always like that and it was practiced. Hiding behind my parents. Always fading in the background and I got too comfortable with that. I've been fighting hard to overcome it. I have to be the adult I needed as a child 🚸 to break free from this mindset. I am working to communicate clearly to become a strong leader. Get my points across to accomplish bigger things.
i am quiet person i dont usually a social person i only speak when needed. thanks for help
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so Introvert
I was too confident when I was little . Because I wasn't insecure I wasn't pretty back then coz I didn't knew what's the beauty standards are So I never payed attention to that but my confidence level went down coz as I grew older I got acne and facial hair which were terrible it dragged my confidence down . As I grew older I started to groom myself and now I look at myself in the mirror and I feel beautiful I tell myself I'm beautiful it really helps 😊❤️ . I am still alittle shy . But I know its okay and I will again become that confident girl I once was .
Hello
Same here 😭💔
Me too ! I was super bold now I need to let go of my insecure parts of me and my nervousness
You looks good tho
I'm severely shy and my eye contact is horrid. I ramble and laugh at weird times due to nervousness
binky Faith looks the person in the middle of there eyes that usually helps
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Saaaame
Lol u funny
This may sound funny but it helps to practice and imagine yourself having a conversation with your reflection in front of a mirror. Maintain eye contact as long as possible and get comfortable with it until it becomes natural to speak to someone that way.
These are really useful tips on how to stop being shy and becoming really confident. A lot of people do not realize that shyness can be dealt with. First, it has to be an intentional decision, then an acknowledgement and willingness to move out of your comfort zone. I find this relevant because I have been through a similar journey of moving from reserved to bold and confident and thankfully, I am more than willing to often share the useful tips that made me confident and vocal enough to engage on various platforms.
I feel like I can be really shy to speak and have a conversation with someone one day, and the next day I have more confident, and I can speak to everybody, Thats so hard to live with because I Don’t know if I’m going to get shy or not. And when I mean shy like one second I get so red and warm, it looks like I have workout haha.
I feel like i have nothing to add to any conversation bc im a super homebody!
Nicki B omg yes! I have no stories to tell😭
Same,i dont know what to say😔
Yes
I suggest telling them interesting stories when you were qt home or when you were little and be curious about his/hers also.
As an example.. i talked to a stranger classmate in highschool qbout my gradeschool where we(elem buds) had a group project and i brought earthworms to class , thinking those were part of the project.. i then asked him of his embarrassing momments at the same time reasurring he is not feeling akward and such... then before i knew, we became lost in our own little convo..
I also suggest talking about your qnd their hobbies, likes or dislikes , fav movie, embarrassing experiences,what their doing now, what ..etc
2tip:Be determined enough to overcome your anxiety.. convince yourself
(Also give a little prayer in your mind that you may communicate well with others qnd overcome your social anxiety)
Cause these are what helped me overcome my social anxiety..heh i still have some left right now.. but not as much as before :>
I am also a shy person and I agree with all the things that you discussed and its very helpful for me
What you are saying is totally right, im that kind person shy to speak to people because im thinking of myself too much whenever i talk with new friends. This video help me alot. Thank you.
I am very shy to talk but I was very talkative and very confident.. I think so many are like me
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Hi, please consider making a podcast. I would love to listen to you during my morning commute to work.
You can download this video and convert it to mp3
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Hi Linda! You really have that CHARISMA thing, which helps us to enjoy your advice and tips without getting bored or irritated to the speaker. Thank you, your videos are helpful!
Great tips! I’m always a shy person and still is somewhat. But now I totally understand where the shyness is coming from. It’s so true, I’m way to focus on myself image, too focused on what others will think/judge me. I will definitely remember to keep a curious mind. Thanks!
I feel sooo shy honestly 😌
But I always feel free and comfortable when I'm alone
You are absolutely wright because it happens with me all the time. When I talks to others .
I love this! It really fits in my current situation. I moved here in the US and I just got my dream job, but the problem is that I am way too shy, to the point where it’s giving me a hard to connect with people. I agree with what you mentioned in the video, that I tend to focus too much on myself, being way too much worried on what others will think about me and the result is that I am actually putting myself in an awkward situation. I need to “delete” this shyness in me. I have to move forward and be curious! Glad that I have found this video! 😊 really helpful!
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Hi I am a nursing student who experiences tough times when ever am been asked to do a presentation in the mist of my mates, buh I think u helped me a lot
Keep it up
Caesar Asaah same here 💕
I really like the way you speak and talk, its my goal to speak the way you do. Another thing I like is that your extremely confident but not egotistical and threatening. Its the perfect amount of confidence while being very kind and open. When im confident sometimes i come has rude, which I want to correct.
i want to be a teacher and i am raised by a toxic/ abusive parents. i rarely talk in our house so i got used to it, now when i go outside and communicate with some people, it became really awkward and i always got shy because i always think what people will think of my opinion. watching one of these videos really helps me. :)
Thank you for your information. I will try what you presented.
This is brilliant.. You are so helpful. I use to feel lick I was trapped when in a meeting with my boss and other co-workers cause u are right I was focused on how I feel not about the topic at hand.thanks Linda I'll do what u said in this video thankyou.
I’ve been diagnosed with asperger syndrome in middle school, so I just accepted my being shy like a part of me, I just avoid every social events and limit myself to do long lonely walks
This was absolutely fantastic. I have had my first week at my internship and my thoughts have mainly been about me not being good enough to be there and I see that these thoughts have made me very shy in the work place. Thank you for such a great video!
Wow,,I really enjoyed this lesson,,infact,I used to be shy but u know I like participating in class also school meeting but the moment I start my speech or presentation I jst made it quick/speed which is sign of shyness
That’s me I’m focus on my self, by watching this video, I have to learn how to switch my focus to the other person. Great video, I will keep watching until I get the hang of it.
Thank you. You’re really a big help to us. Im so shy , i get nervous when i speak to someone im not close with.
@2:39 How she just read my whole social life like that?
Miss Mani me too
Bruh she knows U
I am always feel shy
I am not confident enough with my self
And if i am attending party or simple gathering i cant talk to them i dont know what to say
Hi Cristy Ann! I have the same problem and when I watched Velody's video it helps me a lot. You can visit Velody Official channel. She posts helpful videos on presenting & camera confidence every Thursday & is quick at answering questions in comments she can definitely help you! All the best!
Me too, i hate being a shy type person,😑😑😏, anybody here to please help me how to overcome my lack of self confident.
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This video of being shyness is true to me. I am focusing to myself to what other people might say about me,that's why it is so hard for me to talk to somebody especially if that somebody are strangers.
I tried hard to speak to a guy in my working place and then feeling nervous. The upper week we met at work again on the same spot but I step out to dodge myself thinking he will be talking to the other guy Indoors. Do you know he came out and joined me outside but this time we spoke very good for hours and I feel more confident and comfortable with him. Next time I hope it will be more better Smiles 😊😊
I'm still afraid to seem weird. I still think people aren't interested in what i say, that's why i put myself aside, and stand me away from people. Sometimes i can't stop being shy. It's a kind of shield.
I feel you
Everytime Im reporting in front of my classmate I get so nervous, and it cause me so much stress, cause I feel like they gonna judge me.
You are your harshest critic
Though “Humble” is different than shy - just a note
Thank you 😢You absolutely right...
Excellent video! Shy person here and everything you said is absolutely true!! Very helpful tips that I'll start implementing immediately! Thank you!
Exactly! But here is the thing. In your own shyness ideas don't come up easy and you start giving simple answers: "Yes, of course", "Absolutely", .... etc.
The key is to break the walls. Please share something about this 😅
Have just started watching this and I really love your energy Linda. You have such an honest, open bubbly loveable laugh : ) I'm looking forward to losing my shyness.
Linda thanks for helping me, YOU amd YOUR WAYS of speaking is beautiful
My problem of being shy is I am worried what other would think about me to much now that I have to focus on others while talking I am going to apply it in my daily life. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and God bless
We build too many walls and not enough bridges! Linda, i love that quote so much!
Confidence is the key! Thanks Linda
you were very helpful and what you said was unbelievably true
I get shy and nervous when I talk in a group setting. Working on overcoming my fear.
I love this chanel because while I'm learning how to be a better professional, I also improve my English skills! Thank you, Linda! You're awesome!
As student, i have a lot of opinions to share with teacher and friends, however i am not confident. After watching this tips, i am more confident to talk and share my opinions to others . thank you for the tips .
I do understand what they’re conveying with me is just that I became nervous then my mind get blank ...i need to improve my confidence i guess
Hey Rosalie! I’ve visited and watched Velody’s videos and it helps me a lot. You can visit the Velody Official Channel, which publishes helpful videos on presentation & camera confidence every Thursday, and is quick to answer questions in comments, she can certainly help! Best of luck
I am from South Korea and this is exactly what I have been looking for
JH S mee too
Thanks for the advice Linda R. I'll try to always listen attentively when in a conversation and also be able to stop focusing on myself
1. too consumed with self, in own head
2. curious mindset, shift focus to other person, news reporter/interview
3. have a story to share, situation, what you did, end result
4. be present and listen intently
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Thank u so much for this opportunity, been going through this for many years now. I always find it difficult talking to people especially in class bcuz im shy. I try working on myself but it's not working
...we build to many walls and not enough bridges...good advice!!!!
The only gate I know, is the golden gate bridge.. smh lol
I am also shy person during I speak to someone I don't know how can I speak 😊
Most definitely a lot times l would do that especially if don't know the person.I use to be outgoing and friendly but now a days l am careful who l would enter into a friendly conversation with.
I'm so shy that I can't really have an eye contact while talking and I will be going college next year and my course involve placement but im really scared that I might not be able to do it.
I felt the same but I just got myself blending in
Me too
A Diallo how are you doing now, I’m starting college this fall at Towson university.
What happened to you
@@tiffanychester9960 hey. Sorry for the 3 years late reply. I would say I'm still the same in term of being shy. Now I'm in second yr of uni, studying nursing. I always thought I would grow out of my shyness but I didn’t unfortunately. I think my shyness have related to my low self-esteem and low self-confidence. I've self referred myself to get tested for any learning disabilities becoz of some signs and symptoms I've noticed. I'm hoping if it turns out I got learning disability, I'll get the right support which could increase my self-confidence etc. Because I do wanna go outside of my comfort zone. I would like to communicate and make friends without being shy.
every time i talk either people don’t listen or they talk over me. that’s why i stay to myself and just talk to the few people ik. and when people actually wanna get to know me i don’t know how to keep a conversation or it will just be awkward 😬
I think what you've said is basically right and true, Raised by a humble and quiet family will turn you into shy and lack of confidence to communicate with others, but if you want to be good like others you need to break that wall, a humble and shy into confident person.
When I try to talk to someone, my mouth goes dry and the best way I can explain it, is like when you wake up, and you try to scream but you just can’t. I want to talk to people so badly, but I just can’t. I know exactly what I want to say, but I can’t talk. I also only smile 10% of the time that I’m at school. I am bullied a lot too.
Great video! It’s true as shy people we need to put boundaries on our self awareness and spend more time focusing on the other person. Redirecting this focus is challenging but doable. I’ve been working on my communication skills for a while now and have used and agree with all of the tips mentioned. I love how you explained this topic. Thank you!
This was a problem for so long, especially on camera. Thanks so much for sharing your tips with us. 🖤
When people ask me how I am, I always say “good”
I can’t stop please help me.!!!! ☹️
Yeah you are not alone l hate my life nowadays😏
U could still say good, but ask them how they are, and what they've been doing lately, and if they ask u that, elaborate 😉
Thank you, these seem like very good tips 👍
Yes I will shy am call to do something thanks dear
I’m shy when i like a guy and can’t speak or be myself 😩this can give the impression im lack of confidence or dump or boring
I guessed this is me.Thank you for this amazing video..
This is exactly happen to me! Thank you for your tips, it's help me to be confident
Linda, both you and your dog are super cute! Thanks for all of your clips!
Great, the reason is true, we think about ourselves, our look etc too much instead if being focused on the other person