The corporate world is not built for introverts. No matter how "outspoken" I am in the workplace, my colleagues expect me to talk through the whole 8 hours. It's so tiring 😢 I excel better in silence.
I never spoke up at meetings. About two years ago, I gave myself a challenge to ask at least two questions and comment at least twice in every meeting I attend at work. It doesn’t matter if it’s a group of 5 or 50. It is hard but I force myself to do this and overtime it has become a little easier for me to speak up at meetings. I am currently in a role where I facilitate meetings of over an hour during which I am expected to do the most talking. I also make use of my voice recording on my phone instead a journal. This allows me to listen to how I sound, my pace, and enunciation.
I love this! Thanks for sharing, as a corporate girly who really needs to improve her confidence and communication, I’m gonna give this a try. Goodluck as well! ❤
@@AdamaLornaSN: you think it’s your voice their complimenting?😅 you’re well spoken, but you look good doing it. You’re a woman. People indirectly and respectfully compliment your face and body. ❤
Thank you very much for this, I learnt a lot! Two tips I'd like to add: 1. ELIMINATE FILLER WORDS. Fight them like your life depends on it. Too many people these days say "like" at least five times in two sentences! "Like" may not be the filler word you use, it may be “umm”, or “you know”, etc. Whatever it is, train yourself to eliminate it. 2. If you're asked a question you don't have a prepared answer for, feel free to pause to properly articulate your thoughts before speaking. This kills two birds with a stone because it also creates anticipation in the listener.
@@4nd3ll hi! Sure. I’m no professional, but I’d be glad to let you know what worked for me. Firstly, I identified the filler words I used, and became hyper aware of my use of them. This way, it was easy for me to catch myself before using them. Secondly, as the name “filler words” implies, we tend to use them as crutches when we’re talking faster than our brains are thinking, so we get to a point where we’re unsure of what to say next. That being said, use the second tip in my original comment. Before you start speaking, and when you catch yourself about to use them, pause to properly gather and articulate your thoughts, then speak. Thirdly, (building on the foundation of my second point), speak slower. This is another way to gain time to gather your thoughts. It also makes you sound relaxed and confident, which again is killing two birds with a stone. Hope this helps!
@@wizben3135me too! But I actually learned to cure it without knowing it. I had best friends, and my own son and boyfriend had no idea that I stuttered. What helped me was practicing in the mirror talking and DOING A LOT OF SINGING IN THE CAR! There’s something about the breath work and moving the mouth a certain way that helps articulate and flow better when talking. Also, Health wise, stay away from sugar and caffeine I noticed, when I’m stressed I stutter more. Keep your anxiety level levels, breath in and out slowly, when you feel that you’re going to stutter slow down what you’re saying, it’ll signal the body to relax and you can get the words out easier. Sometimes I’ll clear my throat and then try again with the word im struggling with.
Thanks for this. I struggle with public speaking and story telling. I think it's because I think of so many things at the same time and also very conscious of myself. But I'm actively working on this. Going back to reading 📚. I even started a TH-cam Channel😊 to help improve my confidence and fluency. Cross your fingers for me.
Im a nursing student who needs to learn to speak with conviction. I am a receptionist who speaks very friendly welcoming and people pleasing. I need to learn better to be confident and firm while still being kind and caring.
The ability to public speak is something designated purposely for the reason that we can better inform, persuade, entertain, and the like. Additionally, it's essential for wielding connection with others and articulating your voice to the world.
I have never heard anyone use Jazz music in the background of their video. I am so intrigued!! Also, your tips were amazing and didn’t feel complicated ❤❤ thank you!!
I have adhd & I get lost in my thoughts. Sometimes when someone is speaking to me, I zone out or start wondering what they think about me or what I’m saying. It’s annoying & weird.
Just a few hours before this video came out on my recommended section. I had written down that I wanted to learn how to speak. Thank you for this video very enlightening and easily explained video!
You are definitely worthy to speak on public speaking. I enjoyed this so much and learned a lot. I need to learn to pace myself better. I could be quite fast when speaking.
In this HIGH digital age where everything we do is online or on an app and very little is in person, it’ is more critical than ever to be able to present ourselves with our voice as well as our looks. I see so many TH-cam videos where the person cannot pronounce words, misuses words to mean something they don’t mean or does not enunciate clearly and it ruins the video for me. I generally turn it off. There’s so much focus on looks currently but if people open their mouth and it’s not as well-pleasing to the ear as their look is meant to be to the eye, I don’t stay. Speaking well is so important, on every level. I’d like to see us spend more time, effort and attention on it. 🌱
I struggle to speak to other people in public, even my peers. Sometimes I think I might have communication apprehension, but I found this video quite helpful. Thank you ❤.
I just came across your video now and I am so inspired, i actually watched it till the very end. Actually, my teeth make me shy away from public speaking and I don't know if I can ever correct that. Speaking is actually one of the things I enjoy. Anyways, you've got a new subscriber 🤍
This is your second video that I watch and I remember when I watched the first I said to myself “I wish talked like her” (english is not my first language). Loved this video 💖
Hold on I'm only 14 seconds in this video I clicked on it because of the title but put my phone aside just to listen while doing chores, and ohhhh the VOICE had me want to look back at my phone like WHO'S THIS QUEEN SPEAKING RIGHT NOW WITH THIS VOICE😭😍❤
I’ve seen many videos on improving conversation skills and yours bring much different and in my opinion more useful points. Also it is true that your voice is magnificent so it is a pure pleasure to listen to you :)
This was such a helpful video. I think I’ve gotten stuck in the “how to speak” books instead of actually analysing speeches I come across. I love your technique and will apply that to the speeches I found engaging and captivating. Keep up the good work🫶🏿
Analyzing speeches for Ted Talks helped me out a lot! I do presentations for my job all the time and everyone says how much of a natural I am, engaging, and knowledgeable but 10 years ago I would have never been in this place. The best thing is, I am still so excited about the growth I can make. Good luck and God bless.
Ooooo Gurl I needed thissss 😭I really want to know how to speak super clearly. I stumble over my words a lot and I want to sound believable when speaking😅
Thank you so much! I’m not looking to or comfortable doing hair videos atm but I do appreciate it. I’ve mostly just learned from the wealth of hair videos already on youtube though! 🤍
I really love everything about this video ❤i qm learning and trying so hard to improve on how i speak because i am a business student,,, thank you for this 🙏
That you so much I’ve struggled with speaking to others I tend to listen to myself and start to subconsciously say things like “we hi sound like Omgosh get to it, are you rambling?” And they I start to stutter. When I’m with some I’m comfortable with I’m good at articulating my ideas
We definitely all have our challenges when it comes to public speaking. Hopefully implementing some of these tips will help you feel more comfortable when in these situations 😊
I am so insecure about my voice, it is so quiet, i talk a lot but ppl have difficulty hearing me in loud settings. I have no issue speaking in silence. Its so hard to project in loud rooms
Just came across this video and really enjoyed listening. Communication is one of the things I am hoping to build on. Adama, please provide a potential reading list of some of the books that you have read in the past and have found enjoyable or even would suggest as a good read?
Thank you for this. This video has so many gems that will help me on my journey to becoming more confident in my speaking. You mentioned how preparation helped you in your career even though you didn’t have a degree in tech; do you have a video discussing that a little more?
The corporate world is not built for introverts. No matter how "outspoken" I am in the workplace, my colleagues expect me to talk through the whole 8 hours. It's so tiring 😢 I excel better in silence.
i relate to this sooo much!
Me not wanting to talk all day in meetings, or small talk about random things has caused me to be called "intimidating"
@@Emaniwilsonwaaaw 🥲
You have to learn how to adjust.
Same🥲
I never spoke up at meetings. About two years ago, I gave myself a challenge to ask at least two questions and comment at least twice in every meeting I attend at work. It doesn’t matter if it’s a group of 5 or 50. It is hard but I force myself to do this and overtime it has become a little easier for me to speak up at meetings. I am currently in a role where I facilitate meetings of over an hour during which I am expected to do the most talking. I also make use of my voice recording on my phone instead a journal. This allows me to listen to how I sound, my pace, and enunciation.
Love this! It’s very practical and trackable. Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏾✨
Great idea! It's really about taking action and that includes pushing yourself.
I love this! Thanks for sharing, as a corporate girly who really needs to improve her confidence and communication, I’m gonna give this a try. Goodluck as well! ❤
Thank you for sharing this❤
@@AdamaLornaSN: you think it’s your voice their complimenting?😅 you’re well spoken, but you look good doing it. You’re a woman. People indirectly and respectfully compliment your face and body. ❤
Thank you very much for this, I learnt a lot!
Two tips I'd like to add:
1. ELIMINATE FILLER WORDS. Fight them like your life depends on it. Too many people these days say "like" at least five times in two sentences! "Like" may not be the filler word you use, it may be “umm”, or “you know”, etc. Whatever it is, train yourself to eliminate it.
2. If you're asked a question you don't have a prepared answer for, feel free to pause to properly articulate your thoughts before speaking. This kills two birds with a stone because it also creates anticipation in the listener.
This is really good advice
Wow! Thank you! I use 'like' a lot.
This! Especially the second one is something that I've been thinking about a lot lately and I'm getting more and more into it.
do you have any tips for eliminating filler words?
@@4nd3ll hi! Sure. I’m no professional, but I’d be glad to let you know what worked for me.
Firstly, I identified the filler words I used, and became hyper aware of my use of them. This way, it was easy for me to catch myself before using them.
Secondly, as the name “filler words” implies, we tend to use them as crutches when we’re talking faster than our brains are thinking, so we get to a point where we’re unsure of what to say next.
That being said, use the second tip in my original comment. Before you start speaking, and when you catch yourself about to use them, pause to properly gather and articulate your thoughts, then speak.
Thirdly, (building on the foundation of my second point), speak slower. This is another way to gain time to gather your thoughts. It also makes you sound relaxed and confident, which again is killing two birds with a stone.
Hope this helps!
As introvert the work we have to put in is like double!
I get it, trust me!
Triple 😅😢
Am an introvert who stutters !
@@wizben3135this is me too!
@@wizben3135me too! But I actually learned to cure it without knowing it. I had best friends, and my own son and boyfriend had no idea that I stuttered.
What helped me was practicing in the mirror talking and DOING A LOT OF SINGING IN THE CAR! There’s something about the breath work and moving the mouth a certain way that helps articulate and flow better when talking.
Also, Health wise, stay away from sugar and caffeine I noticed, when I’m stressed I stutter more. Keep your anxiety level levels, breath in and out slowly, when you feel that you’re going to stutter slow down what you’re saying, it’ll signal the body to relax and you can get the words out easier. Sometimes I’ll clear my throat and then try again with the word im struggling with.
2 minutes into the video, I feel like I should grab some snacks, hot coco and bundle up with a warm blanket.
Literally!! Her voice and accent is so warm and cozy!
Facts😂
Girl!!😂
so true😭😭
It’s exciting when you realize you’re replacing your filler words with ‘silence’ which is a great pause and makes the speech a wonderful one.
Thanks for this. I struggle with public speaking and story telling. I think it's because I think of so many things at the same time and also very conscious of myself. But I'm actively working on this. Going back to reading 📚. I even started a TH-cam Channel😊 to help improve my confidence and fluency. Cross your fingers for me.
It’s great that you’re proactive! I’m wanting to improve my storytelling too tbh. There’s room for growth for us all. Good luck with it 🤍
That’s exactly how I feel
@@AdamaLorna Thank you
I’m in the same boat, I’ve struggled with this myself.
I can relate
Im a nursing student who needs to learn to speak with conviction. I am a receptionist who speaks very friendly welcoming and people pleasing. I need to learn better to be confident and firm while still being kind and caring.
I couldn’t relate anymore!
Wow I’m in the same boat. If you’re too nice, ppl will walk all over you
If you ever feel stuck, I can help write essays or assignments for you. XoXo
The ability to public speak is something designated purposely for the reason that we can better inform, persuade, entertain, and the like. Additionally, it's essential for wielding connection with others and articulating your voice to the world.
It feels like a friend talking to me/educating me. Very comforting, efficiently attentive, and understanding.
Thank you. Some of us are blessed to be able to speak. Why not get better at doing it.
Exactly! ✨
Lovely
I had never seen such a perfect hair omg
I love the background music. Sipping my coffee and watching this ❤
Glad you’re enjoying the ambience ☺️
Me too ❤
@@hempressdigital thanks you too!
Whats the name of the song on the background please?!
@@lovesafiyyah12sounds like jazz or jazz lofi.
I have never heard anyone use Jazz music in the background of their video. I am so intrigued!! Also, your tips were amazing and didn’t feel complicated ❤❤ thank you!!
Yes heavy on the be your authentic self and leaning into what you’re passionate about ! I also hate when i keep saying “ummm” working on that!
For me it's saying, "like" I grind my gears when I say that
I have adhd & I get lost in my thoughts. Sometimes when someone is speaking to me, I zone out or start wondering what they think about me or what I’m saying. It’s annoying & weird.
same omg and I always overthink everything causing me to stutter or stop and start over and I look silly lol
I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD but I have this same problem
It’s not weird it’s just how ppl with adhd are wired. Work with what you’ve got if & give yourself grace. Everyone wants to make a good impression
😂😂 I’m a introvert with adhd/dyslexia so😂😂
@@racheljamesotokiti2910 same how do you deal with it ?
This performance gave me goosebumps. Incredible talent!
Just a few hours before this video came out on my recommended section. I had written down that I wanted to learn how to speak. Thank you for this video very enlightening and easily explained video!
Love that this showed up at the right time! You're welcome 🤎
I love the comfortable vibe this educational video gives, the backgrounds music mixing with your voice is so pleasantly pleasing to listen too
The editing here is seamless. Love how it all comes together!
You are definitely worthy to speak on public speaking. I enjoyed this so much and learned a lot. I need to learn to pace myself better. I could be quite fast when speaking.
Your editing skills are *chef's kiss* perfection! 👌
Listening to you speak with airpods is quite soothing.
Thanks for the insight! Coming back to watch more videos on your channel.
In this HIGH digital age where everything we do is online or on an app and very little is in person, it’ is more critical than ever to be able to present ourselves with our voice as well as our looks. I see so many TH-cam videos where the person cannot pronounce words, misuses words to mean something they don’t mean or does not enunciate clearly and it ruins the video for me. I generally turn it off. There’s so much focus on looks currently but if people open their mouth and it’s not as well-pleasing to the ear as their look is meant to be to the eye, I don’t stay. Speaking well is so important, on every level. I’d like to see us spend more time, effort and attention on it. 🌱
Your accent is marvelous
I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! You listen to us and our requests and that already makes you top tier for me Adama, thankyou!
Thank you for the suggestion! I appreciate you and your feedback on the channel 🤍
Your life looks so exciting. Thanks for sharing!
Can listen to you all day, thankyou for this video! x
Great tips… and I so appreciate the Jazz in the background.
I struggle to speak to other people in public, even my peers. Sometimes I think I might have communication apprehension, but I found this video quite helpful. Thank you ❤.
Girl I could listen to you speak all day! Thank you for these tips ❤
Thank you! 🤍
I love your gesture, I'm not an english speaker but I can understand what you say without sub. Love your voice too, it's calming ❤
I just came across your video now and I am so inspired, i actually watched it till the very end.
Actually, my teeth make me shy away from public speaking and I don't know if I can ever correct that.
Speaking is actually one of the things I enjoy. Anyways, you've got a new subscriber 🤍
I just want to say that you voice is very lovely and soothing. It reminds me of the beautiful rustling sound leaves make when it’s windy.
What a lovely description, thank you ❤️
I can't believe how much I learned from this. Subscribed! 🔔
I'm super happy to hear that! 🙏🏾
This is your second video that I watch and I remember when I watched the first I said to myself “I wish talked like her” (english is not my first language). Loved this video 💖
I appreciate it! Glad you loved the video 🤍
Clear, concise, and easy to follow. Great job explaining!
Thank you!!
This worked perfectly. Thank you so much! 🙏
That was so intense. My heart is still racing!
Keep up the great work! Looking forward to your next video.
Thank you!
your voice is so alluring😍
You have a knack for storytelling. Well done! 🎥
Hold on I'm only 14 seconds in this video I clicked on it because of the title but put my phone aside just to listen while doing chores, and ohhhh the VOICE had me want to look back at my phone like WHO'S THIS QUEEN SPEAKING RIGHT NOW WITH THIS VOICE😭😍❤
This was so insightful-thank you for sharing!
Thank you. Excellent Video ❤
Your voice is magical
Thank you 🥹
0:01 My God, Adama Lorna your voice is BLESSED! Stay Blessed
P.S. Subscribed!🙂
Good tips. I've always read a lot and I believed that helped me.
I’ve seen many videos on improving conversation skills and yours bring much different and in my opinion more useful points. Also it is true that your voice is magnificent so it is a pure pleasure to listen to you :)
Your voice is like the smooth crackle of a fire.
Impeccable articulation.📌
Es una mujer que inspira, muchas gracias por tu contenido!
Thank you! 🤍
😍😍😍😍 ur voice is so nice 0:33
Thank you!! ❤️
I was about to type this. You have an attractive voice
This was such a helpful video. I think I’ve gotten stuck in the “how to speak” books instead of actually analysing speeches I come across. I love your technique and will apply that to the speeches I found engaging and captivating. Keep up the good work🫶🏿
Thank you! I’m glad you’ve got a actionable step from the video 🤍
Analyzing speeches for Ted Talks helped me out a lot! I do presentations for my job all the time and everyone says how much of a natural I am, engaging, and knowledgeable but 10 years ago I would have never been in this place. The best thing is, I am still so excited about the growth I can make. Good luck and God bless.
Ooooo Gurl I needed thissss 😭I really want to know how to speak super clearly. I stumble over my words a lot and I want to sound believable when speaking😅
I'm glad I came across this video. Thank you so much Adama. This has truly encouraged me. I can do this!
Warms my heart! Genuinely smiled when I saw this comment. You’re so welcome 🙏🏾
Please do hair videos! Your hair is always so pretty!! You’re so beautiful!
Thank you so much! I’m not looking to or comfortable doing hair videos atm but I do appreciate it. I’ve mostly just learned from the wealth of hair videos already on youtube though! 🤍
Can you please share source of bundles ? And nothing else
I was so lost until I watched your video. Thank you!
Thank You for this! I’ve been more mindful of my speaking and other peoples and the importance of speech how it can affect so much.
This song is on repeat! 🎶
Girlll that glow uhhhh....❤
Wow, this changed my perspective. Great job! 💡
You have my gratitude, ma'am!❤
🤍✨
Thank you Adama, very insightful as always
I appreciate it 🙏🏾✨
Your voice is captivating ❤
Thank you 🥺🤎
I’m on a binge of your videos. They’re so food
Your voice ❤
Thank you for sharing your thoughts
Great content! Thank you for sharing!
Loved this. So enlightening. Thank you Adama
I’d love to know what books on natural sciences and art you’ve read. Thank you for this video!
I love how you speak ❤
I really love everything about this video ❤i qm learning and trying so hard to improve on how i speak because i am a business student,,, thank you for this 🙏
What a plot twist! I never expected that.
i’m so shy it’s embarrassing at this point
Really helpful
feel so grateful for you! It was so delightful even just listen to you! Thanks!
Thank you!
That you so much I’ve struggled with speaking to others I tend to listen to myself and start to subconsciously say things like “we hi sound like Omgosh get to it, are you rambling?” And they I start to stutter. When I’m with some I’m comfortable with I’m good at articulating my ideas
We definitely all have our challenges when it comes to public speaking. Hopefully implementing some of these tips will help you feel more comfortable when in these situations 😊
Thank you !! Blessings
🙏🏾🤍
Thanks for this ❤ I really appreciate
I’m definitely working on it now
And will come and share my results with you 😊
Thank you 🤍
I am so insecure about my voice, it is so quiet, i talk a lot but ppl have difficulty hearing me in loud settings. I have no issue speaking in silence. Its so hard to project in loud rooms
I get u i have the same issue...im not loud im quiet 😢
This was so helpful
I love ur voice I love how u talk I'm mesmerised
This was absolutely helpful. Thank you
You’re welcome ❤️
Thanks for this video, I find it difficult to speak and complete my sentence. I will keep on practicing till I get perfect.
You got this! Keep going, you’ll see progress 🙏🏾✨
this was so helpful! Thanks Adama😍
Thank you😊
Every point was necessary ❤❤❤ thank you
This was helpful & really aligned with a lot of ideas I had myself. Thank you! ❤
Thank you sm for this
Thank you, your video helped me a lot!❤
Wait for it… BAM! 😂 Perfect timing.
Love this!!
You are absolutely gorgeous!!
Just came across this video and really enjoyed listening. Communication is one of the things I am hoping to build on. Adama, please provide a potential reading list of some of the books that you have read in the past and have found enjoyable or even would suggest as a good read?
Keep growing dope content
Thank you, I’ll try!
Thank you for this. This video has so many gems that will help me on my journey to becoming more confident in my speaking.
You mentioned how preparation helped you in your career even though you didn’t have a degree in tech; do you have a video discussing that a little more?
Thank you! Yes I have a video on this channel about how I got into tech. It should be in the tech and careers playlist ☺️
I’ve enjoyed your videos! Great work.
Thank you 🤎
Wow this is so good
So helpful, thanks for this video
You’re welcome! ✨