I recently learned that instead of apologizing for my thoughts, I've worked on trying to thank people for listening. I feel like this both acknowledges your feelings and their time.
Your answer regarding having social issues as part of your brand is so interesting to me. I‘ve always followed your channel and other platforms partly because I see you as a socially concious person. I‘ve never even imagined you might be uncomfortable with that being perceived as part of your ~persona~ because it always seemed very natural to me and not preachy at all. I feel like whenever you touched on certain topics you discussed it from a very reflective and personal point of view which in my opinion is the only „right“ way to do it! And to be honest, I feel way more drawn to people and channels who seem to care about certain issues, which maybe even is very hypocritical of me because I only really value those opinions if they align with my own, haha Anyway, I‘m really glad you discussed this, I‘d never have guessed that would be the case :)
Yeah, agree with this summary. I think you’re able to talk about social issues in a deeply personal way that raises awareness of the issue but without preaching so I don’t think you need to be too mindful of coming across as an activist (in the classic sense). I see you as passionate and well-researched on areas that most impact your life (slower fashion, sustainability, etc) and you explain it very specifically as it relates to your own life, acknowledging that it may not apply to everyone. The example I think about was your capsule wardrobe planning video which spoke specifically about how you approach it and had lots of acknowledgment about “if you’re in a hotter country then x” or “if you don’t identify as feminine then y” but without judgement or preaching. Perhaps because not many people talk about social issues unless they are wanting to be seen as an activist means that on the spectrum you are further ahead than most but that doesn’t mean it’s valid feedback/how most people see you.
Completely agree I think Lucy found the perfect balance of bringing up a subject to raise awareness without sounding phony or like she's the ultimate authority on it when she's stating she's learning about it herself.
i can understand not wanting to be perceived as an activist if that’s not your brand (esp in today’s ‘false cancellation’ hypocrisy etc) but why do you need to be ‘careful’ about talking about societal issues? i found it entirely refreshing, honest and was completely surprised that in on of your vlogs you mentioned absolute paucity of Black and other racialised ppl at industry events - and that you then sent an email to PRs questioning this!! I find it entirely odd when Creators who do daily vlogs and similar do not mention the political/social events they live in (above and beyond the climate emergency…that is too easy for white Creators to advocate for because it largely requires little reflexivity or discomfort regarding their power and position in society). Ok sorry for the essay! Just wanted to say, please keep doing as you are, it’s refreshing!! Also social media, influencing, algorithmic injustice are all too connected with racial, disability, gendered inequities (as it seems you know by comments you’ve made in other vlogs) and EYE for one think you don’t give off WhiteFeminist vibes. Ok bai.
I think I'm just worried that it comes across like I'm trying to carve social issues out as part of my "personal brand" - it's good to be a bit cynical about influencers but I would hate to think that people thought I chatted about harder topics as a tactical move, if you get me? So it's definitely something I need to be careful about how I put across in the future!
Basically I just want to make sure I'm communicating as effectively and authentically as possible about social issues, and I'm really glad you think I am! x
i understand what you are saying about not being a social justice influencer, i think a lot of people see you as socially conscious, and look up to you as you care about certain causes but it feels realistic. i understand though that you wouldnt want to be put on a pedestal and have people think you are perfect at this - leaving you more vulnerable when you slip up. basically i put you under the bracket of "socially conscious" but so are most people i follow since that is very important to me :)
something that’s really helped me with the ‘sorry’ impulse is saying thank you when I want to say sorry! like ‘thanks for listening to all this, I appreciate you’ it might be a little apologizey still but it’s been such a nice transition for me, and makes both me and the listener feel good
With regards to social justice issues, I saw the guardian article that you were mentioned in and maybe that’s what you’re slightly referring to in your answer. From the perspective of a constructive friend, I did agree with the author about the use of social justice to sell a product and while a lot of companies do it, I don’t love to see influencers I follow buying into this way of advertising. Having said that, I think the article was very harsh in the way it portrayed you and also the way it singled you out. Generally, I see you as someone who, in addressing social justice issues, is genuinely doing so because it’s something they care about and want to draw attention to. I hope it doesn’t become something you start to overthink too much!
I'm the mum friend of the group too and I also think it's weird, but I also kinda like it! I like it that people notice that I remember their birthday and that I offer them snacks. I like it that they tease me with it, because that tells me they appreciate that I care. I might be wrong about that part, but I like to think I'm right 😊
I care about and appreciate all my mom friends so so so much 🥳💕 an important part of any friend circle, especially as we grow older and maintaining bonds gets harder. Kudos to you 🙏🏼
I love your honesty in regards to the social issues stuff because so many influencers seem to be really leaning into it (not a bad thing if sincere) but it can seem like virtue signalling. Thank you for this video, God bless you! 🥰
If it helps - I do see you specifically as someone who cares about social justice issues (as opposed to leaving it out of your online presence), but there is a really notable distinction between you and others who create a 'brand' around it. I think maybe it's that you come across as educated haha. Perhaps it's just that you provide information/create awareness but 1) it doesn't come across as creating personal gain (ie helping your personal brand or your woke-ness), and 2) you don't create an atmosphere of judgement if I were to not engage with something you speak about, for example. You articulate information very well but don't force it I guess. Not sure if this makes sense, but just wanted to say I for one appreciate the way you do engage with social justice issues online; it doesn't feel to me like part of your brand :)
I understand the phone time thing so much, so I am currently sort of between jobs, I have a job offer with the NHS but there are a lot of steps to go through for patient safety reasons, but I quit my job in January and I have been at home for about a month. I use my PC for over 12 hours a day... and its definitely not constructive use. I really struggle to distance myself from it and its scary the hold it has on my life.
I honestly want to stop settling for things. I'm very "ride or die" as a person emotionally, but in my life I'm settling for meh. Idk if it'd a phase and I'll grow out of it but everything feels grey and I feel like I'm trapped in my situations. Like nothing is really BAD but nothing is really GOOD. I've started therapy so I guess we'll see what happens 🤷♀️
Honestly I'd love a Nokia with maps and Internet messaging on it cos i live in the middle of nowhere and I get lost when I'm in town. Like really thats ALL I need but I'm sat here on my phone while i should be working (and making breaky) and going through TH-cam 😬😅
IM LOVING THE HAIR
I recently learned that instead of apologizing for my thoughts, I've worked on trying to thank people for listening. I feel like this both acknowledges your feelings and their time.
Your answer regarding having social issues as part of your brand is so interesting to me. I‘ve always followed your channel and other platforms partly because I see you as a socially concious person. I‘ve never even imagined you might be uncomfortable with that being perceived as part of your ~persona~ because it always seemed very natural to me and not preachy at all. I feel like whenever you touched on certain topics you discussed it from a very reflective and personal point of view which in my opinion is the only „right“ way to do it! And to be honest, I feel way more drawn to people and channels who seem to care about certain issues, which maybe even is very hypocritical of me because I only really value those opinions if they align with my own, haha
Anyway, I‘m really glad you discussed this, I‘d never have guessed that would be the case :)
Also, I have to get hands on a deck of cards like this. I really enjoyed listening to your perspectives :)
100% agree
Yeah, agree with this summary. I think you’re able to talk about social issues in a deeply personal way that raises awareness of the issue but without preaching so I don’t think you need to be too mindful of coming across as an activist (in the classic sense). I see you as passionate and well-researched on areas that most impact your life (slower fashion, sustainability, etc) and you explain it very specifically as it relates to your own life, acknowledging that it may not apply to everyone.
The example I think about was your capsule wardrobe planning video which spoke specifically about how you approach it and had lots of acknowledgment about “if you’re in a hotter country then x” or “if you don’t identify as feminine then y” but without judgement or preaching.
Perhaps because not many people talk about social issues unless they are wanting to be seen as an activist means that on the spectrum you are further ahead than most but that doesn’t mean it’s valid feedback/how most people see you.
Completely agree I think Lucy found the perfect balance of bringing up a subject to raise awareness without sounding phony or like she's the ultimate authority on it when she's stating she's learning about it herself.
You look absolutely STUNNING in this video oh my god
i can understand not wanting to be perceived as an activist if that’s not your brand (esp in today’s ‘false cancellation’ hypocrisy etc) but why do you need to be ‘careful’ about talking about societal issues? i found it entirely refreshing, honest and was completely surprised that in on of your vlogs you mentioned absolute paucity of Black and other racialised ppl at industry events - and that you then sent an email to PRs questioning this!! I find it entirely odd when Creators who do daily vlogs and similar do not mention the political/social events they live in (above and beyond the climate emergency…that is too easy for white Creators to advocate for because it largely requires little reflexivity or discomfort regarding their power and position in society). Ok sorry for the essay! Just wanted to say, please keep doing as you are, it’s refreshing!! Also social media, influencing, algorithmic injustice are all too connected with racial, disability, gendered inequities (as it seems you know by comments you’ve made in other vlogs) and EYE for one think you don’t give off WhiteFeminist vibes. Ok bai.
I think I'm just worried that it comes across like I'm trying to carve social issues out as part of my "personal brand" - it's good to be a bit cynical about influencers but I would hate to think that people thought I chatted about harder topics as a tactical move, if you get me? So it's definitely something I need to be careful about how I put across in the future!
Basically I just want to make sure I'm communicating as effectively and authentically as possible about social issues, and I'm really glad you think I am! x
@@lucymoon you are! thank you for taking the time to respond x
i understand what you are saying about not being a social justice influencer, i think a lot of people see you as socially conscious, and look up to you as you care about certain causes but it feels realistic. i understand though that you wouldnt want to be put on a pedestal and have people think you are perfect at this - leaving you more vulnerable when you slip up.
basically i put you under the bracket of "socially conscious" but so are most people i follow since that is very important to me :)
It’s not ego driven to recognise your traits - it’s simply self awareness and you got ittttt 💖
something that’s really helped me with the ‘sorry’ impulse is saying thank you when I want to say sorry! like ‘thanks for listening to all this, I appreciate you’ it might be a little apologizey still but it’s been such a nice transition for me, and makes both me and the listener feel good
With regards to social justice issues, I saw the guardian article that you were mentioned in and maybe that’s what you’re slightly referring to in your answer. From the perspective of a constructive friend, I did agree with the author about the use of social justice to sell a product and while a lot of companies do it, I don’t love to see influencers I follow buying into this way of advertising. Having said that, I think the article was very harsh in the way it portrayed you and also the way it singled you out. Generally, I see you as someone who, in addressing social justice issues, is genuinely doing so because it’s something they care about and want to draw attention to. I hope it doesn’t become something you start to overthink too much!
pardon me for underlining such a trivial matter but your hair looks phenomenal! both the color and the style 😍
I always appreciate your transparency and honesty 💜 such a deep and fun Q&A ❤️
"I used to really look up to people who look like they have their life together" Ooft that hit me like a truck.
the COLOURS in this look oh my ❤️❤️❤️
I'm the mum friend of the group too and I also think it's weird, but I also kinda like it! I like it that people notice that I remember their birthday and that I offer them snacks. I like it that they tease me with it, because that tells me they appreciate that I care. I might be wrong about that part, but I like to think I'm right 😊
I care about and appreciate all my mom friends so so so much 🥳💕 an important part of any friend circle, especially as we grow older and maintaining bonds gets harder. Kudos to you 🙏🏼
@@lifelover1 That's so sweet! I'm sure your friends are happy to have you too 😊
I have gone so far as being the grandma friend 😅
You have the most relaxing voice!
I love your honesty in regards to the social issues stuff because so many influencers seem to be really leaning into it (not a bad thing if sincere) but it can seem like virtue signalling. Thank you for this video, God bless you! 🥰
If it helps - I do see you specifically as someone who cares about social justice issues (as opposed to leaving it out of your online presence), but there is a really notable distinction between you and others who create a 'brand' around it. I think maybe it's that you come across as educated haha. Perhaps it's just that you provide information/create awareness but 1) it doesn't come across as creating personal gain (ie helping your personal brand or your woke-ness), and 2) you don't create an atmosphere of judgement if I were to not engage with something you speak about, for example. You articulate information very well but don't force it I guess.
Not sure if this makes sense, but just wanted to say I for one appreciate the way you do engage with social justice issues online; it doesn't feel to me like part of your brand :)
I understand the phone time thing so much, so I am currently sort of between jobs, I have a job offer with the NHS but there are a lot of steps to go through for patient safety reasons, but I quit my job in January and I have been at home for about a month. I use my PC for over 12 hours a day... and its definitely not constructive use. I really struggle to distance myself from it and its scary the hold it has on my life.
I honestly want to stop settling for things.
I'm very "ride or die" as a person emotionally, but in my life I'm settling for meh. Idk if it'd a phase and I'll grow out of it but everything feels grey and I feel like I'm trapped in my situations. Like nothing is really BAD but nothing is really GOOD. I've started therapy so I guess we'll see what happens 🤷♀️
Loved this one! Excited to incorporate it into journaling,
Honestly I'd love a Nokia with maps and Internet messaging on it cos i live in the middle of nowhere and I get lost when I'm in town. Like really thats ALL I need but I'm sat here on my phone while i should be working (and making breaky) and going through TH-cam 😬😅
I'm sober too!!
I LOVE these types of video 😍
really loved watching you videos recently. xx
I believe you may be a baby millennial and not a geriatric gen z if that helps