Edit - Here's the latest video. Hopefully it provides some insight as to manipulation before it happened. th-cam.com/video/PSVwldOX4EM/w-d-xo.html In summary, fuck you.
Hey man none of this is your fault. Thank you for sharing your problems and putting some of our own into perspective. In the end, cutting ties with your family will be good for both them and you
You really need to call him over. Sit him down and ask him straight up 'have you got an addiction problem?' Until you figure out that missing piece of the jigsaw you're just going to go around around in circles.
I'm not sure they were always like this. About the time he got out and started making a decent paycheck as a young man, his parents had something (I can't remember the details) that caused them to lose their home and they were out on the street and naturally he tried to help. That's when things started really going sideways I think. But I agree, normal people with any kind of morals wouldn't do this to a stranger, much less their own kid.
@@cswann8 Had to have been drugs. Normal people don’t start acting like that when they lose their job, especially parents. Most parents would be ecstatic that their kid could provide them a home, a car, and food. I have drug addicts in my family and those texts in the video were like looking into a mirror of what I’ve seen
Wife forces divorce Girlfriend cheat on him with his best friend Jobs screw him over and now his family ditch him Somebody tell the universe thats enough character development, throw this guy a damn bone
Unfortunately they are taking advantage of you. Trust your inner gut God given instinct. Doesn't sound like love to me at all. Run, run, run. Your actually enabling them.
I really, really dislike those people that shouldn't be called "parents" The best thing you can do is disowning them as well, that kid of persons don't ever change, listen Hope you a better outcome, 🙏
As someone who used to know your mom quite well, and you and your sister were childhood friends with my kids, I truly believe that YOU NEED TO DISOWN THEM. Save yourself. You are amazing.
The more I'm listening I'm like "holy fuck." Boundaries, my man. If I were you I would never tolerate such bad behavior. What they've done is so wrong.
"you owe everything to your parents they raised you" is the most manipulating statement. When you decide to have a child it's your RESPONSIBILITY to raise them.
he owes everything, and yet where are the OTHER siblings in this?? I assume he's not an only child. so everyone hating on Josh, when the possible other kids aren't even helping lmfao.
Cut them off , I know it’s not that ez but lord 5 years no , that’s not your problem, clearly it’s consuming you because your mind won’t be “ “mean “ they are taking advantage and beyond. Beyond dude . Beyondddddd. Truly we understand and you must free yourself from the guilt .
Bro, I wish we could be friends. That moment you realize your parents were the kids you didn’t want to hang out with, you gotta believe that they were right about one thing. You are special, leave them in the past. Family isn’t always blood.. love you dude
Nah, it's not a child's responsibility. There is a difference between a helping hand and an eternal handout. It's amazing the lengths some of you will go to, not to have a job or support yourselves and instead rely on the generosity of others in some holier-than-thou scheme to help yourselves and ultimately, no one else. I'd be this dude's friend any day... shit, I'd even pay for him. Lol... but fr tho, I would.
@@scholaroftheworldalternatehistfamily is valuable if they treat you like who they are to you. This isn’t a family, it’s just person who’s related who wants to use their relationship for the benefit of themself
I'm 40 and a physically disabled veteran. I'd swallow a bullet before I put either one of my kids through this. My heart goes out to you man. Its a shame too, I can't walk but I can still use my two hands to make my own damn living. My job is to always have a roof for my kids even when I'm dead and gone. Doesnt matter how old they are.
Hey Josh, I agree, although we're to *honor* our folks(I'm not a boomer,lol, GenX here) and I do, not matter the circumstance. As far as my daughter, I went through a medical bankruptcy and never asked her for a dime despite my health after a rare transplant or for anything else, in fact when I couldn't get to the store I had HER name on my CC, so it would go on my account. Aren't your folks on social security at age 76 and 77? They should be and it is an income, my folks both get SS, even my Mom, who never worked(she was a housewife, so she qualifies) and I'm NOT talking about welfare, SSI or other things. You mentioned *paying ALL their medical bills?* I've had a transplant and know even an ER visit is thousands, ambulance is $800-1000,and one stay is 10,000+, so how much was it and don't they get Medicare as ALL people get at 65? Just curious Josh, thanks! :)
@@onemanarmyoma0155 Hey thanks for telling me. :) Yea, I wondered but right now I'm dealing with Ewe tube issues and my stand alone comments are being deleted, or as one creator told me, went straight to his spam folder, so I took a chance. If he doesn't see it, I'll have to wait, but am curious since their ages are pretty advanced, almost same as my folks. Anyway, have a great and blessed day! :D
I don't understand how a parent can disown their child. Especially someone like Josh. He has done more than most to help his family and there are families who would love to have such a responsible son like him. Parents who love their children unconditionally would not disown them.
Lmao. Your cognitive dissonance is astounding. You place uncoditional love on a pedestal then immediately after going entirely ontrary to that and claiming that families would love to have a so and so son, implying most families don't love their sons uncoditionally whatsoever. Yes, indeed I'm sure his family also uncoditionally loves him on the only condition that he remains an enabling doormat they can mooch off of.
lily-liver they clearly don’t practice what they preach, it’s honestly disgusting how manipulative they are, if this is how they treat their son imagine how they would treat people they genuinely hate or even potential employees (if his dad had a job).
@@trydodis690 from my experience people like this usually aren't even that bad to people they genuinely hate, they're just manipulative of those close to them
I hate those people that ask you to respect and give to your parents when NOT ALL PARENTS ARE GOOD. Those sort of people are ignorant and act like their parents are everyone’s parents. To me, the term ‘family’ isn’t relevant. Blood isn’t thicker than water, blood is as thick as everyone’s blood, therefore loyalty should be given to those who are worth it. So far from what’s provided in your video, i would say you made the right decision. Don’t listen to others who tell you otherwise just because they have no backbone and a dogmatic loyalty.
The full saying is: “ the blood of covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”, meaning that Christians are closer to each other than family. So that phrase actually has the exact opposite meaning than most people think it has.
@@AN474-e1o ouuu wow i never knew that! I guess the saying was twisted in society to form a narrative that we all think it is today. Thanks for letting me know!
@Mr Sansational yea i don’t get it, you weren’t born into the world (which is ur parents choice to have a kid) just so you can be a slave, demeaned and belittled by your parents. That’s not why kids are born. You’re not a punching bag and technically do not need to take unfair crap from anyone including parents and relatives. Respect goes both ways, respect your kids and they’ll know you deserve it back. I would recommend that you do not stop taking up for yourself because when there’s unfairness, kids gotta stand up. I’m sorry for what you’re going through and i can understand the pressure of having no one on your side, but keep at it and don’t let yourself be beaten down.
My mom was similar to your dad, and she used to have down moments of saying "you would be better off if I were dead." And as emotionally/mentally hard as it is to admit that, she was right. My mom passed from cancer in 2019, me having took care of her the whole time because she didn't have any medical insurance. And yes she was right, I am better off in my life now that she is dead.
Man, my mom used to pull this type of shit all the time. Any amount of gentle criticism, cue waterworks, "Do you hate me?" Always, I replied, "No, of course not." Until one day her pseudo-vulnerable narcissistic bullshit got to me and I said, "Yes, and I have for a long time. Sorry I lied to you for so long." People really think they can do whatever they want when they're family. I grew up in a GROUP HOME from the age of 8 to the age of 18. I'm not even sure why I kept in contact... because I care about my siblings, I guess. I was given all of the wrong lessons during my formative years, and then sent to mentally and emotionally raise my damn self. Sure, I had a roof over my head and food three times a day, but the people who supervised my growth for an entire decade were AT THEIR JOB. Narcissists go through their entire lives just wrecking everyone in their path, and the worst part for all of their victims is they will NEVER take responsibility. There's always some excuse, or some other justification that only makes sense to them. Every other one of the 7 billion people on this planet could tell them they were in the wrong and they'd brush it off like it was nothing.
I feel this. I don’t know why it is so normalized in some cultures when I parent is emotionally manipulative. “When I’m dead then you will be sorry” “ nobody loves me in the house so I’ll just leave then yall miss me”.
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Also please remind your grandmother that Jesus Christ already returned and the bible is over and doesn't apply to today. It sounds like your parents were financially irresponsible and want you to pay for theie irresponsibility. You are right in what you are doing.
....... exactly !! ....... i see the beginning of an awakening ....... the rage of a realized injustice ....... but, i'm not seeing the resolve necessary to make a clean, uncompromised break from this toxic/corruptive connection . ...... give your abused/confused person to Jesus Christ 💜 ....... and avoid religion like the plague !!
As someone who was told by her dad that she has achieved nothing when she didnt send money while was dealing with a sickness from being overworked, i felt this. I hope youre better.
I know it's your parents but they are killing you with their demands. You may need to let them go for now Don't let them guilt you into the continued care when they say I'll do something to themselves. Thats6their choice. First step.don't pay their rent. It has to be done. Tell father to get an Uber job and stick by it. It's the first step. Tell them if they cut you out it is their choice, they are choosing this. Take care of yourself first Prayers to you. Good luck.
You must cleanse your soul. You can't carry others burden. He doesn't have to feel bad because he's done a MARVELOUS JOB! There are millions of parents that wish their children would treat them like he's treated his. Even though we've heard...''No Good Deed Goes Unpunished...'' we can't live by that. He is smart and good hearted. It's a shame he has to see this in his lifetime. He needs someone right now so he can cleanse. He's right about putting his foot down. Thank God he's not like some siblings that would castigate the parents and push them around. Something that was good has gone off the rails. But he has to stay on track. He's too young and kind to have his life driven into the ground. Too bad that bad things happen to good people.
When you grandfather says he "hopes you can go through your life without any family", all i think is "i hope you get to go through the rest of your life without that family". Cut these monsters off and start your own family.
I'm the mooch of my family. I live with my aunt i pay her rent off my disability and I only ask for weed money every once and a while. Never more than 20. But when I moved out of state I did decent for myself I worked, had my own place ect. Only thing hindering me was my meth addiction. Now I didn't spend crazy amount of money on it, it was more the people I was around and decisions I made.but when I move back my family treats me like I'm incapable and crazy so I don't even try. So I'm packing up in March and hiking the AT.don't know what comes after that, but I'd rather be homeless than feel useless. I love my family but they enable me not to mention they don't trust me with the one thing I'm great at(fixing things) sorry just had to vent. This video made me think about things. A reason I dont do anything too is my family are kidna bullies. I'm afraid they'll roast me for my job, girlfriend choice ect. They grew up middle class with supportive parents and I grew up with abusive poor ones.
Ironically my biggest bully in my family was also the only one pushing me to be better instead of just pushing me to get a job. To him roasting me was a way of encouragement he's really competitive and thought it would make me too.. Unlike the others he'd make time for me and encouraged me to follow my dreams and travel. His year death anniversary is coming up and I regret being so bitter towards him.again sorry if this doesn't belong here, but I'm venting and I have no one to talk to in NY.
@@JoshuaFluke1 sorry my dude, ya know, free will and stuff. But seriously, I know all too well how your family can be a living Hell. You have handled life like a champion. Proud of you dude.
@David The wise good lord you don't actually believe that crap do you? Nobody's coming back from anywhere. When you die, you die. You're gone. Nobody is using a deception approach or any other "approach" to do anything. Do you honestly think some people somewhere held some super secret meeting and decided "this is how we'll fool the world!" And they all went along with it? Quietly? We're in the middle of a global pandemic because... science. Not God. Not the devil. Not any other made up, fairytale, Egyptian or otherwise skygod. A pandemic. What is it with you Q-Anon peeps that love talking about blood and sex parties?
After racking up a $30k debt trying to help a now former friend who has learned nothing through their own choices, I’ve learned never to enable anyone again. I’m realizing that applies to family as well. Thank you for sharing your story so others can have the wake up call they need too. The religious stuff really damaged me as a child and it’s taken two decades to get this far beyond it.
Man I just watched this entire video for this first time. My thoughts: 1) your family is king of emotional blackmail 2) you should NOT have to support fully capable parents 3) tell your grandma “God helps those who help themselves” 4) wishing you the best
Thank you....it took me 50 years to figure this out. I went thru a lot of pain because of this. This type childhood makes you vulnerable to toxic relationships and other abusive settings later in life.
Child abuse doesn't end at adulthood. It continues. You have an amazing heart im so sorry your kind heart has been bruised and used like this. Its hard to walk away but ur mental health is everything!!! Much love.
He needs someone right now...and I'm not talking about Jesus. He doesn't need a bible lesson...he needs IMMEDIATE UNDERSTANDING AND AID!!!!!...On the other hand...he needs to know that for what he has tried to do, his reward in ''heaven'' is great. And it is sad that his parents did to him....what they taught him NOT to do to others. Strange irony........................I have MY OWN story to tell about MY parents................
"You owe us for raising you!" Uhhh no, I didn't ask to be born, and you didn't do me a favor by supporting me through childhood, that's YOUR JOB AS A PARENT!!!!
Yes, but in normal families I do think you can show some appreciation for doing the parent job well. It doesn't hurt. That's what my, kids who never had to take out a student loan, did for us. Parents who required their kids to take a student loan did NOT do their job.
@@AeridisArt any able-bodied and mentally stable adult can. It's just a matter of how hard you're willing to work for it. Think I'm wrong? Join the airforce, or the navy, or if you're real desperate, the marines. You'll get college if you want it that bad.
Josh, I was also raised by a Pentecostal family. Both our families seem to have the art of manipulation down perfectly. I think it’s the first thing they teach at Pentecostal churches lol. Sorry you are having to deal with this. Luckily my mom saw through the church when we were young and got us out of there. But my dads family still remains there, and dealing with them is never a good outcome. You always end up feeling shamed and worse about yourself because you don’t share their high “standards.” Took me a while to realize the fault is on them and not on me. Also, I am so proud of you for seeing through this, I know how hard this is.
That would explain a lot, I grew up Pentecostal and was heavily manipulated as a child and an adult and tried to be taken advantage of, and for a long while it worked to.
His text messages sound like a drug addict or alcoholic. I’ve had similar experiences. You’re absolutely right Josh. You did way more than you should have. You are an awesome level headed guy. I have total respect for you!
My mom is dead but I am on the track of cutting my dad and rest of my family off. I only really have one family member that I don’t want to cut ties with. That’s how shitty the people in my life are. It sucks 😂
@@nateportney672 Before that teenager is old enough to work sure. In my home if my children maintain good grades and something extra curricular I have no issues with an allowance. I already pay the phone bill. I want them 100% focused on their future. I will focus on providing for them. That said, some families can't do that. That's ok. I think the point of the original comment is that Josh's Dad is acting like his child.
FR, my dad might have bought me my first car at 16, but he said if I wanted gas for it or money to go do stuff, I had to work a part-time job. Been working since 16, and couldn't thank my father enough for teaching me the important lesson of working hard
or teen son i went thru similar as this guy only im the daugter my younger and spoiled brother got out and far away once seen what i was going thru adult ppl like this exist also in my case i was the biblical one and they are antiGod
Holy shit dude, you've been gaslit by everyone. Respect for persevering through everything but I hope you are able to surround yourself with positive people in the future.
The unfortunate reality is that when you're raised in a household with people that act that way, you become conditioned to associate that behavior with what love and family looks like so when you seek love and family, you'll hone in on those traits. It's an awful cycle that there's no easy solution for.
@@1mol831it's part of the reason why poor people have kids. Eventually one of the kids will strike it rich and support the family. Filial piety it's called. He just doesn't want to do that anymore. His family didn't raise him right.
The people who are saying you owe everything to your parents are the same people who abused their kids and now wonder why their kids never talk to them. I’ve had these people who do nothing but take in my life before, and I know how hard it is to finally stand up for yourself, and I know how much harder it is when it’s your family. this is an old video so I hope you’ve been able to keep moving on.
I absolutely agree with this! -- For instance I am choosing to distance myself from my situation because nothing good can come from staying with toxic☢ hurtful and an emotionally manipulative "guardian" who acts more like the schoolyard bully that you would typically see in 80's flicks rather the person that is supposed to be lifting me up 😔 I hope more people are blessed enough to see your comment 🙏 2×👍 *WAAAAY* the f ☝
Blood doesnt make family Caring does He should pay it all back His dad cared for him when he was infant Now he doesnt pay freaking rents Wow Ungreatful
blood does make family guy's. even if they treat you bad sometimes, always give your parents respect and always try to reach out to them and help them in your own way. There is benifit you can not even imagine helping anyone in need especelly family.
Josh my friend have you ever heard the saying "all children deserve parents but not all parents deserve children" and you deserve loving respectful parents I'm sorry you were dealt a bad hand
your family disowning you is a BLESSING. You can finally move FORWARD with your life. What will they possibly be able to do without you? The audacity. Of course, we all love our families, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with setting firm boundaries with them, especially when they're like this. It will always hurt, but it's necessary for your progression and growth. If they're willing to drop you so quickly after everything they've put you through then you have no need for their toxicity and negativity in your life. Heal and grow, focus on yourself.
I’m 72 and I think your parents are irresponsible and dead wrong in their treatment of you. I would NEVER do to my children (ages 50 and 48) what they’ve done to you. It’s not your responsibility to take care of them if they are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves. And if they are unable to take care of themselves for whatever reason, there are resources in communities to help people. Sounds like they want to live above their means and leaning hard on their son in order to do that. This is horrible, and certainly not loving behavior on their part. Unfortunately, we have to set boundaries, even with those we love. I know their behavior hurts and conflicts you but I think you’re handling things the right way. I would suggest you get some counseling for yourself and let them figure out their own lives. Don’t continue letting them use you. You may end up having to cut them off completely. I know it will hurt but you’ve done enough for them and you deserve to have a life of your own.
Thank you for your encouraging words to this young man. I'm a 53yr old mom& gma and he NEEDED to hear from us "old folks". Can you IMAGINE? Oh my word! I have 2boys. One his very age. One 5yrs younger who looks just like Joshua. Im pretty sure his parents have been guilting him his entire life, not just these past 5yrs. This is an abomination!
Joshua i have the utmost respect for you. You obviously love your family but they don't love you. I hate to say it but nowadays I believe most people who say they are Christians aren't. GOD SAID YOU WILL KNOW THEM BY THEIR fruit. Throwing around scripture does not make you a Christian. God sees your heart and you will be rewarded by God. You have gone the extra mile for your family but I believe its time to walk away.i had some very hurtful things happen in my family also and while I forgive them I simply can't be around them. You can't spend all your time and energy trying to heal just to have it happen over and over again. NOT HEALTHY! But I would rather see you run to GOD and not from HIM. He's not the problem. Evil and irresponsible people are. And they love to hide behind the church. God lays out how Christians should live and one day we will all be judged by a holy God who loves you and will someday make everything right. This life is very short and I know God loves your heart. But you can't help people who won't help themselves. Don't punish God for what people do. Instead use your hurts to become strong and know God didn't promise us a trouble free life. He said we would have problems but if we stay faithful to Him he will reward us beyond what we can even imagine. The most spe ial and good people are given the most hardships because Satan wants to derail us so that we walk away from God. Then we are useless in this life and lose our reward in the next life. Satan loves to hang out in church. People bad not God or church . Will be praying for you to run a good race to the finish!
Ironic the ones that are burning the bridges claim you are. Set yourself up to be free in the future of all burdens. Invest that money and tell the extra baggage to fuck off. Put your foot down, they've burnt their bridges.
That's exactly what I said about my Aunt and Uncle when my mom stopped talking to her sister. Annoying, wrongfully critical Republicans who don't understand the words coming forth from their mouths and why none of us every enjoyed coming over for Thanksgiving, Passover, etc. And now it's like they don't exist.
He isn't free....... this will have a emotional toll on him for a long time. It always does. Not having family leaves scars that are extremely hard to heal
"Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally," whereas "a man is only loved under the condition that he provides something " We are with you Josh, Stay strong bud.
@@briannahappykitty infertile can't cook and hates kids.. so what do you do just make people miserable all day? Why wouldn't a man want to be around that I wonder... Actually I changed my mind.. what's your number?
I just wonder how his parent going to survive? Is it normal for us to abandon them when we become adult? Does they need to be homeless after so many years rasing us? Sorry it doesn't sound right to me. Stop making excuse to justify being selfish. It is our responsibility.
Don't be blind. He's a good dude but he's fucked up. Just as any kid would be when raised by narcissistic sociopaths. One day I hope he can clear his head and level it out, but that's gonna take years and a lot of work
It's parent child reversal of roles. Quite common when parents are emotionally immature, the children end up becoming mature and responsible and feeling responsible for taking care of everyone while abandoning their own needs.
James Bond it’s a toxic relationship. You dont want to let go, but you are essentially killing yourself with it. Just listen to what they did to him.... i’ll take the emotional baggage, and ship them off, bye bye.
@Hudson Hamman Make connections with new people around. Get a girlfriend, make love etc. Only if they come with apology and forgiveness maybe then there's chance for being back together. But sadly such people are selfish and hardhearted to start with, so it might need a miracle for it to happen.
I don't know this guy and I don't know the situation but one should always keep in mind that there might be a way. I've seen so many people get burned because they supported people they thought to be good and kind, who turned out different. I'm not saying don't support him. Some people grow up in a toxic environment with a toxic family. I'm saying, especially with online personalities. keep other options and perspectives in mind.
I can deeply relate with this guy. My mom used me for loans for her personal agenda when I was already working and supporting the family with basic provisions. Her manipulations then brought the family a lot of bad omens. Since my and I were living with my grandmother, my mom went into my room found a book which I was using as a diary then my gran kicked me out. Since then nobody was living a stable life all because my mom got greedy with me and she wanted more than I can provide.
You are being used. You have been there enough. It is time to let them do it for themselves. If they can’t see that you have been helping them. If they need to stand on their own 2 feet. If they can’t handle it. That is their own fault. They can get government assistance if there’s no way that they can get a job. As Nancy Bush said. “Just say no “.
Save yourself. You owe them nothing! We all love you! Stay strong. It’s a shame you are going through this. Always remember; family or not, Karma doesn’t have a menu... What you are Served, is what you Deserve!! You came through them BUT you are NOT of them. You at least now know where your father will got is NARCISSISTIC behavior. Stand your ground sweetheart!!🌹🌟🦋
@@clarissa8477 That is obviously someone who is going to burden himself upon his own family. Want to bet they vote for democrats too? Deadbeats gonna deadbeat.
Josh, I am really sorry you went through this. My mom actually disowned me as well quite recently due to difference in religion. Your video has really helped me get an understanding of what to do in this situation. Just know you did the right thing. Sending good thoughts your way
Rule number one: Always act broke and like a tight ass regardless of how much money you have and no one will expect financial help or ask you for money.
I do the same, even though they have much more money than me. I don't want to be the first one they will go to for support when they lose their job, since they didn't support me with the right education to get the carrier I want and emotionaly. Plus I knew friends with the same parents as this story and I don't think this is right when parent are capable of working.
I also believe in hiding good fortune, people, even ones that love you can’t help but want for themselves. Not necessarily asking for money but they can act like you think their better than them or I have also had a friend that would start listing all the reasons they weren’t successful when I mentioned a win I had. It sucks.
These parents of his seem like the type to put him down for not being smart with his money, he will never ever be free if it until he makes sure they loose his number for good, with the experience I had anyway. I hope it s better for him, it sounds like life lone abuse to me, and the parents won't ever change.
You might consider that you've been conditioned by narcissists to be their slave/savior. Don't light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Best of luck.
Definitely narcissistic parents - lack of empathy for Josh, exploitation, entitlement. Guilt-tripping is the definitive sign. The only proper thing one can do in such case is - cut all contact. Forever.
Josh, I know this is an old video but thanks for sharing this. Honestly let’s us all know that everyone is going through difficult things with our families. Much love man, you’re a really chill and good person and I hope things have gotten better for you.
Oh Joshua, your pain is palpable and it's heartbreaking. Your parents and grandparents have failed you. The good news is that you recognized it and stood up for yourself. The bad news is that you love them and it's always going to be painful. You are a good son and they know that whether they admit it or not. You can love them from a distance if it's healthier for you and that does not make you a bad person!! I hope you find peace!
Your story and mine sound very similar. I was in my 40s before I was able to set boundaries. It hurt like crazy to have to totally leave my Mom to her own responsibility. Now I am 52 . She has been sober for several years and she just gave me money... And I let her. Because even though she never said I'm sorry ... Thank you for all those years you helped me ... It was one of the only times in her life she has been able to give back in that way. I accepted it with humility, grace and gratitude. underneath it all is their feeling of low self worth... To see you succeed only highlights the places they have failed as parents. It's twisted thinking that does the opposite of the unconscious intent on their part and that is to feel better about their own perceived failings, when in actuality treating us that way ... Makes them feel worse. I went no contact for over a year with my Mom. My Mom said some incredibly hurtful and untrue stuff to me and I just cut her off. I think it was like 20 months. During that no contact time I felt that freedom you describe as well. It's crazy because you are free but being the adult survivor of narcissistic parenting, you never really feel free or worthy , that is generational , it is so incredibly tough to break from. You have to step out of it and look deep inside. It's also why you choose friends and partners with that tendency , because in a twisted way ... It's comfortable. We know how to navigate it for extended periods. Which is not a skill that you purposefully sought to add to the tool box but the resilience, character and integrity that one gains is unparalleled. Particularly when it causes you to want to not repeat the cycle. One thing that helped me to release my Mom and forgive her , therefore releasing my self , was to recognize the parenting she had. And while it did not make it ok to continue to enable her. It at least gave a perspective that she was only able to work with the tools she had. There was a very tough couple of years there and have been establishing a new relationship in the last couple, but her and I have both done a bunch of healing and she has really done some personal work. I can now have a relationship with her that has healthy boundaries and is evolving in new ways. I still have narcissistic gas lighters attracted to my empathy and kindness but I have been able , and continue to learn to be able to, more quickly and more readily recognize the energy right away and I am very mindful of who I let into my space. When you come from this kind of background creating a safe space of your own , exploring who you are autonomously , discovering your hopes and dreams is crucial. Absolutely critical at the point of breaking ties... So you establish a sense of self separate from the role you were given in the family. All the strong emotions you have are all normal too. So do not beat yourself up about any of them. Let them roll through Remember that .... Feel them , scream them out when you are flying ... Do rituals where you cleanse your energetic body as you move through the wind... Whatever ... Always be releasing... People do not realize how this stuff stores in your body and gets wrapped in your physiology both physical and energetic. Do some research in epigenetics to learn how to break the Neuro pathways that were created and rewrite new ones... I'm rambling ... I am super proud of you ... from one survivor to another ... Your best years are ahead of you... Don't worry about bridges behind you ... build bridges to your creation. Those that are meant to be in your life will come back in when the time is right. All the blessings.
@@rhondamartin1251 anybody that is the parent of an adult child knows that the people you turn out, at 18 Tru 25 I suppose, change who they are they continue to grow or they stop their growth process we as parents are not responsible for that
Take the time to dig into this unfortunate issue.... it is not from the grandparents......keeping the focus where it belongs is really the only way to deal with it....
You gave them shelter, you gave them food, you gave them transportation, clothes, medication, time, and a hundred chances. Then they called you the sinful one who needs forgiveness. From my perspective, you are the most Christlike out of the bunch.
Forgive them and move on. You have enough just trying to take care of yourself in these trying times. Not forgiving them will only hurt you, keep you from accomplishing your wellbeing, and accomplishing a goal in life. God bless you!
Theres other verses where Paul talks about how if a brother (in christ) keeps taking hand outs and is capable of earning himself but refuses that you should cut him off
This teaching appears in the bible more than once. People love to twist scripture and leave out the parts that they don't like. In context, it actually says that you are to honor your father and mother IF they are serving the lord, and you will have a long life. Followed by instructions for parents to teach their kids to serve the Lord, and a warning to fathers not to provoke their children and drive them away from God. His family is sick. I just found this channel and I feel for this young man, as what he has been through is almost identical to what finally drove me to walk away from my parents.
I feel this whole video man. Growing up I realize that you need to take care of what takes care of you. And if this gets to anyone, remember, most things in life are just trying to be sold to ya.
Young man there's a fine line between being generous and being a fool. Your walking on the latter side of that line. Self preservation is the only thing you should be worrying about. You're doing it right now! Be strong, you got your shit together and you're gone above and beyond for others! Do your thing young brother and have a clear conscience!
Change your phone number. Disown them for good. You’ve enabled this for long enough. Paying over $40K in bills in a year to ungrateful family that refuses to be grateful is insane. Good luck man, I wish you the best.
Exactly! The problems is that......ugh.......when the pandemic hit, everyone (except for the 1%) just about well got laid off and were out of the job, and there won't be any jobs as long as this dreaded virus continues onward! My mother, thankfully, has a "nurse" job, therefore, she's able to successfully get paid and she is NOT at all facing any layoffs, so, we're very lucky thus far! T_T
@@KingMickeyMouseOoO I got laid off, but I went out and got a new job which pays much more. Maybe folks need to buckle down and get out their interview clothes.
@@Brush19138 Thank you for sharing! I'm sorry that all of this went down for this poor man! My wife and I can't save everyone, but was CAN do this! Spread the truth as it is! Spiritualism is greater than religion! Trust me! @#$% the god @#$% cross! Love and nurture the ankh! ☥✔️ ✝️❌ Listen, in a nutshell, I was raped, beaten, forced to go to bed without brushing my teeth AND my father put sugar on my teeth just to make damn good sure that my baby teeth would rot! This was my childhood! I was in countless forms of child pornography, and I was forced to endure the literal depths of Hell! BTW, my father was atheist, and he said, "I'm not going to Hell, because it doesn't exist! I can do whatever I want in the world! And you can go to fucking Hell and rot there!" My wife and I fight for people like you! We do our absolute best to send out positive vibes and that alone can help you all out! This is what we do! pics.me.me/female-male-life-male-male-death-modern-ancient-egyptian-ankh-5456812.png
it's tough family you have! I hope you find peace with yourself, and break this toxic cycle with your parents. My parents are not rich, even on poor side, but what I remember them working like crazy all their life just to give their kids better future. When I realize that I will immigrate to US, they scrapped all money they have to give me! Even now, when I have way more stable situation, and come home and want to pay in restaurant for them. They barely allow me to do so. Parents that use their kids as cash pigs are very toxic.
@@MatrixMNP The strongest people get therapy, what do you think the entire point of military debriefing is in the military after operations? Why do you think the government makes senior Civil Servants and decision makers have their mental health regularly checked? Weakness is NOT seeking therapy and improving yourself before something goes wrong, it's not about waiting until something does go wrong, maybe now, maybe in 10 years, that's not strength.
The Father decides who gets children and who does not...and He has His reasons for doing so. Just remember that the Father has been compared to a potter who makes many types of ornate pottery - but a large portion of this pottery is made only to be destroyed.
You have done amazing Josh! You are a beautiful soul. Your family maybe asleep and do not wish to wake up. Leave them in slumber . . while you go ahead and 'live your life. No efforts are ever wasted! You have laid down a blessed path 🪁 . . coming from knowing you have done your very best and now it's time for you. Big hug 😇
@Kitkit Kitkit yeah. We see this a lot in Hispanic families. A lot of people have kids after kids with the simple purpose of having some retirement money to sit on.
There were many contradictions in this video. You would have to be brain dead to not see any of them. I honestly don't even know how they can say some of the stuff they said with a straight face. Like if my family said this to me I would burst out laughing like a hyena. Crazy ass people😂
@@robynalice879 well your welcome, you never know who you meet in this life, may I ask where your from? I live in England. Just wanted to say I like the tunes in your play list if you like that sort of music you should checkout the golden oldies fallout channels on YT I think they will be right down your alley. Wish I met you in a different life. Hope your well miss. M
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Their entitlement is pathetic. Stay strong. Don’t let the guilt trip effect you. You have given enough Joshua and you have your own obligations and responsibilities to take care of. There comes a time when we need to stay clear of the toxic people in our life. IMO, this is it. Live your life Joshua. You deserve to be happy. Love and blessings to you.
My god I feel like I’m listening to a father lecturing his son about “leaving the nest” but in reality, your the son lecturing your grown father. I am so sorry he treats you like this
i just recently discovered your channel and this is pretty telling and shows what type of person you are. my family is abusive as well but not in that way. i hope it will get better for you.
Edit - Here's the latest video. Hopefully it provides some insight as to manipulation before it happened. th-cam.com/video/PSVwldOX4EM/w-d-xo.html
In summary, fuck you.
can relate to a lot of stuff said in this video, you the man
Yeah, that about sums it up.
Your situation resemble Terry Crew's situation with his family, you're not the only one in this situation man. Take care.
Hey man none of this is your fault. Thank you for sharing your problems and putting some of our own into perspective. In the end, cutting ties with your family will be good for both them and you
You really need to call him over. Sit him down and ask him straight up 'have you got an addiction problem?' Until you figure out that missing piece of the jigsaw you're just going to go around around in circles.
Son, this is a highly abusive relationship. You are never going to win. It's you or him. Don't walk away.
RUN,
RUN🏃♂️💨👟
Josh you should disown THEM. You’re surrounded by narcissists. You’re no victim, but their treatment of you breaks my heart.
RUNNN
Yes. Think of this situation as you looking at a giant, venomous, king cobra in front of you. Best believe you would be running for your life.
You have to look after yourself mate ruuuunnnnnn
It's a miracle that this guy turned out as decent as he did with a family like that.
I'm not sure they were always like this. About the time he got out and started making a decent paycheck as a young man, his parents had something (I can't remember the details) that caused them to lose their home and they were out on the street and naturally he tried to help. That's when things started really going sideways I think.
But I agree, normal people with any kind of morals wouldn't do this to a stranger, much less their own kid.
Seriously man, props to josh
@@cswann8 Had to have been drugs. Normal people don’t start acting like that when they lose their job, especially parents. Most parents would be ecstatic that their kid could provide them a home, a car, and food. I have drug addicts in my family and those texts in the video were like looking into a mirror of what I’ve seen
Hard times forge strong men
Women too... I’m one 💜
Wife forces divorce
Girlfriend cheat on him with his best friend
Jobs screw him over
and now his family ditch him
Somebody tell the universe thats enough character development, throw this guy a damn bone
Makes me wonder if maybe he is at fault at least some of the time. Though the texts show that it's clearly not. Just crazy to have that much bad luck.
Same happened to me ... life sucks sometimes
This underrated comment...
His huge bad luck almost makes you think if this is all made up, but I bet that's what he wishes this was...
Facts
A life lesson is that people treat you the way you allow them to treat you.
Some of his problems have to be self inflicted.
This guy is literally a beautiful lotus that grew on a muddy, algae infested pond. I hope that he is more successful in life.
Algae isn’t bad though. lol maybe a mosquito infested pond is a better analogy
Yes...literally...
Yeah that's totally fucking LITERALLY what he is. Words just mean whatever you want 👍👍👍
@@BootyWarrior80892Yeah blood sucking parasites are definitely a better analogy.
Yeah, first world problems are tough aren't they!
You can’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
Oh thatsa good one👍
I like this one, well said 👏🏻
Excellent analogy. Never heard it but that way, but yeah.
Yes.
Good way to express one self
Parents who will disown you for not giving them money, don’t really care about you. Take a break from them.
It’s so hard to accept, but taking a break doesn’t work. The only thing to do is to break the trauma bond.
Unfortunately they are taking advantage of you. Trust your inner gut God given instinct. Doesn't sound like love to me at all. Run, run, run. Your actually enabling them.
I really, really dislike those people that shouldn't be called "parents"
The best thing you can do is disowning them as well, that kid of persons don't ever change, listen
Hope you a better outcome, 🙏
You are an investment to them, try and dismiss the guilt trip you are a good son.
Yes. Take a break from them for the rest of your life.
As someone who used to know your mom quite well, and you and your sister were childhood friends with my kids, I truly believe that YOU NEED TO DISOWN THEM. Save yourself. You are amazing.
Wow world is a small place lol...u knew his parents were bad people even back then ?
You know him?
You don't look old enough to have 30 year old kids
@@Skynightburst I knew Josh (on and off) from the time he was around 7 until 17ish. Both my girls had crushes on him at different times :)
@@davem612 Thanks!
The more I'm listening I'm like "holy fuck."
Boundaries, my man. If I were you I would never tolerate such bad behavior. What they've done is so wrong.
This is almost unbelievable
iF i wErE yOu
he is just cucking out so hard it's almost unbearable to listen to.
Hes a good person. Im glad that he finally decided to stop all of the stuff thats been happening.
"you owe everything to your parents they raised you" is the most manipulating statement. When you decide to have a child it's your RESPONSIBILITY to raise them.
lmao so true. it's laughable that any parent needs to be told that.
100% correct,it should be common since!!
@@ferget9111 sense* Just trying to improve your english. 😊
he owes everything, and yet where are the OTHER siblings in this?? I assume he's not an only child. so everyone hating on Josh, when the possible other kids aren't even helping lmfao.
lol, I'm becoming a programmer SO I can help my parents who raised me. Two ways of looking at things I guess, lol.
They are EXTREMELY emotionally abusive. No contact is the only way to go.
Agreed
Yes
Yes.the father sounds like narcissists.
I broke relationships with my mother and brother about 15 yrs ago. Best thing I ever did. Stay strong, you will get through it.
Cut them off , I know it’s not that ez but lord 5 years no , that’s not your problem, clearly it’s consuming you because your mind won’t be “ “mean “ they are taking advantage and beyond. Beyond dude . Beyondddddd. Truly we understand and you must free yourself from the guilt .
Son, you’re better off without them, they’re taking advantage of your relationship. They’re using you.
Bro, I wish we could be friends. That moment you realize your parents were the kids you didn’t want to hang out with, you gotta believe that they were right about one thing. You are special, leave them in the past. Family isn’t always blood.. love you dude
He's now rich and doesn't need friends I think.
Its sad to leave behind your parents in poverty. They gave you life which is far more valuable than any money
Nah, it's not a child's responsibility. There is a difference between a helping hand and an eternal handout. It's amazing the lengths some of you will go to, not to have a job or support yourselves and instead rely on the generosity of others in some holier-than-thou scheme to help yourselves and ultimately, no one else.
I'd be this dude's friend any day... shit, I'd even pay for him. Lol... but fr tho, I would.
@@scholaroftheworldalternatehistfamily is valuable if they treat you like who they are to you. This isn’t a family, it’s just person who’s related who wants to use their relationship for the benefit of themself
Wow this is so true about family not always being blood 🩸
I'm 40 and a physically disabled veteran. I'd swallow a bullet before I put either one of my kids through this. My heart goes out to you man. Its a shame too, I can't walk but I can still use my two hands to make my own damn living. My job is to always have a roof for my kids even when I'm dead and gone. Doesnt matter how old they are.
Hey Josh, I agree, although we're to *honor* our folks(I'm not a boomer,lol, GenX here) and I do, not matter the circumstance. As far as my daughter, I went through a medical bankruptcy and never asked her for a dime despite my health after a rare transplant or for anything else, in fact when I couldn't get to the store I had HER name on my CC, so it would go on my account. Aren't your folks on social security at age 76 and 77? They should be and it is an income, my folks both get SS, even my Mom, who never worked(she was a housewife, so she qualifies) and I'm NOT talking about welfare, SSI or other things.
You mentioned *paying ALL their medical bills?* I've had a transplant and know even an ER visit is thousands, ambulance is $800-1000,and one stay is 10,000+, so how much was it and don't they get Medicare as ALL people get at 65? Just curious Josh, thanks! :)
GOD 🙏🙏🙏 BLESS you 😜. And thank u for your SERVICE 💖🙂!!!
@@amygwenn5189 I'm not sure if Josh is going to see your comment/advice since you posted it as a reply to another comment.
God bless you!
@@onemanarmyoma0155 Hey thanks for telling me. :) Yea, I wondered but right now I'm dealing with Ewe tube issues and my stand alone comments are being deleted, or as one creator told me, went straight to his spam folder, so I took a chance. If he doesn't see it, I'll have to wait, but am curious since their ages are pretty advanced, almost same as my folks. Anyway, have a great and blessed day! :D
Nothing feels better or more liberating than walking away from a narcissist.
Ur so right! They are one when they don’t even know it! 👍🏻
Seconded. Turning my back on my abusive family was one of the best choices I ever made.
Hell Yh true dat
Amen
Amen.
I’m about 8 months late but hearing you say “fuck you” was just a good feeling
👊🤑🖕 👈👀 👁👁
You're damn right it was! Lol I don't know these people but I was still right there with him. "Yeah! Fuck them!" 🖕 😆
I don't understand how a parent can disown their child. Especially someone like Josh. He has done more than most to help his family and there are families who would love to have such a responsible son like him. Parents who love their children unconditionally would not disown them.
Lmao. Your cognitive dissonance is astounding. You place uncoditional love on a pedestal then immediately after going entirely ontrary to that and claiming that families would love to have a so and so son, implying most families don't love their sons uncoditionally whatsoever.
Yes, indeed I'm sure his family also uncoditionally loves him on the only condition that he remains an enabling doormat they can mooch off of.
The ironic thing is that they tell you that not everything is about money, and then disown you because you won't give them more money
lily-liver they clearly don’t practice what they preach, it’s honestly disgusting how manipulative they are, if this is how they treat their son imagine how they would treat people they genuinely hate or even potential employees (if his dad had a job).
@@trydodis690 from my experience people like this usually aren't even that bad to people they genuinely hate, they're just manipulative of those close to them
@@goldeternal lol is this Josh's dad? Did you make a TH-cam account to defend your laziness? Good luck dude
@@nobody2021 I looked and his account is 6 years old.
@@goldeternal I mean do we as an observer on the whole situation have any right to make any assumptions about their conditions
I hate those people that ask you to respect and give to your parents when NOT ALL PARENTS ARE GOOD. Those sort of people are ignorant and act like their parents are everyone’s parents. To me, the term ‘family’ isn’t relevant. Blood isn’t thicker than water, blood is as thick as everyone’s blood, therefore loyalty should be given to those who are worth it. So far from what’s provided in your video, i would say you made the right decision. Don’t listen to others who tell you otherwise just because they have no backbone and a dogmatic loyalty.
The full saying is: “ the blood of covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”, meaning that Christians are closer to each other than family. So that phrase actually has the exact opposite meaning than most people think it has.
@@AN474-e1o ouuu wow i never knew that! I guess the saying was twisted in society to form a narrative that we all think it is today. Thanks for letting me know!
@Mr Sansational yea i don’t get it, you weren’t born into the world (which is ur parents choice to have a kid) just so you can be a slave, demeaned and belittled by your parents. That’s not why kids are born. You’re not a punching bag and technically do not need to take unfair crap from anyone including parents and relatives. Respect goes both ways, respect your kids and they’ll know you deserve it back. I would recommend that you do not stop taking up for yourself because when there’s unfairness, kids gotta stand up. I’m sorry for what you’re going through and i can understand the pressure of having no one on your side, but keep at it and don’t let yourself be beaten down.
Church!
I really value the phrase "respect is earned" and that's what i live by. No matter your age or who you are, respect me and i'll respect you.
Dads a narricist and you're the victim. They are toxic people.. Stay strong.
That's why he dates narcissistic girls
The grandma enables him too. Instead of telling her son to get a damn job she hashes out at her grandson instead
Do u know his dad has cancer??? He is supposed to help him.
@@no-one3296 his dad IS cancer.
@@no-one3296 lol, so what? its not his problem anymore , fuck people that gaslight
My mom was similar to your dad, and she used to have down moments of saying "you would be better off if I were dead." And as emotionally/mentally hard as it is to admit that, she was right. My mom passed from cancer in 2019, me having took care of her the whole time because she didn't have any medical insurance. And yes she was right, I am better off in my life now that she is dead.
I hope you are thriving and healing through this journey. Sending hugs your way
Man, my mom used to pull this type of shit all the time. Any amount of gentle criticism, cue waterworks, "Do you hate me?" Always, I replied, "No, of course not."
Until one day her pseudo-vulnerable narcissistic bullshit got to me and I said, "Yes, and I have for a long time. Sorry I lied to you for so long."
People really think they can do whatever they want when they're family. I grew up in a GROUP HOME from the age of 8 to the age of 18. I'm not even sure why I kept in contact... because I care about my siblings, I guess.
I was given all of the wrong lessons during my formative years, and then sent to mentally and emotionally raise my damn self. Sure, I had a roof over my head and food three times a day, but the people who supervised my growth for an entire decade were AT THEIR JOB.
Narcissists go through their entire lives just wrecking everyone in their path, and the worst part for all of their victims is they will NEVER take responsibility. There's always some excuse, or some other justification that only makes sense to them. Every other one of the 7 billion people on this planet could tell them they were in the wrong and they'd brush it off like it was nothing.
I feel this. I don’t know why it is so normalized in some cultures when I parent is emotionally manipulative. “When I’m dead then you will be sorry” “ nobody loves me in the house so I’ll just leave then yall miss me”.
Please remind your grandmother that the Bible also says: "If you don't work you don't eat." 2Thessalonians 3:ll
Came here to say this. It begins at 2 Thessalonians 3:10
The grandmother will say " I'm so old, what work can I do. I can't do anything."
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@Cory Muro which book? Which verse did it say?
Also please remind your grandmother that Jesus Christ already returned and the bible is over and doesn't apply to today. It sounds like your parents were financially irresponsible and want you to pay for theie irresponsibility. You are right in what you are doing.
Parents: "It's not always about money"
Josh: "Oh perfect, I'm going to stop paying your bills"
Parents: "HOOOOLDDDDD UPPPPPP"
Well summarized
😄😄😄😄 exactly jacob
Lol seriously
Lol!!!
Everyone: "Okay Boomer"
Run, run, run away Josh from all these people. They are totally toxic.
Definitely.
....... exactly !! ....... i see the beginning of an awakening ....... the rage of a realized injustice ....... but, i'm not seeing the resolve necessary to make a clean, uncompromised break from this toxic/corruptive connection . ...... give your abused/confused person to Jesus Christ 💜 ....... and avoid religion like the plague !!
That is great advice.
As someone who was told by her dad that she has achieved nothing when she didnt send money while was dealing with a sickness from being overworked, i felt this. I hope youre better.
When a relationship turns toxic, the only solution is to walk away.
I know it's your parents but they are killing you with their demands. You may need to let them go for now
Don't let them guilt you into the continued care when they say I'll do something to themselves. Thats6their choice. First step.don't pay their rent. It has to be done. Tell father to get an Uber job and stick by it. It's the first step. Tell them if they cut you out it is their choice, they are choosing this. Take care of yourself first
Prayers to you. Good luck.
Sucks that it's always so hard. No matter the circumstance.
Leeches....come in allll shapes n sizes, my Bro. Get you some fire - n BURN em off ¡¿¡¿♡♡
100%. Family shouldn't get a free pass.
You must cleanse your soul. You can't carry others burden. He doesn't have to feel bad because he's done a MARVELOUS JOB! There are millions of parents that wish their children would treat them like he's treated his. Even though we've heard...''No Good Deed Goes Unpunished...'' we can't live by that. He is smart and good hearted. It's a shame he has to see this in his lifetime. He needs someone right now so he can cleanse. He's right about putting his foot down. Thank God he's not like some siblings that would castigate the parents and push them around. Something that was good has gone off the rails. But he has to stay on track. He's too young and kind to have his life driven into the ground.
Too bad that bad things happen to good people.
When you grandfather says he "hopes you can go through your life without any family", all i think is "i hope you get to go through the rest of your life without that family". Cut these monsters off and start your own family.
You can always just make your own family.
Loved it. 👏👏👏
I'm the mooch of my family. I live with my aunt i pay her rent off my disability and I only ask for weed money every once and a while. Never more than 20. But when I moved out of state I did decent for myself I worked, had my own place ect. Only thing hindering me was my meth addiction. Now I didn't spend crazy amount of money on it, it was more the people I was around and decisions I made.but when I move back my family treats me like I'm incapable and crazy so I don't even try. So I'm packing up in March and hiking the AT.don't know what comes after that, but I'd rather be homeless than feel useless. I love my family but they enable me not to mention they don't trust me with the one thing I'm great at(fixing things) sorry just had to vent. This video made me think about things. A reason I dont do anything too is my family are kidna bullies. I'm afraid they'll roast me for my job, girlfriend choice ect. They grew up middle class with supportive parents and I grew up with abusive poor ones.
Ironically my biggest bully in my family was also the only one pushing me to be better instead of just pushing me to get a job. To him roasting me was a way of encouragement he's really competitive and thought it would make me too.. Unlike the others he'd make time for me and encouraged me to follow my dreams and travel. His year death anniversary is coming up and I regret being so bitter towards him.again sorry if this doesn't belong here, but I'm venting and I have no one to talk to in NY.
Sorry man. It’s awful. Sending good vibes your way.
Where were you went they sent me to cult camp fam
@@JoshuaFluke1 sorry my dude, ya know, free will and stuff. But seriously, I know all too well how your family can be a living Hell. You have handled life like a champion. Proud of you dude.
Hello Jesus
You're a good dude, sorry about using your name in vain
@David The wise good lord you don't actually believe that crap do you? Nobody's coming back from anywhere. When you die, you die. You're gone. Nobody is using a deception approach or any other "approach" to do anything. Do you honestly think some people somewhere held some super secret meeting and decided "this is how we'll fool the world!" And they all went along with it? Quietly? We're in the middle of a global pandemic because... science. Not God. Not the devil. Not any other made up, fairytale, Egyptian or otherwise skygod. A pandemic. What is it with you Q-Anon peeps that love talking about blood and sex parties?
After racking up a $30k debt trying to help a now former friend who has learned nothing through their own choices, I’ve learned never to enable anyone again. I’m realizing that applies to family as well. Thank you for sharing your story so others can have the wake up call they need too. The religious stuff really damaged me as a child and it’s taken two decades to get this far beyond it.
Man I just watched this entire video for this first time. My thoughts:
1) your family is king of emotional blackmail
2) you should NOT have to support fully capable parents
3) tell your grandma “God helps those who help themselves”
4) wishing you the best
Emotional blackmail is soooo correct
This is a form of abuse called “parentified child”...
Thank you for "naming" this form of abuse for us. I've struggled with what to call it for years.
@@NinaPaulHeartofCompassion same...been where he’s at for some time.
Chidified Parent
Absolutely!!!
Thank you....it took me 50 years to figure this out. I went thru a lot of pain because of this.
This type childhood makes you vulnerable to toxic relationships and other abusive settings later in life.
YOU didn't destroy your relationship with your dad. Your dad did. Maybe he'll grow up and realize it someday. Be happy you finally broke the chains.
He'll realize it when it's too late - like on his death bed.
Evil generation .
Child abuse doesn't end at adulthood. It continues. You have an amazing heart im so sorry your kind heart has been bruised and used like this. Its hard to walk away but ur mental health is everything!!! Much love.
Josh, maybe you need to see a therapist. This relationship is so toxic!
I agree. Your dad is using you, then makes you feel guilty. Narcissistic maneuvers. He needs help and not by you.
He needs someone right now...and I'm not talking about Jesus. He doesn't need a bible lesson...he needs IMMEDIATE UNDERSTANDING AND AID!!!!!...On the other hand...he needs to know that for what he has tried to do, his reward in ''heaven'' is great. And it is sad that his parents did to him....what they taught him NOT to do to others. Strange irony........................I have MY OWN story to tell about MY parents................
We can be his therapy. 🙂
@@katiix I'LL DRINK TO THAT !
@@kteka9265 SO SAD !!!
"You owe us for raising you!"
Uhhh no, I didn't ask to be born, and you didn't do me a favor by supporting me through childhood, that's YOUR JOB AS A PARENT!!!!
Yes, but in normal families I do think you can show some appreciation for doing the parent job well. It doesn't hurt. That's what my, kids who never had to take out a student loan, did for us. Parents who required their kids to take a student loan did NOT do their job.
@@danluzurriaga6035 you say that as if everyone has the money and capability to shell out cash for college...
@@AeridisArt any able-bodied and mentally stable adult can. It's just a matter of how hard you're willing to work for it. Think I'm wrong? Join the airforce, or the navy, or if you're real desperate, the marines. You'll get college if you want it that bad.
@@AeridisArt and student loans exist, it's just a matter of if you have the drive and will to effectively use the loans and pay them off.
@@jacobp.2024 I was commenting on his statement that "you're parenting wrong if your kids take out a student loan".
Josh, I was also raised by a Pentecostal family. Both our families seem to have the art of manipulation down perfectly. I think it’s the first thing they teach at Pentecostal churches lol. Sorry you are having to deal with this. Luckily my mom saw through the church when we were young and got us out of there. But my dads family still remains there, and dealing with them is never a good outcome. You always end up feeling shamed and worse about yourself because you don’t share their high “standards.” Took me a while to realize the fault is on them and not on me. Also, I am so proud of you for seeing through this, I know how hard this is.
That would explain a lot, I grew up Pentecostal and was heavily manipulated as a child and an adult and tried to be taken advantage of, and for a long while it worked to.
His text messages sound like a drug addict or alcoholic. I’ve had similar experiences. You’re absolutely right Josh. You did way more than you should have. You are an awesome level headed guy. I have total respect for you!
Could be gambling also, from experience 😔
That was my thought, when it's this extreme it can only be some kind of addiction.
You see peoples true character when you stop giving them what they want...and you cant keep helping someone who wont help themselves...
Been there done that and found out who my friends are.
The narcissistic behavior becomes so obvious 🤮
I cut my dad off 8 years ago. Gave my mother an ultimatum. She respected me and changed her behavior. He didn't. Best decision I ever made
what ultimatum you gave them? Because I have this problem too
My mom is dead but I am on the track of cutting my dad and rest of my family off. I only really have one family member that I don’t want to cut ties with. That’s how shitty the people in my life are. It sucks 😂
@@theoutcast9215 I’m sorry to hear that man, just keep your head up
So thankful I had productive wealthy highly intelligent white collar parents that never needed this kind of pathetic help!
I'm so proud of you man. So many people have this toxic devotion to their awful families it baffles my mind.
"phone money and my friday allowance"? WTF? Is this your dad or your teenage daughter?
Is it customary for this with teenage daughter?
@@nateportney672 Before that teenager is old enough to work sure. In my home if my children maintain good grades and something extra curricular I have no issues with an allowance. I already pay the phone bill. I want them 100% focused on their future. I will focus on providing for them. That said, some families can't do that. That's ok. I think the point of the original comment is that Josh's Dad is acting like his child.
FR, my dad might have bought me my first car at 16, but he said if I wanted gas for it or money to go do stuff, I had to work a part-time job. Been working since 16, and couldn't thank my father enough for teaching me the important lesson of working hard
on top of getting free rent from his son and a car with insurance for how many years? wow
or teen son
i went thru similar as this guy only im the daugter
my younger and spoiled brother got out and far away once seen what i was going thru
adult ppl like this exist
also in my case i was the biblical one and they are antiGod
Holy shit dude, you've been gaslit by everyone. Respect for persevering through everything but I hope you are able to surround yourself with positive people in the future.
The unfortunate reality is that when you're raised in a household with people that act that way, you become conditioned to associate that behavior with what love and family looks like so when you seek love and family, you'll hone in on those traits. It's an awful cycle that there's no easy solution for.
Ok chill we don't have the full background. We don't know if his experience is explained objectively so let's chill.
How does this even work...
@@1mol831it's part of the reason why poor people have kids. Eventually one of the kids will strike it rich and support the family. Filial piety it's called. He just doesn't want to do that anymore. His family didn't raise him right.
Joke's on them: They just _lost_ their ATM...
The people who are saying you owe everything to your parents are the same people who abused their kids and now wonder why their kids never talk to them. I’ve had these people who do nothing but take in my life before, and I know how hard it is to finally stand up for yourself, and I know how much harder it is when it’s your family. this is an old video so I hope you’ve been able to keep moving on.
You know, being disowned be those people is actually a blessing in disguise.
You are such a beautifully amazingly anIncredibly awesomely beautiful son you Deserve everything and all the Credit that is coming to you!!
Blood doesn’t make family. Love, trust, respect, loyalty, and understanding- make family.
Absolutely right.
Blood doesn’t make your family, Those who would give their blood to you and sacrifice themselves are your family
I absolutely agree with this! --
For instance I am choosing to distance myself from my situation because nothing good can come from staying with toxic☢ hurtful and an emotionally manipulative "guardian" who acts more like the schoolyard bully that you would typically see in 80's flicks rather the person that is supposed to be lifting me up 😔 I hope more people are blessed enough to see your comment 🙏
2×👍 *WAAAAY* the f ☝
Blood doesnt make family
Caring does
He should pay it all back
His dad cared for him when he was infant
Now he doesnt pay freaking rents
Wow
Ungreatful
blood does make family guy's. even if they treat you bad sometimes, always give your parents respect and always try to reach out to them and help them in your own way. There is benifit you can not even imagine helping anyone in need especelly family.
We're your family Josh.
Y r u gae
@@Kevin-cy2dr no u r geh
When I first read this it sounded ominous. But then I looked at it again and it's wholesome. How?
Aurora Therrien uh how is it ominous
@@auralluring At first I read it "where are your family Josh?", and I thought this man was making fun of him. Then I reread it.
Man. This guy is strong as hell.
Nah seriously. I initially came across his content for web dev stuff, but he's actually an amazing rolemodel.
Narcissist don't take responsibility for their actions or in your case"no actions".
Tell them that you need money, and you will see how fast they start pulling away.
YES!!!!!
Josh my friend have you ever heard the saying "all children deserve parents but not all parents deserve children" and you deserve loving respectful parents I'm sorry you were dealt a bad hand
I agree!
Absolutely right. He really does deserve better parents.
your family disowning you is a BLESSING. You can finally move FORWARD with your life. What will they possibly be able to do without you? The audacity. Of course, we all love our families, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with setting firm boundaries with them, especially when they're like this. It will always hurt, but it's necessary for your progression and growth. If they're willing to drop you so quickly after everything they've put you through then you have no need for their toxicity and negativity in your life. Heal and grow, focus on yourself.
They're destroying the relationship, not you. When someone only likes you for your money, that's a bad sign.
I’m 72 and I think your parents are irresponsible and dead wrong in their treatment of you. I would NEVER do to my children (ages 50 and 48) what they’ve done to you. It’s not your responsibility to take care of them if they are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves. And if they are unable to take care of themselves for whatever reason, there are resources in communities to help people.
Sounds like they want to live above their means and leaning hard on their son in order to do that. This is horrible, and certainly not loving behavior on their part. Unfortunately, we have to set boundaries, even with those we love.
I know their behavior hurts and conflicts you but I think you’re handling things the right way. I would suggest you get some counseling for yourself and let them figure out their own lives. Don’t continue letting them use you. You may end up having to cut them off completely. I know it will hurt but you’ve done enough for them and you deserve to have a life of your own.
wow, very wise compassionate advice.
Thank you for your encouraging words to this young man. I'm a 53yr old mom& gma and he NEEDED to hear from us "old folks". Can you IMAGINE? Oh my word! I have 2boys. One his very age. One 5yrs younger who looks just like Joshua. Im pretty sure his parents have been guilting him his entire life, not just these past 5yrs. This is an abomination!
Perfect!
Joshua i have the utmost respect for you. You obviously love your family but they don't love you. I hate to say it but nowadays I believe most people who say they are Christians aren't. GOD SAID YOU WILL KNOW THEM BY THEIR fruit. Throwing around scripture does not make you a Christian. God sees your heart and you will be rewarded by God. You have gone the extra mile for your family but I believe its time to walk away.i had some very hurtful things happen in my family also and while I forgive them I simply can't be around them. You can't spend all your time and energy trying to heal just to have it happen over and over again. NOT HEALTHY! But I would rather see you run to GOD and not from HIM. He's not the problem. Evil and irresponsible people are. And they love to hide behind the church. God lays out how Christians should live and one day we will all be judged by a holy God who loves you and will someday make everything right. This life is very short and I know God loves your heart. But you can't help people who won't help themselves. Don't punish God for what people do. Instead use your hurts to become strong and know God didn't promise us a trouble free life. He said we would have problems but if we stay faithful to Him he will reward us beyond what we can even imagine. The most spe ial and good people are given the most hardships because Satan wants to derail us so that we walk away from God. Then we are useless in this life and lose our reward in the next life. Satan loves to hang out in church. People bad not God or church . Will be praying for you to run a good race to the finish!
Well said. I did not have my boys to pay my rent. I want them as men to want to spend time with me, not because they feel they must.
This honestly got me Crying. You’re an amazing son, if anyone says otherwise they are stupid.
You’ve been duped. Does he look like a broken man?
@@andreal.p.7075 broken or not, the story is very upsetting. Also I love ur profile pic dog so cute
Sorry man, having a family like that is rough, I hope you can keep doing.
The baggage has cut itself off, you're free now man
Amen....
Ironic the ones that are burning the bridges claim you are. Set yourself up to be free in the future of all burdens. Invest that money and tell the extra baggage to fuck off. Put your foot down, they've burnt their bridges.
That's exactly what I said about my Aunt and Uncle when my mom stopped talking to her sister. Annoying, wrongfully critical Republicans who don't understand the words coming forth from their mouths and why none of us every enjoyed coming over for Thanksgiving, Passover, etc. And now it's like they don't exist.
He isn't free....... this will have a emotional toll on him for a long time. It always does. Not having family leaves scars that are extremely hard to heal
@@TheShootingstarhero Not if he was never close to his family in the first place
"Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally," whereas "a man is only loved under the condition that he provides something
"
We are with you Josh, Stay strong bud.
Damn
Facts
@@briannahappykitty That's a very rare case. I was talking about more in general.
@@briannahappykitty infertile can't cook and hates kids.. so what do you do just make people miserable all day? Why wouldn't a man want to be around that I wonder... Actually I changed my mind.. what's your number?
@Charlene Baltimore That's only for feminist & vegans. Rest of the women will be loved unconditionally.
Your being financially abused son.
Yes
People will do that to you..then make u feel bad..
I just wonder how his parent going to survive? Is it normal for us to abandon them when we become adult? Does they need to be homeless after so many years rasing us? Sorry it doesn't sound right to me. Stop making excuse to justify being selfish. It is our responsibility.
Stay strong you just went through the same thing as I did, it’s poison don’t drink it anymore.
I’m amazed that you’ve grown up so mature and level headed with that kind of family. You’re amazing!
it is possible but at the same time it is so damn hard .
Don't be blind. He's a good dude but he's fucked up. Just as any kid would be when raised by narcissistic sociopaths. One day I hope he can clear his head and level it out, but that's gonna take years and a lot of work
@Susel same with me
Said in previous vid that he left for college before his family got addicted to drugs
It's parent child reversal of roles. Quite common when parents are emotionally immature, the children end up becoming mature and responsible and feeling responsible for taking care of everyone while abandoning their own needs.
Being disowned from this sounds like a blessing.
@James Bond p
James Bond it’s a toxic relationship. You dont want to let go, but you are essentially killing yourself with it.
Just listen to what they did to him.... i’ll take the emotional baggage, and ship them off, bye bye.
@Hudson Hamman Make connections with new people around. Get a girlfriend, make love etc. Only if they come with apology and forgiveness maybe then there's chance for being back together. But sadly such people are selfish and hardhearted to start with, so it might need a miracle for it to happen.
There is no way you're the bad guy in this situation. God bless.
I don't know this guy and I don't know the situation but one should always keep in mind that there might be a way. I've seen so many people get burned because they supported people they thought to be good and kind, who turned out different.
I'm not saying don't support him. Some people grow up in a toxic environment with a toxic family. I'm saying, especially with online personalities. keep other options and perspectives in mind.
I can deeply relate with this guy. My mom used me for loans for her personal agenda when I was already working and supporting the family with basic provisions. Her manipulations then brought the family a lot of bad omens. Since my and I were living with my grandmother, my mom went into my room found a book which I was using as a diary then my gran kicked me out. Since then nobody was living a stable life all because my mom got greedy with me and she wanted more than I can provide.
You are being used. You have been there enough. It is time to let them do it for themselves. If they can’t see that you have been helping them. If they need to stand on their own 2 feet. If they can’t handle it. That is their own fault. They can get government assistance if there’s no way that they can get a job.
As Nancy Bush said. “Just say no “.
@Stella Hohenheim Not sure what your point is. Nobody else is entitled to his money no matter how much he earned.
@Stella Hohenheim
It sounds to me that he earned his money. What does it have to do with the emotional blackmail of his parents?
Wow. This makes me appreciate my family so much more.
Thanks for the openness!
You don’t “owe” these family members a single thing. If you can move away & don’t leave a forwarding address.
...... thatz what i thought.
Save yourself. You owe them nothing! We all love you! Stay strong. It’s a shame you are going through this. Always remember; family or not, Karma doesn’t have a menu... What you are Served, is what you Deserve!! You came through them BUT you are NOT of them. You at least now know where your father will got is NARCISSISTIC behavior. Stand your ground sweetheart!!🌹🌟🦋
Great advice
@teresa0923 ........ 'blood' is not a valid reason to sustain toxic relationships ....... this, i know ....... been there/lived that 👩🎓
Imagine asking your 30 year old son for your allowance.
Pitiful people all around. You stay strong and keep no contact as your plan
@@jonjon738 thats their job the fuck they made him he didnt ask to be born
@@jonjon738 I hope you’re not a parent.
@@clarissa8477 That is obviously someone who is going to burden himself upon his own family. Want to bet they vote for democrats too? Deadbeats gonna deadbeat.
imagine being a 30 year old airing your personal filthy laundry online for clicks and money.
Bro going through this now! It's crazy! How do people really believe that others are responsible for them? It's just stupid!
called a liberal
@@AtxMamasita people like you keep a division in America. Don't be a jerk!
@@AtxMamasita I bet his parents are tRump supporters.
@@karlashoultz3157 cynthiafails to understand what liberals are versus what trumplicans are
@@usaroxx8085 His parents are liberals; living off of handouts when they are fully capable of doing for themselves.
Josh, I am really sorry you went through this. My mom actually disowned me as well quite recently due to difference in religion. Your video has really helped me get an understanding of what to do in this situation. Just know you did the right thing. Sending good thoughts your way
Setting boundaries with dysfunctional relatives is so difficult, especially when they are your parents. You are doing a GREAT JOB.
Sorry, but sometimes friends are last longer than shitty relatives with no respects.
Rule number one: Always act broke and like a tight ass regardless of how much money you have and no one will expect financial help or ask you for money.
Doesn't always work unfortunately, for various reasons. Am speaking from experiance
I do the same, even though they have much more money than me. I don't want to be the first one they will go to for support when they lose their job, since they didn't support me with the right education to get the carrier I want and emotionaly. Plus I knew friends with the same parents as this story and I don't think this is right when parent are capable of working.
I also believe in hiding good fortune, people, even ones that love you can’t help but want for themselves. Not necessarily asking for money but they can act like you think their better than them or I have also had a friend that would start listing all the reasons they weren’t successful when I mentioned a win I had. It sucks.
These parents of his seem like the type to put him down for not being smart with his money, he will never ever be free if it until he makes sure they loose his number for good, with the experience I had anyway. I hope it s better for him, it sounds like life lone abuse to me, and the parents won't ever change.
Nah, rule number one: your money is your money, and if they don't like it they can go f themselves 🤣
This happening for 5 years is unacceptable, it’s almost like YOU are the father.
Its called parentification en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parentification.
But but.... I'm just trying to settle down a bit
Anybody else read that last part in Maury’s voice?
It's rather completely like that
You are 1000% correct. You don't deserve to be treated like this. 😢 I'm sorry for your struggle.
When people tell you who they are, listen...
You might consider that you've been conditioned by narcissists to be their slave/savior. Don't light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Best of luck.
I agree man. I’ve had this similar programming took me years of conscious effort to reverse it
I was and I still... I'm struggling with it. I cut the cord 6 years ago.
Definitely narcissistic parents - lack of empathy for Josh, exploitation, entitlement. Guilt-tripping is the definitive sign. The only proper thing one can do in such case is - cut all contact. Forever.
Well said. Josh seems like a great guy, and I feel for him.
Wtffff!!!!!!?
Really!!!
Is there humans like you in this world ????!!!
Im ready to eat stones for my family .
dad: Money is not everything
josh: this is the final rent I am going to pay.
dad: You are not my son anymore
Lol
Right, funny how that works isn't it.
LMAOOOO
Your either in the problem or your in the solution ! Get into the solution now , look to your future now!
Josh, I know this is an old video but thanks for sharing this. Honestly let’s us all know that everyone is going through difficult things with our families. Much love man, you’re a really chill and good person and I hope things have gotten better for you.
Oh Joshua, your pain is palpable and it's heartbreaking. Your parents and grandparents have failed you. The good news is that you recognized it and stood up for yourself. The bad news is that you love them and it's always going to be painful. You are a good son and they know that whether they admit it or not. You can love them from a distance if it's healthier for you and that does not make you a bad person!! I hope you find peace!
He's a liar, read the man for cry'n out loud
@@icecastles1432 I highly doubt that
When they hit you with a Bible verse, hit them back with the verse that says" If you don't work, you don't get to eat."
Like I said in the comments...he doesn't need a bible lesson....he needs reality.
Like I said in the comments...he doesn't need a bible lesson....he needs reality.
Utah is Mormon Country. Gaslighting is pervasive there.
Wow, that is abusive, this is how young people have heart attacks
They have heart attacks because they eat like crap and don’t exercise
Your story and mine sound very similar. I was in my 40s before I was able to set boundaries. It hurt like crazy to have to totally leave my Mom to her own responsibility. Now I am 52 . She has been sober for several years and she just gave me money... And I let her. Because even though she never said I'm sorry ... Thank you for all those years you helped me ... It was one of the only times in her life she has been able to give back in that way. I accepted it with humility, grace and gratitude.
underneath it all is their feeling of low self worth... To see you succeed only highlights the places they have failed as parents. It's twisted thinking that does the opposite of the unconscious intent on their part and that is to feel better about their own perceived failings, when in actuality treating us that way ... Makes them feel worse.
I went no contact for over a year with my Mom. My Mom said some incredibly hurtful and untrue stuff to me and I just cut her off. I think it was like 20 months.
During that no contact time I felt that freedom you describe as well. It's crazy because you are free but being the adult survivor of narcissistic parenting, you never really feel free or worthy , that is generational , it is so incredibly tough to break from. You have to step out of it and look deep inside.
It's also why you choose friends and partners with that tendency , because in a twisted way ... It's comfortable. We know how to navigate it for extended periods. Which is not a skill that you purposefully sought to add to the tool box but the resilience, character and integrity that one gains is unparalleled. Particularly when it causes you to want to not repeat the cycle.
One thing that helped me to release my Mom and forgive her , therefore releasing my self , was to recognize the parenting she had. And while it did not make it ok to continue to enable her. It at least gave a perspective that she was only able to work with the tools she had.
There was a very tough couple of years there and have been establishing a new relationship in the last couple, but her and I have both done a bunch of healing and she has really done some personal work.
I can now have a relationship with her that has healthy boundaries and is evolving in new ways.
I still have narcissistic gas lighters attracted to my empathy and kindness but I have been able , and continue to learn to be able to, more quickly and more readily recognize the energy right away and I am very mindful of who I let into my space.
When you come from this kind of background creating a safe space of your own , exploring who you are autonomously , discovering your hopes and dreams is crucial. Absolutely critical at the point of breaking ties... So you establish a sense of self separate from the role you were given in the family.
All the strong emotions you have are all normal too. So do not beat yourself up about any of them. Let them roll through Remember that .... Feel them , scream them out when you are flying ... Do rituals where you cleanse your energetic body as you move through the wind... Whatever ... Always be releasing...
People do not realize how this stuff stores in your body and gets wrapped in your physiology both physical and energetic.
Do some research in epigenetics to learn how to break the Neuro pathways that were created and rewrite new ones...
I'm rambling ...
I am super proud of you ... from one survivor to another ... Your best years are ahead of you... Don't worry about bridges behind you ... build bridges to your creation.
Those that are meant to be in your life will come back in when the time is right.
All the blessings.
If anything, your grandparents are irresponsible for not raising your dad to be responsible for himself.
And women should also be able to take care of themselves!!
Can't his dad move in with his parents?
Maybe the grandparents did teach their son how to take care of himself he just didn't put forth the effort has he became an adult.
@@rhondamartin1251 anybody that is the parent of an adult child knows that the people you turn out, at 18 Tru 25 I suppose, change who they are they continue to grow or they stop their growth process we as parents are not responsible for that
Take the time to dig into this unfortunate issue.... it is not from the grandparents......keeping the focus where it belongs is really the only way to deal with it....
You gave them shelter, you gave them food, you gave them transportation, clothes, medication, time, and a hundred chances. Then they called you the sinful one who needs forgiveness. From my perspective, you are the most Christlike out of the bunch.
Forgive them and move on. You have enough just trying to take care of yourself in these trying times. Not forgiving them will only hurt you, keep you from accomplishing your wellbeing, and accomplishing a goal in life. God bless you!
Colossians 3:21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
lol it would have been so good if he replied with that
Theres other verses where Paul talks about how if a brother (in christ) keeps taking hand outs and is capable of earning himself but refuses that you should cut him off
This teaching appears in the bible more than once. People love to twist scripture and leave out the parts that they don't like. In context, it actually says that you are to honor your father and mother IF they are serving the lord, and you will have a long life. Followed by instructions for parents to teach their kids to serve the Lord, and a warning to fathers not to provoke their children and drive them away from God. His family is sick. I just found this channel and I feel for this young man, as what he has been through is almost identical to what finally drove me to walk away from my parents.
His family are what I call "convenience christians"
damn, his grand parents were cherry picking the shit out of the bible huh
I feel this whole video man. Growing up I realize that you need to take care of what takes care of you. And if this gets to anyone, remember, most things in life are just trying to be sold to ya.
Young man there's a fine line between being generous and being a fool. Your walking on the latter side of that line. Self preservation is the only thing you should be worrying about. You're doing it right now! Be strong, you got your shit together and you're gone above and beyond for others! Do your thing young brother and have a clear conscience!
Change your phone number. Disown them for good. You’ve enabled this for long enough. Paying over $40K in bills in a year to ungrateful family that refuses to be grateful is insane. Good luck man, I wish you the best.
Also he should keep a close eye on his credit report!
Daniel Edwards Yes because they seem the type to scam him!
Dionne they already used his credit card once and killed his credit
Never being in touch with your family is just too much I guess. If they could only not be such fucking ass-wholes all the time...
familyHammer$40k sounds like a really good name for a franchise
You did nothing wrong. Your parents should be able to care for themselves.
They should also be ashamed.
Exactly! The problems is that......ugh.......when the pandemic hit, everyone (except for the 1%) just about well got laid off and were out of the job, and there won't be any jobs as long as this dreaded virus continues onward! My mother, thankfully, has a "nurse" job, therefore, she's able to successfully get paid and she is NOT at all facing any layoffs, so, we're very lucky thus far! T_T
@@KingMickeyMouseOoO I got laid off, but I went out and got a new job which pays much more. Maybe folks need to buckle down and get out their interview clothes.
@@Brush19138 Thank you for sharing! I'm sorry that all of this went down for this poor man! My wife and I can't save everyone, but was CAN do this! Spread the truth as it is!
Spiritualism is greater than religion! Trust me! @#$% the god @#$% cross! Love and nurture the ankh!
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Listen, in a nutshell, I was raped, beaten, forced to go to bed without brushing my teeth AND my father put sugar on my teeth just to make damn good sure that my baby teeth would rot! This was my childhood! I was in countless forms of child pornography, and I was forced to endure the literal depths of Hell! BTW, my father was atheist, and he said, "I'm not going to Hell, because it doesn't exist! I can do whatever I want in the world! And you can go to fucking Hell and rot there!" My wife and I fight for people like you! We do our absolute best to send out positive vibes and that alone can help you all out! This is what we do!
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@@KingMickeyMouseOoO People like me?
it's tough family you have! I hope you find peace with yourself, and break this toxic cycle with your parents. My parents are not rich, even on poor side, but what I remember them working like crazy all their life just to give their kids better future. When I realize that I will immigrate to US, they scrapped all money they have to give me! Even now, when I have way more stable situation, and come home and want to pay in restaurant for them. They barely allow me to do so. Parents that use their kids as cash pigs are very toxic.
You need to seek some therapy because taking this many hits in such a short space of time will have an impact.
This.
Cynicism and nihilism on the way👍
“nEeD”
He might be stronger than you think? Plus, his therapy might just be to stay away from people who tell him what to do and/or exploit him.
@@MatrixMNP The strongest people get therapy, what do you think the entire point of military debriefing is in the military after operations? Why do you think the government makes senior Civil Servants and decision makers have their mental health regularly checked? Weakness is NOT seeking therapy and improving yourself before something goes wrong, it's not about waiting until something does go wrong, maybe now, maybe in 10 years, that's not strength.
"Yes, every child deserves a family but not every couple deserves a child." - Isatashi
i just google and didn't find anybody. so who is that xd?
@@NKABoX ditto
The Father decides who gets children and who does not...and He has His reasons for doing so. Just remember that the Father has been compared to a potter who makes many types of ornate pottery - but a large portion of this pottery is made only to be destroyed.
Bang Ding Ow!
THEIR GUILT TRIPING YOU BIG TIME!! BE STRONG, MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE, THEY WILL BE FINE!!
Very Very Narcisstic 😡
You have done amazing Josh! You are a beautiful soul. Your family maybe asleep and do not wish to wake up. Leave them in slumber . . while you go ahead and 'live your life. No efforts are ever wasted! You have laid down a blessed path 🪁 . . coming from knowing you have done your very best and now it's time for you. Big hug 😇
It sounds like they’re on drugs to be completely honest no normal and sane person completely wastes their lives and refuses to get a real job
As an ex junkie he definitely sounds like a junkie, the sister too.
I was thinking the same thing
Yup
same and why’re we all here at the same time lmao
The parents are a disgrace, or atleast the dad. Haven't watched it fully yet.
Like a Spanish saying goes, "Cria cuervos y te sacaran los ojos." Translation, "Feed the crows and they'll eat yours eyes out.".
This is normally adressed to parents in this case the parental crows picks the eyes of the nestling...
@@gatoniebla4900 you got it. And yeah, I was really talking about how the son was feeding the parents and for them to turn to their own son like that?
@George Alkass I know. Hispanics have some crazy ass phrases man. Lol!
@Kitkit Kitkit yeah. We see this a lot in Hispanic families. A lot of people have kids after kids with the simple purpose of having some retirement money to sit on.
I like this
Them: "Money doesn't mean everything"
Also them: *"Now give me your money."*
There were many contradictions in this video. You would have to be brain dead to not see any of them. I honestly don't even know how they can say some of the stuff they said with a straight face. Like if my family said this to me I would burst out laughing like a hyena. Crazy ass people😂
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Wow ur beautiful nothing at all to do with the vid but had to tell you. M
@@celestaronin my heart kinda melted at that, awh. I truly hope things are well with you, sir.
@@robynalice879 well your welcome, you never know who you meet in this life, may I ask where your from? I live in England. Just wanted to say I like the tunes in your play list if you like that sort of music you should checkout the golden oldies fallout channels on YT I think they will be right down your alley. Wish I met you in a different life. Hope your well miss. M
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Their entitlement is pathetic. Stay strong. Don’t let the guilt trip effect you. You have given enough Joshua and you have your own obligations and responsibilities to take care of. There comes a time when we need to stay clear of the toxic people in our life. IMO, this is it. Live your life Joshua. You deserve to be happy. Love and blessings to you.
Sounds like a good Son with a Father who gave up on trying in life.
Exactly
Threatening suicide is a level of pitty party. Call welfare and report senior needs help.
My god I feel like I’m listening to a father lecturing his son about “leaving the nest” but in reality, your the son lecturing your grown father. I am so sorry he treats you like this
"Sometimes it's not helping, it's enabling." This is exactly right. Stick to your resolve.
i just recently discovered your channel and this is pretty telling and shows what type of person you are. my family is abusive as well but not in that way. i hope it will get better for you.