Great video!! Listen guys if you haven't already booked a session with these gals do it! Talk about getting clarity, wow. And guess what it worked flawlessly!!!
She doesn't want to see me on my her birthday the 18th of this month she wants to wait till next year I haven't talked to her I've been upset she keeps texting
Let her earn your time. She will value it more and you will see more of her intent early on. Never fall in love with imagination. Be real and let her choose. You can be tough early and then become nice, but you can't be nice early and then become tough (even when pushed).. Good luck, shoot the shot. Miss or make, it's life.
Hey so hopefully you see this message and can answer this in some way. I got in a relationship after being single for 3 years or so. I got in and immediately was too nice and looking back I see that now. She started saying she doesn’t know how she feels obviously cause we rushed it. So I’m trying to pull back a bit, but not be “too tough.” She’s already asked what’s been up, and why I’m being distant. Any advice? Thanks!
It's not the nice guy who needs to change its the woman. If woman leaves you because you treated her with respect and would rather be with someone who treats her like shit she did you a favor. She has low self esteem and that's not the type of energy you need to be around anyway
I hear what you're saying. However, know that you cannot force attraction. At best, you will find a woman who will tolerate you, and she will still be willing to accept all the cash and prizes you give her. However, when you become unwilling or unable to keep giving, she will leave you. The bottom line is - do not trash others, and put yourself first, always. If she wants to continue seeing you, she will. You will not have to bribe her. Many very attractive women have been taught they don't have to do anything to be attractive to guys. They just have to show up. Thus they have no impetus to improve themselves. This is one of many reasons guys should put themselves first. It's okay to say 'no' to a woman. Remember to be polite, honest, & direct. It's also okay to politely, honestly, & directly stand your ground. Do these things and you will be happier, and she will be happier. Become a proper man, and she will becone a proper woman. If you have become a proper man, and she does not become a proper woman, take the loss and move on.
Apollonia I'm only 23 and this video probably related to me the most. The 2 male/father figures that were in my life didn't teach me much or didn't do anything for me to look up to especially when dealing with women and all i had was my mom. She said don't be like neither of them growing up so i tried not to. My first real relationship was my freshman year of college i made her the center of my happiness and i was depressed for 6 months when we broke up. I have also expressed passive aggressive behavior as well. It's crazy how you just described me i will be booking a coaching session soon.
Yes, Gregory I completely understand. I would also suggest starting looking at your friendships as well and see if you can surround yourself around men you can also learn from that goes beyond dating. :-) xo talk soon!
I was the "nice guy" a couple years ago. That behavior scared the woman i was attracted to away. What Apollonia says is true, it was emotionally and physically draining.
So true, I grew up raised by my mom. I look up to my mindset coach now. My wife and says I don’t listen, she needs space, and I do to much for her. I get the nice guy thing
She hit the nail on the head with this one. She basically told my life story, that why am happy I sucribed and happy for this because she really does know what she is talking about
I've watched many of your videos, and this one is by far the most intense and impactful one. I now know why you're the best at this: you really care about Men. Thanks for all your work, and remember, you are always loved.
I was never taught how to date or treat a women I was attracted to. So by default I just tried to be a nice as possible and do things for her thinking that would make her like me. Then when it didn't work I just assumed I was ugly and gave up. I understand now from watching all the dating coachs. Now I got to get over the nervousness of talking to women with flirting and bantering. So many guys are just giving up completely, I don't want to do that. Thank you for your videos Apollonia.
Men, our validation has to come from within. Let this confident energy come within because you're achieving your own goals and expectations. This will in turn give you confidence which cause you to carry yourself with the capacity to act in strength and have actions that are done with no expectations. Nice guy syndrome comes from neediness and this neediness repels women like the plague as far as intimate attraction. A woman is drawn to your strength and your individuality, not your desire to appease her. If you're doing nice acts seeking positive validation from women, you will always come up short.
One thing Appollonia never talks about is what men want. Maybe some of you want to follow a women anywhere she goes, but I don’t. The best advice I can give all the guys out there is to cross of your list any women that isn’t interested in following you. If she doesn’t want to follow you, neither of you will be happy and you are barking up the wrong tree.
This is video is right on point. With our present gynocentric society, men being raised by single mothers, and every aspect of being a man is being bashed by society. Men no longer have anyone to look up to as an example. The world does need and will always need real men. Whether it's to do the hard jobs that must be done or to be an example to young men.
Excellent video Apollonia, i really liked how you've created this video for your audience & clients. The only disagreement i have is that men should find their own validation within themselves and not rely to much on outside sources for validation. As a 33 year old man and still learning & growing, i'm at a point of my life where i'm comfortable in my own skin and don't take any mess from anyone, don't mind being alone and staying on my purpose. Men with healthy morals & values nowadays get treated with allot of disrespect from society, our peers, women we are attracted to and even from other men. I could be wrong about this & feel free for anyone to correct me if i am, but as a man & i will be totally wrong for speaking for all men, but we should strive to be our best masculine selves, speak our voice and be unapologetically authentic & sincere with ourselves. Hopefully you all are doing well & many blessings to you.
You are amazing Apollonia I am previously a nice guy who suppressed his emotions and doing wrong things finally I find you thanks for being here love you allot my name is Mati
I love you Apollonia!! You are SO Wise, youre helping me understand so much about relationships with women..I messed up Really bad with a woman I REALLY like and I'm trying to win her back..I'm going to therapy once a week for an hour and I watch your videos daily..I have learned so much..THANK YOU!!! ❤️🙏🔥✌️
@Apollonia, I just want to thank you for the work you do. Your passion for helping people become the best version of themselves is admirable. You truly have a huge positive impact for so many of us. Thank you.
This channel deserves 1+ million subscribers. I wish I could have found this channel 20 years ago, which could save me much suffering,energy and money.
If a woman leaves you because you treated her nice she did you a favor. She has the problem not the nice guy. You are supposed to want someone to treat nice not bad.
Well put, thank you. If I can offer parents one piece of advice, is apart from teaching your kids to be well mannered and considerate, please also teach them to value themselves and to know that what they want is equally important. I believe the "mice guy" mindset stems from childhood, especially in kids that are naturally soft hearted and kind.
was at the gym and wasn’t done using this machine.women walked right in front of me and sat down on my bench.walked up to her and told her I would be done in ten minutes.she was very young and beautiful.this was her test.only realized it later.you can’t fake it being a man.
I heard one woman say that women don't want a guy they feel they can walk all over (a "weakling"). They lose some respect for them, then put them into the dreaded "friend" category.
I love this when I first met my wife she couldn’t get enough of me. But then I made a mistake and lied about something stupid and lost her trust. So I quit drinking and smoking and started my own company and have made it successful. So I have been overly nice and done way to much to try to make up for what I did. But 9 months and I haven’t made a mistake and it hasn’t changed because I feel like she likes that she has power over me.
It does suck to abundantly give to a woman and through time after she don't reciprocate you start lashing out, & in fact it just recycles a toxic relationship pattern.
Okay i have watched about 30 of your videos in a row 🤣 uhmm, what certain things you tell in the videos, like rejectings, to be "nice" andso andso i have mirrored myself and it's very good for me. What sould i say?! You're amazing
All your videos are really great 👍 just this week a girl asked me why am I so nice my answer was I'm nice to everyone was that good enough I'm still learning this stuff
I have minimal cerable palsy.. And have had learning disabilities my whole life. So finding confidence has been very difficult as I feel I don't know what to do in certain situations.. It's been so frustrating 😢
I know Apollonia is a businesswoman and she's obviously running a business and trying to make money, but I genuinely appreciate her mission to get men to understand and attract women better. Thank you, Apollonia.
My family and friends keep telling me that I’ll find someone because I’m a nice guy. But if women don’t like nice guys, and if I have to truly modify my behavior to attract a woman, then I don’t want to be a nice guy anymore. I’m just mentally and psychologically exhausted from putting myself out there. Perhaps I’m better off just having a career and being a playboy. Maybe then, I can be happy 🤷🏽♂️
Wow, 5 minutes into the video, and you were saying nothing but facts. Growing up with no father figure formed the nice guy syndrome for me. I wish I would have seen this video last summer when I was drained from giving and trying to win a female heart. Never again I have learned my lesson.
So, is it basically own the power to pursue what you want, instead of giving that power away - expecting women to empower me to decide what I want (passively asking the women to decide, instead of me owning, empowering and deciding for myself what I want)
I was brought up well mannered, but people always label me as nice. I don't try to be nice to get people to like me. I noticed the women I am not interested don't look at me as a nice guy, but if I am attracted to her she always says I'm a nice guy.
Vegas- this could because we are not implementing deeper connections through conversations, flirting, bantering, or bringing in desire and seduction. This comes when you start to get comfortable with this. :-) We can def help! We talk about this in our group coaching with my other coaches. xoxo
@@ApolloniaPonti Hi Apollonia, Thanks for taking the time to reply. I think you nailed it! I have a question regarding a co worker. She was giving me all the the flirting signs. I made a mistake letting her know I had feelings for her. She will not tell me if she is interested, but said she isn't looking for a relationship because she is moving. We still talk, but sometimes she acts different, Like kind of moody. The weird thing is she is still flirting with me always staring at me and she likes to bump into me like a shoulder rub. She seems shy also. I did recently ask her if she would like to go out on our day off and she made it sound like a possibility when she isn't busy. Do you think I should pursue her or back off and move on. She just told me she is no longer moving. Thanks so much for your time. :)
Great video!! Listen guys if you haven't already booked a session with these gals do it! Talk about getting clarity, wow. And guess what it worked flawlessly!!!
Thank you so so much!
Wow! Needless to say, everything is true here! Thanks AP.
She doesn't want to see me on my her birthday the 18th of this month she wants to wait till next year I haven't talked to her I've been upset she keeps texting
@Apolloniaponti Mindblowing ! Very well explained 🙏🔥
Never ever be a nice guy . Be a good man !!!
NiceGuy described here is Needy. When a Woman wants a Nice Guy really she means a "Good Man". There's a difference.
LOVE!
No
Well said
Naw not even that. That gets u the same result
Let her earn your time. She will value it more and you will see more of her intent early on. Never fall in love with imagination. Be real and let her choose. You can be tough early and then become nice, but you can't be nice early and then become tough (even when pushed).. Good luck, shoot the shot. Miss or make, it's life.
Hey so hopefully you see this message and can answer this in some way. I got in a relationship after being single for 3 years or so. I got in and immediately was too nice and looking back I see that now. She started saying she doesn’t know how she feels obviously cause we rushed it. So I’m trying to pull back a bit, but not be “too tough.” She’s already asked what’s been up, and why I’m being distant. Any advice? Thanks!
It's not the nice guy who needs to change its the woman. If woman leaves you because you treated her with respect and would rather be with someone who treats her like shit she did you a favor. She has low self esteem and that's not the type of energy you need to be around anyway
Thank you someone. Said it if she likes you and you like her it wouldn't be hard to have a connection
Thank You friend. What you said is a fact
I hear what you're saying. However, know that you cannot force attraction. At best, you will find a woman who will tolerate you, and she will still be willing to accept all the cash and prizes you give her. However, when you become unwilling or unable to keep giving, she will leave you.
The bottom line is - do not trash others, and put yourself first, always. If she wants to continue seeing you, she will. You will not have to bribe her.
Many very attractive women have been taught they don't have to do anything to be attractive to guys. They just have to show up. Thus they have no impetus to improve themselves. This is one of many reasons guys should put themselves first. It's okay to say 'no' to a woman. Remember to be polite, honest, & direct. It's also okay to politely, honestly, & directly stand your ground. Do these things and you will be happier, and she will be happier.
Become a proper man, and she will becone a proper woman. If you have become a proper man, and she does not become a proper woman, take the loss and move on.
Apollonia I'm only 23 and this video probably related to me the most. The 2 male/father figures that were in my life didn't teach me much or didn't do anything for me to look up to especially when dealing with women and all i had was my mom. She said don't be like neither of them growing up so i tried not to. My first real relationship was my freshman year of college i made her the center of my happiness and i was depressed for 6 months when we broke up. I have also expressed passive aggressive behavior as well. It's crazy how you just described me i will be booking a coaching session soon.
be glad that you had a girlfriend in your teens or beginning of your 20s
Yes, Gregory I completely understand. I would also suggest starting looking at your friendships as well and see if you can surround yourself around men you can also learn from that goes beyond dating. :-) xo talk soon!
Read no more mr. nice guy
I was the "nice guy" a couple years ago. That behavior scared the woman i was attracted to away. What Apollonia says is true, it was emotionally and physically draining.
xo
So true, I grew up raised by my mom. I look up to my mindset coach now. My wife and says I don’t listen, she needs space, and I do to much for her. I get the nice guy thing
HI Matt- it starts with awareness. You can adjust this to create more comfort for you. :-) Good luck you got this !
Never EVER tell a woman how you feel. It will never end good.
Don’t be the first in say “I love you”. She has to say it first.
Grammar police: never end well.
She hit the nail on the head with this one. She basically told my life story, that why am happy I sucribed and happy for this because she really does know what she is talking about
I've watched many of your videos, and this one is by far the most intense and impactful one. I now know why you're the best at this: you really care about Men.
Thanks for all your work, and remember, you are always loved.
Thank you so much! I felt this comment. I appreciate you so much for taking the time out of your day to write me this.
Love ur speech the pace u set to express ur self when words complete a sentence there’s never no confusion.
I try. I get so passionate sometimes I can keep going in circles lol
Straight out of the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. Good read, highly recommend.
This is exactly what I needed to hear
I was never taught how to date or treat a women I was attracted to. So by default I just tried to be a nice as possible and do things for her thinking that would make her like me. Then when it didn't work I just assumed I was ugly and gave up. I understand now from watching all the dating coachs. Now I got to get over the nervousness of talking to women with flirting and bantering. So many guys are just giving up completely, I don't want to do that. Thank you for your videos Apollonia.
Men, our validation has to come from within. Let this confident energy come within because you're achieving your own goals and expectations. This will in turn give you confidence which cause you to carry yourself with the capacity to act in strength and have actions that are done with no expectations. Nice guy syndrome comes from neediness and this neediness repels women like the plague as far as intimate attraction. A woman is drawn to your strength and your individuality, not your desire to appease her. If you're doing nice acts seeking positive validation from women, you will always come up short.
One thing Appollonia never talks about is what men want. Maybe some of you want to follow a women anywhere she goes, but I don’t. The best advice I can give all the guys out there is to cross of your list any women that isn’t interested in following you. If she doesn’t want to follow you, neither of you will be happy and you are barking up the wrong tree.
its crazy how much the words said, hit home for me. great vid, thnx
This is video is right on point. With our present gynocentric society, men being raised by single mothers, and every aspect of being a man is being bashed by society. Men no longer have anyone to look up to as an example. The world does need and will always need real men. Whether it's to do the hard jobs that must be done or to be an example to young men.
Excellent video Apollonia, i really liked how you've created this video for your audience & clients. The only disagreement i have is that men should find their own validation within themselves and not rely to much on outside sources for validation. As a 33 year old man and still learning & growing, i'm at a point of my life where i'm comfortable in my own skin and don't take any mess from anyone, don't mind being alone and staying on my purpose. Men with healthy morals & values nowadays get treated with allot of disrespect from society, our peers, women we are attracted to and even from other men. I could be wrong about this & feel free for anyone to correct me if i am, but as a man & i will be totally wrong for speaking for all men, but we should strive to be our best masculine selves, speak our voice and be unapologetically authentic & sincere with ourselves. Hopefully you all are doing well & many blessings to you.
Such a timely helpful message, thanks!
Guys, don't bite your tongue too often...you won't be able to speak up for yourself when you really need to
You are amazing Apollonia I am previously a nice guy who suppressed his emotions and doing wrong things finally I find you thanks for being here love you allot my name is Mati
xoxoxo
Big facts. 💯 This was the most real, raw, honest convo I’ve seen on this channel. Thank you, Apollonia. Another gem. 💎
I start off being like that showing who I am so they can get to know & trust the real me. Then I start watching to see if they start reciprocating
i like the the way you talk and your easy on the eye at the same time...x
I love you Apollonia!! You are SO Wise, youre helping me understand so much about relationships with women..I messed up Really bad with a woman I REALLY like and I'm trying to win her back..I'm going to therapy once a week for an hour and I watch your videos daily..I have learned so much..THANK YOU!!! ❤️🙏🔥✌️
@Apollonia, I just want to thank you for the work you do. Your passion for helping people become the best version of themselves is admirable. You truly have a huge positive impact for so many of us. Thank you.
it is a big difference between nice and kindness...
Hard to spot for a women
This channel deserves 1+ million subscribers. I wish I could have found this channel 20 years ago, which could save me much suffering,energy and money.
I'm glad you are here now! Thank you for your support.
This is good stuff, this topic is never discussed enough in society. A lack of masculine figure can really alter the course of a mans upbringing
If a woman leaves you because you treated her nice she did you a favor. She has the problem not the nice guy. You are supposed to want someone to treat nice not bad.
Awesome video!! Speaks volumes!! Is definitely something I want to watch more than once!! Ty!!
Conflict avoidance causes a lot of pressure in relationships)))
Great video again)))!
Grew up without a dad. I can relate this to video on so many levels.
Good stuff Mrs.Ponti. Keep ‘em coming, thanks. Definitely too much of anything can be bad for you in the long run 💪🏾.
First comment 😁😁 your videos always helps me so much...keep it up and thanks again for everything you do for us
Well put, thank you. If I can offer parents one piece of advice, is apart from teaching your kids to be well mannered and considerate, please also teach them to value themselves and to know that what they want is equally important. I believe the "mice guy" mindset stems from childhood, especially in kids that are naturally soft hearted and kind.
Wow Aplollonia your video hit every single point in my life right now and thank you so much.
Thank you for your support!
😂🤣... I love how direct you are ...PREACH *!!!
This is good stuff right here. Thanks, Apollonia.
Nice topic to share with us 👌👌. I loved the video and it shows us how to love ourselves 👌👌👏👏👏👏
Thank you for A very informative and helpful video Apollonia.
was at the gym and wasn’t done using this machine.women walked right in front of me and sat down on my bench.walked up to her and told her I would be done in ten minutes.she was very young and beautiful.this was her test.only realized it later.you can’t fake it being a man.
Av been waiting to hear your point of view on this "nice guy thing"
Help me understand myself so much
Nice, I like this topic and your approach to addressing it, good job sister!
Thank you
@@ApolloniaPonti all I did was watch, it’s you who is the power behind the message-thank you!
I heard one woman say that women don't want a guy they feel they can walk all over (a "weakling"). They lose some respect for them, then put them into the dreaded "friend" category.
Great video and thank you for explaining this issue.
This woman is a genius 👌
Awesome video. Really needed to here this.
This was all game. Super solid
You are speaking facts I needed to hear this thank you 🙏!!!!
Seriously, YOU are my crush!!! 💜
She is 100 percent correct stay off the bottle dont do blow to make it disappear, dont do what I did and loose your dream girl
Very informative very good message and very 2021 well done well said
This is GOLD!!!!
AP your amazing!
I love this when I first met my wife she couldn’t get enough of me. But then I made a mistake and lied about something stupid and lost her trust. So I quit drinking and smoking and started my own company and have made it successful. So I have been overly nice and done way to much to try to make up for what I did. But 9 months and I haven’t made a mistake and it hasn’t changed because I feel like she likes that she has power over me.
Really good one today. I needed to hear this.
Thank you Chuck!
It does suck to abundantly give to a woman and through time after she don't reciprocate you start lashing out, & in fact it just recycles a toxic relationship pattern.
That's me all the way thank you I needed to hear that
Okay i have watched about 30 of your videos in a row 🤣 uhmm, what certain things you tell in the videos, like rejectings, to be "nice" andso andso i have mirrored myself and it's very good for me.
What sould i say?! You're amazing
great insights, thanks, keep it up!
Thank you thank you thank you. I have made this mistake too many times. Great advice and awesome teaching.
All your videos are really great 👍 just this week a girl asked me why am I so nice my answer was I'm nice to everyone was that good enough I'm still learning this stuff
Thank you for this video it really made me to realized it like big time
Thank you so much for watching!
I always LOVE to hear your wonderful English of charming acents .
:-)
That's right 👌 injoy your day..
Couldnt be said better 🏌🏾🔥.. Thnks Apollonia
" I don't anyone to lead me or to stand behind me just match my pase and stay right by my side "
You are amazing you explained me to a tee i just don't know how to get out of it and I've been trying for year's
This is AMAZING advice.
Thank you, Scott. xo
A Scott .. You do know why she is AMAZING RIGHT! 😎
Amazing sharing and advise :)
You are always welcome Daniel!
This is some great info. 👏🏾 Thank you!
You're so welcome!
I have minimal cerable palsy.. And have had learning disabilities my whole life. So finding confidence has been very difficult as I feel I don't know what to do in certain situations.. It's been so frustrating 😢
I know Apollonia is a businesswoman and she's obviously running a business and trying to make money, but I genuinely appreciate her mission to get men to understand and attract women better. Thank you, Apollonia.
Scary how much this describes me.
My family and friends keep telling me that I’ll find someone because I’m a nice guy. But if women don’t like nice guys, and if I have to truly modify my behavior to attract a woman, then I don’t want to be a nice guy anymore. I’m just mentally and psychologically exhausted from putting myself out there. Perhaps I’m better off just having a career and being a playboy.
Maybe then, I can be happy 🤷🏽♂️
I must admit ive fallen captive to this area lbvs but with all being said this is so true, such a touchy topic but right on point lbvs
Amazing lesson!
If being a good man isn't enough, move on.
First time supporting female
Look at this! A woman giving due Props!!! 👋😎
Wooooww, best video so far
You're an excellent human.
Wow, thank you. xoxo
So deep and accurate!
I understand now good video I sort of realise that thank you
Love your advice.. so many awesome tip's..
Giiirl this is me 😭😭 I used check in on myself after checking in on Every one esle or put every one first then me last .
Great advice
Great video
You are an incredible professional:)
Thank you.
Wow, 5 minutes into the video, and you were saying nothing but facts. Growing up with no father figure formed the nice guy syndrome for me. I wish I would have seen this video last summer when I was drained from giving and trying to win a female heart. Never again I have learned my lesson.
So, is it basically own the power to pursue what you want, instead of giving that power away - expecting women to empower me to decide what I want (passively asking the women to decide, instead of me owning, empowering and deciding for myself what I want)
Thank you Apolloina .
My pleasure!
AMEN Gracias. Reciprocity. Let her work for it too. I learned my lessons twice. Yes I said it twice.
That was beautiful I understand ❤
When you’re giving to get rather than just giving.
imagine getting reply frm apollonia ponti❤️🔥
Just imagine what that would be like. :-) xoxo
Real talk
Hi Apollonia. ❤️
Great info thnx.
I was brought up well mannered, but people always label me as nice. I don't try to be nice to get people to like me. I noticed the women I am not interested don't look at me as a nice guy, but if I am attracted to her she always says I'm a nice guy.
Vegas- this could because we are not implementing deeper connections through conversations, flirting, bantering, or bringing in desire and seduction. This comes when you start to get comfortable with this. :-) We can def help! We talk about this in our group coaching with my other coaches. xoxo
@@ApolloniaPonti Hi Apollonia, Thanks for taking the time to reply. I think you nailed it! I have a question regarding a co worker. She was giving me all the the flirting signs. I made a mistake letting her know I had feelings for her. She will not tell me if she is interested, but said she isn't looking for a relationship because she is moving. We still talk, but sometimes she acts different, Like kind of moody. The weird thing is she is still flirting with me always staring at me and she likes to bump into me like a shoulder rub. She seems shy also. I did recently ask her if she would like to go out on our day off and she made it sound like a possibility when she isn't busy. Do you think I should pursue her or back off and move on. She just told me she is no longer moving. Thanks so much for your time. :)
@@VegasX900 She's wasting your time, son.