Thankyou for sharing. Our daughter is a recipoof cadaver bone, in her thigh now, as she's had a bone tumour in her femur and seven operations since she was 15.5 yrs old. She's now 22. At one point she wanted her leg amputated for pain so removing more femur than last time and replacing with donated bone was the option. Forever grateful to the donors.
I think the “going into cop mode” is 1000% understandable. The reality of what had happened was just too much. As a cop, he could actually do something even though there was nothing that could change what had happened. When my mom died, I felt almost no emotion and hardly cried for a couple months, and then it all hit me. When my grandpa almost choked to death and we were working on him, my grandma got up and started cleaning the kitchen. Your brain knows how to protect you when in terrible situations. God bless all the parents on this channel who have lost a child💕
I found this channel today & the first story I watched with the girl whose arm got hurt from a boat hitting her and she passed away & I have to say…. This is a beautiful respectful & refreshing change of content. I subscribed & I will be binging on your videos. I’m a huge fan. Thank you for all your hard work making this content. You all are such beautiful souls God Bless🙏💖🙏
My dad lost his brother in a car accident with a bull moose. He also died on impact, 27 years old. I was 5, im 26 now, and its only in recent years that his anger has subsided. My grandparents still carry so much sorrow and hold on so tightly to their faith. Its a ripple that never ever stops.
I’m sorry for your loss. Thank you for taking the time to share some of your story with us. WOW, roughly 20 years later. This is definitely a life altering event. Again, sorry for your loss.
My daughter died unexpectedly August 2 but was not herself that whole week but doctors were no help , she was 27 and has 2 young babies and it the hardest thing I’ve ever been thru! She should still be here!! It’s so hard especially coming up on that year mark I wish I could go back and fix things so she’d still be here, a w oh red without her in it is a world I don’t want live in but I will for her babies!! They deserve to know their mom even if it’s through pictures and memories cuz she was the best and most loving mom ever!!! ❤❤
When you hit the year mark it's the worst because then reality sets in this is it. The fist year is sheer survival. Lost my little boy unexpectedly a year and 8 months ago.
I’m so sorry You lost Your daughter. I cannot imagine the pain and on top of it her kids are so young. I almost lost My life when I was 30 9 days after giving birth. When the ambulance came to get Me I thought I might never come home and that was My biggest fear realizing Our (then) only 2 girls might not have a Mom. They were only 2 and 9 days old. Your Grand-kids will appreciate You stepping up. I wish You peace. ❤
Dad you needed to go to Cop mode so you could hold it together while at the scene. You had to protect your other daughter, your wife and yourself! That was your protection shield you needed at the time.
A dear friend of mine lost her daughter 30 yrs ago at the age of 4 ! Some callous. Woman told her “ you should have another baby or adopt one ! She meant well , but it didn’t go down well with my friend at all! You can’t say things like that! It came across as’ you can replace her ‘. Even to this very day ,she has never forgotten that one comment!
When my dad passed away I was so numb almost in a fog. He died at 50 which very young in my opinion. I remb my uncle saying I’d gotten strong, basically bc I wasn’t crying I guess. Anyhow for days on end I was numb and almost like I wasn’t really here. However, when a couple months went by it hit me like a ton of bricks! As if it had just happened. I’m not real sure why ppl grieve differently but they most certainly do. My uncles remark made me feel like something was wrong with me. I now know there isn’t I just grieve differently then others. My dad has been gone 16 yrs. I realize it’s not the same as loosing a child, but I still cry over my loss at certain times. I feel like my life with him was cut short. His life in general was def cut short. Life isn’t always fair and we don’t always realize how blessed we are until a blessing is gone.
We are sorry for the loss of your Dad. I can see how your uncles words made you feel that "there was something wrong with you." That is a normal and natural thought. Yes, we all grieve differently. There isn't a "right" way to grieve. Thank you for sharing some of your story with us. Hope you are having an amazing September.
That is amazing what the AQUAINTANCE did for Addie's Dad and family! He didn't even want anyone to mention him! He has a lot of blessings coming if he hasn't already.
Thank you for this podcast..lost my son my 1st year of pure hell..and yes peoples comments..you are so strong..you are doing great..omg the worst things..and the one I know whst you are going through..REALLY
Organ donation is amazing! Thank you for doing that in one of the hardest times of your life. When I took my mom off life support 2 years ago, I had to sign SO MUCH paper for donations, I told them to take anything they could, but still had to sign a bunch (which I do understand, but a rough situation to deal with at the time). I think they were able to take some of my mom's veins, skin, and part of her liver.
My sister was 46 in 2008 when she passed away and there are still days that i can see my 88 year old dad is still affected by her death. I parent is not supposed to bury their child.
I agree completely with one of the hardest things to fight against is all the comments from people who are trying to be kind but the words they say hit you to the core and all you want to do is scream back at them. When our daughter passed, at her family night viewing at the funeral home the day before her service, I stood beside her tiny casket for what seemed like eternity and I felt like I was consoling others for what had happened to them and not us. What I really wanted to do was tell everyone to stop, scoop up my baby and run. It was at that moment, that showed us how to show compassion with a loss and not empty words. For that I am thankful. But for that reason I have anxiety at viewings still after 23 years. I am not able to focus on totally what is at hand because I am drawn back to that time of our daughter. I have learned to choose my words carefully.
What a blessing to have someone offer an airplane service. Boy that had to decrease the stress of $ and time and emotional upheaval. This incident was really a lot for one family! 😢
Dad didn’t want to leave his daughter alone by herself. Which makes a ton of sense to me! He had to go into Cop mode to protect himself while he was trying to deal with the situation at the moment.
I hope this doesn't sound insensitive but so much can he lost in translation with comments, obviously I don't kn ow what exact injuries your baby Sunni suffered (or Addi) or how they appeared after the accident, but I can't stop thinking about the mental trauma and anguish you all must have experienced seeing your child in such a physically damaged state and not completely go into shock...I'm not sure I could psychologically recover from that...I'm so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing such a personal experience. I keep trying to put myself in your shoes and I just feel so much anguish for you. You are in my prayers.❤
Ahhh what a breath of fresh air he is. "I wanted to punch people in their face". Same here. It also took me 15years and 6 different psychologist to find one that I actually found truly beneficial for me.
We are sorry for your loss and applaud you on your journey to find a psychologist that would benefit you. The journey isn’t always easy. It was great to hear more about his story. Hope you have a wonderful day.
The first time I got the question I had to do a double take. I didn't realize it was a mistake. I can see why people would be confused, but yes it isn't the main focus of the podcast.
My mom was murdered in 1987 when I was 10 years old. I don't remember her at all. I can remember calling her on the telephone once for some reason, I remember dark hair and a black dress. I don't remember the hairstyle or what the dress looked like, I only remember the color black. I remember two books that she gave me once, and I remember she wore a diamond stud in her nose. Pierced noses weren't common back then so it was pretty outrageous. I don't have many pictures of her, but the few that I have don't bring back any memories. Two years ago, on July 15, 2022, my 24 year old daughter took her own life. Because I don't remember my mom, I'm terrified that I will forget my daughter too. I am a RN, and when I made it to her apartment I also wasn't acting like her mom. I was driving the paramedics crazy because she was gone, but I wasn't ready for her to be yet. I also remained on the scene until the medical examiner took her away. There was some blood on the carpet from when they intubated her I stayed there for hours trying to get all of it out of the carpet. It's weird the things that seem so important when losing your child. I threw those clothes away. No matter how many times I washed them I smelled her blood. It took me two full years to begin to function sort of normally again. I have three sons who still need me. My oldest is 28, my middle son is now 26, he and my daughter were fraternal twins, and my youngest son is 19. We are in Phoenix as well but we flew her body back to Portland, Oregon where my 3 oldest were raised.
Thank you for taking the time to comment. We will write back for each comment. It is nice to see how you are progressing through the episode. God bless. Yes, that seems like a great rule.
I’m struck by the way people reached out to help. It also feels really difficult to know how to be a friend. It doesn’t seem clear that it can be predicted whether or not the way you are reaching out will be helpful or stupid. I like “Mourn with those that mourn not counsel those that mourn.” I’ve probably been guilty of counseling those that mourn.
Great insight. It can be hard to know “what to do.” Sometimes doing something is better than doing nothing. In his story he had many people help out in big and small ways. Thanks for your support. Hope you have a wonderful day.
It makes total sense he didn’t want to leave with her still in the truck. She still needed to be “ taken care of” and he didn’t want her left with people she/ they didn’t know. That’s how I see it anyway
I hope this doesn't sound insensitive but so much can he lost in translation with comments, obviously I don't kn ow what exact injuries your baby Sunni suffered as you havent really divulged in the podcasts I've watched so far or how they appeared after the accidents (Addi too) but I can't stop thinking about the mental trauma and anguish you all must have experienced seeing your child/sibling in such a physically damaged state and not completely go into shock or temporary insanity...as a mom of 7, I'm not sure I could psychologically recover from that...I'm so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing such a personal experience. I keep trying to put myself in your shoes and I just feel so much anguish for you. You are in my prayers.❤
I totally get how some of the things that ppl say makes you mad. After my sons death I’ve heard it all,yes it made me mad and ppl give advice,scriptures or gooey sayings did not help. My husband and I had to cut ties with so many ppl,family and friends. I was never mad at God,but I do wish that maybe if God would have warned me,I don’t know if that’s possible. It doesn’t matter how times passes I know that our mind will always bring up those memories as we lose a part of heart when our child was no longer on this earth. I’m so sorry for your horrific loss. 💔💔
Thank you for sharing this story, however I’m a bit confused, so Addie was born in 2006, and she passed away at almost 13 (year 2019), why does her dad say this happened 15 years ago?
How do you go on 😢how do you do the normal things. (Sunny’s parents)Do you still go boating for instance. Addys daddy… do you just let people drive with your kids? I mean the real things ?! 😢How do you teach your teens to drive? 😢
Excellent question! It is different for everyone… Blake has gone boating, but we no longer go boating as a family. Every situation is different, we evaluate the situation then make our choice. Thank you for your support of the podcast.
The guy interviewer needed to allow the father to speak! Allow him share HIS STORY. Addie has an amazing father. I'm sorry that Addie is no longer physically here. God bless you and your family.
They are doing a beautiful thing. Should not insult how they interview. They have also lost a child give everybody some grace. Everything they ask is for a reason. And sometimes they need to interrupt to get their story out there in the right sequence.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your children. My family just experience a terrible tragedy last August. My cousin Grandson died when a dresser fell on top of him. He just turned 4 years old the day before. He was Autistic and non verbal. He was being babysat when the mother came home and asked the babysitter about her son. The baby sitter said he was sleeping or playing in the bedroom. The mother went in and found the dresser on top of him. He was on life support for 4 days. They donated a few of his organs. It has been a rough couple of years. He was the 6th person in our family to pass away in the last year and a half. My husband passed away in March 2022 age 56. And my brother passed away in Feb 2023. Age 49. I also had 3 aunts passed away of old age.
That’s the only thing that kept me knowing that my baby boy at 2 years went straight to heaven didn’t have to worry about were is soul went that comforted me he died 6/19/24 …
The reason I think you don't feel something in the moment is that you saw it and you knew immediately and that comes with instant 'acceptance of reality' or resignation to reality or understanding of reality and the situation. It takes time for the shock to then process into emotion. I think that's the same for everybody who is confronted with death in that way? Maybe it's different if you see something happen gradually? But if you are hit with a sudden stark factual reality - this has happened - it's just very real... it's a very hard thing to describe but loss is not something that you can fully comprehend in a moment. I don't think our brains are able to process that all in one go. I think you have to process it in steps - the first step is the realisation of what's happened. I feel like your brain somehow fills up with that and then processing the loss and shock and all the other feelings is somehow very slowly drip fed in.
I can’t begin to imagine your loss, and honouring these parents and their children’s stories is really beautiful. I’ve noticed some wording and questions and responses that aren’t great and don’t reflect the immensity of this topic and the respect I know you hold for it. For example, in this interview you use the term “lights out” to speak of her death and could be triggering. Just some constructive criticism ✨
You were angry with people because you knew there was nothing they say can make things better. You needed to deal with your own emotions first. Nobody understands your unique situation and feelings. It’s almost a normal reaction. I had the same.
I say to both of you. It’s been said, A day will come the mention of their name will bring a smile to your face instead of a tear to your eyes. I hope that helps!
I am confused. He says Addy was born in 2006. Then he says she was 12, almost 13 at the time of her passing. Meaning this would have been around 2019. But then a couple times yall mention it’s been 15 years since the accident. Can someone clarify? RIP Addy 🕊️
Thanks for asking. I think he misspoke in her birthday year. She wasn’t born in 2006, she was born in ‘96. The accident took place in 2009. Sorry for the confusion.
@shaedenise407 sorry for the confusion. We didn’t catch it during the podcast. Sometimes with all the lights and camera we miss speak 🤷. Hope the comment section helps to clear it up!
27:32 It’s hard to hear this great man struggled with not feeling the magnitude of his emotions until he found the dog, dead 50 yards away, It actually makes perfect sense. This man has dedicated his life both as a father and in his career to the safety and well being of others. His first instinct was to account for everyone and tend to their needs. He did exactly that. The dog was the final outstanding victim. Once he encountered the dog his job for the moment was complete and only then did he allowed himself the time to take a personal moment absorb the carnage, devastation and loss that he had just witnessed and assisted with. He was an absolute hero. His selflessness and courage to put first everyone involved in the accident was an act of love and grace. To only allow himself to begin to process his own emotions and grief at that time is indicative of the sacrifices he makes to care for others. It’s so unfortunate that he struggled to reconcile this part of his journey. He’s a great, humble and caring man and I’m so grateful to him for his dedication and service to our safety.
Matthew 11:28-29 "28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls." Jesus Christ from Nazareth ❤
Thanks for asking. I think he misspoke when talking about her birthday year. She wasn’t born in 2006, she was born in ‘96. The accident took place in 2009. Sorry for the confusion.
I know it’s not a biggie but I’m confused about her age and when she was born. I’m assuming she 1996, if it’s been 15 years. It’s understandable to make a mistake in such a situation
Thank you for sharing, the guy interviewer should not be interrupting so much a good interviewer let’s a person speak without interruption, no need to ask so many questions while he is in the middle of telling his story, he will get there, let them speak. Edit: guest says “ because I knew it was a problem” before he could even continue to speak his thought you immediately chime in with “ why was that a problem?” He would’ve told you if you were still listening and did not interrupt him. You can’t hear if you’re too busy thinking about what you want to say.
"The interviewer guy" is the person responsible for this podcast , and while he may have been kind enough to say good input to you, SHAME ON YOU. The man watched his baby girl die and he is doing the best he can I am sure. YOU have much deeper things to work on than overtalking someone. Get a heart.
The host in the blue shirt makes a lot of insensitive comparisons and butts in way too much. Comparing a scream from a severe accident to someone’s sibling beating them up is weird. Let the guest talk dang
These "hosts" have been through the same hell. Please do your research. When you go through losing a child, or anyone for that fact, you remember smells, sounds, strange things. So I'm just gonna say what our very polite hosts didn't say ....Shhhhhhh 😊. Take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth. Tysm
I disagree with you on this. And he lost his own daughter so he has a level of understanding. He wasn’t comparing the accident screams to someone’s sibling beating them up, thats just not a good takeaway from that conversation.
You know they were trying to get you to see others have tragedy too and those who lost infants would kill to have 11 years. Don't be so critical. Everyone is sorry, no one knows what to say!!! Maybe if you see others loss may make you more grateful fir what you had! The world isn't about you either!
You're probably right we shouldn't be so critical. We are also trying to show an inside look into what a person who is going through a loss feels, thats why this topic even got brought up. We can all be better though. Thanks for your input. Hope you have wonderful rest of your week.
The "guy" is the father of Sunni, the girl, that died in a boat accident. He is no professional interviewer but a concerned and interessed part of the discussion.
We just recently lost our daughter over a year ago. This podcast was done in less than a year of losing our daughter. We are new to podcasts and not perfect at it. Please be patient with us.
@@bodemiller5282….when I saw the name on this post, I immediately thought maybe it was your story. If so, I have never forgotten reading the story of your tragic loss. I am so, so sorry, and sharing your story so openly. My son passed away 6 months ago from complications of an epileptic seizure. What really hurts my heart is that my “child” was 40 years old, and say the most idiotic things, such as “he lived a full life”, or “you’re blessed that you were able to make so many memories (because he was 40). So lame. Again, I’m sorry for loss of your child ❤️
I totally get how some of the things that ppl say makes you mad. After my sons death I’ve heard it all,yes it made me mad and ppl give advice,scriptures or gooey sayings did not help. My husband and I had to cut ties with so many ppl,family and friends. I was never mad at God,but I do wish that maybe if God would have warned me,I don’t know if that’s possible. It doesn’t matter how times passes I know that our mind will always bring up those memories as we lose a part of heart when our child was no longer on this earth. I’m so sorry for your horrific loss. 💔💔
I am tearing up hearing about the jet owner helping out the family during this crisis.
There are wonderful people who do wonderful things with their time, talents and assets.
Thankyou for sharing. Our daughter is a recipoof cadaver bone, in her thigh now, as she's had a bone tumour in her femur and seven operations since she was 15.5 yrs old. She's now 22. At one point she wanted her leg amputated for pain so removing more femur than last time and replacing with donated bone was the option. Forever grateful to the donors.
So glad to know your daughter has been able to be on the receiving end of a donor. I hope your daughter is doing well.
I think the “going into cop mode” is 1000% understandable. The reality of what had happened was just too much. As a cop, he could actually do something even though there was nothing that could change what had happened. When my mom died, I felt almost no emotion and hardly cried for a couple months, and then it all hit me. When my grandpa almost choked to death and we were working on him, my grandma got up and started cleaning the kitchen. Your brain knows how to protect you when in terrible situations. God bless all the parents on this channel who have lost a child💕
I found this channel today & the first story I watched with the girl whose arm got hurt from a boat hitting her and she passed away & I have to say…. This is a beautiful respectful & refreshing change of content. I subscribed & I will be binging on your videos. I’m a huge fan. Thank you for all your hard work making this content. You all are such beautiful souls God Bless🙏💖🙏
My dad lost his brother in a car accident with a bull moose. He also died on impact, 27 years old. I was 5, im 26 now, and its only in recent years that his anger has subsided. My grandparents still carry so much sorrow and hold on so tightly to their faith. Its a ripple that never ever stops.
I’m sorry for your loss. Thank you for taking the time to share some of your story with us. WOW, roughly 20 years later. This is definitely a life altering event. Again, sorry for your loss.
My daughter died unexpectedly August 2 but was not herself that whole week but doctors were no help , she was 27 and has 2 young babies and it the hardest thing I’ve ever been thru! She should still be here!! It’s so hard especially coming up on that year mark I wish I could go back and fix things so she’d still be here, a w oh red without her in it is a world I don’t want live in but I will for her babies!! They deserve to know their mom even if it’s through pictures and memories cuz she was the best and most loving mom ever!!! ❤❤
Im so sorry for your loss. We will pray for you.
When you hit the year mark it's the worst because then reality sets in this is it. The fist year is sheer survival. Lost my little boy unexpectedly a year and 8 months ago.
I’m so sorry You lost Your daughter. I cannot imagine the pain and on top of it her kids are so young. I almost lost My life when I was 30 9 days after giving birth. When the ambulance came to get Me I thought I might never come home and that was My biggest fear realizing Our (then) only 2 girls might not have a Mom. They were only 2 and 9 days old.
Your Grand-kids will appreciate You stepping up. I wish You peace. ❤
Dad you needed to go to Cop mode so you could hold it together while at the scene. You had to protect your other daughter, your wife and yourself! That was your protection shield you needed at the time.
Agreed. Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts along the way. God bless.
A dear friend of mine lost her daughter 30 yrs ago at the age of 4 ! Some callous. Woman told her “ you should have another baby or adopt one ! She meant well , but it didn’t go down well with my friend at all! You can’t say things like that! It came across as’ you can replace her ‘. Even to this very day ,she has never forgotten that one comment!
Thank you for sharing this. You are correct, many people will respond the way your friend did.
It’s so inappropriate,but nobody understands what it feels to lose a child,it’s a grief like no other!
When my dad passed away I was so numb almost in a fog. He died at 50 which very young in my opinion. I remb my uncle saying I’d gotten strong, basically bc I wasn’t crying I guess. Anyhow for days on end I was numb and almost like I wasn’t really here. However, when a couple months went by it hit me like a ton of bricks! As if it had just happened. I’m not real sure why ppl grieve differently but they most certainly do. My uncles remark made me feel like something was wrong with me. I now know there isn’t I just grieve differently then others. My dad has been gone 16 yrs. I realize it’s not the same as loosing a child, but I still cry over my loss at certain times. I feel like my life with him was cut short. His life in general was def cut short. Life isn’t always fair and we don’t always realize how blessed we are until a blessing is gone.
I’m so sorry for your loss! 💔💔
We are sorry for the loss of your Dad. I can see how your uncles words made you feel that "there was something wrong with you." That is a normal and natural thought. Yes, we all grieve differently. There isn't a "right" way to grieve. Thank you for sharing some of your story with us. Hope you are having an amazing September.
Good grief why am I binge watching these before bed
That is amazing what the AQUAINTANCE did for Addie's Dad and family! He didn't even want anyone to mention him! He has a lot of blessings coming if he hasn't already.
Thank you for this podcast..lost my son my 1st year of pure hell..and yes peoples comments..you are so strong..you are doing great..omg the worst things..and the one I know whst you are going through..REALLY
We are so sorry for you and your loss. We are all in a small little club... We pray for you. God Bless.
Another Beautiful Soul, guiding all of Us. I am grateful for Addie’s Soul.
Organ donation is amazing! Thank you for doing that in one of the hardest times of your life. When I took my mom off life support 2 years ago, I had to sign SO MUCH paper for donations, I told them to take anything they could, but still had to sign a bunch (which I do understand, but a rough situation to deal with at the time). I think they were able to take some of my mom's veins, skin, and part of her liver.
My sister was 46 in 2008 when she passed away and there are still days that i can see my 88 year old dad is still affected by her death. I parent is not supposed to bury their child.
Agreed, it is backwards when a child is buried by their parents. I’m so sorry to you and your dad for the loss of your sister.
The Job joke was funny😅😅😅. I think God's sense of humor can be timeless.
I agree completely with one of the hardest things to fight against is all the comments from people who are trying to be kind but the words they say hit you to the core and all you want to do is scream back at them. When our daughter passed, at her family night viewing at the funeral home the day before her service, I stood beside her tiny casket for what seemed like eternity and I felt like I was consoling others for what had happened to them and not us. What I really wanted to do was tell everyone to stop, scoop up my baby and run. It was at that moment, that showed us how to show compassion with a loss and not empty words. For that I am thankful. But for that reason I have anxiety at viewings still after 23 years. I am not able to focus on totally what is at hand because I am drawn back to that time of our daughter. I have learned to choose my words carefully.
Thank you for your insightful words. We are also terribly sorry for your loss of your precious daughter.
Officers are amazing! Blessings to all.
What a blessing to have someone offer an airplane service. Boy that had to decrease the stress of $ and time and emotional upheaval. This incident was really a lot for one family! 😢
There are great people out there who serve others and we love that!
Dad didn’t want to leave his daughter alone by herself. Which makes a ton of sense to me! He had to go into Cop mode to protect himself while he was trying to deal with the situation at the moment.
Agreed.
I really like Dave. I like the way he made Camille laugh with the punching in the face lolol.
We love Dave!! ❤️
Addies. Dad, so tragic, but what a calm man he had to deal with it 💕
I just noticed the pillow on your lap is a sun(ni). Precious.
Good eye. Yes, it is special.
I’m listening to the story and now hearing about the dog, I can feel the tears comings for some reason.
Ya, we can see how he was holding it together, then he just broke down.
I hope this doesn't sound insensitive but so much can he lost in translation with comments, obviously I don't kn ow what exact injuries your baby Sunni suffered (or Addi) or how they appeared after the accident, but I can't stop thinking about the mental trauma and anguish you all must have experienced seeing your child in such a physically damaged state and not completely go into shock...I'm not sure I could psychologically recover from that...I'm so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing such a personal experience. I keep trying to put myself in your shoes and I just feel so much anguish for you. You are in my prayers.❤
Calling his friend "you turkey" after being called Noah because of the backyard flood made me laugh and cry at the same time
We Love Dave!
Ahhh what a breath of fresh air he is. "I wanted to punch people in their face". Same here. It also took me 15years and 6 different psychologist to find one that I actually found truly beneficial for me.
We are sorry for your loss and applaud you on your journey to find a psychologist that would benefit you. The journey isn’t always easy. It was great to hear more about his story. Hope you have a wonderful day.
Nothing compares to losing someone who knows what your heartbeat sounds like from the inside. I've lost 4.
We are so sorry for your loss.
Camille you look great in that dress!😊
To the people asking about the age error, does it really matter? That is seriously not the focus.
The first time I got the question I had to do a double take. I didn't realize it was a mistake. I can see why people would be confused, but yes it isn't the main focus of the podcast.
My mom was murdered in 1987 when I was 10 years old. I don't remember her at all. I can remember calling her on the telephone once for some reason, I remember dark hair and a black dress. I don't remember the hairstyle or what the dress looked like, I only remember the color black. I remember two books that she gave me once, and I remember she wore a diamond stud in her nose. Pierced noses weren't common back then so it was pretty outrageous. I don't have many pictures of her, but the few that I have don't bring back any memories. Two years ago, on July 15, 2022, my 24 year old daughter took her own life. Because I don't remember my mom, I'm terrified that I will forget my daughter too. I am a RN, and when I made it to her apartment I also wasn't acting like her mom. I was driving the paramedics crazy because she was gone, but I wasn't ready for her to be yet. I also remained on the scene until the medical examiner took her away. There was some blood on the carpet from when they intubated her I stayed there for hours trying to get all of it out of the carpet. It's weird the things that seem so important when losing your child. I threw those clothes away. No matter how many times I washed them I smelled her blood. It took me two full years to begin to function sort of normally again. I have three sons who still need me. My oldest is 28, my middle son is now 26, he and my daughter were fraternal twins, and my youngest son is 19.
We are in Phoenix as well but we flew her body back to Portland, Oregon where my 3 oldest were raised.
We had a similar rule as well! They had to be involved with something extra curricular.
Thank you for taking the time to comment. We will write back for each comment. It is nice to see how you are progressing through the episode. God bless.
Yes, that seems like a great rule.
Addie has a wonderful daddy ❤
We think so too!
That’s one of my fears, getting in a crash with someone else’s child in my vehicle. So sorry that happened to everyone involved
I'm sad for your loss-a truly tragic accident. The hosts have more to work through.
I’m struck by the way people reached out to help. It also feels really difficult to know how to be a friend. It doesn’t seem clear that it can be predicted whether or not the way you are reaching out will be helpful or stupid.
I like “Mourn with those that mourn not counsel those that mourn.”
I’ve probably been guilty of counseling those that mourn.
Great insight. It can be hard to know “what to do.” Sometimes doing something is better than doing nothing. In his story he had many people help out in big and small ways.
Thanks for your support. Hope you have a wonderful day.
It makes total sense he didn’t want to leave with her still in the truck. She still needed to be “ taken care of” and he didn’t want her left with people she/ they didn’t know. That’s how I see it anyway
I hope this doesn't sound insensitive but so much can he lost in translation with comments, obviously I don't kn ow what exact injuries your baby Sunni suffered as you havent really divulged in the podcasts I've watched so far or how they appeared after the accidents (Addi too) but I can't stop thinking about the mental trauma and anguish you all must have experienced seeing your child/sibling in such a physically damaged state and not completely go into shock or temporary insanity...as a mom of 7, I'm not sure I could psychologically recover from that...I'm so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing such a personal experience. I keep trying to put myself in your shoes and I just feel so much anguish for you. You are in my prayers.❤
This MACHO DAD has the ability to listen to his spouse. Which was truly his biggest and best Character.
Agreed. A spouse who loves him and wants the best for him. Sometimes the best is changing something.
I totally get how some of the things that ppl say makes you mad.
After my sons death I’ve heard it all,yes it made me mad and ppl give advice,scriptures or gooey sayings did not help.
My husband and I had to cut ties with so many ppl,family and friends.
I was never mad at God,but I do wish that maybe if God would have warned me,I don’t know if that’s possible.
It doesn’t matter how times passes I know that our mind will always bring up those memories as we lose a part of heart when our child was no longer on this earth.
I’m so sorry for your horrific loss. 💔💔
Thank you for sharing this story, however I’m a bit confused, so Addie was born in 2006, and she passed away at almost 13 (year 2019), why does her dad say this happened 15 years ago?
He misspoke. She was born in 1996. Sorry for the confusion.
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Thank you for the clarification!
How do you go on 😢how do you do the normal things. (Sunny’s parents)Do you still go boating for instance.
Addys daddy… do you just let people drive with your kids? I mean the real things ?! 😢How do you teach your teens to drive? 😢
Excellent question! It is different for everyone… Blake has gone boating, but we no longer go boating as a family. Every situation is different, we evaluate the situation then make our choice. Thank you for your support of the podcast.
The guy interviewer needed to allow the father to speak! Allow him share HIS STORY. Addie has an amazing father. I'm sorry that Addie is no longer physically here. God bless you and your family.
We are not perfect at the podcast thing. Thanks for your input.
They are doing a beautiful thing. Should not insult how they interview. They have also lost a child give everybody some grace. Everything they ask is for a reason. And sometimes they need to interrupt to get their story out there in the right sequence.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your children.
My family just experience a terrible tragedy last August.
My cousin Grandson died when a dresser fell on top of him.
He just turned 4 years old the day before. He was Autistic and non verbal. He was being babysat when the mother came home and asked the babysitter about her son. The baby sitter said he was sleeping or playing in the bedroom. The mother went in and found the dresser on top of him. He was on life support for 4 days. They donated a few of his organs.
It has been a rough couple of years. He was the 6th person in our family to pass away in the last year and a half.
My husband passed away in March 2022 age 56. And my brother passed away in Feb 2023. Age 49.
I also had 3 aunts passed away of old age.
I am so sorry to hear of so much loss within your family, it breaks my heart. We will be praying for you and your whole family. Blessings to you.
That’s the only thing that kept me knowing that my baby boy at 2 years went straight to heaven didn’t have to worry about were is soul went that comforted me he died 6/19/24 …
So sorry for your loss. God bless.
So sorry for your loss..Rip angel
This is the 3rd person that has said their incident happened on July 28. That is such an odd coincidence
Yes, it is very interesting 🤔
Until you meet again. I’m sorry
The reason I think you don't feel something in the moment is that you saw it and you knew immediately and that comes with instant 'acceptance of reality' or resignation to reality or understanding of reality and the situation. It takes time for the shock to then process into emotion. I think that's the same for everybody who is confronted with death in that way? Maybe it's different if you see something happen gradually? But if you are hit with a sudden stark factual reality - this has happened - it's just very real... it's a very hard thing to describe but loss is not something that you can fully comprehend in a moment. I don't think our brains are able to process that all in one go. I think you have to process it in steps - the first step is the realisation of what's happened. I feel like your brain somehow fills up with that and then processing the loss and shock and all the other feelings is somehow very slowly drip fed in.
Thank you for sharing. I can see what you are describing.
Wow July 28 is my spiritual birthday !
I can’t begin to imagine your loss, and honouring these parents and their children’s stories is really beautiful. I’ve noticed some wording and questions and responses that aren’t great and don’t reflect the immensity of this topic and the respect I know you hold for it. For example, in this interview you use the term “lights out” to speak of her death and could be triggering. Just some constructive criticism ✨
Thank you for your input.
My mom is the only one who didn't loose a child but if she did she will be sad and if something ever happens to my nephew i will cry myself to sleep
Thank you for sharing, we also hope that nothing tragic happens in your life.
You were angry with people because you knew there was nothing they say can make things better. You needed to deal with your own emotions first. Nobody understands your unique situation and feelings. It’s almost a normal reaction. I had the same.
Addie❤🦋
🦋! Hope you have a wonderful day.
Not everyone can connect with the 1st therapist they go too.
It was amazing for him.
I say to both of you.
It’s been said, A day will come the mention of their name will bring a smile to your face instead of a tear to your eyes. I hope that helps!
There are days it’s happy and we smile and other days sad. Thank you for your words.
I am confused. He says Addy was born in 2006. Then he says she was 12, almost 13 at the time of her passing. Meaning this would have been around 2019. But then a couple times yall mention it’s been 15 years since the accident. Can someone clarify? RIP Addy 🕊️
Thanks for asking. I think he misspoke in her birthday year. She wasn’t born in 2006, she was born in ‘96. The accident took place in 2009. Sorry for the confusion.
i was wondering the same thing.
@shaedenise407 sorry for the confusion. We didn’t catch it during the podcast. Sometimes with all the lights and camera we miss speak 🤷. Hope the comment section helps to clear it up!
27:32 It’s hard to hear this great man struggled with not feeling the magnitude of his emotions until he found the dog, dead 50 yards away, It actually makes perfect sense. This man has dedicated his life both as a father and in his career to the safety and well being of others. His first instinct was to account for everyone and tend to their needs. He did exactly that. The dog was the final outstanding victim. Once he encountered the dog his job for the moment was complete and only then did he allowed himself the time to take a personal moment absorb the carnage, devastation and loss that he had just witnessed and assisted with.
He was an absolute hero. His selflessness and courage to put first everyone involved in the accident was an act of love and grace. To only allow himself to begin to process his own emotions and grief at that time is indicative of the sacrifices he makes to care for others. It’s so unfortunate that he struggled to reconcile this part of his journey. He’s a great, humble and caring man and I’m so grateful to him for his dedication and service to our safety.
Same. Thanks for clarifying. RIP. ❤️💔
Matthew 11:28-29
"28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls." Jesus Christ from Nazareth ❤
Thank you for sharing this again.
I’m sorry are the dates off? Born in 2006 it’s been 15 years making her 24 but In reality she is 18 now.
Thanks for asking. I think he misspoke when talking about her birthday year. She wasn’t born in 2006, she was born in ‘96. The accident took place in 2009. Sorry for the confusion.
@@LostChildPodcast thank you 🩷 regardless of the time frame it’s still a tragic loss to any parent and family.
Yes it is.
Actually, if she was 12 when she passed away and it’s been 15 years, she would be 27 almost 28
She would be 28..1996-2024...
I want to know how the other children are doing with losing a sibling…
Great question. We have 2 separate podcasts of siblings. Not sure about all of the siblings from this story. That would be there story to tell.
❤️🩹 #ShareHope 🌻
I know it’s not a biggie but I’m confused about her age and when she was born. I’m assuming she 1996, if it’s been 15 years. It’s understandable to make a mistake in such a situation
Yes, he misspoke. She was just 12 when she passed, almost 13.
The guy interviewer should raise his mic to his mouth rather than leaning down into it
Thank you for the input.
It’s God, the Enemy or its Human Error .
Thank you for sharing, the guy interviewer should not be interrupting so much a good interviewer let’s a person speak without interruption, no need to ask so many questions while he is in the middle of telling his story, he will get there, let them speak.
Edit: guest says “ because I knew it was a problem” before he could even continue to speak his thought you immediately chime in with “ why was that a problem?” He would’ve told you if you were still listening and did not interrupt him. You can’t hear if you’re too busy thinking about what you want to say.
The interviewer guy should stop talking over the father.
Good input.
"The interviewer guy" is the person responsible for this podcast
, and while he may have been kind enough to say good input to you, SHAME ON YOU. The man watched his baby girl die and he is doing the best he can I am sure. YOU have much deeper things to work on than overtalking someone. Get a heart.
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RUDE!!! He lost his daughter also
The host in the blue shirt makes a lot of insensitive comparisons and butts in way too much.
Comparing a scream from a severe accident to someone’s sibling beating them up is weird. Let the guest talk dang
Thank you for your feedback, we will take it into consideration.
These "hosts" have been through the same hell. Please do your research. When you go through losing a child, or anyone for that fact, you remember smells, sounds, strange things. So I'm just gonna say what our very polite hosts didn't say ....Shhhhhhh 😊. Take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth. Tysm
I disagree with you on this. And he lost his own daughter so he has a level of understanding. He wasn’t comparing the accident screams to someone’s sibling beating them up, thats just not a good takeaway from that conversation.
That’s not even what he said he said it’s a difference smh listen better
You know they were trying to get you to see others have tragedy too and those who lost infants would kill to have 11 years. Don't be so critical. Everyone is sorry, no one knows what to say!!! Maybe if you see others loss may make you more grateful fir what you had! The world isn't about you either!
You're probably right we shouldn't be so critical. We are also trying to show an inside look into what a person who is going through a loss feels, thats why this topic even got brought up. We can all be better though. Thanks for your input. Hope you have wonderful rest of your week.
Oh god this guy interviewer is really bugging me, I want to switch off, he's confusing the whole interview asking stupid questions
The "guy" is the father of Sunni, the girl, that died in a boat accident. He is no professional interviewer but a concerned and interessed part of the discussion.
We just recently lost our daughter over a year ago. This podcast was done in less than a year of losing our daughter. We are new to podcasts and not perfect at it. Please be patient with us.
@@LostChildPodcastyou’re doing great ❤
@@bodemiller5282….when I saw the name on this post, I immediately thought maybe it was your story. If so, I have never forgotten reading the story of your tragic loss. I am so, so sorry, and sharing your story so openly. My son passed away 6 months ago from complications of an epileptic seizure. What really hurts my heart is that my “child” was 40 years old, and say the most idiotic things, such as “he lived a full life”, or “you’re blessed that you were able to make so many memories (because he was 40). So lame. Again, I’m sorry for loss of your child ❤️
@@LostChildPodcastI hope you don't let the negative comments bother you.
I totally get how some of the things that ppl say makes you mad.
After my sons death I’ve heard it all,yes it made me mad and ppl give advice,scriptures or gooey sayings did not help.
My husband and I had to cut ties with so many ppl,family and friends.
I was never mad at God,but I do wish that maybe if God would have warned me,I don’t know if that’s possible.
It doesn’t matter how times passes I know that our mind will always bring up those memories as we lose a part of heart when our child was no longer on this earth.
I’m so sorry for your horrific loss. 💔💔