I hit the 1 year mark since I finally left my narc. ex. I didn’t think I would be able to get through 1 year no contact/leaving him. And I’m thankful I did. It saved my life.
I've told my friends the best revenge on toxic people is to live your best life, heal, get better, and to learn to be better for yourself. It's important to do that.
I find it so funny , my narc is telling everyone he’s trying to heal from me and he never wants to be in a new relationship until he heals , meanwhile the day he discarded me he told me he already had someone else lined up . They are a joke
Mine tells my daughter all the time he left me because I was physically abusive to him. Meanwhile, she remembers me taking her 3 week old brother and nothing but a bag because he dropped into a fight stance after picking a fight with me. He accused me of sneaking out of the house to cheat on him even though I'd been gone for less than 30 minutes and was standing there with grocery bags. I found out 3 weeks later he borrowed money from my mother, grandmother and his sister for my sons circumcision-- which I paid for. I left my clothes, their clothes, their furniture-- anything that didn't fit into that bag he kept. I've heard him talking and I think he genuinely feels like a survivor.😂😂😂 Imagine how miserable knowing you have lie to yourself and everyone around you to even be tolerable, and even that's brief. Best decision I ever made in my life. He can lie to whoever about whatever. Add some stuff on too, sir! It's his lie, so let him tell it. 😂😂😂
Facts!! Same thing happened to me. It’s been 1 week since I have had no contact with my ex who I strongly believe is a narcissist. I’m happy to be away and set free 😊
I remember the day I finally healed was when I stopped being angry or wanting him to go through what he put me through, and started not caring anymore. Even feeling sorry for him as a human being and living my best life. I grew more personally and financially in 3 years then In did when we were together. All I had to do was cut ties and focus on good things and people in life.
Yes! This is the ultimate lesson, learning to forgive. The forgiveness is not just for them but mainly for ourself. It’s hard to move forward and prosper hanging on to all that hurt and resentment. 🙏🏼♥️
@@dlmcc I'd rather pity and/or feel sorry than forgive. I don't know if I like using the word "forgive" like that. Pity puts things in better perspective in my mind.
I just want them very far away. I am an empath, but I have a disorganized attachtment style. So I also have an avoidant side when people hurt me. So the only thing I want now is being away from them. But if someone who really have been hurt and desire karma for them, I do not judge them. It is a natural feeling.
I sent my karma straight up stairs to the most high ….. vengeance is mine sayeth the lord . I will repay !!! Pity that demon when the lord comes for him I would not want to b anywhere near it when it goes down . And my friends it will .
@Bvggert you have your wish because they can never remember hurting you, the dirty deeds they do, and everything else surrounding you so it is easy to forget you totally. LOL
My ex left me 9 months pregnant. 2.5 years later, I'm about 70% healed from that trauma. But, what he did do is make me realize my worth and how I was letting people treat me. How I let him treat me was not ok. I started seeing how I can stand up for myself and set boundaries and stand on those boundaries. I even decided to go no contact with my dad because I finally saw that I didn't deserve the way my dad treated me. So, it's a lot of work and it's exhausting but I'm building myself back up. I'm building myself better and stronger so that no mother fucker will look like green flags when they are all red.
After 15 days of complete silence, after being in a situationship for 2,062.72 days to be exact. He went crazy after the 3rd day. Reaching out to ppl in my family he didn’t even like, sending messages via Zelle. I’m standing on what I said. The last time was going to be the very last time you treat me less than my worth!!
I once gave him a Father’s Day card that said “have the day you deserve, you’ve earned it” and he was livid. I couldn’t understand his reaction then, but I do now. Ha!
Oh, and I wish he could end up with my former best friend. That chick is a full on sociopath. The two of them together would be the karma they both deserve. A lifetime of lying and scheming and always fearing their actions are catching up with them.
He knew it wasn't true, so to him you were trying to be funny. They know wth going on and how they're treating others. You gotta stand in the truth on these kinds of folks and GTFO.
He’ll never find anyone like me again. So many selfish people in the world and they think they can just move on and find a good person after how they treat people nope 😂
🎯🎯 There are consequences for every intention and action within the universe. Their karma is losing the best thing that ever happened to them! I don't wish him ill will, I really hope he heals some day...just not with me around.
Somebody asked me recently what if they truly changed and they actually became a better person… I told them I would be sincerely happy for them but they done so much damage and caused me so much pain that I still wouldn’t want them back even as a friend. Somethings theres no coming back from especially if it was something established since the beginning of the relationship never to do yet they went for it anyway. (Cheating was it for me) Nonetheless I’ll be happy for them regardless, however at a distance and hope they would continue that path for themselves. But those lessons taught me too much to ever want toxicity from someone near close like them. NEVER AGAIN!
It’s so crazy. I left my narc a few months ago. I was ruminating, talking about him in therapy. Then my gram became deadly ill and I promised her before she passed I would never go back to him. Miraculously, after losing her I have zero feelings for him. I don’t think about it like I did. I’m not angry. I honestly feel nothing at all for him now. Maybe gram left me a gift. Maybe I finally got my priorities straight.. idk but I know it’s finally over! Thanks be to God!
Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail.com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
My Ex is definitely a Narc. Physically, verbally, & emotionally abused me. He's currently homeless, addicted, no money, job, car etc. I feel bad for him, however, LIFE and losing me is his karma.
My mom just died leaving me with a narcissist stepdad. He knows as soon as the will is read and the inheritance is split he will never see me again and the reaction is TELLING. He lost his narcissistic supply in my mom and he’s long been cut out of my life so there’s no place for him there. He never thought about what it would look like after my mom stopped protecting him and his abusive behavior.
I doubt he thinks about me at all. He's had three other supplies since I broke contact with him 10 years ago. There's always a new supply. He just keeps moving to the next one that has whatever he needs. I have to keep remembering that the reason he does the things he does is because he is damaged. He was never the person I perceived him to be. That person doesn't exist except when he wants something from me. It's a performance. The person I loved was a work of fiction.
This is 100% accurate. Lots of people don't understand how karma works. They could be your karma, too. The difference is we learn from it and work to become better people. They usually don't.
Hi Lee! I've recently left peacefully a relationship with a narcissist! It got tiresome, and at the end, he was cold and blamed everything on me. I've been no contact close to 5 weeks. I feel free, still in disbelief, how much of me I gave . Yet, he never seemed satisfied. Thank you for the time you put out. It really helps.
You will get through this I promise you. Like for me, coping with my feelings about my ex is like the ocean: it comes in waves. I have good days & bad days. But it’s better than being stuck in a place where I felt like I was sinking.
Hi! I think the same way; the fact that I'm not in their world of lies and deception, but rather, learning to live freely and learning to find my value in life. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I often cry and reflect on the pain.
I was initially furious at the woman my ex of 15 yrs was in a full relationship with 4 weeks into our separation. Then i realized i couldn't dream up a worse scenario than what she was stepping into. I actually felt bad for her. I saw her recently, & she's going through it
I want the kind of Karma loosing me, knowing he lost me for good, a painful experience in his heart knowing I put in 300% and wore myself out til he discarded me thinking he's was going to have better. Apparently not if he has already attempted hoovering.
Got rid of several folks in my life last year & I have never felt more amazing. I feel like my original old self again. Never going back ! That cloud is totally lifted & the sun is a shining again ☀️And I’m having the life I deserve ! Feels great too ! Too any folks want to bring everyone down to their miserable level of pain going on within themselves. Don’t be dragged down to their level in life.
Seeing my narcissist ex with a Dollar Tree version of me was surreal. She looked as shocked as I did. 😂😂😂 She was smarter than me, she got missing quick!
9:17 Physics of karma. Thoughts, actions, and behaviors are all manifested quantum waves. Positive things facilitate forward motion waves that remain in motion until a bifurcation point initiates an evolution. Negative waves are chaos that returns to the origination point. A tangible example of positive waves is a drop of water in a pond. The wave it creates expands in forward motion until it dissipates or splits, or until it moves something in its path. A leaf on the surface of the water being moved by the wave would be a tertiary evolution, with the second being the bifurcation moment as the wave connects with the leaf prior to moving it. Contrarily, negative waves would be like a jagged rock being slammed into the same pond. There is no clean wave, only chaos with splash back. God designed the world intelligently. There is never a need for vengeance, and trying to make a narcissist hurt the way they hurt you is a revolving door to nowhere. You're just tossing boomerangs of chaos back at yourself that will eventually manifest as negativity in your life or health. You ever go swimming for hours? You know how your body feels a hundred times heavier when you first get out of the water? The narcissists are the water. Treading water leads to exhaustion. Exhaustion can drown you. Exiting their ecosystem can save your life. When you get out, it's going to suck. It will be cold. Wet. Heavy. Then, it eventually lifts and you feel the day to day dry of light, fresh air. It might take a bit, but it passes. Hold on to peace, pray about it, and keep moving forward. Narcissists brought me to a place where I now find myself seeking and holding on to peace at every opportunity. Lee is correct, backed by physics. Understanding things scientifically, concretely, objectively and truthfully has been helpful throughout my life. Physics is the grounding how and why of all things, and I encourage everyone to learn more. 🌻 journals.aps.org/prx/abstract/10.1103/PhysRevX.12.011035
Well said. Waiting for it to lift, trying to come up with ways to get off this cold and sandy beach but I'm exhausted. I see all these people saying they left the narcissist and are living their best life etc, that's not my story. It's been a year and I'm still pretty jacked up. Worst depression of my life after leaving her. I don't miss her anymore, I don't want to be with her definitely not, I'm upset... I'm angry and sad, mad at myself for giving so much of my energy to her. I didn't have it going in before her though I was fresh out of the military with undiagnosed PTSD, so leaving her I'm like dropped back into myself 13 years ago... But with nothing, no good support system, no job, didn't accomplish much when I was with her, all I did when I was with her was live for her, trying to please her, fix myself and our relationship constantly I didn't have energy for much else. She told me I'd be nothing without her, and that's how I feel. Now I'm just out here, out of the water wet and cold. Thanks for sharing this.
I never wanted to hurt my mother. It just makes me so very sad that her life has been so full of sadness. Me going no contact was one of the most difficult decisions I ever made and the hardest relationship to stay cut off from. Three years no contact and I am not looking back; I will not repeat. i was diagnosed with CPTSD and generalized anxiety disorder which I am no longer struggling with. Finally in a really good place in my life at 55 years old and my children are completely safe from the toxic generational abuse that has plagued my family line. This content has been a large part of my healing journey, Thank you Sir.
Listening to this made me tear up so much. After going through it with a narcissist, sometimes they caused me to feel like the worst thing that ever existed.. and for you to say that losing me is karma just confirms that I do have value that they tried to diminish or drain away .the beautiful souls are the ones who tries to treat everyone with kindness and empathy… Thank you, sir. You definitely have a beautiful soul.✨😭
You absolutely right my ex narcissistic families and ex-lovers thought that they can come back into my life😂😂 they should have realized who I was🎯 they came up on the wrong one😂 no contact .....⚔🦁🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Seeing the title of this video drew me right in. Then you referred to yourself as the "self-aware narcissist" and it made me have even more respect for the words that followed. This is very powerful and, honestly so appreciated.
Unfortunately you cannot force anyone to get help what you do is make yourself in impenetrable and learn the game that they're playing once they realize you know their game they usually walk away you have to be content with them leaving and realize you're the best thing that's ever happened to them
The honest godly truth Amen 🙏🏽 I just got away from a narcissist and he made me feel like it was everyone aka woman all his exes Fault until I felt the most awful feelings in my stomach 3times at night but in my mind I kelp saying to myself I was not being Submissive if. Tried to stand up for myself an tell him His Words was Hurting me I was told I was not use to an Alpha Male 😢Thank you God for giving me the Strength to let go 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
The last thing he said to me after he cheated on me "nothing you say will hurt, me Nat!" i realized then that that was his intention, tryna hurt me because that definitely wasnt my intention and i never did. He was projecting..That's when I hung up on him and ghosted.
1:49 I am the best person she ever had, and I'm the best person she will ever have. Everybody she meets will be compared to me, and everybody I meet will be compared to her. But she chose to push me away. Still, I don't want her to suffer, I don't want her to feel the way that she made me feel. I wouldn't wish this feeling upon anybody. But, I can't save her from herself.
I just caught a clip of this. You are saying good stuff, Lee. I just want to add this: You victims that are still asking that question and obsessing over what the narcissist is all about,, watching, wishful-thinking , gossiping and snooping in search of, praying for "karma" you are #1. Wasting valuable time and energy you will never get back, that you could be spending on meaningful endeavors ---like PRACTICING BOUNDARIES AND HEALING FROM CODEPENDENCY. --You focusing on the narcissist is exactly what they want you to be doing and THEY don't have YOUR best interest at heart. They never did. You can't change the narcissist. You can only change yourself. Honestly, There is always room for improvement.
I met my narc at my job and he lived near the job too. I quit my job and he is thriving in all areas. He got married, is fit, extremely handsome, wears ''fashionable'' clothes and posts pictures of himself where you subtle see his weddingring on his finger in the backyard of the house he bought for him and his wife. While I'm jobless because of him, single, living at my parents house because of finances. Now I feel extremely depressed of the thought that he has it all and he is happy. Advice?
My advice would be is try find a new job do meditation or even therapy to say how U feel for the depression he done it to rub it on Ur face I'm sorry U went through this hope Ur doing okay all the best Dan🫂
Don't keep track of him and clock what he has going on. Reclaim your energy. Trust me, Ive been where you are, but once you begin healing, you will attract quality..what you deserve. Don't miss or overlook your blessings worried about him.
It’s sucks, but honestly, it’s a front. Work on bettering YOU! You may be broken for a while, but I can tell you it gets better. I felt broken, lost, and somewhat scared to live on my own only 5 months after getting out of my last narc relationship. But I am here almost a year and a half out, confident, healing, doing GREAT. I am choosing not to really worry about how she’s doing. Honestly, life with her was MISERABLE, and that’s not marriage or some kind of intimate relationship. He is trying to taunt you. Block him and move on!! Hugs!! 🫂
Same for me. He left me not only mentally scarred but contributed to me being destroyed phisically permanently (developed acne conglobata out of nowherethat left my face scarred, derm then pushed a treatment with permanent fillers and subcision on me that forever distorted my face and caused it to sag and the stress of this all aged me like 10 years). Feels like I was punished double for falling for him. Not only did I lose the version of him I fell for, but I lost myself permanently.
Yes, it was an injustice! What we are going thru went thru isn't okay, absolutely not. Whats done has been done, wasting anymore time, THAT would be abusive to myaelf right now.
My ex made false allegations, got me in jail, almost died in jail because of her lies, im homeless and living in a homeless shelter and fear for me life everyday since scared she will do more. Im dealing with so much anxiety, stress and traumas. will she get her karma one day? One year today I decided to ask for divorce and it's been the worse year of my life so far.
I just ended a two year friendship/relationship with a narcissist. He thought that he had me wrapped. I do admit that I'm only now in the beginning stages of healing from having gotten sucked into his guilt trips. Luckily he didn't succeed with all of his gaslighting attempts on me. Thank you for sharing your knowledge on this topic.
Yesssss I'm so happy i got through this!! That relationship was a lesson and a blessing. I prayed to God the WHOLE MONTH OF JULY like literally every day to end my toxic, abusive, narcissistic relationship of 3 years August 6 he kicked me out (mind you the death anniversary of my mother's death) i left and went no contact. I feel so free after ❤ Thank you Lord 🙏🏽
That’s so true the best revenge is living well. I know for a fact that that man will never stop thinking about me, because that’s why he kept coming back. That guy had no better supply or treatment from me. And I walked away not angry, or spiteful but genuinely not caring any more. And that fact that I wasn’t sad or missing him when I left is killing him.
I needed to hear this. I was dating a mental Narcissist he scarred the girl. I was the light 💡& I definitely tried to double back ,it never was worth it. End up blocking him on everything all over again. I’m HER & I believe just that💛
I been telling people that, when u see and or know people in real life vs they social media and you know they broke or got a drama lifestyle all them big family pictures and trips is fake, and they be just as broke as the rest of us. They post old trips months later and so on. To make it look like they doing things all year and they always happy, and while I was feeling bad I got off social media and my mood shifted and since I've been off I stay in a better mood
I love your mindset... you help us see things from a different approach..... It's been only three weeks going no contact with him, I still catch myself wanting him to contact me,.. Then I remember his last text messages insulting me like no one ever had in my life .... And I don't feel like seeing him ever again. Thanks Lee you're great
Love this episode ❤ finally thriving glowing up. I needed to hear this affirmation during this part of my journey. As always thank you lee! I couldn't do it without your guidance
I used to think that losing her was on me. But i had to realize that i didn't lose anything. She wasn't who she said she was. I'm glad she left and walked away because it was a blessing in disguise. It's been a month since i last contacted her. I'm working on myself and building back better. But definitely agree with everything he has said. I've blocked her on social media and no more pain shopping!
You are the one who helped me understand what I going through , and for that I'm so very grateful . November of this year will be 2 years free . Thank you
Definitely don’t have to have the weaknesses because the narcissist has more weaknesses than I can count. Definitely not about me trying to make my husband feel worse, but I’m sure I’ve had that thought a time or two when does he get his, I truly appreciate your willingness to accept and acknowledge your NPD because my narcissistic manages to convince me real close that he’s not one and then another temper tantrum comes up and I’m like oh my gosh yes you are one. You just broke the seatbelt in the car. You just broke this. You broke that you set boundaries and you can’t keep them. All these things that only add up to equal a narcissist I mean the play-by-play book is definitely real for a narcissist.
People tend to think Karma comes to punish. No. It comes to teach, if it breaks you down, you have to learn something and grow. I always wish them growth and hope that they learn some more compassion. This doesn't have to mean you have to forgive them it just means you wish people well.
Mine left me after I deeply hurt her from something that made no sense. She tried to make me jealous and hoover many times. I just ignored it. Now she's desperate trying to get me back and I just make excuses not to meet. I can tell she's getting more and more desperate. But she never should have screwed it up.
My narc was my father & sister was the golden child. I have just won a 10yrs harassment order on them ' they can't contact me for 10yrs * I have been no contact for 4yrs But the abuse whew, but danng I had everything recorded screen shots everything. I'm free. I go by they say blood is thicker than water' nah it's makes us related somewhat in DNA . But loyalty & trust is family. My brother unlived himself & then my mom passed with cancer, they never let me see her or go to the funeral or burial ' they will regret this not me . I'm free❤
You know what it is sometimes... for me the main struggle being brought to my attention within myself.. is feeling perpetually invalidated . It's soooo hard . My ex and his baby mom , who he cheated on me with all the time , portray themselves as these spiritual, holistic, light and love types ... when they're both the same person and full of absolute evil and darkness . It's invalidating when these people think they're genuinely the victim and somehow you're the bad person . It's like it messes with your perception of reality ... I start to feel and internalize it and actually it disrupts my ability to feel validated within myself... and this is the part where I get stuck . It's the most insane feeling and struggle to have . And that's when I yearn for karma , I yearn for exposure and truth outwardly... because these people attack your inner ability to feel validated and sure within yourself of what you know, see , and experienced. It's insidious .
Hi Lee, sometimes I think that there's no karma for narcs.. I got the boot after 20 years of marriage and didn't take that long for me to be replaced. He got himself a sugar mama and living the life he always wanted. Nice cars, traveling, living in his new wife's nice house, status....they will never change. I actually feel sorry for her, not good looking just being used and abused for the narc.. my son doesn't even want to live with them, it is fight non stop.
I do believe what you are saying Lee, but then I flip back into thinking that our relationship failed because he told me that I have an anger issue. And I do have an anger issue because he cheated on me MULTIPLE times in the 3 years we were together. And now, he’s in a new relationship, saying he’s going to be open and honest with her. Yet 2 days later, he matches with a friend of mine on Facebook dating😵💫🙄. I know he’s not going to change, but this healing journey is still ridiculously hard and sad!! I’m working on me but it’s slow and painful 😓
Do they get karma from leaving them? I don't believe that because they will get somebody better, or find somebody else to feed off of. So they are happy that they are not with you. Exactly if they start messing with the same people they cheated on you with.
My narc is finally moving out What pisses me off he nearly drained my bank account but I stopped that he gets the vehicle I'll be left in the middle of nowhere My health is shot to chit He gets the good life & I get a kick in the ass 🤬 This is complete BS He just keeps going on like Duracell I spoke to an attorney I can get him for some of the money he took only because I was out of town working And I the bank statement proves it was him not me Yet taking him to court cost money which I was told we can get him to pay for the court cost This is nothing but a headache And the smear campaign I'm not even going there No family no friends & now this I'm beginning to wonder why do I bother what's the point I'm at a point of just giving up 😞 Thank you for sharing 💔
So many people posting how they living their best life after the narc discards, you leave the narc etc. But plenty of people are going through, have gone through what you're going through now. Yes, it's very difficult... Especially if you don't have a good support group, didn't have much as is while you were with them, some narcs go out of their way to put a person into a trick bag like that. Sometimes the person ISN'T the best thing that ever happened to the narcissist, sometimes the person is just supply for the moment to move on to the next supply, that's how it is most of the time, there is no best thing for those people imo, I refuse to believe they actually care about anybody... All they do is try to come up off of people however they can and use a ton of gross manipulation tactics to do it. Do not give up, exhaust whatever resources you have to get back to peace, 1 step at a time, don't worry about them, narcs people hop, people collect, and infiltrate, mask and manipulate..they are good at it, they get energy from it... As long as they have supply they thrive in their bs. Truth is, yes things are a mess right now for you, but trust you are better off without living with and being with a narcissist... People are truly better off alone than being with them.
@@Siegefya Thank you Your absolutely right I just needed to vent which I don't get to do I'm just going to take it one step at a time Learn to breathe again I'd rather be alone than alone with someone There really aren't any support groups in my area However I'll be going to a church that's nearby since I can't return to the one I was attending This will be helpful Thank you once again for straight forward honesty Greatly appreciate it Take care ❤️
It’s a waste of time and energy to be concerned if they get karma! Make your cut off permanent and keep becoming better not bitter! Never explain yourself or negotiate with these tyrants!
‘The abuse is on them, the healing is on you’ - so accurate - chose better for yourself. Chose YOU!
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I hit the 1 year mark since I finally left my narc. ex. I didn’t think I would be able to get through 1 year no contact/leaving him. And I’m thankful I did. It saved my life.
Reminded me it has been a year as well. 👏
You inspire me
Inspirational! I'm 4.5 days free of Him but, I'm doing whatever it takes to Never go back to that House of Horrors
PROUD OF YOU
Thank you everyone for your support. You all will get through this, I know it. We all have eachother: toxic people don’t have connections like we do.
I've told my friends the best revenge on toxic people is to live your best life, heal, get better, and to learn to be better for yourself. It's important to do that.
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❤❤❤❤THAT IS THE GOSPEL
I find it so funny , my narc is telling everyone he’s trying to heal from me and he never wants to be in a new relationship until he heals , meanwhile the day he discarded me he told me he already had someone else lined up . They are a joke
Yeah they'll die for their false image
Mine tells my daughter all the time he left me because I was physically abusive to him. Meanwhile, she remembers me taking her 3 week old brother and nothing but a bag because he dropped into a fight stance after picking a fight with me. He accused me of sneaking out of the house to cheat on him even though I'd been gone for less than 30 minutes and was standing there with grocery bags. I found out 3 weeks later he borrowed money from my mother, grandmother and his sister for my sons circumcision-- which I paid for. I left my clothes, their clothes, their furniture-- anything that didn't fit into that bag he kept. I've heard him talking and I think he genuinely feels like a survivor.😂😂😂 Imagine how miserable knowing you have lie to yourself and everyone around you to even be tolerable, and even that's brief.
Best decision I ever made in my life. He can lie to whoever about whatever. Add some stuff on too, sir! It's his lie, so let him tell it. 😂😂😂
He's probably figured out telling people he's not ready to be in a relationship until he heals also is a great pick up line. So predictable and sad.
Facts!! Same thing happened to me. It’s been 1 week since I have had no contact with my ex who I strongly believe is a narcissist. I’m happy to be away and set free 😊
Exactly
I remember the day I finally healed was when I stopped being angry or wanting him to go through what he put me through, and started not caring anymore. Even feeling sorry for him as a human being and living my best life. I grew more personally and financially in 3 years then In did when we were together. All I had to do was cut ties and focus on good things and people in life.
Im trying to do that now
Yes! This is the ultimate lesson, learning to forgive. The forgiveness is not just for them but mainly for ourself. It’s hard to move forward and prosper hanging on to all that hurt and resentment. 🙏🏼♥️
@@dlmcc I'd rather pity and/or feel sorry than forgive. I don't know if I like using the word "forgive" like that.
Pity puts things in better perspective in my mind.
The apathy of women when we're finally fed up is brutal. No coming back from that.
A true empath still wouldn’t want to see anyone hurt,not even a narcissist a true empath just want out and want peace.
No cap here
Exactly
There is no true and false empaths. I can read and feel other people feelings but I sometime want to know that people who hurt me are suffering bad.
I just want them very far away. I am an empath, but I have a disorganized attachtment style. So I also have an avoidant side when people hurt me. So the only thing I want now is being away from them. But if someone who really have been hurt and desire karma for them, I do not judge them. It is a natural feeling.
Thus true. I know for a fact.
"Healing is not a destination. It's a journey. You can't catch a flight there. You gotta walk." 💯
Yep... It's a marathon and not a sprint.
I loved this quote too
I sent my karma straight up stairs to the most high ….. vengeance is mine sayeth the lord . I will repay !!! Pity that demon when the lord comes for him I would not want to b anywhere near it when it goes down . And my friends it will .
I don't want to see them get hurt, I want to see them have amnesia when it comes to me
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@Bvggert you have your wish because they can never remember hurting you, the dirty deeds they do, and everything else surrounding you so it is easy to forget you totally. LOL
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A narcissist I think
I'm lmao 😂😂😂❤
My ex left me 9 months pregnant. 2.5 years later, I'm about 70% healed from that trauma. But, what he did do is make me realize my worth and how I was letting people treat me. How I let him treat me was not ok. I started seeing how I can stand up for myself and set boundaries and stand on those boundaries. I even decided to go no contact with my dad because I finally saw that I didn't deserve the way my dad treated me.
So, it's a lot of work and it's exhausting but I'm building myself back up. I'm building myself better and stronger so that no mother fucker will look like green flags when they are all red.
I can’t believe I’ve watched your videos for a year now: thank you for helping me & motivating me to keep staying no contact.
You got this!
@@MentalHealnessthank you Lee.
Nothing works better than no contact. Just make sure you resist the temptation to text them when you are drunk.
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After 15 days of complete silence, after being in a situationship for 2,062.72 days to be exact. He went crazy after the 3rd day. Reaching out to ppl in my family he didn’t even like, sending messages via Zelle. I’m standing on what I said. The last time was going to be the very last time you treat me less than my worth!!
I once gave him a Father’s Day card that said “have the day you deserve, you’ve earned it” and he was livid. I couldn’t understand his reaction then, but I do now. Ha!
Oh, and I wish he could end up with my former best friend. That chick is a full on sociopath. The two of them together would be the karma they both deserve. A lifetime of lying and scheming and always fearing their actions are catching up with them.
He knew it wasn't true, so to him you were trying to be funny. They know wth going on and how they're treating others. You gotta stand in the truth on these kinds of folks and GTFO.
He’ll never find anyone like me again. So many selfish people in the world and they think they can just move on and find a good person after how they treat people nope 😂
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🎯🎯 There are consequences for every intention and action within the universe. Their karma is losing the best thing that ever happened to them! I don't wish him ill will, I really hope he heals some day...just not with me around.
❤🥺🥹👏 exactly!!!
Somebody asked me recently what if they truly changed and they actually became a better person… I told them I would be sincerely happy for them but they done so much damage and caused me so much pain that I still wouldn’t want them back even as a friend. Somethings theres no coming back from especially if it was something established since the beginning of the relationship never to do yet they went for it anyway. (Cheating was it for me)
Nonetheless I’ll be happy for them regardless, however at a distance and hope they would continue that path for themselves. But those lessons taught me too much to ever want toxicity from someone near close like them. NEVER AGAIN!
Absolutely 💯 🌌. The Universe doesn't play. I'm a firm believer of that.
It’s so crazy. I left my narc a few months ago. I was ruminating, talking about him in therapy. Then my gram became deadly ill and I promised her before she passed I would never go back to him. Miraculously, after losing her I have zero feelings for him. I don’t think about it like I did. I’m not angry. I honestly feel nothing at all for him now. Maybe gram left me a gift. Maybe I finally got my priorities straight.. idk but I know it’s finally over! Thanks be to God!
Whenever I miss him I watch videos of him reaching out and breaking my home and abusing
Raging
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Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail.com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
My Ex is definitely a Narc. Physically, verbally, & emotionally abused me. He's currently homeless, addicted, no money, job, car etc. I feel bad for him, however, LIFE and losing me is his karma.
Did he live with you or you with him?
Yup it's there karma for treat us badly with the hot n coldness
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My mom just died leaving me with a narcissist stepdad. He knows as soon as the will is read and the inheritance is split he will never see me again and the reaction is TELLING.
He lost his narcissistic supply in my mom and he’s long been cut out of my life so there’s no place for him there.
He never thought about what it would look like after my mom stopped protecting him and his abusive behavior.
He's the reason she died they suck life out of people
Many prayers to you wish you the best in life.
Yes, they are messed up in the inside. He once told me he was F-up. I shouldn't believe him.
*Should've believed him" 😢
I doubt he thinks about me at all. He's had three other supplies since I broke contact with him 10 years ago. There's always a new supply. He just keeps moving to the next one that has whatever he needs. I have to keep remembering that the reason he does the things he does is because he is damaged. He was never the person I perceived him to be. That person doesn't exist except when he wants something from me. It's a performance. The person I loved was a work of fiction.
Yes! This! 💯 I'm sorry you experienced this
Truthfully, I don't want to see anything bad happen. I just want to be left alone so I can move forward but having kids makes that immensely difficult
Another excellent point Stop pain shopping Stop looking at information that could hurt you
Thanks for the Video. A Narcissist is a nightmare.
This is 100% accurate. Lots of people don't understand how karma works. They could be your karma, too. The difference is we learn from it and work to become better people. They usually don't.
Hi Lee! I've recently left peacefully a relationship with a narcissist! It got tiresome, and at the end, he was cold and blamed everything on me. I've been no contact close to 5 weeks. I feel free, still in disbelief, how much of me I gave . Yet, he never seemed satisfied. Thank you for the time you put out. It really helps.
You will get through this I promise you. Like for me, coping with my feelings about my ex is like the ocean: it comes in waves. I have good days & bad days. But it’s better than being stuck in a place where I felt like I was sinking.
Hi! I think the same way; the fact that I'm not in their world of lies and deception, but rather, learning to live freely and learning to find my value in life. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I often cry and reflect on the pain.
I was initially furious at the woman my ex of 15 yrs was in a full relationship with 4 weeks into our separation. Then i realized i couldn't dream up a worse scenario than what she was stepping into. I actually felt bad for her. I saw her recently, & she's going through it
I want the kind of Karma loosing me, knowing he lost me for good, a painful experience in his heart knowing I put in 300% and wore myself out til he discarded me thinking he's was going to have better. Apparently not if he has already attempted hoovering.
I'm thinking bout hoovering my ex. I do love him... I'm just upset because he now has a new gf.
This is insane and can believe we are done. WTH 🙆🏼♀️
And she an 🍎!!!!!!
Got rid of several folks in my life last year & I have never felt more amazing. I feel like my original old self again. Never going back ! That cloud is totally lifted & the sun is a shining again ☀️And I’m having the life I deserve ! Feels great too ! Too any folks want to bring everyone down to their miserable level of pain going on within themselves. Don’t be dragged down to their level in life.
Seeing my narcissist ex with a Dollar Tree version of me was surreal. She looked as shocked as I did. 😂😂😂 She was smarter than me, she got missing quick!
I needed to hear this. You have several gems in there that I never thought of. Thank you
This is lowkey empowering food for thought.
Narcissistic people are very real n toxic
Thank you again Lee
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9:17 Physics of karma.
Thoughts, actions, and behaviors are all manifested quantum waves. Positive things facilitate forward motion waves that remain in motion until a bifurcation point initiates an evolution. Negative waves are chaos that returns to the origination point.
A tangible example of positive waves is a drop of water in a pond. The wave it creates expands in forward motion until it dissipates or splits, or until it moves something in its path. A leaf on the surface of the water being moved by the wave would be a tertiary evolution, with the second being the bifurcation moment as the wave connects with the leaf prior to moving it.
Contrarily, negative waves would be like a jagged rock being slammed into the same pond. There is no clean wave, only chaos with splash back.
God designed the world intelligently. There is never a need for vengeance, and trying to make a narcissist hurt the way they hurt you is a revolving door to nowhere. You're just tossing boomerangs of chaos back at yourself that will eventually manifest as negativity in your life or health.
You ever go swimming for hours? You know how your body feels a hundred times heavier when you first get out of the water?
The narcissists are the water. Treading water leads to exhaustion. Exhaustion can drown you. Exiting their ecosystem can save your life.
When you get out, it's going to suck. It will be cold. Wet. Heavy. Then, it eventually lifts and you feel the day to day dry of light, fresh air. It might take a bit, but it passes.
Hold on to peace, pray about it, and keep moving forward. Narcissists brought me to a place where I now find myself seeking and holding on to peace at every opportunity.
Lee is correct, backed by physics. Understanding things scientifically, concretely, objectively and truthfully has been helpful throughout my life. Physics is the grounding how and why of all things, and I encourage everyone to learn more. 🌻
journals.aps.org/prx/abstract/10.1103/PhysRevX.12.011035
Well said. Waiting for it to lift, trying to come up with ways to get off this cold and sandy beach but I'm exhausted. I see all these people saying they left the narcissist and are living their best life etc, that's not my story. It's been a year and I'm still pretty jacked up. Worst depression of my life after leaving her. I don't miss her anymore, I don't want to be with her definitely not, I'm upset... I'm angry and sad, mad at myself for giving so much of my energy to her. I didn't have it going in before her though I was fresh out of the military with undiagnosed PTSD, so leaving her I'm like dropped back into myself 13 years ago... But with nothing, no good support system, no job, didn't accomplish much when I was with her, all I did when I was with her was live for her, trying to please her, fix myself and our relationship constantly I didn't have energy for much else. She told me I'd be nothing without her, and that's how I feel. Now I'm just out here, out of the water wet and cold. Thanks for sharing this.
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BUILD BACK BETTER!!! Excellent👌🏿 advice Lee. Keep doing what you do 😄
This video made me feel good
"Have the life you deserve." is GOLD. If she ever gets in touch I'm going to try my best to remember to say that 👌
There is so much truth to what Lee is saying, bless you Lee.
I never wanted to hurt my mother. It just makes me so very sad that her life has been so full of sadness. Me going no contact was one of the most difficult decisions I ever made and the hardest relationship to stay cut off from. Three years no contact and I am not looking back; I will not repeat. i was diagnosed with CPTSD and generalized anxiety disorder which I am no longer struggling with. Finally in a really good place in my life at 55 years old and my children are completely safe from the toxic generational abuse that has plagued my family line. This content has been a large part of my healing journey, Thank you Sir.
protect your peace and yourself
Yes it’s been 2 years for me I went no contact with my mother I so much at peace I’m trying to heal from her abuse
Listening to this made me tear up so much. After going through it with a narcissist, sometimes they caused me to feel like the worst thing that ever existed.. and for you to say that losing me is karma just confirms that I do have value that they tried to diminish or drain away .the beautiful souls are the ones who tries to treat everyone with kindness and empathy… Thank you, sir. You definitely have a beautiful soul.✨😭
You absolutely right my ex narcissistic families and ex-lovers thought that they can come back into my life😂😂 they should have realized who I was🎯 they came up on the wrong one😂 no contact .....⚔🦁🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
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Seeing the title of this video drew me right in. Then you referred to yourself as the "self-aware narcissist" and it made me have even more respect for the words that followed. This is very powerful and, honestly so appreciated.
Amen Lee!! Keep speaking life into people!! It is Amazing and Beautiful! And you're 💯 % right !
I don’t want him to hurt, I want him to get help. 😢
Stay empowered
Walk away, or you will sink with the ship.
They have to want it.
It doesn't work
Unfortunately you cannot force anyone to get help what you do is make yourself in impenetrable and learn the game that they're playing once they realize you know their game they usually walk away you have to be content with them leaving and realize you're the best thing that's ever happened to them
I needed this. Thank you
It's hard bc I have to keep going back and forth to court. It's hard to move on when trauma keeps being brought up bc of court
Your videos have honestly got me through a hard time and have encouraged me to keep going. Thank you so much
The honest godly truth Amen 🙏🏽 I just got away from a narcissist and he made me feel like it was everyone aka woman all his exes Fault until I felt the most awful feelings in my stomach 3times at night but in my mind I kelp saying to myself I was not being Submissive if. Tried to stand up for myself an tell him His Words was Hurting me I was told I was not use to an Alpha Male 😢Thank you God for giving me the Strength to let go 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
The last thing he said to me after he cheated on me "nothing you say will hurt, me Nat!" i realized then that that was his intention, tryna hurt me because that definitely wasnt my intention and i never did. He was projecting..That's when I hung up on him and ghosted.
1:49 I am the best person she ever had, and I'm the best person she will ever have. Everybody she meets will be compared to me, and everybody I meet will be compared to her. But she chose to push me away. Still, I don't want her to suffer, I don't want her to feel the way that she made me feel. I wouldn't wish this feeling upon anybody. But, I can't save her from herself.
Thank you for your Beautiful Message ❤
This really comforts me a lot! Thank you❤❤❤
Me too. 💔🖤
I just caught a clip of this. You are saying good stuff, Lee. I just want to add this: You victims that are still asking that question and obsessing over what the narcissist is all about,, watching, wishful-thinking , gossiping and snooping in search of, praying for "karma" you are #1. Wasting valuable time and energy you will never get back, that you could be spending on meaningful endeavors ---like PRACTICING BOUNDARIES AND HEALING FROM CODEPENDENCY. --You focusing on the narcissist is exactly what they want you to be doing and THEY don't have YOUR best interest at heart. They never did. You can't change the narcissist. You can only change yourself. Honestly, There is always room for improvement.
I met my narc at my job and he lived near the job too. I quit my job and he is thriving in all areas. He got married, is fit, extremely handsome, wears ''fashionable'' clothes and posts pictures of himself where you subtle see his weddingring on his finger in the backyard of the house he bought for him and his wife. While I'm jobless because of him, single, living at my parents house because of finances. Now I feel extremely depressed of the thought that he has it all and he is happy. Advice?
My advice would be is try find a new job do meditation or even therapy to say how U feel for the depression he done it to rub it on Ur face I'm sorry U went through this hope Ur doing okay all the best Dan🫂
Don't keep track of him and clock what he has going on. Reclaim your energy. Trust me, Ive been where you are, but once you begin healing, you will attract quality..what you deserve. Don't miss or overlook your blessings worried about him.
It’s sucks, but honestly, it’s a front. Work on bettering YOU! You may be broken for a while, but I can tell you it gets better. I felt broken, lost, and somewhat scared to live on my own only 5 months after getting out of my last narc relationship. But I am here almost a year and a half out, confident, healing, doing GREAT. I am choosing not to really worry about how she’s doing. Honestly, life with her was MISERABLE, and that’s not marriage or some kind of intimate relationship. He is trying to taunt you. Block him and move on!! Hugs!! 🫂
HAVE THE LIFE U DESERVE BIH🎉FRLFRL KARMA🎉
Same for me. He left me not only mentally scarred but contributed to me being destroyed phisically permanently (developed acne conglobata out of nowherethat left my face scarred, derm then pushed a treatment with permanent fillers and subcision on me that forever distorted my face and caused it to sag and the stress of this all aged me like 10 years). Feels like I was punished double for falling for him. Not only did I lose the version of him I fell for, but I lost myself permanently.
Yes, it was an injustice! What we are going thru went thru isn't okay, absolutely not. Whats done has been done, wasting anymore time, THAT would be abusive to myaelf right now.
I can rebuild me. Better. Faster. Stronger. I’m in the beginning of post separation abuse
My ex made false allegations, got me in jail, almost died in jail because of her lies, im homeless and living in a homeless shelter and fear for me life everyday since scared she will do more. Im dealing with so much anxiety, stress and traumas. will she get her karma one day? One year today I decided to ask for divorce and it's been the worse year of my life so far.
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This is the best video I have heard from you in my opinion💯
Thank you for always spreading positivity and knowledge. God bless you.
So nice of you. God bless you as well
Word! Broken but not destroyed ❤
I just ended a two year friendship/relationship with a narcissist. He thought that he had me wrapped. I do admit that I'm only now in the beginning stages of healing from having gotten sucked into his guilt trips. Luckily he didn't succeed with all of his gaslighting attempts on me. Thank you for sharing your knowledge on this topic.
Yesssss I'm so happy i got through this!! That relationship was a lesson and a blessing. I prayed to God the WHOLE MONTH OF JULY like literally every day to end my toxic, abusive, narcissistic relationship of 3 years August 6 he kicked me out (mind you the death anniversary of my mother's death) i left and went no contact. I feel so free after ❤ Thank you Lord 🙏🏽
At the end of the day, what you sow you will reap. They’ll get what’s getting to them
Thank you Lee. It's like you're talking directly to me! Everybody has been telling me this & I'm seeing it in real time
LMAO! 25 months, my psycho ex has still not found a single 50 year old multi-millionaire who will put up with her bullshit! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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I'm so glad. I don't wish these people blessings. They need healing.
That’s so true the best revenge is living well. I know for a fact that that man will never stop thinking about me, because that’s why he kept coming back. That guy had no better supply or treatment from me. And I walked away not angry, or spiteful but genuinely not caring any more. And that fact that I wasn’t sad or missing him when I left is killing him.
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I really needed this to start my day. Thank you Lee.
I needed to hear this. I was dating a mental Narcissist he scarred the girl. I was the light 💡& I definitely tried to double back ,it never was worth it. End up blocking him on everything all over again. I’m HER & I believe just that💛
I been telling people that, when u see and or know people in real life vs they social media and you know they broke or got a drama lifestyle all them big family pictures and trips is fake, and they be just as broke as the rest of us. They post old trips months later and so on. To make it look like they doing things all year and they always happy, and while I was feeling bad I got off social media and my mood shifted and since I've been off I stay in a better mood
SELF LOVE !!! I trust n believe in me !!!
Appreciate this much-needed message. You pointed out important aspects of taking steps to concentrate on ourselves as opposed to the narcissist dumper
I love your mindset... you help us see things from a different approach..... It's been only three weeks going no contact with him, I still catch myself wanting him to contact me,.. Then I remember his last text messages insulting me like no one ever had in my life .... And I don't feel like seeing him ever again. Thanks Lee you're great
you’re welcome 🙌🏾
Love this episode ❤ finally thriving glowing up. I needed to hear this affirmation during this part of my journey. As always thank you lee! I couldn't do it without your guidance
Damn this guy is so good at what he does. The only channel about Narcissism that I think about unsubscribing and then immediately change my mind
I used to think that losing her was on me. But i had to realize that i didn't lose anything. She wasn't who she said she was. I'm glad she left and walked away because it was a blessing in disguise. It's been a month since i last contacted her. I'm working on myself and building back better. But definitely agree with everything he has said. I've blocked her on social media and no more pain shopping!
💯 True Story! I rosed above the ashes, blocked nd ignored. And it just about killed them...
You are the one who helped me understand what I going through , and for that I'm so very grateful . November of this year will be 2 years free . Thank you
Definitely don’t have to have the weaknesses because the narcissist has more weaknesses than I can count. Definitely not about me trying to make my husband feel worse, but I’m sure I’ve had that thought a time or two when does he get his, I truly appreciate your willingness to accept and acknowledge your NPD because my narcissistic manages to convince me real close that he’s not one and then another temper tantrum comes up and I’m like oh my gosh yes you are one. You just broke the seatbelt in the car. You just broke this. You broke that you set boundaries and you can’t keep them. All these things that only add up to equal a narcissist I mean the play-by-play book is definitely real for a narcissist.
People tend to think Karma comes to punish. No. It comes to teach, if it breaks you down, you have to learn something and grow. I always wish them growth and hope that they learn some more compassion. This doesn't have to mean you have to forgive them it just means you wish people well.
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The healing is truly the hardest 😢
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Mine left me after I deeply hurt her from something that made no sense. She tried to make me jealous and hoover many times. I just ignored it. Now she's desperate trying to get me back and I just make excuses not to meet. I can tell she's getting more and more desperate. But she never should have screwed it up.
Thank you so much for your Work. So Strong to See that you give so much Power, even yourself where in past narcissistic. That ist so lovely ❤
Lee was PREACHING on this one! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
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Thank you for your information.
My ex didn’t like social media- maybe that’s a blessing in disguise.
thank you for reminding me that im a beautiful treasure. it just called me and said YOU ARE HATE. talk about projection
My narc was my father & sister was the golden child. I have just won a 10yrs harassment order on them ' they can't contact me for 10yrs * I have been no contact for 4yrs
But the abuse whew, but danng I had everything recorded screen shots everything. I'm free. I go by they say blood is thicker than water' nah it's makes us related somewhat in DNA . But loyalty & trust is family. My brother unlived himself & then my mom passed with cancer, they never let me see her or go to the funeral or burial ' they will regret this not me . I'm free❤
You know what it is sometimes... for me the main struggle being brought to my attention within myself.. is feeling perpetually invalidated . It's soooo hard . My ex and his baby mom , who he cheated on me with all the time , portray themselves as these spiritual, holistic, light and love types ... when they're both the same person and full of absolute evil and darkness . It's invalidating when these people think they're genuinely the victim and somehow you're the bad person . It's like it messes with your perception of reality ... I start to feel and internalize it and actually it disrupts my ability to feel validated within myself... and this is the part where I get stuck . It's the most insane feeling and struggle to have . And that's when I yearn for karma , I yearn for exposure and truth outwardly... because these people attack your inner ability to feel validated and sure within yourself of what you know, see , and experienced. It's insidious .
Definitely mine! I want him to feel what I feel.
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I like the sound of that, Built Back Better.
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Awesome thank you!
Hi Lee, sometimes I think that there's no karma for narcs.. I got the boot after 20 years of marriage and didn't take that long for me to be replaced. He got himself a sugar mama and living the life he always wanted. Nice cars, traveling, living in his new wife's nice house, status....they will never change. I actually feel sorry for her, not good looking just being used and abused for the narc.. my son doesn't even want to live with them, it is fight non stop.
I do believe what you are saying Lee, but then I flip back into thinking that our relationship failed because he told me that I have an anger issue. And I do have an anger issue because he cheated on me MULTIPLE times in the 3 years we were together. And now, he’s in a new relationship, saying he’s going to be open and honest with her. Yet 2 days later, he matches with a friend of mine on Facebook dating😵💫🙄. I know he’s not going to change, but this healing journey is still ridiculously hard and sad!! I’m working on me but it’s slow and painful 😓
Do they get karma from leaving them? I don't believe that because they will get somebody better, or find somebody else to feed off of. So they are happy that they are not with you. Exactly if they start messing with the same people they cheated on you with.
That's so interesting "have the day you deserve". Saying that to someone and seeing how they respond could be quite informative, possibly
This is really good, you should go on TV and go further!
My narc is finally moving out
What pisses me off he nearly drained my bank account but I stopped that he gets the vehicle
I'll be left in the middle of nowhere
My health is shot to chit
He gets the good life & I get a kick in the ass 🤬
This is complete BS
He just keeps going on like Duracell
I spoke to an attorney I can get him for some of the money he took only because I was out of town working
And I the bank statement proves it was him not me
Yet taking him to court cost money which I was told we can get him to pay for the court cost
This is nothing but a headache
And the smear campaign I'm not even going there
No family no friends & now this
I'm beginning to wonder why do I bother what's the point
I'm at a point of just giving up 😞
Thank you for sharing 💔
So many people posting how they living their best life after the narc discards, you leave the narc etc. But plenty of people are going through, have gone through what you're going through now. Yes, it's very difficult... Especially if you don't have a good support group, didn't have much as is while you were with them, some narcs go out of their way to put a person into a trick bag like that. Sometimes the person ISN'T the best thing that ever happened to the narcissist, sometimes the person is just supply for the moment to move on to the next supply, that's how it is most of the time, there is no best thing for those people imo, I refuse to believe they actually care about anybody... All they do is try to come up off of people however they can and use a ton of gross manipulation tactics to do it. Do not give up, exhaust whatever resources you have to get back to peace, 1 step at a time, don't worry about them, narcs people hop, people collect, and infiltrate, mask and manipulate..they are good at it, they get energy from it... As long as they have supply they thrive in their bs. Truth is, yes things are a mess right now for you, but trust you are better off without living with and being with a narcissist... People are truly better off alone than being with them.
@@Siegefya
Thank you
Your absolutely right
I just needed to vent which I don't get to do
I'm just going to take it one step at a time
Learn to breathe again
I'd rather be alone than alone with someone
There really aren't any support groups in my area
However I'll be going to a church that's nearby since I can't return to the one I was attending
This will be helpful
Thank you once again for straight forward honesty
Greatly appreciate it
Take care ❤️
@@MistReated-c6p absolutely, there you go! The local church is an excellent idea. Keep your head up for sure, you're gonna be ok! You got this.
It’s a waste of time and energy to be concerned if they get karma! Make your cut off permanent and keep becoming better not bitter! Never explain yourself or negotiate with these tyrants!