What happens when you GHOST a narcissist

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  • @vikkilawson27
    @vikkilawson27 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +825

    I ghosted my narc husband of 29 years with no contact since. He went to work, I packed what I needed, and he was served divorce papers that evening! 😊🤭 I am in a safe place that I was planned weeks in advance. The 1st time I will see him is next month in divore court. Pray 4 us guys!

    • @alisachaise3
      @alisachaise3 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      Good for you girl! I. Your case you did the right thing and planned for a reason. Your narc is dangerous and you are aware❤
      Prayers

    • @alisachaise3
      @alisachaise3 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      I put in 22 years and did the same thing you did. You cannot tell them, he threaten my life when I tried to leave before when he knew. St safe and don’t tell them! If you’re strong enough to not tell them you’ve found indifference and you’re ready to go!!! 🎉you’ve validated yourself good for you you got this❤

    • @NotUrBot
      @NotUrBot 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Prayers for you sister❤❤❤

    • @staceystrukel1917
      @staceystrukel1917 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Wow! Bravo. Are you nervous?

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      🙏

  • @loulou9978
    @loulou9978 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +244

    You owe a narcissist the same consideration they gave you which is ZERO!!!

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      ‼️

    • @heavenlygrandma9992
      @heavenlygrandma9992 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Exactly. Zero consideration and zero empathy.

    • @NatzTalk
      @NatzTalk 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So this💛

  • @lindseyjohnson3577
    @lindseyjohnson3577 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +518

    I’m watching these to understand my ex, who I just ghosted, he’s definitely freaking out..
    And HE DID insist I found SOMEONE ELSE
    AND I DID… That person IS ME❤🎉

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      🙏 stay strong

    • @jayybaines3220
      @jayybaines3220 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      I felt "That Person is me" part you go girl ❤️💯

    • @lindseyjohnson3577
      @lindseyjohnson3577 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@jayybaines3220 girlll I was feeling so petty I wanted to say that to him!! I’m so proud I didn’t!!🥹🥰

    • @cletiawilliams1436
      @cletiawilliams1436 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      💯❤️

    • @mysecret0406
      @mysecret0406 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I hear you! Yes!!

  • @SpiritDwellSacred
    @SpiritDwellSacred 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +143

    Ghosting the narcissist is the most effective way to end the drama. Truth is, this relationship isn’t going to work-end it. Letting go is the bravest, most powerful act you will ever take.
    Thank you for this space.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      thanks for being here

  • @Cynthia-ul4uh
    @Cynthia-ul4uh 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +93

    Every time you go back, things get worse. The best thing to do is stay gone forever. These people are monsters

  • @mkb7013
    @mkb7013 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +231

    For the FIRST time in my life; I have been able to ghost a narcissist. It feels soooo fu(king good.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Stay strong

    • @mkb7013
      @mkb7013 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@MentalHealness thank you! 🙏🏻 I certainly am doing a good job of that. And thank you for sharing your insight. It’s very educating.

    • @tmichele8922
      @tmichele8922 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That part

    • @jasminecampbell9105
      @jasminecampbell9105 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It does. So peaceful. 😊TGBTG

    • @NatzTalk
      @NatzTalk 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It really does.

  • @michellebrown6580
    @michellebrown6580 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +95

    My ex narc, told me I would never find anyone like him.. I told him Thank You Jesus!!

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      🙏🏽🙌🏾

    • @salomeclaire7663
      @salomeclaire7663 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Ha, same exact words from my ex narc, and same reply from me.

    • @XSummer388
      @XSummer388 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂❤🙏

    • @carolyncoppin8488
      @carolyncoppin8488 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My ex told me the same thing .

    • @swapnilapraharaj3493
      @swapnilapraharaj3493 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same old same old!!!

  • @shwonbrooks3802
    @shwonbrooks3802 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +126

    I ghosted mine May of last year, blocked and deleted him. It has been one of the best decisions ever!! It has been sooooo peaceful.

    • @JaLa248
      @JaLa248 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Oh how I know that feeling!! 😊

    • @brucewaynebanner482
      @brucewaynebanner482 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why would someone not block you tho? U blocked I understand to. Why would someone not block someone tho? I believe I’m a narcissist. I deserve her to leave. I hate myself but I deserve it. I lost it as he said in vid. Since she left. She hasn’t blocked. N kills me. I wish she block me.

  • @tarakonjolka5140
    @tarakonjolka5140 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +190

    People don’t realize how truly dangerous and deadly these toxic narcissistic people can be. I know from firsthand experience that when you hurt them, they will do anything to hurt you back for what you supposedly inflict on them.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ‼️‼️

    • @Elysion404
      @Elysion404 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      The sickest part is, they will punish you for making them feel bad AND for making them feel good. Especially if they feel vulnerable too.
      My ex used to cling to me at night like a lost child and loved it when I ran my fingers through his hair and cuddled him because he said it made him feel safe. My guess is he never got the affection he needed from his mum as a child. But! He would punish me the morning after by turning his back to me, ignoring me, giving me the silent treatment, barely looking at me all day etc just because I made him feel vulnerable and in his twisted mind, that was just an evil scheme to get under his skin because that's how THEY think.

    • @post_cancer_beautycandyjon1049
      @post_cancer_beautycandyjon1049 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yes! I am so afraid to post ANYTHING about what ive been through because I am do afraid they're going to see it and "expose" me and ruin my life like he said he would. How do you take your power back when you still live under that fear? And yes, he thinks ibe found someone else Smh.

    • @thnkspiritual2851
      @thnkspiritual2851 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Stop giving them so much power lol 😂 they will do the smart thing if they don’t want to go to prison. If you’re that scared of the narc leave evidence of him threatening you and saying who to question if u disappear

    • @thnkspiritual2851
      @thnkspiritual2851 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You didn’t make him vulnerable. He felt vulnerable. There’s a difference

  • @venuspsychicmasseuse
    @venuspsychicmasseuse 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +96

    Cutting of their supply that they can't get ANYWHERE else like they've gotten from you. Disturbs them.

  • @debbysmith5346
    @debbysmith5346 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

    I think my narc has finally realized that this ride or die girl is GONE FOR GOOD

    • @DNCT
      @DNCT 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      SAME

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      🙏🏽

  • @kiaalexander5191
    @kiaalexander5191 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +117

    Ghosting my narcissistic Demonic Ex, saved my life. It was the best thing that I could've ever done.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Protect your peace

    • @Cynthia-ul4uh
      @Cynthia-ul4uh 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Me too. The best thing that I ever did for myself

    • @mylesheyward
      @mylesheyward 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      FACTS

    • @crystalclimenhage7159
      @crystalclimenhage7159 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MentalHealness lee...one of my ex popped uo in my life. He is saying he is earning large amounts of money i think he is lying

    • @bodakdacreatormusiq2024
      @bodakdacreatormusiq2024 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm dealing with a demon right now and I'm loosing unfortunately

  • @erykahhoney588
    @erykahhoney588 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    They’ll never admit to cheating, lying etc. 🤭

    • @robbiewooden5067
      @robbiewooden5067 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      100 % true.

    • @robbiewooden5067
      @robbiewooden5067 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank God my kids are grown and they know about everything.

  • @MsAmazonAmazing
    @MsAmazonAmazing 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    I ghosted mine 1yr next month. He has reached out via social media, fake profiles, contacting friends and all. I went and applied for my license to carry. He chose the wrong one. Truly, The hell with him!! Always choose you

  • @spiritualistdestiny76
    @spiritualistdestiny76 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    ALL threats being made NEED to be taken seriously...FRFR!!!

  • @jasminej5078
    @jasminej5078 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    My ex narcissist basically held me hostage in his house when I tried to break up with him like a mature adult. He would physically prevent me from leaving, threaten my life and his, hide my car keys, hold on to my car door handle when I’m trying to drive away, etc. I made a plan to escape quietly. I left and he began stalking me and took things so far that I had to get a restraining order against him. Just run, don’t negotiate with them. Stop listening to their lies and save yourself from a lifetime of chaos and misery.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ‼️‼️‼️

    • @MelaninTeeTee
      @MelaninTeeTee 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yess he held me in the bedroom a few times because I wanted to go with friends

    • @ursulagates3106
      @ursulagates3106 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too🙋🏽

  • @debbiegalica2992
    @debbiegalica2992 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    I'm ghosting the covert narcissist. There really isn't anything to say anymore.

  • @karinam4115
    @karinam4115 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    Gods protection over all of us! Psalm 91 out loud , talk to God ! God bless everyone! 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️

  • @ajajames5368
    @ajajames5368 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    After he broke up with me a week later he came back wish me Happy Valentines... can we talk. I said no and take care of yourself and then blocked him.

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Mine was clever and lied to me that he was suddenly moving out of the country to get me to see him again....

  • @loriann1283
    @loriann1283 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    You get stalked relentlessly, sneak attacked, and assaulted. Severely. Sometimes even held against your will for days on end..Whats crazy is they never even wanted you, in the first place, but will torment you thinking you have someone else..When they do.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😞‼️

    • @bodakdacreatormusiq2024
      @bodakdacreatormusiq2024 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yoooo I told mine u never loved me and I know u dnt like me for a fact.. at one point we were arguing and he tried to call me ugly lol I told him yes speak ur truth! U don't want me so stop pretending!

    • @katiriasantos8001
      @katiriasantos8001 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Them mofos are crazy af! On God, they are psychotic😂

    • @alwaysrighton
      @alwaysrighton 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      If only they put a fraction of the post breakup attempt into loving you or trying to meet a couple of needs they were in the business of disregarding… How lovely life would be! 😄

  • @gigicooper1759
    @gigicooper1759 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +88

    It is amazing the power and strength you gain when you go GHOST/NO CONTACT. Staying safe is priority #1, they will retaliate....my EX beat me, put me in the hospital, broke me body & soul. Watching Lee's videos helped me understand who he was and find power within...F the Narcissist! Trust your gut feeling and NEVER give them a second chance.

  • @deec1601
    @deec1601 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +99

    So funny Lee .. you do make me laugh 🤣I ghosted a narc friend, he would often use the silent treatment when we had a disagreement, and the last time I just disappeared. This was three months ago now. He attempted to contact me from fake profiles, withheld phone numbers, he was relentless. I felt guilty at first but several months on, I realise now I dodged a bullet! 😊

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Wow.

    • @deec1601
      @deec1601 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@MentalHealness Your podcast and your sense of humour have helped immensely so thank you and Happy New Year to you and your family (from the UK)

    • @615drop
      @615drop 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Facts

  • @almosthome5971
    @almosthome5971 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +78

    They NEED their egos fractured...sometimes if a broken leg was never set, and the person can't walk right, the leg needs rebroke to be fixed. Baby steps....😁

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      😵‍💫😮

    • @sarahcole7804
      @sarahcole7804 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This is a great analogy:)

  • @tammykinstrue9849
    @tammykinstrue9849 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    The comedic impressions are hilarious! 'I know I lied, cheated, and stole from them, but they just gave up on our relationship ...' 😂😂😂

  • @-blahblahblah
    @-blahblahblah 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    Thank you for being responsible by warning of the physical danger of leaving.

  • @zachphillips3681
    @zachphillips3681 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +128

    You are so hilarious and you help bring a smile to my face
    I haven’t laughed this hard in a long time. Thank you Lee

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You’re welcome. ☺️

    • @izzypaynee
      @izzypaynee 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      lmfaooo

  • @larryivey8118
    @larryivey8118 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Stay strapped or get clapped is my motto

  • @Dora_Codes
    @Dora_Codes 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    “They gonna make you swallow an Airtag.” 😂😂😂 I can’t 😂😂😂

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      😂😂😮‍💨

    • @jsav9979
      @jsav9979 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Dora_Codes I knowwwww😂😂😂😂😂 hilarious

  • @_ChasingDestinee
    @_ChasingDestinee 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Ayooooo… I know this is serious, but you funny AF! 😂😂😂 “Blowing his last bubbles in the ocean” lmaoooo

  • @nmd33
    @nmd33 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    Really needed this video! I (accidentally) ghosted a narc this year. I thought i got discarded after noticing some red flags, but it was just a silent treatment for 2 weeks. The scary stuff is that he kept hoovering for longer than we dated! He was so consistent in trying to reach out despite no reaction, that i started to wonder if i am not horrible for ignoring all attempts. So thank you! God be with you

    • @Nina2598-k5x
      @Nina2598-k5x 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      He probably was trying to come back to hurt u 😢they're evil

    • @nmd33
      @nmd33 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      ​​@@Nina2598-k5xyep, some are truly evil soulless beings. Usually the longer the hoover, the bigger the danger. Stay strong and safe 🙏

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      You’re welcome. Please stay safe

    • @stronggirlNhorie
      @stronggirlNhorie 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      How many days to be totally ok after the no contact?😢😢😢

    • @nmd33
      @nmd33 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@MentalHealnessthank you really! Keep up the great work, best wishes

  • @AnnieRiv-nn7ym
    @AnnieRiv-nn7ym 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    You bring comedic relief to a toxic situation… thank you!! 😂

  • @Livinglife704
    @Livinglife704 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    Thank you for what you're doing. The things I didn't see in the past 5 years have started making sense.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You got it

    • @staceystrukel1917
      @staceystrukel1917 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      It’s crazy when the fogs starts to clear. You think, damn! How did I miss that?! When you put all the pieces together you finally see the full NPD picture.

    • @pameliahooks2741
      @pameliahooks2741 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Lmao 😂😂😂 creek bubbles lee you makes me laugh 😂

  • @Soadmm86
    @Soadmm86 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    Yeah man… she tried to be friends and I tried it but I started catching on to her being a bad person so I told her I don’t think I could do it anymore. Tried to set some boundaries to our friendship and she didn’t like that. Tried to say it was my fault we kept going back and forth so I called her out on the whole timeline of how she acted. I got radio silence which I figured would happen. So I left her alone. A couple months later when I started dating someone else I got a random “hey how are you doing text?” From her. I ignored it for most of the day and she text me later in the evening “nevermind “ so I just gave her a thumbs up and told her how my life was getting better without her and I was gonna block her now 🙏… right after I hit send I blocked her everywhere and it felt great. Stay strong folks

    • @dm-sikkunt1561
      @dm-sikkunt1561 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Its useless to spit the truth about the narc behaviour, they are not able to see the whole situation from another point of view. Happy your life got better since you left her, im sure that sooner or later everyone of us will be great

    • @MsSpatchzrus
      @MsSpatchzrus 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wish we could block irl permanently

    • @WistleWhileYouTwerk
      @WistleWhileYouTwerk 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m a woman and I find narc women to be the most dangerous
      Plus you were upfront and mature so that probably made her more angry

  • @tacheleharris7406
    @tacheleharris7406 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Lee you’re absolutely right! Sadly, I kept going back playing into his games! He ended up attacking me in my after my mouth surgery! Then shot at me in my car 6x when I tried to drive off in 2022! He passed after pledging guilty to an F2 felonious assault! Had his funeral the day before sentencing. I been single and minding my business since…I’m still shocked I survived it with a small graze 🙏🏾

    • @emc8020
      @emc8020 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Count yourself lucky, babes. If it wasn't him, it was supposed to be you. Thank God you're okay. I got chills reading your story. Stay safe 💜

    • @retroplank
      @retroplank 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Your comment could save a whole lot of people including myself. It's SO easy to keep going back. So sorry for what you went through!!

    • @bodakdacreatormusiq2024
      @bodakdacreatormusiq2024 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      He just randomly passed away?

    • @tacheleharris7406
      @tacheleharris7406 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@bodakdacreatormusiq2024 yes, they said a seizure.

  • @robinchilds7492
    @robinchilds7492 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I ghosted him after he came back from Florida because I found out he took another woman with him.

  • @glendaanderson1119
    @glendaanderson1119 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Nailed it! on not giving out your address or even slipping on posting anything with your address! I took him seriously when I discovered he slashed my luggage. Exactly BE SAFE!

  • @SpecialAgent-zn1vv
    @SpecialAgent-zn1vv 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Thank You Lee. Ugly Truth. One that is suicidal is also homicidal.

  • @dorothyroby1833
    @dorothyroby1833 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I ghosted and blocked that 19 yr relationship and I feel so much peace of mind, I still think about him and be glad when he fade out my memory. I will not go back anymore, I think about all the hurt break he brought to my life and I know my self worth. Thanks 🙏🏽 Lee for all u do, God please 🙏🏽 keep blessing us to continue to help us…

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      🙏🏽🙏🏽♥️

  • @mitch201211
    @mitch201211 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Honestly I believe anyone who has kids with a narcissistic person, the best thing thing would be get out with the kids , an have no contact, even if that means the kids no longer see the narcissist

    • @faithabovefear1172
      @faithabovefear1172 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thank u, I've been going back & forth with this & its confirmation for me.

    • @bonetajohnson6897
      @bonetajohnson6897 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I wish, he will take me to court because they rather have control than to be known as a deadbeat dad

    • @faithabovefear1172
      @faithabovefear1172 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @bonetajohnson6897 soooo true, I did 100% of the parenting but as soon as I broke up with him now he wants to see his son & even threatened to remove him from me. God didn't give us the spirit of fear so I'll let the threats fall to the ground!!

    • @bonetajohnson6897
      @bonetajohnson6897 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@faithabovefear1172 I just had to block mine because he woke up and decided that I was a terrible human being

    • @crazyfunnyusavideos88
      @crazyfunnyusavideos88 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      My husband took my son from me on January 2 and never came back. I do not have this disorder. My heart is broken. He won't talk to me or let me talk to my three year old. He does this to me a lot. I stay at home and wait to see my son. I miss him. I hope I get to see my son again soon. I would never keep my son from his father even though he is doing this to me. I feel sorry for my son. I know he misses me too. It is now Jan 13. I hope I see my son soon. I love you Mason ❤❤

  • @AnointedbyGod5678
    @AnointedbyGod5678 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    LEE!!!! Thank you for EVERYTHING you do! You’re helping us EVERY SINGLE DAY!

  • @SN-bl6xm
    @SN-bl6xm 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    My narcissistic family members stole my part of the inheritance I got from my dad. They thought I would be okay with it. But I was not and I’m fighting to get that money they stole from me. So they ghosted me and kicked me out of the family. I am convinced they thought that that would make me say, okay just keep my part of the inheritance if you please let me be a part of the family again. But I didn’t do that. I am done with them and now I am ghosting them since several years. They are so mad with me, that they are really trying to ruin my life completely with smear campaigns and threatening me. It’s a huge mess!

  • @brendaperson3890
    @brendaperson3890 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    HAPPY NEW YEAR, GHOSTING IS VERY NECESSARY PROTECT YOUR ENERGY.

  • @Lizzzzet11
    @Lizzzzet11 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    YOU ARE SOOOOOO ON POINT THOUGH!!
    They do not change. 🚮

  • @karrisaleonard993
    @karrisaleonard993 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I needed this validation today. I've been asking myself if it's me, if I'm the narcissist for just up and leaving.

  • @jennatracy8025
    @jennatracy8025 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I did it to protect myself even it was hard for me, but I keep reminding myself that he only loves me if I keep giving him supply.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Be safe

    • @jennatracy8025
      @jennatracy8025 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@MentalHealness I'll be safe and I'll be careful.

  • @littleangel18
    @littleangel18 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I ghosted my ex best friend narcissistic w psychopathic tendencies and she is still hovering and online stalking after 11 years later. I am so glad I cut her off and no contact is the best way to move forward.

  • @aimenhoodle666
    @aimenhoodle666 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Agreed! If I had ghosted my abuser instead of trying to handle navigating breaking up like an adult, I wouldn’t have been strangled or beaten in a public parking lot. The public isn’t even safe. Nobody will call for help. Protect yourself… they can and will hurt/kill you.

  • @deborahanderson4211
    @deborahanderson4211 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    And I love it Lee! I want his azz to think that I have someone else.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      protect your peace

  • @meganbrain8870
    @meganbrain8870 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Lee thank you so much for your videos you've helped me so much it's unbelievable that I have come so far and don't feel completely broken anymore its a good feeling to not be totally hooked and sucked in the "hoover," black hole

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Stay strong on your journey

  • @jl9769
    @jl9769 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Perfect episode for my situation. Keeping boundaries of no contact. They use the term “ghosting” to make you feel guilty for keeping your boundaries. Especially if you explained why your boundaries and what. I made that mistake of explaining why. They just bang on the front door of my house now. 4 or 5 times a day. Thank goodness for my Ring doorbell! If you have a trusted person on your video bell you can share with, share. The more people who know you trust the better. When a toe crosses the boundary line, I’m done , no contact. I’ve had to file a restraining order before- don’t be afraid to do that either! I took her statement “ the police won’t get here fast enough,” last year as a threat and I am never alone with her. If she tries to get me to answer the front door, I don’t. Oh and a few weeks ago , “ I’m going through my stuff before my kids get a dumpster to throw it out after I die. “ Thats when I blocked her for good. This is my MIL. Her son refuses contact with her as well. Like I was gonna cry to him about what she said. 😂 She is awesome at guilt trips. Thanks again Lee.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      you’re welcome. stay safe and protect your peace

  • @sedingburg
    @sedingburg 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I was with a guy for 3 years I thought he was my potential husband. He told me he had a baby girl on the way but he had no contact with the mom. Soon as the baby was born and got back in contact with the mother he changed. I had no problem with him being in his daughter life but one day I looked in his phone I seen him texting her asking her can he perform oral sex on her but she never responded. So when I confronted him about it he telling me I didn’t see the message she sent him so I told him I didn’t care what she sent you supposed to be with me why would you ask her that? Fast forward she was buying him clothes he would start arguments with me and go over there but come back they had a fight he was driving her car to work and tried to convince me she wanted him back she’s making trouble to break us up. He got her pregnant again then after their son was born he married her and didn’t tell me I found out by finding the marriage certificate bottom line he made me believe it was me being insecure he was abusive in ever form. But the Baby mama got the worst of it. So I got tired and I officially broke up with him and from that moment I felt free. Be careful of the Narcissist they will take you to HELL. This man is right Ghost them.

  • @Mermaidlife97
    @Mermaidlife97 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😂 The impression of “plz just let me know you’re ok” ON POINT!!🎯

  • @PriscillaD-ie2jq
    @PriscillaD-ie2jq 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You helped me so much when you said, "they perceive your depth's of empathy/compassion -- and they weaponize it for their own best use of you (manipulation)". You are thinking, pour understanding, your love and compassion on them will help heal that damaged, traumatized child within them. They are seeing a sucker to use.
    If both the narcissist and love interest seek self awareness counseling with sincerity, like Lee did with his wife -- then together a life as a couple can be hammered out seems to me. If you have a malignant narcissist who thinks he is the hottest thing since matches were invented.... RUN, get away as fast as you can and do not look back. Then stay away.
    Thanks Lee for the teaching. I will chuckle all day ove the robootic thing chasing the car, staring ahead not blinking with words coming out but not heartfelt/connecting. LOL. When you play both sides of a narcissistic couple.... what a hoot. I laugh and it is so refreshing to see how silly we are involved knee deep in bullshit as a victim.

  • @cobeany
    @cobeany 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Your accuracy is amazing 😮

  • @kebbasda
    @kebbasda 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    He said your favorite Narc!
    The only Narc around is you, Lee! I thank you, for the laughs and the uplifting words too as they often carry me through my day!!!!! 😉

  • @lauratoto9973
    @lauratoto9973 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    “Swallow an air tag” 😂😂 This is so spot on and I love your delivery!

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad you enjoyed!

    • @BaileyMyLife-203
      @BaileyMyLife-203 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@MentalHealness
      I am very interested in your 1 on 1 counseling secession. How can I register for these secessios.

  • @cassandramesser4922
    @cassandramesser4922 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I called him out on a lie…he threatened the relationship but said he would talk to me later. Texting. I texted a couple times. For clarity. Nothing. He has one of my blankets and my fenty body scrub. I asked if he could bring my stuff with work with him next time he worked. He said “yeah” He works at a gas station 4 blocks away from me…he worked all that weekend. I heard nothing. By Sunday I just started looking little things up, and ran into your videos, and lots of articles online. And I just lost it. I kept seeing “GO NO CONTACT.” And I’m like…this POS thinks he can just leave me hanging?? Nah. Blocked and ghosted on everything. Haven’t heard from him. But I think calling him out caused a “narcissistic injury” and he was embarrassed 😂 felt SO good to win in the end! ❤❤❤

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🙏🏽♥️♥️

    • @cassandramesser4922
      @cassandramesser4922 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@MentalHealness It’s been three weeks, I’m staying strong! That man was the devil, I swear.

    • @krystalcandy69
      @krystalcandy69 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think when you call them out they call us crazy and play victim just fuels them more. We can't will the only way is silence we are more mature then they are.

  • @knoxx1111
    @knoxx1111 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much for all these videos. I'm so happy I found your channel. ❤ It is helping me to stay strong and not talk to my abusive narcissistic ex. You are so funny. Love your impressions of the narcs. 😂

  • @aprilpatten6047
    @aprilpatten6047 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You have helped me survive my last abusive relationship. I was able to see and understand what she was doing and able to get out. Thank you.

  • @yhwhtlc9217
    @yhwhtlc9217 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I had 2 Narc early in my life. 1 was my sister, who I disowned when I was 45...I went no contact/ghost, she tried to get back with me for 2 years, it stopped when I sent her a cease and desist letter.....
    The other was an ex narc...he dumped me over the phone, I called his mother, she told me stuff I never knew about him but at least she heard my side....I immediately went no contact/ghost....he then stalked me for the next 3 years, it only stopped when I caught him...

  • @lynetteewell2410
    @lynetteewell2410 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you Lee for sharing your insights to help us maneuver from the tragedy of being with a narcissist!

  • @Nina801
    @Nina801 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This video is full of truth bombs 💣 👌🏽

  • @lyndamorrissey2492
    @lyndamorrissey2492 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    My ex narc left me 2 years ago, it was so hard but a blessing, he kept texting me, and when I said I was seeing someone, he got nasty and said I was his and had no PERMISSION to do anything..how dare I , after everything he did, he messaged me last month, I ignored..hope that's the end of it...thank you for your videos...much appreciated,❤

  • @likitadevi
    @likitadevi 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I cut them off, they started a horrible smear campaign. It's been a year and the smear campaign is still going on.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😫

    • @bodakdacreatormusiq2024
      @bodakdacreatormusiq2024 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Omg I'm going through that now Idk what to do I'm already in a dv shelter

  • @meganmurray2203
    @meganmurray2203 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    So true. First time I left him he tried to k*ll me. Next time I knew better and to make a plan. I’m out now! :)

  • @jamnoise72
    @jamnoise72 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm binge watching your videos. I came for the info but I'm coming back for the humour now! You are fkn hilarious 😂❤

  • @heavenlygrandma9992
    @heavenlygrandma9992 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I ghosted his sorry covert self in March of this year.
    I packed and saved money covertly for 3 years.
    He went camping one weekend and when he got home, I was GONE.
    I had a very dear friend that I was trying to talk into leaving her husband and she was going to give it six more months.
    The last time I talked to her, I asked her if she thought her husband would hurt her and she laughed and said he would never hurt her.
    The next day she was dead.
    He shot and killed her in her sleep and then killed himself.
    Oh, how I wish I had pushed a little harder, but I was afraid I'd push too hard.
    She was the sweetest person in the world and a hypnotherapist and now she is gone.

    • @MelanatednNature
      @MelanatednNature 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😢

    • @nicholecornes1915
      @nicholecornes1915 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      His covert self lmao 😂😂😂

    • @bodakdacreatormusiq2024
      @bodakdacreatormusiq2024 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wow

    • @vic008
      @vic008 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      thanks for sharing, sorry for what happened to ur fd...

    • @heavenlygrandma9992
      @heavenlygrandma9992 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@vic008
      Thank you. She was the sweetest, most kind person I think I've ever known.

  • @NBA.Ka5hMeRe
    @NBA.Ka5hMeRe 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I enjoy watching you. Being a survivor, watching your videos, the topics are so serious & so real but your delivery always keeps me laughing uncontrollably. I guess it's a combination of your sense of humor & being able to laugh at the pain I've endured from the familiarity of the topics.

  • @tarakonjolka5140
    @tarakonjolka5140 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thanks for always being on point and making very important points with an amazing sense of humor. You def r my favorite narc !

  • @PressInc
    @PressInc 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    You definitely got the Holy Spirit in u if you’re here helping people like this but narcissism is Satanism, so give glory to the father in heaven just make sure you get into the kingdom of heaven

  • @serotine9
    @serotine9 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I laughed so hard. Even if it's not funny.
    the ink pen and the subaru got me, and the terminator run too. Thank you, you make this serious and hilarious at the same time.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      thanks for being here. Happy new year

  • @missjazzyb5409
    @missjazzyb5409 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks for your honesty. While you teaching us your also growing through your own healing process.❤.

  • @blackdiamond181
    @blackdiamond181 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    The narcissist should not cause a person to want to ghost her/him. I will not hide from a narc but I can guarantee you that if a narc think they are Billy Badass, I will introduce them to Billy Badass and hand them over to their maker, believe that. They can harm themselves all they want and I'm going to do everything in my power to protect ME. I never leave home powerless (semiautomatic-Smith & Wesson).

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      stay safe with whatever you decide

    • @alwaysrighton
      @alwaysrighton 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That post will be used in court when you fire that weapon. Be safe & Keep that in mind.

    • @blackdiamond181
      @blackdiamond181 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Just don't come for me and everything is peachy cream, frfr

    • @alwaysrighton
      @alwaysrighton 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@blackdiamond181 Oups… You got the wrong person here. I have no intention to cause any kind of violent conflict. I hope everyone is safe and happy. 😊

  • @nykidd3423
    @nykidd3423 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I ghosted my ex of ten years because it's the New Year and I need a clean slate. My ex is the reason I have trust issues in new relationships.

  • @alwaysrighton
    @alwaysrighton 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    It’s safer and much less troublesome to have THEM leave you. Stop the supply + be overly clingy = overload their ego by acting like they won.

  • @TemporalOasis
    @TemporalOasis 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Most everyone I pulled away from was given a final message like I am going to be keeping to myself in this next stage of my Journey. Be good! ✌🏼

  • @vanessawashington4987
    @vanessawashington4987 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I almost lost my life. Thank God I left

  • @debbielotus1073
    @debbielotus1073 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I had to get a protective order and fled across the county after 27 years of marriage. It has been a nightmare for me.

  • @dianaschramer5065
    @dianaschramer5065 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Lee, I am not making light of this very serious topic. But I just have to tell you that you are absolutely hilarious. 🤣🤣🤣

  • @chellyp23
    @chellyp23 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Omg the part when you were saying they chase after the car like a robot had me dying 😂😂😂. My stomach hurts😂😂. That actually happened to me and I ran into a store then left and ignored him walked right to my car and left. 😂

  • @tawnyasterling5875
    @tawnyasterling5875 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Make you swallow an airtag😂. Thanks for the humor!

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When there’s a disagreement,
    someone will inevitably,
    most likely,
    be disappointed in me...
    So I engage in any and every disagreement
    in a way that ensures,
    that the person disappointed in me,
    never ends up being me!
    I aim to never repress,
    never suppress.
    I aim to never lose a part of myself.
    Radical honestly only: 100% of the time.
    Always, all ways.

  • @reginapolo3357
    @reginapolo3357 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Ghosting my exhusband saved my life. By the time I left, I had put one and one toguether and figured out how he was paving the road to do me in......he was prepping everybody to make it look like self defense!!!!

    • @emc8020
      @emc8020 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Omg! That's sad. I hope you've moved far away from him. He could still come for you.

    • @reginapolo3357
      @reginapolo3357 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@emc8020Im ok honey. I moved far away and I just found out that he has lung cancer.

  • @myriambarrera-montes4732
    @myriambarrera-montes4732 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I appreciate your vulnerability, thank you for sharing your story. I'm so happy that you and your wife found your way back. Thank you for finding the courage to seek help, and turning around to help others. I went no contact. It's been over a year. Your story helped me get through.

  • @tawnyasterling5875
    @tawnyasterling5875 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Yep yep. I ghosted that pathetic sorry dark cruel specimen for ME! I Tried many times, foolish me. I'm DONE DONE. I HAD TO RUN, TO SAVE ME! Hallelujah! I will never lose myself again, to be subjected to cruelty and more! I remember his brother telling me many decades ago, "Never let anyone break your spirit!" The narcissist told me, "My brother/family would never say that about me!" Ha, He did😂 Another fact Narcissist refused to believe.
    Thank you for your channel. I loved watching Casper the Ghost and I have no qualms about ghosting him. I had to unclamp that situationship!🎉❤

  • @cjbrown8245
    @cjbrown8245 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love your mic, it’s nice
    I ghosted and got stalked

  • @lisaia7877
    @lisaia7877 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Srr bro but as she’s my mother - and I’ve tried every healthy approach to resolution and begging her to see me or trying to bring something up to hash through and even tried to ghost in the past bc she wouldn’t respect my boundaries and she kept coming at me w all her tactics and flying monkeys- til I answered and I gave her a big chance again and she continuously smashes me into the ground - I am planning on a ghosting when I have all my ducks in a row - and if it hurts her as much as she’s continuously hurt me over my whole life including my stolen childhood - fking great. That’s fabulous. I want nothing to do with her.
    If that makes me a narcissist to want her to hurt at least a little bit compared to the 30+ years of pain she’s caused me - then so be it. I wouldn’t do it to anyone otherwise and this is me at my limit.

  • @unomeecj
    @unomeecj 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Spot on every time I want to make my own decision. Go visit a friend and tell him hes not my father. He's my husband he Always says there's somebody. Else? I know it? I said maybe you reflecting on something you're doing

  • @headrickwife
    @headrickwife 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I left my husband back in July and he’s still having these “manic” episodes, not sleeping, and trying to sabotage my living conditions and how everyone supporting me thinks of me. It’s extremely exhausting.

    • @bodakdacreatormusiq2024
      @bodakdacreatormusiq2024 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Man me too calling all my family and friends saying the worst things u can ever imagine

  • @TheKbeltre
    @TheKbeltre 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It is time i email you and tell you my story. this is so good sir because you're so right!!!!!!

  • @Shanana8
    @Shanana8 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I blocked him on all social media and moved over 600 miles away. He knew where I worked.

    • @bodakdacreatormusiq2024
      @bodakdacreatormusiq2024 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How he find out?

    • @Shanana8
      @Shanana8 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@bodakdacreatormusiq2024 LinkedIn

  • @jayjellobean
    @jayjellobean 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The T1000!! My new motivation. I really thank you for your content and truly hope that you and yours have fullfilling and healthy relationships.

  • @VGH1967
    @VGH1967 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I agree with Lee. When I told my ex that I did not want the relationship anymore…He started fighting me, I ran outside of the house and he ran me down and started fighting me again. I had to act like I didn’t want to break up and he and I could work it out. When he left the next morning…. I moved back home and cut off contact with him. He wanted to talk to me again and I was afraid because I knew he could get violent. I listened to my cousin to go talk with him because she “had my back”. In short, I ended up with a broken nose. I learned the hard way.

    • @pathfinder6993
      @pathfinder6993 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Scary! Why did your cousin think you should talk to him??

  • @post_cancer_beautycandyjon1049
    @post_cancer_beautycandyjon1049 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thats exactly what happened. He hoovered me for rhe second time, i was literally not allowed out of his sight, even to go to the bathroom unless it was in public and he was waiting right outside. I felt like i was kidnapped. Not allowed a phone, not allowed to work, it was one of the scariest things ive ever been through.

  • @renaissance1763
    @renaissance1763 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Not the AirTag and bubbles under Lake Minnetonka 😂😂😂😂 but you’re so on point that’s definitely a Cancer humor 😂

  • @kristinp.7305
    @kristinp.7305 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Ty for not putting out content titled “How to Destroy the Narcissist.” Too much of that out there. At this point, most of us probably have no interest in destroying anyone- For me, I just want to cut ties, be free and find my own happiness.

    • @bodakdacreatormusiq2024
      @bodakdacreatormusiq2024 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly. He always ask me do I hate him. I'm like no u hate me. I have no intentions on destroying u. Ur destroying my life. I'm not gonna hurt u no matter what u do. Your not worth it

  • @SincerelyDanielle974
    @SincerelyDanielle974 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Man, that’s a lot to digest, but it all makes sense. Nothing I went through felt genuine, and I know I owe myself better than that.--honestly, I think ghosting, in most cases, reveals cowardice more than it does any justification. However, there can be a few valid reasons, although they’re rare and should be approached with care. For instance, if someone genuinely fears for their emotional safety due to toxic dynamics or feels overwhelmed by circumstances that keep them from clearly communicating their feelings, then stepping back might be a self-preserving act. There’s also the scenario of someone realizing they’re in a relationship that simply doesn’t align with their core values and beliefs-if they’ve put in the effort but see clear red flags, sometimes, rather than prolonging an unhealthy situation, they choose to vanish. But that should be communicated!

  • @karinesavard2016
    @karinesavard2016 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This was an awesome video!! 😂🤣😂😂 serious but damn funny!! 👍👍💯

  • @devetteb
    @devetteb 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loved " No the hell not" !

  • @bobbietarr1267
    @bobbietarr1267 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Some people do not understand that at all. Mainly, the people who know nothing about them think you are wrong for ghosting them. Mine went to many in my family. Crying to them and left out lots of the story as to why I even left. Like an idiot, I ended up back with him and have been trying to go for years now.

    • @mylesheyward
      @mylesheyward 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Get out gang

    • @philippagrimoire5968
      @philippagrimoire5968 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I ghosted mine and I feel fine 😂 My peace and mental health is more important than his widdle feelings! A black hole without a heart won’t feel hurt for long. Their ego will be bruised but don’t worry, the narc will invent some crap to make you into the villain again so leave him to his delulus

    • @bodakdacreatormusiq2024
      @bodakdacreatormusiq2024 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@philippagrimoire5968yes! Mines made up some crazy fucked up shit about me putting me in a dangerous situation