I think a Narcissist needs you UNTIL they feel they’ve found a better supply. Once they find someone else they feel has more to offer, you’re dropped like a hot potato.
@@slimm1766 so you want sadistic revenge? This is the wrong thing to want. If you don’t change this desire for revenge, then you will suffer even more. Your own desire for revenge will destroy you. What you should want (if you’re a mentally healthy person) is to leave him in your past with the full understanding that some people are completely unable to function normally in society and relationships. Pathological narcissists are grown-up victims of abusive/traumatizing parents. These people are literally children who have an empty schizoid core and a false self because the trauma in their childhood cause them to commit emotional you-know-what. Imagine a child having to make that decision because their mother never let them become an individual. Imagine a child throwing their true self on the alter and emotionally exiting their world because that’s how badly their mother traumatized them. Imagine this child felt that he/she had no choice but to destroy and sacrifice their true self because their original mother figure was so abusive that they felt the need to eliminate themselves and create a facade that they cannot extricate themselves from. This kind of child will experience life-long depression and a feeling of emptiness. This child will have to experience the karma of their abuser because they never even got the chance to become an individual. This trauma is the reason why they compulsively cause pain to others. Is it acceptable or appropriate? Absolutely not, and that is why we go no-contact. But does that mean that you should want them to suffer because they made you suffer? Absolutely not. You should not want a true pathological narcissist to suffer because their entire life is suffering. They are an emotionally eternal child, and wanting them to suffer might as well be akin to punching children. Just walk away and accept the fact that some people are just not for you because they don’t have the emotional tools to not abuse everyone they know. In the end, all true pathological narcissists end up pushing everyone close to them away, and that is their suffering and karma. Lee may just happen to be able to maintain his relationship with his family for life, but he’s the exception to the rule. And we don’t know what he does in his private life. It’s not anyone’s place to speculate, I just hope that he is earnestly able to maintain his apparent effort to refrain from abusing his nearest and dearest, but again, he is the exception to the rule. Leave narcissists alone, lest you find yourself suffering because you couldn’t just walk away.
@@meeks1201 exactly... When I stopped taking him back over and over for 20 years and realized no he don't love you no matter what he says.. I seen him blow my phone up begging me back.. then I realized I had to block that too even though I was not answering or calling or ever going back!
I once told him, I don’t need you, I want you. There’s a difference and he got furious. He couldn’t understand what that meant. Now that I don’t want him he’s starting to understand that I never needed him.
I don't know if this is a secret, but my ex was a narcissist and I figured out one of his many secrets. He preyed on my fear of abandonment for decades, threatening to leave every chance he could. After a while, I realized HE has a fear of abandonment. I also figured out his threats were empty promises used to control me and that he needed me more than I needed him. Lee, videos like yours paired with a LOT of therapy helped me deprogram and walk away. Forever grateful.
@@ageves8487 something I try to remind myself of is that just because I love my narcissistic ex, I don't need him to love him. I will love him with or without him in my life, and without is much more peaceful. They don't love us. They love that we love them as we do, and play us at every turn.
they already mad at him BECAUSE he is milking this thing dry, getting paid in the shade!!!! he's completely monetized his mental disability--NPD. yes, he's providing an excellent service too, WHILE getting QUALITY supply from MANY across the country!!!
I found this out my own, I could just see right thru it all however I've dealt with many toxic fam my whole life as well as friends exs & business relations. Helps I'm an empath too, I'll be 36 next month, been with this cover narc for almost 7 yrs. He fooled me in the beginning I'll give him that, tricked me into being a sahm & I found out real quick who he really was. Later I broke him, he caved crying like a baby saying he needs me & knows I don't need him 😂 as if I didn't already know 🫢
@@MentalHealness ima have to give you some of my detailed accounts off the record one of these days I think it’ll make even you go WOW 🥴 Life can be very bizarre & cringe to say the least Spoiler my “Narc’s” Actual clinical diagnosis was Dissociative identity disorder, Active Suicidal Ideation, Depression, and Anxiety “Malignant Narcissistic Tendencies” I suspect were weaved into some of those DID personalities I have an advanced degree from TTU so I studied all of these, but seeing it in real life is a whole another ballgame 😮💨
He used to tell me all the time, I need to feel wanted and loved. Wtf have I need doing this entire time? It was never enough for him. He used that excuse to cheat. She didn’t love me enough. 🤡
This hits home 😢 it’s never enough. But the little amount they give you out of shame and guilt is apparently more than enough and more than you deserve in their eyes……. 😔
They need you to punish you, to belittle you, to control you...etc., etc. They are never fulfilled. They are empty inside. I think that we're like having chocolate chip cookies and milk for them. We're like having desert after a huge meal.
Yes, True. I tried to go back to school full-time because my ex told me he could handle the bills. He got to the point that he wanted me to beg him to buy groceries or things our children needed for school. When he finally decided to buy food/supplies he told us we were ungrateful. He said, he saved us from being hungry. When I noticed he was acting like a A** because he was the only one working, I went back to work & went to school part-time. He cuss me out for going back to work. He wanted me & my children to be dependent on him so he could disrespect us anyttime he wanted to because he was keeping the house a float for a few months.. I apologize to my children all the time for what he put them through with his controlling ways...He's a sick Demon from He**!!!💔 😔 😪
Yup most people can't handle having power and once they get it they instantly become terrible. He was getting off being needed and then making others look terrible for needing him. It's very sick how they think, they want to be in control to make others feel terrible and need them so their forever broken ego gets a small boost for a few minutes.
@AnnPeterson-bt4dl, my gosh! They do work from the same manual! My ex would make us grovel for food and things the family needed ( he had the means and he tried to keep the finances secret but we knew )...and yet, he would give us crumbs. And then, he would say we were ungrateful! Same! Same! So disgusting!
All narcs aren’t a spouse or significant other. That being said, the one who was in my life actually ADMITTED they needed me & didn’t want to lose me. They are manipulative masters of MIXED MESSAGES. I am so peaceful now.
They really do lose their minds, I NEVER call my ex, I bought our kids phones so that he doesn’t have to call me. He calls our daughter and almost always ask her to give me the phone to talk about if I could help him out with something. Then a few days later will turn around and say I always call him and want him back and that I’ve never done anything for him. Narcissistic people are insane!
@@tamitonedd I’m so sorry that you had the same experience as me:(. I know how it feels and I would not wish that pain on anyone (even my narc) and that’s sad I know
Money and physical connection. Sex cut off one month after meeting. Everything is my fault. Why do I play the victim? Fool, I am God’s child and always positive. I text non stop because of the desire to connect like in the beginning. Thanks,’Lee, it is time to turn off the spigot. Blessings ❤
My dear friend, I love your vids and it has meant a lot to me since I discovered you a few days ago. My dad is this way. I have a lot of his traits. It is terrible but it is the truth. It is even more terrible to admit and say it. After my first child was born, I realised something was not right with me..... I hit a wall trying to change my toxic way of thinking and doing. I have asked my husband and children their forgiveness so many times that I have stopped counting. My sister has helped me a lot in this respect, never holding back on telling me when I act like my dad. I cannot tell how much I Appreciate this from her. She has put a mirror in front of me to help me see my truth. And it has set me free. This is not why I am writing. I want to help my mom....there is so little left of who she was. Every time I try to talk to her about it, she just says she needs another meeting with the Lord to help her forgive and be better.... As a Christian, she will never leave my dad. After 54 years of marriage I really don't know if I will be able to help her somehow see the truth....
Lee, thanks again so much for validating what I already knew! Both my ex husbands are narcs that wanted me to quit my job, use their debit card and told me we only need one car (so that I would be stuck at home)! They both knew I wanted them but that I didnt need them. I am now divorced and not looking back and both exes are furious that I have not (and will not) crawled back to them begging them to take me back. Keep posting amazing content it keeps me motivated to keep moving forward! Thx again Lee 😊
Funny (not haha) that you mention running out of gas. Mine died. Was together for 20 years. He was a walking 4 time miracle. Four separate occasions he should have died. Like, nurses and med students used to come see him because we was a medical anomaly. He would tell me that I was his life and I would roll my eyes. Your videos started popping up a little less than a year ago and I realized what he was. The absolute final straw was the horrible things he said to me as I was walking out the door for my flight to Las Vegas with my mom. The problem is that he lived in MY house. He knows I'm terrified of the police and wouldn't call them. Also, he was a very chronically ill man with no family and nowhere to go. He knew I couldn't in good conscience put a man in his condition in the street. So I told him he had until I sold the house to find a place to live. I didn't speak to him at all except to see if he needed food or a ride to the pharmacy. A month ago, his friend knocked on the door looking for him because he wasn't answering the phone. I went to tell him his friend was here but he didn't wake up. Had his friend not come by it could have been days before I realized. My best friend said that he survived all those years because he was sucking the life out of me. I stopped allowing him to suck my life out of me and he died.
I love your videos. And I'm glad they're usually only about 12 or 13 minutes long. Not that I couldn't listen to you for hours, but life doesn't always allow that. Thank you for your insight.
This is probably one of the most powerful videos ive watched about narcs. Right when he said, "they need you. You dont need them." My jaw literally dropped. How long have i told myself that i needed them only to finally realize - no, ive been almost two years of no contact - and ive been happy. ❤ ty lee!
May God help you on your own narcisstic healing journey. At least, you are not in denial. Just practice what you preach, When you speak the truth to others, You are also helping yourself get better. May God bless you Lee.
That must be why he finally left. I stopped fighting with him. I stopped getting hurt by him. I stopped caring. I let him rot in the room and didn't demand attention. I took care of things myself. I stopped telling him where I was going... he flat refused to ever let ME know where he was going. I stopped taking care of him. I let his calls go to voicemail. I didn't ask him if he needed anything from the store. I stopped accepting his little trinkets. He finally left. Then he got mad because I didn't call him... after HE LEFT. Make it make sense. He's been gone since late March '24. I've watched less and less narc material (sorry Lee 😂). I've read fewer and fewer of his past texts. I go weeks without thinking of him. But I hear he's miserable. He's too old and too far gone to get more supply. I was scraping the barrel with him. He keeps telling my daughter how much he loves me. And for the first time in 10 years, I no longer care. I wish him the life he deserves.
There is the extra needy narcissist who pretends to be helpless and won't do anything for themselves even when they can. I had a narc friend who expected me to come over to her house after my 10 hour shift at work that I had to get up at 4.00am for because she wanted me to do tasks for her until midnight even though she was home all day as a lady of leisure with plenty of money to hire who she needed for anything and she had a husband as well. She refused to speak to me ever again when I said I couldn't come over for the 11th day in a row because I had an appointment to get my tax done with an accountant. These kind of narcissists are typically unhealthy with their body and lazy habits as well as their mind. 25 years later it is pitiful to see how she and another one like her have ended up, and what that looks like.
you would think that when they need you, the least they could do is not do you dirty, but then they act all offended when you want nothing to do with them anymore.
Haha I just got told 5x in the last few arguments 'I don't need you, do you understand that'? Ok cool story. I see the devalue and discard was happening again.
I feel like I'm the narcissist I keep blowing up her phone wanting to understand why she didn't choose me. She has lied about so much and was talking to other people. But the way i started reacting was ridiculous. I wanted her to hurt just as bad I was. She doesn't seem to feel the same hurt of us being apart. Im distraught and I didn't want to end. I reacted really badly and now she doesn't want to talk to me or work it out. I feel horrible about the things I did and I know I was wrong. I was willing to do what I had to do to change. Im trying to trust her I just can't but she doesn't want to work on it. She wants me to be ok how she wants to live and not say anything
You're absolutely right. It's weird though because it very often feels they don't need you when they have a lot of supply lined up. They do need those supplies but sometimes it feels like a overload supply, doesn't make them need the supplies at the same time because they're so easy to be replaced. I had like 8 narcs in my life, all ex-partners (I collect them, no jk lol) and with one who obsessed over me, he just ghosted me and hits me up every 6 months for just a few days and then he ghost me again, it doesn't feel like they need me.
@@jeffreyexposito3803 I shouldn't do anything. Because this isn't a narc I'm really bothered by, lmfao and this isn't a narc I'm healing from. That's why I don't even mind that he doesn't respond for 6 months, I don't chase either, this isn't a narc that's even on my mind. I didn't ask for any advice either. I'm just stating facts that in that situation it doesn't seem the narc even needs supplies since that is what this topic is about, so stick to what I say.
@@jeffreyexposito3803 I shouldn't do anything and didn't ask for any advice. I'm not even bothered by this narc, I don't even think about him and this is not the narc I'm healing from. That's why I don't chase and I don't even bother that he is gone for 6 months, lmfao. I didn't ask for advice either, stick to what I say. I just stated this fact because it doesn't seem narcs need supplies. You didn't read anywhere that I was even bothered by it so don't make assumptions.
@@jeffreyexposito3803 Because you shouldn't make assumptions. I shouldn't do anything. This isn't the narc I'm healing from, I'm not even bothered by it, I never stated I was bothered by it. The narc that ghosts for 6 months isn't even on my mind, that's why I'm not even bothered. Only give advice when someone asks you, I just stated that this shows that narcs don't really need supplies as often.
My ex narc hub is crashing out. I only contact him no more than 3 times a year if it's absolutely necessary. My child's farther needs me to pull off his mask to dump on. I can be visiting my kids and he will come home early to tel me to leave. When I realize that his main goal is to wipe the smile off my face. I smile till my dimples get stuck. ☺️ Ladies please, do not send your children with the narcissist over the summer if you are in transition from being a stay at home mom. You are better off getting assistance or a shelter. They will strike when your most vulnerable.
I’m an empath that has exceeded all expectations ever asked of a woman . I stay away from your page because I found my self falling for you (his thought process I would have loved my partner to find) and this self awareness through the screen; crazy how we just want to be understood even If we have all the tools to attract non narcissistic people 😢😢😢. That’s a very self aware thought weird how even through a screen I choose to work with certain individuals virtually as well as in reality
Indicating that you’re “falling for” him is unnecessary and inappropriate to communicate to a married man, especially a narcissistic one, self aware or not. An empath would have empathy for the significant other enduring his shortcomings as this man continues to heal. I understand your sentiment, but it seems much more appropriate and productive to communicate this to a therapist.
If someone addressed me the way i addressed the original commenter, I would feel attacked, and then I would feel grateful for the reality check. We all need therapy. That can be pretty easily concluded by the fact that we’re here watching. Making an observation you don’t agree with doesn’t mean I’m triggered. You’re right about me not being able to dictate what someone should or should not do as an empath. But at the same time you’re criticizing and mocking my statements while trying to down me. Pardon? Lmfao. Very immature. And my point still stands. There’s a time, place and manner to express things.
You’re not making sense. Emotional maturity encompasses many things, not just what serves to bolster your opinion. You’re a hypocrite yourself. That was my only point in pointing out the immaturity in your statement. You’re parading around like a self righteous hero, when you’re just coming off as a bully that can’t handle logic. And obviously I’m aware not everyone needs therapy. It was a generalization for the majority of folks that frequent these types of videos. You seem to want me to be triggered which is very weird. It feels like you’re projecting in that area. I don’t have further time today. Bye now.
Ahhhhhhh your intros just keep getting better and better! That perfectly timed head nod leading into your opening was perfect!! You've really come a long way with your production quality! Love seeing the growth happen on both a personal and professional level -- truly inspiring! Keep up the great work! 🫶👊🙌
THAT EXAMPLE YOU GAVE LEE WAS DISGUSTING! 🤮 ANYBODY THAT GETS WITH SOMEONE AND ALLOWS THREESOMES FOURSOMES DESERVES WHAT THEY GET WHETHER THEY'RE A NARCISSIST OR NOT!
Thank you so much for this, my jaw literally hit the floor when you said "They need you." I am by no means my Step Moms main supply, but she to this day HATES my old therapist because they believed me and worked with me through some serious childhood SA. We worked together for seven years and somehow in the blink of an eye my Narc Mom set me off by saying "That therapist did nothing for you, she planted seeds in your head." I originally sobbed to my parents in a therapy session about being SAed because I wanted to be forgiven of my childhood behavior, but in actuality that should have never been the case (Mainly because I was a child). But they should have believed me the first 2 times I said something, they should have believed my elementary school when they reached out saying "Hey, something is up". Instead of bringing up how much I hated school and my eating issues 75 times a day. They should have looked into why these problems were ever there instead of just constantly pointing them out and punching down. I'm not even a real parent, I'm an Uncle and I make it a point to check in with my nieces and nephews teachers once a month or so to make sure school is going okay and what kind of options they have. Thanks to therapy for teaching me how to process trauma and be a decent person lol.
Thank you so much for your videos! They have really helped me. I think one of the hardest things for me as the daughter of a narcissistic mom is never really feeling like I could fully connect with her. I wanted to know my mom and understand her SO BAD, but I felt like she would never really let me in. I am currently healing from CPTSD (extensive childhood trauma), and at the age of 8 my brain just kind of “snapped” in a way that is hard to describe, other than my brain switching to my mom’s world. It was like I almost understood her “game” and thought I could beat her at it, and try to make her suffer in a way that I did. My mom immediately noticed the “switch” and I could see this sick, sly smile come across her face. See, the thing is…I got lost in the game the moment I started. My brain became so jumbled between the “real” me and the person I was “pretending to be”…its hard to explain, but lets just say my mom in a strange way became nicer to me, because I was willing to meet her on “her” level, if that makes sense? My mom went from being absolutely cruel, to somewhat tolerable at times, like I was a prisoner beginning to get better treatment…as long as I was willing to live within her delusions and “fantasy land” if you will. But I was just a child (8 years old), it was all too much for my brain to keep track of. My mom certainly enjoyed playing mind games with me. I was like her mental experiment I think in a way. She would do things just to keep me off balance, or confuse me, or make me feel delusional, or question my reality. This started very early on, earlier than 3. She drove erratically everywhere we went, with a “she owns the road” mentality. She always had music blaring in the vehicle while driving, honestly, really recklessly and scary…Anyway, thats just a very small inkling of my VERY long story. I guess I’m curious about her cruelty, and if she saw the humanity in her children? I loved my mom so much, sometimes I would dream my love could heal her so she could be happy. I could see deep down, she seemed sad and empty, angry, hollow. From the age of 5, my mom would admire my intelligence in public, but put me down in private. So I always had a deep-seated feeling that I could make it academically, but I lacked “common sense and real world knowledge.”. My mom instilled this feeling that I wouldn’t be able to do anything without her, that I was incapable in a way. She went on all of my school field trips, and insisted that I was with her the entire time. I had to give my mom undivided attention on the field trips, and if I tried to play with other kids, she would like sulk, and say, “I don’t know why I even come on these fields trips any more if you don’t even care that I’m around. You don’t want to spend time with me, you’d rather be with your friends.” And I would be like in 3rd grade and my mom would start crying and I would feel so guilty, and give my mom and hug and tell her I loved her. Lmao. It’s not funny, but it’s so ridiculous in a way. We had dogs, and she honestly treated us worse than them. She actually cared about the dogs, I think she felt because if they did something wrong, “they didn’t know better.” But she felt almost like other humans were pests, stupid lemmings. It’s difficult to explain. My childhood was truly bizarre on so many levels, and there were much more contributing factors to it all. I’m just grateful that you are so honest.
I do not want to be needed by anyone , not even my adult children. . . It is so draining . . . I am no longer looking for love be it agape , Eros or whatever. . .I am good on my own , I know that I am enough . . . He neefed you to suck the life outbof me .
You are adorable and make me laugh. Aaahhh learning wtf goes on in a narcs mind is a spider web.... I don't want a project. They don't need me for anything good. 😊
Seriously???? Could have fooled me with that discard and tripping over himself to get to the courthouse for the divorce. I needed a temporary roof over my head for a while then made the jump out! 😂🎉
THANK GOD he did NOT come CLOSE to making me NEED him on ANY LEVEL!!!!!!! told me day 2: "i need you in my life." he NEEDS ... who the hell knows ... but it ain't me!!!!!! by the end of the 2nd week i NEEDED to get the hell away from him!!!! haven't seen him since dec 2023; haven't spoken to him/text him since jan 2024. he stays in the building. one floor down. saw him in passing, i passed on by ... BECAUSE i NEED to keep my self-esteem intact, as i TOLD HIM it was when i asked him if he was trying to break me!!!! THANK YOU, GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are 💯 correct on this!! It took me 20yrs to realize this! At my weakest moment when my husband suddenly passed, he was what he says My Savior! And financial as well!
Their incessant need to be needed causes them to power trip you in every way to make you stay. They are erratically impulsive when everything is going smooth they will cause chaos. They have to be in control and need to keep you Co dependent on them They are nothing without an audience even if having to hold audience captive 🙄
OMG.....brother I pray you never stop making people aware of the behavior of a narcissist. I hope more narcs get help but majority don't think they are narcs how on earth did you get here what made you acknowledge you are a narcissist?
Up until the day before I walked away and moved out he lashed out and said many mean things. Once I left he never lashed out , he never looked for me which is fine with me. While in the situation he treated me awful / said awful words. then after I left everything stopped , now his mom is the financial source for him.
Basically this soooo true they know how bad they're and how to proceed things with hate and madness and they create a need for the victims to feel safe after they do anything and be in there devil existence they want make sure they aren't left alone or they faced a consequence of their actions..they lost something or anything happened for them ! That's why they rely on what they made you need from them what so ever! Allah protect us from these souls the only need and belonging should be just for the one creator!
Yes that's why they keep hoovering us & stalking & every other sick move they make. My ex narc said to me once "if I ever meant that much to you, you would respond back to my message" 🤣🤣🤣 like whatever. 😂
Especially when it's sex . She would constantly say .....😂 OMG I needed you ! So bad!.😂 Then asking to say I love you over n over n over again like WTF !!!. Now that sure in heck isn't normal 😢
They can also need you and hate your guts. Mine was my biggest opps like he did everything to let me know through actions he hated my guts but when I discarded him he went to my parents house begging for me back. I stayed gone like the wind
Hi Lee, I've seen a few of your videos around and I've been wondering: given that you're a self-aware narcissist, do you still catch yourself acting in narcissistic ways around your friends and family and are you able to intervene with it or derail it before it escalates? What aspects of the condition do you still struggle with?
Im a diagnosed narcissist how i used to be before i was aware but now im dealing with a new issue and i cant put it to words all i know it probably falls in the abandonment part and idk what to do and i cant communicate well with the wife
I think a Narcissist needs you UNTIL they feel they’ve found a better supply. Once they find someone else they feel has more to offer, you’re dropped like a hot potato.
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This!!! And they act like they never met you. Mine told me they wanted nothing to do with me or my children.
@Alexia-h1nthey will repeat the same destructive behaviour with new supply. We were all a new shiny toy at first . ❤
The one bank card 😂😂😂
So familiar
They crash out hard when you want nothing from them
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This is the part I’m waiting for! For him to hurt the same ways I have
@@slimm1766 so you want sadistic revenge? This is the wrong thing to want. If you don’t change this desire for revenge, then you will suffer even more. Your own desire for revenge will destroy you. What you should want (if you’re a mentally healthy person) is to leave him in your past with the full understanding that some people are completely unable to function normally in society and relationships. Pathological narcissists are grown-up victims of abusive/traumatizing parents. These people are literally children who have an empty schizoid core and a false self because the trauma in their childhood cause them to commit emotional you-know-what. Imagine a child having to make that decision because their mother never let them become an individual. Imagine a child throwing their true self on the alter and emotionally exiting their world because that’s how badly their mother traumatized them. Imagine this child felt that he/she had no choice but to destroy and sacrifice their true self because their original mother figure was so abusive that they felt the need to eliminate themselves and create a facade that they cannot extricate themselves from. This kind of child will experience life-long depression and a feeling of emptiness. This child will have to experience the karma of their abuser because they never even got the chance to become an individual. This trauma is the reason why they compulsively cause pain to others. Is it acceptable or appropriate? Absolutely not, and that is why we go no-contact. But does that mean that you should want them to suffer because they made you suffer? Absolutely not. You should not want a true pathological narcissist to suffer because their entire life is suffering. They are an emotionally eternal child, and wanting them to suffer might as well be akin to punching children. Just walk away and accept the fact that some people are just not for you because they don’t have the emotional tools to not abuse everyone they know. In the end, all true pathological narcissists end up pushing everyone close to them away, and that is their suffering and karma. Lee may just happen to be able to maintain his relationship with his family for life, but he’s the exception to the rule. And we don’t know what he does in his private life. It’s not anyone’s place to speculate, I just hope that he is earnestly able to maintain his apparent effort to refrain from abusing his nearest and dearest, but again, he is the exception to the rule. Leave narcissists alone, lest you find yourself suffering because you couldn’t just walk away.
@@meeks1201 exactly... When I stopped taking him back over and over for 20 years and realized no he don't love you no matter what he says.. I seen him blow my phone up begging me back.. then I realized I had to block that too even though I was not answering or calling or ever going back!
They need other people but they do not value them....
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a self-serving "need" only.
Narcissist "Need" to use you.
I once told him, I don’t need you, I want you. There’s a difference and he got furious. He couldn’t understand what that meant. Now that I don’t want him he’s starting to understand that I never needed him.
He said tht too me
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I don't know if this is a secret, but my ex was a narcissist and I figured out one of his many secrets. He preyed on my fear of abandonment for decades, threatening to leave every chance he could. After a while, I realized HE has a fear of abandonment. I also figured out his threats were empty promises used to control me and that he needed me more than I needed him. Lee, videos like yours paired with a LOT of therapy helped me deprogram and walk away. Forever grateful.
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Needing someone doesn't equate loving someone. I think sometimes that line becomes blurred.
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I resonate with this a lot, you cannot treat a human being like a drug.
@@ageves8487 something I try to remind myself of is that just because I love my narcissistic ex, I don't need him to love him. I will love him with or without him in my life, and without is much more peaceful. They don't love us. They love that we love them as we do, and play us at every turn.
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@@ageves8487 That’s deep 😢
This is absolute truth. Your independence is their biggest fear. They create a need for you that they have to fulfill. Break everything they touch.
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All the other narcissists are gonna be mad at you. You let out their Top Secret. 😆😂🤣
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they already mad at him BECAUSE he is milking this thing dry, getting paid in the shade!!!! he's completely monetized his mental disability--NPD. yes, he's providing an excellent service too, WHILE getting QUALITY supply from MANY across the country!!!
I found this out my own, I could just see right thru it all however I've dealt with many toxic fam my whole life as well as friends exs & business relations. Helps I'm an empath too, I'll be 36 next month, been with this cover narc for almost 7 yrs. He fooled me in the beginning I'll give him that, tricked me into being a sahm & I found out real quick who he really was. Later I broke him, he caved crying like a baby saying he needs me & knows I don't need him 😂 as if I didn't already know 🫢
Call this soon as I read the title 😂
“They need you way more than you need or want them”
Second is to hide the shame
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@@MentalHealness ima have to give you some of my detailed accounts off the record one of these days
I think it’ll make even you go WOW 🥴
Life can be very bizarre & cringe to say the least
Spoiler my “Narc’s”
Actual clinical diagnosis was Dissociative identity disorder, Active Suicidal Ideation, Depression, and Anxiety
“Malignant Narcissistic Tendencies” I suspect were weaved into some of those DID personalities
I have an advanced degree from TTU so I studied all of these, but seeing it in real life is a whole another ballgame 😮💨
We need God and Jesus more than ANYTHING ❤
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Truth !!! The action part needs to run simultaneously as well
He used to tell me all the time, I need to feel wanted and loved. Wtf have I need doing this entire time? It was never enough for him. He used that excuse to cheat. She didn’t love me enough. 🤡
That's exactly what happened 2 me 😢
This hits home 😢 it’s never enough. But the little amount they give you out of shame and guilt is apparently more than enough and more than you deserve in their eyes……. 😔
Stay empowered
Mine said he couldnt be alone although I was there 😂😂😂 silly rabbits tricks are for kids
Yes that's the line.
They need you to punish you, to belittle you, to control you...etc., etc. They are never fulfilled. They are empty inside. I think that we're like having chocolate chip cookies and milk for them. We're like having desert after a huge meal.
Well said . . . They need you to suck the life out of you
EXCELLENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! totally agree!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You're right! It's always a game.
@ItsSoavery well saidrTime
@@DulcesSweets A complete mind game, only to drive you even more crazier than they are!
Lee, he hoovering. He watching me. I'm cool as a cucumber. I have the control and he can't think straight. Thanks so much for giving me strength.
Protect your peace
They dont bring anything possitive, helpful, fun, nor useful. Theres nothing to need.
humph! amen, amen!!
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Exactly
If they do there is always an expectation for a return. Transactional.
Yes, True. I tried to go back to school full-time because my ex told me he could handle the bills. He got to the point that he wanted me to beg him to buy groceries or things our children needed for school. When he finally decided to buy food/supplies he told us we were ungrateful. He said, he saved us from being hungry. When I noticed he was acting like a A** because he was the only one working, I went back to work & went to school part-time. He cuss me out for going back to work. He wanted me & my children to be dependent on him so he could disrespect us anyttime he wanted to because he was keeping the house a float for a few months.. I apologize to my children all the time for what he put them through with his controlling ways...He's a sick Demon from He**!!!💔 😔 😪
Ummm, ditto. It's crazy
Yup most people can't handle having power and once they get it they instantly become terrible. He was getting off being needed and then making others look terrible for needing him. It's very sick how they think, they want to be in control to make others feel terrible and need them so their forever broken ego gets a small boost for a few minutes.
@AnnPeterson-bt4dl, my gosh! They do work from the same manual! My ex would make us grovel for food and things the family needed ( he had the means and he tried to keep the finances secret but we knew )...and yet, he would give us crumbs. And then, he would say we were ungrateful! Same! Same! So disgusting!
@cecillebalignasay7358 it appears narcassim rips a person of a personality and it gives them all the same core manual to operate by
My ex narc has told me both. He needs me and he knows he didn't deserve me.
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Exactly
All narcs aren’t a spouse or significant other. That being said, the one who was in my life actually ADMITTED they needed me & didn’t want to lose me. They are manipulative masters of MIXED MESSAGES. I am so peaceful now.
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They really do lose their minds, I NEVER call my ex, I bought our kids phones so that he doesn’t have to call me. He calls our daughter and almost always ask her to give me the phone to talk about if I could help him out with something. Then a few days later will turn around and say I always call him and want him back and that I’ve never done anything for him. Narcissistic people are insane!
I woke up crying and he told me to shut up he was trying to sleep…. Who does that. ?
Wow
A narc.
Same happened to me. My dumb ass try to hug him and he just pushed me away from him.
@@tamitonedd I’m so sorry that you had the same experience as me:(. I know how it feels and I would not wish that pain on anyone (even my narc) and that’s sad I know
Money and physical connection. Sex cut off one month after meeting. Everything is my fault. Why do I play the victim? Fool, I am God’s child and always positive. I text non stop because of the desire to connect like in the beginning. Thanks,’Lee, it is time to turn off the spigot. Blessings ❤
My dear friend, I love your vids and it has meant a lot to me since I discovered you a few days ago.
My dad is this way. I have a lot of his traits. It is terrible but it is the truth. It is even more terrible to admit and say it.
After my first child was born, I realised something was not right with me..... I hit a wall trying to change my toxic way of thinking and doing. I have asked my husband and children their forgiveness so many times that I have stopped counting. My sister has helped me a lot in this respect, never holding back on telling me when I act like my dad. I cannot tell how much I Appreciate this from her. She has put a mirror in front of me to help me see my truth. And it has set me free.
This is not why I am writing.
I want to help my mom....there is so little left of who she was. Every time I try to talk to her about it, she just says she needs another meeting with the Lord to help her forgive and be better.... As a Christian, she will never leave my dad.
After 54 years of marriage I really don't know if I will be able to help her somehow see the truth....
It always makes me laugh, "You won't survive without me!" I've lived most of my life on my own.
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That was one of the last things he said to me before I left 😵🤯
Lee, thanks again so much for validating what I already knew! Both my ex husbands are narcs that wanted me to quit my job, use their debit card and told me we only need one car (so that I would be stuck at home)! They both knew I wanted them but that I didnt need them. I am now divorced and not looking back and both exes are furious that I have not (and will not) crawled back to them begging them to take me back. Keep posting amazing content it keeps me motivated to keep moving forward! Thx again Lee 😊
You are so welcome
Anyone who has delt with a narcissist has been down this road. If you haven't yet? You're lucky, go play the lotto!
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Funny (not haha) that you mention running out of gas. Mine died.
Was together for 20 years. He was a walking 4 time miracle. Four separate occasions he should have died. Like, nurses and med students used to come see him because we was a medical anomaly. He would tell me that I was his life and I would roll my eyes.
Your videos started popping up a little less than a year ago and I realized what he was. The absolute final straw was the horrible things he said to me as I was walking out the door for my flight to Las Vegas with my mom. The problem is that he lived in MY house. He knows I'm terrified of the police and wouldn't call them. Also, he was a very chronically ill man with no family and nowhere to go. He knew I couldn't in good conscience put a man in his condition in the street. So I told him he had until I sold the house to find a place to live. I didn't speak to him at all except to see if he needed food or a ride to the pharmacy.
A month ago, his friend knocked on the door looking for him because he wasn't answering the phone. I went to tell him his friend was here but he didn't wake up. Had his friend not come by it could have been days before I realized.
My best friend said that he survived all those years because he was sucking the life out of me. I stopped allowing him to suck my life out of me and he died.
I love your videos. And I'm glad they're usually only about 12 or 13 minutes long. Not that I couldn't listen to you for hours, but life doesn't always allow that. Thank you for your insight.
Glad you like them!
This is probably one of the most powerful videos ive watched about narcs. Right when he said, "they need you. You dont need them." My jaw literally dropped. How long have i told myself that i needed them only to finally realize - no, ive been almost two years of no contact - and ive been happy. ❤ ty lee!
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He needs you until he finds a new supply. The biggest secrets I have found are 1. Drug use
2. Bisexuality
These two are enough to finally walk away.
No, not bisexuality, trysexual, trying anything that feeds that need.
May God help you on your own narcisstic healing journey. At least, you are not in denial. Just practice what you preach, When you speak the truth to others, You are also helping yourself get better. May God bless you Lee.
And they will ONLY truly see that they need you once you NEVER need them for anything! Block them and run to live and be Happy!
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LOVE YOUR SELF BABES. YOU ARE BEAUTIFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE.👌🏿💯❤️
Thank you
I grey rocked my way out of the relationship with my ex, divorce was just finalized last week!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
That must be why he finally left. I stopped fighting with him. I stopped getting hurt by him. I stopped caring. I let him rot in the room and didn't demand attention. I took care of things myself. I stopped telling him where I was going... he flat refused to ever let ME know where he was going. I stopped taking care of him. I let his calls go to voicemail. I didn't ask him if he needed anything from the store. I stopped accepting his little trinkets. He finally left. Then he got mad because I didn't call him... after HE LEFT. Make it make sense. He's been gone since late March '24. I've watched less and less narc material (sorry Lee 😂). I've read fewer and fewer of his past texts. I go weeks without thinking of him. But I hear he's miserable. He's too old and too far gone to get more supply. I was scraping the barrel with him. He keeps telling my daughter how much he loves me. And for the first time in 10 years, I no longer care. I wish him the life he deserves.
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There is the extra needy narcissist who pretends to be helpless and won't do anything for themselves even when they can. I had a narc friend who expected me to come over to her house after my 10 hour shift at work that I had to get up at 4.00am for because she wanted me to do tasks for her until midnight even though she was home all day as a lady of leisure with plenty of money to hire who she needed for anything and she had a husband as well. She refused to speak to me ever again when I said I couldn't come over for the 11th day in a row because I had an appointment to get my tax done with an accountant. These kind of narcissists are typically unhealthy with their body and lazy habits as well as their mind. 25 years later it is pitiful to see how she and another one like her have ended up, and what that looks like.
They know they need what you have. We don’t realize it until all the damage is done.
you would think that when they need you, the least they could do is not do you dirty, but then they act all offended when you want nothing to do with them anymore.
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He always told me I don’t need you! But I knew that was the opposite! 😂
He did it to me financially, and then tore me apart!! No More!!
You got this
@@MentalHealness I Do Got This!! Thank You
Haha I just got told 5x in the last few arguments 'I don't need you, do you understand that'? Ok cool story. I see the devalue and discard was happening again.
*Tipping liquor to the camera's memory* 😂
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Thank you!! I'm healing from a narcissistic. There's no communication. No contact. I'm thankful for your continued. Reading..!!
You’re welcome. Stay strong
I recently realized this! Now I am on my own and left his dumbass 6 months ago 😂
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I feel like I'm the narcissist I keep blowing up her phone wanting to understand why she didn't choose me. She has lied about so much and was talking to other people. But the way i started reacting was ridiculous. I wanted her to hurt just as bad I was. She doesn't seem to feel the same hurt of us being apart. Im distraught and I didn't want to end. I reacted really badly and now she doesn't want to talk to me or work it out. I feel horrible about the things I did and I know I was wrong. I was willing to do what I had to do to change. Im trying to trust her I just can't but she doesn't want to work on it. She wants me to be ok how she wants to live and not say anything
have to give yourself a chance to heal
Wow!!!! When it gets really bad you receive a compliment and your heart registers terror...thank you Sir!
You are very welcome
Thank you, Lee, for becoming self-aware. I wish my wife could become aware of herself ❤
You are so welcome
You're absolutely right. It's weird though because it very often feels they don't need you when they have a lot of supply lined up. They do need those supplies but sometimes it feels like a overload supply, doesn't make them need the supplies at the same time because they're so easy to be replaced. I had like 8 narcs in my life, all ex-partners (I collect them, no jk lol) and with one who obsessed over me, he just ghosted me and hits me up every 6 months for just a few days and then he ghost me again, it doesn't feel like they need me.
Exactly
Why are you answering his hoovers? You should go NC
@@jeffreyexposito3803 I shouldn't do anything. Because this isn't a narc I'm really bothered by, lmfao and this isn't a narc I'm healing from. That's why I don't even mind that he doesn't respond for 6 months, I don't chase either, this isn't a narc that's even on my mind. I didn't ask for any advice either. I'm just stating facts that in that situation it doesn't seem the narc even needs supplies since that is what this topic is about, so stick to what I say.
@@jeffreyexposito3803 I shouldn't do anything and didn't ask for any advice. I'm not even bothered by this narc, I don't even think about him and this is not the narc I'm healing from. That's why I don't chase and I don't even bother that he is gone for 6 months, lmfao. I didn't ask for advice either, stick to what I say. I just stated this fact because it doesn't seem narcs need supplies. You didn't read anywhere that I was even bothered by it so don't make assumptions.
@@jeffreyexposito3803 Because you shouldn't make assumptions. I shouldn't do anything. This isn't the narc I'm healing from, I'm not even bothered by it, I never stated I was bothered by it. The narc that ghosts for 6 months isn't even on my mind, that's why I'm not even bothered. Only give advice when someone asks you, I just stated that this shows that narcs don't really need supplies as often.
My ex narc hub is crashing out. I only contact him no more than 3 times a year if it's absolutely necessary. My child's farther needs me to pull off his mask to dump on. I can be visiting my kids and he will come home early to tel me to leave. When I realize that his main goal is to wipe the smile off my face. I smile till my dimples get stuck. ☺️
Ladies please, do not send your children with the narcissist over the summer if you are in transition from being a stay at home mom. You are better off getting assistance or a shelter. They will strike when your most vulnerable.
Oh wow
Lee, i divorced my narc wife. It took a lot of time, but i did it. I want you to know that you helped me on my journey. Thank you so much, sir.
You are so welcome
Narcissist need you to need them is like making a deal with a devil. It is a trap to something devilish and evil behind it.
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😂I love the humor dude. You make a very difficult issue much easier to digest😄
I’m an empath that has exceeded all expectations ever asked of a woman . I stay away from your page because I found my self falling for you (his thought process I would have loved my partner to find) and this self awareness through the screen; crazy how we just want to be understood even If we have all the tools to attract non narcissistic people 😢😢😢. That’s a very self aware thought weird how even through a screen I choose to work with certain individuals virtually as well as in reality
Indicating that you’re “falling for” him is unnecessary and inappropriate to communicate to a married man, especially a narcissistic one, self aware or not.
An empath would have empathy for the significant other enduring his shortcomings as this man continues to heal.
I understand your sentiment, but it seems much more appropriate and productive to communicate this to a therapist.
Stay strong on your healing journey
@Alexia-h1n I agree with you
If someone addressed me the way i addressed the original commenter, I would feel attacked, and then I would feel grateful for the reality check.
We all need therapy. That can be pretty easily concluded by the fact that we’re here watching.
Making an observation you don’t agree with doesn’t mean I’m triggered.
You’re right about me not being able to dictate what someone should or should not do as an empath. But at the same time you’re criticizing and mocking my statements while trying to down me. Pardon? Lmfao. Very immature. And my point still stands. There’s a time, place and manner to express things.
You’re not making sense. Emotional maturity encompasses many things, not just what serves to bolster your opinion. You’re a hypocrite yourself. That was my only point in pointing out the immaturity in your statement. You’re parading around like a self righteous hero, when you’re just coming off as a bully that can’t handle logic. And obviously I’m aware not everyone needs therapy. It was a generalization for the majority of folks that frequent these types of videos. You seem to want me to be triggered which is very weird. It feels like you’re projecting in that area. I don’t have further time today. Bye now.
True, Lee. After leaving, I thought about ALL I did in the marriage! He soaked up my behavior and characteristics to take elsewhere.
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Thank you thank you thank you for all of this!
WoW
That is mind boggling
and True
Thanx Lee
Very welcome
Facts you turned your negative need into something productive and helpful tou yourself and others ❤
Narcissistic Individuals Really Need You. Especially If You Are Their Mental Health Therapist.Keep Those Boundaries Healthy And Very Clear📖🙏🙌💙❤️💜‼️
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"I don't need you" .... is exactly what I said🎯 .... delusion is REAL!
@@MizzzLuna that makes them furious 😂
Definitely mirrored my personality
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Ahhhhhhh your intros just keep getting better and better! That perfectly timed head nod leading into your opening was perfect!!
You've really come a long way with your production quality! Love seeing the growth happen on both a personal and professional level -- truly inspiring! Keep up the great work! 🫶👊🙌
Thank you so much!!
I REALLY DID LOSE MY MIND FROM WORRYING ABOUT YOU, NOT BECAUSE I NEEDED YOU. BUT I DO NEED YOU, YOU NOT A BAD PERSON 💯
THATS WHY I DONT MIND GIVING TO YOU.BUT I DONT KNOW IF YOU APPRECIATE IT OR IM JUST BOTHERING YOU. LMK💯
THAT EXAMPLE YOU GAVE LEE WAS DISGUSTING! 🤮 ANYBODY THAT GETS WITH SOMEONE AND ALLOWS THREESOMES FOURSOMES DESERVES WHAT THEY GET WHETHER THEY'RE A NARCISSIST OR NOT!
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@@MentalHealnessLEE NOT HATING ON YOU THO... 😏YOUR ALWAYS CRACKING ME UP MOST OF THE TIME! 😅 THANKS FOR TEACHING US HOW TO SURVIVE THIS BS! 👍
Thank you so much for this, my jaw literally hit the floor when you said "They need you."
I am by no means my Step Moms main supply, but she to this day HATES my old therapist because they believed me and worked with me through some serious childhood SA. We worked together for seven years and somehow in the blink of an eye my Narc Mom set me off by saying "That therapist did nothing for you, she planted seeds in your head."
I originally sobbed to my parents in a therapy session about being SAed because I wanted to be forgiven of my childhood behavior, but in actuality that should have never been the case (Mainly because I was a child). But they should have believed me the first 2 times I said something, they should have believed my elementary school when they reached out saying "Hey, something is up". Instead of bringing up how much I hated school and my eating issues 75 times a day. They should have looked into why these problems were ever there instead of just constantly pointing them out and punching down.
I'm not even a real parent, I'm an Uncle and I make it a point to check in with my nieces and nephews teachers once a month or so to make sure school is going okay and what kind of options they have. Thanks to therapy for teaching me how to process trauma and be a decent person lol.
Makes so much sense. Ugh … is taking so long to heal.
You got it
Thank you so much for your videos! They have really helped me. I think one of the hardest things for me as the daughter of a narcissistic mom is never really feeling like I could fully connect with her. I wanted to know my mom and understand her SO BAD, but I felt like she would never really let me in. I am currently healing from CPTSD (extensive childhood trauma), and at the age of 8 my brain just kind of “snapped” in a way that is hard to describe, other than my brain switching to my mom’s world. It was like I almost understood her “game” and thought I could beat her at it, and try to make her suffer in a way that I did. My mom immediately noticed the “switch” and I could see this sick, sly smile come across her face. See, the thing is…I got lost in the game the moment I started. My brain became so jumbled between the “real” me and the person I was “pretending to be”…its hard to explain, but lets just say my mom in a strange way became nicer to me, because I was willing to meet her on “her” level, if that makes sense? My mom went from being absolutely cruel, to somewhat tolerable at times, like I was a prisoner beginning to get better treatment…as long as I was willing to live within her delusions and “fantasy land” if you will. But I was just a child (8 years old), it was all too much for my brain to keep track of. My mom certainly enjoyed playing mind games with me. I was like her mental experiment I think in a way. She would do things just to keep me off balance, or confuse me, or make me feel delusional, or question my reality. This started very early on, earlier than 3. She drove erratically everywhere we went, with a “she owns the road” mentality. She always had music blaring in the vehicle while driving, honestly, really recklessly and scary…Anyway, thats just a very small inkling of my VERY long story. I guess I’m curious about her cruelty, and if she saw the humanity in her children? I loved my mom so much, sometimes I would dream my love could heal her so she could be happy. I could see deep down, she seemed sad and empty, angry, hollow. From the age of 5, my mom would admire my intelligence in public, but put me down in private. So I always had a deep-seated feeling that I could make it academically, but I lacked “common sense and real world knowledge.”. My mom instilled this feeling that I wouldn’t be able to do anything without her, that I was incapable in a way. She went on all of my school field trips, and insisted that I was with her the entire time. I had to give my mom undivided attention on the field trips, and if I tried to play with other kids, she would like sulk, and say, “I don’t know why I even come on these fields trips any more if you don’t even care that I’m around. You don’t want to spend time with me, you’d rather be with your friends.” And I would be like in 3rd grade and my mom would start crying and I would feel so guilty, and give my mom and hug and tell her I loved her. Lmao. It’s not funny, but it’s so ridiculous in a way. We had dogs, and she honestly treated us worse than them. She actually cared about the dogs, I think she felt because if they did something wrong, “they didn’t know better.” But she felt almost like other humans were pests, stupid lemmings. It’s difficult to explain. My childhood was truly bizarre on so many levels, and there were much more contributing factors to it all. I’m just grateful that you are so honest.
I do not want to be needed by anyone , not even my adult children. . . It is so draining . . . I am no longer looking for love be it agape , Eros or whatever. . .I am good on my own , I know that I am enough . . . He neefed you to suck the life outbof me .
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I knew one who loved the song by Anne Murray "You Needed Me", it is a beautiful song. But the Narcissist's anthem should be "Needed Me" by Rihanna.
Oh my
That was one of my ex's favorite songs.
@@PhantomVortex it is such a beautiful song, but they twist the meaning and make it all about themselves.
You are adorable and make me laugh. Aaahhh learning wtf goes on in a narcs mind is a spider web.... I don't want a project. They don't need me for anything good. 😊
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Seriously???? Could have fooled me with that discard and tripping over himself to get to the courthouse for the divorce. I needed a temporary roof over my head for a while then made the jump out! 😂🎉
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THANK GOD he did NOT come CLOSE to making me NEED him on ANY LEVEL!!!!!!!
told me day 2: "i need you in my life."
he NEEDS ... who the hell knows ... but it ain't me!!!!!!
by the end of the 2nd week i NEEDED to get the hell away from him!!!!
haven't seen him since dec 2023; haven't spoken to him/text him since jan 2024.
he stays in the building. one floor down.
saw him in passing, i passed on by ... BECAUSE i NEED to keep my self-esteem intact, as i TOLD HIM it was when i asked him if he was trying to break me!!!!
THANK YOU, GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You are 💯 correct on this!! It took me 20yrs to realize this! At my weakest moment when my husband suddenly passed, he was what he says My Savior! And financial as well!
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Their incessant need to be needed causes them to power trip you in every way to make you stay.
They are erratically impulsive when everything is going smooth they will cause chaos.
They have to be in control and need to keep you Co dependent on them
They are nothing without an audience even if having to hold audience captive 🙄
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The ultimate projection.
Absolutely
He said something like “what do you get the girl that has everything.” I was so confused.
This is very true!!!!!
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Thanks Lee ❤
Thank you Lee 🙏☺
Jelly jelly. I loved this video though.
It's one of the best of playlist for sure, for sure.
Such integrity and Truth. Good one today. 💗
I appreciate that!
We love you Lee
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Thanks for conformation and on so many things questioned for to long ✅️🦋👋💛
You are so welcome
OMG.....brother I pray you never stop making people aware of the behavior of a narcissist. I hope more narcs get help but majority don't think they are narcs how on earth did you get here what made you acknowledge you are a narcissist?
Up until the day before I walked away and moved out he lashed out and said many mean things. Once I left he never lashed out , he never looked for me which is fine with me. While in the situation he treated me awful / said awful words. then after I left everything stopped , now his mom is the financial source for him.
My ex broke up with me and wants us like nothing happen like remain friends after the insults and disrespect
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After 8 years of being with my ex he said the same thing. Once I cut him off he wanted me back. I will never go back to that disrespectful!
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Basically this soooo true they know how bad they're and how to proceed things with hate and madness and they create a need for the victims to feel safe after they do anything and be in there devil existence they want make sure they aren't left alone or they faced a consequence of their actions..they lost something or anything happened for them ! That's why they rely on what they made you need from them what so ever! Allah protect us from these souls the only need and belonging should be just for the one creator!
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Omg I hope people dont message you and say that hate you! 😂❤ love from the UK
I honestly didn't know this. Thank you!
No problem!
People who can't meet their own needs, will keep you from meeting your own... 🤯🤔💯😠😏
Thank you Lee, Im definitely learning alot from your videos.
Very welcome
I’m “clamping” the hose down here in FL 😊
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lol 😂 I need you camera!!! 🤣😂
Very TRUE
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Yes that's why they keep hoovering us & stalking & every other sick move they make. My ex narc said to me once "if I ever meant that much to you, you would respond back to my message" 🤣🤣🤣 like whatever. 😂
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@@patriziastella6564 that’s exactly what they say! Omg! Smh!! Just want a response.
So when they try to get you pregnant it's a way of securing you and knowing you'll stay needing them for a LONG time...
Especially when it's sex .
She would constantly say .....😂 OMG I needed you !
So bad!.😂
Then asking to say I love you over n over n over again like WTF !!!.
Now that sure in heck isn't normal 😢
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They can also need you and hate your guts. Mine was my biggest opps like he did everything to let me know through actions he hated my guts but when I discarded him he went to my parents house begging for me back. I stayed gone like the wind
RIGHT.
Thank you 🙏🏻
You’re welcome 😊
Hi Lee, I've seen a few of your videos around and I've been wondering: given that you're a self-aware narcissist, do you still catch yourself acting in narcissistic ways around your friends and family and are you able to intervene with it or derail it before it escalates? What aspects of the condition do you still struggle with?
The narcissism doesn't go away. you just work on it
Great message!
Thank you
This is definitely 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 an soooooooo damn TRUE 🎯
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Im a diagnosed narcissist how i used to be before i was aware but now im dealing with a new issue and i cant put it to words all i know it probably falls in the abandonment part and idk what to do and i cant communicate well with the wife