Of course they don't forget. They romanticize everything. And they were the abuser. You think they can forget the person that they took advantage of so easily? Does a dog forget where he placed his favorite chew toy? Come on now!
Of course, the narc doesn't forget about you.. You were the best thing that happened to them most times. The narc just didn't have the capacity to recognize, nor reciprocate...😊😉💜
"This is NOT from God!"😂😂😂 You tell'em Lee. I lost count of the times I thought something, anything, was a sign! But NO MORE!! So thankful to God for freeing me from that bondage...vicious, toxic cycle. Thank you JESUS!
Narzistische Leute sind vom Teufel, sie sind der Teufel, der Teufel beherrscht Die Welt. Wenn du mit in Jesus Christus bleibst und von neuen wiedergeboren wirst. Dann sind diese Teufel wie kleine bösartige Kinder, du erkennst sie sofort. Halleluja, JESUS LEBT
Simply forgive them, and move on. It’s for your mental health! It doesn’t mean, you don’t have to be in contact, or to be kind… just forgive and let them be. It sets you free! Really.
Well I want to heal AND forget. During my healing I began to pray to forgive and forget this person for the most part but not the lessons I have learned. Not sure how or if HE will. I don’t want to dwell on that part of my life.
@@carolynmerritt7100Bless you lovely, but you won't heal and Forget. You'll Never Forget. As said by a Therapist too. Healing is when you remember and it doesn't hurt as much Anymore. You're able to let go of that Hurt and get on with your life without letting the hurt cause distruptions in your life. I can attest to it that it can be done. Sending you Love and Light 🤍🤍🤍
Yea....thats how it goes. I went completely no contact 12/31/2023.... broke no contact in March of 2024 to tell him not to EVER come to my house again when he leaned on my doorbell after 3 in the morning ..... I had been through so much turmoil that it felt like a blur... its important to value yourself over anything else or your mind will play tricks on you to keep how they feel and think as a factor when its really not. Your emotions will keep you stuck, but logically, it's about you and the power you have over your own life.
@sun.kissed.portal he came back again but my aunt lives on the 1st floor so she talked to him since I wouldn't answer the door...told her he had a ring and wanted to marry me...she called me to let me know and .i told her to send him and his ring back home.. ..that was the last time he pulled up...
I dated a Narcissist this past summer and your videos hit every single point of his personality. I am so glad that I ended the dating before I got to deep and emotionally invested. These videos have been so educationally for be to identify the toxic and avoid!!!
When God loves you it will protect you from the evil person in your life It is a blessing and I am glad that I am away feom the toxic person in my life
Has anyone felt it in the pit of their stomach that it’s getting closer and closer to ghost them. When you know they’re gonna respond the same and drain the shit out of you.
The fact that this is even a question you’ve been asked alarms me because it doesn’t matter what they think or feel at this point it should be all about your healing!!!! 😢
@ixena-e2t because it came on my screen . It’s not me knocking his post cause I know he doesn’t recommend ppl worrying about how the narcissist feels what alarms me is the fact that ppl ask him this question!!!! Victims of narcs need to worry about their feelings not the narc!!!! That just means they are still attached to
@ixena-e2t how about you focus on your healing since your the only one here being so defensive over it!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 and you have no clue who I am and what my character is . I was speaking in a whole and you are pointing fingers sounds to me like you are a problem
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
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Sounds like a trauma bond. I went through it also - it’s like a drug you have to detox from. Work on yourself and your healing. Don’t beg someone that discarded you to take you back, it gives them a power trip and puts you where they want you - you are worth more than that. You are not a toy to be taken out and played with whenever they please and to be ignored when they want to do something else. I hope you find peace and healing, I know this is so hard but you can do it ❤
It's not easy to shake a person who you love. You said he left you. I'm sure you saw red flags you ignored and just kept thinking he would change, or maybe if you did everything he wanted and would be perfect, he'll never leave you. He left, and I'm sure it wasn't the first time. You're in pain and struggling and stressing. You're expected to do that because you gave this man your heart and soul. Give yourself time to heal. This man doesn't have what you need to be happy, and chasing after him only shows desperation and low self-esteem. You need to know your worth as a woman and learn to be alone and stop playing a wife role to a boyfriend. Get a relationship with God, and start studying the Bible. Follow his standards because he will love you and protect you. Pray to him and don't allow this toxic man back into your life.
I pulled a narc move and trolled the narc on a dating app 6 months after he discarded me. I used 2 fake accounts and within minutes he was smearing me and we argued under the fake accounts for an hour each 🤣I stood up for his ex (me) and his lies got bigger and bigger including that I hit him twice!!
This one(video) is a KEEPER! I've replayed it several times already and each time gleaned a pearl(s) of wisdom. So in the future, if/when I'm even TEMPTED to feel sad about a 33-year TOXIC marriage ending (divorced for 7 years), I will REPLAY this video again!! NOT because I give a 💩about whether he forgets about what we had together BUT as a reminder to MYSELF that what I "thought" we had, was merely a cruel JOKE...smoke and mirrors...a BIG beautiful gift-wrapped box tied with the most ornate bow imaginable and inside the box, a fresh pile of steaming 💩💩! I got the BOOBY PRIZE!🤣🤣🤣 Your channel has helped in my healing journey, so thank God for you, Lee. You keep it real and make me laugh. Yeah, it's funny now but going through it was literally hell on earth...hope to meet you one day and give you a big hug. Love and peace to all of you out here striving to fight your way through the INSANITY!🌻
I knew i was over him when months after i was replaced a deal he made to make a good chunk of money with my son finally paid off. Government wheels turn slow and two years later my son gets a check for a lot of money came in the mail! They were supposed to split it but i had warned my adult son to be careful cause the narc would keep it all if he could. So i tried repeatedly to let the narc know about the check but he was busy ghosting me for the new supply so the day before the check expired i told my son to cash it and keep it , the narc owed me more than half the amount just for bail anyhow but when i agreed to have coffee with him i sat across that table and had no problem not saying a word about any check. His half might have covered what he owed me in bail alone, so yeah thats when i knew he couldnt hurt me anymore and a week later he was back with the psycho and i didnt shed a tear!! Funny but it was almost like i stayed with him thinking id get some of my money back and once i got money that he thought he should have i felt better! Payback is a bitch and sometimes her name is graycy! Hahaha!
He keeps blocking me only to unblock me over and over. He blocks me more times in a month than not. He doesn't want me but he doesn't want anyone else to have me either. He knows it's good . Right now I'm just planning on continuing the no contact so I can hopefully move on. This person has destroyed every ounce of happiness and self esteem that I had. 😢
He now all of a sudden remembers how important I was to him. It’s been a year and 1 month of limited contact. A few weeks ago he started being nice and congratulating me on my new job, I knew something was coming. Last week he asked to go to dinner and wanted to clear the air 🤣🤣 then told me he knows he’s destined to be a husband and realizes (once again) that I’m the wife for him. Mind you, we did premarital counseling in 2021 and then he broke up with me 2 weeks later because I caught him in a lie. 🤣 I took him back because I was so hopeful that he had finally got it together. Nope! He continued to break up with me until I caught on to his bs and finally told myself enough!!! I went back to him so many times and I never thought I would be able to say no to him. But listening to him talk made my stomach hurt!! It was comical that he was saying the same exact things to try to win me back…yet again. Claimed he talked to one of the brothers at the church and blah blah. Then he said the lady he was dealing with he had to cut off because she wasn’t who she said she was. I asked for clarity and he got irritated and said it didn’t matter. He ended it because he saw the red flags, but of course he ignored them because he was desiring love and commitment so strong and he settled. 😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I was listening just eating my popcorn like “This fool really should be on TV” I have absolutely no desire to be with him any longer. I feel nothing but disgust and pity for him. During the time he was dealing with the other lady, my son would come home talking about how she would come over and cook and play uno…I said not one word because I knew it wouldn’t last because he is exactly who I said he was. A damn narcissist who continues to repeat the same pattern. I guess now things didn’t work out he wants to disrupt my world again. Absolutely not!!! Had the nerve to say “I know it seems like I deal with other women and then when it doesn’t work out I come back to you but that’s not what it is at all” hahaha he is so delusional and I’m so at peace. No thank you!!! Go back to where you’ve been. 💅
Oh Lord met my ex at 19,married at 25, and left when I was 51 and divorced 2yrs ago.I feel like I need a mental, emotional, and physical detox. Just thinking about some of the stuff makes me exhausted!!He has had multiple affairs during the marriage and still cheating on the current partner. Narcissim is demonic the damage he has done to his kids is mind boggling!!
I've only seen the narc I was dealing with 2 times and we had a situationship for years. He hoovered and I reverse hoovered. He wanted to see me a third time but I didn't feel safe so I kept him on the line for years, I was madly in love with him but for my own safety didn't want to meet him again since his masked slipped a lot of times. I insulted him, said his d was too small, his car was ugly, I called his family names. He then smeared me to 30 people I didn't even knew and is now married to someone else and said he couldn't wait to marry and show off to hurt me. He shows it off that he's married now years later. My question is, did he forget about me now in this situation since he got married and there's someone in the picture who he builds a future with?
It's depends on the supply they get from the new supply. If he/she better than you to provide them supply, they will forget about you and anything like a hot potato. But if the new supply just a "I can have supply" thing, he won't forget you. My ex narcisstist can't even forget his ex wife for years and admit he stil love her, if she told him back he would. But he cheated on her so many times in the past so she enough of him. His ex wife is truly grade A supply, such a beautiful women with Grace money and status. But you know that narcisstist people Will never be enough with just one people cuz they need more and more supply, just worsen by age...
@@foreveryoung6464 I was more directing towards the insult, not who is the better supply. I insulted and hurted him a lot. I wondered if he forgot about me now he's married. Lee said in a video that narcs hold grudges for a very long time and therefor won't forget. That's why I was asking in this specific situation
@@Analist_altijd_elegance so why you still care if they hold grudge on you or not? In my experience with narcisstist partner, when you hurt them, yes they will forever hate you and remember it till their deadbed more than normal people hold on grudge. No matter he's married now...
You know, I used to think my ex would forget me because why would you remember someone you seemingly cared so little for, but the. I remembered something… She still brings up all of the exes she’s had even though they’re no longer in contact. She still sounded upset that one ex from years ago still won’t talk to her. She’s likely saying similar things about me. The important thing to remember is that just because they still think about you, it doesn’t mean they think about you fondly. You’re just in a different type of harem. You’re in the failed relationship/unavailable harem instead of the active rotation of options. They’re also likely bringing you up to triangulate the new supply. Especially since you aren’t there to set the record straight and call out the BS.
It’s call soul tied when you have laid down with another person you can’t just walk away. You have committed a soul tided with that person so that’s why it is difficult to separate and it doesn’t matter if you are a narcissist.
No.. Having a soul tie with someone is because of mutual emotional and spiritual connections. Narcissists don't have that with people who don't have NPD and vica versa. Soul ties are just justifications for not getting over someone. Narcissists attract codependents because there are lack in both people. Codependents have lack of boundaries which they have to learn from being with narcissist and narcissists have lack of empathy. Codependentie is actually the reason someone can't just walk away, that's why a narcissist easily can. That's not how soul ties work.
Oh, he or she forgot as soon as he or she replaced it with something else. You can move on with your life. And if they do remember, it's only to see what they can get from you, like, "I'm missing fill-in-the-blank. I wonder if this person is still stupid enough to give it to me." I repeat, don't be stupid and move on with your life.
But, it probably isn't like you think of them because euphoric recall is part of PTSD. So unless you discarded them they don't have PTSD symptoms because the grandiose self.
History repeats itself,choose peace,the energy you put in him put 100 percent in yourself,I love being single,shop for me,save money,most of all Peaceful❤ Single life is Beautiful ❤
I think when we are in these relationships and havent healed we create the sign from God that tells us to return to this abuse. Heal so you see Gods signs for what it really mean. Dont do it. Thanks Lee.
His story will be I met her trying to make someone else jealous and mad. He got with her to hurt me. This girl talks so much s*** about her ex-husband online. He wanted a private girl who was chill and he went to somebody who cries about her ex-husband online blabbing about all their business and now she's going to blab about him one day when he makes a mistake and it will be publicly hurtful to him. I don't know how he doesn't see how ironic that is lol they both got together out of spite to hurt other people. She got with him to make her ex-husband jealous and regretful and he slept with her to make me sad and get back at me. And their whole relationship started with drinking moonshine and getting s***-faced so it's not set up for longevity. I want myself to win but I wanted him to win too and it sucks he didn't want to win together. I can't stop somebody from making asinine decisions and ruining their life
Right? And yet mine chose someone who is drama 24/7, legit 5150 and he can't stay away from her. He left me who was loyal to a fault and represented stability for his young son who's mother recently passed. The new supply was so careless that cps took him away because the 8 year old boy tested positive for meth! But yeah he chose her over me and his son for a while at least.
@@Graycy808 I'm so sorry. They just don't get it. Their sick minds don't know they're sick. Mines untreated ADHD and bipolar and he told me he self medicates and doesn't need meds and he learned how to be without them ... Obviously not
Just forgive them and move on with your life. It doesnt matter any longer if they "remember" you. Think of it this way: They emotionally abused you for months, or years. Those "good times" you ruminate over- the first 3 months? It was all FAKE. It wasnt fake to YOU. Your emotions, and love was REAL. There's wasn't. You dont KNOW how many other women/men they were ALREADY in relationships with when they reached out to you. Narcissists pretend to be whatever their victims desire most during the Love bombing stage. So- this is who you fall in love with. But its not THEM internally. Whether they remember you or not- move forward with your life without them. And don't look back. The past is in the past- it's just a part of your testimony now. Keep your eyes looking forward towards the future.
No they become obsessed with trying to destroy your life if they know they lost you for good. They will even use your kid and manipulate family court to hurt you. 😢
🤣🤣🤣 Lee: "Nooo." True! I will never go back. He wants me to leave cuz he hates me for being a good happy person and I'm leaving! Even if I don't have a place to live yet. Tfs Lee!
I met him at a honky tonk in Rockwall, Tx. He was acually with a friend of mine at the time but he got my number at the end of the night then found out he took her home and slept with her that night only. From then on it was me and him.
Mine said the only good thing between us is our daughter (which he barely sees or asks about). Recently went no contact because I found out he has been going to prostitutes 😢 He tried to feed me bs about ordering for a friend😂 😂😂😂
So sorry to hear you're going through that the smartest thing I would do pertaining the child supervised visits add full custody physical and legal to you I would definitely take it to court I was married for 20 years and dealt with that and stayed in a marriage for a child that was not biologically mine due to his father and birth mother doing disgusting things❤
What about them acting like nothing happened and have random women calling and leaving messages all excited to talk to me? They orchestrate all this chaos. I blocked him over a year and I won’t respond to him silence. He’s acting like he did nothing I will not play jnto his games. The truth will Come out.
Depends on what type of supply you were and what you had to offer, Nacisists do not view all ex's the same, they are generally addicted to certain ex's while forgetting others.
I wonder the same thing me and my ex-husband narc was since 2004 until 2023 when he discarded me for nothing. My kids was in his life when they was little he watch them grow-up 18 years is a long time to see each other everyday spend time everyday live together he move with me to the country in wallis,Texas, I left and move back with him to his momma I got a apartment he move with me he was living at apartments in town he got lock up again in 2008 we married while he was lock up in Huntsville,texas he was there 3 years I came back home I decide to move us somewhere away from environment to Brenham, texas he stay there but started drama wanting to get back to Fort bend county, but we was still married he cheated I got mad divorce he convenience me to still be the side chick ex-wife and did continue to be entangle with others women hoping he would change and mend our relationship back without getting married again just be together I stay it was a roller coast I was on we was together everyday going place hanging out still having relationship behind close doors the family knew this he talk about with his sibling about us, the siblings ask me to step in care for my ex-mother-in-law saw him everyday we still had this bond together I saw the red flags but didn't know what I was dealing with. He alway told I wasn't going no where we was going to grown old together and as of last year he just discarded me had a new supply waiting in the wings move hervin the momma house. Everyday I feel like I stop existing in his life like I'm not a memory but there so much I memory like certain songs come tje radio, he like Sanford and son, my middle name is Jean remove the j and add the letter D our middle name I work with individually with the name Rodney I had to deal with that everything around me remind me of him. But I just feel did he forget me like that I'm not a memory to him anymore. It hurt alot but I move on trying to heal from hurt he cause after wasting time with someone who really didn't care two pennies about me. I'm 56 years old he living his life with someone else and I'm all lone trying to piece together what I did wrong all I try to be was a good woman to him but I lose myself in the process of being there for him he was never down for from the beginning he lies to me 18 years.😢
I know my ex narc think about me 8years long, he got arrested for domestic violated the order of protection twice now a year narc free he has to take dv classes I know he think about me I found out during court he got arrested 4 times for domestic was never had charges put against him not with me
I left when the kids were babies and I thought he’ll abuse me thru my flying monkey family members until the day I die. He died this year and went out trying to smear me for leaving back then.
They don't. My narcissistic wife recently posted about the pain she had from a college breakup. She had slept with her boyfriend's best friend and had a meltdown when he broke up with her. He still doesn't know that she cheated on him
Yes i was at the house before going on my vaction last years so everyone know i was in his life right when his momma past the way so i don't know why or how the new supply creep in but the half sister introduce him to her😮
Trust me it sucks ass sorry for the language. But why is it so dam hard to get over her. I’m like a big cry baby lately and she is all I think about constantly. It’s like I know for a fact she as moved on and divorce is not even finished
They torture their new supply with memories of their exes. Sometimes you are suddenly just the perfect ex wife when they want to punish the new wife. I saw just this morning that my narc ex got his wife a cat that looks exactly like the one I had when we were together, of all the different cats he could have gifted her. Curioser and curioser.
Just make sure it’s for real. Wasted 5 years of my life trying to force it. Now I’m getting married to the love of my life and I have never felt more blessed and stress free. I thank god every day for removing that human demon from my life.
Fastoff All , there never was any thing betwen us .these creatures Can Not love...they Only remember and keep persuinh thr best supply they eer had from anyone
I appreciate your clarification of this “Not being a word from GOD” 😇 Question: As you being, an ex-narcissist; do you ever revert back to “old”ways? And also, learned to be conscious to catch it before things get too out of hand ? ( Narcissism) Just a Curious 🇨🇦 eh? 🤣
Of course they don't forget. They romanticize everything. And they were the abuser. You think they can forget the person that they took advantage of so easily? Does a dog forget where he placed his favorite chew toy? Come on now!
Now that you broke it down like that😏! FACTS😂😂😂❤
@tati001 SoOOo, there's a chance they'll return...?? 👀
Yes chew toy. Good analogy
I don't think they want to remember a person they kicked out of their house and changed the locks cuz they hate them.
@@Laura-wp6zg to them you're the one that got away. And good for you! 👏🏼🖤👍🏼
It's far too much work to have a relationship with a narcissistic person. They are much like children.
@@carolrodriguez5760they are very BAD "Kids", Kiss of the Dragon 👹
I thank God our 3 kids under 10 have more morals and values than they ever will!
I genuinely appreciate the way you preface most videos with “this is NOT your sign to go back - don’t do it.” 👏🏽🤣
Just because they think of you doesnt mean that their toxic thoughts have changed.
@@rcy4513 say it louder for the short bus folks in the back 😂😂😂😂
Of course, the narc doesn't forget about you.. You were the best thing that happened to them most times. The narc just didn't have the capacity to recognize, nor reciprocate...😊😉💜
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"This is NOT from God!"😂😂😂
You tell'em Lee. I lost count of the times I thought something, anything, was a sign! But NO MORE!! So thankful to God for freeing me from that bondage...vicious, toxic cycle. Thank you JESUS!
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Narzistische Leute sind vom Teufel, sie sind der Teufel, der Teufel beherrscht Die Welt.
Wenn du mit in Jesus Christus bleibst und von neuen wiedergeboren wirst. Dann sind diese Teufel wie kleine bösartige Kinder, du erkennst sie sofort.
Halleluja, JESUS LEBT
@@MentalHealnesswhat is so funny about?
JESUS LEBT
Exactly 💯 we escaped Egypt . . .
@@Blessed591 And we are NOT going back!
Simply forgive them, and move on. It’s for your mental health! It doesn’t mean, you don’t have to be in contact, or to be kind… just forgive and let them be. It sets you free! Really.
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I’m trying it’s just so hard he knows what buttons to push and get to me
You make it sound easy almost as if you are demeaning those who are trying but can't.
Lee Hammock - “Do not take your happy ass back to toxicity”. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂hell to the no no no
@@kellyb6820 hell naw! Gul I screamed so loudly 😂😂😂😂😂
@@tomekiasuttle4003 😂😂😂😂after all I know now there is no way in hell …it’s like getting out of jail and asking to be let back in 😂
Perfectly Said❤
My therapist told me we humans try healing to forget instead of healing that this is a part of you. How you heal and move on is up to us!
Well I want to heal AND forget. During my healing I began to pray to forgive and forget this person for the most part but not the lessons I have learned. Not sure how or if HE will. I don’t want to dwell on that part of my life.
@@carolynmerritt7100Bless you lovely, but you won't heal and Forget. You'll Never Forget. As said by a Therapist too. Healing is when you remember and it doesn't hurt as much Anymore. You're able to let go of that Hurt and get on with your life without letting the hurt cause distruptions in your life. I can attest to it that it can be done. Sending you Love and Light 🤍🤍🤍
@@scovyaporsha thank you Doll
I wish the narcs would forget me entirely since they are so good at "forgetting" the good times when it suits them
Exactly 💯
@@cletiawilliams1436Do me a favor Please forget me 😂😂😂
Yea....thats how it goes. I went completely no contact 12/31/2023.... broke no contact in March of 2024 to tell him not to EVER come to my house again when he leaned on my doorbell after 3 in the morning ..... I had been through so much turmoil that it felt like a blur... its important to value yourself over anything else or your mind will play tricks on you to keep how they feel and think as a factor when its really not. Your emotions will keep you stuck, but logically, it's about you and the power you have over your own life.
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Lol yup mine comes in the middle of the night too… soooo annoying and entitled.
@sun.kissed.portal he came back again but my aunt lives on the 1st floor so she talked to him since I wouldn't answer the door...told her he had a ring and wanted to marry me...she called me to let me know and .i told her to send him and his ring back home.. ..that was the last time he pulled up...
I would NEVER EVER want to see or hear from that person again in life! Did I say NEVER! ✌🏼
Same here!🎉
Before even listening each narcissist I’ve ever been with only remember you when not getting supply from anyone else. And that’s it.
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They had something with everybody 🤭
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Ha! Facts 😂😂
That’s the damn truth! Haha. Still dealing with this woman six months later. I don’t think she’s ever gonna leave me the hell alone.
😂😂😂true
I dated a Narcissist this past summer and your videos hit every single point of his personality. I am so glad that I ended the dating before I got to deep and emotionally invested. These videos have been so educationally for be to identify the toxic and avoid!!!
Girl u dodged a bullet
You are blessed 😇
A lucky one 🙏🙏I wish I was that lucky 😢
When God loves you it will protect you from the evil person in your life
It is a blessing and I am glad that I am away feom the toxic person in my life
Amen!
Its called Karma. Ty Lee. This helped me❤
Happy to hear
They remember as a twisted narrative- the end has to justify their poisonous reasons for dumping you - when you did nothing wrong 🤦🏼♀️🌷
Insert “you” as a…
“This ain’t that sign.” Ha!
Lee you the hardest working man in the narc game!🎉
Has anyone felt it in the pit of their stomach that it’s getting closer and closer to ghost them. When you know they’re gonna respond the same and drain the shit out of you.
The cycle always repeats. That’s a horrible feeling. Get ahead of the game and exit if you can 🌷
And I wish I had.....
The fact that this is even a question you’ve been asked alarms me because it doesn’t matter what they think or feel at this point it should be all about your healing!!!! 😢
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@ixena-e2t because it came on my screen . It’s not me knocking his post cause I know he doesn’t recommend ppl worrying about how the narcissist feels what alarms me is the fact that ppl ask him this question!!!! Victims of narcs need to worry about their feelings not the narc!!!! That just means they are still attached to
@ixena-e2t how about you focus on your healing since your the only one here being so defensive over it!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 and you have no clue who I am and what my character is . I was speaking in a whole and you are pointing fingers sounds to me like you are a problem
@ixena-e2t not triggered at all feel free to stay inside the disillusionment!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@@jessicahewlett9297 but people want to know that they mattered. Nothing wrong with that.
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Sounds like a trauma bond. I went through it also - it’s like a drug you have to detox from. Work on yourself and your healing. Don’t beg someone that discarded you to take you back, it gives them a power trip and puts you where they want you - you are worth more than that. You are not a toy to be taken out and played with whenever they please and to be ignored when they want to do something else.
I hope you find peace and healing, I know this is so hard but you can do it ❤
It’s only been a month. That’s not a long time even if it’s agonizing
It's not easy to shake a person who you love. You said he left you. I'm sure you saw red flags you ignored and just kept thinking he would change, or maybe if you did everything he wanted and would be perfect, he'll never leave you. He left, and I'm sure it wasn't the first time. You're in pain and struggling and stressing. You're expected to do that because you gave this man your heart and soul. Give yourself time to heal. This man doesn't have what you need to be happy, and chasing after him only shows desperation and low self-esteem. You need to know your worth as a woman and learn to be alone and stop playing a wife role to a boyfriend. Get a relationship with God, and start studying the Bible. Follow his standards because he will love you and protect you. Pray to him and don't allow this toxic man back into your life.
May God continue to preserve and grow you Lee ❤
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Chile ,Narc please Do Not Think About me,move on, because when i said it was done,Its Over, Single life is Beautiful ❤
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2:41 got me laughing so hard you’re literally a comedian
My ex is still asking random people about me and he's in a relationship with the new supply lol.
Yes Lee, everyone deserves to be treated right. Problem with narcissistic people is they are arrogant and ignorant to accept that. Thank you Lee 🙏☺
Lee you are the man you have no idea the help you’ve given me
happy to help
You are so effective Lee. I enjoy listening to you.
I try
They might forget me, but they won't forget my money you hurd true words 🇨🇦💪🏻
I pulled a narc move and trolled the narc on a dating app 6 months after he discarded me. I used 2 fake accounts and within minutes he was smearing me and we argued under the fake accounts for an hour each 🤣I stood up for his ex (me) and his lies got bigger and bigger including that I hit him twice!!
This one(video) is a KEEPER! I've replayed it several times already and each time gleaned a pearl(s) of wisdom. So in the future, if/when I'm even TEMPTED to feel sad about a 33-year TOXIC marriage ending (divorced for 7 years), I will REPLAY this video again!! NOT because I give a 💩about whether he forgets about what we had together BUT as a reminder to MYSELF that what I "thought" we had, was merely a cruel JOKE...smoke and mirrors...a BIG beautiful gift-wrapped box tied with the most ornate bow imaginable and inside the box, a fresh pile of steaming 💩💩! I got the BOOBY PRIZE!🤣🤣🤣
Your channel has helped in my healing journey, so thank God for you, Lee. You keep it real and make me laugh. Yeah, it's funny now but going through it was literally hell on earth...hope to meet you one day and give you a big hug.
Love and peace to all of you out here striving to fight your way through the INSANITY!🌻
stay strong on your journey !
I knew i was over him when months after i was replaced a deal he made to make a good chunk of money with my son finally paid off. Government wheels turn slow and two years later my son gets a check for a lot of money came in the mail! They were supposed to split it but i had warned my adult son to be careful cause the narc would keep it all if he could. So i tried repeatedly to let the narc know about the check but he was busy ghosting me for the new supply so the day before the check expired i told my son to cash it and keep it , the narc owed me more than half the amount just for bail anyhow but when i agreed to have coffee with him i sat across that table and had no problem not saying a word about any check. His half might have covered what he owed me in bail alone, so yeah thats when i knew he couldnt hurt me anymore and a week later he was back with the psycho and i didnt shed a tear!! Funny but it was almost like i stayed with him thinking id get some of my money back and once i got money that he thought he should have i felt better! Payback is a bitch and sometimes her name is graycy! Hahaha!
He keeps blocking me only to unblock me over and over. He blocks me more times in a month than not. He doesn't want me but he doesn't want anyone else to have me either. He knows it's good . Right now I'm just planning on continuing the no contact so I can hopefully move on. This person has destroyed every ounce of happiness and self esteem that I had. 😢
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He now all of a sudden remembers how important I was to him. It’s been a year and 1 month of limited contact. A few weeks ago he started being nice and congratulating me on my new job, I knew something was coming. Last week he asked to go to dinner and wanted to clear the air 🤣🤣 then told me he knows he’s destined to be a husband and realizes (once again) that I’m the wife for him. Mind you, we did premarital counseling in 2021 and then he broke up with me 2 weeks later because I caught him in a lie. 🤣 I took him back because I was so hopeful that he had finally got it together. Nope! He continued to break up with me until I caught on to his bs and finally told myself enough!!! I went back to him so many times and I never thought I would be able to say no to him. But listening to him talk made my stomach hurt!! It was comical that he was saying the same exact things to try to win me back…yet again. Claimed he talked to one of the brothers at the church and blah blah. Then he said the lady he was dealing with he had to cut off because she wasn’t who she said she was. I asked for clarity and he got irritated and said it didn’t matter. He ended it because he saw the red flags, but of course he ignored them because he was desiring love and commitment so strong and he settled. 😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I was listening just eating my popcorn like “This fool really should be on TV” I have absolutely no desire to be with him any longer. I feel nothing but disgust and pity for him. During the time he was dealing with the other lady, my son would come home talking about how she would come over and cook and play uno…I said not one word because I knew it wouldn’t last because he is exactly who I said he was. A damn narcissist who continues to repeat the same pattern. I guess now things didn’t work out he wants to disrupt my world again. Absolutely not!!! Had the nerve to say “I know it seems like I deal with other women and then when it doesn’t work out I come back to you but that’s not what it is at all” hahaha he is so delusional and I’m so at peace. No thank you!!! Go back to where you’ve been. 💅
Ship him back to his mother with a return receipt "sent back to shipper.. product arrived damaged..."
This dude is hilarious. A lot of truth here too especially when they remember how much someone sacrificed for em.
I was married for 43 years.🤦♀️🤦♀️
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32 for me, ugh!
31 yrs here ugh 😑
Oh Lord met my ex at 19,married at 25, and left when I was 51 and divorced 2yrs ago.I feel like I need a mental, emotional, and physical detox.
Just thinking about some of the stuff makes me exhausted!!He has had multiple affairs during the marriage and still cheating on the current partner. Narcissim is demonic the damage he has done to his kids is mind boggling!!
He probably think about me, and all the other supply too🤦🏿♀️😒
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I’m trying so hard to get past this. It’s been 9 months of suffering.
9 Months. He ghosted me twice it's been three weeks.
It hurts so bad but I don't want him back!
I've only seen the narc I was dealing with 2 times and we had a situationship for years. He hoovered and I reverse hoovered. He wanted to see me a third time but I didn't feel safe so I kept him on the line for years, I was madly in love with him but for my own safety didn't want to meet him again since his masked slipped a lot of times. I insulted him, said his d was too small, his car was ugly, I called his family names. He then smeared me to 30 people I didn't even knew and is now married to someone else and said he couldn't wait to marry and show off to hurt me. He shows it off that he's married now years later. My question is, did he forget about me now in this situation since he got married and there's someone in the picture who he builds a future with?
It's depends on the supply they get from the new supply. If he/she better than you to provide them supply, they will forget about you and anything like a hot potato. But if the new supply just a "I can have supply" thing, he won't forget you. My ex narcisstist can't even forget his ex wife for years and admit he stil love her, if she told him back he would. But he cheated on her so many times in the past so she enough of him. His ex wife is truly grade A supply, such a beautiful women with Grace money and status. But you know that narcisstist people Will never be enough with just one people cuz they need more and more supply, just worsen by age...
What in theeeeeee hell?!
@carlabo😂😂😂😂yd7407
@@foreveryoung6464 I was more directing towards the insult, not who is the better supply. I insulted and hurted him a lot. I wondered if he forgot about me now he's married. Lee said in a video that narcs hold grudges for a very long time and therefor won't forget. That's why I was asking in this specific situation
@@Analist_altijd_elegance so why you still care if they hold grudge on you or not? In my experience with narcisstist partner, when you hurt them, yes they will forever hate you and remember it till their deadbed more than normal people hold on grudge. No matter he's married now...
You know, I used to think my ex would forget me because why would you remember someone you seemingly cared so little for, but the. I remembered something…
She still brings up all of the exes she’s had even though they’re no longer in contact. She still sounded upset that one ex from years ago still won’t talk to her.
She’s likely saying similar things about me. The important thing to remember is that just because they still think about you, it doesn’t mean they think about you fondly. You’re just in a different type of harem. You’re in the failed relationship/unavailable harem instead of the active rotation of options.
They’re also likely bringing you up to triangulate the new supply. Especially since you aren’t there to set the record straight and call out the BS.
HELL YEAH!!! FROM LOVE TO ABUSE !!! GLAD I LEFT FOR A REASON !!!
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@@MentalHealness y the sad face ???
It’s call soul tied when you have laid down with another person you can’t just walk away. You have committed a soul tided with that person so that’s why it is difficult to separate and it doesn’t matter if you are a narcissist.
No.. Having a soul tie with someone is because of mutual emotional and spiritual connections. Narcissists don't have that with people who don't have NPD and vica versa. Soul ties are just justifications for not getting over someone. Narcissists attract codependents because there are lack in both people. Codependents have lack of boundaries which they have to learn from being with narcissist and narcissists have lack of empathy. Codependentie is actually the reason someone can't just walk away, that's why a narcissist easily can. That's not how soul ties work.
Oh, he or she forgot as soon as he or she replaced it with something else. You can move on with your life. And if they do remember, it's only to see what they can get from you, like, "I'm missing fill-in-the-blank. I wonder if this person is still stupid enough to give it to me." I repeat, don't be stupid and move on with your life.
Omg “Nawl I already know what they going to say” 😩🤦🏽♀️😂
They’re in the business of remembering everything- (usually to use it against you later)
Mine was SO nosey and wanted to know way too much about my business.
I love this video ❤ & your so humorous 😂 I love it all around...very informative as always
But, it probably isn't like you think of them because euphoric recall is part of PTSD. So unless you discarded them they don't have PTSD symptoms because the grandiose self.
I fell for that praying he’d change for three years , gone non contact again hopefully I can stay strong this time
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They can't change unless they get a chilling encounter from God. Something close to an NDE. That's the ONLY way.
History repeats itself,choose peace,the energy you put in him put 100 percent in yourself,I love being single,shop for me,save money,most of all Peaceful❤ Single life is Beautiful ❤
I think when we are in these relationships and havent healed we create the sign from God that tells us to return to this abuse. Heal so you see Gods signs for what it really mean. Dont do it. Thanks Lee.
Thank you Lee 🙂
Lee is hilarious but gone always give it to you straight no chaser🙌🏾😂
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His story will be I met her trying to make someone else jealous and mad. He got with her to hurt me. This girl talks so much s*** about her ex-husband online. He wanted a private girl who was chill and he went to somebody who cries about her ex-husband online blabbing about all their business and now she's going to blab about him one day when he makes a mistake and it will be publicly hurtful to him. I don't know how he doesn't see how ironic that is lol they both got together out of spite to hurt other people. She got with him to make her ex-husband jealous and regretful and he slept with her to make me sad and get back at me. And their whole relationship started with drinking moonshine and getting s***-faced so it's not set up for longevity. I want myself to win but I wanted him to win too and it sucks he didn't want to win together. I can't stop somebody from making asinine decisions and ruining their life
Right? And yet mine chose someone who is drama 24/7, legit 5150 and he can't stay away from her. He left me who was loyal to a fault and represented stability for his young son who's mother recently passed. The new supply was so careless that cps took him away because the 8 year old boy tested positive for meth! But yeah he chose her over me and his son for a while at least.
@@Graycy808 I'm so sorry. They just don't get it. Their sick minds don't know they're sick. Mines untreated ADHD and bipolar and he told me he self medicates and doesn't need meds and he learned how to be without them ... Obviously not
Thank you once again Lee
❤️ positive n supportive gudd energy 🙏🏽
You are so welcome
Yes they say when they stalk you think of what we had and if you ever ask what was what we had then boom silence 😂😂❤
Good bye Felicia 😂
Just forgive them and move on with your life.
It doesnt matter any longer if they "remember" you.
Think of it this way: They emotionally abused you for months, or years.
Those "good times" you ruminate over- the first 3 months? It was all FAKE.
It wasnt fake to YOU. Your emotions, and love was REAL.
There's wasn't.
You dont KNOW how many other women/men they were ALREADY in relationships with when they reached out to you.
Narcissists pretend to be whatever their victims desire most during the Love bombing stage.
So- this is who you fall in love with. But its not THEM internally.
Whether they remember you or not- move forward with your life without them.
And don't look back. The past is in the past- it's just a part of your testimony now.
Keep your eyes looking forward towards the future.
appreciate this love it seashell waves of guilt hahaha
Bless you !!!! (Think that was a sneeze)😂
My ex has my name tattooed on his arm - Very large. He wants to get remarried after prison. He just wants money.
No they become obsessed with trying to destroy your life if they know they lost you for good. They will even use your kid and manipulate family court to hurt you. 😢
They must win at all costs
My cousin went thru that; he used her kids against her, and he wasn't even good to her kids (who aren't even his). Pure effin manipulator....
Serious topic! But you are funny as hell! 😂
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Thank you TH-cam great recommendation ⭐
🤣🤣🤣 Lee: "Nooo." True! I will never go back. He wants me to leave cuz he hates me for being a good happy person and I'm leaving! Even if I don't have a place to live yet. Tfs Lee!
Did you find somewhere to go?
Do narcissist apologize?
Rarely
@@MentalHealness do you have 1:1 sessions
When they do, it's a broad rhetorical apology alot of times
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Im hoping that im forgotten by the narx ive experienced
The start of this message...BAM!🤭😂
I met him at a honky tonk in Rockwall, Tx. He was acually with a friend of mine at the time but he got my number at the end of the night then found out he took her home and slept with her that night only. From then on it was me and him.
And then what happened?
@@eileenfuentes6975 I was with him for 19 yrs
lol I was an after thought when we were together soooo
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❤thank you so much for this
"Take your happy ass back into that toxicity!"🤣😆
I was with him nearly 20 yrs total.
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Just because they dont stop thinking about us .... they want their trash can back
Mine said the only good thing between us is our daughter (which he barely sees or asks about). Recently went no contact because I found out he has been going to prostitutes 😢 He tried to feed me bs about ordering for a friend😂 😂😂😂
So sorry to hear you're going through that the smartest thing I would do pertaining the child supervised visits add full custody physical and legal to you I would definitely take it to court I was married for 20 years and dealt with that and stayed in a marriage for a child that was not biologically mine due to his father and birth mother doing disgusting things❤
@@veronicakennedy5269 already in process💪 Thanks for your kind words
My husband is like ill call you here in a few i said NO you will call our SON in a few! We dont exist.
They don't forget. My wife commented adultery with a dude she hadn't slept with in over a decade
oh wow
@MentalHealness she is vicious 😱
What about them acting like nothing happened and have random women calling and leaving messages all excited to talk to me? They orchestrate all this chaos. I blocked him over a year and I won’t respond to him silence. He’s acting like he did nothing I will not play jnto his games. The truth will
Come out.
Depends on what type of supply you were and what you had to offer, Nacisists do not view all ex's the same, they are generally addicted to certain ex's while forgetting others.
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I wonder the same thing me and my ex-husband narc was since 2004 until
2023 when he discarded me for nothing. My kids was in his life when they was little he watch them grow-up 18 years is a long time to see each other everyday spend time everyday live together he move with me to the country in wallis,Texas, I left and move back with him to his momma I got a apartment he move with me he was living at apartments in town he got lock up again in 2008 we married while he was lock up in Huntsville,texas he was there 3 years I came back home I decide to move us somewhere away from environment to Brenham, texas he stay there but started drama wanting to get back to Fort bend county, but we was still married he cheated I got mad divorce he convenience me to still be the side chick ex-wife and did continue to be entangle with others women hoping he would change and mend our relationship back without getting married again just be together I stay it was a roller coast I was on we was together everyday going place hanging out still having relationship behind close doors the family knew this he talk about with his sibling about us, the siblings ask me to step in care for my ex-mother-in-law saw him everyday we still had this bond together I saw the red flags but didn't know what I was dealing with. He alway told I wasn't going no where we was going to grown old together and as of last year he just discarded me had a new supply waiting in the wings move hervin the momma house. Everyday I feel like I stop existing in his life like I'm not a memory but there so much I memory like certain songs come tje radio, he like Sanford and son, my middle name is Jean remove the j and add the letter D our middle name I work with individually with the name Rodney I had to deal with that everything around me remind me of him. But I just feel did he forget me like that I'm not a memory to him anymore. It hurt alot but I move on trying to heal from hurt he cause after wasting time with someone who really didn't care two pennies about me. I'm 56 years old he living his life with someone else and I'm all lone trying to piece together what I did wrong all I try to be was a good woman to him but I lose myself in the process of being there for him he was never down for from the beginning he lies to me 18 years.😢
Don't read the tea leaves😂😂😂😂😂Let me know when you coming to Chicago, I would like to shake your hand. Or buy tix an autograph, something😂😂😂
I know my ex narc think about me 8years long, he got arrested for domestic violated the order of protection twice now a year narc free he has to take dv classes I know he think about me I found out during court he got arrested 4 times for domestic was never had charges put against him not with me
They try to come back to finish you off
I left when the kids were babies and I thought he’ll abuse me thru my flying monkey family members until the day I die. He died this year and went out trying to smear me for leaving back then.
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Thank you 😂 for helping me.
They don't. My narcissistic wife recently posted about the pain she had from a college breakup. She had slept with her boyfriend's best friend and had a meltdown when he broke up with her. He still doesn't know that she cheated on him
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Yes i was at the house before going on my vaction last years so everyone know i was in his life right when his momma past the way so i don't know why or how the new supply creep in but the half sister introduce him to her😮
Mine basically said 13 years for nothing
4 developpment
Trying to hurt you
Trust me it sucks ass sorry for the language. But why is it so dam hard to get over her. I’m like a big cry baby lately and she is all I think about constantly. It’s like I know for a fact she as moved on and divorce is not even finished
@kennethbrewer6696 they have no heart and its hard for those of us that have one to believe sometimes
My tea leaves 😂
Lee Hammock❤ you're so amazing 😅
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They torture their new supply with memories of their exes. Sometimes you are suddenly just the perfect ex wife when they want to punish the new wife. I saw just this morning that my narc ex got his wife a cat that looks exactly like the one I had when we were together, of all the different cats he could have gifted her. Curioser and curioser.
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He bought her a 🐱
Look woman , if he forgot about the two he was with before you , with you . Then damn believe he’s getting over you with the next you.
My narcist played this game with me all the time we broke up five minutes ago I am over you he just called me a few minutes ago
Now block him and go no contact to heal …good luck xx
Just make sure it’s for real. Wasted 5 years of my life trying to force it. Now I’m getting married to the love of my life and I have never felt more blessed and stress free. I thank god every day for removing that human demon from my life.
Still praying he blocks me or deletes my number 😂
Why not block him?
@MentalHealness he's been blocked for well over a year now.
@@MizzzLunathen he can’t phone or text you
My x talks about me all the time
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U said tea leaves😂😂😂😂😂 i learned recently that my great grandma was a tea reader and was very good at it
😂😂😂😂 bastards. You're funny Lee!
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Fastoff All , there never was any thing betwen us .these creatures Can Not love...they Only remember and keep persuinh thr best supply they eer had from anyone
He doesn't seem happy
I appreciate your clarification of this “Not being a word from GOD” 😇
Question: As you being, an ex-narcissist; do you ever revert back to “old”ways? And also, learned to be conscious to catch it before things get too out of hand ? ( Narcissism)
Just a Curious 🇨🇦 eh? 🤣
Do we really even care? F NO
If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t have clicked on the video