How Insecure Attachment Affect Your Relationships
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ค. 2021
- Attachment refers to the bond you form with people in close relationships such as your parents, children, close friends or romantic partners. In this video, I focus on the 3 attachment styles developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth.
Secure
Insecure-Anxious
Insecure-Avoidant
The two insecure styles can be summed up as: anxiety about being abandoned or avoiding intimacy and closeness.
Here are four things you can do to improve your attachments.
1. Recognize your attachment style by examining your significant relationships.
2. Practice self-compassion.
3. Journal or reflect on your secure relationships
4. See a therapist for professional help with making this transition from insecure to secure.
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References
Rowe, A. C., Gold, E. R., & Carnelley, K. B. (2020). The Effectiveness of Attachment Security Priming in Improving Positive Affect and Reducing Negative Affect: A Systematic Review. International journal of environmental research and public health, 17(3), 968.
Mackintosh, K., Power, K., Schwannauer, M. et al. The Relationships Between Self-Compassion, Attachment and Interpersonal Problems in Clinical Patients with Mixed Anxiety and Depression and Emotional Distress. Mindfulness 9, 961-971 (2018).
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“Your fear of rejection can lead you to end relationships” I felt that lol
Your profile picture is weird and gross.
"All relationships fail until they don't"-Dr. Tracy Marks 👏👏👏
I loved this quote too! It reminds me of how walking is falling. I found a good quote about it: "Our very walking is an incessant falling; a falling and a catching of ourselves before we come actually to the pavement" -Thomas Carlyle, 1843, in a letter of advice to a young reader
I used get attached dangerously quickly and would give my all to someone. But after a few times of them not being the same, I feel like I have completely lost the ability to be attached.
Same
Me too
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I know what you mean, I feel like I can't give my all to anyone except if I could split myself into 2, me and me would be best friends.
The turquoise jewellery really suits you
Thank you B. I love necklaces. 😊
What if the only secure relationship I ever had was with myself? I always get me out of darkest places, heal myself and tell myself "everything will be OK"
Thank you Dr. Tracey
The Lord is my helper. Jesus gets us out of dark places all good things come from above 💓
Similar to insecure avoidant...a good counselor to help with learning how to communicate your needs rather closing up and retreating...just a thought 🌻🙏
Same, I always had to help everyone else. Maybe that's why I H8 being around people now.
@@adell7577 Superstition is a plague on humanity
@@pammym1825 What if you have no needs?
My mother is insecure anxious, my father is avodant. Great combination of dysfunctional family, because they both are toxic and control freaks.
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Ouuuf 🙁 hope things get better.
same, my mother are anxious avoidant, but idk about my father....
im growing up absorbing her negative believe around people....
My father was anxious and alcoholic and my mothet was avoidant. Years of therapy fot me.
@@Peanuts76 wth are you talking abt?
I always feel like everyone doesn't like me and that they're just gonna leave me so sometimes I leave in advance. I end up having one favorite person and it feels like they're everything to me. It's not even romantically but it feels like there's no point in living without them around. That scares me though because what if something happens to them.
I know how you feel, I wish there were something I could say to make it better but just know you’re not alone. I’ve been through that too.
Hey Good morning, you’re not alone. I do that exactly thing.
wow you guys have someone to care about, envy
So you're the insecure anxious type
Happens to me too though I'm not my favorite person's favorite person and knowing that hurts. So I just leave or push them away
The algorithm finally got it right! I really needed to hear this today. I just started dating a really good guy and my anxiety about being rejected or abandoned was already starting to creep up. This video really put things in perspective. Thank you
I'm in the same boat. I feel so bad that I put my insecurities on him. I hope I didn't lose him
@@patricethomas4947 I totally understand what you mean. Just know that you are enough and that he likes you for you :)
You are not alone. I am fighting with the same thing. Such a good man that I feel I am hurting unintentionally
I just found out about attachment styles. I have anxious insecure style in romantic relationships. I literally thought I had a mental health disorder because I was obsessed with men who had rejected me. Now I know to have more compassion for myself. ❤️
“Anxiety” is a mental health disorder. Admitting is the first step. Recognizing your behavior wasn’t healthy and Self-Compassion is key. Secure attachment is the goal. Blessings unto you. 🙏🏽
Im definitely avoidant style, most of the time i want to be alone and I don't think or care about my significant other not because I don't love them but because im an introvert so i usually like being alone and independent.
My partner is like this, he smokes weed too which makes it even worse, sometimes I think he should just marry his spliff and he’d have a happy life.
@@destiny9734 lmao 😂
Maybe check in with your partner to see if they're ok with that. I used to date an avoidant (as an anxious person) and being ignored would drive me crazy. It felt like I wasn't loved, and over time the distance became too much and our relationship ended. The fixes would've been relatively simple but we never talked about it. I'm an introvert, too, but romantic attachment is a separate beast.
@@starboiklem8381 but, why date then?
That's interesting. I was thinking about this because I'm an introvert too.
Insecure anxious right here, separation anxiety since I was a toddler
I wish you were my next door neighbor. I imagine sitting on my front porch with you sitting next to me, rocking in the rocking chairs, drinking mint juleps and discussing these dynamic, mind blowing topics you choose to discuss.
Clingy.
I love how well spoken she is. Very clear to understand.
she reads everything she says off of a paper behind the camera
@@lanaj.3877 Either way, her cadence and tone is a pleasure to listen to. I am autistic and I have sensory processing issues, among the misophonia. For the most part I don't like the sound of many female voices (some men I can't stand to listen to either, but for some reason I can generally tolerate those voices better. I am almost 99% sure it has to do with the level of Base, but I'm awesome I have to do with universe by a narcissistic mother who constantly would call me shrill and whiny (ironically, I now have a very deep voice for a woman!). There is something deep inside of me that believes a lot of women use a performative speaking voice because they come off so pitchy. Sounds contrived to me! But I really have taken a liking to this Doctor's voice. I could listen to her lecture all day!
@@PugetwitchThought I was the only one who noticed! Her tone is very well paced and soothing
I'm almost certainly autistic and have the same issue with many female voices - especially newsreaders and journalists who come across as shrill and attention-seeking.
I love your videos because you address possible “root cause” issues such parenting style and childhood trauma but tend to focus more on solutions. Thank you.
Thank you Jamie. That's actually kind of a big deal to me. It takes more work to think through solutions but it feels incomplete to present a negative idea with no information on what to do about it.
I don't have a root cause. I had a very supportive parent. But I've never been good at being close to people. I push them away if they get too clingy. I H8 codependency
⚠️⚠️⚠️You always mention problems....but you don't mention radical solutions to them.... It's as if I'm listening to a crazy person who believes in metaphysics and alternative medicine.....
Madam.... Depression and mental illness do not need spiritual advice from you... but you need effective treatments.... Psychiatry has become the most failed branch of medicine because of you and your fellow crazy psychiatrists..... who criminalized magic mushrooms and ecstasy pills without The slightest study... and innocent psychiatric patients die without guilt.... Fuck you and your fellow ignorant psychiatrists.⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️
Mental illness is only felt by those who suffer from it....and you dance on our sorrows as well as your fellow psychiatrists with these crazy words
It is one of the reasons why I subscribed to her. There is so much diagnosis going around the net for so many issues but very few actually are interested in giving genuine and realistic solutions for that.
I'm a very emotional person so when I am going through alot of pressure or guilt, I would either cry for long periods of time and go to sleep. I would write down and then go to sleep or do anything to avoid my feelings instead of actually dealing with it. I noticed that this habit has affected my relationships aswell
I am anxious/avoidant, but I don't know if I fit into any of the categories you describe. I feel I am understanding and forgiving of myself. I might occasionally kick myself for something I said, but I don't hate myself for saying it. It doesn't consume me or make me inhibited about talking.
I feel like I am way to sensitive to vibes I think the other person is giving off. The slightest hint that someone doesn't "like" me makes me back off. It isn't that I don't feel I need them. I am just very sensitive to the "vibes." At the same time, I am fully aware that I am likely misunderstanding vibes much of the time.
It is perplexing to me why I can't change this. I am close to very few people. I am ok with it in a sense because I am very independent and happy enough on my own. But I know I am missing a lot and don't really know how to change.
You sound similar to me. I think we're simply products of our time too. People have a very low tolerance for social risk these days. Before, you had no choice but to reach out to people and establish relationships quickly as a matter of survival. This meant a society where social graces were better practiced and folks suffered less awkward vibes.
I'm older and long out of school so I push myself to try and make friends when meeting new people. If there's a hint of a connection forming, I give my number or have lunch with them. It pretty much never becomes anything long-term, but that's ok. The point for me, is to build my tolerance for awkward vibes and rejection because one day, who knows, a friend will come along. The adventure along the way is nice too. You have good stories to tell 🤷
@@debmadden4157 Thank you Deb, I will search for that video!
@@QuietlyCurious We may be close in age ... not sure. I am also out of school many many years. I was always more or less like I am now. I like the way you say you build a tolerance for awkward vibes because that is a good way of thinking of it. I have always struggled with that. I used to put myself out there a lot more than I do now ... of course, i also used to drink a lot to help me with that. I dont drink anymore so I have to find better ways of coping with those awkward vibes.
@@debmadden4157 Ohhhh, I just Googled Highly Sensitive Person. Yup! That is me! I am glad to find out it is a "thing." Not just me!
You might be projecting your fears onto other people. That comes from having a lack of energetic boundaries between yourself and others. It’s hard to tell where your opinions of them start and their opinions of you begin
My mother left me and my father when I was a little over a year old...I knew I’ve had abandonment issues and my insecurity in relationships has been devastating. I’m taking a lot of time for myself to try and reparent my inner child. Hopefully I can be a good mother to the inner child.
Your mother is responsible for her choices in her life. You choose to be responsible for your life, be kind to yourself.
@@d.w.3325 It took my a long time to come to that point
@@d.w.3325 that's the secret about this, be pacient and kind with oneself...
@@CheeseBurgerSugar Never too late to be the parent that was never there and become a better adult.
@@ownSystem 34 is still not too late right? 😕
I am only realizing now, in my 30s how much my mother damaged my underdeveloped psyche. Since I was born she was neglecting me and I remember when I would get back home as a little girl and no one was home, I would walk from one corner to another, literally howling because I believed that the day my mother abandoned me for good had come. I desperately need re-assurance in relationships because I am an anxious attachment style, but all I get is avoidant type. I used to be in a stable relationship with a secure type, and despite us having lifestyle issues (he was a pothead and didn’t have any ambition/didn’t work), I NEVER felt stressed in this relationship, I just knew he was faithful and was there for me, so I know it’s possible to find someone who meets your needs and won’t bring you any stress.
I feel really sad when you said you were howling corner to corner as a little girl 😢
That’s not great though, it means we settle from what we might really want just to feel secure
@@lucymisti that’s why we broke up, now I have to find a full package
@@_helmi thank you for your sympathy 🌸
Yup. It is anxious-avoidant trap that you fall in. I read about it in the books. Somewhere they even make a division between dismissive avoidant and fearfull avoidant. The main difference is because fearful avoidants still wants intimacy but they fear being hurt. I was dismissive and fearful during different times in my life. I am only secure in friendships. For me breaking point in relationship is after having sex. I feel very vulnerable after that. One of my exes was anxious one and he was jelaous and was accusing me of cheating. That wasn't true but he believed that so I broke up in the end with him. After him I dated dismissive avoidant while I was fearful avoidant at the time. That damaged my selfesteem greatly. I never stumbled upon secure man in my life to be frank. Most of my life I was single. I struggled with depression for 6 years and in that period of time I wasn't interested in dating. I struggled with myself mostly and panic attacks. After reading many books on various subjects I finally found out what was wrong with me..My attachment style of course. 🙄
I have anxiety about being abandoned, I have great parents but I've been ghosted a lot by friends and people I liked and or dated, you'd think it would make me crave physical affection but I'm autistic and I don't like physical touch except in romantic relationships, I also have a hard time knowing when, how and how much physical touch to use. I find it very stressful and confusing so I typically let other people use physical touch when I'm comfortable with them or avoid it altogether. Relationships as an autistic person are difficult.
Fellow autistic here and I felt this in my soul, my parents aren’t the greatest but I struggle with physical touch a lot and not knowing how to navigate through the early stages about it is super overwhelming
I have the ability to have both anxious and avoidant attachments to people. I always switch between the two depending on what kind of person my partner is.
Same!!
Wouldnt tht just be secure at that point? Or are you morphing into your partners attachment style?
It feels like a big step forward to know that there’s an actual NAME for what I’ve been feeling and going through. I could never figure out how to help myself because I didn’t know exactly what I was feeling. I just knew this feeling sucked. Thank you!
Been learning a lot about attachment theory this year. Glad to see more and more people talk about.
Interesting. I just happened to talk about this topic. I didn't know it was a trend.
@@DrTraceyMarks psych2go made an animation about this topic. Your's was more in depth. Especially on the overlap of personality disorders (which was new to me).
@@DrTraceyMarks I've been seeing it with various TH-cam videos and several articles. Of course, that just may be the Google algorithm showing it to me after I picked up the book "Attached."
@@DrTraceyMarks "the school of life" videos also do a great job explaining it.
Yeah, it’s a HUGE topic in sociology and psychology. ☺️
This is one of my favorite videos of yours of all time. You clear research-based videos highlight so many fascinating topics. The work you are doing here on TH-cam for mental health is important now more than ever with the discussion of Olympic athletes like Simone Biles and Naomi Osaka entering the global spotlight!!
Thanks a lot Dr. Adam! 😊 I'm glad to see that we are getting to the point where we can talk more openly about mental health issues. These things are new we're just talking about it more now. I'm glad you entered the scene to contribute to the conversation. 👍🏽
I belong to the insecure avoidant attachment. At the same time, I wanted to try being in a relationship again and apply all my learnings in psychology 😊. I have a therapist so I'm quite confident.
I’m a type 1 diabetic suffering from depression, anxiety and an eating disorder. Your videos have helped me a lot but I would love to see one dedicated to discussing the effects of chronic conditions and mental health. Thank you
I'm so avoidant I've never had a romantic relationship...
The older I get the more of a freak I feel like haha.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤘
Just to tell you that you're not the only one. This is also me. It is still me now.
I’m in my 20’s and never had a romantic relationship and I get that feeling of feeling like a freak…but honestly just take it at your own pace and don’t feel pressured by what society or other people tell you what your relationships “should” be like.😁
Think of all the time you didn’t waste on someone else! I’m jealous 💜
Early trauma can impair character however long term therapy almost equalizes functional and dysfunctional behavior. I go from being extremely confident in myself to feeling totally incapable of performance.
This is such a powerful video. I’m thanking God that I watched this because I was about to do something stupid in my relationship 😐
Hold it, sit with it, hold your emotional experience. Breathe. Your future self will thank you for your impulse control. 😉🙂🤗
@@AghoraNath thank you
Evidently, when I was quite young my dad was very involved with me...I was the last child and the only one to receive his attention. The attention ended when I was 3 or 4. I definitely have the anxious style.
A great therapist and I summed it up as if I was a cute little puppy and at a certain point I became an adult dog. I always craved his attention and finally learned that to get it I had to misbehave. Really messed up my life for quite some time.
attachment theory is so important! glad that it's getting the attn it needs!
one thing ive noticed about myself is that i have an anxious insecure attachment habit. my fear of losing a s/o would completely overshadow everything to the point where id see everything through the lens of that fear of loss. i've been doing a lot of self reflecting and making progress. this video along with your others have been a huge help. thank you a ton
I have always chose men that have been unavailable so i got hurt. If i like a man from day one I'm on Fight and Flight mode i lose weight and can't concentrate and any sign like longer txting me back or not txting i get super anxious! But i never reach out to them i wait for them, but i nearly have breakdown until they do.
Wow this is so me! I definitely know how you feel you explained exactly what I have been through my whole life.
@@medulgurlroxx885 Horrible isn't it?
LMBO, I'm your exact opposite, prolly like one of those people you H8. I H8 clingy people but I attract them like crazy or did. Now I just avoid everyone which was easy during Covid. My therapist is pressuring me to get back out into the world and I'm all, hells nuh, I'd rather be alone.
@@rhianimal19 You have a therapist? So you are obviously not happy and have problems. I'm not clingy if you read my comment i go through inner turmoil but i never cling to the man I'm with. So really we are alike we both have problems!!!
@@pam164 Therapy is a condition of my freedom. They think I need it more than I think I need it.
Thank you Dr Marks. I'm on Risperidone and had almost doubled in weight on the medication. I watched your video on Metformin and have since lost almost all the weight. Now I'm comfortable in my skin and happily taking my meds. Some members of my family are also on the meds and manage the weight by stopping the meds every now and again. I've since recommended this to them as well.
It's awesome to see how much work you put in! So amazing this channel has made such an impact on you
that's the main reason I am afraid to take meds now, especially psych meds.. you end up needing to take another med to manage side effects of the first med.. then you'll need a third med to manage side effects of the second, and on and on.. I'm not saying people shouldn't take meds, I'm just saying why I am hesitant now.. I've been on a gazillion pills in my life so I have the experience.. it gets sad and scary.. blessings to all, be well.❤️
@@KishBish I'm scared for myself.
@@BantuAzania I'm sorry.. at least you are taking proactive steps to manage.. congratulations on losing the weight.. I remember I was on a pill where the doctor warned me I could gain 100 pounds within a few months.. I thought he was kidding until I suddenly craved BAGS of mini Twix bars 24/7.. needless to say I dumped that med- and that doctor.. hang in there!💞
@@KishBish ❤️
My mother was uncaring. A cold fish. Not able to to show affection. I am very insecure. I don't feel good about myself.
Sorry about that man hope things get better
It's okay, your mother chose to treat you badly, but you can treat yourself better than she ever did
Dr. Tracey, thank you for the knowledge you’re sharing. I’m from a country where mental illnesses are not recognized(even though the rates of people with mental illness here is insanely high), so hearing to you speak about mental health with so much knowledge, research and scientific backing is so soothing. I feel so seen and validated in my condition. Also, this dress with this jewelry is a beautiful choice! Suits you very well and I love the puffy sleeves, I wear puffy sleeves myself all the time😄
Dr. Marks needs to be the world’s counselor. Everyone should be required to watch her vids at an early age!! She is brilliant and the best communicator, what a gift to humanity she is!!
This video is so informative. So easy to understand without going all over the place.
Thanks a lot glad it was informative. 🙂
Agreed. Straightforward and understandable.
You're awesome Dr. Marks. Thanks for bringing all of this information to the masses in such a straightforward and professional way. It really helps!
It makes more sense to call insecure avoidant "Ambivalent Attachment" thus not to be confused with insecure anxious. Ambivalent is the self reliance PDs, which all of those labels can be described as artifacts of complex PTSD. Helps me learn the difference, to exposit the terms.
Yes, I can really relate to that
I don't ambivalent is the right word there because avoidance doesn't have ambivalent motivation like anxious attachment; avoidant is very independent and your feeling of security is not dependent on your partner.
I have an anxious attachment style , and I’ve also been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, interesting to see how they connect! Sometimes I feel like I’m growing to have an avoidant attachment style, I get scared people will leave me, so why bother 🙃 🤷🏽♀️
Based on all my personal shadow work and therapy, there is definitely a link between anxious attachment style and BPD, which I also think I have. This link needs to be heavily researched so people like us can get some help. Hope you are doing OK. Loads of self care and self soothing can help in the mean time x
Thank you so much for this. I love how you had suggestions to process your attachment, in addition to ways to identify your type.
Dr. Marks has such a warm and comforting presence, I wish she had one of those therapist talk shows as well...i feel like it would be really therapeutic just to watch her listen and give advice
Whoa... Avoidant as the day is long.
I don't want or need anything from anyone else. If I do, I feel needy and ashamed...
For me, unrequited love is perfection. I have no needs to meet, no expectations.
I can give love freely with no desire for it to be reciprocal. It is completely selfless.
To give love freely and without wanting anything back makes me feel satisfied.
But... I am lonely.
Hi Dr. Marks just wanted to say thank you so much for posting these videos! 😁
They have been and continue to be a great help for me.
Thank you! Your content is incredible! I’m totally talking about this in therapy next session 🥳
You're pretty damn good! Usually I won't bother to listen to psycho-babble types because I worked in that area for years and just don't believe anyone has anything else to offer that might help me. You, Dear Doctor, have proven me incorrect! Thank you.
Thank you for taking your time to do this. You just answered questions in my head that I didn't realize were there. Thank you for all that you do.
I'm glad I watched this. I saw your post on insta about this video. I'd like to think I'm very introspective...I take inventory, and try my best to ask myself hard questions. This has been one of them. After watching, I actually feel that I've made some improvements in my close relationships. I've had to ask myself what I really want in a partnership, and what that looks like. I've worked at re-framing the way I approch close relationships; just like in the exersizes you recommended. Dr. Tracey, you're a blessing. I'm so thankful that yo share your knowledge with us. It's sound information that I can explore on my own. Love ya Doc!
Thank you. This is the best, most concise explanation of this dynamic that I have ever heard. I really appreciate your work. : )
Thank you so much for this video. I think I finally truly understand the links between my childhood, my parents and My “shizoid/asexual” tendencies that have distanced and hurt people who were just trying to form a connection with me. I love my parents and we have an excellent relationship currently, but like any family, we had our issues. I became very self reliant, with the upmost desire to be the one who can provide confidence, acceptance and stability for myself. Being self-reliant has helped me professionally and personally but everything has to be in moderation.
I appreciate this coming up on my recommendations.
I love how clear and practical her videos are!
I learn a lot from you that I use for myself and the clients I work with, thank you so so much for making these videos
She is so good at this.
I appreciate the clarity you provided in this segment as you detailed the differences in the types of insecurity. It allowed me to identify the insecurity type within myself and the one in my partner. Very helpful. Thank you
wow- i very much appreciate your explanation style. i'm looking for a therapist/shrink and you just helped me out bigtime! i can explain right away what i'm wanting to focus on. thanks, dr. marks!
Thank you Dr. Marks! You helped me to see some things in myself.
Fine vid! I see several facets of my own experience in what you say here. Those Self-Compassion assessment scale items were really eye opening to me, because as I thought about each one, I realized how much progress I have made on them. That gives me a good feeling. I still have very poor attachment skills, but I'm not standing still on the problem any more.
Thank you for the references. You make such high-quality videos - thank you.
Thankyou Dr Tracey. I am going to start a journal about this topic. I think it will help me understand myself. Your knowledge is very much appreciated.
Wonderful! That's a great idea Linda. 👍🏽
Yup, insecure anxious, that's me. Thank you for this!
Thank you so much for making these videos. Healing can be so hard sometimes, it helps to have someone be straightforward and gentle talk about these subjects.
I just ordered one of your shirts “Insight is the beginning of change” and I can’t wait to get it and wear it. ✨🙌🏽❤️
Such a great video Dr. Tracey!
its currently really late so im not going to watch this video right now but i just want to say that is a very cute top Dr Marks and you are amazing providing free resources like this!
Thank you, Dr. Marks! This actually came at a very important time in my life.
I'm so glad K Olive! All the best to you. 👍🏽
What a treasure you are Dr Marks.
You would be a good professor. You make your videos so interesting and you are good at breaking stuff down and making it seem simple.
Thank you Dr. Marks . You covered so many topics in a 10 minute video ! Tomorrow I'll watch again . You gave me a lot to think about . You have the gift of presenting complex ideas in a manner that I understand and want to know more about . I'm having a hard time quitting drinking , and of course I realize that it's a lousy form of self medication . I feel that it goes back to way back when ----- attachment .
I just ordered my own copy of "Fierce self compassion" and let the journey to security begin!
This is amazing 👏. I stumbled upon you today. And already I'm feeling better. And validation I'm going to be okay and not the only one. Thank You...
a wonderfully interesting video as always!!! attachment style is fascinating to me. (unrelated but i love that shirt!!! it looks so cute and comfortable)
Thank you so much, again, Dr. Tracey for your great video. I guess I see traits of both anxious and avoidant types in me, and this gives me new insights that are worth talking about with my psychologist next week. Love you and your works as always.
Thank you Dr. Marks! Keep up the great work! Not everyone can afford a therapist!
This is such a well thought out, and put together video... thank you!
I read that book “Attached” with the magnet 🧲 on the front .. A male friend I was talking to at the time noticed my insecure attachment style and wanted to pass along information. I thought that was such a mature and thoughtful thing to do
that's so productive and mature
Was it a good book?
I read that book too! It was really good!
Thanks for this video! I display the avoidant attachment tendencies for everyone except family. However, my twin sister (who does not have these avoidant tendencies) complains about my aloofness, which surprises me because I was making an effort. I found this video insightful and helpful.
I love how your videos include solutions and resources to help. Thank you! It would be great to see a video on how to find the right psychiatrist for you, how to get the most out of therapy, and what it looks like to work with a mental health specialist.
Man you are the truth! God bless you in your practice !
Dr Tracey .. u are the best for explaining the
Topic .all your videos are valuable , they have to be recommended for patients , new students in similar fields , wellness, others
Thank u a lot ,we love u 😘
I feel like I jump between anxious and avoidant depending on how I think the other person is behaving. Secure attachment is such a rare feeling that I can't tell for sure if it is, in fact, what I'm thinking. So again, I just chalk it up to the moment (i.e. "He's a good friend to me. It was nice of him to listen to me today").
If I had to pin just one label on myself tho, it would be anxious.
Insecure-Anxious, I’m happy to be learning about myself
Dr Tracey GOOOOD 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This is such a great video! You’ve given useful information and explained it clearly. Thank you!
I would like to thank you for your videos, they are great, your language pronunciation is perfect. I'm from Brazil, (São Paulo), and I'm loving your channel. Thank you very much and congratulations for your work.👏🏻💐
I can’t express how much I appreciate your videos. I share them with friends and family
Thank you so much Krissy I'm so glad are helpful for you. And thanks for sharing them. ❤️😊
Thank you so much Tracey! Just saw you on a Zoom meeting with BDSA Charlotte a few weeks ago and I was kinda scared to show my face haha but I appreciate you so much
Your videos really impact me. Its like you are here to tell me about me. Thank you!! 💛💛💛💛💛
I was definitely insecure anxious and my early marriage years were a roller coaster. However I married a narc so that was so confusing. We both became followers of Christ and learned about healthy love over time. We were both comitted to grow which was a blessing which not every Christian couple experiences. I now recognize the critical voice and practice self nurture through prayer and positive thoughts and affirming words. Love a gratitude prayer too🙏
This is good because often they reconize and fix the damage person and not what causes the damaged person as much as they should which Dr. Tracy does well and often like how the stomach is affected by our thinking and thoughts. The saying is more often true you're not crazy the people around you are. Thank you 😊
Very interesting video, as always. Thank you!!
(And btw - I'm not into fashion, but that necklace looks gorgeous with the shirt! 🌼☺️)
I love these videos by Dr. Marks; Had to click this as soon as I saw it. Thanks!
Awesome thank you D!
Me and my sister were just talking about how trauma affects the development learning and how it can cause alot of issues problems and even can cause native behaviour later in life
Thank you for your Invaluable work. Your videos are great help for those who seek better understanding of mental health.
Warm greetings from the Netherlands. 🌷
This is the BEST explanation I have heard without the heavy lingo. Thank you, Doctor!
This helps. Thank you for the information!
U was just reading Dr Jasmin Lee Corris book ," the emotionally unavailable mother" and was on the section on attachment styles. Your explanation is simple and very easy to follow. Thank you so much for the video👌
Thank you. I enjoy your style and appreciate your education.
Don't know if you'll see this but Thank you for your practical, relatable style and content, Dr. Marks. Keep doing what you're doing!
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Dr. Tracey Marks: this video is VERY IMPORTANT!